The Queer Confidence Podcast

NAKED with @darianblackofficial

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Darian and I met on Instagram a few months ago and hit it off right away. He's got such skills for the logistics of sex, and I love the mental and emotional side of sex. Together, we're a perfect complimentary pair. And I think you'll hear that in this episode.

We share some of our insecurities, and our real reactions to the discomfort of standing up for ourselves. Plus, we made a big mistake in the recording process and decided to leave it because it was too funny and real not to share! This one is so real, and you're gonna love it 😏🔥

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NAKED with @simply.adrian

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Adrian and I have known each other for a couple years. And there's always been an underlying sexual tension. So when he agreed to be on the show, I was so excited to finally get naked and vulnerable with him.

We share some of our insecurities, and how we've worked through our body image issues. And although we usually wait till the end to get handsy, we couldn't keep our hands... or our mouths off each other! You'll hear 😏🔥

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NAKED with @KaiDelRosario

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Kai and I get naked and vulnerable with you. We share some of our insecurities, and how we've worked through our mental health journeys. Kai also shares some insight on his experience being an Asian American and trying to live up to impossible beauty standards.
(you really should check out the video for this one 🔥😏)

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NAKED with @SawDaddy

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Saw and I get naked and vulnerable with you. We share some of our insecurities, and how we've grown. I'm especially impressed by Saw's willingness to be vulnerable with us about his transition and body dysmorphia. On top of all that, he still strips all the way naked.
(you really should check out the video for this one 🔥😏)

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NAKED with Jabarri Pup (@pup_clutch)

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Jabarri and I get naked and vulnerable with you. We share some of our insecurities, relationship mistakes, and how we've grown.

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NAKED with @builtbybarthel2.0

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Welcome to the first episode of NAKED, an erotic series where I and my guests strip down metaphorically and literally.

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Trailer

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0400

Returning to the Podcast 2024

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 03:00:00 -0400

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Resting Without Guilt

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

Taking a break. It sounds great! By why is it so filled with guilt?

By the end of this episode, you're going to reclaim your right to rest.

Feeling guilty about resting? Caught up in the grind of endless productivity? Our capitalist society has us believing that our worth equates to how much we're doing, but it's time we debunked this myth. This episode explores the importance of taking breaks without guilt and letting go of the pressure to make rest another form of self-improvement. Through a raw discussion of my personal struggles with overworking, we question the hustle culture and remind you that your value is not determined by productivity. So, take a breathe, relax, and remember rest is about simply being.

I'm looking forward to my own rest now as we close out the year. And I look forward to spending time with you in the new year!

Thank you for supporting the mission through your monthly contribution and by inviting your friends.

Remember, your value does not come from what you do or how much you do. Your value comes from who you are.

Kaelan Strouse: Queer Tantra and Spirituality

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

What happens at the intersection of spirituality, sexuality, and unapologetic queerness? We're about to find out, as we chat with the one and only Kaelan Strouse, a.k.a Ecstatic Self.

As a tantra and spirituality coach, Kaelan shares the wisdom he has gathered on his personal journey, igniting a path for us to explore our own spirituality and sexuality without judgment or fear.

In this episode, Kaelan guides us to a deeper understanding of human connection, intimacy, and vulnerability. He advocates for the celebration of sexuality as a crucial part of our spiritual life, eroding the shame typically associated with it.

If you feel intimidated talking about sex in this way, or your past has left you jaded and hesitant to anything spiritual, I think you'll really appreciate Kaelan's approach.

We also discussed cultural appropriation in spirituality. Kaelan has some great tips on respecting other cultures while learning from them.

So, join us today for your own self-discovery, transformation, and unlearning as we queerize Tantra and Spirituality with Kaelan Strouse.

Connect with Kaelan:
Website: https://ecstaticself.com
YouTube: https://youtube.com/ecstaticself
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/ecstatickae

Morgxn Thicke: Navigating Intimacy and Genderqueer Confidence

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

Get ready for a journey into the life of Morgxn Thicke, a queer, femnasty individual with Butch Queen tendencies who's making waves the gay porn industry. Morgxn's real, raw, and riveting insights about life behind the scenes and beyond the spotlight will transform your understanding of this industry. From their queer persona to the highs and lows of their private life, Morgxn's authenticity will leave you captivated.

Your gonna love Morgxn's insights on open communication in intimate relationships and its undeniable influence in the adult entertainment industry. Morgxn takes us through their adventures since breaking into the industry in 2019, revealing their experiences with initiating critical sex work conversations, and the tightrope walk between embracing new experiences and confidently upholding their own boundaries. We journey further into the world of sexual intimacy and gender confidence, exploring Morgxn's approach to creating chemistry and passion in their work.

Something I really appreciate about this conversation with Morgxn is how they underscore the significance of self-love, and pursuing what genuinely ignites joy. We round out our discussion by celebrating Morgxn's contribution to the industry and their impact in fostering a safe haven for sexual exploration. Prepare to have your perspective broadened and your understanding deepened in this enlightening episode.

Connect with Morgxn:
Linktree
Instagram
Twitter
More links on my website.

Dropping The Armor, Embracing Vulnerability

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

This episode is on embracing vulnerability to foster connection and love.

Dropping the armor is about allowing yourself to be human, and following the advice you give to others.

It's empowerment through imperfection.

This is what authenticity looks like.

Mentioned in this episode:
Brené Brown on The Tim Ferriss Show Podcast Instagram Clip
Listen to the full episode here: Brené Brown — Striving versus Self-Acceptance, Saving Marriages, and More (#409) or watch on YouTube

Flamy Grant: Faith, Drag, and Topping the Christian Music Charts

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Flamy Grant is the first drag queen to ever top the iTunes Christian singles and albums charts! Flamy's story isn't just about music; it's about resilience and authenticity in the face of adversity and online trolling. It's about refusing to compromise on true identity despite societal pressures. If you grew up evangelical christian, you won't want to miss this episode.

It this episode Flamy takes us deeper into her personal life, exploring her battles with religious trauma from evangelicalism and her journey into the transformative world of drag. Hear how Flamy uses this platform to express herself and challenge gender stereotypes, even in spaces where acceptance is hard to find. And that's only the tip of the iceberg. She's got the best advice I've ever heard for dealing with haters and trolls online.

We dive into Flamy's creative process and the nostalgic elements in her music, the struggle of reconciling faith with sexuality and gender identity, and her role as a queer voice in the evangelical space. We end with a heart-touching discussion of her song 'Holy Ground,' a song that unveiled part of Flamy even before the creation of Flamy herself.

She also set a record for being the first guest to ever make my cry on my podcast. Grab a tissue box y'all!

Referenced in this episode:
Here’s the video with the woman freaking out about candles at Bath & Body Works
Flamy’s favorite song is 'Holy Ground'
Flamy’s new single 'Fortune Teller' is OUT NOW everywhere you like to listen.

Connect with Flamy:
Website: flamygrant.com

How To Be Authentic, Overcoming The Fear

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0400

This episode is all about cover coming the fears, embarrassment, and discomfort that hold you back from being authentic.

We all know what it's like to be judged or shamed simply for being your authentic self. I was just eight(ish) when my passion for the Princess Jasmine dress earned me shame rather than applause. This childhood encounter and similar episodes throughout my life taught me that authenticity often comes with a price. Today we're taking that embarrassed boy who loved a princess dress to an adult who finds joy in vibrant eyeshadow.

Fear of authenticity is a common thread uniting many of us. In this episode you'll learn to embrace the 'confident queer' in you through authenticity, acceptance, and self-love.

Melissa Gonzalez: From Fear to Financial Empowerment

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered how your upbringing and identity shape your financial journey? My guest, financial planner Melissa Gonzalez, shares her inspiring story of shifting from viewing money as a negative force to understanding it as a tool for empowerment and opportunity. Raised in a predominantly female household, Melissa provides a unique perspective on the impact of family and identity on one’s financial journey.

Melissa openly discusses her experiences as a queer woman in the financial industry, highlighting the importance of leading with identity. She offers valuable insights on overcoming the fear surrounding finances and approaching goals with an abundance mindset. Her candid reflections on her own experiences of workplace challenges post coming out as lesbian, and her journey to financial confidence, will leave you feeling inspired and empowered.

In the latter part of our episode, we focus on the financial challenges unique to the queer community. Melissa shares her wisdom around topics such as estate planning, adoption, emergency funds and workplace harassment. She also offers practical advice for budgeting, financial planning, and finding a financial advisor who understands your unique needs. Plus she answers the big question: 'Do you need to invest in real estate in order to create financial freedom?' Trust me, you won’t want to miss Melissa’s empowering story and tips for planning a better financial future. Join us to overcome your financial fears and leave feeling confident.

Connect with Melissa:
melissagonzalez.nm.com
Linkedin
Instagram: @melissagonzalezofficial
Email: melissa.gonzalez@nm.com
Linktr.ee

Break Free From Self-Sabotage: Transforming Your Flaws Into Gifts

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Are you trapped in the vicious cycle of self-sabotage? Imagine turning your perceived flaws into your greatest gifts. This episode is all about breaking free from that negative pattern, shedding the shame that's been holding you back, and learning to love and appreciate yourself, scars and all. In this episode you'll learn a unique four-step process to help you see your flaws as your super powers.

Do you find yourself avoiding confrontations or procrastinating? These behaviors, deeply rooted in our beliefs, can significantly impact our self-confidence and keep us stuck in self-sabotage. But, what if we told you that you could transform these behaviors into your secret superpowers and use your unique strengths to your advantage? This episode will help you identify these hidden strengths and gives you the tools to harness them. Whether you choose to work with me one-on-one or utilize these tools on your own, this journey will lead you to feeling a whole lot more confident. Get ready to embrace your individuality and turn your flaws into gifts.

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Mentioned in this episode:
Episode 51 - Edging

Quincy Bazen: Comedy and His Journey to Authenticity

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Welcome to a hilarious behind the scenes chat with Quincy Bazen, the multi-talented stand up comedian and co-host of the Dom Pop podcast. Take a peak into his world growing up a Navy brat, to co-creating a hit podcast, and making the daring move of relocating to sunny Los Angeles. There's never a dull moment as Quincy humorously shares his experiences, whether it's about his desire to pretentiously add accents to his name or his personal journey with ADHD.

This episode takes a deeper dive into Quincy's love for the performing arts and his knack for balancing multiple careers. You'll hear about his personal growth through his acting career, his passion for writing and directing, and his web series 'Rest in Pieces'. But that's not all, Quincy also opens up about his liberating journey of coming out, the struggles, and the joys of embracing his queer identity. Our conversation is sure to keep you gripped as we navigate the challenging terrain of authenticity, social expectations, and the journey to self-confidence.

We also delve into the realities of living a public life, dealing with people’s perceptions, and the relentless pursuit of self-acceptance. Quincy and I share our experiences, the highs and lows of performing in front of vast audiences, and the strains of managing an online presence. We also discuss how therapy, and plastic surgery played roles in boosting his confidence. Expect a heartening chat full of laughs, insights, and a whole lot of inspiration.

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Feeling Like You Just Don't Got This?

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Have you been feeling like you just don't know how you can possibly handle all of life's stressors? Feeling like you just don't got this anymore? Tired of faking like you have it all figured out? That's what we're talking about on today's episode.

Join me as I share my own story of grappling with accepting help. We cover everything from anxiety episodes to understanding how dependency, codependency, independency play a part in your overwhelm. I reveal in my personal journey how acknowledging the need for support has been pivotal in my healing process.

The second part of our discussion revolves around the varied nuances of dependency, codependency, independence, and the less acknowledged, interdependence. We'll take a look together at the difference between "I've got this." and "We've got this." And delve into the significance of interdependence - a balanced and healthy way of relating to others. Interdependency is about balance - relying on others emotionally while not losing sight of your individuality.

Discover how acknowledging your need for support will actually empower you, not hinder you. And by the end of this episode I hope to change your mantra from "I've got this", to "We've got this".

Christynne Wood: A Journey of Resilience and Trans Activism

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Today we sit down with Christynne Wood, a national trans and civil rights activist, and 2023 San Diego Champion of Pride winner. Christynne shares her vivid memories of growing up in Springfield, Ohio, dealing with gender dysphoria and the impact a single understanding kindergarten teacher had on her life. Together, we explore the courage and resilience it takes to be true to oneself, amidst the challenges and adversity.

Imagine being in the Navy in 1974, and dealing with your own internal battle of gender identity. That's precisely what Christynne Wood experienced, and she opens up about this journey, from her enlistment to marriage. Her personal testament is a tapestry of dedication, resilience, and love that is sure to inspire many.

But that's not all. Christynne also pulls back the curtain on her world of activism, recounting her encounters with a conservative group called Santee Parents 4 Choice, and a protest outside the YMCA that tested her resolve. She passionately advocates for safe spaces, state law support, and the importance of not facing life's difficult transitions alone.

Join us as Christynne shares her wisdom and experiences, and discover how you can join her fight for transgender rights at the Trans March in Orlando, Florida on October 7, sponsored by lucha.org. It's an episode that promises to leave you inspired to get involved in your local politics, and more understanding of the struggles and triumphs of the transgender community.

*Correction: Around 42 mins Alex said bluechip.org was sponsoring the march in Florida. That was a mistake. Christynne is being sponsored by lucha.org.

Details about the Protect Tans Kids March on Oct 7 in Orlando Florida

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More info and social media links here.
Endorsers include: Women in Struggle - Mujeres en Lucha, Queer Youth Assemble, Teamsters National LGBTQ+ Caucus, Center for Constitutional Rights, PRISM South Florida, Orlando Come Out With Pride, Equality Florida, Pride at Work Eastern Mass., Tampa Bay Community Action Committee, NYC Reclaim Pride Coalition, New Orleans Real Name Campaign, Louisiana Women's Action Committee, Unión del Barrio, United American Indians of New England, MLK Coalition of Greater Los Angeles, Milwaukee (MKE) LGBT Community Center, Baltimore Peoples Power Assembly, Harriet Tubman Center of LA, Umbrella Brigade of Orlando, and many more.

Connect with Christynne:
Facebook

My Best Tool for Anxiety (Perfect for Sleep)

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Ever felt the crushing weight of anxiety and longed for an effective tool to manage it? Well, there's no need to feel alone or overwhelmed anymore. Lay back and enjoy as this audio guides you to new and healing sensations.

This episode is designed to be your guide whenever anxiety strikes. The best part is, you can do this while sitting or laying comfortably. It's not just about "managing" anxiety, it's about connecting with it, accepting it. Through this practice you'll prove to yourself that you can confidently navigate discomfort.

You may find this episode calming, and it's a perfect listen if you can't fall asleep.

If you'd like a personalized one-on-one sessions to further help manage your stress, boost your confidence and improve your mental health, schedule a coaching call.

How To Bottom w/ The Bottom's Digest

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Have you been curious about how to bottom better or even at all? Do you have questions you're afraid to even ask? Are you nervous about what you might find out? Strap in (or strap on) for an honest discussion as Alex Hall aka The Bottom's Digest lays it all out there.

In this episode you'll learn nutrition techniques, booty hole exercises, and perhaps new information on douching to help make bottoming the most delicious, magical, pleasurable experience possible.

Alex debunks the myth of the 'bottom diet' and emphasizes the role of fiber supplements and plant diversity in maintaining a healthy gut. Then we really take you THERE as we candidly discuss what to do in a messy situation.

We emphasize the power of communication and provide strategies to address the associated shame and anxiety. We explore techniques to loosen up and highlight the importance of stretching the anal area for healthy sex. Finally, we wrap it up with a celebration of bottoming, with Alex explaining why it can be such an exciting and pleasurable experience.

Get ready to learn, laugh, and let go of your inhibitions in this unmissable episode!

Mentioned in this episode:

Psyllium husk capsules, or powder- These Amazon affiliate links helps to support the podcast
Dope Kitchen on Instagram
Du Douche
Colon Infographic
The ZOE organization and Dr Tim Spector
Butt Clock Method by Dr Carlton
My podcast episodes on Shame:

Alex mentioned "box breathing" if you've never heard of it, here's a quick definition:
It's called box breathing because like a box has 4 equal sides, there are 4 equal parts to box breathing. 3-4 seconds breathing in, four 3-4 seconds holding your breath, 3-4 seconds exhaling and 3-4 seconds holding after your exhale.

Connect with Alex here:
Website: TheBottomsDigest.com
Instagram: @bottomsdigest
TikTok: @bottomsdigest
YouTube: The Bottom's Digest

Meet My Boyfriend

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Have you ever been sitting in front of your birthday cake just about to blow out the candles when suddenly, on the other side of the window, your car explodes?

Yeah... me neither. But my boyfriend has! And today he's joining the podcast to share some funny stories from his life.

There's no big life lesson to learn today. Instead, I hope you have fun just hanging out with us and laughing along.

Come meet my boyfriend!

Join the Instagram Broadcast Channel to ask my boyfriend and other future guests questions https://ig.me/j/AbaiM8L424iLTobM/

Getting Out of a Negative Rut

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -0400

Ever found yourself stuck in a mental rut filled with negativity and can't seem to shift gears? This episode is all about how to work through that, but not in the typical 'love and light' bullshit way.

Getting stuck in a negative spiral is part of being human. In today's conversation, we explore how to navigate these mental slumps, not by rushing through them, but rather embracing the experience. We discuss the importance of allowing your emotions to be felt and expressed, and how changing your perspective can lead you out of this mental maze. It's about being present, experiencing and expressing your emotions, and changing your focus - all without any shame or guilt.

Don't forget! Join the Instagram broadcast channel for behind-the-scenes goodies and the opportunity to add your input to the show.

She's Backkkk

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 03:00:00 -0400

What happens when an entrepreneur steps back from their podcast for eight months due to a whirlwind of life events? A mini identity crisis YAYYYYYY 🎉

This last year has been nuts, moving across the country, experiencing a breakup, hiring a new assistant, and juggling part-time work, just to name a few things I've been up to. This period of intense change sparked an identity crisis and compelled me to reassess my entrepreneur identity. Hear about the invaluable lessons I've learned about the importance of balance between work and self-care, and how I emerged stronger from this period of uncertainty.

My biggest realization (or reminder) since we last talked was that life is like art, it's open to our interpretation. I'll share how this perspective helped me appreciate the highs and lows of my journey. And candidly talk about the challenges of starting new projects, grappling with imposter syndrome, and how I've made sense of it all.

I'm back and ready to embark on this new phase of our journey together.

Missed ya!

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Being Queer In Rural America w/ Cole Teeter

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0500

This week I have an interview to share with you. While media has improved in the way it represents queer people, there are many groups of people still missing from the scene.

There are large areas of America that are not as devoid of queer life as it might seem.

So today I'm chatting with my assistant. He chose to be queer in rural America.

I hope you have as much fun getting to know him as I have. Enjoy.

PS. If you need help in your business with things you'd just rather not do, he can help. Reach out.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/95

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Setting Boundaries With Your Family

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0500

The holiday season is upon us. And with it, the stress of family dynamics.

So let’s talk about it.

I’ve got a framework that’ll make it much easier for you to set boundaries.

Let’s make that difficult conversation with mom, dad, grandma, whoever a bit easier so you can clear that elephant out of the room and enjoy their company a bit more.

Enjoy!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/94

Off Stage: The Dilemma Between Authenticity and Social Media

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Weather you're using social media to connect with people or as a way to make money, it's still requires you to put in labor.

So how is this free labor affecting your overall "work load"?

Can you spend time online without getting closer to burn out?

And is the pressure to put on a show online eroding your authenticity?

In this episode, we're exploring all that and more.

If this is important to you, you're going to love the workshop I'm running called Off Stage. We're going to actively work on managing the balance between on and off our social media stage.

Sign up here for the Off Stage workshop.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/93

Setting Boundaries with your Audience w/ Chelsea Dickinson

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today you get to meet my friend Chelsea Dickinson aka The Sabotage Queen.

Every time we’ve FaceTimed we said, “why the heck did we not record this? People would PAY to listen in on our conversations! This shit is gold.”

Sooooo now you do get to listen in, but for free!

On today's episode we talk about how you should be more of a bitch on the internet, how to survive overwhelming amounts of attention, and how to set boundaries in the increasingly less private online world.

It’s the unfiltered conversation you didn’t even know you needed to hear.

Enjoy!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/92

Being a Gogo Boy

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today we’re going to wrap up this series on sex work.

I’m going to talk about a particular experience I had while Gogo dancing. (So being a gogo boy isn’t exactly sex work but it’s still in the erotic industry, and the lesson still applies.)

We’re going to look at how trauma holds you back from accepting support.

We have all had trauma, it’s part of being a human.

We also all deserve support.

So I'm going to shed some light on what happened to me and how I’ve been working through it.

With all the love to you, enjoy.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/91

Erotic Shame Healing w/ Nico Nova

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I’ve got another episode for you from the porn industry.

This time I talked to Nico Nova, a model with a mission. I can’t wait for you to meet him.

Nico understands that humans have a complicated relationship with themselves and shame gets in the way. He is out here creating porn to help people feel less alone and less shame.

Combining porn and self development? I’m absolutely here for it.

I think you’re going to love meeting Nico just as much as I did.

Enjoy.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/90

Creating Porn & U=U w/ Kayden Gray

Thu, 13 Oct 2022 05:00:00 -0400

This week I have another episode in our gay porn series.

This time with performer and creator Kaden Gray.

We got to talk about so much, from gender identity to shame and sex to therapy.

Kaden is a powerful creator and an amazing human being.

Let’s be honest, when you hear the label ‘porn star’ you immediately put the person in a box.

Kaden is here, breaking out of the box.

Enjoy.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/89

Self Pleasure w/ Coach Nic Reveles

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 05:00:00 -0400

We are in the middle of our gay porn series on the podcast, and this week I talked with Coach Nic.

He is a Certified Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker and soooo much more.

He’s an ex-priest who helps individuals heal sexual shame.

And he supports models in the gay porn industry.

This episode was so powerful.

Coach Nic is a fabulous storyteller with a boat load of stories and amazing wisdom about sex and self-pleasure to share.

This episode will get you comfortable and even excited to practice your own self pleasure, with or without a partner.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/88

Gay Porn w/ Davey Wavey

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today is the beginning of a brand new series where I’m taking you behind the scenes of the gay porn industry.

You heard me right.

This week we kick off with Davey Wavey.

You may remember him from his days as a YouTube star.

Now Davey owns a gay porn site, and produces scenes like you’ve never heard of before in the industry.

Peek behind the curtain with me today and take your self pleasuring to a whole new level.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/87

Your Inner Voices

Thu, 22 Sep 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I want to introduce you to a concept that has been working really well for me and my clients lately.

It’s a way to work with all the characters in your head, especially the ones you have shamed yourself for having (like your inner bitch).

This method will help you handle difficult conversations, and make big decisions.

It helped me work through my breakup.

And it’s helped me draw boundaries with various business partners.

Check it out.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/86

The Secret About Rock Bottom

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 05:00:00 -0400

This week it’s time to get real. Lots of us have been in that slow slide down towards a rock bottom, sometimes for years (and years…) while a part of us watches and wonders if this is all we get.

Today I’m going to talk about what I learned about myself through and after all that pain. Pain can teach us. How we respond to pain is something we can change, if we want to.

I’m inviting you, this week, to consider how you want to respond to your own rock bottom.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/85

Decisions & Disappointment

Thu, 08 Sep 2022 05:00:00 -0400

This week’s podcast is about the rubber hitting the road. In some ways, kinda literally! I keep talking about having your own back, so let’s talk about one way that can, and did, happen in my life.

I really love to support my friends, sometimes showing up in support ends up being more than I have capacity for. Then there is the decision to stay or go.

This week we’re going to talk through how to make decisions for ourselves. This isn’t easy but I’m here to tell you, making a decision on purpose supports everyone.

You got this, promise.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/84

Tips For Finding Your Ideal Relationship

Thu, 01 Sep 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today is a great day to talk about relationships. In the movies and on TV, they all seem to just happen, as if by magic. Two people in the right spot at the right time? Boom! Done!

There isn’t much we see, growing up or grown up about what it takes to be ready and actually available mentally and emotionally when that relationship does show up. So I’m here, laying out what work I’ve done, and keep doing, to help this relationship thing happen.

We’ve all got our own work to do, but let’s work together, we can get so much more done. 😘

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/83

The Discomfort of Calm

Thu, 25 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

This week let’s be in the moment. I’ve got a moment of calm for you, and a moment on the relationship between discomfort and what’s happening around us.

When we’re in the uncomfortable moments, all we want is calm and quiet. Then it seems calm creates it’s own type of uncomfortable motivation to begin again.

So let’s just take some space for being a messy human being. It’s ok. Whatever is happening right now, you’ve got this too.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/82

Graphic Stories of my Sex Life

Thu, 18 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I was thinking about you and about how s*x is one of the hardest (pun intended?) places to really feel confident. So I decided to tell you 3 totally embarrassing stories about my s*x life.

I wanted you to know that I’m out here living this confidence thing, getting uncomfortable and living to tell all the tales. I really wanted you to know, so you can learn to do it too.

Or maybe you just want to hear some crazy s*x stories. Either way.

Enjoy! 😘🦄

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/81

Creating a safe space non-performatively w/ Simone Seol pt. 2

Fri, 12 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol!

She is a marketing coach who walks the walk. And we had such a fun (and slightly anxiety inducing) conversation about the ways we’ve f***ed up and learned.

Enjoy this conversation as we get a little naked, figuratively, and chat about our life and coaching experiences. Some of them were terrible and we’re not here to sugar coat it.

And tomorrow tune in for a special bonus part two where Simone and I share how we are working on being the change we want to see in our industry.

This is for coaches and people who are getting coaching too. Coaching is an amazing tool, but the industry has done a sucky job of valuing safety and consent.

Simone and I are committed to changing that.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/80-2

Creating a safe space non-performatively w/ Simone Seol

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol!

Simone and I are committed to changing that.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/80

Entrepreneurship & Sales w/ Jacy Tackett

Fri, 05 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week. My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett.

We started with hypocrisy, detoured through philosophy, got a little caught up with duality in coaching, cruzed around in sales processes and ended up with consent and so much more between. It has been such a pleasure to be on her team and I’m thrilled to share her with you.

We had so much fun together I had to split it up into two episodes.

Can’t wait to see you there.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/79-2

Being an effective hypocrite w/ Jacy Tackett

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week. My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett.

We had so much fun together I had to split it up into two episodes.

Can’t wait to see you there.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/79

The Breakup

Thu, 28 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I have some story time for you this week. We are headed back in time as we look at how this thing called relationship works, or doesn’t!

The title is a giveaway so let’s cut to the chase, we broke up, of course. Let’s chat about why and what I learned, all hanging out, with a bit of shade.

Mistakes were made, all over the place, on all sides. That’s pretty normal, we all have our ‘stuff.’ The best part is we get to work on it, together.

Much love to you. I’ll see you there.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/78

The Big Move (Part 5)

Thu, 21 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Here we go! It’s time for the conclusion to The Big Move. Let’s wrap this up with a glittery bow and some reflection on shaking up my life, and yours.

I know it feels far away to just jump off the board into the deep end and turn your life upside down. Hell, I don’t think I knew what I was getting into and I went from one end of the country to the other. That is ok.

The truth is, it’s all just one step at a time. That’s all we can ever do.

Tune in this week for some ideas, (blow your mind!) questions and encouragement.

Cheers to blowing things up!

You’re more capable than you think.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/77

The Big Move (Part 4)

Thu, 14 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode we're back to exploring my cross-country move. This week I share the last lesson from the road and a surprising twist on my relationship with my parents.

If you feel pressured to always be on social media, you’re going to find a huge relief in this episode too.

As you listen along with my journey I hope you see that confidence isn’t something you achieve, it’s something you continually practice.

Tune in to conclude the road trip.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/76

The Old Gays

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 05:00:00 -0400

What an episode I have for you! Today we get stories, wisdom and way too much fun with The Old Gays. Oh, and blindfolds, lots of blindfolds!

They share so much, they’ve got stories from creating The Old Gays, to coming out and being queer in the 60s & 70s.

I can’t wait for you to get to know Jessay, Bill, Robert and Mick, the fabulous queens of The Old Gays. They’re so passionate about meeting and supporting the younger generations and that’s something our community needs. We have history in our community that we can’t lose and getting to meet and connect with the older generations helps us keep that history alive.

I’m so, so excited for you to meet The Old Gays! This was such a fun episode. I still can’t believe I got to have them on the podcast 🤩

Enjoy!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/75

Celebrating Queerness with my Clients

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today I want to celebrate with you the diversity of LGBTQIA+ identities in our beautiful community. I’ve got 6 guests, each with a unique story to share about finding and becoming themselves.

This episode was amazing to record, each story has something to say about what it means to be queer. I hope you can find yourself here too. Or at least a part of your story.

This is what pride is all about. We each have our uniqueness and we are willing to stand together for each other and say ‘you’re not alone.’

Happy Pride Month.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/74

Openness w/ Frank Smith

Thu, 23 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Have I got a treat for you this week. In this episode I get to chat with Frank Smith, the creator and star of ‘Open To It’ a webseries about queer and polyamerous relationships.

I love how Frank is helping to shift our community’s narrative from one of suffering to one of thriving with love and openness. He’s got a really helpful perspective on centering joy in our lives. And you’ll love his advice for poly relationships (because real humans = real opportunities for messes of feelings).

You’re going to love this conversation.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/73

When People Don't Respect Your Pronouns

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today I’ve got some help for my trans and genderqueer Unicorns when it comes to other people respecting our new pronouns.

Sometimes it can be tough to know why and how to confront the people in our lives who can’t seem to get on board with our new pronouns. Internet advice abounds but how much of it feels really doable?

If you’re not trans, or don’t have pronoun problems, this one's for you too. We’ve all had the experience of wanting to confront someone, for 1000 different reasons and all the same stuff applies, no matter what the issue.

Not only can we confront people without needing to be angry or over the top, we can build our own confidence in the process. Sounds crazy right? Listen in to find out how.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/72

Queer Intimacy Challenge

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I've been cooking up something super fun for the month of June to bring more confidence and self-esteem to Pride Month.

This the very first podcast challenge!

Pride month is an amazing time of celebration and reflection and recognition.

And the LGBTQIA+ community is made of up individuals with real stories which often aren't shared.

This June we are taking things below surface level and I'm challenging you to the Queer Intimacy Challenge... to see others and be seen for what actually matters to you.

Let's go beyond 'how are you?'
...'good.'

And towards, "who are you? What's important to you? What motivates you? What makes you get out of bed in the morning?"

Check out today's episode to get the full details and grow your confidence while taking part in the wave of conscious intentional queers.

Join us.

P.S. The members in Confidence Coven are blowing this challenge up with special bonuses and prizes

It's not too late to join!

Challenge Guidelines:

Talk with someone you don't know.
Find out one thing that's important to them. (go beyond "how are you?")
Tell them something that's significant to you. (without disrespecting your boundaries)

BONUS
Share the challenge with them! (it's as easy as sharing this podcast episode with them)

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/71

The Big Move (Part 3)

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 05:00:00 -0400

You're about to get some solid relationship advice out of an argument my mom and I had on the road.

It started off with a lot of anger towards each other, but by the end of it we both felt closer and more trusting of each other.

You're going to be able to take this little gold nugget of wisdom into your family too, and your friendships, and your romantic partnership(s).

Cheers to feeling more understood in all your relationships.

Enjoy!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/70

The Big Move (Part 2)

Thu, 26 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today I share with you the $2,000 DRAMA the day before my move which nearly delayed it by a week.

It turned into one of the most perfect scenarios though, and reminded me yet again of a very important life lesson I seem to forget.

Plus listen to the first recording on the road from day two of our drive.

It's a weird mix of experiences intertwined with CrossFit, but not the working out part of CrossFit.

...that didn't make much sense.

You'll get it when you listen.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/69

The Big Move (Part 1)

Thu, 19 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400

I am so thrilled to begin this multi-episode series with you today!

As you know, I recently moved from Maryland to California and it has been quite the adventure!

The growth, the fear of change, the very rocky start less than 24 hours before we hit the road which nearly postponed the trip, the drama on the road, the heartache of being so far from everything and everyone I've known.

*takes an excessively deep breath*

IT HAS BEEN A JOURNEY Y'ALL.

And beginning today I want to share with you 5 episodes of recordings from the road, lessons, and stories told right in the moment.

Life lessons for confidence are told through vivid experiences you'll never forget.

We begin today with a realization of appreciation that no one had ever quite explained well to me.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know to appreciate what I have... but this hit different.

Enjoy!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/68

Being Supported

Thu, 12 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Asking for support is one of the most difficult things.

Especially in Western culture, we like to take pride in what we can do on our own.

And I know I am guilty of thinking that confidence and self-sufficiency requires meeting my own needs.

In today's episode learn what meeting your own needs actually means (because it does not mean living in a bubble, or never receiving support).

True confidence includes the ability to ask for and receive support from others.

Tune in to this episode where I'll give you the exact words I used recently to ask for support when I needed it most.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/67

Judgmental Parents

Thu, 05 May 2022 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we're talking about how to address your obnoxious, judgmental parents.

AND we're talking about that really annoying gift they gave you of their voice in your head...

you know. That inner critic that sounds just like dad when he saw you playing dress-up and you were wearing the princess Jasmine gown.

Yeah. That voice.

Today you'll learn exactly how to get rid of the way your judgmental parents hold you back, and that inner parent voice too.

Hint: the way you've been judging yourself for being judgmental of yourself hasn't worked yet.

So try judging yourself, without judging yourself for judging yourself.
Clear as mud?

Take a listen.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/66

This episode might piss you off

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0400

This episode might piss you off because it's a blow to the ego.

It'll require you to hear some things that will at first shock you, and likely annoy the F out of you.

...but only because it's true.

If you have the bravery to stick with it, you'll come out the other side WAY more confident, and WAY more self-loving.

You up for the challenge?

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/65

Nude Photography w/ Images Male

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Today I want to share with you one of the most confidence-boosting experiences I have had in a long time.

Have you ever thought of booking yourself a nude or boudoir photoshoot?

Are you feeling like you'd need to be a lot more confident before booking?

Well, waiting till you feel more confident is actually preventing you from becoming more confident!

In this episode, peek behind the scenes with me and the photographer behind Images Male Photography, David E, as we discuss the details of planning, and shooting my first nude shoot.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/64

How To Make Friends

Thu, 14 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, I want to share with you how I magnetically attract friends.

This topic came up by request through my Instagram stories.

So here it is!

I want to give you the beliefs and habits that allow me to walk into rooms of strangers and instantly make friends.

This happens for me alllll the time now.

But it wasn't always this way.

When you implement the tips in today's episode you'll find that you make friends more easily and with the types of people you actually want to create a friendship with.

Check out the full show notes & more here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/63

Patience

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Patience, what a f***ing frustrating concept.

Yuck.

I’ve had to practice it a lot recently, with my business fail, Gideon’s injury, and especially with my move from Annapolis to San Diego.

So in today’s episode, I want to take you through how I’ve been using the Confident Queer process so you can do it too.

This will forever change your opinion of patience, and hopefully make it a fun, dark, kinky little game.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/62

Overcoming Shame & Living Polyamorous w/ Chuck Copenspire

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Whoa!!

Today we covered a lot of ground.

I can't wait for you to hear from Chuck as he shares his story of overcoming shame about his autism, parenting, polyamory, and so much more.

If you're working on releasing shame in any area of your life, this episode is it!!

And if you're in a polyamorous relationship or thinking about it, you're really going to appreciate Chuck's insight into what's worked and what hasn't worked for him.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/61

Spirituality & Queerness w/ Kayla Adreene

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0400

If you have felt othered by spirituality or religion because of your queerness, this episode is for you.

When I was in San Diego a month ago I met this awesome, magical, soul in a Kava bar.

She showed me around Hillcrest, introduced me to LOTS of people, and helped me feel right at home.

We had deep conversations on life and spirituality in less than an hour and I was like "OMG, you gotta be on my podcast!"

So here's Kayla!

Tune into our awesome conversation on the intersections of spirituality, religion, and queerness.

Get full show notes and more info here: https://coachalexray.com/podcast/60

WORTHY (✨ANNOUNCEMENT✨)

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Every problem in relationships (romantic or otherwise) traces back to your sense of worthiness.

When you are trying to earn your worth, you show up inauthentically, you people please, and you end in resentment.

In today’s episode, you’ll understand what it means to see yourself as 100% worthy, just as you are.

And when you do, you’ll find it much easier to ask for what you want and to have your own back in all your relationships.

Listen now and start sticking up for yourself today.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/59

Release Control and Attract w/ Brian Grainger

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0500

In this episode, my client Brian Grainger shares how he's used my Confident Queer Process to release control and attract clients, friends and partners.

He also shares tips that he uses with his weight loss clients that will work in dating, moving, business, and just about every area of your life.

MIND BLOWN.

Plus Brian share's a brand new idea I've never heard of before: creating a consensual relationship with yourself.

This episode will shift your relationship with others, your inner world, and your body.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/58

Get all the details on WORTHY https://coachalexray.com/worthy

Body Image & Honoring Your Autonomy w/ Victoria Jocko

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Today I have my incredible client Victoria Jocko on the podcast to share how the Confident Queer process helped her gain confidence in her body and her relationship.

She's actually an empowerment coach herself and I am delighted for you to get to hear her experience and her advice.

We talk about polyamory, loving your body, and honoring your autonomy.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/57

Masturbation

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500

In today's episode, we're going to explore how masturbation as a metaphor can increase your confidence...

And how literally masturbating can too!

If you want to get in on the next round of the Iconic Queer Mastermind and apply all these sexual metaphors to grow your business, add your name to the waitlist here: https://coachalexray.com/iconic

And if you want to experience this wild, sexy, spiritual, queer birthright alongside me, join the Unicorn Herd (my email list) here: https://coachalexray.com/#email

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/56

BDSM

Thu, 17 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500

On today's episode, learn how to find pleasure in your power AND your submission, as well as how to feel pain in a whole new, much less painful way.

Every heartbreak, every loss, every asshole comment your boss makes, every time you catch yourself failing to stick up for yourself... will never again feel the same.

Everything changes after today.

Get the Confident As Fuck Workshop: https://coachalexray.com/confidentaf

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/55

Your Authentic Power w/ Angel Flores

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500

You met her on Queer Eye Season 6,
Her story had us balling our eyes out,
She's strong AF! (inside and out)

Today's episode will touch your soul as you get to know Angel Flores even deeper.

She shares how she finds the confidence to speak up for herself.
We discuss femininity and labels.
And her experience as a trans woman in the sport of powerlifting.

Plus Angel shares more details on the heartbreaking news she received days after her Queer Eye episode aired.

This episode is exactly the empowering journey you're looking for today.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/54

Kink

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Kink is about finding play and pleasure and joy and satisfaction in the taboo, the uncommon, the weird, the naughty.

Insecurity can only keep growing where you stay “safe” and “predictable”.

Listen to today's episode to finally have the confidence to have nerve-wracking conversations, live more authentically, date your dream guy (or gal, or human), and even ask for what you want in bed.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/53

Sensuality w/ Kerri Blankenship

Thu, 27 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Sensuality is not all about sex.

In fact sex is just a very small part of what it means to be a sensual being.

But I'll let my new friend Kerri Blankenship explain all that to you.

Tune in to today's episode to connect with your sensuality on a whole new level.

Plus learn how to experience everyday events in new, more life-giving ways.

P.S. The Japanese concept I mentioned is spelled Ichi-go, Ichi-e.
It means something along the lines of one time, one meeting.
I highly recommend googling it to take this concept deeper.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/52

Edging

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Two weeks ago we talked about Glory Holes, now we are talking about Edging?

What is this?

I'll give you a little taste:

When I learned to Edge in life, I had similar results to the bedroom.

More joy.
More desire.
More passion.
More explosive energy.

And more glorious eruptions.

It turned the process of dating, of building a business, and of showing up authentically into an ORGASMIC experience.

Take a listen and try out Edging today 😏🌋

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/51

The Episode with Grandma

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Whoa! Are you ready for today's guest?!?!

I can talk with her about anything,
And we frequently laugh till we cry... or pee our pants... or both 😂

My Grandma is on today's podcast.

We talk about her life, me coming out to her, her love for the LGBTQIA+ community, advice for young singles, and... poppers???
You'll just have to listen.

Join me on today's episode to catch all the laughs and life-changing advice with Grandma.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/50

Glory Holes (In Life)

Thu, 06 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0500

It's that time of the year again when everyone is making vision boards, manifestation journals, and setting their goals.

Today I'm not offering you a new system, there are way too many out there already.

Instead, I want to offer you a different approach to your resolutions this year.

We humans love to have control over everything.

On one hand, it is incredibly beautiful that we are creators who have the opportunity to plan ahead.

On the other hand, when we plan too much we miss out on the joy and experience lots of frustration.

So today, take a lesson from glory holes.

Consider how simply setting an intention, and doing minimal planning + work could actually make your goals easier and more delightful this year!

Happy 2022!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/49

When I'm Wrong

Thu, 30 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0500

I am wrong sometimes.
Maybe event oftentimes.

And I have had some wild realizations about myself over the past month.

Some of the things I saw I didn't like.

In today's podcast episode, I want to make sure you know one thing above all else:

Nothing I say (or that anyone says) is absolute Truth.
You always have the power to take what you find helpful and toss the rest in the trash.
And by doing so, you can get clearer on why you believe what you believe and why you love it.

You are, and have always been, completely empowered!

Enjoy the episode, and may this New Year be a time of totally submerging yourself in the realization of your own autonomy.

You already have your Truth within.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/48

Fashion Confidence & Following Your Right Way w/ MaShawn Jones

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0500

On today's podcast, Confident Queer MaShawn Jones joins me again to give you alllllll the gold nuggets on what helped him become confident.

MaShawn is standing up for himself in relationships and making bold career moves.

He shares what it's like to be truly living authentically, and how you can be doing it too.

AND he share's his mind-blowing takeaway from our last session together.

This episode is gonna light you up with new possibilities and the truth of your own capability.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/47

What Are Goals Really?

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0500

Stop harming your self-esteem with goal setting.

The reason goal setting feels like self-harm and not like self-love is because of why you chose to set your goals.

Goal setting is not for the purpose of enjoying the accomplishment of the goal.

I mean reaching goals IS fun!

But goals are just an excuse to play the game.

Setting goals gives you a game to play to have a reason to collect experiences.

Listen to today's episode and think about are there goals you have, that you don't want to play the game required for them?

And are there games of life you want to play, but haven't set goals that would require you to play them yet?

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/46

Stepping Out Of The Matrix

Thu, 09 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0500

What if you change your mindset too much?

If you are like me, you might be fearing "what will happen if I change too much? How will I be able to relate to others? Will I lose friends?"

And let me just rip the bandaid off for you... the answer is yes.

It won't be nearly as bad as you think it will be though.

Listen to today's podcast episode to step out of the Matrix in a way that empowers you and those who are still stuck in it.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/45

Taking Risks

Thu, 02 Dec 2021 05:00:00 -0500

What is the most important ingredient for massive success?

It's not knowing the right people, knowing how, or having a fail-proof plan.

It's your capacity to take risks.

Creating massive, blow your mind, holy-shit-am-I-really-capable-of-that? success is ALWAYS preceded by doing something that feels risky.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/44

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The Progress Hangover

Thu, 25 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0500

This is the shit no one warns you of when you head out on your self-development journey.

As you make big leaps and bounds, you WILL hit a progress hangover (many of them).

Listen to today's episode to understand the science behind it, and partner with your body through the draining experience.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/43

Blowing Her Own Mind w/ Keila J. Brown

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0500

If your current big life goal strategy is filled with a lot of pressure, focus, planning, envisioning, basically anything but pure ease and blissful joy... may I suggest there is a much better and more effective way?

My client Keila J. Brown used this method and ended up on Law & Order SVU in less than 2 weeks.

Listen on to learn the process for yourself.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/42

How To Be Iconic

Thu, 11 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0500

What do Lady Gaga,🍆 , and my eyeshadow have in common?

They're all iconic.

What changes the world? Ideas.

To become Iconic is to transcend to an idea.

Listen now to embody your world-changing idea, and overcome the fear that comes with standing for something powerful.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/41

Half-Assing It

Thu, 04 Nov 2021 05:00:00 -0400

This perfectionist obsession of yours is not helping your feel like the super talented queen of the world.

It's reinforcing your insecurity!

Perfectionism makes you feel worse about yourself.

It allows you to keep placing the measurement of your value on something external.

Today we are changing that.

You are actually going to produce BETTER work.
Feel better about yourself.
And save a whole bunch of time.

Welcome to your new and improved, half-assed system for life.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/40

Deflecting Compliments

Thu, 28 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Some of you can take a load, but you can't take a compliment. What's up with that?

Truth be told, it is almost impossible to take a compliment when your brain is fundamentally believing the exact opposite about you.

Your brain hates to reconsider your self-view.

Listen to today's episode to make taking a compliment much easier.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/39

Purpose, Trauma & Goals w/ Mike Iamele

Thu, 21 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Your purpose, your trauma, and your goals all have one commonality.

Your sensitivities.

Aka, the emotions/feelings that you are most sensitive to as a divine being.

In today's episode, I bring on one of my coaches, Mike Iamele, an expert on sensitivities.

Once you hear today's conversation, you'll know how to feel fulfilled in anything you do, accept your trauma, and flip your perspective of goals upside down.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/38

Why Queerness Is Your Superpower

Thu, 14 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In today's episode, I want you to think about raising your internal, life thermostat.

The objective of this episode is to start seeing your queerness as not something to be ashamed of, hidden, or dismissed, but rather something that truly demonstrates your divinity.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/37

Inner Child Labor

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 05:00:00 -0400

If you feel unable to access your creativity, or you feel afraid to show up as your full, authentic, iconic-work-of-art self, you've got an inner child sweatshop going on.

And child labor is illegal for a reason!

Your inner child is in charge of your creativity, and if they feel unsafe, they won't produce...
well, they might produce, but it's a very frustrating process and takes way longer than it could, and it honestly is not your most amazing work.

From this episode, you'll be able to end the sweatshop and allow your inner child to be creative again.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/36

Empathy vs Compassion

Thu, 30 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Something I've noticed in our LGBTQIA+ community is that we are very empathetic.
It comes from a place of love and wanting to help each other.

BUT, it's actually doing more damage than it is helping.

Empathy is accompanied by pity.
Compassion empowers.

Listen to today's episode to empower yourself AND every other human you come in contact with.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/35

Lovable vs Loved

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0400

If you aren't experiencing love, you try to fix it by adjusting your behavior.

Which may kinda work... for a little bit.

But you certainly don't feel loved when you stop being authentic to get love.

In today's podcast episode, I'll explain how the love you get from others isn't based on you, but rather on their ability to love you.

You'll come away with everything you need to love and be loved on a deeper level.

And you'll feel a whole lot more confident in every romantic relationship.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/34

Lessons From Arizona Part 2

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0400

“Perspective is everything.” But what does that even mean? And how do you actually change it?

In today’s episode, you'll get to hear how my first official pilot lesson, teaching my cousin how to drive, and working out at a mile high altitude are the perfect explanation for overcoming stress, anxiety, and depression.

I'm even taking you to the dreaded topic of vaccines so you can feel calm any time someone brings them up.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/33

Lessons From Arizona Part 1

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0400

I just got back from vacation in Arizona and I am full of unexpected lessons for you.

In today's episode, I teach you how to have more compassion for your edges as you grow in your self-acceptance.

And you'll find out how the heck pruning a mesquite tree while grandma mowed the lawn (a lawn in the desert? wtf?) can help you become more confident.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/32

Intuition

Thu, 02 Sep 2021 05:00:00 -0400

You are more intuitive than you think.

Everyone is born with intuition, you've just learned to quiet it because... society.

Maybe it just doesn't seem adult and logical enough.
Or maybe you were silenced as a kid when you had intuitive messages.

Logic is overrated.

You'd make decisions so much faster if you leaned into your intuition instead of overthinking everything.

Let's save you time, effort, heartache, and self-judgment with today's 4 tips.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/31

How To Be Yourself

Thu, 26 Aug 2021 05:00:00 -0400

"Be yourself" is probably the most overused inspirational phrase ever.

If it were that easy, we'd all be doing it.

I used to get so discouraged hearing people tell me that.

Being yourself is not easy.
It is the most frightening way to be.

But it is also the most freeing.

In today's episode, I share with you a simple, doable process you can use to keep being more authentically you.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/30

Connecting With Your Inner Child

Thu, 19 Aug 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Contrary to what you might think, your inner child has the most significant pull in your life.

They might not fully run the show, but they can put the breaks on anything you're doing that feels unsafe to them.

If you want to have an easier time achieving any life goal, you need to start by communicating with your inner child.

In today's episode, you'll get the 5 tools I teach all my clients for communicating with their inner child.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/29

Choosing Hard

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Feeling triggered is actually an opportunity to create a safer environment for your inner child.

You've got many ways you can respond when triggered, but only one thing makes you feel safe/unsafe:

How you talk to your inner child.

Your inner child needs to feel heard in order to feel safe.

Feeling triggered isn't a problem. It's an opportunity.

Listen to today's episode to open your own inner dialog and help your inner child feel safe.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/28

25 Beliefs

Thu, 05 Aug 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Beliefs are like lenses.

They determine how you see yourself, other people, and the world.

Your level of confidence is based on those beliefs.

On today’s episode you’ll learn 25 beliefs that are guaranteed to boost your confidence.

One warning though, do not use these beliefs against yourself.

If they don't feel true yet, that's ok!

Don't beat yourself up about it.

Go back to episode 17 Cognitive Dissonance to learn how to bridge the gap between where you are now and any of these new beliefs.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/27

Trauma Responses

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Do you ever have an emotional response that you know is not logical, but you just can't seem to do anything differently?

For me one of those areas was money. I felt fear every time I looked at, thought about, tried to plan money.

Logic doesn't work because it doesn't respect your inner child who is afraid and unfortunately much stronger than your inner logical adult.

Today I'm going to help you understand how to work collaboratively with your inner child so that you are no longer living life by these trauma triggers.

When you understand trauma responses, they tend to untangle themselves slowly over time.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/26

Trauma Bonding

Thu, 22 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Do you ever feel like you can't relate to others unless you are sharing some type of trauma with them?

Does it ever feel like a competition to see who is the most traumatized?

When we have unprocessed trauma, we bond to it. It becomes part of our identity.
And then we bond with others using the same types of trauma.

These bonds are what keep you and our community held back.

Today, you'll be able to find if you are trauma bonding, how it's affecting your relationships, and how to get unbound.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/25

Being Human

Thu, 15 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Did you know you don't always have to be improving?
You can actually take a breather for a minute.

Today I want to simply give you permission to be human.
To embrace all that is beautiful about you. AND all that is ugly about you.

If you're exhausted from the self-judgement and self-development, this episode is for you.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/24

Belonging

Thu, 08 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400

The reason we feel like we don't belong is not because of the ass holes out there (although they aren't helping 🙄).

Even in the LGBTQIA+ community there is lots of exclusion.

But lack of acceptance is not why we don't feel like we belong.

Belonging is a feeling and therefor it's created by our own thoughts.

And we are actually capable of feeling it anywhere we go.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/23

Masculine and Feminine Energy

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400

If you want to become your most authentic self and your most powerful self, you need to know how to access both your masculine and feminine energies.

All humans have access to masculine and feminine energy.

We as the queer community are leading the way in how we break down the roles of gender in society.

And because of this, we are actually set up to have the most complete and confident human experience.

Today I'm going to teach you how to find both in yourself and how to find your power by blending them.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/22

Being Vulnerable and Owning Your Life w/ MaShawn Jones

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, my client MaShawn shares how he's found more confidence through vulnerability.

MaShawn works in the military and is also starting a personal image consulting business. Today you'll get to hear how MaShawn has moved away from people-pleasing, is more authentic in his relationships, and has begun the scary journey to entrepreneurship.

We also talk a little about intersectionality and body shaming in the gay community. This episode is packed with gold for you!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus010

Suicide and My Mental Health Journey

Thu, 24 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Happy Pride month!

Today, I want to share with you my own journey. I'm sharing it with you because I want you to understand no matter how dark, how empty, or how hopeless you feel, there's opportunity for you.

I will warn you ahead of time, I do go into detail on my experience attempting suicide. So this one is a little heavier. But I promise as always, it ends with joy and encouragement.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/21

Mastering Authentic Connection w/ Keila J. Brown

Mon, 21 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, my client Keila J shares how she's mastered personal, professional and romantic connection.

Keila is a screen writer, actor, and professional match maker. All of those requires the ability to accept rejection. Today you get to hear how Keila has changed her perspective on rejection and how it's led her to more joy and ease in screen writing, acting, entrepreneurship and dating.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus009

Loving Your Inner Bitch

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Some might call it an inner critic, but this isn't Rotten Tomatoes.

This is life, and mine can be a real bitch!

Today we're looking at how that bitchy inner voice comes out to attack ourselves and others.

Instead of shutting it up, we're asking the hard questions like "What are you here to tell me?"

We're on the same team.

Let's start working together.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/20

Realizing “I Am Wonderful” w/ Corey Spade

Mon, 14 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, back by popular demand, my friend and past client, Corey Spade joins us!

Corey is back to give you an update since his first episode which has been the most popular guest episode I've ever done. (You can find that BONUS episode here).

I couldn't be more proud of him.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus008

Drinking

Thu, 10 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode, I help you take a look at what you want your relationship to be with alcohol and give you simple steps to making that shift.

Get full show notes and more info here.

Lesbian In Tech w/ Raphaela Cassandra

Mon, 07 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, my client Raphaela shares her story of how she had to face the question 'who am I without achievement?' A lot of her identity was wrapped up in success at work, school, and fitness.

Through one of the roughest patches of life, when her sudden health decline made her stop everything, Raphaela developed the confidence to be the trailblazer she's always known she is.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus007

7 Stages of Confidence

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400

There are 7 stages of confidence that we all go through.

In today's episode, you'll learn how to identify what stage you're in and navigate from each one to the next.

Get full show notes and more info here.

Influencer to Mental Health Advocate w/ Diego Downtown

Mon, 31 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Diego Gonzalez-Zuniga, the man behind Diego Downtown and host of Your Insecurity Is Showing on IGTV.

Diego gives us insight into how and why he's evolving from an influencer to a mental health advocate. He also shares his own insecurities with us today.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus006

Cognitive Dissonance

Thu, 27 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Last week we talked about getting rid of negative thoughts. This week I'm going to share with you the most difficult obstacle you'll encounter in the process: cognitive dissonance.

Cognitive dissonance is a mental clash. It's holding two opposing beliefs at the same time. And it is what's required in order to change your thinking.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/17

The Accidental Gay Historian w/ Mike Balaban

Mon, 24 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Mike Balaban, the accidental gay historian, and host of the BAMMER and Me podcast.

Mike share's his perspective as a gay man from the baby boomer generation. He's got some invaluable lessons we can all learn about the evolution of queer culture.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus005

Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts

Thu, 20 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Have you ever tried to use mantras to change your thinking? How about positive quotes online? What about daily affirmation apps? If they aren't working for you, it's not your fault.

In today's episode, I'll give you the exact process to wrangle negative thinking and transform it into positive thinking.

Hint: No human is able to force positive thoughts when they're down in the dumps.

After this episode, you'll be able to move past negative thoughts. And it starts with not beating yourself up for having them.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/16

Gay and Christian w/ Drummond Culture

Mon, 17 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Drummond Culture, a fellow life coach and host of Positive Talk on IGTV.

Drummond share's his story of growing up gay in a conservative Christian church and what his faith looks like now as an out gay Christian.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus004

Imposter Syndrome

Thu, 13 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Today we're talking about the hot topic Imposter Syndrome.

I used to have severe imposter syndrome, especially when it came to fitness (then later I became a coach, pretty ironic).

But if you understand where identity comes from, you won't experience imposter syndrome.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/15

The People's Lesbian w/ Lizzy Lesbiana

Mon, 10 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode you'll get to meet Lizzy Lesbiana host of The People’s Lesbian podcast.

Lizzy share's her story of starting the podcast even when she was still very doubtful.

We have fun, shoot the shit, make some gay jokes, and leave you with a great message of inspiration.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus003

My Suicide Race w/ Mark Turnipseed

Thu, 06 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Mark is an Author, Model, Coach and Speaker who advocates for mental health and addiction recovery.

Today Mark shares about his mental health journey, losing all confidence in himself, addiction to drugs and alcohol, attempting suicide, and the triathlon that changed his life.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/14

The Sexican Dreamer w/ Aerik Pachicano

Mon, 03 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode you'll get to meet Aerik Pachicano an Actor, Writer, Comedian and YouTuber.

Aerik share's his own story of following his dream career even when others have doubted him since second grade.

He's an inspiration and a reminder that you can absolutely do what makes your heart sing.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus002

Rejection

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Rejection is the number one thing that holds you back from becoming confident.

And half of all rejection is completely within your power to control.

In today's episode, I share with you exactly how to overcome that rejection so you can go through it with far less fear.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/13

Dating

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

I’ve had many dating experiences that ended terribly with broken hearts and hostile feelings on both sides.

But dating doesn’t have to be that way!

In this episode, I’m going to answer 4 very important dating questions that you must know in order to enjoy dating and find your right person.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/12

Going From "I'm Garbage" To True Self Love w/ Corey Spade - From The Archives

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Today I have a special guest with me.

In this episode Corey shares about:

Coming back from hitting rock bottom
Turning around self loathing
Overcoming body shame
Being a gay kid growing up in a conservative household
And freedom from people pleasing

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/bonus001

Turning Shame Into Confidence w/ Chloie Jönsson

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Today I am honored to have Chloie Jönsson on the podcast.

Chloie is a Transwomxn who's had a tremendous impact on the world of fitness.

Chloie has been open on social media about her past additions which she had used to cope with her own insecurity.

Through sobriety, she's become an advocate for mental health and addiction recovery.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/11

Fake vs Real Confidence

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

Have you ever found yourself being fake vulnerable?

Where you share something that sounds vulnerable, but really you have a plan of action to handle it already.

If you’ve caught yourself doing this, that’s ok! It is just part of the process.

In today’s episode I help you see the difference between fake and real vulnerability and use it as a test for whether or not you are being fake or real in your confidence.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/10

Finding Your Purpose

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode you’ll learn how to find your purpose.

We are trained to think that purpose is something we can find.

But purpose isn’t a treasure to be discovered.

And achievements also are not your purpose.

You’ll know exactly what you purpose is by the end of today’s episode.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/9

The Burnt Out Hero

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0400

If you are a cause-driven person, you are constantly at risk of burn out.

In today’s episode, I teach you the new self concept you need to use in order to continue your mission, without burning out.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/8

Turning Cole Into Diamonds w/ Gerard Cole

Thu, 18 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I sit down to chat with my new friend Gerard Cole about his journey to confidence.

Gerard shares how he quit college, left his home on the east coast, and moved to LA to start his career in comedy.

We unpack how he built the confidence to chase after his dreams when everyone else around him didn't approve.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/7

How To Make Money

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0500

Making money isn’t complicated. And it’s not hard.

Making money is easy, when you know how.

In today’s episode, I teach you how to make value, and communicate that value in a way that makes you money. Lots of it!

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/6

Shame

Thu, 04 Mar 2021 05:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode I share with you 3 beliefs you’ll need in order to overcome shame.

I am enough.
I am worthy of love.
I am safe.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/5

People Pleasing

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode, we discuss people-pleasing.

People-pleasing is just manipulation in drag. It sounds nice. It looks kind. And it lip syncs along to someone else's voice.

It is a performance. But it’s destructive.

People-pleasing comes from insecurity and in this episode I teach you how to overcome 3 reasons why we people please.

Get full show notes and more info here:
https://coachalexray.com/podcast/4

Confidence Step Three: Have Your Own Back

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -0500

When facing conflict, we tend to either run, or throw punches.

Both of these reactions are triggered by insecurity.

In today’s episode, I’m going to teach you step 3 to becoming confident: how to have your own back.

Having your own back means you remain engaged in the confrontation without throwing punches.

There are no winners and losers in conflict.

Listen on to learn how to confidently create solutions, not battles.

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Confidence Step Two: Take Action

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -0500

We often rush to change the situation when we feel insecure.

When we feel lonely we pull up Grindr, so we can feel connected.

When we feel fearful before a conversation, we reschedule it for later.

But these actions always keep you dependent on changing the situation to feel better.

In todays episode I teach you how to take actions that boost your confidence instead of worsening your insecurity.

You’ll need to get in the habit of asking yourself, “Am I doing this to escape? Or am I doing this to care for my needs?”

Caring for your own needs doesn’t always feel that good, because it might require you to do the more uncomfortable thing.

So today I’ll lead you through the process of questioning, and then taking action that builds your confidence.

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Confidence Step One: Allow Discomfort

Thu, 04 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -0500

We queers are professionals at avoiding ourselves.

If you want to feel more confident, you have to stop escaping.

Booze, sex, social media, Grindr… we surround ourselves with quick access to an escape any time we feel insecure.

In this episode, I’m teaching you HOW to allow discomfort.

Because every time you escape you become even more insecure.

Instead, when you allow yourself to experience the feelings, they lose power over you.

Once you know how to allow discomfort, you will start becoming more confident.

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