Sideways

The Ick

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the modern dating phenomenon that involved sudden revulsion at someone with whom you had been experiencing a romantic spark. I offer some theories about why it might have more to do with you than you realise.

We both remember disappointment at a fancy dress competition, reminisce about the Caroline roadshows of the 80s and, after a strong start, I disappoint again in the lyric quiz.

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Hugging

Thu, 16 Apr 2026 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing the benefits of physical touch, and why it can be such a useful component of recovery and good mental health more generally.

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DTD (Developmental Topographical Disorientation)

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism.

A woman employs a counterintuitive way to address her debilitating anxiety, and I get angry about hot cross buns.

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Bigorexia

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're talking about a less well-known form of body dysmorphia.

A man wakes up coloured blue and can't understand why, and there are despicable practices at the camel pageant.

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How To Live A Good LIfe

Thu, 05 Mar 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives.

A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee, there's underwear that measures 'flatus', I get the ick about something I can't recall, and there's more gratitude than you can shake a stick at.

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Why it's hard to escape from addiction

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing.

A professional fighter gets his hair punched off, I witness a live drug deal whilst walking home from the shops, we display a pathetic level of knowledge about American sport, and wonder if the best place to find love might be along the aisles of a supermarket.

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How To be Kind

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do.

We're recording on the first day of February which reminds of of violent traditions from childhood, and Martin has a story about physical assault with an unusual weapon.

We're back in our traditional roles this week which, in my case, inevitably includes a predictably poor performance on the lyric quiz.

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Dry January

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term recovery for dependent drinkers is not comparable with short-term behavioural programmes that appear to have similar aim but, in truth, diverge enormously.

We also hear about a man who chose an unusual disguise after wrongly being accused of a heinous crime, wonder about the wisdom of old men sporting ponytails, and remember the days when the GP would suggest you had a smoke to get rid of your chesty cough.

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Tolerance v Acceptance

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance.

There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing worst in the lyric quiz.

There is also a single uttering of the f-word so, if you're easily offended, you might be better off with 'The One Show'.

Happy New Year.

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Frisson

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about expereinces that move you unexpectedly.

I offer the example of a key change in a James Taylor song that moved me before realising that it doesn’t have a key change in it at all. It was the introduction of the string section at the beginning of the third verse which got me, but it's still a valid example I reckon.

In other news, Martin is still struggling with Christmas, there are literal hair-raising tales about riding a rollercoaster, and a woman gets a worm in her eyelid.

This vaguely festive episode is our last one of the year, so we’d also like to take this opportunity to thank you for listening and wish you a happy and peaceful festive season whether you’re observing Christmas or not.

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Glimmers

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're discussing an effective antidote to anything that triggers feelings of anxiety, stress, overwhelm or sadness.

Martin suggests some world records we can have a crack at, and there's some hygiene talk that involves dangerous soap and whether it's right to multitask whilst taking a shower.

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SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience severely tested.

In other news, a bold double bluff doesn't work out, there are alarming developments on the toothpaste front, and we present a gratitude sandwich.

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Overexplaining

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the target of the explanation.

A plane is grounded as a result of flatulence, there's a squirrel on wheels, Martin frightens small children, and we debate the wisdom of letting a delivery driver use your toilet.

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Body Doubling

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional challenges.

We also feel grateful for seasonal joy and being fed.

There's some other nonsense too but I can't remember what it was about and I have a client in 10 minutes so I don't have time to check, and I've just realised that I haven't been including the normal intro with birdsong and all that paraphernalia. I'll do better next time.

Also, here's a link to the type of video we mention in relation to body doubling on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ex_bNIFR1A

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Shunishment

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 15:00:00 +0100

We're back!

This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling behaviour in a relationship.

There's a new quiz, we're both surprisingly grateful for getting older, and some monkeys display questionable behaviour involving fermented fruit.

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Finding the right sponsor

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it happens.

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Curiosity

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about why curiosity is important and how we, sometimes inadvertently, prevent ourselves from exercising it.

We hear about famous people carved from vegetables, and a man gives police an unwelcome gift when they put him under arrest.

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How To Remember What You Learn

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about how we forget most of what we learn and consider ways of improving retention.

Some friends, having messed with hallucinogens, mistakenly believe their companion to have died, and an elephant pops into a shop for some snacks.

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Overthinking

Thu, 29 May 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about how we get in our own way by making things too complicated and failing to establish helpful strategies for getting stuff done.

I nearly burn myself alive with a BBQ, we ponder on what might make it worth being airlifted off a mountain (twice), and we're grateful for the same thing for different reasons.

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Self-nudging

Thu, 15 May 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about how to avoid putting barriers up to prevent our own progress and how small incremental improvements add up to a lot.

There's also a man who gets shot by his dog, and gratitude for longevity and pizza ovens.

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Social Thinning

Thu, 01 May 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about the early developmental experiences that might have a significant impact on your ability to establish and sustain relationships.

There's also a cautionary tale about carrying glazed windows on your head down Mill Street.

Apologies if the episode sounds a bit rough around the edges but we recorded it late, I'm trying to upload it before my first client, and I haven't even had a shower yet.

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Dealing with criticism

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we discuss the perils of slipping on fruit, fear of vending machines, and the joy of greenhouses and short trousers.

If that weren't enough, we devote the more serious segment of the episode to a discussion on ways to deal with destructive criticism and the behaviours that can replace it toward much happier outcomes.

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Meaning v Purpose

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 15:00:00 +0100

This week Martin has some wisdom related to the classic film, 'Citizen Kane'.

It's the first episode we've recorded while sitting in the same room for five years and, frankly, it was disturbing.

There's all the usual fun and frolics including the prematurely announced death of a Bulgarian footballer.

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Dealing with other peoples opinions

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how to keep your composure when someone tells you that Charlie Chaplin films are funny.

A mother steals ice cream from her child, who then gets the police involved, and a snake takes part in a heist and slithers off with some CBD oil.

Basically, it's more of the usual fare and, quite honestly, you'd be disappointed if it wasn't.

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Improving memory

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about ways of boosting your brain so that you don't find it as hard to remember who had the best selling single in 1974 (Mud - Tiger Feet) and you can manage to churn out a podcast on a Sunday afternoon.

We also discuss the merits of a good apple, reminisce about reading maps, and I'm grateful for plasters.

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Body Clock

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're investigating the circadian rhythm, cyber-farting, big bags of flour, and the joy of early morning light.

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Body Language

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 16:00:00 +0000

This week, we're talking about how much of our communication relies on what we do with our bodies.

There's all the usual guff but I can't be more specific than that because I'm in a rush.

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Alexithymia

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing a neuropsychological condition that prevents individuals from expressing and identifying emotions.

We wonder why so many sports have what appears to be an unnecessary dress code, and wonder whether organisers had their priorities right when they allowed smoking and drinking in their events during the 80s whilst insisting the players wore specific clothing.

There's also an obese hedgehog who had to be put on a diet to protect him from predators.

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Sentimental value

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're discussing the things that make us feel wistful and sentimental, even though they often have no intrinsic value other than the sentiment we attach to them.

Martin's discovery of a business selling diapers for festival goers makes us think about the difficulties of relieving yourself in a crowd. A man takes his pet turkey for a run, and I do appallingly on our weekly quiz.

Happy New Year.

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Living Alone

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're discussing the benefits of living alone, especially for those in early recovery.

Over a cup of masala chai (me) we also cover shopping from bed (Martin), fake parades, how to stack the dishwasher, and whether it's OK to hide from carol singers.

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Envy

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're discussing the unattractive emotion we feel when we covet something we see in someone else.

There's also chat on modern art, speed dating, having a cockroach named after you, and the wisdom of putting a chocolate orange in a pie.

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Core Values

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing how we develop the core beliefs and values that provide direction for the way we live our lives, and consider the experiences that cause them to shift over time.

Martin celebrates another sobriety anniversary, we wonder about the merits of taking a bath with some apples, and whether it's OK to keep a big lottery win to yourself.

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Facial Leakage

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing how your face conveys messages you'd sometimes rather it didn't.

Martin reveals a curmudgeonly attitude toward the clocks changing, there's a case of mistaken identity involving the Northern Lights, and I get woken by a bump in the night.

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JOMO

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing the joy that can come from refusing invitations and staying home to look after yourself by doing whatever makes you feel good.

A man sees a member of the royal family moonlighting in a UFO, we agree that putting dogs in clothes is bad behaviour, and find gratitude in the radio and attending a funeral.

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Changing Your Mind

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 15:00:00 +0100

We're back.

This week, along with the usual inane chat, we're discussing why we might change our minds and differentiating between the healthy and not-so-healthy reasons for doing so.

There's unrest at a Chinese zoo, a new quiz that I do as badly at as the last one, and we disagree over petty theft.

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Toxic Positivity

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, for our final episode before a summer break, we're talking about how we block our own or others' genuine feelings so that we don't have to face the reality of our emotions.

We'll be back in September. Have a good summer (or winter, depending on where you are in the world)

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Breadcrumbing

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing 'breadcrumbing', a close relation of 'ghosting'.

A man finds himself in the midst of an earthquake at a most inopportune time, and Martin has some wonderful news which is not overshadowed by my gratitude for a handful of radishes.

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Anhedonia

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about our personal experiences of addiction and depression and the anhedonia that accompanied them.

We also hear about a woman who can tell the outcome of sporting events simply by throwing asparagus into the air.

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Personal Space

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about the importance of appropriate personal space.

We also cover urinal etiquette and good manners when driving through a traffic contraflow.

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Shyness

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about dealing with shyness. Are you born like it? How does it differ from introversion and social anxiety? Can you do anything about it?

We also discuss attitudes to small talk and feel grateful for self-discipline and passing places on narrow country lanes.

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Burnout

Thu, 30 May 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about burnout. Why does it happen and what can we do to prevent it?

Martin has news of World War 3, we wonder about post-apocalyptic football, and I become frustrated at next door's cats using my raised beds as a toilet.

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Imposter Syndrome

Thu, 23 May 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we sometimes feel out of our depth without much evidence in support.

I do some research on mangoes, a man wears inappropriate footwear that causes him no end of problems while metal detecting, and Martin experiences some auditory recall for which he is grateful.

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Being Authentic

Thu, 16 May 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the importance of being your true self, whoever that is.

Neither of us bothers to look out for the Northern Lights but we both feel enthusiastic about the idea of cuddling a cow. Martin remembers being shamed for coming last and we wonder if it’s ever OK to cheat on a test.

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All or Nothing Thinking

Thu, 09 May 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why it's unhelpful to always think about things in terms of good and bad without anything in between

A man has an unusual emotional support animal stolen, we debate the merit of putting vegetables in cakes, and Martin is grateful for big parking spaces.

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Psychological Body Armour

Thu, 02 May 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about how we prepare ourselves emotionally for challenging situations.

We hear about a man who goes to great lengths to avoid getting wet, I upset the Irish with my poor attempt at an accent, and Martin feels grateful for an excited hug.

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You Are What You Wear

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about what your clothes say about you and the way that our emotional state might influence what we choose to wear.

A woman tries to take a bank loan for a corpse, we reminisce about the perils of riding a bike with flared trousers, and we discuss the tricky topic of wearing pyjamas in the supermarket.

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Silence

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the benefits of silence.

Martin gets upset about a suggestion that it's OK to laugh at a funeral, I feel grateful for window cleaners, and there's controversy over the addition of a keyboard player to our dead supergroup.

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Man Up

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing the way that dismissing someone's legitimate emotions as a sign of weakness or lack of desirable masculinity is hugely destructive.

A coat is mistaken for a leopard, we decide that using someone else's bin without permission is a violation of privacy, and there's a cautionary tale if you happen to be a rock drummer.

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Building Confidence in Recovery

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about ways to bolster your confidence so that you can occupy your rightful place in the world with assertiveness and comfort.

Someone mistakes a hat for a hedgehog, I impersonate a man of the cloth, and we debate the wisdom of taking a cobra to a party and guzzling its venom for kicks.

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Losing Focus

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why we have trouble maintaining focus, what it might say about us and how to manage it better.

Martin recalls being waterboarded at the hairdresser and tells us which station he'd choose if he were to name himself after one.

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False Memory

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the things we've forgotten that we think we remember even though what we come up with might be a complete fabrication.

A goat is arrested for the theft of a Mazda 323, some Reading Rock Festival pizza rots Martin's jeans, and I am attacked by malware.

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Confirmation Bias

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about how we can become experts at looking for evidence in support of beliefs we already hold, and the ways it can be destructive.

We also hear about a lady who took her dead hamster on the trip of a lifetime and make a useful addition to our posthumous supergroup.

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Platitudes

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week, I've been in Scotland and so we recorded in a rush without any time to do a proper edit. It's a mark of our "professionalism" that you probably won't tell a difference between this and our other episodes.

We're chatting about platitudes and why they are so unhelpful. There's also all the usual guff.

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Exaggeration

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why people feel the need to embellish the truth and how it often comes from a place of low self-confidence.

We wonder what it would be like to wake up at your own funeral, hear about animals travelling in underwear, and see the insufferable liar, Jay from The Inbetweeners, in a whole new light.

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Purpose

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about something simple, the meaning of life.

We hear a remarkable excuse for illegal possession of drugs, Martin gets mistaken for a pensioner, we feel grateful for bowel cancer screening, and I recall almost being crushed under a Land Rover.

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Managing Your Inner Dialogue

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing the ways we can harness our inevitable self-talk.

Martin does a survey on anchovies, and a pigeon is held captive for eight months on suspicion of espionage.

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Being Let Down

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're talking about why it hurts when someone lets us down, how we can avoid it happening, and what to do if it does.

Other than that, we hear about how speedy cashiers can cause mental health crises, whether or not it's important to be able to shuffle a deck of cards, and I find out what Martin has in his larder.

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Expert Mindset

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing thinking you know everything already and how that expert mindset can often limit your opportunities to grow intellectually and emotionally.

Martin has a story about confusing an owl with a mushroom, a drunken man gets arrested for impersonating a ghost, and we ponder on the possibility that all the great philosophers were borne out of a time when there wasn't anything to do apart from sitting around thinking about things.

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Beginner's Mindset

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the benefits of going into situations without assuming any prior knowledge, and how even if you're a relative expert, keeping an open mind and believing you can always learn something new is the way to sustainable and enjoyable personal growth.

Martin tells a harrowing tale about an exploding toilet which puts him in mind of a toilet disaster all of his own. You might not want to listen while you're eating.

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Adaptability

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about why it’s important to be adaptable in recovery and life generally.

To illustrate our ability to adapt to random subjects we find time for Barry White, an art exhibition for dogs, pair Socrates and Einstein in an unlikely midfield three with Oprah Winfrey, and discuss our feelings about ironing.

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Genetics In Addiction

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about some of the biological and genetic factors that might make problems with addiction more likely. Neither of us claims to be experts in this area so you needn’t worry that we might bog you down in difficult-to-understand science.

To lighten the mood we hear about Freddie Mercury appearing in a teaspoon, the perils of solo fishing trips, getting chocolate stuck to bare flesh, and our connection with the late David Bowie.

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Festive Anxiety

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +0000

This week, if you’re wondering why you’d been feeling so stressed and anxious about the festive period that we’ve just hauled our way through, we might have some of the answers for you.

Martin has a cold and tries to bring us all down to his level of misery with a particularly unseasonal tale about inappropriate gifting.

We express gratitude for being alive with our families, and I catastrophically underestimate the age of Cozy Powell.

Happy New Year. Here’s hoping that it’s peaceful, productive (if you want it to be) and full of love.

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Memory Loss

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about the impact too much alcohol can have on your memory.

Martin introduces me to the concept of moon bathing, we hear about a worrying danger of food deliveries, ponder on the merits of being good at giving speeches, and consider writing and sharing eulogies for one another whilst we’re still alive to hear them.

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Interventions 2

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we inadvertently select a topic we covered earlier in the year and then worried that we might have contradicted ourselves within the space of six months.

Intervention is clearly an important topic on which we have a lot to say

In addition, we think about the best way to catch a kangaroo, show gratitude for video calls and reliable cars, discuss the origin of surnames, and try to name the Travelling Willbury's.

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Being An Empath

Thu, 07 Dec 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about what happens when you don’t or can’t seem to limit the empathy you feel for others. We discuss, where it originates, why it can be a problem and what you can do about it.

We share our fond memories of Shane MacGowan, debate the connection between creativity and alcohol, hear about some horrifying places where spiders laid their eggs, and I get a bit worked up about weather forecasters.

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Admiration

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about why we sometimes find it hard to celebrate other people’s success and how helpful it is to do so.

We wonder how God feels about hot drinks in church, discover the names of two Osmond siblings we didn't know existed, reminisce about Martin’s affection for chocolate buttons, and we select our favourite poems.

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Abundance Mindset

Thu, 23 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week, after our discussion last time about scarcity mindset, we're balancing things out with some thoughts about why an abundance mindset is far preferable.

In addition, we discuss the art of telling jokes, "big up" the value of freezers and leaf blowers, and there's exciting news for anyone saddened by the demise of the "Caramac" bar.

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Scarcity Mindset

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the negative impacts of worrying that you won't have enough, regardless of whether you're right or not.

Martin waxes lyrical about prescription apps, and I extol the virtues of a squirrel.

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Classical Music

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the physical, emotional and mental benefits of listening to classical music.

Martin tells us about a surprising and inappropriate donation to a charity shop, and we discuss canoeing, and growing up in a house without central heating. I then erroneously ascribe "The Young Person's Guide To The Orchestra" before knocking one out of the park in the weekly quiz.

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Haunted By The Past

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week, having recently spoken about anxiety, an emotion that lives in the future, we're turning our attention to the ways we become burdened by the past.

I can't recall any famous hijacks, we pay tribute to Matthew Perry, who we focused on in one of our very early episodes, and we talk rituals and wet shaving.

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Hiding In Plain Sight

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about some of the reasons alcohol is treated differently in society from other drugs.

I get antsy about technology updates, Martin has news about "Tree Of The Year", we discover we know very little about communion wine, and debate the value of parallel parking.

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Anxiety

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how to manage anxiety and the way in which almost everything that works best is counterintuitive.

Martin leaves his dartboard outside, and celebrates a day just for him. We make arrangements for handling a bear attack and ask, "Should apples be stored in the fridge?" (of course not).

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Receiving Compliments

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we find giving and recieving compliments so awkward, what it says about us, and how to change it.

There's squirrel talk, a discussion about whether we all end up dressing our age, some dull exchanges about loose-leaf tea, and a tale about sheep on drugs.

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Kindness

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about all the benefits of being kind to other people, many of which are incredibly powerful for the giver of kindness as much as they are for the receiver.

Martin gives away some chocolate but can't take advantage of a client's similar act of kindness, I enjoy floor coverings, and we have a night in London that culminated in a jog to the station that played havoc with Martin's creaking knees, much to my amusement.

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Self Sabotage

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing all the methods we use to get in our own way.

Procrastination, perfectionism, low self-esteem, disconnection, and lots more.

I help my daughter liberate a spider, Martin oversleeps, we debate the merits of measuring things by using other things, and remember the heady days of the conker battles we had in our youth.

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Five Signs Of Addiction

Thu, 21 Sep 2023 15:00:00 +0100

We're back, and this week we're talking about five common signs that you've developed or are developing a dependence on a substance or behaviour.

There are guitar-shaped coffins, tales of being attacked by two wild animals simultaneously, short trousers, and neck ties.

It's good to be with you again.

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We're Back...Soon

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 15:00:00 +0100

A short trailer to let you know that we've had enough of being without you and are looking forward to returning next week.

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How To Feel Inspired

Thu, 29 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0100

In the last episode of this season, we're talking about how we create conditions for inspiration.

We reminisce about bringing games into school on the last day of term, I learn a lot about work charming, and Martin reveals his fondness for bouncy balls.

We'll be back in September but, if you can't wait that long, there are 174 other episodes for you to listen to.

Have a lovely summer.

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How To Make Decisions

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we find it hard to make decisions and what we can do about it.

There's money to be made from scaring birds, especially those with a drug habit, Martin dresses up as a Cavalier, and we get all wistful about paddling pools.

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Supporting Or Enabling?

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the fine line between supportive behaviour and the point at which it slips into enabling a continuation of the problem that you're trying to help address.

We allow ourselves a once in 43 years moment or two of euphoria at our football team finally winning something and consider sober ways to celebrate .

We deconstruct the phrase "tough love", and Martin ends up cutting the grass in a cemetery after a friend is not entirely straight with him.

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Underestimating Yourself

Thu, 08 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about doubting your own ability and why there is no benefit in believing the worst about who you are and what you can do.

If that weren't enough, there is also chat about getting old, parking apps, novelty coffins, and flowers with low self-confidence.

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Easily Influenced

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re talking about how and why we’re easily led astray.

During a conversation about library fines, I make a long overdue confession, Martin is grateful for haggis, and I buy some new pots.

It's better than it sounds.

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Searching For Identity

Thu, 25 May 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing how much we struggle to know who we are, especially through difficult periods of our lives and how who you were yesterday is almost certainly different from who you are today.

I Google my name to see who the internet thinks I am, there is a tale about a furious cow, Martin's late father falls into a river and he (Martin) gets himself a new set of wheels

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Reframing Negative Thoughts

Thu, 18 May 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about ways to rethink our negative thoughts and I make the lofty claim that there is no negative thought that cannot be reframed positively.

I reveal my difficulty with irritating sounds, Martin has some more tales about animals, we disagree about waking up to the sound of a legendary guitarist, and we ponder the possibility that Martin might be distantly related to Tommy Cooper.

It's the usual guff with an odd nugget of wisdom. (I used to work in marketing, can you tell?)

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Dealing With Endings

Thu, 11 May 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we find it hard to face the end of things, even when they have been destructive and painful.

We discuss too, the space between endings and new beginnings which can be incredibly uncomfortable yet super helpful if we can learn to navigate it properly.

I bemoan street parties, Martin praises leftovers, and we wonder about what he might have forgotten about during his years in the madness of addiction and whether it could have included driving over the mayor's lawn.

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Interventions

Thu, 04 May 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing what makes us feel the need to tell other people what they ought to do, why it never works and what we might be better off trying instead.

There's all the usual tomfoolery too, including the joy of a charity shop, why Martin enjoys a hog roast, and we each choose a musician for very unsavoury purposes.

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Playing The Victim

Thu, 27 Apr 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re discussing why people place themselves in the position of victim when all it does is render them incapable of taking action to change the situation they are so frustrated with.

Martin reflects on how pub opening hours might have been a godsend, we make up stories about people while one listener takes it further and judges quiz contestants on the basis of the way they play the game.

I plant some seeds, we talk picnic food, and I warn Martin about the dangers of growing squash.

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Cross Addiction

Thu, 20 Apr 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re talking about how giving up one addiction can lead you straight into the arms of another one if you aren’t on your guard, and we explore the way that some people have their own ideas about what constitutes a dependency and whether some behaviours or substances can be exempt. (Spoiler alert: They can't)

There’s also a bag of snakes, the dangers of virtual sports, cheating at the opticians, and a look into the extensive love life of Jerry Lee Lewis.

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Preconceived Ideas

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re talking about the damage we do to ourselves and other people when we allow our mistaken conscious and unconscious beliefs to dictate the way we think and behave.

We also cover, the Easter bunny, sweary parrots, Martin’s hatred of Genesis (the band not the book of the Bible), the liturgical calendar, and why Malteasers can sometimes be painful.

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The Four C's Of Addiction

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week Martin takes use through some keys ways in which its possible to identify addiction distinct from other mental health difficulties.

We manage to move through that with some brevity leaving us plenty of time to discuss buying too much of something, dropping your phone into water, getting confused in McDonalds, drinking alcohol at breakfast, ferrets, and Gwyneth Paltrow.

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Myths About Sobriety

Thu, 30 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're debunking some of the common misconceptions around sobriety that keep people from putting down their drink and drugs.

Martin has some startling information about birds' anatomy and our gratitude list entries are unusually serious and heartfelt.

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Causes Of Relapse

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're looking at some of the reasons people give for relapse and discuss ways in which such self-destructive action can be avoided.

We reminisce about amusing news headlines, hear about a spiteful octopus, and the time that Martin went "Zorbing".

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Coping With Change

Thu, 16 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the things that it's best not to change in the first year of recovery to make sure you keep yourself on track.

Martin and I disagree over the correct use of a travel mug, he shares some disturbing information about dolphins and their use of narcotics, we wonder about tattoos and celebrate "Check Your Batteries" day.

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The Importance Of Connection

Thu, 09 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about human relationships and the way in which they are the most consistent predictor of long, happy and healthy lives.

Martin develops an interest in how flamingoes choose their partners, we reminisce about boring holiday jobs in factories, and the difficulty of putting on a pair of tight football socks.

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Gossip

Thu, 02 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing the negative impact of gossip whether you're being gossiped about or doing the gossiping.

There's chat about royal headgear, a revelation about "foreign accent syndrome", cautionary advice about flammable dressing gowns, and unappealing ways of using a tin of pineapple rings.

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Tuning In To Shit FM

Thu, 23 Feb 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we turn our attention to rumination and explore the reasons why we can't get out of destructive circular thoughts and what to do about it.

We reminisce about our time in rock bands and how, on occasion, our art was not fully appreciated, while Martin helps me out with a question that has worried me for years concerning criminals' luggage.

There is also a sobering tale about the wisdom of trying to catch a falling cactus.

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Codependency

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the destructive nature of codependency and how it can keep everyone involved in a relationship with a codependent in an unhealthy place.

There are not a lot of laughs on this topic so to lighten the mood we discover a Polish black metal band and learn that you can get fired for being annoying.

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Controlling Behaviour

Thu, 09 Feb 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how having people in your life who want to control everything can be incredibly irritating if reasonably harmless at one end of the spectrum but turn into something altogether more sinister, frightening and abusive at the other.

Martin is grateful for strong glue, we examine the ways in which Brexit has deprived animals of sex, and I get into a bit of a batter about Yorkshire puddings.

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Overwhelm

Thu, 02 Feb 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why we feel overwhelmed, what causes it, and what we can do about it.

Martin comes up with a novel use for a yoga mat if you find that you don't like yoga after all, we go misty-eyed for pick & mix, and we talk about our own favourite "comfort TV".

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Willpower

Thu, 26 Jan 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we propel ourselves towards what we want to achieve.

Martin has a tale about ghosts in the toilet and discloses a lack of enthusiasm for marshmallows, while I lament the lack of fondue in my life. We both praise the undoubted qualities of a long-handled teaspoon.

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Motivation

Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about motivation.

What causes us to feel demotivated, how do we increase our motivation, and what is the difference between motivation and willpower?

In an extraordinary turn of events we also find out that Martin does not own a juicer.

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Emptiness

Thu, 05 Jan 2023 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're trying to help you through the dark days of midwinter by exploring the feeling of emptiness that often accompanies the days of January.

We bemoan the winter virus we're both experiencing, reminisce about pet tortoises, find the son of God in the unlikeliest of places, and wonder who first had the idea of gifting apples to teachers.

Happy New Year to all of our listeners. Let's get through it together.

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The 12 Gifts Of Sobriety

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week Martin uses the well-known Christmas song as a thin veil for twelve benefits gained from sobriety.

It's really quite uplifting.

We wonder why Holst was never on Top Of The Pops, discuss the way in which Santa Claus gets into houses without chimneys, and disagree about the joys of the humble Brussels sprout.

Wishing you a happy Christmas or whatever else you might be celebrating (or not) this weekend.

We'll be back in two weeks.

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Reinventing Yourself

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we change, why it's inevitable and how personality is not a fixed point.

Martin is concerned about some frogs but not as worried as Taylor Swift ought to be, we exchange stories of odd LPs we had in the house as we grew up, and argue about the merits of a bagel.

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Elephant In The Room

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 15:00:00 +0000

If you've ever avoided talking about something that clearly needs talking about you will be failing to address the "elephant in the room" and we're determined not to in this episode.

Martin tells us where the phrase comes from and what an epigram is.

We hear about some Tibetan monks who got high on something other than their own inner peace, and we wonder what on earth Frank Zappa was thinking of when he named his kids.

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Am I Invisible?

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 15:00:00 +0000

What factors contribute to feeling disrespected, overlooked, and undervalued?

This week we're looking at how we become marginalised and the part we can play in our own invisibility.

After 147 episodes Martin picks up on the snooker connection and tells us about Bill Werbeniuk and his astonishing capacity for drinking lager.

We also remember with great fondness the habit we had in the 70s and 80s for making mix tapes, a joy essentially lost on the streaming generation.

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Grudges

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why we hold grudges for so long, why it isn't good for us, and what it takes to let go of them.

Rod Stewart kicks a football into a fan's face, someone wants to marry an alien, and we discuss things we loaned out but never got back.

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Habits

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how to differentiate between good and bad habits, and how to start or stop them when you want or need to.

Martin experiences some software issues, we discover we both bore people to sleep, discuss at what point you have too much breakfast cereal, and find that neither of us has ever hugged a musician.

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Silencing Your Inner Critic

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about where that negative self-talk comes from and how to successfully tune out and stop listening to it.

Martin is celebrating his 11th sobriety anniversary and he has a tale about a ghostly marriage.

We share contrasting memories of Bonfire Night and there's more than you'd expect related to the saxophone.

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Self-Reflection

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the benefits of being alone with your own thoughts and how we can make fewer mistakes and accelerate our personal growth by taking a proper look at ourselves, even when it's uncomfortable.

Shrek shows up in a curry, I get sand in my sandwiches, we agree on the must-have items at a funeral, and there are tips for making better lists.

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People Pleasing

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we relentlessly deprioritise our own needs in favour of other people's, where such destructive behaviour comes from, and what we can do to change it.

I am thankful for shelter from the rain, Martin visits a trippy art exhibition, and neither of us likes Chris De Burgh.

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Assertiveness

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we find it hard to be assertive and how we can learn to get better at it.

My virtual beret-wearing prompts a chat about scouting, you can learn how long it would take to get to the sun in a jumbo jet and what you could do while you travel, and Martin reveals his children's favourite of his lies.

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Lies

Thu, 13 Oct 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the reasons we lie and how it can become a bit of a destructive habit.

I need to know some more about clouds, Martin needs to talk about Nigel, and he gets a bit annoyed about another special day for celebrating beer.

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Can We Expect To Be Understood?

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the frustration it can cause when we crave to be understood but other people seem unable or unwilling to do so. It's a problem acutely felt by recovering addicts so we try and throw some light on the subject in our usual ham-fisted way.

There's also chat about farmer's markets, Oktoberfest, foreign accent syndrome, and old-fashioned sweet shops.

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Loss

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 15:00:00 +0100

We're back, and this week we're talking about loss and how it encompasses much more than just the pain of bereavement.

We discuss losing physical objects, getting hit in the nuts with a ball, the merits of saying a prayer to St Anthony, and the perils of mini-roundabouts.

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We're Back..Almost

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 15:00:00 +0100

As a prelude to the resumption of episodes on September 29th, we got together around the old creaky dining room table to chat about summer, towels, and what happens next.

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Taking A Break

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week, as a precursor to our summer holiday, we are talking about the benefits of taking a break.

We discuss what you have to gain from a little rest and recuperation as well as the dangers of ignoring the joys of a little downtime.

Martin tells us about some drunk birds and we're both double grateful.

See you in September.

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Intrusive Thoughts

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about intrusive thoughts. Where they come from, why they tend to be so alarming, and what we can do to reduce their power.

In addition, Martin gets dewy-eyed about swings, I moan about the length of school holidays, and there is gratitude in the shape of dogs chasing butterflies and punting.

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Getting Things Into Perspective

Thu, 23 Jun 2022 18:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we tend to blow things out of proportion to our detriment and what we can do in order to try and avoid it.

There are some other things too but I can't remember what any of them are because my wife has covid and I'm already three hours late posting this episode, so you'll just have to listen and find out.

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Judgement

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the judgements we make about situations and people without having any justification or knowledge to back it up. We explore why we do it and why we ought to try and stop it.

Martin has another tale about dangerous animals, we upset the Duran Duran fans, can't stop talking about the weather, and pay homage to the humble chip shop.

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Crying

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the benefits, physical, mental, and emotional, of having a good cry.

My lack of coffee causes us to reminisce about a time when Martin used to tease me about my asthma medication, we celebrate the passing of the jubilee without having had to attend a street party, and we get smug about the price of beer.

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Loneliness or Solitude?

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the difference between feeling lonely and enjoying the solitude of spending time with someone you love (ie you).

In what I think is one of my favourite episodes, we also cover a whole host of other topics including bunting, giving birth at a Metalica gig, the musical tastes of our fathers, being sent to your room as a child, cutting your own hair, suede jackets, and famous families.

Come on, kick back and have some quality time alone while listening to two ageing fools talk nonsense and sense in equal measure.

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Panic Attack

Thu, 26 May 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about panic attacks and how dealing with them is not only challenging but counterintuitive.

Martin tells me we can't take a break, even for the Queen's Jubilee, I moan about street parties, we agree that traveling to Florida sounds incredibly dangerous, and there is some fish snobbery.

At the end, I've left you a little gift to mark the end of season 5(!!)

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Why We Don't Take Advice

Thu, 19 May 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why offering advice might not be as good an idea as helping someone decide for themselves that change is needed.

Martin forgets to turn on his microphone which makes me sound louder than I feel comfortable with, we have a disagreement about Eurovision, and there's panic in a restaurant.

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Tact

Thu, 12 May 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing how to be tactful and why it's important for the health of relationships and how it relates to assertiveness.

We agree on silent movies, Martin has a reductionist view of Charlie Chaplin, I share my appalling record-keeping habits, and I try to convince that Martin's dreams about a tiger might have some significance.

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What Is Normal?

Thu, 05 May 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the myth of normality and how when people say, "I just want to feel normal," they mostly mean that they just don't want to feel like they do anymore.

Martin gets frustrated about batteries, I get fed up with the cats from next door, we hear a sobering tale about the demise of a landlady from long ago, and we find it impossible not to have a chat about MP's watching porn on their phones while they're at work.

Honestly, it's not normal.

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Who Are You?

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re talking about Phil Daniels in the film Quadrophenia, or rather the issue of multiple identities that the film deals with.

Martin gets excited about sticky tape, gives us some illuminating information about stealing from the bees, we both recall experiencing a common metaphor in real life, and wonder why people bother to put the progress they’ve made with games on the internet.

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Thursday 17th

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we’re talking about rituals and how they can be both destructive and constructive.

I wear a beret for easter, Martin has new information about raising your pet as a vegan, we discuss how easily I would beat Paul McCartney in a sprint, and which albums are likely to have been the most popular historically for use as a surface on which to roll a joint.

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Freedom

Thu, 14 Apr 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the importance of being able to act, think, and express ourselves in the way we choose to, and the importance of considering the impact on other people when we are doing so.

We debate the impressions it's no longer socially acceptable to do, hear about a trouser-related disaster, and there is gratitude for biscuits and new cookware.

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Dealing With Uncertainty

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how to cope when nothing feels solid enough to rely on.

I get excited about pressure cookers, hit upon a flawed plan to finally get myself involved in yoga, Martin mocks my first bicycle, and there is a sobering tale about the dangers of foraging.

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Happiness

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about happiness, what it really is, and how much of it we can realistically expect to enjoy.

We discuss the possibility of turning our hand to opera, get some interesting new information on the topic of vegan pets from one of our listeners, and Martin gets a bit upset when he thinks I've set him some homework.

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Cravings

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how to manage when you feel an insatiable desire for something you either can't or ought not to have.

We discuss how cravings are a way of indicating that there is space within us that needs to be filled but not necessarily with whatever it is we're trying to get hold of.

There's chat about my experience of covid, how to call "shotgun" on other people's possessions when you think they might be gravely ill, and we agree on an album that ought to be a fixture of every household.

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Bullying

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about being bullied, whether it happened at school when you were duffed up in the playground and had your lunch money stolen, or whether it's happened in your adult life when someone used aggression and force to cover up their own insecurities.

We examine how bullying can have a devastating impact on us for years after it happened and what you can do to release yourself from its miserable legacy.

I get upset about some coffee advice and we deal with the perils of admitting that you are a terrorist.

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Popularity

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing the difference between being likeable and having status and why you're better off in the long-term developing one in favour of the other.

We also chat about the cult of fake tanning and memories of lying to small children.

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Patience

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we handle hold-ups and frustrations when we are trying to achieve something in our lives.

We look into the roots of impatience and some ways in which we can help ourselves to be a bit more relaxed when things don't go quite as we had planned.

We also exchange memories of being struck by falling debris and a way of getting to Norway without paying regardless of whether you want to or not.

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Gaslighting

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about what to do if you're in a relationship where you're constantly being told that everything is your fault to the extent that you begin to wonder what's true and what isn't.

Martin has some apple-related disappointment, and we discuss which of the sports either of us would be willing to have a go at in the Winter Olympics.

Also, Martin pretty much admits he likes American rock with his choice of tune to add to the Spotify playlist this week.

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Perseverance

Thu, 17 Feb 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how to keep going when you feel you've reached the point where you can't take another step.

We sing the praises of hard graft and determination and think about the ways in which it isn't only overcoming huge hardship that counts, it's the little challenges we face too.

We debate the best time to watch "The Sound Of Music", and Martin bursts into song.

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Positive People

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who have a positive outlook and why it makes such a difference when you can avoid being pulled into a cycle of negative and catastrophic thinking.

We decide we're probably too old to understand why people go shopping in their pyjamas, Martin reveals a particular fondness for inflatables, and there's also some ear wax chat.

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Family Matters

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we've got a guest!

We're talking to KL Wells, founder, and CEO of "Voices In Courage" an online community created to support the loved ones of people in the grip of alcoholism and addiction.

Our chat with KL is really uplifting and illustrates how, with the right mindset, even the most desperate situations can be dealt with in a way that creates a sense of strength and purpose.

It's really inspiring and we hope you enjoy it.

Martin and I have less time than usual to chat nonsense but he does reveal some disturbing information about his use of notebooks which I am yet to fully recover from.

https://voicesincourage.com/

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Routine

Thu, 27 Jan 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're discussing the benefits of having some routine in your life and the way in which it can create a sense of peace where once was stress and anxiety.

Martin bemoans the loss of his fingerprints, we share fond memories of melted wax and talk about the worst things we've ever eaten.

We also remember a delinquent rescue dog I used to have.

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Blue Monday

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing what is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year although I for one am happy to declare myself a dissenting voice.

Martin looks into the origins of "Blue Monday" and the dubious research that went into establishing it.

We also talk about illness and some startling news involving "Pokemon Go".

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Inspiration

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week Martin & I record an entire episode without pressing the record button and have to do the whole thing all over again.

I imagine you find us quite inspiring.

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Expectations

Thu, 06 Jan 2022 15:00:00 +0000

This week, we're talking about what we expect from ourselves and others, and how that can sometimes make life much harder and more disappointing than we'd like it to be.

We discuss the importance of recognising that not everyone sees the world the way that we do and that few people in our lives are mind-readers.

We also cover the topic of taking down Christmas decorations too early, Star Trek, and jogging to the works of Charles Dickens.

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Judging Books By Their Covers

Thu, 30 Dec 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we make judgements about people long before we have enough information to form an accurate opinion.

Martin comes clean about misleading me in the last episode, we identify Hollywood A-lister Julia Roberts as someone familiar with wild and unsubstantiated evaluation, and conclude that it's always best to steer clear of a leopard, especially if it's been drinking.

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Christmas Stress

Thu, 23 Dec 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the things that cause most of us stress at Christmas but might pose particular problems for anyone in recovery.

Martin struggles to get into the festive spirit and reveals some startling gaps in his knowledge when it comes to Christmas movies, although he does find some seasonal mirth in a gift once given to me by my great uncle.

His gratitude for a particular feature of wrapping paper is hilarious though not particularly surprising.

Thanks for listening to us all year. We hope you have a splendid Christmas and a healthy, peaceful New Year.

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Making Mistakes

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about messing things up and the way we respond when we inevitably do it.

There's a lot of talk about seasonal fruit, the appearance of the Messiah in a satsuma, goalkeeping trouble caused by an orange segment, and my own DIY disaster involving a bathroom carpet.

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Resourcefulness

Thu, 09 Dec 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we’re talking about the genius ways in which addicts can source their drugs of choice, hide them up from prying eyes, and generally give the impression that everything is fine when it patently isn’t.

We also discuss how, if put to positive use, this imagination, tenacity, and creativity can turn lives around in the most remarkable ways.

Martin discovers a kindred spirit in a much loved Christmas film, reminds me of being fat-shamed at my own wedding, and I get grumpy about advent calendars.

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Office Christmas Party

Thu, 02 Dec 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the dangers of attending the work Christmas party, especially for those in recovery.

We consider some of the strategies you might want to adopt if refusing to attend isn't an option.

We also have a disagreement over the gratitude lists and discuss a remarkable brush with celebrity.

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Perfectionism

Thu, 25 Nov 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the tyranny of perfectionism, how some people wear it proudly like a badge of honour, and how it is really nothing of the sort.

There are a few helpful tips if you're interested in getting your perfectionism under control.

We also cover haircuts, disappointing holiday hotels, and the strange things people force themselves to enjoy when they'd really rather not.

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Asking For Help

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing the reasons why we often find it hard to ask for help even when we desperately need it.

We talk about how we're not the only one's who lose out when we suffer in silence too.

In an unusually serious episode we still find time to cover a collection of chips, the quality of tea in hotels, farmers markets, and middle class apples.

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Jealousy

Thu, 11 Nov 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about "the green-eyed monster" itself.

We discuss the difference between jealousy and envy, which I still get confused about.

We look at the different types of jealousy and the ways in which they might indicate either a deeper emotional disturbance or what they say about you rather than the person towards whom you feel jealous.

If that weren't enough we talk about Martin's lunch, walking the dogs, and still find time to celebrate Martin's tenth year of sobriety.

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Rebuilding Trust

Thu, 04 Nov 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about what we need to do in order to rebuild others' trust in us when we have done something that has hurt or disappointed them.

We talk about a guy who took ignoring calls from an unrecognised number to a new level, debate what we’d put into room 101, and wonder whether a celebrity tribute act can be the cause of alcoholism.

Mispronunciation, getting caught short, and gluing yourself to things also get a mention.

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Humility

Thu, 28 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about humility. What is it, how do we get it, and why does it matter.

It's also our 100th episode so, as you can imagine, we were partying like you wouldn't believe.

So much so in fact that we strayed into the area of hernias, our three favourite pigs, and a lot of other nonsense that we know you've come to expect.

Thank you to all of you who listen. We really didn't imagine we'd develop such a great swathe of listeners. We value you more than we can communicate.

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Funerals

Thu, 21 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why funerals present such a lot of potential triggers for anyone in recovery.

We also discuss experiences of being close enough to touch the Queen without actually doing so, ridiculously extravagant restaurants, the importance of making a death plan, and funeral music.

Martin tells me what he definitely doesn't want on his funeral playlist, and I tell him about some cakes I definitely do want at mine

It's more uplifting than it sounds.

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Abstinence v Recovery

Thu, 14 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week, in response to a question we got from a listener, we're debating the difference between abstinence and recovery.

Martin finds it difficult to show any sympathy for my particularly nasty head cold, I remember a time my ex-girlfriend confused Uri Geller with a famous cosmonaut, and Martin inadvertently comes up with a great band name for an REM tribute act.

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Regrets

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about whether it's possible to live a life without regret and, if not, can we make use of what seems to be such a destructive emotion?

We also cover favourite sandwiches, selling off your football medals, Frank Sinatra, and we both go all multi-lingual, momentarily.

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Boredom

Thu, 30 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about what causes boredom and the terribly destructive things we sometimes have a tendency to do when we feel bored.

In the course of the conversation, we touched on a range of topics including "The Young Ones", queues at petrol stations, ramraiding bakeries, and wetting yourself.

Don't miss it. It's not boring.

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Ego

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the way we use the word ego and what it takes to keep it under control.

I urge Martin not to look into its Freudian roots and instead we discuss indoor shoes, reasons for getting caned at school, and scrap metal.

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Awkward

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the things that make us cringe and why avoiding awkward situations might have negative consequences.

Martin finds it hard to let go of my past mistakes and displays a distinct aversion to the sound of silence.

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Growth Mindset v Fixed Mindset

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the difference it can make to overcoming mental health difficulties when you believe that you can.

While trusting the process of change won't be enough on its own for most of us a belief that we are unchangeable will definitely block progress.

I have a new box of pencils, and Martin celebrates the completion of a project.

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Sympathy & Empathy

Thu, 02 Sep 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why empathy is far more valuable than sympathy, and how the former creates connection while the latter tends to break it.

Martin has another obituary for us, I wax lyrical about driving over a bridge, there's some fascinating talk about moccasins and foot spa's, and a predictable but appropriate addition to the Spotify playlist.

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Insomnia

Thu, 26 Aug 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the debilitating issue of sleeplessness.

We discuss what causes the problem, how we have a tendency to perpetuate it in ourselves, and what we can do to address it.

Martin has a new mic, we reminisce about a re-write of a classic children's storybook, and touch on the purpose of cheap lager.

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Dealing With Trauma

Thu, 19 Aug 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about trauma. Where it comes from, what it looks like, and how we might go about treating it.

We also have a conversation about dead birds, an unfathomably large breakfast, and smoking weed in an immersive art exhibition.

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Making An Ass Out Of You And Me

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about assumptions.

We discuss why we're obsessed with making up things we don't really know and why it tends to have a really destructive impact on our lives.

In addition, we cover a whole range of other topics including the price of bedding, corporate speak, Agatha Christie and her thoughts on assumption, religious cults, and John Denver.

We also ponder the question, "Is it OK to be drunk in charge of the kids?"

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Dealing With Rejection

Thu, 05 Aug 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why rejection hurts so much, what makes us take everything so personally, and why it's often better to let go at the times when we most want to hold on.

We also discuss leather trousers, the usefulness of swearing, and how Martin reacted to being left out of the squad for a cup final.

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How To Make Decisions

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we find it hard to make decisions, why we say yes when we mean no, and how we can relieve our stress and anxiety by confronting the issues that make us stressed and anxious.

In addition, we mourn the demise of early closing and black football boots, Martin gets some feedback, and we disagree about Yorkshire Pudding.

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Laughter

Thu, 22 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the ways in which finding things to laugh about helps us to feel better about ourselves and how elusive it becomes in the madness of addiction.

I spot a pop star lookalike, Martin is unimpressed with a lofty claim from a drinking game app, and we discover that shoes can be very useful in an emergency.

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How To Know What's Important

Thu, 15 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how to work out what matters most in life and to prioritise that instead of wasting time flicking through pictures of cats playing the piano (unless that IS important to you).

We wonder why Henry James felt the need to repeat himself, disagree about Britpop, and observe a distinct lack of furniture restoration from Jay Blades on the BBC show "The Repair Shop"

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How To Self-Soothe

Thu, 08 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how to take care of our own needs in a positive and sustainable way, making sure that we move away from self-destruction and self-medicating towards something that is good for us in the long term.

We discuss memorable sporting injuries, debate the best filling for a crispy pancake, and find gratitude close to home.

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Letting Go Of Resentment

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why seeking revenge when we feel hurt by someone else never gives us the resolution we're looking for.

We debate the importance of choosing the right footwear when driving the car, highlight the perils of ordering a calendar online, and reminisce about the heady aroma of creosote.

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Alien Abduction

Thu, 24 Jun 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the reasons why reported abductions by aliens have reduced in number over the past year or so and what it might have to do with alcohol.

We're also talking about the little-known phenomenon of alcoholic blackouts.

We manage to find our way to these subjects via pancakes and the 1970s chart-toppers Showaddywaddy.

At one point we're even rudely interrupted by Alexa.

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Unrelenting Standards

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why some of us have a tendency to hold ourselves to impossibly high standards and take responsibility for things that don't work out even when they really have very little to do with us.

There's also quite a lot of football chat, most of which is in context rather than indulgent, much of which is also ridiculous.

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The Gift Of Alcohol

Thu, 10 Jun 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing the perils of gifting alcohol.

What might seem like a benign and thoughtful gesture could when given to the wrong person, create a negative and even dangerous response.

I tell Martin about a most awkward experience involving a gift of alcohol, he shows little interest in my enthusiasm for grapes, and we ponder on the reasons that grandmothers have so much talcum powder.

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The Myth Of Addictive Personality

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're discussing the much-believed myth that you can be born with an addictive personality and we identify some of the real reasons you're likely to find yourself with addiction issues.

We also talk about what it means when you see yourself as lazy, how Tibetan singing bowls have convinced Martin we're now social influencers, and the sad demise of "Pick n Mix".

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Are You OCD?

Thu, 27 May 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why the phrase, "I'm a little bit OCD," or "She's a bit of an alcoholic" can never be true.

We discuss the difference between OCD and anxiety, and I risk triggering Martin by talking about records left out of their sleeves.

We also chat about the merits of broadcasting your recovery on Tik Tok, and discover why I've been sleepy all week.

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The Joy Of Balance

Thu, 20 May 2021 17:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how we establish emotional balance, what it actually is, and, once we've got it balanced, how we can keep it there.

We also discuss the side effects of Covid vaccines, have a bit of an argument about Mental Health Awareness Week, and Martin tries to explain the meaning of Pi.

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What Is Failure?

Thu, 13 May 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about failure. What is it? Is it bad? Should we avoid it, or does it actually do us some good?

We also discuss eye injections, imposter syndrome, and the difficulty of finding a "Pitch & Putt" course these days.

Martin mispronounces "insignificant", and spills tea on his trousers.

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How To Deal With Shame

Thu, 06 May 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the difference between shame and guilt, why we feel shame in the first place, and what we can do to let go of it.

We ask ourselves whether shame ever has any benefit, and why it seems so hard-wired.

If that weren't enough we're also talking flexitarianism, religion, and, after Martin does an inadvertent impression of a dog, the exuberant way my own dog used to greet him when he entered the house.

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Snooze Button

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about all the destructive ways we have a tendency to put our lives on hold and why we prefer waiting for the world to change instead of changing things for ourselves.

We have a discussion about the worst music to be subjected to whilst being put on hold, wonder if it wouldn't be helpful for bands to have more descriptive names, and reminisce about The Bay City Rollers.

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FOMO

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about what it's like to think everyone else is having a better life than you are and the impact it can have on our emotional wellbeing.

Martin visits the farmer's market and we discuss the virtue of grinding your own coffee beans.

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Holiday Stress

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why holidays are full of potential pitfalls for the recovering addict, and how to make sure you get the time you need to relax safely.

Martin's spelling mistake has us thinking about places you'd definitely want to avoid, and I reminisce about being thrown into the stinging nettles as a part of the 1970s scouting movement.

There's some great holiday songs thrown up by the Spotify search, and we discuss our favourite subways.

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Lockdown Lifting Anxiety

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the mixed feelings many people have towards the lifting of social restrictions.

For some of us the change in our lives has been more of a blessing than a curse and giving it up can fill us with anxiety it's hard to manage, but don't despair because we're on hand to give you some tips.

Also, Martin wears a hat and I sing a hymn.

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Who's To Blame?

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why we blame other people instead of taking responsibility ourselves, and why it keeps us stuck in an uncomfortable place we'd much rather escape from.

We try and identify what type of tree Martin feels grateful for, and we experience doubt as to the exact identity of a kipper.

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How To Build Trust

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how easily trust is destroyed and how it takes a great deal of effort and far more time than we'd like to build it back up.

Martin introduces me to the concept of "knit-bombing" when I tell him about a crocheted post box, and he tells me about spending the nights in an old people's home, which seems like a good place for him.

After some confusion about a famous Hollywood actor, we find that neither of us can remember the name of the snake in "Jungle Book".

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Life After Rehab

Thu, 18 Mar 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how to sustain recovery after a period in detox, rehab, or following any period of emotional difficulty that has knocked you off your feet.

Martin tells us about the side effects of his Covid jab, gets angry with me when I confuse Netflix with Amazon, and we debate the possible reasons that our fathers insisted on having their own unique naming conventions for pop and rock bands.

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How To Set Boundaries

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we keep ourselves safe from the world, and the world safe from us.

I give you a little exercise to do so that you can see how you are with emotional boundaries, and Martin insists on colouring his in.

We also deal with the difficulty it must present when having to be the frontman of the rock band "Queen".

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It's Never Too Late

Thu, 04 Mar 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about whether it's ever too late to make positive changes to our lives.

We also discuss the frustration of dropping things down the side of car seats, distracting drinking vessels, why a leopard doesn't need to change its spots, and why Covid vaccines are like buses.

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How To Beat Procrastination

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the various ways in which we put things off and procrastinate, even when it makes our lives difficult and costs us money.

We discuss the different motivation strategies that might help to get us moving, and Martin tells me about the fruit he bought at the farmer's market.

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How To Measure Success

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how we decide whether or not we're "measuring up" and whether it's always a good thing to be bothered about anyway.

Martin throws around some random quotes, I make a metaphorical pyramid from wooden coffee stirrers, and we never get to the bottom of whether or not Martin is watching too much football.

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Half An Orange

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 15:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we're discussing why it's so hard to sit and relax, especially if you have come to measure your value as a human being by considering the extent of your achievements.

I ask Martin why he insists on going walking in slippery shoes, and he tells me about an ill-fated holiday tour that promised a lot and didn't deliver.

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Gratitude

Thu, 04 Feb 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing all the things we notice in life that make life feel so valuable and the role that gratitude plays in keeping us moving forwards through even the most difficult of periods.

Martin and I have a little chat about what we feel grateful for this week and we have a disagreement about The Carpenters.

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Big Jobs

Thu, 28 Jan 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the role the jobs we do can have on our mental health, and we're discussing which jobs appear to have some synergy with addictive behaviour.

We bemoan the state of modern-day snow, seek refuge in the toilet, and identify the true potential of a giraffe.

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Shock Of Recognition

Thu, 21 Jan 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the occasions on which we bump into people we don't expect to see and how, in some circumstances, it can be unsettling.

Martin tells me some chess facts that I don't understand and we discuss tea.

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Truth

Thu, 14 Jan 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why it's often helpful to be open with people about being in recovery.

We discuss the response you can expect to get from your employer and whether its ever a good idea to keep it all a secret.

Martin and I also reminisce about dentists.

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Forgiveness

Thu, 07 Jan 2021 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about something that a lot of people find hard when it involves someone else and even harder when it doesn't, forgiveness.

We discuss what it takes to forgive something done to us and to forgive ourselves.

Martin tells us some interesting information about homing pigeons and I experience some audio recall from the 1970s.

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Goodbye To All That

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 14:00:00 +0000

This week we're reviewing the year and discussing some of our favourite episodes.

We're also questioning the wisdom of New Year's resolutions and I finally come up with something useful that I've learned.

Happy New Year to all of our listeners. Thanks for your support, we really appreciate it.

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Christmas Confessions

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 15:00:00 +0000

In this second festive episode (because we got confused about the dates) Martin tells us a Christmas story he's never told before.

We discuss more terrible Christmas songs and share memories of wholly inappropriate gifts given to us as children.

Wishing you all a good Christmas.

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Hangovers

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 15:00:00 +0000

In this festive episode, we're discussing the various ways in which we try and combat hangovers, including spiritual guidance from Martin's gran choosing a few words from the Bible.

Martin puts us off our tea with some graphic descriptions of the result of too much drink and we select our least favourite Christmas songs.

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Comfortably Numb

Thu, 10 Dec 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're discussing disconnection, Pink Floyd, guitar solos, and soft furnishings.

We also find a little space for personal growth and a mutual appreciation of US pop-country.

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Please Drink Responsibly

Thu, 03 Dec 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week Martin is having a rant about the lip service paid to problem drinking and gambling by drinks and gambling companies.

We both express frustration with the corporate machine and Ray Winstone.

I surprise Martin by actually being prepared for once and he expresses a view about Supertramp which doesn't really stand up to the scrutiny of their back catalogue.

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Come Dine With Me & Anxiety Disorders

Thu, 26 Nov 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking OCD and exploring the notion that alcohol "cooks out" when you add it to a recipe.

I experience some food-related euphoric recall and we blame the Law Of Attraction for one of the worse decisions we ever made.

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Missed Opportunities

Thu, 19 Nov 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about the regret that comes from not having made changes sooner. We discuss whether it might be possible to look at a different part of our story in a way that helps us to move past regret and towards gratitude.

Martin mispronounces things that I leave in the edit because it's quite funny, and we discuss the merits of 90s avant-garde rock music.

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Nine Years Sober

Thu, 12 Nov 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week we're celebrating Martin's ninth anniversary of sobriety and I take the opportunity to ask him about what he's learned and what advice and wisdom he would pass on to those that are either beginning their journey or haven't yet taken the first step.

I also ask him to make a tricky decision involving a duck.

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The A Word

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 15:00:00 +0000

This week we are discussing why people find it so hard to use the word "alcoholic" in reference to their own destructive relationship with drink, and we talk about how other people's ignorance and intolerance of the misery that addiction brings serves only to further undermine our attempts to come to terms with the problem.

In a surprising twist, Martin and I find some common ground in an unlikely place, Cliff Richard.

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Why We Need To Belong

Thu, 29 Oct 2020 14:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we are talking about what it means to belong and why it is so important to our mental health.

Martin tells us a story that is his own personal version of the film "Brief Encounter", less brief but with a similarly bittersweet ending, and we discuss the habit of refusing to smile in photos.

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Why We Make Excuses

Thu, 22 Oct 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the elaborate excuses we come up with to justify our drinking and the ones we have to think up after we've been out and left ourselves in a bit of a state.

We're talking about the role shame plays in our behaviour, and the point at which we realise that even we don't believe what we're saying anymore.

We also find time to talk about facial hair in the music industry and one of the worst remedies for toothache either of us has ever heard.

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Just Say No

Thu, 15 Oct 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing a campaign from the 1980s which had the backing of the First Lady in the US but that took a rather hopelessly simplistic approach to deal with the problem of addiction.

We reminisce about Grange Hill and Martin displays an uncanny knowledge of cast members which suggests he'd not been spending his time wisely in the past few days.

We also learn the phrase used to describe Martin's old favourite behaviour, leaving the pub without telling anyone.

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Why Is Technology So Addictive?

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the dependency we have on our tech devices, why we find them so hard to put down, and the impact that it has on our lives.

Martin read a book about it all and has a plentiful supply of facts and quotes.

We also talk about games and our fondness for riding horses through the wild west looking for wild herbs.

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A Cure For Loneliness

Thu, 01 Oct 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the difference between loneliness and being alone, and we examine why it's so important to be OK in our own company, and why it's sometimes so hard to do.

Martin is disparaging of watching people make cakes but does come up with what he considers to be some useful insight about tongues.

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How To Recover

Thu, 24 Sep 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the routes to recovery and why there aren't any shortcuts.

I make a mistake with the recording, we discuss the merits of Lucozade and the best cheese to select if you're a shoplifter.

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The Truth About Alcohol Free Beer

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why alcohol-free beer isn't a good option for everyone.

We're discussing what it actually is, what it has to do with a 1970's football manager from the North East, and how the supermarkets were already encouraging us to get drunk by the time we were eleven years old.

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FAB

Thu, 10 Sep 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how our memories are good at forgetting unpleasant aspects of the past but that this is not always as helpful as it sounds.

We take a nostalgic trip through the 1970's ice cream cabinet at the corner shop and learn some interesting things about Thunderbirds.

I wear a hat throughout the episode and Martin reveals a shocking fondness for easy listening music.

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Drowning In Or Drowning Out Emotion

Thu, 03 Sep 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why it's important to face all of our emotions, especially the ones we don't want to face.

We explore why we lose faith in our emotions in the first place and the destructive ways in which we keep them away from us.

Also, Martin feels pleased with himself because he came up with a title for this week's episode, and we reveal more musical guilty pleasures.

I really don't know what more you'd want for free.

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Denial By Proxy

Thu, 27 Aug 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about why on earth people around you might try and convince you that you don't have an addiction problem when you have finally come to the realisation that you definitely have.

Martin gets passive-aggressive about my administrative ineptitude, and we select a couple of songs that we regard as guilty pleasures.

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How To Deal With Anger

Thu, 20 Aug 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about an emotion that gets most of us into bother at one time or another. We're trying to work out why anger gets such a bad press and whether it might be more useful than we think it is.

Martin also tries to convince me that The Sex Pistols were tuneful which, frankly, made me angry.

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Hospital Visits

Thu, 13 Aug 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how Martin's recent visit to hospital resulted in him being followed around by ghosts from the past.

There's also a timely reminder to be careful when warming your feet in front of a wood-burning stove.

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Dealing With Pressure

Thu, 06 Aug 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week, as Martin recovers from a medical procedure, I kindly set him some homework he could do from his sickbed. I asked him to watch a documentary about cricket so that we could discuss the ways in which we respond to high pressure.

Martin mostly remembered times that he was in the world's cricketing hotspots looking for cheap rum and anxious about how far he was from the nearest bar.

When pressure leads us to destructive behaviour, we have to find another way.

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Wedding Days

Thu, 30 Jul 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about the difficulties faced by the recovering alcoholic when invited to a wedding.

We also hear a story which usurps the one Martin told us in the "Uncle Geoff" episode about missing your own wedding because you've drunk too much.

If that weren't enough there's a rendition of a Taylor Swift classic which, although not strictly about a wedding, is about love, so stop complaining.

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Duty Free

Thu, 23 Jul 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week we're discussing a film in which Denzil Washington plays an addict and a pilot, two things which don't go together well. There are predictably catastrophic consequences.

We'll also hear about a mishap Martin had at work which is still making me laugh whenever I think about it.

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Gogglebox

Thu, 16 Jul 2020 15:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, we're talking about TV, celebrity crushes, binge alcoholism, haircuts, and how we think we would have fared in the 1980s if we'd been deprived of visiting the pub.

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Dealing With Grief

Thu, 09 Jul 2020 15:00:00 +0100

This week, we're talking about a subject most of us don't want to think about, even though facing it is the only way to get through it.

One of the ways we try to block it out is with drink or drugs, but that just makes everything worse.

Perhaps there's a better way.

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Cliche

Thu, 02 Jul 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're getting around a table to bounce ideas around and running ideas up flagpoles to see who salutes them.

We're asking if cliches have a value and whether they can sometimes stop us from getting our point across successfully.

I find another way to shoehorn a conversation about Martin's hair into the episode.

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Who Are You?

Thu, 25 Jun 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode we're talking about the roles we play and the ways in which we define ourselves.

We're asking one another how we'd like to be remembered and trying to work out why "Technical Ecstasy" is not amongst the most popular Black Sabbath albums.

There's also a guided relaxation at the end of the episode so, if you're driving while listening please pause the recording before the exercise begins and pick it up again when you are safe and comfortable and in a position to relax properly.

PLEASE DO NOT listen to the relaxation audio whilst driving or operating heavy machinery (that includes hair clippers, Martin).

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Toxic Relationships

Thu, 18 Jun 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, we're talking about why on earth we allow ourselves to get stuck in relationships that are not only dissatisfying but which actually do us harm.

We're also talking about "love bombing", co-dependency and limerance.

Martin appears to have created some sultry lighting to fit the mood but it just comes off a bit ghostly.

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Tony Slattery

Thu, 11 Jun 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, we are talking about a celebrity whose star shone particularly brightly in the '90s but whose fall from grace was equally noteworthy.

We ask ourselves if it might sometimes be the case that having it all makes staying balanced even harder.

We're also talking hair. Martin has too much of it, and we're remembering times when people's hair got them into a tight spot.

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Time Travel

Thu, 04 Jun 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, the first in season 2, we're discussing the benefit of being able to go back in time and fix the things that we feel went wrong earlier in our lives. We try and work out if it would be helpful or even desirable to do so.

Martin chooses his favourite Dr Who and I surprise him with my fondness for something popular.

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Catrastrophising

Thu, 28 May 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how good we can become at telling ourselves everything is going to be an absolute disaster, even though we're frequently wrong. We're also debunking the myth that expecting the worse when hoping for the best is anything other than a deeply flawed strategy that guarantees suffering.

If that weren't enough Martin reminds us how important it is to close the kitchen drawers after we've got out what we wanted.

We've been doing this for half a year now. Who'd have thought it?

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Portuguese Model

Thu, 21 May 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're off to Portugal, in a virtual sense, and talking about how they tackled the serious problems they had with addiction. We're asking why more countries haven't followed their lead considering the impressive results they've achieved.

Also, I express astonishment at Martin never having come across Pasteis De Nata.

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Doing Impressions

Thu, 14 May 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, we are talking about how we pretend that everything is OK even when it most definitely isn't and exploring why we might be so self-destructive.

Martin recalls a time when we were stopped by the police and he thought I was going to land us up in the cells for a night and we even find time to debate whether or not 1970's impressionist Mike Yarwood was actually any good.

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Jigsaws

Thu, 07 May 2020 16:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode we take a trip down memory lane into Martin's childhood and explore the hold his Gran had over him with a box full of cardboard pieces.

We're also debating the difficulty inherent in trying to replicate Black Sabbath album covers onto fondant icing.

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Bottom Sniffer

Thu, 30 Apr 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how Martin played "fast and loose" with his recovery in the early days and what buying beer for your pets has to do with buying a warming cup of Bovril at the football.

We'll also unpack the reasons for my not flaming the Christmas pudding last year.

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Football Special

Sat, 25 Apr 2020 15:00:00 +0100

In this special episode, we fill the gap left by the suspension of football across the UK and select our Addicts XI comprising professional players who have struggled with drink, drugs, and gambling.

Some of them have since turned their lives around and some have sadly lost out to their addictions but they've all given us moments of joy on the way.

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Excuses

Thu, 23 Apr 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about all the things we tell ourselves in order to try and avoid doing what we don't want to do.

Martin has some more quotes from all the hours he's spent on Google and we learn what George Washington knew about addiction.

The cat ate my homework. Excuses.

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Isolation

Thu, 16 Apr 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week we're talking about how to maintain good mental health in isolation and the particular difficulties it presents for those in recovery or still in active addiction.

We also talk about the importance of gratitude and find out why Martin thinks it's OK to come onto the podcast with paint all over his spectacles.

To cheer him up, I sing Martin one of his favourite American rock tracks from the 1980's

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Milestones

Thu, 09 Apr 2020 17:00:00 +0100

This week we're in full lockdown and recording virtually, which accounts for the sometimes sub-standard sound quality. However, like the true professional we are, nothing much stops us.

In this episode, we are reminiscing about Martin's first car, a vehicle we travelled to Reading Rock Festival in armed with nothing more than a large tin of hot dog sausages and a crate of John Smiths bitter, and talking about the importance of looking back at the times we realise that we have achieved something of significance.

Stay safe and healthy everyone.

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Nostalgia

Thu, 02 Apr 2020 16:00:00 +0100

This week, in an episode recorded before the lockdown, we are reminiscing about the heady days of our past and how it can dangerous to do so when things aren't remembered as being quite as destructive as they were at the time.

We also discuss Martin's lucky escape from some skinheads and our numerous charity gigs in the mid-1980s, when global pandemics were just the stuff of disaster movies.

Roll back the years, it's time for some nostalgia.

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Sunbeds

Thu, 26 Mar 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Martin is watching a lot of daytime TV, apparently in the name of research, and comes up with some interesting information about some addictions you may not have heard about.

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Dreams

Thu, 19 Mar 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode we're talking about dreams and what it means if, as a recovering addict, you dream about relapse. Just to continue on our flight of fantasy Martin, not content with the ordinary run of the mill somnambulism, goes one step further and tells us all about it. Wakey wakey everyone.

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Uncle Geoff

Thu, 12 Mar 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we're exploring the role of genetics in addiction. We find out what Martin has in common with the Royals and why he had a habit, just like his uncle, of running away. Strap in for a stroll through Martin's past as I try manfully to distract him from his blessed notes.

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Odds

Thu, 05 Mar 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about how clinging to unlikely events doesn't make your destructive behaviour any more justifiable. Martin gives us some interesting facts about staying safe from coconuts and we discuss why peer support is so critical for a sustained recovery. There's also some fruit machine chat and we relive the joy of Martin getting soaked waiting for a bus.

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Fear

Thu, 27 Feb 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about American punk bands I haven't heard of, identifying the four core emotions, and working out why change is sometimes difficult because we have no idea who we'll be once we have changed. On top of that, we'll be talking about why for people in the chaos of addiction the thought of recovery can be terrifying. It's episode 13 but don't be scared, we'll look after you.

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Cults

Thu, 20 Feb 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this weeks episode, we get an update on the state of Martin's bruised toes, he tells us all about the research he's been doing into the similarity between addiction and life in a cult, and I try my best to think of some music which is in keeping with the subject matter having inadvertently made a rod for my own back by adding music to last weeks very well-received episode, "Rocket Man".

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Rocket Man

Thu, 13 Feb 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week Martin tells us what he has in common with Elton John, what distracted him when attending his gig in the beautiful grounds of Leeds Castle, and we pick our way through the nostalgia of our parent's drinks cabinets. I also sing a song.

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Duffless

Thu, 06 Feb 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about an episode of The Simpsons that I haven't seen. We also talk about what it's like to have a ladies bike, ingenious places that alcoholics hide their drink, and discuss a memorable day when Martin went cross-country to the pub in Frittenden to try and keep away from the police. It's an action-packed bumper episode.

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Shrapnel

Thu, 30 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we're talking about the impact of having an addict in the family, the effect it has on everyone else, and why we didn't speak to one another for several years. We also examine how selfishness can sometimes be necessary.

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Cashpoints

Thu, 23 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Martin explains how a visit to the cashpoint became a painful metaphor for his blossoming addiction. We also talk about how addicts find ways to enable their addiction and I make sure that Martin wasn't involved in a robbery at the local Sainsbury's.

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Labels

Thu, 16 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're trying to work out whether putting labels on people is helpful, or whether it might have unforeseen consequences that actually prevent us from getting better. Martin talks about how an insistence on always acknowledging a condition doesn't necessarily make it easier to deal with, and Graham forgets the word "cocaine".

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Chandler Bing

Thu, 09 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0000

Martin tries to convince me that I like Oasis and questions me on my preferences regarding the main characters in hit US sitcom "Friends". We also talk about how Matthew Perry managed to hide his addiction, eventually emerged into recovery and how Martin has what we always refer to as his "lost decade".

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Suicide

Thu, 02 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about what Martin has in common with legendary England footballer, Tony Adams. From there we find ourselves walking a much darker path but one which desperately needs exploring.

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Christmas

Thu, 19 Dec 2019 16:00:00 +0000

In our festive episode, we discuss why Christmas is a great time for an addict and a truly difficult time in recovery. We also cover Christmas shopping, the anxiety around giving gifts and why alcoholics should never buy beer for their relatives.

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Percentages

Thu, 12 Dec 2019 16:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Martin tells us a story that illustrates how we sometimes tell ourselves what we want to believe. We discuss the best way to respond to someone who has finally reached the point at which they tell you they think they've got a problem, and ask ourselves how many times it's OK to be arrested because you're off your face on drink or drugs.

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Kebabs

Thu, 05 Dec 2019 16:00:00 +0000

This week we're talking about why homelessness is so caught up in addiction and we try to work out why on earth some of us throw fast food at people who are already finding it almost impossible to keep going. There are also some tips about kebabs and making cakes in a mug.

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Beginnings

Thu, 28 Nov 2019 16:00:00 +0000

This week we talk about who we are, what we do and why we decided to record our conversations about addiction and recovery. We also talk about why Martin used to have a habit of disappearing without saying goodbye when we were on a night out.

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