But after divorce, a difficult period with his mental health and plenty of hard-earned perspective, success looks different at 50.

In this episode, Luke and I talk about burnout, therapy, asking for help, male friendships and why money is no longer the only measure of a good life. We also get into exercise, sleep, AI, chasing shiny business ideas and knowing when you simply don’t have the bandwidth for something else.

At the centre of the conversation is a powerful idea: creating a life you don’t want to escape from.

This is an honest chat about men’s mental health, finding purpose after 50 and making more room for the people and experiences that genuinely matter.

This is F*CK! I’M 50.

This episode includes discussion of depression, divorce and suicide.

Mental health support

If this episode raises anything for you, support is available:

• Lifeline Australia
• Beyond Blue

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But behind everything Nancy has achieved is a story about family expectations, responsibility and what can happen when years of putting other people first leave you wondering where you went.

Nancy grew up working in her family’s furniture business and studied accounting because it was the secure path her parents wanted for her. Quietly, though, she kept pursuing the thing she truly loved: singing.

We talk about building a career as a singing teacher, raising a family and spending years helping care for ageing relatives. By the time Nancy reached 50, she had a beautiful family and a successful teaching career—but still felt that something was missing.

She had spent so long caring for everyone else that she felt she had lost part of herself.

Nancy shares how she finally drew a line, made room for her own ambitions and began turning decades of ideas into something lasting. That creative drive led to her children’s book series, Hullabaloo – The Funky Singing Monkey, along with her work as an author, illustrator and recording artist.

This is a conversation about following your own path, finding yourself again and refusing to reach the later years of life wondering what might have happened if you’d had a crack.

Find out more about Nancy and her work at:

https://worldofnancydagostino.com/

This is F*CK! I’M 50.

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I caught up with Ange at a café in Melbourne for a chat about family, business, following your passions and what happens as the generations around you start to change.

With a background in sales and marketing, Ange talks about turning something he loves into a business, the influence family has had on his life, and learning that sometimes giving people the space to go their own way can actually bring everyone closer when it matters.

We talk about being a son, becoming a dad and then a grandfather, the changing dynamics between generations, and some of the lessons that only really make sense once you’ve lived through them yourself.

Ange is a funny bloke with a great story spanning two countries, plenty of family history and a few different chapters along the way.

Grab a coffee and enjoy the chat.

This is F*CK! I’M 50.

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He’s still here, but in many ways we’re already losing him. That’s hard to say—and even harder to watch.

Dad is a gentle, quiet and unassuming bloke who taught me a hell of a lot. We travelled around Australia together through my years working in motor racing and video production, with Dad often acting as my right-hand man.

Now he lives in a nursing home in Melbourne. When I visit, there’s sometimes a glint in his eye that makes me think he knows I belong—but the truth is, I don’t know whether he recognises me anymore.

In this short and very personal episode, I talk about what dementia has done to Dad and the effect it has had on Mum, my brother, our kids and the rest of the family.

But this isn’t about feeling sorry for ourselves.

Mum and Dad spent years travelling around Australia and doing the things they wanted to do while they still could. Watching Dad fade has reinforced one of the biggest lessons he ever taught me: don’t wait for tomorrow.

Spend time with your parents. Do the things you keep talking about. If the sun comes up and you’ve still got a heartbeat, it’s a pretty bloody good day—so get on with it.

I love you, Dad.

This is F*CK! I’M 50.

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One minute you’re working, raising kids and dealing with the everyday stuff. The next, you wake up and realise—fuck, I’m 50.

I’m Paul Burfitt. I’ve got a wonderful family, a beautiful wife and plenty to be grateful for. From the outside, things probably look pretty good. But life hasn’t been without a few hurdles—and this is a strange stage to find yourself in.

The kids hardly need us anymore. Our parents need us more than ever. And plenty of us are quietly wondering what the fuck is going on and what comes next.

So, in my own inimitable fashion, I decided to start a show.

This short first episode explains where F*CK! I’M 50 came from and invites you along for the ride as I share stories, talk to interesting people and see where this little experiment leads.

Subscribe and join the other three people already listening.

This is F*CK! I’M 50.

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