Where We Are? Tue, 18 Aug 2026 23:28:37 -0400 https://www.humanse.co/ en-us © 2026 © 2026 Human(s)e yes 20c2bbdd-0da5-5f84-aa45-45c24787cd98 Dr Alon Aviram episodic false What if the distance you feel in your relationship isn't a sign that something is broken? What if it's a sign that you've lost your location inside it?

Where We Are is a podcast about orientation, not diagnosis. Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, each episode maps a relationship pattern you'll recognize from your own life and shows you where you actually stand.

Eleven episodes. One season. For anyone who's done the reading, tried the therapy, and still can't name why the connection feels off. No blame. No quick fixes. Just the language for what you already feel.

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) relationships,couples therapy,emotional distance,marriage,self-help,psychology,personal growth,intimacy,loneliness Dr Alon Aviram https://storage.buzzsprout.com/bcgthxjbu2kdd2ykmxxznn7iyczn?.jpg Where We Are? https://www.humanse.co/ Why Am I So Sensitive? Why Am I So Sensitive? Someone walks into the room, and before a word is spoken, you already know. The mood shifted, and you felt it land on your skin. A hard conversation ends and everyone else moves on, and you are still carrying it three days later. Somewhere along the way you got handed a label for this. Too sensitive.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram treats sensitivity as a skill instead of a defect. Through the story of a woman named Eve, who walked out of every gathering carrying everyone's feelings in her own body, he reframes "too sensitive" as standing at the open end of a spectrum: a fine instrument that plays at full volume all day, with no case and no knob. The work is not to feel less. It is to find your hand on the knob, so open becomes a place you choose, not a place you are stranded.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A closer look at the gift that exhausts the person holding it, and the small practice that puts a hairline of space between you and a feeling that was never yours.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Someone walks into the room, and before a word is spoken, you already know. The mood shifted, and you felt it land on your skin. A hard conversation ends and everyone else moves on, and you are still carrying it three days later. Somewhere along the way you got handed a label for this. Too sensitive.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram treats sensitivity as a skill instead of a defect. Through the story of a woman named Eve, who walked out of every gathering carrying everyone's feelings in her own body, he reframes "too sensitive" as standing at the open end of a spectrum: a fine instrument that plays at full volume all day, with no case and no knob. The work is not to feel less. It is to find your hand on the knob, so open becomes a place you choose, not a place you are stranded.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A closer look at the gift that exhausts the person holding it, and the small practice that puts a hairline of space between you and a feeling that was never yours.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Dr Alon Aviram Buzzsprout-19626786 Tue, 18 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0400 612 2 5 full false Why Am I So Lazy? Why Am I So Lazy? Lazy. Maybe someone said it to you once and it stuck, deep, where you cannot reach to pull it out. Or maybe nobody had to say it, because you say it to yourself now, every time you sit down, every time the day ends with the list untouched.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram picks that word up and turns it over. Through the story of a woman named Hannah, who carried too much for too long and then, the moment she was allowed to, simply stopped, he separates laziness, which is a verdict, from rest, which is half of how a body stays whole. What we call lazy is very often a body standing at the recovery end of itself, doing exactly what it is supposed to do, waiting for permission it has never been given.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A closer look at the debt a body collects when it is never allowed to rest, and how the drive comes home once you stop punishing yourself for standing still.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Lazy. Maybe someone said it to you once and it stuck, deep, where you cannot reach to pull it out. Or maybe nobody had to say it, because you say it to yourself now, every time you sit down, every time the day ends with the list untouched.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram picks that word up and turns it over. Through the story of a woman named Hannah, who carried too much for too long and then, the moment she was allowed to, simply stopped, he separates laziness, which is a verdict, from rest, which is half of how a body stays whole. What we call lazy is very often a body standing at the recovery end of itself, doing exactly what it is supposed to do, waiting for permission it has never been given.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A closer look at the debt a body collects when it is never allowed to rest, and how the drive comes home once you stop punishing yourself for standing still.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Dr Alon Aviram Buzzsprout-19626548 Tue, 11 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0400 634 2 4 full false Why Cant I Stop Working? Why Cant I Stop Working? It is Saturday. You promised this one was yours. And here you are at the desk, because there was just one thing, and the one thing had another thing behind it. You are not doing this because you love it. It is more like a hand at your back that never quite lets you sit down.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the person who cannot stop. Through the story of a man named Sam, he separates working hard, which is a choice, from not being able to stop, which is a position you get backed into, usually by a very old belief that you are only worth something while you are producing. The body keeps an honest ledger, and it always, eventually, collects.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A look at a magnificent engine that forgot it has a second half, and what it takes to let the drive last.

New episodes weekly.


Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> It is Saturday. You promised this one was yours. And here you are at the desk, because there was just one thing, and the one thing had another thing behind it. You are not doing this because you love it. It is more like a hand at your back that never quite lets you sit down.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the person who cannot stop. Through the story of a man named Sam, he separates working hard, which is a choice, from not being able to stop, which is a position you get backed into, usually by a very old belief that you are only worth something while you are producing. The body keeps an honest ledger, and it always, eventually, collects.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A look at a magnificent engine that forgot it has a second half, and what it takes to let the drive last.

New episodes weekly.


Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Dr Alon Aviram Buzzsprout-19487249 Tue, 04 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0400 582 2 3 full false Why Can't I Get Myself Going? Why Can't I Get Myself Going? There is a list. It is not even a hard list. And you sit there, and you do not do it. Not because you decided not to. There is just a pane of glass between you and your own life that you cannot get your hands through.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the flat that so many people mistake for laziness. Through the story of a woman named Claire, he traces how a body that pushed at full power for too long can quietly pull its own charge down to survive, and why shame is the one thing that will never bring it back. He also names the line clearly: some kinds of flat are weather you can turn, and some are a condition that deserves a doctor's care.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A careful look at a body that powered down for a reason, and the small current that starts it turning again.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> There is a list. It is not even a hard list. And you sit there, and you do not do it. Not because you decided not to. There is just a pane of glass between you and your own life that you cannot get your hands through.

In this episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the flat that so many people mistake for laziness. Through the story of a woman named Claire, he traces how a body that pushed at full power for too long can quietly pull its own charge down to survive, and why shame is the one thing that will never bring it back. He also names the line clearly: some kinds of flat are weather you can turn, and some are a condition that deserves a doctor's care.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A careful look at a body that powered down for a reason, and the small current that starts it turning again.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Dr Alon Aviram Buzzsprout-19487239 Tue, 28 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0400 578 2 2 full false Why Cant I Switch Off? Why Cant I Switch Off? The day is done. There is nothing left to do. And something in you is still standing up, still scanning, still braced for a thing that is not coming.

Season two of Where We Are turns inward, from what happens between two people to what happens inside one body. In this opening episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the person who cannot switch off: the one who is awake before the alarm, who reads every room, who is tired in a way that sleep never seems to reach. Through the story of a man named Daniel, he asks a gentler question than what is wrong with me. He asks where you have been standing, for how long, and whether staying switched on was ever really who you are.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A slow look at a body that learned to stay alert a long time ago, and never got told it was safe to come down.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> The day is done. There is nothing left to do. And something in you is still standing up, still scanning, still braced for a thing that is not coming.

Season two of Where We Are turns inward, from what happens between two people to what happens inside one body. In this opening episode, Dr. Alon Aviram sits with the person who cannot switch off: the one who is awake before the alarm, who reads every room, who is tired in a way that sleep never seems to reach. Through the story of a man named Daniel, he asks a gentler question than what is wrong with me. He asks where you have been standing, for how long, and whether staying switched on was ever really who you are.

Not advice. Not a diagnosis. A slow look at a body that learned to stay alert a long time ago, and never got told it was safe to come down.

New episodes weekly.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Dr Alon Aviram Buzzsprout-19487184 Tue, 21 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0400 588 2 1 full false Why did having a baby break something between us? Why did having a baby break something between us? What if the thing that broke when the baby came wasn't the relationship? What if it was the version of the two of you that no longer fits the life you're inside? This episode sits with the photograph on the fridge: the couple before, the couple after, and the quiet grief in between. It's not that you stopped loving each other. It's that you became two different people while no one was watching. The question isn't how to get back. It's who you're becoming together now.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if the thing that broke when the baby came wasn't the relationship? What if it was the version of the two of you that no longer fits the life you're inside? This episode sits with the photograph on the fridge: the couple before, the couple after, and the quiet grief in between. It's not that you stopped loving each other. It's that you became two different people while no one was watching. The question isn't how to get back. It's who you're becoming together now.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034736 Tue, 14 Jul 2026 05:00:00 -0400 960 1 11 full false Why does my partner shut down when I try to talk to them? Why does my partner shut down when I try to talk to them? What if the shutdown isn't refusal? What if it's what happens when a nervous system crosses the line from engaged to flooded? This episode maps the moment before the fight: one partner presses in, the other goes quiet, and both read the silence wrong. It's not that they don't care. It's that they can't respond from where they've gone. The question isn't how to make them talk. It's how to meet them before the wall comes down.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if the shutdown isn't refusal? What if it's what happens when a nervous system crosses the line from engaged to flooded? This episode maps the moment before the fight: one partner presses in, the other goes quiet, and both read the silence wrong. It's not that they don't care. It's that they can't respond from where they've gone. The question isn't how to make them talk. It's how to meet them before the wall comes down.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034739 Tue, 07 Jul 2026 05:00:00 -0400 836 1 10 full false Why am I disappearing inside this relationship? Why am I disappearing inside this relationship? What if disappearing isn't the cost of loving well? What if it's what happens when one partner keeps making room and no one notices the room is being taken from them? This episode sits with the self that has been quietly subtracted: the things you used to do, the person you used to be. It's not the relationship's fault. It's what two people can accidentally build when devotion has no brake. The question isn't how to leave. It's how to come back to yourself without leaving them.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if disappearing isn't the cost of loving well? What if it's what happens when one partner keeps making room and no one notices the room is being taken from them? This episode sits with the self that has been quietly subtracted: the things you used to do, the person you used to be. It's not the relationship's fault. It's what two people can accidentally build when devotion has no brake. The question isn't how to leave. It's how to come back to yourself without leaving them.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034724 Tue, 30 Jun 2026 05:00:00 -0400 845 1 9 full false Why do I feel lonelier in this relationship than when I was single? Why do I feel lonelier in this relationship than when I was single? What if the loneliness isn't a sign you chose wrong? What if it's what happens when two lives begin running quietly in parallel, under the same roof? This episode looks at the drift no one talks about: she has her book, he has his project, no one is fighting, and something is still gone. It's not disconnection. It's coexistence that forgot to include contact. The question isn't whether to leave. It's whether you can find each other again.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if the loneliness isn't a sign you chose wrong? What if it's what happens when two lives begin running quietly in parallel, under the same roof? This episode looks at the drift no one talks about: she has her book, he has his project, no one is fighting, and something is still gone. It's not disconnection. It's coexistence that forgot to include contact. The question isn't whether to leave. It's whether you can find each other again.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034720 Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:00:00 -0400 727 1 8 full false Why does excitement always end in a fight? Why does excitement always end in a fight? What if the good day didn't go wrong? What if it did exactly what it was built to do, in a relationship where one of you needs novelty to feel alive and the other needs predictability to feel safe? This episode maps the Predictable-Playful axis: how excitement lands as threat for one partner and oxygen for the other. It's not sabotage. It's two nervous systems trying to stay inside their range. The question isn't whose fault the night was. It's what each of you is actually protecting.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if the good day didn't go wrong? What if it did exactly what it was built to do, in a relationship where one of you needs novelty to feel alive and the other needs predictability to feel safe? This episode maps the Predictable-Playful axis: how excitement lands as threat for one partner and oxygen for the other. It's not sabotage. It's two nervous systems trying to stay inside their range. The question isn't whose fault the night was. It's what each of you is actually protecting.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034716 Tue, 16 Jun 2026 05:00:00 -0400 686 1 7 full false Why do I feel responsible for their emotions all the time? Why do I feel responsible for their emotions all the time? What if your attunement isn't a gift you chose to give? What if it became the price of admission you stopped noticing you were paying? This episode maps the invisible labor of emotional weather: one partner scans the room before entering, softens, manages, prevents. It's not because they care more. It's because they learned early that love required vigilance. The question isn't how to stop caring. It's how to put the weight down without the sky falling.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if your attunement isn't a gift you chose to give? What if it became the price of admission you stopped noticing you were paying? This episode maps the invisible labor of emotional weather: one partner scans the room before entering, softens, manages, prevents. It's not because they care more. It's because they learned early that love required vigilance. The question isn't how to stop caring. It's how to put the weight down without the sky falling.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034712 Tue, 09 Jun 2026 05:00:00 -0400 857 1 6 full false Why does my partner pull away the closer I get? Why does my partner pull away the closer I get? What if your partner's withdrawal isn't a refusal of closeness? What if it's the only way their system knows to stay intact? This episode maps the pursue-withdraw cycle from both sides: one person reaches, the other steps back, and the harder you try, the faster they retreat. It's not rejection. It's two different needs colliding on the same spectrum. The question isn't how to chase harder. It's how to stop chasing and start locating where you both actually stand.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if your partner's withdrawal isn't a refusal of closeness? What if it's the only way their system knows to stay intact? This episode maps the pursue-withdraw cycle from both sides: one person reaches, the other steps back, and the harder you try, the faster they retreat. It's not rejection. It's two different needs colliding on the same spectrum. The question isn't how to chase harder. It's how to stop chasing and start locating where you both actually stand.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

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]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034729 Tue, 02 Jun 2026 05:00:00 -0400 792 1 5 full false Why do we keep having the same fight over and over? Why do we keep having the same fight over and over? What if the fight isn't the problem? What if it's the only reliable way the two of you still reach each other? This episode looks at the loop you already know by heart: same trigger, same words, same ending. It's not a communication breakdown. It's a pattern holding the relationship together in the only way it knows how. The question isn't how to win the fight. It's what the two of you are trying to say through it.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

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]]> What if the fight isn't the problem? What if it's the only reliable way the two of you still reach each other? This episode looks at the loop you already know by heart: same trigger, same words, same ending. It's not a communication breakdown. It's a pattern holding the relationship together in the only way it knows how. The question isn't how to win the fight. It's what the two of you are trying to say through it.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034713 Tue, 26 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400 750 1 4 full false Why does calm feel like something is wrong? Why does calm feel like something is wrong? What if the quiet in the room isn't peace? What if it's the sound of two people who have politely stopped reaching? This episode looks at the couples who stopped fighting and the particular flavor of absence that followed. It's not numbness. It's mutual withdrawal that got mistaken for stability. The question isn't how to avoid the next argument. It's whether there's enough friction left for either of you to still be in the room.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> What if the quiet in the room isn't peace? What if it's the sound of two people who have politely stopped reaching? This episode looks at the couples who stopped fighting and the particular flavor of absence that followed. It's not numbness. It's mutual withdrawal that got mistaken for stability. The question isn't how to avoid the next argument. It's whether there's enough friction left for either of you to still be in the room.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034732 Tue, 19 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400 605 1 3 full false Why do we feel like roommates? Why do we feel like roommates? What if the problem isn't that you stopped loving each other? What if it's that the week started running on coordination, not curiosity? This episode looks at the slow slide from partners who discover each other to partners who manage a household together. It's not detachment. It's what happens when logistics take the seat that lovers used to. The question isn't how to add more date nights. It's how to find each other inside the life you already share.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> What if the problem isn't that you stopped loving each other? What if it's that the week started running on coordination, not curiosity? This episode looks at the slow slide from partners who discover each other to partners who manage a household together. It's not detachment. It's what happens when logistics take the seat that lovers used to. The question isn't how to add more date nights. It's how to find each other inside the life you already share.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034711 Tue, 12 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400 817 1 2 full false Why do couples who love each other feel so far apart? Why do couples who love each other feel so far apart? What if the distance between you isn't a sign that something's wrong? What if it's what happens when love has no place to actually travel between you? This episode opens the series with the question underneath all the others: you share a bed, a calendar, a life, and you still feel far. It's not the absence of care. It's care without contact. The question isn't whether you love each other. It's where the love is supposed to land.


Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> What if the distance between you isn't a sign that something's wrong? What if it's what happens when love has no place to actually travel between you? This episode opens the series with the question underneath all the others: you share a bed, a calendar, a life, and you still feel far. It's not the absence of care. It's care without contact. The question isn't whether you love each other. It's where the love is supposed to land.


Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

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]]> Human(s)e Buzzsprout-19034701 Tue, 05 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400 633 1 1 full false Trailer Trailer What if the distance you feel in your relationship isn't a sign that something is broken? What if it's a sign that you've lost your location inside it? Where We Are is a podcast about orientation, not diagnosis. Each episode maps a pattern you'll recognize from your own life, and shows you where you actually stand. No blame. No quick fixes. Just the language for what you already feel.

Starting May 1st.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

]]> What if the distance you feel in your relationship isn't a sign that something is broken? What if it's a sign that you've lost your location inside it? Where We Are is a podcast about orientation, not diagnosis. Each episode maps a pattern you'll recognize from your own life, and shows you where you actually stand. No blame. No quick fixes. Just the language for what you already feel.

Starting May 1st.

Where We Are is a podcast about where you are, not what's wrong with you.

Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist. The show is built on the framework he uses in his practice: a way of finding where you're standing across the different parts of a life — the body, the self, relationships, groups, and meaning — and finding your way back to movement.

If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at dralonaviram.com, where a free tool helps you find where you actually stand. The newsletter, The Shift, lives on Substack. And you can follow along on Instagram.

New episodes every week.

Drop the label.

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