The conversation focused on:

• The different ways pressure manifests in business—whether it feels like the need to prove oneself, to move faster, or to constantly chase after results 
• The tendency to believe that being more organized or disciplined will solve the problem, and the endless search for the perfect planner or strategy 
• One concept discussed was what happens when we imagine giving up on our business dreams—the pressure doesn’t go away, and often intensifies, showing that the pressure is internal, not just about business circumstances 
• A key theme that emerged was the fear of running out of time—not having enough time to succeed, to create the life or become the person we want to be 
• The discussion explored the idea that rushing is just a symptom, not the core issue. The underlying story we tell ourselves—like believing we’re behind or not enough—creates the urgency and pressure 

Several points were raised, including:

• The most powerful shifts don’t come from new systems or more discipline, but from giving ourselves permission to slow down, breathe, and practice self-love 
• The encouragement to reflect: Am I building my business from trust or urgency? From sufficiency or fear? 
• The notion that the feeling of running out of time is just that—a feeling, not a fact. When we stop treating every feeling like it’s a fact, we open ourselves up to a different, more freeing experience of business and life 
• I shared personal insights about getting more done when I slow down, feeling less exhausted, and actually enjoying the process more 

Reflection questions for you:

• Where do I notice unnecessary pressure in my work or life?
• What story am I telling myself that might be fuelling this pressure?
• What if I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be?

If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with friends or colleagues, and leave a review—it means so much to me. Remember: you’re not behind, there’s enough time, and you’re exactly where you need to be.

—See you in the next episode of Be More Lobster!

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why "be someone different" is more powerful than "do something different" and how your current self creates your current results.
• The 5S Formula for personal transformation:
  • Space: Why you must create space—physically, mentally, emotionally—before bringing in something new and what you might need to let go of.
  • Schedule: How scheduling freedom and values into your life gives you more control and focus.
  • Support: The power of asking for help, getting the right emotional, practical, and coaching support, and how doing so changed my own life and relationships.
  • Standards: Raising your standards for yourself, your relationships, your business, and your well-being to drive change.
  • Self-Concept: The importance of who you are being—how your beliefs about yourself influence everything you do and achieve.

I use the analogy of a circle with three triangles (space, schedule, support) surrounded by further rings (standards and self-concept) to illustrate how these elements interplay and lead to deep transformation.

Key Takeaways

• Who you are being informs what you are able to create.
• Lasting change comes from shifting your self-concept and raising your standards—not just adjusting your actions.
• Creating space and scheduling intentionally aren’t restrictive—they’re liberating.
• Support is vital, and it’s powerful to both ask for and offer it.
• Your business outcomes are a direct extension of your personal growth.

Next Episode

Stay tuned for next week, where I’ll explore why working towards a result might actually be backward thinking.

I'd love to hear what resonated most with you in this session! Drop me a message with your favorite part, and until next time, keep being more lobster.

Topics Covered

• Upper Limit Problems: I explore how we unconsciously sabotage our own progress by creating chaos or letting go in other areas when things start going well.
• Emotional & Somatic Capacity: Discover why it often feels unsafe to expand and why our minds and bodies might resist growth, especially after periods of stress or trauma.
• Patterns of Self-Sabotage: Exhaustion, drama, procrastination, moaning, withdrawal, and inconsistency are all ways we might undercut ourselves without even realizing it.
• Learning from Contrast: I share my personal experience with the 75 Hard challenge and what it taught me about who I am when I’m at my best versus when I let things slip.
• Raising the Stakes: Hear my realizations about training and competing not just to finish, but to excel—and how this shift in mindset applies to our businesses and lives.
• Expanding Capacity: I offer insights into combining mindset and somatic work for real change, and why just “getting through” isn’t enough for true satisfaction.
• Practical Coaching Tools: Learn about my 3A process—awareness, alternative, and action—for catching unhelpful thoughts and behaviors and immediately shifting into a more resourceful state.

Key Takeaways

• When we grow or set bigger goals, it’s common to unconsciously create chaos elsewhere as a way to keep ourselves safe.
• True transformation requires expanding both mental and somatic (bodily) capacity.
• Don’t train just to finish—train to thrive, in every area of your life.
• The stories we tell ourselves (“I’m so tired,” “I can’t do it all”) often keep us playing small.
• With the right strategies, you can both protect your energy and expand your possibilities.

Resources Mentioned

• Find me on Instagram at Who Will I Become? — where I’m documenting my journey with the 75 Hard challenge and Hyrox training in real time.

Join the Conversation

Have you noticed yourself letting go in one area when you go all in somewhere else? Which self-sabotage patterns resonate for you? I’d love to hear about your experiences and how you’re raising the stakes in your own life.

Thanks for tuning in to this smorgasbord of insight and strategy. Let’s keep growing together—see you on the next episode of Be More Lobster!

You’ll hear me share my personal journey through loss and transition, especially after losing my dad. I open up about what it felt like to be completely lost, directionless, and disconnected from my sense of purpose—not just as a daughter, but as a business owner.

Highlights from the episode include:

• Why “not knowing” what’s next is sometimes the most powerful place you can find yourself
• The concept of liminal space: that uncertain transition between what was and what’s next
• How business can become a false source of certainty and identity
• Practical reflections for distinguishing between a true season of transition and a fear-based avoidance strategy
• Powerful prompts to shift from resistance and pressure into curiosity and self-trust

I encourage you to ask yourself:

• Where are you creating pressure because your brain is demanding certainty?
• How could you let go of needing big answers right now?
• What would it feel like to trust that you’re exactly where you need to be?

Remember, you’re allowed to deeply care about your work and your success, and also have seasons without a five-step plan. Sometimes the clearest next step appears the moment you give yourself permission to stop demanding one.

Thank you so much for tuning in. I can’t wait to connect with you on the next episode of Be More Lobster.

We look closely at how staying “busy” and stuck can actually be a clever way for our brains to protect us from vulnerability, disappointment, or uncertainty. I share real coaching insights from a recent group call where we uncovered how sometimes the exhaustion we feel isn’t physical, but emotional—stemming from the pressure of unfulfilled goals or the anticipation of taking bold steps.

You'll hear me explore:

• How we unconsciously choose the discomfort we know, rather than risk the uncertainty of trying and potentially failing
• The difference between genuine rest and avoidance
• How women in business (and all of us!) can stay busy tweaking and perfecting rather than taking real, progress-making action
• The importance of recognizing when we’re trading possibility for control

I leave you with simple, practical questions for self-reflection that you can journal about or ponder while walking:

• What’s the thing you’ve been putting off until you feel “ready”?
• What emotion might be sitting beneath that hesitation?
• Are you really tired, or is it a way of protecting yourself from uncertainty?
• If you stopped running the same old avoidance model, what’s the smallest next step you could take?

This episode is all about noticing those moments where you choose a guaranteed "no" over a possible (but not assured) "yes"—and how you can gently challenge yourself to stretch into growth. Just like a lobster must shed its shell in order to grow, your growth comes from daring to be vulnerable and trying, even when the outcome is uncertain.

Thank you for listening! I hope you find these insights valuable for embracing your own "lobster moments." If you loved the episode, don’t forget to subscribe and use the journaling prompts above. 

Episode Highlights

• From Seeking Simplicity to Be More Lobster:
  I reflect on the podcast’s origins during a season of grief, perimenopause, family struggles, and the craving for a slower, simpler life (00:08). I discuss how this need for simplicity was just the beginning of a bigger vision (01:26).
• Evolving Ambitions:
  Even amidst life’s messiness, I noticed how my clients’ ambitions didn’t disappear—they evolved or changed shape. Women are still striving for success, freedom, and wealth, but also want to truly enjoy the journey (01:54).
• The Lobster Analogy:
  Discover the "Be More Lobster" metaphor, inspired by a short YouTube video about how lobsters grow by embracing discomfort and vulnerability (03:40). I explain that pain and stretch are not signs of brokenness but essential parts of growth (05:20).
• Women in Business:
  The conversation shifts to speaking directly to women building businesses that are extensions of themselves—often accidental entrepreneurs driven by life experiences and deep passions (06:38).
• Mindset & Managing Discomfort:
  Learn why managing our minds and emotional well-being is crucial, especially for women juggling hard emotions, multiple goals, and fluctuating life circumstances like perimenopause (07:09).
• Enjoying the Journey:
  I challenge the pattern of postponing joy and encourage you to embrace the stretch of growth along the way, not just after reaching the "destination" (08:20).

Key Questions to Reflect On

• Where have you been making discomfort mean something's gone wrong?
• What happens when you view discomfort as a sign of growth?
• What are you in the process of growing into? (09:11)

Listener Invitation

Binge the first batch of short, practical episodes, and ask yourself with each one:
"How can I apply this to me? Where does this apply to me?"
Join Louise on this Be More Lobster journey, embracing real conversations, real business, real life, and the empowerment to grow through life’s stretches.

Tune in now and don’t forget to subscribe for future episodes!

"You’re Not Unmotivated — You’re In Between Identities"

If you’ve been feeling like you can't or don't want to take action (on things you used to do without thinking about it), unmotivated, or just not yourself — this episode is for you.

Not in a "fixy" kind of way.. instead i'm here to offer you a way to reframe it all.

What if your low energy isn’t a problem... but a portal?

What if you’re not lazy or behind — but in the sacred space between identities?

This episode is a deep breath for the woman who’s shedding without knowing exactly what she’s growing into.

What We Cover:

• Why your old rhythms feel heavy

• The invisible grief of outgrowing old identities

• Why “fixing” yourself only deepens the disconnect

• The real reason clarity feels out of reach right now

So take a listen if 

• You’re tired of your own self-talk

• You’re caught in a loop of “what’s wrong with me?”

• You want language for the emotional fog you’re in

And here's what I believe you will end up with 

• Permission to be where you are

• A whole new way to define progress

• Gentle clarity — the kind that doesn’t require fixing

Happy Listening xx

In today’s heartfelt solo episode, I invite you to reflect on the stories you’ve been living by—the ones that shape how you see yourself, what you believe you’re capable of, and ultimately, the results you create in your life.

We dig into the idea that your story isn’t really about who you truly are, but rather who you’ve been up until now. These stories are often inherited from family, society, culture, and life experiences, rather than consciously chosen by you.

I explore how these deep-seated narratives, though largely unconscious, can serve us—or sabotage us—especially when we find ourselves wanting something different or feeling out of sync with our own lives. I share insights into why midlife, and the “autumn season” of our lives, is the perfect time to pause, let go, and intentionally choose who you want to become next. Just like trees gracefully releasing their leaves, we can release identities and beliefs that no longer serve us, knowing they make space for new growth.

I guide you through ways you can recognize these stories by noticing the words you use, the actions you take, and the beliefs you hold about what’s possible for you. We talk about the emotional weight these stories can carry, and how they create comfort zones, limitations, and so-called “expectation ceilings” that keep us playing smaller than we truly desire.

This episode also covers a practical three-step process for rewriting your narrative: acceptance (acknowledging you’re not broken, just using outdated strategies), practice (becoming who you want to be through repeated action), and awareness (catching old patterns and choosing new, kinder ones in the moment). If you feel called, I encourage you to write down one story holding you back, examine its truth, and reframe it as, “I’m now someone who’s learning to…”—embracing your growth with grace and compassion.

If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review on iTunes—your support helps the message reach even more remarkable women navigating transformation.

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I open up about the quiet unraveling many women experience when the non-stop chase, hustle, and performance-based success lose their appeal. We sit with the truth that perhaps our ambition hasn’t disappeared—it’s simply evolved.

Let’s rethink what “more” means, and recognize the difference between losing motivation and simply getting real about what no longer serves us. This conversation is an invitation to notice if what’s pulling you now is a desire for space, slowness, and self-reconnection, rather than just keeping up and proving yourself. We touch on how powerful it can be to let go of measuring our worth by productivity, and how you haven’t gotten lazy, you’ve just gotten honest.

I offer a reframe for ambition: it’s not about giving up, but about growing up and making space for a life anchored in your own truth. This episode is all about coming home to yourself, choosing presence over performance, and realizing that wanting something different (and gentler) doesn’t mean wanting less. Different doesn’t mean smaller—it means it’s finally yours.

If you’re feeling the pull to stop abandoning yourself for achievement, if you want to reclaim ambition on your own terms, this tender episode is for you. And if you know a woman who needs to hear this, please share it—let’s keep supporting each other as we walk this path of simplicity, honesty, and transformation together.

I'd LOVE for you to leave me a review for the podcast.. AND... I believe this is a conversation that more women need to hear to so please do share it on your socials and with your friends. Thank you 

You are EVOLVING

The promises you made in a different season of life may no longer fit the woman you are now. This episode explores what it really means to rebuild self-trust—not by tightening your grip, but by listening more deeply to what’s true for you now.

This micro episode is full of mic drops - like  how to move from guilt and frustration into ownership, how to recognise when your capacity has changed, and how to rewrite promises that align with who you’re becoming.

What you’ll learn:

• Why breaking promises is often a sign of growth, not failure

• How to identify when old standards no longer fit

• Somatic and mindset tools to rebuild integrity with yourself

If you ❤️ this episode, you know what to do.. please subscribe and share. 

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During this cosy micro episode, I dive into why so many of us have been conditioned to believe that joy is something we have to earn—a reward for completing the never-ending to-do list, or something we only allow ourselves to feel once everything (and everyone) else is taken care of.

I open up about my own journey, from building my self-worth through endless productivity, to finally realising that joy isn’t a finish line to cross or a prize waiting at the end of achievement. Instead, joy is a resource we can tap into, right now, in the thick of it all.

We explore how generational patterns and the examples set by our mothers have shaped the way we care for ourselves (or don’t), often relegating joy to the bottom of the pile and leaving so many women feeling depleted and unsure of what truly lights them up. I share why waiting for perfect conditions means that “someday” for joy never actually arrives.

Together, we discuss the importance of curiosity, giving ourselves permission to pause, and rediscovering the tiny, daily pleasures that bring us alive. Whether you know exactly what you want or you’re only clear on what you don’t want right now, this episode is your invitation to create new stories around joy, to schedule it and savour it before everything is “done.” Plus, I share practical ways to tune into what feels good in your body, and encourage you to make space for joy—no justification needed.

If you’re craving a reminder that joy is the point of life, not an afterthought, this gentle episode is for you. Let’s normalise choosing joy, right here, right now.

Please do subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any of the gold.. and why not come follow me on Instagram and keep the conversation going?

During this soulful solo episode of Seeking Simplicity, I invite you to reflect on the power of living in tune with your own natural cycles and the deeper rhythms of nature. Together, we explore the idea that we are not designed to be in constant “go mode”—that embracing our seasons (both internal and external) is an act of self-honouring, not failure.

I open up about a recent personal loss and share how grief has brought me back to the wisdom of letting myself soften, slow down, and lean into the transformative magic that comes with accepting each season as it arrives. Whether you’re in a season of growth, rest, change, or harvest, recognising where you are allows you to give yourself permission to move at your own pace.

We talk about the archetypes of the feminine journey—the Maiden, the Mother, the Maga (my current season, and why my new offering is called Magna Nificence), and the Crone. I discuss how the so-called “midlife” (a term I don’t love!) or perimenopausal period is actually a time of deep neurological rewiring, personal independence, and wisdom-gathering, rather than something simply to be medicalised or managed.

If you’re noticing a shift in what interests you, how much you can give, or how you want to show up, you’re not alone—your season is changing, and that’s beautiful. There’s a powerful freedom in recognising when you no longer have the capacity (or the desire) for certain things, and in embracing the truth-telling energy that these hormonal transitions bring.

I encourage you to get curious about your own patterns: How do you feel through the seasons of the year? How do your energy and mood shift with your menstrual or moon cycle? I share my own experience with tracking these rhythms, and offer practical encouragement for creating a schedule that honours your unique energy—whether you’re thriving in summer sun or needing more rest as the darker months draw in.

We touch on the difference between self-sabotage and self-knowledge, and the importance of elite recovery as the counterpart to elite performance. Living cyclically and seasonally is an act of self-respect, and it’s how we build sustainable, meaningful lives (and model this for those we love).

Today, my wish for you is that you name your current season, listen to what it asks of you, and give yourself permission to live in sync with its wisdom.

If you’re drawn to explore this journey more deeply, the priority waitlist for my new offering, Magna Nificence, is now open—details in the show notes.

If this conversation resonates, please leave a review on Apple and share the episode. The more we honour our cycles, the more we invite others to breathe deeper and live more simply, too.

Do you ever feel mentally cluttered—like part of your brain is always running in the background, nagging you about what’s unfinished? Those are open loops: incomplete thoughts, undone tasks, or unresolved emotions that keep pulling at your attention.

In this episode, I explain the MindBody impact of those open loops, why they make it hard to focus, and how to close them so you can feel clearer, calmer, and more present.

What you’ll learn:

• Why your brain clings to unfinished business

• The hidden toll open loops take on your energy and clarity

• Practical steps to start closing loops today

What if you could anchor your entire life around three guiding principles that change how you think, feel, and choose—every single day? In this episode, I share the transformative impact of Cause & Effect, Perception is Projection, and Every Word, Thought & Deed.

These aren’t just great sounding concepts—they’re daily practices that create radical self-leadership and long-term change and transformation (if you use them of course)

BTW - if you've not listened to last week's podcast, I'd REALLY recommend you do so before you listen to this one.

I simply had to share these with you, after being reintroduced to them during my experience at an embodied NLP training. I want you to see, feel and knowhow these principles ground you beyond the “event high” of workshops or courses, so your transformation lasts in real life. Get ready to see yourself, your relationships, and your choices in a whole new light.

What you’ll learn:

• Why living “at cause” shifts you out of blame and into power

• How Perception is Projection can completely transform relationships

• The secret to aligning your words, thoughts, and actions with the life you want

• How to hold yourself to a new standard of self-leadership

If you'd like more of these conversations, come join my FB group and remember to go watch those videos that I referred to in the podcast. They're in the featured section and ordered 1-6. 

Also, I sent out a weekly email called One Small Thing - One Small Thing that you can use in your life TODAY to create change, perspective shifts and transformation. Join me here.

It's easy to feel like you're "fighting life". Especially when you are in hard times.

But when we fight, we resist and "what resist, persists" right?

PLUS.. when we are putting the focus outside of ourselves, we're now not in the power to change anything.

I get it. In this episode I share part of my own journey of moving from resistance and wishing things were different, to embracing acceptance—without resignation or approval of what simply is.

I ask you to see how arguing with reality keeps us stuck in cycles of frustration, resentment, and suffering, and how liberating it can be to make peace with the moment, even when it’s hard or seems unfair.

Learning to stop resisting and start co-creating with your circumstances changes everything. And to help you get to that place, I'm exploring some of the myths that hold us back (like “accepting means giving up” or “if I fight harder, maybe I’ll change it”) and how clinging to these beliefs drains your energy, strains relationships, and blocks transformation.

I share with you some simple, powerful questions to catch yourself in the act of resisting: “What is real right now? What is the naked truth beneath the stories and emotions? What’s my next best step?” And my intention is that, together, we untangle the difference between acceptance and approval, and talk honestly about how difficult—but necessary—it is to choose the harder path if we want a life that’s truly multicolored, not just another shade of the same old routine.

This is a call to reclaim your energy, to stop suffering twice, to move forward with more clarity and power. I hope this episode inspires you to pause, reflect, and choose—with compassion for yourself—the next right thing. And don’t forget: next week, I’ll share three life-changing principles to help you put all of this into practice.

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, share, or leave a review—it means the world to me, and it helps our wild, wise, ever-evolving community reach even more women ready to stop fighting reality and start living a life full of color.

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On today’s episode I invite you to journey with me into the realm of invisible work—the quiet, often unseen inner shifts that shape the most profound change in our lives. I explore why not all progress is loud, and how the subtle transformations we make behind the scenes are, in fact, some of the most powerful.

I share from my own practice as a certified High Performance coach, blending Somatics, NLP, and mindset work, and how the greatest resistance I see in my clients isn’t always about taking big action, but in valuing the invisible work that doesn’t come with a to-do list or applause. Together, we untangle the societal myth that only visible, external achievements count, and we unpack why so many of us feel like we’re not “doing enough” unless we’re exhausted and busy.

I touch on the danger of measuring our worth through output and accomplishments, and instead, begin to honour those inner shifts—the moments you chose to pause instead of react, upheld a boundary, or replaced an old thought pattern with something new. I share stories from my personal training days to illustrate how real, sustainable change always starts from within, and why becoming someone new is so much more powerful than ticking off achievements.

Throughout this episode, I encourage you to acknowledge and celebrate even the smallest acts of invisible work—to let one inner shift a day be enough, and to trust that these quiet changes are weaving a whole new tapestry for your future. We also talk about ways to stay connected to your inner wisdom and intuition, and how to find space to simply be.

If you resonate with this, I’d love for you to pause, celebrate one invisible shift you’ve made this week, and share your experience or leave a review. These are the ripples that create waves of change for all of us.

I would be so grateful if you'd leave me a review for the podcast and drop it a share. Thank you 

The words you use are SO much more than language, they create spells. Spells that determine what your life looks and feels like.

In this short and potent episode, I ask you to see what happens when you become more conscious of the impact and effect of your language - especially when it comes to the words we use with ourselves.

And it begins with this question.

Is it sacrifice or investment?

You see, the words we use don't just decide the action we take, but how we FEEL and WHO we are when we take that action. The identity we inhabit, and our ability to stick with the things that truly matter. I reflect on how the “sacrifice” mindset can paint us as martyrs or victims—draining our energy, motivation and self-trust—while an “investment” frame establishes us as empowered creators, intentionally choosing where to place our time, energy, and attention.

I take yo another layer deeper when I show you the ripple effect of language: how it shapes our emotional and energetic state, fortifies (or undermines) our long-term motivation, and transforms mundane daily decisions into acts of self-devotion and trust. Instead of seeing you routines, to-do's or and  boundaries as something that costs you, I ask you to see those daily choices as investments that pay you compound interest in every area of your life.

This is a heartfelt reminder that lasting transformation doesn’t demand struggle or grand gestures, but begins with the simplest, most powerful shift: the words you choose every single day.

If this episode sparked something for you, I'd be so grateful if you’d subscribe, leave a short review, and share this conversation with a friend or on social media. Thank you for being here as we all seek more simplicity, magic, and self-connection.

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• In today's episode, I open up about my own journey with nervous system dysregulation—how it showed up as a constant, underlying sense of unsafety in my body, confusion, emotional overwhelm, and feeling utterly lost.

•  I share how I thought that it was a symptom of grief and the associated PTSD and how shocked I was to learn that perimenopause, which I had initially dismissed as “just hormones”—is actually a powerful neurological experience and can cause nervous symptom dysregulation. 

  After a life-changing somatic training in Barcelona, I learned how our bodies hold on to unprocessed emotions, trauma, and memories, often locking them into our physical selves. But I also know that not all of us have the space or desire to drop everything and do a full-blown somatic practice when things feel hard—especially when we want to regulate ourselves quietly, without drawing attention.

  So in this episode, I share five beautifully simple and discreet tools that you can use anytime, anywhere, to help soothe your nervous system:

Hold your own hand. Whether you’re lying in bed or sitting in a meeting, simply cupping your own hands together with gentle pressure can create an instant sense of safety, comfort, and self-support.

4-8 Breathing. Breathe in for four counts, out for eight. Lengthening your exhale helps activate your parasympathetic nervous system and brings your body back to calm—no one even needs to notice you’re doing it.

Body Scan. Bring quiet awareness to different parts of your body, noticing and releasing tension from your head to your toes (or vice versa). This subtle check-in can make an immediate difference in how grounded and relaxed you feel.

Anchor Object. Whether it’s a stone, a piece of jewelry, or a small desk trinket, keep something meaningful nearby or in your pocket. Touching or even just looking at your anchor object can pull you out of overwhelm and return you to the present moment, quickly and privately.

Relax your vagina. Yes, really! Our jaw and pelvic floor are intimately connected. Next time you need to relax, try consciously relaxing your pelvic floor or your jaw (or both)—it can shift your energy and even help you find your voice again, especially if repression or overwhelm have kept you quiet for too long.

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  Throughout this conversation, I reflect on how these tender, tiny practices can not only carry us through rough patches but reconnect us to our bodies, our truth, and a new confidence in expressing ourselves—especially in times of transition.

  If this episode resonates, I’d love for you to share it and tag me on social. Please subscribe and leave a review to help other women find this space, and remember: you are not alone in this wild, wise, and ever-changing cycle of life.

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In this honest episode, I invite you to explore the often-painful topic of self judgment—the kind that seeps into our skin, weighs us down, and keeps us locked out of our own innate wisdom. I share from my own journey—years spent in deep self criticism, the endless comparison, and how I finally stepped off that exhausting podium.

Together, we look at self judgment through a gentler lens. Why do we measure ourselves by standards we never consciously chose? What if those harsh internal voices aren’t even truly ours? I walk you through how cultural narratives, family dynamics, and social media have gifted us unwanted measuring sticks—ones we’re absolutely allowed to put down.

I talk about the powerful ways our brains latch onto these beliefs, constantly seeking evidence to confirm what we fear is true. I explain the insidious blame-shame-judgment cycle, how it keeps us stuck, and why it feels so hard to move forward when we’re trapped in it. But most importantly, I share a new path that doesn’t require leaping from self hatred to self love or drowning in toxic positivity—a path rooted in acceptance.

This is a gentle invitation to lay down what you no longer need to carry. Acceptance is the simple, radical act that allows us to become the curators of our own lives—building a bridge from judgment to empowered responsibility. I offer practical questions and reflections to help you choose acceptance over self punishment and begin to craft a new narrative, one grounded in wisdom, self-trust, and freedom.

If you’re ready to step into the role of captain in your own life—letting go of that critical chorus and embracing a life built on your values, your desires, and your truth—then this episode is for you.

Thank you for being here, for allowing space for transformation, and for seeking simplicity with me. If you want more support on your personal journey, feel free to reach out for coaching, or just drop me a message to connect.

Big love always, Louise 🌿

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Welcome back to Seeking Simplicity! In this episode, I'm sharing a deeply transformative experience with you. I've been on a seven-day intensive training that revealed powerful truths about personal triggers and the beliefs I was holding on to that created them. And the part I'm sharing with you today is, 

“You can only be triggered if you’re holding the ammunition.”

I'm sharing with you that when you lean into your triggers, rather than resisting them, you can uncover hidden beliefs and unlock profound personal growth. I sharing honestly with you and recounting my own unexpected emotional reactions, how I turned that discomfort into meaningful self-inquiry, and the ripple effects of this shift in my business, relationships, and energy.

Whether you’re in a season of flux, craving a simpler way to move through life’s complexities, or ready to get curious about your own triggers, this episode offers gentle wisdom and tangible next steps.

If you'd like to watch my transformation in real-time through my Personal Transformation video series - you'll find them all in my FB Group, Seeking Simplicity

I really want to encourages you to approach your inner discomfort as a doorway to powerful change. So grab your cuppa, settle in, and join me in embracing life's messiness, one transformative insight at a time.

“Head Drama”—that relentless chatter in our minds that’s often negative, judgmental, and unhelpful.

Today I'd like to share with you a powerful, yet simple approach to breaking the cycle of self-doubt, rumination, and second-guessing—one that doesn’t require you to be perfect, or to believe in yourself 100% before you start taking action.

I'm going to show you how you are not your thoughts, and how our brains love to serve up thousands of repetitive (and usually negative) ideas every day. Together, we tap into compassion for ourselves and unpack why we so often cling to the thoughts that weigh us down. I introduce the idea that you get to decide which thoughts take up space in your head and how changing that dynamic can transform the reality you experience.

This podcast is based on five “what if” questions you can use to disrupt negative self-talk and invite more simplicity, ease, and self-trust into your life:

• What if you don’t need immediate buy-in? What if you don’t have to believe fully before you start? We talk about letting actions lead belief, and why waiting for confidence can actually keep you stuck.

• What if it’s always going to be some kind of hard? Discomfort is a given—so what if you chose the hard that actually moves you forward?

• What if it’s up to you to find the balance? We chat about breaking free from black-and-white thinking, and how true balance is a rhythm you create—not a fixed destination.

• What if you just decided? Indecision drains us, so what might shift if you made one clear choice without waiting for perfect clarity or a risk-free path?

• What if your mission was merely to build self-belief by doing something? Self-belief is built through action, not waiting—so what if you celebrated progress instead of perfection, and let small wins accumulate into real transformation?

I also open up about my experiences, struggles, and what I’ve learned from coaching incredible women inside my community. If you’re feeling stuck in cycles of quitting and starting again, doubting if you can ever change, or longing for more ease and presence in your life—these “what if” questions might be the gentle (but powerful) nudge you need right now.

You’ll hear about our ongoing 21-day sprint challenges inside the Seeking Simplicity Facebook group—a supportive space to build consistency, experiment with new habits, and rediscover your capacity for growth and self-compassion. If you’re craving a shift, you’re so welcome to join us.

If today’s episode resonated, I would truly love if you’d take a moment to leave a review on Apple Podcasts—it helps the show reach more women ready to reconnect with themselves and their own magic.

Thank you for listening, for being part of this seeking simplicity journey, and for allowing yourself the curiosity to ask: What if?

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the pace of life, like you’re just one breath away from quitting something that truly matters to you?

In this episode I offer you this gentle thought - that sometimes, simplicity is as close as your next breath.

If you're navigating tough transitions, feeling exhausted by your to-do list, or searching for space among the chaos, this conversation is your new ritual.

In this bite size episode, I teach you ways to "take a breathe" in different ways so that you can punctuate your days with them. Things like: 

• Pausing and breathing through big feelings before reacting

• Simple ways to create pockets of calm throughout your day

• Using your breath to step into, rather than run from, discomfort and uncertainty

• How to trim and punctuate your schedule for more clarity and peace

I invite you to take this podcast as your next, conscious breath. Grab yourself a mug of something calming, and let's dive in to the grounding and slow energy of this episode.

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WHY SHOULD YOU JOIN: 

- Because 21 days is short enough to stay committed, long enough to get a result and the perfect time to start building self belief. 

- Every day I post or go live to support you, offer you mindset tips and tools and keep you accountable. 

- Because you want this, right??  See you inside Seeking Simplicity 

 During this heartfelt solo episode, I explore the tender and universal experience of supporting others through life’s hardest seasons – be it illness, grief, heartbreak, or big life transitions. I open up about my own journey walking beside loved ones, from witnessing my mum care for my dad, to the ripple effects it’s had on me, my friendships, and my own sense of how to “show up” for the people I care about.

I reflect on those moments when we feel lost in knowing how to help, wondering if what we’re doing is enough, and navigating the truth that, while we can’t take away someone’s pain, we can help them hold it. I share stories of grief, the complexity of being both a supporter and needing support ourselves, and some of the difficult conversations that come with walking this path—whether it’s giving space, checking in gently, or speaking truth where responsibility is needed.

We also talk about the importance of not trying to do this perfectly, of letting go of the idea that we need to be the strong one, the wise oracle, or the “perfect” friend/daughter/partner. I extend an invitation to acknowledge the deep unconditional love that leads us to care, and the vital need to turn that compassion inward as well.

There’s room here for messiness—for presence over perfection, for asking those you’re supporting what they actually need (and letting them guide that day by day), and for validating your own emotions as you walk alongside. I share how the smallest gestures can matter most—like a text just to say you’re there—and that your presence, even in quiet ways, is enough.

If you’re someone holding space for a loved one through a difficult season, or if you’re feeling the aftershocks of having done so, this conversation is an invitation to exhale, to feel less alone, and to allow a little gentleness and lightness in, even in the hardest of times. Remember: there’s no rulebook for this, but we don’t have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these words. And if you need a community that gets it, you’re always welcome to join us in the Seeking Simplicity community—where we’re all just walking each other home. With love, Louise.

Ever wondered why real change feels so hard—despite all the plans, programs, and step-by-step blueprints you’ve tried?

Listen, we've all been taught that all we need to do is find a strategy and execute et voila - goal achieved!. 

BUT - if that were true, they'd be millions of more happy, healthy and wealthy people out there, right. 

So today, in honour or Seeking Simplicity, I want to offer you a different perspective. One that opens up the space for change but change that lasts and happens one, personal, small step at a time. 

On this week’s episode of the Seeking Simplicity podcast, I'm diving deep into the hidden, unconscious patterns that quietly shape our lives. From how you show up in relationships to your business, health, or daily habits, your strategies and routines often run on autopilot—sometimes keeping you stuck right where you are.

But what if creating change could be… simpler?

✨ I'm sharing with you one of my own, destructive strategies and how I'm creating a breakthrough around that and there's an invitation to take this simple, loving approach to rewiring the patterns that shape your daily choices. This episode is all about practical steps to identify, accept, and gently interrupt old scripts—so you can create lasting transformation from the inside out.

Ready to break free from default patterns and step into empowered change? 🍃Let's do this girls... 

Come join my free Facebook community and let's continue the conversation

And remember, will you spare me 60 seconds to write me a review on Apple? Thank you, it really helps 

🎧 Listen now and step into a new season of simplicity, presence, and possibility.

I'm sharing this episode with you today because the relationship with my eldest daughter completely broke in 2021. 

She was also a highly sensitive child but as she got older, her temper became volatile and my husband and I found it harder and harder to communicate with her. Suspected ADHD and smoking weed exacerbated the situation and we were at our wits end. 

In this episode today, I share in full transparency what happened and how I totally didn't handle it well at all. But we do the best we can with what we have, right? 

And then I share the exact framework I used to rebuild our relationship and, I hope, help my daughter see that there is a different way of experiencing life. 

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I loved recording this episode, because it was such an important reminder to myself that there is so much strength in softening.

The quote that inspired this conversation: “Remember, you are creator of your life, not a manager of your circumstance. Prime yourself. Decide what to focus on.”

This message landed so profoundly for me, but I reflect on how, just eighteen months ago, it would have felt impossible to embrace. I walk you through the tender journey from managing my circumstances amidst grief, dysregulation, PTSD, and perimenopause, to discovering the incredible strength that comes from softening.

I explore the transformative power of surrender and the seven ways we can intentionally soften in order to become stronger in all areas of our lives. Together, we look at how softening self-judgment can strengthen self-belief, and why letting go of rigid definitions opens up new possibilities. I invite you to notice the stories you carry about yourself, consider the regrets that might be weighing you down, and challenge the ways you approach change—because softening these patterns strengthens your creativity, wisdom, and consistency.

I share deeply personal moments of regret, self-judgment, and the somatic release that changed everything for me. We talk about what it means to soften your past to empower your present and future, and the incredible shifts that come when we reconnect gently with our bodies. Throughout the episode, I encourage you to make this inquiry your own: what would it look like to soften, just a little, in each of these areas of life?

This conversation is an invitation to create space for self-love, surrender, and true transformation as you navigate whatever season you’re in. Brew your favorite cup and join me in seeking simplicity, softness, and soulful strength.

As always, I invite you to join the free Facebook community and personal development book club and if you would kindly leave the podcast a review I would be SO grateful. Thank you 

This really is a truly enchanting conversation with Ayla, who joins us all the way from her real-life French chateau to share what happens when you dare to dream big and live simply (and sometimes that means living in a literal castle!). Together, we explore the heart of seeking simplicity—doing what you love, letting go of societal expectations, and courageously following your own unique path.

We talk about the journey that took Ayla from her native Holland to a castle overlooking a breathtaking French valley, the pivotal moments that sparked this bold move, and the importance of curiosity and intention when it comes to creating a life on your terms. Ayla opens up about her experience with burnout, transitioning from corporate life to entrepreneurship, and the shifts she made to prioritize happiness and meaning for herself and her family.

We dive into the ripple effect that following your joy has—not only in your own health and relationships, but on your children and everyone around you. Ayla shares how she’s built her business to help other women reclaim their time and design lives and businesses that truly light them up, whether that means more time with family or scaling their passion.

There’s so much inspiration here: from letting go of Holland’s “just act normal” expectations, to teaching your kids that anything is possible (including wearing a princess dress to school), to taking the practical steps to streamline your own business and find more spaciousness for what matters most. We also unpack how to turn inward, trust yourself, and bravely choose joy—even when it feels a little daring.

Pour yourself a cozy cup and join us for laughter, permission slips, castle tales, and real-life magic. This conversation is for everyone ready to step outside of the box, make their own rules, and create ripples of happiness in the world—one simple, joyful step at a time.

Find details of Ayla's new programme here.

Follow Ayla on insta here. 

Be sure to come join me inside me free Facebook Community, Seeking Simplicity, for more conversations just like this ❤️

In this honest and reflective solo episode, I invite you into my personal process of simplifying transformation. This conversation is a little self-indulgent—it’s me sharing the thoughts that have been circulating in my mind about why change, transformation, and goal setting so often feel so complicated. I get real about years spent beating myself up for not being “enough” or not achieving enough, and the stories we all tell ourselves about where we “should” be by now.

I walk you through some of the pivotal, heartbeat moments in my life—the ones where I knew, on a deep level, that things had to change. From hopping on my first-ever plane to Australia at 19, to leaving my marriage and becoming a single parent, to quitting jobs and closing businesses, I unpack the catalysts behind those big choices. You’ll hear about how curiosity, pain, and sometimes a drive to prove myself spurred me into action, but how, underneath it all, there was always this belief that something else is possible, even if I couldn’t yet see what that was.

We dig into what keeps us stuck in patterns: the mental loops of telling ourselves we’re not good enough, searching for the “one right way” that doesn’t exist, and falling into overwhelm or burnout. I share a simple three-step framework that shifted everything for me, moving the focus from what to do, to who we are being:

1. From mental noise to embodied clarity—how to switch off the relentless inner chatter and land in your own power and clarity.

2. From self-doubt to self-trust—why transformation isn’t about the latest strategy, but building strong self-trust and emotional resilience.

3. From overwhelm to ownership—learning to pause, take a breath, and own your next step, your boundaries, and your state, rather than spiraling into overwhelm.

We also talk about the tricky idea of “alignment”—how sometimes what’s comfortable isn’t truly aligned, and how the right choices are sometimes the hardest in the moment.

If you’re in a place of transition, growth, or just feeling a little bit stuck, this episode invites you to rethink what simplicity in transformation can look like. Let’s celebrate the possibility that exists in choosing yourself and trusting those heartbeat moments! I’d love to hear which shift resonated with you most—come join the conversation in our Seeking Simplicity Facebook group, DM me, or share your own reflections on social.

Thank you for being here, and until next time, keep seeking simplicity.

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In this soulful solo episode, I dive deep into the nature of decision-making and the ways in which our choices can keep us feeling stuck, unsatisfied, or—quite literally—hungry for more. Inspired by a new deck of oracle cards (here's the Amazon link for them - please note this is my affiliate link), I reflect on the emotional roots of change: how so often, it’s uncomfortable emotions—feeling disconnected, afraid, or trapped—that motivate us to desire transformation in our lives.

Sharing my own personal experience, I explore why it can be so hard to make lasting change, even when we’re desperate for it. I attempt to unravel the dance between emotion and thought: how our emotions trigger the desire for change, but it’s our thoughts—those old stories, fears, and beliefs—that hold us back from acting. I share my own vulnerable moments, from leaving my marriage to healing a painful relationship with my body, and what it really takes to move forward when we don’t know how.

You’ll hear the beautiful message from “The Feast of Plenty” oracle card, which reminds us that sometimes, we need to simply choose—and to avoid repeating decisions that never satisfy us. We get into the real reasons it’s so hard to choose: fear of discomfort, our craving for certainty, those deep-seated patterns and limiting beliefs about who we are and what’s possible.

I talk through practical, compassionate ways to start small and shift your experience: giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are; leaning more on curiosity than certainty; celebrating who you’re becoming through the process, not just the outcome; and embracing the power of making better choices more often—even if they’re simple and small at first.

If you’re in a season of transition, longing for change, or feeling the weight of indecision, my hope is that this conversation gives you the permission, compassion, and gentle nudge you need to make the one next right choice for you. As always, the doors to the Seeking Simplicity Facebook community are open if you want to continue the conversation, find support, or simply be in circle with other wise and wild women walking this path of transformation.

And remember, if you're enjoying this podcast, PLEASE take 1 minute to write me a review - it means the world to me. Thank you 

With love and gratitude for where you are and where you’re going.

After over a decade of working with women to create change, achieve their goals and live the life they want - one thing I know is that they think it's way more complicated than it really is. 

The truth is - the strategy is simple. But the execution is HARD.

And it's not because you're not enough or you can't manage it - it's because no-one has ever taught you how to manage your brain and your emotions when you want to do new, difficult and life changing things. 

Hence the creation of this Framework to give you somewhere to start. 

I would love for you to come join more conversations like this inside my free facebook group Seeking Simplicity - and hopefully you'll come join the free book club calls on a Wednesday at 7pm UK time. 

And PLEASE will you give me 1 minute of your time to give me a review on Apple? I'd be SO grateful. Thank you 

Most advice on personal growth tells us to focus on changing bad habits. But have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, those old patterns just keep popping up? This week, I'm sharing my perspective - why it's not your habits that keep you stuck—it's your deep-rooted identity.

And I hope, that I can encourage you to  gently shift that identity (with lots of self-compassion!) to create real, lasting change.

✨ 5 Keys You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why relying on willpower alone is exhausting—and why it often doesn’t work in the long run.

2. How identities are formed early in life and why they get reinforced without us even noticing.

3. The hidden comfort in your current identity (even when it leads to results you don’t want).

4. A simple exercise to experience a different version of yourself—right now!

5. The importance of self-compassion and starting small when shifting your identity and creating new results.

I'm going to show you how you can “try on” a new identity like an outfit—just close your eyes, speak a new belief to yourself, and notice how even your posture starts to shift. Did you know that just imagining a new, more empowered version of yourself can actually change how you feel in the moment? Give it a try after you listen!

This episode is full of gentle reminders to be kind to yourself, give yourself grace, and trust the process—no matter where you are on your own transformation journey. Remember, it’s about starting small and growing consistency, not going hard or going home.

🌼 I'd love for you to join us inside the Seeking Simplicity Book Club

We’re starting You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero next week. Let’s support each other as we shed old identities and step into our wild, wise selves.

Sending you so much love and simplicity, Louise

Today, I'm opening up a conversation around the 3 Things I Wish I'd Learned Before I Hit 50.

I dive deep into the power of embracing the present, learning in layers, and tapping into the wisdom of our bodies.

It's so easier to hanker after different outcomes, think we should be somewhere other than where we are, but isn't there more benefit to explore how staying present can be transformational.

I discuss how our brains often create a vision of what could have been, without acknowledging the complexities and external factors influencing our lives. Our lives are a complex series of  sliding door moments, reminding us that our power lies in the present.

I offer my belief thatchange doesn't happen in isolation. It’s not a single strategy or person that brings transformation, but rather the layers of learning that unfold over time and that by allowing ourselves to have different experiences and tapping into our body's wisdom, change can truly resonate and transform us on a deeper level.

Finally I  highlight the importance of moving beyond relying solely on our brains. Embracing our body's innate knowledge can prevent us from getting trapped in fear and outdated conditioning. By acknowledging and addressing the ways our brains sabotage us, we can open ourselves to a richer, more holistic experience of life.

Come and access conversations like this inside my community in the free Facebook group and book club, Seeking Simplicity.

Share your insights, and if you find value in our episodes, please consider leaving a review on apple.  Share the episode with friends who might benefit from this conversation. Thank you for being here, and I look forward to our next conversation on Seeking Simplicity.

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Even though Ken and I have been in the same business group for a long time, I reached out to him after he shared a moving and vulnerable post there. We hopped on a call and I asked Ken to come and share his learnings because I think we can all learn something from them.

I believe he captures the essence of simplicity not as an absence of hardship, but can actually include hardship when you choose to live life on your own terms.

We explore themes vulnerability, courage, and the art of embracing uncertainty. Sharing his  experiences as an entrepreneur, the courage it took to step away from a conventional 9-to-5, and the personal transformation he has undergone. 

We dive into the compelling experience of 'collapsing timelines,' touching on what it means to shift energetically into new identities and embrace the future versions of ourselves. Ken articulates the sensations of transition and the importance of letting go to fully arrive at our new destinations.

For those on the entrepreneurial journey, Ken's story is a testament to the power of authenticity. His openness serves as an invitation for you to trust in the process, honor your unique path, and keep moving forward, even through uncertainty.

I really believe that this conversation captures the  spirit of doing things our own way, finding freedom, and expressing oneself creatively, all while navigating the beautiful complexities of life. 

Join us for this heart-opening conversation that inspires you to step into your power, regulate your nervous system amidst risks, and truly seek simplicity in alignment with your authentic self.

Find Ken and learn more about his transformative work at Sales Page Pro on Instagram. 

Come join my Free Facebook Group at Seeking Simplicity. or find me on Instagram. 

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How can we step back, trust that we know and do enough, and reconsider our consumption of information. I delve into how the endless stream of knowledge available at our fingertips can be both a blessing and a burden as I offer the perspective that it has the potential  to amplify feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm and explore how to filter and contextualize it to fit our unique lives.

Here's some key points:

✅ Navigate through the challenges of feeling insufficient and perpetually needing to grow or achieve more.

✅Reflect on how societal pressures and expert advice can make us feel like we're never doing enough.

✅Discover the hidden simplicity in life's "Blue Zones" and how these lessons can apply to our modern, tech-focused lives.

✅Uncover the importance of discerning the source and context of the information we consume.

✅Discuss the need to evaluate our intentions behind the consumption of books, podcasts, and digital media.

✅Emphasise the power of tuning into our own unique life needs, reducing decision fatigue, and reclaiming simplicity.

Join in more conversations like this in my Facebook group, Seeking Simplicity, where a free book club and a special program are waiting for you.

Useful Links:

Become a founding member in my Personal Transformation Programme

 Buy Anita Moorjani's book, Dying to be Me (please note this is my Amazon affiliate link)

Listen to Anita's podcast interview with Dr Chatterjee

At the end of the day, life is an emotional rollercoaster and I want to share with you how I believe we can find simplicity amidst it all. .

I invite you to think about the fact that fear is less about the "thing" and more about the emotions we don't want to feel and there we can find ourselves in seasons where we are ready to CHOOSE to feel the emotional discomfort in order to create the change we want in our life.

We chat about resilience and courage—those things that kick in when life's throwing stuff our way—and how being aware of our emotions can help us navigate tricky times. I share my very personal story about dealing with some heavy emotions after losing her dad, how it affected my whole system and how I worked through it.

It just goes to show, that now matter how prepared you think you are, or how much you think you know - sometimes life can still knock you sideways.

I finish up by talking about knowing when you're ready to tackle more emotional challenges and how important it is to accept all the feels, even the uncomfortable ones. Building that inner strength and giving ourselves grace, acknowledging we don't have to have it all figured out. Life's a journey, right? It's all about finding that sweet spot where we can handle emotional discomfort and make decisions that might be scary but are totally worth it. We're reminded that life's not black and white—it's a spectrum, and we're somewhere in-between. So, join me as we navigate this emotional landscape, learning to embrace discomfort, trust our gut, and take the plunge into new experiences. We're here for it all—every messy, beautiful bit of the journey. So, let's find that emotional simplicity together and keep it real.

Remember, you can purchase the book, Your Body Is Your Brain here.

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Today, I’m diving into emotional acceptance and self-compassion with some thoughts inspired by Amanda Blake's "Your Body Is Your Brain." I'll share how society shapes our emotions and why resisting them only makes things tougher.

I invite you to consider your emotions like a colourful palette—letting yourself feel them all can bring so much depth and richness to life. I'll share personal experiences, like dealing with grief and the powerful emotions that come with it, to highlight that it's okay to feel everything without judgment. And we'll chat about how showing yourself some love and compassion can make it easier to navigate those tricky emotions.

So grab yourself your favourite brew and relax as we explore these ideas and get ready for the next episode, where we’ll tackle emotional challenges and decision-making. If you are enjoying this podcast, I'd be so grateful if you would subscribe and leave me a review.