In this short episode, I’m directing you to a free masterclass I created:

“Why You’re Still In Pain, And What To Do About It.”

What you might be missing
Most providers are only trained to treat pain from a structural perspective.

So when nothing shows up on testing, or your symptoms continue after something has been treated, you’re often left without real answers.

But that doesn’t mean there aren’t answers.

Inside the masterclass, you’ll learn:

• Why pain can continue even when nothing is structurally wrong
• The different types of pain and what’s actually driving your symptoms
• What needs to shift to start moving forward

Watch the Free Masterclass

👉 Click here to watch
🗓 Available until April 27th

If you’re feeling stuck or unsure what to do next, this is your next step.

Want support applying this work?
At the end of the masterclass, I share how to go deeper inside Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

The push-pull between validation and empowerment.

And how the very thing that once helped you survive… might now be covertly blocking your ability to move forward.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why the need for validation makes so much sense (especially after medical gaslighting and invisible pain)
•  How self-validation can turn into a loop that keeps you stuck
•  The turning point: wanting to be well more than wanting validation
•  The difference between self-pity and self-compassion (this one is big)
•  What self-compassion actually looks like in real time
•  The grief that comes with realizing no one can fully understand your experience
•  Reflection questions to help you shift out of the validation loop and into healing

A question to sit with:
Are you validating yourself in a way that helps you feel supported and capable…

Or in a way that keeps you stuck, cycling through how hard and unfair this is?

If you’re ready for support…
This is exactly the work we do inside Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain.

Inside the program, you’ll learn how to:

•  Understand why your pain is happening
•  Shift out of fear and symptom focus
•  Respond to your body in a new way
•  Stay in process, even when it feels hard
•  Build real momentum in your healing

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

👉 Learn more here: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/healing-program

Doors are currently open, but enrollment is closing at the end of April.
 When we reopen at the end of June, it will be at a new price.

Healing is possible for you.

Rooting for you, always 💜

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

✅Regulating your nervous system, 

✅Responding to symptoms with safety

✅Practicing self-compassion

…but you’re still not feeling better yet, this episode is for you.

Because one of the hardest parts of the healing journey isn’t learning what to do.It’s continuing to do it when it feels like nothing is changing.

In this episode, we’re talking about lagging results — the experience of doing the work without yet seeing symptomatic change.

And more importantly… how to stay in the process without spiraling, doubting yourself, or giving up.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• What “lagging results” actually are (and why they’re normal)
• Why constantly checking your symptoms can keep you stuck
• How urgency and outcome-dependence signal danger to your nervous system
• The real mechanism behind neuroplastic healing (what’s happening beneath the surface)
• Why healing often feels like “nothing is working” right before things start to shift
• The difference between inputs vs outcomes (and where to focus your energy)
• How to stay in the work, even when your brain is telling you it’s not working

The core message:

You are not doing it wrong.

The work is working.

The results are just lagging.

A reframe to take with you:

Healing is not like flipping a switch. It’s more like planting a seed.

For a while… nothing looks different. But underneath the surface, everything is changing.

Reflection questions to support you:

• Where am I measuring success only by symptoms right now?
• What inputs am I consistently providing, even if I can’t feel the results yet?
• What would change if I trusted that my nervous system is rewiring beneath the surface?
• What would it look like to stay in process without needing proof right now?

Want guidance and support?

If this episode resonates and you want guidance and support learning how to consistently ground back into what’s actually in your control, so your energy is moving in the direction of healing, Rachel would love to support you inside her coaching program, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain.

Inside the program, you’ll get a self-paced curriculum grounded in modern pain neuroscience and specifically tailored for healing chronic pelvic pain, along with weekly live group coaching calls where you can ask questions, get clarity, and receive support applying this work to your real symptoms and your real life.

You don’t have to do this alone anymore.You deserve to live a life beyond chronic pelvic pain.

👉 Learn more about the program here

Rooting for you, always

💜 Rachel

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this conversation with psychotherapist and mind-body coach Lauren Garchow, we’re talking about something that doesn’t get nearly enough attention in the healing space: that fun, play, joy, and lightness are POWERFUL healing modalities.

We explore why so many of us struggle to access these states (especially if you’re driven, analytical, or used to pushing through), how pressure builds in the body and contributes to symptoms, and why expanding your life is actually part of how you heal, not something you wait to experience once you’re symptom-free.

This is a grounded, practical conversation that will likely shift how you think about “doing the work.”

Together, We Cover:

• How play, joy, and lightness help regulate your nervous system

• Why fun can feel unsafe or inaccessible (and what to do about it)

• The difference between top-down vs bottom-up healing

• How to start accessing joy when it feels completely out of reach

• Why trying harder can actually make symptoms worse

• The role of self-compassion and acceptance in healing

• How community and co-regulation support your nervous system

• What it looks like to expand your life while you heal

You don’t have to wait until you’re symptom-free to start living your life.

Even small moments of joy, presence, or lightness are doing something meaningful in your nervous system.

This work isn’t about forcing yourself to feel good.It’s about slowly expanding your capacity to experience more of the good.

If fun feels far away right now, start small:

• Listen to a song you love and notice how it feels in your body

• Watch something that makes you laugh (this counts)

• Spend time with someone who feels easy to be around

• Step outside and let your mind take a break

• Notice even one second of something enjoyable

Every little bit counts. 

About Lauren:

Lauren Garchow, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, mind-body coach, and speaker based in Los Angeles, CA. Her own chronic pain healing journey revealed the mind’s powerful ability to change and adapt, igniting a deep passion to support others in their mind-body healing.

As the owner of Lauren G therapy, she focuses on helping women feel at home in their bodies and has guided numerous clients through diverse chronic symptom challenges, including pelvic pain. Her work connects physical symptoms with the broader context of a person’s life, including their experiences, relationships, and identity—empowering clients to explore their minds and bodies with curiosity and compassion.

Lauren deeply values balance in her life. In order for her to show up whole-heartily in this work, she prioritizes having a full life outside of it. A key part of her healing journey was learning to have more FUN and lighten up on herself. She brings this perspective into her work, encouraging clients to cultivate play, creativity, and connection as part of their healing process.

• Website: www.laurengtherapy.com

• Instagram: @laurengarchow

• LinkedIn: Lauren Garchow

 Resources & Upcoming

Somatic Tracking for Dizziness (Live on Curable)March 27 at 10 AM PST→ Join + get 6 weeks free:

Stop Healing Thoughts vs. Keep Healing Thoughts

You’ll learn how to identify the thoughts that pull you out of the process of healing, and how to gently shift into thoughts that help you stay in it long enough for healing to actually happen.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why your thoughts are not the problem, but how you relate to them is

• How your nervous system state influences the thoughts you think

• What “Stop Healing Thoughts” are and how they keep you stuck

• What “Keep Healing Thoughts” are and how they support healing

• Why healing doesn’t require perfect thinking, just staying in the work

• A simple practice to identify your own thought patterns and shift them
  

Your Takeaway Practice:

Take a few minutes and write down:

1. Your Stop Healing Thoughts (What pulls you into fear, hopelessness, or quitting?)

2. Your Keep Healing Thoughts (What helps you take your next step, even when it’s hard?)

This awareness alone can change everything.

Want Support Applying This Work?

If you’re listening and thinking, “Okay, I get this… but how do I actually apply it to my symptoms and my life?”

You don’t have to figure that out alone.

Inside my Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain Healing Program, I walk you through exactly how to do this work step-by-step, with guidance, structure, and support.

You’ll learn how to:

• Understand your symptoms through a mind-body lens

• Reduce fear and nervous system threat

• Build safety in your body

• Return to movement, intimacy, and life

• Stay consistent in the work (even when your brain wants to spiral)
  

✨ Learn more here

You rest. You avoid certain activities. You give it time.

But months pass. Sometimes years. And the pain is still there.

In this episode, Rachel explains why time alone doesn’t heal chronic pelvic pain, and what actually creates healing.

If you've been stuck in the frustrating cycle of waiting and hoping things will improve on their own, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening in your body and why a different approach is needed.

Chronic pain isn’t simply a matter of tissues needing more time to recover. When chronic pelvic pain persists beyond normal healing timelines, it often means the nervous system has learned a protective pattern that continues to generate symptoms even when the body itself is safe.

True healing happens when the nervous system begins to receive new signals of safety.

In this episode, Rachel breaks down the three key areas where safety must be rebuilt in order to retrain the nervous system and move out of chronic pelvic pain.

If you’ve been waiting for time to heal you, this episode will help you understand why that hasn’t worked and what can.

And most importantly, it will remind you that healing is still possible.

In This Episode

• Why it’s completely normal to believe that time will heal chronic pelvic pain
• The difference between acute injury pain and chronic pain
• Why persistent symptoms often mean the nervous system has learned a protective pattern
• How waiting, resting, and avoiding can unintentionally reinforce pain pathways
• The three types of safety your nervous system needs in order to heal
• Why healing chronic pelvic pain requires active nervous system retraining, not just time

Mentioned in This Episode

Listen to the Understanding Pain Series (Episodes 2–6) for a deeper explanation of pain science and neuroplastic symptoms.

Ready to Go Deeper?

If you’re ready to stop waiting for your pain to go away and start actively retraining your nervous system, Rachel invites you to join her coaching program:

Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain

This 4-month coaching container helps you:

• Understand what’s actually driving your symptoms
• Retrain your nervous system out of chronic pain
• Build safety in your body, yourself, and your life
• Return to living a full and empowered life while you heal

The program includes a structured curriculum plus weekly live coaching calls with Rachel for guidance and support as you apply this work to your own body and life.

You can learn more here.

Connect with Rachel

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

I sat down with Jill Mueller, a pelvic health physiotherapist with over 20 years of experience, whose own journey with endometriosis, period pain, and fertility challenges led her to dedicate her career to this work. Jill brings together pain science, nervous system education, and deep clinical expertise in a way that I find genuinely rare in this space.

If you have endometriosis, suspect you might, or have had a procedure and are still in pain, this conversation is for you.

We talk about what endometriosis actually is, why diagnosis is so difficult to access, what surgery can and can't do, and what else beyond the tissue may be driving your pain. We also talk about lifestyle, nervous system regulation, the role of emotional health in healing, and Jill's incredible interdisciplinary program, Endometriosis360.

I hope this episode gives you clarity, and most of all, hope.

In This Episode We Cover:

What endometriosis actually is, and why it's so often misunderstood

The different types of endo and where it can be found in the body

Why diagnosis is so hard to access, and what to look for in a provider

Imaging vs. laparoscopy: what the updated guidelines now say

Ablation vs. excision surgery, and why it matters

Why pain can return after surgery, and what that actually means

The role of the nervous system in driving endo-related pain

Conditioned responses, sensory remapping, and how the brain maps the body

Why support groups can sometimes increase distress rather than reduce it

Lifestyle factors, nutrition, and nervous system resilience

The Endometriosis360 interdisciplinary program

Why hope is not naive. It's necessary.

Resources Mentioned:

Endometriosis Network of Canada: find a provider in Canada

I Care Better (US): find a provider in the US

David Butler's Pin Box demonstration on YouTube (sensory motor dysregulation)

Inside Out 2 (genuinely assigned homework from both of us)

About Jill Mueller:

Jill has been a physiotherapist since 2001, but her passion for pelvic health was born from personal experience. After years of struggling with period pain and fertility challenges due to endometriosis, she shifted her focus to understanding and addressing the complexities of this condition.

Through deep dives into pain science and endometriosis research, Jill recognized a significant gap in education and practical support for those living with endo. Whether working one-on-one, leading group programs, or speaking internationally, she is dedicated to empowering people with pelvic health conditions and equipping healthcare practitioners with the knowledge needed to provide better care.

Jill is also a founding member and lead physiotherapist of Endometriosis360, an innovative interdisciplinary virtual group program designed to help individuals with endometriosis.

Connect with Jill:

Instagram: @endotogether | @endometriosis360 | @oakvillephysio

Websites: www.endotogether.com | www.endometriosis360.ca | www.hbpw.ca

If you’ve been dismissed.If you’ve been misdiagnosed.If you’ve been told your condition is “chronic” (and framed as permanent).

Then…

Of course hope feels naive. Of course it feels embarrassing.Of course your brain wants to protect you from getting your hopes up again (and potentially being disappointed or devastated…again). 

That makes sense. 

And also, we need some hope in order to do the work of healing. 

So, in this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I’m breaking down:

Why your resistance to hope makes sense

How hopelessness becomes a nervous system protection strategy

The real reason your brain avoids hope (hint: it’s not about symptoms)

What’s actually required to allow hope back in

Why hope isn’t magical thinking or forced positivity

How hope directs your brain toward safety and possibility

Because the truth is:

Hope isn’t being delusional. It’s being directional.

What part of you isn’t allowing you to take your next step?

What is that part afraid will happen? • What is it trying to protect you from?

What would it need to know in order to soften, even slightly?

Can you promise yourself self-compassion no matter how this goes?

Because here’s what I truly believe:

It is safer to allow hope and try, than to deny yourself hope and the possibility of change.

If you’re listening and thinking:

“This makes sense… but how do I actually live this?”

This is exactly why I created Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain.

Inside the program, you’ll learn how to:

Understand your pain through a pain science lens

Partner with your nervous system

Build emotional capacity

Stop symptom spirals

Reclaim movement, pleasure, rest, and your LIFE. 

This isn’t about enduring pain. It’s about teaching your nervous system that you no longer need it. 

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

👉 Learn more here

Reflection Questions from This Episode Want Support Applying This?

Healing is possible for you. You’ve got this. And I’m rooting for you, always

Is it journaling? Somatic tracking? Pelvic PT? Breathwork? Visualization?

If you’ve spent any time in the mind-body healing world, you’ve probably heard someone confidently say:

“This is what healed me.” “This is the thing.” “If it’s not working, you’re not doing it right.”

And it’s confusing.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth:

All tools can work. And none of them are magic. Because it’s not about the tool. It’s about the intention behind the tool and the level of safety you’re building in your nervous system.

When chronic pelvic pain is neuroplastic, it’s not about damaged tissue. It’s about a nervous system stuck in protection mode. The practices themselves don’t heal you. What heals is the shift in meaning, fear, and internal safety that those practices create.

In this episode, we explore:

Why the healing industry often markets one tool as the answer
The real reason tools “work” for some people and not others
The difference between urgency-driven practice and safety-driven practice

The 3 categories of safety required for lasting symptom resolution
How to do a “Threat Audit” to identify where your real work is

When I look at healing chronic pelvic pain through a mind-body lens, I see three core areas that must be addressed.

✨ Safety in your body Understanding pain science. Reappraising symptoms. Learning that pain does not automatically mean damage. Teaching your nervous system that you are physically safe and your body isn’t broken.

✨ Safety with yourself Building self-trust. Allowing emotions instead of suppressing them. Practicing uncertainty tolerance. No longer abandoning yourself when symptoms spike. Reducing perfectionism and internal pressure.

✨ Safety in your life Looking honestly at boundaries, stress, relationships, work, routines, and alignment. Making your life feel authentically safe to live.

You likely don’t need more tools. You likely need a framework that helps you systematically build safety in all three areas.

If you’re ready to stop piecing this together on your own, I’d love to support you inside my four month coaching container:

Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain Healing Program

👉 Learn more here

Healing is possible for you. You’ve got this.

Rooting for you, always 💜 Rachel

This is not about blame, fault, or doing everything on your own. It’s about what shifts when you stop waiting for someone or something outside of you to fix this, and take the lead in your own healing.

If you’ve been holding out hope for the next doctor, test, medication, procedure, or protocol to finally be the thing that saves you, this episode gently but honestly explores why outsourcing can keep you stuck, and what becomes possible when you claim radical responsibility for your healing. 

Please note: This episode may feel activating. If you’re not in the place to hear this message yet, that’s okay. You can come back to it when you’re ready.

In this episode, we cover:

What radical responsibility actually means (and what it does not)

Why outsourcing healing reinforces waiting and helplessness

How the Western medical model conditions us to look outside ourselves

The grief that comes with accepting no one else can do this work for you

Why healing must happen inside your own nervous system

Reflection questions to help you apply this shift to your own healing

Reflection Questions from the Episode

Where am I still waiting for someone or something to fix this for me?

What am I afraid will happen if I fully stop outsourcing my healing? 

What feels unfair about having to do this work?

What grief have I not yet allowed myself to acknowledge?

If I stopped waiting today, what would I do differently today, this  week or this month?

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Even though no one can do this work for you, you don’t have to do it alone.

If you want guidance, structure, and support applying this work to your specific symptoms and your life, Rachel offers a coaching program designed specifically for healing chronic pelvic pain.

✨ Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain includes:

A self-paced curriculum grounded in modern pain neuroscience

Weekly live group coaching calls for support and clarity

A grounded, compassionate space to stop waiting and start healing

👉 Learn more about the program here

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, Rachel talks about one of the most important shifts you can make when healing chronic pelvic pain: learning how to tell the difference between what is and isn’t in your control, especially in moments when symptoms are loud. 

When so much of your energy goes toward trying to change symptoms in the moment, it’s easy to feel exhausted, frustrated, and defeated. This episode helps you understand why that happens, and where your real agency and power actually live.

󠁯•󠁏󠁏 Why trying to control symptoms in the present moment often backfires

󠁯•󠁏󠁏 What is not in your control when symptoms flare (and why that matters)

󠁯•󠁏󠁏 What is in your control, and how focusing there supports healing

󠁯•󠁏󠁏 How redirecting your energy helps rewire your nervous system over time

󠁯•󠁏󠁏 Why this shift is hard, and why it gets easier with practice

This episode isn’t about giving up or accepting a life with pain. It’s about stopping the fight that keeps your nervous system stuck in threat and redirecting your energy toward what actually moves healing forward.

If this episode resonates and you want guidance and support learning how to consistently ground back into what’s actually in your control, so your energy is moving in the direction of healing, Rachel would love to support you inside her coaching program, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain.

Inside the program, you’ll get a self-paced curriculum grounded in modern pain neuroscience and specifically tailored for healing chronic pelvic pain, along with weekly live group coaching calls where you can ask questions, get clarity, and receive support applying this work to your real symptoms and your real life.

You don’t have to do this alone anymore. You deserve to live a life beyond chronic pelvic pain.

👉 Learn more about the program here:

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/healing-program

Rooting for you, always 💜 Rachel

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treat

If you deal with anxiety, OCD tendencies, reassurance-seeking, flare fear, or constantly wondering “What if this doesn’t work?”, this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

Why anxiety and OCD are really attempts to create certainty

Why your brain keeps searching for guarantees (and why that never works)

How intolerance of uncertainty keeps your life smaller and more fear-driven

What uncertainty tolerance looks like in both the long-term and the day-to-day

Why allowing the possibility of a flare is part of how healing actually happens

What most people are missing when fear spikes and symptoms return

I’ll also share why so many people feel like they’re “starting over” again and again, and how having a clear framework for moments of fear and uncertainty changes everything.

Free Workshop Invitation

If healing has been feeling like two steps forward and one step back, and every flare makes you feel like you’re starting over, Rachel invites you to join her free live workshop:

How to Stop Starting Over 🗓 Monday, January 26th ⏰ 12 PM Eastern

In this workshop, Rachel will:

Help you understand what’s actually happening in your nervous system during flares

Show you how to respond differently in the moment of fear or symptom spikes

Introduce the Rewiring Recovery Roadmap, her framework for building and sustaining momentum even when symptoms fluctuate

Help you assess what’s been working, what hasn’t, and what to do next

You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and tangible next steps.

👉 Save Your Seat!

Healing is possible for you. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep starting over.

Learn More About My New Coaching Program:

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/healing-program

Add Yourself To The Waitlist For My New Coaching Program: https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/m4wq35ssfl

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, Rachel explores why resistance to a mind-body approach makes so much sense, and why difficulty accepting a neuroplastic diagnosis is often not about disbelief, but about self-protection.

Rachel shares her own journey of initially feeling defeated and offended by the idea that her pain could be related to her nervous system, and unpacks how black-and-white thinking, medical trauma, and systemic failures in women’s healthcare can make neuroplastic explanations feel threatening rather than empowering.

This episode is for you if:

● You’ve ever bristled at the suggestion that your pain might be “your nervous system”

● You’ve felt angry, resistant, or shut down when mind-body work was mentioned

● You worry that accepting a neuroplastic explanation means your pain isn’t real

● You’ve been stuck cycling between medical testing, alternative treatments, and self-doubt

● You want validation and real answers, not dismissal

In this episode, we cover:

● Why mind-body explanations can feel emotionally unsafe after medical gaslighting

● How black-and-white thinking keeps people stuck between “it’s structural” vs “it’s all in my head”

● The very real impact of historical and societal dismissal of women’s pain

● What neuroplastic pain actually is (and what it is not)

● Why ignoring psychosocial context is not ethical care

● How validation and accurate pain science can and should coexist

● Why choosing a mind-body approach is not giving up, but moving forward

● The hidden fear many people carry that “if it’s neuroplastic, I have to heal alone”

Free Workshop Invitation

If healing has been feeling like two steps forward and one step back, and every flare makes you feel like you’re starting over, Rachel invites you to join her free live workshop:

How to Stop Starting Over

🗓 Monday, January 26th

⏰ 12 PM Eastern

In this workshop, Rachel will:

Help you understand what’s actually happening in your nervous system during flares

Show you how to respond differently in the moment of fear or symptom spikes

Introduce the Rewiring Recovery Roadmap, her framework for building and sustaining momentum even when symptoms fluctuate

Help you assess what’s been working, what hasn’t, and what to do next

You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and tangible next steps.

👉 Save Your Seat!

Healing is possible for you. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep starting over.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, I share one simple phrase that carried me through countless moments of panic and despair on my own healing journey:

“This is part of it.”

This phrase helped me stop interpreting flares, fear, and doubt as signs of failure, and instead see them as a predictable part of the healing process.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• How “this is part of it” interrupts the spiral into urgency and despair

• Why outsourcing reassurance never actually brings relief

• The powerful shift from asking “What if I can’t do this?” to “What do I need to support myself through this?”

• How to move from self-doubt into self-support during hard moments

If you’re in the messy middle of healing and questioning whether you’re still on track, this episode is for you.

Nothing has gone wrong.  You can get there from here.

👉 Sign up for the free workshop here: How To Stop Starting Over

Other Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan

🎧 Recommended Listen: “This Is the Part Where” by Kara Lowentheil on the Unf*ck Your Brain* podcast

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

For many people living with chronic pelvic pain, January 1st doesn’t feel like a fresh start. It can feel like a painful marker of how long you’ve been in pain and how much you wish things were different.

In this episode, I talk about why arbitrary time points like New Year’s often work against your nervous system, and how to reflect on your healing journey without turning it into proof that you’re behind or failing.

We cover:

• Why healing has no deadline and doesn’t follow a linear timeline
• How to use reflection without judgment or pressure
• What to look for when assessing progress beyond symptoms
• Why healing can feel like starting and stopping, over and over again
• What actually helps you maintain momentum when symptoms fluctuate

If you’re tired of feeling like every flare means you’re back at square one, I want you to know you’re not doing this wrong. What’s usually missing isn’t effort, it’s clarity.

I also share details about my new FREE live workshop, How to Stop Starting Over, where I’ll teach you how to respond to symptom spikes without spiraling and how to create and sustain momentum  in your healing.

👉 Sign up for the free workshop here: https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/r3freayg1g

You deserve a life beyond chronic pelvic pain. I want to help you get there.

Rooting for you, always 💜

Other Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

We’re talking about why healing can feel unsafe at first — and why an increase in symptoms or discomfort doesn’t automatically mean something has gone wrong. In fact, it’s often a sign that your nervous system is changing. 

You’ll learn the five phases of nervous system rewiring, why awareness can initially amplify symptoms, and how rest, joy, and pleasure can feel threatening when you’ve been oriented to urgency or pain for a long time.

We’ll also talk about the “push–pull” phase and what it really means when your system tries to pull you back toward the familiar.

If you’re in a season where things feel loud or confusing, this episode will help you understand what’s happening — and how to support yourself through it.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why healing often feels worse before it feels better
• How your system interprets all change — even good change — as threat
• The phases of nervous system rewiring
• Why rest, joy, and pleasure can feel unsafe at first
  

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach 

Get your free Pain Flare Plan:

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/painflareplan

Learn more about my course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

This episode validates why relief fades, helps you make sense of the gap, and reinforces that healing is still absolutely possible.

In this episode you’ll hear:

Why pelvic PT isn’t trained to address nervous system drivers

Why tight muscles are a response, not the root cause

Why pain isn’t a reliable guide in chronic symptom rehab

How pelvic PT works best when paired with a mind-body approach

Course Discount Podcast listeners receive fifty dollars off the course with code BEYOND50 before December 3rd, 2025.

Learn more and purchase at: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Links:

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

She shares why pelvic pain really does feel uniquely heavy for many people, and also why it is not different in the ways that determine your ability to heal.

Rachel explores the shame, isolation, fear of infection, medical dismissal, and impact on identity and relationships that often come with chronic pelvic pain. She also explains why the nervous system works the same way no matter where symptoms show up, which means neuroplastic pelvic pain can be unlearned.

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Rachel dives into one of the most common emotional hurdles in mind-body healing: the urgency to heal. That deep, desperate feeling that you need to be better now.

You’ll explore where that urgency really comes from—the fear that this might never go away, the grief for time and experiences lost, and the belief that your life can’t move forward until the pain is gone.

Through compassion, honesty, and practical tools, Rachel helps you:

Understand why your urgency is valid and where it stems from

See how urgency actually keeps your nervous system stuck in protection mode

Learn how to relate differently to the “urgent” part of you with compassion instead of pressure

Shift into safety, trust, and patience so your body can finally do what it’s designed to do—heal

You’ll also hear how adopting the mindset “it takes as long as it takes” can calm your nervous system and speed up the healing process by releasing pressure and fear.

If you’ve been feeling behind, pressured, or afraid you’re running out of time, take a deep breath before you listen. You’re not behind. You’re not out of time. It’s safe for this to take as long as it takes.

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Rachel’s self-paced course, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain, which walks you step-by-step through her mind-body framework for healing. This course will only be available for independent purchase until December 3rd. After that date, it will only be offered through group or 1:1 coaching.

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If you’ve been on a mind-body healing journey and experienced this worry, this episode is for you.

Rachel shares her personal experience navigating infection fears (especially around UTIs) and the framework she now teaches clients for handling those moments with clarity and self-trust instead of panic.

You’ll learn how to tell when to seek medical care, how to support your nervous system (no matter what’s going on), and how to stay grounded in a mind-body approach — even when there’s a possibility of a true infection.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

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In this part two of the belief mini series, Rachel shares how to move forward even when you’re filled with doubt.

You’ll learn how to take action without certainty, work through fears that something was missed medically, and make peace with not being “100% certain” — while still healing.

In this episode:

The two layers of belief: symptoms vs. self

Why waiting for 100% certainty keeps you stuck

How to move forward with doubt (and still make progress)

Listen if you’ve ever thought:

 “I want to believe I can heal... but I’m just not sure.”

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In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’re talking about why belief matters in the process of healing chronic pelvic pain — and how to start building it, even when you don’t feel anywhere close to believing right now.

We’ll explore the neuroscience behind belief (and how your brain literally filters your world through what you already believe), how doubt and skepticism are actually signs of protection — not failure — and why belief isn’t something you have to “just have.” It’s something you build.

If you’ve ever felt like belief was another thing you were “not doing right,” or that you needed perfect belief to heal, this episode will help you reframe what belief really means — and how to begin cultivating it in a way that feels possible for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

⭐ Why belief plays such a powerful role in neuroplastic pain and healing

⭐ How the Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters your reality based on what you believe

⭐ What “belief perfectionism” is and why it keeps so many people stuck

⭐ How to begin building belief even while scared, skeptical, or uncertain

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In today’s episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast,

I’m offering you a short pep talk you can come back to again and again. These are the reminders I wish I’d had in my own hardest moments

This pep talk is designed to support you when you need it most:

✨ During high-sensation, high-distress moments

✨ When fear and frustration feel overwhelming

✨ When you need a reminder that your healing journey is still unfolding

Remember, flares are a normal part of healing.

How you move through them can shift how your brain and body respond in the future.

This episode will help you practice meeting flares with self-compassion, validation, and safety — because you don’t have to navigate them alone.

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Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

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But here’s the truth:

Flares don’t mean you’re failing, and they don’t mean you’re going backwards. They’re actually a normal part of the healing process.

In this episode, I’ll invite you to consider a new way to approach flares — one that doesn’t rely on scrambling to urgently fix your symptoms (which never worked in the first place), but instead helps you soothe your nervous system and move through flares with more safety and ease.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

✨ Why flares happen (and why you don’t need to figure out the “why” in the moment)

✨ The difference between “fixing” your pain vs. “soothing” your nervous system

✨ How to create your own individualized plan to navigate future flares with less fear and more ease

✨ A powerful reframe that helps you see flares as opportunities, not setbacks

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

In this episode, I share:

What outcome independence is and why it matters for healing

Why it feels so hard to practice (and why that’s completely normal)

How radical acceptance and self-compassion are the essential tools that make outcome independence possible

You’ll hear me share my own story of resisting self-compassion, why it felt so uncomfortable at first, and how it ultimately became the key to creating safety with myself and teaching my nervous system that pain was no longer needed.

Listen in and learn how to:

Stop measuring your progress only by whether symptoms change

Practice radical acceptance 

Practice self-compassion

Build a safe and secure relationship with yourself, no matter what your symptoms are doing.

Because the point of this work isn’t to get better at enduring pain — it’s to teach your nervous system that you no longer need it.

✨ Tune in now and start practicing outcome independence with more compassion and ease.

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

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In this episode, I break down:

Why separating “mind” and “body” in Western medicine has left so many people stuck

How pain becomes chronic, and why fear of pain fuels the cycle

The role of chronic stress, trauma, and self-abandonment in keeping your nervous system on high alert

Why pain is a form of protection (not proof of damage)

The four steps of my Pelvic Pain Freedom Formula—a practical framework to help you partner with your nervous system and heal

Here’s the key takeaway I want you to leave with:

If pain is danger, the solution is safety.

This episode will help you understand what a mind-body approach really means—and why it’s the missing link in healing chronic pelvic pain.

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

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That’s the focus of today’s episode, because understanding this difference is one of the most important steps in healing. If your pain is nervous system-generated rather than structural, that means there is so much more hope for your healing. 

You don’t have to be 100% certain right now. Think of this episode as helping you gather clues, like symptoms detective, so you can start to build your case.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

The most common times neuroplastic symptoms begin (stress, trauma, after procedures, or following infections)

Dr. Howard Schubiner’s FIT Criteria—Functional, Inconsistent, Triggered—and how they help identify nervous system-driven pain

Why physical findings like tight muscles or trigger points are real, but most often NOT  the root cause

How to reframe common pelvic pain diagnoses through a neuroplastic lens

Why pain is always real, and determining the type of pain you have helps to guide your approach to healing

If you recognize yourself in even a piece of what I shared today, I want you to know: there is real hope for change. You and your body are always on the same team.

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

 https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

You’ll hear:

The 3 types of pain, and why neuroplastic pain is different

The two main pathways into chronic pelvic pain — (with real-life examples)

How the pain–fear cycle wires pain into the nervous system

Why the brain can learn pain (and also unlearn it)

By the end, you’ll understand:

Chronic pain does not always mean tissue damage

Fear is fuel for pain — but safety is fuel for healing

If the brain can learn pain, it can unlearn it

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):

https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠

https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

You’ll hear:

How the brain decides whether to create pain (and why context matters more than you think)

How tissues heal reliably within predictable timelines

Examples of pain without damage

By the end, you’ll understand:

Your pain is always real, even if it isn’t coming from damaged tissues

Fear and belief play a powerful role in how pain is created and felt

If you’ve ever wondered how you can still hurt after “everything looks normal,” this episode will give you a new, science-backed lens — and more hope than you’ve likely been given before.

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

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Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

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In this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I break down why the old model leaves so many people stuck, scared, and without real answers. Then I introduce the new model of pain: one that recognizes pain as a protective response generated by the brain, not just a signal from the body.

My hope is that this episode gives you a fresh framework for understanding pain — and reassurance that healing is possible, even if past treatments haven’t worked.

Resources & Links:

Follow me on Instagram:⁠ @thepelvicpaincoach⁠

Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/painflareplan⁠

Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: ⁠https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course⁠

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In this first episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I share my personal healing story — from the first confusing symptoms and endless rounds of tests, to the treatments and approaches that didn’t work, and the turning point when I finally discovered the mind-body approach  that changed everything.

Whether you’re brand new to the mind-body approach or have been piecing it together on your own, my hope is that this story offers clarity, validation, and hope that healing is possible for you too.

Resources & Links:

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Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course

Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

I’m Rachel Gofman, pelvic pain coach and physical therapist who’s been where you are. After years of searching for relief and navigating misdiagnoses, I found lasting healing through a mind-body approach, and now I help others do the same.

In this podcast, you’ll learn how to partner with your nervous system, understand the science behind your symptoms, and use practical tools to move from fear and frustration to safety and confidence.

Whether you’re brand new to a mind-body approach or have been exploring it for a while, this show will give you the clarity, tools, and hope you need to get unstuck and return to living a full and empowered life while you heal. 

Your next step toward healing starts now — subscribe and join me each week.

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