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 Book a Grounded Call here: https://calendly.com/johndouglas-coaching/deru-conversation

00:00:00 — Introduction

00:01:09 — Reframing Switching Off

00:02:04 — The Racing Mind

00:03:01 — Being Present at Home

00:04:54 — You Are Not the Business

00:05:52 — The Cost of Pressure

00:08:37 — Fear and Ego

00:11:25 — Your Relationship With Work

00:12:34 — Permission to Rest

00:13:29 — Focus on What You Can Control

00:15:52 — The Impact of Presence

00:16:32 — Who Are You Behind the Titles?

00:17:13 — Closing Remarks

In this conversation he talks about the guilt of taking a walk in the sun. The thinking he did in front of the TV instead of being present with his family. The frustration that had nothing to do with the business and everything to do with what was going on inside him.

Today Ross shows up differently — calmer, more present, more confident in the journey. The difference between then and now — is that Ross stopped long enough to question what he was doing and say yes to putting himself first.

Interested in working with John?
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00:00:00 — Teaser
00:00:33 — Introduction
00:01:34 — Meet Ross Griffin
00:03:25 — Pressure Behind Business Growth
00:06:37 — Self Awareness and Ego
00:10:39 — Changing the Relationship with Business
00:15:19 — Building a Better Culture
00:21:03 — Culture and Profitability
00:25:41 — Advice for Leaders
00:30:03 — Closing Thoughts

If you'd like to connect with Ross,
Email: ross@kosmos.company
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ross-griffin-kosmos/

Have you built the life you've always dreamed of - family, business, team, revenue  but struggle to enjoy it? 

John talks about how constant pressure, responsibility, and the fear of slowing down can quietly lead to burnout and take the enjoyment out of the process.

He introduces the Smart Freedoms Framework, a five layer approach to creating a more aligned and fulfilling life. It focuses on Spiritual, Mental, Action, Resource, and Time freedom, showing how your internal state directly shapes your external results.

Through the analogy of a drill stuck in reverse, John highlights how pushing harder doesn’t always move you forward if you’re not aligned.

Instead, he encourages a shift toward freedom, flow, and being intentional with how you build both your work and your life.

For more on the Deru approach to leadership from the inside out, visit www.derunation.com

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Taking Breaks & Enjoying the Process

00:03:15 – Why Joy Matters in Leadership

00:04:08 – SMART Freedoms Framework

00:07:08 – Mental Clarity & Aligned Action

00:10:39 – Time Freedom Explained

00:13:32 – The Drill Analogy

00:15:40 – Building Real Freedom

00:17:21 – Reflection & Closing

Sequence of Topics Covered

Introduction & Context
 • Enjoying what you build
 • Feeling trapped by pressure

Understanding Pressure
 • Constant pressure and burnout
 • Why slowing down feels hard

SMART Freedoms Framework
 • Overview of the five freedoms
 • Working from the inside out

Alignment & Action
 • Focusing on what actually matters
 • Time and energy going to the right places

Closing Reflection
 • Freedom vs feeling stuck
 • Building a life you enjoy

In this episode of the Grounded Man Podcast, host John Douglas explores the constant pressure faced by men building businesses and supporting their families.

He breaks down the difference between the chosen pressure of an exciting challenge versus the constant pressure that slowly drains your energy and headspace.

John explains that pressure is not coming from your responsibilities, but from how you relate to them internally, often driven by fear, scarcity, and unconscious conditioning.

He unpacks how the fear of loss, failure, and rejection keeps many men stuck in a cycle of tension and overthinking.

By shifting toward an abundance mindset, practicing presence, and building self awareness, you can begin to release unnecessary pressure.

This allows you to lead with more clarity, freedom, and enjoyment in both your business and your life.

For more on the Deru approach to leadership from the inside out, visit www.derunation.com

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@derunation

Timestamps

00:00:00 — Introduction

00:01:17 — What Constant Pressure Feels Like

00:02:15 — Chosen vs Constant Pressure

00:04:08 — Pressure is Internal

00:05:05 — Fear and Pressure

00:08:00 — The Cost of Indecision

00:09:52 — Scarcity Mindset

00:10:56 — Moving to Abundance

00:15:35 — Presence and Letting Go

00:17:45 — Observe When Pressure Rises

00:20:03 — Closing Thoughts

Sequence of Topics Covered

Introduction & Context
 • Podcast purpose and eliminating pressure

Understanding Pressure
 • What constant pressure feels like
 • Hidden burnout and mental weight

Chosen vs Constant Pressure
 • Growth vs draining pressure

Pressure is Internal
 • Driven by perception and the future

Fear and Scarcity
 • Fear of loss and survival thinking
 • Scarcity mindset

Shifting to Abundance
 • Energy is abundant
 • Focus on what you can control

Presence and Letting Go
 • Acting with clarity and faith
 • Detaching from outcomes

Root Causes of Pressure
 • Conditioning and need to prove

Self Awareness Practice
 • Noticing tension and asking why

Freedom from Pressure
 • Leading with presence and freedom

In this episode of the Grounded Man Podcast, host John Douglas explores the relationship between responsibility and pressure for hardworking men building businesses and providing for their families.

John explains that pressure doesn’t come from responsibility itself, but from how we carry it.

He breaks responsibility into three categories: what you control (thoughts, actions, mindset), what you influence but don’t control (family, team, business), and what’s entirely outside your control (others’ reactions, outcomes).

By focusing your energy on what you can control and trusting yourself and the process, you can carry responsibility more effectively and experience greater freedom.

For more on the Deru approach to leadership from the inside out, visit www.derunation.com

Timestamps

00:01:21 — Analogy: Manual Labor and Carrying Weight

00:02:16 — Redefining Responsibility and Pressure

00:03:19 — Energy, Cause and Effect

00:04:26 — Focus on What You Can Control

00:05:28 — Building Site Analogy

00:07:33 — The Role of Trust

00:08:32 — Three Categories of Responsibility

00:13:01 — Letting Go of the Uncontrollable

00:13:51 — Trusting the Process and Sharing the Load

00:16:01 — Building a Strong Relationship with Yourself

00:17:03 — Conclusion and Call to Action 

Sequence of Topics Covered

Introduction & Context

• Responsibility vs. pressure
• Pressure comes from how it’s carried

Analogy: Carrying Weight

• Manual labor analogy
• Carrying properly vs. poorly

Redefining Responsibility

• Responsibility is ownership, not stress
• Separating pressure from responsibility

Control vs. Outcomes

• Focus on actions, not results
• Let go of trying to control everything

The Role of Trust

• Lack of trust creates pressure
• Overcontrol leads to burnout

Three Categories of Responsibility

• What you control
• What you influence
• What you can’t control

Letting Go & Trusting the Process

• Shift focus to inputs
• Share responsibility with others

Self-Leadership & Application

• Build self-trust and awareness
• Lead without pressure

Conclusion

• Reflect and apply
• Share the message

In this episode, John Douglas talks about what leadership really means today.

He explains how leadership is shifting away from just hard work and control, and toward mindset, energy, and self-mastery. Your internal state doesn’t just affect you. It shapes your business, your team, and your family.

John encourages letting go of outdated habits, taking personal responsibility, and showing up in a way that naturally inspires others.

Leadership isn’t just about what you do. It starts with how you show up.

When you lead with the right energy and direction, people step up, ownership grows, and results improve without constant pressure.

If you want to lead with purpose, clarity, and calm, this episode is for you.

For more on the Deru approach to leadership from the inside out, visit www.derunation.com

Timestamps

00:00:00 — Improving leadership through energy

00:04:25 — Everything starts from within

00:09:29 — Modern leadership and inner mastery
 

00:10:38 — Focus on self-leadership first

00:16:19 — Focusing on personal growth

Sequence of Topics Covered

Introduction & Context

• Changing expectations of younger generations regarding leadership
• The importance of leading with purpose, presence, and peace of mind
• Purpose of The Grounded Man Podcast
• Vision for leadership in the 21st century

What is Leadership?

• Definition: Influence and inspiration of others and events
• Leverage: Influencing without direct involvement
• Challenges: Team members not stepping up or taking responsibility

The Role of Energy in Leadership

• Self-leadership’s impact on others
• Understanding energy: frequency and vibration
• Reference to Nikola Tesla’s views on vibration and frequency
• Numbers as the basis for scientific and business progress

Influence through Energy and Identity

• Ripple effect metaphor: pebble in a pond
• Individual energy, identity, and behaviors shaping outcomes and environment
• Attraction of similar energy; repulsion of dissimilar energy
• Positive and negative states attracting corresponding outcomes
• The futility of expecting positive results from a negative state

Identity in Business Leadership

• Fixer vs. Creator identities:
  • Fixer: solving others’ problems, making decisions for others, drained of energy
  • Creator: visionary, strategist, culture builder, empowers others
• Shifting from front-line doer to leader and organizer
• Value of self-perception as a leader
• Growth into leadership, not being born a leader

In this episode, John Douglas talks about why so many hardworking men still feel stuck even when they are doing everything right.

He breaks down the idea that freedom is not something you earn later, but something you learn to live now.

Instead of constantly reacting to pressure, expectations, and responsibilities, this episode focuses on leading from within. It is about understanding your identity beyond titles, letting go of fear-driven patterns, and building a sense of control that does not depend on external success.

If you have ever felt like you are working hard but still not free, this episode will shift how you see it.

Learn more: https://www.derunation.com

Timestamps

00:00:00 — The Inner Game of Leadership
 Mastering your inner world vs chasing external success

00:01:22 — The Flawed Belief About Freedom
 Why waiting for “someday” keeps you stuck

00:02:21 — Freedom as a Way of Life
 Shifting from future thinking to present living

00:03:23 — Your Default Emotional State
 How your internal state shapes your reality

00:04:23 — Working from the Inside Out
 Creating results from within, not reacting outside

00:07:43 — The Cost of Survival Mode
 Success at the expense of health, family, and peace

00:08:42 — Mastering Yourself for Peace
 Focusing on what you can actually control

00:10:50 — Working With Life, Not Against It
 Alignment vs ego-driven resistance

00:12:09 — The Million Dollar Question: Who Am I?
 Identity beyond roles, titles, and expectations

00:13:10 — Understanding the Ego and Status
 How ego quietly drives your decisions

00:16:10 — Spiritual Growth as “Unbecoming”
 Letting go of fear and limiting beliefs

In this debut episode of The Grounded Man Podcast, host John Douglas explores the shift from traditional, physically-driven strength to a new form of inner strength essential for today’s leaders.

He breaks down how constant connectivity and modern pressures demand emotional, mental, and spiritual resilience not just hard work. John encourages men to master their inner game, create space for reflection, and lead from freedom rather than pressure.

This episode sets the foundation for becoming a grounded, balanced man in today’s world.

Learn more: https://www.derunation.com

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Introduction & Podcast Purpose
John introduces the podcast, its mission, and the focus on mastering the inner game of leadership.

00:01:16 – Upcoming Episodes & Mission Statement
Overview of future episodes and the mission to help men change their mindset and outlook on leadership.

00:03:27 – Defining Strength & The Grounded Man
Explains what strength means today, the concept of being grounded, and the origin of "Daru."

00:04:32 – Old Strength: Previous Generations
Describes traditional strength—physical endurance and hard work—exemplified by fathers and grandfathers.

00:05:37 – Changing World & 24/7 Connectivity
Discusses how technology has created a nonstop world, increasing mental and emotional load.

00:07:52 – Language of Business & The Need to Think
Explores war-like business language and the importance of making space for reflection and thought.

00:08:56 – Willpower, Reactivity, and Inner Mastery
Highlights the power of will, the dangers of constant reactivity, and the need for inner mastery.

00:09:53 – New Strength: Enjoying the Work
Contrasts old and new strength, emphasizing the energy needed to enjoy work and avoid being owned by it.

00:11:01 – Self-Care & Energy Management
Stresses the importance of recovery, self-care, and giving energy to oneself in an always-on world.

00:11:55 – Overcoming Fear & Expanding Responsibility
Addresses overcoming fear, taking personal responsibility, and being present for family and community.

00:12:57 – Reflection & Call to Action
Encourages listeners to reflect on their current work style and make changes from within.

00:14:07 – Conclusion & Invitation to Share
Wraps up the episode, invites feedback, and encourages sharing the podcast with others.