What if the medicine you need is growing right under your feet ?

 We sit down with horticulture Qu, founder of NY Wellness Collective, to talk about how anxiety pushed  him  towards herbal healing-- and changed how he see the world.

 From Valerian Root  to Burdock and milk thistle, Qu breaks down how we've been walking past real medicine every day... while chasing  trends that don't last. 

Because Maybe the problem isn't that we are lacking solutions...
 
Maybe were just stepping over them.

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This episode challenges how we think about grace, personal responsibility, and real change, while touching on gratitude, healing, parenthood, and the standards we live by.
Because at some point, you have to ask:
Are we actually growing… or just getting comfortable?
No perfection. No pretending.
Just perspective that forces you to think—and take a real look at yourself.

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This episode almost never saw the light of day.

It’s a little glitchy—but the conversation? Too real to keep hidden.

We sat on this one for a while… but some conversations don’t wait for perfect conditions. So instead of pulling the plug—we pulled the trigger.

This episode is packed with laughs, raw moments, and thought-provoking questions that hit deeper than expected.

 Heads up: If you’re here for visuals, this one leans more into the audio experience—but trust us, it still delivers.

Sometimes the imperfect ones hit the hardest.

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Episode 11 dives into the conversations we feel—but don’t always know how to handle.

From how our emotional state shapes the way we think and experience life, to what it really means to “hold space” in relationships, this episode challenges the way we listen, respond, and show up for each other.

Because it’s easy to hear someone when it’s not about you…

but can you still listen when it is?

We unpack emotional expression, emotional safety, and the tension between support and exhaustion—while asking the question most people avoid:

If you expect to be heard… can you do the same when it’s about you?

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Episode 10.

Most podcasts don’t make it this far… but we did.

And instead of celebrating with something light, we leaned into something real:

Can you actually forgive?

Not the version people post about…
Not the “we’re good now” version…
The real kind.

The kind where:
 • the trust is still broken
 • the memory still hurts
 • and nothing goes back to how it was

We break down the truth about forgiveness:

Forgiveness isn’t a feeling.
It’s a decision.

It doesn’t erase consequences.
And it definitely doesn’t restore everything.

Most importantly…
forgiveness means someone absorbs the cost.

The question is — who pays?

Episode 10 is full of surprises, glitches but were committed to delivering  your favorite pod to you.

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In Episode 9, the Menaces unpack a tension most people feel but rarely admit: why do people say they want leadership… but resist being led?

From relationships to workplaces to culture at large, everyone talks about wanting strong leadership, direction, and structure. But the moment accountability shows up, the conversation changes. We explore the difference between wanting guidance and actually accepting authority, and why following may be harder than leading.

As always, the conversation goes beyond the main topic. The Menaces move through their usual segments, real-life examples, and some unfiltered opinions along the way.

In Debate Club, we throw another question on the table:
Is jealousy a natural human emotion—or just insecurity dressed up as something justified?

Honest conversations. Different perspectives. A little chaos.

Welcome back to Wholesome Menace.

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Stephane, Crys Marie and Rissa Lynn dive into a question that sits at the center of modern culture: are we confusing manhood and womanhood with performance expectations.

Is a man only a man if he provides?
Is a woman only a woman if she's soft. nurturing or agreeable?
or have we turned identity into a checklist of roles people are expected to  perform. 

In this episode, the Menaces unpack where these expectations come from. We talk to Humble Vibes on the phone, our first call. 

We stretched  our pod legs with this one, from deep  introspection to  rib hitching humor, we took the journey throughout all.

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Who said we have to be friends to raise kids?

Somewhere along the way, co-parenting became synonymous with forced closeness. But is friendship required — or just respect?

In Episode 7, we challenge the narrative.

We talk boundaries. Ego. Emotional access.

And why maturity sometimes looks like distance — not dinner.

We’re not friends. Respectfully.

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Are men and women capable of being “just friends”?

We explore attraction without obligation, discipline over impulse, and the difference between desire and decision. Crystal shares her experience with male friendships that stayed platonic. Stephane challenge the idea that attraction automatically means something has to happen. Because maybe maturity isn’t about pretending attraction doesn’t exist —maybe it’s about mastering it.

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Why does everything feel urgent… yet nothing feels important?

In this episode, we unpack the tension between urgency and intention. In a world that constantly demands our attention, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and distracted. But what happens when you know exactly what you’re building?

Crystal shares her perspective on working two jobs, moving at a relentless pace, and making intentional sacrifices — not because everything is chaotic, but because everything is connected to a larger vision.

We explore the difference between reacting to noise and moving with purpose.

Is everything urgent?

Or does it only feel that way when we lose sight of the bigger picture?

If you’ve ever felt busy but unsure if it’s meaningful — this conversation is for you.

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Everyone wants Trust.

Everyone wants  Certainty.

 But when you can't have both- what do you pick?

 Episode 4 explore why this hits a nerve and what it reveals  about relationships, survival, and belief. 

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Who are we?

A loaded question—but a necessary one.

We’re your fellow Wholesome Menaces. Just like you.

Moms. Dads. Siblings. Adults out here doing our best.

We’re navigating life in real time—love, failure, faith, relationships, money, growth—all of it. Not as experts, but in community, learning out loud.

In this minisode, we briefly unpack our origin story: how we came together, and how we became your favorite Wholesome Menaces.

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In this Episode Crystal, Rissa and Stephane take on one of the biggest questions in modern relationships.  Marriage: Is It worth it? 

 In 2026, we drop the fairytales or the delusions around the pinnacle goal of romantic relationships and are convinced, marriage is a worthy ideal but not for the reasons people usually give.  

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In this episode, we unpack a question that quietly defines modern dating: do the rules of dating still matter or we better off going with the flow?

This week's conversation challenges the idea that undefined relationships are neutral, exposing the cost of ambiguity and asks whether rules are restrictive or freeing. 

In reality whether you set terms or not - a decision is being made. 

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What actually makes attraction collapse into disgust? In this episode of Wholesome Menace, we examine the ick- that instant shift where desire gives way to aversion, and what once felt intimate suddenly feels intolerable. 

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Welcome to Wholesome Menace.  This mini-episode introduces  the heart, vision and mindset behind the show.  Hosted by Crys Marie, Stephane and Rissa Lynn, this podcast exists for people who are tired of surface-level conversations and performative positivity. We talk, we laugh, we expose our own contradictions and grow in understanding  and accountability. We hope you enjoy this sneak peak and  as always Stay Wholesome but don't forget to be a Menace. 

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