In this episode and Season Finale, we unpack the unspoken rules, hidden truths, and silent struggles that live behind closed doors. From family secrets to generational patterns. We're talking about how silence can protect, but also harm. 

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In this episode, we get real about the energy people bring when they’re hurting and how easily it can spill over onto you. Not everyone clapping for you is genuinely happy, and not everyone criticizing you is actually right. Sometimes, people project their own insecurities, failures, and pain in an attempt to pull you into a space you’ve already outgrown.

We talk about what it looks like when others try to highlight your flaws, minimize your growth, or make you question your worth. More importantly, we break down how to stay grounded, protect your peace, and keep rising anyway. This is about recognizing the difference between constructive feedback and disguised negativity, setting boundaries without guilt, and choosing not to carry what was never yours.

If you’ve ever felt like someone was trying to dim your light, this conversation will remind you why you don’t have to shrink to make others comfortable.

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This episode unpacks the quiet, consuming need to be chose first. The kind that does not come from ego, but from somewhere deeper. From being overlooked, almost picked, or made to feel like an option, we learn to crave certainty in places that only offer hesitation. This is about the difference between being wanted and being chosen, and what it costs when you keep accepting less.

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In this episode, we’re talking about that moment every therapist, parent, partner, or human hits eventually. When the intervention just ain’t intervening. You’ve tried the skills, you’ve pulled out the strategies, you’ve run the whole playbook… and still? Crickets.

Dequan and Darnesha break down why interventions sometimes fall flat, how to know when it’s time to pivot, and what to do when your usual tools stop toolin’. We dive into real-life examples, mindset shifts, and practical ways to remix your approach without burning yourself out.

Whether you’re a clinician, a caregiver, or just trying to keep your own life in order, this episode will help you stop forcing what isn’t working and start choosing what actually moves the needle.

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In this episode, we’re talking about accountability—the part of growth most people try to avoid. We unpack the habits we blame on others, the excuses we hold onto, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes… we’re the problem. This conversation challenges you to take a step back, look inward, and own your role in your own life. Because real growth starts when the finger-pointing stops. If you’re ready to level up for real, this one’s for you.

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Have you ever felt like something must be wrong with you just because you need help? In this episode, we unpack the harmful belief that seeking support means you’re “crazy,” weak, or broken.

We talk about where this mindset comes from, how it keeps people stuck in silence, and why asking for help is actually a sign of self-awareness and strength, not failure. Whether it’s therapy, leaning on loved ones, or simply admitting you’re not okay, you deserve support without shame.

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In this episode, De’Quan and Darnesha talk about the emotional weight of waiting for an apology that may never come. When someone who hurt you refuses—or simply isn’t capable of taking accountability—it can leave you stuck between pain, confusion, and unanswered questions.

Together, they explore how holding on to the expectation of an apology can keep us trapped in cycles of hurt. Through honest conversation and real-life perspective, they discuss the importance of self-validation, emotional boundaries, and learning how to find closure without relying on someone else’s acknowledgment.

This episode challenges listeners to rethink what healing looks like and reminds us that peace is still possible—even when the apology never comes. 

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Confidence isn’t always about being the loudest person in the room — sometimes it’s about the quiet battle happening in your mind.

Insecurities have a way of showing up when you’re about to step into something bigger. They whisper things like “You’re not ready,” “You’re not good enough,” or “What if you fail?” And if you’re not careful, those thoughts can start running the show.

But here’s the truth: insecurities don’t mean you lack confidence — they mean you’re human. The real question is whether you let them control your decisions.

Every time you choose to show up anyway… speak up anyway… try anyway… you weaken the grip those insecurities have on you.

Your confidence isn’t something you wait to feel.
It’s something you build through action.

So ask yourself: Are your insecurities protecting you… or are they blocking the person you’re meant to become?

🎙️ Catch this week’s episode of Trigger Happy Hour where we talk about how insecurities shape our confidence — and how to stop letting them hold us back.

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Social media is one of the most powerful tools of our time. It connects us instantly, gives us a platform to share our voices, promotes businesses, builds communities, and even creates movements. From staying in touch with family across the country to finding support groups that truly understand your struggles, social media can be a lifeline. It has helped people build brands, launch careers, and feel less alone in the world.

But at the same time, it can quietly chip away at our mental and emotional health. Constant comparison, unrealistic standards, curated highlight reels, and the pressure to always be “on” can create anxiety, low self-esteem, and even depression. We scroll through filtered lives and start questioning our own. We measure worth in likes, followers, and comments. Sometimes we’re more connected digitally than we are emotionally.

The truth is, social media isn’t inherently good or bad — it’s a tool. The impact depends on how we use it. Are we consuming content that inspires us or content that drains us? Are we connecting authentically or performing for validation? Are we using it intentionally, or is it using us?

Like most things, balance is key. Boundaries matter. Logging off is healthy. Curating your feed is self-care. Social media can build community, but it should never replace real connection, self-worth, or peace of mind.

The real question isn’t just whether social media is helping or hurting us.

It’s: Are we in control of it — or is it in control of us?

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In this episode of Trigger Happy Hour, we unpack what self-care really means beyond bubble baths and days off. Self-care isn’t about escaping life — it’s about learning how to show up for yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically so you can show up better for everything and everyone else.

We talk about the difference between self-care and avoidance, why so many people feel guilty for choosing themselves, and how burnout, people-pleasing, and survival mode can make rest feel uncomfortable. Through honest conversation and real-life examples, we explore how setting boundaries, slowing down, and checking in with yourself can become acts of healing instead of selfishness.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted, overlooked, or unsure how to pour into yourself without feeling guilty, this episode is for you. Because taking care of yourself isn’t quitting — it’s maintenance for your mind, your body, and your peace.

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Ever catch yourself standing in your own way and thinking, “Why do I always do this?” 👀

This week’s episode of Trigger Happy Hour gets real about self-sabotage—the habits, thoughts, and patterns that quietly block our growth, relationships, and peace. We’re unpacking why we self-sabotage, where it comes from, and how fear, comfort, and past experiences can have us choosing what’s familiar over what’s healthy.

If you’ve ever questioned why things fall apart right when they’re getting good… this conversation is for you. Tap in, reflect with us, and let’s start calling self-sabotage out instead of letting it run the show. 🍸🎙️

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In today’s episode of Trigger Happy Hour, we’re having an honest, compassionate conversation about what it really means to parent a child with special needs. From the emotional weight of diagnosis to navigating therapy appointments, school systems, advocacy, and relationships, we unpack the parts of this journey that are often left unspoken.

Darnesha shares her personal experience raising a daughter on the autism spectrum, touching on isolation, grief, exhaustion, envy, and the constant balancing act of showing up for everyone while running on empty. We also discuss the very real challenges parents face—IEPs, OT, speech and behavioral therapy, lack of support, and the emotional toll that can come with it.

But this episode isn’t just about the hard parts. We highlight the resilience, strength, creativity, and deep love that parents of special needs children develop along the way. We talk practical coping tools, advocacy, self-care that actually fits into real life, and the importance of building support systems that remind you that you don’t have to do this alone.

This episode is for the parents, caregivers, and anyone who wants to better understand this journey. Your feelings are valid. Your work matters. And you are not alone. 🤍

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Welcome to the Trigger Happy Hour — where we take shots of the truth straight, no chase.

Today’s topic? Toxic Relationships.

In this episode, we’re getting real about what toxicity really looks like — not just the dramatic stuff, but the subtle, sneaky patterns we often overlook until we’re deep in it.

We break down:

✔ What truly defines a toxic relationship (it’s more than just arguing)

✔ How manipulation, inconsistency, gaslighting, and emotional unavailability show up

✔ Why we stay even when it hurts — the trauma bonds, the hope, the cycles

✔ The emotional, mental, and physical impact toxicity has over time

And most importantly, we talk about:

✔ How to recognize your own triggers

✔ How to set boundaries that don’t fold under pressure

✔ How to reclaim your peace, your self-worth, and your voice

✔ What healthy connection actually looks like after toxicity

Whether you’re healing from a breakup, questioning a friendship, navigating family drama, or simply working on your own patterns, this episode gives you clarity, language, and tools to break cycles — not your spirit.

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Welcome to the Trigger Happy Hour. Where we take shots of the truth straight with no chase. Today's topic will be Psychological Safety.

In this episode, we break down the powerful concept of psychological safety. -What it is, why it’s essential for healthy relationships, friendships, and workplaces, and how you can begin strengthening it in your daily life.

We explore the core elements of psychological safety, including:
✔ Feeling safe to express thoughts and emotions
✔ The importance of trust, respect, and open communication
✔ How fear, shame, and criticism shut people down
✔ Strategies to build safer spaces for connection and growth


Whether you’re a mental health professional, a parent, a leader, or someone working on personal growth, this episode equips you with insights to help yourself feel more supported, confident, and empowered.

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Come to the Trigger Happy Hour. Where we take shots of the truth straight with no chase. Today's topic is Seasonal Depression.

Feeling low as the days get shorter? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive into seasonal depression What it is, why it happens, and practical strategies to cope.

We discuss:
Common symptoms of seasonal depression
Coping techniques to manage low energy, sadness, and grief
Tips for self-care and staying connected during challenging seasons

Whether you experience SAD yourself or want to support a loved one, this episode provides insights and actionable strategies to get through the darker months.

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In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of being ghosted; when someone disappears without a word and leaves you with more questions than closure. We break down why ghosting happens, how it impacts your self-esteem, and what it reveals about communication patterns, attachment styles, and emotional maturity.

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In this episode, we explore the deeply personal and often painful experience known as church hurt which include the emotional or spiritual wounds that occur within faith communities. We discuss how unmet expectations, misuse of authority, gossip, judgment, and exclusion can lead to feelings of betrayal and disconnection from both people and faith. Through honest reflection and practical insight, this episode highlights the process of acknowledging pain, setting boundaries, and rebuilding trust with both God and community. Listeners will gain tools for healing, forgiveness, and reclaiming spiritual connection without minimizing their experiences.

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Welcome to the debut episode of Trigger Happy Hour! In this first conversation, we’re diving deep into triggers . What they are, how they show up in our daily lives, and why they affect us the way they do. We’ll talk about identifying your personal triggers, recognizing the signs when they surface, and practical ways to manage them with self-awareness and compassion. Grab your favorite drink and join us as we create space for honest reflection, emotional growth, and a little bit of laughter along the way.

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