After a little break, we’re back with something different: friends visiting us in Barcelona. Ryan and Antoinette (plus their daughter Aubrey—one of Amalia’s best friends) came over from the Bay Area, and we got to experience the city through fresh eyes again… while also sprinting straight into a four-day detour to Vienna’s Christmas markets because apparently we enjoy making travel logistics as intense as possible.

What we cover in Episode 9

1) The “power through” travel strategy (and why it worked)

Because winter means no direct SFO → Barcelona flights, our friends routed through Miami—then landed in Barca, had a quick reset, and we immediately turned around for Austria. The surprising part: powering through actually helped them flip to Europe time fast.

2) Vienna Christmas markets: magical, cold, and dangerously snackable

We hit multiple markets across the city—each with a totally different vibe: huge ones with skating rinks, palace backdrops, cozy alley markets, and everything in between. The running theme? Everything felt “fresh.” Hot donuts, giant pretzels, and the kind of holiday atmosphere that makes you forget you’re on your third pastry of the day.

3) The metro ticket mistake that almost got Ryan “arrested” (twice)

Vienna’s transit system is smooth… unless you don’t realize you have to stamp your ticket in the little blue validation box. We got checked by a wall of yellow vests doing ticket inspections, tried our best “confused tourist” routine, and then Ryan somehow got checked again while hunting for the elusive blue box like it was an escape room challenge.

4) The real cost of holiday markets (and why it was still worth it)

Yes, some souvenirs felt pricey (ornaments, nutcrackers, etc.). But we also talk about the difference between “tourist pricing” and the fact that a lot of what you’re buying is genuinely handcrafted—and honestly, part of it is paying for the memory of being there.

5) Back in Barcelona: seeing the city through your friends’ eyes

We hit the Gothic Quarter, Gràcia, and the beach—plus some nightlife and Gaudí. And it’s wild how having friends here makes us fall in love with Barcelona all over again—you notice details you stopped seeing once daily life took over.

6) The food quality gap (including… Five Guys?!?)

We get into what visitors notice immediately: food feels cheaper and higher quality, even at places you’d never expect. The shocker of the episode: Five Guys in Barcelona somehow tasted better than Five Guys back home (we said what we said).

7) Kids’ POV: freedom + friendship

Aubrey and Amalia jump in to talk about what it’s like being 11 in Barcelona, visiting best friends, and having more independence walking around than they’d have back in the U.S.

Practical takeaways (stuff you’ll actually use)

• If you’re going to Vienna: validate/stamp your metro tickets (the blue box is not optional).
• Christmas markets: go earlier than you think—it gets packed, and it’s dark surprisingly early anyway.
• Hotels in Austria: list the correct number of guests when booking—apparently it’s a legal requirement.
• Visiting Barcelona during the holidays: expect some rainy days, but the city still delivers—especially the lights, walkability, and neighborhoods that all feel distinct.

Visuals we’ll add to the post

• Photos of each Vienna market (Rathausplatz, Schönbrunn, Stephansplatz, etc.) + the “mug” souvenir situation
• Barcelona lights in the Gothic Quarter + Gràcia street scenes
• A beach shot from Gavà Mar (and the “we could retire here” moment)

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like w

We’ve officially entered the “trough of disillusionment.”

That magical phrase every expat hears about but hopes won’t apply to them. Turns out—it does.

This week, we’re talking about what happens after the honeymoon. When the novelty fades, the logistics pile up, and the question “how long are we staying?” starts sounding less hypothetical.

But first, big news:

After weeks of checking Spain’s football federation site hourly, Sara finally saw the word “Approved.”

Amalia can now officially play for her Barcelona team. There were tears (Sara’s), relief (mine), and a collective lifting of the dark cloud that had hovered over our weekends.

With that, we started asking ourselves—what else can we do to make life here better?

I actually made a list. Seven things, to be exact:

1. Amalia’s soccer approval. Check. ✅
2. Hire a driver. Because spending four hours in traffic to soccer practice isn’t romantic.
3. Reclaim our terrace. We’re adding a netted play area so the kids can actually use it.
4. Get organized. Enter the Skylight Calendar, our new family command center.
5. Find a finca. Somewhere an hour outside the city, for weekend escapes.
6. Maybe (maybe) get a dog. Jury’s still out.
7. Travel more. Because part of moving abroad is remembering to explore it.

We also get into some real talk:

• How living in a big city changes the way you experience time.
• Sara’s Sunday struggles (everything’s closed—and she’s not over it).
• The not-so-warm warmth of Catalonian service culture.
• And why no one here cuts their pizza slices for you. (Still a mystery.)

There’s also some joy sprinkled in—paddle matches with new friends, morning rides on my new Brompton bike, discovering an incredible Ecuadorian hole-in-the-wall (El Nano), and the best Indian food we’ve found in Barcelona (Shanti—highly recommend).

Somewhere in between, home started meaning two places at once.

San Francisco felt like home when I visited. But so does Barcelona. And maybe that’s the point—home isn’t one address anymore, it’s a balance between them.

We’re learning that expat life isn’t an escape. It’s just a different kind of living—with its own rhythms, challenges, and tiny joys.

🎧 Listen to Episode 7 of Bay to Barca:

“The Honeymoon’s Over” — now streaming on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

She arrived with equal parts curiosity and chaos, ready to explore the city we now call home. Within days she’d covered more of Barcelona on foot than we had in ten weeks. From the labyrinthine alleys of the Gothic Quarter to lazy afternoons in Turó Park, she gave us fresh eyes on our adopted city—and a reminder that sometimes you need a visitor to help you see what’s right in front of you.

Her verdict? Barcelona is absurdly clean, shockingly safe, and unfairly filled with good-looking people. Also, if you’re “socio-economically blessed,” you’ll do just fine here.

We covered it all:

• 🧼 Clean streets & kind strangers: Ritu was amazed by how respectful people are on public transport—offering seats to parents and elders.
• 💸 The myth of cheap Spain: Groceries and coffee? Cheap. Manicures and tattoos? Apparently, luxury experiences.
• 🏰 Tourist tips: Book your Sagrada Familia tickets way in advance—trust us, we learned the hard way.
• 🐶 Dogs everywhere: Dog-friendly everything, but apparently, “don’t pet the dogs.”
• 💬 Cultural quirks: Catalonians are humble, efficient (ish), and quietly kind.
• 🏍️ And yes… my scooter got stolen. (Pro tip: Don’t have financial tragedy when your sister is visiting.)

We also talked about the kids—how shockingly well they’ve adapted. Amalia’s off at her first sleepover, Milan’s already on the pitch, and our youngest, Savana, has charmed everyone in sight.

And somewhere between the laughter, police calls, and late-night gelato, we found a little more rhythm in this life abroad.

The episode ends with a debate about the name Tapas & Therapy. Sara thinks we should change it to Bay to Barcelona. My sister insists. Sara agrees. I protest. (Democracy in action, apparently.)

So—help us decide.

Do we stay Tapas & Therapy… or embrace Bay to Barcelona? Drop your vote in the comments.

Either way, we’re keeping the tapas.

And, apparently, renting a new scooter.

It started innocently. “What do we need for sign-ups?” we asked. The coach smiled: “El padrón.” Cue a scavenger hunt across acronyms and offices—OAC, CAP, Ajuntament—and a crash course in the difference between what you think you need and what the lovely person at the desk actually asks for.

Here’s the play-by-play: we gathered passports, the lease, and a utility bill for good measure, then chased down the certificado de empadronamiento so the club could confirm we actually live where we say we do. Suddenly soccer wasn’t just a sport; it was a bureaucratic rite of passage. And honestly? It made us feel a little more here. There’s something grounding about getting your name into a city’s ledger. It’s like Barcelona saying, “Vale, you’re part of the neighborhood now. Welcome.”

Meanwhile, the kids are picking up the rhythms faster than we are. They already know which bakery gives an extra smile with a croissant and which playground has the good shade. We’re still figuring out why some shops close at the exact moment we need them—but even that’s becoming part of our family folklore. (Future us: plan errand runs like you plan dinner reservations.)

There were a few side quests. We learned that CAP isn’t a hat—it’s your local health center—and that “curas” in the pharmacy world means dressings and care, not clergy. The kind of vocabulary you only get by living life out loud (and sometimes a little lost) in a new place.

Somewhere between the appointments, we found our small wins: a sunny bench after the paperwork marathon, a new café that now knows our order, the grin on a kid’s face when the club says, “Bring boots to practice.” That grin makes the forms worth it.

What we figured out (so you don’t have to):

• Start empadronamiento early. Clubs often ask for it to prove local residency for youth teams.
• Bring passports, lease (full copy), and anything with your address—it speeds things up.
• Set up idCAT Mòbil so you can request documents online without trekking back across town.
• Learn your local CAP (primary care center) for everyday health stuff; it’ll save you time and confusion.
• Treat paperwork days like game days: snacks packed, spirits up, expectations realistic.

If you’re listening from afar and wondering whether the admin is worth it—the answer, at least for us this week, is yes. Because the paperwork isn’t just paperwork; it’s belonging. It’s the bridge from “we just arrived” to “we play here.”

This week, we share:

• Two schools, two worlds: Amalia started at BFIS, the American school, while Milan and Savana are at a Montessori that feels very European. Both have been eye-opening—Amalia has 20 new classmates (most American), while Montessori is a melting pot of kids from all over Europe.
• The independence factor: Amalia wants to ride the bus solo like a true pre-teen… except it’s the same bus Sara takes with the little ones. Cue teenage eye rolls.
• Community through soccer: Amalia’s team played their first matches, and suddenly we’re part of the Catalan soccer world—weekend tournaments, proud parents, and even our first conversations with local dads in Catalan and Spanish.
• The “say yes” philosophy: Whether it’s dinner invites, coffee meet-ups, or trying paddle for the first time, saying yes has already opened doors to friendships and a sense of belonging.
• The realities: Grocery shopping without a car, balancing late-night work with a nine-hour time difference, and navigating first-day-of-school nerves remind us that this isn’t just vacation—it’s real life in a new country.

Two months in, we’re still in awe of the differences—sometimes challenging, often beautiful—and grateful for this chance to experience Barcelona as more than tourists.

👉 Give it a listen, and if you’re thinking of making a similar move, we hope our stories help you picture what it’s really like.

In this episode of Tapas in Therapy, we unpack what life looks like now that we’re settling into our own rhythm:

• Parenting without backup: When grandparents left and Ro flew to London the same day, Sara was left holding down the fort—three kids, no car, and still no school in session. Survival mode quickly turned into quiet reflection about what “support” really means when you move abroad.
• The WhatsApp life: Forget text messages—here in Spain, WhatsApp is the operating system of life. From school parent groups to paddle tennis sign-ups, even your internet company prefers to reach you there. We talk through the pros, quirks, and little hacks we’ve learned (like running dual numbers on certain Android phones).
• New friendships, old connections: Starting over means flexing those “making friends” muscles again. It’s equal parts humbling and energizing. At the same time, we’re reaching back to old friends more than ever, using distance as a reason to reconnect.
• Weekend in Tarragona: A quick hour’s drive landed us at a nearly empty beach sitting beneath a 2,000-year-old Roman amphitheater. It was one of those pinch-me moments—history and sunshine layered together, all for the price of a €5 ticket and €7 paella lunch. Oh, and yes, we’re slowly turning into beach people. Who knew?
• The car rental hack: Buying a car here is a bureaucratic headache, but renting one? Surprisingly cheap. We share what we’ve learned about day-to-day rentals and why a monthly car rental might be the perfect expat workaround.

As we wrap this episode, the kids are about to start soccer, school is just days away, and we’re even hosting our first barbecue with new friends. It finally feels like life here isn’t just a vacation—it’s our life.

If you’re considering a move abroad, or just curious about how families adapt, we hope our stories give you both a laugh and some practical insight.

In this episode, we explore what it really feels like to settle into the Barcelona way of life — the habits we’ve picked up, the changes we didn’t expect, and the little cultural differences that make daily life here so unique.

We cover:

• Walking and public transport — going from a car-centric life to 10–20,000 steps a day and buses that actually run on time.
• Food culture — why bread, fresh markets, and simple ingredients have become a guilt-free part of our daily meals.
• Coffee customs — smaller cups, slower pacing, and the mysterious rules around when (and how) to order.
• August in Barcelona — why the city feels like a beautiful ghost town this time of year.
• Cultural etiquette — including Sara’s now-legendary “fruit shop” story in Bilbao.

Loving the Mediterranean Lifestyle

It’s not just about what’s different — it’s about how these changes are making us more present, more social, and more connected to our surroundings. Andrea also shares her take as someone visiting for an extended stay, and why Barcelona has quickly become one of her favorite cities.

🎧 Listen in for:

• Our favorite new daily rituals.
• The quirks that caught us by surprise.
• How walking everywhere changes the way we connect as a family.

If you’ve ever thought about moving abroad — or simply wondered what everyday life looks like beyond the tourist lens — this episode is full of honest reflections, funny stories, and practical takeaways from our first chapter in Barcelona.

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Please share our journey’s with anyone you think may be thinking about jumping across the pond!

In this first episode, we dive into:

• Why we left behind a comfortable life in Walnut Creek, CA — with deep roots, close friends, a great job, and an amazing community.
• The early resistance (Sara) and relentless dreaming (Rohit) that led to saying “yes” to a big leap.
• Why Colombia and Portugal didn’t make the cut — and why Barcelona felt right from day one.
• How we chose schools, navigated the visa maze, and discovered the (very real) challenges of moving an entire life across the world.
• What it cost — emotionally, financially, and logistically — and how we tackled it all with three kids, no car, and a mountain of Facebook Marketplace listings.
• Why we’re calling this podcast Tapas and Therapy.

There’s no sugarcoating here — just our raw experience of making a move that terrified us and thrilled us in equal parts. It’s part family diary, part practical how-to, and part emotional unpacking.

And if you’re wondering: Are we staying for a year? Or forever? We talk about that too.