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Listen in as they explore common misconceptions that we have to unlearn in order to successfully practice non-monogamy for the long-term, as well as answers to some of the most asked questions.

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In this week’s episode, Effy welcomes back sex educator and author Allison Moon for a thought-provoking conversation where they explore the inherently pleasure-centric nature of queer sex and how this focus offers a broadened redefinition of sex and sexual expression. 

Effy and Allison dissect the limitations of traditional, heteronormative sex education and ponder the integration of queer sexual practices into the lives of straight individuals, contemplating how heteronormative couples might benefit from the queer emphasis on pleasure, consent, and open communication.

To learn more about Allison

Allison Moon is the author of five books including the instant classic sex-ed guide Girl Sex 101 and Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and The Washington Post. A popular sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada. Inspired by her sex education work, Moon writes screenplays, stage plays, and teleplays that explore the complexities of identity, sexuality and desire,

Instagram: allison_moon

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline invite sex educator and author Cory Silberbeg back on the show to discuss how to support young people in their quest to understand their identity, sexual orientation, and gender in today's political climate. They discuss the role of “trusted adults”, how to facilitate conversations and field questions in the home, and how to ensure a support network in and out of the home environment.

More about Cory Silverberg

Raised in the 1970s by a children’s librarian and a sex therapist, Cory grew up to be a sex educator, author, and queer person who smiles a lot when they talk.

Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books.

Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR’s Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times.  Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com.

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Profile in the New York Times Magazine: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/magazine/sex-ed-books-teens-parents.html

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What are you afraid of? 

• being abandoned
• losing myself
• being trapped, etc.

This will give you the theme of the room  

What is a scenario that illustrates that fear? 

• my partner will meet someone better than me and leave
• my partner and children will need so much of me that I will lose myself
• non-monogamy is not an option and my partner is not interested in sex then I will never have sex again, etc.

This will give you context for the room  

What is a physical experience that can describe the feeling of fear? Think of it as a verb.

• Falling
• Sinking
• walking on a tightrope
• jumping from rock to rock over lava
• being pulled in all directions
• Shrinking
• hanging off the side of a cliff, etc.

That will give you the movement in the room that also will help your lister to empathize with your feelings. 

What helps you feel better? 

• concentrating on all the unique things you bring to a relationship
• asking your partner for validation when you feel insecure
• creating guilt-free space to be on your own doing something you enjoy, etc.

This will help you formulate your way out of the room.

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In the third installment of our four-part series on trauma, we revisit a poignant episode where Effy and Jacqueline engage in an insightful discussion with Rida Kirasi, a sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner. Together, they unravel the intricate tapestry of trauma healing, emphasizing the potent role of our bodily sensations and reactions. They delve into the transformative power of sound, breath, meditation, and embodiment practices as tools not only for healing but also for cultivating a robust sense of safety and emotional regulation.

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Instagram: @soundalatherapy
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In this episode, Effy sits down with Dee Dee Goldpaugh, a psychotherapist, educator, author, activist, and the Clinical Director of Chrysalis Integrative Psychotherapy. Together, they embark on an in-depth exploration of the transformative potential of psychedelics in trauma therapy. Shedding light on prevailing medical models and their constraints, Effy and Dee Dee advocate for a more holistic approach, one that not only prioritizes the individual's wellbeing, reconnection to pleasure, joy and eroticism but also remains acutely aware of the broader social, cultural, and environmental implications of psychedelic use.

To find out more about Dee Dee Goldpaugh
Dee Dee (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist, educator, clinical supervisor, author, and activist. They are the Clinical Director of Chrysalis Integrative Psychotherapy. Dee Dee has taught and published widely on the topics of psychedelics, sexuality, trauma, gender, and spirituality. They have been a leading voice in the development of Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy techniques, specifically with survivors of trauma and have published the first article to appear in an academic journal, Sexual and Relationship Therapy, exploring the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and psychedelic healing.

Dee Dee is a clinical supervisor for EMBARK psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy approach. They offer Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as part of the team at the Woodstock Therapy Center and facilitate ketamine-assisted psychotherapy retreats. They have also completed the MAPS training in MDMA-assisted psychotherapy. Dee Dee is the author of the forthcoming book Feeling Good: How Psychedelics Can Help Us Reconnect To Our Sexuality, Reclaim Pleasure, and Rediscover Ourselves due to be published in 2024 by Inner Traditions.

Dee Dee has been a presenter in the Sex Therapy Collaborative and a faculty instructor in the Trauma Therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. They have presented at The Alt Sex Conference Speaker’s Series, The Center for Optimal Living, Ante Up! and are contributing author in the book Queering Psychedelics. They have been featured in articles by Vice Magazine, Chacruna, The Albany Times Union, Medium, Brides, Psymposia, Refinery 29, and Psychology Today. Dee Dee runs therapist consultation groups in Psychedelic Integration Therapy.

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Website: deedeegoldpaugh.com
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In this episode, Effy talks with trauma researcher and author, Dr. MaryCatherine "MC" McDonald, whose book, "Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong And Other Things You Need to Know to Take Back Your Life," offers refreshing perspectives in understanding and addressing trauma. Dr. MC introduces a perspective that views trauma responses as indicators of strength and resilience, challenging commonly held beliefs around vulnerability and fragility. As Effy and Dr. MC explore the neurological mechanics of trauma, they also discuss healing methodologies that move beyond standard medical approaches, emphasizing the power of self-articulation and individual paths to recovery.

To find out more about Dr. MaryCatherine "MC" McDonald
MaryCatherine (MC) McDonald, PhD, is a research professor and life coach who specializes in the psychology of trauma, stress, and resilience. She has been researching, lecturing, and publishing on the neuroscience, psychology, and lived experience of trauma and stress for over a decade. She is passionate about destigmatizing trauma, stress, and mental health issues in general, as well as reframing our understanding of trauma in order to better understand and treat it.

After receiving her master’s degree at The New School, where she researched traumatic loss and mourning, she went on to complete her PhD at Boston University. She has published several research articles and book chapters, as well as three books on trauma. The most recent book comes out in March 2023 with Sounds True publishing, and is called, Unbroken: The Trauma Response is Never Wrong (and other things you need to know to take back your life).

In addition to her academic work, Dr. McDonald has a thriving life- coaching business. She has worked with many different populations including, combat veterans, victims of sexual assault and childhood trauma, previously incarcerated folks, those suffering from the loss of a loved one, people going through career transitions, dealing with burnout, working to fix family dynamics, and more. She has coached individuals clients and corporations since 2010, and created trauma-based curriculum for nonprofit organizations in New York, Virginia, and California.
 
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Effy and Jacqueline return from their break, diving deep into the often overlooked aspect of decision-making: the inevitable challenges that accompany every choice. They candidly share the less glamorous sides of their own decisions and offer insights on how to weigh your options more holistically…and accept that things may simply suck either way.

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline explore “parts work” and share their personal therapeutic journeys understanding, regulating, and befriending their parts. They discuss the benefits of developing "parts" from past experiences to help us navigate and respond to the world around us, and the consequences of using the outdated strategies of our parts to address current relationship fears. 

Referenced in the episode:
Episode 115: Integrity, the Rider and the Elephant
Book: The Body Keeps Score

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In this episode, Effy and cognitive behavioral psychotherapist and author of "The Highly Sensitive Man" Tom Falkenstein take a deep dive into the core characteristics of high sensitivity and examine how societal expectations and gender norms shape the experience of sensitivity for men. Tom and Effy aim to shed light on the distinct challenges and advantages that highly sensitive men encounter in their relationships and everyday lives and provide practical tools and strategies to empower highly sensitive people to thrive in an overstimulating modern world.

To learn more about Tom
Tom Falkenstein has worked as a cognitive behavioural psychotherapist since 2006. After obtaining his degree in psychology in the UK, he completed his postgraduate training in psychotherapy in Germany. He then moved back to the UK where he worked as a psychotherapist in London. During this period, he developed a particular interest in high sensitivity and working with highly sensitive people.  He has been training with Dr. Elaine Aron (author of The Highly Sensitive Person) since 2015. Currently practicing in Berlin, he also offers workshops for highly sensitive people in both English and German. The Highly Sensitive Man is his first book and was published in Germany 2017 and since has been translated into a number of other languages. Singer-Songrwiter-Activist Alanis Morissette  called the book 'a breath of fresh air in the midst of a cultural determination to reduce toxic masculinity. This book is a balm, a movement and a revelation."

Instagram: @tom.falkenstein
Book: The Highly Sensitive Man
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In this revisited oldie, Jacqueline goes galavanting through the NY lesbian bar scene for her birthday with her partner, making up for some classic lesbian experiences that she never got to have. Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride month by exploring experiences of coming out later in life, discuss what it means to be queer, and explore the nuance of why they identify the way they do. 

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Ambyr’s mission is to create a meaningful time for her clients on their special day and throughout their wedding planning process. Ambry approaches her work with these questions in her mind, “What would it feel like to breathe or meditate a little before working on your wedding budget? How can we create a positive experience for you, your family, and all of your guests? What would it feel like to be taken care of, listened to, and coached every step of the way?” 

Her family is Catholic, Muslim, and Hindu, so in whatever way love has brought her clients together, she can embrace it with an open heart and mind. 

Instagram: weddingsbyambyr
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In this week’s episode, Effy is joined by sex educator and author Allison Moon to discuss casual sex. They discuss hookup culture and how we can and should “be excellent to each other” as members of a sexual community. Effy and Allison consider how our approach to casual sex partners can be a reflection of our humanity and what we can do as “sexual citizens” to reform hookup culture.

To learn more about Allison
Allison Moon is the author of five books including the instant classic sex-ed guide Girl Sex 101 and Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and The Washington Post. A popular sex educator, Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada. Inspired by her sex education work, Moon writes screenplays, stage plays, and teleplays that explore the complexities of identity, sexuality and desire,

Instagram: allison_moon
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Jacqueline revisits a conversation with Effy about how to balance the comfort of being rooted and settled with the desire for variety and passion. They share their tips for how to assess what you are craving and figure out how to deal with the discomfort and fill the gaps.

Book: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
You can find the Fuel Gauge Activity worksheet mentioned in this episode here.

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Book: Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships

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To learn more about Jocelyn
Jocelyn Silva is a bisexual polyamorous Sexual Empowerment Coach, Sex Educator, First Generation Latina, and full-time digital nomad. She empowers YOU to embrace your sexual essence and lead a pleasure-FILLED life! She has 12 years of sex education experience, and 3 years coaching women, couples, and now men on their road to full sexual empowerment + embodiment.

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In this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline have a lighthearted and wisdom packed conversation about masturbation in honor of Masturbation Month. They share their personal practices, beliefs and stories about self pleasure; explore the myths, social and religious conditioning about it, and put out a plea for a better sounding language for the topic.  

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In this week’s episode Effy explores the crossroads of Jungian psychology and sex with Dr Joli Hamilton. They take a deep dive into the sexual Shadow, the repressed, the unwanted aspects of sexuality. They discuss how — if it goes unexplored and unprocessed — this material impacts our collective and individual thoughts and behaviors when it comes to sex, affecting anything from legislation to our self talk. Effy and Dr Hamilton also celebrate the potential richness of this exploration as a way to deeply get to know ourselves.     

More about Joli
Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic. 

She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

Instagram: @drjoli_hamilton
TikTok: @drjoli_hamilton
YouTube: @drjoli_hamilton
LinkedIn: joli-hamilton-phd

Want the 5-step jealousy framework from Joli's research? Grab your e-book here. JoliQuiz is a great way to check in with how ready you are to explore opening up a previously closed relationship. 

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Danijela Steinfeld, a Serbian-born award-winning actress and filmmaker who is the director and producer of the documentary film Hold Me Right. The film explores the traumatic aftermath and healing process for survivors and perpetrators of sexual violence. Danijela shares the story of her assault and the journey towards finding her voice, and how she is working to eliminate sexual violence through a video game called Way Out.

Watch Hold Me Right: https://holdmerightfilm.vhx.tv/

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To learn more about Danijela
Danijela Steinfeld is a NY-based award-winning actress and an award-winning filmmaker, activist, and serial entrepreneur, born and raised in Serbia. The motivation behind the Way Out game came from her personal experience, being held captive and raped by a powerful politician, and from that harrowing trauma, her life's mission emerged. 

Danijela is the director and producer of Hold Me Right, a feature documentary about the traumatic aftermath and healing for victims and perpetrators of sexual violence, which also tells the story of her own traumatic experience. As an advocate and a public speaker, Danijela has been in the field of healing after trauma in a variety of roles and initiatives. Her main focus has been tackling root causes of rape culture, finding solutions and healing us all, as she believes we are all affected, directly or indirectly, by the epidemic of stigma when it comes to sexual abuse.

Instagram: @danijelastajnfeld
Twitter: @DaniSteinfeld_
LinkedIn: @danijela-steinfeld
Way Out: Game

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To learn more about De-Andrea 
De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar (she/her) is Missouri’s first Black AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and a supervisor for social workers seeking clinical licensure in the State of Missouri. She has worked in the field of behavioral health for over 15 years. As a graduate of Saint Louis University, she majored in social work and minored in theology before completing a Master of Social Work degree at Washington University in St. Louis. She sees herself as a catalyst for positive change, serving as a collaborator and co-facilitator in healing and enjoys the journey of working with her clients.

As the owner of Sankofa Sex Therapy, LLC, she works with individuals and those in all types of relationships and provides therapy from a Christian perspective when requested. She conducts workshops about sexuality, intimacy, and sensuality, and is a member of the Leadership Collective of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN). She also serves as a Facilitator with Theater of War Productions, completing two off-Broadway runs of the critically-acclaimed Antigone in Ferguson.

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Erectile dysfunction, STIs, vaccinations, and safe anal play are important conversations for men – particularly queer men – to have with their doctor’s and partners. However sometimes the most important conversations are also the most difficult ones. In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline celebrate Pride and Men’s Health Month by speaking with the “butt stuff” doctor, Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist, Doctor Carlton.

With 3 million likes and over 200,000 followers on TikTok, Doctor Carlton shares his expertise on men’s sexual health and pleasure, tips for tops and bottoms, and sex advice for every body and orientation.

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Doctor Carlton is a Mayo Clinic trained gastroenterologist in San Diego, California who you have probably seen on Tik Tok or Instagram talking about Butt Stuff tips and LGBTQ health. He has been featured on Mashable and in Instinct Magazine and even recently headlined Austin Kink Weekend in Texas. Who better to learn butt stuff from than a doctor who knows all the science and a gay man who has had PLENTY of real life experience with it! Welcome Doctor Carlton!

TikTok: @doctorcarlton
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Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Community Support and Integration Director of the Hudson Valley Psychedelic Society, psychotherapist and clinical supervisor Dee Dee Goldpaugh to discuss her work with psychedelics and their effective use in treating and healing trauma psycho-chemically as well as spiritually.

More about Dee Dee
Dee Dee (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist, educator, clinical supervisor, author, and activist. They have taught and published widely on the topics of psychedelics, sexuality, trauma, gender, and spirituality. They have been a leading voice in the development of Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy techniques, specifically with survivors of trauma and have published the first article to appear in an academic journal, Sex and Relationship Therapy, exploring the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and psychedelic healing. Dee Dee is a Clinical Supervisor for the CYB003 clinical trial sponsored by  Cybin using a psilocybin analogue to treat major depression. They offer Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as part of the team at the Woodstock Therapy Center and are part of the Relationship Resources team leading ketamine-assisted therapy retreats for couples. They have also completed the MAPS training in MDMA-assisted psychotherapy.

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Books:
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Reclaiming Pleasure

More about Rena
Rena Martine was a Los Angeles County Deputy District Attorney for 14 years, where she specialized in sex crimes, child abuse and domestic violence cases. She continues to serve women today as an intimacy coach, educator, TEDx speaker and author, with a mission to help women love their bodies, experience deep intimacy and have great sex, shame-free. 

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Website: renamartine.com

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Jacqueline Misla is a queer, Latine, mother, polyamorous partner, writer, podcaster, and change strategist. She works with companies and individuals to create pathways towards audacious and impactful change. Jacqueline holds a Master's Degree in Social Work, and is certified in Complex Change Theory and Strategic Visioning.

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In this special episode, Effy talks to the co-founder of EcoFemme Kathy Walkling about how rethinking menstruation and menstruation education can cause radical social change in women’s welfare. Kathy explains EcoFemme’s approach to menstruation that is healthy, environmentally sustainable, culturally responsive and empowering and Effy has a profound shift in her relationship with her body and the earth as the conversation unfolds. 

To find out more about Kathy
Kathy Walkling is the co-founder of Eco Femme, a women-led social enterprise working to create environmental and social change by promoting menstrual practices that are healthy, dignified, affordable and eco-positive. Kathy heads Eco Femme’s research and not-for-profit menstrual health education and pad distribution programmes, Pad for Pad and Pads for Sisters. Originally from Australia, Kathy moved to the international community of Auroville in Tamil Nadu, India in 1997. Grounded in Auroville’s commitment to human unity and sustainable living, her passion for care of the earth and the sacred feminine were well-nourished, giving rise to Eco Femme in 2010.

Prior to this, Kathy worked with the Auroville Village Action Group (AVAG), a local grassroots NGO, where she established community-led teaching programmes for children and livelihood programmes for women, in the villages neighboring Auroville. More recently, Kathy has been a core founding member of the Auroville Citizens’ Assembly which successfully launched with a pilot project in early 2021. Kathy is an active member of the Menstrual Health Alliance, India, and completed Dasra‘s Social Impact Leadership Programme in 2014

Throughout her journey, Kathy has been a staunch advocate for empowerment built upon non-judgemental, culturally responsive and accurate education to individuals and prompting critical thinking—in a nutshell, “informed choice”. This approach is about more than menstrual products; it is about supporting individual’s personal transformation and reconnecting with themselves, one another and the environment. Naturally, Kathy cherishes spending time in wild spaces simply“being” and turning within to reflect, question and embrace never-ending learning!

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Youtube: @ecofemmeindia
Facebook: ecofemmeindiaonline
Eco femme shop: www.ecofemme.org

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Broadly, I am interested in understanding human psychology from an evolutionary perspective. My core research program explores morality and mating using an interactionist approach, investigating how biological and environmental factors combine to drive behavior.

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On this week’s episode Effy and Jacqueline take on one of the most elusive mental health struggles that predominantly show up in the relational context with the help of psychiatrist and the author of I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality and Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder Dr. Jerold Kreisman. They discuss the characteristics of this disorder, how it impacts relationships and strategies for those who have loved ones with BPD.

To learn more about Jerald
Dr. Kreisman graduated from Cornell University Medical College and concluded residency in psychiatry at The National Institute of Mental Health in Washington, D.C., and at St. Louis University.

He is board certified in Psychiatry and is an Associate Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at St. Louis University. He is past president of the Missouri Psychiatric Association and has been designated a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. 

Dr. Kreisman has lectured widely in both this country and abroad, and has appeared on many media programs, including The Oprah Winfrey and Sally Jesse Raphael Shows.

He has been listed in “Top Doctors,” “Best Doctors in America,” and “Patients’ Choice Doctors.”

He is the author of:
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
Sometimes I Act Crazy: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder
Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder

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In this week’s episode, Effy and Jacqueline take a deep dive into pain for pleasure with science reporter, noted masochist and the author of Hurts So Good, Leigh Cowart. Leigh broadens our understanding of masochism by drawing parallels between the experience of people who pursue pain for sexual pleasure and those who endure pain for sense of satisfaction, achievement or self expression, such as competitive eaters, ultramarathon runners and ballet dancers. They normalize our desire for pleasure by offering an open and honest commentary of their own experiences. 

More about Leigh Cowart
Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist whose work has appeared in the Washington Post, New York Magazine, Popular Science, Buzzfeed News, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, "Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose" has been featured in the New York Times, The New Yorker, NPR, the Wall Street Journal, and The New York Review of Books. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed in academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats, and resource allocation in flowers.

Instagram: voraciousbrain
Twitter: voraciousbrain
Their book: Hurts So Good

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline have a rich conversation with Dr. Emily Nagoski about how the societal scripts we are handed according to our sex-at-birth impact our sexual expression and how these scripts are endorsed through many channels throughout our lives. Emily explains how there are accelerators and brakes that calibrate our desire and talks about her upcoming book about the three characteristics of the couples who sustained strong sexual connection.

Recommended books that you have to check out:
Come As You Are
Burnout
The Come As You Are Workbook
The Body Keeps the Score
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers

To learn more about Emily Nagoski, PH.D (she/her/they)
Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.

 IG: @enagoski
TikTok: @emilynagoski
Website: emilynagoski.com
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In this final episode of the year, Effy and Jacqueline talk about the concept of Big Dick Energy, what it means to embody it, and its potential to disrupt the patriarchy. They parse apart strap-on usage and penis envy to extract their foxy new year wishes. They round off the year with a frustration-fueled Soap Box session.

Happy holidays to all!

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She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required

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www.JoliQuiz.com is a great way to check in with how ready you are to explore opening up a previously closed relationship 

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with Dr. Marie Thouin about her research on compersion. Dr. Thouin shares the factors that promote or get in the way of nurturing compersion. Effy and Jacqueline reflect on their personal journeys with compersion, and share the highs and lows of trying to embody this most elusive feeling.

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To learn more about Marie
Dr. Marie Thouin is the founder of Love InSight, a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coaching practice where she helps people of all backgrounds and relationship styles create vibrant & intentional love lives. She is also a leading scholar and researcher on the topic of compersion in consensually non-monogamous relationships. She shares her research on her website, www.whatiscompersion.com.

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Grace Wetzel to explore how our gendered experiences shape our sexual experiences. They look at research, which indicates that bi and straight women have the least amount of orgasms, compared to straight men, bi men, and lesbians. And they discuss why this disparity has more to do with desire than biology. 

To learn more about Grace
Grace Wetzel is a doctoral student in the Social Psychology program at Rutgers University. She works in the Close Relationships, Identity, and Stigma (CRIS) Lab under the advisement of Dr. Diana Sanchez. She received her undergraduate degree in Psychology from St. Lawrence University. Grace studies the impact of gender on sexuality from a feminist psychological perspective. Specifically, she studies the orgasm gap between cisgender men and women. Her main lines of research focus on how biological essentialist explanations are used to justify and perpetuate the orgasm gap, as well as women's decisions to pursue or not pursue orgasm as a goal in their sexual encounters. Grace is a recipient of the National Science Foundation's Graduate Research Fellowship for her work on this topic. 

Grace has dedicated her professional life to the pursuit of sexual and gender equity within and outside of academic research. Notably, she has a TEDx talk on the sexual pleasure disparity which has garnered over six million views online. She has continued to advocate for sexual equity by giving academic guest lectures, speaking at events, appearing on podcasts, and writing for newspaper outlets.

Instagram: @orgasm_equality_
Twitter: @grace__wetzel
Research publication: Orgasm Frequency Predicts Desire and Expectation for Orgasm: Assessing the Orgasm Gap within Mixed‑Sex Couples
Website: www.gracewetzel.com
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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with LGBTQ rights lawyer and advocate, Diana Adams, about the very real concerns non-traditional individuals and families should have about their rights within the United States. They discuss strategies that individuals, families, and communities can take to protect their rights outside of the marriage construct and explore how we arrived here, as a nation, and what we can do to create a different and more inclusive future.

To learn more about Diana
Diana Adams, Esq. founded both the Chosen Family Law Center, Inc. non-profit legal services organization and their own boutique LGBTQ family law and mediation firm Diana Adams Law & Mediation, PLLC, both based in New York City.  Both organizations serve primarily same-sex couples and non-nuclear families. Diana is passionately dedicated to helping form healthy, stable families, whether between same-sex couples, platonic co-parents, polyamorous families, or different-sex couples, by facilitating conversations that support the creation of clear personal agreements, as well as solid legal agreements to protect their families. Diana is a leader in the legal support of LGBTQ families and proud to be one of the New York State representatives for the selective national organization of leaders on LGBTQ family law, the LBGT Family Law Institute of The National LGBT Bar Association.

IG: @DianaAdamsEsq
Facebook: @DianaAdamsEsq
Twitter: @DianaAdamsEsq
IG: @ChosenFamilyLawCenter
Facebook: @ChosenFamilyLawCenter
Twitter: @ChosenFamilyLaw

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline chat with children’s non-fiction author Cory Silverberg about having expansive conversations with children about sex and sexuality, including consent, body autonomy, pleasure, relationships, and identity - all grounded in the child’s experience. They discuss the building blocks that support honest dialogue between children and trusted adults, as well as some of the barriers and pitfalls adults can come across when talking to the kids in their lives.

More about Cory
Raised in the 1970s by a children’s librarian and a sex therapist, Cory grew up to be a sex educator, author, and queer person who smiles a lot when they talk.

Cory spends a lot of time reading, writing, and talking about sex and gender and are happiest working with others. Cory was a founding member of the Come As You Are Co-operative and worked as a researcher and television consultant for over 10 years. Cory is a core team member of ANTE UP!, a virtual professional freedom school founded by Bianca I Laureano. They also spend a lot of time helping other people make books.

Cory is the co-author of four books including What Makes a Baby, the ALA Stonewall Honor Book Sex Is a Funny Word, and the forthcoming You Know, Sex, all with Fiona Smyth. Cory has been featured on NPR’s Fresh Air, and their books have been called “the books about sex that every family should read” by the New York Times.  Cory's life is full of kids. All of them know where babies come from. Some know more. Learn more about Cory at www.corysilverberg.com.

IG: @corysilverberg
Twitter: @corysilverberg
FB: https://www.facebook.com/whatmakesababy
Website: www.corysilverberg.com
Profile in the New York Times Magazine: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/06/28/magazine/sex-ed-books-teens-parents.html
ANTE UP! Professional Development School: https://www.anteuppd.com/

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - and self proclaimed attachment nerd - Julie Menanno, to explore the least mentioned and most elusive attachment style: disorganized AKA fearful avoidant. Drawing from personal experience, they unpack developmental traumas that result in disorganized attachment and discuss strategies for healing and moving towards a more secure connection. 

More about Julie
Julie Menanno MA is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Relationship Coach. She currently has a clinical therapy practice treating couples in Bozeman, Montana, as well as a relationship coaching practice with a staff of coaches who serve clients all over the globe. Julie is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and specializes in working with attachment issues within relationships.

While Julie’s first passion is treating couples, she also provides invaluable relationship insights and advice to nearly 1 million followers on Instagram. She is currently working with Simon and Schuster on a book, Secure Love. In addition to her work as an author and social media creator, Julie hosts a bi-weekly Patreon discussion group on a variety of relationship and self-help topics. She is a public speaker and a regular guest on podcasts. 

In her spare time Julie enjoys hiking, skiing, Pilates, reading about psychology, and studying Italian.

IG: @thesecurerelationship
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Resources:
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)
“The book you wish your parent had read” - Philippa Perry
“I Hate You, Don't Leave Me” - Hal Straus and Jerold Jay Kreisman

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On this many-months-in-the-making episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with female Imam, human rights lawyer, and the author of the book Islam Needs a Sexual Revolution, Seyran Ateş about Islam and sexuality. They dive into the history of the religion; discuss the perception of women within the Muslim faith; examine the protests in Iran following the death of Mahsa Amani in police custody; and attempt to parse apart religion from the patriarchy.

More about Seyran
Seyran Ateş is a lawyer, political activist and journalist. During her law studies, she worked in a counseling center for Turkish women, where she was very seriously injured in 1984 in an assassination attempt. In 1997 she began working as a lawyer, but withdrew from this activity between 2006 and 2012 because of murder threats; she supported, among other things, the criminal prosecution of forced marriages. In June 2017, she founded the liberally-oriented Ibn-Rushd-Goethe-mosque in Berlin. In numerous books, Ateş has repeatedly treated issues of gender and integration within the context of Islam. Her work has brought her many awards, including the Federal Cross of Merit First Class in 2014.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seyranates_official/
Website: https://seyranates.de/

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Effy and Jacqueline sit down with Lydia Collins to talk about consent education, bodily autonomy within the context of race, and the difference between having a type and objectifying or fetishising someone. They explore the missing components of our current consent education and the ways in which we need to revisit our ideas about bodily autonomy and self-perception. 

About Lydia Collins 

Lydia Collins (she/her) is an Author, Educator, and Creator with over 5 years of experience in workshop facilitation. She has provided workshops to universities, non-profits, and high schools across North America on various topics including anti-blackness, sexual health education, cultural competency, and radical self-care. Lydia has published 3 chapbooks of poetry between 2019-2021 and produced a collaborative video project Joy Is Our Birthright with UNILEARNAL. Her unwavering love for writing, commitment to activism, and passion for community health are what keep her dedicated to amplifying the most marginalized voices through her work.

Tiktok: @lacollins
Website: www.lydiacollins.ca 

New York Times article : Love Isn't a Zero-Sum Game

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Effy and Jacqueline hang out with “Juliet Takes a Breath” author Gabby Rivera to talk about drawing from the collective wisdom of feminism and sex-positivity to create QTBIPOC spaces that prioritize representation and intersectionality. They explore the power of joy, language and storytelling in the construction of identity.

More about Gabby

Gabby Rivera is the author of Juliet Takes a Breath, she’s also the writer of the new Marvel series America—featuring the first queer, Latinx teen-girl superhero, ever—that’s catching headlines from The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, and beyond. When not writing, Gabby speaks on her experiences as a queer Puerto Rican from the Bronx, 2an LGBTQ youth advocate, and the importance of prioritizing joy in QTPOC communities at events across the country. She’s also the host of the Joy Uprising podcast which questions “How do you prioritize JOY?”

To find more about Gabby
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IG: @quirkyrican
Joy Uprising podcast
Juliet Takes a Breath

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Effy and Jacqueline explore the love-at-first-sight myth and try to parse apart the difference between attachment wound activation and attraction (and even arousal) - which can all feel confusingly similar to the nervous system when we meet a potential new partner if there’s unaddressed trauma. They discuss what it takes to nurture a relationship where there’s space held for mutual healing.

The TikTok that started this discussion can be found here. You can find the playlist of videos we curated while researching this topic here.

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Effy and Jacqueline catch up with a long time Friend of the Fox, co-host of Netflix’s Principles of Pleasure, and the creator and host of Sex Ed a Go Go, Dirty Lola, to talk all about sex toys. Self proclaimed dildo swinger, Lola talked through shapes, sizes, materials of classic toys as well as new products on the shelves. They discuss how to bring up toys with partners, how to take care of your prize possessions, and bust any myths and misunderstandings that are out there about sex toys. 

More about Dirty Lola: 

Dirty Lola is a sex edutainer, speaker, and self-proclaimed dildo slinger. Known for her live sex ed Q&A show Sex Ed A Go-Go and as a Sexpert on the Netflix docuseries The Principles of Pleasure, Lola has spent almost a decade working to end the stigma and shame surrounding sex and sexuality. Having started her journey sharing personal discoveries with polyamory and kink online, Lola now uses her knowledge, warm candor, and public platforms to teach the masses in person and to rapt Internet audiences.

To learn more about Dirty Lola:
Twitter: @DirtyLola
Instagram: @DirtyLola
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Effy and Jacqueline chat with multi-award-winning reporter and the author of Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, Sophia Smith Galer about prevailing sex myths; how to bust those myths through educating ourselves, and what can we do about changing the culture so the information out there is scientifically accurate and focuses as much on pleasure as sexual health, pregnancy and rape reduction.

More about Sophia
Sophia Smith Galer is a multi-award-winning reporter, author and TikTok creator based in London – making content for over 400,000 followers around the world.

Her videos have been viewed over 100 million times and she has been named on the Forbes under 30 list this year as well as a 2022 'Face to Watch' in books by the Evening Standard.

Vogue has also recently named her in their list of 2022's 25 most influential women in the UK - alongside Emma Raducanu, Nazanin Zaghari-Ratcliffe and HRH Queen Elizabeth II.

Sophia began her career at the BBC where she reported on the complexities of contemporary faith across the BBC World Service, BBC Radio 4 and BBC World News as the network's first Visual Journalist in Faith and Ethics. She now works as a Senior News Reporter at VICE World News where she covers everything from gender violence and technology to the climate crisis and Europe's Christian hard right.

In 2021 she won 'Innovation of the Year' for her TikTok journalism at the British Journalism Awards, when she was also named a Voice of Change by TikTok – she was listed as one of their top 100 UK creators for the second year running.

Her first book, Losing It: Sex Education for the 21st Century, is out now, addressing the sex misinformation crisis and debunking sex myths.

To learn more about Sophia follow her on social media:
@sophiasgaler on Twitter and IG, @sophiasmithgaler on TikTok
You can find her book on the Curious Fox reading list.

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are exploring a relationship theory that encourages people to consider different states the same relationship. Rest and reason, flirt and f*ck and disconnection. Inspired by Polyvagal Theory, they look into how we can recognize what state the relationship is in, what needs are being met, and how to shift if we want to. 

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This week we will hear the story of Bear and Fifi (@bear.n.fifi). A few years into their relationship, after slowly taking down their walls to lean into love and trust, Bear revealed to Fifi that he is transgender and that he wanted to go through the process of transitioning. 

In this episode, they candidly share the fear, mourning, connection, and surprise that they experience as individuals and as partners during Bear’s journey of discovery and embodiment. 

Kabir Brown (Bear) is a Black queer transgender man, born and raised in Brooklyn, New York. A clinical case manager for underserved communities, and a private intimacy coach + sex positive space curator, he uses his professional background and intersectional experience of identities to create affirming spaces for his clients. 

Sofia Mojica (Fifi) is a pansexual Puerto-Rican cis woman from The Bronx, NY. Using trauma-informed neo-tantric techniques, spiritual technologies, and somatic exercises, Fifi guides her clients to develop compassion toward themselves and remove barriers they may have around sex, intimacy, connecting to their physical bodies, and experiencing joy. 

To find out more about Bear and Fifi, visit their website bearandfifi.com and follow them on Instagram at @bear.n.fifi.

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Effy and Jacqueline invite journalist and author Amy Gahran to the show to discuss the relationship escalator, what it looks like to get off it or opt out of it in the first place, solo polyamory, voluntary singledom, couple’s privilege and its flip side, singleism.  

Guiding us in this conversation is Amy Gahran (AKA Aggie Sez)

Amy Gahran is the author of "Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life." She lives in Colorado. Some people know Amy by her old pen name, Aggie Sez.

https://www.facebook.com/offescalator
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In this revisited episode, Effy and Jacqueline sit down to work out what is the right maths when it comes to the division of effort that goes into a relationship while comparing parental relationship dynamics to adult romantic relationship dynamics. Not all relationships are created equal, not all effort is valued the same. 

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You can learn more about Dr. Mogilski:
Twitter @justin_mogilski
Facebook lab page facebook.com/MogilskiLab

If you’d like to participate in Dr. Mogilski’s international study of how people maintain multiple, concurrent intimate partners (e.g., polyamory, swinging, open relationships), you can do so by clicking on the link below. Anyone can participate if they're 18 years or older and have at least one current intimate partner. You do not need to be (or have experience) in a non-monogamous relationship. The link leads to Qualtrics. Funding and ethics approval statements can be found via the link.
Link: https://uofsc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_7QI9ok5A8AGjMfY

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Ariana Moran and Maxx Fenning about identity formation, internal and external producers of shame and fear about our identity, and what we can do to help ourselves and others embrace the full expression of who we are. 

Dr. Ariana Moran is a clinical psychologist and the founder and owner of Elemental Psychology PLLC, based in Brooklyn, New York. Her work in the therapy room is focused on helping her clients align with the truest versions of themselves by healing the relationship to self and focusing on the intersections and integration of one’s multiple identities. She practices from a holistic, fundamentally nonjudgmental, feminist, and nonhierarchical framework that encourages her clients to feel empowered in their own agency. Ariana has additional specialization areas in trauma, climate anxiety/ ecotherapy, life transitions, mood disorders, and relationships.

To find more about Dr. Ariana Moran, visit elementalpsych.com.

Maxx Fenning is the founder and President of PRISM FL Inc, an LGBT nonprofit based in South Florida. Through PRISM FL, Maxx works to expand access to LGBT-inclusive education and sexual health resources for youth in the community. He is a queer educator on social media who regularly posts content and hosts live classes on LGBT history, gender and sexuality, and sexual health.

To find out more about Maxx Fenning and Prism, go to @maxxfenning and @prismfl on TikTok and Instagram, and visit PRISMFL.org

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline speak with Dr. Jaime Grant about how stories of pleasure, delight, satisfaction, and discovery are equally effective within the work towards LGBTQ+ justice - and even more so because they keep us focused on the world we are trying to create.
 
To find out more about Jaime
Dr. Jaime M. Grant is a lesbian feminist activist, coach, and a sober mother of two, who came of age in feminist and racial justice movements in the 80s. Her sexual liberation workshop, Desire Mapping, has been produced on campuses and at LGBTQ rights conferences around the world; and her podcast, Just Sex, captures the stories of Desire Mappers. Grant’s research has appeared in The Harvard LGBTQ Policy Journal and in SIGNS, the Journal of Culture and Society. Her autobiographical writing appears in Leslea Newman’s The Femme Mystique and Rachel Epstein’s Who’s Your Daddy? She currently serves as research director for the National LGBTQ+ Women’s Community Survey.

Twitter: @drjaimegrant
Podcast: justsexpodcast
Website: www.transformationsconsult.com

Dr. Jaime Grant's books:
Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire
Friendship as Social Justice Activism

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Tiana Glittersaurus Rex is a Black, queer, kinky, polyamorous woman in New York City. Tiana shares her journey of going from a traditional marriage to a joyful and active member of the kink, poly, and femme dom communities. She has not only discovered her authentic self expression but is dedicated to supporting others to do the same through community, advocacy, and education. 

You can find out more about Tiana on Instagram at @Glittersaurus.Rex or via her organization Sex Work Survival Guide @swsurvivalguide. Listen to the podcast that Tiana produces: Hard or Soft Podcast. If you are in New York for Pride 2022, join Tiana at Kinks & Drinks on June 24th where consent is king, weirdness reigns supreme and ALL bodies are welcome. 

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As mentioned in the episode:
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https://www.glma.org/

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This week Effy and Jacqueline do a coaching session to address the argument patterns Jackie and her partner find themselves in over and over again. After a long text exchange in the middle of the night after one of those arguments, Effy and Jacqueline decide to unpack how Jackie and her partner fight in a recorded coaching session in the hopes that they can bring insight to everyone stuck in their own argument patterns.

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Effy and Jacqueline go on a quest to figure out why we step out of integrity in our relationships with others and ourselves and what we can do to prevent those transgressions by exploring the hot-cold empathy gap coined by George Loewenstein, a psychologist and economist at Carnegie Mellon University. They look to the elephant and the rider analogy from the book Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath to dissect those behaviour we all do and regret afterwards.

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• Waking Up The Tiger - Peter Levine
• Episode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida Kıraşı

To find more about Thomas Whitfield and his work visit his website www.SexEdByThomas.com and on IG and Twitter @twhitfieldphd.

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In honor of mental health month, Effy and Jaqueline take an intentional deep dive into focus on the most important relationship in our lives - our relationship with ourselves. 

Mentioned on the episode; 

• Episode 33: Finding The Right Therapist for All Lifestyles with Dr. Thomas Whitfield
• Episode 57: Masturbation as self-love and sex nest update with Stella Harris
• Episode 92: Trauma, Sense of Safety and the Soma with Rida Kıraşı

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline hang out with Lola Jean, an international sexuality educator, and talk through threesome strategies as well as bust some myths.

To learn more about Lola Jean, follow her on Instagram @lolajeandotcom, or via her website: lolajean.com.

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline discuss how to design-conscious date nights (and days and weekends) that serve different purposes depending on what the relationship might need and share creative ideas and inspiration for all sorts of experiences. 

As referenced in the episode, check out these ones if you like:

• Episode 57 - Masturbation as Self Love with Stella Harris
• Episode 67 - Butt Plugs and Pick Up Lines 
• Episode 86 - How to Find a Sex Worker with Miss Shayla 
• Episode 94 - Pegging and Butt Stuff with Lola Jean 
• Episode 98 - Magic Embodiment and Sexuality with Haylin Belay
• Episode 110 - Exploring Tantra with Barbara Carrellas

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To find out more about Barbara:
Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®, an approach to conscious sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of sacred sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century—now in its second edition, Ecstasy is Necessary, and Luxurious Loving. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine and received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Sexual Freedom Awards in London. Her workshops are always an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all genders and sexual orientations to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment.

Website: barbaracarrellas.com 
Instagram: @Urbantantrika
Facebook: BarbaraCarrellasUrbanTantra
Twitter: Urbantantrika

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This week Effy Blue and Jacqueline Misla are introducing Fox Tales: Stories of lives that challenge the status quo. They are bringing you the tale of @lucy.sweetkill, pro Dom and BDSM life coach, and Nick, her partner of 5 years. How they met; what it is like to nurture a relationship while actively working as a sex worker; the ups and the downs.

To learn more about Lucy Sweetkill, follow her on Instagram @lucy.sweetkill, or via her website: lucysweetkill.com

www.thedominakatarina.com/sw-survival-guide
instagram.com/swsurvivalguide

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that monogamous relationships have to be one-size-fits-all. They celebrate those who are choosing to nurture one romantic relationship, take a meaningful look at our understanding of fidelity, and discuss how to identify what values lead to longer-term monogamous relationship satisfaction. 

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In this episode, Effy and Jacqueline are challenging the idea that all relationship transitions end in shouting matches and slamming doors. They take a deep dive into conscious uncoupling and talk about what it takes to exit a relationship with dignity and respect. 

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What is the history of hair removal and what role have race, gender and age played in it?

What caused the medicalization and then industrialization of hair removal and why?

How does what we know about hair removal bust the myth of personal choice and individualism in America and expose how the unrecognized impact of conditioning play out in US society? 

To find out more about Prof. Rebecca Herzig:
Professor of Gender and Sexuality Studies Rebecca Herzig is the author or editor of several books, including Suffering for Science: Reason and Sacrifice in Modern America, The Nature of Difference: Sciences of Race in the United States from Jefferson to Genomics (with Evelynn Hammonds) and the series, Feminist Technosciences (with Banu Subramaniam). Herzig’s work has been funded by the National Science Foundation, the Howard Hughes Medical Institute, and the Macarthur Foundation.

Herzig is currently writing a book about the past(s) and future(s) of higher education. Herzig’s most recent work on that project, on labor in the pandemic university, was published in 2022.

She grew up in California, earned her PhD at MIT in Massachusetts, and now teaches at Bates College in Maine.

To find out more about Prof. Herzig’s work, buy her books from independent bookstores. 

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Guiding us this week is Jocelyn Silva:
Jocelyn Silva is a Sex and Intimacy Coach that works with women and femmes to break through their sexual shame and embrace their sex lives with confidence. With 10 years of experience as a sex educator, Jocelyn's favorite thing is teaching others about the beauty of sexual empowerment. As a queer Latina of immigrant parents, Jocelyn understands the level of shame that can be inflicted on a young girl and how that shame can bleed into adulthood. She is passionate about helping to end this cycle and uplift a new generation of sexually free badasses. She facilitates workshops, group coaching, and one on one coaching programs.

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• Why is pleasure important?
• What gets in the way of pleasure & fulfilling sex?
• How to increase sexual satisfaction?
• What are Erotic Blueprints and how do they affect our sexual self-esteem? 

Guiding us this week is Jessie Fresh:

Jessie a certified Sex and Relationship Coach who helps women and couples create a deep, intimate connection so they can experience the mind-blowing sexual pleasure they so deeply crave. Using a unique technique to help her clients understand their deepest sexual desires, she coaches them to experience intimacy and closeness where there are no limits on time, space, and love. Jessie’s mission is to end the unnecessary suffering that too many people endure because of the shame and guilt they feel about sex. 

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• What are colorism, texturism, and featurism? Where does it come from? How does it show up day today?
• How does it impact sexual self-esteem?
• How does this impact relationships between people of color?
• What can we do now that we know this?

To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Donna Oriowo:
Dr. Donna Oriowo (oreo-whoa!) LICSW, CST, is international speaker and certified sex and relationship therapist in the Washington D.C. metro area. The owner of AnnodRight, Dr. Donna specializes in working with Black women on issues related to colorism and texturism and its impacts on mental and sexual health. She is the author of Cocoa Butter & Hair Grease: A Self Love Journey Through Hair and Skin. Dr. Donna is an advocate for sexual freedom, self-love, acceptance, and accomplishment for WoC, especially Black women. She collects inspiring quotes, eats donuts, loves pasta, & stays home--cuz COVID aka Rona. 

Dr. Oriowo currently serves as co-chair of the Diversity, Equity, Inclusion committee with AASECT, Communications Steering Committee Chair, too. She can be found on Facebook and Instagram @Annodright. OR you can visit her on the interwebs at TheCBHG.com or AnnodRight.com

Resources Dr. Oriowo mentioned:
IG accounts:
@darkest.hue
@colorismhealing
@yabablay

Books:
Hair Story - Ayana D. Byrd and Lori L. Tharps
Cocoa Butter and Hair Grease - Dr. Donna Oriowo   
Hair Matters - Ingrid Banks
Tenderheaded - Pamela Johnson and Juliette Harris
One Drop: Shifting the Lens on Race - Yaba Blay

Documentary - Dark Girls
Movie - Spike Lee school daze

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• What is couple privilege?
• How does it differ from hierarchy in relationships? 
• How does it affect relationships?
• How can we design our relationships with privilege and hierarchy in mind? 

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• What is jealousy? How do you characterize it?
• What are the evolutionary roots of jealousy? And what purpose does it serve in the emotional portfolio of the human species? 
• What are the distinctions between the biological sexes and jealousy, based on existing research?

We are challenging the status quo that jealousy is bad and something that non-monogamous people should not feel. 

To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Prof David Buss:
David Buss is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. Buss previously taught at Harvard University and the University of Michigan. He is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on strategies of human mating and one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology. 

His books include The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating; Evolutionary Psychology:  The New Science of the Mind; The Dangerous Passion:  Why Jealousy is as Necessary as Love and Sex; The Murderer Next Door:  Why the Mind is Designed to Kill; and Why Women Have Sex (with Cindy Meston). 

His new book: When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault (2021) uncovers the evolutionary roots of conflict between the sexes. Buss has more than 300 scientific publications. In 2019, he was cited as one of the 50 most influential living psychologists in the world.

To find more about Prof David Buss,  go to her website  or follow him on Twitter  @ProfDavidBuss

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• What defines a friendship? What distinguishes a friendship over other relationships? 
• Are female friendships different from male friendships? 
• Is friendship jealousy different from romantic jealousy? 

We want to challenge the status quo that romantic relationships are more important than friendships and female friendships are ultimately about rivalry and threat.

To guide us in our exploration, our guest this week is Dr. Jaimie Arona Krems:

Dr. Jaimie Arona Krems is a social psychologist who uses interdisciplinary theories--from evolutionary biology, animal behavior, behavioral ecology--to explore friendship, those often-understudied friendly and competitive interactions among women, and the stereotypes and prejudices that shape people's social landscapes. She received her Ph.D. from Arizona State University, M.Sc. from the University of Oxford, M.L.A. from the University of Pennsylvania, and her A.B. in Classical and Near Eastern Archaeology from Bryn Mawr College.

To find more about Dr. Jaimie Arona Krems,  go to her website (www.kremslab.com) or follow her on @JaimieKrems

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• Weddings are the only types of relationship ceremonies 
• Only traditional relationships have and deserve to celebrate with a ceremony 
• We should only celebrate when we merge into a relationship 

This week's guest Ambyr D'Amato: 

Hi, I’m Ambyr. I’m a wedding planner. My mission is to help create a meaningful time for you on your special day and throughout your wedding planning process. 

What would it feel like to breathe or meditate a little before working on your wedding budget? How can we create a positive experience for you, your family, and all of your guests? What would it feel like to be taken care of, listened to, and coached every step of the way? 

I want the weddings I do to be inclusive and joyful. I welcome all types of couples especially LGBTQ+, multi-relationship, and multicultural families. I am a queer, intersectional feminist woman. My family is Catholic, Muslim, and Hindu, so in whatever way love has brought you together, I’m sure it’s something I can get on board with.  

To find more about Ambyr D'Amato,  go to her website www.weddingsbyambyr.com or follow her on IG @weddingsbyambyr 

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Here are the links promised: 

Effy’s fave harness: Spareparts Joque Harness

Lola’s toy suggestion: Perfect Fit The Bumper Thrust Buffer, Black
Perfect Fit The Bumper Thrust Buffer, Clear
PerfectFit Brand The Bumper Add-On Donut Buffer Cushion, Black
PerfectFit Brand The Bumper Add-On Donut Buffer Cushion, Clear

Lola’s classes: Pegging

Jackie’s fave bedside table toy that glows: Dame Eva (Go to dameproducts.com/curiousfox for a discount.)

To learn more about Lola Jean, follow her on Instagram @lolajeandotcom, or via her website: lolajean.com.

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Effy and Jackie hang with sound healing therapist, meditation facilitator, and Somatic Experiencing practitioner Rida Kıraşı to talk about how we can heal trauma, cultivate a sense of safety, and learn to regulate our emotions through the soma with the use of sound, breath, meditation and embodiment practices.

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Effy and Jacqueline jump on the airwaves to challenge the idea that passivity is the same as peace. They discuss what Esther Perel calls stable ambiguity or what Effy calls relationship purgatory where people remain in a holding pattern in relationships where things are undefined, lines are blurred, and desires go unsaid even though they are soaking in dissatisfaction, disharmony, and disconnection. 

They explore what stable ambiguity looks like, why people choose to remain in purgatory, and what are some of the strategies to break the holding pattern.

If you are feeling unsafe in your relationship and need support, these resources can help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)
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National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
You can text LOVEIS to 22522, call 1-866-331-9474 or 1-866-331-8453 any day or time, or go on thehotline.org to speak to an advocate.

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (1-800-656-HOPE)
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From negative body image to feeling stuck on a relationship escalator, they imagine a terrifying room after a terrifying room of the gruesomest, the creepiest, and the most disturbing contraptions that represent their deepest dreads. 

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Effy and Jackie sit down with Jennifer Beman to discuss her work, the Graphic Sex Project where Jennifer offers a simple and creative methodology that helps people tell the story of their sexuality. They discuss how this approach cuts through the barriers and encourage a more open dialogue about sex and sexuality as well as personal desires, fantasies, wishes, and interests.  

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Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian to discuss how different parts of our identity impact the way we practice non-monogamy, how representation matters within polyamory, and the importance and the risks of online communities.  

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Effy and Jacqueline return from their Summer hiatus and kick off our Fall programming by talking about the impact of global current affairs, the hyper-fast news cycle of apocalyptic headlines, and the still restrictive new normal on our nervous system and consequently our relationships and sex lives.

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Effy and Jacqueline talk about their first experience at sex parties, why they go and what they have learned from their experiences, and how to throw your own party while discussing Effy’s book Play Party Etiquette.

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To learn more about Leigh, follow her on social media @sexcoachleigh, on her website at sexcoachleigh.com, and check out her handmade zine about sex, self-care, & relationships at queerlovezine.smvi.co. You can also tune into her podcast - Queers Next Door - wherever you listen to podcasts and find them on IG at @queersnextdoor.

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Effy and Jacqueline are joined by Queer Dating Coach Ariella Serur to talk about how to approach dating intentionally, navigate queer space when dating and remain connected to "feelings-based standards."
 
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