Someone casually says, "Thirty years from now," and before you even realize it, your mind is calculating how old you'll be.

If so, you're not alone.

In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori explores a midlife realization that almost no one talks about: the moment when aging stops being an idea and starts feeling personal.

This isn't an episode about fearing death or dreading getting older. It's about the surprising shift that happens in midlife when we become more aware that our days are finite—and how that awareness can actually lead us to live with greater gratitude, wisdom, and intention.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why this realization often seems to arrive "all at once"
• The difference between knowing you're aging and truly feeling it
• Why this experience isn't vanity—it's part of being human
• What the ancient practice of memento mori can teach us about living well
• How Psalm 90's invitation to "number our days" changes the way we experience today
• The hope Christians have because Jesus has defeated sin, death, and the devil

If you've ever looked in the mirror and wondered where the years went, or found yourself unexpectedly grieving the loss of your youth, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that perhaps this season isn't about fearing the future, but waking up to the gift of the present.

Because maybe the goal isn't to stop noticing that our days are numbered.

Maybe the goal is to let that awareness teach us just how precious today really is.

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Maybe nothing is terribly wrong, but something feels different. The kids have grown up, the house is quieter, and now you have the space to notice changes in your relationship that were easy to overlook during the busy years of raising a family.

In this episode, we're talking about why long marriages often feel different in midlife—and why that doesn't necessarily mean something is broken.

We'll explore:

• Why resentment often builds slowly over years of sacrifice
• How the stories we tell ourselves shape the way we experience our marriages
• The hidden cost of carrying everyone else's emotions while hiding our own
• Why emotional adulthood invites us to move from assumption to curiosity
• How both you and your spouse are changing in midlife—and why that's an opportunity instead of a problem

If you've been feeling disconnected, frustrated, or simply wondering why your marriage feels different than it used to, this episode will encourage you to stop asking, "What's wrong with us?" and start asking a more hopeful question.

Because sometimes the greatest gift you can give your marriage isn't fixing it.

It's allowing yourself to be truly known.

If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who might need the reminder that changing doesn't mean failing—it may simply mean you're entering a new season together.

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What needs to be done next?
Who needs me?
What's the priority? 

Then midlife arrives, and suddenly a new question appears: 

What do I want? 

And surprisingly, many of us don't know how to answer it. 

In this episode, Lori explores why so many midlife women struggle to identify their own desires, preferences, and dreams after years of focusing on responsibilities, caregiving, and taking care of everyone else. 

You'll learn: 

•  Why decision fatigue is real in midlife 
•  How years of responsibility can disconnect us from our own preferences 
•  Why "I don't know" may not be the whole story 
•  A powerful coaching question that can help you uncover what you really want 
•  Practical ways to reconnect with curiosity, interests, and possibility 
•  Why figuring out what you want doesn't require a midlife crisis 

If you've ever felt stuck, uncertain, or disconnected from your own desires, this episode will help you understand why—and show you how to start listening to yourself again.
 
Because maybe the question isn't, "What's wrong with me?"
 
Maybe the question is, "What would I say if I did know?"
 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori explores the surprising reasons loneliness often shows up during the empty nest and midlife years. Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of people. Sometimes it's the loss of the roles, routines, and connections that once filled our days.

You'll learn:

•  Why friendship feels different in midlife 
•  How major life transitions can create unexpected loneliness 
•  The thought patterns that can make loneliness worse 
•  Why being needed is not the same as being known 
•  Three practical ways to create more connection in this season of life 

If you've ever looked around at a full life and still felt disconnected, this episode will help you understand what's really happening—and what you can do next.

As always, Lori combines practical coaching tools, encouragement, and a little midlife humor to help you navigate this season with more confidence and intention.

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One year. Fifty-five episodes. Countless conversations with women navigating midlife. 

When I started Loving That Midlife, I hoped to encourage women through the challenges of this season. What I didn't expect was how much I would learn from all of you. 

In this special anniversary episode, I'm sharing the biggest patterns I've noticed after a year of podcasting, coaching, and talking with midlife women. From emotional overload and identity shifts to grief, people-pleasing, and self-criticism, we'll explore what women are really struggling with—and why I have more hope than ever. 

If you've ever wondered whether you're doing midlife "right," this episode is a reminder that you're probably doing better than you think. 

In this episode, you'll learn: 

•  Why so many midlife women feel emotionally exhausted 
•  The difference between failing and grieving 
•  How midlife exposes patterns that have been there all along 
•  Why women are often their own harshest critics 
•  What gives me hope after a year of conversations with women just like you 

Plus, I'll share a recent anniversary trip to Alaska that reminded me of one of the most important lessons of midlife: life is rarely all good or all bad—it's usually both.
 
Whether you've been listening since Episode 1 or you're brand new to the podcast, thank you for being part of this community. Here's to another year of learning to love the life we're living right now.

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In this relatable summer episode, Lori Buck shares the realities of vacation prep in midlife: the packing, planning, overstimulation, hormonal stress, travel anxiety, emotional labor, and pressure women often carry while trying to make sure everyone else has a good time.

This episode will help you:

•  stop trying to manage everyone’s emotions, 
•  lower unrealistic expectations, 
•  enjoy your family without over-functioning, 
•  and remember that you deserve to enjoy the vacation too. 

If you’re navigating midlife, perimenopause, parenting adult kids, or simply trying to survive summer travel season with your sanity intact, this conversation will make you feel seen.

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In this episode, Lori gets real about her own experience navigating the season after homeschooling ended, her kids grew up, and her days stopped being built around everyone else's needs. And she talks about what she's learning — for herself and with her clients — about how to actually wake up to the life that's right in front of you. 

In this episode, you'll hear about: 

  •  The three things that tangle together in the midlife in-between: lost identity, lost voice, and drift 

  •  Why "I don't know what I want" is almost never the whole truth — and the coaching question that bypasses it 

  •  How to use journaling to reclaim a voice you've kept quiet for years 

  •  Why rhythm matters more than a schedule — and how the things you do consistently become who you're becoming 

  •  The most important mindset shift for women who are waiting for a better season to start living this one 

Plus — a Midlife Moment about what it actually feels like to have 8am to 6pm mostly to yourself for the first time in decades. (Spoiler: it's a little strange. And also kind of good.) 

This one is personal. And it might be exactly what you needed to hear today. 

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Lori shares the practical advice, mindset shifts, and honest coaching she gives to women navigating one of the most significant new relationships of midlife: the relationship with a child's spouse. 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

  •  The one thing Lori told her own daughter-in-law early on — and why saying the hard thing first builds more trust than anything else 

  •  Why making the holidays non-negotiable is one of the fastest ways to create resentment (and what to do instead) 

  •  The truth about unsolicited advice — and why it lands as criticism every single time 

  •  How to examine the thought "she's taking my child away from me" — and the reframe that changes everything 

  •  Why holding two truths at once is the key to a healthy mother-in-law relationship 

Plus — a tender word for the mother-in-law who is hurting, who is being kept at a distance, or who is watching another grandmother get what she's longing for. 

And a Midlife Moment about the quiet surprise of missing your daughter-in-law more than you expected. 

This one is full of love — and full of the honest, practical coaching that actually helps. 

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Maybe you only got a text from your adult kids.
Maybe your husband didn’t plan anything.
Maybe you spent the weekend celebrating everyone else and ended the day feeling unseen, hurt, or resentful. 

In this episode, Lori talks honestly about the emotional expectations many women carry into Mother’s Day, birthdays, and family holidays — and what happens when reality doesn’t match the picture in our heads. 

This is not an episode about “never feeling disappointed.” It’s about learning how to recognize: 

•  unspoken expectations, 
•  the painful stories we tell ourselves, 
•  emotional martyrdom, 
•  and when disappointment is actually pointing to a real relationship issue that needs attention. 

Lori also shares a personal story about one of the biggest arguments in her marriage — and how disappointment eventually led to an important conversation and years of growth.
 
If you’ve ever ended a holiday feeling hurt, overlooked, emotionally exhausted, or unsure what to do with your disappointment, this episode will help you approach those feelings with more clarity, honesty, and emotional maturity.
 
In this episode: 

•  Why unspoken expectations create resentment 
•  The difference between disappointment and rejection 
•  How “people are going to people” 
•  When mindset work helps — and when a conversation is needed 
•  Why emotional adulthood matters in family relationships 
•  How to stop handing other people full responsibility for your happiness 

You are not wrong for wanting to feel loved and appreciated. But learning what to do with disappointment may change your relationships — and your peace — more than getting the perfect Mother’s Day ever could.
 

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In honor of 50 episodes of Loving That Midlife, Lori is sharing the five mindset shifts that she comes back to again and again — both in her coaching practice and in her own life. These are the shifts that don't just sound good. They actually change things.

In this episode, you'll hear about:

 •  Why you can trust yourself far more than you think you can — and how to start building that trust

 •  The difference between solving midlife and navigating it (and why that shift changes everything)

 •  The most expensive thought most midlife women carry — and the story from Lori's own 40th birthday that illustrates it perfectly

 •  Why identity isn't something you find in midlife — it's something you build, one choice at a time

 •  How to treat your feelings as data instead of directions — and what emotional adulthood actually looks like

Plus — a Midlife Moment about what it’s like to put something out into the world and wonder if it’s actually making a difference.

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You're excited. You've missed them. You've maybe already planned their favorite meals.

And you're also a little nervous about what it's going to look like when two very different sets of expectations collide under the same roof.

In this episode, we're talking about how to welcome your college kid home for the summer — with more peace, more connection, and a lot less conflict.

We'll cover:

• Why the transition home is harder than it looks — for both of you
• How to have the expectations conversation before they ever pull into the driveway
• Why you should give them a few days before you dive into the rules
• What it means that everyone has changed — not just them
• Practical tools for managing your own thoughts when the summer isn't going the way you pictured
• A gentle word for the moms whose kids aren't coming home at all this summer

Whether your college kid is coming home for the whole summer, half the summer, or not at all — this episode is for you.

Because loving them well in this season doesn't mean controlling the outcome. It means showing up with intention, grace, and a willingness to meet them where they are now.

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You’ve done the work. You understand your patterns. You’re trying to respond differently.
And yet—you still get triggered.

In this episode, we’re talking about why emotional triggers don’t just disappear—even after growth—and why that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself for still reacting, still feeling hurt, or still getting pulled into the same patterns, this conversation will help you understand what’s really happening.

We’ll cover:

•  What emotional triggers actually are (and why they stick around) 
•  Why growth doesn’t mean you stop having reactions 
•  The difference between being triggered and how you respond 
•  How to stop judging yourself for where you are in the process 
•  Simple, practical tools to handle triggers with more awareness and self-trust 

We’ll also talk about giving yourself more grace in this season—and why learning to respond differently matters more than trying to never feel triggered again.

If you’ve been wondering why you’re “still dealing with this,” this episode will help you see that nothing has gone wrong.

You’re not broken.

You’re learning.

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You set a boundary, say no, or take care of yourself—and suddenly you feel guilty. Like maybe you’re doing it wrong. 

In this episode, we’re talking about that familiar midlife feeling of second-guessing yourself—even when you haven’t actually done anything wrong. 

I share a personal story from this past week (involving cataract surgery, anesthesia, and a slightly questionable podcast recording decision), along with a deeper look at something many women carry for years: the belief that “I’m doing it wrong.” 

We’ll talk about: 

• Why your brain defaults to self-doubt in midlife 
• The difference between false guilt and real conviction 
• How to tell when guilt is actually pointing to something… and when it’s just old conditioning 
• Why things like housekeeping, procrastination, and productivity don’t carry moral value 
• How to stop making your choices mean something negative about who you are 

If you’ve been doing the work—setting boundaries, stepping back from overfunctioning, trying to trust yourself more—but still feel uncomfortable or unsure… this episode is for you.
 
You’re not doing your life wrong.
 
You’re just learning how to live it differently.
 

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So many women in midlife struggle with confrontation—not because they don’t care, but because they were raised to be “good girls.” Good girls don’t rock the boat, don’t complain, and don’t make things uncomfortable. 

But avoiding hard conversations doesn’t create peace—it creates resentment, disconnection, and emotional exhaustion. 

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to have hard conversations without being confrontational. You’ll learn why your brain resists speaking up, how people-pleasing shows up in midlife relationships, and how to approach conversations with clarity and emotional maturity. 

I’ll also walk you through a simple decision filter to help you know when to speak up—and when it’s time to shift your mindset instead. 

Inside this episode, you’ll learn: 

•  How to communicate clearly without over-explaining or apologizing 
•  Why other people’s reactions are not your responsibility 
•  How to stay grounded when conversations feel uncomfortable 
•  What to do when you can’t change the situation—but still want to feel better 

Because healthy relationships aren’t built on avoiding discomfort… they’re built on honesty.
 

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You want to step in.
 Make a call.
 Say the right thing.
 Take the pain away. 

But what happens when you can’t? 

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest and most overlooked parts of parenting adult children— watching them go through something difficult… and having no way to make it better. 

Whether it’s a situation that feels unfair, a relationship that’s falling apart, or a season of anxiety, uncertainty, or emotional pain… this episode will meet you right where you are. 

You’ll learn: 

•  Why the urge to fix feels so strong (and what’s actually driving it) 
•  The difference between supporting your adult child and trying to rescue them 
•  How to manage your own emotions when you feel helpless, anxious, or overwhelmed 
•  What it looks like to stay present and connected without taking over 

This episode is part 3 of a 3-part series on parenting adult children:
 

1.  When they come to you with a problem 
2.  When they make decisions you don’t agree with 
3.  When they’re struggling and you can’t fix it 

If you’ve ever thought:
 “I just want to make this better for them…”
 “I hate watching them go through this…”
 “I don’t know what to do…”
 
You are not alone.
 
This episode will help you learn how to support your child in a way that actually strengthens your relationship—without over-functioning, over-controlling, or losing yourself in the process.
 
 
If you’d like help applying this to your real-life situation, I offer free consultation calls. You can connect with me on socials, my website, or via email.

 

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You’re not in charge anymore… but you still care deeply.

In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to navigate those moments—when your adult child chooses something you wouldn’t choose, and every part of you wants to step in, say something, or steer the outcome.

You’ll hear:

•  Why this stage of parenting feels so emotionally challenging 
•  What’s really happening when you feel the urge to correct or control 
•  How to stay connected to your adult child without agreeing with their decisions 

We’ll also talk about the added layer for Christian moms—how to trust that you’ve raised your children in truth, without feeling responsible to correct or convict them in every conversation.

This episode is honest, practical, and rooted in real-life moments—including a story that might just change the way you see these interactions.

If you’ve ever thought,
 “I wouldn’t choose that…”
 but didn’t know what to do next—

This episode is for you.

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Because here’s the truth:
Parenting doesn’t get easier when our kids grow up… it just gets different.

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the hardest and least talked about parts of parenting adult children—knowing how to respond when they come to you with a problem.

You’ll hear real-life situations—from job struggles to college challenges—and learn how to navigate those moments without overstepping, over-functioning, or taking on what isn’t yours to carry.

We’ll also explore:

• The shift from hands-on parent to “consultant”
• Why unsolicited advice often feels like criticism to adult kids
• How to manage your own thoughts and emotions so you can show up with intention

And I’ll share a personal story about learning to trust my child in a hard situation—even when every instinct in me wanted to step in.

If you’re in midlife and learning how to navigate this new season of parenting, this episode will help you feel more grounded, more confident, and less alone.

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In the last episode, we talked about what happens when you finally stop over-functioning. Instead of relief, many women feel uncomfortable, restless, or unsure what to do next.

So what comes after that?

In this episode, Lori Buck explains how to move from simply pausing your old patterns to actually leading yourself forward. You’ll learn how to notice your instinct to step in and fix things, how to separate true responsibility from emotional reactivity, and how to choose responses that align with the woman you want to be in this next stage of life.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “Why do I feel responsible for everything?”
 • “What happens if I stop fixing things for everyone?”
 • “How do I show up differently without abandoning people I love?”

This episode will help you understand the next step.

Midlife isn’t asking you to become someone completely new. It’s inviting you to slow down, notice your patterns, and learn how to lead yourself with clarity and steadiness.

And that kind of leadership begins in small moments — one choice at a time.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, we talk about what happens after you stop over-functioning: why families, workplaces, and relationships push back, why that resistance doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong, and how to stay steady without rushing to fix or explain. 

You’ll learn why over-functioning lives inside systems, how to tell the difference between your discomfort and someone else’s, and what emotional leadership looks like in midlife when old roles begin to shift. This episode reframes midlife not as a failure or burnout season, but as a leadership transition — one that requires steadiness, clarity, and trust rather than over-responsibility. 

If you’ve stepped back and wondered, “Why does this feel harder — and why does everyone seem upset?” this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening and why nothing has gone wrong. 

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In midlife, many capable women find themselves exhausted, anxious, and quietly resentful — not because they aren’t doing enough, but because they’re doing too much. Waking everyone up. Tracking schedules. Managing emotions. Preventing problems before they happen. 

In this episode, we talk about over-functioning — what it actually is, why it feels so normal (and even loving), and how it quietly creates pressure in parenting, marriage, and everyday life. 

You’ll learn: 

• How to tell the difference between healthy responsibility and over-functioning
• Why over-functioning often increases anxiety instead of relieving it
• How this pattern shows up with teens, adult children, and family dynamics
• Two practical tools to help you pause, release what isn’t yours, and tolerate the discomfort of letting others carry their own load

This conversation is about responsibility without shame — and relief without urgency.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does everything feel like it falls on me?”
This episode is for you.
 

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In the last episode, we talked about how unnamed emotions can leak out sideways as irritability, tension, or reactivity. But in this episode, we’re naming something different: the anxiety that shows up when a decision stays open too long.

When a decision remains unmade, your brain keeps it running in the background. Even if you’re not consciously thinking about it, your nervous system knows something needs to be addressed. That can show up as mental clutter, trouble sleeping, tight shoulders, or a sense that you just can’t settle.

In this episode, we talk about:
 • How to tell the difference between emotional anxiety and a leadership gap
 • Why midlife decisions feel heavier — and why avoiding them costs more than choosing
 • A simple way to recognize when you’re “trying” to decide versus avoiding commitment
 • Why most decisions don’t need to be forever...they just need to be made right for right now

This conversation isn’t about rushing decisions, forcing clarity, or burning your life down. It’s about learning to trust yourself, step into emotional leadership, and give your nervous system somewhere to land.

Sometimes listening to a podcast is enough to bring relief. And sometimes you need a little more support and guidance — that’s where coaching comes in. If you're ready for coaching, reach out.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, we’re talking about something many women experience but rarely have language for: unprocessed, low-level emotions that build up in the background and come out sideways.

You’ll learn why saying “I feel like…” isn’t actually naming an emotion, how to identify what you’re truly feeling, and why emotions that go unnoticed often show up as tension in the body or sudden reactivity with the people we love most.

I’ll walk you through:

• How to name emotions clearly (without telling a story)
• What it means to locate emotions in the body
• Why midlife stress, disrupted routines, and constant mental load make emotional regulation harder
• Simple nervous system regulation tools you can use in real time — including breathing, grounding, and calming techniques that actually work

If you’ve ever thought, “Why did I react like that?” or “I don’t feel like myself lately,” this episode will help you understand what’s happening — and how to lead yourself with more clarity and compassion.

This is emotional leadership for real life — not perfection, just awareness and practice.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck, master certified Christian life coach, shares a real-time story from the Nashville ice storm and what it revealed about emotional responsibility, nervous system regulation, and how people respond so differently to the same hardship. 

This conversation isn’t about minimizing pain or pretending everything is fine. It’s about learning how to lead yourself emotionally when life is genuinely disrupted — whether that’s power outages, displaced friends and family, or seasons where normal routines completely fall apart. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why some situations are truly difficult (and that doesn’t mean you’re failing)
• How your thoughts can make hard seasons harder — or steadier
• What emotional adulthood looks like in midlife
• A simple self-coaching tool to help you feel more regulated and grounded this week

If you’re a woman in your 40s or 50s navigating stress, disruption, or emotional overload, this episode will help you feel seen — and show you a calmer, more grounded way forward.
 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, explores the identity shifts many women experience in midlife when long-held roles change or come to an end. Whether you’re no longer actively parenting the way you once were, stepping out of a caregiving role, or realizing that a season of life has closed, this conversation offers clarity, relief, and practical guidance.

We talk about:

• Why midlife identity challenges are common for women — and why they don’t mean something has gone wrong
• The difference between vocation and calling from a Christian perspective
• Why secular work and everyday roles are just as meaningful as ministry roles
• How identity confusion often comes from losing a role, not losing yourself
• Four practical tools to help you lead yourself through identity transitions with clarity and grace

You’ll also hear Lori share a personal story about homeschooling, identity loss, and rediscovering her calling in midlife — and why asking “Who am I now?” can actually be the beginning of something good.

✨ Sometimes listening to a podcast is enough.
But if this episode stirs something deeper and you’d like support sorting it through, Lori offers complimentary consultation calls. Use the links below to connect with her.

This episode is for thoughtful, capable women who want to navigate midlife transitions with emotional maturity, faith, and wisdom — without shame, burnout, or reactionary decisions.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck talks about a pattern she’s seeing everywhere: thoughtful, capable women hitting midlife exhaustion and feeling the sudden urge to quit — to stop cooking, stop volunteering, stop carrying the emotional load, or walk away from parts of life that have started to feel unsustainable. 

Culturally, that breaking point is often celebrated. Other women cheer. Social media applauds. “You don’t have to do that anymore.” And while that message can feel freeing, it isn’t always wise. 

In this conversation, Lori explores the difference between burning it all down and leading yourself well in midlife. She introduces practical mindset tools to help you count the cost honestly, pause before reacting, and choose changes that actually support a life you want to stay in. 

You’ll learn: 

• Why midlife burnout often shows up as resentment or the urge to quit
• The difference between rebellion and sustainability
• How to tell the truth about what’s costing you without self-abandonment
• Why endurance is not the same thing as martyrdom
• A grounding reframe many women need to hear: “I am not a martyr. I am choosing this.”

This episode is especially for women who feel on the edge — tired, discouraged, and unsure whether they need to stop everything or just do things differently.
 
Lori also shares a relatable midlife moment that perfectly captures the 50/50 life: joy and missing, relief and worry, gratitude and vulnerability — all at the same time.
 
If you’re realizing something needs to change, but you don’t want to react from exhaustion or resentment, this episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and lead yourself with more wisdom and grace.
 
If you’d like support doing this work more intentionally, Lori offers private 12-week coaching for women in midlife who want clarity, steadiness, and sustainable change. Reach out to her on social media or her website for more information.
 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck explains why midlife truly is different — emotionally, physically, and mentally — and why nothing has gone wrong if you feel more tired, less patient, or less willing to tolerate what you once did.

You’ll learn two practical self-leadership tools to help you:

• stop judging yourself for being tired
• calm your nervous system when everything feels heavy
• recognize when your brain is exaggerating the story
• and lead yourself with more clarity and compassion

Lori also shares a relatable midlife story about exhaustion, mindset, and what happens when we unknowingly gather evidence for misery — plus a lighthearted Midlife Moment that ties it all together.

If you’ve been telling yourself you should be able to handle this by now, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening — and show you a more honest, sustainable way forward.

Coaching Invitation:
Lori is currently enrolling a small number of women into a 12-week private coaching experience that includes weekly recorded teachings and a 50-minute one-on-one session each week. The first three women who sign up will also receive a physical copy of the Design Your Life in 90 Days planner. Email or message me for more details.

There’s no pressure — just support if you’re ready for it.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Christian life coach Lori Buck talks about the part of goal-setting and personal growth that rarely gets discussed: how to rebuild after you mess up. This episode is for women in midlife who are tired of all-or-nothing thinking and want a more realistic, emotionally mature way to create change.

Lori explains why failure isn’t the problem — quitting is — and how your brain uses missed days and broken streaks as evidence that you should stop trying. You’ll learn how to recognize when your mind is trying to protect you instead of telling the truth, and how to restart without turning a setback into a personal failure.

This episode also explores how choosing one clear focus at a time helps reduce overwhelm, build trust with yourself, and turn effort into sustainable rhythms — instead of constant pressure. Lori shares why shorter seasons of focus allow habits to form, how to plan for disruption instead of being derailed by it, and why rebuilding is one of the most important skills you can practice in midlife.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you stuck
• What to do when you fall off track — without quitting
• How to use failure as data instead of shame
• Why choosing one focus creates more momentum than doing everything
• How to rebuild habits and routines in a sustainable way

This episode is especially helpful if you’ve started and stopped before, feel discouraged by past attempts, or want to move forward in midlife with steadiness instead of pressure.

Coaching Invitation

If you want help choosing the right focus for your season — and learning how to rebuild without beating yourself up — this is the work Lori does through private coaching.

Lori is currently enrolling women into a 12-week coaching experience that includes:

• Weekly teaching
• A weekly 50-minute one-on-one coaching session
• A clear framework to help you design your next season intentionally

✨ The first three women who sign up will receive a physical copy of the Design Your Life in 90 Days planner.

For more information, email lori@loribuckcoaching.com
There’s no pressure and no rush — just an invitation.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck shares a grounded, emotionally mature approach to planning the new year in midlife — without pressure, hustle, or “new year, new you” energy. This episode is for women in their 40s and 50s who want to slow down, get clear, and move forward intentionally, instead of reacting to another January.

Lori explores why rushing into goals often backfires, and why clarity — not motivation — is what creates real change in midlife. You’ll learn how to plan from how you want your life to feel, how to identify what you want to build on and what you’re ready to change, and why it’s wise to wait before starting your next 90-day focus.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why January pressure is emotionally premature for many women
• How to plan the new year from clarity instead of urgency
• How to name what you want to build on — and what needs to change
• Why planning joy and fun on purpose energizes the rest of your year
• How to create direction without rushing into decisions

This episode is especially helpful if you’re navigating midlife transitions — shifting identities, parenting older kids, changing relationships, or a growing desire to live more intentionally.

If you’re listening and realize you want more than reflection — you want clarity, support, and accountability — this is the work Lori does through private coaching.

Lori is currently enrolling women into a 12-week coaching experience that includes:

• Weekly teaching to support your growth
• A weekly 50-minute one-on-one coaching session
• A clear framework to help you design your next 90 days on purpose

This coaching experience uses Lori’s Design Your Life in 90 Days approach to help you:

• get emotionally clear
• identify what you want to build on and what needs to change
• and move forward with steadiness, confidence, and self-trust

The first three women who sign up will receive a physical copy of the Design Your Life in 90 Days Planner.

Want to know more? Email lori@loribuckcoaching.com.
There’s no rush — just an invitation to stop doing this alone.

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In this Christmas Eve episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck invites you to pause and look back on the year you actually lived — not with judgment or shame, but with honesty, kindness, and compassion. 

This is not an episode about doing more, fixing yourself, or becoming a “new you.”
It’s about learning how to quiet the inner critic, notice growth that didn’t come with a gold star, and honor the ways you’ve changed...even if the year didn’t turn out the way you hoped. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why year-end reflection is so hard for so many women in midlife
• How the inner critic turns reflection into a verdict — and how to interrupt that pattern
• Why celebrating progress (even without hitting the goal) matters emotionally
• How emotional maturity allows you to be honest without being cruel
• Gentle reflection questions to help you look back without overwhelm

This episode is especially for women navigating midlife transitions — parenting older kids, shifting identities, changing marriages, grief, growth, and the quiet awareness that something in you is waking up.
 
And if as you’re listening, you realize you don’t want to keep living your life on autopilot in the year ahead — this is the work Lori does with her coaching clients.
 
Through private coaching, Lori helps women slow down, process the year they’ve lived, reset emotionally, and make intentional choices for what’s next — not from pressure or shame, but from clarity, self-trust, and steadiness.
 
Over the next 12 weeks, Lori will be working with a small number of women using a simple 90-day rhythm to help them:

• process the past year with clarity
• reset emotionally
• and step into the new year grounded and on purpose

If you want to learn more, email Lori at lori@loribuckcoaching.com, or find her on social media at Lori Buck Coaching. There’s no rush — just an invitation.
 
Next week, we’ll talk about how to carry what you’ve learned into the year ahead — gently, intentionally, and without pretending you need to become a completely different person.
 

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It’s not wisdom.
It’s your inner critic — and she’s louder than ever in midlife.

In this episode of Loving That Midlife, we’re talking about the meanest bully most women know — not the one from sixth grade, but the one living inside our own heads. The voice that shows up when growth feels uncomfortable, when you’re trying something new, or when you finally stop numbing and start paying attention to your life.

Through a very real (and slightly sweaty) piano lesson story, I share what midlife growth actually asks of us — not confidence or perfection, but the ability to stay present with discomfort instead of escaping it. We’ll unpack why the inner critic sounds so convincing, how fear disguises itself as logic (and even spirituality), and how to discern truth from condemnation.

We’ll also explore:

• Why the inner critic gets louder when you stretch yourself
• The difference between conviction and condemnation
• Identity vs. performance in midlife
• How faith anchors us when self-judgment takes over
• Practical tools for leading yourself when discomfort shows up

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be better by now,” this episode is for you.

You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.

🎧 Listen in — and if you’d like support learning how to quiet the inner critic and lead yourself with steadiness, you’ll find information in the show notes to book a 20-minute Emotional Reset Session.

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For so many women, the holidays highlight the gap between what we hope our family will do…and what actually happens. We wait for someone else to create the magic, plan the moments, remember our needs, or make us feel appreciated. And when they don’t, the disappointment hits deeply.

But here’s the truth most of us were never taught:

✨ Your joy does not depend on anyone else.
✨ You can create the Christmas you want — without waiting for permission.
✨ You can be right…or you can be happy. And choosing happiness is emotional leadership.

In this empowering episode, Lori shares:

• Why waiting for other people to make Christmas magical leaves us disappointed,
 • The emotional trap of wanting to be right about how things should be,
• Why sometimes you have to throw your own party,  
• How to stop being the family’s Christmas martyr, and
• How her daughter learned to make her own Christmas magic
 

You will walk away feeling lighter, empowered, and ready to create the holiday season you want — without resentment, disappointment, or waiting for someone else to get it right.

✨ Want to feel emotionally steady this Christmas?
I’m offering a limited number of FREE 20-minute Emotional Reset Sessions.
This is a quick, transformative coaching call to help you put down one emotional burden you were never meant to carry.

👉 DM the word RESET on Instagram and I’ll send you a message to get it scheduled.

You don’t have to wait for magic this year.
You can make it — beautifully and intentionally — starting today.

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Today we’re talking about:

• Why moms become the emotional carriers in the family
• How this role starts long before we even notice it
• What happens to you when you take on everyone else’s emotions
• What happens to them when you try to manage their emotional world
• How to step into emotional adulthood with calm, grounded confidence
• How to love your people deeply without absorbing every feeling they have

I’m sharing personal stories from my own motherhood journey — including the years I acted as the referee, the buffer, the fixer, and the “go-between.” And I’ll walk you through the mindset shifts, biblical truth, and coaching tools that helped me break the cycle for good.

Your emotional load is yours.
 Their emotional load is theirs.
 And joy comes from finally letting that be true.

✨ If you want to go deeper with this work, A Joyful Christmas is still available this week!
It’s my 5-week Christian mindset coaching experience designed to help you move through this holiday season with joy, peace, and intention — no matter what’s happening in your home or your extended family.

Learn more and join us here: https://loribuckcoaching.com/joyful-christmas 

Let’s walk into this holiday season renewed, grounded, and confident — together. 

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Today on Loving That Midlife, we’re talking about why that happens… and how you can show up as your true, grounded, adult self this holiday season, no matter how anyone else behaves. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:
 • Why your brain defaults to old childhood roles around family
 • The difference between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood
 • How to choose your responses instead of reacting out of old wounds
 • A simple mindset shift that will help you stay centered when others aren’t
 • A story from my own college-aged years when family patterns showed up loud and clear
 • How to decide — on purpose — who you want to be when you walk into the room this year 

This teaching will help you walk into Thanksgiving, Christmas, and every family gathering with more peace, more confidence, and more emotional maturity… even if no one else around you has changed. 

✨ If you want to go deeper with this work, A Joyful Christmas is officially open for enrollment.
It’s my 5-week Christian mindset coaching experience designed to help you move through this holiday season with joy, peace, and intention — no matter what’s happening in your home or your extended family.
Learn more and join us here: https://loribuckcoaching.com/joyful-christmas 
(Early bird pricing ends Nov. 29!) 

Let’s walk into this holiday season renewed, grounded, and confident — together. 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Christian Life Coach Lori Buck shares what moms truly need to know about navigating the emotional ups and downs when young adults return home for the holidays. Whether this is your first freshman coming home or your fourth rodeo, this conversation will help you welcome them home with peace instead of pressure, connection instead of control, and realistic expectations instead of disappointment.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why holiday visits feel so emotionally intense for both moms and college kids
✨ How your child has changed — and how you’ve changed too
 ✨ What expectations to let go of (including curfews, chores, and family time)
✨ The One Thing Rule that will dramatically reduce conflict
✨ How to set house agreements instead of rules
✨ Why gratitude + rest matter more than grades...for the first week
 ✨ How to stay steady when your child asserts their newfound independence
✨ And how to enjoy this season without smothering, overthinking, or walking on eggshells

Lori also shares a hilarious (and relatable!) Thanksgiving story from her own family about the year her daughter came home ready to argue with everyone at the table — and what that taught her about parenting young adults with wisdom, calm, and compassion.

If you want this holiday season to feel calmer, more connected, and far less chaotic, this episode will give you the mindset shifts and practical tools you need.

🎄 Want a peaceful December? Join A Joyful Christmas.

This brand-new 5-week Christian coaching experience will help you renew your mind, manage holiday expectations, navigate family dynamics with grace, and cultivate true joy — no matter how anyone else shows up.
Enrollment is now open. Click here for more info.

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They share:
 • What their relationship looked like before emotional maturity and coaching
• The moment things shifted and why
• How to repair “old patterns” and rebuild trust
• What adult children actually need from their parents
• The surprising beauty (and awkward adjustment!) of adult kids moving back home 

This isn’t a mom-confessional or a blame session — it’s a story of growth, grace, and learning to love your adult children without controlling them. 

If you’ve ever wondered:
 • “Is it too late to repair the relationship?”
 • “Why does my adult child pull away?”
 • “How do I stay close without overstepping?” 

This episode will encourage you, steady you, and give you real language and tools to help your relationship flourish. 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, breaks down the Hidden Cost of “Shoulds.”
You’ll learn:

• Why your brain creates pressure and “should” thinking
• How to tell the difference between a Kingdom Should (rooted in love, calling, and compassion) and a Performance Should (rooted in guilt, fear, and expectation)
• How to set gentle but firm boundaries without being rude, selfish, or unkind
• How to create peace, emotional presence, and healthier family dynamics during the holidays

Plus, Lori shares real-life examples and simple boundary scripts you can use immediately — especially if you feel responsible for making everyone happy.

This episode will help you:

• Release holiday stress and pressure
• Stop people-pleasing during family gatherings
• Choose your “yes” and “no” with peace and confidence
• Love others without abandoning yourself
• Recognize when guilt is disguising itself as responsibility

Whether you are navigating caregiving, family expectations, hosting traditions, or just trying not to lose yourself in the holiday chaos — this conversation will give you clarity, grace, relief, and a grounded path forward.

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In this episode, we’ll talk about what gratitude does in your brain and body, why it strengthens your faith, and how to create a gratitude practice for the month of November that feels meaningful — not forced or performative.

You’ll learn:

• How gratitude rewires the brain toward hope and resilience
• Why it lowers anxiety, stress, AND inflammation
• What Scripture teaches about thankfulness in hard seasons
• Why gratitude isn’t pretending everything’s fine — it’s choosing to see what is still good
• 6 different gratitude practices you can choose from this month

By the end of the episode, you’ll have a clear, personal plan for your own gratitude practice — one that meets you where you are and supports emotional and spiritual growth in real life, not just on paper.

And if this is the season where you’re ready to step into personal coaching to help rewire your thoughts for peace, confidence, and joy, I’d love to talk with you.
 Visit LoriBuckCoaching.com to schedule your free discovery call.

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In this heartfelt episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck unpacks how to navigate the tension between guiding and letting go as your kids become teens and young adults. You’ll learn how to correct with calm instead of control, when correction turns into criticism, and how to build connection even when your children are making choices you don’t love.

Lori also shares a powerful word for moms watching a child walk away from faith — and how to trust God with your adult children’s hearts without falling into guilt or control.

You’ll walk away with:

• 3 practical tools for peaceful midlife parenting
• The difference between correction and criticism
• How to release control while holding on to love
• A faith-based framework for trusting God with your grown kids

Because loving your kids well in this season doesn’t mean managing their every move — it means modeling calm, compassion, and trust.

Listen now to learn how to guide your kids with peace instead of pressure.

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck helps you uncover the difference between clean pain, the natural hurt that comes from being human, and dirty pain, the unnecessary suffering we add through guilt, shame, and self-judgment.

You’ll learn how to:
 • Recognize when you’re resisting pain and making it heavier
 • Allow emotions to move through your body so they can be released
 • Be emotionally honest—with yourself and with God
 • Stop shaming yourself for “feeling too much”
 • Turn pain into purpose through faith and emotional maturity

Lori weaves in Scripture, coaching tools, and a moving personal story about helping her daughter through heartbreak, reminding you that real love doesn’t erase pain; it holds space for it.

If you’ve been feeling weighed down by sadness, guilt, or disappointment, this episode will help you process pain in a way that brings healing, not harm.

✨ Key Topics: Christian mindset coaching, emotional processing, grief, midlife faith, resilience, healing, emotional regulation, letting go, parenting adult children

🎧 Listen now to learn how to stop resisting pain—and start growing through it.

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In this episode, Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, shares five practical shifts to help you move forward—even if you don’t know what you want next. You’ll discover how to 

• reframe your story, 
• start smaller than you think, 
• use the right tools for your brain, 
• allow emotions without letting them hold you back, and 
• redefine success. 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck shares why 90-day goals are so powerful—especially for women in midlife who feel tired of transitions, overwhelmed by regret, or unsure if it’s even worth starting something new. You’ll hear her personal story of setting a 90-day goal to finally learn jazz piano at 52, and why embracing being a beginner is the key to growth at any age.

You’ll learn:

• Why 90-day goals work better than year-long resolutions
• How to use the SMART+ method (SMART goals + mindset tools)
• 4 practical ways to stay on track and keep moving forward—even when it feels uncomfortable

Friend, it’s not too late to dream again. The next 90 days are going to pass anyway. What do you want to create with them?

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If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know how to make friends anymore,” you are not alone. Many women in their 40s, 50s, and beyond struggle with friendship in this season. But here’s the good news: nothing has gone wrong. Friendship isn’t broken. It’s just changing — and you can learn how to navigate those changes with confidence.

In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Master Certified Christian Life Coach Lori Buck shares 7 powerful shifts to help you reconnect, create new friendships, and strengthen the ones you already have. Through real client stories and her own experiences — from starting a neighborhood book club to learning how to stay close with “heart friends” even when life gets busy — Lori will give you practical tools you can use right away.

Whether you’re craving deep, lasting friendships or simply a circle of women to laugh with over coffee once a month, this episode will encourage you to stop waiting, take the first step, and build connection again.

✨ Listen in to learn:

• Why friendship feels harder in midlife (and why nothing has gone wrong).
• How to move from loneliness to connection with 7 practical tools.
• The mindset shifts that make creating new friendships easier.
• How to reconnect with old friends and be intentional with the ones you love.

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In this episode of Loving that Midlife, Christian Life Coach Lori Buck shares both mindset tools and practical strategies to help you parent your teen through their senior year without constant conflict and nagging. You’ll learn: 

• Why senior year feels so overwhelming for both parents and teens
• How your thoughts about deadlines and college choices impact your emotions and actions
• Practical rhythms to reduce stress (like setting a “college talk” day each week)
• The importance of early money conversations and setting realistic college expectations
• How to stay connected with your teen beyond applications and decisions

Whether your child is applying to a state school, a dream school, or taking a different path entirely, this episode will give you the perspective and peace you need to walk through this season well.
 
And in today’s Midlife Moment, Lori shares how watching her daughter retrace her and her husband’s college footsteps — boots and all — reminded her that even the mistakes and detours in life can become stepping stones to the best parts of our story.
 

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You’ll discover: 

• Why midlife often reveals your deepest false-self patterns—and how to spot them.
• The powerful difference between what the world says about you and what God says.
• How Hebb’s Rule (“neurons that fire together, wire together”) lines up with Romans 12:2.
• A practical 4-step process to renew your mind and rewire your brain for lasting transformation.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in cycles of fear, comparison, or “I’m not enough” thinking, this episode will equip you with both spiritual truth and brain-based tools to step into freedom.
 

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She shares two coaching examples (with details changed for privacy): one from a woman who felt powerless in her marriage, and another from a woman who was telling a very painful story about a recent event. Both learned that their thoughts were keeping them stuck — and both discovered new ways of showing up with hope, strength, and purpose.

And in today’s Midlife Moment, she talks about something midlife has given her — the courage to tell the truth, even if it makes things a little awkward. Let’s just say she may have “lost her filter,” but she feels like she's gained something even better.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship, in work, or in life in general, this episode will show you how life coaching can help you break free from old thought patterns and step into the life God has for you. 

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In today's episode, I talk about the concept of the 50/50 Life and how this ebb and flow of emotions is actually biblical. We weren't meant to spend our days in bliss. Life is full of good and beautiful moments, and sad and awful moments, but most of life is somewhere in between. I'll show you how you can use the creation cycle to change your mindset about your "ordinary life" and give you 4 practical tools to help you find beauty in the in between.  

And, in today's Midlife Moment, I talk about that dreaded midlife challenge: 3 AM insomnia. I'll tell you why I think it's happening now - spoiler alert: it's probably stress and overwhelm - and what I am doing to try to fix it, including one great practical tip.  Good times! 

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Tune in to hear valuable perspectives on why entering a new season in midlife can be hard and practical tips for how you can not only adjust to but thrive in your new season of life. Join Lori as she encourages you to create the life you want to live right where you are right now. 

And in this week's Midlife Moment, you'll hear how Lori came up with the name "Loving that 'Mid' Life" and hear what's mid in her life right now.  

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Tune in to learn how waiting can shape your character and lead to unexpected blessings. Join Lori as she encourages you to live fully in the now, while trusting in the journey ahead.

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From the days leading up to drop-off, to the unpacking of boxes, to the final hugs before leaving campus, I'll cover it all on today's episode. I'll also share personal anecdotes and insights to help you navigate this significant transition in your life. 

Whether you're feeling sadness, excitement, or a mix of both, this episode offers comfort and guidance for embracing this new season. Tune in for practical tips and emotional support as you prepare to take your child to college.

Episodes mentioned on Today's Episode:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2509850/episodes/17320408

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In today's episode, I talk all about soiling the nest: what it is, why kids do it, and how we can handle it as parents. I'll give you tips on how you can shift your mindset and 5 tools you can use to make it through this challenging season. 

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In today's episode, I talk all about people-pleasing: what it is, why we do it, and how it's actually manipulative, not nice. But, I don't just leave you there. I give you the tools you need to help break the cycle and learn how to say yes (and no) to the right things.

And, in today's Midlife Moment, I talk about midlife birthdays and how we all need to stop waiting on someone else to celebrate us and learn how to throw our own party.     

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In today's episode, we'll talk about the scripts/manuals we have for the people in our lives and why we have them. Hint: Getting others to act the way that we want them to is not the path to happiness. Taking radical responsibility for our own needs is. 

And in today's Midlife Moment, we talk all about health in midlife and ALL. THE. THINGS. we are supposed to be worrying about. Friends, it's a lot. Don't let it overwhelm you. 

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In this week's episode, I share how I finally made the mind-body connection and learned how working on your thoughts and emotions is only half of the battle. You have to work on your physical body, too. I share all the tips and tricks I learned to calm my central nervous system and get out of fight or flight.

In this week's Midlife Moment, I talk about something that has been "mid" as long as I have been an adult: figuring out what to make for dinner.  

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On today's episode I share a bit more of my backstory, and explain why I spent years trying to control the uncontrollable. I'll also talk about how I eventually learned to stop trying to control everything and everybody in my life and the freedom that came with that.

In this week's Midlife Moment, I talk about my hands and ask the age-old question, "What are my mother's hands doing on the end of my arms?!" Good times!  

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No matter the reason, it's time to let go of the painful stories that are not serving us and learn to re-tell our stories in ways that do. I'll give you some useful tools for doing just that. I'll also tell you a painful story that I believed about myself and my marriage for 20 years.

And in the Midlife Moment, I'll tell a somewhat embarrassing story about night sweats and hotel air conditioners. Come listen while I overshare... unless you are a male. Then please don't.     

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Today we're going to talk about just that: how you can learn to lean into your emotions so that you can process them and get them out, versus letting them hang around and get stuck in your body. I'll share some tools, tips, and tricks I've learned through life coaching to help you manage the emotions that are managing you. 

And in the Midlife Moment, I'll share something in perimenopause you might not be ready for: rage. It's real friends.    

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In this episode we talk about all things decisions, including:

• Decision Fatigue - What is it and why are we all suffering from it,
• Types of Decisions and how to make them,
• Why we keep "trying" to make some decisions without success, and
• How we can remove the brain drama to simplify decision-making.

I also give an example of how I walk a client through making a difficult decision, which is one of my favorite things to do as a life coach. And, I remind you that you don't need to spiritualize every decision. You can trust the mind and reason that God gave you to make the best decisions for your life. In the midlife moment, I talk about one of the harder decisions I've had to make in midlife, when to let our family dog  go. 

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In this episode of Loving That Midlife, you'll find out:

• Why our thoughts are so important and how they shape our reality,
• How journaling can help us reflect and recognize our thoughts,
• How our thoughts, feelings, and actions lead to our results, and 
• How using the "Creation Cycle" can help us take control of our thoughts to get control of our lives. 

I'll also share a personal story or two about managing negative thoughts and feelings around midlife challenges and hormonal changes. 

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In this inaugural episode, I share a little of my journey into podcasting, as well as talk about life coaching and the power of mindset to shape our lives. We may think our circumstances are causing us pain, but often it's our thoughts about our circumstances that cause us the most pain.

That's why it's so important to "take every thought captive" and align it with God's truth, and I'm here to help and encourage you to do just that.  

We're just getting started so join me as we learn how to change our mindset and start Loving that Midlife…even when it just feels mid.

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