Searching for myself podcast Sat, 30 May 2026 07:35:46 +0100 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2509507 en-us © 2026 Searching for myself podcast yes fce676c0-8993-5641-a9d6-bfe71fc4782f chrisaere@hotmail.co.uk Chris Eliss episodic false Searching for myself is a deeply personal and thought-provoking podcast that explores the journey of self-discovery, identity, and healing. Each episode dives into the moments that shape us—the questions we ask, the roles we play, and the paths we walk as we try to understand who we really are beneath the surface.

Whether you’re navigating a major life change, healing from the past, or simply asking, “Who am I, really?” this podcast offers a space for honest reflection, emotional insight, and transformative conversations. 

 

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Chris Eliss chrisaere@hotmail.co.uk https://storage.buzzsprout.com/swln7bekewfj5qmg7f4o9a7u25dt?.jpg Searching for myself podcast My Life, My timeline: Owning my existence ft Kiki and Carlos My Life, My timeline: Owning my existence ft Kiki and Carlos Millennials were told to hustle, achieve, and figure it out, but a lot of us hit our 30s feeling off track and wondering why the plan never quite fit. In this episode, we’re talking about what it actually means to own your existence instead of waiting for permission to live authentically. We get into why rest, career changes, and setting boundaries don’t need anyone’s approval, and how emotional well-being isn’t a luxury but the foundation for everything else. 

You’ll hear why healing, saying no, and logging off count as growth, how to stop missing your life while you’re busy building it, and why your milestones are still valid even if they don’t look traditional. If you’re tired of measuring yourself against someone else’s timeline, this is your reminder that growth isn’t linear, success isn’t one aesthetic, and you’re allowed to evolve on your own terms.



]]> Millennials were told to hustle, achieve, and figure it out, but a lot of us hit our 30s feeling off track and wondering why the plan never quite fit. In this episode, we’re talking about what it actually means to own your existence instead of waiting for permission to live authentically. We get into why rest, career changes, and setting boundaries don’t need anyone’s approval, and how emotional well-being isn’t a luxury but the foundation for everything else. 

You’ll hear why healing, saying no, and logging off count as growth, how to stop missing your life while you’re busy building it, and why your milestones are still valid even if they don’t look traditional. If you’re tired of measuring yourself against someone else’s timeline, this is your reminder that growth isn’t linear, success isn’t one aesthetic, and you’re allowed to evolve on your own terms.



]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-19257879 Fri, 29 May 2026 17:00:00 +0100 2730 2 11 full false What Does It Mean to Be a Man? Gen Z, Manhood, Leadership & Christianity What Does It Mean to Be a Man? Gen Z, Manhood, Leadership & Christianity “What does it actually mean to be a man in a generation that rejects definition?”

I have the honour of interviewing entrepreneur @charlesodt as we tackle the tension Gen Z men are living in — identity confusion, social media pressure, and a lack of real role models. We unpack the crisis of manhood caught between cultural extremes of passivity and toxicity, and why so many young men feel lost or misled.

Then we rebuild the vision: a biblical blueprint for manhood where leadership means service, strength means responsibility, and identity is rooted in Christ. From Jesus as the servant-leader to practical marks of integrity, sacrifice, and discipline — we redefine what strength actually looks like.

We get practical about leadership for today: leading yourself first through habits and discipline, leading in relationships with respect and accountability, and leading in faith by standing firm when it costs you. No fluff — just real, doable steps: build daily discipline, find mentorship, take responsibility in small things.

Social Media Handles
Instagram: @CharlesODT
                     @ODTCUTZ
                      ⁨@Searchingformyselfpodcast⁩  

]]> “What does it actually mean to be a man in a generation that rejects definition?”

I have the honour of interviewing entrepreneur @charlesodt as we tackle the tension Gen Z men are living in — identity confusion, social media pressure, and a lack of real role models. We unpack the crisis of manhood caught between cultural extremes of passivity and toxicity, and why so many young men feel lost or misled.

Then we rebuild the vision: a biblical blueprint for manhood where leadership means service, strength means responsibility, and identity is rooted in Christ. From Jesus as the servant-leader to practical marks of integrity, sacrifice, and discipline — we redefine what strength actually looks like.

We get practical about leadership for today: leading yourself first through habits and discipline, leading in relationships with respect and accountability, and leading in faith by standing firm when it costs you. No fluff — just real, doable steps: build daily discipline, find mentorship, take responsibility in small things.

Social Media Handles
Instagram: @CharlesODT
                     @ODTCUTZ
                      ⁨@Searchingformyselfpodcast⁩  

]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-19119858 Tue, 05 May 2026 14:00:00 +0100 1762 2 10 full false Inside the mind: therapy unpacked FT Bukky Inside the mind: therapy unpacked FT Bukky Searching for Myself S2E1: kicks off with a qualified psychotherapist (therapywithbuks) to explore all things mental health and how it shows up in everyday life.
*here's what we'll cover"

🧠 Understanding Mental Health 
* Define mental health as emotional, psychological, and social wellbeing
* Explain how it affects thoughts, feelings, and behaviour

💬 What Is Counselling?
* Define counselling as a professional, confidential talking therapy
* Explain the role of a trained counsellor (listening, guiding—not judging)

❌ Challenging Common Myths 
* Myth: “Counselling is only for serious mental illness” 
* Myth: “Talking won’t help” 
* Myth: “It’s a sign of weakness” 

🌱 Benefits of Counselling 
* Provides a safe space to express feelings openly
* Helps identify patterns in thoughts and behaviours
* Teaches coping strategies for stress, anxiety, and challenges
* Builds self-awareness and emotional resilience
* Can improve relationships and communication skills
* Supports personal growth and decision-making

⚠️ Barriers to Seeking Help
* Fear of being judged or misunderstood
* Not knowing what to expect from counselling
* Worries about cost or accessibility

Social media handles 
Instagram:@therapywithbuks
website:www.therapywithbuks.co.uk

Podcast social media handles
Instagram:@searchingformyselfpodcast
Tiktok:@searchingformyselfpodcast

]]> Searching for Myself S2E1: kicks off with a qualified psychotherapist (therapywithbuks) to explore all things mental health and how it shows up in everyday life.
*here's what we'll cover"

🧠 Understanding Mental Health 
* Define mental health as emotional, psychological, and social wellbeing
* Explain how it affects thoughts, feelings, and behaviour

💬 What Is Counselling?
* Define counselling as a professional, confidential talking therapy
* Explain the role of a trained counsellor (listening, guiding—not judging)

❌ Challenging Common Myths 
* Myth: “Counselling is only for serious mental illness” 
* Myth: “Talking won’t help” 
* Myth: “It’s a sign of weakness” 

🌱 Benefits of Counselling 
* Provides a safe space to express feelings openly
* Helps identify patterns in thoughts and behaviours
* Teaches coping strategies for stress, anxiety, and challenges
* Builds self-awareness and emotional resilience
* Can improve relationships and communication skills
* Supports personal growth and decision-making

⚠️ Barriers to Seeking Help
* Fear of being judged or misunderstood
* Not knowing what to expect from counselling
* Worries about cost or accessibility

Social media handles 
Instagram:@therapywithbuks
website:www.therapywithbuks.co.uk

Podcast social media handles
Instagram:@searchingformyselfpodcast
Tiktok:@searchingformyselfpodcast

]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-19061167 Thu, 23 Apr 2026 20:00:00 +0100 1757 2 1 full false The Diary of a Trailblazer: Unfiltered Thoughts from  Gyles The Diary of a Trailblazer: Unfiltered Thoughts from  Gyles On this episode of@searchingformyslefpodcast Gyles shares his entrepreneurial journey, sharing the unvarnished truth about what it takes to build something from scratch. 🤯

*Here's what we'll cover:*

1️⃣ *The Spark*: What inspired them to start their business, and how did they take the leap of faith? 🔥
2️⃣ *The Success Equation*: How do they define success, and what metrics do they use to measure it? 🤔
3️⃣ *The Obstacle Course*: The biggest challenge they've faced, and how they fought to overcome it 💪
4️⃣ *The Hard-Won Lessons*: The most important thing they've learned as an entrepreneur, and how it's impacted their business 📈
5️⃣ *The Insider's Guide*: What advice would they give to someone just starting out, and how can you learn from others in the industry? 💡

Stream us on YouTube, spotify  and apple podcast

Ig handles:
@paragondon_
@Brussellakeparagon
@lexbridgemotors
@swarvecollective
 

]]> On this episode of@searchingformyslefpodcast Gyles shares his entrepreneurial journey, sharing the unvarnished truth about what it takes to build something from scratch. 🤯

*Here's what we'll cover:*

1️⃣ *The Spark*: What inspired them to start their business, and how did they take the leap of faith? 🔥
2️⃣ *The Success Equation*: How do they define success, and what metrics do they use to measure it? 🤔
3️⃣ *The Obstacle Course*: The biggest challenge they've faced, and how they fought to overcome it 💪
4️⃣ *The Hard-Won Lessons*: The most important thing they've learned as an entrepreneur, and how it's impacted their business 📈
5️⃣ *The Insider's Guide*: What advice would they give to someone just starting out, and how can you learn from others in the industry? 💡

Stream us on YouTube, spotify  and apple podcast

Ig handles:
@paragondon_
@Brussellakeparagon
@lexbridgemotors
@swarvecollective
 

]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-18405816 Tue, 23 Dec 2025 23:00:00 +0000 3413 1 9 full false “faith and fitness ”- my body is a temple🏋️‍♂️✝️ ft Danespinosa “faith and fitness ”- my body is a temple🏋️‍♂️✝️ ft Danespinosa  In this episode, we're talking about fitness and how it intersects with our faith. I am joined by Danespinosa who is a personal trainer, faith-based clothing designer and a man of great faith. He shares his insights on how to cultivate a healthy body and a healthy soul.

Topics discussed 

*Prayer and wellness: the connection between faith and physical/mental wellbeing
*The spiritual side of fitness-how physical health can reflect spiritual discipline and stewardship of the body.
*Overcoming Spiritual Dry Spells: Exploring ways to reconnect with faith during challenging times 

IG handles:

@Danespinosa @espinosapthysiques (personal training) @Kadoshcollective (clothing) 

]]>  In this episode, we're talking about fitness and how it intersects with our faith. I am joined by Danespinosa who is a personal trainer, faith-based clothing designer and a man of great faith. He shares his insights on how to cultivate a healthy body and a healthy soul.

Topics discussed 

*Prayer and wellness: the connection between faith and physical/mental wellbeing
*The spiritual side of fitness-how physical health can reflect spiritual discipline and stewardship of the body.
*Overcoming Spiritual Dry Spells: Exploring ways to reconnect with faith during challenging times 

IG handles:

@Danespinosa @espinosapthysiques (personal training) @Kadoshcollective (clothing) 

]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-18216678 Wed, 19 Nov 2025 22:00:00 +0000 2291 1 7 full false Being comfortable with myself ft Michael E Being comfortable with myself ft Michael E During this episode we explore the importance of being comfortable with oneself.  Societal pressures can make it challenging to accept ourselves as we are, but embracing our flaws and imperfections is key to self-acceptance. The episode covers:

 *Signs of self-comfort*: Being alone without feeling lonely, accepting flaws, and being okay with silence.
 *Challenges*: Comparison culture, internal critics, fear of rejection, and the difficulty of change.
. *Practices for growth*: Quiet reflection, mirror exercises, journaling, setting boundaries, and walking without distractions.




]]> During this episode we explore the importance of being comfortable with oneself.  Societal pressures can make it challenging to accept ourselves as we are, but embracing our flaws and imperfections is key to self-acceptance. The episode covers:

 *Signs of self-comfort*: Being alone without feeling lonely, accepting flaws, and being okay with silence.
 *Challenges*: Comparison culture, internal critics, fear of rejection, and the difficulty of change.
. *Practices for growth*: Quiet reflection, mirror exercises, journaling, setting boundaries, and walking without distractions.




]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-18117950 Tue, 04 Nov 2025 11:00:00 +0000 2490 1 6 full false “Beyond the ‘I Do’: What Commitment in Marriage Really Means”🤵👰‍♀️💍💒 ft Bam and Sam “Beyond the ‘I Do’: What Commitment in Marriage Really Means”🤵👰‍♀️💍💒 ft Bam and Sam Preparing for marriage is more than planning a wedding. This episode is for those who are dating, engaged, married or single.

Topics discussed 

  • What does commitment actually mean in marriage?
  • Common misconceptions (e.g., “If we love each other, it should be easy”).
  • Common struggles with commitment
  • Discuss personal growth and self awareness (to have the right mindset for marriage)
  • Questions to ask yourself and your spouse before the marriage 
  • Developing tools to have  a healthy marriage
]]> Preparing for marriage is more than planning a wedding. This episode is for those who are dating, engaged, married or single.

Topics discussed 

  • What does commitment actually mean in marriage?
  • Common misconceptions (e.g., “If we love each other, it should be easy”).
  • Common struggles with commitment
  • Discuss personal growth and self awareness (to have the right mindset for marriage)
  • Questions to ask yourself and your spouse before the marriage 
  • Developing tools to have  a healthy marriage
]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-17674660 Fri, 15 Aug 2025 06:00:00 +0100 2947 1 5 full false The Pressure of Reaching Milestones 🎯 The Pressure of Reaching Milestones 🎯 In this episode of searching for myself I am joined by setor from @lovelysista_ldn and Sheree the great. We discuss the societal and personal pressures individuals face regarding life milestones. We'll explore the impact of these pressures on mental health and well-being, and discuss strategies to navigate and redefine success on one's own terms.

💬 Topics Covered:
•Discuss societal expectations and timelines associated with these milestones.
•Explore the concept of "milestone anxiety" and its prevalence
•Highlight how these pressures have influenced decisions and self-perception.
•Discuss the emotional and mental health effects of feeling behind on milestones.
•Explore the role of social media in amplifying milestone anxiety.
•Strategies for Coping and Redefining Success

👉 Don’t just watch. Reflect. Share. Join the Den 
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#podcast  #adulting #milestone #relatable 


]]> In this episode of searching for myself I am joined by setor from @lovelysista_ldn and Sheree the great. We discuss the societal and personal pressures individuals face regarding life milestones. We'll explore the impact of these pressures on mental health and well-being, and discuss strategies to navigate and redefine success on one's own terms.

💬 Topics Covered:
•Discuss societal expectations and timelines associated with these milestones.
•Explore the concept of "milestone anxiety" and its prevalence
•Highlight how these pressures have influenced decisions and self-perception.
•Discuss the emotional and mental health effects of feeling behind on milestones.
•Explore the role of social media in amplifying milestone anxiety.
•Strategies for Coping and Redefining Success

👉 Don’t just watch. Reflect. Share. Join the Den 
🔔 Subscribe for more conversations like this
Follow IG: Searchingformyselfpodcast

#podcast  #adulting #milestone #relatable 


]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-17564257 Fri, 25 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0100 2735 1 4 full false The reality of fatherhood: pressure to provide, self-awareness & Loving Without Limits ft Jeanphiness The reality of fatherhood: pressure to provide, self-awareness & Loving Without Limits ft Jeanphiness fatherhood is more than sleepless nights, endless bills, and daily sacrifices—it’s about love. In this episode of Searching for myself - I bring in my special guest @JeanPhiness from @fatherfiguresuk podcast who spills all about his first year as a dad.

💬 Topics Covered: 
•science behind creating a bond with your child.
•understanding your new sense of purpose and identity.
•how your experience as a child shape how you parent. 
•comparisons between fatherhood and motherhood 
•Sharing strategies for building resilience as a father and handling life's challenges.

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]]> fatherhood is more than sleepless nights, endless bills, and daily sacrifices—it’s about love. In this episode of Searching for myself - I bring in my special guest @JeanPhiness from @fatherfiguresuk podcast who spills all about his first year as a dad.

💬 Topics Covered: 
•science behind creating a bond with your child.
•understanding your new sense of purpose and identity.
•how your experience as a child shape how you parent. 
•comparisons between fatherhood and motherhood 
•Sharing strategies for building resilience as a father and handling life's challenges.

👉 Don’t just watch. Reflect. Share. Join the conversation  https://www.instagram.... 

🔔 Subscribe for more conversations like this: https://www.youtube.co...




]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-17490731 Fri, 11 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0100 2727 1 3 full false Imposter syndrome meets gaslighting Imposter syndrome meets gaslighting Imposter syndrome and gaslighting go hand in hand 🤝 . This topic is discussed in detail and features digital creator @verakamara (check out Nothing but the truth in love podcast)  

💬 Topics Covered:

 • definition and signs of imposter syndrome

 • real stories of imposter syndrome 

 • switching the narrative of imposter syndrome and owning your truth.

 • definition and signs of being gaslight

 • Identifying how you can fall victim of being gaslight

 • real stories of gaslight experience 

 • How imposter sydrome and gaslighting intertwine and how we can develop tools to overcome this experience.

👉 Don’t just watch. Reflect. Share. Join the Den 

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]]> Imposter syndrome and gaslighting go hand in hand 🤝 . This topic is discussed in detail and features digital creator @verakamara (check out Nothing but the truth in love podcast)  

💬 Topics Covered:

 • definition and signs of imposter syndrome

 • real stories of imposter syndrome 

 • switching the narrative of imposter syndrome and owning your truth.

 • definition and signs of being gaslight

 • Identifying how you can fall victim of being gaslight

 • real stories of gaslight experience 

 • How imposter sydrome and gaslighting intertwine and how we can develop tools to overcome this experience.

👉 Don’t just watch. Reflect. Share. Join the Den 

https://www.instagram....

🔔 Subscribe for more conversations like this: https://www.youtube.co...

]]> Chris Eliss Buzzsprout-17401875 Thu, 26 Jun 2025 08:00:00 +0100 1765 1 2 full false The Silent Pain: Friendship Breakups, Male vulnerability and loneliness The Silent Pain: Friendship Breakups, Male vulnerability and loneliness Welcome to the first episode of "Searching for myself"  ft Michael Lee. During this episode we have an open and honest conversation on why friendship breakups hurts and is rarely talked about, why men struggling to be emotionally open to each other and the quiet epidemic of male loneliness. We also create tools to overcome these painful relatable experiences. 

This is just the begin began...buckle up your seatbelts and get ready to challenge yourself to be the best version of yourself.

]]> Welcome to the first episode of "Searching for myself"  ft Michael Lee. During this episode we have an open and honest conversation on why friendship breakups hurts and is rarely talked about, why men struggling to be emotionally open to each other and the quiet epidemic of male loneliness. We also create tools to overcome these painful relatable experiences. 

This is just the begin began...buckle up your seatbelts and get ready to challenge yourself to be the best version of yourself.

]]> chris asante Buzzsprout-17306913 Mon, 09 Jun 2025 06:00:00 +0100 2749 1 1 full false