Said in Therapy Thu, 10 Sep 2026 13:14:55 +0200 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/said-in-therapy en © 2026 Said in Therapy yes 66824665-72d2-5b3e-abb2-c9b9986431f2 saidintherapy@gmail.com Iman Tohami episodic false Mental Health Awareness Podcast that is both educational and entertaining, discussing therapy cases, inspirational life stories, and explaining how hardship can be overcome. 

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Iman Tohami saidintherapy@gmail.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/dn9mck802i39rbhm3wcuh7ds3kz3?.jpg Said in Therapy https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/said-in-therapy Your Attachment Style Is Not Your Personality Your Attachment Style Is Not Your Personality You found the label. You took the quiz. You know you're anxious, or avoidant, or somewhere in between. So why does nothing actually change?

In this episode, Iman Tohami breaks down how attachment theory, one of the most useful frameworks in psychology, became one of the most misused. We get into why calling yourself "anxiously attached" might be the very thing keeping you stuck, what the research actually says about how attachment works, and what it genuinely takes to shift the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships.

Your attachment style is not who you are. It's what you learned. And that changes everything.

]]> You found the label. You took the quiz. You know you're anxious, or avoidant, or somewhere in between. So why does nothing actually change?

In this episode, Iman Tohami breaks down how attachment theory, one of the most useful frameworks in psychology, became one of the most misused. We get into why calling yourself "anxiously attached" might be the very thing keeping you stuck, what the research actually says about how attachment works, and what it genuinely takes to shift the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships.

Your attachment style is not who you are. It's what you learned. And that changes everything.

]]> Iman Tohami 0005b6c7-a990-4686-8afe-7a4fd84ef19a Sun, 24 May 2026 09:00:00 +0200 696 60 false Is Self-Help a Scam? Is Self-Help a Scam? You've read the books. You've done the challenges. You've started the morning routine more times than you can count. So why does it feel like you're still in the same place?

In this episode, Iman Tohami goes after one of the most profitable, and most protected, industries in the world: self-help. Not because growth isn't real, but because the industry selling it to you might be financially invested in you never quite getting there.

We get into why productivity culture is often just fear in a better outfit, how real therapeutic work exposes everything self-help gets wrong, and why telling people to journal their way out of a broken system isn't empowerment — it's blame dressed up as inspiration.

Plus: what actually works, according to research and the therapy room.

This one will make you think twice before buying the next book.

]]> You've read the books. You've done the challenges. You've started the morning routine more times than you can count. So why does it feel like you're still in the same place?

In this episode, Iman Tohami goes after one of the most profitable, and most protected, industries in the world: self-help. Not because growth isn't real, but because the industry selling it to you might be financially invested in you never quite getting there.

We get into why productivity culture is often just fear in a better outfit, how real therapeutic work exposes everything self-help gets wrong, and why telling people to journal their way out of a broken system isn't empowerment — it's blame dressed up as inspiration.

Plus: what actually works, according to research and the therapy room.

This one will make you think twice before buying the next book.

]]> Iman Tohami 3142624e-bb2c-43f2-951c-c6f143785717 Fri, 15 May 2026 09:44:39 +0200 825 false The Dating and Break up Crisis: Why People Ghost, Detach, and Leave So Fast The Dating and Break up Crisis: Why People Ghost, Detach, and Leave So Fast Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of Said In Therapy, we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real.

If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface psychologically, why finding a serious partner feels harder than ever, and how to protect your heart without becoming emotionally numb.

You’ll learn how to spot emotional unavailability early, the difference between chemistry and nervous system addiction, and what to look for if you want real commitment in a dating culture built around avoidance.

In this episode we cover:

  • Why breakups feel colder and more confusing now
  • The avoidant attachment cycle (and why it’s so addictive)
  • Situationship culture + dating apps impact
  • Why people leave at the first sign of discomfort
  • How to date for emotional capacity (not potential)
  • How to heal after unclear endings and rebuild self-trust


If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity and remember: stability is the new romance.

Trigger warning: abandonment, attachment wounds, breakups, ghosting

]]> Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of Said In Therapy, we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real.

If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface psychologically, why finding a serious partner feels harder than ever, and how to protect your heart without becoming emotionally numb.

You’ll learn how to spot emotional unavailability early, the difference between chemistry and nervous system addiction, and what to look for if you want real commitment in a dating culture built around avoidance.

In this episode we cover:

  • Why breakups feel colder and more confusing now
  • The avoidant attachment cycle (and why it’s so addictive)
  • Situationship culture + dating apps impact
  • Why people leave at the first sign of discomfort
  • How to date for emotional capacity (not potential)
  • How to heal after unclear endings and rebuild self-trust


If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity and remember: stability is the new romance.

Trigger warning: abandonment, attachment wounds, breakups, ghosting

]]> Iman Tohami 49314b3e-930a-4b53-86aa-29e27b3e8ac6 Fri, 30 Jan 2026 10:48:33 +0100 1322 58 false Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Healing Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Healing Healing doesn’t stop hurting just because you understand it.

I recorded this episode from a place I don’t talk about often — the beginning of my training, when I lost someone I loved and learned, very quickly, that insight doesn’t protect you from pain.

In this episode, I share how that experience reshaped the way I understand healing, both as a psychologist and as a human. We talk about grief, self-awareness, and why functioning isn’t the same as being healed.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this one is for you.

There is no timeline your nervous system is late for.

]]> Healing doesn’t stop hurting just because you understand it.

I recorded this episode from a place I don’t talk about often — the beginning of my training, when I lost someone I loved and learned, very quickly, that insight doesn’t protect you from pain.

In this episode, I share how that experience reshaped the way I understand healing, both as a psychologist and as a human. We talk about grief, self-awareness, and why functioning isn’t the same as being healed.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this one is for you.

There is no timeline your nervous system is late for.

]]> Iman Tohami 00cf00a8-317f-4849-a98d-0303134bd936 Fri, 16 Jan 2026 10:30:00 +0100 849 57 false Birthday Special 2026! Birthday Special 2026! A birthday special with a big-picture conversation. In this episode of Said in Therapy, I hand the mic to my close friend Amanda, who steps in as guest host to interview me on another year of growth. Together, they dive into what self-care really looks like beyond the buzzwords, how therapy has shapes the personal and professional journey, and the mindset I am carrying into 2026. The conversation also expands outward, exploring thoughtful predictions on how AI may impact society, relationships, and mental health in the years ahead. Reflective and with an attempt to be forward-looking, this episode blends celebration with meaningful dialogue and, as always, leaves space for curiosity, healing, and much more. Happy new year!

]]> A birthday special with a big-picture conversation. In this episode of Said in Therapy, I hand the mic to my close friend Amanda, who steps in as guest host to interview me on another year of growth. Together, they dive into what self-care really looks like beyond the buzzwords, how therapy has shapes the personal and professional journey, and the mindset I am carrying into 2026. The conversation also expands outward, exploring thoughtful predictions on how AI may impact society, relationships, and mental health in the years ahead. Reflective and with an attempt to be forward-looking, this episode blends celebration with meaningful dialogue and, as always, leaves space for curiosity, healing, and much more. Happy new year!

]]> Iman Tohami 83ce33ce-578b-422d-9ca2-cace73b72ea6 Thu, 01 Jan 2026 13:30:37 +0100 2771 false Self-Compassion and the Inner Critic Self-Compassion and the Inner Critic In this episode of Said in Therapy we dives into the powerful topic of self-compassion and the inner critic, that harsh voice inside us that keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and self-doubt.

Why do we listen to it? How can we start talking to ourselves with kindness instead of criticism? And what actually happens when we shift from self-judgment to self-compassion.

]]> In this episode of Said in Therapy we dives into the powerful topic of self-compassion and the inner critic, that harsh voice inside us that keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and self-doubt.

Why do we listen to it? How can we start talking to ourselves with kindness instead of criticism? And what actually happens when we shift from self-judgment to self-compassion.

]]> Iman Tohami f27b565b-c421-475e-80e2-834fc5958ef1 Fri, 04 Jul 2025 10:00:00 +0200 781 false AI and Therapy: Answering your Questions AI and Therapy: Answering your Questions In this follow-up to our AI and therapy discussion, we dive into the most common questions people are asking. Can AI really understand emotions? Is your data safe? Will therapists be replaced? I break down the real risks, the ethical challenges, and how to use AI tools wisely without losing the human touch. If you're curious or cautious about AI in mental health, this one's for you.


]]> In this follow-up to our AI and therapy discussion, we dive into the most common questions people are asking. Can AI really understand emotions? Is your data safe? Will therapists be replaced? I break down the real risks, the ethical challenges, and how to use AI tools wisely without losing the human touch. If you're curious or cautious about AI in mental health, this one's for you.


]]> Iman Tohami de61fa77-7546-4476-bcc7-1e528e7c8c57 Fri, 20 Jun 2025 11:26:17 +0200 852 54 false 3aib: Shame, Silence, and Mental Health 3aib: Shame, Silence, and Mental Health We unpack the powerful and deeply rooted word: “3aib", the  shame that has silenced generations across the Middle East when it comes to mental health.

We explore how this cultural code of silence has kept pain  behind closed doors, and what it means to finally speak the unspeakable.

You'll hear the story of Sara, a young woman who broke the cycle, chose therapy, and opened a path for healing, not just for herself, but for her family.

]]> We unpack the powerful and deeply rooted word: “3aib", the  shame that has silenced generations across the Middle East when it comes to mental health.

We explore how this cultural code of silence has kept pain  behind closed doors, and what it means to finally speak the unspeakable.

You'll hear the story of Sara, a young woman who broke the cycle, chose therapy, and opened a path for healing, not just for herself, but for her family.

]]> Iman Tohami c6d66199-0e60-41d5-ba23-907b2ec6827f Fri, 30 May 2025 10:00:00 +0200 869 false AI and Therapy: The Future of Mental Health Support AI and Therapy: The Future of Mental Health Support In this episode, the we explore the evolving intersection of artificial intelligence and mental health therapy. The discussion covers how AI technologies are being integrated into therapeutic practices and how chatbots provide immediate emotional support.

The episode also delves into ethical considerations, data privacy concerns, and the potential of AI to make mental health support more accessible and personalized.

]]> In this episode, the we explore the evolving intersection of artificial intelligence and mental health therapy. The discussion covers how AI technologies are being integrated into therapeutic practices and how chatbots provide immediate emotional support.

The episode also delves into ethical considerations, data privacy concerns, and the potential of AI to make mental health support more accessible and personalized.

]]> Iman Tohami 4832dd11-b0ec-446c-903f-fb56cfae8039 Fri, 23 May 2025 12:41:36 +0200 789 false Q&A: Answering Common Questions I Receive Q&A: Answering Common Questions I Receive You asked, and I'm answering! In this special episode, I tackle the questions you sent in. From mental health tips to navigating life’s challenges, we’re diving deep into the topics that matter most to you. Tune in for expert advice, practical insights, and thoughtful conversations!


]]> You asked, and I'm answering! In this special episode, I tackle the questions you sent in. From mental health tips to navigating life’s challenges, we’re diving deep into the topics that matter most to you. Tune in for expert advice, practical insights, and thoughtful conversations!


]]> Iman Tohami ee6dcdbe-1e82-467c-ac99-679d899a045d Fri, 31 Jan 2025 12:17:00 +0100 1099 false Third Culture Kids: Not belonging Anywhere, Yet Everywhere Third Culture Kids: Not belonging Anywhere, Yet Everywhere In this episode, we dive into the unique world of third culture kids- individuals who grew up in cultures different from their parents’ or their passport country. We explore the joys and challenges of belonging everywhere and nowhere at once, the struggles with identity and home, and how these experiences shape relationships, careers, and self-perception. Through personal stories and expert insights, we unravel what it means to navigate life in the in-between.


]]> In this episode, we dive into the unique world of third culture kids- individuals who grew up in cultures different from their parents’ or their passport country. We explore the joys and challenges of belonging everywhere and nowhere at once, the struggles with identity and home, and how these experiences shape relationships, careers, and self-perception. Through personal stories and expert insights, we unravel what it means to navigate life in the in-between.


]]> Iman Tohami e4aee263-8c32-4611-aefd-bcec5c21bc86 Thu, 23 Jan 2025 15:45:41 +0100 854 false The Power of Kindness The Power of Kindness Iman Tohami 5fb9c62d-a3be-40c8-bca8-f25060054e2f Tue, 16 Apr 2024 08:00:00 +0200 655 49 false How to Navigate Heartbreak after a Break Up? How to Navigate Heartbreak after a Break Up? Today I am in conversation with the break-up coach Nora. She is currently located in Dubai and conducts her sessions in English and Arabic, in person and online. Together we explore the topic of breakup and heartbreak.

Heartbreak is a term used to describe the intense emotional pain someone feels after experiencing the end of a relationship. It is characterized by feelings of sadness, loss, grief, and despair. A variety of factors, including betrayal, rejection, and unrequited love, can cause heartbreak. The pain can be physical and emotional.

Nora's contact details and handles:

Instagram: @breakupcoachnora

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/breakupcoachnora

Website: https://www.breakupcoachnora.com/

]]> Today I am in conversation with the break-up coach Nora. She is currently located in Dubai and conducts her sessions in English and Arabic, in person and online. Together we explore the topic of breakup and heartbreak.

Heartbreak is a term used to describe the intense emotional pain someone feels after experiencing the end of a relationship. It is characterized by feelings of sadness, loss, grief, and despair. A variety of factors, including betrayal, rejection, and unrequited love, can cause heartbreak. The pain can be physical and emotional.

Nora's contact details and handles:

Instagram: @breakupcoachnora

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/breakupcoachnora

Website: https://www.breakupcoachnora.com/

]]> Iman Tohami 1d4ecf07-9fb2-443e-85fb-585744b338bc Fri, 24 Mar 2023 16:00:05 +0100 2113 false Birthday Special: Q&A 2023 Birthday Special: Q&A 2023 As every year here is the Birthday Special but this time with a twist, these are the questions that followers on Instagram have sent in. 

Happy New Year Everyone. 

]]> As every year here is the Birthday Special but this time with a twist, these are the questions that followers on Instagram have sent in. 

Happy New Year Everyone. 

]]> Iman Tohami d6cf3b33-d168-4a4d-95b8-bbf297ebb969 Mon, 02 Jan 2023 17:03:03 +0100 2238 false 9 Signs of Toxic Friendships 9 Signs of Toxic Friendships A toxic friendship is one in which you feel energetically exhausted when interacting with the person. Your friend may be an emotional vampire who seems to suck the life force out of you whenever you speak to them or spend time with them. If you want to find out how to identify a toxic friendship and learn how to deal with it, then this episode is for you.

]]> A toxic friendship is one in which you feel energetically exhausted when interacting with the person. Your friend may be an emotional vampire who seems to suck the life force out of you whenever you speak to them or spend time with them. If you want to find out how to identify a toxic friendship and learn how to deal with it, then this episode is for you.

]]> Iman Tohami 4969cfc0-fc0b-4fc6-ab21-f0350976e994 Fri, 09 Sep 2022 16:31:27 +0200 654 false How to Stop Overthinking, Stressing & Worrying (3 Ways that WORK!) How to Stop Overthinking, Stressing & Worrying (3 Ways that WORK!) While overthinking itself is not a mental illness, it is associated with conditions including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. Rumination can be common in people who have chronic pain and chronic illness as well, taking the form of negative thoughts about that pain and healing from it. Here I introduce simple tools that can help with getting hold on your overthinking behaviors. 

]]> While overthinking itself is not a mental illness, it is associated with conditions including depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. Rumination can be common in people who have chronic pain and chronic illness as well, taking the form of negative thoughts about that pain and healing from it. Here I introduce simple tools that can help with getting hold on your overthinking behaviors. 

]]> Iman Tohami 6b04ed28-6861-402d-8c4d-8d640ffde0b8 Fri, 02 Sep 2022 12:51:55 +0200 755 false Autism Autism Autism is a condition that affects how a person thinks, feels, interacts with others, and experiences their environment. It is a lifelong condition that starts when a person is born and stays with them into old age. Every Autistic person is different from every other. This is why autism is described as a ‘spectrum’. I am in conversation with Dr. Charifa Zemouri with explains her individual experience with being on the spectrum and how she navigates her life. If you want to learn more about Dr. Zemouri, follow her on Twitter or visit her website for more information about her work. 

]]> Autism is a condition that affects how a person thinks, feels, interacts with others, and experiences their environment. It is a lifelong condition that starts when a person is born and stays with them into old age. Every Autistic person is different from every other. This is why autism is described as a ‘spectrum’. I am in conversation with Dr. Charifa Zemouri with explains her individual experience with being on the spectrum and how she navigates her life. If you want to learn more about Dr. Zemouri, follow her on Twitter or visit her website for more information about her work. 

]]> Iman Tohami ae776186-e5ad-4d01-a27b-0ad54a170a46 Sat, 16 Jul 2022 10:43:02 +0200 3276 false How to Address Conflict How to Address Conflict Remember that conflict is natural and happens in every ongoing relationship. Since conflict is unavoidable we must learn to manage it. Conflict is a sign of a need for change and an opportunity for growth, new understanding, and improved communication. Conflict can not be resolved unless it is addressed unless we address it within ourselves. 

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]]> Remember that conflict is natural and happens in every ongoing relationship. Since conflict is unavoidable we must learn to manage it. Conflict is a sign of a need for change and an opportunity for growth, new understanding, and improved communication. Conflict can not be resolved unless it is addressed unless we address it within ourselves. 

💌  Sign up for my weekly email newsletter

🌍  My website/blog 

📸  Instagram

🐦  Twitter

]]> Iman Tohami 81713d23-f51f-4e11-bdec-fec81f4566ea Sun, 06 Mar 2022 22:20:19 +0100 811 false How To Deal With The Imposter Syndrome (Patient Interview) How To Deal With The Imposter Syndrome (Patient Interview) Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". To continue with the second part of the Imposter Syndrome series I am interviewing Adrian about his experience with the syndrome. 

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]]> Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". To continue with the second part of the Imposter Syndrome series I am interviewing Adrian about his experience with the syndrome. 

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]]> Iman Tohami 191dfd3d-6a0f-41e9-b875-458febccff51 Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:00:00 +0100 1025 false Are You An Imposter? Probably Not. Are You An Imposter? Probably Not. What is the imposter and is the imposter syndrome an actual diagnosis? What does it do? And how to combat it? And sharing own experience. Why do we always think we are an imposter? Answering these questions and more. 

]]> What is the imposter and is the imposter syndrome an actual diagnosis? What does it do? And how to combat it? And sharing own experience. Why do we always think we are an imposter? Answering these questions and more. 

]]> Iman Tohami d8964de4-66c3-4781-bf43-e6cfc4759871 Fri, 11 Feb 2022 13:58:36 +0100 631 1 42 false Boundaries for Beginners: How to Set and Keep Your Boundaries Boundaries for Beginners: How to Set and Keep Your Boundaries Everyone needs healthy boundaries in their lives if they want to have healthy relationships. Setting boundaries is about more than just saying no - and when you learn how to set boundaries in a way that people will listen to and respect you will not only feel free, but you will also start breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and codependence.

]]> Everyone needs healthy boundaries in their lives if they want to have healthy relationships. Setting boundaries is about more than just saying no - and when you learn how to set boundaries in a way that people will listen to and respect you will not only feel free, but you will also start breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and codependence.

]]> Iman Tohami 0a0b9ca7-23d3-4b47-b3fb-a57514fd933d Fri, 04 Feb 2022 20:00:00 +0100 848 1 41 false 7 Questions About My Trauma Journey 7 Questions About My Trauma Journey As an extension to my regular social media Q&As, I have dedicated an episode about my trauma journey and how I worked through it and grew from it as a result. 

Please keep in mind that these Q&As will never replace actual therapy, and not every journey is the same. Instead, use them as an inspiration, a means to learn more, and eventually, encouragement to start your therapy journey. 

]]> As an extension to my regular social media Q&As, I have dedicated an episode about my trauma journey and how I worked through it and grew from it as a result. 

Please keep in mind that these Q&As will never replace actual therapy, and not every journey is the same. Instead, use them as an inspiration, a means to learn more, and eventually, encouragement to start your therapy journey. 

]]> Iman Tohami 77c742d4-27be-480a-8d9b-53164798ef8d Fri, 28 Jan 2022 16:00:00 +0100 1282 1 40 false Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Iman Tohami 9c4a32fc-4361-4d97-b556-59ed59b733e0 Fri, 21 Jan 2022 17:47:01 +0100 1990 1 39 false Disorganized Attachment Style Disorganized Attachment Style The most difficult type of insecure attachment is the disorganized attachment style. It is often seen in people who have been physically, verbally, or sexually abused in their childhood. A disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment style develops when the child’s caregivers – the only source of safety – become a source of fear.

]]> The most difficult type of insecure attachment is the disorganized attachment style. It is often seen in people who have been physically, verbally, or sexually abused in their childhood. A disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment style develops when the child’s caregivers – the only source of safety – become a source of fear.

]]> Iman Tohami 0a924cec-7eeb-429a-8f98-93e6926425f4 Fri, 14 Jan 2022 16:00:00 +0100 1276 1 38 false Avoidant Attachment Style Avoidant Attachment Style What is avoidant attachment? Avoidant attachment is an attachment style that develops during early childhood. It tends to occur in children who do not experience sensitive responses to their needs or distress. Children with an avoidant attachment style may become very independent, both physically and emotionally.

]]> What is avoidant attachment? Avoidant attachment is an attachment style that develops during early childhood. It tends to occur in children who do not experience sensitive responses to their needs or distress. Children with an avoidant attachment style may become very independent, both physically and emotionally.

]]> Iman Tohami 6eee9215-96b9-4ce2-a9bf-dddba54ad8d8 Fri, 07 Jan 2022 09:00:00 +0100 1101 1 37 false Birthday Special - Re-run Birthday Special - Re-run In honor of my birthday I am reuploading the popular birthday Q&A of last year. I hope it answers a few questions you still had in mind about me. 

Enjoy! 

]]> In honor of my birthday I am reuploading the popular birthday Q&A of last year. I hope it answers a few questions you still had in mind about me. 

Enjoy! 

]]> Iman Tohami b98eea00-f995-4633-9fd3-36b85f29aa9c Sat, 01 Jan 2022 08:40:30 +0100 2827 1 37 false Anxious Attachment Style - Deep Dive Anxious Attachment Style - Deep Dive Attachment, or the attachment bond, is the emotional connection you formed as an infant with your primary caregiver, if the parents or caregivers are inconsistent in their parenting they could be causing an anxious attachment. Find out what an anxious attachment style can look like and if reflect with me if these are traits that you recognize in yourself. 

]]> Attachment, or the attachment bond, is the emotional connection you formed as an infant with your primary caregiver, if the parents or caregivers are inconsistent in their parenting they could be causing an anxious attachment. Find out what an anxious attachment style can look like and if reflect with me if these are traits that you recognize in yourself. 

]]> Iman Tohami 280cea32-2919-44c0-b0ae-84432c2149f2 Fri, 27 Aug 2021 16:00:00 +0200 1192 1 36 false Attachment Styles and How They Dictate Our Lives Attachment Styles and How They Dictate Our Lives Iman Tohami 603e23c4-ee07-4df4-acf8-43f4d01bdd4f Fri, 20 Aug 2021 13:18:00 +0200 1344 1 35 false Self-Sabotaging Habits That Keep You Stuck Self-Sabotaging Habits That Keep You Stuck You may be sabotaging yourself, your happiness, your success, and your relationships without even knowing it. We all have subconscious habits, beliefs, and patterns that we're doing that are keeping us stuck, holding us back, and leaving us feeling frustrated and confused. Here I teach you 3 very common self-sabotage habits you may be doing and what to do about them so you can stop sabotaging yourself.

]]> You may be sabotaging yourself, your happiness, your success, and your relationships without even knowing it. We all have subconscious habits, beliefs, and patterns that we're doing that are keeping us stuck, holding us back, and leaving us feeling frustrated and confused. Here I teach you 3 very common self-sabotage habits you may be doing and what to do about them so you can stop sabotaging yourself.

]]> Iman Tohami fe1e2c04-3f17-47d9-a3da-eec6044b2000 Fri, 13 Aug 2021 15:55:53 +0200 874 1 34 false How to Deal with Family Conflicts How to Deal with Family Conflicts An episode on how to deal with family conflicts. A question asked many times in therapy and/or when generally reached out for with questions. 

]]> An episode on how to deal with family conflicts. A question asked many times in therapy and/or when generally reached out for with questions. 

]]> Iman Tohami 62193115-9246-4fad-ad5b-a3820cd45b23 Fri, 06 Aug 2021 14:00:00 +0200 1180 1 33 false How To Get Over a Break-Up How To Get Over a Break-Up Breaking up with someone is hard and can cause real grief and trauma. 

After getting asked quite often what to do and how to handle break-up this episode answers and gives tools to manage break-ups! 

]]> Breaking up with someone is hard and can cause real grief and trauma. 

After getting asked quite often what to do and how to handle break-up this episode answers and gives tools to manage break-ups! 

]]> Iman Tohami 37d17cc4-a998-4764-9d32-eed8d21c9b80 Fri, 04 Jun 2021 16:00:00 +0200 1133 1 32 false How To Deal With Bad News How To Deal With Bad News At bad news and events are unfolding we all need a few tools to deal with them the right way. 

]]> At bad news and events are unfolding we all need a few tools to deal with them the right way. 

]]> Iman Tohami d681748d-c86a-4fec-9a90-e48a6c7b42ce Fri, 14 May 2021 18:02:05 +0200 931 1 31 false The Power of Journaling with Anja Saleh The Power of Journaling with Anja Saleh Anja Saleh, trained as a political and social scientist, is an educator, designer, and poet. In her writing, she re-explores spirituality, trauma, love, and home. 

Together, we discuss the power of journaling and how it became a lifeline for her that helps her explore life through a multifaceted lens. She shares her insight & tips on how to approach journaling & writing as a means to calm yourself and improve the way you see the world.

Anja is the author of:

Soon, The Future Of Memory

For more information about her work visit her website:

anjasaleh.com

]]> Anja Saleh, trained as a political and social scientist, is an educator, designer, and poet. In her writing, she re-explores spirituality, trauma, love, and home. 

Together, we discuss the power of journaling and how it became a lifeline for her that helps her explore life through a multifaceted lens. She shares her insight & tips on how to approach journaling & writing as a means to calm yourself and improve the way you see the world.

Anja is the author of:

Soon, The Future Of Memory

For more information about her work visit her website:

anjasaleh.com

]]> Iman Tohami c4d2dc4e-f13d-468c-8023-75116a3a5f8e Fri, 30 Apr 2021 15:07:44 +0200 1505 1 30 false Therapist to Therapist: On Forgiveness with Chereen Shurafa Therapist to Therapist: On Forgiveness with Chereen Shurafa Another episode in the segment: Therapist to Therapist.

I am in conversation with Chereen, an Arab American mental health and community counselor based in Qatar. She is a certified change coach who also focuses on grief, resilience, and moving forward. She has recently published her first book,

Sensitive: Reflections for the Empathetic Soul.

She runs the platform Dear Chereen, an advice column that also offers inspiration and support through words.

Chereen's Website: dearchereen.com

]]> Another episode in the segment: Therapist to Therapist.

I am in conversation with Chereen, an Arab American mental health and community counselor based in Qatar. She is a certified change coach who also focuses on grief, resilience, and moving forward. She has recently published her first book,

Sensitive: Reflections for the Empathetic Soul.

She runs the platform Dear Chereen, an advice column that also offers inspiration and support through words.

Chereen's Website: dearchereen.com

]]> Iman Tohami 0139234e-46bd-4ad7-999f-b97512528a00 Fri, 09 Apr 2021 13:30:42 +0200 1684 1 29 false Depression & Binge Eating Depression & Binge Eating Is there a connection between depression and binge eating?

]]> Is there a connection between depression and binge eating?

]]> Iman Tohami 7fb7afe4-34f9-461f-83ba-b8544e783e20 Fri, 26 Mar 2021 17:09:28 +0100 696 1 28 false Therapist to Therapist: Dr. Saliha Afridi Therapist to Therapist: Dr. Saliha Afridi Dr. Saliha Afridi shares her journey in the mental health field and how she built the Lighthouse Arabia how she and her team are leading the way for mental health & wellness in the Middle East. A specialist team of psychologists & psychiatrists with the community at our core.

]]> Dr. Saliha Afridi shares her journey in the mental health field and how she built the Lighthouse Arabia how she and her team are leading the way for mental health & wellness in the Middle East. A specialist team of psychologists & psychiatrists with the community at our core.

]]> Iman Tohami 81f1801f-b4ab-4d02-817e-70c253c30fd9 Fri, 19 Mar 2021 15:39:52 +0100 2119 1 27 false Negative Self-Talk and Missing People Negative Self-Talk and Missing People Discussing my life updates and how I deal with negative self-talk and how to deal with missing someone who is no longer part of your life. 

]]> Discussing my life updates and how I deal with negative self-talk and how to deal with missing someone who is no longer part of your life. 

]]> Iman Tohami 33ffcd2a-7d33-4991-9d49-cbe98ec9f85c Fri, 12 Mar 2021 17:59:14 +0100 698 1 26 false Eating Disorder Series: How to Eat Healthy Eating Disorder Series: How to Eat Healthy With the start of the eating disorder series we discuss a healthy lifestyle and better food choices with Dana Habayeb. She explains that healthy eating is all about balance and understanding what our bodies need. 

]]> With the start of the eating disorder series we discuss a healthy lifestyle and better food choices with Dana Habayeb. She explains that healthy eating is all about balance and understanding what our bodies need. 

]]> Iman Tohami fedc308c-fb49-4c35-8e94-e2a804bf3664 Fri, 29 Jan 2021 16:00:00 +0100 2368 1 25 false Birthday Special! Birthday Special! After my last episode, many asked me to record an episode about me.

So I asked my close friend Salma to interview me which questions she always wanted to ask me. 

I hope you enjoy the conversation. Happy New Year! 

And yes, new year's day is my actual birthday.

]]> After my last episode, many asked me to record an episode about me.

So I asked my close friend Salma to interview me which questions she always wanted to ask me. 

I hope you enjoy the conversation. Happy New Year! 

And yes, new year's day is my actual birthday.

]]> Iman Tohami 438020f9-1442-4710-b55a-45ee78a98049 Fri, 01 Jan 2021 23:00:00 +0100 2827 1 24 false On Loneliness On Loneliness The last days of the year are traditionally the days we reflect on and review the last months before we step into the new year. It is December the posts in which many will celebrate their milestones will be published. And that's okay! If you have achieved a lot, be proud of yourself, especially in 2020.

However, many of us have experienced the year differently and it felt like a standstill. And it is indeed true, we hardly got anywhere physically. That affects the psyche and soul.

Let's accept this year as a year of strength and growth, because yes we have all outdone ourselves when it comes to this. Our patience has been tested. Many have lost loved ones and left behind is the void where love once lived. Many families have been separated because of COVID and haven't seen each other in months. The way we work has changed and the way we study and learn is taking on new forms.

All of this has strained and redefined our resilience. 2020 was the year of change, both externally and internally. Even if you believe that you haven't achieved anything this year, you made it to and through December. Trust me. This is a lot. Celebrate that.

If you still find yourself struggling and you can't find a shoulder to lean on, please visit this website. It will direct you to resources in your country. Happy new year. 

]]> The last days of the year are traditionally the days we reflect on and review the last months before we step into the new year. It is December the posts in which many will celebrate their milestones will be published. And that's okay! If you have achieved a lot, be proud of yourself, especially in 2020.

However, many of us have experienced the year differently and it felt like a standstill. And it is indeed true, we hardly got anywhere physically. That affects the psyche and soul.

Let's accept this year as a year of strength and growth, because yes we have all outdone ourselves when it comes to this. Our patience has been tested. Many have lost loved ones and left behind is the void where love once lived. Many families have been separated because of COVID and haven't seen each other in months. The way we work has changed and the way we study and learn is taking on new forms.

All of this has strained and redefined our resilience. 2020 was the year of change, both externally and internally. Even if you believe that you haven't achieved anything this year, you made it to and through December. Trust me. This is a lot. Celebrate that.

If you still find yourself struggling and you can't find a shoulder to lean on, please visit this website. It will direct you to resources in your country. Happy new year. 

]]> Iman Tohami c22239bc-509e-4633-ad7b-b98e58f37205 Fri, 18 Dec 2020 23:00:00 +0100 626 1 23 false Finding A Positive Outlook in Hardship Finding A Positive Outlook in Hardship A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. Join me and Muna Harib in this episode talking about she overcame hardship in her life and how she copes with difficult situations. 

Muna Harib is the founder of breathing numbers. Breathing Numbers is a project first initiated by Muna, in order to document the lives of Syrian refugees in the Al Zaatari Camp in Jordan. What started as a story-telling project has turned into a full-scale humanitarian aid project in a mere six months. 

]]> A positive attitude helps you cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worries and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it would bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. Join me and Muna Harib in this episode talking about she overcame hardship in her life and how she copes with difficult situations. 

Muna Harib is the founder of breathing numbers. Breathing Numbers is a project first initiated by Muna, in order to document the lives of Syrian refugees in the Al Zaatari Camp in Jordan. What started as a story-telling project has turned into a full-scale humanitarian aid project in a mere six months. 

]]> Iman Tohami 85df554e-38a0-4c59-9e09-5f4fe65a9216 Fri, 18 Dec 2020 16:00:00 +0100 2786 1 22 false Q&A - What is Journaling and How to Use It (Re-run) Q&A - What is Journaling and How to Use It (Re-run) Journaling is a written record of our thoughts & feelings. There are really not any rules although most journaling is a daily exercise. Journaling is a way to track everyday life. Figuring out what makes us tick and happy or upset. Creating a meaningful connection with ourselves is as important as creating meaningful connections with family or friends. In this episode, we are answering a question of a listener who wants some insight on how to use journaling best. 

]]> Journaling is a written record of our thoughts & feelings. There are really not any rules although most journaling is a daily exercise. Journaling is a way to track everyday life. Figuring out what makes us tick and happy or upset. Creating a meaningful connection with ourselves is as important as creating meaningful connections with family or friends. In this episode, we are answering a question of a listener who wants some insight on how to use journaling best. 

]]> Iman Tohami 7d3f6a48-2d8d-4486-a0f7-e04dd3eec139 Fri, 11 Dec 2020 16:00:00 +0100 596 1 21 false The Art of Emotions The Art of Emotions Iman Tohami 2cc79637-f061-487b-8b9b-38f322a55a88 Fri, 31 Jul 2020 15:00:00 +0200 1416 1 20 false Narcissism vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder Narcissism vs. Narcissistic Personality Disorder A person who is excessively high in narcissism is said to have a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which is a diagnosable mental illness. A person with narcissistic traits may be mildly self-centered at times, but NPD, on the other hand, is a deeply ingrained, pervasive pattern. In this episode, I will attempt to explain the difference as the term narcissism is constantly (over-)used to describe people's behavior. 

]]> A person who is excessively high in narcissism is said to have a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which is a diagnosable mental illness. A person with narcissistic traits may be mildly self-centered at times, but NPD, on the other hand, is a deeply ingrained, pervasive pattern. In this episode, I will attempt to explain the difference as the term narcissism is constantly (over-)used to describe people's behavior. 

]]> Iman Tohami 738db7f3-c7db-41d5-b653-7dea9590935f Fri, 24 Jul 2020 16:00:00 +0200 794 1 19 true Motherhood Motherhood Büsra shares her experience with labor and postpartum that didn't come without complications, she also explains her transition and adjustment to the new life after things settled. This episode is slightly medical, so it is not important to understand all the details but to get a feeling about one of many unique stories about motherhood. 

]]> Büsra shares her experience with labor and postpartum that didn't come without complications, she also explains her transition and adjustment to the new life after things settled. This episode is slightly medical, so it is not important to understand all the details but to get a feeling about one of many unique stories about motherhood. 

]]> Iman Tohami 4bdf5e20-0f1e-4961-b57d-12362f969c1c Fri, 10 Jul 2020 16:00:00 +0200 1756 1 18 true Narcissism Narcissism Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. This way of thinking and behaving surfaces in every area of the narcissist’s life: from work and friendships to family and love relationships.  My patient, who wants to stay anonymous for safety reasons shares her experience with being in an abusive relationship with a narcissistic person.  

If you need resources to help you get out of an abusive relationship, click here for a few resources.

]]> Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. This way of thinking and behaving surfaces in every area of the narcissist’s life: from work and friendships to family and love relationships.  My patient, who wants to stay anonymous for safety reasons shares her experience with being in an abusive relationship with a narcissistic person.  

If you need resources to help you get out of an abusive relationship, click here for a few resources.

]]> Iman Tohami 2a87ec2a-2e13-41ef-91b6-acc64eb92664 Fri, 03 Jul 2020 15:01:09 +0200 1331 1 17 true Racism Racism My former client Lina and I discuss her experience with racism at the workplace. Racism takes many forms and can happen in many places. It includes prejudice, discrimination or hatred directed at someone because of their colour, ethnicity or national origin.

People often associate racism with acts of abuse or harassment. However, it doesn’t need to involve violent or intimidating behaviour. Take racial name-calling and jokes. Or consider situations when people may be excluded from groups or activities because of where they come from.

]]> My former client Lina and I discuss her experience with racism at the workplace. Racism takes many forms and can happen in many places. It includes prejudice, discrimination or hatred directed at someone because of their colour, ethnicity or national origin.

People often associate racism with acts of abuse or harassment. However, it doesn’t need to involve violent or intimidating behaviour. Take racial name-calling and jokes. Or consider situations when people may be excluded from groups or activities because of where they come from.

]]> Iman Tohami eba8cd6a-18ff-4827-93b3-1cc2dfffd340 Fri, 24 Apr 2020 00:03:27 +0200 1289 1 14 false Take Responsibility Take Responsibility Stay at home. Stay safe. Be responsible not only for yourself but for everyone.

]]> Stay at home. Stay safe. Be responsible not only for yourself but for everyone.

]]> Iman Tohami 30766976-17f4-4614-805d-b4ff57669124 Wed, 22 Apr 2020 00:21:43 +0200 401 1 13 true How a Daily Routine Helps How a Daily Routine Helps A daily routine can be a very powerful tool to find comfort in uncertain times. Today we discuss what we can do to establish a daily routine but also how adjusting to new little habits can give your life structure that also helps after the pandemic.

]]> A daily routine can be a very powerful tool to find comfort in uncertain times. Today we discuss what we can do to establish a daily routine but also how adjusting to new little habits can give your life structure that also helps after the pandemic.

]]> Iman Tohami a820828b-a20b-4e0f-b829-697874e4a618 Thu, 16 Apr 2020 23:16:00 +0200 389 1 12 false Coronavirus Anxiety Coronavirus Anxiety We all need to keep a clear head at times of crisis - but that's not easy. So when strong emotions of fear and anxiety start to cloud your judgment, turn to an effective and reassuring voice of reason. Today we discuss a strategy that can help you with navigating through your emotions.

]]> We all need to keep a clear head at times of crisis - but that's not easy. So when strong emotions of fear and anxiety start to cloud your judgment, turn to an effective and reassuring voice of reason. Today we discuss a strategy that can help you with navigating through your emotions.

]]> Iman Tohami 5ebb3d86-f47c-4560-bf2e-a21818717a10 Wed, 15 Apr 2020 00:20:08 +0200 373 1 11 false Relationships During The Pandemic Relationships During The Pandemic The health of our relationships is at risk thanks to the many stresses and strains of the pandemic lockdown. Couples might be facing huge emotional and financial challenges at the same time as being tightly confined to their homes.  In this episode, I am discussing tips and strategies on how to overcome conflict and potentially grow out of this situation stronger than before. 

If you have a question you want to have answered in a future coronavirus bonus episode, tweet at @saidintherapy or contact @saidintherapy on instagram or facebook.

]]> The health of our relationships is at risk thanks to the many stresses and strains of the pandemic lockdown. Couples might be facing huge emotional and financial challenges at the same time as being tightly confined to their homes.  In this episode, I am discussing tips and strategies on how to overcome conflict and potentially grow out of this situation stronger than before. 

If you have a question you want to have answered in a future coronavirus bonus episode, tweet at @saidintherapy or contact @saidintherapy on instagram or facebook.

]]> Iman Tohami 282e811b-a927-46a0-b847-20bcb9f2622f Tue, 14 Apr 2020 00:00:00 +0200 426 1 10 false How to Deal With Loneliness in Isolation How to Deal With Loneliness in Isolation Many of us are being advised to stay at home and avoid social contact to help slow the spread of the coronavirus. Human interaction is a vital component of happiness, so I try to explain how we can maintain meaningful links to our loved ones, friends and colleagues even if we can't be in the same room with them.

If you have a question you want to have answered in a future coronavirus bonus episode, tweet at @saidintherapy or contact @saidintherapy on instagram or facebook.

]]> Many of us are being advised to stay at home and avoid social contact to help slow the spread of the coronavirus. Human interaction is a vital component of happiness, so I try to explain how we can maintain meaningful links to our loved ones, friends and colleagues even if we can't be in the same room with them.

If you have a question you want to have answered in a future coronavirus bonus episode, tweet at @saidintherapy or contact @saidintherapy on instagram or facebook.

]]> Iman Tohami 480edeb4-c368-4302-9ea9-e0fea90e51da Mon, 13 Apr 2020 01:04:26 +0200 562 1 9 false Burnout Burnout Fatma (@diplomess_) and I are having a conversation about her burnout diagnosis and how she dealt with it throughout the years. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. 

]]> Fatma (@diplomess_) and I are having a conversation about her burnout diagnosis and how she dealt with it throughout the years. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands. 

]]> Iman Tohami bc1670c2-c1e1-404b-a4a2-c3fb163dbc50 Fri, 27 Mar 2020 18:00:00 +0100 1614 1 8 false Dealing with COVID19 Anxiety Dealing with COVID19 Anxiety Iman Tohami https://anchor.fm/said-in-therapy/episodes/Dealing-with-COVID19-Anxiety-ebfnvs Fri, 13 Mar 2020 00:00:00 +0100 1052 1 7 false Toxic Positivity Toxic Positivity Discussing the consequences of toxic positivity in today's society and why it's so dangerous to simplify advice. Nancy's story is shared about how toxic positivity impacted her life and led to fatal moments that changed everything. 

]]> Discussing the consequences of toxic positivity in today's society and why it's so dangerous to simplify advice. Nancy's story is shared about how toxic positivity impacted her life and led to fatal moments that changed everything. 

]]> Iman Tohami e47ffe0f-2e0b-4fce-9bb4-d10a07f55150 Fri, 28 Feb 2020 23:00:00 +0100 668 1 6 true Imposter Syndrome Part 2 Imposter Syndrome Part 2 Iman Tohami 024ade0e-67da-4185-b64e-c6620d2c2dbd Fri, 14 Feb 2020 00:00:00 +0100 1025 1 5 false Imposter Syndrome Part 1 Imposter Syndrome Part 1 What is the imposter? What does it do? And how to combat it? And sharing own experience. 

]]> What is the imposter? What does it do? And how to combat it? And sharing own experience. 

]]> Iman Tohami 2ed10d5c-6159-4e5b-9ee9-aba3b2ab227c Fri, 07 Feb 2020 21:18:13 +0100 631 1 4 false Depression Part 2 Depression Part 2 Explaining the definition of Major Depressive Disorder in the DSM 5 and Q&A. 

]]> Explaining the definition of Major Depressive Disorder in the DSM 5 and Q&A. 

]]> Iman Tohami 7cae1883-a93f-4714-a69a-37bd90bd6d71 Fri, 31 Jan 2020 00:00:00 +0100 817 1 3 false Depression Depression Iman Tohami Buzzsprout-2567209 Fri, 24 Jan 2020 16:00:00 +0100 588 1 2 false Self Esteem Self Esteem Improving Self Esteem based on a real story and real therapy cases. 

]]> Improving Self Esteem based on a real story and real therapy cases. 

]]> Iman Tohami Buzzsprout-2514133 Fri, 17 Jan 2020 15:00:00 +0100 604 1 full false