In the Grey Thu, 05 Mar 2026 16:12:44 -0500 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2468884 en-us © 2026 In the Grey yes 39a325bf-8190-592b-886b-bc8785700aef inthegreypodcast@outlook.com Shelby Steward episodic true  Life, identity, and everything they told us not to talk about. Because life isn't black and white. 

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Shelby Steward inthegreypodcast@outlook.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/2ux9d3ulxoc6visx68akid2dvtc8?.jpg In the Grey When You Realize You’re the Problem When You Realize You’re the Problem There’s a moment most of us try to outrun.

Not the moment someone hurts us.
 Not the moment something falls apart.

But the moment we realize we’re not just reacting to life…we’ve been contributing to the patterns we keep finding ourselves in.

This episode isn’t about self-hatred. It isn’t about shame spirals. It isn’t about labeling yourself as “bad.”

It’s about the quiet, destabilizing realization that defensiveness no longer works. Your explanations feel thin. That your old stories don’t hold the way they used to.

We talk about the grief of outgrowing a version of yourself you once defended. Why shame often shows up after awareness.
What it feels like to double down instead of change.
And what it took for me to finally choose honesty over being right.

No villains. No escape hatches. Just a mirror.

If you’ve ever felt yourself standing at the edge of real self-confrontation…this episode is for you.

]]> There’s a moment most of us try to outrun.

Not the moment someone hurts us.
 Not the moment something falls apart.

But the moment we realize we’re not just reacting to life…we’ve been contributing to the patterns we keep finding ourselves in.

This episode isn’t about self-hatred. It isn’t about shame spirals. It isn’t about labeling yourself as “bad.”

It’s about the quiet, destabilizing realization that defensiveness no longer works. Your explanations feel thin. That your old stories don’t hold the way they used to.

We talk about the grief of outgrowing a version of yourself you once defended. Why shame often shows up after awareness.
What it feels like to double down instead of change.
And what it took for me to finally choose honesty over being right.

No villains. No escape hatches. Just a mirror.

If you’ve ever felt yourself standing at the edge of real self-confrontation…this episode is for you.

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-18605134 Sun, 01 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0600 430 #InTheGreyPodcast, #WhenYouRealizeYoureTheProblem, #SelfAwareness, #PersonalGrowth, #Accountability, #HealingJourney, #EmotionalMaturity, #ShadowWork, #InnerWork, #TraumaHealing, #MentalHealthTalk, #HardConversations, #GrowthIsUncomfortable, #SelfReflecti 3 5 full false You Can Be a Victim and Still Be Toxic You Can Be a Victim and Still Be Toxic Being hurt doesn’t automatically make you safe to be around.

In this episode of In the Grey, we sit with one of the most avoided truths: trauma can explain behavior without excusing it—and unresolved pain can still cause real harm.

This conversation isn’t about blaming survivors or denying lived experience. It’s about honesty. About the ways survival patterns can quietly turn into control, manipulation, emotional unpredictability, and avoidance of responsibility.

We talk about how unhealed trauma leaks into relationships, why being wounded doesn’t grant immunity from accountability, and what it actually means to break the cycle instead of repeating it.

This episode is heavy. It’s uncomfortable. And for some, it may be the first time the mirror doesn’t flinch.

Listen with care. Sit with it. Let it change you.

]]> Being hurt doesn’t automatically make you safe to be around.

In this episode of In the Grey, we sit with one of the most avoided truths: trauma can explain behavior without excusing it—and unresolved pain can still cause real harm.

This conversation isn’t about blaming survivors or denying lived experience. It’s about honesty. About the ways survival patterns can quietly turn into control, manipulation, emotional unpredictability, and avoidance of responsibility.

We talk about how unhealed trauma leaks into relationships, why being wounded doesn’t grant immunity from accountability, and what it actually means to break the cycle instead of repeating it.

This episode is heavy. It’s uncomfortable. And for some, it may be the first time the mirror doesn’t flinch.

Listen with care. Sit with it. Let it change you.

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-18510073 Wed, 14 Jan 2026 17:00:00 -0600 362 #InTheGreyPodcast, #TraumaAndTruth, #AccountabilityMatters, #HealingIsHard, #ToxicPatterns, #EmotionalMaturity, #BreakingTheCycle, #SelfReflection, #UncomfortableTruths, #GrowthWork 3 4 full false Being Hurt Doesn’t Automatically Make You Right. Being Hurt Doesn’t Automatically Make You Right. Pain has a way of convincing us we’re justified, justified in our words, our silence, our distance, our anger. But hurt isn’t the same thing as truth, and suffering doesn’t automatically grant moral authority.

In this episode of In the Grey, we sit in the uncomfortable space between impact and responsibility. I talk about how being wounded can blur our self-awareness, how easily pain turns into entitlement, and why accountability still matters—even when you were wronged first.

We unpack the difference between reacting and responding, why “I was hurt” isn’t the same as “I was right,” and how unchecked pain can quietly turn us into the very thing that hurt us. This isn’t about shaming yourself for having emotions; it’s about refusing to let your pain become a weapon.

If you’ve ever justified behavior because of what you went through…
If you’ve ever looked back and thought, I get why I did that—but I still wish I hadn’t…This episode is for you.

Growth doesn’t start when the hurt ends.
It starts when honesty begins.

]]> Pain has a way of convincing us we’re justified, justified in our words, our silence, our distance, our anger. But hurt isn’t the same thing as truth, and suffering doesn’t automatically grant moral authority.

In this episode of In the Grey, we sit in the uncomfortable space between impact and responsibility. I talk about how being wounded can blur our self-awareness, how easily pain turns into entitlement, and why accountability still matters—even when you were wronged first.

We unpack the difference between reacting and responding, why “I was hurt” isn’t the same as “I was right,” and how unchecked pain can quietly turn us into the very thing that hurt us. This isn’t about shaming yourself for having emotions; it’s about refusing to let your pain become a weapon.

If you’ve ever justified behavior because of what you went through…
If you’ve ever looked back and thought, I get why I did that—but I still wish I hadn’t…This episode is for you.

Growth doesn’t start when the hurt ends.
It starts when honesty begins.

]]> Buzzsprout-18465763 Tue, 06 Jan 2026 18:00:00 -0600 434 #InTheGrey, #BeingHurtDoesntMakeYouRight, #EmotionalAccountability, #SelfReflection, #HealingWithoutHarming, #PersonalGrowth, #HardTruths, #EmotionalMaturity, #TraumaAndResponsibility, #InnerWork, #GrowthIsUncomfortable, #RealTalk 3 3 full false Why We Can’t Communicate: Mirroring, Deflection, Playing the Victim & Listening to Respond Why We Can’t Communicate: Mirroring, Deflection, Playing the Victim & Listening to Respond In this episode of In the Grey, we’re unpacking the real reasons communication collapses — not in theory, but in the everyday moments when we emotionally mirror someone instead of supporting them, when we deflect instead of taking responsibility, when we slip into victim mode, and especially when we listen to respond instead of listening to understand.

Through real examples and relatable scenarios, we explore how these habits quietly erode trust, safety, and connection in our relationships.
 Then we bring it all together with a powerful conversation about what we can actually do to strengthen our communication skills in 2026 — individually, as partners, as friends, and as human beings learning to show up better.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does every conversation feel like a misunderstanding?” — this episode is for you.

]]> In this episode of In the Grey, we’re unpacking the real reasons communication collapses — not in theory, but in the everyday moments when we emotionally mirror someone instead of supporting them, when we deflect instead of taking responsibility, when we slip into victim mode, and especially when we listen to respond instead of listening to understand.

Through real examples and relatable scenarios, we explore how these habits quietly erode trust, safety, and connection in our relationships.
 Then we bring it all together with a powerful conversation about what we can actually do to strengthen our communication skills in 2026 — individually, as partners, as friends, and as human beings learning to show up better.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does every conversation feel like a misunderstanding?” — this episode is for you.

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-18427157 Wed, 31 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 684 #InTheGreyPodcast, #CommunicationMatters, #EmotionalMaturity, #HealthyRelationships, #RealConversations, #ListeningToUnderstand, #EmotionalIntelligence, #2026Growth, #HealingJourney, #RelationshipSkills, #Accountability, #SelfReflection, #UnlearningHabits 3 2 full false Coming Back, Breaking Down, and Christmas Coming Back, Breaking Down, and Christmas 🎙️✨ Hey friends… I’m officially BACK.
After taking some much-needed time off social media, I’m here — rested, graduated, slightly unhinged, and more grounded than ever 😅🤍.

In this catch-up episode, I open up about why I stepped away, what the silence taught me, and how it feels to finally walk across that stage 🎓🥂 after months of juggling work, school, and life. We talk healing 🌱😮‍💨, burnout, emotional honesty, and why sometimes disappearing for a minute is the only way to stay whole.

And with Christmas tomorrow 🎄🤍✨, I’m sharing a heartfelt message for anyone navigating the holidays — whether they’re magical, messy, lonely, chaotic, or somewhere in between. Whatever your day looks like, you deserve softness, peace, and a little light.

If you’ve been waiting for the return of In the Grey, this one feels like coming home. 🤍

]]> 🎙️✨ Hey friends… I’m officially BACK.
After taking some much-needed time off social media, I’m here — rested, graduated, slightly unhinged, and more grounded than ever 😅🤍.

In this catch-up episode, I open up about why I stepped away, what the silence taught me, and how it feels to finally walk across that stage 🎓🥂 after months of juggling work, school, and life. We talk healing 🌱😮‍💨, burnout, emotional honesty, and why sometimes disappearing for a minute is the only way to stay whole.

And with Christmas tomorrow 🎄🤍✨, I’m sharing a heartfelt message for anyone navigating the holidays — whether they’re magical, messy, lonely, chaotic, or somewhere in between. Whatever your day looks like, you deserve softness, peace, and a little light.

If you’ve been waiting for the return of In the Grey, this one feels like coming home. 🤍

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-18411742 Wed, 24 Dec 2025 10:00:00 -0600 386 #InTheGreyPodcast, #NewEpisode, #PodcastLife, #PodcastCommunity, #ImBack, #HealingJourney, #MentalHealthMatters, #RestIsProductive, #SoftGirlHealing, #HotMessEnergy, #ChaosButMakeItHealing, #Graduated, #MBAComplete, #DoneWithSchool, #HolidaySeason, #Chris 3 1 full false The Entitlement of Millennials The Entitlement of Millennials "Are millennials really entitled—or just misunderstood?"
In this episode of In the Grey, we dive deep into the millennial stereotype: the belief that rules apply to everyone else but us. From the roots of entitlement to the pressure of proving you’re not “one of those millennials,” we explore where these attitudes come from, why they’re so polarizing, and how to move toward accountability without losing compassion. 

]]> "Are millennials really entitled—or just misunderstood?"
In this episode of In the Grey, we dive deep into the millennial stereotype: the belief that rules apply to everyone else but us. From the roots of entitlement to the pressure of proving you’re not “one of those millennials,” we explore where these attitudes come from, why they’re so polarizing, and how to move toward accountability without losing compassion. 

]]> Buzzsprout-17566582 Sat, 26 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0500 405 #InTheGreyPodcast, #Millennials, #GenerationalStereotypes, #Accountability, #RealTalk, #PodcastEpisodes, #MillennialCulture 2 8 full false High Functioning But Falling Apart High Functioning But Falling Apart Some of us don’t miss a deadline. We show up, smile, check on others, and get the job done. On the outside? Calm. Collected. Capable.
On the inside? Tired. Hollow. Quietly unraveling.

This episode is for the ones who look fine but don’t feel fine. For the ones who’ve mastered the art of coping through achievement, hiding pain behind productivity.

We talk about:
 🧠 What high-functioning anxiety and depression really look like
 🤐 Why so many of us hide our struggle
 💔 The emotional toll of being “the strong one”
 🫂 And why you deserve support—without having to break first

You don’t owe the world performance. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to be human.

]]> Some of us don’t miss a deadline. We show up, smile, check on others, and get the job done. On the outside? Calm. Collected. Capable.
On the inside? Tired. Hollow. Quietly unraveling.

This episode is for the ones who look fine but don’t feel fine. For the ones who’ve mastered the art of coping through achievement, hiding pain behind productivity.

We talk about:
 🧠 What high-functioning anxiety and depression really look like
 🤐 Why so many of us hide our struggle
 💔 The emotional toll of being “the strong one”
 🫂 And why you deserve support—without having to break first

You don’t owe the world performance. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to feel. You’re allowed to be human.

]]> Buzzsprout-17529466 Sat, 19 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0500 459 2 7 full false Stuck in the Silence: When a Loveless Marriage Becomes Home Stuck in the Silence: When a Loveless Marriage Becomes Home What happens when the vows are still intact, the house is still shared—but the love feels like it disappeared years ago? In this episode of In the Grey, we explore the quiet grief of being in a loveless marriage. We talk about emotional neglect, the pain of being unseen, and the loneliness that grows louder in silence. If your partner is comfortable with the emptiness while you’re slowly breaking—that’s not love, it’s survival. Let’s talk about what it means to choose yourself when your home no longer holds your heart.

]]> What happens when the vows are still intact, the house is still shared—but the love feels like it disappeared years ago? In this episode of In the Grey, we explore the quiet grief of being in a loveless marriage. We talk about emotional neglect, the pain of being unseen, and the loneliness that grows louder in silence. If your partner is comfortable with the emptiness while you’re slowly breaking—that’s not love, it’s survival. Let’s talk about what it means to choose yourself when your home no longer holds your heart.

]]> Buzzsprout-17496715 Sun, 13 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0500 290 #InTheGreyPodcast, #LovelessMarriage, #EmotionalNeglect, #MarriageHelp, #LonelyButMarried, #RelationshipTruths, #ModernMarriage, #SilenceHurts, #ChoosingYourself, #MentalHealthInMarriage#InTheGreyPodcast, #LovelessMarriage, #EmotionalNeglect, #MarriageHel 2 6 full false Should Men Still Be the ‘Providers’ in Relationships? Should Men Still Be the ‘Providers’ in Relationships? If being the provider is your entire personality, what happens when the money runs out?

Let’s talk ego, expectations, and partnership in the modern world.

]]> If being the provider is your entire personality, what happens when the money runs out?

Let’s talk ego, expectations, and partnership in the modern world.

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17366275 Thu, 19 Jun 2025 16:00:00 -0500 356 2 5 full false Starving Our Future: How SNAP Cuts Are Leaving Kids Behind Starving Our Future: How SNAP Cuts Are Leaving Kids Behind Kids should never have to earn their right to eat.

The latest House bill cuts billions from SNAP—and leaves millions of children behind. In this episode, we confront the ugly truth: hunger is now policy. And the most vulnerable are paying the price. 

]]> Kids should never have to earn their right to eat.

The latest House bill cuts billions from SNAP—and leaves millions of children behind. In this episode, we confront the ugly truth: hunger is now policy. And the most vulnerable are paying the price. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17321396 Wed, 11 Jun 2025 16:00:00 -0500 372 #InTheGreyPodcast, #SNAPCuts, #EndChildHunger, #FoodIsAHumanRight, #NoMoreHungryKids, #JusticeForChildren, #AntiPoverty, #SNAPMatters, #BudgetJustice, #PolicyWithHeart 2 4 full false Why Juneteenth Matters Why Juneteenth Matters  🖤❤️💚 Freedom delayed is freedom denied.
Juneteenth isn’t just Black history—it’s American history. In this episode of In the Grey, we unpack why Juneteenth matters, why its history is often overlooked, and why recognizing it strengthens, not divides, our country. 

]]>  🖤❤️💚 Freedom delayed is freedom denied.
Juneteenth isn’t just Black history—it’s American history. In this episode of In the Grey, we unpack why Juneteenth matters, why its history is often overlooked, and why recognizing it strengthens, not divides, our country. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17296639 Sat, 07 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0500 405 #Juneteenth, #FreedomForAll, #BlackHistoryIsAmericanHistory, #InTheGreyPodcast, #JusticeDelayed, #LibertyAndJusticeForAll, #ReflectAndAct, #AmericanHistory, #CelebrateFreedom, #EquityMatters, #LearnTheHistory 2 3 full false Why These Lyrics Go Against the Real American Ideal Why These Lyrics Go Against the Real American Ideal Patriotism isn’t about threats or violence—it’s about protecting freedom, even when it’s uncomfortable. In this episode, we unpack why the lyrics to “Try That in a Small Town” go against the very ideals the United States claims to stand for, and how they reflect a deeper, troubling history of exclusion and division. Let’s talk about what real American values should look like. 

]]> Patriotism isn’t about threats or violence—it’s about protecting freedom, even when it’s uncomfortable. In this episode, we unpack why the lyrics to “Try That in a Small Town” go against the very ideals the United States claims to stand for, and how they reflect a deeper, troubling history of exclusion and division. Let’s talk about what real American values should look like. 

]]> Buzzsprout-17269423 Mon, 02 Jun 2025 15:00:00 -0500 318 #InTheGreyPodcast, #PodcastEpisode, #FreedomOfSpeech, #Patriotism, #SpeakUp, #JusticeNotViolence, #EqualityForAll, #CriticalThinking, #CivilRights, #PodcastRecommendations, #ChallengingTheNarrative 2 2 full true Why Pride Month Matters (And Why There’s No Straight Pride) 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ Why Pride Month Matters (And Why There’s No Straight Pride) 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ 🌈 Pride didn’t start with a party — it started with a protest.
In this episode of In the Grey, we’re unpacking why Pride Month matters, the truth about the Stonewall Riots, and why straight people should be grateful they don’t need a Pride Month.

It’s about visibility, resilience, and fighting for the right to simply exist. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

🎙️ Listen now
 #InTheGreyPodcast #PrideMonth #Stonewall #LGBTQHistory #PrideIsProtest #Allyship #EqualityForAll #LoveIsLove #Pride🌈 #TransRightsAreHumanRights #QueerJoy #PodcastRecommendations

]]> 🌈 Pride didn’t start with a party — it started with a protest.
In this episode of In the Grey, we’re unpacking why Pride Month matters, the truth about the Stonewall Riots, and why straight people should be grateful they don’t need a Pride Month.

It’s about visibility, resilience, and fighting for the right to simply exist. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

🎙️ Listen now
 #InTheGreyPodcast #PrideMonth #Stonewall #LGBTQHistory #PrideIsProtest #Allyship #EqualityForAll #LoveIsLove #Pride🌈 #TransRightsAreHumanRights #QueerJoy #PodcastRecommendations

]]> Buzzsprout-17260939 Sun, 01 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0500 492 #InTheGreyPodcast, #PrideMonth, #Stonewall, #LGBTQHistory, #PrideIsProtest, #Allyship, #EqualityForAll, #LoveIsLove, #Pride🌈, #TransRightsAreHumanRights, #QueerJoy, #PodcastRecommendations 2 1 full false The Process of Becoming The Process of Becoming Transformation doesn’t happen overnight—and it’s rarely clean. In this episode, we explore the messy, beautiful, and often uncomfortable journey of becoming who we’re meant to be. From letting go of old identities to embracing growth that feels slow or uncertain, we unpack what it really means to evolve. If you’ve ever felt stuck, in transition, or unsure of where you’re headed, this one’s for you. 

]]> Transformation doesn’t happen overnight—and it’s rarely clean. In this episode, we explore the messy, beautiful, and often uncomfortable journey of becoming who we’re meant to be. From letting go of old identities to embracing growth that feels slow or uncertain, we unpack what it really means to evolve. If you’ve ever felt stuck, in transition, or unsure of where you’re headed, this one’s for you. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17250336 Fri, 30 May 2025 01:00:00 -0500 344 full false Finding Joy in Your Authentic Self Finding Joy in Your Authentic Self In this episode of In the Grey, we explore what it really means to live authentically—and why it’s so hard to get there. From unlearning expectations to embracing your truth, we talk about the messy, courageous journey of stepping into who you really are. If you’ve ever felt like you were performing for the world, this one's for you. Let’s talk about the freedom, joy, and peace that come from choosing yourself—fully and unapologetically. 

]]> In this episode of In the Grey, we explore what it really means to live authentically—and why it’s so hard to get there. From unlearning expectations to embracing your truth, we talk about the messy, courageous journey of stepping into who you really are. If you’ve ever felt like you were performing for the world, this one's for you. Let’s talk about the freedom, joy, and peace that come from choosing yourself—fully and unapologetically. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17135197 Fri, 23 May 2025 01:00:00 -0500 695 1 8 full false Breaking Up with Toxic Friends Breaking Up with Toxic Friends Friendship breakups can hurt just as much—if not more—than romantic ones. In this episode of In the Grey, we’re diving into the hard truth about toxic friendships: how to recognize them, why we stay too long, and what it really takes to walk away. If you’ve ever felt drained, manipulated, or guilted by someone you call a friend, this one’s for you. It’s time to talk about boundaries, self-respect, and the power of letting go. 

]]> Friendship breakups can hurt just as much—if not more—than romantic ones. In this episode of In the Grey, we’re diving into the hard truth about toxic friendships: how to recognize them, why we stay too long, and what it really takes to walk away. If you’ve ever felt drained, manipulated, or guilted by someone you call a friend, this one’s for you. It’s time to talk about boundaries, self-respect, and the power of letting go. 

]]> Buzzsprout-17101711 Fri, 16 May 2025 09:00:00 -0500 757 full false Trans Rights, Trans Lives Trans Rights, Trans Lives In this powerful episode of In the Grey, we sit down with a guest from the trans community to talk about what it really means to live, exist, and thrive as a trans person in today’s world. From the fight for basic human rights to personal stories of resilience, identity, and hope—this conversation goes beyond headlines and dives into the lived experiences that deserve to be heard. This isn’t about politics—it’s about people. 

Resources:

Trans Misconceptions and Facts - Keshet


A guide to LGBTQ+ allyship - akt

The Trevor Project - Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Young People

[Gender dysphoria - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic].

Related Reading: "The Transgender Issue" by Shon Faye.

]]> In this powerful episode of In the Grey, we sit down with a guest from the trans community to talk about what it really means to live, exist, and thrive as a trans person in today’s world. From the fight for basic human rights to personal stories of resilience, identity, and hope—this conversation goes beyond headlines and dives into the lived experiences that deserve to be heard. This isn’t about politics—it’s about people. 

Resources:

Trans Misconceptions and Facts - Keshet


A guide to LGBTQ+ allyship - akt

The Trevor Project - Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Young People

[Gender dysphoria - Symptoms and causes - Mayo Clinic].

Related Reading: "The Transgender Issue" by Shon Faye.

]]> Buzzsprout-17126212 Fri, 09 May 2025 01:00:00 -0500 784 1 7 full true Society says kids, I say bullshit! Society says kids, I say bullshit! Everyone says kids are the next step—get married, settle down, have children. But what if that’s not your path? In this episode of In the Grey, we challenge the default narrative around parenthood, question the pressure to have kids, and explore what it means to choose a different kind of legacy. Whether you’re childfree by choice, unsure, or just tired of the expectations—this one’s for you. 

]]> Everyone says kids are the next step—get married, settle down, have children. But what if that’s not your path? In this episode of In the Grey, we challenge the default narrative around parenthood, question the pressure to have kids, and explore what it means to choose a different kind of legacy. Whether you’re childfree by choice, unsure, or just tired of the expectations—this one’s for you. 

]]> Buzzsprout-17101342 Mon, 05 May 2025 08:00:00 -0500 723 1 6 full true Motivation Is A Liar Motivation Is A Liar We’ve all waited around for motivation to strike—but what if that’s the biggest lie we’ve been told? In this episode of In the Grey, we dive into why motivation can’t be trusted, how momentum and discipline carry more weight, and what it really takes to keep going when you don’t feel like it. Whether you’re stuck, burned out, or just tired of waiting for the “right time,” this one’s for you. Let’s talk about doing the work even when it’s messy, imperfect, and hard. 

]]> We’ve all waited around for motivation to strike—but what if that’s the biggest lie we’ve been told? In this episode of In the Grey, we dive into why motivation can’t be trusted, how momentum and discipline carry more weight, and what it really takes to keep going when you don’t feel like it. Whether you’re stuck, burned out, or just tired of waiting for the “right time,” this one’s for you. Let’s talk about doing the work even when it’s messy, imperfect, and hard. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17082550 Fri, 02 May 2025 01:00:00 -0500 603 1 5 full true The Lies Insecurities Tell Us The Lies Insecurities Tell Us  Insecurity has a voice—and it’s a liar. In this episode, we unpack the quiet, damaging lies our insecurities whisper to us: You’re not good enough. You don’t belong. You’ll never measure up. Sound familiar? You're not alone. Join me as we explore where these thoughts come from, how they shape our identity, and what it takes to challenge them. Because once you recognize the lies, you can start living in the truth. 

]]>  Insecurity has a voice—and it’s a liar. In this episode, we unpack the quiet, damaging lies our insecurities whisper to us: You’re not good enough. You don’t belong. You’ll never measure up. Sound familiar? You're not alone. Join me as we explore where these thoughts come from, how they shape our identity, and what it takes to challenge them. Because once you recognize the lies, you can start living in the truth. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-17001387 Fri, 25 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0500 350 full false Religion, but make it real. Religion, but make it real.  In this episode of In the Grey, we’re diving into religion—not the version that’s wrapped in fear or perfectionism, but the real, messy, human side of it. We’ll talk about faith, doubt, deconstruction, and why questioning isn’t the opposite of belief. Whether you’ve walked away, are holding on by a thread, or are somewhere in between, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about religion without the filters. 

]]>  In this episode of In the Grey, we’re diving into religion—not the version that’s wrapped in fear or perfectionism, but the real, messy, human side of it. We’ll talk about faith, doubt, deconstruction, and why questioning isn’t the opposite of belief. Whether you’ve walked away, are holding on by a thread, or are somewhere in between, this one’s for you. Let’s talk about religion without the filters. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-16971176 Fri, 18 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500 803 1 3 full true Why We're Tired of Taking Sides Why We're Tired of Taking Sides  What happens when you don't fit neatly into a box in a world that demands you choose a side? In this episode of In the Grey, we explore the exhaustion that comes from constant polarization—whether it’s politics, religion, identity, or social issues. Why are we expected to be all-in or all-out? And what if truth actually lives somewhere in the middle? Let’s talk about the power of nuance, the courage to sit in discomfort, and why living in the grey might be the most honest place to be. 

]]>  What happens when you don't fit neatly into a box in a world that demands you choose a side? In this episode of In the Grey, we explore the exhaustion that comes from constant polarization—whether it’s politics, religion, identity, or social issues. Why are we expected to be all-in or all-out? And what if truth actually lives somewhere in the middle? Let’s talk about the power of nuance, the courage to sit in discomfort, and why living in the grey might be the most honest place to be. 

]]> Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-16955647 Fri, 11 Apr 2025 01:00:00 -0500 566 1 2 full true Welcome to In the Grey! Welcome to In the Grey! Shelby Steward Buzzsprout-16949410 Wed, 09 Apr 2025 19:00:00 -0500 191 1 1 full true