SPLITUP Thu, 08 Oct 2026 11:37:38 -0700 http://www.thesplitupapp.com en-us © 2026 SPLITUP yes e1a81c65-1205-53e1-88a0-cbf3c121ef2e Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo episodic false Welcome to the SplitUp Podcast, your trusted guide through the challenges of divorce, separation, custody, and family law. Hosted by experienced family law attorney Launi Sheldon and forensic psychologist Dr. Robert DiCarlo, we’re here to provide compassionate, expert advice to help you navigate the legal and emotional complexities of family court.

Each episode offers practical strategies, legal insights, and mental health tips to empower you during one of the most difficult times of your life. Whether you’re facing divorce, battling custody issues, or navigating high-conflict relationships, we’ve got your back.

Join us as we break down the process step by step, tackle tough questions, and bring clarity to your unique situation. Let us hold your hand and help you move forward with confidence.

Listen now and take the first step toward a better tomorrow!

Keywords: Divorce, Custody, Family Court, Mental Health, Legal Guidance, Support, Co-Parenting, Separation, High Conflict.

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo https://storage.buzzsprout.com/m1vdiy9xx3olx9ird4iemnh59xu4?.jpg SPLITUP http://www.thesplitupapp.com Launi Sheldon Robert DiCarlo Divorce In A Day - Talking with Kate Simonds to explain her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service . Divorce In A Day - Talking with Kate Simonds to explain her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service . Can an Arizona divorce be settled in one day—and can parents create a workable custody and parenting plan without a prolonged court battle?
On this episode of SplitUp, Launi Sheldon speaks with Arizona family law attorney Kate Simonds about her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service. They explore how Arizona couples can resolve divorce, legal decision-making, parenting time, child support, spousal maintenance, and property division through a focused, carefully prepared mediation process.
“Divorce In A Day” begins before the mediation session. The mediators gather financial information, verify income and account balances, identify the issues that must be resolved, and prepare proposed dissolution documents in advance. The spouses then participate in one structured mediation day designed to help them reach informed agreements and sign the necessary paperwork.
Kate explains why the process uses two neutral attorney mediators. One mediator works with each spouse simultaneously, allowing questions and proposals to move between the parties without leaving either person waiting and imagining the worst. The goal is to keep negotiations productive, fact-based, and focused on workable solutions.
In this episode, Launi and Kate discuss:
- How divorce mediation works in Arizona
- What “Divorce In A Day” actually means
- Arizona’s mandatory 60-day divorce waiting period
- Maricopa County’s summary consent process
- When a signed divorce settlement becomes binding
- Child custody terminology in Arizona
- Legal decision-making and parenting time
- Creating a detailed, child-focused parenting plan
- Calculating Arizona child support
- Understanding spousal-maintenance calculations
- Dividing assets, debts, businesses, and complex estates
- Mediation for unmarried parents and paternity cases
- Flat-fee divorce mediation and predictable costs
- Safety protocols when domestic violence is a concern
- When divorce or custody mediation is not appropriate
Kate also explains how mediation can help parents build a strong parenting plan covering schedules, holidays, transportation, communication, decision-making, and other practical co-parenting issues. For some unmarried parents, resolving paternity, legal decision-making, parenting time, and child support may be the primary objective.
The episode also addresses safety. Depending on the circumstances, mediation may use separate rooms, staggered arrivals and departures, and virtual participation. Cases involving safety risks, hidden assets, incomplete financial disclosure, coercion, or an unwillingness to negotiate may not be appropriate for this process.
“Divorce In A Day” does not eliminate Arizona’s statutory waiting period, guarantee agreement, or mean that every divorce is legally finalized in one day. It means qualifying couples may be able to negotiate their settlement and sign prepared documents during one concentrated mediation session.
If you are navigating divorce, child custody, co-parenting, or parenting-plan issues in Arizona, this episode of SplitUp offers a practical look at resolving family-law disputes with less time, expense, and conflict.
Subscribe to SplitUp with Launi Sheldon for candid conversations about divorce, custody, co-parenting, parenting plans, mediation, and rebuilding life after separation.
What is your biggest question about settling an Arizona divorce or custody matter without going to court? Leave it in the comments.
Important: This episode provides general educational information and is not legal advice. Watching or listening does not create an attorney-client relationship. Family-law outcomes depend on the facts of each case. Consult a qualified attorney regarding your circumstances

]]> Can an Arizona divorce be settled in one day—and can parents create a workable custody and parenting plan without a prolonged court battle?
On this episode of SplitUp, Launi Sheldon speaks with Arizona family law attorney Kate Simonds about her “Divorce In A Day” mediation service. They explore how Arizona couples can resolve divorce, legal decision-making, parenting time, child support, spousal maintenance, and property division through a focused, carefully prepared mediation process.
“Divorce In A Day” begins before the mediation session. The mediators gather financial information, verify income and account balances, identify the issues that must be resolved, and prepare proposed dissolution documents in advance. The spouses then participate in one structured mediation day designed to help them reach informed agreements and sign the necessary paperwork.
Kate explains why the process uses two neutral attorney mediators. One mediator works with each spouse simultaneously, allowing questions and proposals to move between the parties without leaving either person waiting and imagining the worst. The goal is to keep negotiations productive, fact-based, and focused on workable solutions.
In this episode, Launi and Kate discuss:
- How divorce mediation works in Arizona
- What “Divorce In A Day” actually means
- Arizona’s mandatory 60-day divorce waiting period
- Maricopa County’s summary consent process
- When a signed divorce settlement becomes binding
- Child custody terminology in Arizona
- Legal decision-making and parenting time
- Creating a detailed, child-focused parenting plan
- Calculating Arizona child support
- Understanding spousal-maintenance calculations
- Dividing assets, debts, businesses, and complex estates
- Mediation for unmarried parents and paternity cases
- Flat-fee divorce mediation and predictable costs
- Safety protocols when domestic violence is a concern
- When divorce or custody mediation is not appropriate
Kate also explains how mediation can help parents build a strong parenting plan covering schedules, holidays, transportation, communication, decision-making, and other practical co-parenting issues. For some unmarried parents, resolving paternity, legal decision-making, parenting time, and child support may be the primary objective.
The episode also addresses safety. Depending on the circumstances, mediation may use separate rooms, staggered arrivals and departures, and virtual participation. Cases involving safety risks, hidden assets, incomplete financial disclosure, coercion, or an unwillingness to negotiate may not be appropriate for this process.
“Divorce In A Day” does not eliminate Arizona’s statutory waiting period, guarantee agreement, or mean that every divorce is legally finalized in one day. It means qualifying couples may be able to negotiate their settlement and sign prepared documents during one concentrated mediation session.
If you are navigating divorce, child custody, co-parenting, or parenting-plan issues in Arizona, this episode of SplitUp offers a practical look at resolving family-law disputes with less time, expense, and conflict.
Subscribe to SplitUp with Launi Sheldon for candid conversations about divorce, custody, co-parenting, parenting plans, mediation, and rebuilding life after separation.
What is your biggest question about settling an Arizona divorce or custody matter without going to court? Leave it in the comments.
Important: This episode provides general educational information and is not legal advice. Watching or listening does not create an attorney-client relationship. Family-law outcomes depend on the facts of each case. Consult a qualified attorney regarding your circumstances

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19930803 Thu, 08 Oct 2026 11:00:00 -0700 3168 full false Should You Visit School During The Other Parent's Parenting TIme Should You Visit School During The Other Parent's Parenting TIme Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19849563 Tue, 29 Sep 2026 08:00:00 -0700 4887 full false Co-Parenting When You Hate Your Ex Co-Parenting When You Hate Your Ex Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19849450 Tue, 22 Sep 2026 15:00:00 -0700 4330 full false Inside Family Court Psychology Inside Family Court Psychology You see a custody evaluator’s name on a court order and suddenly it feels like your entire future rides on one person’s opinion. We get that. So we pulled Dr. Robert DiCarlo, a licensed psychologist in Arizona and Split Up co-founder, into the hot seat to unpack who he is, how he’s trained, and what actually happens inside family court psychology when the facts are messy and emotions are louder than logic.

Robert shares his winding path from psychology and criminology to sociology, community mental health, and a doctoral degree in counseling psychology with research and clinical depth. From there, he explains why family court forensics grabbed him: the complexity, the high stakes, and the painful reality that two parents can tell totally plausible stories that point in opposite directions. We talk about how evaluators manage bias, why a single “bad first impression” should not decide a case, and how a child’s voice can be both crucial and complicated when kids resist or refuse parenting time.

We also break down the different roles psychologists play: custody evaluations and comprehensive family evaluations, co-parenting coaching, reunification therapy, and court-appointed interventions. You’ll hear why collaborative divorce can feel lighter than litigation, what it’s like to testify as an expert witness, and why evaluators often cannot defend themselves publicly when criticism turns into social media campaigns or board complaints. We close with a real-world warning about domestic violence, coercive control, and how “small” choices like physical contact, snooping, or social posts can become damaging evidence.

If this helped you think more clearly about divorce, custody, co-parenting, or family court, subscribe, share the episode with someone who’s overwhelmed, and leave a review so more parents can find practical, grounded support.

]]> You see a custody evaluator’s name on a court order and suddenly it feels like your entire future rides on one person’s opinion. We get that. So we pulled Dr. Robert DiCarlo, a licensed psychologist in Arizona and Split Up co-founder, into the hot seat to unpack who he is, how he’s trained, and what actually happens inside family court psychology when the facts are messy and emotions are louder than logic.

Robert shares his winding path from psychology and criminology to sociology, community mental health, and a doctoral degree in counseling psychology with research and clinical depth. From there, he explains why family court forensics grabbed him: the complexity, the high stakes, and the painful reality that two parents can tell totally plausible stories that point in opposite directions. We talk about how evaluators manage bias, why a single “bad first impression” should not decide a case, and how a child’s voice can be both crucial and complicated when kids resist or refuse parenting time.

We also break down the different roles psychologists play: custody evaluations and comprehensive family evaluations, co-parenting coaching, reunification therapy, and court-appointed interventions. You’ll hear why collaborative divorce can feel lighter than litigation, what it’s like to testify as an expert witness, and why evaluators often cannot defend themselves publicly when criticism turns into social media campaigns or board complaints. We close with a real-world warning about domestic violence, coercive control, and how “small” choices like physical contact, snooping, or social posts can become damaging evidence.

If this helped you think more clearly about divorce, custody, co-parenting, or family court, subscribe, share the episode with someone who’s overwhelmed, and leave a review so more parents can find practical, grounded support.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19773111 Tue, 08 Sep 2026 15:00:00 -0700 4266 full false Following up about telling about infidelity Following up about telling about infidelity Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19696799 Tue, 25 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0700 4005 full false Understanding Your Financial Future After Divorce Understanding Your Financial Future After Divorce The scariest part of divorce is often not the paperwork, it’s the moment you realize you don’t actually know what your life costs or what you can afford on one income. We sit down with Raquel Kalsrood, a senior wealth advisor and Certified Financial Planner who also holds the Divorce Financial Analyst designation, to bring calm and structure to divorce finances without judgment and without vague “just budget better” advice.

We start where real divorce financial planning should start: clarity and protection. Raquel walks us through the basics that change everything, knowing what you own, knowing what you owe, and understanding your options before you agree to anything. Then we get practical about building a post-divorce budget, including a simple 30-day notes app tracking method that reveals the hidden spending categories people miss, especially when they’re overwhelmed.

Next, we tackle the emotionally loaded decision to keep the house after divorce. We talk about stability for kids, but also the true cost of homeownership: taxes, insurance, utilities, maintenance, and the big future repairs like roofs and HVAC. We also dig into cash flow vs a bigger-looking settlement, how spousal maintenance can act as a bridge while someone retrains or rebuilds income, and why account type matters when you’re counting on investment income (including what happens with IRAs before age 59½).

If you’re facing divorce, separation, or a major life transition, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more prepared. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the money question you want us to answer next.

]]> The scariest part of divorce is often not the paperwork, it’s the moment you realize you don’t actually know what your life costs or what you can afford on one income. We sit down with Raquel Kalsrood, a senior wealth advisor and Certified Financial Planner who also holds the Divorce Financial Analyst designation, to bring calm and structure to divorce finances without judgment and without vague “just budget better” advice.

We start where real divorce financial planning should start: clarity and protection. Raquel walks us through the basics that change everything, knowing what you own, knowing what you owe, and understanding your options before you agree to anything. Then we get practical about building a post-divorce budget, including a simple 30-day notes app tracking method that reveals the hidden spending categories people miss, especially when they’re overwhelmed.

Next, we tackle the emotionally loaded decision to keep the house after divorce. We talk about stability for kids, but also the true cost of homeownership: taxes, insurance, utilities, maintenance, and the big future repairs like roofs and HVAC. We also dig into cash flow vs a bigger-looking settlement, how spousal maintenance can act as a bridge while someone retrains or rebuilds income, and why account type matters when you’re counting on investment income (including what happens with IRAs before age 59½).

If you’re facing divorce, separation, or a major life transition, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more prepared. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the money question you want us to answer next.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19656442 Tue, 18 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0700 2114 full false Kids And Phone Calls After Divorce Kids And Phone Calls After Divorce We talk about why phone calls between two households trigger some of the biggest co-parenting fights, even when both parents genuinely love their kids. We draw a hard line between calls that build connection and calls that turn children into reporters, loyalty managers, or evidence.
• Phone calls as symbols of control, access, and reassurance for parents
• The difference between connecting with your child and parenting the other household
• Why secure attachment does not require constant contact
• Age and development factors from toddlers to teenagers
• Handling rituals like bedtime stories without disrupting the other home
• Practical parenting plan wording, including child-initiated contact and clear call windows
• How to end overlong calls without forcing kids to choose sides
• What healthy co-parenting phone calls look like when trust is high
• Interrogation red flags, spying, screenshots, and using kids as informants
• Reasonable privacy for kids versus legitimate safety exceptions
• Missed calls, patterns, court orders, and when documentation helps or harms
• Why jumping to alienation conclusions can escalate conflict
• Child-sized honesty without turning kids into witnesses
Don’t forget to like and follow and subscribe to our social media, download the app. It’s a free download, but then a paid upgrade. And then if you found this episode helpful, or if you think that you, if you have a friend that you think might benefit from this, please forward it to them. As always, if there’s a topic that you would like for us to touch on, email us, contact us, direct message us.


]]> We talk about why phone calls between two households trigger some of the biggest co-parenting fights, even when both parents genuinely love their kids. We draw a hard line between calls that build connection and calls that turn children into reporters, loyalty managers, or evidence.
• Phone calls as symbols of control, access, and reassurance for parents
• The difference between connecting with your child and parenting the other household
• Why secure attachment does not require constant contact
• Age and development factors from toddlers to teenagers
• Handling rituals like bedtime stories without disrupting the other home
• Practical parenting plan wording, including child-initiated contact and clear call windows
• How to end overlong calls without forcing kids to choose sides
• What healthy co-parenting phone calls look like when trust is high
• Interrogation red flags, spying, screenshots, and using kids as informants
• Reasonable privacy for kids versus legitimate safety exceptions
• Missed calls, patterns, court orders, and when documentation helps or harms
• Why jumping to alienation conclusions can escalate conflict
• Child-sized honesty without turning kids into witnesses
Don’t forget to like and follow and subscribe to our social media, download the app. It’s a free download, but then a paid upgrade. And then if you found this episode helpful, or if you think that you, if you have a friend that you think might benefit from this, please forward it to them. As always, if there’s a topic that you would like for us to touch on, email us, contact us, direct message us.


]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19623472 Mon, 10 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0700 3993 full false Assertive Communication for Co-Parents: Boundaries That Work in Any Family Court Case Assertive Communication for Co-Parents: Boundaries That Work in Any Family Court Case  Do you say yes just to avoid conflict — during a divorce, custody case, paternity dispute, or any co-parenting relationship? Arizona family law attorney Launi Sheldon and licensed psychologist Robert DiCarlo (co-founders of SplitUp) break down how to build assertiveness and set boundaries in any family court situation, married or not. This episode applies whether you're going through a divorce, separation, custody case, paternity action, or simply co-parenting after a breakup — the tools are the same. In this episode you'll learn: - Why "keeping the peace" turns into people-pleasing, and when it starts costing you - The real difference between passive, assertive, and aggressive communication — with example phrases for each - When "No" is a complete sentence, and when family court optics call for more explanation - How to handle common co-parenting flashpoints: one-off schedule change requests, repeated follow-up questions, and what to tell your kid when the other house offers something more fun - The WANT method — a simple 4-step check-in (What's happening, Affect, Need, Truth) for when you freeze under pressure or don't know what you want - How to set clear boundary language in co-parenting communication, including limiting long or hostile messages - A brief, informative, friendly, and firm approach to written co-parenting communication that keeps conflict low and documentation clean - Simple, low-stakes ways to practice assertiveness, and why knowing your legal rights builds confidence - Critical safety guidance: when domestic violence, coercive control, stalking, or intimidation are present, assertiveness may not be safe — what to do instead This episode is part of SplitUp's educational series for anyone navigating family court — divorce, custody, paternity, separation, or co-parenting. This podcast is for general educational purposes only and is not legal or psychological advice; Launi and Robert are licensed only in Arizona. For legal or mental health guidance, consult a licensed professional in your state. Timestamps: 00:00 Disclaimer 00:33 Welcome to SplitUp 00:49 Why people say yes to avoid conflict in family court 04:14 Passive vs. assertive vs. aggressive communication 06:18 Is "No" a complete sentence? 11:38 Handling one-off co-parenting schedule change requests 16:25 One-off denials vs. patterns — how it looks to a judge 18:13 The WANT method: What, Affect, Need, Truth 22:33 Boundary phrases for co-parenting communication 28:04 Writing clear, low-conflict texts and emails to a co-parent 31:31 How to practice assertiveness safely, like building a muscle 33:58 Why legal knowledge builds confidence to advocate for yourself 37:57 Safety first: when assertiveness isn't safe (DV, coercive control, stalking) 41:39 Final thoughts: assertiveness is not confrontation If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone navigating co-parenting, custody, or divorce, and leave a review. #CoParenting #CustodyTips #FamilyLaw #Paternity #Boundaries #AssertiveCommunication #HighConflictCoParenting #SplitUp #DomesticViolenceAwareness 

]]>  Do you say yes just to avoid conflict — during a divorce, custody case, paternity dispute, or any co-parenting relationship? Arizona family law attorney Launi Sheldon and licensed psychologist Robert DiCarlo (co-founders of SplitUp) break down how to build assertiveness and set boundaries in any family court situation, married or not. This episode applies whether you're going through a divorce, separation, custody case, paternity action, or simply co-parenting after a breakup — the tools are the same. In this episode you'll learn: - Why "keeping the peace" turns into people-pleasing, and when it starts costing you - The real difference between passive, assertive, and aggressive communication — with example phrases for each - When "No" is a complete sentence, and when family court optics call for more explanation - How to handle common co-parenting flashpoints: one-off schedule change requests, repeated follow-up questions, and what to tell your kid when the other house offers something more fun - The WANT method — a simple 4-step check-in (What's happening, Affect, Need, Truth) for when you freeze under pressure or don't know what you want - How to set clear boundary language in co-parenting communication, including limiting long or hostile messages - A brief, informative, friendly, and firm approach to written co-parenting communication that keeps conflict low and documentation clean - Simple, low-stakes ways to practice assertiveness, and why knowing your legal rights builds confidence - Critical safety guidance: when domestic violence, coercive control, stalking, or intimidation are present, assertiveness may not be safe — what to do instead This episode is part of SplitUp's educational series for anyone navigating family court — divorce, custody, paternity, separation, or co-parenting. This podcast is for general educational purposes only and is not legal or psychological advice; Launi and Robert are licensed only in Arizona. For legal or mental health guidance, consult a licensed professional in your state. Timestamps: 00:00 Disclaimer 00:33 Welcome to SplitUp 00:49 Why people say yes to avoid conflict in family court 04:14 Passive vs. assertive vs. aggressive communication 06:18 Is "No" a complete sentence? 11:38 Handling one-off co-parenting schedule change requests 16:25 One-off denials vs. patterns — how it looks to a judge 18:13 The WANT method: What, Affect, Need, Truth 22:33 Boundary phrases for co-parenting communication 28:04 Writing clear, low-conflict texts and emails to a co-parent 31:31 How to practice assertiveness safely, like building a muscle 33:58 Why legal knowledge builds confidence to advocate for yourself 37:57 Safety first: when assertiveness isn't safe (DV, coercive control, stalking) 41:39 Final thoughts: assertiveness is not confrontation If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone navigating co-parenting, custody, or divorce, and leave a review. #CoParenting #CustodyTips #FamilyLaw #Paternity #Boundaries #AssertiveCommunication #HighConflictCoParenting #SplitUp #DomesticViolenceAwareness 

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19598618 Tue, 04 Aug 2026 09:00:00 -0700 2588 full false Should you talk to the kids about infidelity Should you talk to the kids about infidelity We break down how to tell kids you’re getting divorced without dumping adult pain onto them, and why the first conversation matters less than the calm pattern you set afterward. We also dig into cheating disclosures, revenge impulses, and practical co-parenting rules that protect your kids and your case. 
• planning the talk around safety, timing, and emotional regulation 
• using a simple child-sized script that centers love and stability 
• anticipating kids’ concrete worries about routines, school, and pets 
• tailoring language for preschoolers versus teens while keeping boundaries 
• why kids do not need cheating details and how loyalty binds form 
• responding when teens push for “the truth” without oversharing 
• how revenge shows up through kids, texts, and social media 
• why courts scrutinize disparaging posts and alienating behavior 
• showing sadness in a healthy way without making kids caretakers 
• special-case guidance for domestic violence and substance abuse 
• rebuilding co-parenting trust through consistency and predictability 
• protecting kids from being messengers, spies, therapists, or judges 
If you found today’s episode helpful in any way, we really appreciate you sharing our podcasts and signing up for our social media and of course downloading the split up app if it’s you know if it’s something that could be helpful to you for you or a friend 


]]> We break down how to tell kids you’re getting divorced without dumping adult pain onto them, and why the first conversation matters less than the calm pattern you set afterward. We also dig into cheating disclosures, revenge impulses, and practical co-parenting rules that protect your kids and your case. 
• planning the talk around safety, timing, and emotional regulation 
• using a simple child-sized script that centers love and stability 
• anticipating kids’ concrete worries about routines, school, and pets 
• tailoring language for preschoolers versus teens while keeping boundaries 
• why kids do not need cheating details and how loyalty binds form 
• responding when teens push for “the truth” without oversharing 
• how revenge shows up through kids, texts, and social media 
• why courts scrutinize disparaging posts and alienating behavior 
• showing sadness in a healthy way without making kids caretakers 
• special-case guidance for domestic violence and substance abuse 
• rebuilding co-parenting trust through consistency and predictability 
• protecting kids from being messengers, spies, therapists, or judges 
If you found today’s episode helpful in any way, we really appreciate you sharing our podcasts and signing up for our social media and of course downloading the split up app if it’s you know if it’s something that could be helpful to you for you or a friend 


]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19560553 Tue, 28 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0700 4383 1 full false SplitUp App Re-Launch Day SplitUp App Re-Launch Day Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19529599 Mon, 27 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0700 2509 full false Co-Parenting Plans That Actually Work - With Guest Annette Burns Co-Parenting Plans That Actually Work - With Guest Annette Burns The fastest way to blow up co-parenting isn’t a major legal fight. It’s the daily grind: the missing sweatshirt, the “forgotten” school gear, the watch that tracks the other parent’s address, and the two-page email that ruins your nervous system for the rest of the day. We sit down with Arizona certified family law specialist and author Annette Burns to talk about how to design a parenting plan that actually works once real life hits.

We get specific about kids’ possessions and how to stop the constant back-and-forth over clothing, shoes, lunchboxes, comfort items, and “it’s definitely at your house” arguments. Annette shares simple systems that reduce conflict, like using one calm inventory email on a schedule, staying neutral, and knowing when it’s cheaper and healthier to replace an item than to keep the fight alive. We also unpack parallel parenting and why being more disengaged can be a smart, healthy strategy rather than a failure.

Then we tackle modern parenting-plan landmines: GPS watches, Apple Watches, phones, location tracking, cloud accounts, and password sharing that can accidentally expose way more than a kid’s device settings. We also discuss teen driving and why a written driver agreement covering readiness, cars, insurance, passengers, and sibling transport can prevent chaos when your child hits 15 and a half. If your co-parent’s communication goes off the rails, we close with BIFF-based tools, boundary lines, and when “received, disagree” is the only reply you need.

If this helped, subscribe, share it with a co-parent or friend, and leave a review so more parents can find practical co-parenting and parenting plan guidance.

]]> The fastest way to blow up co-parenting isn’t a major legal fight. It’s the daily grind: the missing sweatshirt, the “forgotten” school gear, the watch that tracks the other parent’s address, and the two-page email that ruins your nervous system for the rest of the day. We sit down with Arizona certified family law specialist and author Annette Burns to talk about how to design a parenting plan that actually works once real life hits.

We get specific about kids’ possessions and how to stop the constant back-and-forth over clothing, shoes, lunchboxes, comfort items, and “it’s definitely at your house” arguments. Annette shares simple systems that reduce conflict, like using one calm inventory email on a schedule, staying neutral, and knowing when it’s cheaper and healthier to replace an item than to keep the fight alive. We also unpack parallel parenting and why being more disengaged can be a smart, healthy strategy rather than a failure.

Then we tackle modern parenting-plan landmines: GPS watches, Apple Watches, phones, location tracking, cloud accounts, and password sharing that can accidentally expose way more than a kid’s device settings. We also discuss teen driving and why a written driver agreement covering readiness, cars, insurance, passengers, and sibling transport can prevent chaos when your child hits 15 and a half. If your co-parent’s communication goes off the rails, we close with BIFF-based tools, boundary lines, and when “received, disagree” is the only reply you need.

If this helped, subscribe, share it with a co-parent or friend, and leave a review so more parents can find practical co-parenting and parenting plan guidance.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-19513651 Sat, 18 Jul 2026 21:00:00 -0700 3880 1 1 full false Celebrity SplitUp: Jessica Simpson Celebrity SplitUp: Jessica Simpson Jessica Simpson's recent divorce from Eric Johnson highlights crucial issues facing families with children of different ages, examining how kids from preschool to pre-teen process separation differently and what parents can do to support healthy adjustment.

• Children at different developmental stages experience divorce distinctively – 4-year-olds may believe it's their fault while 10-11-year-olds often assign blame
• Preschoolers show signs through regression, separation anxiety, and behavioral changes while older children may externalize with anger or internalize with anxiety
• Parents should never tell children "they left us" as this incorrectly suggests abandonment rather than ending a marital relationship
• Age-appropriate explanations about divorce avoid details about affairs or betrayal that damage parent-child relationships
• Children should not be told why parents are divorcing as adult relationship complexities are beyond their comprehension
• Books like "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear" help reinforce important messages that divorce isn't the child's fault
• Virtual parenting through video calls requires different approaches based on age – structured activities work better than simple conversations
• Creative solutions include participating in daily routines via video, playing online games together, or synchronized movie watching
• Collaborative custom parenting plans work better than standardized court orders for addressing unique family needs
• Professional mediators, forensic psychologists and collaborative divorce attorneys can help create tailored arrangements that truly serve children's interests

Download our Split Up app for guidance through family court issues, and contact us with questions or topic suggestions for future episodes.


]]> Jessica Simpson's recent divorce from Eric Johnson highlights crucial issues facing families with children of different ages, examining how kids from preschool to pre-teen process separation differently and what parents can do to support healthy adjustment.

• Children at different developmental stages experience divorce distinctively – 4-year-olds may believe it's their fault while 10-11-year-olds often assign blame
• Preschoolers show signs through regression, separation anxiety, and behavioral changes while older children may externalize with anger or internalize with anxiety
• Parents should never tell children "they left us" as this incorrectly suggests abandonment rather than ending a marital relationship
• Age-appropriate explanations about divorce avoid details about affairs or betrayal that damage parent-child relationships
• Children should not be told why parents are divorcing as adult relationship complexities are beyond their comprehension
• Books like "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear" help reinforce important messages that divorce isn't the child's fault
• Virtual parenting through video calls requires different approaches based on age – structured activities work better than simple conversations
• Creative solutions include participating in daily routines via video, playing online games together, or synchronized movie watching
• Collaborative custom parenting plans work better than standardized court orders for addressing unique family needs
• Professional mediators, forensic psychologists and collaborative divorce attorneys can help create tailored arrangements that truly serve children's interests

Download our Split Up app for guidance through family court issues, and contact us with questions or topic suggestions for future episodes.


]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17459771 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 1904 full false Designing Smarter Parenting Plans Designing Smarter Parenting Plans Family law experts Annette Burns and Nicole Segueiro-Stoutner introduce SPARK—an innovative method for crafting parenting plans that work better for families during divorce or separation. They share practical advice for creating agreements that stand the test of time while remaining focused on children's best interests.

• SPARK stands for Sustainable, Precise, Attainable, Reduces conflict, and Kid-focused
• Sustainability means planning for how children's needs change over time, not just current circumstances
• Precision requires specific language about times, dates, and responsibilities instead of vague terms like "reasonable"
• Attainable provisions recognize real-world constraints like parents' work schedules and geographic distance
• Reducing conflict includes respectful communication protocols and clearly defined decision-making processes
• Kid-focused plans prioritize children's needs over exact equality in parenting time
• Common pitfalls include first right of refusal clauses that create "stalking" behavior between parents
• Parallel parenting may be necessary and appropriate for high-conflict situations
• Consider specific provisions for international travel based on State Department safety ratings
• Avoid provisions requiring identical household routines as they're rarely attainable

Check out Annette and Nicole's book "Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents" for more in-depth guidance on creating effective parenting plans.

- https://amzn.to/48GkJDa

]]> Family law experts Annette Burns and Nicole Segueiro-Stoutner introduce SPARK—an innovative method for crafting parenting plans that work better for families during divorce or separation. They share practical advice for creating agreements that stand the test of time while remaining focused on children's best interests.

• SPARK stands for Sustainable, Precise, Attainable, Reduces conflict, and Kid-focused
• Sustainability means planning for how children's needs change over time, not just current circumstances
• Precision requires specific language about times, dates, and responsibilities instead of vague terms like "reasonable"
• Attainable provisions recognize real-world constraints like parents' work schedules and geographic distance
• Reducing conflict includes respectful communication protocols and clearly defined decision-making processes
• Kid-focused plans prioritize children's needs over exact equality in parenting time
• Common pitfalls include first right of refusal clauses that create "stalking" behavior between parents
• Parallel parenting may be necessary and appropriate for high-conflict situations
• Consider specific provisions for international travel based on State Department safety ratings
• Avoid provisions requiring identical household routines as they're rarely attainable

Check out Annette and Nicole's book "Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents" for more in-depth guidance on creating effective parenting plans.

- https://amzn.to/48GkJDa

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17377907 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 3865 full false Beyond Divorce: Dating with Kids Beyond Divorce: Dating with Kids Moving on after divorce isn't just about you—it's about your kids and how they adapt to seeing their parents with new partners.

• Children need time to adjust to the major life change of divorce before meeting new partners
• Experts recommend waiting at least six months before introducing kids to a new romantic partner
• Introducing partners too soon can trigger anxiety, attachment issues, and co-parenting conflicts
• Courts don't prohibit dating but may question judgment if multiple partners are introduced quickly
• Parents should be honest but age-appropriate when discussing dating with their children
• Social media posts with new partners can inflame tensions and provide ammunition in court
• When children reject new partners, patience is key—don't force relationships
• Identify your emotions when jealous about an ex dating to manage reactions effectively
• Consider background checks on potential partners for safety and peace of mind
• Move forward romantically while prioritizing children's emotional needs and stability

Split Up takes you through every stage from considering divorce to dating again and even remarriage, providing guidance for each step of your journey.

]]> Moving on after divorce isn't just about you—it's about your kids and how they adapt to seeing their parents with new partners.

• Children need time to adjust to the major life change of divorce before meeting new partners
• Experts recommend waiting at least six months before introducing kids to a new romantic partner
• Introducing partners too soon can trigger anxiety, attachment issues, and co-parenting conflicts
• Courts don't prohibit dating but may question judgment if multiple partners are introduced quickly
• Parents should be honest but age-appropriate when discussing dating with their children
• Social media posts with new partners can inflame tensions and provide ammunition in court
• When children reject new partners, patience is key—don't force relationships
• Identify your emotions when jealous about an ex dating to manage reactions effectively
• Consider background checks on potential partners for safety and peace of mind
• Move forward romantically while prioritizing children's emotional needs and stability

Split Up takes you through every stage from considering divorce to dating again and even remarriage, providing guidance for each step of your journey.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17264067 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 2700 full false Beyond the Couch: When Parents Disagree on Child Counseling Beyond the Couch: When Parents Disagree on Child Counseling We explore the emotional and complex conflict that arises when one parent feels their child needs therapy after divorce while the other parent opposes it, examining both legal pathways and psychological perspectives to help families prioritize children's mental health needs.

• The scenario of Emily – one parent wants counseling for anxiety, possible self-harm; other parent refuses
• Legal decision-making requires joint agreement for counseling in most cases
• Many counselors require both parents' consent even with sole legal decision-making
• Steps to resolve disagreements: attempt mediation before court intervention
• Building a court case with school reports, doctor recommendations, and behavior timelines
• Consulting the child's pediatrician for professional recommendations carries weight
• Addressing concerns about stigma – therapy typically provides relief, not labels
• Children experiencing divorce may face grief, anxiety, guilt, depression requiring support
• Crisis situations with self-harm or suicidal ideation require immediate emergency response
• Forensic professionals consider multiple hypotheses when symptoms appear in one household
• Finding common ground through time-limited counseling trials and reevaluation

If you're having issues navigating co-parenting conflicts around counseling, download Split Up for more in-depth strategies to help you co-parent effectively.

]]> We explore the emotional and complex conflict that arises when one parent feels their child needs therapy after divorce while the other parent opposes it, examining both legal pathways and psychological perspectives to help families prioritize children's mental health needs.

• The scenario of Emily – one parent wants counseling for anxiety, possible self-harm; other parent refuses
• Legal decision-making requires joint agreement for counseling in most cases
• Many counselors require both parents' consent even with sole legal decision-making
• Steps to resolve disagreements: attempt mediation before court intervention
• Building a court case with school reports, doctor recommendations, and behavior timelines
• Consulting the child's pediatrician for professional recommendations carries weight
• Addressing concerns about stigma – therapy typically provides relief, not labels
• Children experiencing divorce may face grief, anxiety, guilt, depression requiring support
• Crisis situations with self-harm or suicidal ideation require immediate emergency response
• Forensic professionals consider multiple hypotheses when symptoms appear in one household
• Finding common ground through time-limited counseling trials and reevaluation

If you're having issues navigating co-parenting conflicts around counseling, download Split Up for more in-depth strategies to help you co-parent effectively.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17264062 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 2725 full false Politics, Parents, and Protecting Children Politics, Parents, and Protecting Children Political differences between divorced parents can create emotional battlegrounds where children feel caught in the middle and pressured to choose sides.

• Children around age 12 are developing abstract thinking and exploring concepts like fairness and justice
• Instead of forcing viewpoints, parents should teach critical thinking skills through open-ended questions
• Cognitive dissonance from conflicting parental narratives can cause anxiety and stress for children
• "Adultification" occurs when parents burden children with age-inappropriate political content
• Parenting plans should include specific language about political discussions and activities
• Documentation is crucial when addressing concerning behaviors from the co-parent
• Focus on shared values like fairness, honesty and respect creates consistency across households
• Modeling respectful disagreement teaches children valuable skills for navigating diverse viewpoints
• Mediation offers effective alternatives to court battles when political conflicts arise
• The goal isn't eliminating disagreement but managing conflict in ways that prioritize children's wellbeing

Download our Split Up app for more resources and join our premium subscribers' Facebook group to ask questions about navigating political differences while co-parenting.

]]> Political differences between divorced parents can create emotional battlegrounds where children feel caught in the middle and pressured to choose sides.

• Children around age 12 are developing abstract thinking and exploring concepts like fairness and justice
• Instead of forcing viewpoints, parents should teach critical thinking skills through open-ended questions
• Cognitive dissonance from conflicting parental narratives can cause anxiety and stress for children
• "Adultification" occurs when parents burden children with age-inappropriate political content
• Parenting plans should include specific language about political discussions and activities
• Documentation is crucial when addressing concerning behaviors from the co-parent
• Focus on shared values like fairness, honesty and respect creates consistency across households
• Modeling respectful disagreement teaches children valuable skills for navigating diverse viewpoints
• Mediation offers effective alternatives to court battles when political conflicts arise
• The goal isn't eliminating disagreement but managing conflict in ways that prioritize children's wellbeing

Download our Split Up app for more resources and join our premium subscribers' Facebook group to ask questions about navigating political differences while co-parenting.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17264025 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 2790 full false When Sports Spark Conflict When Sports Spark Conflict We tackle the thorny issue of extracurricular activities in high-conflict co-parenting situations, navigating the clashing perspectives of legal rights versus psychological wellbeing of children. This candid conversation reveals how activities meant to enrich children's lives often become battlegrounds between divorced parents.

• Understanding that high-conflict dynamics don't require mental health issues—context and circumstances create conflict between any two people
• Recognizing that children don't calculate parenting time—they just want to participate in activities they love
• Extracurricular activities offer numerous benefits: physical health, improved self-esteem, reduced anxiety, enhanced social skills
• The "parent-coach" dynamic creates unique challenges when coaching positions become mechanisms for control
• Sometimes being the "bigger parent" means stepping back from conflict even when you're right
• Children may tell different stories to each parent, creating triangulation that worsens co-parenting conflicts
• Creating specific parenting plans that address extracurricular activities helps prevent ongoing disputes
• Using neutral communication tools like co-parenting apps can reduce conflict and provide documentation

Check out our app Split Up for resources and tips on effective co-parenting in all areas, not just during divorce and separation, but for the ongoing journey of co-parenting.

]]> We tackle the thorny issue of extracurricular activities in high-conflict co-parenting situations, navigating the clashing perspectives of legal rights versus psychological wellbeing of children. This candid conversation reveals how activities meant to enrich children's lives often become battlegrounds between divorced parents.

• Understanding that high-conflict dynamics don't require mental health issues—context and circumstances create conflict between any two people
• Recognizing that children don't calculate parenting time—they just want to participate in activities they love
• Extracurricular activities offer numerous benefits: physical health, improved self-esteem, reduced anxiety, enhanced social skills
• The "parent-coach" dynamic creates unique challenges when coaching positions become mechanisms for control
• Sometimes being the "bigger parent" means stepping back from conflict even when you're right
• Children may tell different stories to each parent, creating triangulation that worsens co-parenting conflicts
• Creating specific parenting plans that address extracurricular activities helps prevent ongoing disputes
• Using neutral communication tools like co-parenting apps can reduce conflict and provide documentation

Check out our app Split Up for resources and tips on effective co-parenting in all areas, not just during divorce and separation, but for the ongoing journey of co-parenting.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17263983 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 2767 full false Beyond the Recording: When Evidence Backfires Beyond the Recording: When Evidence Backfires Parents recording their children to gather evidence for family court cases can be problematic, potentially backfiring legally and causing psychological harm to children caught in the middle of custody battles. The hosts examine when documentation helps versus when it makes a parent look unreasonable to judges who regularly see severe cases of abuse and neglect.

• Photos of minor injuries like bruises from normal childhood activities often appear trivial to judges
• Children may sense parental reactions and say what they think parents want to hear
• Recording without a child's knowledge can breach trust and damage your relationship
• Courts may view recorded evidence as coaching or manipulation
• Professional documentation through therapists or medical providers carries more weight
• Communication with your co-parent before making accusations demonstrates good co-parenting
• Forensically-informed therapists understand how to properly document concerns
• Parents have a legal duty to report legitimate abuse concerns to proper authorities
• Consider the emotional impact on your child before recording them for evidence
• Focus on the child's best interests rather than winning your legal case

Subscribe to Split Up, your app and resource for navigating family court and co-parenting and beyond.

]]> Parents recording their children to gather evidence for family court cases can be problematic, potentially backfiring legally and causing psychological harm to children caught in the middle of custody battles. The hosts examine when documentation helps versus when it makes a parent look unreasonable to judges who regularly see severe cases of abuse and neglect.

• Photos of minor injuries like bruises from normal childhood activities often appear trivial to judges
• Children may sense parental reactions and say what they think parents want to hear
• Recording without a child's knowledge can breach trust and damage your relationship
• Courts may view recorded evidence as coaching or manipulation
• Professional documentation through therapists or medical providers carries more weight
• Communication with your co-parent before making accusations demonstrates good co-parenting
• Forensically-informed therapists understand how to properly document concerns
• Parents have a legal duty to report legitimate abuse concerns to proper authorities
• Consider the emotional impact on your child before recording them for evidence
• Focus on the child's best interests rather than winning your legal case

Subscribe to Split Up, your app and resource for navigating family court and co-parenting and beyond.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17257308 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 2342 full false Divorce in the Spotlight: Justin and Haley Bieber Divorce in the Spotlight: Justin and Haley Bieber We dive into the rumors about Justin and Haley Bieber's divorce, examining what it might look like from legal and psychological perspectives when ultra-wealthy celebrities with a young child separate.

• Justin and Haley have a postnuptial agreement (not a prenup) to handle their considerable wealth
• Justin reportedly earns $5-10 million monthly while Haley earns $500K-1M monthly
• California has no cap on child support, potentially resulting in payments of $40K-100K monthly
• Touring schedules create unique custody challenges requiring creative parenting plans
• Virtual parenting effectiveness varies dramatically based on child age and parent skills
• Children experience different psychological impacts when moving between households with vast wealth disparities
• Past controversial associations may affect custody only if they demonstrate current poor judgment
• Co-parenting in the public eye adds significant stress to already challenging transitions

Download the Split Up app for assistance with your family law case. This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or psychological advice.

]]> We dive into the rumors about Justin and Haley Bieber's divorce, examining what it might look like from legal and psychological perspectives when ultra-wealthy celebrities with a young child separate.

• Justin and Haley have a postnuptial agreement (not a prenup) to handle their considerable wealth
• Justin reportedly earns $5-10 million monthly while Haley earns $500K-1M monthly
• California has no cap on child support, potentially resulting in payments of $40K-100K monthly
• Touring schedules create unique custody challenges requiring creative parenting plans
• Virtual parenting effectiveness varies dramatically based on child age and parent skills
• Children experience different psychological impacts when moving between households with vast wealth disparities
• Past controversial associations may affect custody only if they demonstrate current poor judgment
• Co-parenting in the public eye adds significant stress to already challenging transitions

Download the Split Up app for assistance with your family law case. This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or psychological advice.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17257303 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 1902 full false Splitup: Your Guide Through Family Court Splitup: Your Guide Through Family Court Launi and Robert, experts in family law and psychology, introduce Split Up—an innovative app designed to guide people through the legal and emotional aspects of divorce and family court proceedings.

• 85% of people in family court are unrepresented, primarily due to the high cost of legal representation
• Split Up provides structured guidance through videos and resources for all types of family court cases
• The app addresses both legal procedures and emotional challenges of divorce and separation
• Users receive step-by-step guidance on preparing documents, court appearances, and navigating the legal system
• Psychological support is provided for managing stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions
• Co-parenting strategies are emphasized as a crucial component beyond the initial divorce
• Live sessions will be available for premium members to ask questions directly
• Community support through Facebook and the app allows users to connect with others going through similar experiences

Join us as we help you navigate the family court system with confidence and emotional resilience. Visit our website to learn more about Split Up and how it can support you through this challenging time.

]]> Launi and Robert, experts in family law and psychology, introduce Split Up—an innovative app designed to guide people through the legal and emotional aspects of divorce and family court proceedings.

• 85% of people in family court are unrepresented, primarily due to the high cost of legal representation
• Split Up provides structured guidance through videos and resources for all types of family court cases
• The app addresses both legal procedures and emotional challenges of divorce and separation
• Users receive step-by-step guidance on preparing documents, court appearances, and navigating the legal system
• Psychological support is provided for managing stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions
• Co-parenting strategies are emphasized as a crucial component beyond the initial divorce
• Live sessions will be available for premium members to ask questions directly
• Community support through Facebook and the app allows users to connect with others going through similar experiences

Join us as we help you navigate the family court system with confidence and emotional resilience. Visit our website to learn more about Split Up and how it can support you through this challenging time.

]]> Launi Sheldon and Robert DiCarlo Buzzsprout-17255981 Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:00:00 -0700 1381 full false