Grind. Hustle. Move to the next project. Do it all over again.

But during last week’s Strategic Planning for Life live session, one powerful truth grounded the entire conversation:

“We must unwind from those stories so that we may step into what’s possible… in our own time and at our own pace.”

You don't have to go slow. Your natural pace could be fast and bold. Just as long as it's natural for you.

There's so much freedom in that.

This resonated deeply — because it is possible. Even if fear or scarcity says otherwise.

There are leaders out there who offer space for you to be a whole human.

There are businesses you can build that support your life rather than consume it.

There is money outside of the grind.

And there are people who love you for you — your pace, your process, your presence — not your performance.

The world doesn’t need more unhinged hustle.

It needs more people living with intention, grounded in their values, and bold enough to move through life aligned.

Today's member post guides you to discover your natural pace and ignites movement in that most authentic flow. 

✨ Members - simply scroll down for a personal guided reflection and links to the community conversations this week where we dive into Module 7 of the Strategic Planning for Life Course: Action Planning.

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Jobs changed.
Businesses launched.
Relationships evolved.
Houses remodeled.
Trips booked.
Healing ignited.
Peace returned.

In just 9 weeks.

It’s not magic. But it is something close.

It happens because these individuals allow it to happen. They don’t just show up to check a box—they show up open. Willing. Brave enough to imagine absurd things and take small steps toward making them real.

And I’ll tell you what—we’ve never seen it not work when someone commits to possibility.

That’s the foundation of the Absurd List. It’s a simple practice inside our framework, and it changes everything. We're covering it in this week's Live Session and the member post below.

A question to ponder this week:

If you could do ANYTHING in the next 12 months, dreaming with possibility, what would it be?

✨ Members - simply scroll down for a personal guided reflection and links to the community conversations this week where we dive into Module 6 of the Strategic Planning for Life Course: Setting Intentional Goals.

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The key is learning how to work with both.

We just wrapped a powerful live session inside our UNLOCKED Community, where we explored how to stop resisting what drains us—and instead use it as data to design what’s next.

Here’s the mindset shift:

Don’t just try to escape what you don’t want.
Get clear on what you do want—and move toward that.

This week’s post shares how to identify what’s fueling you, what’s depleting you, and how to start crafting your next chapter from a place of clarity and confidence.

✨ Members - simply scroll down for a personal guided reflection and links to the community conversations this week where we dive into Module 5 of the Strategic Planning for Life Course: Annual Intentions.

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They’re all high-functioning. Thoughtful. Disciplined. Self-aware.

They move their bodies. They nourish their families. They lead in their work. They have supportive partnerships.

And yet, something’s breaking down.

In nearly every case—including my own—the common thread I've found in every potential diagnosis isn’t just age or genetics. It’s stress. But not just stress from “a lot going on.” We’re talking decades of performance. Years of pushing. A lifetime of being “on.” 

It’s like we’ve been conditioned to carry the world, and our bodies are finally saying, “I can’t do this anymore.”

We were never meant to move at this pace. We were never meant to feel like the world would fall apart if we slowed down.

But now? The price is showing up in symptoms, discomfort, and a body that no longer responds the way it used to.

What if the health issues we’re facing aren’t random—or just “part of getting older”—but the cumulative effect of a lifestyle we were never meant to sustain?

As the saying goes...

You can have 1000 problems in your life until you have a health problem. Then you only have one.

This week’s post is about the quiet consequences of decades of stress, performance and pushing through. And the lifestyle design shifts that are sometimes the only real way forward.

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The imagery was simple:

Imagine each of your responsibilities as grocery bags you’re carrying. Not one at a time, but all at once—arms aching, fingers strained.

Then, visualize yourself setting them down—just for the day.

The reactions were powerful.

One woman shared her deep gratitude for just ten minutes of restful peace (she also shared she has five kids).

Another woman at my table said something that’s stuck with me since:

“I didn’t want to put the bags down… because I knew I’d have to pick them back up.”

The whole table nodded.

I responded curiously:

“Maybe we don’t have to pick all of them back up?”

More nodding.

In today's member email, we're exploring the art of knowing what to put down. And more importantly, how and when to let go. 

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There's a weight moving through the world right now. An undercurrent of uncertainty, agitation, exhaustion.

Over the past few weeks, we've noticed an increase of conversations around relationship strain and career transition.

Here's what I think is happening — the weight of the current economic and global climate is weighing on everyone. I liken it to early in the COVID Pandemic lockdown when everything felt unknown, things were changing constantly, and fear was in the air. 

When moments like this happen, there can be a lot of upending that follows suit. When unknowns, fear and collective agitation take over, we unknowingly reach to change something we can "control" to release the pressure. 

Careers and relationships are easy to grasp. Difficult but most tangible to change.

Here's the thing...change is good. Leaning into it is a great strategy. But without pause, reflection and awareness, it's easy to change the wrong thing.

When everything feels unsettled, it’s easy to think you need to blow it all up — the job, the relationship, the routine.

But sometimes, it’s not a full reinvention that’s needed.

It’s a gentle realignment.

A coming back to what matters most.

This week’s reflection invites you to slow down and ask yourself:

What am I actually designing my decisions around?
Is it survival? Achievement? Fear?
Or something deeper, truer, and more lasting?

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So many of the challenges we face—anxiety, burnout, disconnection, hopelessness, confusion—can’t be fixed with a single solution.

But over the last decade, we’ve found that the practice of Intentional Lifestyle Design consistently guides us to the answers that unlock more relief, clarity, and necessary change than any other solution.

This week’s post is about why getting to know yourself—deeply—is one of the most vital things you can do for yourself and those in your life, especially in the current state of the world.

And why Strategic Planning for Life is the tool that keeps working for us and many others, again and again.

A simple question to get you started... 

What would your future self—10 years from now—be grateful you prioritized today?

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Like you can’t see the way forward—no matter how hard you try to figure it out?

That was me this past week. Mentally overloaded. Sick with sick kids. Emotionally done. Physically spent. The pressure to perform was louder than my own inner wisdom.

The to-dos were piling up, and I couln't keep up. I snapped at Phil. I ached from the overwhelm. I was not being the version of myself I desire to be.

So I got up the next day and did one thing that never makes logical sense but always brings me back to clarity:

I went for the walk.

I didn't run. I didn't even pressure myself to walk fast.

I just chose the trail over the task list.

I moved my body instead of pushing through the inbox.

And in that movement—quiet, simple, slow—the answers began to emerge. The path forward began to take shape.

Not from my logical thinking but from a deep knowing. 

Feeling is a form of seeing. What might emerge if you allowed yourself to tap into your intuition instead of just your intellect?

This week’s member post is about being in the fog. It's about burnout, pressure, uncertainty—and what happens when we release the grip and let our intuitive wisdom lead.

Ready to create what's next?

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We start our next live Strategic Planning for Life Series this month. Your future self will thank you.

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We give our best energy to other people’s visions, other people’s timelines, other people’s expectations.

Meanwhile, our own garden—our health, our clarity, our dreams—dries up.

This week’s post is about what happens when we finally stop and decide to plant our own seeds. And what it can look like years later, when you actually water and tend to your life on purpose.

A question to sit with: What could grow if you gave yourself the same energy you give to everyone else?

For me, and now hundreds of others, it started with one 30-day commitment to get clear about what’s next.

And that changed everything.

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Or will you want one more connected moment with your child?

Will you want to clear one more email from your inbox?

Or will you want to hear the birds on a beautiful spring day?

I ask myself these questions often—especially when I’m out on a run.

I see the cars sitting in rush hour traffic, and I’m grateful for the choice I made a decade ago to cut the commute out of my life.

I hear the birds singing and feel the crisp morning air, and I’m grateful that I created a flexible schedule—one that allows me to be outside when it’s nice, not just when it’s the weekend.

I pick my sons up from school and head to the park, and I’m grateful that I didn’t tie myself to a calendar full of unnecessary meetings.

Because in a career-first lifestyle, we waste time on meaningless tasks.

We spend much of our days with people who don’t matter in the end.

We push our health to its breaking point.

And then we get up the next day and do it all over again.

But in a life-first lifestyle?

We still do great, meaningful work.

But we choose how we spend our time.

We prioritize our health, our relationships, and our actual lives.

Most people never make the shift. They stay stuck in the perceived necessity of the grind—the endless to-do lists, the boss’s expectations, the pressure to keep up.

But the people we get to see inside our intentional lifestyle design framework Strategic Planning for Life who make the shift?

They don’t just gain more freedom.

They perform better.

Sometimes, they reach their goals faster.

Sometimes, they land promotions they never expected.

Sometimes, they walk away from jobs that were draining them—and find something far better.

But every single time, they feel better.

Because they finally put their careers where they belong: as a part of their life, not the whole thing.

And when work tries to creep back in and take over (because it will)?

They gently guide it back where it belongs.

The systems we live in weren’t built for people who carry careers and caregiving. They weren’t built for people who hold all the details, all the weight, all the moving pieces.

They were built by (and for) people with far fewer responsibilities.

And yet, every day, we show up. We push through. We squeeze ourselves into structures that were never meant to support us.

But what if you stopped?

What if you stopped trying to fit yourself into a system that was never built for you?

What if, instead, you started designing your life to actually work for you?

And what if, in doing that, you positively influenced NEW systems that supported more people? 

Maybe the best question - why not start today?

Waking up to the same schedule. Following the same patterns. Thinking about making a change but never actually doing it.

That’s 5 million minutes. Gone.

And in the end, they’ll wonder why they still feel like they’re waiting for their “real life” to begin.

I know this, because 10 years ago, I was almost one of them.

But instead of waiting, we turned our lives into a research study.

We pushed against the limits of how life is supposed to be done.

We experimented, failed, and rebuilt.

We questioned every assumption about success, time, and freedom.

Because we weren’t just trying to build a different life for ourselves.

We were trying to prove it could be done differently.

And it can be.

Those 5 million minutes can be spent on building the life you want. Or they can zoom by, wasted on statements like, "somday, I'll..."

So a reflection question today:

• If you were gifted 5 million minutes right now, what would you do with them?
• What's one thing you can do to spend the next minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes doing exactly that and starting to make the most of the time you have? 

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• What in your life is no longer working?
• What do you actually want to move toward?
• What small step can you take today to create space for what’s next?

➡️  More Tools: You can listen to the audio above for more clarity and read the full post (with strategies for action) HERE. 

It’s not the money that’s the problem. It’s the belief that money is the solution.

Our society is running on a dangerous assumption: that success equals wealth, and wealth equals happiness. But the data tells a different story.

People are lonelier than ever. Anxiety and depression are skyrocketing. Families are disconnected. And despite having more wealth than ever before, we feel less fulfilled.

The Shift We Need

This isn’t just a personal wake-up call. It’s a collective one.

We need to rewrite the narrative. Not just for ourselves but for our communities, our children, and the generations that follow.

Imagine if more of us prioritized time over titles, presence over productivity, connection over consumption.

Imagine the ripple effect if we all made small, intentional shifts toward what truly matters.

Your Invitation to Reflect

Below is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you. When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• Where are you trading time for things that don’t truly matter?
• What nudges have you been ignoring?
• What small step could you take today to reclaim your time?

But my time is the most valuable thing in the world to a few people."

The Trap of Overextension

We’ve all been there: giving too much to people or pursuits that don’t align with what matters most and don't return what we had hoped. Pouring our worth and power into our hopes for external validation.

We spend our time and energy on:

• People or clients we barely know.
• Chasing perfectionism or people-pleasing.
• Pursuing goals that reflect societal expectations rather than personal values.

The Cost of Overextension is Steep 

We lose presence with the people and priorities that mean the most to us. We sacrifice our peace, creativity, and health, all in the name of being “enough.”

We give away power and energy to other people who don’t want it and won’t return it. 

Not because they don’t want to or because they’re not nice people. But mostly because they have all their own stuff going on. Focused on the people and things where they want and need to be focused.

The constant chase for external validation leaves us feeling emptier, not fuller.

The Question That Changes Everything

When we turn inward and focus on the relationships and practices that fill us up, we create a life rooted in true value exchange and the most meaningful outcomes. 

The question shifts from, “Am I enough for them?” to, “Am I investing in what’s most important to me?”

Your Invitation to Reflect

Below is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you. When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• What are you currently over-investing in with your time, energy, or resources?
• What is actually most or more important to you?
• How can you redesign your week (and year) to shift your focus toward what matters most?

It requires making hard decisions and staying true to your values, even when the path is challenging. 

Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong answer. Just choices. Made one after the other to the best of your ability. 

With intention at the helm, those choices lead to outcomes that - although difficult - are filled with pride, love and growth.

Your Turn to Reflect

Clarity comes from your own reflections, values and intentions. Below is an invitation to reflect on this in your own life using the audio above to guide you. 

• Is there a situation you’re currently facing where you are balancing values vs. fear, risk, uncertainty, etc.? 
• What would your values and intentions tell you to do?
• What is one small thing you can do to start moving in the direction of that choice?

I let go of the rush and trusted the pace that felt right for me. I chose to:

• Simplify instead of overextend.
• Stabilize instead of sprint.
• Feel instead of force.

And in those moments, I remember something powerful: Freedom isn’t in doing more. It’s in trusting your own rhythm.

True freedom comes from within—from listening to your intuition, moving at your own pace, and letting go of external expectations.


Your Invitation to Reflect

Below is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you. When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• Are you moving at a pace that feels aligned with your true self?
• What external expectations could you let go of to create more freedom in your life?
• How can you listen to your intuition more deeply this week?

Whether it’s the chaos of the holidays, an unexpected illness, or the daily demands of work and family, the pressure can feel unbearable at times.

It’s easy to lose ourselves in the doing, striving to make everything “perfect” and taking care of everyone else’s needs while ignoring what truly matters to us.

But what we really need is what grounds us in those moments—the steady rhythms that tether us to our authentic selves and allow us to navigate life’s unpredictability with grace.


Your turn to reflect

Below is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you. When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• What simple practices keep you tethered to your most authentic self and life vision?
• What’s one thing you could do or change to ensure that practice is prioritized in your life today?

• Where are you clinging too tightly in your life right now?
• What’s your vision? What are you actually trying to achieve? And for whom?
• Are you sacrificing your well-being, joy, or peace for a “gold medal” no one’s handing out? Or are you feeling called to lean in and let go of anything that’s holding you back?
• What would it look like to let go? What would it FEEL like to let go?

For many of us, the pressure isn’t just the packed social calendar or the endless to-do lists—it’s the quiet hum of professional stress that never turns off. It’s the worry about finances, the question of how to build momentum for the new year, and the constant tension between honoring our goals and staying present with the people who matter most.

The collision of work stress and holiday expectations leaves little room for grace. We end up rushing, snapping, and carrying tension into moments that should feel joyful. And if we’re not careful, the season slips by, leaving behind more regret than connection.

Balancing Professional Growth and Holiday Joy

Here’s the truth: work doesn’t pause for the holidays, especially if you’re navigating change. And the holidays don’t pause for work. 

But with awareness and intention, we can set boundaries that honor both our professional goals and the season’s deeper meaning.

Your Turn to Reflect

Below is a reflection opportunity to help you feel your own clarity this holiday season. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you.

• How do you want your holiday to feel this year?
• What boundaries can you set around work and holiday commitments to create space for what matters?
• How can you use your personal values to guide your decisions this season?

And when I think back to all the financial challenges we’ve faced, I feel proud. Each one felt insurmountable at the time, but each one taught us to lean harder into our values. To learn, grow, and build something more intentional. To resist the pull of society’s narrative and instead craft our own.

What Do You Want to Remember?
When you’re faced with a tough decision, ask yourself this: What do you want to remember at the end of your life? Is it the hours spent chasing societal success, or the moments that made your heart feel full?


Your Turn to Reflect
Below is a quick reflection opportunity. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you.

• What are the “pictures” on your wall that represent your North Star?
• What’s a situation in your life right now that feels uncertain?
• How can you use your own version of the “pictures” to reconnect you with your values and provide clarity in the moment?
• What would it look like to prioritize what truly matters—even if it defies societal expectations?

The intention grounds us in a deep understanding of who we are and what we want - independently or with a partner.

Surrender is acceptance that we don’t have control over “how” or “if” something unfolds.

But with a conscious balance of both, we can move forward in more alignment, ease, respect and acceptance, ultimately experiencing more of what we want, and less of what we don’t.


YOUR TURN TO REFLECT

Below is a reflection opportunity to help you get started on your intention(s) for the next week. Take a moment to settle in and consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you.

When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• Identify one thing in your life right now that is expanding your energy.
• Write an intention for how you will do more of that thing or make sure that you regularly prioritize it.
  • I intend to….
• Next, identify one thing in your life right now that is draining your energy.
• Write an intention for how you will de-prioritize, redesign, delegate or delete that thing from your life
  • I intend to….

That question has sparked tremendous clarity and change in our lives. 

It has put the power in OUR hands instead of in the world outside of us. 

It has guided us to say yes to what matters and no to what no longer serves us. 

It has provided a path forward when everything has felt dark. 

Most importantly, it has led to the most beautiful moments of our lives. 

PERSONAL REFLECTION

Below is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in consider the questions below using the audio above to guide you. When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• What is the advice your oldest self would give to the ‘you’ right now.
• How is the moment you’re in an invitation to live the life you want?
• What is draining you day in and day out? 
• What is no longer serving you? 
• Where does your heart want to go? 
• What feels expansive and uplifting? 
• Where are you compromising on your values to appease the people around you?

When you’re ready, start planning your intentional growth for 2025 here. This is the tool we use to consistently do more of what want and less of what we don’t. If you liked this reflection, you'll definitely like Strategic Planning for Life. 

Thanks for tuning in this week, friend. Wishing you clarity and momentum in living the life you want.

With intention and gratitude for your presence here,

Krista

Follow the inspiration when it calls, no matter the barrier. 


YOUR TURN TO REFLECT

This is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in consider the questions below using the audio to guide you.

When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• What is something you really want right now?
• What are the barriers that stand in your way?
• How can those barriers inform your path forward if you lean into them?

Thanks for tuning in this week, friend. Wishing you clarity and momentum in living the life you want.

With intention and gratitude for your presence here,

Krista

We can react using the same unhelpful behaviors we’ve used in the past, ultimately creating more friction, challenge and pain.

OR we can listen and respond with more intention and authentic movement, leading ourselves to more creativity, flexibility and possibility.


PERSONAL REFLECTION

This is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in consider the questions below using the audio to guide you.

When you’re finished with the visualization, answer the following questions:

• How do you sense when a change or challenge is on the horizon?
• How do you tend to react when facing this change from a place of fear?
• How would you respond if you listened to your natural instincts?

Thanks for tuning in this week, friend. If and when you want to create more clarity and action from a deeper sense of self-awareness, I invite you to check out Strategic Planning for Life. It’s our guided approach to moving through life with more authenticity and confidence. If you love getting to know yourself at deeper levels, you’ll love it. 

With intention and gratitude for your presence here,

Krista

• Who is not hearing you?
• Who are you not hearing?
• And what is not being said or heard?

And then, if and when you’re ready to take your relationships to the next level of alignment in 2025, grab your copy of Strategic Planning for Life and follow the “Partners & Groups” guidance. This is the tool Phil and I use every December to listen deeply to each other and create a cohesive plan where we can move forward in sync, aligned with a clear vision and practical action steps forward.

With intention and gratitude for your presence here,

Krista Franks