In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land and Kerry Shoesmith explore a question that sits at the heart of therapy within families:  how do we decide the right path forward?

In this episode Dr Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land and Kerry Shoesmith,  are talking about something that happens to all of us at times  losing your voice, or not speaking out in the moment.

Where’s the line between normal guidance and expressing our feelings and something that is Nonviolent Resistance practice? 

As the the First North American NVR Conference approaches,  Dan Dulberger and Peter Jakob discuss the unique value NVR brings to North American mental health culture, its multiple applications, and how it helps parents regain agency facing seemingly impossible situations with their children.  

More about the conference: https://www.nvrt.ca/nvr2026na

Register for the conference: https://whova.com/portal/registration/Nh4-FzNIyFEy-gmCNaEV/  

In this episode we step beyond the familiar language of trauma theory to explore where it genuinely helps us understand and support young people, and where it can start to limit our thinking. Joining the conversation are Dr Peter Jakob, Mary‑Jo Land and Kerry Shoesmith.

 In this episode, we talk honestly about coercive control and why it isn’t easy to “just stop being controlled”. These patterns can be subtle, powerful, and condition us. We explore how we can draw on NVR to help us steady ourselves, think clearly, and choose responses. 

In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land and Kerry Shoesmith talk plainly about how Non-Violent Resistance can support children and parents through separation and divorce. They explore what actually helps hold boundaries and break patterns of escalation and submission.

 Welcome to the NVR Podcast with Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land and Kerry Shoesmith. Today we’re naming something many are weary of: the steady drip of misogyny that shows up in homes, schools and services. We’ll look at how NVR helps us call it out without escalation, stand alongside those affected, and build relationships grounded in dignity rather than dominance. Let’s begin the conversation...

 n this episode of our NVR podcast, Dr Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land, and Kerry Shoesmith explore the idea of play as a relational gesture in Non-Violent Resistance. They look at how playfulness can open space for connection .

 In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob and Kerry Shoesmith talk about humanising residential childcare, what it really means to bring humanity, respect and connection into the everyday life of a children’s home. 

Kerry Shoesmith and Dr Peter Jakob discuss how Non Violent Resistance, first developed to support families and communities, can be applied to improve workplace performance. They explain how NVR principles promotes accountability, trust and mutual respect, helping teams move away from conflict and disengagement towards resilience, creativity and shared responsibility. This conversation offers clear, practical insight for leaders who want to build workplaces where people feel valued, empowered and able to perform at their best.

 In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob and Kerry Shoesmith explore the powerful themes of dismissal, rejection, and diminishing. Drawing on their extensive experience in NVR practice, they unpack how these dynamics play out in relationships and professional settings — and what we can do to respond with strength, clarity, and connection. 

Welcome to the podcast, and thanks for joining Peter Jakob, Kerry Shoesmith & Mary-Jo Land.

In this episode, we’re taking some time to talk about something that often sits beneath the surface in NVR, the experience of loss and grief. Whether you're a parent, carer, or professional supporting children and young people through difficult times, the journey can bring with it deep feelings of mourning for what was hoped for or expected.

We’ll be exploring how grief shows up in the NVR process, not just for parents and carers, but for professionals too and how naming and acknowledging those losses can actually become part of the resistance itself. 

A recording of the first half of Haim Omer's book launch event hosted by CNTP's community of practice forum in May, 26, 2025.  Haim was interviewed by Dan Dulberger and answered questions from the audience.

https://www.routledge.com/Non-Violent-Resistance-in-Trauma-Focused-Practice-A-Systemic-Approach-to-Therapy-and-Social-Care/Jakob/p/book/9781032697390 

In this episode of our NVR podcast, Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land, and Kerry Shoesmith discuss Peter’s new book, Nonviolent Resistance in Trauma-Focused Practice: A Systemic Approach to Therapy and Social Care (published 17 December 2024). Together, they explore why this book is essential reading and delve into key themes around NVR and trauma, as well as the application of NVR within wider systems.

Dan Dulberger interviews Dr. Maude Champagne, NVR practitioner and award winning neuroscientist and therapist, about her research and practice with parents of children with neurodevelopmental disabilities, who harm. We discuss Maude new book - Decoding Aggression: Complex Behaviors and Brain Based Disabilities, the role of NVR in her clinical work with parents, and a recent outcome study measuring parent-reported parental and child well being following an intervention comprising polyvagal and NVR work.  

 In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob and Kerry Shoesmith discuss how Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) is used outside of parenting. The conversation focuses on how professionals can apply NVR principles when working directly with young people, their parents and caregivers — supporting them to build resistance to harmful influences and pressures. 

 In this episode, Combining NVR with Other Therapies, Dr Peter Jakob, Mary-Jo Land, and Kerry Shoesmith explore how Non-Violent Resistance can be effectively integrated with other therapeutic approaches. Drawing on their clinical experience, they share practical insights and reflections on building coherence across models to better support families and young people. 

Welcome to Rethinking Care, where we explore fresh ideas in parenting and support through Non-Violent Resistance.

In this episode, Dr Peter Jakob and Kerry Shoesmith talk about blocked care — what it means, how the concept impacts parents and caregivers, and how we can understand care differently within NVR.

 In this powerful new episode, Kerry Shoesmith sits down with Mary-Jo Land, an adoptive parent, to explore the deep complexities of adoption. Together, they discuss the real challenges families can face and how NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) can offer vital support to those navigating difficult times. 

Welcome to NVR The Podcast. this episode explores Nonviolent Resistance (NVR) in residential childcare. Hosted by Mary-Jo Land, Dr. Peter Jakob, and Kerry Shoesmith, who examine the shift from behavioural approaches to trauma-informed and therapeutic practice. 

Peter Jakob of Connective Strength (UK) and Mary-Jo Land of the Centre for Non-Violent Resistance Therapy and Practice (Canada) discuss the Anchoring Function of Attachment. How does NVR incorporate attachment theory and practice? Initially,  Peter didn’t feel “connected” to attachment theory whereas Mary-Jo was completely taken with it. As such they come together from different places for this discussion. 

Trust is a key aspect of attachment security. How do we build trust, or re-establish trust when trust has been compromised and the parent-child relationships have become imbued with distrust, fear, and anger? How do we restore closeness after harm and trauma have distanced parents and their offspring from each other. Peter and Mary-Jo discuss the NVR journey to repair and reconciliation in these relationships. 

Welcome to this episode, where we delve into the fascinating world of Nonviolent Resistance (NVR) with leading experts Mary-Jo Land, Dr. Peter Jakob, and Kerry Shoesmith. Today, we explore the concept of Harmonising Too Soon—what happens when families, caregivers, or professionals rush to restore harmony before they have acknowledged the hurt.

 Join Mary-Jo Land, Dr Peter Jakob, and Kerry Shoesmith as they explore the transformative power of Non-Violent Resistance (NVR). This episode delves into how protest can serve as both an act of resistance and reconciliation, standing with children and young people against their harmful and destructive behaviour. 

In this engaging episode, Dr Peter Jakob and Kerry Shoesmith explore the heart of Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) – standing against harm together. They discuss the courage it takes to face challenges, the importance of acknowledging and taking risks, and how recognising struggle can lead to profound transformation. Presented by Connective Strength and NVR Therapy & Practice (CNTP)