Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali

From "Obsolete" to Unstoppable: Jennifer Schroeder Exposes Workplace Age Bias

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 00:00:00 +0100

In this inspiring episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Jennifer Schroeder, who at 58 was told her skills were “obsolete” and faced systemic age bias after hundreds of rejections. Jennifer recounts a planned 15-minute meeting where she was threatened with a performance improvement plan or severance, describing shock, shame, anger, and an out-of-body feeling, followed by months of replaying the event and noticing earlier signs like being excluded from meetings. Needing income, she tried various jobs while recovering for 12–18 months. She later posted videos on LinkedIn and TikTok, sparking thousands of responses from others experiencing similar discrimination, and grew The Unobsolete to support both HR leaders and professionals. Her key advice is to pay attention, document workplace issues, and remember you are not powerless or obsolete.

01:14 Introducing Jennifer Schroeder

03:21 A Career Turned Upside Down

04:43 Shock and Out of Body

06:27 The Walk of Shame

08:51 Red Flags in Hindsight

11:50 Aftermath at Home

15:11 Rebuilding After the Blow

18:49 Birth of The Unobsolete

20:48 Stories From the Community

23:17 Turning Posts Into a Mission

26:59 Practical Survival Advice

29:48 Where to Find Jennifer

30:39 Purpose From Pain

31:48 Not Powerless

33:27 A Remarkable Woman Tribute

JENNIFER SCHROEDER

Linkedin: Jennifer Schroeder

TikTok: @TheUnobsolete

Instagram: @TheUnobsolete

YouTube: Coming Soon

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The Mixed Race Experience: Dr. Jenn on Identity Shame & Finding Belonging

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali is joined by Dr. Jenn (Jennifer Noble), a licensed psychologist and parent coach specialising in children, teens, identity development, and the mixed-race population, and founder of Free to Be Collective. Dr Jenn shares her early life in Santa Monica shaped by diversity and international travel, and discusses her own mixed-race identity (African American and Sri Lankan Tamil) and how being read as Black influenced her understanding of perception and identity. She describes recognising a gap when mixed-race adults at community events revealed they had never processed identity with their parents, often feeling shame and pressure to choose one “box.” Dr Jenn explains her work helping parents understand the “third” mixed-race experience, increase intentional cultural exposure, and support adolescents navigating appearance, belonging, and assumptions. She highlights how societal expectations create shame and names Wangarī Maathai as a key inspiration.

00:00 Mixed Race Identity Gap

00:33 Meet Dr Connie Kerali

01:09 Introducing Dr. Jenn

02:47 Chapter One: Origins

04:55 Finding Her Purpose

08:27 The Need She Saw

11:30 Coaching Parents Basics

13:49 Cultural Exposure Matters

16:53 Sade and Self Freedom

19:40 Advice for Mixed Race Teens

23:49 Key Takeaways for Everyone

25:57 Connect with Dr Jenn

27:23 Shame and One Box Thinking

29:50 Remarkable Woman Inspiration

DR. JENN (JENNIFER NOBLE)

INSTAGRAM: @DrJennPsych

WEBSITE: FreeToBeCollective.com

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From Survival to Freedom: Neelu speaks out about Domestic Violence and Life After Divorce

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000

Dr Connie Kerali has a powerful conversation with the remarkable, Neelu, a business coach and single mother of four, about domestic violence, coercive control, financial abuse, and marital rape within a 17-year marriage. Neelu shares growing up in a conservative Muslim family, being pushed toward marriage from her teens, and recognising dysfunction through motherhood and learning healthier parenting. She describes escalating control by her husband and in-laws, neglect during pregnancies, coerced pregnancies, and isolation, alongside family toxicity, stigma around mental health, and being treated as “crazy” after seeking therapy and Prozac for clinical depression. After repeated broken promises, failed couples counselling, and her husband leaving the family while withholding support, Neelu chose divorce and also distanced herself from her own family. She now rebuilds independence, sets boundaries, and uses social media to reduce shame and support other women.

01:30 Introducing Neelu

06:58 Motherhood Wake Up Call

08:10 Unlearning and Boundaries

19:45 Engagement Red Flags

28:56 Control and Neglect

33:37 Marital Rape and Pregnancy

40:11 Fourth Pregnancy Turning Point

43:40 Job Loss and COVID Return

47:57 Back in Kerala Toxic Homes

52:13 Depression and Seeking Help

01:02:59 Money Control and Neglect

01:07:19 Decision to Divorce

01:12:33 Healing and Boundaries

01:20:00 Happily Divorced Community

01:24:40 No Shame and Hope

01:29:56 Reclaiming Joy Post Divorce

NEELU

Instagram: @HappilyDivorced.Neelu

UK SUPPORT SERVICES

In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies or dial 101 (UK only)
Find your nearest NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centre
Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you or contact your GP surgery
Charities: Mind, The Samaritans, Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, or Victim Support

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Breaking Generational Cycles: Poonnamme Speaks On Her Experience As A 1st Born British-Asian

Thu, 26 Feb 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame we discuss sexual violence, attempted suicide, and eating disorders and with support links are provided below. Dr Connie interviews Poonnamme, a Sikh woman raised between the UK and Punjab, with over 35 years in health and social care, who now also facilitates Kundalini Shakti activation. She shares how being the first-born girl and only child brought intense pressure tied to family honour and community expectations, including expectations around education and status. She describes being sexually assaulted at 17 by someone known to the family and a subsequent attempted suicide. She shares that at 18 she entered an arranged marriage and describes living “two lives” as a Western professional and a traditional subservient wife. Becoming a mother was a turning point in her decision to break cycles for her daughter. Poonnamme reflects on how her experiences shaped her voice, resilience, and ability to feel pride in both who she is and who she was.

01:40 Introducing Poonnamme

04:43 Firstborn Expectations

08:24 Schooling And Illness

11:14 Career Dreams Clash

12:51 Sexual Assault Silence

16:25 Aftermath And Survival

25:10 Arranged Marriage Begins

26:02 Two Lives At Home & At Work

29:09 A Manager Believes

34:59 Leaving To Break Cycles

36:49 Healing And Sharing

41:42 Trauma In The Body

43:23 Eating Disorder Spiral

47:36 Crossroads With Substances

56:20 Self Healing Awakening

01:00:00 Launching Healing Practice

01:03:37 Identity And Finding Voice

01:13:56 Advice For Feeling Stuck

01:21:02 Where To Find Poonnamme

01:27:51 Remarkable Women And Gratitude

POONNAMME

Instagram: @JagoSacredEnergy
Website: JagoSacredEnergy.co.uk

UK SUPPORT SERVICES

In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies or dial 101 (UK only)
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Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you or contact your GP surgery
Charities: Mind, The Samaritans, Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, Victim Support

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Say It Out Loud: Finding Your Voice With Vasavi Kumar

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this week’s episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali speaks with Vasavi Kumar, licensed therapist, mindset coach, voice actor, TV host, and author of Say It Out Loud. Vasavi shares how she began to stop doubting herself and regain trust in her voice by developing an “immaculate” inner narrative - one that is kind, encouraging, and safe - so that external criticism no longer carries the same weight. She explains how her work has evolved over 15 years alongside her own personal growth, and how sharing the truth with emotion and precision helps her connect with clients who are on a similar path. Vasavi offers a practical example of challenging limiting beliefs by reframing the fear of raising prices for her Out Loud School. She also reflects on Bad Bunny’s Super Bowl performance as a reminder for women of colour and children of immigrants to stay true to their culture without whitewashing themselves for acceptance. Vasavi discusses how grief after her father’s death in May 2025 led her to temporarily silence herself, and how returning to speaking out loud helped her process emotions and reduce shame. She closes by emphasising that shame festers in silence and isolation, and that everyone needs a safe place to be witnessed and express themselves - one of the reasons she created the Out Loud School, which she notes is not therapy but is therapeutic.

00:00 The impact of silencing yourself and why shame shrivels when voiced

01:05 Introduction to Speak Shame and guest Vasavi Kumar

03:45 Vasavi’s “first chapter”: ending self-doubt and trusting her voice

07:00 Rewiring the inner narrative and treating yourself with respect

12:40 Helping others while doing your own ongoing inner work

15:40 How telling the truth and sharing personal stories attracts aligned clients

19:10 A practical reframe: challenging limiting beliefs when raising prices

27:10 Bad Bunny, authenticity, and refusing to whitewash culture for acceptance

35:30 Grief, losing your voice after her father’s death, and returning to expression

42:10 Why not using your voice affects mental, emotional, physical and financial wellbeing

48:15 Finding a safe place to “say it out loud” and what Out Loud School offers

55:10 Where to find Vasavi and her remarkable woman inspiration

VASAVI KUMAR

• Instagram: @MyNameIsVasavi

• Website: vasavikumar.com

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I'm Not A Failure: Faith Aisien-Ezugwu On Dyslexia & Developing Self-Compassion

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode, host Dr Connie Kerali interviews Faith Aisien-Ezugwu, author of the poetry and spoken word book 'I Am Here' and host of the 'Re: Series' podcast. Faith shares her journey from growing up in Nigeria and overcoming feelings of inadequacy and being labeled a 'failure' as a child, to her successful career in business and events management. She discusses her struggles with dyslexia, the emotional challenges she faced, and how therapy helped her find self-compassion and self-worth. Faith offers advice to listeners on believing in themselves, recognising their strengths, and seeking the support they need. She also reflects on the importance of discussing mental health issues and breaking cultural stigmas. The episode concludes with a powerful reading from her book, 'I Am Here'.

01:23 Meet Faith Aisien-Ezugwu

02:34 Chapter One Poem

05:07 Childhood and Culture

09:22 Dyslexia and Self Work

12:59 Writing the Book

15:30 Advice to Younger Self

18:10 Mentoring and Hard Work

20:29 Parenting and Breaking Silence

24:09 Therapy and Self Compassion

27:01 Remarkable Women Inspiration

29:56 Final Reading and Wrap Up

FAITH AISIEN-EZUGWU

Website: FaithAisienEzugwu.com

Instagram: @inkwellfaith

Podcast: The Re: Series

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Believing Your Body Has Failed You: Emily Silva Hockstra On Infertility, Grief & Healing

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Emily Silva Hockstra, a five-time author and spiritual life coach. Emily shares her journey from an anxiety-ridden child to a successful author and coach. She discusses her personal experiences, including suffering a miscarriage at 18, transitioning from a corporate career to wine tasting, and eventually pursuing her passion for writing full-time. Emily delves into the profound impact of grief and shame on her life after a diagnosis of primary ovarian insufficiency meant that she was unable to conceive, detailing how therapy, yoga, and self-discovery have been crucial in her healing journey. She also talks about the creation of her books, such as 'Moonlight Gratitude' and 'Sunset Gratitude,' and emphasises the importance of seeking help and finding inner peace. The episode closes with Emily reflecting on her sources of inspiration and offering advice for those navigating their own struggles.

01:06 Meet Emily Silva Hockstra

02:09 Chapter One: Origins

03:10 Corporate to Wine Life

05:27 Quitting to Create

06:04 Life Coaching Begins

07:04 First Book Breakthrough

08:52 Building the Book Series

10:29 POI Diagnosis and Grief

13:49 Day to Day Shame Spiral

15:42 Therapy and Body Healing

18:48 Vulnerability Takeaways

20:36 Advice for Listeners

22:14 Unpacking Shame Stories

23:50 Coaching After Grief

25:46 Stay Connected Online

26:10 Final Reflections

27:35 Remarkable Woman Tribute

EMILY SILVA HOCKSTRA

Instagran: @SoulsAdventures
Website: SoulsAdventures.com

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High-Achieving, Still Unworthy? Dr. Adia Gooden On Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 00:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert on self-worth, self-compassion, and mental health. Dr. Adia shares her journey from growing up in Pasadena, California with professional parents, to becoming a renowned psychologist and speaker. She delves into the impact of early life challenges on her sensitivity to others' feelings, and how her academic and personal struggles with worthiness guided her career choice. Dr. Adia and Dr Connie discuss the importance of understanding self-worth stories, practicing self-compassion, and the layers of performance and vulnerability. Dr. Adia also opens up about her personal experiences with shame and depression, emphasising the need to reconnect with one's unconditional self-worth. The episode concludes with practical steps for listeners to begin their journey towards self-worth and self-compassion, along with a tribute to Dr. Adia's inspiring grandmother.

01:20 Introducing Dr Adia Gooden

02:53 Chapter One: Pasadena Roots

03:29 Early Seeds of Self Doubt

05:29 Why She Became a Psychologist

09:12 Chasing Worth Through Achievement

12:31 Rewrite Your Self Worth Stories

15:27 The Masks We Wear

17:56 First Steps Into Vulnerability

21:48 Four Steps of Self Compassion

25:42 A Shame Story and Healing

29:17 Unconditional Self Worth Defined

31:16 How to Work With Dr Adia

32:43 Remarkable Woman: Nana Tribute

DR. ADIA GOODEN

Email: DrAdia@DrAdiaGooden.com
Website: DrAdiaGooden.com

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When Women Get Sick: Rebecca Bloom on Removing the Shame Around Asking For Help

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, we welcome Rebecca Bloom, a Yale and NYU-educated patient and workplace advocate, and author of 'When Women Get Sick'. Rebecca discusses her journey from a legal career specialising in employee benefits to her long-standing role as a patient advocate at Bay Area Cancer Connections. She shares personal experiences that fuelled her advocacy, including her family's battle with breast cancer and her own high-risk health journey. The conversation highlights the importance of building a support team, the challenges women face in healthcare, and the need for proactive planning. Rebecca also touches on her work as a storytelling coach and emphasises the critical nature of mental health and mindfulness in the healing process.

01:16 Meet Rebecca Bloom

03:05 Rebecca’s Origin Story

05:33 Why She Wrote When Women Get Sick

07:56 Karen’s Insurance Battle

11:12 Shame and Asking for Help

15:13 Mindfulness That Actually Helps

19:46 Rebecca’s High Risk Journey

22:29 Draft Your Support Team

25:25 Plan Before You’re Sick

29:17 Hope for Women’s Health

31:39 Key Takeaways and Where to Find Her

33:42 Remarkable Women Shoutouts

REBECCA BLOOM

· Instagram: @WhenWomenGetSick

· Website: WhenWomenGetSick.com

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Religious Shame & Abortions: Gabby Long on Her Body, Her Choice

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie interviews Gabby Long, a reproductive rights advocate, mother, and healthcare storyteller. Gabby shares her journey from growing up in central Florida to becoming an outreach organiser for 'A Woman's Choice,' an independent abortion provider. She discusses her family's background in activism and her early volunteer experiences. Gabby also opens up about her personal experience with abortion, highlighting the emotional and practical challenges she faced. She speaks passionately about her work in reproductive health advocacy, the importance of community support, and the need for accessible healthcare. The discussion also covers Gabby's involvement with organisations like We Testify and the Floridians Protecting Freedoms Coalition, and she offers advice to those going through similar challenges. Gabby emphasises the importance of voting, mutual aid, and community building to drive societal change.

01:04 Meet Gabby Long

02:32 Chapter one: roots

03:51 Growing up and volunteering

07:24 Young love and pregnancy

08:03 Choosing abortion with Nana

11:13 Crisis centres and clinic hurdles

15:20 From patient to advocate

17:49 Florida politics and access

21:04 What is hyperemesis?

23:59 Advice and finding community

27:52 Lived experience at work

32:16 Mutual aid and voting

US BASED SUPPORT SERVICES

· Website: We Testify;

· Instagram: @WeTestify

UK BASED SUPPORT SERVICES

· British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS)

· National Health Service (NHS) Abortion Support

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How Anxiety & Shame Shaped My Life as a Doctor - Dr Alison Smith's Story

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Dr Alison Smith, founder of Earth and Bloom, a coaching practice supporting doctors and healthcare professionals. Dr Alison shares her journey from a GP with over 20 years of experience to a coach who blends nature, creativity, and one-to-one facilitation. She discusses her challenging childhood, her initial struggles in medicine, and how coaching transformed her life, unlocking her creativity and aligning her values. Dr Alison and Dr Connie delve into the topics of shame and anxiety in the medical profession, highlighting the need for support and open dialogue. Dr Alison also talks about her current work, including one-on-one coaching and sister circles, emphasising the importance of nature and community in healing and personal growth.

01:15 Meet Dr Alison Smith

03:22 Chapter One: Childhood Worlds

07:40 Path Into Medicine

12:49 Anxiety and Loneliness as a GP

14:21 Coaching and Nature Reset

17:47 Shame and Anxiety in Medicine

21:36 Thinking Environment and Listening

25:40 Advice for Doctors in Shame

27:52 How to Work With Alison

29:59 Sister Circles and Retreats

32:24 Humiliation Culture and Hope

35:52 Remarkable Woman and Poem

DR ALISON SMITH

· Instagram: @Earth_and_Bloom

· Website: https://www.earthandbloom.uk

· LinkedIn: Dr Alison Smith

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Dying For An Abortion: Kayleigh on the Impact of Abortion Bans

Thu, 25 Sep 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode of Speak Shame, we meet Kayleigh, a reproductive justice advocate, abortion storyteller, and program coordinator at Fund Texas Choice. Kayleigh discusses her personal journey from growing up in a military family and surviving domestic and sexual violence, to finding her calling in supporting Texans seeking out-of-state abortion care. She shares her own abortion experience, the ongoing struggles due to restrictive abortion laws, and the critical need for emotional and logistical support for individuals facing systemic barriers. Kayleigh highlights the transformative power of sharing abortion stories to dismantle stigma and offers insights for those seeking support or considering an abortion.

01:13 Meet Kayleigh

02:01 Chapter One: Origins

03:56 College and Abuse Realisation

04:29 Choosing Abortion

07:00 Finding Support

08:40 Helping Texans Travel

10:29 The Fall of Roe

12:04 What Clients Face Now

13:34 No Judgment Advocacy

15:07 Advice and Resources

17:06 Power of Storytelling

18:52 Where to Get Help

20:05 Bans Are Killing People

21:27 Inspired by Ancestors

US BASED SUPPORT SERVICES

· We Testify; Instagram: @WeTestify

· Fund Texas Choice

· Frontera Fund

· Lilith Fund

· Texas Equal Access Fund

· Exhale Pro-Voice

UK BASED SUPPORT SERVICES

· British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS)

· National Health Service (NHS) Abortion Support

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I Was Intolerant to My Life: Annalie Howling on Becoming Unapologetic

Thu, 11 Sep 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week’s episode, Dr Connie sits down with Annalie Howling, a highly qualified performance coach with over 20 years of experience working with business leaders, elite athletes, and members of the armed forces, including ex-UK Special Forces. Annalie discusses her journey from a turbulent childhood to becoming a sought-after speaker, author, and EMDR certified global practitioner. She shares her insights on how shame and her people-pleasing nature have impacted her life and work. Annalie also elaborates on her book ‘Unapologetic: Unshackle Your Shame. Reclaim Your Power,’ and her personal experiences, including her breakthrough moment during a training in San Francisco and the importance of community and vulnerability. She concludes with her latest ventures, including retreats in Lisbon and France, aimed at fostering genuine connections and personal growth.

01:03 Meet Annalie Howling

04:39 Violent Childhood Shame

06:39 Escape Through Work

07:29 Burnout Wake Up Call

08:10 Coaching Breakthrough

13:27 Good Girl & People Pleasing

15:10 Fawn Response Explained

19:27 Survivor Shame Reframed

24:42 Sharing Stories Heals

25:39 Love Without Secrets

26:40 Freed From Shame

27:12 Patriarchy And Compliance

31:34 Life After Shame

35:06 Inner Child Reframe

37:39 Work With Annalie

ANNALIE HOWLING

· Instagram: @AnnalieHowling

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I Had An Abortion: Jessy Rosales on Refusing to Carry Other People's Shame

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie hosts Jessy Rosales, an impassioned advocate for reproductive justice who began their journey in 2016. Jessy discusses their efforts in organizing communities and leveraging media to support reproductive justice legislation, notably leading to the passage of Senate Bill 24, which mandates abortion services in California university medical systems. Jessy shares their personal struggles with their identity and a powerful testimony of their own experience seeking an abortion as a student, which underscores the systemic barriers even in progressive states like California. Despite these challenges, Jessy's activism has continued to impact state and national policies. Listeners are encouraged to empathise, reflect on the sources of their own shame, and find strength in community. The episode wraps up with Dr Connie discussing the pivotal role of Jessy's mother in shaping their resilient spirit.

01:12 Meet Jessy Rosales

03:46 Chapter One: Origins & Identity

08:28 Finding advocacy work

12:34 Pregnancy and decision

15:02 Barriers to abortion care

19:21 Second trimester and SB24

22:16 Community and We Testify

24:36 Living with secrecy

29:36 Advice to younger self

33:33 Empathy and shame unpacked

41:23 Hope and movement power

44:36 Remarkable woman: Mom

JESSY ROSALES

· Website: WeTestify.org

· Instagram: @WeTestify

UK BASED SUPPORT SERVICES

· British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS)

· National Health Service (NHS) Abortion Support

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Rest Equals Lazy: Eve Ostrovskaya on Challenging Her Inner Critic as a Working Mum

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, Eve Ostrovskaya, a Transformational Leadership and Matrescence Coach, former Fortune 500 HR leader, and founder of Working Parent Coaching, shares her journey from growing up in post-Soviet Russia to navigating a successful career in London while raising three children. As a coach, she helps ambitious women overcome the pressures of perfectionism and the challenges of balancing career and motherhood. Eve discusses the concept of matrescence, comparing it to adolescence, and highlights the transformative leadership skills gained through parenthood. She emphasises the need for self-compassion and the importance of recognising parents as leadership assets. The episode concludes with Eve's inspiring messages on the power of kindness and the need to reshape societal views on parenting and leadership.

00:40 Meet Eve

02:22 Chapter One: Childhood

05:14 From Russia to London

06:01 Career Drive and Early Motherhood

08:52 Thirties Crunch Time

13:24 Treadmill Reflection

19:33 Advice for Tired Moms

21:39 Rest Equals Lazy

25:35 Redefining Rest and Exercise

28:42 What Is Matrescence

34:39 Parenthood as a Leadership Asset

40:01 How to Work With Eve

43:27 Kindness and Closing

44:50 Remarkable Woman Inspiration

EVE OSTROVSKAYA

· Website: WorkingParentCoaching.co.uk

· Instagram: @EveOstrovskaya

· LinkedIn: Eve Ostrovskaya

· Matrescence Info: Matrescence by Lucy Jones, Mama Rising by Amy Taylor-Kabbaz

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“I’m Not Attracted To You”: Dr Connie Kerali on Dating, Low Self-Esteem & Self-Acceptance

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, Darleen Davies, an International Career and Mindset Coach, takes over guest hosting duties. The episode dives into the theme of dating shame, beginning with Dr Connie sharing her formative 'Good Girl' chapter. They delve into the impact of perfectionism and people-pleasing on her life and relationships, especially in the context of dating. Dr Connie opens up about how therapy helped her confront her low self-esteem and transform her dating experiences, leading to a healthier relationship with herself and eventually finding unconditional love. The conversation also emphasises the power of self-acceptance and self-compassion and ends with a tribute to her remarkable mother.

00:36 Meet Dr Connie & Guest Host, Darleen

02:02 The Good Girl Chapter

03:29 Perfectionism and Worth

06:50 Losing Yourself to Fit In

07:46 Dating as a Late Bloomer

09:52 Surface Level Relationships

14:56 Therapy as a Turning Point

17:59 Alopecia Date Revelation

22:49 Building Self Worth Foundations

27:51 Dating With Confidence

29:37 Coming Home With Dave

33:18 Advice for People Pleasers

35:36 Honouring a Remarkable Mum

DARLEEN DAVIES

· Website: DarleenDaviesCoaching.com

· Instagram: @DarleenDaviesCoaching

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The Grief of Infertility: Alison Beder Solway on Surrogacy, Resilience & Hope

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode, Dr Connie interviews Alison Beder Solway, a debut author and founder of ABS Fitness. Alison shares her profound journey to motherhood through surrogacy, as detailed in her memoir, The Miles We Run. Discussing her challenging health condition, HHT, Alison explains the struggles and learnings during her path to building a family. She draws powerful analogies between her resilience in surrogacy and her training for the New York City Marathon. Alison highlights the importance of hope, resilience, education, and self-advocacy, while offering encouragement to those facing similar challenges.

00:33 Meet Alison

02:43 Traumatic Pregnancy and HHT Diagnosis

06:48 Hearing You Can’t Carry Again

09:18 Surrogacy Realities and Trust

12:59 Support Systems and Silence

15:51 Journals, Marathon and Meaning

20:02 Shame Shifts Into Grief

22:56 Talking to Kids About Surrogacy

25:03 Helping Others and Legal Nuances

29:13 Lessons, Resilience, Advocacy, Intuition

35:49 Choosing Hope and Closing Out

37:04 Where to Find Alison

37:57 Remarkable Woman: Brené Brown

ALISON BEDER SOLWAY

· Website: TheMilesWeRun.com

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I Had A Miscarriage: Dr. Jessica Zucker’s Fight Against Shame

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, Dr. Jessica Zucker, a psychologist specialising in reproductive health and author of the book 'I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, A Movement', shares her journey and advocacy work. Dr. Zucker discusses how her personal experience with miscarriage led to the creation of the viral #IHadAMiscarriage campaign, aiming to break the silence and reduce the stigma surrounding pregnancy loss.

She highlights the importance of sharing stories to combat shame and encourages women to find their voice, whether publicly or privately. The conversation goes on to discuss Dr. Zucker's second book, 'NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma and Shame That Shapes Women's Lives', and extends to broader themes of women's mental health, vulnerability, and the healing power of storytelling.

01:11 Meet Dr Jessica Zucker

02:25 Jessica’s Origin Story

05:07 The Miscarriage Experience

07:30 Launching the Viral Campaign

11:51 How It Changed Her Work

18:14 Friends, Family and Stigma

21:51 Why She Wrote Normalize It

26:06 Recognising Shame Signals

26:57 When Silence Feels Safer

29:12 Self Blame and Control Myths

31:17 Therapy as a Turning Point

32:36 Going Public With Trauma

36:02 Vulnerability Through Sharing

38:51 Ways to Tell Your Story

41:27 Inspiration and Farewell

DR. JESSICA ZUCKER

· Website: DrJessicaZucker.com

· Instagram: @IHadAMiscarriage

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Rejecting Shame in Motherhood

Thu, 08 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In the final episode of the series, Dr McClain Sampson, a professor of social work and founder of Hear Me Roar Coaching, shares her journey and mission to empower women, particularly focusing on maternal mental health. Dr Sampson talks about her challenging childhood, her academic career, the transformative impact of her unplanned pregnancy, and the development of her passion for maternal health. She emphasises the importance of mental health support for new mothers, the critical role of self-efficacy, and introduces her concept of 'Savage Self-Care'. Dr Sampson also shares her personal struggle with her teenage son's addiction and how it has shaped her approach to coaching and mental wellness. The episode concludes with practical advice for mothers dealing with similar challenges and the significance of staying connected to oneself.

00:38 Trigger Warning and Welcome

01:26 Meet Dr McClain Sampson

02:27 Chapter One Childhood Roots

03:57 From Research to Coaching

10:58 Son’s Crisis and Rehab

15:32 Aftermath Grief and Shame

21:29 Practical Steps to Break Shame

27:40 Savage Self Care Framework

33:22 How to Work With Her

35:51 Key Takeaway Essential Self

38:15 Remarkable Woman Tribute

If you need additional support after listening to this episode you can use the links below to find more information on some places to go:

· In an emergency, dial 999 (UK only) or 911 (USA); for non-emergencies, dial 101 (UK)

· A doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery

· A voluntary organisation such as The Samaritans (UK – call for free anytime: 116 123) or 988 Lifeline (USA – call for free anytime: 988)

Dr McClain Sampson

· Website: HearMeRoarCoaching.com

· Instagram: @HearMeRoarCoaching

· LinkedIn: McClain Sampson

· YouTube: @HearMeRoarCoaching-HMR

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Finding Hope During My Treatment For Cancer

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week’s episode, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Amanda Wakefield, a High Conflict Relationship Recovery and Resilience Life Coach based in Luxembourg. Amanda shares her personal journey, from becoming an orphan at a young age to overcoming significant challenges including cancer. She discusses the importance of hope, the impact of grief on vulnerability, and the steps she took to regain control of her life. Amanda also talks about her transition from a corporate career to coaching, her methods for helping others find their inner strength, and the importance of a supportive network. This inspiring discussion highlights the transformative power of resilience and hope.

00:00 Meet the Guest Amanda

02:16 Chapter One Orphaned Young

03:23 What Hopelessness Feels Like

05:43 Finding Hope Again

08:57 Cancer and Inner Peace

10:49 Support Network and Alternatives

13:08 From Survival to Coaching

15:44 How to Work With Amanda

17:29 There Is Always Hope

19:43 Asking for Help First Time

21:55 Energy Drainers and Intuition

23:55 Women Who Inspire Amanda

AMANDA WAKEFIELD

· Website: AmandasBeyondCoaching.com

· LinkedIn: Amanda Wakefield

· Instagram: @AmandaResilienceCoach

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Breaking The Silence Surrounding Infertility

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0100

In this week's episode, Jennifer Robertson, a fertility coach and author, shares her compelling seven-year journey through infertility, pregnancy loss, and surrogacy. She discusses the impacts of her early life experiences, the emotional and mental toll of infertility, and how she ultimately embraced self-care and mental health. Jennifer talks about her transition to becoming a fertility coach and the importance of finding community and support. She also provides insights into coping mechanisms, balancing mental health, and setting boundaries. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the power of accepting emotions and the need for personal agency.

01:09 Meet Jennifer Robertson

02:18 Chapter One Backstory

05:47 Seven Year Journey

07:31 Infertility Triggers Insecurities

10:12 Disenfranchised Grief

11:43 Mental Health Shift

14:36 Motherhood Wake Up Call

17:25 Support and Community

20:51 Double Life During Infertility

24:48 Boundaries and Agency

27:31 Why It Feels Isolating

30:23 How to Work With Jen

31:22 Embrace All Parts

34:02 Remarkable Woman Inspiration

JENNIFER ROBERTSON

· Website: JenniferRobertson.co

· Instagram: @MsJenniferRobertson

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Overcoming Work-Related Shame: A Transformational Journey

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, Dr Connie interviews Rebecca Cuberli, a seasoned creative leadership coach specializing in emotional intelligence. Rebecca shares her journey from corporate life to becoming a coach, detailing her wake-up call during the COVID-19 pandemic, her struggle with burnout, and her path to self-discovery and purpose. She emphasises the importance of emotional intelligence, self-acceptance, and vulnerability. Rebecca also discusses the transformative impact of her work on leaders and teams, and her vision for spreading emotional intelligence skills globally. The episode concludes with Rebecca's advice for individuals seeking to find their purpose and her acknowledgment of key influencers in her life.

01:17 Meet Rebecca Cuberli

02:41 The Corporate Wake Up

04:32 Toxic Culture Burnout

07:09 Shame and Mindset Shift

09:34 Detox and Self Discovery

13:48 Curiosity to Find Purpose

16:50 Vulnerability as Leadership

18:13 Transformational Coaching Wins

22:36 The Dandelion Effect Dream

25:04 Tools to Tackle Shame

29:12 How to Work With Rebecca

31:50 Remarkable Women Who Inspire

REBECCA CUBERLI

· Website: RebeccaCuberli.com

· LinkedIn: Rebecca Cuberli

· Instagram: @RebeccaCuberliCoach

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Finding My Voice: Speaking Up About Life Behind Closed Doors

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this week's episode, holistic counsellor and root cause therapist, Lorene Roberts, joins the discussion to share her impactful journey of overcoming life's most challenging transitions, including an emotionally and sexually abusive marriage. Lorene offers insight into how she turned her painful experiences into a source of strength and guidance for other women. She discusses her latest work, including a new course on emotional freedom, and reflects on the importance of self-discovery and the lessons learned from her past. Lorene is candid about her struggles and triumphs, emphasising the necessity of resilience, determination, and self-belief in the path to healing.

00:37 Meet Lorene

03:33 Childhood Lessons and Needs

04:45 Cruelty Behind Closed Doors

06:39 Recognising Rape and Consent

08:15 Owning the Pattern

09:30 Healing Layers and Root Cause

11:30 Tony Robbins Turning Point

15:29 Choosing Not to Be Bitter

17:27 Rock Bottom Wakeup Call

17:49 Choosing Self Development

20:39 Rebuilding Self Worth

22:17 Solo Travel Breakthrough

25:41 Becoming A Therapist

28:19 Self Belief Takeaways

29:07 Advice To Younger Self

30:26 How To Work With Lorene

32:57 Remarkable Women Inspirations

If you need additional support after listening to this episode you can use the links below to find more information on some places to go:

· In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies, dial 101 (UK only)

· Find your nearest NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centre (England only)

· Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you (England only)

· A doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery

· A voluntary organisation such as Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, or Victim Support

LORENE ROBERTS

· Website: LoreneRoberts.com

· Facebook: @LoreneRoberts

· LinkedIn: Lorene Roberts

· YouTube: @LoreneRoberts

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The Road to Recovery: A Self Love Journey

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Jeannette Hounjet, a certified coach, Reiki Master, and advocate for women's recovery. The discussion centres on the journey to self-acceptance and authenticity. Jeannette shares her story of overcoming feelings of inadequacy and the quest for genuine self-love. They delve into practical steps for transforming negative self-talk, the importance of finding personal support systems, and the continuous nature of self-improvement. Through this inspiring conversation, listeners are encouraged to begin their own journeys toward healing and unshakable self-love.

01:18 Meet Jeannette Hounjet

02:16 Chapter One Starts Now

03:20 The Missing Piece Authenticity

05:48 People Pleasing and Shame

06:58 Choosing the Self Journey

09:52 Louise Hay and Self Love

15:35 Finding Voice and Support

20:01 From Surviving to Thriving

23:56 Navigating Unsupportive Circles

27:43 Self Talk and Affirmations

34:30 Remarkable Woman and Resources

JEANNETTE HOUNJET SOCIAL MEDIA

· Instagram: @NowShesLiving

· LinkedIn: Jeannette Hounjet

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A Childs Search for Love, An Adults Discovery of Their Worth

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 00:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali talks with Nina de Sausmarez, a self-belief and empowerment coach. Nina shares her personal story of overcoming a challenging and traumatic past marked by drug use, running away from home, and experiencing shame from her difficult upbringing. The discussion delves into Nina's patterns of seeking validation and safety, her experiences of self-sabotage, and the profound realisation of her need for radical responsibility. Nina's journey to self-awareness, self-acceptance, and ultimately, empowerment through therapy and introspection is explored. The episode emphasises the importance of doing the work to heal from shame and using personal transformation to help others. In the end, Dr Connie and Nina discuss the impact of sharing these stories to inspire hope and resilience in others.

01:14 Meet Nina de Sausmarez

01:38 Chapter One The Runaway

03:32 Volatile Childhood Roots

05:34 Numbing the Void

08:27 Leaving Home at Sixteen

13:32 Caught Stealing and Shame

16:02 Motherhood and Self Sabotage

25:07 Rock Bottom Choice

26:16 Question Your Reality

28:38 Therapy And Safety

30:39 Radical Responsibility

34:42 Becoming A Coach

40:42 Find Nina Online

41:36 Message To Younger Self

43:08 Inspired By Grandma

45:20 Shame In The Light

NINA DE SAUSMAREZ SOCIAL MEDIA

· Instagram: @NinadeSausmarez

· Facebook: @NinadeSausmarez

· LinkedIn: Nina de Sausmarez

· Website: NinadeSausmarez.com

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Living Positively With HIV

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 00:00:00 +0000

On this episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, I’m joined by Doreen Moraa Moracha, a phenomenal woman who shares her life story of living with HIV for 32 years. In a deep and inspirational conversation, Doreen recounts being diagnosed at 13, her journey through self-acceptance, and her role as an HIV/AIDS advocate. She discusses the stigma, challenges, and triumphs she has faced, including the impact on her mental health, dating life, and the importance of community support. Doreen also offers practical advice for those living with HIV and emphasizes the power of acceptance and self-love in overcoming life’s adversities.

01:04 Meet Doreen Moraa

02:14 Chapter One Diagnosis

03:47 Finding Her Voice

05:22 First Public Disclosure

11:43 Keeping It Secret

14:18 Denial Cure Search

16:22 Back On Treatment

19:35 Dating With HIV

23:00 PrEP and U Equals U

23:53 Dating and Disclosure

25:22 Going Public Online

30:50 Acceptance and Support

35:07 ARVs Explained

37:24 Prevention Takeaways

39:51 Message to Younger Self

40:32 Closing and Where to Follow

SEXUAL HEALTH RESOURCES

· Find a sexual health clinic near me (UK only)

· Home STI Testing – Sexual Health London

· Terrence Higgins Trust

DOREEN MORAA MORACHA SOCIAL MEDIA

· Instagram: @yes_I_have_HIV

· YouTube: @IAmABeautifulStory

· Facebook: @DoreenMoraaMoracha

· TikTok: @yes_I_have_HIV

· LinkedIn: Doreen Moraa

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From Prison to Purpose: A Journey of Self-Discovery

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Nichole Banks, a divorce recovery coach and host of The Nichole Banks Podcast. Nichole shares her powerful journey from enduring two divorces, facing infidelity, and struggling with severe self-doubt, to eventually being incarcerated for embezzlement. After spending time in prison, Nichole reemerged into society with an air of shame but managed to transform her life through self-prioritization, positive affirmations, and rebuilding her self-esteem. Nichole also discusses finding enduring love and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and authentic living. The conversation is filled with actionable insights and inspiring messages for anyone dealing with similar adversities.

01:20 Meet Nichole Banks

02:12 A Book Born From Divorce

08:06 Rock Bottom and Embezzlement

10:20 Sentenced to Prison

12:27 Life Inside and Programs

14:46 Release and Crushing Shame

16:48 Rebuilding Mindset

22:35 Journaling and Daily Tools

29:23 Owning Your Worth

31:04 Wellbeing and Boundaries

33:54 Finding Love Again

34:59 Building Trust with Jeff

43:00 Date Yourself First

49:34 Inspired by Oprah

52:28 Where to Find Nichole

NICHOLE BANKS RESOURCES

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From Shame to Strength: My Path to Healing After Sexual Violence

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 07:00:00 +0000

In this episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, Dr Connie, a medical doctor, life coach, and survivor of sexual violence, shares her powerful story of overcoming shame and finding strength through vulnerability. Interviewed by her long-time friend and career change coach, Darleen Davies, Dr Connie recounts being silenced by shame for several years after being raped, and her path to healing through therapy and support from loved ones. The discussion highlights the importance of connection, sharing one's story with someone that you trust, and the impact of hearing Dr Christine Blasey Ford speak her truth about being sexually assaulted as a teenager. Dr Connie's mission is to share inspiring stories of women who have faced and overcome adversity, so that others may find strength, connection, and hope in their own journeys, and so that shame itself loses its power.

00:00 Welcome and Trigger Warning

01:37 Meet the Guest Host

02:56 Why Share This Now

04:15 The Assault in 2015

06:05 Shame and Staying Silent

13:32 Reporting to Police

15:42 Life Starts Unraveling

18:12 Therapy Search and Breakthrough

23:46 Telling Friends and Finding Connection

26:05 Opening Up to Family

29:57 Why I Stayed Silent

32:44 Telling Dad and Brother

34:41 Shame Losing Power

38:39 Purpose Through Sharing

48:50 Mission and Self Worth

53:28 Remarkable Woman Tribute

55:08 Final Resources and Goodbye

If you need additional support after listening to this episode you can use the links below to find more information on some places to go:

In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies, dial 101 (UK only)
Find your nearest NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centre (England only)
Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you (England only)
A doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery
A voluntary organisation such as Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, or Victim Support

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Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali: Coming Soon!

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 16:00:00 +0000

Hello Remarkable Woman, have you ever been silenced by shame? Have you ever believed that you’re not enough? Do you believe that you're unworthy of love or belonging? Are these beliefs holding you back in your personal or professional life? If this sounds like you, then you’re in the right place.

Speak Shame with me, Dr Connie Kerali, - medical doctor, life coach & survivor of sexual violence - is a collection of expert insights on how to rediscover your self-worth, as well as inspiring conversations with remarkable women who have faced and overcome adversity. By sharing their stories, my hope is that you may find strength, connection, and hope in your own journey, and that shame itself loses its power.

So, sit back, relax, and don't forget to like and subscribe to the show.

Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali will launch on Thursday 2nd January 2025.

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