Unburdened with Zoe Fri, 06 Mar 2026 02:21:30 -0500 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2405529 en-gb © 2026 Unburdened with Zoe yes a874914b-3972-5d03-825a-06e2d5c9d6b6 Zoe Louise episodic false Healing childhood trauma and breaking the cycle of abuse.

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Zoe Louise https://storage.buzzsprout.com/onlvk5c8tk2acvhv9pxekurq5bv2?.jpg Unburdened with Zoe Lydia’s Story: When a Mother Becomes the Enemy, The Fight to Break Free Lydia’s Story: When a Mother Becomes the Enemy, The Fight to Break Free What do you do when the person who should nurture you becomes the one who breaks you down? For Lydia, childhood took a sharp turn when her younger brother was born. Her mother became unpredictable—cruel, controlling, and emotionally abusive. What started as biting words and impossible expectations escalated into full-blown rage, manipulation, and even physical aggression.  

Unlike the rest of her family, Lydia refused to stay silent. She questioned, she resisted, and for that, she became the scapegoat. Her mother threw insults like weapons, mocked her appearance, dismissed her struggles, and punished her for standing up for herself. But the final betrayal came when her mother had an affair and blamed *her* for it. That was the breaking point.  

Now, as a mother herself, Lydia is determined to break the cycle. But healing isn’t linear—motherhood has reopened wounds, especially as she processes the complex emotions of never having a daughter, something she thought would bring full closure.  

In this episode, Lydia shares:  
🔥 What it’s like to grow up with an emotionally unstable and abusive mother  
🔥 The moment she knew she had to cut contact—and the fallout that followed  
🔥 How standing up for herself made her the family scapegoat  
🔥 How discovering art as a form of therapy became a lifeline in her healing journey

This raw, unfiltered conversation is for anyone who has been blamed, gaslit, or made to feel like they were never enough. Lydian’s story is a powerful testament to resilience, self-trust, and the power of walking away.

]]> What do you do when the person who should nurture you becomes the one who breaks you down? For Lydia, childhood took a sharp turn when her younger brother was born. Her mother became unpredictable—cruel, controlling, and emotionally abusive. What started as biting words and impossible expectations escalated into full-blown rage, manipulation, and even physical aggression.  

Unlike the rest of her family, Lydia refused to stay silent. She questioned, she resisted, and for that, she became the scapegoat. Her mother threw insults like weapons, mocked her appearance, dismissed her struggles, and punished her for standing up for herself. But the final betrayal came when her mother had an affair and blamed *her* for it. That was the breaking point.  

Now, as a mother herself, Lydia is determined to break the cycle. But healing isn’t linear—motherhood has reopened wounds, especially as she processes the complex emotions of never having a daughter, something she thought would bring full closure.  

In this episode, Lydia shares:  
🔥 What it’s like to grow up with an emotionally unstable and abusive mother  
🔥 The moment she knew she had to cut contact—and the fallout that followed  
🔥 How standing up for herself made her the family scapegoat  
🔥 How discovering art as a form of therapy became a lifeline in her healing journey

This raw, unfiltered conversation is for anyone who has been blamed, gaslit, or made to feel like they were never enough. Lydian’s story is a powerful testament to resilience, self-trust, and the power of walking away.

]]> Buzzsprout-16822585 Mon, 26 May 2025 07:00:00 +0100 4305 2 17 full false Diana’s Story: Surviving a Mother’s Betrayal, Abuse, Cancer, and Breaking the Cycle Diana’s Story: Surviving a Mother’s Betrayal, Abuse, Cancer, and Breaking the Cycle What happens when the person meant to protect you is the one who sells your safety for their own gain? For Diana, childhood wasn’t just traumatic—it was orchestrated cruelty. From the age of five, she endured years of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse at the hands of her stepfather, all while her mother turned a blind eye. When the truth came out decades later, the betrayal was even darker than she imagined—her mother had knowingly allowed the abuse to continue in exchange for financial security.  

At 18, with just £20 to her name and broken English, Diana fled Poland, fearing for her life. But the effects of her past followed her, showing up in ways she never expected. By 29, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer—then later, breast cancer—all of which she believes were a direct result of years of suppressed trauma and unspoken pain. But Diana is more than what happened to her. She not only survived—she healed, she fought, and she went on to defy the odds by giving birth to a healthy son at 39 after being told she could never conceive naturally.  

In this deeply moving episode, Diana shares:  

🔥 The horrifying truth of her mother’s betrayal and the abuse she endured  

🔥 How trauma manifests in the body and why healing is critical  

🔥 The emotional and physical toll of being silenced for years  

🔥 Her fight against cancer—twice—and how it shaped her journey  

🔥 Becoming the mother she never had and breaking the cycle  

This is an episode about survival, strength, and reclaiming your life. If you’ve ever felt silenced, dismissed, or broken by the people who were supposed to love you most, Diana’s story will remind you: *Your pain does not define you—your healing does.*

]]> What happens when the person meant to protect you is the one who sells your safety for their own gain? For Diana, childhood wasn’t just traumatic—it was orchestrated cruelty. From the age of five, she endured years of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse at the hands of her stepfather, all while her mother turned a blind eye. When the truth came out decades later, the betrayal was even darker than she imagined—her mother had knowingly allowed the abuse to continue in exchange for financial security.  

At 18, with just £20 to her name and broken English, Diana fled Poland, fearing for her life. But the effects of her past followed her, showing up in ways she never expected. By 29, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer—then later, breast cancer—all of which she believes were a direct result of years of suppressed trauma and unspoken pain. But Diana is more than what happened to her. She not only survived—she healed, she fought, and she went on to defy the odds by giving birth to a healthy son at 39 after being told she could never conceive naturally.  

In this deeply moving episode, Diana shares:  

🔥 The horrifying truth of her mother’s betrayal and the abuse she endured  

🔥 How trauma manifests in the body and why healing is critical  

🔥 The emotional and physical toll of being silenced for years  

🔥 Her fight against cancer—twice—and how it shaped her journey  

🔥 Becoming the mother she never had and breaking the cycle  

This is an episode about survival, strength, and reclaiming your life. If you’ve ever felt silenced, dismissed, or broken by the people who were supposed to love you most, Diana’s story will remind you: *Your pain does not define you—your healing does.*

]]> Buzzsprout-16822519 Mon, 19 May 2025 07:00:00 +0100 5375 2 16 full false Alex’s Story: Groomed, Controlled, and Silenced, Escaping a Childhood Built on Fear Alex’s Story: Groomed, Controlled, and Silenced, Escaping a Childhood Built on Fear How do you recognise abuse when it’s disguised as control and manipulation? For Alex, childhood was overshadowed by coercion, fear, and emotional abuse at the hands of her stepfather. From the ages of 8 to 15, she endured a cycle of grooming and control that shaped every part of who she is today. But in the darkest of times, she found a refuge—school became her safe space, and that experience ultimately led her to become a secondary school teacher.  

Now, after years of therapy, Alex is undergoing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment that has helped her process the trauma that followed her into adulthood. For the first time since she was 15, she no longer struggles with self-harm urges, and she is finding healing in ways she never thought possible.  

In this episode, Alex shares:  
✨ The reality of grooming and coercive control in childhood abuse  
✨ How childhood trauma shapes identity and mental health into adulthood  
✨ The power of IFS therapy and how it has helped her make breakthroughs  
✨ How she turned her trauma into purpose, becoming a teacher to help young people  
✨ The importance of recognising and naming abuse—so others can, too  

Alex joins us anonymously to protect her privacy, but her story is a powerful testament to resilience, healing, and the importance of breaking the silence. If you’ve ever felt trapped by your past or wondered how therapy can truly change your life, this episode is for you.

]]> How do you recognise abuse when it’s disguised as control and manipulation? For Alex, childhood was overshadowed by coercion, fear, and emotional abuse at the hands of her stepfather. From the ages of 8 to 15, she endured a cycle of grooming and control that shaped every part of who she is today. But in the darkest of times, she found a refuge—school became her safe space, and that experience ultimately led her to become a secondary school teacher.  

Now, after years of therapy, Alex is undergoing Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, a treatment that has helped her process the trauma that followed her into adulthood. For the first time since she was 15, she no longer struggles with self-harm urges, and she is finding healing in ways she never thought possible.  

In this episode, Alex shares:  
✨ The reality of grooming and coercive control in childhood abuse  
✨ How childhood trauma shapes identity and mental health into adulthood  
✨ The power of IFS therapy and how it has helped her make breakthroughs  
✨ How she turned her trauma into purpose, becoming a teacher to help young people  
✨ The importance of recognising and naming abuse—so others can, too  

Alex joins us anonymously to protect her privacy, but her story is a powerful testament to resilience, healing, and the importance of breaking the silence. If you’ve ever felt trapped by your past or wondered how therapy can truly change your life, this episode is for you.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16795607 Mon, 12 May 2025 07:00:00 +0100 3753 2 15 full false Paula’s Story: The Illusion of Love, When a Father Puts His Ego Before His Child Paula’s Story: The Illusion of Love, When a Father Puts His Ego Before His Child What happens when a parent cares more about how they *look* as a parent than actually being one? For Paula, love with her father was never unconditional—it was a performance for social media, a show for public events, but behind closed doors, it was filled with emotional distance, blame, and zero accountability.  

After years of careful conversations, constant effort, and trying to maintain a relationship that always felt one-sided, the final phone call ended with him hanging up. And for the first time, Paula didn’t call back.  

Growing up in a fractured home, shuffled between parents who prioritised their new partners over their children, Paula spent years struggling to understand why she always felt *not enough*—even in adulthood, despite being in a loving marriage and raising two daughters of her own.  

In this episode, Paula shares:  

🔥 The devastating impact of an emotionally immature parent  

🔥 How growing up with conditional love affects confidence and relationships  

🔥 Why she finally walked away after a lifetime of effort  

🔥 The power of choosing peace over toxic family ties  

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unappreciated, or exhausted from chasing love that should have been freely given, this episode is for you.

]]> What happens when a parent cares more about how they *look* as a parent than actually being one? For Paula, love with her father was never unconditional—it was a performance for social media, a show for public events, but behind closed doors, it was filled with emotional distance, blame, and zero accountability.  

After years of careful conversations, constant effort, and trying to maintain a relationship that always felt one-sided, the final phone call ended with him hanging up. And for the first time, Paula didn’t call back.  

Growing up in a fractured home, shuffled between parents who prioritised their new partners over their children, Paula spent years struggling to understand why she always felt *not enough*—even in adulthood, despite being in a loving marriage and raising two daughters of her own.  

In this episode, Paula shares:  

🔥 The devastating impact of an emotionally immature parent  

🔥 How growing up with conditional love affects confidence and relationships  

🔥 Why she finally walked away after a lifetime of effort  

🔥 The power of choosing peace over toxic family ties  

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unappreciated, or exhausted from chasing love that should have been freely given, this episode is for you.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16795597 Mon, 05 May 2025 07:00:00 +0100 4412 2 14 full false Tyeicha’s Story: The Mother Who Won’t Take Blame - When Denial Becomes Another Form of Abuse Tyeicha’s Story: The Mother Who Won’t Take Blame - When Denial Becomes Another Form of Abuse What happens when a parent refuses to take responsibility for the damage they’ve caused? For Tycheica, the deepest pain isn’t just the neglect and abuse she endured as a child—it’s her mother’s complete lack of accountability. While her mother acknowledges her siblings’ struggles, she dismisses Tycheica’s entirely, gaslighting her pain and denying the trauma she survived.  

Now a mother of two young daughters, Tycheica is navigating parenting without the safety net of a supportive mother-daughter relationship. When she reached out during the depths of postpartum depression, desperate for comfort, her mother’s response was cold and cruel: *“Get a grip. You can’t be.”* That moment solidified what she had always known—her mother was never going to change.  

In this episode, Tycheica opens up about:  

💔 Growing up in an abusive home where neglect was dismissed and pain was ignored  

💔 How narcissistic parents play favorites to maintain control  

💔 The struggles of parenting without a mother’s support  

💔 Breaking free from the cycle and choosing low contact for her own well-being  

💔 The reality of healing—even when the hurt lingers  

If you’ve ever had a parent who rewrites history, refuses accountability, or plays the victim at your expense, this episode will remind you: *You don’t need their permission to heal.*

]]> What happens when a parent refuses to take responsibility for the damage they’ve caused? For Tycheica, the deepest pain isn’t just the neglect and abuse she endured as a child—it’s her mother’s complete lack of accountability. While her mother acknowledges her siblings’ struggles, she dismisses Tycheica’s entirely, gaslighting her pain and denying the trauma she survived.  

Now a mother of two young daughters, Tycheica is navigating parenting without the safety net of a supportive mother-daughter relationship. When she reached out during the depths of postpartum depression, desperate for comfort, her mother’s response was cold and cruel: *“Get a grip. You can’t be.”* That moment solidified what she had always known—her mother was never going to change.  

In this episode, Tycheica opens up about:  

💔 Growing up in an abusive home where neglect was dismissed and pain was ignored  

💔 How narcissistic parents play favorites to maintain control  

💔 The struggles of parenting without a mother’s support  

💔 Breaking free from the cycle and choosing low contact for her own well-being  

💔 The reality of healing—even when the hurt lingers  

If you’ve ever had a parent who rewrites history, refuses accountability, or plays the victim at your expense, this episode will remind you: *You don’t need their permission to heal.*

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16681734 Mon, 28 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100 3712 2 13 full false Mel Bevan's Story: The Shame of Being Left Behind, When a Mother Walks Away and Never Comes Back Mel Bevan's Story: The Shame of Being Left Behind, When a Mother Walks Away and Never Comes Back What happens when the person who’s supposed to love you most decides not to? For Mel, that reality shaped her entire life. At just five years old, her mother moved away, taking her brother and grandmother but leaving Mel behind. For years, she was fed lies about why her mother wasn’t in her life, yet the only thing she truly felt was shame—shame for not having a mother, for not being in contact, and for being the child who wasn’t chosen.  

As the years passed, Mel’s mother returned, but only to reinforce the same painful truth—she didn’t want to be a mother to her. Despite Mel’s efforts to build a relationship, the excuses never stopped, and the abandonment cut even deeper when her mother prioritised her brother while keeping Mel at a distance. Now estranged for a decade, Mel is stepping into therapy for the first time, ready to heal and speak her truth.  

⭐ The lasting effects of childhood abandonment and feeling 'unwanted'  
⭐ How early rejection shapes adult relationships and self-worth  
⭐ The struggle to ask for help and let others in  
⭐ Why estrangement can be a form of self-protection  
⭐ How to start healing from a parent who never took accountability  

For anyone who has ever felt like they weren’t enough for a parent’s love, this conversation will remind you that *their choices were never a reflection of your worth.

You can Mel on Tiktok @queenofpentacles8 

]]> What happens when the person who’s supposed to love you most decides not to? For Mel, that reality shaped her entire life. At just five years old, her mother moved away, taking her brother and grandmother but leaving Mel behind. For years, she was fed lies about why her mother wasn’t in her life, yet the only thing she truly felt was shame—shame for not having a mother, for not being in contact, and for being the child who wasn’t chosen.  

As the years passed, Mel’s mother returned, but only to reinforce the same painful truth—she didn’t want to be a mother to her. Despite Mel’s efforts to build a relationship, the excuses never stopped, and the abandonment cut even deeper when her mother prioritised her brother while keeping Mel at a distance. Now estranged for a decade, Mel is stepping into therapy for the first time, ready to heal and speak her truth.  

⭐ The lasting effects of childhood abandonment and feeling 'unwanted'  
⭐ How early rejection shapes adult relationships and self-worth  
⭐ The struggle to ask for help and let others in  
⭐ Why estrangement can be a form of self-protection  
⭐ How to start healing from a parent who never took accountability  

For anyone who has ever felt like they weren’t enough for a parent’s love, this conversation will remind you that *their choices were never a reflection of your worth.

You can Mel on Tiktok @queenofpentacles8 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16636121 Mon, 21 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100 4480 full false Grace's Story: The #1 Betrayal That Cuts the Deepest (And How to Heal) Grace's Story: The #1 Betrayal That Cuts the Deepest (And How to Heal) What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you are the ones who cause you the most pain? In this episode, Grace shares her story of growing up in an unstable home—navigating her parents’ divorce, her father’s deep depression, and years of bullying from her mother’s partner. Feeling trapped in a toxic environment, Grace left home at just 16, spending years sleeping on a friend’s floor, trying to escape the weight of it all.

The effects of that betrayal followed her into early adulthood, manifesting as extreme OCD and a struggle for control over a life that had once felt so chaotic. But through years of self-work and healing, Grace has reclaimed her sense of self. Now, at 26, she’s in a stronger place than ever, learning how to redefine her relationships with the parents who hurt her and shape a future on her own terms.

✨ The lasting impact of childhood instability and toxic family dynamics
✨ How OCD and control can develop as a response to trauma
✨ Rebuilding your identity outside of your past
✨ Navigating relationships with parents who made mistakes
✨ What healing really looks like and how to start

If you’ve ever struggled with the weight of toxic parenting, felt lost in your healing journey, or wondered if you can rebuild a relationship with a parent who let you down—this episode is for you.

]]> What happens when the people who are supposed to protect you are the ones who cause you the most pain? In this episode, Grace shares her story of growing up in an unstable home—navigating her parents’ divorce, her father’s deep depression, and years of bullying from her mother’s partner. Feeling trapped in a toxic environment, Grace left home at just 16, spending years sleeping on a friend’s floor, trying to escape the weight of it all.

The effects of that betrayal followed her into early adulthood, manifesting as extreme OCD and a struggle for control over a life that had once felt so chaotic. But through years of self-work and healing, Grace has reclaimed her sense of self. Now, at 26, she’s in a stronger place than ever, learning how to redefine her relationships with the parents who hurt her and shape a future on her own terms.

✨ The lasting impact of childhood instability and toxic family dynamics
✨ How OCD and control can develop as a response to trauma
✨ Rebuilding your identity outside of your past
✨ Navigating relationships with parents who made mistakes
✨ What healing really looks like and how to start

If you’ve ever struggled with the weight of toxic parenting, felt lost in your healing journey, or wondered if you can rebuild a relationship with a parent who let you down—this episode is for you.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16636071 Mon, 14 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100 3550 2 11 full false Claire's Story: Walking on Eggshells and Healing from an Emotionally Abusive Mother Claire's Story: Walking on Eggshells and Healing from an Emotionally Abusive Mother Growing up in a home where love felt conditional and emotional instability ruled can shape every part of who we become. In this episode, Claire shares her experience of growing up with an emotionally abusive and neglectful mother—one whose words and reactions left lasting wounds.

Claire opens up about what it was like to walk on eggshells as a child, constantly seeking approval while being met with verbal abuse. She discusses how this experience shaped her confidence, relationships, and even her role as a mother today. After a pivotal moment in her adult life, Claire was finally able to unpack her past, seek therapy, and start healing.

If you’ve ever struggled with the effects of an emotionally abusive parent, felt the weight of people-pleasing, or are working to break the cycle in your own parenting, this episode is for you.

🔹 How emotional neglect can be just as damaging as physical abuse
🔹 The long-term effects of growing up with an unpredictable parent
🔹 The turning point that led Claire to seek therapy and reclaim her life
🔹 Breaking the cycle: Becoming the parent you never had

Join us for this powerful conversation on breaking free, healing, and redefining love on your own terms.

]]> Growing up in a home where love felt conditional and emotional instability ruled can shape every part of who we become. In this episode, Claire shares her experience of growing up with an emotionally abusive and neglectful mother—one whose words and reactions left lasting wounds.

Claire opens up about what it was like to walk on eggshells as a child, constantly seeking approval while being met with verbal abuse. She discusses how this experience shaped her confidence, relationships, and even her role as a mother today. After a pivotal moment in her adult life, Claire was finally able to unpack her past, seek therapy, and start healing.

If you’ve ever struggled with the effects of an emotionally abusive parent, felt the weight of people-pleasing, or are working to break the cycle in your own parenting, this episode is for you.

🔹 How emotional neglect can be just as damaging as physical abuse
🔹 The long-term effects of growing up with an unpredictable parent
🔹 The turning point that led Claire to seek therapy and reclaim her life
🔹 Breaking the cycle: Becoming the parent you never had

Join us for this powerful conversation on breaking free, healing, and redefining love on your own terms.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16635996 Mon, 07 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100 4942 2 10 full false Hiruni's Story: The Impact of a Childhood Without Intervention Hiruni's Story: The Impact of a Childhood Without Intervention In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we talk with Hiruni about her journey of estrangement, resilience, and healing after years of emotional and physical abuse. Leaving her family home at just 17, Hiruni faced the challenges of sofa-surfing while preparing for her A-levels and navigating the uncertainties of estranged life as a student.  

Hiruni opens up about the complexities of emotional vs. physical abuse, the struggles with self-doubt, and the lack of intervention during her childhood. She shares how societal perceptions and cultural nuances impacted her experience, while also reflecting on the strength she's gained and the incredible support system she's found along the way.  Join us as we explore Hiruni’s journey, the breakthroughs that have helped her heal, and her inspiring message of hope for those facing similar struggles.

You can follow Hiruni here on Tiktok at: @Hirunifernando_ 

]]> In this powerful and deeply personal episode, we talk with Hiruni about her journey of estrangement, resilience, and healing after years of emotional and physical abuse. Leaving her family home at just 17, Hiruni faced the challenges of sofa-surfing while preparing for her A-levels and navigating the uncertainties of estranged life as a student.  

Hiruni opens up about the complexities of emotional vs. physical abuse, the struggles with self-doubt, and the lack of intervention during her childhood. She shares how societal perceptions and cultural nuances impacted her experience, while also reflecting on the strength she's gained and the incredible support system she's found along the way.  Join us as we explore Hiruni’s journey, the breakthroughs that have helped her heal, and her inspiring message of hope for those facing similar struggles.

You can follow Hiruni here on Tiktok at: @Hirunifernando_ 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16509916 Mon, 31 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0100 2872 2 9 full false Matt Appleby's Story: Polarity Healing Matt Appleby's Story: Polarity Healing In this episode, we sit down with Matt Appleby as he shares his journey of healing from a toxic family dynamic shaped by a narcissistic parent. Matt opens up about how pivotal life moments—becoming a father, the loss of a beloved grandparent, the breakdown of his marriage, and the realisation of his mother’s narcissistic traits—have acted as powerful catalysts for growth. 

He delves into the healing modalities that have supported his journey, from yoga to counseling, retreats, and body-based therapies, offering insights into the layered process of unlearning conditioning and finding inner peace. Tune in to hear Matt’s inspiring story and discover actionable wisdom for navigating the path to healing and self-discovery. 

You can follow Matt @polarity.healing on Instagram. 

Below are some links of insights and therapies methods talked about:

Richard Grannon - https://www.richardgrannon.com/

Safe and Sound Protocol (based on Polyvagal Theory) - https://integratedlistening.com/products/ssp-safe-sound-protocol/

The Sedona Method - https://www.sedona.com/Home.asp


]]> In this episode, we sit down with Matt Appleby as he shares his journey of healing from a toxic family dynamic shaped by a narcissistic parent. Matt opens up about how pivotal life moments—becoming a father, the loss of a beloved grandparent, the breakdown of his marriage, and the realisation of his mother’s narcissistic traits—have acted as powerful catalysts for growth. 

He delves into the healing modalities that have supported his journey, from yoga to counseling, retreats, and body-based therapies, offering insights into the layered process of unlearning conditioning and finding inner peace. Tune in to hear Matt’s inspiring story and discover actionable wisdom for navigating the path to healing and self-discovery. 

You can follow Matt @polarity.healing on Instagram. 

Below are some links of insights and therapies methods talked about:

Richard Grannon - https://www.richardgrannon.com/

Safe and Sound Protocol (based on Polyvagal Theory) - https://integratedlistening.com/products/ssp-safe-sound-protocol/

The Sedona Method - https://www.sedona.com/Home.asp


]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16509900 Mon, 17 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000 4303 2 8 full false Sarah's Story: Healing from a Narcissistic Mother’s Abuse Sarah's Story: Healing from a Narcissistic Mother’s Abuse In this episode, Sarah shares her journey of growing up with a narcissistic mother who relied on guilt, blame, and shame to control and manipulate. As the scapegoat in her family, Sarah endured both physical and mental abuse, leaving her with high-functioning anxiety and a deep desire to protect her own children from the cycle of trauma.  

Now in therapy, Sarah is working through the impacts of constant vigilance and people-pleasing, shaped by years of unpredictability at home. She opens up about her decision to go no contact, her journey to give her children the stable and loving childhood she dreamed of, and the breakthroughs she’s making to reclaim her life. This is a story of courage, resilience, and breaking free.

]]> In this episode, Sarah shares her journey of growing up with a narcissistic mother who relied on guilt, blame, and shame to control and manipulate. As the scapegoat in her family, Sarah endured both physical and mental abuse, leaving her with high-functioning anxiety and a deep desire to protect her own children from the cycle of trauma.  

Now in therapy, Sarah is working through the impacts of constant vigilance and people-pleasing, shaped by years of unpredictability at home. She opens up about her decision to go no contact, her journey to give her children the stable and loving childhood she dreamed of, and the breakthroughs she’s making to reclaim her life. This is a story of courage, resilience, and breaking free.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16509821 Mon, 10 Mar 2025 10:00:00 +0000 3993 2 7 full false Lisa’s Story: Breaking the Cycle of Neglect and Narcissism Lisa’s Story: Breaking the Cycle of Neglect and Narcissism In this episode, Lisa opens up about her childhood with a neglectful and narcissistic mother who failed to meet her emotional needs and took no accountability for the harm caused. Now, as Lisa prepares to welcome her own baby, she reflects on the fears of repeating the past and the determination driving her to break the cycle. From therapy to connecting with others who share similar experiences, Lisa shares the breakthroughs that have helped her heal and step into motherhood with strength and intention. This is a story of resilience, accountability, and rewriting the narrative.

]]> In this episode, Lisa opens up about her childhood with a neglectful and narcissistic mother who failed to meet her emotional needs and took no accountability for the harm caused. Now, as Lisa prepares to welcome her own baby, she reflects on the fears of repeating the past and the determination driving her to break the cycle. From therapy to connecting with others who share similar experiences, Lisa shares the breakthroughs that have helped her heal and step into motherhood with strength and intention. This is a story of resilience, accountability, and rewriting the narrative.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16509807 Mon, 03 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +0000 5272 2 6 full false Ashleigh's Story: Breaking Free and Finding Peace Ashleigh's Story: Breaking Free and Finding Peace Growing up surrounded by chaos, abuse, and dangerous relationships, Ashleigh's childhood was anything but stable. In this episode, she shares her journey of navigating trauma, the challenges of being a people pleaser, and how cutting ties with her mother became the turning point in her healing. Ashleigh speaks openly about the struggles, the lessons, and how she’s managed to rebuild her life with resilience and strength. This is a story of breaking free, setting boundaries, and choosing peace.

]]> Growing up surrounded by chaos, abuse, and dangerous relationships, Ashleigh's childhood was anything but stable. In this episode, she shares her journey of navigating trauma, the challenges of being a people pleaser, and how cutting ties with her mother became the turning point in her healing. Ashleigh speaks openly about the struggles, the lessons, and how she’s managed to rebuild her life with resilience and strength. This is a story of breaking free, setting boundaries, and choosing peace.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16509790 Mon, 24 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000 3120 2 5 full false Pollyanna's Story: Breaking Cycles and Finding Strength Pollyanna's Story: Breaking Cycles and Finding Strength In this episode, we sit down with Pollyanna, a beacon of hope and healing. Pollyanna opens up about her journey through trauma and how she found strength and purpose in even the darkest moments. She shares her experience of dealing with a parent struggling with alcohol abuse, offering insights into setting boundaries, protecting your mental health, and finding ways to heal from the pain caused by addiction. This conversation is a powerful reminder that growth and light are possible, no matter your circumstances. 

If you want to find out more about Pollyanna's story you can find her on Tiktok at @just__pollyanna

]]> In this episode, we sit down with Pollyanna, a beacon of hope and healing. Pollyanna opens up about her journey through trauma and how she found strength and purpose in even the darkest moments. She shares her experience of dealing with a parent struggling with alcohol abuse, offering insights into setting boundaries, protecting your mental health, and finding ways to heal from the pain caused by addiction. This conversation is a powerful reminder that growth and light are possible, no matter your circumstances. 

If you want to find out more about Pollyanna's story you can find her on Tiktok at @just__pollyanna

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16407083 Mon, 17 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000 3062 2 4 full false Emily's Story: The Impact of Stepparents Emily's Story: The Impact of Stepparents In this empowering episode, we welcome Emily. Emily shares her journey of overcoming adversity, reclaiming her voice, and finding strength through vulnerability. She also shares stories that encourage a thought-provoking discussion about the potential dangers of step-parents in unhealthy dynamics. 

]]> In this empowering episode, we welcome Emily. Emily shares her journey of overcoming adversity, reclaiming her voice, and finding strength through vulnerability. She also shares stories that encourage a thought-provoking discussion about the potential dangers of step-parents in unhealthy dynamics. 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16407081 Mon, 10 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000 3261 2 3 full false Maggie Maher's Story: The Power of Acceptance in Healing Maggie Maher's Story: The Power of Acceptance in Healing In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Maggie Maher, a compassionate advocate for healing and community. Maggie shares her personal story of overcoming childhood trauma and the transformative power of building meaningful connections. Tune in for a moving conversation filled with hope, wisdom, and practical tools for your healing journey. To find out more about Maggie and the therapy she offers, you can find her at @attachment.therapy on Tiktok

]]> In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Maggie Maher, a compassionate advocate for healing and community. Maggie shares her personal story of overcoming childhood trauma and the transformative power of building meaningful connections. Tune in for a moving conversation filled with hope, wisdom, and practical tools for your healing journey. To find out more about Maggie and the therapy she offers, you can find her at @attachment.therapy on Tiktok

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16407076 Mon, 03 Feb 2025 09:00:00 +0000 3739 2 2 full false Sonam Dave's Story: From Scapegoat to Reborn Sonam Dave's Story: From Scapegoat to Reborn Welcome to Season 2 of Unburdened!

I am so deeply appreciative and grateful to bring YOU on to the podcast for season 2, to share you stories and experiences and ultimately break this narrative and stigma that society still holds about family. 

I apologise for the sound quality on this episode, please be patient as I navigate recording online, but I am delighted to kick off Season 2 with Sonam Dave. 

In this episode, we explore her journey of healing, resilience, and breaking free from the cycles of trauma. You can find out more about Sonam's story at sonams_story on TikTok.

]]> Welcome to Season 2 of Unburdened!

I am so deeply appreciative and grateful to bring YOU on to the podcast for season 2, to share you stories and experiences and ultimately break this narrative and stigma that society still holds about family. 

I apologise for the sound quality on this episode, please be patient as I navigate recording online, but I am delighted to kick off Season 2 with Sonam Dave. 

In this episode, we explore her journey of healing, resilience, and breaking free from the cycles of trauma. You can find out more about Sonam's story at sonams_story on TikTok.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16407042 Mon, 27 Jan 2025 09:00:00 +0000 3412 2 1 full false Unfollowing Mum with Harriet Shearsmith Unfollowing Mum with Harriet Shearsmith In my favourite episode of Unburdened yet, I am joined by special guest Harriet Shearsmith to tackle the heavy and complex topic of guilt—especially when it comes to setting boundaries or going no-contact with family. Harriet shares her deeply personal journey of breaking free from guilt after choosing no contact with her parents, offering raw insights into the emotional challenges and triumphs along the way.

You can buy Unfollowing Mum here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzzoeshe09-21&creativeASIN=1785045172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.1DSJLYE3NMJU3&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_mixed_d_asin

]]> In my favourite episode of Unburdened yet, I am joined by special guest Harriet Shearsmith to tackle the heavy and complex topic of guilt—especially when it comes to setting boundaries or going no-contact with family. Harriet shares her deeply personal journey of breaking free from guilt after choosing no contact with her parents, offering raw insights into the emotional challenges and triumphs along the way.

You can buy Unfollowing Mum here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzzoeshe09-21&creativeASIN=1785045172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.1DSJLYE3NMJU3&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ons_mixed_d_asin

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16286110 Mon, 23 Dec 2024 09:00:00 +0000 3352 full false Your Christmas Stories! Your Christmas Stories! For many, Christmas can feel far from magical—filled with tension, unrealistic expectations, and tricky family dynamics. In this episode of Unburdened, we dive into the realities of a holiday that isn’t always picture-perfect. From managing over-the-top parents and handling feelings of jealousy to setting boundaries and surviving the isolation some of us feel during this season, we’re breaking down the traditional narrative of Christmas.

Join Zoe as she explores how to cope with the pressures of the holidays, reframe your expectations, and create a celebration that feels right for you. Whether you’re looking for tips to protect your peace or ideas to embrace a new kind of festive joy, this episode is your guide to navigating the season with grace and self-compassion.


🎁 Let’s unwrap a Christmas that truly works for you!

]]> For many, Christmas can feel far from magical—filled with tension, unrealistic expectations, and tricky family dynamics. In this episode of Unburdened, we dive into the realities of a holiday that isn’t always picture-perfect. From managing over-the-top parents and handling feelings of jealousy to setting boundaries and surviving the isolation some of us feel during this season, we’re breaking down the traditional narrative of Christmas.

Join Zoe as she explores how to cope with the pressures of the holidays, reframe your expectations, and create a celebration that feels right for you. Whether you’re looking for tips to protect your peace or ideas to embrace a new kind of festive joy, this episode is your guide to navigating the season with grace and self-compassion.


🎁 Let’s unwrap a Christmas that truly works for you!

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16286103 Mon, 16 Dec 2024 12:00:00 +0000 2585 1 11 full false My Top 10 Books That Helped Me Heal My Top 10 Books That Helped Me Heal https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/iamzoelouise/list/8DTOK1H2AW4K?ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_m


1. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Dr Joe Dispense 
2. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Mark Manson
3. A New Earth - Eckhart Tolls 
4. Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz 
5. Many Lives, Many Masters - Brian Weiss 
6. You Can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay
7. The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks 
8. Unlimited Power/ Awaken the Giant Within - Tony Robbins 
9. Solve for Happy - Mo Gawdat
10. The Untethered Soul - Michael Singer 

]]> https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/iamzoelouise/list/8DTOK1H2AW4K?ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_m


1. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself - Dr Joe Dispense 
2. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Mark Manson
3. A New Earth - Eckhart Tolls 
4. Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz 
5. Many Lives, Many Masters - Brian Weiss 
6. You Can Heal Your Life - Louise Hay
7. The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks 
8. Unlimited Power/ Awaken the Giant Within - Tony Robbins 
9. Solve for Happy - Mo Gawdat
10. The Untethered Soul - Michael Singer 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16205197 Mon, 09 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000 2257 1 10 full false Breaking the Cycle Breaking the Cycle Becoming a mother can bring fears of repeating the past, but it also offers the power to break the cycle. In this episode, I share my personal journey of recognising and overcoming trauma, explore what it takes to avoid passing it on, and celebrate the signs that the cycle is truly broken. 

]]> Becoming a mother can bring fears of repeating the past, but it also offers the power to break the cycle. In this episode, I share my personal journey of recognising and overcoming trauma, explore what it takes to avoid passing it on, and celebrate the signs that the cycle is truly broken. 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16168966 Mon, 02 Dec 2024 10:00:00 +0000 2012 1 9 full false Bullying and Childhood Abuse Bullying and Childhood Abuse In this episode, we explore the deep link between childhood trauma and bullying. Why are some kids more likely to be targeted? How does bullying reinforce harmful beliefs shaped by abuse? I share my personal story, uncover the impact of bullying, and discuss how to break free from these cycles. Whether you’ve experienced bullying or want to protect your children, this episode offers insight, support, and strategies for healing. 

]]> In this episode, we explore the deep link between childhood trauma and bullying. Why are some kids more likely to be targeted? How does bullying reinforce harmful beliefs shaped by abuse? I share my personal story, uncover the impact of bullying, and discuss how to break free from these cycles. Whether you’ve experienced bullying or want to protect your children, this episode offers insight, support, and strategies for healing. 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16125011 Mon, 25 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000 2413 1 8 full false Healing the Inner Child Healing the Inner Child This episode covers the powerful practice of inner child healing, explaining what it is and why it can be transformative. It discusses how self-criticism often targets our younger selves and how shifting to a compassionate, protective mindset can help in fostering self-compassion, ultimately encouraging a more caring approach to self-care and emotional well-being.

]]> This episode covers the powerful practice of inner child healing, explaining what it is and why it can be transformative. It discusses how self-criticism often targets our younger selves and how shifting to a compassionate, protective mindset can help in fostering self-compassion, ultimately encouraging a more caring approach to self-care and emotional well-being.

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16090774 Mon, 18 Nov 2024 10:00:00 +0000 1587 1 7 full false Attachment Styles Attachment Styles Our attachment style is formed in the first TWO years on life and affects our adult relationships.

Learn about the different attachment styles, so you can move towards a secure one and have healthier relationships!

Book mentioned in the podcast:  https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1529032172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzzoeshe09-21&creativeASIN=1529032172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.2JJ30EKQZEKZ2&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin

]]> Our attachment style is formed in the first TWO years on life and affects our adult relationships.

Learn about the different attachment styles, so you can move towards a secure one and have healthier relationships!

Book mentioned in the podcast:  https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1529032172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzzoeshe09-21&creativeASIN=1529032172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.2JJ30EKQZEKZ2&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16085428 Mon, 11 Nov 2024 17:00:00 +0000 1547 1 6 full false How To Manage The Guilt with Melissa Byrne How To Manage The Guilt with Melissa Byrne Guilt. It's the biggest emotion I hear people struggle with. Guilt for feeling different, guilt for having to introduce boundaries, guilt for having to limit contact. How can we manage the guilt so we can make choices that are right for us?

This week we have a special guest, Melissa Byrne who shares her experience of managing guilt in the context of a difficult mother daughter relationship. 

You can find Mel on Tiktok @melissajbyrnex

]]> Guilt. It's the biggest emotion I hear people struggle with. Guilt for feeling different, guilt for having to introduce boundaries, guilt for having to limit contact. How can we manage the guilt so we can make choices that are right for us?

This week we have a special guest, Melissa Byrne who shares her experience of managing guilt in the context of a difficult mother daughter relationship. 

You can find Mel on Tiktok @melissajbyrnex

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16040454 Mon, 04 Nov 2024 09:00:00 +0000 2761 1 5 full false Navigating Different Contact Options Navigating Different Contact Options How do you know when it's time to reduce contact? What do you do if you want to maintain a relationship? This episode discusses the different contact options you have available with a toxic parent, and how to decide which one is right for you. 

]]> How do you know when it's time to reduce contact? What do you do if you want to maintain a relationship? This episode discusses the different contact options you have available with a toxic parent, and how to decide which one is right for you. 

]]> Zoe Louise Buzzsprout-16002052 Mon, 28 Oct 2024 08:00:00 +0000 1722 1 4 full false Sibling Rivalry Sibling Rivalry Why does your sibling see it differently, despite growing up in the same household? This week, we discuss the responses between siblings, from the differing perspectives despite a similar upbringing to the roles your parent had you play (scapegoat or golden child).

]]> Why does your sibling see it differently, despite growing up in the same household? This week, we discuss the responses between siblings, from the differing perspectives despite a similar upbringing to the roles your parent had you play (scapegoat or golden child).

]]> Zoe Buzzsprout-15881266 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 10:00:00 +0100 1786 1 3 full false Narcissistic Parents and Special Occasions Narcissistic Parents and Special Occasions Today, we’re diving into a topic that so many of you can relate to—birthdays and the narcissist. Whether it’s their birthday, yours, or anyone else's, these occasions can quickly turn into emotional minefields. If you’ve ever felt like what should be a joyful celebration ends up leaving you drained, frustrated, and questioning your own sanity, you’re in the right place. 

]]> Today, we’re diving into a topic that so many of you can relate to—birthdays and the narcissist. Whether it’s their birthday, yours, or anyone else's, these occasions can quickly turn into emotional minefields. If you’ve ever felt like what should be a joyful celebration ends up leaving you drained, frustrated, and questioning your own sanity, you’re in the right place. 

]]> Zoe Buzzsprout-15773288 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 10:00:00 +0100 2021 1 2 full false Pilot Pilot Hello and Welcome to ‘Unburdened.' 

Let me introduce myself and the podcast!

This is the podcast that’s gives a voice to the unspoken, helping you articulate the thoughts and feelings that have long been silenced. This is a space where your experiences are validated, where your pain is acknowledged, and where you are empowered to do what’s right for you. Together, we'll break the cycle of abuse, heal from the effects of childhood trauma and move forward with love, compassion, and the courage to heal.

]]> Hello and Welcome to ‘Unburdened.' 

Let me introduce myself and the podcast!

This is the podcast that’s gives a voice to the unspoken, helping you articulate the thoughts and feelings that have long been silenced. This is a space where your experiences are validated, where your pain is acknowledged, and where you are empowered to do what’s right for you. Together, we'll break the cycle of abuse, heal from the effects of childhood trauma and move forward with love, compassion, and the courage to heal.

]]> Zoe Buzzsprout-15773012 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 10:00:00 +0100 815 1 1 full false