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The Power Of Raising Your Hand — Barry Moline

Tue, 12 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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The career moments that change us rarely arrive with spotlights. Sometimes they show up as an awkward pause in a staff meeting, a simple request for volunteers, and a quiet choice to raise your hand when nobody else will. Becky Fraser sits down with longtime CEO and leadership consultant Barry Moline to unpack a story that starts with a holiday party committee and ends with real executive visibility, clearer leadership habits, and a practical approach to building organizational culture through everyday actions.

We talk about what happened when the CEO unexpectedly joined the committee as a true peer and how that created trust, comfort, and better ideas without the usual hierarchy. Barry shares one of the most useful meeting tools we’ve heard in a long time: asking “What’s our goal here?” when a conversation drifts. It sounds basic, but we dig into why it works for team alignment, decision-making, and ethical influence and persuasion, especially when projects get complicated and opinions multiply.

From there, the story widens into a leadership lesson about momentum. Barry explains how he became the person tasked with asking the first question at major conferences to break the silence and get others participating. We also go into the harder side of stepping into bigger roles: the shock of becoming CEO before feeling fully ready, how a leader’s words can be mistaken for commitments, and why every level of leadership needs a nonjudgmental sounding board. Along the way, Barry shares what crisis leadership looked like in hurricane response and how he developed employees by helping them connect their strengths to meaningful opportunities.

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Choose Your Own Career Path

Tue, 05 May 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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A promotion can look perfect on paper and still feel wrong in your gut. That moment is where we start, with Theresa Gutierrez choosing sustainability over HR and Felicia MacDonald stepping from a large corporation into leadership at a very small e-commerce company. Their stories point to the same truth: a career transition gets easier to navigate when you stop chasing someone else’s ladder and start defining what you actually want.

We walk through the career planning questions I come back to again and again when people are job searching, facing layoffs, or simply ready for a new chapter: What does success look like for me? What skills or strengths do I want to use? What experiences am I craving that I’m not getting right now? From there, we talk about how to turn a “messy map” into real momentum through experimentation, transferable skills, and the confidence that comes from taking one smart risk at a time.

We also get practical about leadership and change management: building a support team that will both check you and cheer you on, thinking clearly about total compensation, and redefining failure as data you can use. Even a role that doesn’t work out can strengthen your foundation through new capabilities, new relationships, and sharper clarity about what you want next.

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Listen to Theresa's Episode: https://www.shortstorylongpod.com/2402280/episodes/16425455-theresa-s-story-her-career-transition-to-sustainability

Listen to Felicia's Episode: https://www.shortstorylongpod.com/2402280/episodes/19075647-lessons-from-leading-large-v-small-teams-felicia-macdonald-s-story

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Lessons from Leading Large v. Small Teams — Felicia MacDonald's Story

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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A layoff list can change how you see leadership forever. I sit down with Felicia MacDonald, a steady, thoughtful leader who spends years in big corporate publishing, navigates a major digital transformation, and then hits the moment many professionals fear: being asked to plan layoffs. What happens next is a sharp career pivot into small business leadership, where the org chart disappears and the real work gets personal fast.

Felicia shares what it’s like to go from leading a 120-person team across locations to joining a nine-person e-commerce company and eventually running the day-to-day. We talk change management, technology’s “it’ll be easier” promise, and why new tools often create new complexity. That thread naturally connects to today’s AI anxiety, job security questions, and the leadership skill of learning the work well enough to guide others through it.

We also get tactical about the small business reality: wearing multiple hats, cross-training, communicating without heavy process, and making decisions without HR or layers of approval. Felicia explains why she protects her people when mistakes happen, how she balances “we” versus “I” accountability, and why her definition of success is not unlimited growth but a good living wage and meaningful impact. If you lead teams, coach leaders, or are navigating a corporate-to-small-business transition, you’ll walk away with practical leadership insights rooted in curiosity and critical thinking.

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Sense Making In Your Career

Tue, 21 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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Career decisions don’t usually blow up overnight. They quietly form in the background, in the stories we tell ourselves about a changed meeting invite list, a new org structure, a shift in feedback, or a role that still “works” but suddenly feels wrong. When we slow down our meaning making and separate facts from assumptions, we stop treating discomfort like an emergency and start reading our reality with accuracy.

We dig into how unexamined beliefs shape career direction, from inherited ideas about stability and success to cultural and family expectations that create a narrow definition of what’s acceptable. I share what it looked like to turn down an expected succession path and why that choice still feels like relief. We also explore why “should I stay or should I go” is often the wrong question and how the real drivers tend to be deeper needs like growth, impact, or an identity shift in how you want to lead.

Finally, we talk about avoidance: the postponed conversations, the risks we don’t take, and the excuses that sound like reasons. I offer a simple inversion tool to help you find what you’re truly moving toward so you don’t carry the same patterns into the next role. If you want better career clarity, stronger self-awareness, and more intentional decision-making, listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review with the biggest belief you’re ready to question.

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The Power of a Career Reset — Shahnaz Broucek’s Story

Tue, 14 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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A career can look successful on paper and still feel like it’s shrinking you. That tension is where Shahnaz Broucek's story lands: she helped build a mortgage and title company to roughly 55 employees, rode the boom years, then faced the housing crash and a brutal question many leaders avoid for too long, is this still my path?

We unpack what it takes to make a career pivot without running purely on fear. Shahnaz shares how she listened for signals that her work had gone stale, why she calls some disruptions “happy accidents,” and how she used reflection, informational interviews, and coaching to get clear on her value proposition. We also talk candidly about imposter syndrome, the pressure of expectations, and what it looks like to ask, “What will matter most in the long run?” while you’re balancing real responsibilities.

From there, we move into leadership development and organizational culture: why executive coaching and team coaching matter even more in an era of relentless change, including AI and economic volatility. Shahnaz explains her current growth edge in the coaching profession, including coach supervision and the ICF MCC path, and why community is not a nice-to-have for coaches or for leaders. We close by reflecting on the power of mastermind-style peer groups and how finding the right people can change your trajectory.

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LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ShahnazBroucek/
Website: OptimizeU.com

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Outgrowing a Role That Works

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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Success can be the very thing that hides the truth: you’re doing well, people trust you, nothing is “broken” and yet something feels off. We talk about that quiet kind of misalignment and why it’s one of the most important signals a leader can learn to read. When the role that once fit starts to feel heavier, when decisions take more energy, or when your values keep bumping into what the job asks of you, it might not be a motivation problem. It might be growth.

We unpack what happens when you wait for a dramatic reason to change and why that delay often turns a thoughtful decision into a reactive one. You’ll hear a clear reframe that makes leadership decisions easier: clarity usually comes after movement, not before it. Instead of hunting for the perfect next role or the flawless plan, we focus on finding a meaningful next step, like reshaping conversations with your leader, seeking new exposure, or taking a small risk that creates real data.

We also dig into confidence and readiness for leadership growth. Confidence doesn’t arrive fully formed; it’s built through experience, especially when you choose stretch moments before you feel fully prepared. Along the way, we look at what you can control right now, including how you spend your time, how you evaluate “I have no choice,” and how to use even a misaligned role to build skills for your future.

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When Your Dream Job Evolves — Michelle Davis' Story

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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You can “pick your own hours” and still feel like you never stop working. That tension kicks off a candid conversation with executive coach Michelle Davis about the real cost of solopreneur life, from the guilt of taking time off to the constant grind of marketing and business development. If you’ve ever wondered why freedom sometimes feels like pressure, you’ll recognize yourself here.

Michelle shares her career inflection point: moving from external coaching across multiple organizations to an internal role where she leads an internal coaching practice and builds programs that shape the whole system. We talk about what changed, the loneliness of working solo, and the pull toward team affiliation and shared mission. You’ll hear what internal coaching can actually look like day-to-day, including the “best of both worlds” mix of program design and direct coaching, plus the practical feedback loop of piloting, learning, and improving in real time.

We also get tactical about making a pivot: researching the field through ICF resources, talking to people doing the work, and holding a mindset that allows for uncertainty. Along the way we dig into executive coaching, leadership development, imposter syndrome, and the simple truth that confidence often comes after the reps, not before. If you’re weighing entrepreneurship vs corporate or considering an internal coaching program, this conversation gives you grounded questions to ask about risk tolerance, fit, and impact.

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Leadership Through Uncertainty

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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Leadership doesn’t wait for you to feel ready. It shows up when a team is stuck, when a tough decision is sitting untouched, or when the tension in the room is obvious and no one names it. I’m Beki Fraser, and I’m breaking down the leadership skills that matter most in those real-time moments, especially when your instinct is to move fast and prove you belong.

We start with context, because rushing to solutions can be a hidden leadership liability. Under pressure, our brains grab familiar patterns and fill in the gaps, which makes us confident and sometimes wrong. I share a personal “area versus volume” story to show how easy it is to solve the wrong problem when something looks the same on the surface. From there, we dig into why slowing down early can actually accelerate outcomes later by preventing misalignment, resistance, and rework.

Then we get practical about trust and how quickly it forms. Trust isn’t built by positioning ourselves as the expert. It’s built by how it feels to work with us, especially when we don’t know, when we’re challenged, and when we invite input. We talk about the subtle ways trust gets lost, including “collaboration” that asks for feedback but doesn’t show how it influenced the decision. We also explore adaptive courage: making the call when clarity is incomplete, staying open to adjusting as things unfold, and resisting the trap of endless analysis.

We close with a development lens that goes beyond retention. Instead of measuring success by who stays, we ask whether people grow and whether they leave stronger than when they arrived. If you want more grounded leadership, better team engagement, and decisions that land, hit subscribe, share this with a leader who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

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Leaving The Ladder — Ed Holinski's Story

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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What does it take to pivot from a successful sales career into shaping the culture and capability of a global company—without formal training? We sit down with Ed Holinski to unpack the inflection point that moved him from brokerage and risk services into organizational development at Marsh, where urgency, curiosity, and courageous conversations became his working edge.

Ed shares how he leveraged credibility in the insurance industry to open doors in learning and development, then learned OD by doing—side by side with experts and executives. From partnering with a new chief pricing officer to building negotiation and pricing capabilities across the firm, to orchestrating a fast, global shift from transactional selling to consultative work, Ed explains why speed sometimes beats pilots and how to iterate in the open. He reveals the surprising power of integrating multiple outside providers—if you ask everyone to “leave your stripes at the door”—and why context should guide content, not the other way around.

We dive deep into the human layer: earning trust with leaders under pressure, delivering hard feedback with care, and turning stated values into daily decisions. Ed’s take on talent flips the usual script—celebrate people who surpass you, expect “tours of duty,” and measure success by growth and boomerangs, not just retention. His core belief ties it all together: culture and growth move one conversation at a time. When leaders listen intently, frame problems clearly, and act on values during tough calls, teams align and change sticks.

If you’re navigating a career pivot, leading transformation, or trying to make your values real, this conversation offers a practical playbook. Subscribe, share with someone who’s at a crossroads, and leave a review to tell us your biggest leadership inflection point—we’d love to hear your story.

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When Control Becomes the Problem

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

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What if the fastest way to lead better isn’t more hustle, but clearer language for your strengths and a smarter design for your team? We explore how to move from forcing outcomes to architecting around what people naturally do well, so pressure drops and performance climbs. You’ll hear how hidden strengths often stay invisible because they feel easy, why awareness is leadership efficiency, and how receptive leadership creates room for better decisions without sacrificing speed.

We start with a candid look at why copying someone else’s style keeps you stuck working twice as hard for half the result. Then we break down the practical moves: identify the strengths you’ve been overlooking, give them names others can trust, and match work to the people who are sharp in the right places. Expect clear examples—detail thinkers who tighten plans, strategists who frame direction, relationship builders who anticipate impact, and steady operators who ensure consistency—and how these roles create cleaner handoffs and fewer bottlenecks.

From there, we get tactical about collaboration as an operating strategy. Instead of generic delegation, we share prompts that unlock ownership: I want this outcome—what strengths will you use to get there? We also unpack stress contagion at the leadership level and offer small shifts that protect the room: say less, ask one clean question, and let the silence work. Finally, we introduce receptive leadership as the counterweight to constant optimization—an intentional pause that widens your field of vision so you catch possibilities urgency hides.

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Self-Awareness at Work — Ingrid Stabb’s Story

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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A frantic book club, a late-night search, and an unexpected coffee with a hero set off a career pivot that rewired how we think about time, collaboration, and leadership. Becky sits down with author and Enneagram expert Ingrid Stabb to explore why forcing outcomes exhausts us—and how relaxing into our real strengths expands what’s possible at work and at home.

We dig into the trap of time scarcity and the myth that productivity solves everything. Ingrid shares how a simple, receptive moment led to co-authoring a major book and how complementary strengths—hers in product and possibility, her collaborator’s in depth and artistry—created results neither could reach alone. From there, we zoom out to strengths-based leadership: stop hammering weaknesses, start leveraging what is natural and rare in each person, and let the system supply the gaps.

You’ll hear vivid team stories, including a Google search quality group where “performing the culture” hid critical talents. Once an overlooked helper’s resourcefulness was named, collaboration clicked and localized work accelerated. We also unpack Enneagram stress patterns—how type dynamics can bring needed structure or tip into criticism—and give practical tools to stay creative under pressure. Try the “three stories” exercise to counter worst-case spirals, and build a day-one plan so you’re prepared for any outcome without living in fear.

This conversation is a permission slip to lead as yourself. Name the things that feel easy and obvious to you—they’re not obvious to everyone. Ask for help, look for complements, and allow well-timed opportunities to meet you halfway. Subscribe, share with a friend who’s stretched thin, and leave a review with the strength you’re ready to lean into next.

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Visit her website at IngridStabb.com.

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Respect Under Pressure: Why Civility Matters at Work

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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Pressure is rising in many workplaces, but turning up the heat rarely creates better thinking. Becky makes the case that civility is not window dressing—it’s the operating system for clear decisions, resilient strategy, and teams that speak up instead of shutting down. From her own hard-won lessons to practical moves you can use today, this conversation reframes respect as a leadership discipline, not a soft extra.

We dig into the difference between politeness and true operational civility: setting decision rights, naming criteria, and explaining the “why” so rumors don’t fill the gaps. You’ll hear vivid examples of meetings that spiral into sniping and how a simple pause-and-redirect can reset the room. We talk through humane layoffs and restructures—why dignity protects people and the business—and offer scripts that replace vague emails with clear, compassionate conversations. On strategy, Becky shows how capacity, trade-offs, and welcomed dissent keep plans from drifting into wishful thinking. When people trust they won’t be embarrassed or sidelined, they raise red flags early, test assumptions, and save you from costly blind spots.

The throughline is simple: civility is strength that doesn’t need to prove itself. Model calm, invite real critique, and communicate with clarity, and you’ll trade compliance and silence for insight and ownership. That’s not softness—it’s disciplined leadership that earns trust in small moments and pays off when the stakes are high. If this resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and share it with a leader who’s ready to turn pressure into clarity. What’s one civil move you’ll try in your next meeting?

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So You Tried Harder And It Got Worse

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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We trace the quiet moment when hard work stops moving the needle and show how to shift from good intentions to real impact. We share stories about overfunctioning, misaligned roles, and becoming the bottleneck, and we offer simple tools to build ownership and clarity.

• spotting the signs you have outgrown your playbook
• why effort does not equal impact
• moving from motives to measurable outcomes
• avoiding the bottleneck and enabling ownership
• asking better questions about role design and influence
• replacing certainty with curiosity and small experiments
• building structures for delegation and decision clarity
• using honesty to make leadership sustainable

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Alignment Over Achievement — Robert Heath's Story

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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Ever chased “go-to” status only to realize it’s costing you results at work and presence at home? That’s the tension we unpack with Robert Heath Sr., a nationally recognized leadership strategist and former Marine Corps officer who rebuilt a struggling unit and, just as importantly, rebuilt how he defined success. We start with the hard truth that positional authority doesn’t move systems—people do. Robert’s early lesson watching a talented superintendent flame out became the spark for his intentional “leadership sojourn” through law school and the Marines, where he learned to align vision, communication, and culture to create real change.

The turning point arrives when he takes command and watches readiness sink despite 14-hour days. A quiet nudge from his wife reframes everything: if success excludes family and presence, it isn’t success. From there, Robert maps a five-step approach to time mastery: define success broadly across roles, sequence priorities like a chess grandmaster, schedule the right “rocks” first, enforce boundaries that protect focus, and build habits that make the best actions effortless. He shares his email triage system, the short VIP list that can reshuffle his day, and the myth-busting insight that urgency is often a story we tell ourselves. With these shifts, he finished core work by noon, delegated with clarity, and led his company from 70% to 90% readiness—without sacrificing his life at home.

We also dig into the coaching side: holding space so leaders align subconscious knowing with conscious strategy, using NLP to clear blind spots fast, and practicing curiosity without judgment. A single question—“Do you want me to help solve this, or just listen?”—can transform marriages and management alike. The message is simple and powerful: you don’t need more hours; you need alignment. When your identity, purpose, and calendar harmonize, results compound and relationships deepen.

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Stop Performing Leadership And Start Practicing It

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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Ever felt like you’re acting like a leader instead of being one? We dig into the real difference between performing leadership and practicing it, and why steady confidence grows from competence, follow-through, and results under pressure. No gimmicks, no borrowed styles—just practical moves that help you choose substance over optics and integrity over approval.

We break down how to “let the work speak” without disappearing into the background or blasting a bullhorn. You’ll hear simple ways to show outcomes, narrate your process, and invite others to name the impact. From there, we get tactical about precision in communication: compressing your message for a time-poor executive, expanding context for someone new, and using synthesis to make complex ideas clear. We also draw an important line between honesty and transparency—how to share enough for informed action while protecting what’s confidential—and why that balance is the backbone of trust.

If you lead a team, you’ll get actionable tools: pair every no with a clear direction, repeat your message with purposeful nuance, and keep standards high while tailoring your approach to the individual. We talk intrinsic motivation and how to map what people actually want so you can design small, practical steps that move them from A to B. Accountability becomes clean and fair when expectations are explicit, support is real, and metrics illuminate decisions instead of policing people. We close with a one-week skill builder: notice where you’re performing leadership, replace it with a grounded action, and watch the work get lighter while the impact grows.

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Leadership Without Pretending — Jose Bordetas' Story

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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A single moment can rewire a life. For Jose Bordetas, it was the birth of his daughter—and the decision to trade the kitchen line and tour buses for a people-first leadership path that scaled from help desk to global operations. We dig into how he broke into tech without credentials, built confidence through challenge, and turned messy projects into career-defining wins. Along the way, he unpacks the mentor lessons that changed everything, including the radical practice of keeping a resignation letter in your pocket to protect your agency.

Jose’s leadership style blends music and service. He leads like a band leader—hearing the mix, reading the room, and arranging each player to deliver harmony. From the kitchen he brings attention to detail, scalable recipes, and relentless focus on customers, whether that’s a CEO, a paying client, or a cross-functional partner. We explore how authenticity beats performance, why work doesn’t always “speak for itself,” and how EQ, clarity, and documentation create repeatable wins that survive vacations and reorgs. He shares practical tactics for speaking to executives in crisp briefs, coaching introverts to use their voice as a superpower, and setting standards that elevate the whole team.

At the core is a bold thesis: stop cloning leaders. Not everyone should manage, and some of the most impactful careers are built as subject matter experts. Jose explains how to spot diamonds in the rough, design growth that fits the individual, and measure leadership by what happens when you’re not in the room. He also previews his upcoming book, Breaking from the Herd, born from a morning commute of dark suits and a promise to never force sameness on people again.

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Self-Regulation Is Leadership

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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Pressure doesn’t make great leaders—presence does. We dig into why the best leadership moves often begin inside your nervous system, long before a difficult conversation or high-stakes decision. Drawing on lived experience and insights from a previous conversation with Annie Paraison, we explore how to read the body’s early signals, pause before reacting, and turn tense moments into opportunities for trust and clarity.

First, we unpack somatic awareness: those subtle cues like tightness, dread, or irritability that appear before your brain writes a tidy story. Instead of powering through, we treat those sensations as data that can prevent costly missteps. You’ll hear how ignoring signals leads to reactive leadership and quiet burnout, and how listening to them can redirect your path with honesty and courage.

Next, we move into self-regulation—the real-time skill of creating space between stimulus and response. We break down a practical micro-ritual: three deep belly breaths, naming sensations, and choosing timing, tone, and intention that align with your values. You’ll see why most relationship damage comes from the state we’re in, not the topic at hand, and how a single, well-placed pause can protect both clarity and reputation.

Finally, we introduce relational groundedness: staying rooted in yourself while staying open to others. It’s the difference between caring and rescuing, listening and agreeing. We map the balance between personal boundaries and collective needs, showing how grounded leaders stop keeping score and start expanding what’s possible. To make it stick, we share a 30-second challenge you can use before any hard conversation or meeting.

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Beyond The Plan: Compassion And Power — Annie Paraison's Story

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0500

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A quiet alarm in the body can be louder than any strategic plan. That’s where our conversation with Annie begins: the moment joy dimmed, restlessness rose, and an inner knowing said it was time to step away from nonprofit work and build something rooted in freedom, fairness, and love. From that leap came Love Before All, a practice that pairs self-regulation with compassion to create real, measurable change in people and the systems they live in.

We dig into the mechanics of that change. Annie walks us through how history and power shape institutions, why scarcity cultures persist, and how a relationship-first lens reframes leadership. We talk brain science in plain language: the amygdala’s threat response, somatic signals as data, and how a pause-and-breathe habit restores choice. She shares a grounding question that guides hard moments—what is the most loving thing to do now?—and a practical method for tough conversations: look for patterns, ask permission, lead with positive intent, and time it for trust.

Annie’s path from Haiti to New York adds a powerful through line of empathy and perspective-taking. That experience sharpened her ability to “put herself on a shelf,” meet others without judgment, and build bridges across difference. We connect this to culture change at scale: when individuals grow compassion from the inside out, teams regulate better, organizations collaborate more, and wellness becomes a shared priority. If belief can outrun truth, then let’s design beliefs that steady the nervous system, expand our options, and make room for facts to land.

You’ll leave with tools you can use today—how to notice somatic cues, interrupt reactivity, and deliver feedback without burning trust—as well as a bigger vision for how compassion can propagate across homes, schools, and workplaces. If you’re ready to integrate who you are with how you lead, press play, share this conversation with someone who needs it, and leave a review to help more listeners find the show.

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Human Choices, Real Leadership

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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We revisit five leaders whose choices show how humanity shapes real decisions under pressure. Fulfillment, empowerment, grace, resilience, and agency move from ideas to habits you can use right away.

• Integrating identity with leadership choices
• Choosing fulfillment after loss and fear
• Shifting from expert to team builder
• Leaving with dignity and clear boundaries
• Treating joy as a resilience strategy
• Practicing agency and narrative fit
• Translating values into calendar and habits
• Preparing for a new season with intention

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Lead Through The Swirl

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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Uncertainty isn’t just noisy—it quietly warps how we lead. Beki digs into the hidden cost of a chaotic year: not only drained calendars and frayed nerves, but a distorted leadership identity that turns visionary thinkers into reactive firefighters. Instead of piling on more habits and rigid routines, we step back and rebuild the architecture that protects attention, steadiness, and influence when nothing else cooperates.

We start with a counterintuitive idea: reduce your surface area. If you’re reachable from every angle, your focus is rented out in fragments. Beki shows how to consolidate access points, use office hours intentionally, and set decision containers that clarify what your team owns and when to escalate. You’ll learn to stop being the bottleneck, foster real authority in others, and design meetings that make durable decisions—only when the right people, information, and power are in the room.

From there, we introduce a weekly checkpoint that takes minutes, not hours. Identify one win, one moment urgency hijacked your intent, and one place you drifted into the weeds. Then choose a single adjustment for the coming week. This small, repeatable rhythm cuts through the swirl and restores strategic posture. We also unpack why one-size-fits-all behavior systems often fail: they force leaders into someone else’s template. Instead, anchor on identity—your strengths, your values, and the signals that tell you you’re slipping—so actions flow from who you are.

Beki also shares the 75 LEAD challenge, a guided 75-day cadence designed to recenter your leadership identity in less than 20 minutes a day. It’s a steady framework for reducing noise, sharpening decisions, and growing leaders behind you, so you can reach for more strategic work without losing your footing.

If this conversation gives you a breath of space and a plan to reclaim your week, follow the show, share it with a leader who’s under pressure, and leave a review so others can find it. Your team takes its cues from you—let’s make those cues calm, clear, and intentional.

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Trust Your Voice: Two Interviews Reveal the Heart of My Work

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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Start with the person, not the playbook. That simple shift runs through Beki’s journey from HR leader managing mergers and reorganizations to a coach who helps thoughtful, questioning leaders turn inner clarity into outer results. Across two candid radio conversations with hosts Jim Masters and Doug Llewellyn, we unpack why boundaries attract respect, how authenticity doesn’t require oversharing, and what it takes to move from performance to practice as a leader.

We share honest lessons from the HR front lines—how fear breeds sabotage and perfectionism—and the low-cost remedies that actually work: kindness, curiosity, and consistent expectations. Beki explains her pivot from advisory HR to true coaching through formal iPEC training, trading “agree with me” guidance for client-led discovery. You’ll hear how introverted skeptics, often quiet in meetings and late to commit, become decisive when their skepticism is treated as due diligence and their energy needs are respected. Doubt, it turns out, can be a superpower when it’s channeled into better questions and clearer decisions.

If you’re navigating a leap—manager to director, VP to executive—or simply tired of advice that tells you to be someone else, you’ll find practical ways to build resilience, communicate with precision, and design systems that fit your temperament. We talk timelines for change, the messy middle where new habits wobble, and success stories where stepping back from the weeds unlocked team accountability. We also introduce Short Story Long, Beki’s weekly podcast pairing vivid leadership stories with bite-size skill builders you can apply right away.

Listen for tools you can use today: define success behaviors, spot the patterns that block momentum, and craft communication that respects both your voice and your team’s needs. Subscribe, share with a colleague who leads quietly but powerfully, and leave a review to tell us what boundary you’re setting this week.

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No, Not Every Challenge Is A Gift, But Gratitude Still Works

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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I explore gratitude as a daily leadership practice that turns ambition into belonging and presence into progress. There's a simple three-direction exercise—upward, outward, inward—to make gratitude real at work and at home.

• gratitude as a lens for work and life
• recognition as everyday noticing
• self-compassion as part of gratitude
• how leaders show gratitude through trust and time
• the shift from I to we
• a three-direction gratitude practice
• gratitude as discipline and anchor

Thank you for spending this time with me today. I'm grateful you're here, that you listen, and that you think deeply about what leadership can look like when it's human first.

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When Vision Meets Uncertainty, Choose Presence

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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Plans rarely survive contact with real life, and that’s where leadership truly begins. Drawing on Kaila’s leap from solopreneur to agency owner while becoming a parent, we explore how to trade grind for grace and control for connection without sacrificing results. I walk through the practical tools that help leaders stay human and effective when the ground shifts: shifting language from I to we to build ownership, setting boundaries that protect strategic focus, and designing systems that let teams share weight while keeping accountability clear.

We dig into the difference between courage and confidence, and why momentum—not certainty—creates the proof you need to keep going. You’ll learn how to use informed intuition when plans are still forming, define scope so perfectionism stops draining innovation, and create check-ins that tell you when work is truly “done enough.” We also talk about the hard, human side: asking for help when no one seems to hear you, spotting subtle cues when your team needs support, and leading with compassion that actually strengthens performance.

If your world is changing—markets shifting, teams evolving, personal priorities reordering—this conversation offers a grounded way forward. Hold vision loosely and purpose tightly. Build containers that protect attention. Step back from the noise so you can hear the orchestra and conduct with clarity. Try the one-week challenge: replace one I or me with we or us where it fits, then watch how engagement changes. If the ideas resonate, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who’s ready to lead with more presence and less pressure.

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Shifting Leadership From Me to We — Kaila Sachse’s Story

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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Ever built two babies at once—one human, one company? That’s the real-world tension Kaila brings to the mic as she shares how a leap from solo designer to agency owner collided with a surprise pregnancy, forcing her to redesign time, pricing, and identity in a matter of months. We walk through the strategic moves that made it possible: shifting from hourly to value-based pricing, rolling out subscription services for predictable revenue, and turning I into we so clients embraced the team over the individual.

What makes this story resonate isn’t just the business mechanics—it’s the heart work behind them. Kaila talks about coming back from maternity leave early because work felt familiar when motherhood felt overwhelming, and how that moment led to firm desk hours, fewer weekend replies, and healthier boundaries that actually improved delivery. She breaks down practical frameworks: scoping as a decision tool, the 50 vs. 95 percent progress check, and spotting when you’re just “tweaking the teal” with polish that doesn’t move outcomes.

We also go deep on mental health. A wave of postpartum depression, layered with grief over a friend’s passing, pushed Kaila to advocate for care until someone truly listened. Letting go of perfectionism became a business advantage—projects shipped faster, feedback loops tightened, and the team had room to do their best work. The result is a new definition of success that values connection, gentle growth, and work that fits a life, not the other way around.

If you’re navigating a big career shift, building a team, or learning to lead with grace, this conversation offers tools you can use today. Listen, share with a friend who needs it, and if it sparked something for you, subscribe and leave a review so more people can find it.

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Company website: Yumari.digital
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Rewriting the Story of Success

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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What if safety and fulfillment were not opposites, but partners you could design on purpose? We walk through a practical, human path from control to contribution—using a true story about shifting from programming to journalism as a lens for smarter career bets and better leadership. Rather than glorifying big leaps, we unpack how small, low‑stakes experiments reveal fit, build confidence, and protect what matters.

We get specific about the leader’s role in growth: reflecting hidden talents with clarity, lowering fear of fallout, and granting permission to try without overpromising outcomes. You will hear how to reframe “not my job” into “a small offer I can make,” and why defining success as learning beats chasing perfect results. We also tackle outcomism—the trap of judging decisions only by results—and share a simple structure for experiments: a narrow scope, a learning question, and a visible measure of progress. Along the way, we examine risk and responsibility at different life stages, how to set buffers and rollback plans, and when to trade slices of the dream for the whole pie.

If you lead people, this conversation gives you tools to turn ambition into action without burning down stability: micro experiments, honest risk mapping, and strength‑based feedback that lands. If you are navigating your own crossroads, you will learn how to write down your risk threshold, communicate it, and nudge it outward. The payoff is a shift from certainty and ego protection to impact and collective benefit—the kind that lifts teams and careers.

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Starting to Shift with a What If — Holden Galusha's Story

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What if the safest choice isn’t the most honest one? That question frames a candid conversation with science journalist Holden Galusha, who started in programming for stability and found his voice by following curiosity, not clichés. A personal loss forced a new lens—regret minimization—sparking a shift from IT to writing that wasn’t a reckless jump, but a series of smart, low-risk experiments that grew into a career.

We talk about the power of small bets: how an unused company blog and a team of quietly expert technicians became a training ground for interviewing, editorial framing, and content marketing that actually moved the needle. Holden shares how a chance encounter with Lab Manager revealed the world of trade journalism—where technical insight and clear storytelling meet real demand—and why broadening the definition of a dream can dismantle the starving artist myth. Along the way, we examine moving goalposts, imposter syndrome, and the deep satisfaction of creating tangible work that helps people make better decisions.

We also get practical about generative AI. Holden maps the middle ground between hype and rejection, calling for newsroom-level ethics, reader transparency, and evolving policies that protect trust. He explains why human voice and niche expertise still matter, how audiences respond to AI-generated prose, and what writers can do to future-proof their craft. If you’re weighing a career pivot, you’ll leave with a simple playbook: run a risk analysis, test inside your current role, identify the mechanism beneath your passion, and follow the signals that open more than one door.

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You Don’t Need Confidence. You Need Practice

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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The ground will shift—so what do you train for? We dive into resilience you can actually use: the steady, repeatable practice of recovering with intention, not the myth of unbreakable confidence. Sparked by Greg Stephens’ honest story about near-misses and next steps, we explore how leaders build credibility through consistent recovery, not perfect outcomes, and why the quiet choice to pause can change the course of a hard conversation.

We unpack the small moves that make a big difference: micro-pauses that reset your nervous system, ten seconds of silence that invite truth, and curious questions that turn defensiveness into discovery. You’ll learn how to model resilience for your team by letting them see you regroup and reframe, why “confidence” is a shaky goal compared to trained steadiness, and how listening beyond words—tone, posture, what’s not said—reveals what’s really happening in the room. We also talk about discomfort as a growth signal, not a stop sign, and the way courage shows up in the body when the only honest move is forward.

From ownership without blame to repetition over charisma, we map a practical path to durable leadership. You’ll get a simple skill-builder challenge: schedule one avoided conversation, prepare a single opening sentence, hold the silence, and aim to understand rather than to win. Step by step, those reps layer into a leadership shape that bends without breaking, steadies others when pressure climbs, and feels unmistakably yours. If this resonated, tap follow, share it with a colleague who needs it today, and leave a quick review to help more leaders find the show.

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Everything You Create, Promote, or Allow — Greg Stephens' Story

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Some choices don’t arrive with fanfare—they hit like a shove out of the nest. Greg Stephens shares the moment he was on his own at seventeen and the vow that followed: choose the path that honors your gut, then move one step at a time until the dream is real. That commitment led him to Baylor without a safety net, into door-to-door sales to fund tuition, and eventually into a career coaching leaders through their toughest conversations.

We dig into what resilience looks like when the stakes are not theoretical—waiting on a final loan check that lands the day before graduation, navigating slammed doors, and learning to breathe when adrenaline spikes. Greg lays out practical tools leaders can use today: nasal breathing to reset the nervous system, questions that flip the brain from fight-or-flight to problem-solving, and a repeatable process for building trust before addressing hard truths. He distinguishes insight from mastery with a clear message: breakthroughs don’t stick without reps. Like lasagna, real change can’t be rushed.

From family mediations to executive conflicts, Greg explains how to widen your lens beyond the fear-driven A-or-B trap, enlist mentors to see what you can’t, and take total responsibility—everything you create, promote, or allow. We talk about making courageous decisions that shape capacity, turning practice into neural pathways, and carrying these skills from the boardroom to the living room with sensitivity and respect.

If you’re ready to trade quick fixes for durable growth, this conversation offers a grounded playbook for leading with heart under pressure. Listen, take a breath, and choose your next step. If the episode resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who’s standing at their own inflection point.

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From Drifting to Driven: Building Career Ownership and Growth

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Ever feel like your career is steering you instead of the other way around? We dig into the shift from autopilot to agency and unpack how development-minded leadership turns growth into a daily practice rather than a once-a-year form. Drawing on Tammy’s pivot from partnership to solo work, we explore how intentional choices, clear boundaries, and visible value help you build momentum without burning out.

We walk through practical ways to invite aspirations on your team—how to ask for the pitch, set honest expectations, and coach without overpromising. You’ll hear why sponsorship and recognition go far beyond pats on the back, and how to tie “above and beyond” to outcomes leaders actually track. We also share tools to make impact visible in the right rooms, turning quiet execution into credible evidence that earns trust and opens doors.

Real growth isn’t linear. We normalize the long arc, show how foundations beat “overnight success,” and offer a pacing plan that balances ambition with readiness. You’ll get scripts for saying no to misaligned work, tactics for proposing stretch projects you can win, and a simple skill builder that maps energy vs. drain so you can design weeks that compound strengths. By the end, you’ll have a clearer path to lead others and yourself with intention, visibility, and resilience—so when opportunity knocks, you’re not only ready to answer, you’re ready to deliver.

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No More Autopilot: Claim Your Leadership Agency — Tammy Daniels’ Story

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What happens when you finally take control of your career? Tammy Daniels' story reveals how one pivotal decision transformed her professional trajectory and personal understanding.

After years of following the work at established law firms, Tammy found herself at a crossroads. The legal work had become "mundane and perfunctory," leaving her in a state of complacency. When faced with yet another firm transition, she made an unexpected choice: starting her own practice. This decision marked the first time she exercised true agency over her career path.

The journey wasn't straightforward. A brief partnership dissolved after 18 months, leaving Tammy truly solo. Financial uncertainty loomed, and her personal life underwent significant changes as her marriage ended shortly after her career shift. Yet these challenges revealed crucial insights about herself: she could be decisively confident, she needed different types of support than she'd initially recognized, and she possessed the resilience to create her own professional destiny.

Today, as CEO of the Detroit Land Bank, Tammy brings these hard-won lessons to her leadership approach. She emphasizes to her team what experience taught her: "Opportunities come when they see you excel and going above and beyond. They tap you because they see you doing it." She encourages team members to demonstrate excellence rather than waiting for recognition, while creating space for them to articulate their career aspirations.

Tammy's story illuminates the transformative power of taking control of your professional journey. Whether you're contemplating a career pivot or seeking more fulfillment in your current role, her experience offers valuable guidance for navigating uncertainty with confidence and purpose. Listen now to discover how embracing career agency might change everything.

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Layoffs and Job Hugging: Leading Through Uncertainty

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Layoffs shatter our sense of security and challenge our professional identity in profound ways. Whether you've just received the news, survived while colleagues departed, or sense the anxiety of possible workforce reductions, this episode offers crucial guidance for navigating before, during, and after these difficult transitions.

The shock of job loss often comes with confusion about what happened and what it means about your value. Let's be crystal clear: being laid off is fundamentally different from being fired. You didn't do anything wrong—the business made a decision that affected your employment. Understanding this distinction is your first step toward reclaiming your professional confidence.

I share practical advice for the day notification happens, from what to do with separation paperwork to managing your emotional response. But beyond these immediate concerns, I explore how to process the complex emotions that follow—anger, confusion, resentment, and sometimes unexpected relief—so they don't sabotage your next opportunity. The Japanese concept of ikigai offers a framework for reassessing what truly matters in your next career move.

For those still employed but feeling the weight of "survivor's guilt" or practicing "job hugging" out of fear, I offer strategies to maintain professional growth while acknowledging these natural responses. The counterintuitive advice to "always be looking" keeps your interview skills sharp and provides perspective on your current role—sometimes revealing that the grass isn't always greener elsewhere.

Remember that resilience isn't about avoiding loss but preparing for it with strength and clarity. Your employment status may change, but your identity and worth remain constant. How will you transform this challenge into wisdom that shapes not just your next career move, but how you show up as a leader in all aspects of your life?

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Redefining Success After a Layoff — Steve Jaffe’s Story

Tue, 16 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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When the rug is pulled out from under your career, what comes next? Steve Jaffe knows this disorienting experience all too well. After weathering four layoffs across his 25-year marketing career, he's transformed from someone devastated by job loss to someone who "sails right through it like water off a duck's back."

Steve's journey reveals a profound truth about career disruptions: they're detours, not roadblocks. "The layoff experience will change you," he explains, "and it's up to you how it changes you." This perspective shift didn't happen overnight. His first layoff in 2001 left him unemployed for 18 months, wrestling with shame and isolation. By his fourth, he'd developed the resilience, self-care practices, and mindset to navigate the transition with grace.

The biggest revelation? Letting go of the "myth of meritocracy" – the belief that hard work guarantees success. When you understand layoffs as business decisions rather than personal failures, the shame dissolves. This emotional freedom allows you to engage with your network precisely when you need community support most. Steve shares the essential self-care foundations that helped him build resilience: nutritious eating, regular exercise, adequate sleep, limiting alcohol, practicing gratitude, and simple meditation.

What began as Steve's personal journey has evolved into a mission to help others transform career setbacks into opportunities for self-discovery. His book "The Layoff Journey: From Dismissal to Discovery" guides readers through the stages of grief after job loss while offering practical tools for navigating the emotional terrain with dignity and purpose. The ultimate message? This difficult chapter doesn't define your entire story – it simply presents an opportunity to write the next one with greater clarity and intention.

Ready to transform your own career setback into an opportunity for growth? Listen now to discover how you can navigate transitions with resilience and emerge stronger on the other side.

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Breaking Old Scripts: The Courage to Choose Your Own Leadership Story

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What happens when the version of success you've been told to follow no longer fits who you really are? Chris Blount faced this question head-on, making the brave choice to honor his authentic self by leaving behind security for something unknown but true.

Our lives are shaped by countless messages about who we "should" be – from parents, community members, and even strangers. These influences create stories and narratives about our identity that aren't capital-T True but built on the lens of our experiences. Shifting perspective and gaining new insights can reshape these beliefs, transforming how we see ourselves and others.

Leadership transitions don't always require leaving a corporate role. They occur when taking on highly visible projects, being promoted to lead former peers, or facing unexpected reassignments. In these moments, we're forced to ask ourselves what Chris pondered: "Who am I and who do I choose to be?" Strong leaders recognize mental health as foundational to performance, challenge limiting beliefs, and reframe inner narratives. They understand the Johari window – addressing both blind spots (what others know about you that you don't) and the masks we wear (what we know but hide from others).

The mark of resilience isn't avoiding failure but getting back up when knocked down. As Chris shared after his studio was robbed of $10,000 worth of equipment: "I would never have been able to get to this point if I had given up." Leadership demands recovering from setbacks, making tough decisions, and recognizing that while choices always exist, you may not like all the consequences that follow.

Your challenge: Identify one area where you or a team member is out of alignment with core values. Within the next month, make a clear move to change it, even if it is uncomfortable. Remember that leadership isn't defined by others' rules but by how you choose to show up and the changes you make along your journey.

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From Burnout to On Purpose: Rewiring Work & Life — Chris Blount’s Story

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What happens when the blueprint you've been handed for success starts suffocating your soul? Chris Blount's journey offers a compelling answer to this question that many of us face but few dare to confront.

Growing up in a blue-collar New Orleans family, Chris absorbed the message that a man's worth was measured solely by his ability to provide. "You work until you don't. That is everything that you're worth," he recalls being taught. This belief system propelled him through various customer service roles across multiple cities, eventually landing him a stable government position in Tacoma, Washington. On paper, he had achieved the American Dream – steady income, benefits, stability for his family.

But beneath the surface, something was breaking. The disconnect between his work life and his true self grew wider each day. While Chris prioritized happiness over tradition in other aspects of his life, work remained sacred ground where suffering was simply expected. "I did not think about my mental health or happiness," he shares. The toll became unbearable – he wasn't present for his family, couldn't connect with his children, and found himself spiraling into depression.

The watershed moment came after a mental health crisis that nearly cost Chris his life. With his wife's unwavering support, he made the terrifying decision to walk away from security and launch On-Purpose Recordings, a business aligned with his passion for creativity and connection. "Especially after that mental breakdown... I almost lost my life over this. So I think I need to make a bold choice, at least to try. At least to try, because why not?"

His entrepreneurial journey hasn't been smooth – he's faced everything from equipment theft to difficult clients – but the freedom to define success on his own terms has been worth every challenge. "I can enjoy what I want to do, I can get paid for stuff that I like, and that to me is the new American dream – to be able to enjoy life as what it is."

Whether you're questioning your career path or simply feeling the weight of expectations that no longer fit, Chris's story reminds us that sometimes the bravest move is walking away from what no longer serves us. What might be possible if you had the courage to rewrite your own definition of success? Listen now and join the conversation about integrating who you truly are into how you lead your life.

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Instagram: @onpurposerecordings
Website: www.onpurposerecordings.com

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Stop Doing All the Things: Get Recognized for Your True Impact

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Ever found yourself drowning in tasks but wondering why you're not growing as a leader? You might be caught in what I call the "breadth trap" – mistaking busyness for advancement and spreading yourself too thin across responsibilities without developing true expertise.

After my conversation with Shannon King about broken organizational promises, I realized how many of us tie our worth to external validation like job titles or recognition. When these don't materialize as expected, we question our abilities rather than the flawed system. The truth? Your value isn't measured by how many hours you work or tasks you complete – it's about the depth of impact you create.

Leadership growth doesn't come from doing more; it comes from doing the right things with purpose and focus. When you operate in "breadth mode," you become known as a reliable doer rather than a strategic thinker. You might gain temporary recognition for handling everything, but you lose visibility for what truly matters and rob your team of growth opportunities. The alternative is developing depth – mastering specific areas where you create maximum impact and empowering others to share the load.

This episode challenges you to identify where you're currently operating in breadth mode: Which tasks are you doing merely to prove your worth? Where have you become the default person for execution when others could step up? Then define what depth would look like – what specific expertise do you want to be known for? Take one concrete action this week to shift from breadth to depth, from doing to developing.

Remember that leadership isn't about how many tasks you juggle but how deeply you grow into your strengths. When you choose clarity over confusion, honesty over empty promises, and balance over burnout, you show others what authentic leadership truly looks like. Share this episode with someone struggling with the breadth trap and join me next time as we continue exploring how to integrate who you are with how you lead.

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Shannon King's Story: Surviving the Fallout of Broken Corporate Promises

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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The moment Shannon King declined a lateral position after returning from maternity leave, she knew exactly what it meant – unemployment. Yet, she felt completely at peace with her decision. After seven years of building a department from scratch and countless promises of leadership opportunities, the restructuring that happened during her maternity leave revealed a harsh truth: corporate loyalty often flows in only one direction.

Shannon's powerful story explores what happens when we choose ourselves in the face of workplace disappointment. As a digital marketing strategist who had poured her heart into her role, Shannon faced the classic millennial dilemma – working extra hours to prove her worth while watching promised growth opportunities evaporate. When interviewed for a management position while still on maternity leave (a questionable HR practice), she believed her dedication would finally be rewarded. The reality proved otherwise.

What makes Shannon's journey so compelling isn't just her decision to walk away, but how she maintained her dignity throughout the process. "I left with grace," she explains. Despite feeling betrayed, she brought donuts on her last day and gave "flowers to all the people that helped me." This professional approach preserved relationships and references that would serve her future career. More importantly, it reflected her understanding that her worth wasn't defined by a company that failed to value her contributions.

The experience transformed Shannon's approach to work-life balance. Now, she sets clear boundaries from day one with employers, prioritizes time with her family, and understands that her value isn't determined by how many extra hours she works. "Work is something that's going to come and go. Moments and time with family is something that's not," she reflects. Her story reminds us that sometimes the most courageous career move isn't climbing higher on the corporate ladder—it's having the confidence to step off entirely when necessary.

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The Mindset Shift: From Manager to Strategic Leader

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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The leap from technical expert to strategic leader requires more than skill—it demands a shift in mindset.

This episode highlights the subtle but powerful communication shifts that signal executive readiness, and the importance of creating space—for yourself and your team—to focus on what matters most.

For leaders with technical backgrounds, it’s a practical look at what it actually means to “be more strategic,” and how to navigate that transition with clarity and intention.

If you’re feeling the tension between high performance and high impact, this episode offers perspective and tools to help you lead with purpose.

Share this episode with someone navigating their own leadership transition—and remember to integrate who you are with how you lead.

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Aaron Wilkerson's Story: The Mindset Shift That Fueled His Promotion

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode, I reconnect with Aaron Wilkerson, a former client and thoughtful leader whose growth journey offers real insight into what it takes to move from technical expert to strategic leader.

Together, we explore how leadership evolves beyond having the right answers — into building team capacity, developing others, and aligning your work with broader business strategy. Aaron shares what shifted for him during our coaching, how he built the confidence and skills to lead at a higher level, and why he's now focused on multiplying impact rather than going it alone.

His story is an honest look at what leadership growth actually requires — and what it makes possible.

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The Focus Paradox: Do Less, Achieve More - Skill Builder

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Show Notes (199 words):

What’s the difference between staying busy and making meaningful progress? Focused leadership reshapes the way we work—and how we feel about that work.

It’s easy to default to being available, involved, and responsive. But the most impactful leaders aren’t doing more—they’re doing what matters most. With candid insights from my own challenges staying focused, learn practical tools to help you create space for real progress: from using daily “focus filters” to distinguish the essential from the expected, to setting boundaries that protect clarity and energy.

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Namon's Story: Choosing Growth Into HR Over Going with the Flow

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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This episode explores Namon's journey from a decade in sales to a new path in human resources. Blending his creative identity as DJ Blue with a growing passion for people-focused work, Namon shares how formal education became a tool for finding focus and making intentional choices.

With honesty and insight, he reflects on the shift from “going with the flow” to choosing a direction with clarity. This conversation is a thoughtful look at what it means to evolve professionally without abandoning your creative self along the way.

"If I tell myself I'm just going to go with the flow, then I don't have to choose, I don't have to be upset about the choices."

For anyone navigating career transitions, struggling with focus, or working to balance multiple talents, this episode provides both practical insights and permission to forge an authentic path forward. The journey from "going with the flow" to intentional decision-making might be challenging, but as Namon reminds us, "It may be difficult, but it's not impossible."

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Celebrating a Decade of Entrepreneurship: Insights and Evolution

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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In this special anniversary episode, we’re turning the mic around! To mark 10 years of full-time coaching through my business, Focus for Growth, I’m stepping into the guest seat. My friend and podcast producer, Richard Dodds, hosts the conversation as we look back on a decade of coaching, entrepreneurship, and leadership development.

Join us as I share insights from ten years of working with growth-minded leaders, building a purpose-driven business, and growing alongside my clients. We explore what it really takes to sustain a coaching practice, how leadership evolves over time, and the mindset shifts that create the most meaningful impact—for individuals and organizations alike.

Whether you're a coach, a leader, or someone navigating your own growth journey, this episode offers valuable takeaways about clarity, resilience, and redefining success.

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Boundaries for Effective Leadership - Skill Builder

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Leadership isn't just about managing others—it's about managing yourself with intention. Drawing from a powerful conversation with Alan Heyman, this episode dives deep into two critical leadership skills: setting boundaries and creating psychological safety.

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Alan Heymann's Story: Reclaiming Energy Through Professional Reinvention

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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From drowning in meetings to discovering his authentic path, Alan Heyman's journey reveals what happens when we acknowledge the disconnect between career expectations and reality. This transformative conversation pulls back the curtain on what it truly means to recognize when a prestigious role isn't actually the right fit – and finding the courage to make a change.

Whether you're questioning your current role, managing energy as an introvert, or supporting others through transition, this conversation offers both validation and practical strategies for moving toward work that genuinely energizes rather than depletes you. Connect with Alan through the link in our show notes to learn more about finding your own path to alignment.

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Fear Doesn't Have to Run Your Show - Skill Builder

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Let's dig into the powerful distinction between following someone else's blueprint and charting your own authentic path as a leader.

This episode explores how effective leadership begins with managing your internal reactions—especially fear. When emotions rise, it's easy to take things personally or default to defensiveness. But with awareness, leaders can pause, recognize the fear underneath, and choose a more grounded response.

We discuss how the brain instinctively fills gaps with self-protective stories, often reinforcing fear-based patterns. By noticing these habits and shifting perspective, leaders create space for clearer thinking and authentic action. The conversation encourages moving beyond fear-driven decisions and trusting yourself to lead with intention and resilience.

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Toby Adamson's Story: Reimagining Who You Are When Life Forces a New Path

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What happens when you realize you're living a life on remote control? For Toby Adamson, this revelation sparked a transformation.

Her awakening triggered a series of life-altering decisions. After years of solving business problems with technology, she discovered that what truly energized her was helping others develop and grow. Her transformation wasn't just professional but deeply personal.

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Grieving: No Permission Required

Wed, 28 May 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Why You’re Not an Imposter: Rethinking “Fake It Till You Make It”

Tue, 20 May 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Episode Summary

Imposter syndrome shows up when leaders question whether they truly deserve their achievements. But what if those feelings of self-doubt are actually signs of growth? In this episode of Short Story Long, Becky Fraser breaks down the myth of “fake it till you make it” and explains why you’re not faking anything when you’re doing the work.

Becky shares strategies to help leaders reframe imposter thoughts, celebrate achievements, and embrace the messy, uncomfortable process of growth. Instead of dismissing your efforts, this episode will help you see how each step forward builds both capability and confidence.

If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t earn your success or told yourself you were “just faking it,” this conversation will help you shift your perspective and recognize your true strengths as a leader.

Key Points Covered

Why imposter syndrome is a signal of growth, not fraud
The problem with the phrase “fake it till you make it”
How to reframe fear, anxiety, and self-doubt as growth tools
The role of messy action and why imperfection is necessary for learning
How to recognize and celebrate your own strengths and achievements

Takeaways

You’re not faking it if you’re doing the work—impostors deceive, leaders grow.
Fear and discomfort are signs of progress, not inadequacy.
Celebrating your achievements builds confidence and resilience.
Words matter: choose language that reflects your growth, not your doubt.

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Imposter Syndrome, Self-Compassion, and Redefining Success — Kris Liebau's Story

Tue, 13 May 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Episode Summary

Success doesn’t always look the way we expect. Sometimes it’s not the certification, the title, or even the recognition that brings true fulfillment; it’s the journey itself. In this episode of Short Story Long, host Bekitalks with leadership coach and speaker Kris Liebau about the moment she realized external validation wasn’t enough and how self-compassion reshaped her relationship with achievement.

Through Kris’ story, from engineering leader to ski patrol certifications to executive coaching, you’ll hear how imposter syndrome, mindfulness, and the pursuit of “pins” taught her valuable lessons about growth and contentment. This episode is a reminder that leaders don’t need to prove themselves endlessly to feel enough. Instead, fulfillment comes from aligning learning, curiosity, and personal values.

Key Points Covered

Why chasing external validation often leaves leaders unfulfilled
Kris’s journey from engineering and certifications to leadership coaching
The moment she discovered the link between self-compassion and imposter syndrome
How she shifted focus from striving for achievements to embracing the journey
Why leaders need to balance fun, growth, and stress in their pursuits
Practical insights for choosing goals based on fulfillment, not just recognition

Takeaways

True success isn’t about the pin; it’s about the progress you make along the way.
Imposter syndrome thrives when achievement is tied only to external validation.
Mindfulness and self-compassion create resilience for leaders navigating growth.
Reframing goals through curiosity makes the process more rewarding than the outcome.

If Kris’ story resonated with you, make sure to follow Short Story Long on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss an episode on leadership growth. Leave a review to share what insights stood out most, and send this episode to a colleague who’s chasing achievement but needs a reminder to celebrate the journey.

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Brave Conversations: Preparing for Life-Changing Discussions - Skill Builder

Tue, 06 May 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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We've all faced moments when a deeply personal truth demands to be spoken, yet everything inside us screams to stay silent. These brave conversations—whether coming out to loved ones, revealing major life changes, or addressing difficult topics—represent defining moments in our personal and professional lives.

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John Neral's Story: How a Personal Journey Shaped a Career Coach's Approach

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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The journey to authenticity often begins with our most challenging personal moments. In this profound conversation with career coach John Neral, we explore how his experience of coming out to his parents at age 28 shaped not just his personal life but fundamentally transformed his professional approach to leadership and coaching.

Whether you're facing a significant personal transition or navigating complex professional challenges, this conversation offers valuable strategies for approaching difficult conversations with clarity, courage, and humanity. Connect with John on LinkedIn or through his Mid-Career GPS podcast to learn more about his approach to careers and authentic leadership.

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Networking to Build Relationships - Skill Builder

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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We build protective stories around our awkward experiences, convincing ourselves we're simply not cut out for schmoozing in crowded rooms or making small talk with strangers. These narratives serve a purpose – they shield us from discomfort and potential rejection.

What if we're missing out on valuable connections by staying safely on the sidelines? Through practical strategies, you can transform networking from a dreaded obligation into a valuable practice. The next time you feel that networking anxiety creeping in, remember: these are skills you already have, just applied in a new context. And who knows? You might just meet someone who changes the trajectory of your career.

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Scott Fleszar’s Story: From Layoff to First-Time CEO

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode, we explore powerful themes of resilience, reinvention, and the importance of staying connected. Scott Fleszar shares how a sudden career disruption became a catalyst for reflection and transformation. Rather than being defined by circumstance, he embraced change with intention. His story demonstrates how a strong network can open unexpected doors.

Get inspired by Scott’s journey from corporate predictability to entrepreneurial possibility, revealing what it takes to lead through uncertainty. His story highlights the enduring value of relationships, the power of transferable skills, and the courage required to shape your own path. It’s a compelling reminder that leadership isn’t tied to a title, it’s how we respond to change.

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The Mindset Advantage: Mastering Leadership Agility - Skill Builder

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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The journey of leadership often requires us to make choices with incomplete information and limited time.

Drawing from my conversation with Scott Hanton about his career-defining moment when he had to decide between working for an unsuitable leader or stepping into leadership himself, I explore how we can better navigate change and uncertainty. Scott's story highlights a critical truth: most decisions don't permanently close doors. When he chose to take on a leadership role despite lacking experience, he made small adjustments along the way that ultimately led to success.

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Scott Hanton's Story: The Reluctant Leap to Leadership

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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Sometimes in life, we find ourselves at a crossroads that prompts uncomfortable yet exciting changes. In this episode, I speak with Scott Hanton, a seasoned researcher who faced the unexpected decision of transitioning from the world of scientific research to a pivotal leadership role.

As Scott recounts his journey, he paints a vivid picture of what it means to walk away from established paths and how one bold step can reshape your career. From confronting questions around self-identity to navigating the complexities of managing a team, his insights are both candid and relatable. He reveals the valuable lessons learned from mentors and how proactive engagement in continuous learning is essential for effective leadership.

Join us for an insightful discussion that might just inspire your next leadership leap. Don't forget to subscribe, share, and let us know your thoughts!

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How Kindness Shapes Workplace Dynamics - Skill Builder

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 07:00:00 -0400

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Explore the transformative power of kindness in leadership in this inspiring episode. Through real-world examples, I highlight how compassion and thoughtful communication strengthen relationships and create a more supportive team environment. Small, intentional acts of kindness can have a profound impact, fostering collaboration and trust within any organization.

Great leadership goes beyond directing tasks—it’s about empowering individuals to grow and succeed. This episode encourages leaders to cultivate a culture of respect and empathy, creating an environment where everyone thrives.

Tune in for practical insights on leading with kindness and redefining leadership through connection and care.

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Anthony Marzilli's Story: Chasing Passion, Finding Balance Through Entrepreneurship

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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What drives someone to leave a stable career with Detroit's top sports franchises and dive into the uncertain world of entrepreneurship? Anthony Marzilli, a seasoned video and motion graphics editor, shares his journey of chasing passion and balance. He opens up about the pivotal moments that led him to prioritize family over a demanding job, offering a personal glimpse into the struggle between professional success and personal contentment.

As Anthony reflects on his career path, he candidly discusses reaching his limits and the toll it took on relationships he valued. He emphasizes the crucial lesson of understanding boundaries in a high-pressure environment and the importance of maintaining strong bonds with colleagues despite the challenges.

Anthony highlights the critical role of a supportive network, the emotional rollercoaster of balancing business with personal life, and the freedom found in choosing collaborators who align with one's values. =

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The Power of Choosing Your Own Career Path - Skill Builder

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode of Short Story Long, we explore the power of owning your career choices and breaking free from traditional corporate paths. Reflecting on Theresa’s inspiring journey from HR to sustainability, we discuss the emotional and practical aspects of redefining success on your own terms. Learn how to navigate uncertainty, build a strong support network, and turn failures into growth opportunities. Whether you're feeling stuck or seeking purpose, this episode offers actionable strategies to help you embrace change and pursue a more fulfilling career. Tune in and start transforming your work-life today!

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Theresa’s Story: Her Career Transition to Sustainability

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0500

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What happens when a seasoned HR professional decides to pivot her career path entirely? Join us as we uncover Theresa's remarkable journey from a successful 25-year career in human resources to a burgeoning role in sustainability. Theresa shares the pivotal moments that urged her to take this leap of faith,

Theresa’s story shines a light on the importance of being open to new challenges, learning from mistakes, and the courage it takes to redefine one's career path even after decades of success.

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Season 2 Trailer

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 14:00:00 -0500

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In this new season, host Beki Fraser goes beyond her own journey to explore the defining moments that shape careers and leadership. Each episode features conversations with leaders, entrepreneurs, and professionals who have navigated pivotal decisions—embracing change, overcoming fear, and leading with authenticity.

💡 What does it take to recognize when it’s time for a change?
💡 How can you integrate who you are into how you lead?
💡 What happens when you finally step into your next big move?

Join Beki as she uncovers these powerful stories and the lessons they hold.

📅 Season 2 launches March 4—available wherever you listen to podcasts!

Produced by Crowned Culture Media.

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Short Story Long Season 1 Bonus Episode

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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In this bonus episode, Richard Dodds -- my producer and friend -- joins me to celebrate the end of our first season and the exciting path ahead. We reflect on the pivotal moments that shaped this journey, from overcoming initial challenges to embracing the art of storytelling. Richard's encouragement and collaboration were key in transforming an initial concept into an engaging podcast.

Listen as we share our journey and invite you to play a part in Season 2, either by sharing your stories or applying to be our guest. It's all about creating a safe, engaging space where stories come alive. Connect with us on LinkedIn and be part of our journey—your stories could inspire our next episode!

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From Self-Doubt to Self-Empowerment: The Journey into Entrepreneurship

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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What if the key to unlocking your true potential lies in unraveling the complex web of self-perception? Join me, Beki Fraser, as I share my candid and transformative journey from self-doubt to self-discovery. You'll hear about the challenges I faced, the breakthroughs I experienced, and how confronting my own beliefs became a catalyst for growth and adaptability.

Throughout this episode, I delve into the core values that shape my coaching philosophy. These values not only guide my practice but also enable my clients to discover and embrace their unique leadership styles. Tune in to discover how these principles have not only shaped my coaching journey but continue to inspire transformative change for those I coach.

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Navigating Life's Curveballs: Resilience in Personal and Professional Storms (Novella)

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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What happens when you're caught in the crossfire of life's curveballs, wearing multiple hats and juggling personal turmoil with professional duties? Join me, Beki Fraser, on Short Story Long as I peel back the layers of resilience needed to navigate stormy waters. These stories are not just tales of endurance but of learning when to draw the line, building strong boundaries, and practicing self-care in the eye of the storm.

In this episode, I explore how to stay informed without being overwhelmed and share strategies for maintaining agency even when the world feels out of control. Listen for insights on taking that crucial first step when facing the worst-case scenario.

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The Caregiver's Balancing Act: Love, Guilt, and Growth

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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Join me, Beki Fraser, as I share my journey through the ups and downs of caring for aging parents from afar. As I navigate the emotional landscape of guilt and love, you'll learn how family bonds can stretch across miles, and how respecting a parent's independence becomes a delicate balance.

Along the journey of illness and loss, the importance of empathy and dignity became evident to me. This episode offers a heartfelt look at balancing personal and professional demands, providing a roadmap for those navigating familial responsibilities alongside career aspirations.

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From Advertising Exec to Entrepreneur: Jason's Journey of Resilience and Change (Novella)

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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Ever wondered how a successful advertising executive could end up molding young minds and running his own business? Join me, Beki Fraser, as I share my friend's story. Jason's life took unexpected turns that shaped him into the resilient entrepreneur he is today. With each challenge, he took them head-on and found the courage to re-evaluate his path.

You'll hear how Jason’s journey is all about embracing change, learning from setbacks, and finding his true calling outside the conventional 9-to-5. His story is a testament to the power of accountability and resilience. Jason’s path offers valuable insights into structuring a life that truly aligns with one's goals. Tune in to explore the lessons from Jason’s life and perhaps find inspiration for your own journey.

Which of your inflection points have prompted you to make professional changes or experience personal growth?

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Redefining Success: A Courageous Shift from HR to Coaching

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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Leaving the familiar shores of HR, I embarked on a transformative journey into the world of entrepreneurship. In this episode, I recount my personal story of recognizing my old role was no longer inspiring to me and the awakening call of coaching. This journey was full of challenges and rewards, and it highlights the importance of listening to one's inner voice and courageously stepping into untested waters.

Leading authentically is not just a concept—it's a profound transformation from performing to being. By sharing my story, I highlight the decision-making process for and the empowerment that comes from embracing one's true self. It's about moving beyond the expectations of others and finding a unique path that is true to you.

I invite you to connect with me to continue this conversation and encourage you to share these insights with those who might benefit. Remember, your journey to authenticity is unique, and the rewards are deeply empowering.

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Choosing Change: When Staying Safe No Longer Feels Right (Novella)

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

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What if stepping away from your current professional life could reveal the truth about who you are? Join Beki Fraser as she recounts her transformative journey post-Argentina and the somewhat unexpected challenges she faced upon returning to the U.S. Beki takes us through the pivotal moments that led her to reassess her career choices. She'd spent enough time in the gray zone and repositioned for new opportunities aligned with her strengths and passions.

Listen to Beki as she navigates the complexities of commitment and adaptability, sharing her experience with a misaligned HR role and the balance found in a coach training program. This introspective journey is filled with valuable insights about self-awareness, the importance of purpose, and the courage to embrace who you truly are. If you're at a career crossroads or looking for inspiration, this episode offers a deeply personal and encouraging narrative that highlights the power of adaptability and self-discovery.

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Argentina Bound: Leaping into Growth and Embracing Support

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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Feeling stuck and unfulfilled in your career? This episode will help you see dissatisfaction as a catalyst for profound transformation. Join me, Beki Fraser, as I recount a pivotal moment in my HR career when I was feeling low, only to find an unexpected opportunity that changed everything. Discover how boldly taking an international assignment taught me the power of recognizing new opportunities and trusting yourself while leaning into the support of loved ones.

In this episode, I unpack the concept of dissatisfaction as a valuable signal for growth. By identifying core values and priorities, we can bridge the gap between what we cherish and our current realities. This clarity empowers us to embrace change courageously and cherish our support networks. I'll share my journey of moving beyond HR to explore new professional paths, and offer actionable insights for your own leadership and personal development. If this resonates with you, don't keep it to yourself—share it with those who might also benefit from stepping into their fullest potential.

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Hitting the Wall: Burnout and Change Fatigue are Real (Novella)

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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Navigating constant career changes and organizational upheavals can feel like an endless roller coaster. Have you ever found yourself in a position where your role changes constantly and you find yourself on the brink of burnout?

Join Beki Fraser as she shares her personal journey through these challenges and the pivotal moments that forced her to reassess her priorities. Beki recounts the stress of navigating continuous restructures, soul-crushing layoff conversations, and a heavy travel schedule, which all contributed to her realization of the importance of tuning into oneself and setting boundaries.

In this latest episode, learn valuable insights about self-leadership, personal growth, and the critical decision points that helped Beki regain some of her agency in the workplace. Discover how listening to your body and heart can guide you in making choices that fight off burnout. Whether you're facing career changes or seeking to find joy in your work, this story offers takeaways for anyone on a journey towards fulfilled potential.

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com

Move for Love: Finding Love in Unexpected Places

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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Can love truly strike in the most unexpected places? Join us as we share the whimsical and heartwarming tale of how an unplanned encounter led to a night of meaningful conversations and a revoked wedding invitation. Beki Fraser recounts this serendipitous beginning that ultimately blossomed into a deep and enduring connection with her husband. This episode celebrates the beautiful unpredictability of love and underscores the courage it takes to embrace life's uncertainties.

Journey with us as we revisit where it all started and reflect on the key elements that have sustained our relationship through the years. Learn how flexibility and a willingness to pivot can be crucial in navigating life's choices. Don't miss the invitation to connect on LinkedIn for further discussions and shared experiences that could inspire your own journey.

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com

Navigating Turbulence: Embracing Change in Uncertain Times (Novella)

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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Fresh out of Yale and bursting with ambition, I thought I had it figured out. Nothing prepares you for the real world quite like being thrown into the deep end. In my early career, I faced a whirlwind of changes that forced me to question everything I thought I knew about leadership and resilience.

Join me, Beki Fraser, as I recount the turbulent start of my journey in the HR world, and the critical moments that shaped my path toward becoming an award-winning coach, author, and entrepreneur.

Ever had to make a decision when you're in way over your head? Learn from my experiences about the importance of following protocols, knowing when to stay the course, and recognizing when you're truly out of your depth. Whether you're just starting out or are a seasoned professional, this episode offers insights into adaptable leadership and embracing growth opportunities amidst uncertainty.

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Farm Girl Goes to Yale: Life-Altering Choices and New Beginnings

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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It's stunning how a single decision can change the trajectory of your life. Join me, Beki Fraser, as I share my journey from small-town Wisconsin girl to Yale University grad student. I chose to flip my life pretty dramatically to make that happen. Why would I do that? Sometimes, taking risks and planning flexibly can open doors you never knew existed. Learn about the struggles I faced and how this unexpected opportunity transformed my professional path.

Attending Yale was just the beginning; the real transformation came from shedding rigid self-labels and embracing leadership on my own terms. Drawing from my book, "C.O.A.C.H. Y.O.U. The Introverted Skeptic's Guide to Leadership," I offer valuable insights into authentic leadership and the freedom of creating your own path. If you find value in these stories and lessons, consider sharing this episode with someone who might benefit and connect with me on LinkedIn.

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com

Staging a Coup: The Power of Perspective in Professional Growth (Novella)

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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Ever accidentally sent an email to the wrong person and felt your heart drop into your stomach? Well, so have I! Join me, Beki Fraser, as I walk you through some of my most memorable missteps in the world of office politics and communication blunders. From an unintended, face-palming email to an unexpected accusation of staging a coup, I share these tales not just for the laughs, but for the invaluable lessons they offer about understanding office dynamics and the unpredictable consequences of our actions. Learn how these experiences taught me the crucial importance of feedback and being aware of workplace relationships.

I take a thoughtful look at the significance of maintaining a forward-looking perspective in both life and work. I reveal how shifting my attention slightly forward led to profound growth and positive changes in my life. Hopefully my journey inspires you and I encourage you to apply these insights to your own path. You are invited to share this episode with someone else who might benefit. Learn more about me by connecting on LinkedIn using the link in the show notes!

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com

Breaking the Mold: How Stepping Off the Shore Changed My Life

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0400

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In this episode of Short Story Long, host Beki Fraser delves into the pivotal moments that shaped her journey toward independence and financial freedom. Beki candidly shares her transition from a small-town high school student to a university graduate, emphasizing the courage it took to leave familiar shores in search of new horizons. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she highlights the importance of embracing challenges, learning from diverse experiences, and recognizing the broader benefits of higher education beyond academics.

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com

Short Story Long Trailer

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0400

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Learn more about her coaching: TheIntrovertedSkeptic.com