The Relationship Recovery Podcast

When Love Feels Heavy: How to Find Clarity When You’re Torn Between Staying and Leaving

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 10:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to Season 5 of The Relationship Recovery Podcast! After a much-needed break, we’re returning with clarity, intention, and deeper support for anyone feeling stuck in relationship limbo.

In this episode, we explore what it really means when love feels heavy and why finding clarity about whether to stay or go can feel impossible. We break down the trauma responses that keep you looping, the four patterns that show up when you're torn, and how to reconnect with your inner voice so you can make empowered decisions—without pressure or panic.

If you’ve been feeling confused, depleted, or unsure about your relationship, this episode is for you.

In this episode:

Why clarity often feels impossible during relationship overwhelm
The four common patterns: the Guilt Keeper, Overthinker, Trauma Loyalist & Hope Holder
How trauma cycles and emotional highs/lows keep you stuck
Why limbo is exhausting—and how to step out of it
How to return to yourself and rebuild self-trust
Resources to help you find clarity:
Take the the free quiz
The Should I Stay or Should I Go? course
1:1 coaching

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Email: hello@therelationshiprecovery.com

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery

Ready to build a stronger, more connected relationship? The Relationship Recovery offers coaching for individuals and couples. Book your discovery call today. Use code PODCAST for 50% off. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching.

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Blending Families & Building Stronger Connections: The Power of Non-Negotiables

Thu, 15 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss the real challenges and joys of blending families and navigating new relationship dynamics. They emphasize that while merging lives is complex, intentional work can create strong, loving connections. This episode introduces a practical "Non-Negotiables & Negotiables" exercise to help couples clarify individual and family needs, improve communication, and build a foundation where everyone feels love, safety, and belonging. Whether you're newly blending or looking to enhance an existing relationship, this framework offers a tangible starting point.

Key Points Covered:

Realities of Blending Families: Addressing the complexities of merging different personalities, parenting styles, and individual traumas.

The "Non-Negotiables & Negotiables" Exercise: A tool for couples to identify core needs (as individuals and parents) and areas for compromise.

Importance of Clarity: Avoiding assumptions by being specific about what each partner needs and expects.

Intentional Communication: Stressing that healthy relationships require ongoing, intentional effort.

Practical Application: Steps to implement the exercise, even if one partner is initially hesitant.

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Fueling Your Healing Journey - Simple Morning Routines for Energy After a Breakup

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 13:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany tackle a crucial, often overlooked aspect of healing after a breakup or divorce: having the energy to actually do the healing work. They discuss how emotional depletion can lead to setbacks (like reaching out to an ex or getting stuck) and emphasize the importance of simple, intentional morning routines to refuel your energy reserves.

Using a marathon analogy, they explain why preparing for your day is vital for navigating the challenges of healing and offer practical, easy-to-implement ideas to boost energy and support your journey without adding pressure or overwhelm.

Key Points Covered:

The Energy Requirement for Healing: Understanding that healing isn't passive; it requires active energy, which is often depleted after relationship turmoil.

Avoiding Depletion & Setbacks: How low energy can lead to poor decisions, reaching back to unhealthy patterns, or feeling too overwhelmed to heal.

Focus on Simplicity & Consistency: Stressing that morning routines don't need to be complex, long, or "Instagram-worthy." Small, consistent actions are key.

Practical Morning Routine Ideas:

Don't Grab Your Phone First
Intentional Breathing
Gratitude Practice
Short Guided Meditation
Ground Your Feet
Hydrate
Simple Movement
Starting Small
The Power of Intentionality

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Morning Routine Resource/PDF: https://www.canva.com/design/DAE9JLvqzbA/eWiiLRD8YNlQs1DIiMyqcg/edit

Ready to break free from toxic relationship patterns and finally reclaim your life? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we are dedicated to guiding you from surviving to thriving, building the foundation and energy needed for deep healing. Book your discovery call today and let's create a plan for your healing and personal growth. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching to learn more.

Why Dating After a Toxic Relationship Feels Impossible (And How to Heal)

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 14:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the complexities and difficulties of dating after experiencing an unhealthy or toxic relationship. They validate the common struggles listeners face, explaining why re-entering the dating world can feel incredibly hard and offering practical tools to navigate this journey with more safety and self-awareness. They emphasize that healing is possible and provide actionable steps to move from just surviving past hurts to thriving in future connections.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Why Dating Feels Hard: Exploring the deep emotional layers and nervous system responses that complicate dating after relationship turmoil.

Lack of Self-Trust: the common issue of self-doubt and fear of repeating past mistakes after betrayal or manipulation.

Emotional Connection to the Past & Trauma Bonds: how lingering trauma bonds and emotional ties can draw you back to familiar (even unhealthy) patterns or make it hard to connect authentically. (References their episode on Trauma Bonds).

Tool: Creating Internal Safety: The importance of regulating your nervous system before dating through techniques like deep breathing and affirmations.

Tool: Shift from Performance to Observation: Moving focus from "Do they like me?" to "How do I feel around them?" to increase self-awareness and reduce people-pleasing.

Tool: Red & Green Flag Lists: Using lists based on past experiences and future desires to gain clarity and stay anchored to your needs and boundaries.

Tool: Micro-Steps & Building Tolerance: Starting small with dating actions to gradually build comfort and avoid overwhelm.

The Importance of Support: Highlighting the role of a supportive community and safe connections in the healing process.

Challenge for the Week: Practical steps listeners can take immediately, including creating red/green flag lists, reconnecting to self-worth, and taking a small dating step if ready.

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Affirmation of The Week:

"Despite the hurt I've endured, I choose to keep my heart soft. I embrace letting my painful experiences teach and guide me, not harden me."

Ready to heal from past relationship trauma and confidently step back into dating? The Relationship Recovery can help. As trauma-informed coaches, we specialize in guiding individuals like you from the pain of toxic relationships to empowered, healthy connections—starting with the one you have with yourself. Book your discovery call today to explore how we can support your healing journey. Use code PODCAST for 50% off your call. Visit

Triggered! Understanding Common Relationship Triggers & How to Handle Them

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss common triggers in relationships, emphasizing that everyone experiences triggers and offering insight to help listeners understand what they are experiencing. They stress the importance of not shaming yourself and highlight the significance of recognizing triggers, which often stem from past experiences and unresolved trauma. They share real-life examples and practical tools for navigating triggers to improve relationships.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Triggers
Common Triggers (abandonment, criticism, control, rejection, trust, and betrayal)
Recognizing Triggers in Yourself and your Partner
Practical Ways to Regulate your Nervous System
The Importance of Communication and Seeking Support

Connect With The Relationship Recovery:

Website: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Email: hello@therelationshiprecovery.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymD

Affirmation of The Week:

"Today I choose not to let the hurts of my past keep me from living fully in the present. I deserve warmth, joy, and peace."

How To Get Unstuck, Leave Limbo Behind and Finally Move Foward

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 14:00:00 -0400

Feeling stuck in limbo can be one of the hardest and most frustrating experiences. Whether you’re caught in a toxic relationship, struggling with self-doubt, or unsure of your next steps, that paralyzing sense of uncertainty can make even small decisions feel impossible.

We’ve been there. We know how heavy it feels when past choices haunt you, making it hard to trust yourself to make better ones. And if you’ve experienced the trauma of an abusive relationship, getting unstuck isn’t as simple as just "deciding" to move forward—it takes intentional work, self-awareness, and the right tools.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down what keeps you stuck and sharing a powerful technique to help you take the first step toward freedom. You’ll learn how to recognize your body’s warning signals, use small but effective strategies to shift your mindset, and start reclaiming your confidence—one step at a time.

Key Takeaways:

✔️ Understanding the Stuck Cycle – Why we sometimes choose to stay in limbo to protect ourselves from the unknown.
✔️ The Power of Awareness – How paying attention to your body's early warning signals can help break the cycle.
✔️ The 90-Second Distraction Rule – Simple, science-backed techniques to ground yourself before overwhelm takes over.
✔️ Why Baby Steps Matter – The importance of small, intentional actions in regaining control and confidence.

If you’re feeling trapped, know that you can break free. Tune in to learn how to take that first small, yet powerful, step toward clarity and healing.

Get the Support You Need:

📚 10 Books to Support Your Healing: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
💡 Should I Stay or Should I Go? : www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

Connect With Us:

🌐 Website: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
📩 Email: hello@therelationshiprecovery.com
📲 Instagram: @therelationshiprecovery

You're not alone in this. If you're ready to break free from the cycle of feeling stuck and start creating the life you deserve, let’s take this first step together.

Should I Stay or Should I Go? 4 Steps to Finding Clarity in Your Relationship

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 13:00:00 -0500

Are you questioning your relationship? Wondering if you should stay or walk away? This is one of the most common questions we receive at The Relationship Recovery. In today’s episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany are diving deep into how to assess your relationship with clarity, whether you’re noticing red flags, feeling stuck in a toxic cycle, or simply wanting to improve your connection.

They break down four key steps that will help you tune into your intuition, evaluate your relationship dynamics, and determine your next steps with confidence. Whether you’re still in the relationship or already out and seeking validation, this episode is packed with insights to guide your journey.

Key Points Covered:

✔️ Listening to Your Intuition: If something feels off, trust that feeling and start paying attention to your energy and emotions around your partner.
✔️ Journaling for Clarity: Write down your thoughts, patterns, and feelings—seeing it on paper can bring major insights.
✔️ Assessing Actions vs. Words: Is your partner following through? Are you making excuses for their behavior?
✔️ Tracking Relationship Patterns: Try marking your calendar with “good” and “bad” days to get a clear visual of your relationship trends.

If you’re feeling uncertain, this episode will help you gain clarity and take the first step toward healing—whether that means staying, setting boundaries, or preparing to leave.

Want more guidance?

➡️ Enroll in our Should I Stay or Should I Go Course for deeper insights: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

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Spotting Red Flags in Relationships: What to Look For and When to Walk Away

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery, Kierstyn and Tiffany are diving into the warning signs you shouldn’t ignore in relationships. From emotional manipulation and insecurity to lack of communication and controlling behavior, we’re breaking down the biggest red flags that signal unhealthy dynamics. Whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or reflecting on past experiences, this episode will help you recognize toxic patterns, trust your intuition, and set healthy boundaries to protect your peace.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Red Flags in Relationships

Lack of Communication

Irresponsibility and Immaturity

Lack of Trust

Family and Friends' Opinions

Controlling Behavior

Insecurity in Relationships

Dark or Secretive Past

Abusive Behavior

Special Offer: 50% off the Discovery call, use coupon code PODCAST at checkout.https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

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Finding Confidence After Being Cheated On

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0500

In this episode Kierstyn and Tiffany tackle the difficult topic of finding your confidence after being cheated on. They acknowledge the hurt, confusion, and self-doubt that betrayal brings and offer practical steps to rebuild self-worth, set boundaries, and move toward healthier relationships.

Key Points Covered:

Emotional Impact of Infidelity
Untangling Identity
Refocusing on Yourself
Addressing Worth Issues
Setting Boundaries
Reframing "I'm Not Enough"
Rebuilding Trust in Yourself and Others

Listener Q&A:

How to start rebuilding confidence
How to stop comparing yourself to the person they cheated with
How to trust again

Affirmation of the Week:

"I'm not responsible for the actions and behaviors of another person. I'm accountable for my own actions and behaviors and for my healing and for healing myself."

Special Offer: 50% off the Discovery call, use coupon code PODCAST at checkout.https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

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Affirmation of The Week: "I embrace the opportunity to heal the relationship I have with myself so that I may have healthy relationships with others."

I’m Dealing With Relationship Trauma, Is Coaching Right For Me?

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery we discuss the ins and outs of coaching as a modality for healing from relationship trauma. We break down what coaching is, who it's for, the differences between coaching and therapy, and how you can work with us.

Key Points Covered in this Episode:

What is Coaching?
The Importance of Finding the Right Coach
Coaching vs. Therapy
Who Is Coaching For?
Changing the relationships you have with yourself
Trauma-Informed Coaching
What is Coaching at The Relationship Recovery Like?
Signs Coaching Might Be Right for You

Special Offer: 50% off the Discovery call, use coupon code PODCAST at checkout.https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

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Affirmation of The Week: "I embrace the opportunity to heal the relationship I have with myself so that I may have healthy relationships with others."

Relationship Trauma, Triggers & Triumph: An Interview with Frankie and Jess on Healing & Self-Discovery

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0500

In this special episode, Tiffany and Kierstyn turn the tables and get interviewed by their friends Frankie and Jess. Join us as we delve into a powerful conversation exploring relationship trauma, triggers, and the path to healing.

Key Points:

Behind the Hiatus: Learn about the break from the podcast and social media and how it benefited their mental health.

Trauma & Triggers: Understand how past traumas manifest in relationships and learn strategies for managing triggers.

The “Let Them” Theory: why it’s critical to separate your reaction from other people’s choices.

Why boundaries are key to healthy relationships: How to establish and maintain healthy boundaries?

A big thank you to Frankie and Jess for having us on their show and being willing to share this episode with our Relationship Recovery audience!

Resources and Links:

Frankie and Jess Podcast: If you haven't listened to Frankie and Jess, subscribe to their podcast!

Book a Discovery Call: Begin your healing journey with personalized support from Tiffany and Kiersten: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Breakup Book of Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to support you: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 and https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748)

"It's Okay Not to Be Okay" by Megan Devine (https://www.amazon.com/Its-Okay-Not-Be-Okay/dp/1622039076)

I Want to Trust You But I Don't by Lisa Turkurst (https://www.amazon.com/Want-Trust-You-But-Dont/dp/0718097972)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233, https://www.thehotline.org/

Utah Domestic Violence Coalition: 1-800-897-LINK (5465), https://udvc.org/

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Finding Joy in a Difficult Season (Exclusive On Demand Class Sneak Peak)

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0500

This episode is going to be a little bit different and really special. We're giving you an exclusive sneak peek into our five hour on demand class called Finding Joy in a Difficult Season.

This episode is from Kirsten's talk that she did called Experiencing Joy Despite the Chaos. In this class, we focus on practical tools to help you not just survive but thrive even in challenging seasons.

Get ready to reclaim the holidays and make them a time of joy and connection!

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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How Boundaries Can Help You Prioritize Your Peace and Well Being During The Holidays

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we’re diving into the unique challenges of navigating the holiday season while prioritizing your peace and well-being. For those recovering from toxic relationships or managing tricky family dynamics, the holidays can feel more stressful than joyful. We’re here to share actionable tips for setting and holding boundaries, helping you create a season filled with meaningful connection—on your terms.

Tune in to learn why boundaries are an act of self-love and how they can protect your emotional energy during this bustling time of year.

Key Points Covered:

The Power of Boundaries: Why they’re essential during the holidays, especially for those recovering from toxic relationships.
The Yes/No Balance: How saying no strategically increases the value and authenticity of your yes.
Setting a Holiday Intention: Start the season with a clear affirmation to prioritize your peace and well-being.
Identifying Non-Negotiables: Reflect on what truly matters to you this holiday season to stay grounded.
Actionable Strategies: Tips to handle nosy relatives, avoid overextending yourself, and protect your mental health.

Get ready to reclaim the holidays and make them a time of joy and connection!

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

Dealing with a Narcissist During the Holidays: Expert Strategies for a Joyful Season

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0500

We’re diving into a topic that can add extra stress to an already busy time of year—Dealing with a Narcissist During The Holidays. Whether it’s grandiose gestures meant to steal the spotlight or covert manipulation that drains your energy, navigating the holidays with someone exhibiting narcissistic tendencies can feel overwhelming.

In this episode we’ll explore the two key types of narcissistic behaviors—grandiose and covert—sharing insights, personal experiences, and practical strategies to help you preserve your peace and joy this holiday season.

Key Points Covered

Holiday Narcissistic Dynamics
Types of Narcissistic Behaviors:
Grandiose Narcissism
Vulnerable/Covert Narcissism
How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Energy
Detach with Love:
Focus on Joy

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

Navigating Co-Parenting During the Holidays: Strategies for a Joyful Season

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

The holiday season can be magical, but for co-parents, it often comes with unique challenges. From missed moments with your kids to the emotional tug-of-war that holidays can bring, this time of year can feel overwhelming. In today’s episode, we’re sharing practical tips to help you create a meaningful holiday season—even if it looks different from what you envisioned—and navigate high-conflict co-parenting with grace and clarity.

Key Points Covered

Reframing Holiday Traditions
Holding Space for Emotions
Communication in High-Conflict Co-Parenting
Sticking to the Parenting Plan
Focus on What You Can Control
Blended Family Dynamics

HELP THROUGH THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Holiday Survival Guide

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

How Divorce Affects Kids: Addressing Parental Fears and Supporting Your Children

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Kids and Divorce. In this episode we dive into one of the most common fears parents face when navigating divorce: how it will affect their children. In this episode, we break it all down. From dispelling common myths about divorce and children, to understanding the impact of high-conflict environments versus peaceful separation, we explore how divorce doesn’t always mean a negative outcome for kids.
We also touch on the healing process and provide practical strategies for supporting your children through this transition. Whether you’re currently navigating a divorce or helping someone who is, this episode offers a compassionate, research-backed approach to protecting your child’s emotional well-being.

Key Points Covered:

Myths About Divorce and Kids
The Impact of Conflict vs. Separation
Supporting Your Child Emotionally
Building a Strong Parent-Child Relationship
The Healing Process for Parents and Kids
Co-Parenting Tips for Future Episodes

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

Why Do I Keep Going Back to My Ex? Understanding the Pull of Past-Relationships

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500

Why do people go back to their exes, even in toxic or abusive relationships? In this episode we break it all down. From the science of trauma bonds, which can create addiction-like patterns in the brain, making it incredibly challenging to walk away to fear of being alone and more. This episode is a safe space to release shame, gain understanding, and provide support for listeners who may be grappling with the decision to leave. We also offer insights for friends and family on how to be supportive without judgment, creating a compassionate path forward for everyone involved.

Key Points Covered:

Patterned Behavior and Generational Cycles
Trauma Bonds and Toxic Relationships
Personal Story of an Abusive Relationship
Cultural and Generational Influence
Cycle of Abuse and Difficulty in Leaving
Breaking the Cycle of Trauma Bonds
Strategies for Overcoming Toxic Relationship Patterns
Living Beyond the Relationship

GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY CIRCLE!!

Links to Our Favorite Things Right Here!

Attachment Styles, Breakups, and Embracing Independence: A Listener Q&A

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to the Relationship Recovery Podcast! In today’s episode, we’re diving into questions from our listeners on attachment styles and healing post-breakup. We explore the idea that sometimes, even in relationships, we can feel alone—and how taking time to truly be on our own can be a crucial step toward healing. If you’ve recently gone through a breakup or are curious about attachment styles and independence, this episode is for you. We discuss why time alone is not just okay—it’s actually a powerful part of recovery. So let’s get into your questions and uncover some strategies to find strength, peace, and growth after heartbreak.

Key Points Covered:

Understanding Attachment Styles: We’ll explore secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles and how they impact your relationships.
Identifying Your Own Style: Practical tips to help you recognize your attachment style and understand how it shapes your feelings and actions.
Managing Different Styles in Relationships: Tools for creating understanding and open communication when attachment styles differ.
Working Toward a Secure Attachment: Strategies for building a more grounded and confident approach to relationships.
Domestic Violence and Attachment: The impact of domestic violence on attachment and support resources, including the Dear Utah movement and Fight Against Domestic Violence.
Moving Forward with Confidence: Encouragement and practical steps to help you create healthier, more fulfilling connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Follow us:
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From Anxious to Secure: How Attachment Styles Shape Your Relationships

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Ever wonder why you’re drawn to certain relationship dynamics or how to move beyond patterns that just aren’t working? This episode is all about the powerful impact of attachment styles—your unique relationship blueprint that can shape everything from friendships to romantic connections. By understanding your attachment style, you can unlock insights to foster stronger, healthier bonds. Let’s explore this transformative path together!

Key Points Covered:

Attachment Style Basics: We break down the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant—explaining how each one influences your approach to relationships.
Why It Matters: Discover why these patterns often stem from early experiences and how they might be affecting your current relationships.
Moving Toward Secure Attachment: We’ll share practical strategies to shift towards a more secure attachment style, building the foundation for deeper, more fulfilling connections.

Why me? Subconscious Patterns That Keep Us in the Toxic Relationship Cycle

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the subconscious patterns that often trap individuals in toxic relationships.

They identify four key patterns:

1. Low self-esteem, where individuals may accept mistreatment due to undervaluing themselves
2. Unhealthy relationship dynamics learned in childhood, which make toxic behavior feel familiar
3. Hope and denial, where individuals hold on to the hope of change or deny the severity of the issues
4. Fear of being alone, which can prevent individuals from leaving harmful relationships.

By shedding light on these patterns, Kierstyn and Tiffany aim to empower listeners to break free from toxic relationships and foster healthier connections.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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How to Leave Someone with Narcissistic Tendencies

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 20:06:42 -0400

Leaving a relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic behaviors can be extremely difficult and emotionally draining. In this episode, Tiffany and Kierstyn provide guidance on how to safely and successfully exit such a toxic situation. They discuss the steps to take before, during, and after the separation process.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org /

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Powerful Affirmations to Empower Your Healing

Mon, 20 May 2024 11:10:35 -0400

Sometimes, moving on from a breakup feels impossible. But guess what? You're stronger than you think! In this special bonus episode, we're diving into more of our very own "Breakup Book of Affirmations" to share our favorite words of encouragement. These affirmations are specifically designed to help you heal that broken heart, let go, and step boldly into your bright future. Let's find the perfect affirmations to empower your journey!

Key Points Covered:
Why affirmations matter: We'll discuss how affirmations can rewire your brain for positive thinking and self-love after a breakup.
Powerful picks: We'll read out some of our most impactful affirmations from the book, explaining why each one is so valuable during the healing process.
How to use them: We'll offer insider tips on how to make affirmations a powerful part of your daily routine.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:
https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:
https://thebreakuprecovery.com/

Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

National Domestic Violence Hotline:
800-799-7233
https://www.thehotline.org/

Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:
1-800-897-LINK (5465)
https://udvc.org/

Follow us:
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Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

Is It Narcissistic Abuse? How to Know

Tue, 14 May 2024 01:35:39 -0400

Kierstyn and Tiffany dive deep into narcissistic relationships and trauma bonds. They breakdown why a diagnosis doesn’t matter - what matters is YOUR experience with the other person.

They've been there: Hear their experiences and know you're not alone.What is narcissistic abuse? Learn about the key characteristics and manipulative tactics narcissists use.The cycle of abuse: Idealization (love bombing), devaluation, and discard.Is it happening to you? Recognize the signs and empower yourself.

Tiffany and Kierstyn encourage listeners to share their experiences, insights, and advice for those trying to leave a narcissistic partner. They emphasize the importance of self-care, patience, and perseverance throughout the healing process.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:
https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

Follow us:
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Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

**The National Domestic Violence Hotline is provided for anyone experiencing violence in their relationship. Ultimately, the choice to stay or leave depends on your specific situation, but these questions can be a helpful starting point.This episode is for you if you struggle to know whether you should stay or go..
National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Healing your Heartbreak with Powerful Affirmations

Mon, 06 May 2024 15:05:41 -0400

Sometimes, moving on from a breakup feels impossible. But guess what? You're stronger than you think! In this special bonus episode, we're diving into our very own "Breakup Book of Affirmations" to share our favorite words of encouragement. These affirmations are specifically designed to help you heal that broken heart, let go, and step boldly into your bright future. Let's find the perfect affirmations to empower your journey!

Key Points Covered:

Why affirmations matter: We'll discuss how affirmations can rewire your brain for positive thinking and self-love after a breakup.
Powerful picks: We'll read out some of our most impactful affirmations from the book, explaining why each one is so valuable during the healing process.
How to use them: We'll offer insider tips on how to make affirmations a powerful part of your daily routine.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Follow us:
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Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

Why we Stay too Long in Unhealthy Relationships

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 14:29:00 -0400

We’re Back! Today’s episode is all about why we stay in unhealthy relationships for too long.Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew it was over, but just couldn't bring yourself to walk away? You're not alone! In this episode, we dig into the messy, all-too-common reasons why we stay in relationships longer than we should. We'll share relatable stories, touch on the psychology behind it all, and give you some tools to make healthier choices.This episode is for you if you struggle to know whether you should stay or go.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
4 Ways to Break a Trauma Bond Podcast Episode:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-recovery-podcast/id1606974947?i=1000586502294 https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therelationshiprecovery/episodes/4-Steps-to-Break-a-Trauma-Bond---EP102-e1enc7r

Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/⁠⁠

Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org

Follow us:
Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠//www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https: //www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

7 This to Consider Before Ending Your Relationship Part 2

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 12:30:33 -0400

Today's episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast is a powerful one. Join Tiffany and Kierstyn as they wrap-up part two of 7 key things to consider before you end your relationship. Sometimes, it is possible to save a relationship if we can take a step back and evaluate our situation, and these 7 questions are meant to help you find clarity. However, if you are experiencing any kind of abuse, it is not acceptable and may warrant a safety and exit plan. This episode will help you to identify if this is what you may be experiencing. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is provided for anyone experiencing violence in their relationship. Ultimately, the choice to stay or leave depends on your specific situation, but these questions can be a helpful starting point.This episode is for you if you struggle to know whether you should stay or go.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Follow us:
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Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

7 This to Consider Before Ending Your Relationship Part 1

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 11:51:14 -0400

Today's episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast is a powerful one. Join Tiffany and Kierstyn as they guide you through 7 key things to consider before you end your relationship. Sometimes, it is possible to save a relationship if we can take a step back and evaluate our situation, and these 7 questions are meant to help you find clarity. However, if you are experiencing any kind of abuse, it is not acceptable and may warrant a safety and exit plan. This episode will help you to identify if this is what you may be experiencing. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is provided for anyone experiencing violence in their relationship. Ultimately, the choice to stay or leave depends on your specific situation, but these questions can be a helpful starting point.This episode is for you if you struggle to know whether you should stay or go.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgoThe Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/⁠⁠
Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/
Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠//www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https: //www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

From Heartbreak to Empowerment with Carly Story: A Relationship Recovery Client Story

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 13:56:57 -0400

This episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast is a powerful journey of healing alongside one of our very first coaching clients. Kierstyn and Tiffany interview Carly as she shares her story of heartbreak and the path she took to recover from narcissistic abuse. She shares her experience with The Relationship Recovery coaching program and how it has impacted her life. The conversation dives deep into how her relationship impacted her self-esteem, her sense of trust in herself and others, and her identity as a whole. She shares the steps she took to rebuild herself after the divorce and how she reclaimed her power that was once taken from her. Listeners struggling in similar situations will find solace and strength in Carly's message of hope. The episode also features a fun pop culture break, during which the hosts and Carly test their knowledge on the most expensive celebrity divorces. To wrap it up, Carly shares an inspiring affirmation from The Breakup Book of Affirmations, leaving you feeling seen and empowered.

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching

Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo

The Breakup Recovery Course:https://thebreakuprecovery.com/

⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/Utah Domestic

Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/

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From Radio Royalty to Podcast Powerhouse: Navigating a Toxic Workplace with Frankie & Jess Part 2

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 11:10:26 -0500

Join your hosts, Tiffany and Kierstyn, for the conclusion of their two-part interview with radio legends Frankie and Jess! This episode dives into their journey of navigating a toxic workplace, from the blindsiding experience of being fired from the radio station to taking their power back in both their personal and professional lives and the rise in the podcasting world with "The Frankie & Jess Podcast."This episode isn't just about overcoming challenges; it's a celebration of friendship, resilience, and the pursuit of your dreams, regardless of what life throws at you. Grab your headphones, press play, and prepare to be
empowered and inspired by part 2 of Frankie and Jess's inspiring story!

Follow Frankie & Jess here:www.listentofrankieandjess.com

Listen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/3nZ51qItse0uMvniWqSkmJ?si=55b60b8edbf24118
Listen on Apple:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/frankie-and-jess/id1723835486
More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Download our brand new app: ⁠⁠RECLAIM YOU! ⁠⁠ Apple iOS store and the Google Play store here:http://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/reclaimyou
⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ott.therelationshiprecovery⁠

National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233https://www.thehotline.org/Utah Domestic Violence Coalition:1-800-897-LINK (5465)https://udvc.org/
⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠//www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https: //www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

From Radio Royalty to Podcast Powerhouse: Navigating a Toxic Workplace with Frankie & Jess Part 1

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 01:25:22 -0500

In this powerful episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany welcome legendary radio personalities Frankie and Jess to discuss their recent experience navigating a toxic workplace. Frankie and Jess share their journey, from being unexpectedly let go to starting their own podcast, the "Frankie & Jess Podcast." They offer valuable insights on recognizing red flags, coping with emotional turmoil, and ultimately finding your path forward.
This episode is a celebration of friendship, resilience, and chasing your dreams, no matter what life throws your way. So, grab your headphones, hit play, and get ready to be empowered and inspired by Frankie and Jess!

Follow Frankie & Jess here:www.listentofrankieandjess.comListen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/3nZ51qItse0uMvniWqSkmJ?si=55b60b8edbf24118Listen on Apple:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/frankie-and-jess/id1723835486

More resources from The Relationship Recovery:
Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/coaching
Should I Stay or Should I Go Course:https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Download our brand new app: ⁠⁠RECLAIM YOU! ⁠⁠ Apple iOS store and the Google Play store here:http://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/reclaimyou
⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ott.therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠

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Cheating Beyond the Physical: What You Need to Know (emotional affairs, micro-cheating, online interactions)

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 16:04:05 -0500

In this episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, hosts Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into the complex and often murky world of cheating, challenging our typical black-and-white understanding. Forget the limited definition of physical infidelity; they unpack the various forms it can take and the complexities hidden within each.Key Points:

Cheating isn't just physical intimacy outside a relationship. It can include emotional affairs, online flirtations, micro-cheating, and neglecting emotional needs.
Emotional affairs: Deep connections with someone outside the relationship, sharing vulnerabilities that should be reserved for your partner.
Online interactions: The line between harmless fun and emotional betrayal can be blurry, depending on the intent and boundaries.
Micro-cheating: Seemingly small actions that chip away at trust, like secrecy or prioritizing someone else's needs.
Cheating is about: Breaking trust, neglecting needs, and prioritizing someone/something else over your partner.
Communication is key: Discuss boundaries and expectations with your partner. Be honest and address concerns openly.
Healthy relationships: Built on trust, communication, and respect, including honesty about faithfulness.

If you haven't already, please consider rating and reviewing our show. It helps us support more people just like you move toward a healed heart and a more peaceful life.
P.S. Don’t forget to follow the podcast!Share your experiences and insights in the comments below to help others who might be struggling.

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Download our brand new app: ⁠⁠RECLAIM YOU! ⁠⁠ Apple iOS store and the Google Play store here:http://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/reclaimyou
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Gaslighting in Relationships: The Damage It Does & How to Stop It

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 13:24:23 -0500

What is gaslighting? A manipulative tactic aiming to make someone doubt their reality, memory, or perception.
Impact of gaslighting: Extremely damaging, eroding self-trust and leading to anxiety, depression, and relationship struggles.
Recognizing gaslighting: Can be subtle and difficult to identify while in the situation.
Healing from gaslighting:
- Self-awareness: Acknowledge your experience.
- Seek support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist.
- Set boundaries: Regain control and say no to toxicity.
- Practice self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
- Be patient: Healing is a process, but you can emerge stronger.

Are You Trauma Bonded?: Signs, Red Flags, and Next Steps for Healing

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 14:36:35 -0500

In this episode of Relationship Recovery, Kierstyn and Tiffany take a deep dive into the complex topic of trauma bonds. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has ever questioned their relationship dynamics or felt inexplicably drawn to someone despite the presence of unhealthy patterns.In this episode you'll gain insights into:

The science behind trauma bonds… Discover why these bonds are so difficult to break. Your brain gets hooked on the highs of the relationship, releasing feel-good chemicals, and then whipsaws you with the lows, flooding your system with stress hormones. This constant rollercoaster keeps you stuck in a fight-or-flight mode, making it challenging to think clearly and prioritize your own well-being.
What types of relationships can be affected… Trauma bonds can form in any type of relationship, including friendships, family ties, and even work environments. You're not alone if you're experiencing this in a non-romantic context.
Validation and hope… If you suspect you're caught in a trauma bond, this episode will resonate deeply. You'll receive validation for your experiences and gain valuable tools to begin the healing process.
How to break free… Kierstyn and Tiffany offer actionable tips to break the cycle of a trauma bond and prioritize your own well-being.

Key Takeaways:

Trauma bonds are formed through a complex interplay of brain chemistry and emotional manipulation.
They can occur in any type of relationship, not just romantic ones.
Recognizing the signs of a trauma bond is the first step to breaking free.
Healing is possible with self-compassion, supportive resources, and practical strategies.

Do you think you might be in a trauma bond? Check out the resources below the show notes.If you haven't already, please consider rating and reviewing our show. It helps us support more people just like you move toward a healed heart and a more peaceful life. P.S. Don’t forget to follow the podcast!Share your experiences and insights in the comments below to help others who might be struggling.EPISODE RESOURCES:
Download our brand new app: ⁠⁠RECLAIM YOU! ⁠⁠ Apple iOS store and the Google Play store here:http://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/reclaimyou
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⁠⁠Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠//www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https: //www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https: //www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ⁠⁠

When Your Fairytale Relationship Turns out to be a Nightmare

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 01:13:45 -0500

In this episode, Tiffany and Kierstyn take a deep look into why relationships sometimes start out as fairytales yet ultimately end up being your biggest nightmare. They discuss what red flags look like in the beginning of these types of relationships and they discuss what it really takes to get out of toxic relationships. Tiffany and Kierstyn share insights on healing and finding healthy love after the storm, with personal stories of meeting their significant others, TJ and Tim, and how they navigate healthy relationships. This episode serves as a guide for listeners navigating the journey from being sold a fantasy relationship that ended up being a nightmare to healing and finding healthy love.

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Your What & Why for Moving on After Relationship Trauma

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 18:07:23 -0500

In this quick tip episode, we discuss the importance of knowing your what and why for moving on after relationship trauma. We give a specific tool and technique to help you uncover your true why for wanting to do the work to heal the pain left from the relationship so you can move forward to a life of peace and happiness.

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A Tool for Healing in the New Year

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 17:51:20 -0500

As we begin the new year, we're focusing on tools for personal growth and well-being. In this episode, we talk about the power of meditation, specifically its benefits for healing relationship trauma.Meditation offers a powerful tool for navigating the journey of healing from relationship trauma. By incorporating it into your routine, you can cultivate greater peace, emotional resilience, and self-compassion, ultimately supporting your personal well-being and growth.This is an episode you don’t want to miss as we give you a specific meditation tool for healing as you move into the new year!

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Navigating Boundaries with Dysfunctional Family Members During the Holidays

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 12:29:33 -0500

In this episode, we address a common struggle faced by many—setting and holding boundaries with dysfunctional family members during the holiday season. Tiffany and Kierstyn share valuable insights, outlining behaviors to watch for and offering practical tips to help you navigate challenging family dynamics.

Identifying Dysfunctional Behaviors-
Tiffany highlights behaviors dysfunctional family members might exhibit during the holidays, including back-and-forth disagreements, excessive control, unrealistic expectations, intense conflict, boundary violations, emotional manipulation, ignoring or isolating, substance abuse, sabotaging celebrations, financial strain, unresolved family dynamics, and competitive comparisons.

Tips for Setting Boundaries-
Kierstyn and Tiffany delve into actionable tips for setting boundaries with dysfunctional family members during the holidays.

Clarify Your Boundaries: Clearly define the limits you need to set.
Communicate Clearly: Express your boundaries using "I" statements to avoid accusatory tones.
Choose the Right Setting: Discuss boundaries in a neutral, calm environment. - Be Firm but Polite: Prioritize your well-being while remaining respectful. -
Enlist Support: Seek allies within the family who may support your boundaries. -
Have an Exit Plan: Plan for situations where your boundaries might be challenged. - Practice Self-Care: Prioritize activities that promote physical and emotional well-being. -
Set Realistic Expectations: Understand that change takes time; focus on maintaining boundaries. -

Consider Alternatives: Explore alternative ways to spend the holidays if necessary.

Conclusion:Setting boundaries with dysfunctional family members is an ongoing process. Tiffany and Kierstyn emphasize the importance of prioritizing your well-being and creating a holiday experience that aligns with your needs and values. Remember, you're not alone, and seeking support from friends, professionals, or support groups can be instrumental in navigating challenging family dynamics during the holidays.

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Audience Questions

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 17:49:32 -0500

In this episode Kierstyn & Tiffany answer YOUR questions on the podcast. Everything from trauma bonds, coparenting, navigating heartbreak and more…

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Tis the Season for Narcissistic Chaos

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 17:46:42 -0500

In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany dive into a follower's question regarding the challenges of navigating a relationship with a narcissistic partner during the holiday season.
They explore various factors contributing to the disruption caused by narcissists during holidays, including the craving for attention, a dearth of empathy, lofty expectations, control-related issues, a fear of rejection, jealousy, and an incapacity to tolerate imperfections.
Drawing upon their personal experiences and expertise, Kierstyn and Tiffany share valuable coping strategies. If you find yourself dealing with a similar situation, this episode is a must-listen!

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Navigating the Holidays After Divorce & Heartbreak Part 2

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 12:28:38 -0500

This is the part 2 episode to our navigating the holidays post divorce part 1.

This week we are going to highlight the importance of acknowledging and addressing a wide range of emotions associated with this challenging season.We are going to talk about acknowledging your feelings and discuss the spectrum of emotions post-divorce, including loneliness, sadness, and anger. Kierstyn and Tiffany stress the significance of acknowledging and allowing oneself to grieve the loss of the previous family structure.We are going to give you tips for processing emotions and explore practical strategies for processing emotions.Kierstyn and Tiffany emphasize the importance of adjusting holiday expectations in the context of divorce or heartbreak. We also talk about creating new traditions with those you love!

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Navigating the Holidays After Divorce & Heartbreak Part 1

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 01:09:51 -0500

This week we are going to highlight the importance of acknowledging and addressing a wide range of emotions associated with this challenging season.We are going to talk about acknowledging your feelings and discuss the spectrum of emotions post-divorce, including loneliness, sadness, and anger. Kierstyn and Tiffany stress the significance of acknowledging and allowing oneself to grieve the loss of the previous family structure.We are going to give you tips for processing emotions and explore practical strategies for processing emotions.Kierstyn and Tiffany emphasize the importance of adjusting holiday expectations in the context of divorce or heartbreak. We also talk about creating new traditions with those you love!

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7 Days to Peace

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 11:28:42 -0500

In this episode Kierstyn & Tiffany give you a breakdown of their new resource for healing after a breakup or challenging relationship—the FREE 7-Days to Peace Challenge available now! In this episode we highlight the challenge and give you valuable ideas of how to start living in a place of peace after chaos. .7 Days to Peace Challenge:Day 1 - "Create a Mantra to Reclaim Your Power"

Understand the purpose of a mantra for meditation and self-affirmation.
Steps to create a mantra: Identify intention, keep it short and simple, personalize it, test effectiveness, and incorporate it into daily routines.

Day 2 - "How to Ground Yourself"

Importance of grounding for dealing with stress and difficult relationships.
Practical steps for grounding.

Day 3 - "How to Tame Intrusive Thoughts"

Addressing intrusive thoughts stemming from toxic relationships.
Steps to counter intrusive thoughts.

Day 4 - "Protect Your Energy After Leaving a Toxic Relationship"

Managing depleted energy after leaving a toxic relationship.
Establishing a morning routine, starting small, incorporating energy-boosting activities, and practicing gratitude.

Day 5 - "How to Release a Negative Belief"

Dealing with negative beliefs from relationship trauma.
Breathing and relaxation techniques, visualization, and replacing negative beliefs with positive affirmations.

Day 6 - “Calming Meditation for Overwhelming Emotions”

Guided meditation for dealing with overwhelming emotions.
Creating a safe space, using bilateral tapping for relaxation, and containing emotions in a mental container.

Day 7 - "Finding Your True Why for Healing"

Emphasizing the importance of knowing one's "why" for healing.
Going seven layers deep to uncover the root motivations for healing and personal growth.

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A True Blended Story: Part 2 with Guest Co-Host T.J Franklin

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 09:51:37 -0400

In the second part of this two-part episode, Kierstyn Franklin and her husband T.J continue answering follower questions from Instagram, from how they met, what their blended family looks like, how it’s been parallel/co-parenting, how they support each other's continued healing and more.

This is a fun, vulnerable, and insightful podcast into a real-life blended family, and you won’t want to miss it
And don’t miss part 1 if you haven’t listened yet:

https://pod.link/1606974947/episode/e8bd07f80c339e001c63ce4233afcd3d

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A True Blended Family Story with Guest Co-Host TJ Franklin

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 10:56:05 -0400

In this two-part episode, Kierstyn Franklin welcomes her husband, T.J Franklin, on the show to
fill in for Tiffany while she’s on vacation and to answer listener questions about their relationship
and blending their family.

For the Hollywood Hot-take, they kick it off, weighing in on Jada Pinkett Smith and her
“oversharing” of marital separation and turmoil in her marriage to Will Smith.
Kierstyn & T.J. then answer follower questions from Instagram, from how they met, what their
blended family looks like, how it’s been parallel/co-parenting, how they support each other's
continued healing and more.

This is a fun, vulnerable, and insightful podcast into a real-life blended family, and you won’t
want to miss it.

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How To Rebuild Your Self-Esteem After A Toxic Relationship

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 07:00:03 -0400

Welcome to the latest episode of The Relationship Recovery Podcast, where we dive into the sometimes difficult journey of rebuilding self-esteem and self-worth after a toxic relationship.We understand that recovering your confidence can be an uphill battle, and in today's episode, we're here to help you navigate that path.
Join us as we explore a range of strategies, insights, and personal experiences that can empower you to heal and reclaim your sense of self. We'll discuss the emotional toll of toxic relationships, how they erode your self-esteem, and the importance of recognizing and acknowledging the damage that has been done.
Tiffany and Kierstyn will share valuable insights on how to identify the signs of a toxic relationship and provide practical advice on how to empower yourself to move forward and boost your self-esteem.
Throughout this episode, we aim to inspire and uplift, offering real-life success stories and concrete steps to begin your own healing process. Remember, you're not alone, and there is hope for rebuilding your self-esteem and self-worth. So, tune in and join us on this transformative journey toward a stronger, more resilient you.
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High Conflict Co-parenting

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 15:32:12 -0400

Today, Kierstyn and Tiffany are discussing the challenges of high-conflict co-parenting in this episode. High-conflict co-parenting can be extremely challenging for parents and, more importantly, for the children involved. We discuss strategies in the episode to make high-conflict co-parenting a bit easier to cope with.

In their discussion, Kierstyn and Tiffany emphasize the importance of effective communication in high-conflict co-parenting situations, advocating for clear, respectful, and concise communication through written channels like emails and texts to prevent misunderstandings and heated arguments. They also stress the significance of setting boundaries around parenting responsibilities, visitation schedules, and communication frequency, highlighting the need for consistency in enforcing these boundaries.
Parallel parenting, a strategy that minimizes direct interaction with the other parent while fulfilling parental duties, is another approach they dive into, sharing its pros and cons based on their experiences. Conflict resolution techniques, including mediation, are discussed to navigate disputes and prioritize the child's best interests.

Additionally, they emphasize the importance of self-care for parents to cope with stress and tension, sharing personal self-care practices. Legal support, such as lawyers and custody agreements, is addressed to provide structure and clarity in contentious situations. They also touch upon the use of co-parenting apps and tools to facilitate communication and schedule management while reducing conflicts, offering recommendations for these resources.

Their aim is to provide valuable insights and support to parents grappling with the challenges of high-conflict co-parenting.

Listeners Favorite Moments
1️⃣0:00-0:50- Co-parenting is a life sentence…people think they’ll be able to parent well together after the marriage, but oftentimes, the other person is trying to counter-parent.
2️⃣1:55-3:05- People have an idea of what it will look like and are heartbroken if they can’t do that. Kierstyn talks about heartbreak with her two youngest when her older son leaves to go with his dad.
3️⃣13:48-15:52- Manipulative behavior, the story about a co-parent blocking another parent on the child’s phone.
4️⃣17:13-18:28- Parallel parenting…how it can backfire and harm the kids.
5️⃣21:51-23:01- Protect yourself. Stick to the custody agreement, choose what’s best for your child and you, even if you think you will get along with your ex just fine post-marriage.

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When Influencers Use Their Influence for Bad Part 2

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 17:34:34 -0400

When Influencers Use Their Influence for Bad
Join Kierstyn and Tiffany today for part two of our experience with Candace Lierd Rivera and Exitus. Candace is currently being held without bail for over 30 felonies. We are concluding our take on the situation and the lessons we learned.

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When Influencers Use Their Influence for Bad Part 1

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 10:29:07 -0400

Join Kierstyn and Tiffany today for a special two-part episode as they tell a personal story that they have recently navigated. In this episode, they will use real-life examples of red flags, love bombing, and more and what they look like in work friendships. Their focus is to help you to watch for them in your own life.

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Toxic Friendships Break Hearts, Too

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 01:30:30 -0400

Friendships are often seen as sources of joy, support, and companionship, but what happens when they turn toxic? Toxic friendships can be just as emotionally draining and detrimental as toxic romantic or family relationships. In this podcast episode, we delve into the world of toxic friendships, shedding light on the importance of recognizing and addressing them.
Perhaps you've been feeling that something isn't quite right in your friendship. It might feel one-sided, with you always giving but receiving very little in return. Maybe there's an overwhelming sense of negativity that lingers whenever you interact with your friend. If any of this resonates with you, then this episode is for you!

During this episode, we explore real-life experiences and tackle a listener's question about dealing with a jealous friend. Jealousy, manipulation, constant negativity, and a lack of support are just a few of the common warning signs of a toxic friendship that we emphasize. It's vital to recognize these signs early on because toxic friendships can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being.

We provide six practical tips for handling toxic friendships. First and foremost, it's crucial to be able to identify these toxic behaviors in your friendship. Once you've recognized the signs, setting clear boundaries becomes essential. Communicating your feelings openly with your friend can also be a powerful step towards resolving issues and potentially salvaging the friendship.

Seeking support from trusted individuals, such as other friends, a therapist, or a coach, can provide you with the guidance and encouragement needed to navigate this challenging situation. Sometimes, considering a bit of distance may be necessary to protect your emotional health, and don't hesitate to prioritize self-care and self-reflection throughout the process. After all, ending a toxic friendship can be just as heart-wrenching as ending a romantic relationship, and healing should always be a priority.

We aim to empower listeners to recognize the signs of a toxic friendship, take action to protect their well-being, and ultimately pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling connections in their lives. Remember, your mental and emotional health should always come first, even when it means letting go of toxic friendships that break your heart.

EPISODE RESOURCE:
BOUNDARY PDF .pdf

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Are you caught in the grip of relationship addiction?

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 01:10:28 -0400

Recent research shows that it's possible to become addicted to a relationship, a phenomenon referred to as love addiction. Picture this: the rush of happiness at the start of a relationship when those feel-good chemicals like endorphins and dopamine flood your brain, making you feel like you're on top of the world. But when things turn unhealthy or the relationship ends, you're suddenly hit with a wave of deep sadness and depression. It's a tough emotional roller coaster to navigate.
For some, especially those with certain personality traits, this roller coaster becomes addictive. The intense emotional highs and lows bring a level of excitement and drama that's hard to find elsewhere, leading to a cycle of breaking up and getting back together. The pattern becomes a way of seeking the intense emotional experiences that make them feel alive and happy. This constant cycle can wreak havoc on other aspects of life, leading to irrational decisions, difficulty focusing on anything else, and neglecting important relationships outside the romantic one.
If you find yourself in this pattern or know someone who does, it's crucial to seek support from a therapist, coach, or other mental health professional. These experts can help address the underlying emotional issues and guide you toward healthier, more fulfilling relationships in the future.
Listener Favorite Moments:
2:45 This situation was chosen for your child
14:17 We promote toxic relationships with extreme highs and lows in the media
16:30 Drug addiction to a human being.That is really hard to break
23:12 The cycle
26:45 it always ends with the promise that it will get better
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Let's dive deeper into what fuels this addiction. A powerful psychological phenomenon known as a trauma bond can play a significant role in keeping us tethered to harmful relationships. This bond is like a cycle of rewards and punishments that manipulates our feelings. It starts with the hope for those small moments of relief from the pain caused by the partner. This hope becomes addictive, making us believe that change is possible, even when the person causing the harm is the one we're hoping will fix us.
A trauma bond follows a three-phase pattern:
1. **Tension Building:** Minor conflicts and emotional distance lead to increasing tension. The victim tries to prevent conflict by appeasing the abusive partner.
2. **Explosive Incident:** The built-up tension reaches a breaking point, resulting in a major conflict or abusive incident. This phase is marked by shock, fear, and sometimes self-blame.
3. **Reconciliation and Calm:** The abusive partner shows remorse, apologizes, and offers reassurances, creating a sense of relief for the victim. These moments of affection or kindness reinforce the victim's hope for change.
Breaking free from a trauma bond is a complex process that often requires external support, like therapy or coaching, as well as the backing of friends and family. Recognizing the patterns and dynamics of the relationship is the crucial first step toward healing.
If you're dealing with a trauma bond, you're likely not experiencing peace. However, even small changes can make a big difference. That's why Kierstyn and Tiffany want to give you access to their "7 Days to Peace" program, available for free for a limited time on their Reclaim You app, which can be found on both the Apple iOS store and the Google Play store.
Listener Question: Is a trauma bond formed when two people share their past traumas? Actually, trauma bonding is quite different. It's a psychological response to abuse where the victim forms an unhealthy attachment to the abuser. For example, think of Stockholm syndrome, where captives develop sympathy or affection for their captors. This skewed perception hinders them from fully understanding the severity of their situation.
If you find yourself entangled in a relation

Are you Walking on Eggshells in your Relationship?

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 11:20:29 -0400

Are you Walking on Eggshells in your Relationship?

Do you ever find yourself struggling to say the right thing in your relationship? Feeling like you're caught in a lose-lose situation? That anxious feeling in your chest when you know you need to bring something up to your partner - it's like you're walking on eggshells. Well, this episode is tailor-made for you.

Listener Favorite Moments:
First and foremost, if you're in a situation where you're concerned about your physical safety, please prioritize your well-being. Seek help from resources like the Domestic Violence hotline. Assuming you're aiming to improve your communication dynamics, here are some insights to consider.

Walking on eggshells can manifest in various ways:
1. Your partner reacts angrily to minor triggers.2. Small issues escalate into disproportionately large conflicts.3. Verbal arguments become frequent.4. You're constantly on edge around your partner.5. Friends and family notice the tension.6. Fights become a regular occurrence.7. Apologies are rare from your partner.8. Responsibility is deflected onto others.9. You fear your partner due to their behavior.10. Your self-esteem diminishes.
**1. Speak Your Truth**: Open communication is vital. Holding back due to fear doesn't help the situation. Of course, safety is paramount; if you're concerned about your well-being, reach out for help.
**2. Create Communication Boundaries**: If your partner is open to change, set up communication boundaries. These boundaries create a safe space for both to express their thoughts and feelings. Examples include clarifying expectations around emotional states or discussing the best ways to handle tough days.
Start conversations with "I" statements to avoid defensiveness. Be specific about the boundaries you're suggesting. Illustrate points with examples for clarity. Remember, this process aims to improve the relationship for both partners.
**3. Make a Plan for Change**: If your partner isn't willing to change, you might need to devise a plan to make yourself feel safer in the relationship. Our "Should I Stay or Should I Go" course in the Reclaim You app can guide you through this difficult decision-making process.
Deciding to stay or leave isn't easy, and it shouldn't be taken lightly. We understand the complexity and emotions involved. That's why we've created a program to help you navigate these tough choices.
Remember, the goal here isn't to assign blame but to create a space where both partners feel safe and understood. Whether you're recalibrating your communication or deciding on the next step, know that you deserve a healthy and respectful relationship.
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Trauma Bonds PDF .pdf
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The Three Tiers to Support You In Your Relationship Recovery EP139

Tue, 30 May 2023 07:07:55 -0400

Season 2 is coming to an end and what better way to wrap things up for this season that by sharing the three tiers that we use to support you through your relationship trauma, turmoil and toxicity while on your way to total relationship recovery. We're taking a break for the summer and we'll be back this fall with more episodes to help you on your relationship recovery journey.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️2:48 Client testimonials from working with Tiffany and Kierstyn through the Relationship Recovery coaching ⭐️⭐️5:57 Hollywood Hot Takes: Succession and analyzing all the toxic personalities ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️17:52 Tier One: we're building that foundation and that house because you have to have that good foundation in order to do the work. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️23:35 Tier Two: Clearing the trauma. We help you identify what that is and we teach you how to look for it ⭐️⭐️⭐️26:48 Tier Three : Moving on, we're empowering and giving you tools and resources that you're using all the time. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️30:27 Affirmation of the Week: "Happiness can come from where my heart broke. I stepped forward into the unknown to reclaim the joy that's in my heart."
We can't end this season without saying THANK YOU for your support, shares, and reviews of the podcast.
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Why You Need to Boost Your Energy to Heal EP138

Tue, 09 May 2023 07:15:46 -0400

You need energy to heal. It's one of our core foundations and is a huge piece to healing. In fact, one of the reasons you may have failed before in the past to do the work to heal is because you didn't have enough energy for it. You're depleted. And just like anything else, if you're completely depleted, you're not gonna be able to do the work. In today's episode we cover why managing your energy is so important, how to take inventory of energy boosters and energy suckers, what routines WE do, and give you tips to help you manage your energy to help you heal.
Join us for a 7 day challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app!
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️ 2:14 Join the 7 Day Challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. ⭐️⭐️2:50 Review of the week- ⭐️⭐️⭐️5:32 Hollywood Hot Take: Kevin Costner blindsided by divorce and leaving Yellowstone. ⭐️⭐️10:08 What's depleting your energy? Learning to say no instead of yes. When we overcommit we end up spending a lot of our time and energy in resentment or trying to find a way out. ⭐️⭐️14:29 Find things you can infuse into your life that give a boost of energy. ⭐️⭐️⭐️16:10 Take inventory of your daily activities and commitments. What things are depleting your energy? What things are boosting your energy. Adjust accordingly ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:12 Be intentional and take time to pause. We are constantly rushing through life and it's leaving us feeling frazzled with no room for anything, let alone healing. ⭐️⭐️⭐️23:41 How to boost your energy: Join our 7 Days to Peace challenge in the RECLAIM YOU app. Implement a simple morning routine, practice gratitude, exercise and movement, drink water.....there's a few ideas to get your started. ⭐️⭐️29:03 Affirmation of the week: "I calm myself by taking a deep breath in. I release all my anxiety as I excel. I am at peace."
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Mantras For Healing + A BIG Announcement EP137

Tue, 02 May 2023 07:15:25 -0400

Words hold a lot of power and one of the first things we like to do in coaching is help you set up a declaration for healing, or a mantra that you can use to support yourself in your healing. We each share some of our past and current healing mantras and encourage you to set up some for yourself. You can do this no matter where you are at in your relationship recovery. AND.....
We have been holding on to some big news and working behind the scenes on something for over a YEAR and it's finally ready for you! We have an app! It's full of courses, workshops, guides, and so many other resources and it's constantly updated to continue to help you in every part of your journey.
Find the RECLAIM YOU app here!
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 1:11 Our Big Announcement ⭐️⭐️4:58 Hollywood Hot Take- Taylor Swift Breakup+Song Swap in her concert ⭐️⭐️⭐️7:32 Mantras for healing: set up a declaration for healing. This mantra for yourself becomes something to really focus on. Mantras can be short and simple. Mantras can change as you need them to, to best support you. ⭐️⭐️11:40 Kierstyn's tip to write mantras or affirmations in the present tense, as though you are already living them and they are true. ⭐️⭐️14:01 Affirmation of the week, this week you get TWO: "Today I allow my heart, the time it needs to heal. Although it may feel scarred from the past, I give it space to recover and recharge." "The lessons I've learned through my heartache are invaluable. With each lesson, I began to better understand what it means to love and be loved."

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What Are The 4 Attachment Styles Ep136

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 07:15:19 -0400

Have you ever thought about how you relate to other people? Have you considered the ways you either trust or hold back trust, and how ingrained patterns of behavior set the tone for your relationships? If so, one of the big pieces of how this takes place is your attachment style. We all have one. Attachment styles begin to form when we are very young. The way they develop shape our security, our ability to deal with stress, how we set boundaries and more.
There are four basic attachment styles. Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful. The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge.
This self-knowledge can help you avoid hurtful relationships and make your existing ones even better. To get started, so you can discover more about the styles, please join us for this special podcast. If you’ve ever wondered why you want to be close to someone but push them away because you’re afraid of getting hurt… If you’ve ever been hesitant to open up and share your emotions… And if you’ve ever wondered what might be holding you back from enjoying the kind of relationship you know is possible…
Let’s spend a few minutes together. Let’s look at these attachment styles so you can better understand some of the things happening in your life. In this special podcast, you’ll discover:

Which one of the four attachment styles you most closely relate to.
Why it can sometimes be so difficult to trust somebody.
The different ways insecurity can poison a relationship.
Why it can be so easy to misinterpret your partner’s behaviors.

Our Listeners Favorite Moments: ⭐️⭐️2:15-3:11- Attachment template can evolve and change based on experiences and may differ between relationships️
⭐️️️️8:15-9:21- Wonderful parents, perfectionism played a role and carried into marriage️️️
️️⭐️⭐️⭐️15:47-17:35-No shame on you or your parents for insecure style…insecure attachment styles does not = bad parents/caregivers️️
Episode Tools & Resources:
4 Attachment Style Download: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/26 Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
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Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep136 More Resources: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

Anchors to Keep You Motivated to Heal EP135

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 07:15:11 -0400

In this episode we are going to be talking about anchors and how you can use them in your healing journeys, your daily life, to work towards different goals, in any other way that they are helpful to you. We use anchors throughout our coaching. We use them all of the time, and we both really use them in our daily life.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️2:31 Client Testimonial ⭐️⭐️6:11 Hollywood Hot Take- Taylor Swift Breakup ⭐️⭐️⭐️9:47 What are anchors and why are they one of the very first things we teach in coaching. Anchors are anything in your physical environment that can remind you that you're on a mission to get to a different place and to get unstuck. ⭐️⭐️10:56 Kierstyn's physical anchors - tattoo, necklace, rose quartz, music, Steph Curry (yep, really) ⭐️⭐️15:10 Tiffany's physical anchors- lavender, tattoo, jewelry ⭐️⭐️⭐️18:34 Anchors can change through your different seasons in life and in healing or whenever you have different goals. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:34 Don't overcomplicate it. Use the 5 senses to help choose anchors for you. ⭐️⭐️⭐️24:15 Affirmation of the week: "Change can be scary, but it is a powerful teacher. I am open and willing to make room for different experiences to continue to teach me new things."
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Are Social Media Filters Hurting Your Self-Worth EP134

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 07:00:16 -0400

This episode is inspired straight from our real life. When Kierstyn found herself feeling a little 'less than' and went diving into the reason why, she found that social media filters were totally wrecking havoc on her self esteem and quite honestly causing a little bit of body dysmorphia. Today Tiffany and Kierstyn open up a conversation on the relationship you have with yourself, how you can take inventory on the things that are effecting that relationship, and how to get back to a place where you're feeling good about you.
FAVORITE MOMENTS:
⭐️1:41 Millennials and Filters ⭐️⭐️6:36 Kierstyn's self esteem being effected by social media filters ⭐️⭐️⭐️12:47 Self reflection and self awareness is key to having a healthy relationship with yourself ⭐️⭐️15:52 Snapchat dysmorphia and how filters are so unrealistic that even plastic surgeons can't recreate the look ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️21:37 Thinking about the message you are sending to yourself when you feel the need to use filters ⭐️⭐️25:25 Consider a social media detox ⭐️⭐️⭐️30:06 It's crucial to just take inventory with no shame or judgement
NEED OUR SUPPORT? Book a Discovery Call with us and begin to heal: ⁠⁠https://therelationshiprecovery.as.me/schedule.php⁠ Resources from today's show: ⁠⁠https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9577667/https://hbr.org/2021/12/research-how-ar-filters-impact-peoples-self-image Breakup Book of Affirmations:⁠ https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/product-page/the-breakup-book-of-affirmations ⁠
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How To Know If Your Partner is Emotionally Safe EP133

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 07:09:16 -0400

What does it mean to be a safe person and are you one? Is the person you are in a relationship with a safe person and how do you know? What are the signs to look out for? In today's episode we are sharing 5 characteristics that safe people share. We encourage you to listen to this episode with a lens of curiosity rather than judgment. Maybe YOU don't do all these things and have something you can work on, maybe your partner falls short somewhere but is willing to put in the work to make this relationship happy and healthy.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️4:40 Hollywood Hot Take: Hailey and Selena ⭐️10:18 Partner is open to listening versus being dismissive ⭐️⭐️⭐️12:20 They know and express their boundaries and honor yours ⭐️⭐️15:55 They take the space they need when they need it, and they allow you to do that too. ⭐️⭐️⭐️20:16 They apologize and work to improve ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️22:59 They take accountability for their actions ⭐️⭐️33:44 Affirmation of the week: "I am resilient enough to recover from any challenging situation. I show up for myself every day, even when I don't feel like it."

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Episode Show Notes:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep133 More Resources: ⁠⁠www.therelationshiprecovery.com⁠⁠ Follow us: Instagram: ⁠⁠www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery⁠⁠ Youtube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

When Your Partner Cheats on You With Your Best Friend EP132

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 07:00:41 -0400

Inspired by this week's Hollywood Hot Take and some listener questions we are talking about when a partner cheats....with your best friend. We also take some listener questions all about cheating. Why do people cheat in the first place? Are some people more predisposed to cheating based on past life experiences, trauma, addictions or other influences? Why is cheating with a best friend is so common? We also talk about if YOU have been the cheater and how seeing that side of things has given both of us more understanding, empathy, and allowed for healing in ourselves that we weren’t expecting.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: 3:16 Defining what infidelity is in your relationships and creating boundaries together. 6:50 Review of the week and our upcoming LIVE events 9:46 Why do partners cheat with a best friend? 11:47 There are so many reasons why people cheat 18:08 Understanding and empathy for those who have cheated and are working to heal 19:42 How to heal from betrayal trauma 22:19 Getting a source of outside support 24:59 Affirmation of the week: “The challenges I have encountered have made me stronger. They inspire me to be my best version of myself.”
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Taylor Frankie Paul Domestic Violence & Listener Questions EP131

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 06:00:44 -0400

It's a Hollywood Hot Take Takeover today with the recent news of local (to us) influencer Taylor Frankie Paul being arrested on Domestic Violence charges. Tiffany and Kierstyn dive head first into this topic, covering what this type of abuse looks like, why it's hard to get out, resources for help, and more. We also answer a few listener questions we've had come in recently like why is it so hard to leave an abusive relationship, how to deal with the pain of a cheating spouse, and how to work someone with avoidant attachment style. LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️4:23-5:27-it’s important to talk about that DV isn’t always a man abusing a woman…it can happen in any relationship dynamic
⭐️8:12-9:32-importance of reporting DV, Tiff’s personal story, Gabby Petito
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️13:53-14:54-why it’s so hard to leave a relationship with an abusive ex, explanation of trauma bond/cycle of abuse
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️16:01-17:57-tips for dealing with a partner that has an avoidant attachment style, recognizing what your attachment style is so you can do the work to get to a secure place
⭐️⭐️⭐️21:55-23:22-important to do work (either together with the partner if you stayed, or on your own) to work through the betrayal trauma so it doesn’t continue to show up in your relationships
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5 Steps to Setting Boundaries with a Toxic Person EP130

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 07:00:32 -0500

This episode we are diving into boundaries and specifically boundaries with a narcissist. This is an important topic because so often we think that when we are dealing with a toxic person or somebody with a personality disorder we go straight to just cutting them out of our lives completely and we often don’t think to use boundaries. The truth is though, that we can’t always cut people out of our lives and by learning how to apply better boundaries we can help ourselves to have better relationships and interactions with those people. LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS:

3:08 Review of the Week 4:46 Why is it hard to let go of a toxic relationship? 7:45 5 steps in setting boundaries with a narcissist
Step 1: What are you willing to accept 9:06 Step 2: Don't justify, over explain, or overshare 11:08 Step 3: Have an exit plan 20:14 Step 4 Realize that setting a boundary isn't a one time thing 26:37 Step 5: Have compassion for yourself when you fall short of setting a boundary 28:12 Book recommendations and free PDF downloads 30:37 Affirmation of the week. (Double dose this week) "I use this time to gain clarity about exactly what love means to me and what my standard for relationships are. "I prioritize people who bring me peace and respect me. I will limit my time and energy for people who do the opposite."
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Life's Too Short to Stay In Relationship Limbo EP129

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 07:00:18 -0500

This past week we were rocked with the news of a passing by someone big in the personal development space, Dave Hollis. Anytime sudden loss happens, whether to you directly, or when you hear about someone you "know" or follow it gets you thinking. Life is too short to stay in relationship limbo. In this episode Tiff and Kierstyn talk about loss, and how that can motivate you to take the steps to either get out of a relationship or work at creating the kind of relationship that you want in your life.
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Let’s Talk: Unfiltered Conversations with Real Women will be focused on cultivating connection, healing, and providing a safe space to ask hard questions. The Relationship Recovery x She Leads are dedicated to creating an empowering and supportive atmosphere where you can feel welcomed, safe, and supported. Live event on February 25, 2023 in Bountiful Utah. https://www.letstalkevent.info/ Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep129
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Emotional Abuse is LITERALLY Shrinking Your Brain EP128

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 07:00:56 -0500

Today we are talking about how your brain can LITERALLY shrink from emotional abuse. Whether that is narcissistic, emotional, psychological, whatever it may be, it's quite literally having an effect on your brain and shrinking it. Join Tiffany and Kierstyn today as we dive into the science and studies behind emotional abuse, and more importantly what tools and help is available to you through these different types of situations. LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 6:56- Hollywood Hot Takes. Tiffany takes on Sister Wives ⭐️⭐️13:01- How your brain is physically affected by emotional abuse ⭐️15:38- Different parts of your brain, hippocampus and amygdala ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️17:03- It's important that we remember that if we've been through these situations, we can get the right kind of help. ⭐️⭐️⭐️25:29- Affirmation of the week: "I refuse to overthink my situation, but instead choose to fill my answer. My heart will lead me to clarity and I trust its wisdom."
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Let’s Talk: Unfiltered Conversations with Real Women will be focused on cultivating connection, healing, and providing a safe space to ask hard questions. The Relationship Recovery x She Leads are dedicated to creating an empowering and supportive atmosphere where you can feel welcomed, safe, and supported. Live event on February 25, 2023 in Bountiful Utah. https://www.letstalkevent.info/ Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep128
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5 Green Flags To Look For in Dating EP 127

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 07:00:15 -0500

This week we are continuing the theme of dating. It's easily one of our most requested topics. You are wanting information about dating. A lot of you are worried about red flags and continuing in new relationships. You’re not sure what to do. We wanted to shift the focus this week from red flags and warning signs to green flags and what good and amazing things to look for in relationships or to pay attention to when you see them come up.
Listener favorite moments:
⭐️⭐️ 13:20-14:22 - take accountability/apologize - fish story ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 14:31-15:24 - high alert ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️16:28-17:12 - if you feel uncomfortable with someone showing you empathy ⭐️⭐️⭐️ 17:28-18:15 - boundaries ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 19:06- 20:26 - know their goals/values
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Let’s Talk: Unfiltered Conversations with Real Women will be focused on cultivating connection, healing, and providing a safe space to ask hard questions. The Relationship Recovery x She Leads are dedicated to creating an empowering and supportive atmosphere where you can feel welcomed, safe, and supported. Live event on February 5, 2023 in Bountiful Utah. https://www.letstalkevent.info/ Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep127
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What 30 Dates in 3 Days Taught Gabi Conti EP126

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 07:00:19 -0500

Gabi Conti is the the host of the popular podcast "Am I Dating a Serial Killer?" and the author of "20 Guys You Date In Your 20's". We got to sit down with Gabi and talk about her experience with dating apps and more specifically the time she went on 30 dates in 3 days. No, that is not a typo. She really did do 10 dates a day one weekend and learned A LOT. Join in our convo today as Gabi shares her experiences, insights, and lots of dating tips and how to make the numbers game work for you. LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Let’s Talk: Unfiltered Conversations with Real Women will be focused on cultivating connection, healing, and providing a safe space to ask hard questions. The Relationship Recovery x She Leads are dedicated to creating an empowering and supportive atmosphere where you can feel welcomed, safe, and supported. Live event on February 5, 2023 in Bountiful Utah. https://www.letstalkevent.info/ Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep126
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Relationship Anxiety EP125

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 07:00:58 -0500

Have you ever wondered if you're just incapable of maintaining a healthy, committed relationship? This constant worry has a name, and it's called relationship anxiety. This is so common, in fact we see it in our clients all the time. It refers to those feelings of worry and security and doubt that can pop up in a relationship, even if everything's going relatively well. Listener Favorite Moments: ⭐️11:42-12:56-worrying partner is going to break up with you, can be a big problem when you change your behavior to ensure they stay, be careful about using “divorce” as a threat
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️13:51-15:06-self sabotage often shows up because we’re moving in a good direction. Critter brain trying to snap us back. Try not to be hard on yourself about it
⭐️⭐️18:35-19:12-self sabotage/triggers comes up for everyone, it’s about recognizing where they’re coming from and doing something about them in a healthy way
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️28:15-29:15-help with the anxiety…practice good communication. Use “I” statements. “You” statements can feel like an attack.
⭐️⭐️⭐️29:17-30:34- talk to a coach or therapist. Can help you get to a place of peace. And be ready to be in another relationship from a better place without the anxiety.

LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Let’s Talk: Unfiltered Conversations with Real Women will be focused on cultivating connection, healing, and providing a safe space to ask hard questions. The Relationship Recovery x She Leads are dedicated to creating an empowering and supportive atmosphere where you can feel welcomed, safe, and supported. Live event on February 5, 2023 in Bountiful Utah. https://www.letstalkevent.info/ Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep125
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How to Break a Trauma Bond EP124

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 07:15:57 -0500

Have you tried to leave your relationship and can’t? Do you leave only to return back to the situation that you know is not good for you? In this episode, we will be covering “Trauma Bonds” in detail. We will educate you on what they are but more importantly, we will give you some tools to help you begin to break that bond that holds you tightly in a toxic abusive relationship. It’s not unusual for us to be stuck someplace, even trapped, and not even know it. No wonder it can be such a struggle to find ourselves. One of the reasons why are the barriers of trauma bonds. Trauma bonds are very real and they’re also very tricky. They can easily fool us into believing that we’re the problem, that we’re the one in the relationship who’s responsible for all the abuse. To make things even more of a challenge, it’s hard for us to recognize that trauma bonds exist and that we’re actually in their clutches. But here’s the good news. There are steps you can take and things you can do to make them go away. You can finally answer the question, “Why do I stay so long in this toxic relationship?” Join us as we walk you through the 4 steps you can take to break a trauma bond. 4 Steps to Break a Trauma Bond Resource: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/3 More Resources: www.therelationshiprecovery.com

Should I Stay or Should I Go? Ep123

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 07:00:10 -0500

One of the most common questions that we get is should I stay or should I go? Especially at the beginning of a new year, this is a question that might be on your mind. Is it time to say goodbye and make a change? Or is it time to dig in and really fight for this relationship? Tiffany and Kierstyn walk through how to trust your intuition and what you can do to feel more empowered. This episode will help you shift the focus to back to yourself and away from the other person, in a way that helps you see what the best decision is for you. Learning to trust yourself and learning how to let go are powerful lessons that we dive into in this episode and helping you really decide if you should stay or go. LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO: A 4-week intensive to explore your current situation and decide if you should stay or leave your relationship Click here to access the course and get more information. Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep122
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Why You Should Set Intentions Vs. Goals- EP122

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 07:01:00 -0500

If you struggle with perfectionism around goals this time of year and would rather just not set them rather than fail at something new, this episode is for you. We invite you to shift your mindset and break the failure cycle that sometimes come along with goal setting and perfectionism. By choosing to set intentions instead of goals you can completely change how you see this time of year, and how you can still achieve what you want. LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️2:12 fear of failure I have never thought of it that way with goals but makes so much sense why they are hard to set. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 6:15 Hollywood Hot Take!! Yay!!! Sex and the City that’s me!!! I love this, I think when you get into the narcissist TV shows it will really open people’s eyes to understanding the toxic relationships we have all seen and had no idea. ⭐️⭐️16:48-18:06-self sabotage/control the failure so you can blame that. Robs you of success or lessons learned. ⭐️⭐️⭐️20:36-21:33-don’t make your “why” your people. Remove the shame of letting them down if/when you fail, by making sure they’re not your “why”. Your people are not your why. You taught me this along time ago and it still rings so true, when I hear people setting goals I want to be like NO don’t do it just for your kids. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️27:08-28:16-ask yourself “what do I want to be feeling or experiencing differently than I am now” = motivating factor. When you know your MoFa and why, you’re living on purpose. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️35:41-36:26-set anchors that are specific to your intention. Give it its own thing to anchor you to it. Your arrow necklaces, that’s so cute. When you said bottom of the valley or top of the mountain it just kind of hit me that’s how healing is some days we are in the valley and other on top. I just really like that. LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO: A 4-week intensive to explore your current situation
and decide if you should stay or leave your relationship Click here to access the course and get more information. Episode Show Notes: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/ep122
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Tips to Survive the Holidays with a Narcissist- EP121

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 07:00:28 -0500

With the holidays coming, there's almost a shift in the air. Things can start to feel heavy when you know that those holidays mean you are dealing with someone that has narcissistic tendencies. If you're feeling that way, this episode is for you. Kierstyn and Tiffany share some great examples of narcissists from some of our holiday movies to start off this episode, then we'll talk about what a narcissist is, tools you can use to to protect your energy, how to not feed into a narcissist and more. LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS
️️️7:35-8:13-explaining why the holidays are so difficult with a narcissistic person

️️️️10:39-11:42-one example of how a covert narcissist differs from a grandiose one…talks badly about themselves for attention. Pay attention to your energy/how you feel around them

️️15:04-16:06-don’t poke the bear…remove yourself from them and take a minute to do what you need. They don’t have the maturity to be rational.

️17:56-18:24-they don’t have emotional maturity, they will react as such. Don’t feed into it.

️️️️️21:34-23:20-realistic aspect that you might still have the person in your life…maybe not ready/not able to cut them completely out. Don’t be too hard on yourself…lots of things at play.

Finding Joy in a Difficult Season- EP120

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 07:43:48 -0500

If you are feeling like it's hard to find joy in this season, this episode is for you. We are sharing our favorite tools for taking care of yourself during a hard season (like the holidays) how to maintain boundaries, and more. We are back for season 2 of The Relationship Recovery Podcast. We are shaking things up with some new things that you can expect this season. We've got fun new segments, like Hollywood Hot Takes, Weekly Affirmations, Live Q&A's and so much more.
LISTENER FAVORITE MOMENTS: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️19:35-21:05-being proactive vs reactive going into possibly triggering moments with family…pouring into yourself so you’re in a high energy state, meditation, mindfulness, having a set plan if certain things happen so the decision is already made if they come up.
⭐️⭐️23:10-24:20-you can create your own holiday experience on a different day and it can still be magical when it’s not possible to do it in the actual day of the holiday.
⭐️⭐️⭐️25:23-26:07-you don’t have to change your boundaries or put yourself in an uncomfortable situation just because it’s the holidays
⭐️35:40-36:18-practice setting boundaries/saying no to people…when you always say yes to people, you’re saying no to something else.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️41:00-42:30-gratitude. Even when it’s hard and you’re in pain, there is still space for gratitude. And it it a quick way to raise your energy and find joy.
LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Finding Joy in a Difficult Season: This is an on demand virtual retreat to help you navigate the holiday season. With over 5 hours of support and resources to help you find more joy this holiday season. Click here to access the course and get more information. More Resources: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
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Your Relationship Questions Answered-Live Listener Q&A-EP119

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 17:22:35 -0400

Do you have questions about your relationship? Is it toxic? What are red flags in dating? What is love bombing?
Well, you aren't alone!
In this special episode, we answered our listener questions, and odds are, at least one of your questions was answered by Kierstyn and Tiffany as they coached people navigating relationship turmoil live.
Want your question answered? Don't worry! We will be doing this periodically, so make sure you are following us on Instagram to have your questions answered in the future:
www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery Listener Favorite Moments: 2:19-3:30 Q&A About partner says he’s doing work, but she’s not seeing changes…change takes time, ask him questions, look into other modalities for support. 10:40-13:17 Q&A About feeling guilty for moving out…emotionally abusive = manipulated/groomed to feel guilt for that, set boundaries, get support, internal work. 14:16-17:18 Q&A Dating Red Flags: Intuition, trusting yourself, dating again, and thinking everything is a red flag 13:30-18:00 Q&A about red flags and if NPD is a personality disorder…love bombing, notice how they treat others, lots of ups and downs, jealousy. Don’t need a diagnosis of NPD for it to feel off. 23:50-25:24-Q&A about having the strength to go no contact…explanation of trauma bond (physical and chemical) Episode Resources: We just announced that we are now accepting applications to our new mentorship program, Accelerate. Accelerate is a 3-month mentorship for women who want to curate more peace, happiness, and confidence to accelerate their healing in community. Over three months, we will be doing intentional work to help you reconnect with your body, mind, and soul. If you are craving connection and want to level up your healing, then 'Accelerate' is perfect for you! Here is a snapshot of Accelerate: We are calling in 10 people to take this journey with us. We feel strongly that this group needs to be full of people who have positive energy, are willing to support each other, and are committed to doing the work to accelerate their healing journey. The Accelerate mentorship consists of: 5 Group healing sessions 2 individual healing sessions
Messaging support group
Care package
Accelerate starts August 9th, 2022

When you join Accelerate, you will experience:
Community Deep connections
Meditation Journeys
Tools to add to your toolbox
A new support system
New friendships
An accelerated pathway to healing During our time together, we will do a deep dive into the following topics: Learning to trust yourself to make decisions again Learning to trust others Fining peace again Caretaking other's emotions over your own Feeling like you failed and how to shift the mindset Shame Dealing with a difficult ex Parental alienation Co-parenting Dating after divorce Finding yourself again Coping better with loss and loneliness The Accelerate mentorship is packed full of so much goodness and will help you reconnect to the YOU that was lost through the turmoil you have experienced. In Accelerate, our goal is to work with you to achieve the things you can truly control… ourselves, our responses, our actions, our boundaries, and our healing. If this is calling to your soul, click below to fill out the application: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/accelerate Applications will close August 7, 2022.
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Can You Determine Divorce by Length of Years?-EP118

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 12:11:44 -0400

No Matter Where You Are On Your Journey, It’s Helpful To Know When The Risks Of Divorce Are Highest
When you look at the data on divorce and see the years of a marriage when divorces are likely to take place, a fascinating picture comes into focus.
First of all, we take data with a grain of salt. Every marriage is different. Random events pop up.
Love, commitment and understanding aren’t events written on a calendar like a dentist appointment.
They are the foundations of a relationship and the shakier they are, the higher the risk of divorce.
Divorce risk according to the length of time you’re married ebbs and flows. There are safe years and hard years.
There are times when the hope things will get better is stronger than the feelings of satisfaction and fulfillment.
What stands out is how tough the early years are. The adjustments that are so essential to a marriage can be impossible for some people to make.
No wonder so many marriages crash and burn so quickly.
10% of marriages fail in the first two years.
It’s heartbreaking. It’s also a vivid reminder of how important it is to apply the lessons of a first failed marriage to make a second marriage a success.
If you marry later in life, does this mean you’ve got a better chance of making it through these first two years? We’ll take a look at this in our podcast.
Let’s spend a few minutes together to see how the risks of divorce rise and fall over the course of a marriage. Even if this doesn’t directly apply to your situation, knowing about these risks gives you helpful insights.
Here's some listener favorite moments: 1:18-3:12 Bonus Tip - We all continue to grow and evolve. 8:21-9:21- The first year of marriage is a high risk for divorce…easy to just part ways. Things aren’t too complicated, finding out more about the person, self-sabotage.
12:55-17:35- Kierstyn shares personal experience with her marriage in the 5-8 year range. Personal growth as individuals, rubber-band and effect, 7 year itch etc...
18:38-19:58- Marriage in 30's is up, and divorcing in 50’s which is pretty common. Greater risk of cheating in 50’s according to statistics
21:55-23:15-“50% of marriages end in divorce” caveat. Focus on individual marriage instead of relying solely on data
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Secure: Attachment Styles-EP117

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 17:54:39 -0400

Even If You Don’t Believe You Can Feel Secure In A Relationship Today, This Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Prepare For Tomorrow One of the fascinating things about attachment styles is our ability to move from one style into another. We aren’t stuck and we aren’t doomed. Intentional behavior, the right practices and tools can move us from where we are to where we’d like to be. And the attachment style where most of us would like to be is The Secure Attachment Style. Membership is not exclusive. Feelings of security, self-confidence and clarity can be restored if they’ve been lost. They can also be nurtured if they’ve never been present. Changes can be made. Things can get better. We understand that moving out of an abusive or toxic relationship might seem impossible. It’s not. This is because we have tools that let us move from one attachment style to another. But let’s confront the realities. Let’s not underestimate the challenges that come with stepping out of an attachment style that’s Anxious-Preoccupied, Dismissive-Avoidant or Fearful-Avoidant. Building the self-esteem that’s needed for this takes courage. After all, we’re dealing with a lifetime of behaviors. Attachment styles are formed early in life. The process actually begins in infancy through nonverbal and emotional interactions. The right practices and tools can help. So can patience and time. The Secure Attachment Style doesn’t come with a lifetime guarantee. We need to be intentional to stick with this style because events can send us reeling. Toxic relationships and trauma are just two of the culprits. Intentional behavior is the key to keeping your Secure Attachment Style. So, what are these tools and best practices to use so we can move forward? Let’s spend a few minutes together to find out and see what to do. In this special podcast, you’ll discover… What it takes to have a secure attachment style. The best tools to help you regulate your emotions. The role of self-esteem and self-compassion. How a divorce is most likely to impact your kids. So, get comfortable, find a quiet place and join us for this podcast. No matter how discouraged or hurt you might feel, please keep in mind that things can get better. There are steps you can take to put the pain behind. Here’s some of what you’ll discover in this special podcast… [o3:49] When and how the influences of an attachment style begin. [o5:00] Why being intentional helps so much when it comes to keeping you in a secure attachment style. [06:30] Which emotional triggers are most likely to jolt you out of one attachment style into another. [09:14] A technique to help you avoid the messiest problems of co-parenting or parallel parenting. [11:42] Why it’s never too late to show your kids what it’s like to be truly secure. [12:37] Why securely attached adults tend to believe that romantic love will always endure. [14:52] The key behaviors of The Secure Attachment Style.
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Fearful-Avoidant: Attachment Styles

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 11:56:15 -0400

Why you need a strategy when you divorce somebody with a personality disorder.
How to soften the blows of all the emotional terrorism you’re subjected to.
How to be intentional and why this is so helpful.
What to do when there are kids.

Why not carve out a few minutes to join us for this important podcast? Please make yourself comfortable, find a peaceful spot and get this valuable information. Here’s some of our Listeners Favorite Moments: 8:10-13:22-Characteristics of fearful avoidant, where it comes from, tendency to end up in abusive relationships.
13:05-14:30-tend to end up in abusive relationships due to repeating pattern from childhood…you do what you know, unless you seek help.
17:35-18:45- Feels like tug of war…anxious and then pushes them away. The appearance of little respect for partner. The connection between BPD and fearful-avoidant.
23:08-23:55-Healing the traumatic pieces around childhood to help move to a more secure attachment style.
24:53-25:33-If you’re the more secure partner with a fearful-avoidant, be aware of not jumping in to rescue/care take, or self abandon.
Episode Tools & Resources: Fearful/Avoidant Check List: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep116 Anxious/Preoccupied Checklist Tool: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115 4 Attachment Style PDF: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113 Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
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Anxious-Preoccupied: Attachment Styles-EP115

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 12:51:48 -0400

What To Do About The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style? You’re at a big advantage when you know about the 4 different attachment styles. You can navigate relationships with more clarity, you can move to a more secure place and you can turn negative behaviors into positive ones. Naturally, this doesn’t happen overnight. But with some intentional work you can make progress more quickly than you might think. This is one of the benefits of knowing about these styles.
What do we see with people with The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style?
Many feel underappreciated.
Something else that’s easily noticed is how things in life that should seem normal, and in fact are normal, don’t appear normal at all.
People in this attachment style often seem to stir up jealousy.
They worry a lot. There are negative reactions – when there’s no need for these reactions to take place.
Little things that don’t matter much blow up. They cause all sorts of pointless drama and hurtful tension.
One of the reasons for this is low self-esteem. But there are other forces at play which we’ll share with you on this podcast.
Let’s spend a few minutes together to see what The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style is all about.
In this podcast, you’ll discover…
Why roughly 1 in 5 people fall into this style. Why some people worry so much about abandonment. Why perfectionism and insecurity so often go hand in hand. How to move beyond the clinginess that can derail a relationship.
So, relax, find a comfortable spot and join us on this podcast.
Here’s some of what you’ll discover…
The connections between feeling loved and wanting to be a perfectionist.
What to do when you feel you're on an emotional roller coaster that never stops.
Why it’s so common to constantly feel insecure about where you stand in the relationship.
The strange similarities between a relationship and a car accident.
Why being in a relationship with someone who’s highly secure doesn’t mean this security will automatically rub off on you.
How to break the habit of always questioning your self-worth.
What to do about your thirst for reassurance.
Episode Tools & Resources: Anxious/Preoccupied Checklist Tool: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep115 4 Attachment Style PDF: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113 Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo
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Avoidant-Dismissive: Attachment Styles-EP114

Mon, 23 May 2022 18:24:39 -0400

Discover The Characteristics Of The Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Style Attachment styles mean so much. So, we’re giving you an in-depth look at each of the 4 different styles. This week the focus is on the Dismissive-Avoidant Style. What’s in it for you? How can knowing these different styles help? You’ll be much better at opening – and closing – relationship doors when you know your own attachment style. The result is a more secure attachment style. One you’ll find authentic and supportive. In this podcast, the second in our special series, you’ll discover some of the Dismissive-Avoidant Style’s most common indicators. One of them is a trait we normally consider something good. Independence. But like most things in life, independence can be taken to an extreme. Too much independence leads to emotional distances. It creates identities that never seem to mesh into close relationships. But this overdose of independence is just the tip of the emotional iceberg. Let’s take an in-depth look at the other characteristics of the Dismissive-Avoidant Style. In this podcast, you’ll discover…

What specific problems the Dismissive-Avoidant Style can easily ignite.
Why negative feelings are ignored and how this usually makes things even worse.
The curious reason why limits are placed on commitment.
The most helpful things to do if you feel this is your attachment style.

So relax, find a peaceful spot and spend some time with us on this podcast. Episode Tools & Resources: Dismissive-Avoidant Checklist Tool: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep114 4 Attachment Style PDF: https://www.therelationshiprecovery.com/podcastep113 Should I Stay or Should I Go 4 Week Intensive www.therelationshiprecovery.com/stayorgo More Resources: www.therelationshiprecovery.com Follow us: Instagram: www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

What Are The 4 Attachments?-EP113

Tue, 17 May 2022 16:56:19 -0400

Which One Of These Attachment Styles Is Yours? Here’s Why These 4 Attachment Styles Are So Helpful To Know Have you ever thought about how you relate to other people? Have you considered the ways you either trust or hold back trust, and how ingrained patterns of behavior set the tone for your relationships? If so, one of the big pieces of how this takes place is your attachment style. We all have one. Attachment styles begin to form when we are very young. The way they develop shape our security, our ability to deal with stress, how we set boundaries and more. There are four basic attachment styles. Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful. The benefit of knowing which attachment style you resonate with the most is the reward of self-knowledge. This self-knowledge can help you avoid hurtful relationships and make your existing ones even better. To get started, so you can discover more about the styles, please join us for this special podcast. If you’ve ever wondered why you want to be close to someone but push them away because you’re afraid of getting hurt… If you’ve ever been hesitant to open up and share your emotions… And if you’ve ever wondered what might be holding you back from enjoying the kind of relationship you know is possible… Let’s spend a few minutes together. Let’s look at these attachment styles so you can better understand some of the things happening in your life. In this special podcast, you’ll discover:

Which one of the four attachment styles you most closely relate to.
Why it can sometimes be so difficult to trust somebody.
The different ways insecurity can poison a relationship.
Why it can be so easy to misinterpret your partner’s behaviors.

So, get comfortable, find a quiet place to relax and spend some time with us on this podcast. There’s a gift for you when you join us. You’ll get a tool that reviews the different attachment styles so you can self-assess for a better understanding. And in the weeks ahead, we’ll take a closer look at each style so you can learn even more. Our Listeners Favorite Moments: 2:15-3:11- Attachment template can evolve and change based on experiences and may differ between relationships️
️️️8:15-9:21- Wonderful parents, perfectionism played a role and carried into marriage️️️
️️15:47-17:35-No shame on you or your parents for insecure style…insecure attachment styles does not = bad parents/caregivers️️
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How to Navigate a High Conflict Relationship-EP112

Wed, 11 May 2022 09:32:09 -0400

High conflict relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Many of them involve a divorce, either a divorce that’s underway or one that you’ve recently gone through.
The tactics and tools we’re sharing with you to use during a divorce can be used in any high-conflict relationship.
Divorcing somebody with a personality disorder is one of the toughest things you’ll ever go through.
It can spin out of control in a heartbeat. You can easily stagger from something complex into something that’s a full-blown disaster.
But there are common-sense steps you can take to soften the blows.
These steps give you a proven strategy. You can quickly turn your weakness into strength, fear into courage, and uncertainty into confidence.
No matter how cruelly you are being treated, this strategy will change things for the better.
We’ve seen these changes for the better occur again and again with our coaching clients. You can use this strategy right away to make your situation easier to deal with.
Let’s look at how you can successfully navigate a high-conflict divorce.
In this podcast, you’ll discover…
Why do you need a strategy when you divorce somebody with a personality disorder. How to soften the blows of all the emotional terrorism you’re subjected to. How to be intentional and why this is so helpful. What to do when there are kids.
Why not carve out a few minutes to join us for this critical podcast? Please make yourself comfortable, find a peaceful spot and get this valuable information.

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How to Get Unstuck-EP111

Mon, 02 May 2022 16:15:26 -0400

How To Leave Limbo Behind And Stop Being Stuck
It feels so bad being stuck, when we’re in limbo and lack the confidence to take even a small step to move forward.
We’ve been through this. When we look back, one thing we can’t forget is how terrible this felt. It’s as if the bad choices we once made kept haunting us and even paralyzing us.
It also seemed as if bad choices from long ago kept us from even trying to make good choices.
We get it. The feelings of being stuck run deep.
People who have not suffered the pain and trauma of an abusive relationship might underestimate the difficulties and frustrations of being stuck. Lots of times they make the mistake of believing that being in limbo can go away with “just a little willpower.”
Well, life doesn’t work that way. Getting unstuck takes intentional work and this work begins with awareness. This awareness helps you see for yourself what the best small steps to take to move forward will be.
These small steps will help you replenish your self-confidence. You’ll discover for yourself, on your own terms, that doing something to set yourself free from a bad relationship is a lot better than doing nothing.
But here’s the thing that can make this process tricky. We decide to be stuck. We do this to protect ourselves from the unknown. We understand how scary it can feel to get unstuck so we’re sharing a technique you can start to use to break the cycle. It’s based on the mind-body connections. We’ll show you what to do to get started. Let’s spend a few minutes together to see how to begin to set yourself free from the terrible trap of being in limbo.
In this special podcast, you’ll discover…
What happens when the body sends an early warning signal to the brain. Why looking for “little moments” can help break the cycle of feeling stuck. The power of distractions to get yourself unstuck. Why it’s so easy to overcomplicate the process of getting out of limbo.
So, get comfortable, find a quiet spot and spend some time with us on this podcast.
Here’s some of what you’ll find out about…
3:00- You can see the light but you just can’t get to it. Overwhelm and stress set in.
3:35- The Fear
5:18- Physiological breakdown of what is going on in the body when triggered
9:15 - Start being aware before that overwhelm narrative takes over.
10:42-Body awareness ➡️ 90 seconds to distract ourselves (ground feet, exercise, art) before overwhelm takes over.
13:22- Don’t overcomplicate things…take baby steps in the place where you feel stuck.
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First Step to Blending a Family - EP110

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 18:46:39 -0400

The Big Mistakes To Avoid When You Blend A Family: How To Make A Complicated Process Go More Smoothly
After you make it through the trauma and turmoil of an abusive relationship and enter a healthy new relationship, you might find yourself facing the work of blending two families.
Please don’t underestimate the difficulty of this.
And it really is work… blending different families takes insight, effort, empathy and patience.
We’ve each been through it. So have many people in our community and we’d love to share some tips. One of the best things you can do right away…
Always keep in mind that everybody involved is in a new place, a period of adjustment that makes life much different.
This empathy and awareness that you demonstrate will not go unnoticed.
The “intentional work” you do can easily encourage others to do their own work, make their own contributions and take a proactive role in pulling two families together.
There’s a lot for everyone to handle.
Chances are good that members of this new blended family are experiencing different levels of trauma.
Fortunately, there are ways to approach this and things you can do to prevent jealousies.
You can help members of this new blended family avoid many of the inevitable misunderstandings and you can reduce a lot of the simmering tensions.
Here’s what to do so you can make the hard work of blending a family easier.
Join us for this informative podcast. Find out about some of the specific steps you can take.
Let’s spend a few minutes together to look at ways you can better understand and better guide this transition.
In this special podcast, you’ll find out…
How and when to address your non-negotiables. What you and your partner can do to make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to kids’ discipline. How to spend “intentional time” with children to cultivate a deep relationship. What to do to bridge the gap between 2 different parenting styles.
You’ll also get a special journaling pdf to help you and your partner work even more closely together to blend a family.
So, get comfortable, grab your favorite drink and join us on this podcast.
Here’s some of what you’ll discover…
Something important to keep in mind about the adjustment period everyone in the blended family is going through. Why you shouldn’t assume the blended family will be harder for the kids than for the parents. Something good to do after the blended family has been together for a while. Why journaling is such a valuable practice. How and when to communicate your non-negotiables. How to handle the management of household finances.
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Refueling Yourself After a Break-Up - EP109

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 15:48:16 -0400

This pain drains away from our energy. We can’t bounce back from an abusive or toxic relationship simply by breaking up.
It feels strange because we’ve just taken a big step. We’ve decided to get out of a relationship, taking action.
But we start the healing process in a tough spot.
Because it feels like our energy has evaporated, we cannot do much of anything. Many of us have a difficult time thinking clearly and making good decisions.
You don’t need to feel stuck.
You can do simple things to speed up the healing process… without watering it down or making it superficial.
Like many things in life, taking the first step is the hardest part of the process. Fortunately, this first step doesn’t have to be complicated.
This first step usually works best when it’s stripped down and simple.
This first step is something we’ve seen work countless times. We did it, and it worked so well that we still do it.
It’s something you may have heard of—a morning routine.
Unfortunately, many people never get into one because they don’t think it can do much good.
But we’d like to show you how to get into a morning routine that’s more helpful than you might imagine… a brief, simple morning routine that refuels you after a breakup.
Let’s spend a few minutes together to see why you should consider a morning routine, how it has helped us and how it can help you.
In this special podcast, you’ll discover…
Why do you lose so much physical and mental energy following a breakup? What to do about getting this energy back. How to shorten the amount of time the healing process takes. Why do so many people benefit from a simple morning routine?
So, get comfortable, find a quiet spot and spend a few minutes with us on this podcast.
Here’s some of what you’ll discover…
[01:20] Why it seems so hard to get yourself into a productive healing mindset following a breakup.
[03:19] Why do so many of us want to reach out to our ex after a breakup, and why does this rarely work out.
[03:48] Why healing after a breakup is like training for a marathon.
[09:19] Why emotional pain can grow even after you make a move to get out of a bad relationship.
[11:19] What to do the first thing every morning to add strength and meaning to the healing process.
[12:09] The simple and powerful thing most people miss when they express feelings of gratitude.
[15:53] Why a simple “moment of intention” in the morning can give your mind more clarity and your body more energy.
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What Actually is a Narcissist?-EP108

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 01:01:27 -0400

Unless you’re a professional, you can’t clinically diagnose a narcissistic personality disorder. It’s confusing and complex. But there’s nothing confusing or ambiguous about the pain somebody with a narcissistic personality disorder, or someone with narcissistic traits for that matter, can cause. They are masters of cruel manipulation. If you suspect you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, the bad news is that without a clinically valid evaluation, your suspicions can never be confirmed. The good news… you don’t have to be left in the dark. When you know the traits of somebody with a narcissistic personality disorder, you can see the situation you’re in more clearly. Of course, not every abuser is a narcissist and not every narcissist is an abuser. And please keep in mind we’re not psychiatrists. We’re certified life+health coaches. So right now, we’d like to empower you with the knowledge that will let you understand the classic behaviors of the abuser who has a narcissistic personality disorder or someone that has narcissistic traits. A toxic collection of misguided beliefs is what distinguishes the narcissist. These beliefs, which can appear bizarre, are on fairly regular display. Once you know the traits, you’ll be able to recognize them without much trouble. Let’s dive into a few of these traits. We’ll take a look at how they can feed the abuse cycle and what you can do about it. In this podcast, you’ll discover… What makes narcissism so confusing. Why a sense of self-entitlement can be so toxic. Why do narcissists like to accuse other people of being too sensitive. What scares the narcissist more than anything else. So set aside some quiet time, find a comfortable place to relax, and please join us for what we hope will be an enlightening podcast.
Here are some of our listener's favorite moments: [o2:40] What a narcissist really is… and isn’t. [o5:05] Why it’s so rare for a narcissist to get a professional clinical diagnosis. [07:40] How to recognize the line that divides healthy self-respect and unhealthy narcissism. [10:50] Why narcissists are constantly on the prowl looking for admiration and praise. [19:52] The strange way that narcissists look at jealousy. [22:14] Why narcissists don’t understand empathy and are unable to genuinely demonstrate it. [24:55] What makes narcissists masters of exploitation and manipulation.
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Should I Stay in My Relationship or Should I Go?-EP107

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 14:35:54 -0400

Here’s how to start making sound decisions about the future of your relationship.
In this special podcast, you’ll discover…
-The 4 steps to take to know if you should stay or if you should go. -Why it’s vital to know your boundaries and safeguard them. -Why keeping a journal can be so helpful. -How to get back the power you’ve lost to make decisions. -So set aside a few minutes, find a quiet place and spend some time with us on this podcast.
Here’s some of what you’ll discover…
[o6:24] How to come up with a plan for how you will leave a relationship.
[07:22] Why paying attention to your intuition is always a smart move.
[08:25] The best way to keep a journal and why this is such a powerful tool in the healing process.
[10:27] Why boundaries are so important and how they tend to shift in an abusive relationship.
[18:17] How to use your non-negotiables to size up the quality of a relationship.
[21:24] How codependency really works and can easily spiral out of control.
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Self Sabotaging While Dealing with a Toxic Partner or Ex - EP106

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 14:14:44 -0400

We all do it. We sabotage ourselves in all kinds of different ways and for all kinds of different reasons. Including when we are dealing with a toxic partner or ex-partner.
Will this ever stop? Are there practices we can follow to make self-sabotage less of a habit?
Yes.
It might seem like an unreasonable goal to expect we can make every last bit of self-sabotage disappear (because we actually don't want to - we will talk about it more), but we can definitely learn how to overcome.
In this episode, we will show you how to get started.
Like so many other steps we take on our healing journey, the first step is awareness, an understanding of what self-sabotage really is.
It’s essential to know how this disrupts your relationship, your life and your healing.
The challenge is to stop piling on shame.
To help, we’re sharing a collection of insights and tools you can use to push back against self-sabotage.
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Red Flags: Ignore Now, Pay Later - EP105

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 15:05:44 -0400

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could size up relationships and evaluate them before we discover we’ve made a terrible mistake? None of us have crystal balls. But all of us can fine-tune our intuition and awareness so we see the red flags instead of ignoring them. This week’s podcast gives you ways to notice these red flags, put them in context and decide what actions to take. Kierstyn and Tiffany share red flags they've experienced, and what the community is navigating as a whole. Join us so you can take action now when you see flags vs paying later. Episode Tools & Resources: The Red Flag Checklist: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/12
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Gaslighting: Intentional or Unintentional? - EP104

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 17:03:43 -0500

One of the most common questions we get around gaslighting is, does someone know they are gaslighting? This is a great debate. In the traditional sense, gaslighting is not about love. It’s about power and control. A Gaslighter is someone who needs to feel superior and who manipulates people to further their own agendas - when it's intentional. When gaslighting, the person finds a way to make the victim think they are “crazy” They gradually make you question your reality. In this episode, Kierstyn and Tiffany discuss:

What is Gaslighting?
How do you feel when you are being gaslighted and recognize it.
What to do if you are being gaslighted.
and is Gaslighting Intentional, or can it be Unintentional? You decide.

Join us for the great debate around Gaslighting and how to navigate it. Episode Tools & Resources: What to Do If You Are Being Gaslighted PDF: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/10 More Resources: www.therelationshiprecovery.com Follow us: Instagram: www.instagram.com/therelationshiprecovery TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therelationshiprecovery Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0xaCdQ_S2o5tQ_ZeqeymDQ

Love Bombing: Is it Happening to You? - EP103

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 13:38:39 -0500

“How do you know if you are being Love-Bombed?” is one of the most common dating questions we receive.
Love bombing is a common tactic used by a narcissistic abuser. They shower you with gifts, words, affection until they feel like they have you hooked. Once you are hooked, they change their tone and become highly critical of you until they discard you altogether.
Being on the receiving end of love bombing can be seductive and overwhelming. It can happen in any relationship, not just romantic. So it's crucial for everyone to learn the signs to avoid getting stuck in the web.
In this week's episode, we will be breaking down what love bombing is, what the signs are, what the narcissistic abuse cycle is, and what part love bombing comes in, and answering all our listeners' questions about love bombing. You won't want to miss this one!
Episode Tools & Resources: The Love Bombing Checklist: https://therelationshiprecovery.activehosted.com/f/8
More Resources: www.therelationshiprecovery.com
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4 Steps to Break a Trauma Bond - EP102

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 17:38:32 -0500

Welcome to The Relationship Recovery

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 17:20:29 -0500

Welcome to the Relationship Recovery Podcast! We’re so happy you’re here. If you are navigating complicated relationships right now, you are in the right place. In this episode, we will be talking about who The Relationship Recovery is, how it all started, and who we serve. We will also answer the most popular question we get… “If you could give one piece of advice to someone that is just starting their journey, whether it’s trying to navigate staying in the relationship, leaving a relationship, or finding yourself again, what would you say?” A note from Tiffany & Kierstyn: Please don’t forget that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel no matter what your circumstances are. You might not see it now, or you might think your light has gone out forever, but we know it’s there for you.