This Won't Fix You

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Sat, 16 Aug 2025 13:00:00 +0100

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Clutter as a burial mound with Helen Sanderson

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 05:00:00 +0100

I welcome Helen Sanderson, the Clutter Therapist, to explore her metaphor of clutter as a burial mound.

Helen explains how clutter often symbolises unresolved trauma, bereavement or unrealised dreams, and likens decluttering to an excavation where hidden treasures and forgotten parts of ourselves are unearthed.

Her approach focuses on creating healing spaces by addressing the emotions tied to possessions, rather than striving for superficial perfection.

This therapeutic process helps individuals reconnect with their true selves while reorganising their physical environment.

Helen Sanderson's website: https://www.helensanderson.com/

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Prioritising Myself or My Relationship: B-Side

Sun, 20 Apr 2025 09:00:00 +0100

If you've ever found yourself bitching about somebody, this episode is for you! Find a new way of seeing everyone else's behaviours.

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Prioritising Myself or My Relationship: A-Side

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 04:00:00 +0000

Relationships (all relationships: friendships, family relations as well as intimate relationships) have a dynamic energy that is constantly in flux. Meg Harper and I talk about this ever-present tension between protecting ourselves as individuals (perhaps at the expense of a relationship) and protecting our relationship(s) perhaps at the expense of ourselves. We start with a quote from Marisa G Franco’s book: Platonic, which is all about attachment styles and how they influence the ways we operate in relationships.

Meg Harper's website: https://megharper.co.uk/

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Trigger Warning B-Side

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +0000

Trauma. This episode I build on Gabor Mate's metaphor that a trigger is just one part of what causes people problems. It distinguishes between "small t" and "Capital T" trauma. The latter is defined as experiences too terrifying for the psyche to process.

I talk about the "Window of Tolerance" model, featuring three zones: a green band (regulated state), orange bands (increasing disregulation), and red bands (hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal). The therapeutic approach emphasises keeping clients within their tolerance window, using the EMDR therapy metaphor of "building a bigger boat" to handle trauma gradually.

This episode contains passing reference to abuse.

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Trigger Warning A-Side

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 06:00:00 +0000

'Being triggered' is so much more in our awareness than ever before. How do we identify our triggers and what can we do and what can we reasonably ask others to do to help us manage them? Psychotherapist, Emma McDermott, and I chat about it.

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Drama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: B-Side

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 06:00:00 +0000

Episode Key Points:

The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around control
Focus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic position
Rescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help others

Signs You Might Be a Rescuer:

Feeling exhausted by constant requests for help
Getting frustrated when people don't take your advice
Finding others' suffering difficult to bear
Believing your goodness is measured by how effectively you help

Key Insights:

Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundaries
Helping without limits can disempower others
True support involves inviting others to find their own solutions
Co-dependency occurs when both parties are controlling each other's lives

Therapeutic Approach:

Learn self-worth independent of helping others
Value others' perspectives and processes
Recognize when "helping" is actually controlling
Understand that withdrawing support can be a form of genuine care

Practical Advice:

Ask "How can I support you?" instead of "What you need to do is..."
Avoid lecturing or judging
Set clear boundaries
Recognize your own feelings of inadequacy driving rescue behaviors

Takeaway: Healthy support means empowering others, not solving their problems for them.

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Drama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: A-Side

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 06:00:00 +0000

Most of us communicate in ways which are unhealthy at least some of the time. This episode, Nadine sits with Richard Chadwick to discuss the Drama Triangle, especially how the unhelpful roles of Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor are embedded in our culture and in our psyches.
I challenge you to not recognise yourself in here somewhere!

Richard Chadwick is a therapist working in the north west and online. You can view his BACP profile here.

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Mirrors of the Soul; What is Equine Therapy: B-Side

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

In this special B-side episode, host Nadine hands the reins over to equine practitioner Alex Gulland. Alex walks you through the process of a first session in equine therapy, from initial client assessments, to a serene body scan amidst nature, and finally incorporating therapy with horses.
Alex brings you to Silver Birch Animal Therapy Farm, detailing the therapeutic benefits of working with horses and what clients can expect.
Alex Gullands's Links
www.contentedpeople.co.uk
www.silverbirchanimaltherapycic.co.uk

Music credit
https://artlist.io/

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Emotional Mirrors Of The Soul, Benefits of Equine Therapy: A-Side

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

How much do we know what is going on inside our bodies? How much do we ever really know about what we give off that other people around us are picking up on unconsciously (or consciously!)?
This episode, Equine Practitioner, Alex Gulland and I talk about how horses can be seen as emotional mirrors to our internal worlds. Horses, being prey animals, are incredibly sensitive to our energy, our stress levels and our emotions generally.
Alex shares how powerful it can be for people to work therapeutically with horses.
I am sure you will be able to hear how moved I have been by hearing some of the stories Alex told me during our conversation.
If you’re interested in finding or becoming an equine therapist, then a good place to start would be LEAP, this is where Alex trained: https://leapequine.com/.

Alex's links:
www.contentedpeople.co.uk
www.silverbirchanimaltherapycic.co.uk
Alex is raising money to support the arrival of several lovely foals at the Silverbirch centre - visit the GoFundMe page

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www.nadinepittam.com

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Managing Difficult Emotions: B-Side

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +0000

Emotions, even so-called negative emotions, can be helpful if we see them as guides. Emotions like guilt and ager can be helpful if they lead to positive change. So how do we know whether what we are feeling is helpful or unhelpful?
It's essential to differentiate between guilt that prompts growth and guilt that is rooted in shame. Similarly, self-perception and societal judgements complicate how we view our actions and worth.
As always, reflecting on our emotions with curiosity rather than judgement is key.

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Managing Difficult Emotions: A-Side

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +0100

“Emotions don’t kill you.”

A discussion between Nadine and Oakland DBT therapist Jonny Cragg about how taking emotional inventories (in a therapeutic modality called DBT) tailor therapeutic skills to emotional intensity. High emotions need robust interventions, while moderate ones require cognitive strategies. Mindfulness in DBT helps manage emotions and communication.

However, challenges include accurately observing emotions and applying strategies consistently. The approach is effective but needs practice and awareness, particularly for those with conditions like ADHD or borderline personality disorder. DBT focuses on present-moment regulation and techniques for immediate control, though deeper trauma may require additional treatments.

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Gravity - Surviving Overwhelming Pain: B-Side

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +0100

This episode discusses the importance of confronting unresolved pain, as we see with Dr. Ryan Stone in Gravity. Avoiding pain can lead to emotional shutdown and inauthentic living.
Therapy helps by revisiting past traumas, breaking rigid coping mechanisms, and allowing individuals to process and integrate their feelings. Through this process, we can heal, rediscover joy and reclaim control over our lives.
While difficult, facing buried pain with therapeutic guidance leads to emotional growth and authentic self-connection.

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Gravity - Surviving Overwhelming Pain: A-Side

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +0100

If you, like most people, enjoyed the episode on Frozen (Conceal; Don’t Feel: A-Side) then buckle up because Anoushka Beazley is back with an exploration of the film Gravity.

We talk about grief, loss, loneliness, and Anoushka brings her unique and tender insight to help us all understand what it’s like when we are trying to survive the crisis of loss.

Anoushka’s website: https://www.manderlaytherapy.com/

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Being Curious: B-Side - Jung's Shadow Theory

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 06:00:00 +0100

There are things that influence us which lie deep in our subconscious. This episode is about some of those. They are psychological backseat drivers. We all have a shadow, and into our shadow we stuff all the parts of ourselves we wish weren't true. And we stuff them in so well that we don't even know they're there. But they affect our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
This episode is all about that! And I think it's a belter.
As always, the things I discuss here are of a reasonably challenging nature, but I do stay away from trauma.

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Being Curious About Yourself: A-Side

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 07:00:00 +0100

Therapist, Emma McDermott, and I talk about how we can only really be curious about ourselves, especially the darker parts of ourselves, when we have the luxury of being stable.

When we have the luxury to be able to reflect, we are empowered to make real changes in our lives, changes that make us stronger, rather than changes which simply remove the obstacles which cause us pain.

Emma's Links
https://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/382326/emma-mcdermott/Manchester

Nadine's Links
www.nadinepittam.com

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Anxiety and The Monster In The Cupboard: B-Side

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 09:00:00 +0100

Delving in more detail into the difference between red flags and anxiety, as discussed by Meg and I on the A-Side.

I talk a lot about a model, a graph, in this episode. You can have a look at the graph by visiting the podcast page of my website. Seeing the graph will almost certainly aid your understanding of what I am talking about!

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Anxiety and The Monster In The Cupboard: A-Side

Fri, 28 Jun 2024 09:00:00 +0100

Meg and I talk about fear, and how much of our fear (maybe all of it) is generated by the mind itself as we try to predict the future, project the best version of ourselves out into the world and avoid pain.

We all strive to find happiness, but most of us are seeking it somewhere outside of ourselves. But we are rewarded for our striving, so we just pile on more anger at ourselves when we can't control our fear.

Meg and I also try to establish the difference between fear which is helpful for our survival and fear that is not.

Meg's Link
https://megharper.co.uk/

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One Task Of Mourning: B-Side

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 09:00:00 +0100

This episode explores how therapy might help you to process your grief...

It is the B-Side to the One Task Of Mourning A-Side which was released two weeks previously.

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One Task Of Mourning: A-Side

Fri, 31 May 2024 09:00:00 +0100

How our loss of a person, either through death or separation, is also a loss of the way we related to that person – which is ultimately a loss of a part of us. Or let me put it this way, when we lose someone we must grieve the unique soul of the person we have lost. We grieve the soul connection.

And though grief can’t be neatened up, we can observe it, look at it as a series of tasks: the 4 tasks of mourning written by J William Worden:

To accept the reality of the loss
To process the pain of grief
To adjust to a world without the deceased
To find an enduring connection with the deceased in the midst of embarking on a new life

This episode focuses a lot on the fourth of these, how we carry forward the relationship into a new future without the connection; how we update our relationships with people who are no longer with us or alongside us, and how we find ways to fill the emptiness after a loss. Who do we turn to or where do we turn to help us transition between having and not having?

LINKS

Tania’s links:

https://taniahershman.com/

Nadine’s links:

www.thiswontfixyou.com

www.nadinepittam.com

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Conceal; Don't Feel: B-Side

Fri, 17 May 2024 09:00:00 +0100

Following the last episode where Anoushka and I discussed the film Frozen, this episode looks at narratives: how the stories that are told about us become something that we can't help but react to.

I talk a little about IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy - in particular the term Exile, which is a way of naming the parts of ourselves that are not welcome in our families.

There's a brief series of questions at the end which, if you like, can take you a little deeper into your own narratives. If you choose to take part, then go easy and look after yourself.

This episode, like all episodes are not intended to be therapy, they are just to provoke your thoughts and reflections.

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Frozen: Conceal; Don't Feel, The: A-Side

Fri, 03 May 2024 09:00:00 +0100

This episode, we talk about the film Frozen and the dangers of suppression and the power of expression! We talk about how narratives that are spun about us, and the way experiences are framed in our lives – especially our childhoods – are key points influencing who we become.

It’s about the impact of being told we have too much power. It’s about how we heal when we have received messages that tell us to conceal, calm down, or be less of ourselves. It’s not always the incident itself that causes the trauma, sometimes it’s more how the incident is handled. If we are told our superpower (or perhaps just our self) is dangerous, then it is likely to become dangerous. If we have once hurt someone, that doesn’t mean we are inherently bad.

We also talk about the role of family, the role of love and the role of a potential therapist in our healing. That healing can happen when we become able to embody our own power, as Elsa does. How beautiful it can be when we are no longer hiding.

LINKS

Anoushka's links:
Anoushka Beazley: www.manderlaytherapy.com/

Nadine’s links:

www.thiswontfixyou.com
www.nadinepittam.com

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Helen Burrell for logo help
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Note on audio

It sounds like there is a grumpy gorilla in the next room at two or three points during this recording. I promise you, there was not!

It’s just that Anoushka and I battled with some background noises during recording. Someone nearby was using a hammer and chisel, and the biproduct of my dulling that sound means that you will hear an occasional background grunt!

Both Anoushka and I think it’s

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When The Fire Goes Out: B Side

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 13:00:00 +0100

Why do we get stuck? What makes it difficult to move on or through something? What narratives are at play in our psyche which we have utterly subscribed to which colour all our experiences?

This episode I look at how we get stuck because we don't trust ourselves.

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Nadine’s links:

Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com
Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com
Instagram: thiswontfixyou

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Helen Burrell for logo help

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When The Fire Goes Out: A Side

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 12:00:00 +0100

What happens when we get bored? I mean bored with work or bored with people? And what can we do about it?

Maybe you feel frustrated with your current relationship or work situation, and you want to rekindle the interest you had in the early fiery days of your new love.

Our society, fuelled by our media, feeds our desire for a quick fix, it feeds our obsessions with romance.

We think passion is outside us, something that happens to us and lands in us, but this episode looks at the ways we can keep the fire burning.

What we learn here is that passion is inherently finite, if it wasn’t it would exhaust us, so what happens when it fades? Emily Heath and I talk about how we might maintain our interest in our life, in particular, exploring the role curiosity plays in keeping our lives interesting.

LINKS

Emily Heath’s links:

www.emilyheath.coach

Nadine’s links:

www.thiswontfixyou.com

www.nadinepittam.com

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Nadine’s links:

Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com
Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com
Instagram: thiswontfixyou

Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude!

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If you like what you hear, please share with a friend…

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Helen Burrell for logo help

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I'm Fundamentally Flawed: B-Side

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 11:00:00 +0100

Essentially this goes into more detail about shame - what happens when we do begin to share some of our truths, in particular, what happens if we share something and the other person can't hold it with compassion, can't hold it with care, and you are plunged into shame?

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Nadine’s links:

Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com
Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com
Instagram: thiswontfixyou

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I'm Fundamentally Flawed: A-Side

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 10:00:00 +0100

BRIEF SUMMARY

If you struggle to own all parts of you, if there are some parts of yourself or your past that you think are just not suitable for public consumption then this episode is for you.

Personal Development Coach, Katie Bunting, and I talk about the metaphor “Stick A Flag In It”. We are basically talking about how owning all aspects of ourselves is not only essential for growth, happiness, connection and even a healthy sex life.

Sometimes we have all felt that who we are is not wholly OK. We might be lucky and think we have a few good qualities, but for some of us, we think we can only be liked or loved if we make sure that certain part or parts of ourselves are hidden from others. This episode is about owning and celebrating those parts, and about the compassion we need in order to do that.

If we can hold aloft our flaws and view them with compassion and respect then others are likely to do the same.

We also talk about how challenging it is to do exactly this, how impossible it can seem to trust that in sharing our truths, even the shameful dark bits, could bring us more rewarding relationships.

LINKS

Katie’s links:

www.facebook.com/groups/1074059196909734/?ref=share_group_link

https://www.instagram.com/_katiebunting_/

https://www.facebook.com/katie.bunting.37/

Nadine’s links:

www.thiswontfixyou.com

www.nadinepittam.com

Thanks to:

Helen Burrell for help with my logo!

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CALL TO ACTION / EPISODE LINK AND CONTACT INFO

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Support the show

Nadine’s links:

Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com
Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com
Instagram: thiswontfixyou

Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude!

Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice.

If you like what you hear, please share with a friend…

Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.

Find me at www.nadinepittam.com

Thanks to:

Helen Burrell for logo help

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Trailer: This Won't Fix You

Tue, 02 Apr 2024 15:00:00 +0100

Hello. I am so excited to be finally bringing this podcast to the world.

What follows here in this short episode is an outline of what you can expect from the podcast going forward.

As I say in the intro to each episode, the show is “a curation of interesting metaphors, models and images discovered or manifested in my work as a psychotherapist”. So if I’ve read or heard a funky idea, I’ll lift it from the book or the talk or the session, and offer it to you. It’s like I’ve run a highlighter through my training and knowledge so you can be presented with a summary of my brain!!

The thing is, being a psychotherapist means you encounter loads of really interesting ways of looking at life. Granted, it’s often ways of looking at life’s struggles… but anyway, it occurred to me one day that if I could find a way to share some of them it might be interesting for other people. It may even be helpful. (Side note: although may be helpful, it is not intended to be a substitute for therapy. There is no shortcut to the valuable work that goes on in the consulting room.)

And that’s the important thing. This podcast might make you marvel at how clever and creative some people are in how they manage to explain in words some really complex stuff, or it might make you see some popular media and well-known stories through a different lens… But it is unlikely to fix you!

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Nadine’s links:

Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.com
Counselling: www.nadinepittam.com
Instagram: thiswontfixyou

Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude!

Subscribe in the podcast app of your choice.

If you like what you hear, please share with a friend…

Rest assured, if the idea comes from someone else I will always credit that person, and there is definitely water-tight confidentiality for my clients.

Find me at www.nadinepittam.com

Thanks to:

Helen Burrell for logo help

Audio is The Beat of Nature by Olexy from Pixabay