That's right, you're not broken. You never were. It's your brain over-functioning.

In fact, it's a really common struggle in this modern, overstimulated world.

Look at all the people who are overworking, overeating, overgiving, overexercising, overthinking, overgrooming.

We're all chronically overwhelmed and addicted to it.

And it's because of something called intermittent reinforcement.

In this episode, I share with you how this particular brain function is one of the key drivers behind your BFPA* + tangible steps to rewiring your brain.

These steps don't require force, are backed by science, and will pull on your heartstrings. Not to mention, they will actually help you to move forward towards freedom.

Journaling prompts from the episode

"Needs" list. Which one calls to you?

• Relief
• Escape 
• Comfort
• Stimulation
• Certainty
• Control
• Numbing
• Achievement
• Connection

Whatever stood out to you in the list above, ask yourself these Qs:

1. Why is that need so important to you right now?
2. What would it give you to make the space to meet that need for yourself?
3. How might this impact those around you?
4. What will it cost you to not make the space to meet that need?
5. What are 3 tangibles things you can do to meet that need in your life right now?

References & Resources

• Determinants of Addiction: Neurobiological, Behavioral, Cognitive, and Sociocultural Factors
https://www.sciencedirect.com/book/monograph/9780323905787/determinants-of-addiction

• Intermittent Reinforcement: Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive
https://reachlink.com/advice/relations/intermittent-reinforcement/

• Engineered Highs: Reward Variability and Frequency as Potential Prerequisites of Behavioural Addiction
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306460323000217

• Wired for Want: How Dopamine Drives the New Epidemic of Everyday Addictions
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Zoe-Wyatt/publication/391756047_Wired_for_Want_How_Dopamine_Drives_the_New_Epidemic_of_Everyday_Addictions

• Stuck in a Toxic Cycle? This Psychological Pattern Might Be Why
https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why

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To truly regulate your emotions, you need to get out of your head and into your body.

The frustrating thing is that even if we understand this concept on a logical level, we can still be left feeling lost about how to implement it effectively and consistently.

This is because emotional regulation is a felt experience, not a thought process.

You've got to stop thinking about how to feel and instead allow yourself to experience it.

Like jumping out of a plane and floating to the ground far below. You can't truly appreciate the full experience unless you do it. Anything else is just living in our imagination rather than reality. 

So let's take that leap together and learn:

• The brain system that keeps you trapped in your head
• How the purpose of this system can be rooted in trauma
• What your inner child has to do with it all
• The steps to getting out of your head and into your body

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've been falling through the cracks of ill-fitted treatment and blaming yourself for being a hopelessly broken human being.

It's not your fault.

You've just been misinformed and going about healing the wrong way.

If this resonates, then odds are you'll find hope and a path forward in this episode.

You'll learn:

🌟How a behaviour can become an addiction
🌟Where addiction comes from
🌟How you can heal the root cause + the three core components that facilitate this

Resources:

Intermittent Reinforcement - article
https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why

In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate - book
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/617702.In_the_Realm_of_Hungry_Ghosts

Behavioral Addictions: Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment Options - article
https://americanaddictioncenters.org/behavioral-addictions

Introduction to Behavioral Addictions - study
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3164585/

The Difference Between an Addiction and a Compulsion - article
https://www.verywellmind.com/the-difference-between-an-addiction-and-a-compulsion-22240

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

But it's not enough to know this one small fact. In fact, maybe reading this leaves you feeling more lost than before.

This is because our mind needs to understand the WHY behind new information to make sense of it and organise it in our brain in a way that is helpful.

It's like you're on a long hike and someone adds a new, sparkly tool to your backpack. You get the sense it's important, but you don't know what it's for or how to use it, so it just becomes a burden.

This is what it's like when we hoard information without learning how to apply it.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why you procrastinate the things you know are good for you and end up picking/pulling/biting at your body instead

- The profound part your inner critic plays in this frustrating pattern

- Practical tools and questions to apply this knowledge to help you reduce procrastination, feel more regulated, and create more meaningful moments in your life

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I used to feel like there was something deeply wrong with me because of the thoughts that would barge their way into my head at the most random, inappropriate moments.

But judging yourself and trying to force the intrusive thoughts away has much the same effect as when we do the same with skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting - it just makes things worse. Sometimes destructively worse.

I hear you. I see you.

Let's work on this together.

What you'll learn:
🌟Where your intrusive thoughts are coming from
🌟The unexpected connection to chronic picking, pulling, or biting
🌟3 questions to generate a powerful perspective shift and deep healing

Here are the 3 questions from this episode. Save them in your phone for future reference:
How does it make me feel? 
What does that feeling make me want to do?
What is this behaviour protecting me from? 

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

But let's not forget the medical gaslighting most women have experienced on this topic, AND the unconscious gaslighting we do to ourselves.

What is it about all this that makes you want to pick, pull, and bite at your body with a whole new vigour every single month?

I think you can feel it. There's something there that isn't being taken seriously that really deserves to be.

It's time to understand what that is for you so that you can better care for yourself at every phase of your cycle.

Honour your mind. Honour your body. This is how you can reduce picking, pulling, and biting.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

And even when you hear about someone healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting, there's a little voice that says...

"It's not for me." "I'm not like them."

That's because you're not getting the full story! You're not hearing the how behind the transformation.

In this interview with one of my former clients, Yasmin, that's exactly what you'll get.

You’ll not only hear her incredible story of healing and transformation, but also the actions she took and the things we worked on together in our sessions that made all the difference.

Who knows, maybe simply through listening, you’ll gain important insight into what you can do to support your own healing as well.

Listen in to feel inspired, uplifted, and grounded in your own power through just how real and tangible this healing journey truly is. 

🟢Connect with Yamin on Instagram

🟢Email Yasmin at: hello@yasminloeffler.de

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Are you willing to set aside instant gratification for depth and long-term gain?

Then let's talk about the 4 most powerful growth areas!

In my 15 years of healing and the 3 years I have spent coaching others, like you, to heal as well, I've observed that the greatest change happens when we stop obsessing over how to control and stop this ONE behaviour and start looking at ourselves as a whole, unique human being.

We'll explore community, your relationship with self, how you are with self-care, what your purpose is and how you can find it (it's not as overwhelming as you might think. You've probably already been accessing it!)

There is so much more to you than picking, pulling, and biting.

There is so much more you have to gain than just not engaging in this behaviour anymore.

Let's explore all of you. The depths of you. And see what treasure this episode uncovers.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

While this makes sense for certain tasks, kicking your boots off after a long day's work can certainly feel gratifying. What happens if we struggle to find the time to ever allow ourselves to metaphically "kick off our boots?"

When you're stuck on "go", these moments of relief can feel like they're few and far between.

And the idea of just giving yourself a break before everything is done feels like a slippery slope into procrastination, avoidance, and laziness.

Deep down, you probably know you can't keep living like this, but how in the world can one STOP??

It's simple, profound, and possibly a little uncomfortable.

But if you really want to truly and deeply enjoy your life, and you're willing to take full responsibility for that becoming a reality, then let me share with you how it's done and how close that reality actually is for you.

We'll talk about:

• The science behind rest
• How you might be doing it "wrong" & how to do it "right"
• And a profound perspective shift that will make you realise you can access this TODAY

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it.

This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest.

Easy peasy, right? Right??

Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off.

Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt.

Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done. 

In this episode, we dive deeper into:

• The science behind why you can't slow down
• Where the real problem lies
• Experience a 5-minute guided somatic practice to help you learn how to switch off, slow down, and rest.

This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go".

Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy.

Listen-in to heal xx

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

The problem is that they don't address the root cause.

Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives.

This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living.

Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it.

In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface.

It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself.

This is healing.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting?

The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated.

AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully.

The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully.

Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body.

In this episode:

• You'll cultivate a deep understanding of why you pick on a good day
• The broader consequences of squashing your emotions
• and I walk you through how to feel fully through cultivating a connection between your mind and body

Enjoy 💛

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago.

So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better...

Or you're simply going about this the wrong way.

The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth.

The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it.

And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through.

That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck!

It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

And yet you STILL do it.

Why?

What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle?

It's actually pretty straightforward, though I wouldn't say it's easy, but neither is feeling stuck after all this time.

Let me tell you exactly what this missing piece is, and how to implement it into your life in the most effective, life-changing way.

Hint - it's about emotions, and the connection between your mind and body.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's the feeling of hoping things will get better.

Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free.

Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past.

But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine?

And when you understand what's really going on, you can begin to set yourself free and feel the empowerment that's waiting beneath this perpetual turmoil.

You'll find out in the first 60 seconds of this episode what the name of this cycle is, and over the remaining 15 minutes, you'll find out what you can do about it.

Good listening and Godspeed!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Why do I work with clients on this?

It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions!

When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey.

But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress.

If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey.

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Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community.

They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour.

Listen in to find out which you feel most drawn to because I guarantee it's probably what you need right now to take the next step in your healing.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM!

It's partly true but mostly a total lie and deeply unhelpful.

Yes, there are probably some things in your life that cause unnecessary stress that you'd be better off removing...

BUT, we cannot remove stress altogether and trying to do so only causes more of it.

So what do we do?

We turn inward.

I can tell you that, without a doubt, my life is objectively more stressful than it was 5 years ago... and yet, 5 years ago I was in the throes of chronic skin picking.

Not only do I now have 10x the responsibility and pressure, but I also love myself and enjoy my life 100x more.

Let me share with you the exact steps I took to create this very real and very realistic inner freedom that you were born to have too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better."

I've spoken to so many incredible people inside this community who desperately want to hope that healing and freedom from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting is possible...

But their experiences have taught them otherwise.

Let me share with you why hope feels so elusive and what you can do to rebuild it in simple, easy steps so that you can move forward in your healing journey towards the life and the person you dream of being!

I believe you can heal. Let me help you feel that it's possible too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've got to go about creating them in the right way.

Most people don't, and so they end up with affirmations that err on the side of toxic positivity. They give the "ick" and make people believe that affirmations are just useless fluff with no substance.

Toxic positivity is useless fluff, but true affirmations are deeply powerful and will help you to stay grounded as you navigate your way through the storms of healing.

• They're a reminder of your strength when you feel like you have none.
• They're a light in the dark when you feel lost.
• They're a warming touch when self-belief feels cold and distant.

In this episode, avoid the common mistakes most people make, ground into your greatness, and learn how to build your own unique, healing affirmations through a deep exploration of you.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

"I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby."

We know they'd be good for us if we just did them more regularly.

If thinking about these neglected habits makes you feel kinda shitty about yourself, then this episode was recorded for you.

Find out what might be the real culprit holding you back from following through and what you can do about it that will truly make a difference to your life.

It's not as complex as you might think!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too.

I did for years, and I still catch myself slipping into this self-sabotaging and degrading way of thinking.

If you want to feel more content, present, and fulfilled in your day-to-day life, make sure you listen to this because navigating this mental trap is a MUST!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment.

I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the better.

Because the truth is, you're not struggling with chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting - you're struggling with shame.

And I guarantee, the skin picking became a problem because you needed help coping with the shame (and stress and overwhelm), NOT the other way round.

To truly heal - feel better in ourselves and finally be able to relax and just "be" - we need to approach healing differently.

What I share with you in this episode is the approach that makes all the difference.

I can't wait for you to gain this invaluable tool!

Questions from this episode to save in your phone:
- What do I need right now?

- What is this moment trying to teach me?

- Is there anything I'm avoiding doing or saying in my life right now?

- Is there a hard conversation I know I need to have?

- Is there a boundary I'm not setting that my heart is telling me I need, but I'm afraid to act on?

- Where am I putting too much pressure on myself?

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I personally don't love the idea of New Year's resolutions, but I absolutely love goal setting and teaching others how to do it effectively because goal setting is a skill that will genuinely transform your life!

In this episode, I share with you:

1. The top 3 areas you need to focus on to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting in 2026.
2. How to turn them into personalised goals
3. And the absolutely vital components of goal setting you must learn to ensure you follow through, stay consistent, and actually create the change you wish to see.

Everything I share with you in this episode is science-based methods and skills that I'm constantly using in my day-to-day life.

Without them, I wouldn't be who I am today, and my clients wouldn't be getting the incredible results that they do.

Listen in to set yourself up for real change in 2026!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

There is a right way and a wrong way to support someone with a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB). Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there explaining what the right way actually is. That’s why I created this episode.

It’s short, because supporting your loved one effectively is much simpler than you might think.

You may even discover a thing or two about yourself while listening!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's because you didn't learn this one vital skill.

This skill lies at the core of why you pick, pull, & bite and learning it is the most powerful and effective path to healing you can take.

Listen in to find out what this skill is, why you never learnt it, and how you can truly start!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lost that zest for life. Rather than waking up looking forward to the day, we wake up not wanting to get out of bed, dreading what the day might bring, or feeling an underlying sense of urgency, like we're already behind.

Here's what the solution is not...

It's not doing more and trying harder, or quitting your job, selling all your belongings, and moving to a cabin in the woods.

The solution is not so drastic or dramatic.

In truth, it lies in learning how to slow down despite the never-ending to-do list.

It's easier said than done, but when you learn the simple yet powerful practice inside this episode, it will feel so much more achievable than ever before.

Oh, and it will help you to reduce picking, pulling and biting.

Listen in to find out how and why!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

And when I say "venting", I mean the cathartic act of complaining or offloading about your problems onto a loving and listening ear.

We've all done it/do it. Don't even try to deny it!

I struggled with chronic skin picking for 15 years, and venting was one of those hidden behaviours that was holding me back.

Is it doing to you what it did to me?

Find out in this episode what venting really is, how it might be affecting you in BIG ways, and how to transform this cathartic yet limiting behaviour into healthy communication, wholesome emotional regulation, and powerful growth.

While you may not be able to "just stop" picking and pulling right now. Many other areas of growth are within your control. This is one of them!

Listen in to heal 💛.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I've spoken to hundreds of people like you in this community, and they all want the same thing: relief, a break, the space to be themselves without this behaviour constantly getting in their way, like a shackle around their legs or a thorn in their side.

What I've noticed is that this "vital piece" holds the key to their chains, and yet almost every person I speak to is missing it, OR they're not as connected to it as they could be.

What I'm about to share with you completely transformed my life at 15 years old and has continued to guide me ever since.

Listen in to find out what it is and be guided through a powerful exercise to help you access it for yourself today!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

"When I stop picking, I'll be free, I'll be able to relax and just be."

Yes, finding freedom from skin picking and hair pulling will have a drastically positive impact on your life, BUT what most people describe as freedom is usually not based in reality and is actually keeping them stuck.

So is it truly possible to be free? Or have we got our heads in the clouds?

Listen in to find out.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

My guest, Vanessa Kerr, is one of Australia’s most respected strength coaches and the owner of Hills Barbell Club. She’s also the NSW Head Coach for the High Performance Team and a team coach for the Australian Weightlifting Federation. Vanessa has spent over a decade proving that strength training doesn’t just transform your body, it transforms your hormones, confidence, and long-term health.

Together we unpack:
 💪 Why lifting weights is one of the most powerful tools for hormone balance
 🌙 How it supports women through perimenopause and menopause
 🧠 The truth about the “bulky” myth (and why it’s so hard to build muscle as a woman)
 ⚡ The connection between strength, mental health, and confidence
 🥤 What new research reveals about creatine and women’s brain + hormone health

Vanessa also shares practical advice for women who want to start lifting, from finding the right coach to learning how to listen to your body and train intuitively through different seasons of life.

Whether you’re 25 or 55, it’s never too late to build strength, stability, and confidence in your body.

✨ Listen now to discover how weight training can fix your hormone issues and help you feel like yourself again!

🤝Connect with Vanessa on Facebook here!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root of your BFRB (body-focused repetitive behaviour) and what’s keeping you stuck in the cycle. You’ll walk away seeing your healing in a completely new light! One that’s grounded, empowering, and deeply personal.

Listen to discover:
 • Why surface-level tips don’t create sustainable results
 • The hidden stressors silently fueling your picking urges
 • How to begin healing in a way that actually lasts

💛 Plus: I share a special opportunity to receive a personalised holistic assessment. Available for a limited time only!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, I break down why modern-day overload drains impulse control and heightens emotional reactivity, making nights the hardest. You’ll learn simple somatic practices to reduce daily overstimulation so you can arrive in the evening more grounded, present, and in control.

What you’ll learn

• How all-day head noise and nonstop “go” prime your brain for nighttime picking
• Why overstimulation hijacks the prefrontal cortex and amps the amygdala
• The micro-pause: a 5-second body check-in that builds regulation through your day
• The “doorway plan”: decide your first three actions before you get home
• Slow-the-body rituals that gently pull you out of autopilot in the evening

You don’t need more willpower. You need less overload and more presence. Grab my free guide below, Stop Chronic Skin Picking: 5 Somatic Exercises + 2 Insider Tips, and start feeling calmer tonight. If this helped, a quick 5-star review means a lot!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this conversation with Harriet Bratt, international speaker, trainer, Firewalk Guide, & global best-selling Co-Author, we explore why high-achieving women often silence themselves and how to reconnect with your authentic voice.

You’ll learn:
 • What “finding your voice” really means (and why it’s not a one-time event)
 • How early experiences shape your ability to speak up
 • The difference between authentic expression and emotional reaction
 • How to know when to share and when silence is self-respect
 • Why confidence grows through practice, not perfection

This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” “too loud,” or "too quiet."

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I share how somatic practices helped me move from coping to healing, so even on hard days filled with stress, migraines, and breakouts, I no longer turn to picking. You’ll learn how reconnecting with your body builds emotional resilience and true self-trust.

What we cover:

• Why BFRBs are stress responses, not bad habits.
• What somatics are and how to practise them daily.
• The #1 mistake people make when starting somatic work.
• How to expand your emotional capacity and stay grounded.
• A powerful resource to help you heal from your BFRB!

Somatic healing isn’t a cure; it’s a relationship with yourself. Tune in to learn how to build it!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful conversation with women’s empowerment coach Adam Hudson, we explore what happens when one person in a relationship is growing and the other isn’t, why trying to “coach” or “fix” your partner doesn’t work, and the simple shift that creates real closeness instead.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why growth in relationships often feels uneven (and how to navigate it)
• The #1 mistake that creates distance instead of connection
• How to balance compassion with clear boundaries
• Practical shifts that build deeper understanding and trust
• Why love thrives on acceptance, not control

If you’ve ever wondered why your partner pulls away the more you try to help, this episode will show you a better way to connect.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, I challenge the popular narrative surrounding the ego and reveal why perceiving it as “bad” or “toxic” keeps you stuck in cycles of shame, self-doubt, and even chronic skin-picking. Instead, I offer a radically different perspective: your ego is not the enemy, it’s your wounded inner child, desperately trying to protect you.

• Why the mainstream idea of “killing the ego” is harmful, not healing
• The real role your ego plays in protecting you from old wounds
• How ego judgments fuel self-doubt and keep you stuck in unhealthy cycles
• A compassionate way to work with your ego so you feel at home in yourself
• Practical tools to shift from fighting yourself to embracing yourself

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough, no matter how hard you try, this conversation will show you a new path forward.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, coach Adam Hudson breaks down the three core ingredients that make love last and shows how to navigate the messy middle between the honeymoon phase and real life.

You’ll learn:

• The 3 essentials beyond love: attraction, real compatibility, and shared values/life goals
• How to ride out the end of the honeymoon phase with expectations that actually work
• 3 early red flags to stop ignoring: moving in too fast, early kid/family introductions, and ex-entanglements
• A simple way to start hard talks: the walk-and-talk, a one-sentence opener, and the “us vs. the problem” frame
• Why commitment + communication are the icing that helps everything grow, together and individually

If you’ve wondered why love hasn’t been “enough,” this conversation gives you the missing structure and scripts. Adam also shares his free 28-day communication resource. Check the show notes for the link.

- Reset Your Relationships FREE short course by Adam Husdon

- Adam's YouTube Channel

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, I share openly about processing anger, what it really means to speak your truth, and how change starts with the conversations you’re avoiding in your own life.

You’ll hear me talk about:

• Why anger and judgment never create the change we want
• What it takes to speak your truth with courage, even when it costs you
• The hidden cost of silencing yourself to be accepted
• How closed hearts fuel division—and what happens when we choose nuance instead
• Where you can actually start making a positive impact (hint: it’s closer than you think)

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful conversation with life coach and self-discovery expert Zerina, we explore what’s really keeping high achievers stuck, and how shifting from an IQ-driven mindset (focused on results) to an EQ-driven approach (focused on values, resilience, and emotional awareness) creates true fulfillment.

You’ll discover:

• The hidden “gap” that leaves many high achievers feeling unfulfilled
• Why self-awareness isn’t just knowing yourself, it’s unlearning old patterns
• The difference between fake letting go and real letting go (and how to spot the difference)
• How to use fear and excitement as a compass for aligned decisions
• A simple, practical way to start building your EQ today

If you’ve ever achieved the goals you set for yourself but still wondered, “Is this really it?” This episode will give you tools, insights, and inspiration to start creating a life that feels as good as it looks.

Follow Zerina on Instagram here

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Blair has spent decades researching behaviour and creating mind models: practical, flexible tools that help people move forward, stop self-sabotage, and build resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why “mindset” is outdated and how mind models offer a more effective path
• How to stop focusing on fixing weaknesses and instead build on your strengths
• A simple but powerful shift from judgment to evaluation that changes everything
• The role of labelling emotions and why it creates more clarity than certainty
• Practical exercises to build confidence, adaptability, and real resilience

This is a conversation filled with fresh perspectives and tools you can immediately apply in your own life.

Blair's resources:

🌟FREE Mind Model Masterclass

🌟Book - Ultimate Mind Hacking: 16 Highly Effective Ways to Smash Unhealthy Mindsets by Blair Dunkley

🌟FREE Weekly Training on Mind Models

🌟FREE Profiling Session with Blair Dunkley (book via LinkedIn)

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Most high-achieving women know self-care is important, yet it often feels like one more task on the never-ending to-do list!

In this episode, I share why that happens, the deeper beliefs behind it, and how to reframe self-care so it feels nourishing instead of draining.

You’ll hear about:

• Why high-achieving women often struggle to prioritize self-care without guilt.
• The hidden connection between productivity, worthiness, and self-neglect.
• A “child self” perspective shift that helps you care for yourself differently.
• Everyday practices that actually ground and recharge you (not just quick fixes).
• Reflection questions to help you define self-care in a way that feels natural and consistent.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Karen shares how breathwork can help you process what you’ve been carrying, sometimes for years or even generations, without having to “figure it out” in your head. We talk about how the body naturally knows how to regulate, why so many of us block that process, and how to use the breath to come back to a place of peace and clarity.

In this conversation, we explore:

• What breathwork actually is and how it works
• The connection between breath and releasing buried emotions
• How trauma and generational patterns show up in the body
• Why you don’t need to “understand” your pain to start letting it go
• Simple grounding practices you can use right now
• Karen’s own healing journey and her most profound client experiences

Karen also shares a short, powerful breathwork technique you can try at the end of this episode to instantly bring yourself back to the present moment when your mind is spinning.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your body, this conversation is a beautiful invitation to slow down, breathe, and trust your body’s innate wisdom to guide you home.

🌟Follow Karen Theimer on socials, check out her website, or get in contact with her here!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

She shares how she went from self-criticism and perfectionism to cultivating compassion, celebrating her progress, and finding freedom from the shame of skin picking.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• How learning to celebrate herself changed Melissa’s relationship with confidence
• The shift from willpower and harshness to kindness and flexibility
• Why the mind-body connection has been a game-changer in reducing skin picking
• How community and group calls accelerated her growth and self-acceptance
• Advice for anyone feeling like it's “too late” to start their healing journey

Melissa’s story is an inspiring reminder that no matter your age, background, or how long you’ve been struggling, it’s never too late to meet yourself with loving kindness and create lasting change.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Adam Hudson returns to break down why adult friendship feels so hard, how your past experiences shape your current relationships, and what to do about it starting today.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in surface-level connections or unsure how to deepen friendships without oversharing or people-pleasing, this conversation will hit home.

We cover:

• The 3 levels of friendship and how to deepen each one
• Why some friendships drain you (and what to do about it)
• How your past pain, especially from school years, shapes your social life now
• Real ways to build meaningful connections without trying so hard
• What not to ignore when bringing someone into your inner circle

Whether you’re craving deeper bonds or just want to feel less alone, this episode gives you a grounded, real-world path forward. And as always, expect personal stories, a few laughs, and a whole lot of authenticity.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I’m unpacking a pattern I see in myself and in so many others who are on a growth journey: doing all the inner work, yet still feeling like it’s not enough. In this episode, I offer a perspective shift that might help you finally see what’s already changed.

In this episode, I share:

• Why the voice that pushes you to do more might be the one holding you back
• How learning to celebrate yourself (especially when you don’t feel like you deserve it) changes everything
• What self-kindness really looks like when you're struggling or slipping
• A personal story of what it means to create the safety you never had
• Why your worst moments are the real test, and proof, of your growth

This is a deeply honest conversation about what we’re really searching for when we commit to this path and how to recognise it when it finally starts to arrive.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I’m diving into a conversation I’ve wanted to have for a long time. One that’s honest, direct, and grounded in love.

Because what if the thing we often call empathy… isn’t actually empathy at all?

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why what you’re feeling might actually be a trauma response, not true empathy
• How growing up as the peacekeeper shapes your adult relationships
• The difference between compassion and self-abandonment
• The one question I ask myself to spot people-pleasing in real time
• What changes when you stop taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions

This episode is about claiming your sensitivity with boundaries, showing up with integrity, and no longer abandoning yourself in the name of being kind.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility.

Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you.

We explore:

• How parenthood becomes a mirror for your deepest unresolved wounds
• The pressure of modern self-development culture and the danger of victim labels
• What true self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths and Bali)
• Why compassion, not perfection, is the highest goal in personal growth
• Tangible advice on emotional attunement, relationships, and breaking the fantasy of “having it all together”

This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We explore the difference between being a victim and living in victimhood and how shifting out of the latter changes everything.

Inside this episode:

• The honest truth about why recurring problems keep showing up in your life
• The key distinction between compassion and responsibility
• How subconscious beliefs keep us stuck in blame (and how to break free)
• Real-life examples from my marriage and money story and how I reclaimed my power
• A 14-day practice to stop venting and start changing your life

This conversation is not about blaming yourself; it’s about setting yourself free. If you’re ready to feel empowered again, this one’s for you.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Whether you're constantly in go-mode, navigating emotional blocks in your relationship, or trying to understand your partner more deeply… this one will hit home.

We cover:

• Why masculine energy isn’t the enemy and feminine energy isn’t just flowy dresses and bubble baths
• How to move between “doing” and “being” energy, depending on what life is asking of you
• The real reason ambitious women test their partners and how to stop setting them up to fail
• Why shadow work might be overcomplicated, and a simpler way to understand your hidden traits
• What men actually need in relationships and what women are really asking for when they want “safety”

This is one of those episodes that helps you understand yourself, your relationships, and your energy on a whole new level.

Ask yourself: What’s in front of me right now? And what part of me does it require - my masculine or my feminine?

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we explore the deeper cost of self-punishment and how it silently erodes our confidence, worsens chronic skin picking, and holds us back from true growth. If you've struggled with perfectionism, this ones for you.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why punishing yourself doesn’t lead to lasting change (and often backfires)
• How childhood conditioning around mistakes wires us for shame
• The link between shame, perfectionism, and chronic skin picking
• What radical self-responsibility really means and why it’s not the same as self-blame
• A new, grounded way to handle mistakes that builds confidence instead of eroding it

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, I share a raw, real-life moment where everything went wrong, and exactly how I turned it into a reset instead of a breakdown. If you’re craving a life that feels calmer but still purposeful, this one’s for you.

Here's what you'll gain:
 • A simple nervous system reset for when everything goes sideways
 • How to spot your early warning signs of burnout
 • The hidden beliefs driving your go-go-go mindset
 • Why self-neglect feels “productive” (but really isn’t)
 • A gentle system to feel good in your life without sacrificing momentum

Let this episode be your permission slip to stop hustling for worth and start building a life that feels as good as it looks.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this heart-to-heart, I share what slowing down really means (and what it doesn't), why high-achievers resist it, and how you can begin doing it without guilt, shame, or losing your edge. Because slowing down isn’t about doing less, it’s about doing life with more presence, peace, and purpose.

You’ll learn:

• Why constantly being “on” drains your decision-making and self-worth
• A powerful metaphor that explains what you’re missing by rushing through life
• Four small shifts to start slowing down today (without throwing your routine out the window)
• What to do when slowing down feels uncomfortable, pointless, or unproductive
• How to handle others judging your pace and why slowing down inspires more than it disappoints

This isn’t about laziness or neglect, it’s about choosing intentionality over autopilot. Tune in and give yourself the permission you didn’t know you needed.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap, what drives hyper-independence, how to identify your own blueprint, and the exact tools you need to rewire old emotional habits.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you take radical responsibility for your patterns without shame, and offer hope that deep, stable connection is possible.

What We Cover:

• What a “relationship blueprint” is and where it comes from
• The real difference between attachment style and attachment blueprint
• Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each other, and how it plays out
• The myth of hyper-independence and the cost of emotional self-protection
• How to self-soothe and regulate when you're triggered
• Why avoiding conflict doesn't keep you safe - it keeps you disconnected
• The specific steps both anxious and avoidant types can take to build security
• Why healing your attachment wounds in partnership can be the most powerful growth work you'll ever do

Quote Highlight:

"You’re not unlovable - you’re running a blueprint that you didn’t consciously choose. But once you see it, you can change it."

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Whether you live with ADHD, get stuck in overwhelm, or just feel scattered during the day, this episode offers gentle, actionable support to help you work with your brain, not against it.

What You’ll Learn:

• Two simple focus-boosting tools: magnesium + the Pomodoro method
• Why pushing through distraction often backfires
• How to break big tasks into smaller, doable steps
• The importance of realistic expectations and adjusting your workload
• How to use “bridging tasks” to transition between activities
• Tips to reduce overwhelm and create a smoother daily flow
• Why working with yourself is more effective than forcing discipline

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful session, I’m joined by Angela, a courageous client who opens up about her year-long journey of transformation.

What began as a desire to stop skin picking turned into something much deeper: learning to trust herself, speak up, and live from a place of compassion rather than shame.

Angela shares how she went from carrying skin-picking tools everywhere to no longer needing them at all!

We dive into the connection between suppressed emotions and compulsive behaviors, the life-changing impact of using her voice, and the ripple effect of healing not only for herself but for the young girls she now mentors.

She also vulnerably opens up about uncovering family secrets, finding a new sense of identity, and stepping into unfamiliar spaces.

What we talk about in this session:

• The moment Angela stopped believing there was something “wrong” with her
• How she broke free from the cycle of shame and control
• Using her voice in moments she would've stayed silent before
• The surprising connection between silence, frustration, and skin picking

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We also explore an important question from my free support group - "Why does eating sugar increase the urge to pick your skin?+

Here’s what you’ll learn:
 • How sugar impacts dopamine, stress, and emotional regulation
 • Why sugar cravings and skin picking urges are biologically connected
 • What the research says about sugar’s addictive nature
 • Three realistic ways to reduce sugar’s impact without going cold turkey
 • How to enjoy sweets more mindfully without falling into picking spirals

This is a grounded, practical conversation that helps you take more control without creating food anxiety.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this conversation, we explore what it really takes to come home to yourself.

Through the lens of Adam Hudson’s raw, personal story, we unpack the deeper patterns behind burnout, disconnection, and fear of being seen so you can start rewriting your own.

Inside this episode:

• Why rebuilding self-trust is the foundation for real change
• How to stop avoiding your truth and start hearing it
• What the inner rebel is trying to tell you, and how to let it guide you
• Why empowerment isn’t about perfection, but radical self-acceptance
• The hidden cost of success when it’s built on suppression
• How to know when it’s time to walk away from something that no longer fits
• What to do when healing feels messy, nonlinear, or slow

Whether you’re navigating loss, a big transition, or a quiet inner reckoning, this episode will give you insight, language, and hope for what comes next.

Press play and reconnect with the version of you that’s been waiting to rise.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this heartfelt episode, Raffaela Marie dives deep into the nature of intrusive thoughts, exploring how they connect to chronic skin picking and other Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs).
Drawing from her personal healing journey and research, Raffaela sheds light on why intrusive thoughts develop, how they often stem from trauma, and why self-acceptance and community are essential for lasting healing.

You’ll learn:

• What intrusive thoughts really are - and what they’re not
• Why these thoughts often emerge from a place of protection, not pathology
• How intrusive thoughts fuel compulsive behaviors like skin picking
• Practical, holistic strategies for managing intrusive thoughts with compassion

If you've ever felt ashamed, afraid, or stuck because of the thoughts in your mind, this episode offers hope, understanding, and a realistic path forward.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Raffaela Marie dives into the nuanced relationship between chronic skin picking and compulsive behaviours, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Drawing from personal experiences and psychological insights, she explores how skin picking can function as a compulsive behaviour tied to control, intrusive thoughts, and emotional overwhelm.

You’ll gain clarity on:

• How OCD shows up in skin picking patterns
• The role of control, perfectionism, and anxiety
• Why shame-free understanding is key to healing
• How to relate more compassionately to your urges

This is a must-listen for anyone questioning the root of their behavior or seeking a more informed, supportive path to recovery. Whether you’ve been diagnosed with OCD or simply suspect there’s more beneath the surface, this episode brings depth, validation, and direction.

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction to the Podcast
• 01:21 – Understanding Chronic Skin Picking as an Addiction
• 02:58 – Exploring Chronic Skin Picking as OCD
• 07:45 – The Role of Control in OCD
• 19:42 – Personal Experiences with OCD and Intrusive Thoughts
• 28:29 – Healing and Moving Forward
• 30:15 – Conclusion and Call to Action

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we explore why skin picking often intensifies during the first few months of the year. Through heartfelt personal reflections and powerful listener stories, we unpack the pressure of New Year’s resolutions, post-holiday fatigue, and rising responsibilities that can all become hidden triggers.

This episode offers practical tools and a compassionate mindset shift to help you:

• Recognize and manage seasonal and situational triggers
• Let go of the pressure to “start fresh” perfectly
• Create goals that align with your capacity, not your inner critic
• Prioritize rest and self-kindness as part of your healing journey

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by expectations or stuck in a cycle of picking, this episode offers a supportive roadmap for regaining your balance.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We’ll explore:

• What NAC is and how it’s connected to antioxidants and glutathione
• How oxidative stress affects your body (and mind)
• The possible link between NAC and neurotransmitters like dopamine and glutamate
• Real experiences from the community on whether it helped
• What else you can do to support your healing from the inside out

Plus, Raffaela shares simple but powerful lifestyle shifts that support your nervous system and reduce urges - no supplement required.

If you've been curious about NAC or wondering whether it's worth adding to your routine, this episode is a must-listen.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You’re not alone - and you're not stuck.

In this episode, host Raffaela Marie opens up about the emotional highs and lows of healing from chronic skin picking. With honesty and empathy, she explores what it means to face rough patches, manage expectations, and find moments of comfort even in the hardest times.

You'll walk away with mindset shifts and practical tools to help you stay grounded, feel less alone, and reconnect to your progress.

Healing isn’t linear, but it is possible!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we dive into the four thinking archetypes from the Meta Dynamics® profiling tool: Visionary, Architect, Dynamo, and Collaborator - and explore how each one influences your healing journey.

You’ll learn:

• How to figure out your dominant archetype so you can understand your unique healing patterns
• What a “thinking style” actually is and why it matters
• The strengths and blind spots of each archetype
• How your natural way of thinking can both help and hinder progress
• The most common roadblocks each archetype faces
• Simple mindset shifts and growth areas to support lasting change

Whether you tend to overanalyze, avoid structure, take on too much, or people-please your way through challenges… this episode will help you recognise the patterns and start working with your brain instead of against it.

🎧 Listen now and discover the thinking style that’s shaping your healing path and how to use it to your advantage!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Rafaela Marie shares her personal journey of overcoming 15 years of chronic skin picking and 10 years of depression—and why the common narrative around chemical imbalance doesn’t tell the full story.

You’ll learn about the connection between chronic stress, emotional regulation, and compulsive behaviors—and why healing requires more than just addressing brain chemistry.

If you've ever felt stuck in cycles of skin picking or depression, this episode will help you rethink healing and reclaim self-trust by exploring:

• Why the chemical imbalance theory doesn’t fully explain depression or skin picking
• The role of chronic stress in emotional regulation and compulsive behaviors
• How childhood experiences and environment shape coping mechanisms
• The importance of self-trust, purpose, and hope in healing

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Resources:

• Havard Health Publishing - What Causes Depression? Onset of depression more complex than a brain chemical imbalance
• Lone Star Neurology - Understanding the Connection Between Chronic Stress and Neurotransmitter Levels
• Frontiers - Emotion Regulation in Current and Remitted Depression: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we explore the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in the cycle of skin picking and how to finally break free. You’ll discover the 3 foundational skills we need to heal, skills that shift the way you approach setbacks, self-trust, and long-term change.

Most people focus on stopping the behavior - but that’s not where real healing happens. When you build these 3 key skills, you create a foundation that makes lasting freedom possible.

If you’ve ever felt like nothing works or that you’re doomed to repeat the same cycle, this episode will change how you see your healing journey.

👉 Tune in now to uncover the skills that make true healing possible!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we uncover a sneaky, often-overlooked trigger that disrupts focus, impulse control, and emotional regulation—without you even realizing it.

Here’s what you’ll take away:

• The hidden trigger behind this cycle
• The two key factors that make it so harmful
• Three powerful tools to counter its effects
• One simple, game-changing tip
• A mindset shift essential for success
• A challenge to help you put it all into action

Ready to take back control? Let’s dive in.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you’re seeking a challenging, innovative approach to chronic skin picking that builds emotional resilience and keeps you in control when the urge strikes, this episode is for you!

What you'll discover:

• Foundations and Logic Behind the Practice
• The 6 Step Practice
• The #1 Concern Before Starting
• 3 Simple Steps to Set Yourself Up for Success
• The #1 Mistake to Avoid

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we break down the six levels of healing and help you identify where you are on your journey so you can finally understand what’s keeping you stuck and the next step you need to take to move forward!

By understanding each level, you’ll gain clarity, practical tools, and a deeper awareness of how to navigate your healing journey with self-compassion and confidence.

Here’s what you’ll learn:
✨ How to recognize which level you’re currently in and why that matters
✨ Why disconnection keeps you stuck and how to reconnect with yourself
✨ How shame blocks your progress and how to shift it into self-discovery
✨ Why simplifying your approach and embracing small steps leads to real progress

No matter where you are on your healing journey, this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement you need to take that next step with confidence.

🌟Email Raffaela here to gain access to the Healing Loop Mastermind as soon as it's ready!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode we explore why expressing yourself can feel so difficult and how to gently build the courage to speak your truth. You’ll uncover the roots of these fears, learn simple practices to boost your confidence and discover actionable steps to become more assertive.

You'll be guided through navigating intimidating authority figures, handling discomfort, and speaking with authenticity.

Whether you freeze in tough conversations or hesitate to voice your thoughts, this episode offers a practical roadmap to reclaim your voice and build self-assurance in every interaction.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

• How these roles form in enmeshed families and why they persist.
• The impact of these roles on your self-worth, emotional regulation, and behaviors.
• How to recognize your role and break free to reclaim your authentic self.

This episode is a must-listen if you're ready to step beyond outdated family dynamics and reclaim your freedom, authenticity, and healing journey. 💡✨

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Here’s what we’ll explore:

• The true definition of enmeshment and its signs in relationships and families.
• How enmeshment contributes to anxiety and chronic skin picking.
• The difference between love and compassion and enmeshment.
• Actionable steps to UNenmesh yourself and reclaim your autonomy.
• The role of boundaries in creating and maintaining healthy relationships.

Feeling responsible for others' emotions is a common trigger for chronic skin picking, but it doesn’t have to control you. This episode will help you distinguish between healthy interdependence and enmeshment so that you can develop a healthier relationship with yourself, and others and ultimately free yourself from chronic skin picking!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Drawing from her 15 years of lived experience with chronic skin picking and science-backed research, Raffaela explores how this behavior is influenced by your genes but not necessarily inherited. Learn how lifestyle changes and emotional regulation can be powerful tools in your healing journey.

Plus, don’t miss the exciting announcement of the free Healing Loop Mastermind! A transformative experience to guide you toward freedom from chronic skin picking.

What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

• What genetics really have to do with chronic skin picking
• The difference between inherited traits and learned behaviours
• How your environment plays a significant role in shaping this behavior
• Practical ways to promote healing through lifestyle and emotional regulation

Ready to take the next step in your healing journey? Don’t miss this episode filled with actionable insights and inspiration!

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Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Welcome and Introduction
00:39 – Listener Shoutout and Exciting Announcement
01:11 – The Healing Loop Mastermind
04:43 – Is Chronic Skin Picking Genetic?
06:36 – Understanding Genetics and Traits
15:43 – Behavior vs. Genetics
18:44 – Environmental Influences and Healing
29:27 – Conclusion and Next Step

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode of the Untapped Potential Podcast, host Raffaella Marie explores the true nature of confidence and provides a step-by-step guide to building it.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• How to set healthy boundaries and follow through on commitments.
• Why maintaining realistic expectations is key to self-assurance.
• The profound difference between ego-driven and authentic confidence.
• How your posture influences your sense of confidence.

If you’ve ever felt shut out of the ‘confidence club,’ this episode will show you how to get in.

Tune in to uncover five powerful skills that will help you feel confident and grounded in any situation.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

From a challenging childhood to becoming a confident and empowering coach, Raffaela shares the pivotal moments that shaped her healing and inspired her transformation.

Through heartfelt insights, she highlights how small, consistent steps and unwavering determination can lead to profound personal growth and self-belief.

Tune in for an inspiring reminder that healing and transformation are possible for everyone—starting right where you are. 💛

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Drawing from her personal journey with chronic skin picking and insights from brain and behavioral science, Raffaela shares 3 simple, science-backed rules for successful goal setting.

You’ll also hear an inspiring story from a client who made life-changing progress within just one year.

If you’re ready to rebuild self-trust, make meaningful changes, and set yourself up for success, this episode is your guide! 

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we explore a practical and empowering approach to helping you navigate conversations and situations that make you uncomfortable.

You’ll learn...

• How to decide what and how much to share with others
• Empowering tips to set yourself up for success before any social event
• Practical techniques to handle or exit uncomfortable conversations gracefully

Tune in to feel more confident, set healthy boundaries, and take control in social settings!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we dive into why this happens and explore simple, practical strategies to help reduce the urge to pick - so you can enjoy the festive season without the added worry about your skin!

This episode is short and sweet, with plenty of depth to support your healing journey.

Plus! There's an early Christmas gift waiting in the first couple of minutes of this episode for you 🎁

Tune in to find out what it is!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Raffaela introduces a groundbreaking concept that hasn’t been explored with such intention and depth in the dermatillomania community:

The 5 Types of Chronic Skin Picking.
Here’s what you’ll learn:

• What the 5 types are.
• What they reveal about where you are in your healing journey.
• Unique strategies and techniques tailored to address each type.

This framework was developed by Raffaela in collaboration with her clients inside STRENGTH: The Roadmap to Healing from Chronic Skin Picking.

So, which of the 5 types resonate most with you? Tune in to uncover insights that can transform the way you approach your healing!

🌟Podcast episode recommendations:
Episode 36: Feeling your Feeling - Are You Doing it Right?
Episode 22: Breaking the Cycle of Overwhelming Thoughts

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

CBT is one of the more popular approaches for managing chronic skin picking, but does it work for everyone?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into CBT and chronic skin picking:

• What is CBT, and how does it help?
• The strengths and limitations of CBT.
• Why it might not have given you the results you hoped for.
• Exploring habit reversal training, stimulus control, and emotional regulation.
• How CBT compares to a holistic approach for lasting healing.

If you’ve been curious about CBT, or wondering why it didn’t fully work for you, this episode will shed light on its role in your healing journey and whether it’s the right fit for you.

Tune in to explore the path to lasting freedom from chronic skin picking.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

But how do you truly do it?

And how can you tell if you’re doing it the “right” way?

In this episode, we explore why feeling your emotions is a fundamental step in healing from body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs).

You’ll learn:

• The science behind feeling your feelings and why it’s vital for healing.
• How to recognize when you’re doing it effectively.
• A simple yet powerful technique to connect with your emotions.

Tune in to gain clarity and take this essential step in your healing journey!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we dive into how this fear is deeply connected to skin picking and why understanding it is crucial for finding lasting freedom.

You’ll also discover the three wholesome practices that can naturally replace skin picking in your healing journey.

Tune in now to uncover the key to breaking free and embracing a healthier, more empowered version of yourself*

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, we dive into passive aggression and its link to body-focused repetitive behaviors like chronic skin picking.

You’ll learn practical tools to navigate passive aggression—both from others and within yourself—while gaining insights to improve relationships, emotional regulation, and self-awareness.

Discover how handling passive aggression in a healthy way can reduce skin picking and support your healing journey.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

When we judge our progress solely by how much we pick (or don’t pick), it often leads to self-criticism and can even sabotage the progress we’re making!

There’s a better way to track your progress - one that boosts your self-confidence and helps you stay consistent on your healing journey…

It’s called the 6 Signs of Healing specific to chronic skin picking...

In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these signs and gain a deeper understanding of your journey so you can see the real progress you’re making!

The best part? You can assess where you’re at as you listen to this episode, so by the end, you’ll know just how far you’ve truly come.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

While it’s impossible to predict the exact days, hours, or minutes until you leave chronic skin picking behind, there are ways to gain clarity on your progress!

In this episode, we explore the 4 universal needs essential to human thriving, as identified in psychology. You’ll learn:

• What the 4 universal needs are
• How they impact your journey to heal from chronic skin picking
• How you can use the 4 universal needs as benchmarks for your recovery
• Practical exercises to help you apply these concepts to your life

As always, this episode is designed to deepen your self-understanding and provide practical tools to support your healing that you can use today.

Note: This episode is for those ready to invest in meaningful, lasting change—not for those looking for a quick fix.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Raffaella dives deep into how busyness can be both a tool for healing and a barrier to progress.

Learn how to strike the right balance between staying productive and avoiding emotional suppression, with practical advice to ensure you're not holding yourself back.

This episode is a reality check for those ready to face the truth, embrace self-compassion, and take real steps toward healing from chronic skin picking.

If you're ready to make lasting progress, you won’t want to miss it.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

• transform body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs)
• and uncover practical strategies that you can implement today to recognize and manage early signs of dysregulation

Packed with brain and behavioral science insights, this episode offers a fresh perspective on achieving lasting healing.

Tune in to explore how mindfulness can reduce reactivity and the compulsion to engage in BFRBs!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.