Discussing a difficult topic with your husband does not have to be heavy.

By the time many couples sit down to talk about a conflict, they have already replayed what happened, assigned meaning to their spouse’s behavior, and reached a verdict about who is right and who is wrong. The conversation feels heavy before anyone says a word.

In this episode, I share why the preparation you do before talking matters just as much as the words you eventually choose.

Tune in to hear me share:

• Why a serious topic does not have to create an emotionally heavy conversation
• How assumptions and unprocessed emotions add weight before the conversation begins
• How to separate the facts, the story, and your personal history
• The questions that reveal whether you are ready to talk
• A simple formula for opening a difficult conversation collaboratively
• What to do when your spouse still becomes defensive or shuts down

Conflict is inevitable, but arguing is optional. You cannot control your spouse’s reaction, but you can influence whether the conversation feels like an attack or an invitation to understand each other and solve the problem as a team.

Resources Mentioned:
Grab my Conflict to Connection Guide here!

Schedule your clarity call here!

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You might not need more time. You might need to manage your energy differently.

As moms, it can feel like there’s never enough time to get everything done. Between work, kids, marriage, the house, and everything else competing for our attention, it’s easy to assume the solution is becoming more productive.

But what if time isn’t actually the biggest problem and what if you could stop judging yourself for not doing more?

In this episode, I’m joined by Lori Oberleckling, creator of Secrets of Supermom, to talk about why moms often run out of energy before they run out of time and how paying attention to your energy can completely change the way you approach your days.

We talk about letting go of the pressure to “do it all,” identifying what deserves your time in this season, and recognizing the difference between things that drain your energy and things that give it back.

We also get into why hobbies and interests aren’t frivolous for moms, how to stop feeling guilty about delegating, and why becoming intentional about your evenings, phone habits, and downtime can help you show up more like the version of yourself you actually want to be.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why women who seem to “do it all” usually aren’t
• The problem with following productivity systems perfectly
• Why energy management matters as much as time management
• How to identify your energy bleeds, blocks, and boosts
• Why rest and enjoyment don’t have to be earned
• How hobbies can actually give you more capacity for motherhood
• The difference between intentional downtime and mindless scrolling
• Why experimenting with your routines can help you find what actually works for you
• What our kids learn when they see us trying new things and being beginners

If you constantly feel like there’s more to do than you have capacity for, this conversation will help you rethink productivity and start creating a life that works with your energy instead of constantly draining it.

Connect with Lori:
Website: https://www.secretsofsupermom.com
Podcast: https://secretsofsupermom.com/the-blog/
Facebook Page: https://www.Facebook.com/secretsofsupermom
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/secretsofsupermom
Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/secretsofsupermom
LinkedIn: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/secretsofsupermom

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TW: Loss

The biggest pitfall to your marriage isn't conflict. It's assuming you'll always have more time.

A few weeks ago, I lost one of my best friends.

Her passing changed the way I think about life, marriage, and the conversations we choose to postpone.

As parents, it's easy to believe there will always be another season to reconnect, another opportunity to express appreciation, another day to repair what feels unresolved.

But tomorrow isn't promised.

In this deeply personal episode, I share how grief has inspired me to find ways to be even more intentional and why the healthiest marriages aren't built by avoiding difficult conversations but by having them while we still have the chance.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why we naturally postpone what matters most
• The hidden cost of unspoken appreciation
• How avoiding difficult conversations creates distance
• Small daily choices that build lasting connection
• Reflection questions that can transform your marriage today

If you've been waiting for the "right time" to reconnect with your spouse, this episode is your reminder that today is the best place to start.

Resources Mentioned:
Conflict to Connection Guide
The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need to Have Masterclass
Book a Clarity Call to get help

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Part of having a healthy partnership in marriage is understanding each other.

As women, we often assume we have more challenges than men once we become parents but that doesn't negate any challenges that they may experience.

In this episode, I am joined by Men's Coach and previous client of mine, Mike Mendez to chat about common struggles that men experience like the  invisible pressures they carry.

Pressure to provide. Pressure to succeed. Pressure to stay strong. Pressure to put everyone else's needs ahead of their own.

We discuss the inherited beliefs many men carry about work, money, fatherhood, and success, how those beliefs impact marriage, and what happens when men finally give themselves permission to question the scripts they've been living by.

If you've ever wondered what is happening beneath the surface for your husband, this episode is for you.

Things we discuss:
- The pressure many men feel to be providers
- How financial anxiety impacts marriage
- Why success doesn't always lead to fulfillment
- The inherited scripts that shape our decisions
- The emotional struggles men often keep hidden
- Why awareness is the first step toward change

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https://mikemendezcoaching.com/
https://www.youtube.com/@mikemendezcoaching
https://www.facebook.com/mikemendezcoaching

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Most couples aren't disconnected because they don't care. They're disconnected because they were never taught how to create a marriage that works for them.

If you've tried talking more, reading relationship books, listening to podcasts, or even attending therapy but still feel stuck in the same patterns, this episode will help you understand why.

In Part 1 of this new series, I share the hidden reason so many couples continue struggling despite their best efforts. The issue often isn't a lack of love, effort, or commitment. It's the absence of a system.

You'll learn the four foundational components every healthy marriage needs and why missing even one can create resentment, conflict, emotional distance, or the feeling that you've become roommates.

In this episode, I cover:
• Why talking about problems isn't always enough
• The difference between fixing arguments and fixing systems
• The four pillars of a healthy marriage
• How self awareness impacts communication
• Why partnership looks different in every relationship
• The role connection plays in long term relationship satisfaction
• Why generic relationship advice often falls short

For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!

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You don't need to become a perfect mom to become a calmer one.

Many moms are carrying an invisible load they can't quite explain.

We love their children deeply, yet find ourselves snapping more than we want to. We feel overstimulated, emotionally exhausted, and frustrated by how we show up during the hardest moments of motherhood.

In this episode, I am joined by Maternal Wellness Coach, Jennifer Driscoll, to talk about why modern motherhood feels so overwhelming, what nervous system regulation actually means, and how moms can stop judging themselves and start supporting themselves.

We discuss the difference between overwhelm and overstimulation, why so many moms feel disconnected from themselves after having children, and how learning to recognize your own warning signs can dramatically change the way you experience motherhood.

If you've ever thought, "Why can't I just be more patient?" this episode is for you.

In this episode we discuss:
• Why motherhood today feels different than previous generations
• The hidden impact of social media on maternal expectations
• The difference between overwhelm and overstimulation
• Why nervous system regulation matters more than willpower
• How to recognize your personal warning signs before you snap
• How emotional awareness strengthens your marriage and parenting
• Small regulation tools that can make a big difference in difficult moments

Grab her freebie "When You're 2 Seconds From Snapping"

Connect with Jen:
IG: @itsjenniferleigh

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Most arguments don't escalate because of the issue. They escalate because of how you react to each other's emotions.

If your partner gets upset and you immediately get upset too, you're not solving the problem. You're mirroring their emotional state.

In this final episode of my miniseries: "Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments", we're talking about one of the most overlooked communication patterns that keeps couples stuck: emotional mirroring.

When your partner raises the temperature, do you raise yours too?

If so, you're not alone. Most people were never taught how to stay grounded when someone they love is upset. Instead, they react, defend themselves, shut down, or attack back.

The problem is that two dysregulated people rarely create a productive conversation.

In this episode, you'll learn:
• What emotional mirroring actually looks like in marriage
• Why your partner's emotions trigger your own reactions
• How conflict becomes a competition instead of a conversation
• Why emotional regulation is one of the most important relationship skills you can develop
• How staying grounded can help de-escalate arguments and create emotional safety

If you want fewer exhausting arguments and more productive conversations, this episode will help you understand the role you play in the cycle and how to start changing it.

Resources Mentioned
Conflict to Connection Guide

For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!

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Modern motherhood isn't exhausting because you're doing it wrong. It's exhausting because you're carrying a load that previous generations weren't aware of.

In this episode, I am joined by Psychologist and author Dr. Amber Thornton to talk about the emotional load of parenting and why so many moms feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and depleted despite caring deeply about their families.

We explore how parenting has shifted from focusing primarily on survival and stability to prioritizing emotional awareness, emotional intelligence, and connection. While this shift creates incredible opportunities for our children, it also places a significant emotional burden on parents who are often learning these skills in real time.

In this episode, we discuss:
• What the emotional load of parenting actually is
• Why modern parenting feels so different from previous generations
• The "living room kid" phenomenon and why many parents feel like they're always on
• How self care directly impacts your ability to parent effectively
• Why emotions aren't the problem and what they're actually trying to tell you
• What emotional regulation really means

If you've ever felt guilty for needing a break, frustrated by your reactions, or overwhelmed by the emotional demands of parenting, this conversation will help you feel seen, understood, and supported.

Resources Mentioned
• A Parent's Guide to Self-Regulation by Dr. Amber Thornton

Connect with Dr. Amber!
Website - www.dramberthornton.com
Instagram - @dramberthornton
YouTube - @dramberthornton
LinkedIn - @dramberthornton

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Trying to prove your point during conflict might actually be the thing keeping you disconnected.

In this episode, I talk about the mindset shift that helps couples stop repeating the same arguments and start functioning like true partners again.

If conversations in your marriage feel like power struggles, if you constantly feel misunderstood, or if every disagreement turns into defending yourself, this episode will help you understand why that happens and what to do instead.

In this episode I break down:
 • Why the need to “be right” creates more distance in relationships
 • The difference between protecting your ego and protecting your partnership
 • How curiosity changes the entire tone of conflict
 • Why understanding your partner matters more than winning
 • How compassion and emotional safety lead to better conversations
 • What healthy partnership actually looks like during disagreement

This episode is especially helpful for couples who feel stuck in repetitive arguments, defensiveness, resentment, or communication breakdowns after kids.

Resources Mentioned:
• Grab the Conflict to Connection Guide

For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!

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Most parents are trying to heal what they didn’t receive growing up, but in the process, many are wondering if we’ve lost some of the resilience previous generations had.

In this episode, I'm joined by writer and creative entrepreneur Alice Park for a thoughtful conversation about parenting, resilience, emotional connection, and what modern families are navigating today.

Together, we explored:

• The difference between Tiger Mom parenting and gentle parenting
• Why many parents are trying to find a healthier middle ground
• Why modern parenting can feel emotionally exhausting
• Overcommitment, burnout, and protecting your family’s peace
• Raising kids who actually want a relationship with you later in life

Connect with Alice:
Instagram: @alicepark
The Crane Mother Substack
Her Photography Work: https://parkstudios.co/

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Just because you're talking things through with your partner, doesn't guarantee you're going resolve things.

If you and your partner keep having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you understand why.

So many couples think the issue is that they “just need to communicate more.” But what often happens is this:

You try to talk.
The conversation gets emotional.
Someone feels criticized.
Someone shuts down or gets defensive.
You both get exhausted.
And eventually… you stop talking about it.

Not because the issue is resolved.
But because you’re emotionally drained.

In this episode, I break down why so many conversations never actually lead to resolution and what’s truly missing underneath repetitive conflict patterns.

Tune in to hear me share:
• Why avoidance often comes from emotional exhaustion, not lack of care
• The difference between expressing feelings and actually resolving conflict
• How “me vs you” thinking keeps couples stuck in repetitive cycles
• Why emotional safety matters during difficult conversations
• The shift that helps couples move from surviving conversations to solving problems together
• Questions to ask yourself before and during conflict to create more productive conversations

If your conversations with your partner feel heavy, repetitive, or emotionally draining, this episode will help you start approaching conflict differently so you can feel more connected, supported, and like a true team again.

Resources Mentioned

• Download the Conflict to Connection Guide here!

For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!

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Have you ever considered foster parenting?

In this episode, I am joined by Foster Parent Partner, Laura to talk about what foster parenting actually looks like behind the scenes.

Laura shares about the emotional realities of caring for children impacted by trauma, how foster parenting affects marriage and family dynamics, and the support systems that help foster families navigate the challenges that come with stepping into this role.

In this episode, we discuss:
• What foster parenting actually is and how the process works
• The emotional and behavioral challenges foster parents may encounter
• How foster parenting impacts marriage, work, and family life
• Why communication and flexibility matter so much in foster homes
• Common struggles foster families face that people rarely talk about
• The role of compassion, boundaries, and support systems

Laura also shares details about her book First Time Fostering, which helps hopeful and new foster parents feel more prepared and supported as they navigate the realities of foster care.

If you’ve ever wondered whether foster parenting might be right for your family, this episode will help you better understand both the beauty and complexity of the journey.

Connect with Laura:
https://www.youtube.com/@foster.parenting
https://youtube.com/shorts/gvU8Y4tNDD4
https://www.tiktok.com/@fosterparenting/
https://www.facebook.com/Foster.Parent.Partner

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If it seems like your conversations with your partner always end in arguments and issues never get resolved, it's not that you need to talk more. It's that the way you two talk isn't working anymore.

In this episode, I break down why so many couples feel stuck repeating the same conflict patterns even though they communicate all the time.

The truth is, most couples are not lacking communication. They are lacking structure and emotional safety in the conversation.

Tune in to hear me share:

• Why conversations spiral even when you start with good intentions
• The communication pattern that keeps couples stuck in repetitive arguments
• Why “talking more” is not the answer
• How to stay anchored during difficult conversations
• A simple question that can completely shift the direction of conflict

Resources Mentioned:
Download the Conflict to Connection Guide here!

For more personalized support, book a clarity call to learn how marriage coaching can help you here!

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Grief changes everything. And most people were never taught how to navigate it, especially when it comes to child loss.

In this episode, I am joined by author and grief advocate, Jenny Kim, to talk about child loss, grief support, emotional capacity, and what grieving people actually need from the people around them.

Jenny shares the heartbreaking story of losing her six month old son Joey and how that experience led her to write Look to the Sky and the Grievers & Friends community.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• What grieving parents wish people understood
• Why “everything happens for a reason” can feel harmful in grief
• The difference between supporting someone vs trying to fix their pain
• How to show up when you don’t know what to say
• The “Ring Theory” concept for navigating grief support
• Why grief doesn’t go away and how capacity changes over time
• The emotional impact of child loss on parents and siblings
• How small acts of kindness can deeply support someone in grief
• Why emotional presence matters more than perfect words

Connect with Jenny:

Instagram: @whatjoeytaughtme
Instagram: @grieversandfriends
Website: www.grieversandfriends.com

Support Jenny's Kickstarter campaign at:
Grievers & Friends Official Website

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Part 2 of the mini series:  Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the Pattern

Conflict is inevitable in marriage.

But arguing in circles, escalating every conversation, and walking away feeling more disconnected? That part is optional.

In this episode, I break down the foundational communication skill that changes everything in conflict: pausing.

If you and your partner keep having the same arguments on repeat, feel emotionally reactive during conversations, or struggle to resolve issues without defensiveness or shutdowns, this episode will help you understand why.

You’ll learn:

• Why most couples repeat the same unhealthy communication patterns
• How emotional dysregulation escalates conflict
• Why “pausing” is one of the most important relationship skills you can build
• What happens when couples learn to slow down and collaborate instead of react
• A simple practice to help you respond more intentionally during difficult conversations

If you’re tired of feeling like roommates, constantly misunderstood, or emotionally exhausted after every disagreement, this episode will help you start shifting the pattern.

Resources Mentioned:
Download the Conflict to Connection Guide here!
Book a Clarity Call here!

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Keeping your kids safe isn’t just about rules, it’s about your relationship with them.

In this conversation, I got to chat with Child Safety Strategist, Francesca Douglass Franco to talk about what actually protects kids in today’s world.

If you’ve ever worried about your child’s safety, online exposure, or how to prepare them for independence without scaring them… this episode will completely shift how you think about it.

Because the truth is…
The safest kids aren’t the most restricted.
They’re the most connected and aware.

In this episode, we cover:

•  What predators actually look for in children 
•  The surprising trait that makes kids less of a target 
•  How to build deep connection so your child feels like they can come to you about anything
•  Why self-trust and intuition are critical for safety 
•  The role of generational healing in protecting your kids 
•  How to teach situational awareness without fear 

Grab her journal here! Use code marriage&motherhood to get $5 off!
Download her Child Safety Guide here!

Attend her Humansave Quarterly Human Trafficking Training on May 21 from 11-12pm Pacific Time via Zoom here! The focus will be on parents' role in the fight against trafficking.

Connect with Francesca:
Websites: francescadf.com and humansave.org
IG: @francesca_douglassfranco and @humansave_org

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Part 1 of the mini series: Why You Keep Having the Same Arguments and How to Actually Break the Pattern

Arguments don’t fall apart at the end. They fall apart in a moment you’re not noticing.

If you’ve ever felt like your conversations go from calm to chaotic in seconds, this episode will help you understand why.

In part two of this mini series, I’m breaking down the exact moment conflict escalates in your relationship and what’s actually happening beneath the surface when things suddenly feel out of control.

Because it’s not random.
It’s not you or your partner being “too much.”
And it’s not that your relationship is broken.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to interrupt the pattern in real time so you can shift from reacting to responding and finally start having productive conversations again.

What you’ll learn:
- the exact moment conflict actually breaks down
- why arguments feel like they escalate “out of nowhere”
- what’s happening in your nervous system during conflict
- how to stop mirroring your partner’s intensity
- a simple micro shift that changes the entire trajectory of a conversation

If you’re tired of having the same fight on repeat, this is where things start to change.

Help yourself set your conversations up for success by grabbing my Conflict To Connection Guide here!

Ready to end the pattern and rewrite a healthier one for your marriage? Book a clarity call today to learn how my Connected Partnership Framework can help you!

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Midlife doesn’t ruin marriages. It reveals what’s been ignored.

If you’ve ever looked at your relationship and thought
“How did we get here?”
or
“Why does everything suddenly feel so hard?”

You’re not alone and your marriage isn’t broken.

In this episode, I’m joined by Somatic Life Coach Mikki Gardner to unpack why so many couples experience tension, resentment, or even separation during midlife and what’s actually happening beneath the surface.

We talk about the emotional load many women carry, how years of self-silencing lead to disconnection, and why midlife often becomes the turning point where everything that’s been buried rises to the surface.

More importantly, we walk through what you can do now to navigate this phase intentionally so your marriage can evolve instead of unravel.

What You’ll Learn:
- Why midlife changes feel sudden (but aren’t)
- The real reason resentment builds in long-term relationships
- How self-betrayal quietly erodes connection over time
- What it actually looks like to communicate needs effectively
- Why “saying something” isn’t the same as creating change
- How to start shifting your relationship without blowing it up

Connect with Mikki:

Website: https://www.mikkigardner.com/
Podcast: https://www.mikkigardner.com/podcast
Instagram: @mikkigardner

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Feel like you're constantly arguing with your partner? You’re not having different arguments, you’re actually stuck repeating the same pattern.

If you feel like you and your partner keep going in circles… talking about the same things… and nothing ever changes, this episode will help you understand why.

Because the truth is, most couples think they have a communication problem.

But what’s actually happening is a pattern problem.

In this episode, I break down:

- Why repetitive arguments happen in marriage
- The emotional pattern that keeps couples stuck
- What’s really happening before the words are even spoken
- Why trying to “communicate better” isn’t enough
- The simple awareness shift that changes everything

You’ll also hear a real client example that shows how resentment, disconnection, and feeling unsupported aren’t about what you think it's about. They’re about how you're each responding to each other in the moment.

This episode will help you stop focusing on what you’re fighting about and start understanding why it keeps happening.

Because when you can see the pattern… you can finally change it. Awareness is the first step.

Resources Mentioned:
Grab the Conflict to Connection Guide here!

Ready to deepen and strengthen your marriage? Book a clarity call today to learn how my Connected Partnership Framework can help you!

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The way you talk to your kids becomes the way they talk to themselves.

Most parents are trying their best to raise kind, confident, emotionally healthy kids and without realizing it, the words we use and how we say them can either build connection or create distance.

In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert Cara Tyrrell to unpack how everyday communication shapes your child’s identity, emotional safety, and willingness to open up to you. Not just now, but as they grow too.

This conversation will help you parent with more intention, more confidence, and more connection and all without feeling like you have to be perfect.

Inside this episode, we cover:

• Why “not listening” is often misunderstood, how to build deep trust with your kids from an early age, and how small shifts in your language can completely change your relationship.
• Why connection (not control) is the foundation of effective parenting 
•  The Core 4 relationship builders every child needs 
•  What’s really happening when your child acts out or shuts down 
•  Why only 7% of communication is verbal — and what matters more 
•  How subconscious speech patterns from your own childhood show up in parenting 
•  Simple ways to regulate yourself before responding to your child 

If you’ve ever thought:
 “I just want my kids to talk to me”
 “I don’t want to mess this up”
 “I want a better relationship than I had growing up”

This episode is for you.

Love this episode? Buy her new book 

Connect with Cara:

Website: https://www.caratyrrell.com
Podcast: Transforming The Toddler Years
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cara-tyrrell/
IG: @core4parenting

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You don’t feel disconnected in your marriage because something is wrong. You feel disconnected because you’ve stopped going deeper.

So many couples come to me saying they feel like roommates.

They’re handling life.

They love each other.

But something feels… off.

Flat.
Predictable.
Disconnected.

And what most people don’t realize is this:

You can know everything about your partner’s life… and still not know their inner world.

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

•  Why couples start to feel like strangers after kids 
•  The difference between surface-level connection and true intimacy 
•  Why most people avoid going deeper (and don’t even realize it) 
•  How emotional awareness directly impacts connection 
•  What it actually looks like to build depth in your relationship 
•  How staying surface-level quietly creates resentment and disconnection 

You’ll also hear a real client example of a couple who “never fought” but felt like roommates—and how everything shifted once they started sharing what was really going on beneath the surface.

If your conversations feel transactional, your connection feels stuck, or your marriage feels like it’s missing something… this episode will help you understand why.

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Motherhood can bring on a lot of anxiety. The sheer overwhelm of going from just taking care of yourself to taking care of people who don't always want to listen is nothing you can ever fully prepare for. Cue the second guessing and the shoulding.

If you've ever wondered why certain things feel harder for you than they “should” or if there's a better way to feel confident in your decision making, this conversation is going to give you a new lens.

In this episode, I got to chat about human design and nervous system regulation with my new friend MaKenzie Byram.

Inside this episode, we cover:

•  What human design is (in a simple, digestible way) 
•  How nervous system regulation helps you actually live your design 
•  Why you struggle with decision-making and how to change that 
•  How to better understand your spouse and stop misinterpreting their behavior
•  Using human design to parent your kids in a way that actually works for them 
•  How to stop “should-ing” your life and start living in alignment 
•  The difference between logical decisions vs. aligned decisions 
•  Practical ways to start using human design in your everyday life 

This episode will help you move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and confidence so you can show up as the partner and parent you want to be.

Connect with MaKenzie:

Instagram: @thecleanmomedit
Podcast: Clean Mom Edit
Work with MaKenzie: Aligned Membership

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Doing more doesn’t make you a better partner. It makes you exhausted, resentful, and disconnected.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the mental load, keeping everything running, and wondering why your partner isn’t stepping up… this episode is going to shift how you see it.

The truth is, this dynamic isn’t just happening to you. It’s being created inside the relationship pattern itself.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

•  Why overfunctioning leads to your partner underfunctioning 
•  The difference between being supportive vs controlling 
•  How “doing it all” quietly creates resentment and disconnection 
•  Why silent expectations are setting your relationship up to fail 
•  How to shift from manager mode into real partnership 
•  Simple ways to start redistributing responsibility without chaos 

The good news? You don’t need to do more. You need to create space for partnership.

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Your body isn’t broken. It just needs a different approach.

If you’ve hit your late 30s or 40s and suddenly feel like nothing is working anymore… you’re not imagining it.

The strategies that used to “just work” stop working — and most women are left feeling frustrated, confused, and honestly… a little betrayed by their bodies.

In this episode, I am joined by Health and Fitness Coach Emily Erb to talk about what’s actually happening in your body, why traditional dieting fails, and how to fuel yourself in a way that feels sustainable, supportive, and freeing.

We’re not talking about restriction.
We’re not talking about cutting out your favorite foods.
We’re talking about understanding your body — so you can finally work with it instead of against it.

Inside this episode, we cover:
- Why your metabolism changes in your 30s and beyond
- What “metabolic adaptation” is
- The truth about calorie counting vs macro counting
- Why restriction leads to binge cycles
- How to eat dessert and still reach your goals
- Why protein matters (and how to increase it realistically)
- The real reason most women struggle with consistency
- How to build trust with yourself around food
- Why mindset and inner work matter more than you think

If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or like your body is working against you… this episode will help you understand why — and what to do differently.

Grab Emily's free macros starter kit here!

Connect with Emily:

IG + FB: @Ems_Empowerment_Coaching

Podcast "Stop It" on Spotify + Apple

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The fastest way to change your marriage is not by getting your partner to change.

If your marriage has been feeling heavy, tense, or stuck in the same arguments on repeat… you’re not alone.

Most couples believe things will finally get better when their partner starts communicating differently, showing up more, or meeting their needs.

But here’s the truth: waiting for your partner to go first keeps you stuck.

In this episode, we’re diving into the powerful ripple effect that happens when you start showing up differently — and how that shift naturally inspires your partner to do the same.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why focusing on your partner’s behavior keeps you stuck
- What’s actually happening underneath resentment and disconnection
- How your energy, communication, and self-care impact your relationship dynamic
- Why “good begets more good” in marriage
- A simple but powerful reflection to assess how you’re showing up as a partner

Ready to reconnect with your partner and create a more hopeful and positive future with each other? Schedule a clarity call so we can chat about how marriage coaching can help you!

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So many women are living lives that look right on the outside…
but internally feel off, overwhelming, or unfulfilling.

In this episode, I am joined by Intuition Coach, Taylor Nosakhere to unpack what intuition actually is, why so many women feel disconnected from it, and how rebuilding self-trust can transform your motherhood, marriage, and everyday decisions.

You’ll learn why following your intuition doesn’t always feel easy—and why that doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

If you’ve been second-guessing yourself, stuck in people-pleasing, or feeling resentment build in your relationships… this conversation will help you reconnect with your inner voice and start making aligned decisions again.

What You’ll Learn:
- What intuition really is (and what it’s not)
- How to tell the difference between fear and intuition
- How self-trust can impact your relationships with your partner and kids
- Simple ways to start rebuilding your self-trust today

Resources Mentioned:
Taylor’s Private Podcast: How The F To Trust Yourself (Free code: MANDMPOD)

Connect with Taylor:
Instagram: @taylornosakhere
Website: https://www.taylornosakhere.com/

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Staying calm in conflict doesn’t mean your conversation is actually working.

If you’ve ever walked away from a calm conversation with your partner and thought…
“Okay, but nothing actually changed…” — this episode is for you.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about the missing skill most couples were never taught: collaborative problem solving.

Because the truth is—
You can regulate your emotions, say things nicely, and still end up stuck in the same patterns.

In this episode, I share:
- Why calm conversations don’t automatically lead to resolution
- The difference between explaining vs. collaborating
- How couples unintentionally argue like they’re in court instead of on the same team
- The role of vagueness in creating repeated conflict
- How to ask better questions that actually move conversations forward
- Why overexplaining keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)
- How to use the P.E.A.C.E. Method to turn conflict into connection

You’ll also hear a real-life example of how misunderstandings happen when couples aren’t clear—and how small shifts in communication can completely change the outcome.

If you’re tired of having the same conversations on repeat, this episode will help you start creating real change.

If you want help turning your conflicts into productive, connecting conversations:

- Download the Conflict to Connection Guide
- Book a Clarity Call to get personalized support

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Your reactions aren’t random — they’re regulated (or dysregulated).

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I react like that?” — this episode is for you.

In this episode, I am joined by Personal Growth Coach and Breathwork Facilitator, Ashlee Livingstone to break down what nervous system regulation actually is and why it’s the foundation for healthy communication, emotional control, and connection in your marriage.

Because here’s the truth:
Most relationship conflict isn’t about the words being said — it’s about the state your nervous system is in when you say them.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What your nervous system actually is (in simple terms)
- The difference between being regulated vs. dysregulated
- Why so many moms are stuck in survival mode
- How dysregulation fuels arguments, defensiveness, and emotional shutdown
- The fastest way to calm your body in the middle of conflict
- Why “just be calm” doesn’t work (and what does instead)
- How breathwork helps you reset your reactions in real time
- What it looks like to take responsibility for your emotional patterns without blaming yourself

You’ll also hear real-life examples of how stress, parenting, and daily pressure impact your reactions — and how to start shifting those patterns in a practical way.

If you want to stop escalating arguments, feel more in control of your emotions, and create calmer, more productive conversations in your marriage… this episode will show you where to start.

If you loved this episode, check out Ep. 90 to learn more from Ashlee!

Connect with Ashlee:
www.ashleelivingstone.com
IG: @ashlee.livingstone

If you'd like to explore working with Ashlee 1:1, she is offering a special discount to my listeners! Schedule your session here!

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Most arguments don’t spiral because of the original issue. They spiral because couples start reacting to each other instead of understanding each other.

One partner gets upset.
The other partner reacts to their partner being upset.
Suddenly both people are defending themselves instead of solving the problem.

What started as frustration turns into a much bigger fight because neither person feels heard.

This dynamic is one of the most common conflict loops couples experience.

In this episode, I explain why this happens and how couples can shift out of the pattern so conflict becomes productive instead of destructive.

You’ll learn how emotional attunement helps partners respond with curiosity and compassion instead of defensiveness, and why regulating the emotional moment first is the key to having better conversations.

If you’ve ever felt like your arguments spiral out of control or that small issues turn into big fights, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

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Most kids don’t ignore their parents because they’re disrespectful. They ignore them because their brain isn’t developmentally ready to respond yet.

If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same instruction five times before your child finally listens, you’re not alone.

Many parents fall into a frustrating cycle:

You ask nicely.
Your child ignores you.
You repeat yourself.
You get frustrated.
Eventually you yell.

And suddenly everyone in the house feels upset.

In this episode, I am joined by parenting coach Becky Jennings of Responseable Parenting to unpack what’s actually happening when kids don’t listen.

The truth is that many children simply don’t have the neurological development or emotional regulation skills to transition immediately when asked. Their brains are still learning how to shift attention, manage frustration, and respond to direction.

When parents understand the nervous system dynamics behind behavior, they can stop taking these moments personally and start responding in ways that actually work.

This conversation is especially helpful for parents raising strong-willed or neurodivergent children, where traditional discipline strategies often create more conflict instead of cooperation.

In this episode we discuss:
• Why kids often cannot respond immediately when asked to do something
• The difference between disrespect and nervous system overwhelm
• How motivation, play, and curiosity help children transition between activities
• How parents can regulate their own nervous system before responding
• Why connection leads to more cooperation than control
• How to balance emotional awareness without becoming permissive

Connect with Becky:

Instagram: @responsableparenting
Podcast: ResponseABLE Parenting

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Have you felt more and more disconnected from your partner after having kids? Most couples don’t stop loving each other after kids. They just stop prioritizing their marriage and that's what causes the disconnect.

After kids enter the picture, life gets full fast. Between school schedules, activities, work responsibilities, chores, and bedtime routines, it can feel like there’s barely enough time to breathe, let alone nurture your relationship.

So couples adapt. They become efficient. They divide responsibilities. They manage the household.

And somewhere along the way, the marriage quietly shifts from romantic partnership to operational partnership.

That’s when many couples begin to feel like roommates.

In this episode, I explain why this shift happens and how couples can intentionally rebuild connection even in the middle of busy family life.

You’ll learn why waiting for the “perfect time” to reconnect rarely works, how small daily moments can rebuild closeness, and why prioritizing your marriage actually strengthens the entire family system.

If you’ve been feeling distant from your spouse but still want a strong partnership and connected marriage, this episode will help you rethink how connection fits into your everyday life.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why couples often feel like roommates after kids
• How busy family life quietly pushes marriage to the bottom of the priority list
• Why connection disappears even when love is still there
• How micro-connections rebuild intimacy over time
• Simple ways to reconnect even without childcare
• Why prioritizing your marriage benefits your kids too

If you don’t intentionally structure your life around your marriage, life will slowly structure you out of it.

Think it's more than just taking the time to connect? Book a clarity call to start receiving support to identify what’s really happening and what skills and changes are needed to restore the connection in your marriage!

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Have you ever reacted to your kids in a way that brought on feelings of guilt and shame? Looking back, have you ever felt surprised by how strongly you reacted when you lost your cool or struggled to stay calm when the kids aren't listening?

Parenting triggers aren’t random. They’re rooted in your past.

I am joined by Psychodynamic Coach Lavinia Brown to talk about inner child healing and how it directly impacts the way you parent.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What “inner child” really means (in simple, practical terms)
- Why parenting activates unresolved childhood wounds
- How triggers reveal unhealed attachment trauma
- What re-parenting actually looks like
- Why nervous system regulation and inner child healing go hand-in-hand
- The difference between normal frustration and disproportionate reactivity

Connect with Lavinia:

Becoming Untriggered Podcast
Instagram: @the.innerchild.healing.expert
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtFSVu5DC5O2-f25L0U8rAw
Facebook: @the.innerchild.healing.expert

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Emotional maturity is the difference between repeating patterns and transforming your marriage into a relationship that gets better and better.

In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I break down what emotional maturity actually looks like in a marriage— and what often gets mistakened for maturity.

This episode will help you understand:
- What emotional maturity really means in marriage
- Why projection feels relieving in the moment
- The difference between intention vs. impact
- Why conflict is inevitable but arguing is optional
- How to pause, regulate, and collaborate instead of accuse

If you’re ready to stop the blame cycle and build emotional safety in your relationship, this is a must listen.

If you're ready for personalized support to help your marriage get back on track with healthy communication, book your clarity call here!

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Letting your kids be bored isn't a failure on your part. Boredom is actually essential for your kid's development.

In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children and author of But I’m Bored: Discover the Power of Independent Play to Raise Confident, Resilient Kids.

We talk about why modern parents feel overstimulated, pressured to entertain, and responsible for optimizing every minute of childhood — and how that may actually be working against our kids.

In this episode we dive into:
- why boredom is not neglect — it’s neurological growth
- the connection between independent play and executive functioning
- why college students today struggle with resilience
- how to respond when your child says “I’m bored”
- what “play pockets” are and how to create them in your home
- the difference between connection and entertainment
- how to balance downtime and extracurricular activities
- why it’s not your job to “find your child’s thing”
- how play builds leadership, frustration tolerance, and autonomy

Connect with Lizzie:

Substack: https://theworkspaceforchildren.substack.com/
Website: https://www.workspaceforchildren.com/twfc-blog

Grab her book here!

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One person wanting to talk and the other shutting down doesn’t mean one of you cares more. It means your nervous systems cope differently.

If you feel like you’re always the one trying to talk things through — or you’re the one who shuts down and gets overwhelmed — this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening beneath the surface.

In this episode, I break down:
- The pursue–withdraw dynamic in marriage
- Why shutting down is about protection, not avoidance
- How to stop taking withdrawal personally
- What “consensual conversations” are and why they change everything
- How to use pacing to prevent arguments
- The Japanese concept of ma and how intentional pauses improve communication
- How to set conversations up for success instead of forcing resolution

If you're ready for personalized support to help your marriage get back on track with healthy communication, book your clarity call here!

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Growing up with immigrant parents shapes how we love, communicate, and show up in marriage.

In this powerful conversation, I am joined by Dr. Stacey Litam, licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants, to explore:

- How transactional love patterns form in immigrant households
- Why achievement often becomes tied to worth
- The impact of collectivistic vs. individualistic culture on marriage
- Why affection can feel uncomfortable — and how to navigate that
- Modeling healthy self-care for your children
- Healing “in-between” identity struggles

Connect with Dr. Stacey:
Website: www.staceylitam.com
IG: @drstaceyalitam
LinkedIn: @Stacey Diane A. Litam

Grab her book here!

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Most communication breakdowns happen before anyone even starts talking.

If you’ve ever walked into a conversation with your spouse calm and they still got defensive or shutdown, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I break down the often-missed step that determines whether your conversations lead to connection or conflict: nervous system regulation before engagement.

Tune in to learn:
- Why intention vs. impact matters more than wording
- How your nervous system shapes your tone, body language, and pacing
- Why “I statements” don’t fix dysregulation
- The hidden reason your partner shuts down
- How the P (Pause) step in the P.E.A.C.E. Method changes everything
- Practical questions to ask yourself before initiating a hard conversation

If you’re tired of repetitive arguments, walking on eggshells, or feeling like roommates after conflict, this episode will help you approach conversations in a way that creates safety instead of pressure.

Mentioned in this episode:
- Free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)

If this episode has helped you realize that deeper support is needed, you can schedule a Clarity Call with me to talk through what’s happening in your marriage and what would actually help.

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If you constantly feel like you can’t keep up or get ahead with time, this episode will change how you see productivity.

In this episode, I am joined by Jill Wright, time management expert and creator of the Time Magic System, to talk about why so many women—especially moms and neurodivergent women—feel perpetually behind no matter how hard they try.

Jill breaks down why traditional productivity advice doesn’t work for women, how ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time differently, and why seasonal planning is a more compassionate and effective approach than rigid schedules and daily to-do lists.

This conversation is for the woman who is doing a lot—but still feels like she’s losing the race against time.

In this episode, we cover:
- Why feeling “behind” is often a system problem—not a personal failure
- How ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time, energy, and overwhelm
- The hidden cost of always planning from urgency instead of capacity
- Why seasonal and 90-day planning works better than yearly goals
- How to stop burning out while still getting meaningful things done
- Why rest is not laziness—but a productivity tool
- How better time management reduces emotional overwhelm and relationship stress

Connect with Jill:
IG: @energyandhours
FB: @energyandhours
Substack: @energyandhours
Website: www.jillwright.ca

Grab The Time Magic Planner here!

Listen to Ep. 172 to hear her share more about time confetti!

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Valentine’s Day can feel heavy when your marriage isn’t where you want it to be — and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something is asking for your attention.

If Valentine’s Day brings up disappointment, sadness, resentment, or pressure, this episode is for you. Instead of viewing this holiday as a test of your marriage, we’re reframing it as a signal — one that highlights what’s really going on beneath the surface.

In this episode, I share:
- How Valentine’s Day often magnifies existing disconnection in marriage
- The difference between performative romance and real emotional intimacy
- Why one “perfect” date won’t fix unresolved issues
- Why micro-connections matter more than grand gestures
- How my husband and I approach Valentine’s Day differently — and why it works for us
- What to do when Valentine’s Day brings up more pain than excitement

If your marriage feels rocky right now, this episode will help you ease the pressure, understand what your feelings are trying to tell you, and take a more grounded, honest step forward.

Mentioned in this episode:
- Want to know what your love language is? Take the Five Love Languages quiz here!

If this episode has helped you realize that deeper support is needed, you can schedule a Clarity Call with me to talk through what’s happening in your marriage and what would actually help.

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Postpartum can feel overwhelming—not because something is wrong, but because no one prepares you for how much conflicting information you’ll receive after having a baby.

In today’s guest episode, I’m joined by a Postpartum Doula and Matrescence Educator, Heather Magill who helps parents navigate one of the most vulnerable transitions of their lives with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure. We talk about how hard it can be to know what’s normal, what will pass, and when it might actually be time to ask for extra support.

This conversation is especially important for parents who feel torn between advice from professionals, family members, social media, and their own instincts—and end up feeling confused or like they’re failing.

In this episode, we cover:

- What matrescence is
- Why postpartum often feels like a problem even when it isn’t
- How conflicting advice can create anxiety and self-doubt
- The difference between helpful support and emotionally loaded pressure
- How having a neutral, informed support person changes everything
- Why trusting yourself again is a skill—not something you’re born with

If you’re planning to have kids, pregnant or in the postpartum season, this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in what actually matters.

🎧 Listen now and share this with a parent who needs permission to stop questioning themselves.

Connect with Heather:
Website: www.infantconcierge.com
IG: @infantconcierge

Check out her community - Untangling Motherhood

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Going on regular dates but still feeling emotionally disconnected?
You’re not imagining it—and you’re not doing anything wrong.

In this episode, I explain why spending more time together doesn’t automatically rebuild connection, intimacy, or closeness in your marriage—and why date nights often fall flat when deeper issues haven’t been addressed.

You’ll learn:

- The foundation of real connection (it's not time together)
- How unresolved resentment and communication breakdowns affect your dates
- How connection is built through everyday “micro-moments,” not grand gestures
- What actually needs to happen before date nights can feel enjoyable again

If you’ve ever thought, “We’re doing the right things… so why doesn’t it feel better?” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on—and what to focus on instead.

If you’re ready to stop guessing and start building real connection, book a Clarity Call to explore what support could look like for your marriage.

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⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses domestic violence. Nothing graphic is shared, but listener discretion is advised.

Domestic violence doesn’t always leave bruises—but it always leaves an unwanted, undeserved impact.

In this episode, I am joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Brooke LaLone to define what domestic violence actually looks like—especially the forms most women don’t recognize until they’re deeply entrenched.

If you’ve ever thought, “It’s not that bad,” or “He’s never hit me, so this doesn’t apply,” this conversation may challenge what you’ve been taught to ignore.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why domestic violence is about power and control, not just physical harm
• The difference between communication struggles and abusive dynamics
• Common forms of abuse
• How trauma bonds keep women stuck—even when they know something is wrong
• Red flags that often get normalized in long-term relationships
• Green flags that signal emotional safety, not just chemistry
• Why leaving an abusive relationship is so complex
• How to support someone you love who may be in an unsafe relationship

Connect with Brooke:
1:1 Support Sessions - www.reclaimingmehealing.com
Instagram: @ReclaimwithBrooke

Important Note from Michelle:

Many of the tools and communication strategies discussed in other episodes on this podcast do not apply to abusive relationships. This episode clarifies why—and helps you determine what kind of support is actually appropriate.

Resources Available:

• National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.): 1-800-799-SAFE
• Local DV shelters and advocacy centers
• Brooke LaLone’s online community and support resources found on her website

If this episode resonates, please know you’re not alone—and help is available.

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Resentment doesn’t show up overnight—and it doesn’t mean your marriage is broken.

In this episode, I break down why resentment builds quietly in marriages, especially after kids.

I share:

• Why resentment builds gradually instead of in one big moment
• How unspoken expectations turn into emotional shutdown and loss of intimacy
• The connection between resentment, self-abandonment, and feeling like roommates
• Why saving your partner from conflict doesn’t protect your marriage
• How early, honest conversations soften resentment and rebuild partnership

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, less playful, less flirtatious, or emotionally closed off—this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface and how to start shifting it.

Resource Mentioned:

Download the Conflict To Connection Guide here!

Ready to actively rebuild connection in your marriage? Book a clarity call to learn how getting support through marriage coaching can help you!

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Perimenopause doesn’t just affect your body — it can completely change how you experience your emotions, your stress levels, and your closest relationships.

If you’ve noticed increased irritability, rage, emotional overwhelm, anxiety, poor sleep, or feeling like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening and why you’re not broken.

In this episode, I am joined by Menopause and Stress Resilience Coach Sharon Pennington to unpack how hormonal changes during perimenopause impact emotional regulation, the nervous system, and relationship dynamics — especially in marriage and motherhood.

You’ll learn why emotional dysregulation often intensifies during perimenopause, how stress hormones like cortisol interact with declining estrogen and progesterone, and what you can do to support your nervous system instead of fighting yourself.

This conversation is especially helpful for married moms who feel overstimulated, reactive, exhausted, or emotionally flooded and want practical tools that actually work.

If you’ve been blaming yourself for struggling more lately — especially in your marriage — this episode will help you see the bigger picture and give you permission to approach this season differently.

Connect with Sharon:
Website: www.sharonpendlington.com
Instagram: @sharonpendlington
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SharonPendlingtonFB/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-pendlington/ 

Take her Perimenopause Archetype Quiz here!

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Feeling like roommates after becoming parents is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — phases of marriage.

If your relationship feels more operational than romantic..

In this episode, I dive into why feeling like roommates doesn’t mean your marriage is broken — it means connection has been deprioritized. She breaks down how parenting shifts things between you two, how emotional distance builds slowly through habits, and why waiting for “more time” rarely fixes things.

You’ll learn:

• Why the roommate phase happens after kids
• The subtle ways couples drift apart without realizing it
• What happens when you accept disconnection as “normal”
• Why awareness alone doesn’t create change
• How couples rebuild connection without forcing romance

If you’re craving more closeness, ease, and partnership — and you’re ready to stop settling for “fine” — this episode will help you see what’s possible.

Ready to actively rebuild connection instead of staying stuck? Book a Clarity Call to learn how getting support through marriage coaching can help you!

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Motherhood already asks a lot of women. Add ADHD, hormonal shifts, and invisible labor—and suddenly even “simple” tasks feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I am joined by ADHD Coach, Martha Hoffman, and we unpack what ADHD actually looks like in mothers, why symptoms often worsen during motherhood and perimenopause, and how executive dysfunction quietly impacts daily life, marriage, and mental health.

This conversation is especially for women who feel like they’re thriving in some areas of life but constantly falling apart in others—and quietly wondering if something is “wrong” with them.

In this episode, we cover:

• The difference between everyday overwhelm and ADHD-related executive dysfunction
• Why motherhood and hormones can intensify ADHD symptoms
• Common signs of ADHD in moms that are often missed or misdiagnosed
• How ADHD affects marriage, mental load, and resentment cycles
• How couples can share responsibility without micromanaging or burnout
• Practical ways to create more ease instead of white-knuckling through life
• When it’s time to seek support—and what actually helps

Connect with Martha:
IG: @marthahoffmancoaching
www.marthahoffmancoaching.com

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Do you feel like being "quick to anger" or "irritable" is just part of who you are? In this episode, we shatter the lie that reactivity is a personality trait. You will learn the difference between your biological temperament and learned regulation skills, and how to use specific emotional language to stop arguments before they spiral.

Here's what I dive into:
- Temperament vs. Regulation
- The "Skill Gap": Why reactivity isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility
- The Power of Specificity: How expanding your emotional intelligence (EQ) can help improve your marriage

Ready for support? Schedule your clarity call here to learn more about how marriage coaching can help you!

Resources Mentioned:

Download the Emotion Wheel here

Grab the Conflict to Connection Guide here

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Are you suddenly feeling a sense of rage towards your partner? You aren't going crazy, and your marriage might not be over—you might just be experiencing the biological shift of perimenopause. In this episode, I am joined by Midlife Marriage Advocate Brooke Davis to discuss why hormones are the "hidden guest" in your relationship. We explore the science behind the "estrogen veil" lifting, why "gray divorces" are skyrocketing, and how to advocate for your health when your doctor tells you "it’s just stress."

Connect with Brooke:
IG: @marriageinperimenopause

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Is your marriage feeling the "New Year" weight?

The holidays often have a way of shining a spotlight on the gaps in our relationships—the tiny resentments, the communication breakdowns, and that quiet voice wondering, "Shouldn’t we be further along by now?"

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why the "New Year, New Me" mentality can actually backfire in your marriage. Instead of trying to wipe the slate clean and ignore the past, I’m sharing how to treat your relationship like a beautiful experiment where every "failure" is actually just valuable data. If you're ready to stop feeling "behind" and start building a marriage that feels like home, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I cover:

- How to handle the uncertainty about your marriage that often hits in the new year
- A new perspective to view your marriage with that helps you see progress

Ready to see how marriage coaching can help you bridge the gap? Book a clarity call here!

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Have you ever wondered why you’re suddenly repelled by someone’s energy, or why your partner seems more drawn to you after you’ve spent the day working out or doing something you love? In this episode, I am joined by Matchmaking Love Coach Leah Mitchell to explore human pheromones and chemical compatibility. 

Leah breaks down her signature PheroGlow Method, a neurological strategy designed to move women out of survival mode and into a state of magnetic attraction. We dive deep into the neuroscience of love, discussing how high cortisol (the stress hormone) can literally block your pheromone production and lead to anxious-avoidant relationship cycles. 

Connect with Leah:
FB: https://www.facebook.com/leah.mitchell.3914
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/goddess-of-love/id1723559624

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Most couples don’t struggle because they don’t love each other. They struggle because they were never taught how to communicate, regulate, and stay connected under stress.

As I close out the year, I wanted to give you a gift. Instead of another tip or hack, I’m sharing the patterns and lessons I saw come up again and again in my client sessions this year.

These are lessons learned in the midst of busy lives and chances are, you’ll recognize yourself in at least one of them.

In this episode, I break down six of the biggest takeaways that helped my clients transform their marriage in 2025.

If you feel stuck in the same cycles or unsure what to focus on next in your marriage, this episode will help you zoom out, reflect, and choose a more intentional path forward.

Resources mentioned:

• Download the Marriage 360 Review to gain clarity on what areas to focus on in your marriage
  Book a Clarity Call if you want support for your marriage

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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There’s a quiet grief many parents carry that no one really prepares you for.

You’re still raising kids. You’re still managing a marriage, a home, and work.
And suddenly, you notice your parents slowing down.

In this episode, I am joined by life coach and mom of three, Christine Anastasia, for a raw, honest conversation about anticipatory grief—the emotional weight of knowing loss is coming, even when it hasn’t happened yet.

Together, we unpack:

-What anticipatory grief actually is and why it hits so hard in this stage of life
- Why watching your parents age can bring sadness, anxiety, guilt, or emotional numbness
- How grief, caregiving, and burnout quietly take up mental and emotional real estate
- The impact this season has on marriage and partnership
- Why “pushing through” makes everything heavier
- How to care for yourself without guilt when life already feels like too much

This episode is especially for parents who feel stretched thin, emotionally overloaded, and unsure how to hold everything without losing themselves.

Connect with Christine:

Website: https://christineanastasia.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/villagecoachmamma
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christineanastasia
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCATfcyjf4cCXMynxmfeZs_w

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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As the year comes to a close, it’s easy to start mentally grading your marriage. You notice other couples at holiday gatherings. You scroll past smiling family photos online. And before you know it, comparison creeps in.

In this episode, I break down why comparison is so damaging to your relationship—and what actually helps instead.

You’ll learn:

- What comparing sounds like in your marriage

- How comparing your marriage keeps you stuck instead of helping you grow

- Why your marriage should be viewed in seasons, not years

- The difference between judgment and curiosity in conflict and connection

- How reflection—not comparison—creates clarity and forward momentum

- A practical way to assess what’s working, what feels hard, and what needs attention

This episode is for you if:

- You’ve been feeling disconnected or “behind” compared to other couples
- The holidays have amplified frustration or self-doubt about your relationship
- You want to start the new year with clarity instead of shame
- You’re craving partnership, direction, and a shared focus moving forward

Resources & Next Steps:

Download the Marriage 360 Review to reflect together and identify what matters most right now

Book a Clarity Call if you want support for your marriage

Thanks for listening!

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• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Invisible labor has a well-known phrase amongst modern women and unfortunately, it's a new concept to a lot of their partners. One that has been challenging to explain and change.

This episode is a special treat because for the first time ever, I interviewed a man for the show! When it comes to invisible labor, I thought it would be so valuable to hear from the male's perspective since the female narrative is so often shared. So in this episode, I am joined by Zach Watson, an Invisible Labor Coach for Men.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the weight of the household, the decisions, the logistics, and the emotions on your own… this conversation is a must listen!

In this episode, we talk about:

- What invisible labor actually is

- Why so many men don’t see it

- How men can step up without needing to be told what to do

- The phrase "weaponized incompetence"

- How to move away from "just tell me what to do"

If you’ve been waiting for an episode you can forward to your husband that won’t shut him down — this is the one.

Connect with Zach:
IG: @zachmentalloadcoach
Mental Load 101 PDF: Guide for husbands to quickly understand and implement strategies and for women to improve convo starters to talk about it

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Bringing up something that’s bothering you doesn’t have to turn into a fight.
Most couples assume arguments are inevitable after you get married — but the truth is, arguing is actually a choice. It's conflict that is inevitable.

In this episode, I break down a real example from her own marriage: a stressful morning routine, growing frustration, and how I stopped myself from slipping into an old cycle of reactive communication that would have led straight to an argument. You’ll hear the exact process I used to reflect, process what was really going on underneath the frustration, and bring it to my husband in a way that actually strengthened our partnership (and saved us from arguing).

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

- The common mistake most women make when they bring up issues (and why it backfires)

- What happens in your partner’s brain when you bring something up reactively

- How tone, timing, and nervous system regulation determine whether you get connection or defensiveness

- The self-coaching questions I used to get clarity before engaging

- Why urgency is usually a trauma response, not a relationship necessity

- How to choose an approach that preserves partnership instead of triggering survival mode

- A real-time play-by-play of how Michelle navigated a morning routine conflict with emotional maturity

If you’re tired of feeling unheard, if conversations escalate quickly, or if you keep looping in the same cycle of “I try to bring things up but he gets defensive,” this episode is your roadmap to a better way.

Most couples don’t struggle because they have problems. They struggle because of how they talk about them. Let’s change that.

For starters, grab my Conflict to Connection Guide.

If you'd like to take it a step further, book a clarity call with me so we can talk about how marriage coaching can help you!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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The holidays are meant to be enjoyed, but what if you have health goals? Being around tempting food and having more to do can make it challenging to stick to those goals.

In this episode, I’m joined by health and wellness coach Tess Cheng to talk about how you can take care of your body during the busiest, most chaotic season of the year without guilt, shame, or unrealistic expectations.

We cover the real challenges parents face—school breaks, disrupted routines, holiday parties, family commitments—and how all of that impacts sleep, stress, eating habits, and emotional capacity.

Inside this conversation, you’ll learn:

• Why holiday overwhelm makes healthy habits feel impossible
• The mindset shift that helps you stop feeling guilty about holiday foods
• How to build a stronger mind–body connection so you can make intentional choices
• The simplest way to stay active even when you’re stuck indoors with kids
• Why sleep should be one of your top priorities (and how to protect it)
• What “light dinners” actually mean and why they matter
• How to stay grounded when you’re overstimulated, overscheduled, and overtired
• Practical ways to recognize how food affects your energy, mood, and clarity

This episode is especially helpful if you’re tired of feeling stretched thin during the holidays and want to feel more connected—to your body, your family, and yourself.

Connect with Tess!

https://glowithtess.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tess-cheng-ms
https://www.instagram.com/glowithtess/
https://www.facebook.com/Glowithtess

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Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

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Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Struggling with anger in your marriage? Feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or questioning whether you even want to stay? You’re not alone — and your anger may be telling you something important, but not in the way you think. In this episode, I break down what really happens in your brain during anger, why it narrows your perspective, and how to bring clarity back into your relationship before making big decisions.

You’ll learn:

• Why anger is a secondary emotion and what’s really underneath it
• How your brain hijacks your perception and amplifies the negative
• A powerful question to help you regain perspective
• The three choices you have when facing recurring frustrations
• How to tell the difference between fixable issues and deal-breakers
• When it’s time to get support from a marriage coach
• Why many couples separate over issues that are actually solvable with the right tools

If you’re feeling stuck in resentment, emotionally checked out, or unsure whether your frustrations are temporary or permanent, this episode will help you slow down, zoom out, and reconnect to the full picture of your marriage — not just the parts your anger highlights.

Looking for clarity and support as you navigate this season?
Book a free Clarity Call to understand what’s happening, what you want, and what working together can look like.

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Kids today aren't struggling because they’re “lazy,” “dramatic,” or “entitled.” They’re struggling because the world they’re growing up in is fundamentally different — and their mental health is reflecting that.

In this powerful conversation, therapist Keri Cooper breaks down the real reasons kids are lacking grit and resilience — and what parents can shift today to better support their emotional health.

We explore how conveniences, screens, gaming, overstimulation, permissive parenting, and constant adult intervention have unintentionally robbed kids of the experiences they need to grow into resilient, capable, grounded humans.

Connect with Keri:
Website: https://kericooperholistictherapy.com/
IG: @kericooperholistictherapy @sleepsolutionsbykeri

Grab her book, Mental Health Uncensored: 10 Foundations Every Parent Needs To Know here!

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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The Power of Gratitude in Marriage

Gratitude isn’t just about saying “thank you” when things go right—it’s a powerful way to deepen connection, reduce defensiveness, and strengthen teamwork in your relationship. In this short and heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Michelle shares how practicing gratitude can transform your marriage, especially during stressful seasons like the holidays.

You’ll learn:

• What gratitude really means (and what it’s not)
• Why expressing appreciation lowers defensiveness and builds connection
• How gratitude helps couples repair faster after conflict
• Simple daily gratitude practices that bring you and your partner closer
• What to do if gratitude feels hard right now

If you’ve been struggling to feel grateful because resentment or disconnection have taken root, this episode will help you start shifting your energy toward healing and reconnection.

Resources mentioned:

• Conflict to Connection Guide
  – Gain clarity so you can confidently communicate your needs
• Book a Clarity Call
  – Get personalized support to restore connection and improve communication in your marriage

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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The truth is—most modern women aren’t just working one shift. They’re working five.

Between managing households, raising kids, and keeping marriages afloat, it’s no wonder women are exhausted. In this episode, I share what the shifts are and I break down the concept of The Fifth Shift—the invisible labor of maintaining the health and connection of a marriage—and why it’s time to stop carrying it alone.

You’ll learn:

What the five “shifts” of modern motherhood and marriage actually are

Why the fifth shift (managing your marriage) often falls on women

How outdated conditioning still shapes relational imbalance today

Why partnership isn’t about being 50/50—it’s about awareness, capacity, and collaboration

Practical examples of how to rebalance responsibilities at home and in your marriage

You’ll walk away feeling seen, validated, and empowered to start creating more balance—without guilt or resentment.

If you’re ready to identify what needs to shift in your relationship so you can feel supported again, grab the Marriage 360 Review. It’ll help you assess your relationship, spot the imbalance, and open the door to real change.

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

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Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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When breastfeeding isn’t working the way you imagined—it’s not your fault.

In this episode, I am joined by Shari Stamps, an integrative wellness practitioner and mom of six, to talk about what really happens when feeding your baby doesn’t go as planned—especially when oral ties are involved.

We dive into the emotional and physical challenges of postpartum feeding, how to spot red flags, and why so many moms feel dismissed or unsupported when they know something’s not right.

Shari breaks down what oral ties actually are, why they’re often missed by professionals, and how a holistic care team (including lactation consultants, craniosacral therapists, and pediatric specialists) can help. She also shares how parents can regulate themselves, connect with their baby, and move through this season with more confidence and peace.

If you’ve ever felt like you were failing because feeding wasn’t “natural” or “easy,” this episode will remind you—you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What oral ties are and how they affect feeding

Signs your baby may be struggling beyond a “bad latch”

Why holistic support is essential for both mom and baby

How to self-soothe and stay grounded when feeding challenges feel overwhelming

The role your partner can play in emotional and physical support

Mentioned in this episode:

Shari’s toolkit: Your Baby’s Tie Care Bestie

Connect with Shari:
Website: https://www.navigatingparenthood.com/
IG: @navigatingparenthood
Podcast: Navigating Parenthood

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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You don’t have to dread the holidays.

Most couples enter the holiday season with good intentions—but end up buried under the mental load, family expectations, and endless to-do lists that leave them feeling resentful and disconnected.

In this episode, I'm sharing the exact conversation you can have with your partner to plan the holidays as a team instead of as stressed-out parents. You’ll learn how to align your values before diving into logistics, set realistic expectations, and avoid repeating the same stressful patterns every year.

You’ll also hear sample scripts, boundary phrases, and a complete 12-point agenda for planning your holiday season—from setting your vision and budget to dividing responsibilities and protecting couple time.

By the end, you’ll have everything you need to turn the holidays into a season that strengthens your marriage, not one that tests it.

In this episode:

• Why holiday stress magnifies your current relationship dynamics
• How to use Michelle’s P.E.A.C.E. Method to plan with your partner
• The 12 key conversation points every couple should cover
• How to set boundaries with family (without guilt)
• What to do differently this year to feel calm, connected, and aligned

Resources mentioned:

• Download the The Holiday Planning Conversation Agenda PDF here!
• Watch the The #1 Conversation Couples Need to Have (Free Masterclass) here!
• Book a Clarity Call here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Bonus track to episode 244!

This is a bonus track courtesy of Kimberly Brown, meditation teacher.

If you've ever wanted to try meditation or already love meditation - this is for you!

Find a comfortable place you can be still and present and enjoy!

Connect with Kimberly:
Website: www.meditationwithheart.com
Substack: kimberlybrown.substack.com
IG: @kimberlyjbrown

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re reacting instead of responding in your marriage, this episode is your invitation to slow down.

In this powerful conversation with Buddhist meditation teacher and author Kimberly Brown, we explore how mindfulness and self-compassion can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and kids too.

We discuss:

• What meditation really is (and isn’t)
• How slowing down your inner world changes how you show up in conflict
• Why managing your own emotions is one of the best ways to care for your marriage
• Practical, beginner-friendly ways to start meditating (even if you hate sitting still)
• How meditation helps you become a more grounded, compassionate partner and parent

Kimberly also shares a guided meditation practice in the bonus track following this episode — perfect for anyone curious to experience the benefits firsthand.

Listen in to learn how creating space for yourself can help you create more connection in your marriage.

Connect with Kimberly:
Website: www.meditationwithheart.com
Substack: kimberlybrown.substack.com
IG: @kimberlyjbrown

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Your marriage doesn’t just grow on its own — it grows because you choose to nurture it.

After 11 years of marriage and 3 kids, I’ve learned that a thriving relationship doesn’t happen by accident. It takes intention, small daily habits, and a willingness to grow through every season of life.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on six things I personally do to keep my marriage healthy and connected — even with a full plate as a mom and business owner.

These habits aren’t about perfection — they’re about intention. When you consistently show up for your marriage in small but meaningful ways, you build the foundation for lasting love, connection, and teamwork.

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Phones have changed everything about how we connect.

In this conversation, I am joined by Alisa DiLorenzo — marriage coach, co-host of The One Extraordinary Marriage Show and author of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy — and we dive into how smartphones have become both a tool and a challenge in modern marriages. From subtle disconnection and misplaced attention to the small daily habits that create emotional distance, we unpack how phone usage affects intimacy, communication, and connection.

Tune in to hear us go over:

• How to recognize when phones are replacing connection with your partner
• The difference between using tech intentionally vs. habitually
• What to say (and not say) when your spouse is always on their phone
• Simple daily habits that restore presence, connection, and intimacy
• How to align your family’s phone use with your shared values

By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical ideas to reconnect — no app required.

Connect with Alisa:

www.oneextraordinarymarriage.com
IG: @oneextraordinarymarriage

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Assessment: https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/freequiz

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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So many couples start wondering, “How did we get here?” once kids enter the picture. It’s not that the love disappeared — it’s that it got deprioritized. Parenthood changes everything. Between sleepless nights, endless to-dos, and the emotional load of raising kids, your relationship can easily slip into “roommate mode.”

In this episode, I break down what’s really happening when love feels distant — and how to start nurturing it again in simple, sustainable ways. I share why parenthood naturally shifts your focus, how couples drift from lovers to co-parenting partners, and how to rebuild emotional intimacy through micro-moments of connection.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “We used to be so in love — what happened?” this episode will help you see that you haven’t lost love… you’ve just stopped putting in the work to grow it.

You’ll learn:

• Why love fades when it’s not nurtured (and how to revive it)
• The shift from romantic partners to logistical roommates
• Simple ways to reconnect without overhauling your life
• Why intentional connection matters more than big gestures

It’s never too late to realign with your priorities — or each other.

Resources Mentioned:

• Marriage 360 Review
  Discover what your marriage needs most
• Book a Clarity Call
  Explore how marriage coaching can help you rebuild connection and feel like an “us” again

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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You don’t need to do it all to have it all.

If you’ve ever scrolled through Instagram during the holidays and thought, “How are other moms doing all this?”, this episode is for you.

I’m joined again by my friend and Marisa Lonic of Mama Work It to talk about the  comparison traps and guilt that come with modern motherhood — especially during the school and holiday rush.

We break down:

• How social media fuels “comparisonitis” and how to protect your peace online
• Why doing less can actually make you a better mom, wife, and human
• How to redefine success and capacity in each season
• Practical strategies for staying grounded, setting boundaries, and delegating without guilt

We also talk about what it looks like to be confident in saying no without apology and how modeling this for your kids teaches them self-respect and emotional intelligence.

If you’re ready to make this school year and holiday season lighter, calmer, and more connected — this conversation will help you do just that.

Connect with Marisa!

IG: @letmamaworkit

Website: www.mamaworkit.com

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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You might think time with friends is a luxury once you have kids — but what if it’s actually essential for your marriage and your experience of motherhood?

In this episode, I share how female friendships aren’t just nice-to-have — they’re a powerful form of self-care that make you a better partner, parent, and person.

There are just some things that our partner just won't get and that's where friends come in. When you feel seen, supported, and reminded of who you are outside your role as wife and mom, you show up with more patience, joy, and capacity at home.

Tune in to learn how investing in your friendships can transform your marriage and motherhood!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Before you can create the relationship you want with your partner or your kids, you have to build a healthy one with yourself.

Many women lose themselves somewhere between wife and mom. The roles pile up, the needs of others take over, and suddenly the woman underneath feels like a stranger. But the truth is — every relationship you have mirrors the one you have with yourself.

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Evelyn LaVasseur, an Identity Coach who helps women reconnect with who they are underneath all the roles. Together, we explore what it means to have a relationship with self, how our upbringing shapes that connection, and why reclaiming it is essential for a fulfilling marriage and experience of motherhood.

Listen now to learn how to improve your relationship with yourself and watch how doing so shifts your relationships for the better.

Connect with Evelyn!

www.evelynlevasseur.com
FB: https://www.facebook.com/evelyn.levasseur/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/itsevelynlevasseur/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@evelynlevasseur

Grab her Exhaustion Guide here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Have you ever talked to a couple married for 20+ years and wondered, “How do they do it?”

Lasting love isn’t about luck—it’s about growth. Sure, meeting your person takes timing and chemistry, but staying happily married takes emotional awareness, communication, and a willingness to evolve together.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what really keeps a marriage strong—and it’s not avoiding arguments or scheduling more date nights. It’s the health of you.

Because your marriage is only as healthy as you are.

When you work on your emotional well-being, your self-awareness, and how you show up in conflict, everything else starts to shift. Conversations feel safer, connection feels easier, and teamwork becomes natural again.

If you’ve been doing all the “right” things but still feel distant, this episode will show you what’s really missing—and how to start changing it.

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Menopause isn’t the end — it’s the beginning of rediscovering who you are.

In this  episode, Michelle sits down with Adele Johnston, also known as The Menopause Coach, to debunk the myths, fear, and shame surrounding menopause. Together, they explore the emotional and physical changes that come with this transition — and how this next chapter can actually be one of the most liberating times of a woman’s life.

They discuss:

• Why most women fear menopause — and what society has gotten wrong about it
• The real signs you’re entering perimenopause (and why lab tests often miss it)
• Adele’s personal story of early menopause and what every woman should learn from it
• How hormone therapy (HRT) works, who it helps, and what to know before considering it
• The emotional awakening that often happens during this phase — and why women feel more confident, grounded, and unapologetic than ever
• The connection between unprocessed emotions, burnout, and physical symptoms during menopause

This episode is for every woman — whether you’re approaching menopause, already in it, or simply want to understand your body better. You’ll walk away feeling informed, empowered, and hopeful about what’s next.

Connect with Adele:

IG: @The.Menopausecoach

Podcast: The Menopause Coach

Website: www.adelejohnstoncoaching.com

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Have you ever wondered why conflict with your spouse goes sideways all the time?

One thing a lot of my clients have in common is that they're focusing on protecting themselves rather than to connect.

In this episode, I uncover why so many married couples approach conversations to survive as if they're in a battle instead of connecting. When your nervous system feels threatened, your communication shifts into protection mode — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The result? Defensiveness, shutdown, or constant tension.

Tune in to learn how to break this learned habit and start experiencing conflict as an opportunity to connect rather than something that needs to be hard fought and won.

Download the Conflict to Connection Guide to help you slow down, name your emotions, and turn tension into teamwork.

Ready to take the next step and receive support to finally start having more healthy communication and feel stronger with each conflict? Book your clarity call today to learn more about how coaching can help you!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Here is Part 2 of the Enneagram series with Christa Hardin! If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, go check out Ep. 232 first and then come back to this!

Much of marriage conflict is because of misunderstandings. Whether we take things personally when we didn't need to or our partner just has a different style of communication. Marriage gets easier when you start getting to know each other better and one way you can do that is by knowing each other's Enneagram.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down again with Enneagram and Marriage expert Krista Hardin to dive deeper into how understanding personality types can strengthen your communication, conflict resolution, and connection.

We go beyond just identifying your number—we unpack how each Enneagram type shows up in marriage: what motivates them, what triggers them, and how to bring out their best self in partnership.

You’ll learn:

• How understanding core fears and motivations helps reduce conflict
• What each Enneagram type needs most in love and communication
• Why self-awareness is the key to being a better partner
• How to move from judgment to compassion using the Enneagram as a shared language

Whether you’re a loyal 6, nurturing 2, driven 3, or peaceful 9, you’ll leave this episode with fresh insight into how your personality influences your marriage—and how to create a stronger, more harmonious partnership.

Connect with Christa!

IG: @enneagramandmarriage

Website: www.enneagramandmarriage.com

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Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Marriage was never meant to feel like co-managing a household.

Yet for so many couples, that’s exactly where they find themselves—the roommate phase. You’re dividing chores, trading off bedtime routines, updating each other on logistics… but emotional intimacy, laughter, and closeness are nowhere to be found.

In this episode, I share:

• What the roommate phase is and why so many couples end up here after kids
• What creates this disconnection
• Three clear signs you’re in the roommate phase (and what that means for your relationship)
• Why this phase won’t fix itself once kids get older—and what to do instead
• Small, practical ways to rebuild connection without overhauling your entire schedule

The good news? This phase doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means you’ve slipped into survival mode. And with awareness, small intentional steps, and consistency—you can shift from living like roommates to truly being partners again.

Resources & Next Steps:

• Grab my free Conflict to Connection Guide to process your thoughts and feelings before bringing them up to your spouse
• Ready for a complete reset in your marriage? Book a free Clarity Call with me here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Your personality shapes everything—from how you handle conflict to how you connect with your spouse and kids.

In this episode, I sit down with Christa Hardin, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of The Enneagram in Marriage. Krista has spent over 20 years helping couples strengthen their connection, and today she’s here to walk us through the Enneagram—a personality framework that goes beyond surface-level behaviors to uncover your core fears, desires, and motivations.

Together, we explore:

• What the Enneagram is and why it’s different from other personality tools
• The 9 personality types and their core fears and motivations

This conversation is packed with insights that will help you better understand yourself and the people you love most. Whether you’re brand new to the Enneagram or you’ve dabbled before, you’ll leave with practical ways to apply it in your everyday life.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of this series where we explore how the Enneagram shows up in marriage dynamics.

Connect with Christa!

IG: @enneagramandmarriage

Website: www.enneagramandmarriage.com

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Happy marriages aren’t about luck—they’re about habits.

If you’ve been feeling like roommates or co-parents instead of a couple, you’re not alone. Parenthood, work, and responsibilities can slowly edge out connection. But the truth is, happy couples don’t coast—they intentionally practice small, consistent habits that keep their connection alive.

In this episode, I share the 4 key habits happy couples do differently, why they work, and how you can begin weaving them into your own marriage—even if you feel exhausted, disconnected, or stuck in “roommate mode.”

These aren’t grand gestures or even the occasional date nights—they’re simple, doable practices you can start today. And when you repeat them consistently, they become second nature, creating long-term intimacy and resilience in your marriage.

If your marriage feels heavy, serious, or distant, this episode will show you a way forward.

🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned in this Episode

• Ep. 213: The Phases Every Marriage Goes Through (and What Each One Needs)
• Ep. 227: Fighting Fair: Setting Ground Rules for Conflict
• Clarity Call - if you're ready for support to work through communication issues, resentment, or disconnection, schedule your free clarity call here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Life with kids can feel like a race from the moment the day begins—and most of us end up rushing without even realizing it.

In this episode, I’m joined by parenting expert Candy Chan to explore how “rush culture” shows up in family life and what we can do to create more calm and connection at home.

We talk about:

• How rushing impacts kids’ ability to self-regulate and build independence
• Why slowing down—even just a little—can reduce stress for the whole family
• Simple, age-appropriate ways to support toddlers, elementary kids, tweens, and teens without rushing

You’ll walk away with practical ideas to make everyday routines smoother, strengthen your kids’ confidence, and bring more ease into your parenting journey.

Connect with Candy!

FB: @hoppitylearning

IG: @hoppitylearning

YouTube: @hoppitylearning

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Communication breakdowns don’t always come from what you say—they often come from when and how you say it.

In this episode, I share the game-changing realization that transformed how my husband and I communicate. It’s not just about being passive, assertive, or aggressive—it’s about recognizing your processing style.

There are two main types and when these two styles collide, conversations can spiral into misunderstanding, assumptions, or frustration. One feels abandoned. The other feels pressured. Both feel disconnected.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your partner might shut down or dominate conversations
• Common triggers and misinterpretations for both styles
• Practical ways to advocate for your needs without invalidating your partner
• How to use shared language and strategies to prevent unnecessary conflict

By the end, you’ll understand how to navigate these differences with more patience, empathy, and awareness—so conversations become a bridge, not a battlefield.

Ready to turn conflict into connection? Download my Conflict to Connection Guide, filled with prompts to help you gain clarity and approach conversations with confidence and intention.

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Taking time away from your family isn’t selfish—it’s essential.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jillian McCloskey, founder of Momcations, to talk about why moms need intentional time away and how these trips can completely transform your patience, your marriage, and your sense of self.

We discuss:

• What a “momcation” really is and why it’s different from just staying home for a break
• Why stepping away allows your partner to step up and builds their confidence too
• How kids benefit when moms take time away (spoiler: it often creates the sweetest core memories)
• Practical tips for overcoming mom guilt and starting small if leaving feels impossible

If you’ve been waiting for the “perfect time” to take a break, this conversation will remind you why that time is now. Because when you return home recharged, everyone wins.

Connect with Jillian:

Website: www.momcations.co

IG: @momcations.co

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Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

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• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Conflict is inevitable in marriage—but arguing is optional.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to set ground rules for conflict so you can stop letting arguments spiral and start using disagreements as opportunities to grow closer.

We often inherit the way we fight from how we grew up. Without intentional guidelines, fights quickly turn into defensiveness, blame, and stonewalling. But when you and your partner set ground rules together, conflict becomes a space for trust, intimacy, and partnership.

Tune in to learn:

• Why conflict doesn’t have to damage your marriage
• The difference between conflict and arguing (and why it matters)
• How ground rules create emotional safety during disagreements
• Practical examples of fighting fair (no name-calling, one issue at a time, pausing if emotions get too high, practicing repair)
• Why repair and reconnection are just as important as the fight itself

If you find yourself avoiding fights because they always escalate, or if you keep having the same argument without resolution, these tools will help you shift the way you communicate and finally break that cycle.

When you know how to set rules for healthy conflict, you’ll feel more like teammates—even when you disagree.

Grab my Conflict To Connection Guide here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Bad marriage advice is everywhere—and following it could be quietly sabotaging your relationship.

In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I’m joined by fellow relationship coach Monica Tanner to debunk some of the most common (and harmful) pieces of advice couples are told. From the well-meaning but destructive “Never go to bed angry” to the seemingly logical “Compromise is the key to happiness,” we unpack why these ideas don’t actually work—and what to do instead.

We also explore:

• How not addressing issues at night can actually help your marriage
• Why compromise often leads to resentment instead of connection
• What healthy collaboration and curiosity look like in real-life marriages
• The hidden ways moms, especially, abandon themselves in the name of being “good wives” or “good mothers”
• How Monica’s new book helps couples break free from myths that keep them stuck

If you’ve ever felt like you were doing everything “right” but still weren’t happy in your marriage, this conversation will open your eyes to what’s really going on—and how to change it.

Connect with Monica:

Website: www.monicatanner.com

IG: @monitalksmarriage

Grab her new book here!

Thanks for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Love languages aren’t forever — they can change too!

When you were dating, maybe gifts or fancy dinners made you feel loved. But after kids? Chances are, what fills your cup has shifted. Maybe now it’s acts of service, quality time, or simply being told how much your partner appreciates you.

The problem is, most couples don’t realize that their old ways of showing love may not land anymore, so you both keep trying, but it feels like your efforts miss the mark. That’s where disconnection, resentment, and unmet needs sneak in.

In this episode, I share:

• Why love languages evolve
• How to recognize when your needs (and your partner’s) have shifted
• Simple ways to check in and stay updated on what feels most supportive right now
• How curiosity and experimentation can keep love alive even in busy parenthood

Your marriage isn’t broken if the old ways don’t work anymore. It’s an invitation to update the “manual” so that your relationship keeps thriving as you both grow and change.

If you’re ready to uncover where your marriage is thriving and where it needs more attention, grab my Marriage 360 Review. It’s the perfect way to see clearly where to focus your energy for the biggest impact.

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Mom brain isn’t just in your head—it’s real.

If you’ve ever put your keys in the fridge, forgotten why you walked into a room, or felt like your mind just can’t keep up since becoming a mom, you are not alone. I’ve been there, and I know how frustrating it can feel.

That’s why in this episode, I sat down with licensed marriage and family therapist Atara Parkinson to unpack what’s really happening when “mom brain” shows up.

We talk about:

• What mom brain actually is
• How hormonal shifts, stress, and the never-ending mental load affect your brain and memory
• The role minerals like magnesium, potassium, sodium, and calcium play in reducing brain fog
• Simple, practical ways you can support yourself through nutrition, nervous system care, and self-care that goes deeper than spa days

By the end of this conversation, you’ll feel reassured that mom brain doesn’t mean you’re broken—it’s your body asking for support. And when you give it what it needs, you can feel more grounded, focused, and present again.

Connect with Atara!

IG: @atara.parkinson

Website: www.ataraparkinson.com

Thanks for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!
  
  

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Tough conversations are not the same as confrontations and knowing the difference could change your marriage.

In this episode, I'm unpacking a common misconception that keeps couples stuck: the belief that speaking up about challenges is automatically “confrontational.” 

Tune in to hear me share:

• The real definition of confrontation (and why it doesn’t belong in a healthy marriage)
• How to reframe conflict so it feels like teamwork, not a battle
• Why avoiding hard conversations creates bigger problems over time
• How to see conflict as “maintenance” for your relationship

If you’ve been avoiding hard topics because you don’t want to rock the boat, this episode will give you the clarity and courage to start communicating in a way that builds closeness instead of distance.

Download the Conflict To Connection Guide here!

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Mom guilt and anxiety often show up hand in hand—and for many moms, it feels impossible to shake.

In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I’m joined by psychotherapist Patrice Payment to talk about why anxiety can hit hard after becoming a mom, even if you never struggled with it before. We unpack the most common triggers, the thought patterns that keep you stuck, and the link between guilt and the pressure to “do it all.”

You’ll learn how to identify unhelpful thinking patterns like black-and-white thinking, catastrophizing, and “should” statements—and how to replace them with more compassionate, flexible perspectives. We also share practical tools to shift from feeling powerless to feeling in control of your choices, reduce burnout, and prioritize your own needs without guilt.

Whether you’re a new mom or years into motherhood, these strategies will help you navigate anxiety with confidence, protect your mental health, and enjoy motherhood without losing yourself.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why anxiety often starts after kids, even if you were fine before
• Common ways mom guilt and anxiety show up in daily life
• How “should” statements fuel guilt and burnout
• Strategies for challenging unhelpful thought patterns
• Practical tools to respond to anxiety instead of spiraling
• The surprising link between saying “no” and feeling calmer

Connect with Patrice!

Website: www.momlifewithp.com

IG: @momlifecounseling

Thanks for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Resentment doesn’t mean your marriage is broken, it means something needs to change.

It’s not just frustration. It’s a signal. A buildup of unmet needs and silence that, left unaddressed, can lead to emotional disconnection, bitterness, and burnout.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what resentment really is and why it shows up so often in marriages, especially after kids. You’ll learn how to use it as a tool for reconnection.

In this episode, I share:

• What resentment really means (and what it’s not)
• How to recognize the signs early
• Everyday ways resentment builds in parenting and partnership
• How to use resentment to strengthen your marriage

Resources mentioned:

• Marriage 360 Review – Identify where resentment is hiding and what your marriage needs most
• Book a Clarity Call to explore how coaching can help your marriage grow stronger

Thanks for listening!

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Chores are more than just about getting the house clean. In this episode, I'm joined by Family Coach Lori Sugarman-Li and she shares how chores are opportunities to teach your kids life skills and build a stronger family dynamic.

In this episode, we dig into how involving kids in the work of running a household is about so much more than ticking off tasks on a to-do list. It’s about instilling responsibility, empowering them to contribute meaningfully, and fostering resilience they’ll carry into adulthood.

You’ll learn why reframing chores as "family contributions" can transform the way your kids see them (and how you feel about enforcing them). This isn’t about nagging or micromanaging—it’s about helping kids understand the scope of work that keeps a family functioning and giving them a sense of pride in being part of that.

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

• Why chores aren’t just chores—they’re opportunities for growth and empowerment
• How involving kids in household work builds self-esteem, accountability, and communication skills
• Simple strategies to make chores feel like meaningful contributions instead of punishments
• How to model the value of teamwork so your kids learn to carry their weight in the family
• Ways to handle pushback and frustration without creating power struggles

If you’re tired of the endless battle over chores and want a fresh, more collaborative way to approach them, this episode will help you reimagine what shared responsibility looks like in your home.

Connect with Lori!

Website: https://ourhomeourpride.com

IG: @ourhomeourpride

Buy her book here!

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I love my husband, but I feel so alone”?
 

After kids, so many moms quietly carry the weight of loneliness in their marriage. Feeling like everything falls on them, like they’ve lost themselves, and like they’re more roommates than romantic partners.

In this episode, we’re diving into why so many moms feel alone in marriage after having kids and how you can start turning things around.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Why loneliness happens in marriage after kids
• Signs you’re experiencing disconnection
• How to rebuild connection without needing a perfect date night

If you’re ready to feel reconnected in your marriage, I invite you to schedule a free clarity call with me. We’ll get to the root of what’s going on and map out your next steps towards a more connected marriage.

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you feel like your life falls apart every time your routine gets disrupted?

Many moms experience burnout trying to stick to rigid routines that just don’t work for real-life motherhood. In this empowering episode, I sat down with Siobhan Bingham, motherhood coach and host of the Everwell Mama Podcast, to explore the powerful shift from routines to rhythms.

In this episode, we cover:

• The difference between routines and rhythms — and why rhythms are more sustainable for moms
• How rigid routines can fuel guilt and burnout
• How shifting your mindset around structure helps you and your kids thrive
• Simple, real-life examples of what following a rhythm looks like
• Why honoring your energy is a skill worth modeling for your children
• Small changes that make a big difference in your day-to-day experience

If you’ve been craving more peace, presence, and permission to do things differently as a mom, this episode is for you!

Connect with Siobhan!

IG: @everwellcoaching

Podcast: Everwell Mama Podcast

Download Siobhan’s FREE Tired Moms Reset Kit here!

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you keep having the same fight in your marriage?

You’re not alone. Repetitive arguments can feel like emotional déjà vu—same topic, same tone, same result. Eventually, you start to wonder if things will ever actually change.

In this episode, I’m diving into why these same fights happen over and over again, what deeper emotional needs are often hiding beneath the surface, and what it really takes to break the cycle for good.

This conversation is for you if:

• You feel emotionally drained after every argument
• You’re stuck in the same dynamic, hoping it’ll magically change
• You’re ready to try something different—because trying harder isn’t working

If you’re feeling stuck or exhausted by the same arguments, I invite you to schedule a free clarity call with me. We’ll get to the root of what’s going on and map out your next steps toward a more connected marriage.

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Is the clutter in your home stressing you out more than you'd like?

In this episode, I welcome back clutter-free coach Deanna Yates to explore how our physical environment impacts our mental wellbeing. We dive into the emotional and practical side of clutter, why it accumulates, and how to create a more peaceful home without waiting for a huge decluttering weekend that never comes.

Tune in to hear:

- The real reasons moms buy too much stuff (it’s not just consumerism)
- How overstimulation from clutter affects your nervous system
- What clutter actually is—and why it’s different for everyone
- How to start small (and time it) so decluttering feels manageable
- How to get your kids involved—without tears or tantrums
- Why working as a family team matters more than perfection

Plus, Deanna shares her amazing new children’s book, Lenora and Her Super Duper Messy Room, which helps kids learn the value of letting go and creating space they love.

Whether your house is a total disaster or just needs some tweaks, this episode will help you start clearing physical (and mental) space—one simple step at a time.

Connect with Deanna:
https://wannabeclutterfree.com

IG: @wannabeclutterfree

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Feeling disconnected from your spouse between date nights?
If you’ve ever planned a long-awaited date only to feel awkward or underwhelmed during it—or felt like the spark didn’t last—you’re not alone. This episode dives into why waiting for a big night out isn’t the answer and how to build lasting connection in your daily life instead.

As a marriage coach (and mom), I’m sharing how my husband and I stay connected without regular date nights by focusing on micro-connections.

In this episode I share:

• Why date nights aren't enough to stay connected
• What micro-connections are and how they create a strong emotional foundation
• Simple, doable ways to reconnect with your partner in the middle of your busy life
• Real-life examples of how to weave intentional moments into your daily routine
• How to shift your mindset from “we’ll connect when we can” to “we’re always building connection”

This episode is for you if:

• You feel like roommates more than romantic partners
• You’re exhausted and don’t have time or energy for grand gestures
• You want to feel smitten with your spouse again, even in the chaos of parenthood

Ready to feel like a couple again? Book a clarity call and let’s talk about how I can help: https://www.michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!