Real Men Hug Mon, 23 Mar 2026 12:18:51 -0400 https://www.realmenhug.com en-us © 2026 Real Men Hug, LLC yes Support this Podcast d02727a0-2a79-53de-b5b4-8e0b116597be Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel episodic false Step into the realm of "Real Men Hug," where authenticity reigns supreme. Our podcast offers a refreshing blend of candid conversations, heartfelt exploration of emotions, and invaluable insights into mental well-being, tailor-made for both men and the women who hold them dear.

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]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel https://storage.buzzsprout.com/tmsjk7axbuutxmb3tvxnfhasibn0?.jpg Real Men Hug Ben Kraker Jim Van Stensel Ep. 26 || Final Episode: Farewell from Jim & Ben Ep. 26 || Final Episode: Farewell from Jim & Ben In this bittersweet finale of Real Men Hug, Jim and Ben reflect on the transformative journey of their podcasting adventure. Over the past year, they’ve shared laughs, deep dives into mental health, stories of personal growth, and vulnerable moments of connection—all while modeling authentic friendship and challenging societal norms around masculinity.

This episode is packed with heartfelt reflections and hilarious behind-the-scenes anecdotes, from Ben’s ADHD-fueled doorbell chaos to Jim’s lessons in climbing out of the metaphorical well. They reminisce about highlights like hosting inspiring guests (shoutout to Dr. Matt Zakreski and Jamie and Mahlon from Round Table Mindset!), tackling tough conversations about identity and bitterness, and hearing how the show has made a real impact on listeners’ lives.

While Real Men Hug may be ending, Jim and Ben are both stepping boldly into new seasons of life. Jim shares his plans to build his next business venture, dabble in ASL, and even pen a fantasy story for his kids. Meanwhile, Ben looks forward to deepening his spiritual direction practice, writing creatively, and continuing his health journey.

And don’t miss the surprises after the ending...!

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]]> In this bittersweet finale of Real Men Hug, Jim and Ben reflect on the transformative journey of their podcasting adventure. Over the past year, they’ve shared laughs, deep dives into mental health, stories of personal growth, and vulnerable moments of connection—all while modeling authentic friendship and challenging societal norms around masculinity.

This episode is packed with heartfelt reflections and hilarious behind-the-scenes anecdotes, from Ben’s ADHD-fueled doorbell chaos to Jim’s lessons in climbing out of the metaphorical well. They reminisce about highlights like hosting inspiring guests (shoutout to Dr. Matt Zakreski and Jamie and Mahlon from Round Table Mindset!), tackling tough conversations about identity and bitterness, and hearing how the show has made a real impact on listeners’ lives.

While Real Men Hug may be ending, Jim and Ben are both stepping boldly into new seasons of life. Jim shares his plans to build his next business venture, dabble in ASL, and even pen a fantasy story for his kids. Meanwhile, Ben looks forward to deepening his spiritual direction practice, writing creatively, and continuing his health journey.

And don’t miss the surprises after the ending...!

Thank you, listeners, for being part of this journey. Real Men Hug may be signing off, but the love, connection, and authenticity live on.

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]]> Jim Van Stensel & Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-16339118 Thu, 26 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2731 1 26 full false Ep. 25 || Cornerstone Concerns: Navigating Christian Nationalism, Inclusivity, and Faith in Politics Ep. 25 || Cornerstone Concerns: Navigating Christian Nationalism, Inclusivity, and Faith in Politics In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim discuss the controversies surrounding their alma mater, Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Under the leadership of President Gerson Moreno-Riaño, the university has faced significant challenges, including a faculty vote of no confidence on October 21, 2021, just before his inauguration.* Allegations of resistance to diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts have caused widespread unrest among alumni and students, sparking protests and online calls for reform.** The decision to cut entire departments, like the humanities, and enact mass layoffs has further raised questions about the institution’s direction and commitment to providing a balanced, faith-based education.***

Beyond the campus controversy, Ben and Jim also tackle the broader intersections of politics, faith, and the role of the church in modern society. They reflect on how these institutions can either perpetuate division or act as conduits for unity and justice. Drawing from personal anecdotes and current events, they discuss the challenges of navigating these tensions with authenticity and grace. The conversation delves into the church's responsibility to engage with social and political issues without losing sight of its spiritual mission, as well as how Christians can advocate for inclusivity and truth in polarized times.

This episode challenges listeners to reflect on their personal and collective roles in fostering connection, inclusivity, and positive change, both within their communities and in the broader social and political landscape.

Sources:
*Religion News: Cornerstone University to hold vote of no confidence on incoming president

**The Roys Report: Cornerstone University student protests racial issues under new president

***Current: Cornerstone University fires tenured professors and terminates all humanities programs

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim discuss the controversies surrounding their alma mater, Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Under the leadership of President Gerson Moreno-Riaño, the university has faced significant challenges, including a faculty vote of no confidence on October 21, 2021, just before his inauguration.* Allegations of resistance to diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts have caused widespread unrest among alumni and students, sparking protests and online calls for reform.** The decision to cut entire departments, like the humanities, and enact mass layoffs has further raised questions about the institution’s direction and commitment to providing a balanced, faith-based education.***

Beyond the campus controversy, Ben and Jim also tackle the broader intersections of politics, faith, and the role of the church in modern society. They reflect on how these institutions can either perpetuate division or act as conduits for unity and justice. Drawing from personal anecdotes and current events, they discuss the challenges of navigating these tensions with authenticity and grace. The conversation delves into the church's responsibility to engage with social and political issues without losing sight of its spiritual mission, as well as how Christians can advocate for inclusivity and truth in polarized times.

This episode challenges listeners to reflect on their personal and collective roles in fostering connection, inclusivity, and positive change, both within their communities and in the broader social and political landscape.

Sources:
*Religion News: Cornerstone University to hold vote of no confidence on incoming president

**The Roys Report: Cornerstone University student protests racial issues under new president

***Current: Cornerstone University fires tenured professors and terminates all humanities programs

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-16225114 Thu, 05 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2590 1 25 full false Ep. 24 || The Gift of Choice: Crafting Your Own Holiday Rhythm Ep. 24 || The Gift of Choice: Crafting Your Own Holiday Rhythm This week, Ben and Jim dive into the nuances of holiday traditions, exploring how we can reclaim joy and reduce stress by celebrating on our own terms. Whether it’s debating the supremacy of cheesy potatoes over green bean casserole or reflecting on the idea of “picking a different day” to celebrate, they bring both humor and heart to the conversation.

Through personal stories and heartfelt reflections, they discuss the tension of navigating family dynamics while staying true to what matters most. Holidays can feel like a time where the expectations never let you down, but Ben and Jim remind us that crafting new traditions is an act of love—for yourself and those you care about.

Whether you’re embracing change or holding on to time-honored rituals, this episode is about finding joy in connection and creating moments that will always stay with you.

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]]> This week, Ben and Jim dive into the nuances of holiday traditions, exploring how we can reclaim joy and reduce stress by celebrating on our own terms. Whether it’s debating the supremacy of cheesy potatoes over green bean casserole or reflecting on the idea of “picking a different day” to celebrate, they bring both humor and heart to the conversation.

Through personal stories and heartfelt reflections, they discuss the tension of navigating family dynamics while staying true to what matters most. Holidays can feel like a time where the expectations never let you down, but Ben and Jim remind us that crafting new traditions is an act of love—for yourself and those you care about.

Whether you’re embracing change or holding on to time-honored rituals, this episode is about finding joy in connection and creating moments that will always stay with you.

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-16145257 Thu, 21 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1880 1 24 full false Ep. 23 || Who Do You Think You Are?: When Self-Perception and Reality Collide Ep. 23 || Who Do You Think You Are?: When Self-Perception and Reality Collide In today’s episode, Ben and Jim dive into the topic of self-perception and how it can sometimes stray far from reality. Whether it’s the inner critic that says we’re not enough or that old friend called self-doubt, they unpack how self-perception can skew our understanding of who we truly are.

Topics covered:

  • Ben and Jim’s College Days: Reflecting on perceptions of confidence and the hidden inner doubts.
  • Family and Self-Worth: Jim opens up about the struggle of feeling like he’s not “providing enough” and how that affects his view of himself as a husband and father.
  • Facing Inner Lies: Discussing how easy it is to believe negative thoughts about ourselves, even when they’re far from the truth.
  • Insights from Amy Morin’s Book: Jim shares takeaways from 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and how it’s helping him reframe self-perception.
  • Encouragement for Listeners: The importance of listening to the positive affirmations from friends and family, instead of believing the lies our minds can tell us.

Tune in as Ben and Jim explore how to break free from self-limiting beliefs and embrace the love and encouragement of those around us. As always, remember: Real Men Hug, and sometimes they just need to hear they’re doing better than they think.

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]]> In today’s episode, Ben and Jim dive into the topic of self-perception and how it can sometimes stray far from reality. Whether it’s the inner critic that says we’re not enough or that old friend called self-doubt, they unpack how self-perception can skew our understanding of who we truly are.

Topics covered:

  • Ben and Jim’s College Days: Reflecting on perceptions of confidence and the hidden inner doubts.
  • Family and Self-Worth: Jim opens up about the struggle of feeling like he’s not “providing enough” and how that affects his view of himself as a husband and father.
  • Facing Inner Lies: Discussing how easy it is to believe negative thoughts about ourselves, even when they’re far from the truth.
  • Insights from Amy Morin’s Book: Jim shares takeaways from 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and how it’s helping him reframe self-perception.
  • Encouragement for Listeners: The importance of listening to the positive affirmations from friends and family, instead of believing the lies our minds can tell us.

Tune in as Ben and Jim explore how to break free from self-limiting beliefs and embrace the love and encouragement of those around us. As always, remember: Real Men Hug, and sometimes they just need to hear they’re doing better than they think.

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]]> Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-16023849 Thu, 31 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1415 1 23 full false Ep. 22 || Balancing Pills, People, and Purpose: Walking the Path to Better Health Together Ep. 22 || Balancing Pills, People, and Purpose: Walking the Path to Better Health Together In this episode, Ben and Jim explore the balance between medication, meaningful connections, and long-term health. They discuss how pills can be a temporary bridge toward healthier habits but shouldn’t replace physical activity and relationships. Ben shares personal stories about his own weight loss journey, the mental and physical connection, and the power of forgiveness in healing. Whether you’re starting your journey or seeking sustainability, this episode reminds us that we’re all walking the path to better health together. 

Takeaways:

  • Medication can be part of the process, but it’s important to include physical activity and community in your wellness journey.
  • Forgiveness and letting go of resentment can lead to significant improvements in physical health.
  • You don’t have to go at it alone—lean on friends, family, and even online communities to stay motivated.

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]]> In this episode, Ben and Jim explore the balance between medication, meaningful connections, and long-term health. They discuss how pills can be a temporary bridge toward healthier habits but shouldn’t replace physical activity and relationships. Ben shares personal stories about his own weight loss journey, the mental and physical connection, and the power of forgiveness in healing. Whether you’re starting your journey or seeking sustainability, this episode reminds us that we’re all walking the path to better health together. 

Takeaways:

  • Medication can be part of the process, but it’s important to include physical activity and community in your wellness journey.
  • Forgiveness and letting go of resentment can lead to significant improvements in physical health.
  • You don’t have to go at it alone—lean on friends, family, and even online communities to stay motivated.

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]]> Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15940750 Thu, 17 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400 1356 1 22 full false Ep. 21 || The Weight of Empathy: Caring Without Losing Yourself Ep. 21 || The Weight of Empathy: Caring Without Losing Yourself In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben take a deep dive into the concept of empathy, highlighting the crucial difference between empathy and sympathy. While sympathy involves feeling for someone, empathy goes a step further by sharing and bearing the weight of someone else’s burdens. Through personal stories, such as Ben's journey with health struggles, they explore how empathy can take an emotional toll, especially when it comes to balancing caring for others with caring for oneself.

The discussion touches on both the challenges of empathizing with people in pain and the surprising difficulty of sharing in others' joy. Jim and Ben also share practical ways to demonstrate empathy, such as being a “laundry fairy” and offering meaningful, tangible help.

Key Discussion Points:

  • Empathy vs. Sympathy: Why empathy involves a deeper, more emotional connection.
  • Empathy in Joy and Sorrow: The difficulty of empathizing with happiness and why pain often feels easier to connect with.
  • Setting Boundaries: The importance of balancing your own emotional health while supporting others.
  • Practical Empathy: Real-world examples of how small acts of service, like doing laundry or bringing a meal, can make a big difference.

The episode wraps up by underscoring the importance of stepping into people’s lives in a meaningful way, rather than offering vague promises of support.

And hey, if you appreciate what we’re doing here and want to support the show, consider buying us a coffee! Your support helps us keep these conversations going.

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben take a deep dive into the concept of empathy, highlighting the crucial difference between empathy and sympathy. While sympathy involves feeling for someone, empathy goes a step further by sharing and bearing the weight of someone else’s burdens. Through personal stories, such as Ben's journey with health struggles, they explore how empathy can take an emotional toll, especially when it comes to balancing caring for others with caring for oneself.

The discussion touches on both the challenges of empathizing with people in pain and the surprising difficulty of sharing in others' joy. Jim and Ben also share practical ways to demonstrate empathy, such as being a “laundry fairy” and offering meaningful, tangible help.

Key Discussion Points:

  • Empathy vs. Sympathy: Why empathy involves a deeper, more emotional connection.
  • Empathy in Joy and Sorrow: The difficulty of empathizing with happiness and why pain often feels easier to connect with.
  • Setting Boundaries: The importance of balancing your own emotional health while supporting others.
  • Practical Empathy: Real-world examples of how small acts of service, like doing laundry or bringing a meal, can make a big difference.

The episode wraps up by underscoring the importance of stepping into people’s lives in a meaningful way, rather than offering vague promises of support.

And hey, if you appreciate what we’re doing here and want to support the show, consider buying us a coffee! Your support helps us keep these conversations going.

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-15699313 Thu, 05 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2173 full false Ep. 20 || The Gratitude Effect: Balancing Privilege and Perspective Ep. 20 || The Gratitude Effect: Balancing Privilege and Perspective In this 20th episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the multifaceted nature of gratitude. Ben shares his unique perspective from a life spent rubbing elbows with both CEOs and the homeless, offering deep reflections on how gratitude manifests across different walks of life.

The episode dives into the challenges of maintaining gratitude amidst privilege and adversity, with Ben providing thoughtful insights on how to find balance in a world often defined by extremes. Jim brings his own experiences to the table, discussing how a simple Jenga block exercise helped him and his wife rediscover thankfulness during a tough season.

Together, they tackle the obstacles that can hinder gratitude—such as entitlement, indifference, and comparison—and offer practical strategies to cultivate a mindset of thankfulness, no matter your circumstances. This episode is a thoughtful exploration of how gratitude can reshape our perspectives and enhance our lives.

Join Ben and Jim for a rich conversation filled with personal stories, practical advice, and a challenge to reflect on what you’re grateful for in your own life.

 And hey, if you appreciate what we’re doing here and want to support the show, consider buying us a coffee! Your support helps us keep these conversations going. 

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]]> In this 20th episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the multifaceted nature of gratitude. Ben shares his unique perspective from a life spent rubbing elbows with both CEOs and the homeless, offering deep reflections on how gratitude manifests across different walks of life.

The episode dives into the challenges of maintaining gratitude amidst privilege and adversity, with Ben providing thoughtful insights on how to find balance in a world often defined by extremes. Jim brings his own experiences to the table, discussing how a simple Jenga block exercise helped him and his wife rediscover thankfulness during a tough season.

Together, they tackle the obstacles that can hinder gratitude—such as entitlement, indifference, and comparison—and offer practical strategies to cultivate a mindset of thankfulness, no matter your circumstances. This episode is a thoughtful exploration of how gratitude can reshape our perspectives and enhance our lives.

Join Ben and Jim for a rich conversation filled with personal stories, practical advice, and a challenge to reflect on what you’re grateful for in your own life.

 And hey, if you appreciate what we’re doing here and want to support the show, consider buying us a coffee! Your support helps us keep these conversations going. 

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]]> Jim Van Stensel / Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15622187 Thu, 22 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2484 1 20 full false Ep. 19 || Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski) Ep. 19 || Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski) Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski)

Ben and Jim enjoy a fascinating conversation with the insightful Dr. Matthew Zakreski. Listen in as they delve into the complexities of neurodiversity, focusing on ADHD, academic giftedness, and other neurodivergent conditions. They explore how these differences can shape experiences and offer a unique perspective on thriving in a world that often misunderstands them.

Dr. Matt shares his personal origin story, revealing that he was diagnosed as gifted in second grade and later discovered his ADHD in high school when academic challenges surpassed his innate abilities. He recounts the difficulties he faced, including being bullied and feeling overwhelmed by social-emotional challenges. These experiences fueled his passion for neurodiversity and his desire to help other kids who struggle with similar issues, leading him to become a psychologist and advocate.

Ben and Jim join Dr. Matt in discussing his practical advice on managing ADHD-related anxiety, emphasizing the importance of moving from the uncertainty of "what if" to the actionable "what is." The discussion touches on emotional intensity, the challenges of social media comparison, and the importance of self-care. Dr. Matt provides insights into understanding context as a reason, not an excuse, and how this perspective can foster a more supportive environment for neurodivergent individuals.

They discuss strategies for building supportive systems, proactive outreach, and the value of empathy and understanding from friends and family. The conversation also addresses the role of past trauma in shaping current experiences and the healing power of connection.

Things get about as deep as they ever have as Ben, Jim, and Dr. Matt explore the role of faith in dealing with the challenges of neurodiversity, including finding solace and strength in spiritual practices.

Lastly, they highlight the importance of being a lifeline for others, sharing stories and practical advice on offering support to those navigating the complexities of neurodivergence.

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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]]> Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski)

Ben and Jim enjoy a fascinating conversation with the insightful Dr. Matthew Zakreski. Listen in as they delve into the complexities of neurodiversity, focusing on ADHD, academic giftedness, and other neurodivergent conditions. They explore how these differences can shape experiences and offer a unique perspective on thriving in a world that often misunderstands them.

Dr. Matt shares his personal origin story, revealing that he was diagnosed as gifted in second grade and later discovered his ADHD in high school when academic challenges surpassed his innate abilities. He recounts the difficulties he faced, including being bullied and feeling overwhelmed by social-emotional challenges. These experiences fueled his passion for neurodiversity and his desire to help other kids who struggle with similar issues, leading him to become a psychologist and advocate.

Ben and Jim join Dr. Matt in discussing his practical advice on managing ADHD-related anxiety, emphasizing the importance of moving from the uncertainty of "what if" to the actionable "what is." The discussion touches on emotional intensity, the challenges of social media comparison, and the importance of self-care. Dr. Matt provides insights into understanding context as a reason, not an excuse, and how this perspective can foster a more supportive environment for neurodivergent individuals.

They discuss strategies for building supportive systems, proactive outreach, and the value of empathy and understanding from friends and family. The conversation also addresses the role of past trauma in shaping current experiences and the healing power of connection.

Things get about as deep as they ever have as Ben, Jim, and Dr. Matt explore the role of faith in dealing with the challenges of neurodiversity, including finding solace and strength in spiritual practices.

Lastly, they highlight the importance of being a lifeline for others, sharing stories and practical advice on offering support to those navigating the complexities of neurodivergence.

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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]]> Jim Van Stensel & Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15548868 Thu, 08 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3417 1 19 full false Ep. 18 || Reaching Out: Building Support Systems to Overcome Loneliness Ep. 18 || Reaching Out: Building Support Systems to Overcome Loneliness In this episode, Ben and Jim delve into the complexities of loneliness, exploring how self-doubt can deepen feelings of isolation. They discuss the concept of emotional permanence and its relation to ADHD, sharing personal stories and insights on coping strategies. The hosts tackle the impact of self-criticism, offering practical advice on choosing connection over isolation through self-acceptance. 

Ben and Jim emphasize the importance of building support systems, proactive outreach, and the value of friends who understand and support you. They differentiate between intentional seclusion for self-care and reactive loneliness, providing insights on finding balance. The episode also discusses how past trauma can exacerbate loneliness and the healing power of connection. Addressing the paradox of feeling lonely in a crowd, they offer tips on seeking meaningful connections.

Things get about as deep as they ever have as Ben & Jim explore the role of faith in dealing with loneliness, including the feeling of divine absence. 

Lastly, they highlight the importance of being a lifeline for others, sharing stories and practical advice on offering support to those in need. 

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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]]> In this episode, Ben and Jim delve into the complexities of loneliness, exploring how self-doubt can deepen feelings of isolation. They discuss the concept of emotional permanence and its relation to ADHD, sharing personal stories and insights on coping strategies. The hosts tackle the impact of self-criticism, offering practical advice on choosing connection over isolation through self-acceptance. 

Ben and Jim emphasize the importance of building support systems, proactive outreach, and the value of friends who understand and support you. They differentiate between intentional seclusion for self-care and reactive loneliness, providing insights on finding balance. The episode also discusses how past trauma can exacerbate loneliness and the healing power of connection. Addressing the paradox of feeling lonely in a crowd, they offer tips on seeking meaningful connections.

Things get about as deep as they ever have as Ben & Jim explore the role of faith in dealing with loneliness, including the feeling of divine absence. 

Lastly, they highlight the importance of being a lifeline for others, sharing stories and practical advice on offering support to those in need. 

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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Support the show

]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-15471418 Thu, 25 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2938 1 18 full false Ep. 17 || The Social Media Maze: Parenting, Politics, and the Pursuit of Positivity Ep. 17 || The Social Media Maze: Parenting, Politics, and the Pursuit of Positivity In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the complex world of social media and its impact on parenting, politics, and mental health. 

Ben and Jim reflect on how social media has become a double-edged sword, bringing both connectivity and complications. Ben shares a personal story about the regret of allowing his son access to Snapchat, highlighting the platform's potential to expose young users to harmful content, leading to a broader discussion on the influence of platforms like TikTok on their kids and themselves.

Parenting today is vastly different due to social media. Ben and Jim discuss the importance of open communication with their kids, setting boundaries, and balancing trust and vigilance. Ben also reveals how social media was a lifeline for him, helping him discover his ADHD and seek treatment, emphasizing the importance of managing anxiety and maintaining a supportive approach to parenting in the face of social media challenges.

The hosts discuss how social media often amplifies extreme views and creates echo chambers, stressing the importance of seeking diverse perspectives to foster a more balanced understanding of political issues. They also explore how focusing on positive interactions can mitigate some of the negative effects of social media. 

As they wrap up, Ben and Jim acknowledge the pioneering role parents today play in the digital age. There’s no instruction manual for raising kids with social media, and they emphasize the importance of learning together and supporting each other through these challenges.

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the complex world of social media and its impact on parenting, politics, and mental health. 

Ben and Jim reflect on how social media has become a double-edged sword, bringing both connectivity and complications. Ben shares a personal story about the regret of allowing his son access to Snapchat, highlighting the platform's potential to expose young users to harmful content, leading to a broader discussion on the influence of platforms like TikTok on their kids and themselves.

Parenting today is vastly different due to social media. Ben and Jim discuss the importance of open communication with their kids, setting boundaries, and balancing trust and vigilance. Ben also reveals how social media was a lifeline for him, helping him discover his ADHD and seek treatment, emphasizing the importance of managing anxiety and maintaining a supportive approach to parenting in the face of social media challenges.

The hosts discuss how social media often amplifies extreme views and creates echo chambers, stressing the importance of seeking diverse perspectives to foster a more balanced understanding of political issues. They also explore how focusing on positive interactions can mitigate some of the negative effects of social media. 

As they wrap up, Ben and Jim acknowledge the pioneering role parents today play in the digital age. There’s no instruction manual for raising kids with social media, and they emphasize the importance of learning together and supporting each other through these challenges.

And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey!

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-15395904 Thu, 11 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2412 1 17 full false Ep. 16 || 40 and Fabulous...ly Falling Apart Ep. 16 || 40 and Fabulous...ly Falling Apart  In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim tackle the rollercoaster ride of gracefully aging—or at least trying to. They candidly share their recent experiences, from Ben's frightening heart scare that landed him in the hospital with AFib to the excitement and stress of buying and moving into a new home. The hosts delve into the emotional and physical challenges of turning 40, discussing the importance of intentional self-care and the surprising impact of stress on their health. Amidst the chaos, they find moments of joy, such as hammock chats with a daughter and the simple pleasure of a heated car seat. Join them as they explore how aging brings both challenges and unexpected joys, proving that the good and the bad can coexist beautifully. This episode is a heartfelt and humorous look at the ups and downs of midlife, filled with relatable stories, banter, and practical insights on navigating the journey. 

 And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey! 

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]]>  In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim tackle the rollercoaster ride of gracefully aging—or at least trying to. They candidly share their recent experiences, from Ben's frightening heart scare that landed him in the hospital with AFib to the excitement and stress of buying and moving into a new home. The hosts delve into the emotional and physical challenges of turning 40, discussing the importance of intentional self-care and the surprising impact of stress on their health. Amidst the chaos, they find moments of joy, such as hammock chats with a daughter and the simple pleasure of a heated car seat. Join them as they explore how aging brings both challenges and unexpected joys, proving that the good and the bad can coexist beautifully. This episode is a heartfelt and humorous look at the ups and downs of midlife, filled with relatable stories, banter, and practical insights on navigating the journey. 

 And hey, if you love what you hear, consider supporting the show at buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug. Your contributions keep us going and help us bring you more episodes filled with laughter, insights, and relatable stories. Join us in growing and strengthening our community of real men who aren't afraid to hug it out. Thank you for being a vital part of our journey! 

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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-15319889 Thu, 27 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2250 1 16 full false Ep. 15 || Smiles and Sorrows: The Duality of Dad Life Ep. 15 || Smiles and Sorrows: The Duality of Dad Life In this special Father's Day episode of "Real Men Hug," hosts Ben and Jim dive into the complexities and joys of fatherhood with a mix of humor and heartfelt conversations. They kick off with light-hearted banter about dad jokes and pool mishaps, setting a fun tone for the episode.

The conversation transitions into a deeper discussion about the most meaningful Father's Day gifts they've received, highlighting the importance of thoughtful gestures from their children. Ben shares a touching story about a gift from his daughter that symbolized their bond and journey together, while Jim reminisces about a memorable trip with his wife, emphasizing the value of experiences over material gifts.

The episode also addresses the challenging aspects of Father's Day for those with complicated relationships with their own fathers or their children. Both hosts reflect on their personal experiences, acknowledging the struggles and regrets that can come with fatherhood. They emphasize the importance of giving oneself grace and recognizing the efforts made, even in difficult times.

Ben opens up about his journey through depression and its impact on his relationship with his son, highlighting the significance of seeking help and not letting past struggles define one's parenting. Jim supports this by discussing the non-linear nature of parenting and the importance of being present and forgiving oneself for past mistakes.

Throughout the episode, they encourage listeners to celebrate the progress they've made and the positive impact they have on their children's lives, regardless of the challenges faced. The hosts conclude with a motivational message, reminding fathers to continue providing, nurturing, and guiding their children, and to take pride in their efforts.

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]]> In this special Father's Day episode of "Real Men Hug," hosts Ben and Jim dive into the complexities and joys of fatherhood with a mix of humor and heartfelt conversations. They kick off with light-hearted banter about dad jokes and pool mishaps, setting a fun tone for the episode.

The conversation transitions into a deeper discussion about the most meaningful Father's Day gifts they've received, highlighting the importance of thoughtful gestures from their children. Ben shares a touching story about a gift from his daughter that symbolized their bond and journey together, while Jim reminisces about a memorable trip with his wife, emphasizing the value of experiences over material gifts.

The episode also addresses the challenging aspects of Father's Day for those with complicated relationships with their own fathers or their children. Both hosts reflect on their personal experiences, acknowledging the struggles and regrets that can come with fatherhood. They emphasize the importance of giving oneself grace and recognizing the efforts made, even in difficult times.

Ben opens up about his journey through depression and its impact on his relationship with his son, highlighting the significance of seeking help and not letting past struggles define one's parenting. Jim supports this by discussing the non-linear nature of parenting and the importance of being present and forgiving oneself for past mistakes.

Throughout the episode, they encourage listeners to celebrate the progress they've made and the positive impact they have on their children's lives, regardless of the challenges faced. The hosts conclude with a motivational message, reminding fathers to continue providing, nurturing, and guiding their children, and to take pride in their efforts.

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]]> Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15255918 Sun, 16 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3101 full false Ep. 14 || Forgiveness: For Your Peace, Not Their Pardon Ep. 14 || Forgiveness: For Your Peace, Not Their Pardon In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben navigate their personal journeys through challenging life events, reflecting on the role of forgiveness in healing and moving forward. They share updates on their family lives and dive deep into their experiences with betrayal and abuse. Ben shares a poignant story about working for an organization that functioned like a cult, detailing the emotional toll it took and how he found freedom through forgiveness. Jim revisits the frustration he had with a former employer's laziness in repairing his home. Together, they pause and reflect on the themes of letting go, seeking counseling therapy, being open to the time it takes to heal, and whether or not to let the person who wronged you off the hook. The discussion extends to the complexities of self-forgiveness, setting boundaries, and the importance of forgiving for personal healing. Tune in to uncover how forgiveness can transform pain into peace and why it is essential for personal growth.

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben navigate their personal journeys through challenging life events, reflecting on the role of forgiveness in healing and moving forward. They share updates on their family lives and dive deep into their experiences with betrayal and abuse. Ben shares a poignant story about working for an organization that functioned like a cult, detailing the emotional toll it took and how he found freedom through forgiveness. Jim revisits the frustration he had with a former employer's laziness in repairing his home. Together, they pause and reflect on the themes of letting go, seeking counseling therapy, being open to the time it takes to heal, and whether or not to let the person who wronged you off the hook. The discussion extends to the complexities of self-forgiveness, setting boundaries, and the importance of forgiving for personal healing. Tune in to uncover how forgiveness can transform pain into peace and why it is essential for personal growth.

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]]> Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15161486 Thu, 30 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3393 1 14 full false Ep. 13 || Crafting Connections: A Blueprint for Lasting Friendships in Adulthood Ep. 13 || Crafting Connections: A Blueprint for Lasting Friendships in Adulthood In a world where adult friendships often take a backseat, hosts Ben and Jim embark on a journey through the complexities of maintaining meaningful connections amidst the chaos of various life stages, including raising young children. Drawing from their own experiences and heartfelt insights, they navigate the highs and lows of friendship with candor, humor, and understanding.

From sharing laughter over shared hobbies to weathering the storms of life together, Ben and Jim explore the essence of true friendship. But it's not just about companionship; it's about intentional efforts and mutual support. Tune in as they unravel the art and struggle of adult friendships, offering advice on finding like-minded companions and nurturing bonds that withstand the test of time.

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]]> In a world where adult friendships often take a backseat, hosts Ben and Jim embark on a journey through the complexities of maintaining meaningful connections amidst the chaos of various life stages, including raising young children. Drawing from their own experiences and heartfelt insights, they navigate the highs and lows of friendship with candor, humor, and understanding.

From sharing laughter over shared hobbies to weathering the storms of life together, Ben and Jim explore the essence of true friendship. But it's not just about companionship; it's about intentional efforts and mutual support. Tune in as they unravel the art and struggle of adult friendships, offering advice on finding like-minded companions and nurturing bonds that withstand the test of time.

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]]> Jim Van Stensel & Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-15077637 Thu, 16 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2400 1 13 full false Ep. 12 || (pt. 2) Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset Ep. 12 || (pt. 2) Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben sit down with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset to explore the impact of societal gender norms on various aspects of life. Together, they delve into the significance of mutual respect, open dialogue, and personal growth beyond traditional expectations.

Throughout the conversation, Jamie and Mahlon emphasize the importance of challenging outdated practices and fostering inclusivity in understanding gender roles. They share insights on how breaking free from stereotypes can lead to more fulfilling relationships, both personally and professionally.

As hosts, Jim and Ben echo the call for younger generations to question societal norms and embrace a more diverse and respectful perspective on gender. They highlight the need for open conversations and empowering shifts in attitudes towards gender norms for the betterment of society and individual growth.

Together, they navigate through the complexities of gender expectations, advocating for a world where everyone can express themselves authentically and be valued for their unique talents and contributions.
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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben sit down with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset to explore the impact of societal gender norms on various aspects of life. Together, they delve into the significance of mutual respect, open dialogue, and personal growth beyond traditional expectations.

Throughout the conversation, Jamie and Mahlon emphasize the importance of challenging outdated practices and fostering inclusivity in understanding gender roles. They share insights on how breaking free from stereotypes can lead to more fulfilling relationships, both personally and professionally.

As hosts, Jim and Ben echo the call for younger generations to question societal norms and embrace a more diverse and respectful perspective on gender. They highlight the need for open conversations and empowering shifts in attitudes towards gender norms for the betterment of society and individual growth.

Together, they navigate through the complexities of gender expectations, advocating for a world where everyone can express themselves authentically and be valued for their unique talents and contributions.
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]]> Ben Kraker Buzzsprout-14993821 Thu, 02 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2719 full false Ep. 11 || Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset (Part 1) Ep. 11 || Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset (Part 1) Dive into a riveting collaborative dialogue between Real Men Hug and Roundtable Mindset as they bravely confront the age-old assumptions and societal norms that shape our perceptions of gender roles. In this illuminating episode, listeners are invited to challenge the rigid confines of traditional masculinity and femininity, as the hosts fearlessly explore the intricacies of roles within marriages and families.

Through candid anecdotes and introspective musings, the hosts peel back the layers of stereotypes, revealing the often-overlooked nuances of daily life. From the simple act of pumping gas on a blustery winter day to the complex dynamics of mental load in relationships, no topic is off-limits.

Join Ben and Jim as they chat with Jamie and Mahlon (Roundtable Mindset) and recount their early relationship struggles, shedding light on the unspoken expectations and hidden biases that can strain even the strongest bonds.

This episode empowers action. With practical advice, the hosts encourage open communication and individuality, offering a roadmap for change. Progress is essential in our evolving society, where economic realities demand new ways of doing life. Join the conversation and shape a future where authenticity reigns.

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]]> Dive into a riveting collaborative dialogue between Real Men Hug and Roundtable Mindset as they bravely confront the age-old assumptions and societal norms that shape our perceptions of gender roles. In this illuminating episode, listeners are invited to challenge the rigid confines of traditional masculinity and femininity, as the hosts fearlessly explore the intricacies of roles within marriages and families.

Through candid anecdotes and introspective musings, the hosts peel back the layers of stereotypes, revealing the often-overlooked nuances of daily life. From the simple act of pumping gas on a blustery winter day to the complex dynamics of mental load in relationships, no topic is off-limits.

Join Ben and Jim as they chat with Jamie and Mahlon (Roundtable Mindset) and recount their early relationship struggles, shedding light on the unspoken expectations and hidden biases that can strain even the strongest bonds.

This episode empowers action. With practical advice, the hosts encourage open communication and individuality, offering a roadmap for change. Progress is essential in our evolving society, where economic realities demand new ways of doing life. Join the conversation and shape a future where authenticity reigns.

Come back next week to hear Part 2 of the conversation, and be sure to check out our new friends' podcast wherever you listen - Roundtable Mindset.
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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel, wsg Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset Podcast Buzzsprout-14952170 Thu, 25 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3230 1 11 full false Ep. 10 || Real Men, Real Marriage: Conversations on Love, Loss, and Learning Together Ep. 10 || Real Men, Real Marriage: Conversations on Love, Loss, and Learning Together "Mawage. Mawage is what brings us together today." The iconic words of The Impressive Clergyman from The Princess Bride perfectly set the stage for today's episode!

Join hosts Ben and Jim as they open up about the highs and lows of marriage. They candidly share experiences from their own individual marriages with humor, honesty, and empathy.

From everyday triumphs to unexpected hurdles, Ben and Jim dive deep into the complexities of married life.

But it's not just about weathering storms; it's also about nurturing ourselves. Tune in as they discuss the importance of self-care within marriage, recognizing that prioritizing our well-being enhances our ability to support our partners and relationships.
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Join hosts Ben and Jim as they open up about the highs and lows of marriage. They candidly share experiences from their own individual marriages with humor, honesty, and empathy.

From everyday triumphs to unexpected hurdles, Ben and Jim dive deep into the complexities of married life.

But it's not just about weathering storms; it's also about nurturing ourselves. Tune in as they discuss the importance of self-care within marriage, recognizing that prioritizing our well-being enhances our ability to support our partners and relationships.
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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14868525 Thu, 11 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 4570 1 10 full false Ep. 9 || Toxic Positivity: Good Intentions Gone Bad Ep. 9 || Toxic Positivity: Good Intentions Gone Bad In this thought-provoking episode, hosts Ben and Jim delve into the complexities of toxic positivity, shedding light on its detrimental effects on emotional well-being. Through personal narratives and reflections, they navigate the societal pressures that often compel us to suppress our vulnerabilities under the guise of unwavering positivity.

Exploring the societal pressures that dictate how men should express themselves emotionally, Ben and Jim debunk the myth that strength equates to stoicism. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, they uncover the profound impact of toxic positivity on mental health and relationships.

This episode serves as a heartfelt appeal for a cultural shift towards embracing genuine emotions and fostering connections grounded in empathy and understanding. Join Ben and Jim as they navigate the maze of toxic positivity with honesty and compassion, offering insights and encouragement to listeners who may be silently grappling with these societal pressures.

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Exploring the societal pressures that dictate how men should express themselves emotionally, Ben and Jim debunk the myth that strength equates to stoicism. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, they uncover the profound impact of toxic positivity on mental health and relationships.

This episode serves as a heartfelt appeal for a cultural shift towards embracing genuine emotions and fostering connections grounded in empathy and understanding. Join Ben and Jim as they navigate the maze of toxic positivity with honesty and compassion, offering insights and encouragement to listeners who may be silently grappling with these societal pressures.

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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14779635 Thu, 28 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3140 1 9 full false Ep. 8 || From Yesterdog to the Grand River: Our Hometown of Grand Rapids, MI Ep. 8 || From Yesterdog to the Grand River: Our Hometown of Grand Rapids, MI In this episode of Real Men Hug, join Jim and Ben as they kick back and reminisce about their adventures of growing up around, and ultimately returning to, their hometown of  Grand Rapids, Michigan. From chowing down on Yesterdog's mouthwatering (depending on who you ask...) delights to cruising along the serene White Pine Trail, they paint a vivid picture of the good times they've shared.

Jim and Ben dive into what makes Grand Rapids special - the tight-knit community. They swap stories about bumping into old pals and the camaraderie that comes with it. Through laughter and banter, they highlight the importance of having a solid crew by your side.

But it's not all smooth sailing. They get real about the challenges of returning to familiar turf after living out of state for several years. It's a rollercoaster of emotions - the joy of rediscovery mixed with the struggle to find your place again. Their honest chat invites listeners to ponder their own journey back home and the quest for belonging.

So grab a brew, kombucha, Vernors, Robinette's cider, or whatever Grand Rapids-esque beverage appeals to you and tune in as Jim and Ben lay it all out on the table, sharing laughs, insights, and fond memories.

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, join Jim and Ben as they kick back and reminisce about their adventures of growing up around, and ultimately returning to, their hometown of  Grand Rapids, Michigan. From chowing down on Yesterdog's mouthwatering (depending on who you ask...) delights to cruising along the serene White Pine Trail, they paint a vivid picture of the good times they've shared.

Jim and Ben dive into what makes Grand Rapids special - the tight-knit community. They swap stories about bumping into old pals and the camaraderie that comes with it. Through laughter and banter, they highlight the importance of having a solid crew by your side.

But it's not all smooth sailing. They get real about the challenges of returning to familiar turf after living out of state for several years. It's a rollercoaster of emotions - the joy of rediscovery mixed with the struggle to find your place again. Their honest chat invites listeners to ponder their own journey back home and the quest for belonging.

So grab a brew, kombucha, Vernors, Robinette's cider, or whatever Grand Rapids-esque beverage appeals to you and tune in as Jim and Ben lay it all out on the table, sharing laughs, insights, and fond memories.

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14687103 Thu, 14 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0400 3551 1 8 full false Ep. 7 || Failing Forward: When Bitterness Robs Your Joy Ep. 7 || Failing Forward: When Bitterness Robs Your Joy Dive into the deep end with us as Jim candidly unravels his career voyage, laying bare the trials he's faced. From career disappointments to grappling with depression and anxiety, he shares his journey with the honesty and candor that you find regularly on our podcast. Ben lends his insights and observations, having witnessed Jim's professional challenges. Together, they stress the vital role of community and seeking aid amidst adversity. Tune in for an authentic and relatable exchange.

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]]> Dive into the deep end with us as Jim candidly unravels his career voyage, laying bare the trials he's faced. From career disappointments to grappling with depression and anxiety, he shares his journey with the honesty and candor that you find regularly on our podcast. Ben lends his insights and observations, having witnessed Jim's professional challenges. Together, they stress the vital role of community and seeking aid amidst adversity. Tune in for an authentic and relatable exchange.

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14598774 Thu, 29 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 4334 1 7 full false Ep. 6 || Do You Even Nerd, Bro?: Gatekeeping and Geek Culture Ep. 6 || Do You Even Nerd, Bro?: Gatekeeping and Geek Culture In this episode of the Real Men Hug podcast, hosts Ben and Jim immerse themselves in the realm of nerdy hobbies, sharing how these pursuits have enriched their lives. They fondly recall their adventures, from Ben's geocaching exploits to Jim's spirited escapades at Renaissance fairs, where he often donned the guise of the legendary Dread Pirate Roberts. Alongside their nostalgic reminiscences, they discuss the enduring appeal of classic PC games like Duke Nukem and King's Quest, reflecting on the joy of immersing oneself in these timeless experiences.

As they navigate the world of geekdom, Ben and Jim confront the stigma surrounding their hobbies, particularly in contrast to more mainstream interests like football. They challenge the notion that spending time pursuing geeky passions is any less valid or worthwhile, urging listeners to embrace their own unique interests without fear of judgment. 

Through their candid conversation, they also touch on the evolution of nerd culture and the gradual acceptance of intelligence and creativity in society. From childhood experiences with DOS-based computers to college antics with the Nintendo Wii, they celebrate the joy of being unapologetically nerdy in a world that sometimes fails to understand the appeal.

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]]> In this episode of the Real Men Hug podcast, hosts Ben and Jim immerse themselves in the realm of nerdy hobbies, sharing how these pursuits have enriched their lives. They fondly recall their adventures, from Ben's geocaching exploits to Jim's spirited escapades at Renaissance fairs, where he often donned the guise of the legendary Dread Pirate Roberts. Alongside their nostalgic reminiscences, they discuss the enduring appeal of classic PC games like Duke Nukem and King's Quest, reflecting on the joy of immersing oneself in these timeless experiences.

As they navigate the world of geekdom, Ben and Jim confront the stigma surrounding their hobbies, particularly in contrast to more mainstream interests like football. They challenge the notion that spending time pursuing geeky passions is any less valid or worthwhile, urging listeners to embrace their own unique interests without fear of judgment. 

Through their candid conversation, they also touch on the evolution of nerd culture and the gradual acceptance of intelligence and creativity in society. From childhood experiences with DOS-based computers to college antics with the Nintendo Wii, they celebrate the joy of being unapologetically nerdy in a world that sometimes fails to understand the appeal.

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]]> Ben Kraker & Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14506938 Thu, 15 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 3388 1 6 full false Ep. 5 || The Man in the Mirror: Ben's Pursuit of Identity Ep. 5 || The Man in the Mirror: Ben's Pursuit of Identity In this episode, Jim and Ben focus on Ben's journey of identity transformation. They explore how personal experiences such as relational strain, vocational loss, and personal growth have shaped and reshaped who they are. 

The conversation delves into the influence of external voices on Ben's initial career choices and both of their ongoing pursuit of living authentic lives. This episode highlights how challenges, though difficult, often contribute to a deeper understanding of one's true self, transcending societal expectations. Brimming with genuine reflection and life-altering realizations, this episode ensures a transformative and thought-provoking listening experience with Ben's story serving as the central narrative focus.

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]]> In this episode, Jim and Ben focus on Ben's journey of identity transformation. They explore how personal experiences such as relational strain, vocational loss, and personal growth have shaped and reshaped who they are. 

The conversation delves into the influence of external voices on Ben's initial career choices and both of their ongoing pursuit of living authentic lives. This episode highlights how challenges, though difficult, often contribute to a deeper understanding of one's true self, transcending societal expectations. Brimming with genuine reflection and life-altering realizations, this episode ensures a transformative and thought-provoking listening experience with Ben's story serving as the central narrative focus.

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]]> Buzzsprout-14417748 Thu, 01 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 3415 1 5 full false Ep. 4 || The Power of No: Setting Healthy Boundaries Ep. 4 || The Power of No: Setting Healthy Boundaries In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Ben and Jim open up about the essentials of setting boundaries. They chat about why it's crucial for your emotions and personal growth, sharing stories about navigating pushback from loved ones and underscoring the importance of good communication.

Tune in as Ben and Jim get real about those awkward moments when boundaries get crossed, emphasizing the need to stand your ground. Listen in and uncover the transformative power of no.

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]]> In this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Ben and Jim open up about the essentials of setting boundaries. They chat about why it's crucial for your emotions and personal growth, sharing stories about navigating pushback from loved ones and underscoring the importance of good communication.

Tune in as Ben and Jim get real about those awkward moments when boundaries get crossed, emphasizing the need to stand your ground. Listen in and uncover the transformative power of no.

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]]> Buzzsprout-14331446 Thu, 18 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 3290 1 4 full false Ep. 3 || Echoes of Childhood Trauma Ep. 3 || Echoes of Childhood Trauma In this touching episode, hosts Jim and Ben share poignant tales about Jim's wife and Ben's daughter, revealing how childhood trauma shaped their lives. Hear heartfelt stories that showcase resilience and the enduring impact of past experiences. Explore the healing power of acknowledgment, therapy, and community. Episode 3 is a heartfelt journey celebrating strength in overcoming life's adversities.

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]]> In this touching episode, hosts Jim and Ben share poignant tales about Jim's wife and Ben's daughter, revealing how childhood trauma shaped their lives. Hear heartfelt stories that showcase resilience and the enduring impact of past experiences. Explore the healing power of acknowledgment, therapy, and community. Episode 3 is a heartfelt journey celebrating strength in overcoming life's adversities.

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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14241474 Thu, 04 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 3582 1 3 full false Ep. 2 || Embracing Vulnerability: Jim's Journey from Childhood Ridicule to Emotional Freedom Ep. 2 || Embracing Vulnerability: Jim's Journey from Childhood Ridicule to Emotional Freedom In this eye-opening episode of Real Men Hug, we dive into Jim's story. Born as the emotional one in a family of five siblings, he was always deemed 'abnormal.' Struggling with feeling emotions in a family that viewed such sensitivity as weakness shaped his childhood and his path. Years later, we witness Jim's transformation into a pillar of emotional strength; someone capable of consoling others. Hear about the internal conflicts he grappled with, his journey towards embracing his emotional side, and how it saved the life of co-host, Ben. It's a riveting exploration of breaking free from 'the norm' and celebrating emotions in all their complexity. 

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]]> In this eye-opening episode of Real Men Hug, we dive into Jim's story. Born as the emotional one in a family of five siblings, he was always deemed 'abnormal.' Struggling with feeling emotions in a family that viewed such sensitivity as weakness shaped his childhood and his path. Years later, we witness Jim's transformation into a pillar of emotional strength; someone capable of consoling others. Hear about the internal conflicts he grappled with, his journey towards embracing his emotional side, and how it saved the life of co-host, Ben. It's a riveting exploration of breaking free from 'the norm' and celebrating emotions in all their complexity. 

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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14126041 Thu, 04 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 3529 1 2 full false Ep. 1 || How Jim Walked with Ben from the Brink of Despair and Offered Hope at Just the Right Time Ep. 1 || How Jim Walked with Ben from the Brink of Despair and Offered Hope at Just the Right Time Stuck between the pursuit of self-expression and the pressure of appearing 'strong', Ben's story strikes a chord with all those who've been through the ringer. An inspiring tale of resilience, this episode sheds light on the multiple triggers of suicidal thoughts and the pursuit of hope in the darkness. Ben's story takes us through a profound journey of self-discovery and acceptance of emotions, and his story also shows that with the right people, sharing emotions and feelings could be a life-saving intervention.

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]]> Stuck between the pursuit of self-expression and the pressure of appearing 'strong', Ben's story strikes a chord with all those who've been through the ringer. An inspiring tale of resilience, this episode sheds light on the multiple triggers of suicidal thoughts and the pursuit of hope in the darkness. Ben's story takes us through a profound journey of self-discovery and acceptance of emotions, and his story also shows that with the right people, sharing emotions and feelings could be a life-saving intervention.

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]]> Ben Kraker / Jim Van Stensel Buzzsprout-14125885 Thu, 04 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500 2701 1 1 full false Real Men Hug || Teaser Real Men Hug || Teaser Get ready for Real Men Hug, a groundbreaking podcast challenging the norms of masculinity and embracing vulnerability. Join Jim and Ben in this exclusive pre-release teaser where they provide a sneak peek into candid conversations about men's emotions, struggles, and the journey to redefine what it means to be a man in today's world.

 Listen in for a taste of the raw, unfiltered discussions coming your way on January 4th. Discover a safe space for men and their allies to explore authentic connections and break free from societal pressures. 

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 Listen in for a taste of the raw, unfiltered discussions coming your way on January 4th. Discover a safe space for men and their allies to explore authentic connections and break free from societal pressures. 

Subscribe now and be the first to experience Real Men Hug when it launches! #RealMenHugTeaser #RedefiningMasculinity #PodcastPreview

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