Beyond Affairs

Do Men Still Think About the Affair Partner?

Wed, 10 Jun 2026 14:00:00 -0400

Do men who cheat still think about the affair partner? Do they miss them? Wonder where they are? Compare their spouse to them?

These are some of the most painful and frequently asked questions for couples walking through infidelity.

Brian sits down with two men who acted unfaithfully, did the hard work of healing, and successfully rebuilt their marriages. Together, they answer the difficult questions many betrayed spouses silently wrestle with:

Do men still think about the affair partner after cheating?
Do reminders, memories, or curiosity about the other person ever go away?
What happens when you still work near or unexpectedly see the affair partner?
Do unfaithful spouses ever miss the other person—or wish they had stayed?
What does true remorse and healing actually look like?

With remarkable vulnerability, Joe and John share their firsthand experiences of affair recovery, what really happens to thoughts about the affair partner after disclosure, and why choosing healing became more important than anything else.

Whether you are the betrayed spouse or the one who acted unfaithfully, this conversation offers honesty, healing, and hope for rebuilding trust after an affair.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Breaking Free from Codependency with Camille Canales

Wed, 03 Jun 2026 11:00:00 -0400

What if codependency isn't about being needy?

What if it's simply this:

"I need you to show up a certain way in order for me to be emotionally okay."

In this week's podcast, therapist and relationship coach Camille Canales shares how she discovered her own hidden codependency, and the surprising path to finding peace, even when other people disappoint, betray, or fail to meet our expectations.

We discuss:

• The hidden signs of codependency
• Why frustration, blame, and resentment are often signals of deeper pain
• How childhood experiences shape our adult relationships
• A simple 5-minute practice to become more emotionally aware
• How to stop losing yourself in relationships and find peace from within

If you've ever felt hurt by someone else's behavior, this conversation may give you a completely new perspective.

You can find Camille here: https://www.agapepraxisconsulting.com/

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Staying Positive in Affair Recovery When Everything Feels Broken

Wed, 13 May 2026 00:00:00 -0400

In this conversation, Brian sits down with longtime friend Tom to talk about one of the hardest parts of affair recovery: staying hopeful when healing feels painfully slow.

Tom shares his story of living a double life for nearly 18 years, the devastating moment of discovery, and the emotional roller coaster that followed. Together, Brian and Tom unpack what recovery really looks like behind the scenes—the setbacks, discouragement, shame, emotional explosions, and moments where giving up feels easier than continuing.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, or tempted to quit the recovery journey, this conversation will remind you that healing is possible... even when progress feels painfully slow.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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The Worst Way to Discover an Affair: Digital Disclosure Explained

Wed, 06 May 2026 13:00:00 -0400

What happens when you don’t hear about the affair… you read it?

In today’s world, many betrayed spouses are discovering infidelity through text messages, emails, photos, and synced devices, what we call digital disclosure. And while it may feel like you’re getting the full truth, the reality is far more complicated, and often more damaging.

In this episode, Anne and Brian unpack:

The difference between discovery vs. disclosure
Why reading messages can feel like watching a traumatic movie you can’t turn off
The hidden danger of believing everything you see in digital communication
How affairs create an “alter reality” that distorts what’s written
Why confession and conversation are still the healthiest path to healing
Whether you should read everything—or protect yourself from unnecessary pain

If you’re navigating betrayal, or trying to avoid making things worse, this conversation will give you a perspective most people aren’t talking about.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Honesty Is the Bare Minimum...And It’s Not Saving Your Marriage

Wed, 29 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0400

“I just need you to be honest.” It’s one of the most common phrases after betrayal, but it often leaves couples stuck.

Brian, Anne, and Tiffanie reveal why honesty is only part of the equation, and why transparency is what truly heals.

From the pain of partial answers to the power of proactive disclosure, they break down what transparency really looks like in everyday moments, and how it accelerates trust, safety, and connection. They also tackle the delicate balance between truth and timing, avoiding harmful “information dumping,” and creating an environment where openness can thrive.

If you’ve felt frustrated, stuck, or unsure how to move forward after infidelity, this episode will challenge your thinking and give you practical, hope-filled direction.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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From Healing to Victory: 4 Traits Every Woman Needs

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 11:00:00 -0400

Brian Bercht shares a unique perspective after attending Anne’s Victorious Woman Conference—not as a participant, but as an observer. What he witnessed was powerful.

Across different ages, backgrounds, and stages of healing, these women displayed common traits that set them apart—not perfection, but victory in progress. Whether you're in the middle of healing or further along the journey, this episode will help you evaluate where you are—and where you’re headed.

And for the men listening, these same four qualities might be exactly what’s missing in your own life.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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From Devastation to Hope: Real Stories of Affair Recovery

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 16:00:00 -0400

In this throwback Anne talks with Melissa and Nancy about their stories of recovery. You’ll hear from two courageous women, who are in different stages of their journey. From the shock and chaos of early discovery to the slow, intentional steps toward healing, their stories reveal what this process really looks like—raw, emotional, and ultimately hopeful.

In this episode, we explore:

What the early “crisis phase” after discovery really feels like
Why you should never walk through this alone
The truth about “trickle truth,” emotional flooding, and triggers
What healing can look like for both individuals and couples
How to begin taking your life back—one step at a time

Whether you are the betrayed, the unfaithful, or simply searching for understanding, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Can You Be Wise?

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 13:00:00 -0400

After betrayal, every conversation can feel like a landmine.
What do I say? What shouldn’t I say? And how do I respond when emotions take over?

In this episode, Anne dives into what true wisdom looks like, and how it can completely change the way you communicate, respond, and heal.

Drawing from biblical truth and real-life experience, you’ll learn:

Why wisdom isn’t automatic (and how to actually get it)
The difference between emotional reactions and wise responses
How your words can either rebuild your marriage, or quietly destroy it
The hidden role of insecurity, comparison, and selfish ambition
A powerful mindset shift that can transform your relationship

If you’ve ever wished someone could tell you exactly what to say in the moment… this episode is for you.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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It’s Not Optional: Why Every Husband Needs to Date His Wife Again

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 15:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Brian Bercht speaks directly to husbands about the importance of dating your wife again. Not as a quick fix, but as a powerful way to support healing, rebuild connection, and restore emotional closeness.

You’ll learn why dating doesn’t replace the hard work of recovery, but enhances it. And how small, consistent effort can help your wife feel valued, desired, and chosen again.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Affair Recovery: How to Forgive Yourself After Infidelity

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 15:00:00 -0400

Forgiving yourself after an affair can feel impossible. But staying stuck in shame may be holding back real healing.

Brian explores what self-forgiveness actually means in affair recovery, why self-punishment doesn’t lead to change, and how letting go of ongoing shame helps you show up better for your spouse.

If you’re navigating infidelity, whether as the one who strayed or the one who was hurt, this conversation offers a clearer path forward.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Before the Affair, I Would’ve Left. Here’s Why I Didn’t.

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 09:00:00 -0400

I meant it when I said I’d leave if my husband ever cheated.

But when it actually happened, I found myself making a very different decision—and in this episode, I’m sharing why.

Find out what really mattered to me in those early days after betrayal, how to recognize genuine repentance, and why you don’t have to rush a life-altering decision in the middle of trauma. Whether you stay or leave, my heart is to help you make that choice from a place of clarity, not chaos.

There is a path forward—and you don’t have to walk it alone.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Beyond the Surface: The Power of Soulful Connection

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0400

While it may seem that women connect easily, Anne pulls back the curtain on the "hidden" pressures women face...from the mental load of financial security to the struggle of finding a true "nothing box" to de-stress. They explore why many women carry a deep-seated distrust of others and how intentional, structured environments can break down those walls to create lifelong, soul-satisfying bonds.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

The "Nothing Box" Gap: Why it’s biologically harder for women to relax and how to navigate that pressure.
Safety vs. Superficiality: How the Victorious Women event moves past "girls' night" small talk into transformative healing.
Overcoming the Inner Critic: Why women compare their weaknesses to others' strengths and how to reclaim your unique value.
A Sneak Peek at the Conference: From Christian comedy with Peppi Garrett to workshops on menopause, male sexuality, and mastering your mind.

Whether you are a woman feeling "emotionally pulled under" or a husband looking to support his wife’s healing journey, this episode offers a roadmap toward recharging, laughing, and becoming an overcomer.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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How to Encourage Your Man When It Feels Like He Isn't Doing Enough

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 10:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Brian explores a powerful framework for understanding whether the struggle is a me issue, we issue, or he issue, and why couples who want the same goal (full healing and peace) often approach it in very different ways.

You’ll learn practical, low-pressure questions you can ask to spark better conversations, reduce defensiveness, and encourage real engagement in the healing process.

If you’re exhausted from pushing and ready for a wiser way forward, this episode will give you perspective, and practical tools, to help you move toward healing together.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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From Betrayal to Breakthrough: 4 Spouses Share Their Healing Journey

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500

In this special Beyond Affairs throwback, Anne Bercht explores the question so many betrayed partners ask: How long does it really take to heal from an affair? She breaks down the phases of recovery and shares why healing isn’t a fixed timeline...it’s a journey that unfolds differently for every couple.

You’ll also hear honest, heartfelt interviews with four betrayed spouses (two men and two women) who are further along in their recovery. Mike, Chris, Darcy and Jane openly share:

What helped them move forward
The mistakes that slowed healing
How their marriages look today
Encouragement for those in the early trauma phase

If you’re currently staring betrayal in the face, this episode will remind you that healing is possible, and you don’t have to walk this road alone.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Rebuilding Trust - From A Man's Perspective

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500

Brian Bercht speaks directly to men working to rebuild trust after betrayal. Drawing from over 20 years of helping couples recover from infidelity, he reveals why trust often starts below zero, the mistakes men commonly make, and what it really takes to restore safety in a marriage. If you’ve been doing the work but still feel stuck, this episode offers the clarity and direction you need.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Position vs Character

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Brian Bercht introduces a foundational recovery principle: separating the position the affair partner played from their character as a person. When character and behavior get confused, healing conversations turn defensive, emotional, and unproductive. Brian explains why spouses who acted unfaithfully often defend the affair partner, why betrayed spouses feel compelled to vilify them, and how both reactions can quietly sabotage recovery.

You’ll learn how to talk about the other person with clarity, accuracy, and purpose. Without minimizing the harm, escalating conflict, or protecting the wrong things.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 4

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500

In this fourth installment of Anger From a Man’s Perspective, Brian Bercht addresses a powerful and common question from a wife navigating betrayal recovery: “If he’s trying to clean up his act, why does he still walk around with an angry, sour attitude, and why does it make me feel unsafe?”

This episode unpacks what’s really happening beneath a man’s anger after an affair, especially when he appears to be doing many of the “right” things on the surface but still shows up with frustration, defensiveness, or a persistent edge.

Brian explains why a man’s anger is often not about his wife, but about perceived injustice, fear, loss of control, and unresolved internal struggles. He outlines how anger can mask deeper emotions like fear, shame, insecurity, and feelings of being overlooked, misunderstood, or insignificant; many of which predate the marriage itself.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 3

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0500

Do men truly realize the impact their anger has on their wives? And if they don’t, what do they actually believe about their anger and its effects?

In this episode, Brian dives straight into a listener question that explores the often-misunderstood dynamics of male anger in marriage. He breaks down why compound questions can create confusion in communication, especially between husbands and wives, and how that confusion can unintentionally lead to hurt, frustration, and conflict.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, or wondered why your spouse “doesn’t get it," this episode will shed light on what’s really happening beneath the surface.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 2

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0500

In this second installment on anger from a man’s perspective, Brian continues the conversation by discussing the beliefs, behaviors, and biological differences that often shape how men experience and express anger.

This episode dives into the visceral differences between men and women, exploring why women are often more sensitive to signs of anger or danger, and how this sensitivity is not a flaw, but a God-designed, instinctive response rooted in protection and survival.

If you’re navigating conflict, emotional disconnect, or healing after betrayal, this episode offers clarity, wisdom, and a healthier framework for understanding anger...without shame or blame.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Anger - From a Man's Perspective Part 1

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0500

Brian gets real, raw, and honest about anger and how it can show up in a man's life.

"My anger was responsible for some horrible actions resulting in damage to either individuals or property. The impact of these behaviors often but not always, remained longer with me than it did with any of the ones I may have hurt."

Listen in as we start this mini series Anger - From a Man's Perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Dealing with Discouragements

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0500

Discouragement is an inevitable part of healing, especially after betrayal. In this episode, Brian sits down with Anne to talk openly about discouragements during their affair recovery.

Sharing from their own painful journey, and over 20 years of helping thousands of couples heal, Anne shares insights about why recovery is not a straight line, how setbacks are part of the process, and what discouragement can look like at different levels. Brian and Anne discuss how misunderstanding the healing process can lead couples to give up too soon.

If you’re feeling worn down, tired of the emotional rollercoaster, or questioning whether healing is even possible, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more grounded in truth.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Hope for the New Year

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What are the keys to success?

In today's episode Anne and Tiffanie walk through 8 Keys to having success in life...especially after your life has been turned upside down by an affair. They revisit their own stories of devastation as they entered another 'New Year'. What roadblocks, realizations, and fears did they face? How did they overcome them? Listen in to hear what helped and gain tools to start your 2026 on track.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Christmas Podcast Part 2

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 08:00:00 -0500

Jordan, a Pastor’s wife, is going through her first Christmas now as a single mom, post-affair. She honestly shares the struggles, what her church did right to support her, and the many strategies that have helped her to heal. She tells us she is actually happy, joy-filled, feels freedom, and no regrets. Learn from all the things she did right, as she navigated both devastation and a reality that was never God's plan, nor what she could’ve imagined. But God takes the broken pieces of our lives, and from the ashes builds something new and beautiful.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Christmas Podcast Part 1

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Encouragement for the holidays when infidelity has rocked your reality - Part 1

A couple, Greg & Daphne, share their story of reconciliation & redemption, how they made it through that first Christmas. What were the struggles? What things helped them? What could their family do to help? Learn to not just get not just through it, but how to go on to many years of happy and healed beyond.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Questions You've Asked

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode, we answer questions from our listeners about healing after infidelity, and navigating the painful realities of betrayal trauma in marriage.

Join Anne and Brian as they share expert guidance on some common and difficult challenges couples face during affair recovery, including:

• What to do when the affair partner is a close friend
• How to respond when your spouse won’t commit to healing after an affair
• Why a spouse may shut down and refuse to talk after betrayal
• Whether to keep infidelity private or share your story with others

This episode offers clarity, validation, and practical insight for anyone trying to rebuild trust and move forward after an affair.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

The Role of the Unfaithful in Healing

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 15:00:00 -0500

What can the person who acted unfaithfully do to help their spouse feel? Where do they start? What's a betrayed spouse looking for in healing? In today's episode we dive into what the unfaithful spouse can do to help the brokenhearted spouse heal, and how you can move your marriage forward after an affair.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Help Him Hear You Again

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 12:00:00 -0500

Why does he still get defensive, even after months or years of healing? In this episode, Brian and Tiffanie break down the hidden reasons men struggle to hear feedback after betrayal, and what actually helps them respond with openness instead of shame.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your husband will ever be able to receive your hurt without shutting down, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and practical guidance to finally change the pattern.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Stories of Hope: Monica, Megan, and Carol

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 07:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we’re joined by three courageous women whose healing journeys are still unfolding. Each of these women recently attended the Take Your Life Back retreat, a transformative experience designed to bring clarity, strength, and hope to those navigating the devastation of infidelity. We revisit what it feels like to walk into the retreat crippled by pain … and walk out with renewed strength, grounded hope, and a clearer vision for the future.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Surviving the Holidays

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 15:00:00 -0500

How do you survive the Holidays after an affair? When devastation strikes, how do you navigate forward without crushing pain? In this episode we give you tips that helped us through our own devastating holidays, and we share the things we wished we'd known back in the day. Listen in to hear nuggets of encouragement as you enter the Holiday season while in the midst of Affair Recovery.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Biggest Mistakes in Affair Recovery

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 09:00:00 -0500

This week, we’re diving into the mistakes we make while trying to heal. Anne, Brian, and Tiffanie open up about their own journeys, sharing the missteps, realizations, and lessons that shaped their healing. Whether you’re early in recovery or years down the road, this episode will help you recognize what to avoid and how to move forward with greater grace, understanding, and hope.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Prevent an Affair

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In today's episode we share 12 Keys to Preventing an Affair in your marriage. We’ll discuss important checkpoints to keep on the conversational table. Like how to stay emotionally connected, recognize areas of vulnerability, and keep intimacy alive. These aren’t just prevention steps; they’re ways to nurture closeness, build trust, and protect the love you’ve worked so hard to create.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Divorcing with Dignity

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0400

If divorce wasn’t what you wanted but it’s where you’ve found yourself, this episode is for you. Learn how to walk through divorce with strength, and hope for a better future.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Pick Up the Pieces of Your Broken Life

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0400

What do you do when the person you loved and trusted most shatters your world through betrayal? Anne shares her own story of infidelity, heartbreak, and recovery, and the five phases every betrayed spouse experiences on the road to healing. She offers clarity, compassion, and practical guidance for one of life’s most devastating traumas. Whether you’re fighting for your marriage or fighting for yourself, this episode will remind you that you are not alone, and there is hope beyond the pain.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

After the Affair: What Wives Wished You Knew

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0400

When trust is broken, what does it take to rebuild?

Anne and Krista answer questions from curious men at the Man of Honor weekend. With honesty, strength, and grace, they explore what healing, understanding, and real change look like after betrayal.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Life Changing: The Impact of Man of Honor

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Brian sits down with several men who attended the recent Man of Honor retreat. The men open up about their experience, the bonds they created, and what it means to be a man of honor.

Listen in and find out why these men believe it was a life-changing experience.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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How to Heal: The Key Factors Behind Affair Recovery

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400

What makes recovering from an affair an attainable goal? In this episode, Anne, Brian, and Tiffanie, explore the key factors that impact how long healing takes after infidelity.

Through personal stories and hard-earned insights, you'll discover:

Why the first few weeks after disclosure matter so much
The most common mistakes couples make that stall recovery
The power of getting qualified, compassionate help early
And how the right actions after D-Day can change everything

Whether you're just beginning this journey or walking alongside someone who is, this episode offers hope, clarity, and guidance for finding your way forward... faster, stronger, and with purpose.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

What Do You Do When Your Spouse Won't Talk About the Affair?

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Anne tackles some tough questions we’ve received from listeners. Honest, vulnerable inquiries like: “Is it normal to still love my spouse after an affair?” and “Can couples or individual counseling really help us heal?” Drawing from over 20 years of experience guiding couples through affair recovery, Anne offers heartfelt, practical advice to those navigating the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for compassionate insight and real answers.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Stop Obsessing When the Affair Partner Is Still in Your Life

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Anne answers questions from listeners navigating the aftermath of pain and trauma that come from betrayal. With honesty and grace, she shares her journey of healing and offers heartfelt guidance on questions like, "How did you heal?" and "How do I let go of the details still haunting me?" Listen in to hear encouraging words that help move you forward, one honest question at a time.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Making Good Decisions

Wed, 10 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

How do you make good decisions...especially when fear, uncertainty, and pressure are clouding your judgment?

Anne reflects on her own early recovery experience, where she wished for a magical voice to guide every step. Joined by her husband, Brian, and customer relationship specialist Tiffanie Ruby, the conversation dives into the real struggles couples face when trying to move forward: fear of failure, paralysis, urgency, and the overwhelming desire to "get it right."

Whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who acted unfaithfully, this episode offers empathetic insight and actionable guidance to help you take your next step with confidence and clarity.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Roadmap to Recovery

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 14:00:00 -0400

In today's episode Anne, Brian and Tiffanie share 3 important points on the Road to Recovery. In addition, they share the number one thing you need to know to minimize pain and accelerate healing, and reveal the two biggest mistakes couples make after an affair. This podcast offers practical, compassionate advice for both the unfaithful and the betrayed partner.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

10 Keys to Overcoming Bitterness

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Have you struggled with bitterness after, your spouse's betrayal? Have you felt your dream has died? Do you wonder how you could ever possibly feel happy again? In today's Podcast, Anne shares with you 10 keys to overcoming bitterness. Listen in, you might find yourself surprised by a few of them!

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Isolation: A Hidden Barrier to Healing from Affairs

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Dive into the challenging topic of isolation during affair recovery. Learn how isolation can show up in your recovery, and gather tools to help you heal from an affair. Anne, Brian, and Tiffanie also explore the dangerous cycle of self-imposed isolation. If you’ve ever felt like retreating into yourself after betrayal or struggled with how to heal in the midst of isolation, this episode is for you.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Know if There Is Hope for Your Marriage - The Women Tell All

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Last week we asked: How Do You Know if There Is Hope for Your Marriage? This week, we get vulnerable with four women who’ve lived it. Some stayed. Some left. All of them share the turning point that changed everything.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How Do You Know if There Is Hope for Your Marriage?

Wed, 06 Aug 2025 17:00:00 -0400

Dive into the question so many couples face: Is there hope for our marriage?

Anne, Brian, and Tiffanie explore the emotional phases many betrayed spouses go through after infidelity, the importance of having the right support, the benefit of good guidance, and why timelines can be misleading. Whether you feel stuck or you're just beginning to face the truth, this episode is a reminder that healing is possible, and hope can grow...even in the darkest seasons.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

What Men Have to Say About Getting Them to Open Up and Talk

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 13:00:00 -0400

Join Brian, Jeremy, John, and Mike, and learn 3 Secrets that will surprise you in getting your husband to open up.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

How to Get Your Spouse to Open Up: 9 Secrets to Communicating After Betrayal

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 15:00:00 -0400

When trust is shattered, it’s natural to want answers — all of them, right now. But it can be difficult to have productive conversations with your spouse after betrayal. In this episode, we reveal 9 powerful secrets that help betrayed spouses create an open and emotionally safe space for their partner to speak candidly.

Learn why how you start the conversation matters, how to use silence as an ally, and what types of questions invite honesty — not defensiveness. We’ll explore why the full story often unfolds in layers, and how your responses in the moment can either build a bridge… or reinforce a wall.

Whether you’re desperate for answers or afraid of what might be said, this episode offers real, compassionate tools to guide your next steps.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Triggers

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In this raw and honest conversation, Anne, Brian, and Tiffanie unpack the complex world of triggers—those unexpected emotional landmines that surface in the aftermath of betrayal. Join them as they explore how triggers manifest in everyday life, what they reveal about the healing process, and how both partners—especially the one who broke trust—can play a powerful role in creating a safe space for recovery. This episode is a must-listen for anyone walking the path of healing after betrayal, or supporting someone who is.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Tiffanie sits down with Anne and Brian for a raw, honest conversation about one of life’s most heart-wrenching crossroads: should you stay and fight for your marriage, or walk away? Together, they unpack the unspoken fears, the gut-wrenching doubts, and the powerful reasons people wrestle with when deciding whether to hold on or let go. Join us for thoughtful insight as we explore what it really takes to make this life-changing choice.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Man to Man: Jeremy's side of restoration

Wed, 02 Jul 2025 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Brian sits down with Jeremy to dive into the aftermath of marital betrayal. What does it truly take to rebuild what’s been broken? Is restoration really possible? Jeremy shares the challenges he faced, the obstacles that held him back, and the unexpected factors that helped him move forward. Listen in for a candid conversation between men.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Looking into a Man of Honor

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Tiffanie, our new team member, sits down with Brian to chat about the Man of Honor Retreat — a powerful experience designed to help men reconnect with purpose, integrity, and brotherhood. We dive into the heart behind the retreat, the challenges men face today, and what it truly means to live as a man of honor. Whether you're seeking personal growth, deeper relationships, or are simply curious about the movement, this conversation offers insight, inspiration, and a call to live with greater intentionality.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Overcoming Obstacles that Hinder Affair Recovery

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Anne and Brian Bercht share some of the most common obstacles that get in the way of healing from an affair. Gain insight on what to do, what not to do, and where to find the help and guidance you need to successfully heal. We'll share how to avoid common pitfalls that can have a negative impact on your healing journey.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Greg and Krista's Story

Tue, 20 May 2025 14:00:00 -0400

Greg is a physician. He had 2 affairs over the course of their 29 year marriage. One was 22 years ago, when they had only been married 7 years and Krista was pregnant. Greg never dealt with it - instead he buried it, hid it and just tried to move on, but the unconfessed affair caused shame and a loss of self-worth. His 2nd affair happened 13 years later. When Krista found out through a text message from the other woman it was like a category 5 tornado that leveled their lives. To say that Krista was angry is an understatement. While it wasn't easy, they have not only healed their marriage, but built an even stronger marriage on the other side. In this interview they share how they did it, and what they wish they'd known back then when they started their journey.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Dawn, Hillary, Tiffanie, Michelle & Jennifer

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 15:00:00 -0400

A candid discussion. Five women share their stories of their husband's affairs, and how they recovered. Each of them offers words of wisdom for those who are eating the dust behind them. How did they make the shifts inside themselves to begin to navigate their recovery from a place of strength and power. What were some of the things that caused their husband's to shift their perspectives, and and start changing for the better.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Beyond Affairs History

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 15:00:00 -0500

So many nuggets to help any person working to recover from marital betrayal. What inspired Beyond Affairs? How did the Healing from Affairs 3-day retreat for couples come into being? How was The Recovery Roadmap drawn? How many couples has Beyond Affairs helped?

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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A Forgiveness Workshop Anne gave at a local church

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 17:00:00 -0400

Anne Bercht was asked to give a workshop on the topic of forgiveness at a church women's conference. This workshop focuses on all forgiveness, not just betrayal forgiveness. Since it was delivered to a church group, Anne delivers the workshop from a Biblical perspective on forgiveness, and shares Bible passages as well as personal stories of how God has worked forgiveness in her own life.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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A View into the Mind of the Unfaithful

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 07:00:00 -0400

Brian Bercht speaks with a group of betrayed women, answering questions about the unfaithful. 1) How can we get to where you and Anne are? 2) How do I get reassurance from my husband without him feeling like I am attacking him? 3) Can I help my husband make the switch from feeling shame to helping me? 4) How do I get my husband to open up? 5) Why did he turn to someone else for comfort and not to me? 6) How is it not my fault, if I know I did take my husband for granted? And more ....

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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What if your marriage doesn't work out?

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0400

Several women share their stories. Unfortunately not every marriage can be saved after infidelity. And you don't have control over your spouse's choices. In this podcast, one woman in particular shares the painful unexpected journey of divorce after her husband left her for a much younger woman, and how she found healing on the other side.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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How to Help Your Wife Heal from your Betrayal

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 15:00:00 -0400

In an earlier episode, Tom, Paul & Michael shared their stories and what they did to heal their marriages. Today we hear from their wives, Allison, Luanne & Tertia. After the bottom dropped out of their marriages with the unthinkable, what did their husbands do that helped them to love and trust their husband's again.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Barbara, Sari, and Jennifer

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 07:00:00 -0400

Anne Bercht interviews 3 very different women, with very different stories of marital betrayal. How they have not only survived their husband's affair/s, but are learning to thrive on the other side.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Interview with Tom, Mike and Paul

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 20:00:00 -0400

Brian Bercht interviews 3 different men, each with unique stories, who have turned their lives around after their marital unfaithfulness, helped their wives heal, and restored their families. Each honestly and candidly shares their mistakes as well as their secrets to success.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Steve & Rachel's Story

Fri, 10 May 2024 18:00:00 -0400

A redemption story. Listen to this couple share their hard work and dedication to one - another. Reconciliation and finding an even better journey post betrayal is possible.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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"How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair" with special guest and author Linda J. MacDonald

Wed, 01 May 2024 14:00:00 -0400

These are wise words from an expert in infidelity. Don't miss this special episode with guest speaker - Linda McDonald.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Gender Differences in Affair Recovery

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 14:00:00 -0400

Bert’s story - when your wife is unfaithful.

... a lot of helpful information that applies to couples where the husband is unfaithful.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Why Do Affairs Happen?

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 09:00:00 -0400

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Mike & Kim's Story

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 16:00:00 -0400

Kim had an affair with her boss and kept it a secret. Listen to this interview and learn how Mike & Kim navigated through the most difficult of times in their relationship. Let this couple be your inspiration...for they now have a thriving marriage post affair.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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"Rhonda's Story"

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 12:00:00 -0400

Anne interviews Ronda, who once thought she could never survive betrayal and struggled with intense anger. Find out what steps Ronda took, the lessons she learned, and where "the turn around" happened for Ronda's marriage.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Betrayal Trauma

Wed, 20 Mar 2024 20:00:00 -0400

The title states it all...
In this podcast Anne addresses ALL things related to betrayal trauma. It's important to understand what this is and how this looks.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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9 Keys to Healing a Marriage - Part 2

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 19:00:00 -0400

The healing journey begins with hope. You need to know and believe you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want. It does take two. Some people think you can never get over it. That’s not true. True healing is remembering the affair (you won’t forget such a big event in your life), but no longer having pain associated with the memory.

Listen to part 2 with Brian and Anne as they discuss the remaining key elements when it comes to healing your marriage after betrayal.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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9 Keys to Healing a Marriage - Part 1

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 20:00:00 -0500

The healing journey begins with hope. You need to know and believe you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want. It does take two. Some people think you can never get over it. That’s not true. True healing is remembering the affair (you won’t forget such a big event in your life), but no longer having pain associated with the memory.

Listen to part 1 of 9 essential key elements when it comes to healing your marriage after betrayal.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Getting Through Christmas

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 15:00:00 -0500

Brian and Anne talk about 10 strategies to help you through the holiday season.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Discover Self Awareness - Part II (with Dr. Ken Keis)

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 13:00:00 -0500

Part 2 of Personal Style with Dr. Ken Keis! Hear from the professional who is your expert when it comes to understanding self - discovery.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Discover Self Awareness with Dr. Ken Keis - Part I

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Why aren't you more like me?
This is not only a question we as individuals ask ourselves...but it's also a fascinating book title, written by author Dr. Ken Keis.
Dr. Keis is a personal friend to Brian and Anne Bercht, and has discovered how to improve your life through self-awareness. When you are struggling to work through your interactions with your spouse (or partner)...it's important that YOU understand how YOU tick. The Personal Style Indicator is a very impactful assessment; Brian and Anne have found this element to be foundational in their teachings.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Should we talk to our children about the affair?

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 14:00:00 -0500

There is no set rule about whether you should tell your children or not. Each couple, each situation and each family is different. I recommend that as a mother and father, both parents get as much information as they can, then come together and discuss your unique situation and the best course of action for your family. Ideally, you both should decide and agree together on whether or not to talk to your children about the affair.

What are your motives for wanting to tell your children about an affair?

Be honest with yourself here. If your motive for telling is because you, the betrayed spouse, want sympathy and want your children to know what a dirt-bag their other parent is, DO NOT TELL THEM. If your motive is anything less than to improve their lives, and create more closeness with them by gifting them with truth, you should NOT tell.

Listen with Anne, as she discusses this question, bringing her own unique story to life...

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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A View into the Mind of the Unfaithful

Wed, 29 Nov 2023 15:00:00 -0500

Sometimes you can find healing through betrayal when you listen to the perspective of the unfaithful. As a betrayed spouse, when we ask our unfaithful husband questions, we can't HEAR the answer. What I mean by HEAR the answer...is that we know what they are saying, but it doesn't reach our heart. Listen to Brian share a piece of his journey, as he explains the mind of the unfaithful. Perhaps you will HEAR his perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Secrets To Healing A Marriage

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 15:00:00 -0500

These are not necessarily "secrets"... Anne and Brian want to be open about what they feel having a healed marriage looks like. Healing after betrayal is not linear...and it's intense; however, you need the effort from BOTH spouses. If one spouse is not willing to change, then a healed marriage won't work.

Listen to Brian and Anne discuss 8 things they feel are important when working towards reconciliation. Remember..."you are on a journey to a destination...."

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Forgiveness is not easy...

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Anne discusses the depth of her personal experience...and what forgiveness meant to her. She gets it.

She has the perspective as a betrayed spouse and currently is able to live life freely without a tinge of resentment or bitterness to Brian. We can all learn from others who have been there. We added an extra episode on forgiveness, as we feel that this topic comes with challenges.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Finding Forgiveness - Part II

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 16:00:00 -0400

How do you find forgiveness?
This is a common question that seems to be the very thing every betrayed spouse wants to know. We find that some professionals and even pastors or leaders can give advice around this topic that is NOT the most beneficial perspective. Forgiveness might not be what you think it is; we find that forgiveness is a process...not necessarily step one. Listen to part II with Anne (and guest speaker Jaylene) as they discuss what forgiveness looks like.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Finding Forgiveness - Part I

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 14:00:00 -0400

How do you find forgiveness?
This is a common question that seems to be the very thing every betrayed spouse wants to know. We find that many professionals and even pastors or leaders can give advice around this topic that is NOT the most beneficial perspective. Forgiveness might not be what you think it is; we find that forgiveness is a process...not necessarily step one. Listen to Anne (and guest speaker Jaylene) as they discuss what forgiveness looks like.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Difficult Conversations

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 18:00:00 -0400

Knowing how to navigate conversations with your partner in a productive fashion can be really difficult, especially in the midst of betrayal recovery. Listen to Anne as she points out some of the most important concepts to think about before you engage in that hard discussion. Be in a mindset that has a clear goal in mind - and remember, anger is RARELY productive, so don't let this emotion overshadow your intent!

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Part II - Brian's Story

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 14:00:00 -0400

The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions.

Brian had an affair.
It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for.

“How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?”

Brian discusses his choices and the things that led up to him having an affair. Listen to part two his story, as he paints the unfaithful's perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Part I - Brian's Story

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 15:00:00 -0400

The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions.

Brian had an affair.
It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for.

“How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?”

Brian discusses his choices and the things that led up to him having an affair. Listen to his story, as he paints the unfaithful's perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com 360.306.3367

Part II - Healthy Boundaries: Laws 6 - 10

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 16:00:00 -0400

We have boundaries around our property. If you have a fence between your yard and your neighbor’s yard, it is very clear, which part belongs to you, and which part belongs to him. We respect these boundaries. I can’t just suddenly decide I’d rather sit in my neighbor’s yard on a hot summer day, without getting his permission. And if I do sit in his yard, without his consent, I have violated a boundary. Likely my neighbor will enforce his boundary and ensure that I leave. If he doesn’t, he may begin to experience stress.

Other boundaries are less visible, but they are no less real. In life it's as if we all have our own private front yard and backyard. It is the part of our lives that belongs to us and it is our responsibility. The problem is... other people have a tendency to throw their garbage in our yard. It doesn’t belong in our yard. It is their responsibility.

Listen to Anne, as she helps you navigate and understand "boundaries." Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle; they define who we are and who we are not.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Part 1 - Healthy Boundaries: Laws 1 - 5

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Part II - Anne's Story: The Gut Honest Truth About Affair Recovery

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 16:00:00 -0400

Listen to episode two of Anne and Brian's story of their affair journey. Anne shares the brutal details via healing from betrayal; and provides the honest truth to what it took for her to realize her own strength. Affair recovery is unique to every story and the steps an individual takes depends on numerous factors. Anne shares her perspective and provides you with many resources that can be applicable to one's own story.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Anne's Story: The Gut Honest Truth About Affair Recovery

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 15:00:00 -0400

I had been married for eighteen years when my unwanted infidelity experience began. I was shocked. There had been no warning signs. Words cannot begin to describe the intense pain I felt when I heard my husband say the words, “Anne, I've been seeing someone else.” There was physical pain, not just emotional pain.

Chaos ensued. Wrong reactions made a bad situation worse...and from that broken place, we rebuilt our marriage.

Today, I want to share with you my story. Journey with me as I go back to my own personal nightmare; listen to me as I share with you the "nitty-gritty" details of betrayal and the intense pain that superseded our marriage. Learn from my mistakes and let my story help you find your own personal victory.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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