Trauma Pastor Show Thu, 21 May 2026 05:06:15 -0400 en-us © 2026 Trauma Pastor Show yes de38ae30-ea68-5515-b77a-69963390b75b jessicalgaffney@gmail.com jessica episodic false Healing starts now on the Trauma Pastor show with author and speaker, Jessica Gaffney, a multi state licensed therapist, working with trauma and all its tentacles. If your life is on the rocks, Jessica brings healing through education, life experience and spirituality to those living in difficult marriages, high conflict divorces, domestic violence, moody teens, all while managing her own PTSD and live interviews.  Humor is huge part of the show! 

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) jessica jessicalgaffney@gmail.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/24ukkcef4axboc57brd3o8puvjrp?.jpg Trauma Pastor Show The Monster in the Family The Monster in the Family Ever felt like you’re living with a ghost? Here’s how addiction rewrites reality and leaves us lost.

Tag someone who needs to hear this.

Living with an addict is like trying to piece together a puzzle that keeps changing. One moment, everything seems fine; the next, reality hits hard. You might feel a strange energy in your home, a sense that something is deeply off, but can’t quite put your finger on it.  

It’s like waking up on Christmas morning to a chaotic mess of wrapping paper—nothing is clear, and it’s overwhelming. The lies, the hidden truths, and the constant emotional turmoil can leave you feeling powerless.  

But you're not alone in this. Recognizing the signs and trusting your instincts is the first step towards reclaiming your life. We’re diving deep into how to navigate this emotional minefield and what healing really looks like.  

Let’s start this journey together. 


]]> Ever felt like you’re living with a ghost? Here’s how addiction rewrites reality and leaves us lost.

Tag someone who needs to hear this.

Living with an addict is like trying to piece together a puzzle that keeps changing. One moment, everything seems fine; the next, reality hits hard. You might feel a strange energy in your home, a sense that something is deeply off, but can’t quite put your finger on it.  

It’s like waking up on Christmas morning to a chaotic mess of wrapping paper—nothing is clear, and it’s overwhelming. The lies, the hidden truths, and the constant emotional turmoil can leave you feeling powerless.  

But you're not alone in this. Recognizing the signs and trusting your instincts is the first step towards reclaiming your life. We’re diving deep into how to navigate this emotional minefield and what healing really looks like.  

Let’s start this journey together. 


]]> jessica Buzzsprout-19066708 Thu, 23 Apr 2026 17:00:00 -0400 2615 2 3 full true Addiction: Monster at the Door Addiction: Monster at the Door This episode explores the emotional toll that addiction takes on the sober people related to and living with the abuser. I get honest and up front with day to day trials. I do not promote Codepencency work or any program that assists you in managing life with an addict, I do however call you to notice how the chaos feels and what you can do to alleviate it. 

The problem have with addiction is that the user, is like a villain int he story and the  only superhero is the one navigating, surviving and caretaking in the wake of extreme chaos. At least that's my journey with this monster and how it beat down the door of my family in 2022. 

]]> This episode explores the emotional toll that addiction takes on the sober people related to and living with the abuser. I get honest and up front with day to day trials. I do not promote Codepencency work or any program that assists you in managing life with an addict, I do however call you to notice how the chaos feels and what you can do to alleviate it. 

The problem have with addiction is that the user, is like a villain int he story and the  only superhero is the one navigating, surviving and caretaking in the wake of extreme chaos. At least that's my journey with this monster and how it beat down the door of my family in 2022. 

]]> jessica Buzzsprout-18877716 Thu, 19 Mar 2026 20:00:00 -0400 1797 2 2 full false Caleb Campbell on Reaching the Radical Right Caleb Campbell on Reaching the Radical Right In the post Charlie Kirk, Maga nation era, Christians who have different application of politics and faith are able to find hope and insight as to how to reach their and repair the relationships that have been stressed and fractured by partisan differences. 

Recorded over two years ago, and just released, Jessica uses therapeutic approaches with Pastor and Christian Nationalist Missionary, Caleb Campbell, author of Disarming Leviathan released 2024. Caleb's books is putting hands and feet to the gospel as he shares how to reach your loved one with care, curiosity and compassion in the tense world we live in. 

Caleb can be reached at: 

DisarmingLeviathan.com

 https://www.dsbc.church/contributor/caleb-campbell

]]> In the post Charlie Kirk, Maga nation era, Christians who have different application of politics and faith are able to find hope and insight as to how to reach their and repair the relationships that have been stressed and fractured by partisan differences. 

Recorded over two years ago, and just released, Jessica uses therapeutic approaches with Pastor and Christian Nationalist Missionary, Caleb Campbell, author of Disarming Leviathan released 2024. Caleb's books is putting hands and feet to the gospel as he shares how to reach your loved one with care, curiosity and compassion in the tense world we live in. 

Caleb can be reached at: 

DisarmingLeviathan.com

 https://www.dsbc.church/contributor/caleb-campbell

]]> jessica Buzzsprout-18833201 Wed, 11 Mar 2026 22:00:00 -0400 2562 2 1 full false The Controller, How to Unplug from a Coercive Personality The Controller, How to Unplug from a Coercive Personality
Why do boundaries feel so hard when you are dealing with a controlling person?

In this episode, Jess explores the psychology of the Controller and why controlling behavior can feel especially powerful to those whose boundaries were broken in childhood. If you have ever frozen, overexplained, doubted yourself, or felt guilty for saying no, this episode will help you understand why.

You will learn how Controllers often respond to limits with pressure, guilt, dismissal, confusion, or escalation, and why those patterns can pull listeners back into old survival responses. This conversation is not just about toxic behavior. It is about healing the deeper wounds that made control feel familiar in the first place.

Jess unpacks the connection between childhood boundary violations and adult relationship patterns, helping listeners recognize that their struggle with boundaries is not weakness. It is often the result of early conditioning that taught them to stay small, stay quiet, or keep the peace at any cost.

This episode offers insight, validation, and practical next steps for rebuilding trust in your own voice.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • what controlling behavior looks like in close relationships
  • why boundaries can feel so painful or confusing
  • how childhood trauma shapes adult compliance and self-doubt
  • why pushback does not mean your boundary was wrong
  • how healing begins by honoring what you see and feel

If boundaries have felt impossible, this episode will remind you that your reactions make sense, your voice matters, and control is not love.

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Why do boundaries feel so hard when you are dealing with a controlling person?

In this episode, Jess explores the psychology of the Controller and why controlling behavior can feel especially powerful to those whose boundaries were broken in childhood. If you have ever frozen, overexplained, doubted yourself, or felt guilty for saying no, this episode will help you understand why.

You will learn how Controllers often respond to limits with pressure, guilt, dismissal, confusion, or escalation, and why those patterns can pull listeners back into old survival responses. This conversation is not just about toxic behavior. It is about healing the deeper wounds that made control feel familiar in the first place.

Jess unpacks the connection between childhood boundary violations and adult relationship patterns, helping listeners recognize that their struggle with boundaries is not weakness. It is often the result of early conditioning that taught them to stay small, stay quiet, or keep the peace at any cost.

This episode offers insight, validation, and practical next steps for rebuilding trust in your own voice.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • what controlling behavior looks like in close relationships
  • why boundaries can feel so painful or confusing
  • how childhood trauma shapes adult compliance and self-doubt
  • why pushback does not mean your boundary was wrong
  • how healing begins by honoring what you see and feel

If boundaries have felt impossible, this episode will remind you that your reactions make sense, your voice matters, and control is not love.

]]> Jessica Gaffney, LCSW Buzzsprout-18877740 Fri, 27 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1602 Trauma, Healing, PTSD, Boundaries, Addiction, Christianity, Faith. Pastor 1 9 full false Control, Childhood Wounds, and Boundaries Control, Childhood Wounds, and Boundaries This episode focuses on the Controller and why control feels so powerful and confusing to someone whose boundaries were broken in childhood. The main idea is that a controlling partner often activates old survival patterns that were already there.

Segment 1: What a Controller does
The Controller has a hard time tolerating another person’s limits, disagreement, preferences, or independence. Instead of relating, they pressure, interrupt, dismiss, redefine reality, punish distance, and reward compliance. Boundaries feel threatening to them because they experience them as loss of power.

Segment 2: Why control hooks the listener so deeply
This is where the episode gets strong. It explains that when a child’s boundaries were ignored, they learned to adapt rather than resist. In adulthood that can look like:

  • freezing
  • self-doubt
  • guilt
  • over-explaining
  • apologizing
  • losing touch with what they actually feel

One of the key ideas we built was:
The controlling partner does not create the wound. They discover where it already lives.

Segment 3: What healing looks like
The listener learns that boundaries may feel wrong at first, but that does not mean they are wrong. Guilt, grief, fear, and second-guessing are part of the healing process. The goal is not just to say no, but to rebuild the self.

Important healing points:

  • trust your own perception
  • stop negotiating your reality
  • tolerate another person’s displeasure
  • remember survival is not consent
  • practice short, steady boundaries
]]> This episode focuses on the Controller and why control feels so powerful and confusing to someone whose boundaries were broken in childhood. The main idea is that a controlling partner often activates old survival patterns that were already there.

Segment 1: What a Controller does
The Controller has a hard time tolerating another person’s limits, disagreement, preferences, or independence. Instead of relating, they pressure, interrupt, dismiss, redefine reality, punish distance, and reward compliance. Boundaries feel threatening to them because they experience them as loss of power.

Segment 2: Why control hooks the listener so deeply
This is where the episode gets strong. It explains that when a child’s boundaries were ignored, they learned to adapt rather than resist. In adulthood that can look like:

  • freezing
  • self-doubt
  • guilt
  • over-explaining
  • apologizing
  • losing touch with what they actually feel

One of the key ideas we built was:
The controlling partner does not create the wound. They discover where it already lives.

Segment 3: What healing looks like
The listener learns that boundaries may feel wrong at first, but that does not mean they are wrong. Guilt, grief, fear, and second-guessing are part of the healing process. The goal is not just to say no, but to rebuild the self.

Important healing points:

  • trust your own perception
  • stop negotiating your reality
  • tolerate another person’s displeasure
  • remember survival is not consent
  • practice short, steady boundaries
]]> jessica Buzzsprout-18837367 Tue, 24 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1609 1 9 full false