Thorny Issues

Episode 46 - To threesome or not to threesome...

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0400

Is it a good idea to join your married friends on their first threesome adventure? Jax weighs in and gives her advice on this week's thorny issues.

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Episode 45 - Ride 'em Cowgirl

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0400

On this week’s episode Jax talks about gaining confidence when being on top on the cowgirl position. The second questions revolves around dating when wanting to be a mother in your 30s.

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Episode 44 - Where the F*&k has Jax been?!

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0400

Jax is back to talk about why the show went on hiatus and how excited she is to be back for season 3.

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Episode 43 - Why are there double standards with sex toys

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 14:00:00 -0400

On this week’s episode Jax talks about the double standards between women's toy's for self pleasure versus men's. Why are vibes socially accepted but fleshlights seen as seedy and gross? And our second question is all about HPV. We go naughty and factual this week. I hope you enjoy it!

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Episode 42 - Reclaiming your body after Sexual Assault - with Jimanekia Eborn

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Trigger warning - SA

On this week’s show Jax is talking to the amazing Jimanekia Eborn about life after sexual assault. The conversation touches on reclaiming your body after assault. How to be an ally, or as Jimanekia calls it, an accomplice when helping someone through their trauma. And we hear about Jimanekia's experience at a silent retreat.

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Find Jimanekia’s work here

https://traumaqueen.love/

you can find out more about tending the garden, or donate, here

https://www.tendingthegarden.love/

Vipassana Meditation Silent retreats

https://www.dhamma.org/en/index

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Episode 41 - Online Only relationships and the Dreaded Situationship!

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 03:00:00 -0400

On this week’s episode Jax answers a question about the dreaded “situationship” as well as a listeners question on online only relationship and the etiquette around them.

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Episode 40 - Talk about sex with your Partner!

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 20:00:00 -0400

The theme of this week is talking to your partner! We have a married woman ask if it’s ok she is having fantasies about other people whilst having sex with her partner of 13 years. And the second question touches on the difference between masturbation and partnered sex, and how there can and should be room for both.

Jax also asks in the intro - how to do you stay creative around intimacy when you have houseguests and your schedule has to change.

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Episode 39 - Restraints and Spanking

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0400

We kick off season 2 with a questions about exploring into being tied up and spanked. Jax worked through different tools you can use and ways to make sure you and your partner both feel safe, comfortable and sexy.

Plus in the intro - Jax talks about how turning 40 has helped her plan her sexual future. Who knows what it entails but the plans are in place!

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Season 2 Trailer - Back officially August 22nd

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0400

The second season of Thorny Issues will be back August 22nd. In this teaser Jax let's you know a little what she has been up to and how excited she is for the second season.

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Episode 37 - Rounding out Season 1 with some musings

Thu, 02 May 2024 07:00:00 -0400

This is the final episode of the first season of the show.

Jax shares her thoughts on "are we dating the same guy" facebook groups (hint - she hates them) and also about what she has learnt since starting the show last July.

We will be back in July 2024. I cannot wait to launch season 2.

Have fun, be kind and stay curious xx

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Episode 36 - Call me Daddy

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

On this week’s show we are talking about Calling him Daddy. What is the Daddy Kink? Why do people enjoy it?

Jax is joined by Dusty Rhodes to help tackle this topic.

Dusty is a sex educator, kink professional, pole dancer, and certified good boy. He’s been working in the sex industry for the past 7 years, and has over a decade of experience as a toy collector and BDSM life-styler. Passionate about sexual pleasure, personal agency, communication and discovery, he’s dedicated to helping folks explore their sexualities in a genuine way and find out more about what gets them excited.

If you want more Dusty in your life you can find him on instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/dustyerodes/

And details of his latest seminar are here:https://www.artofloving.ca/discovering-daddy-kink.html

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Episode 35 - Will we have sex again after my wife goes through menopause?

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Jax kicks off this week’s show with a chat about casual sex. Is it possible to do in a healthy way? What are the different types of casual relationships and how to they serve us.

When we get to the questions, a husband asks if he and his wife will ever have sex again now she is going through menopause. And Jax gets an email asking if you should tell your best friend you have heard rumours her terrible bf is cheating on her.

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Episode 34 - Bukakke, Casual relationship boundaries, and how to keep boredom out of a LTR

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

On this week’s show Jax looks into STI safety around Bukakke play, answers a question about setting boundaries regarding casual sex and sleepovers, and addresses how to keep the passion alive and the boredom out of a long term relationship.

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Episode 33 - How to regain confidence in your body as it ages and grow - with Vinny Welsby

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

The question on this week's show is focused around learning to love your body even if it is bigger than you are used to. How can you still feel sexy? Will you partner still want you? Jax called in an expert to help answer this one. And my gosh it's a juicy episode!

Vinny Welsby (they/them) is a fat activist and diversity, equity and inclusion leader. They are a world-leading expert on dismantling anti-fat bias and diet culture, a TEDx speaker, podcast host and best-selling author. Vinny is trans-non-binary and is dedicated to shifting how society views fat and queer bodies through education and compassion.

This episode is a must listen for anyone wanting to feel more comfortable in their skin. Everybody is beautiful and sexy. Now it the time to learn how to harness that confidence!

To find Vinny on the internet you can visit the website below, or check out all social media @fierce.fatty

Website: www.fiercefatty.com

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Episode 32 - Potential red flags in a newish relationship and what to do when you see your recent ex on a dating app

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

On this week’s show we have a 2 questions about dating and the early stages of relationships.

One listener was broken up with when the guy she was seeing said he needed some space and alone time. Now she has seen him on a dating app. How can she get over the hurt he maybe lied about the reason for the breakup?

And our second question comes from a listener who keeps getting to the 6 month mark and then realizes his partners are putting up some red flags. Is he being too picky? Should he just work through it and ignore the flags he thinks he sees?

listen to Jax’s reply on this week’s episode now.

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Episode 31 - My BF says I use my toys to much & I'll lose the ability to enjoy sex. Is this true?

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's show, Jax is joined by Danielle Bezalel (AKA DB) to help tackle a question about masturbation and toy use when in a relationship. This is a fantastic conversation covering so many topics. DB conducted a masturbation experiment with her trusty magic wand and we talk through her observations from that.

You can check out the experiment here https://www.sexedwithdb.com/magicwandexperiment

And you can follow DB on instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast

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Episode 30 - Age Gaps, Hand Jobs and Slut Shaming

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Coming up on the show this week:

A question about age gaps in relationships - when, if at all, is it too big of a gap?

After a bad first experience in her teens when giving her first hand job, this listener has lost confidence in her abilities. Jax talks about learning new skills and communicating in the bedroom.

And finally, a listener to her time in having her first sexual experience and now is on a super fun sexual journey. But her friends are slut shaming her. Is she doing something wrong? (hint - NO)

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Episode 29 - Lube, with Cat Meyer founder of Head South

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

On this week’s show we have a question about Lube. Why are there so many options? How do I know what to buy? Do certain lubes do certain jobs?

To help me answer this I have invited Cat Meyer on the show. Cat is a queer Filipina-American and founder of Head South - a sexual wellbeing brand offering sustainable, refillable intimacy serums and a podcast dedicated to removing the stigma of conversations about sex.

Cat embraced a minimalist philosophy in developing the Head South formulas, meticulously crafted to diminish friction in both solo and partnered play. Formulated with only essential and effective ingredients, each batch is carefully produced in small quantities in Los Angeles, California. The use of refillable packaging underscores their commitment to minimizing waste, embodying a conscientious approach to pleasure.

If you would like to know about about Cat and Headsouth, check out the instagram links and the website below:

https://headsouth.world/

https://www.instagram.com/headsouth.world/

https://www.instagram.com/kittycatmeyer/

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Episode 28 - Vasectomy’s, how to give and receive oral sex and a guy is worried he isn’t his partners type

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Loads of questions this week Thorny Fam.

We have a wife who would love her husband to get a vasectomy but he is worried how it will change his body and affect kids he might have if they ever split up.

there are 2 questions around oral sex. One about how to give head without using your teeth and another with a listener wishing she loved receiving oral. will she ever be able to sit on her partners face and enjoy it? (hint - yes)

The final question is from a guy who's girlfriend has always dated older guys. Is she likely to leave him as he is younger than her.

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Episode 27 - How to talk to your teenagers about sex and porn

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

On this week’s show we have a concerned parent wondering how to talk to their young teenager about sex and porn in a shame free positive manner. Sex Educator Alysha joins me on the show to help tackle this question.

I also want to hear from you. At the beginning of this week’s show I ask for your mortifying, cringe inducing sexy shame stories. We all know shame dies when it is told in safe spaces and this is a safe place i promise. For more information on this new feature check out the website https://www.thornyissues.ca/about-3

If you enjoyed listening to Alysha on this week’s show you can check out her instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexeducatoralysha/ or her website https://www.sexeducatoralysha.ca/

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Episode 26 - Dating with a disability (with all the audio this time!!)

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

***Please note - this is the second upload of the show. The first was missing some key audio - thank you to everyone who pointed this out!***

Jax opens the show with some tips to increase intimacy and closeness in relationships. Our question this week was around dating someone in a wheelchair. II have invited Em on to help her out with the question. Em is a 26 year old disabled and queer artist, performer, and activist. They are also a part time barista at their local queer owned coffee shop and use a wheelchair as my main mobility aid.

If you enjoyed listening to Em on the show check out their art at the link below as well as their instagram.

https://gremlinkisses.square.site/

Insta and TikTok @gremlingrandparent

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Episode 25 - Situationships, Snooping and Sizeable Appendages

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0500

Three questions for you this week. What do you think of Jax's answers.

First up we look at how to communicate effectively when you aren’t sure where you are at in a new dating sitch.

Secondly, a listener snooped on his girlfriends phone and was very judge about what he found. He calls in to see if Jax will validate his choices (hint hint - she doesn’t).

And our final question tonight is from a guy with an above average penis who wants to know how to help his partners have pain free sex.

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Episode 24 - Help! I'm a new mother. Will I be able to have pain free enjoyable sex again?

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Our listener question this week is about painful, unenjoyable sex for a new mother. To help tackle this question, Jax is joined by Rachelle Bonneville. Rachelle is a pelvic floor physio and founder of Frank about it ; an online workout and education platform for pre and post natal people. Through this she is normalizing every and any topic under the sun related to sex and pelvic health.

You can find Rachelle here on her website or instagram.

https://www.instagram.com/frankabout.it/

https://www.frankaboutit.com/

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Episode 23 - How to date after you have been stalked - with special guest Jill Lissner

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Trigger Warning - Stalking

On this week’s episode Jax is joined by sex educator, content creator and masters student Jill Lissner (AKA The Sex Ed Princess) .

Jill helps answer a question from a listener about dating after stalking, sharing some of her personal experience regarding the topic.

She sticks around to help answer another question about sex and alcohol.

You can find Jill on instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexedprincesss/ or read her personal account of her stalker on her website https://jill-lissner.com/blog-3-1/my-survivor-story

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Episode 22 - Can serial cheaters find love together?

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Can two sexual Deviants and serial cheaters find love together? And how can one listener make sure she stays out of the friend zone.

All that is coming up on this weeks episode as well as Jax reminding you all to check yourselves.

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Episode 21 - Dating, a potential affair and self love. Happy New Year!

Thu, 04 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Happy New Year.

January is self love month so in this week’s intro Jax discusses ways to start to love yourself more. And shockingly, they aren’t all naughty!

One off this week’s questions involves a man thinking he might be about to have an affair. How can he stop it? And a listener is fed up with dating and apps. Are there any good people left out there? Listen to Jax’s advice here.

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Episode 20 - A short message to round out the year!

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Welcome to the in between. Jax just pops on to wish you a happy new year, and has a couple of suggestions of ways you can create a sexy to do list and conduct a fun sexual inventory with a partner or solo.

Happy new year folks - we will be back next week with a full length normal episode!

Have fun, be kind, stay curious xx

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Episode 19 - It's all about the exes this week!

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0500

It’s the week before Christmas and Jax has some extra advice for you about how to have the best first experience at your partners family home.

On this episode we deal with feelings of finding your partners ex intimidating. And in our first question our listener is struggling to open up his relationship after his anchor partner cheated on him earlier this year.

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Episode 18 - It's all about the butt

Thu, 14 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This week we are going back to basics on Anal Sex. If this is something you have ever wanted to try, Jax gives you a true beginners how to guide.

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Episode 17 - Love is in the Air

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 18:00:00 -0500

We are talking Love on this week’s show. The first question there are too many sparks. The second. No sparks. Where do you stand on love at first sight?

And in the Intro Jax talks about why this podcast exists - what shame means to her and how talking about shameful things can help us live a shame free happy confident life.

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Episode 16 - We were on a break

Thu, 23 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

On this week’s show a listener who hates texting asks for advice as to how to communicate over the apps without seeming creepy or weird for wanting to meet in person, chat on the phone, or really do anything that isn’t just meaningless back and forth texts.

our second caller is having an issue when her husband slept with other people when they were on a self imposed break. Was this cheating? Should she forgive him?

Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.

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Episode 15 - Toys in the bedroom and different experiences at a play party.

Thu, 16 Nov 2023 03:00:00 -0500

On this week’s show a couple go to a sex party to fulfil his fantasy. His wife has an amazing time but he didn’t enjoy it. Also, after some wine fuelled conversations at girls night a listener wants to bring a sex toy into play with her partner but how should she go about addressing the conversation.

Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.

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Episode 14 - My girlfriend is jealous of my female best friend, who happens to be my ex

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This week a listener calls in asking how to deal with his girlfriends jealousy. Is it possible for him to be friends with his ex girlfriend and stay with his current squeeze.

Our second caller’s boyfriend body shamed her vulva and now she isn’t enjoying sex anymore.

Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.

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Episode 13 - my boyfriend wants me to be dominant with him, what if i like it?

Thu, 02 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's show we have a question about being dominant in the bedroom. The listener isn't sure if it is for her, and if it is, what does that say about her?

Our second question is from a man in his 30's wondering if he needs Viagra due to some ED mishaps in the bedroom.

Listen to Jax's advice and let her know what you think of the episode.

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Episode 12 - Is it wrong to ask my husband to not go to a strip club on a boys weekend to Vegas?

Thu, 26 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week’s episode a caller asks Jax if she is being controlling by asking her husband not to go to a strip club on a lads weekend to Vegas.

And our second caller is struggling to move out of the nostalgia from a previous relationship and move on with her life without experiencing jealousy and regret.

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Episode 11 - We tried Pegging and now my bf won't speak to me

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's episode Jax answers a question from a listener who pegged her boyfriend at his request, but he has since pulled away from her. Jax gives some advice to the pegging newbies ass to how they can get back to being adventurous and intimate together in the bedroom soon.

The second questions is from a listener who is hoping to start exploring non monogamy but wondering how to communicate this, both with his friends and new partners.

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Episode 10 - Why do I still need my friends approval?

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Trigger Warning.

I talk about my Eating disorder in the introduction. If this is more likely to hinder than help you, skip to the first question. It is 10 minutes in.

On this week's episode we have a question about a woman’s boyfriend who can only orgasm by his own hand. What can they do so they can enjoy partnered sex stress free

In the second question, a couple are really happy at home, but she is embarrassed of her boyfriend when they go out with her friends. How can she stop feeling this way. How can she stop worrying about the approval of her friends?

If you have a question for the podcast, please head to https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-your-question

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Episode 9 - can you get your libido back whilst taking Anti-depressants?

Thu, 05 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's episode we have a question about losing sexual desire and libido now the listener is on anti-depressants. Are there things we can do to increase desire without changing or stopping the meds?

In the second question, how can a listener set boundaries with her casual sex partner now he has a potential cancer diagnosis and has asked her to get involved in his medical care.

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Episode 8 - Is there such thing as too big?

Thu, 28 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Jax is back from vacation and excited to be answering all your thorny questions.

Up first we have a married man who has been finding sex outside of his sexless marriage. Should he tell him wife? The guilt is beginning to eat away at him.

And secondly, an inquisitive listener wanders, is there such a thing as too much when it comes to penis size? Jax delves into the facts.

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Episode 7.5 - the vacation episode mishap!

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 13:00:00 -0400

Jax is on vacation in the UK visiting family, so of course this is the week she saved the prerecorded episode wrong! So today you can here personal ramblings about kidulting and sexual shame from religious teenage years

If you have a question for a future episode please head to the website for details.
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Episode 7 - What is Squirting. And how to approach the conversation about opening up a relationship

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's episode Jax delves into the nitty gritty of what squirting is? What is the liquid? How does it work? Can everyone with a vulva do it?

And a listener asks about opening up her sexless long term monogamous relationship. How do you start difficult conversations?

If you have a question for the podcast, head to https://www.thornyissues.ca/submit-your-question

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Episode 6 - Intro to Sex Toys with the owner of Esmerlda ESO ES toys

Thu, 31 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

We have our first guest!

This week we hear a question from a listener who is mystified and overwhelmed by the world of sex toys and does not know where to start with the purchase of her first toy. Jax turns to Bee, the founder of Esmerelda ESO ES; A company that makes high quality sex toys in amazing vibrant colours and innovative designs. There was nobody better to help answer the question and demystify the world of toys and self pleasure.

We talk variety of toys, cleaning, lube, storage, what to expect when the toy arrives...The list goes on!

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Episode 5 - How to stay hard using condoms, do other women find penetration unfulfilling, and Jax chats about what good sex means to her

Thu, 24 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On Episode 5, Jax tells you what she thinks good sex is.

Only 30% of women can have an orgasm through penetration alone, yet so many feel ashamed about this. The first question today looks into this topic and how outercourse can be so much more stimulating for vulva havers than intercourse.

In the second question a newly single chap is struggling to stay hard when using a condom. Jax chats about retraining a penis after years of not wearing condoms.

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Episode 4 - How to Initiate sex & can you un-open a relationship?

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's show Jax discusses how to be more confident in initiating sex with your partner. What are the small things we can do to show our partner we are keen to help get over the embarrasemnet and vulnerability of saying we want it.

The second question deals with a couple who have opened their relationship up but jealousy and pain is making one partner think this was a bad idea. How can they move forward in a healthy, happy and loving way?

If you have a question for Jax you can submit it at thornyissues.ca

And follow the show on instagram @thornyissues - for all the latest conversations and updates of the show.

Episode 3 - Asking for oral sex, defining sexual orientations and would you go on vacation with your ex?

Thu, 10 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this weeks episode Jax answers a question from a woman whose boyfriend won't give her oral sex even though she has asked for it. We look at shame and fear around sex education and how sex is something we learn to be great at, we aren't born that way.

Also, a question around demi sexuality and sapio sexuality.

And finally - would you go on vacation with your ex boyfriend after only 3 months of being broken up?

Listen to Jax's opinion here.

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Episode 2 - Pets in the Bedroom and Dating with intentions

Thu, 03 Aug 2023 16:00:00 -0400

On this week's episode Jax answers questions on how to be able to have a healthy fulfilling sex life whilst dating without coming off as an asshole. Also, how would you have a conversation with your new partner about their dog sleeping in the bed with you? Listen to Jax's opinion here.

If you like the podcast you can follow on instagram @thornyissues

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Episode 1 - ENM Etiquette, Long Distance Relationships and Period Sex

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

On this week's episode I look at how to date someone who is already in an Ethical Non Monogamous (ENM) relationship, how to keep a Long Distance Relationship spicy when the distance kicks in and you haven't seen each other for a while, and how to talk to your partner about your needs during period sex.

For more information on the podcast please go to thornyissues.ca or follow the pod @thornyissues

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Thorny Issues - New podcast Coming Soon

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Welcome to the Thorny Issues Podcast Trailer

A podcast with the goal to help you release any shame, or inhibitions you might have so you can have the most satisfying, pleasurable sex life possible. Because we all deserve that.

Have a fantasy you want to explore but don’t know where to start? Ask me. Struggling to communicate how your body is feeling with your partner? I’m here. Feel embarrassed about a certain link or proclivatiy you have in the bedroom. Let’s chat about it. You won’t be the first to have thought these things. Let’s normallse feeling great about the sex we are having.

I want to hear from you. Send me your questions. You can do that through the website thornyissues.ca. there’s a nifty little button you can anonymously record your question. And if that feels too much, there is a form you can type one out too.

If this sounds like your kind of thing. Please subscribe to this feed. That way, each thursday a new episode will pop into your podcast app of choice. Follow me on instagram @thorny issues for all the latest info about the show

Come join me down this fun, sexy, empowering pathway