Over the Fence Mon, 06 Apr 2026 15:10:00 -0400 https://podcast.overthefence.uk en-gb © 2026 Over the Fence yes a07350c8-f6fc-539f-a09f-0050a74d1f11 Over the Fence episodic false The gap between expected life and reality can be massive join your hosts, Sarah and Vangeya as they share their experiences of navigating their very full lives that on the surface look like they would be worlds apart. But as you will soon discover their emotions and experiences in the realities they find themselves are often more similar than they would have expected from a cursory look over the fence.


]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Over the Fence https://storage.buzzsprout.com/zsk73nz6bljwixqpnb6yamo973n5?.jpg Over the Fence https://podcast.overthefence.uk Sarah Vangeya Chris Birthday Bonus: Building works and Thai Massages Birthday Bonus: Building works and Thai Massages Hello hello hello, we are thrilled to be back after a slightly longer than intended break. We are excited to come back for this very special pod episode in celebration ney… in honour of Vangeya’s impending ascent to the fourth floor!!!!

We have a natter about what has been happening in the past few months, there may well be a couple of clues in may in the title of this episode! We really wanted to catch up with you before the end of the year an this felt like the perfect excuse!! 

I (Vangeya) love my birthday and on this milestone birthday I wanted to celebrate with you all! Sarah shared her thoughts on entering what you will remember is by all accounts ‘a tricky decades’ from one of our earliest episodes: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=-INf-p0zTl-YtByuKJkXJg

As hoped Sarah offers some wisdom as one that has gone before and you will be pleased to know Vangeya feels ready to wave her 30s goodbye and shares her reflections and thoughts on why.  So grab a cuppa or a glass of fizz as we raise a toast over the fence!!



Excitingly you can now watch us as well as listen on the usual platforms! To see our attempt at video go to our youtube page: https://youtu.be/czVwDQdTbPI

Resources
1. Shelly Tygielski: no is a complete sentence: https://www.mindful.org/no-is-a-complete-sentence/#:~:text=And%2C%20what's%20worse%2C%20when%20we,complete%20sentence%2C%20and%20here's%20why.&text=Saying%20%E2%80%9Cno%E2%80%9D%20is%20all%20about,will%20make%20the%20most%20impact.
2. Stewart’s episode: season 3 bonus https://open.spotify.com/episode/40QMaCyB4zjoPPfDi58LDK?si=fBQ2L6eORLm8f_rAKLte-Q

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Hello hello hello, we are thrilled to be back after a slightly longer than intended break. We are excited to come back for this very special pod episode in celebration ney… in honour of Vangeya’s impending ascent to the fourth floor!!!!

We have a natter about what has been happening in the past few months, there may well be a couple of clues in may in the title of this episode! We really wanted to catch up with you before the end of the year an this felt like the perfect excuse!! 

I (Vangeya) love my birthday and on this milestone birthday I wanted to celebrate with you all! Sarah shared her thoughts on entering what you will remember is by all accounts ‘a tricky decades’ from one of our earliest episodes: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=-INf-p0zTl-YtByuKJkXJg

As hoped Sarah offers some wisdom as one that has gone before and you will be pleased to know Vangeya feels ready to wave her 30s goodbye and shares her reflections and thoughts on why.  So grab a cuppa or a glass of fizz as we raise a toast over the fence!!



Excitingly you can now watch us as well as listen on the usual platforms! To see our attempt at video go to our youtube page: https://youtu.be/czVwDQdTbPI

Resources
1. Shelly Tygielski: no is a complete sentence: https://www.mindful.org/no-is-a-complete-sentence/#:~:text=And%2C%20what's%20worse%2C%20when%20we,complete%20sentence%2C%20and%20here's%20why.&text=Saying%20%E2%80%9Cno%E2%80%9D%20is%20all%20about,will%20make%20the%20most%20impact.
2. Stewart’s episode: season 3 bonus https://open.spotify.com/episode/40QMaCyB4zjoPPfDi58LDK?si=fBQ2L6eORLm8f_rAKLte-Q

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-16238094 Mon, 09 Dec 2024 08:00:00 +0000 2389 4 7 full false The Art of Conversation Part 2 - S04E06 The Art of Conversation Part 2 - S04E06 The two parties just keep on coming. This wasn’t even an intentional one. This weeks episode ended up being a part two that we didn’t even know the world needed. Those of you that have been listening for awhile. Remember that we did a bonus episode called the art of conversation, which was an episode about the do's and don’ts of conversation, in its complicated, messy and sometimes down right awkward marvellousness. 

Well, apparently there was much more for us to say!  We stumbled upon it, when having a conversation with each other about the pitfalls that people can fall into in ‘big community’ when assumptions are made.

So for the last time this season join as as we delve into another big issue from our different sides of the fence.

Resources

1. Table Manners podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZX2oyIXVvyqEtjQ6C6z5?si=D1ImP8CxSXa_zi3MYo3wYA
2. Best Friend Therapy  s6 ep6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3crYlhTujhOFshsdrjrdzb?si=U3od1J4GSnulF9xocPHxWw
3. Bruce Tuckman’s theory on team formation: https://www.mindtools.com/abyj5fi/forming-storming-norming-and-performing

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> The two parties just keep on coming. This wasn’t even an intentional one. This weeks episode ended up being a part two that we didn’t even know the world needed. Those of you that have been listening for awhile. Remember that we did a bonus episode called the art of conversation, which was an episode about the do's and don’ts of conversation, in its complicated, messy and sometimes down right awkward marvellousness. 

Well, apparently there was much more for us to say!  We stumbled upon it, when having a conversation with each other about the pitfalls that people can fall into in ‘big community’ when assumptions are made.

So for the last time this season join as as we delve into another big issue from our different sides of the fence.

Resources

1. Table Manners podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZX2oyIXVvyqEtjQ6C6z5?si=D1ImP8CxSXa_zi3MYo3wYA
2. Best Friend Therapy  s6 ep6: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3crYlhTujhOFshsdrjrdzb?si=U3od1J4GSnulF9xocPHxWw
3. Bruce Tuckman’s theory on team formation: https://www.mindtools.com/abyj5fi/forming-storming-norming-and-performing

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14626934 Tue, 05 Mar 2024 08:00:00 +0000 2765 4 6 full false Big Issues Deep Dive Part 2 - S04E05 Big Issues Deep Dive Part 2 - S04E05 As promised, we are back with part two of the big issues deep dive with Sarah sharing some of her story from her side of the fence with regard to mental health stereotypes. As with last weeks episode the A+B=C formula was also an expectation for Sarah, get married have kids live happily ever after! 

Sarah shares candidly and with vulnerability as she speaks of the impact mental health stereotypes have had on her family life as her husband continues to battle PTSD and all of that comes with it.  As always we wanted to hold space for the conversation  but also to help with practical tips  for those wishing to be better equipped in their attempts to be of assistance:

1. Drop the expectation that there will be a happy outcome
2. Ask questions that create a space for open conversations and rather than an opportunity to give solutions
3. Allow people to be where they are rather than trying to skip forward
4. Grand gestures are good, but consistency is better
5. Set at your store with regard to what support you can offer
6. Just ask, don’t assume you know how best to help.

Resources:

1. Best Friend Therapy: Ep1 boundaries, what are they? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=pb9piMCSTSCe_jW4tqfBTg
2. Jay Shetty: killing ego: https://www.jayshetty.me/blog/jay-shetty-on-3-strategies-people-use-to-overcome-their-ego

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> As promised, we are back with part two of the big issues deep dive with Sarah sharing some of her story from her side of the fence with regard to mental health stereotypes. As with last weeks episode the A+B=C formula was also an expectation for Sarah, get married have kids live happily ever after! 

Sarah shares candidly and with vulnerability as she speaks of the impact mental health stereotypes have had on her family life as her husband continues to battle PTSD and all of that comes with it.  As always we wanted to hold space for the conversation  but also to help with practical tips  for those wishing to be better equipped in their attempts to be of assistance:

1. Drop the expectation that there will be a happy outcome
2. Ask questions that create a space for open conversations and rather than an opportunity to give solutions
3. Allow people to be where they are rather than trying to skip forward
4. Grand gestures are good, but consistency is better
5. Set at your store with regard to what support you can offer
6. Just ask, don’t assume you know how best to help.

Resources:

1. Best Friend Therapy: Ep1 boundaries, what are they? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=pb9piMCSTSCe_jW4tqfBTg
2. Jay Shetty: killing ego: https://www.jayshetty.me/blog/jay-shetty-on-3-strategies-people-use-to-overcome-their-ego

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14576394 Mon, 26 Feb 2024 11:00:00 +0000 2219 4 5 full false Big Issues Part 1 S04E04 Big Issues Part 1 S04E04 Big Issues Deep Dive - part 1

If you have been listening to the pod for awhile, you will know that authenticity is one of our buzz words, and in season four we wanted to wade a little deeper.  

After a season of hearing the stories of fabulous  guests, we wanted this season to be  an opportunity to delve into our stories and an opportunity for us to drop the mask further and share more personally. 

We are loving a two parter this season!  In this episode Vangeya kick us off, giving us a peep over the fence sharing about her current ‘ big issue’ and what she is learning along the way.

Resources

1. Adam Grant: @adamgrant
2. Article by Vangeya- Real vs imagined life: https://medium.com/@vangeyamhone/getting-to-know-you-series-9cd3f2e853b2
3. A Single Serving Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0vVwbdT9RAppTSHeamR6S5?si=-d7FUcgSTM245kSTdIYBiQ
4. Shani Silver’s book: A Single Revolution 
5. The Art of Conversation: s1 bonus episode- Over the Fence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/49HRkGnyATVXsNCpXSCEqN?si=6pu-bVKoQfiOhoeR1diAGA
6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5Mg

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Big Issues Deep Dive - part 1

If you have been listening to the pod for awhile, you will know that authenticity is one of our buzz words, and in season four we wanted to wade a little deeper.  

After a season of hearing the stories of fabulous  guests, we wanted this season to be  an opportunity to delve into our stories and an opportunity for us to drop the mask further and share more personally. 

We are loving a two parter this season!  In this episode Vangeya kick us off, giving us a peep over the fence sharing about her current ‘ big issue’ and what she is learning along the way.

Resources

1. Adam Grant: @adamgrant
2. Article by Vangeya- Real vs imagined life: https://medium.com/@vangeyamhone/getting-to-know-you-series-9cd3f2e853b2
3. A Single Serving Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0vVwbdT9RAppTSHeamR6S5?si=-d7FUcgSTM245kSTdIYBiQ
4. Shani Silver’s book: A Single Revolution 
5. The Art of Conversation: s1 bonus episode- Over the Fence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/49HRkGnyATVXsNCpXSCEqN?si=6pu-bVKoQfiOhoeR1diAGA
6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5Mg

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14533659 Mon, 19 Feb 2024 21:00:00 +0000 2894 4 4 full false Reviewing the Situation - S04E03 Reviewing the Situation - S04E03 The conversation from last week was so good we came back with a part two and in today’s episode we look at how to ‘friend through’ the hibernation seasons.

This conversation is peppered with wisdom from those far wiser than ourselves and as always we list everything below. For this discussion in particular we would encourage you to have a look and listen through because it bud tough to navigate either side of this particular fence. Whether you are the friend struggling or the friend struggling to be let in to try and help.

Wherever you are with your friendship we hope this two parter has been useful in helping you process and as always it us our greatest hope j that you have felt seen and a little less alone on your journey. 

Resources 

1. New York Times article: How many friends do you really need? Catherine Pearson: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/07/well/live/adult-friendships-number.html
2. Earlier Over the Fence episode referred to: ‘ A tricky decade’: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=2w-oVJLgSJ2CW7_21jd0vQ
3. On introversion: a)how introverts can be socially conditioned to appear as extroverts- Best Friend Therapy s1 ep1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=yaYoPlTaTUKJkJcSkcQVaA b) Simon Sinek explains the difference between extroverts and introverts: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kXLVcGPlep4
4. David Richo: How to be an adult in relationships ( the 5 As of friendship)
5. Adam Grant: @adamgrant - alignment not necessarily agreement 
6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5Mg

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> The conversation from last week was so good we came back with a part two and in today’s episode we look at how to ‘friend through’ the hibernation seasons.

This conversation is peppered with wisdom from those far wiser than ourselves and as always we list everything below. For this discussion in particular we would encourage you to have a look and listen through because it bud tough to navigate either side of this particular fence. Whether you are the friend struggling or the friend struggling to be let in to try and help.

Wherever you are with your friendship we hope this two parter has been useful in helping you process and as always it us our greatest hope j that you have felt seen and a little less alone on your journey. 

Resources 

1. New York Times article: How many friends do you really need? Catherine Pearson: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/07/well/live/adult-friendships-number.html
2. Earlier Over the Fence episode referred to: ‘ A tricky decade’: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41N9S72WiyAb3gKCNxV7sq?si=2w-oVJLgSJ2CW7_21jd0vQ
3. On introversion: a)how introverts can be socially conditioned to appear as extroverts- Best Friend Therapy s1 ep1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mIiYg04LDshddZJ4LmC9V?si=yaYoPlTaTUKJkJcSkcQVaA b) Simon Sinek explains the difference between extroverts and introverts: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kXLVcGPlep4
4. David Richo: How to be an adult in relationships ( the 5 As of friendship)
5. Adam Grant: @adamgrant - alignment not necessarily agreement 
6. Simon Sinek: what we need in crisis: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/VAXBrlIo5Mg

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14490211 Mon, 12 Feb 2024 21:00:00 +0000 2589 4 3 full false Friends Glorious Friends S04E02 Friends Glorious Friends S04E02 There is no denying that the quest for connection and belonging is strong and ongoing. When we were young, it seemed that friendships simply happened around us, but in this tricky decade, friendships often seem more to allude than abound.

This episode seeks to explore questions we have grappled with: 

  • Why are friendships at this age so difficult? 
  • Is it that what we need in friendships is different or that what we can sustain is different?  

We also explore what changes may have contributed to complexity of something that once seemed so simple.

Don’t worry there is still the tom foolery and high jinks we know you expect from us! We kick off with some light relief as we attempt a friendship quiz, live!!!! If you thought quick fire was hilarious you are in for a treat!

Resources 

1. Friendship quiz - in true style we can't find the quiz we did .. but we are still looking!
2. Are you getting enough hugs- Forbes.com: https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinecomaford/2020/08/22/are-you-getting-enough-hugs/?sh=2664646968da
3. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-we-are-wired-to-connect/ scientific American: why we are wired to connect

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> There is no denying that the quest for connection and belonging is strong and ongoing. When we were young, it seemed that friendships simply happened around us, but in this tricky decade, friendships often seem more to allude than abound.

This episode seeks to explore questions we have grappled with: 

  • Why are friendships at this age so difficult? 
  • Is it that what we need in friendships is different or that what we can sustain is different?  

We also explore what changes may have contributed to complexity of something that once seemed so simple.

Don’t worry there is still the tom foolery and high jinks we know you expect from us! We kick off with some light relief as we attempt a friendship quiz, live!!!! If you thought quick fire was hilarious you are in for a treat!

Resources 

1. Friendship quiz - in true style we can't find the quiz we did .. but we are still looking!
2. Are you getting enough hugs- Forbes.com: https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinecomaford/2020/08/22/are-you-getting-enough-hugs/?sh=2664646968da
3. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-we-are-wired-to-connect/ scientific American: why we are wired to connect

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14445297 Tue, 06 Feb 2024 11:00:00 +0000 3060 4 2 full false Resolutions vs Reflections S04E01 Resolutions vs Reflections S04E01 Happy 2024!!

This episode and indeed the new season kicks off with a massive dose of nostalgia about life in the 1900s, and the fear surrounding the Y2K bug! As ever your hosts have a right laugh, but we also get serious speaking candidly about New Year’s resolutions and whether or not that useful! Sarah and Vangeya share  their thoughts and where they have landed with them. In particular in relation to how they interact with that prized concept of radical self acceptance. Are Resolutions a weapon that is self-destructive or a tool was to achieve and better yourself?  Ultimately are ‘reflections and hopes’ for the coming year more useful? 

Speaking of reflections, the second half of the episode is a bit of a recap of season three as the hosts of share their best bits and what they took away from each of their wonderful guests before introducing the concept and hope for season 4. Entitled “the big issues” the season builds on the foundation of openness and authenticity all the guests brought in season three  and explores some of the sometimes thorny issues that life brings as we let go of the expectations and navigate the reality we face.

Resource 

1. Brene Brown on midlife: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/w20VDWG7UgE
2. Tracey Duncan: Leaving it all on the track- S3 EP06 over the fence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0A0woVsor0B0DRKanUnytd?si=R8Lz_IupR0K7K_PO1p2d1Q

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Happy 2024!!

This episode and indeed the new season kicks off with a massive dose of nostalgia about life in the 1900s, and the fear surrounding the Y2K bug! As ever your hosts have a right laugh, but we also get serious speaking candidly about New Year’s resolutions and whether or not that useful! Sarah and Vangeya share  their thoughts and where they have landed with them. In particular in relation to how they interact with that prized concept of radical self acceptance. Are Resolutions a weapon that is self-destructive or a tool was to achieve and better yourself?  Ultimately are ‘reflections and hopes’ for the coming year more useful? 

Speaking of reflections, the second half of the episode is a bit of a recap of season three as the hosts of share their best bits and what they took away from each of their wonderful guests before introducing the concept and hope for season 4. Entitled “the big issues” the season builds on the foundation of openness and authenticity all the guests brought in season three  and explores some of the sometimes thorny issues that life brings as we let go of the expectations and navigate the reality we face.

Resource 

1. Brene Brown on midlife: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/w20VDWG7UgE
2. Tracey Duncan: Leaving it all on the track- S3 EP06 over the fence: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0A0woVsor0B0DRKanUnytd?si=R8Lz_IupR0K7K_PO1p2d1Q

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14367725 Tue, 30 Jan 2024 09:00:00 +0000 2117 4 1 full false Bonus episode: A delightful encore Bonus episode: A delightful encore As promised here, we are with a bonus episode to complement season three! In this episode we hear from Stew Bewley an actor turned coach. As with all the guests from season 3 Stew drops copious knowledge bombs in the first few minutes and continues apace- leaving Sarah and Vangeya uncharacteristically lost for words as they digest all the gems and pearls of hard won wisdom.

Gems such as the power of reflection, the significance of regular solitude, owning your successes and failures and most importantly
Knowing what you uniquely bring.

We thoroughly enjoyed our chat with Stew and know you will too.

Resources
1. Celia Imrie: The Happy Hoofer
2. Raymond Kethledge and Michael Erwin: Lead yourself first
3. St Ignatius: The Daily Examen
4. Myers Briggs: https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/myers-briggs-overview/

Linked in: Stew Bewley - Amplify Presentations Ltd | LinkedIn
Website: Amplify | Unlock Your Company Story with our Presentation Coaching

The Storytelling Hero: Speaking for Powerful Communication https://amzn.eu/d/cCHObFU

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> As promised here, we are with a bonus episode to complement season three! In this episode we hear from Stew Bewley an actor turned coach. As with all the guests from season 3 Stew drops copious knowledge bombs in the first few minutes and continues apace- leaving Sarah and Vangeya uncharacteristically lost for words as they digest all the gems and pearls of hard won wisdom.

Gems such as the power of reflection, the significance of regular solitude, owning your successes and failures and most importantly
Knowing what you uniquely bring.

We thoroughly enjoyed our chat with Stew and know you will too.

Resources
1. Celia Imrie: The Happy Hoofer
2. Raymond Kethledge and Michael Erwin: Lead yourself first
3. St Ignatius: The Daily Examen
4. Myers Briggs: https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/myers-briggs-overview/

Linked in: Stew Bewley - Amplify Presentations Ltd | LinkedIn
Website: Amplify | Unlock Your Company Story with our Presentation Coaching

The Storytelling Hero: Speaking for Powerful Communication https://amzn.eu/d/cCHObFU

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-14099652 Wed, 13 Dec 2023 09:00:00 +0000 2776 3 8 bonus false S03E07 Plot Twist! S03E07 Plot Twist! *Please note this episode mentions Sarah's journey with baby loss .  

We all remember those English lessons in primary school where we were told stories have a beginning middle and end! Very early in we were conditioned to believe that is how stories go! No wonder we are often shell shocked when we were hit by real life in or it’s messy and non linear glory!

This season we have enjoyed listening to genuine life stories and the common thread is that life is full of curveballs, and there isn’t really a linear or even clear path to follow. There are however joyous discoveries and innumerable gems to learn along the way.  

As we come to the season finale Sarah and Vangeya share a little bit more about their stories, particularly the plot twists that have left them reeling but were also catalysts for change and growth. So grab a cuppa and settle in for this season’s final look over the fence. 

Resources

1. Rebidahosa: quote regarding evolution of people beyond others’ depiction: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CwMihuesSNU/?igshid=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> *Please note this episode mentions Sarah's journey with baby loss .  

We all remember those English lessons in primary school where we were told stories have a beginning middle and end! Very early in we were conditioned to believe that is how stories go! No wonder we are often shell shocked when we were hit by real life in or it’s messy and non linear glory!

This season we have enjoyed listening to genuine life stories and the common thread is that life is full of curveballs, and there isn’t really a linear or even clear path to follow. There are however joyous discoveries and innumerable gems to learn along the way.  

As we come to the season finale Sarah and Vangeya share a little bit more about their stories, particularly the plot twists that have left them reeling but were also catalysts for change and growth. So grab a cuppa and settle in for this season’s final look over the fence. 

Resources

1. Rebidahosa: quote regarding evolution of people beyond others’ depiction: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CwMihuesSNU/?igshid=MTc4MmM1YmI2Ng==

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13819169 Sat, 21 Oct 2023 15:00:00 +0100 1877 3 7 full false S03E06 Leaving It All on the Track S03E06 Leaving It All on the Track In this the penultimate episode of the season we have yet another corker of a guest. We have been blown away by the wisdom, candour and experiences shared by all our guests and Tracey Duncan is no exception. 

Over a cuppa with us Tracey shared her story and quite frankly this episode is the definition of navigating expectation and reality!  

After a dramatic change of direction Tracey’s story is an inspiring tale of grit and drive to succeed despite the mother of all the curveballs.  We are treated to a glimpse of what it looks like to put aside the expected life and create a wonderful alternative from what is and not what we wish was.

We thoroughly enjoyed our evening with Tracey and know you will too, so for the final time this season, grab a cuppa, a friend, a notebook or all three!

Resources 

1. Simon Sinek: the Infinite game
2. Bernadette Russell: how to be hopeful

Find Tracey on Linked In to connect: bit.ly/traceyduncan


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> In this the penultimate episode of the season we have yet another corker of a guest. We have been blown away by the wisdom, candour and experiences shared by all our guests and Tracey Duncan is no exception. 

Over a cuppa with us Tracey shared her story and quite frankly this episode is the definition of navigating expectation and reality!  

After a dramatic change of direction Tracey’s story is an inspiring tale of grit and drive to succeed despite the mother of all the curveballs.  We are treated to a glimpse of what it looks like to put aside the expected life and create a wonderful alternative from what is and not what we wish was.

We thoroughly enjoyed our evening with Tracey and know you will too, so for the final time this season, grab a cuppa, a friend, a notebook or all three!

Resources 

1. Simon Sinek: the Infinite game
2. Bernadette Russell: how to be hopeful

Find Tracey on Linked In to connect: bit.ly/traceyduncan


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13793648 Tue, 17 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2767 3 6 full false S03E05 To all those on the outside looking in S03E05 To all those on the outside looking in Things are back to normal with Sarah and Vangeya reunited as we carry in this jam packed and insight filled season!

In this week’s episode Sarah and Vangeya introduce you to we Samuel Kasumu: politician, entrepreneur and the author.  

After the most rapid, not so rapid quick fire ever managed, we chat all things purpose and destiny and Sam shares from his personal experience and what lead to his resignation from No.10 and the premise behind his latest book the power of the outsider.

Resources

1. Exploring your why: reference to Simon Sinek’s work - Start with why -- how great leaders inspire action | Simon Sinek | TEDxPugetSoundYouTube · TEDx Talks29 Sept 2009

Some of the highlights

1. Purpose is more important than position
2. If you are an outsider it’s for a purpose
3. Authenticity is the goal
4. Bring your skills, your story, they are valid and valuable 

Sam’s info: 
1. Website: Samuel Kasumu: samuelkasumu.co.uk: 
2. Latest book: The Power of the Outsider

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Things are back to normal with Sarah and Vangeya reunited as we carry in this jam packed and insight filled season!

In this week’s episode Sarah and Vangeya introduce you to we Samuel Kasumu: politician, entrepreneur and the author.  

After the most rapid, not so rapid quick fire ever managed, we chat all things purpose and destiny and Sam shares from his personal experience and what lead to his resignation from No.10 and the premise behind his latest book the power of the outsider.

Resources

1. Exploring your why: reference to Simon Sinek’s work - Start with why -- how great leaders inspire action | Simon Sinek | TEDxPugetSoundYouTube · TEDx Talks29 Sept 2009

Some of the highlights

1. Purpose is more important than position
2. If you are an outsider it’s for a purpose
3. Authenticity is the goal
4. Bring your skills, your story, they are valid and valuable 

Sam’s info: 
1. Website: Samuel Kasumu: samuelkasumu.co.uk: 
2. Latest book: The Power of the Outsider

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13775922 Sat, 14 Oct 2023 13:00:00 +0100 2714 3 5 full false S03E04 Make Every Day Count - Part 2 S03E04 Make Every Day Count - Part 2 With no further adieu, We are back for part two! grab a cuppa, a friend, a notepad and settle in for part two of Claire and Vangeya’s conversation with the fabulous Caroline Harper Jantuah! 

This episode kicks off with a rounds of insightful questions in ‘Ask the Hosts’ before Caroline continues to share her pearls of wisdom and lessons learnt along her journey

1. Julia Cameron : The Artist’s Way
2. JackeeHolder: http://www.jackeeholder.com/
3. Work of Arnold J  Mandel
4. Maya Angelou- ‘Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better’
5. Quote- ‘Even though you did not make it to the end of my story, I will always  have the corner folded down on your page because it was one of my favourites.’ Anon

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> With no further adieu, We are back for part two! grab a cuppa, a friend, a notepad and settle in for part two of Claire and Vangeya’s conversation with the fabulous Caroline Harper Jantuah! 

This episode kicks off with a rounds of insightful questions in ‘Ask the Hosts’ before Caroline continues to share her pearls of wisdom and lessons learnt along her journey

1. Julia Cameron : The Artist’s Way
2. JackeeHolder: http://www.jackeeholder.com/
3. Work of Arnold J  Mandel
4. Maya Angelou- ‘Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better’
5. Quote- ‘Even though you did not make it to the end of my story, I will always  have the corner folded down on your page because it was one of my favourites.’ Anon

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13690265 Tue, 10 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2319 3 4 full false S03E03 - Making Each Day Count S03E03 - Making Each Day Count This week Vangeya is joined by a surprise co host! Together they introduce you this week’s fabulous guest. 

Buckle up for today’s episode where the waves of wisdom just keep coming.  From biochemist to coach, facilitator, jet setter meet Caroline Harper Jantuah. 

You could literally see the sparks fly between my surprise cohost and Caroline  as they both work in the people/change culture space. 

For over 3 decades Caroline has worked with individuals  as they seek to articulate and work toward their vision. More recently also becoming an Inclusion and diversity champion- working to bring about change to the internal workings of  organisations to make them more inclusive,  respectful and become organisations people are happy to work in.

Forget your cuppa, my advice is grab a note pad as we go over the fence with fascinating and brilliant human!


Resources 

1. John O’Donoghue

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> This week Vangeya is joined by a surprise co host! Together they introduce you this week’s fabulous guest. 

Buckle up for today’s episode where the waves of wisdom just keep coming.  From biochemist to coach, facilitator, jet setter meet Caroline Harper Jantuah. 

You could literally see the sparks fly between my surprise cohost and Caroline  as they both work in the people/change culture space. 

For over 3 decades Caroline has worked with individuals  as they seek to articulate and work toward their vision. More recently also becoming an Inclusion and diversity champion- working to bring about change to the internal workings of  organisations to make them more inclusive,  respectful and become organisations people are happy to work in.

Forget your cuppa, my advice is grab a note pad as we go over the fence with fascinating and brilliant human!


Resources 

1. John O’Donoghue

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13689732 Tue, 03 Oct 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2015 3 3 full false S03E02 - Decades in the Making S03E02 - Decades in the Making We are off! After last week’s intro - we are setting off at a gallop!  As billed we will be introducing you to several guests over the season. These are people we know and have journeyed with in some capacity, and they have kindly agreed to share their stories and lessons picked up along the way.

Our first guest whose energy, determination and refusal to let others dictate her course has been an inspiration to Vangeya over many, many years! A treasured  friend of the pod - meet Nish! 

We won’t give too much away in the notes, as you will hear it all first hand so settle in and enjoy!

Resources
1. Life begins at the end on your comfort zone- Neale Donald Walsch
2. Craig Groeschel - innovation happens at the end of your comfort zone: Leadership Podcast - Craig Groeschel
3. The yes theory- Yes Theory – Yes Theory

Nish’s info:
Nishadi Ranasinghe 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nishadi-ranasinghe

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> We are off! After last week’s intro - we are setting off at a gallop!  As billed we will be introducing you to several guests over the season. These are people we know and have journeyed with in some capacity, and they have kindly agreed to share their stories and lessons picked up along the way.

Our first guest whose energy, determination and refusal to let others dictate her course has been an inspiration to Vangeya over many, many years! A treasured  friend of the pod - meet Nish! 

We won’t give too much away in the notes, as you will hear it all first hand so settle in and enjoy!

Resources
1. Life begins at the end on your comfort zone- Neale Donald Walsch
2. Craig Groeschel - innovation happens at the end of your comfort zone: Leadership Podcast - Craig Groeschel
3. The yes theory- Yes Theory – Yes Theory

Nish’s info:
Nishadi Ranasinghe 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nishadi-ranasinghe

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13516041 Tue, 26 Sep 2023 09:00:00 +0100 3021 3 2 full false S03E01 - Finding Your Story S03E01 - Finding Your Story Finding your story

Refreshed from our summer break we are back for season three talking about something that is very close and data hearts.  We believe that everybody’s story is a valid and valuable and we want to delve into some stories of some guests that have inspired us and we know will inspire you.

In this episode Sarah and Vangeya introduce this season‘s theme : the power of story, and  how personal stories can influence and encourage others.  They both share the overarching lessons they have learned from their stories so far. and share their top lists learnt along the way and look at the power of story

This season is jam packed with guests who will be sharing their stories but Vangeya sets a  challenge to us all for the season to ‘find your story’ with the help of those around you.

We cannot wait to hear your stories along with those of our guests as we not only look at each other’s lives, but go over the fence and delve into the stories of our guests

Resources

1. Power of story: Tony Robbins https://www.tonyrobbins.com/career-business/the-power-of-story-peter-guber/
2. Robin Moore: Home (robin-moore.com)
3. Finding your why: Simon Sinek https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tF7YLGpOoz8

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Finding your story

Refreshed from our summer break we are back for season three talking about something that is very close and data hearts.  We believe that everybody’s story is a valid and valuable and we want to delve into some stories of some guests that have inspired us and we know will inspire you.

In this episode Sarah and Vangeya introduce this season‘s theme : the power of story, and  how personal stories can influence and encourage others.  They both share the overarching lessons they have learned from their stories so far. and share their top lists learnt along the way and look at the power of story

This season is jam packed with guests who will be sharing their stories but Vangeya sets a  challenge to us all for the season to ‘find your story’ with the help of those around you.

We cannot wait to hear your stories along with those of our guests as we not only look at each other’s lives, but go over the fence and delve into the stories of our guests

Resources

1. Power of story: Tony Robbins https://www.tonyrobbins.com/career-business/the-power-of-story-peter-guber/
2. Robin Moore: Home (robin-moore.com)
3. Finding your why: Simon Sinek https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tF7YLGpOoz8

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13408232 Tue, 19 Sep 2023 09:00:00 +0100 1537 3 1 full false We Leave You With This For Now - S02E06 We Leave You With This For Now - S02E06 Friends! We Have come to the end of another season. How has it gone by so quickly? (Panic you not! We are already planning for season 3!)

We have thoroughly enjoyed coming over the fence with you as we have looked at self-care. Our hope is that it is a less puzzling  and less daunting concept as we have talked about it and learned from each other. 

It is our greatest hope that your journey will continue and self care will cease to be a tick box exercised  but that the incremental small but crucial changes will mean that you are looking after yourselves that bit better and enabling yourselves to show up in all the spheres of your life, much more resilient and supported.

In this episode, seeing as it is the season finale, Sarah and Vangeya thought it would be a good idea to have a bit of a self-care check in.  To explore the areas where we still struggle, the wins that they have collected over the season, as well as the big takeaways. 

So we leave you with the biggest takeaway and what has been dubbed our manifesto: self care ( and life really) is all about self compassion. Figure out who you are and what works for you, and implement it, as often as you need to and remember- practice makes better!

We look forward to continuing the journey with you in season three, but until then  Keep looking after yourselves and keep in touch:

Insta / Tiktok / Facebook: @overthefencepod
Facebook secret group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/602065328690779/

Resources:

1. Self care as a weapon by Whitney Goodman : https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/healing-together/201907/when-self-care-becomes-weapon?amp
2. Part of the series on how stress affects health Elizabeth Scott: https://www.verywellmind.com/self-care-strategies-overall-stress-reduction-3144729
3. Brene Browne:  Atlas of the Heart

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Friends! We Have come to the end of another season. How has it gone by so quickly? (Panic you not! We are already planning for season 3!)

We have thoroughly enjoyed coming over the fence with you as we have looked at self-care. Our hope is that it is a less puzzling  and less daunting concept as we have talked about it and learned from each other. 

It is our greatest hope that your journey will continue and self care will cease to be a tick box exercised  but that the incremental small but crucial changes will mean that you are looking after yourselves that bit better and enabling yourselves to show up in all the spheres of your life, much more resilient and supported.

In this episode, seeing as it is the season finale, Sarah and Vangeya thought it would be a good idea to have a bit of a self-care check in.  To explore the areas where we still struggle, the wins that they have collected over the season, as well as the big takeaways. 

So we leave you with the biggest takeaway and what has been dubbed our manifesto: self care ( and life really) is all about self compassion. Figure out who you are and what works for you, and implement it, as often as you need to and remember- practice makes better!

We look forward to continuing the journey with you in season three, but until then  Keep looking after yourselves and keep in touch:

Insta / Tiktok / Facebook: @overthefencepod
Facebook secret group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/602065328690779/

Resources:

1. Self care as a weapon by Whitney Goodman : https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/healing-together/201907/when-self-care-becomes-weapon?amp
2. Part of the series on how stress affects health Elizabeth Scott: https://www.verywellmind.com/self-care-strategies-overall-stress-reduction-3144729
3. Brene Browne:  Atlas of the Heart

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13349243 Tue, 08 Aug 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2213 2 6 full false Avoiding the Overhaul - S02E05 Avoiding the Overhaul - S02E05 Friends, we have our second ever guest! The fabulous Claire Murphy joins the pod this week, to our great delight. 

This wonderfully insightful discussion with Claire centres around the fact that self care whilst difficult at the best of times is nearly impossible during curveball season and yet this is when it’s most crucial if a complete programe reset post burn out is to be avoided 

As always there were laughs had , genuine wisdom and practical steps shared, so listen in  and take note 

Resources 
1. Esther Perel 
2. Canadian Red Cross: psychological first aid pocket guide : https://www.globalfirstaidcentre.org/resource/psychological-first-aid-pocket-guide/

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Friends, we have our second ever guest! The fabulous Claire Murphy joins the pod this week, to our great delight. 

This wonderfully insightful discussion with Claire centres around the fact that self care whilst difficult at the best of times is nearly impossible during curveball season and yet this is when it’s most crucial if a complete programe reset post burn out is to be avoided 

As always there were laughs had , genuine wisdom and practical steps shared, so listen in  and take note 

Resources 
1. Esther Perel 
2. Canadian Red Cross: psychological first aid pocket guide : https://www.globalfirstaidcentre.org/resource/psychological-first-aid-pocket-guide/

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13312159 Tue, 01 Aug 2023 09:00:00 +0100 3251 2 5 full false Our Manifesto is Born- S02E04 Our Manifesto is Born- S02E04 Our manifesto is born

The episode kicks off with a spectacular Segway, a throwaway comment by Sarah that very much fits with the theme of internal rhetoric gets Vangeya very excited.   The episide is all about this internal monologue or story that we have on repeat running around in the background.  Like a master computer programme it affects everything from our decision making to how we feel about ourselves. 

But if it’s in our hardware, how do we recognise it?  More importantly can we change it?  From neuroscience to our own experience we look at how to manage these insidious thoughts. As always expect nothing but real raw vulnerability as Sarah and Vangeya describe some of the rhetoric they are working at changing and what seems to be working:

1. Recognising when you are out of control 
2. Learning when not to act, enter the urge surfing 
3. Don’t rush your process
4. Know what you need (the aforementioned manifesto)

Resources
1. Link to laboratory of neuro imaging - quote about 70,000 thoughts
2. Rachelle Indra (@coachrachelleindra) Lucky girl syndrome explained with neuroscience 
3. Prentice Emphill on boundaries: https://byrepose.com/journal/2022/1/18/setting-boundaries-what-does-that-really-mean#:~:text=Clear%20boundaries%20are%20defined%20beautifully,prerequisite%20for%20connection%20with%20others.
4. Links to 47.2 episode and bonus episode

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Our manifesto is born

The episode kicks off with a spectacular Segway, a throwaway comment by Sarah that very much fits with the theme of internal rhetoric gets Vangeya very excited.   The episide is all about this internal monologue or story that we have on repeat running around in the background.  Like a master computer programme it affects everything from our decision making to how we feel about ourselves. 

But if it’s in our hardware, how do we recognise it?  More importantly can we change it?  From neuroscience to our own experience we look at how to manage these insidious thoughts. As always expect nothing but real raw vulnerability as Sarah and Vangeya describe some of the rhetoric they are working at changing and what seems to be working:

1. Recognising when you are out of control 
2. Learning when not to act, enter the urge surfing 
3. Don’t rush your process
4. Know what you need (the aforementioned manifesto)

Resources
1. Link to laboratory of neuro imaging - quote about 70,000 thoughts
2. Rachelle Indra (@coachrachelleindra) Lucky girl syndrome explained with neuroscience 
3. Prentice Emphill on boundaries: https://byrepose.com/journal/2022/1/18/setting-boundaries-what-does-that-really-mean#:~:text=Clear%20boundaries%20are%20defined%20beautifully,prerequisite%20for%20connection%20with%20others.
4. Links to 47.2 episode and bonus episode

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13278719 Tue, 25 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2880 2 4 full false Real Self Care Doesn't Start with a Bubble Bath! S02 E03 Real Self Care Doesn't Start with a Bubble Bath! S02 E03 Real self care doesn’t start with a bubble bath!!

Calling all recovering people pleasers! in this weeks episode we look at authentic self care, what it really requires and some practical things to implement.  For all you self-confessed recovering people pleaser who find themselves overburdened and trying desperately to detach from the guilt and internal struggle that hits when you find the courage to say “no” - we hear you and this week’s episode is for you. 

Sarah snd Vangeya delve into the very real reality of having to constantly rebuild the fences around boundaries set time and time again, looking at how best to ensure that you can be who you are who, whilst being joyful, enabled to thrive and flourish so that you can show up as your best self you and therefore be able give to the measure that you are able. 

We are sure there are lots more helpful hints to achieve  this but during our conversation we landed on these as a start:

1. Know yourself 
2. Taking the fear away
3. Fence building- reinforcing the boundaries  not just with others but ourselves too
4. Honest conversation 
5. Allow for forgiveness/ compassion
6. Stop the joy robbers 
7. Give to the measure you can not to the expectation 

Resources 
1. Kobe Campbell on boundaries starting with identifying your needs and the environments in which those needs can be met: on ‘In the light’ https://open.spotify.com/episode/1go2k01znDikD1RtvxdgXL?si=9YjFKWllQ0SV7f-au_UK5Q
2. Extrovert/introvert explained: Simon Sinek https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ozSjZ6iRKSA

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Real self care doesn’t start with a bubble bath!!

Calling all recovering people pleasers! in this weeks episode we look at authentic self care, what it really requires and some practical things to implement.  For all you self-confessed recovering people pleaser who find themselves overburdened and trying desperately to detach from the guilt and internal struggle that hits when you find the courage to say “no” - we hear you and this week’s episode is for you. 

Sarah snd Vangeya delve into the very real reality of having to constantly rebuild the fences around boundaries set time and time again, looking at how best to ensure that you can be who you are who, whilst being joyful, enabled to thrive and flourish so that you can show up as your best self you and therefore be able give to the measure that you are able. 

We are sure there are lots more helpful hints to achieve  this but during our conversation we landed on these as a start:

1. Know yourself 
2. Taking the fear away
3. Fence building- reinforcing the boundaries  not just with others but ourselves too
4. Honest conversation 
5. Allow for forgiveness/ compassion
6. Stop the joy robbers 
7. Give to the measure you can not to the expectation 

Resources 
1. Kobe Campbell on boundaries starting with identifying your needs and the environments in which those needs can be met: on ‘In the light’ https://open.spotify.com/episode/1go2k01znDikD1RtvxdgXL?si=9YjFKWllQ0SV7f-au_UK5Q
2. Extrovert/introvert explained: Simon Sinek https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ozSjZ6iRKSA

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13230874 Tue, 18 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2673 2 3 full false The Fruit Beneath Your Feet, Guest: Olga THOMPSON - S02E02 The Fruit Beneath Your Feet, Guest: Olga THOMPSON - S02E02 Show notes: 202
The fruit beneath your feet with Olga Thompson

The pod has the first of our wonderful guests! Introducing the talented, hilarious, wise and all round fabulous Olga Thompson!

This episode could have been 3 times as long as it is, as Olga attempted to rename self care and gave really helpful practical tips to bring it down to a manageable level. The tea and wisdom were most definitely flowing, culminating in the prescription for self care arrived at being a combination of:

1. There is lots of unlearning to do
2. It is crucial that we give ourselves permission to stop and do what we need/want in a moment of need 
3. Be gentle with yourself 
4. Never compare
5. Stay in your lane and concentrate on your journey 

Follow Olga @olga.thompson and @big_fat_greekmother

We had so much fun and learned lots so we will definitely have to have Olga back for another cuppa and natter over the fence in the near future.


Resources

1. Brene Brown -the power of naming emotions: https://www.npr.org/2021/12/23/1067479092/brene-brown-on-the-power-of-naming-our-emotions
2. Brené Brown appearance on Unlocking Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eyj6AUWzB1YgON2QVLMY5?si=mNKV7T-RSV-fHKn8DP9R1g

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Show notes: 202
The fruit beneath your feet with Olga Thompson

The pod has the first of our wonderful guests! Introducing the talented, hilarious, wise and all round fabulous Olga Thompson!

This episode could have been 3 times as long as it is, as Olga attempted to rename self care and gave really helpful practical tips to bring it down to a manageable level. The tea and wisdom were most definitely flowing, culminating in the prescription for self care arrived at being a combination of:

1. There is lots of unlearning to do
2. It is crucial that we give ourselves permission to stop and do what we need/want in a moment of need 
3. Be gentle with yourself 
4. Never compare
5. Stay in your lane and concentrate on your journey 

Follow Olga @olga.thompson and @big_fat_greekmother

We had so much fun and learned lots so we will definitely have to have Olga back for another cuppa and natter over the fence in the near future.


Resources

1. Brene Brown -the power of naming emotions: https://www.npr.org/2021/12/23/1067479092/brene-brown-on-the-power-of-naming-our-emotions
2. Brené Brown appearance on Unlocking Us: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eyj6AUWzB1YgON2QVLMY5?si=mNKV7T-RSV-fHKn8DP9R1g

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13142976 Tue, 11 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2193 2 2 full false Being Your Own Friend - S02E01 Being Your Own Friend - S02E01
Season 2 already! how did we get here?  Like always life seems to keep whizzing by and we all sometimes wish we could slow down, pause and have time for ,,,,some self care!  Yes it is crucial but who has the time?  And is it a tad self indulgent isn't it?  Sarah and Vangeya discuss all this asking whether it is possible to live a life that adds value -giving selflessly but not to out own detriment. 

Whilst there is no easy answer , your host discuss whether a good place to start is talking to ourselves as we would to a friend - allowing ourselves time, rest and to do the best we can with the time and resources rather than pushing for a standard that is too costly and takes a toll on our minds and bodies.

Amongst the serious chat there are of course the usual high jinks and giggle as 'How the other half live'  makes a glorious return!  It is fabulous to be back, cuppas at the ready!

Resources:

  1. Alex Howard : personality types and self care



Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

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Season 2 already! how did we get here?  Like always life seems to keep whizzing by and we all sometimes wish we could slow down, pause and have time for ,,,,some self care!  Yes it is crucial but who has the time?  And is it a tad self indulgent isn't it?  Sarah and Vangeya discuss all this asking whether it is possible to live a life that adds value -giving selflessly but not to out own detriment. 

Whilst there is no easy answer , your host discuss whether a good place to start is talking to ourselves as we would to a friend - allowing ourselves time, rest and to do the best we can with the time and resources rather than pushing for a standard that is too costly and takes a toll on our minds and bodies.

Amongst the serious chat there are of course the usual high jinks and giggle as 'How the other half live'  makes a glorious return!  It is fabulous to be back, cuppas at the ready!

Resources:

  1. Alex Howard : personality types and self care



Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13142641 Tue, 04 Jul 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2539 2 1 full false The Art of Conversation S01 Bonus Episode The Art of Conversation S01 Bonus Episode This episode is special for two reasons. Firstly it came about organically in the throes of season one and secondly, people got in touch and said they would love to hear this episode. So what started off as a quip about the need for lessons in  the art of conversation is now a season 1 bonus episode!   So thank your fellow listeners!

In this episode Vangeya and Sarah talk about how to respond when those awkward shots are seemingly fired, but also how to recover when you are the protagonist of the problem.  When you find yourself having at best made the conversation awkward and at worst potentially hurt someone with a loaded question or comment. 

Settle in for some top drawer hints and tips as your hosts share candidly from their experiences of being on both sides of the fence when it comes to tricky conversations.

Resources 
1. Brene Brown- not everyone deserves your story: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=s8Pp7QB6GrE
2. Catherine Blythe :The art of conversation 
3. Patrick King : Better Small Talk

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> This episode is special for two reasons. Firstly it came about organically in the throes of season one and secondly, people got in touch and said they would love to hear this episode. So what started off as a quip about the need for lessons in  the art of conversation is now a season 1 bonus episode!   So thank your fellow listeners!

In this episode Vangeya and Sarah talk about how to respond when those awkward shots are seemingly fired, but also how to recover when you are the protagonist of the problem.  When you find yourself having at best made the conversation awkward and at worst potentially hurt someone with a loaded question or comment. 

Settle in for some top drawer hints and tips as your hosts share candidly from their experiences of being on both sides of the fence when it comes to tricky conversations.

Resources 
1. Brene Brown- not everyone deserves your story: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=s8Pp7QB6GrE
2. Catherine Blythe :The art of conversation 
3. Patrick King : Better Small Talk

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-13046928 Tue, 20 Jun 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2037 1 7 full false Muddling through to Clarity Muddling through to Clarity Your hosts inadvertently create their brand in this episode : muddling through to clarity. Not at all the oxymoron it first appears to be or maybe it is, but they own it. 

This episode focuses on community-  the difficulties when trying to build it and striving to belong. Ultimately what happens when you finally get there, only to find, it’s not all you imagined. 

Once again, the expectation and reality do not match and Sarah and Vangeya are ever ready to share their experiences of navigating that the sometimes choppy waters of living in community.  In this instance how they have arrived at a place where they advise that the best way is to take the masks off, having the hard conversations and sticking together sore spots, pinch points and all! 

Resources

1. We’re all in this together- high school musical cast, high school musical original soundtrack 
2. Over the fence pod private group- come join the fun: https://www.facebook.com/groups/602065328690779

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Your hosts inadvertently create their brand in this episode : muddling through to clarity. Not at all the oxymoron it first appears to be or maybe it is, but they own it. 

This episode focuses on community-  the difficulties when trying to build it and striving to belong. Ultimately what happens when you finally get there, only to find, it’s not all you imagined. 

Once again, the expectation and reality do not match and Sarah and Vangeya are ever ready to share their experiences of navigating that the sometimes choppy waters of living in community.  In this instance how they have arrived at a place where they advise that the best way is to take the masks off, having the hard conversations and sticking together sore spots, pinch points and all! 

Resources

1. We’re all in this together- high school musical cast, high school musical original soundtrack 
2. Over the fence pod private group- come join the fun: https://www.facebook.com/groups/602065328690779

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-12902783 Tue, 30 May 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2139 1 6 full false What We Know So Far What We Know So Far In this jampacked episode Sarah and Vangeya, reflect fondly on the time before life’s delightful curve balls started coming in hot, but also celebrate learning to pívot and flex fully under pressure. 

From the inception of the pod your hosts have been keen not just to acknowledge how tough adulting can be but also to share what they have picked up along the way that may resonate and clarify things for you. Buckle up as some lessons shared may surprise you.

What we know so far:

1. Live in the moment
2. Mourning is essential 
3. You don’t move on from grief
4. You are sometimes the villain 
5. There isn’t always a happy ending

As always amid the tough truths are some absolute comedic gems so grab your cuppa and listen in!

Resources
1. Wintering by Katherine May
2. Ted talk: Moving on with grief Nora Mcinerny: https://youtu.be/khkJkR-ipfw


References:
1. All I know so far- Pink
2. Winnie the Pooh AA Milne
3. Walt Disney Company films- Frozen, Brave, Moana, Encanto and Toy Story 
4. The Dark Knight Trilogy-  written by Jonathan Nolan, Chris Nolan and David S Goyer

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> In this jampacked episode Sarah and Vangeya, reflect fondly on the time before life’s delightful curve balls started coming in hot, but also celebrate learning to pívot and flex fully under pressure. 

From the inception of the pod your hosts have been keen not just to acknowledge how tough adulting can be but also to share what they have picked up along the way that may resonate and clarify things for you. Buckle up as some lessons shared may surprise you.

What we know so far:

1. Live in the moment
2. Mourning is essential 
3. You don’t move on from grief
4. You are sometimes the villain 
5. There isn’t always a happy ending

As always amid the tough truths are some absolute comedic gems so grab your cuppa and listen in!

Resources
1. Wintering by Katherine May
2. Ted talk: Moving on with grief Nora Mcinerny: https://youtu.be/khkJkR-ipfw


References:
1. All I know so far- Pink
2. Winnie the Pooh AA Milne
3. Walt Disney Company films- Frozen, Brave, Moana, Encanto and Toy Story 
4. The Dark Knight Trilogy-  written by Jonathan Nolan, Chris Nolan and David S Goyer

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-12873476 Tue, 23 May 2023 09:00:00 +0100 1958 1 5 full false How the Other Half Live How the Other Half Live Amidst the usual witty banter you have come to expect of your hosts a segment is born! 

Sarah and Vangeya discuss the big stuff from identity to the perceived perils of solo travel. 
They deep dive into some major topics from over the fence, dispelling myths and correcting some misconceptions. 

As usual your hosts are honest and valunerable, sharing candid truths from their lives, so as always grab a cuppa and listen in!

P.S. if anyone is curious about Vangeya's comment at the end, she was not praising her co host but her lovely youngest who sat in on our recording sess!

Resource:
Brene Brown- the gifts of imperfection

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Amidst the usual witty banter you have come to expect of your hosts a segment is born! 

Sarah and Vangeya discuss the big stuff from identity to the perceived perils of solo travel. 
They deep dive into some major topics from over the fence, dispelling myths and correcting some misconceptions. 

As usual your hosts are honest and valunerable, sharing candid truths from their lives, so as always grab a cuppa and listen in!

P.S. if anyone is curious about Vangeya's comment at the end, she was not praising her co host but her lovely youngest who sat in on our recording sess!

Resource:
Brene Brown- the gifts of imperfection

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-12854248 Mon, 15 May 2023 21:00:00 +0100 2233 1 4 full false Minding the Gap Minding the Gap The aim of this week’s episode is provide tools and resources to draw on when you find yourself very much in the hard, sad and  stressful moments when you are acutely aware you are a ‘happy dweller’ in those moments where you are losing the battle- trying to live well in the reality that is a million miles away from the expectation, and quite frankly, the desires you had for your life. From 'urge surfing' to actions we take that you may find helpful so, come over the fence as we share our experiences and some of our little hacks that help restore calm and enable us to manage the gap well.


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> The aim of this week’s episode is provide tools and resources to draw on when you find yourself very much in the hard, sad and  stressful moments when you are acutely aware you are a ‘happy dweller’ in those moments where you are losing the battle- trying to live well in the reality that is a million miles away from the expectation, and quite frankly, the desires you had for your life. From 'urge surfing' to actions we take that you may find helpful so, come over the fence as we share our experiences and some of our little hacks that help restore calm and enable us to manage the gap well.


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Buzzsprout-12691334 Tue, 09 May 2023 09:00:00 +0100 1975 1 3 full false Watch out for 47.2 years old Watch out for 47.2 years old Life can be stressful and no more so than in your 40s apparently. Extensive research shows this is very much the time people feel the squeeze- with pressure from all angles. Gone are the carefree days of your youthful 20s and there is pressure at home and work where you still have something to prove.  If you are a parent, you are raising  young children as well as now starting to take on more wider family responsibilities.  This week we dive into the research around why your 40s are the toughest decade. so grab a cuppa and possibly some tissues as we try to find some comfort and some gems in the season

Resources

‘Research says that your 40s are you on happiest age’ 
Guardian 22 August 2022 by Sophie Brickman

https://amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/aug/22/research-says-that-your-40s-are-your-unhappiest-age-its-worse-for-millennials

Academic paper, The Midlife Dip in Well-being: A Critique by Carol, Graham and Danny Blanchflower 

Feel the fear do it anyway by Susan Jeffers

The middlescence manifesto: igniting the passion of midlife Barbara Waxman 




Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Life can be stressful and no more so than in your 40s apparently. Extensive research shows this is very much the time people feel the squeeze- with pressure from all angles. Gone are the carefree days of your youthful 20s and there is pressure at home and work where you still have something to prove.  If you are a parent, you are raising  young children as well as now starting to take on more wider family responsibilities.  This week we dive into the research around why your 40s are the toughest decade. so grab a cuppa and possibly some tissues as we try to find some comfort and some gems in the season

Resources

‘Research says that your 40s are you on happiest age’ 
Guardian 22 August 2022 by Sophie Brickman

https://amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/aug/22/research-says-that-your-40s-are-your-unhappiest-age-its-worse-for-millennials

Academic paper, The Midlife Dip in Well-being: A Critique by Carol, Graham and Danny Blanchflower 

Feel the fear do it anyway by Susan Jeffers

The middlescence manifesto: igniting the passion of midlife Barbara Waxman 




Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Buzzsprout-12691217 Tue, 02 May 2023 09:00:00 +0100 2065 1 2 full false Questionable grammar, and Insta -famous dogs Questionable grammar, and Insta -famous dogs In episode one, your hosts introduce themselves to you amongst the least quick fire round of getting to know you, grammar quandaries, and a healthy dose of laughter. This episode is also sprinkled with snippets of their life stories, so, pull up a pew and make a cuppa or take them with you on your commute or errand run. Either way, you are invited to dive into the joy, mess and beautiful complexity of  your hosts’ lives and different (but similar) experiences!


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> In episode one, your hosts introduce themselves to you amongst the least quick fire round of getting to know you, grammar quandaries, and a healthy dose of laughter. This episode is also sprinkled with snippets of their life stories, so, pull up a pew and make a cuppa or take them with you on your commute or errand run. Either way, you are invited to dive into the joy, mess and beautiful complexity of  your hosts’ lives and different (but similar) experiences!


Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson

]]> Over the Fence Buzzsprout-12677989 Tue, 25 Apr 2023 09:00:00 +0100 1852 1 1 full false