The Happiest Lives Podcast

E140: Why We Keep Missing Each Other (Attunement & Why It Matters)

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0600

Why does connection break down even when there’s love, effort, and commitment?

In this first episode of a brand-new series, Why We Keep Missing Each Other, we’re talking about emotional attunement—what it is, why it matters so much, and why missing it hurts more than we expect.

This episode lays the foundation for the series. We explore why connection doesn’t stay steady just because people care or are trying, how fear and protection quietly get in the way, and why attunement isn’t a solution or a technique—but a posture of staying emotionally engaged.

You’ll hear real-life examples of how misattunement shows up in everyday relationships, why pushing or pulling away makes sense when connection feels uncertain, and how understanding what’s happening underneath can bring clarity and relief.

If you’ve ever felt unseen, disconnected, or confused about why things feel off—even when nothing is “wrong”—this episode will help you make sense of it.

This conversation sets the stage for the rest of the series, where we’ll talk about why forcing connection backfires and how to stay emotionally present without pressure or withdrawal.

You can also download a free attunement checklist to use when things feel tense or off at myhappyvault.com/attunement.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E139: When Love Interrupts Your Life

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

*Get your free guide, 3 Ways of Relating When Love Feels Uncertain at www.myhappyvault.com/uncertain

Love doesn’t usually show up when it’s convenient.

More often, it interrupts us—our plans, our preferences, our comfort.

In this final episode of the series How to Love Without Losing Your Real Self, we explore what it looks like to love well in the ordinary moments where life asks us to pause, adjust, and trust God with what feels costly.

We talk about:

Why interruption presses on our patience, trust, and preferences
How love often requires the surrender of our small, self-protective ways—without costing us our God-given self
The difference between availability and overgiving
How comfort, customization, and “my way” quietly shape us
And how God uses everyday interruptions to form Christ in us

This episode is an invitation to loosen your grip, stay connected to the source of love within you, and notice the small moments where God may be inviting you to lay something down—and receive something deeper in return.

Love may cost us comfort and control.

But it leads us more fully into who God says we already are.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E138: When Love Becomes Harm: Mercy Without Enabling

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

*Get your free guide, 3 Ways of Relating When Love Feels Uncertain at www.myhappyvault.com/uncertain

This is part three of the series, Loving Without Losing Your Real Self.

In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I’m talking with Julie Perkin Stout Davenport, author of Secrets in the Sanctuary.

Julie was my pastor’s wife when I was in high school, and I watched her walk through betrayal in her marriage.

In this conversation, Julie shares what was really happening behind the scenes, why it was so hard to speak up, and how Scripture can be used in confusing or harmful ways when relationships aren’t healthy.

We discuss the distinction between mercy and enabling, what kind of support actually helps, and what the church often overlooks when it comes to betrayal and harm.

If your relationship feels confusing, heavy, or unsafe—or if you’re trying to support someone you love—this episode will meet you right where you are.

You can find Julie’s book Secrets in the Sanctuary at julieedavenport.com.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E137: Minister or Martyr? Learning the Difference

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

*Get your free guide, 3 Ways of Relating When Love Feels Uncertain at www.myhappyvault.com/uncertain

In part two of our series, Loving Without Losing Your Real Self, we look at a pattern many of us fall into without noticing: serving from a place of fear, pressure, or over-responsibility. On the outside, it looks like love… but inside, it feels heavy and resentful.

In this episode, we explore the difference between ministering (showing up as the grounded, Spirit-led woman God formed you to be) and martyring (losing yourself in the name of keeping the peace). We talk about how the false self drives both over-involvement and avoidance, how people-pleasing differs from true self-denial, and why some of us feel responsible for things God never asked us to carry.

You’ll also hear practical and compassionate insight for those in harder relationships—places where someone’s behavior is genuinely harmful—and why loving well does not mean tolerating damage to your heart or home.

If you’ve ever wondered where healthy sacrifice ends and self-erasure begins, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a way back to your real, Jesus-anchored self.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E136: When Loving Feels Lopsided

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

This is Episode One in a brand-new series called Loving Without Losing Your Real Self — a series all about learning how to love the people in your life without disappearing, over-functioning, or drifting into resentment.

And today, we’re starting with something almost every woman has felt:

when a relationship feels lopsided.

Maybe you’re the one who initiates.

Maybe you carry the emotional weight.

Maybe you’re always the one reaching out, inviting, or trying to keep things going.

And somewhere inside you wonder:

Is this about me? About them? Are we just wired differently?

And how do I love well here without losing myself?

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

why we long for mutuality in our relationships
how our hearts react when love feels unbalanced
the difference between honoring someone’s wiring and expecting sameness
the shift from scorekeeping to Spirit-led willingness
how humility can soften your posture without asking you to do all the work

You’ll also get a handful of gentle reflection questions to help you look honestly at one relationship in your life that feels uneven right now — and if you want support applying what you’re learning each month, I’ll share how Clarity + Courage can help you build a steady rhythm of growth that fits your real life.

If you’ve ever wondered how to love deeply without abandoning yourself, this episode will meet you right where you are and help you begin that journey with clarity, compassion, and the steady presence of Jesus.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E135: When God Uses Unhappiness

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

*Grab your FREE Heart Scan printable at myhappyvault.com/heartscan, and listen in as we close this series with hope.

We’re wrapping up our Happiness & Unhappiness- Finding Jesus In The 50/50 series by stepping into the part we tend to avoid—how God uses unhappiness to shape us. If you’ve ever wondered why certain seasons feel so heavy or why your emotions seem “off,” this episode will help you see those moments through a completely different lens.

We’re opening Hebrews to see how God formed Jesus through suffering—yes, Jesus—and why that matters for your own formation. I’ll walk you through seven surprising ways God grows you through disappointment, resistance, and grief… and how the Heart Scan can help you meet Him right in the middle of it all.

If you’re carrying something hard right now, this conversation will help you breathe again and remember: unhappiness isn’t a failure. It’s often the doorway to deeper intimacy with Christ.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E134: Emotional Courage

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

* Make sure you grab your FREE Printable The Heart Scan Framework to tuck in your Bible or journal at www.myhappyvault.com/heartscan.

In part three of Happiness & Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50/50, we’re talking about emotional courage—the strength to face what we feel instead of running from it.

Most of us aren’t actually afraid of the emotion; we’re afraid of the story our mind attaches to it. In this episode, Jill unpacks why unhappiness feels threatening, why emotions sometimes overwhelm us, and how the Israelites became “discouraged because of the trials of the way.”

You’ll hear a personal moment when Jill felt emotionally flooded—and how that reaction became an invitation to pause, uncover the thoughts underneath, and practice emotional courage with Jesus.

She also walks through the Heart Scan and FEEL Method so you can process emotions like anxiety with honesty, Scripture, and grace. And you’ll leave with a simple 90-second practice you can use every day.

If you’ve been avoiding your feelings or fearing what they’ll do to you, this episode will help you slow down, get honest, and meet Jesus in the middle of it.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E133: Happiness On Purpose

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

This is the second episode in the series Happiness and Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50-50. Life will always hold both joy and sorrow—but happiness doesn’t happen by chance. It’s something we build through habits, perspective, and practices that make room for the Holy Spirit to flow through us.

In this episode, Jill shares the three movements of a happy soul—delight in the Lord, contentment in Christ, and purpose in love. You’ll learn how to cultivate joy in the middle of ordinary days, how gratitude rewires your brain for peace, and how to find meaning even when life feels full.

Happiness isn’t about escaping the hard parts of life—it’s about finding Jesus in the middle of them.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E132: Happiness & Unhappiness

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

This is the beginning of a new series—Happiness and Unhappiness- Finding Jesus in the 50/50.

Life is both. We often think happiness means the absence of unhappiness, but what if they’re two separate tracks we walk at the same time? In this episode, we’ll talk about how joy and sorrow can coexist, why unhappiness isn’t a sign that something’s gone wrong, and how learning to hold both can lead to a deeper kind of peace.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E131: From Listening to Living- Pressing On In The Spirit

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

This is the final episode in the series The Listening Life: How to Hear God’s Voice. Over the last few weeks we’ve learned to slow down, turn on the lights, and make space to hear from God. But how do we carry that into the messy middle of our real lives? In this episode, I’ll share how a couple learned to lay down heavy burdens in prayer, how waiting with longing can actually bind our hearts to God, and why faith always shows up in action.

Get your FREE guide 45-Minute Morning Meeting With The Holy Spirit

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E130: Turning On The Lights

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

Have you ever sat down with God feeling heavy, distracted, or unsure where to start—and walked away renewed? In this episode, I share exactly what happened during a 45-minute meeting with the Holy Spirit. I came with aches, longings, and discouragement, but God met me with truth, shifted my perspective, and reminded me that what feels dormant is not dead.

We’ll talk about why we resist honesty, how repentance is really about redirection—not guilt—and how His Word brings the light that changes everything. If you’re ready for clarity and renewal, this conversation will show you how to come as you are and leave transformed.

👉 Grab the free printable guide to the 45-minute Morning Meeting with the Holy Spirit at myhappyvault.com/morningmeeting.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E129: Your 45 Minute-Meeting With The Holy Spirit

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

Have you ever sat down for quiet time and walked away feeling like you just checked a box — but didn’t really connect with God? You’re not alone.

In this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I share a practical, 45-minute structure you can use to turn your quiet time into an intentional meeting with the Holy Spirit. This simple nine-step rhythm will help you worship, process your thoughts, engage with Scripture, and walk away with clarity, peace, and a renewed sense of God’s presence.

And to make it even easier, I’ve created a free printable guide you can download and use during your own quiet time. Grab your copy at myhappyvault.com/morningmeeting and try this practice for yourself.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E128: The Listening Life: How To Hear God's Voice

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

Have you ever wondered if you’re really hearing God’s voice—or just your own thoughts? In this first episode of The Listening Life series, Jill Lillard unpacks what it means to live attuned to God’s presence and guided by His Spirit. Through the “one thing” thread woven across Scripture—David’s desire for God’s presence, Mary’s attentiveness, the rich young ruler’s call to surrender, and Paul’s focus—you’ll see how the listening life is about centering everything on Him. Jill also shares how the Holy Spirit teaches, reminds, gives wisdom, and brings Scripture to life, making God’s voice a living reality in your everyday. If you’ve longed to hear Him more clearly, this episode will encourage you to quiet the many things and return to the One who is always speaking.

Get your FREE guide 45-Minute Morning Meeting With The Holy Spirit

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E127: Receiving Correction Without Falling Apart

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is the final episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

Over the past five weeks, we’ve looked at what it means to offer correction in a way that reflects the heart of God—truthful, loving, and wise. But today we’re flipping the perspective. What does it look like to receive correction without spiraling into shame, defensiveness, or fear?

In this episode, Jill unpacks what Scripture says about feedback, why our bodies and minds react the way they do, and how to stay calm and grounded when correction comes. You’ll discover a simple four-part framework to process feedback with grace, curiosity, and resilience.

Correction doesn’t have to crush you—it can shape you. Tune in to learn how to welcome feedback as an invitation to grow in wisdom, maturity, and deeper trust in Christ.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E126: Giving Correction Without Playing God

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is part four in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

Correction isn’t easy—and when we step into it, it’s tempting to slip into the role of “fixer,” as if it’s our job to make someone else change. But scripture reminds us that’s not our role. We are called to speak the truth in love, with gentleness and humility, while entrusting the outcome to God.

In this episode, Jill unpacks:

Why posture matters more than having the perfect words
The dangers of superiority, anger, shame, and control in correction
How humility and prayer prepare us to speak safely
Practical ways correction can happen—words, observations, questions, or boundaries
What it looks like to release the outcome and trust God with the growth

Correction isn’t about playing God—it’s about love that restores, truth that sets free, and trust in the One who changes hearts.

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E125: When To Speak & When To Let Love Cover It

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is the third episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

In this conversation, Jill explores one of the most important skills for healthy, godly relationships: discernment. How do you know when to speak up and when to let love quietly cover an offense? Both can be acts of love. Both can protect trust. Both can honor God. But knowing which response to choose in the moment takes wisdom.

Drawing from Scripture, Jill unpacks examples of Shem and Japheth covering their father Noah’s shame, and Paul confronting the Corinthian church over ongoing sin. These show two very different ways love can operate—sometimes by protecting dignity, other times by bringing sin into the light.

You’ll also learn a step-by-step discernment process that includes slowing down, praying, journaling, checking your heart posture, and preparing your words. Jill explains how to keep your response Spirit-led rather than reaction-driven, so you can walk in both truth and love.

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E124: Who Am I To Say Something?

Fri, 10 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is Part Two of the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected.

When you see something that feels wrong, do you speak up—or stay silent? In this episode, we ask: Who am I to say something?

We’ll explore why correction matters, what it can look like in everyday life, and the real reasons we often hold back—fear of man, not wanting to seem judgmental, cultural individualism, misguided views of grace, and the discomfort of confrontation. With examples from marriage, friendship, parenting, and church leadership, plus a biblical story of loving correction, you’ll see why discernment—not constant confrontation—is key to keeping relationships real, rooted in truth, and grounded in love.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E123: Truth in Love- Courage to Correct & Be Corrected

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

We’re kicking off a new series called Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. In this episode, we take a fresh look at what correction really is—not punishment, but an invitation. Not shame, but love. You’ll learn how God uses correction to shape us, not reject us—and why we so often resist it. I’ll share a personal story about how one letter from my mom became a turning point in my spiritual walk, and we’ll explore why biblical correction is one of the most powerful tools for growth in our relationships and in our walk with God.

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E122: Exhausted, Edgy & Numb- What Your Nervous System Is Telling You

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500

If you’ve been feeling anxious, burnt out, emotionally flat, or just off—this episode is for you. In the final installment of our Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit series, I’m joined by certified Christian health practitioner Cristal DuBois to explore the fascinating connection between your nervous system, adrenal health, and spiritual well-being.

Cristal brings wisdom and compassion as she explains why so many women feel stuck in survival mode, even when they’re doing “all the right things.” We talk about polyvagal theory, the role of the vagus nerve, what adrenal fatigue really is, and why healing often starts with slowing down. You’ll also hear how simple spiritual rhythms like Sabbath, prayer, and worship aren’t just good for the soul—they’re powerful tools for nervous system regulation.

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t feel joy, connect deeply with God, or shake off the fog—this conversation will give you language, hope, and next steps.

💛 Learn more or work with Cristal at cristaldawnwellness.com

And if you missed any episodes in this nine-part series, start back at Episode 114. We’ve covered nutrition, brain health, hormones, mental wellness, and how the Holy Spirit meets us in it all.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E121: Desire+Drive

Fri, 19 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is the eighth episode in our Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit series, where we’re exploring what it really means to live with joy—emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Today we’re talking about desire and drive. God created you with longings—for meaning, connection, and purpose—and the energy to move toward them. But what happens when that drive gets misdirected? When passion turns into pressure or hustle replaces peace?

We’ll look at four ways desire and drive can go off track, what Spirit-led ambition actually looks like, and ten practical ways to redirect your energy toward joy, fruitfulness, and freedom.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, scattered, or worn out, this episode will help you pause, realign, and move forward with grace.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E120: Mood & Menopause

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is the seventh in the series on Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit.

If you’ve been feeling more anxious, irritable, or just not like yourself, it could be connected to perimenopause or menopause. In this episode, Jill talks with Dawn Valentino, a registered nurse and holistic health practitioner, about what’s really going on in your body, how hormone changes impact your mood, and what you can do to find support—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Together they explore the root causes of common symptoms, the truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and simple lifestyle shifts that make a difference.

You’ll walk away with practical tools, a hopeful mindset, and the reminder that this season of life can be a new beginning.

Want to learn more or work with Dawn?

Be sure to mention you heard her on The Happiest Lives Podcast to book your free 15-minute discovery call!

You can find her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dawningchristianhealth or email her at dawningchristianhealth@gmail.com.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E119: Rivers of Living Water: The Holy Spirit in You

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Part 6 of the Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit Series

“Whoever believes in me, as Scripture has said, rivers of living water will flow from within them.” — John 7:38

In this episode, we’re talking about the Holy Spirit, not as a vague presence or a future reward, but as a real, active, present force living in you right now. If you’ve been feeling dry, stuck, or like you’re chasing breakthrough, this is your reminder that the Spirit is already here. Already moving. Already offering life.

You’ll learn:

Why belief is more than a moment, it’s a way of living
What the Holy Spirit actually does in your mind, body, and emotions
How spiritual practices like prayer, worship, and renewing your mind change your biology
What might be clogging the flow—and how to clear it gently, with grace

This isn’t about doing more or trying harder. It’s about returning. Receiving. Letting the river flow again.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E118: When Thought Work Isn’t Enough: A Real Talk on Mood, Medication & Mental Health

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is Episode 5 in the series Hormones, Happiness & The Holy Spirit. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things—journaling, praying, renewing your mind—and still feel stuck, discouraged, or just plain off, this episode is for you.

Today I’m joined by my favorite guest (and husband), Dr. Richard Lillard—a clinical psychologist with decades of experience in both therapy and integrated health. We talk about what’s actually going on when emotional tools aren’t working, the difference between situational struggles and clinical mood disorders, and how to know when it’s time to consider extra support—whether that’s therapy, medication, or both.

We also unpack the difference between coaching and counseling, how our biology impacts our emotional and spiritual lives, and why you don’t have to figure this out alone.

This episode is full of wisdom, humor, and deep compassion for anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why can’t I just feel better?”

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E117: The Thought Behind The Feelings

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this fourth episode of our Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit series, we’re talking about the thoughts behind your feelings—because the stories you tell yourself are shaping how you feel, how you act, and how close you feel to God.

If your brain is the hardware, your thoughts are the software—and outdated programming rooted in fear, shame, or scarcity can keep you stuck. Today, I’ll walk you through the first step of the Heart Scan process, show you how to separate fact from interpretation, and guide you toward thoughts that bear better fruit.

We’ll talk about brain science, emotional honesty, and how renewing your mind isn’t about forced positivity—it’s about inviting the Holy Spirit to lead your thinking so you can live with peace, clarity, and grace.

Let’s get started.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E116: The Brain-Mood Link

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, we’re continuing our Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit series with a deep dive into brain health. Jill shares insights from her recent certification as a Brain Health Practitioner with the Amen Clinics and introduces six key brain systems that influence how you think, feel, focus, and function.

You’ll learn:

Why your brain is like the hardware that runs your entire life
The six core brain systems and how they relate to anxiety, depression, and attention
Why traditional mental health diagnoses sometimes miss the mark—and what to do instead
How food, movement, supplements, thought work, and (sometimes) medication can all work together to support your mental and emotional well-being
Dr. Daniel Amen’s simple three-step formula for improving brain health—without needing a brain scan

If you’ve ever felt stuck, foggy, anxious, or just off—you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Your brain can change. And that means your life can too.

🧠 Learn more about Dr. Amen’s work and discover your brain type at brainhealthassessment.com

📘 Want to go deeper? Join Jill’s Clarity + Courage coaching program for more support, worksheets, and real transformation.

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Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E115: Protein, Sunshine & The Chemistry of Happiness

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What if your mood struggles weren’t just in your head—but in your gut, your diet, and even your sun exposure?

In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I’m joined by Christian nutritionist Chelsea Blackbird as we continue our Hormones, Happiness, and the Holy Spirit series. We’re diving into the body-lifestyle-mood connection—how things like amino acids, protein, and sunlight directly impact your neurotransmitters, hormones, and overall well-being.

You’ll learn:

Why your first meal of the day is crucial for your mood
The surprising role sunshine plays in your brain chemistry
What amino acids are—and why you can’t make neurotransmitters without them
The overlooked foundation to feeling better in your body, mind, and spirit

Whether you’re curious about how faith and food intersect, or you’ve just been feeling off and can’t figure out why—this episode is a must-listen.

🔗 Connect with Chelsea and learn more about her resources at thechristiannutritionist.com

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E114: Hormones, Happiness & The Holy Spirit

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What really makes us happy—and what gets in the way?

In this kickoff to a new series, Jill Lillard explores happiness from a whole-person, Spirit-led perspective. Drawing on her experience as a therapist, coach, and ministry leader, she unpacks how our thoughts, hormones, and spiritual life all interact to shape our emotional well-being.

You’ll learn:

Why happiness isn’t about ease or getting what you want
How biology and belief both impact your mood
What the Holy Spirit has to do with joy—even on hard days

If you’ve ever said, “I just want to be happy,” this episode is for you.

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E113: When Surrender Is The Only Good Option

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Part four of our Loosening Your Grip Series.

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Heather Gilion as she shares her family’s journey through her son’s cancer diagnosis and the decision to amputate his leg. This isn’t a teaching. It’s not a step-by-step. It’s a real-life story of loss, faith, and the kind of surrender you don’t plan for—but choose because it’s the only good option.

If you’re holding on tight to something right now, afraid of what will happen if you let go, I pray this conversation softens your grip.

Let’s get into it.

Connect with Heather Gilion:

You can find Heather’s beautiful artwork at StoryDesigns.org

Her book Dancing On My Ashes is available on Amazon

Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com
Questions? Email Jill directly at Jill@thehappiestlives.com

E112: When You Want People To Change

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Part 3 of The Loosening Your Grip Series.

If they would just change, everything would be better… right?

In this episode, we’re talking about what really happens when we try to manage the people we love—and how to let go without giving up. You’ll learn how to stop living in someone else’s model, how to set boundaries without detaching, and why true peace doesn’t come from controlling others; it comes from staying grounded in your own work.

This episode will help you shift from frustration to freedom—and get honest about what’s actually yours to carry.

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E111: Letting Go Of The Life You Imagined

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 of the Loosening Your Grip Series.

You had a vision for how life would go- the timeline, the outcomes, the relationships. But what happens when reality looks nothing like the dream? In this episode, we’re talking about that gap. About what it means to release the picture you were holding and trust that God is still writing a good story. We’ll unpack Jacob’s striving, our tendency to grip tightly, and how letting go isn’t failure, rather faith. If you’ve been white-knuckling your way through disappointment, or wondering where God is in the detours, this conversation is for you.

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E110: You’re Not in Charge—and That’s a Good Thing

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This begins the new series: Loosening Your Grip.

What if the very thing you’re trying to control is what’s actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I’m sharing a really personal story. Years of chronic pain, self-reliance, and striving brought me face-to-face with a hard truth: I’m not in charge. And that’s a good thing. We’ll talk about why control feels so tempting, what happens when we hit our limit, and how real power begins when we stop white-knuckling life and start clinging to God. This is about loosening your grip, not giving up. You’ll walk away with a new perspective on what it means to trust and why the limp you’re walking with might just be the very evidence that God is blessing you.

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E109: The Habit of Worry

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Worry might feel responsible. It might feel productive. But it’s not. It’s just a mental habit—one you’ve rehearsed for years. And today, we’re turning it around.

In this final episode of the Habit Turnaround series, we’re breaking down why worry shows up, how it hooks you, and what to do instead. I’ll teach you a simple, powerful tool—The Four P’s: Panic, Pause, Pray, Praise—to interrupt the spiral and access the peace that’s already available to you.

If you’re tired of overthinking, bracing for impact, and losing sleep over “what ifs,” this episode will challenge your mindset, reframe your responsibility, and show you how to move from anxiety to authority—one thought at a time.

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E108: The Habit of White Knuckling

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

You’re doing all the things—managing the schedule, watching the budget, keeping the peace, trying to eat clean and “be the good one.” But let’s be honest: it’s exhausting. That tight grip? That anxious push to make it all work? That’s white-knuckling.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the habit of white-knuckling—what it is, why we do it, and why it’s not actually helping. You’ll learn the real reason your efforts leave you tired, stuck, and secretly resentful… and what to do instead.

I’ll walk you through my four-part process for turning this habit around—so you can stop pushing, start partnering with God, and move forward without losing your mind (or your soul). This isn’t about giving up. It’s about letting go the right way.

Let’s talk about the difference between striving and surrender—and how to tell when you’ve crossed the line.

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E107: The Habit of Procrastination

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Procrastination might not seem dramatic—but it’s quietly draining your peace, cluttering your mind, and robbing you of forward momentum. In part six of The Habit Turnaround series, we’re talking about how to stop putting things off and start showing up with purpose.

You’ll learn why procrastination isn’t a time issue—it’s a thought pattern—and how to break the habit loop with simple mindset shifts and practical tools. If you’re tired of carrying around that mental to-do list or delaying something God has placed on your heart, this episode will help you move from avoidance to action. Let’s turn it around—one small step at a time.

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E106: The Habit of Seeking Quick Thrills

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is Part 5 of The Habit Turnaround series, and today we’re talking about quick thrills—the little dopamine hits we chase to avoid discomfort.

Whether it’s snacks, scrolling, shopping, or staying busy, these habits feel good for a moment but keep you stuck long-term. I’ll show you how to break the cycle with the 10 Minute Habit Turnaround so you can stop buffering and start living with intention.

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E105: The Habit of Withdrawing

Fri, 30 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Withdrawing might seem like the peaceful, “Christian” alternative to conflict—but it’s not. It’s just another sneaky habit that keeps us stuck. Whether you shut down in conversations, avoid emotions, or silently drift from God, today’s episode will help you see the truth behind the habit of pulling away.

In Part 4 of The Habit Turnaround Series, we’ll uncover:

• What withdrawing really looks like in your relationships, spiritual life, and self

• Why it feels like relief—but leads to isolation

• The habit loop that keeps you disconnecting

• How lamenting becomes the path to re-engagement with God, yourself, and others

If you’re tired of feeling numb, distant, or unseen—this is your episode. You don’t have to withdraw to feel safe. Let’s talk about a new way forward. Let’s go.

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E104: The Habit of Arguing

Fri, 23 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Arguing feels automatic—but it’s actually a habit. One rooted in fear, frustration, and the need to feel in control. In today’s episode, Part 3 of The Habit Turnaround Series, I’ll show you how to interrupt that habit and build a new pattern rooted in clarity, peace, and connection.

You’ll learn:

• Why arguments keep repeating

• What emotional flooding does to your brain

• How to shift from needing to “win” to listening with love

• The seven steps to turning an argument into a calm, Christ-centered conversation

If you’re tired of going in circles, this episode is your turnaround. Let’s go!

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E103: The Habit of Complaining

Fri, 16 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Complaining can feel justified—but is it actually helping? In this episode, we explore how complaining becomes an automatic habit, why it keeps us stuck, and what the Bible teaches about a better way forward. Instead of venting frustration, we’ll look at the biblical practice of lament—how to bring our struggles to God in a way that leads to peace, wisdom, and transformation. If you’re ready to break free from negativity and step into a mindset of trust and empowerment, this episode is for you!

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E102: The Habit Turnaround Series

Fri, 09 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Most of our habits aren’t intentional—we just fall into them. But what if the habits shaping your life aren’t actually serving you? In this episode, we’re diving into The Habit Turnaround—how to recognize unhelpful patterns, understand why they stick, and intentionally create habits that align with the life God is calling you to.

We’ll break down the Habit Loop, uncover the sneaky rewards keeping bad habits in place, and explore what the Bible says about true transformation (Romans 12:2). If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of stress, negativity, or distraction, this episode will give you the insight and tools to start shifting those patterns today.

It’s time to stop running on autopilot and start stepping into renewal. Let’s dive in!

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E101: Don't Stop In The Valley

Fri, 02 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we’re wrapping up our Genesis Takeaway series with a powerful reflection on the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. At first glance, it’s a story of judgment, but when we slow down and look deeper, it reveals profound lessons about hesitation, obedience, and trust.

Are you struggling to move forward in faith? Do you find yourself looking back at what’s familiar, even when you know God is calling you into something new? Today, we’re diving into the dangers of hesitation, the cost of looking back, and the temptation to stop short of God’s best.

Join me as we explore how these lessons apply to our daily lives and what it truly means to trust God’s call forward—without hesitation. Plus, I’ll share a personal story about my own struggle with letting go and stepping into freedom.

Don’t miss this episode—it just might be the encouragement you need to take your next bold step of faith!

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E100: Worth The Wait

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this special 100th episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard dives into the lessons of waiting from the first 25 chapters of Genesis. She explores how God uses waiting as a powerful, active process that binds our hearts to His. Jill shares how waiting isn’t passive, but a season of building faith, patience, and trust. Using the stories of Noah and Abraham, she reflects on how waiting strengthens us and prepares us for the blessings ahead. Tune in for encouragement and three tips to navigate your own season of waiting.

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E99: Messy Relationships

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Jill Lillard dives into the messy side of relationships through her study of Genesis. She shares how God continues to work even in our mistakes to bring about his purposes, urging us to shift our focus from who’s right and who’s wrong to how God is working and what he is calling us to do. With practical questions and biblical wisdom, Jill helps you see how God’s redemptive work can transform your heart and relationships. Don’t miss out on this powerful episode that invites you to look at your relational struggles through a whole new lens.

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E98: Human Frailty

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Ever feel like you—or others—need to be perfect? In this episode, Jill explores how Genesis reveals the beauty of God’s grace amid human weakness. From Adam and Eve’s fall to Cain’s destructive choices, see how God’s promises remain steady, even when we fall short. Tune in and be reminded that His strength meets you right where you are.

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E97: The Love Story Begins

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This week, we begin a new series, Genesis Takeaways, where Jill shares what God has revealed to her in the first 25 chapters of Genesis. In this episode, she explores the beauty of God’s covenant, the patterns of human weakness, and how His faithfulness remains steadfast. From Adam and Eve to Abraham and Sarah, discover how God’s love story has been unfolding since the very beginning.

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E96: Be A Finisher

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, Jill Lillard wraps up the month’s series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution by exploring how to be a finisher. She reveals why we lose momentum on our goals and the role of the prefrontal cortex in follow-through. She shares ten practical strategies to overcome obstacles and finish strong. Discover how perseverance, accountability, and trusting God’s guidance can help you achieve your goals with grace even when your faith wavers.

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E95: Time Management

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Jill shares how to manage your time with intention and purpose, which is part of her series on Spirit-Led Planning and Execution. Discover 12 practical tips to align your schedule with your core values, prioritize relationships, and balance work, rest, and spiritual growth. Learn how to invite God into your planning, steward time as a gift, and stay proactive in focusing on what truly matters. Tune in for insightful strategies that honor God while improving your daily life.

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E94: Commitments, Values & What's Important

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500

This is part two of the Spirit-Led Planning & Execution series, where we explore how to align your life with God’s will by prioritizing commitments that align with your values. Jill offers practical guidance for evaluating your time, energy, and focus to ensure they reflect what matters most. Tune in to learn how to recognize misaligned priorities, make intentional choices, and steward your resources with purpose.

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E93: Spirit-Led Planning & Execution

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In this new series, discover how to align your plans with God’s will, partner with Him through obedience, and execute your goals with faith and surrender. Jill shares personal stories, biblical insights, and practical tips to help you balance spontaneity and control, stay anchored in your relationship with the Lord, and make decisions that reflect His greater vision for your life. Tune in for spiritual wisdom and actionable guidance to navigate life’s challenges with grace and purpose.

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E92: Receiving Feedback

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In the final episode of her series Reconciliation & Forgiveness, Jill Lillard dives into the art of receiving feedback—a vital part of having conversations that foster reconciliation. Jill explores the emotional challenges we face when receiving feedback and offers practical strategies for processing it effectively, regulating emotions, and delivering meaningful apologies. Tune in to discover how to approach feedback with a heart open to growth and reconciliation, grounded in your identity as a child of God.

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E91: Giving Feedback

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In episode three of the series Reconciliation & Forgiveness, we dive into the art of giving feedback with humility, kindness, and grace. Whether it’s a minor disagreement or a major conflict, discover practical tools to communicate clearly, invite change, and strengthen your relationships.

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E90: The Process of Reconciliation

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Jill Lillard continues part 2 of the series on Reconciliation & Forgiveness. Through personal stories and biblical principles, she shares practical steps for healing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and balancing peace with realistic expectations. Whether in friendships, family, or marriage, you’ll gain valuable insights on building deeper connections through the ministry of reconciliation.

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E89: Forgiving Another Person

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode, I kick off the Reconciliation & Forgiveness series by exploring the importance of forgiveness in our lives. I share a personal story of holding onto bitterness and the journey toward forgiveness, showing how God’s grace can work through even the hardest emotions.

You’ll also learn the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, why they don’t always go together, and the barriers that often keep us stuck. With practical, faith-filled steps, discover how letting go of hurt can free your heart and bring you closer to the life God intends for you.

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E88: Power To Love

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

This is the final episode of the series Marriage Designed By God. Discover how to love sincerely and sustainably, even when you don't feel like it. Explore the role of the Holy Spirit in marriage, and learn practical tips for cultivating a deeper relationship with God and your spouse.

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E87: But We Are So Different

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 4 of the series Marriage Designed By God. In this episode, Jill Lillard explores the inherent differences in marriages. Discover why God designed these differences and how they can bring couples closer together. This episode is perfect for couples and anyone looking to strengthen their relationships through understanding and embracing differences.

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E86: A No-Matter-What Kind of Love

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 3 of the series Marriage Designed By God. In this episode, Jill discusses the concept of covenant love in marriage, exploring its biblical roots and offering practical tips for living out a committed, sacrificial love in modern relationships.

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E85: Naked & Unashamed

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode, Jill explores God’s design for intimacy in marriage, the barriers we face, and paths to vulnerability and deeper connection. This is part 2 of the series Marriage Designed By God.

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E84: Marriage Designed By God

Fri, 03 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In today's episode, we start a new series called 'Marriage Designed by God.' We'll discuss what marriage means, how God wants it to look, and how husbands and wives can help each other. Get ready to learn about love, teamwork, and what the Bible says about being a good partner.

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E83: Promises In The Waiting

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

In the final episode of the Be Transformed series, Heather Gilion returns to share powerful insights about a season many of us struggle with — the season of waiting. While no one enjoys waiting, it’s often in this space that our greatest transformations take place. Heather unpacks the idea that waiting is not wasted time, but a time where God is working behind the scenes for our good. Tune in as she offers a comforting reminder and a collection of promises to hold onto, giving us the strength to wait as long as it takes, knowing that something greater is being prepared for us.

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E82: Into The Fire

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

In every season, especially the challenging ones, God is at work, shaping and strengthening us in ways we may not yet see. In today’s episode, Into the Fire, I am joined by special guest Heather Gilion. Fresh from sharing her impactful message at our Happiest Lives Weekend in Missouri, Heather brings her heartfelt insights on walking with God through life’s toughest moments.

Heather is a gifted speaker, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, and a talented artist behind Story Designs. Sidenote: If you love surrounding your home with reminders of God’s word, you won’t want to miss checking out her beautiful artwork.

In this episode, Heather’s story serves as a powerful reminder that we’re never alone in the “fire.” Even in trials, God’s presence refines us, drawing us closer to Him. I hope this conversation leaves you feeling encouraged and confident, knowing that His constant presence holds you every step of the way.

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E81: Behold, I am Doing A New Thing

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This podcast features empowering stories from women who have undergone significant personal growth through the Happiest Lives Academy. Participants Dawn Valentino, Michelle Revelle, and Betsy Yost share their experiences as they embarked on five transformations in 5 months. The discussion highlights overcoming mental blocks, healing from past relationships, and enhancing personal connections as graduates recount their journeys of maturity, confidence, and closer relationships with God.

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E80: Be Transformed

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This week, we’re talking about transformation—becoming the woman God says you already are. We’ll look at what holds you back, the steps you can take to change, and what you need to do to grow. Join us as we learn what it means to become.

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E79: Determination

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In this final episode of How To Get Unstuck, I’ll show you how to keep moving forward with unwavering determination, even when you feel at your lowest. By tapping into Christ's strength, you can run your race with a clear purpose rather than relying solely on your energy. Learn to lean into your struggles and discover the power and joy of surrendering to God’s goodness and sovereignty. Together, we’ll explore how you can turn your challenges into steps toward victory.

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E78: Distress Signals

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 4 of the series How To Get Unstuck. A distress signal is an urgent appeal for help. When used for ships, we call it an SOS. When we move into our personal pain, cry for help, and trust the Lord is with us, we move from suffering to surrender. This SOS is the place between where you are and where you want to be-- the Sea of Suffering turned Sea of Surrender (SOS). In today's episode, I show you what to do with your emotions, including six habits to cultivate in your emotional life.

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E77: Mind Renewal

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Welcome to part 3 of the series How To Get Unstuck. In today’s discussion, we’ll explore renewing our minds, a practice rooted in biblical principles and essential for spiritual and emotional growth. We’ll examine the narratives we tell ourselves—like “my husband is a jerk”—and how thoughts like this keep us spinning a web of frustration and disappointment. Through practical examples, we’ll learn how to shift our perspective, break free from limiting beliefs, and align our thoughts with truth to be the woman God says we already are.

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E76: Constrain & Focus

Fri, 11 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is episode 2 of the series How to Get Unstuck. In it, we explore why we often feel stuck and how our minds can trap us in repetitive cycles of worry or overwhelm. When we don’t know how to approach a problem, we either obsess over it or let it grow bigger in our minds. Today, Jill introduces a tool that will help you step back, organize your thoughts, and understand the problem so you can focus on what to do next. Constraining the problem allows you to break free from the cycle and start making real progress. Tune in to learn how to approach challenges with clarity and take action and change your life.

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E75: How To Get Unstuck

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In this new series, Jill will share a straightforward process she uses whenever she feels stuck. Whether you’re dealing with overwhelm, indecision, or feeling lost, this method will help you gain clarity and take the next step forward. Tune in to discover practical tools you can use today to break free from what’s holding you back and start moving forward with purpose.

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E74: Calm & Connected

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

The hardest hurdle to communication is that visceral reaction when your body becomes emotionally flooded and you can't access all the smart things you know. The final episode of our Defensiveness series focuses on staying calm and connected during challenging conversations. Discover relaxation techniques, emotional regulation skills, and mindset strategies to improve relationships and escape attack-defend mode.

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E73: Own Your Actions

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 of the series on Defensiveness. Owning your actions is about stopping your efforts to control the other person and taking ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. When we shift our energy from what we can't control to what we can, we can start making some headway in our conversations.

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E72: Assume The Best

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Today, we’re continuing our series on Defensiveness. Last week, Jill shared a personal story about becoming defensive with her family and promised to return with insights gained after interviewing her family about it. In this episode, she shares what she learned from those conversations.

Our focus today is on assuming the best when you feel defensive. The alternative is to assume the worst, which hinders meaningful conversations and connections. We will discuss how approaching situations with a grace-filled mindset can transform relationships and promote understanding.

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E71: Defensiveness

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Today, we begin a new series on defensiveness, one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse identified by John Gottman. In this episode, we explore what defensiveness is, why we experience it, and how it affects our interactions. Jill shares a personal story about feeling defensive during a family vacation and how it impacted her relationships. She introduces practical steps to manage defensiveness using the Heart Scan Coaching method.

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E70: Perseverance & Rest

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This episode wraps up the 5 part series on Urges. To enter the rest of God we must go into the future where our victory is complete and we have arrived at our destination. When it seems we are circling over the sea of suffering, we must persevere in believing and pressing on despite unwanted emotions and demanding urges that promise short term relief. We can experience the joy and rest of God today as we partner with God in a battle that has already been won.

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E69: Break The Shame Cycle

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Today, in Part 4 of our URGES series, we tackle the destructive cycle of shame.

• Shame Uncovered: Understand shame and how it differs from guilt.

• Lisa’s Story: Learn how Lisa overcame shame around answering unhealthy coping mechanisms /urges in her marriage.

• Practical Steps: Discover strategies to move past shame, reframe thoughts, and embrace God’s kindness when you are stuck in a cycle of obeying unwanted urges.

• Biblical Insights: Reflect on scriptures that help us overcome shame and embrace our identity in Christ.

Join me as we explore how to transform guilt into positive change and step into the grace and freedom God offers.

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E68: A Way Out

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 of the series Urges. We all experience urges, and nothing is wrong with you because you feel tempted to do things that don't honor your greatest values. The good news is that God is faithful, and He promises that the urge won't last forever and that he will provide a way out.

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E67: Power To Choose

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 of the series Urges. Urges are strong desires, almost a compulsion. Answering them may bring relief and even pleasure, but in the long game, answering urges that don't align with our goals and values creates greater suffering. Often times we will go unconscious and act like urges are happening to us, and yet we have the power to choose how we will respond. In this episode, I outline ways to respond to an urge and encourage listeners to choose a response that honors what is most important to them.

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E66: Urges

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part one of the series Urges. An urge is a pressing desire, almost a compulsion, manifesting in all life areas of living, including relationships, health habits, and work goals. Urges feel uncomfortable, even painful when we don't answer them. However, when we obey unwanted urges, we experience prolonged and acute suffering. In this episode, I introduce and normalize the concept of urges including their purpose in our lives.

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E65: Christian Community

Fri, 26 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 4 of the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. Today, I discuss the crucial role of the church, referring to the body of all believers as well as local congregations. We. Look at the reasons you may be discouraged from attending church and why regular fellowship is still important. I share with you about my involvement with the Christian community, reminding you that God has given us community not only to benefit us ,but so that we can be a blessing to others.

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E64: Delight In His Word

Fri, 19 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus. God's Word is the ultimate source of truth, guidance, and transformation. Many Christians struggle with consistent Bible reading due to busy lives and distractions. In this episode, we examine how you think about Bible reading and offer practical tips and strategies for getting excited and inspired to engage in God's Word.

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E63: Conversations With God

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 of the series Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With God. In this episode, I will show you how to transform your prayer life from routine and one-dimensional to a powerful way to connect with God.

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E62: Cultivating A Fiery & Fresh Relationship With Jesus

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This begins the series Cultivating a Fiery & Fresh Relationship with Jesus, where we explore what it truly means to passionately desire, turn toward, and experience God. Join me as we examine three distinct types of relationships: legalistic, complacent, and passionate. We will also delve into the depths of passion, uncovering the barriers that hinder intimacy and discovering practical tools for examining your relationship with God.

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E61: Work Hard, Play Hard

Fri, 28 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 4 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. Join Jill and Coach Stephanie as they discuss how to balance work and play, the role of play in their lives, what they consider fun, and obstacles and antidotes to having a good time. At The Happiest Lives, we believe if you aren't enjoying the journey, you are probably doing it wrong.

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E60: The Chore Lottery & Other Techniques For Getting Things Done

Fri, 21 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 of the series How To Make Everyday Life Productive & Fun. In this episode, I share some of my favorite ways to get things done. Though "Plan A" is always to be flexible and open to how the Spirit leads you, "Plans B-Z "may include systematic processes and techniques that help you stay engaged with your life and increase efficiency. When we find ways to make the daily grind interesting, we increase the pleasure we experience in the mundane tasks of everyday life.

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E59: Routines

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 of the series Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun. We all have routines, whether we are conscious of them or not. Your routines are the rhythms of your life and create the results you are experiencing. In this episode, we talk about the value of routines in honoring our values and what is important to us, as well as the challenges faced in establishing routines and strategies to address those obstacles. I also walk through my daily, weekly, and annual routines.

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E58: Making Everyday Life Productive & Fun

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In this podcast episode, I introduce a new series focused on making everyday life productive and fun. When you can find meaning and joy in your routines, you become more engaged and excited about life. Seeing your life as a partnership rather than a series of busyness shifts our energy. Practical tips are provided for incorporating productivity and fun into daily life,

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E57: Courageous Living

Fri, 31 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Today, we wrap up the series Path To Aliveness as we explore courage in everyday life. We discuss how courageous individuals acknowledge and confront their fears, take risks in relationships even though they could be rejected, and remain authentic to their values despite adversity. When the Holy Spirit lives inside us we are emboldened to take life-giving action despite unwanted feelings.

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E56: Desires

Fri, 24 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 4 in the series Path To Aliveness. If God promises to give us the desires of our hearts, why don't we get everything we want? Is it okay to want things, or should I relinquish my desire to be a selfless person? How can I make all my longings and wants work for the greatest good? We consider all these questions and more on today's podcast; as you forge the path of life, let desire become a catalyst for growth rather than a trigger for growing numb and detached.

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E55: Abundant Life

Fri, 17 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you are thirsty, come! If you have exhausted all your resources, COME. Isaiah 55 shows us a new way contrary to our logic and ways of doing things. Here, we are promised peace and joy that does not depend on our circumstances.

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E54: Change Begins With...

Fri, 10 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 in the series Path To Alive-ness. If you have been trying to change outwardly by adhering to or imposing a rule list/script on others, you will be constantly in despair. Beating yourself up, blaming others, or defending your tender heart through self-protective strategies won't improve things. There is only one way to create change; thank goodness, it does not all depend on you. However, it does start in your mind and heart.

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E53: The Two Paths

Fri, 03 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Welcome to part one of the series Path To Alive-ness. In response to life's hardships, we either move toward contempt, numbness, and detachment or fight to keep our hearts tender and alive. In every situation, we choose a path of life or death. In this episode, I lay out the two options and show you what it looks like to choose alive-ness.

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E52: Actions Create Results

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part four of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. In this episode, we will reverse-engineer a new result to discover a new way to think about our circumstances.

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E51: Feelings Fuel Actions

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 3 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. Your mind creates feelings that direct your behavior, which creates results. Therefore, you have to look at your mind to get new results. When we focus on creating change by changing our actions without looking at our minds- the cause of our actions- we can’t create sustainable change. Pressing on despite unwanted emotions requires being willing to feel discomfort even as you take action from new thoughts.

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E50: Thoughts Create Feelings

Fri, 12 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 2 of the series Thinking About What You Are Thinking About.
Every feeling you have can be traced back to a thought. When we get curious about our feelings and thoughts, we can't start picking them on purpose. In this episode, I show you four common misconceptions about emotions. I then walk you through four steps to FEEL better and I introduce you to the 4 P's that will help you face any circumstance.

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E49: Power Of Your Thought Life

Fri, 05 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This begins a brand new series, Thinking About What You Are Thinking About. You can let your mind run on default or you can take your brain out of the box and consider what thoughts are running your life. When you take your thoughts captive, beginning with awareness, you change your life. In this episode, I walk you through the process of living your life with intention, whether it's managing your time better, improving your relationships, or reaching a personal goal. It all starts with a thought.

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E48: Invest In Your Shared Desires

Fri, 29 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part nine of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this finale, we talk about creating shared meaning in your relationship, which Gottman refers to as the roof of our relationship house. I show you how to find a 'want match" and highlight the importance of small, consistent changes in positively impacting the fabric of your relationship.

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E47: Create Rituals Of Connection

Fri, 22 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

This is part 8 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Today's episode discusses creating regular connection points in your relationship. As you are intentional with a few things, this helps foster shared meaning in your marriage and increases the likelihood of spontaneous connections.

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E46: Make Requests Without Demanding

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Welcome to part 7 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.
In this episode, we explore making requests in your relationship in a way that increases your influence and leaves you feeling better about yourself. Generating feelings of calm and openness before asking for help will serve you better than asking from a place of hurt, frustration, or resentment, which only leads to more disappointment. When we make requests without demanding we are showing up in a powerful way.

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E45: Share Honestly

Fri, 08 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part six of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. In this episode, I explore what it means to show up as yourself. You want to be in a relationship with someone because they value YOU, not you being who you think they want you to be. Awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and desires is crucial to express yourself and feel close and connected to others. We consider obstacles to speaking up and the benefits of sharing yourself in an honest and true way.

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E44: Listen Up

Fri, 01 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 5 of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Recall the last time you felt truly curious and understanding as someone shared their thoughts and feelings. This week, we unfold the layers of becoming an adept listener, from fostering a nurturing space for heartfelt dialogues to recognizing the unspoken dreams woven into our conflicts. .Listening isn't just about passive absorption; it's a call to active engagement. Join me on today's podcast and unlock the full potential of every conversation.

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E43: Find The Hidden Dream

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part four of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Have you ever felt like your relationship is stuck in a cycle of the same old arguments? In today's episode, we dive into the heart of recurring conflicts, revealing how behind every gridlock issue is a hidden dream. This isn't just about finding common ground—it's about fostering a deeper understanding and intimacy with your partner. Join us as we share strategies for creating a safe space for dialogue, where supporting each other's dreams helps strengthen your relationship.

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E42: Make Deposits In Your Love Bank

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part three of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. When you nurture positive sentiments and good feelings in your marriage, you are making deposits in your love bank. These emotional investments become valuable resources that you will withdraw from when you face conflict in your relationship. Join me to learn three ways you can make deposits in your love bank today.

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E41: Regulate Your Emotions

Fri, 09 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part two of the series How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track. Learn the importance of being emotionally aware and regulating your emotions in your relationship. You can validate and make your emotions work for you as you deepen intimacy in your relationship. Let me show you how in today's episode.

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E40: Create A Healing Separation

Fri, 02 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 1 of the series, How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track.
A foundational step to building a healthy relationship is creating a healing separation. The goal of a healing separation is always healthier connections. Creating a healing separation does not mean you are living separate lives and dealing with things independently. Instead, it means you are able to view yourself and the other person as parts of the greater whole so that you can show up and love better. You recognize the other has their own models (thoughts, feelings, actions, and results) . You channel your energy in a way that is effective and life-giving.

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E39: True Self

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0600

In the Western World, we tend to indulge the view of self as we focus on personal development, self-actualization, and becoming the best version of ourselves. Eastern religions lean toward renouncing self and suppressing wants and desires to move to a place of spiritual enlightenment.

Neither of these perspectives seems to fall in line with Biblical truth. Rather than losing ourselves as we die to our flesh, we find that we actually become more of our true selves. When we receive Christ, our true identity is restored, and we can serve purposefully in the body. Our desires lead us to deeper intimacy with God and we become more alive as we see ourselves as part of the greater whole where Christ is the head. Letting go of selfish ambition and vain conceit, we make room for the power of Christ to flow through us.

In this episode, I share 12 Attributes of Your True Self, a self we come to know as we surrender more and more to Jesus.

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E38: Letting Go Without Giving Up

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Can you trust in God's goodness and sovereignty, even when the road seems rough?

What does it look like to let go of how you think things should be without giving up hope?

The pathway to surrender often involves suffering. We must be willing to feel our pain and gently move to a place of trust. The alternative is powering our way through which leads us to greater self-reliance, exhaustion, and frustration, rather than greater dependency on Jesus.

In this episode, I give you tips for how to hit pause on reacting to your pain, and instead move into the sea of suffering which leads to surrender, which unleashes rest and expectant joy knowing God has good things for you.

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E37: The Impossible

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Ever wondered how to go about accomplishing the impossible? This episode illuminates the four stages of achieving just that, from the despair of being unable to achieve your goals to the joy of leaning on God's strength. We delve into Apostle Paul's passionate journey of faith, where he learned to rely on Christ's atonement, not his self-will. We take a step towards surrender by accepting our helplessness and then shifting our focus entirely so that we can move from despair to expectant joy. We wrap up this episode with a promise - though sin may work in us, it doesn't define us.

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E36: Flesh vs. Spirit

Fri, 05 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Join me for this podcast series, The Surrendered Self. To understand the concepts of surrender and self, we must plug them into the story of mankind's relationship with God, which is a story of redemption. In this episode, I remind you of the ongoing battle between the flesh and the spirit. I encourage you as a believer to find your identity and worth in Jesus rather than define yourself by your sin or fallen nature. Though we live in mortal bodies, the Holy Spirit dwells inside us and our days can be fueled by his spirit. I discuss how surrendering to God forms a secure foundation for our identities and equips us with the necessary tools to navigate the conflict between our flesh and spirit. Through this series, I aim to provide insights that could reshape your thinking, reaffirm your beliefs, and, ultimately, redefine your identity in Christ.

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E35: The Surrendered Self

Fri, 29 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Have you set an intention for the year?

Is Jesus in the center of your pursuits?

Why is a surrendered life the best life to pursue?

In this episode, I remind you how obstacles and problems can become opportunities to deepen our faith. Sharing tangible ways to let go and trust God, from having daily quiet moments with Jesus to sharing our journey with others and making declarative actions, we'll explore the importance of seeing ourselves as worshippers. When we focus on Jesus, our thoughts and mindset become more like His, drawing us closer to the one thing that can fully satisfy us.

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E34: More Of You with special guest Holly Snell

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

You'll be moved by the powerful testimony of our guest, Holly Snell, who turned to faith in her darkest hour. As Holly shares how seeking God's presence saw her through the loss of her husband in a tragic accident, you'll discover how harnessing the strength found in faith can transform your hardships.

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E33: Do Not Fear with Special Guest Holly Snell

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

One thing is for sure: life can be uncertain. This can lead to anxiety, overwhelm, and worry, even for believers. Holly Snell, the author of Dancing On My Ashes, joins us on today's podcast, reminding us of the one thing we can count on when life throws a curve ball.

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E32: Inside The Happiest Lives Academy

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

It’s time to wake up and start living. You can break strongholds, have better relationships, achieve greater clarity, improve decision-making, feel better, and face what has been holding you back.

The Happiest Lives Academy will unlock the extraordinary tools and coaching you need.

If you have been wondering what it is like to be inside The Happiest Lives Academy, I give you all the details of this intensive coaching program as I introduce you to some of the graduates on today's podcast.

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E31: Breaking Strongholds

Fri, 01 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Today, we finish the series 5 Worthy Transformations as we talk about Breaking Strongholds. If you have begged, pleaded, and prayed for deliverance from a stronghold in your life, this is for you. Discover a path to shattering the limiting strongholds of ingrained thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns in your life.

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E30: Calm Conversations

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Ever wondered how to enhance your emotional intelligence to improve your relationships and conversations? That's exactly what we're diving into today. We start by investigating the 'Talk Table,' a tool that helps us create room for more authentic emotional connections. We also uncover the significance of being comfortable with our emotions, leading to a more profound understanding of ourselves, thus improving how we articulate our feelings.

Switching gears, we focus on how to bring authenticity to our conversations, influencing our relationships positively. We'll learn how to be an active listener, separate facts from opinions, and reverse engineer our conversation for a more meaningful connection. We'll navigate through the stormy seas of our emotions during these interactions. Wrapping up, we highlight the Happiest Lives Academy and its role in aiding individuals to form genuine connections in conversations. Get ready to transform the way you communicate and connect.

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E29: Make Powerful Decisions

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 3 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations.

Are you tired of the constant self-doubt and confusion that arises from indecisiveness? In today's episode, I help you squash your insecurities through understanding powerful decision-making. Imagine making a decision and having your own back.- no more second-guessing. When you embrace the freedom to make choices, knowing that there isn't always one right decision, and take full responsibility for the decision you are making, knowing the Lord is directing your paths, you will experience greater freedom and movement in your life.

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E28: Leverage Your Emotions

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600

This is part 2 of the series 5 Worthy Transformations. Imagine a life where you could feel anything and use it as fuel to grow personally and spiritually. We delve into this intriguing concept, exploring how our beliefs and attitudes toward emotions can shape our experiences. We discuss the mechanism of 'buffering' - the behaviors we often use to sidestep discomfort- and the potential long-term consequences it can create. By embracing both positive and negative emotions, you can break this cycle, free up your energy, and deepen your relationship with Jesus, Others, and Yourself. This is JOY.

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E27: Organize Your Life From the Inside Out

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This month begins the series Five Worthy Transformations. Have you ever wished you could declutter not just your physical spaces, but also your emotional and mental space? Here's your chance. In this episode, I guide you on how to tidy up your life from within. We use the simple act of cleaning out a closet as a metaphor for organizing your mind, emotions, and will. We'll help you sort out what no longer serves you and make room for what you love.

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E26: Press On Despite Unwanted Emotions

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Join me for the last week in The Heart Scan Series as we learn how to PRESS ON despite unwanted emotions. You can come up with a beautiful plan for change, but when it comes time to implement it, you may not always feel like doing the things. Even if you have identified the new thoughts and feelings to fuel the actions, if you don't take action, your beliefs are useless. Together, we venture through the HeartScan series' final stages, illuminating the Holy Spirit's steadfast power within us to help us press on even in the face of challenging emotions.This episode is for you if you have felt blocked, stalled, or uninspired. Let's explore how faith and surrender can be our allies rather than adversaries.

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E25: Engage: Your Emotions Are An Invitation

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Today we discuss step 3 of The Heart Scan Process: ENGAGE. Are your emotions ruling your life or shaping your relationship with God? Take a step back as we explore the profound connection between our feelings and our faith. We unravel how our emotions act as an invitation to foster a deeper understanding of ourselves and fortify our bond with our Creator.

I introduce the Four P’s for navigating emotions, a roadmap to deciphering and dealing with our feelings. We discuss how panic often clouds our judgment and how taking a pause helps us accept and understand the emotion. We shed light on how prayer and praise can be potent weapons to combat anxiety and bring an oasis of peace.

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E24: Renew: What Else is Possible?

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Ever wished you could hit the pause button on life's overwhelming problems and breathe? Welcome to the place where that dream becomes a reality. We're continuing our Heart Scan Series with step two of the process: RENEW. Together, we'll explore how to quiet the storm of fear and confusion and channel our problems into something far bigger than us. Let's uncover the biblical truths hidden in the lives of Paul and Joseph and allow the Holy Spirit to work wonders in our lives. Change begins not with new actions but with a transformed heart.

Need a little more incentive to jump on this transformational journey? Why not take the Happiest Lives Academy for a spin during our Heart Scan Week? This is your golden ticket to a life-changing experience that combines the power of community, coaching, and direct feedback on your Heart Scans. It’s not just about renewing your mind; it's about transforming your life. So, why wait? Visit myhappyvault.com and sign up today for just $27. We can't wait to welcome you into our community of Christian women eager to live their happiest lives.

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E23: Expose: Bring What is Hidden Into The Light

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Today, we begin The Heart Scan Series, where I introduce you to The Heart Scan Process, my ultimate tool for creating a better life and relationships. I spotlight the first step of Heart Scanning, EXPOSE, where we bring what is hidden into the light. I show you how to constrain, focus, organize, and look at a problem so you are no longer spinning in feelings such as overwhelm, despair, confusion, or fear.
If you want to quit living your life on default mode and instead nurture God's spirit living in you, it always begins by asking the Lord to search your heart and expose what is hidden. Being the woman God says you are starts with capturing your thoughts and bringing your mind in step with the Spirit. You won't want to miss this episode as I show you an interesting and fun way to do that.

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E22: People Pleasing

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This is our last episode in The Relationship Foundation Series.

Ever struggled with the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing? Felt the burnout and resentment from constantly sacrificing your own needs for others? It's time to unveil the truth behind this draining behavior and discover healthier, more fulfilling alternatives. In this revealing episode, we dissect the complex world of people-pleasing, self-seeking and God-loving mindsets. We dive into why fear and insecurity often fuel people-pleasing tendencies, leading to unsatisfactory relationships.

But it's not all doom and gloom; with scripture serving as our compass, we guide you towards cultivating a God-loving mindset, creating a route to true fulfillment and contentment in your relationships. Empower yourself to step away from the people-pleaser persona and embrace an authentic, balanced, and satisfying approach to your relationships. Ready to journey towards healthier relationships? Tune in to this enlightening episode.

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E21: Loveability

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Welcome to part 3 of The Relationship Foundations Series.

Are you certain about your loveability? What if we told you it's not about becoming more loveable but about realizing that your loveability is already absolute and unchanging? Join us today on Happiest Lives podcast as we take a deep dive into the profound connection between our capacity to love and our relationship with God. We'll uncover the transformative power of God's love and discuss how it influences our self-worth and relationships.

Have you ever wrestled with the concept of unconditional love? It's about loving someone wholeheartedly, irrespective of their actions, without expecting anything in return. It's not easy, but it's highly rewarding. Let's chat about how God's love can provide us with solace and strength and guide us to let go of resentment, hurt, and bitterness. By accepting that we are loved beyond measure, we can extend this love to others and create a ripple effect of love in our surroundings.

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E20: Boundaries

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we continue the series Relationship Foundations as we dive into the subject of Boundaries. Because relationship boundaries start in your mind, having a clear picture of where you end and another begins is crucial as you decide how you want to respond in your relationships. Sometimes we may need to declare a boundary and enforce a consequence for violations; however many times we simply need to honor our own boundaries. Boundaries are never about controlling or punishing another person but are about protecting and taking responsibility for yourself, all the while honoring another's free will to do as they choose. Join me this week as we continue our journey to healthier, happier relationships.

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E19: Desires and Wants In Your Relationship

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Join me for part two of the series, Relationship Foundations, where we look at the core concepts that will change the way you approach the people you love. This week we talk about Desires and Wants.

What do you truly want in your relationship? What if your partner doesn't want the same thing? How should you feel about your wants and desires when they seem to cause you pain?

Dealing with things on your own (*lonely*) and turning toward your partner and constantly being let down (*frustrating*) aren't the only two options when it comes to desires in your relationship. In this episode, I show you a third alternative.

Wanting is a big part of being human. Connecting with shared wants is a meaningful way to love each other. I'll show you what to do when your expectations aren't met and share a practical exercise to help couples align their wants and build a more genuine connection. Join us on this transformative journey and redefine your relationship.

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E18: Your Thoughts About the Other Person

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and fuel your relationships? This episode promises to take your understanding of relationships - with yourself, others, and God - to a whole new level.

Imagine an engine where each part is connected, all contributing to the overall function. The same goes for our relationships; our thoughts, feelings, and actions are all required to keep the engine smooth and robust. We dive into the dynamics of these interactions, scrutinizing the impact of our perceptions on our relationships, the pitfalls of attempting to control others, and the power of authenticity.

Shift your thought gears and prepare for a journey to transform your relationships. We'll explore the power of changing your thoughts and the profound ripple effect it can have on our relationships. We take a hard look at how our stories about the past, shaped by our current thoughts and feelings, can evolve over time. We emphasize the importance of taking responsibility for our own feelings and choosing our thoughts intentionally to create healthier, more loving relationships.

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E17: Failure

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0500

What if the key to success lies in our failures? Buckle up for a riveting conversation where we dissect failure and how it shapes our identity. This episode is the last in our series on Being & Doing, and it's a game-changer! When we stop perceiving failure as a setback, we experience it as a stepping stone to resilience, confidence, and determination. After listening to today's podcast, you'll realize that avoiding failure could actually be costing you more by disconnecting you from the very essence of your life. This thought-provoking discussion aims to reimagine and redefine failure as a catalyst for growth, opening doors to new experiences and opportunities.

This episode will fuel you with the courage to take risks, learn from your mistakes and create the life you've always envisioned. I'll share my insights on how our beliefs about failure mold our identity and how being receptive to failure can lead us to our true selves. I can't wait to hear your personal stories of failure and how you've transformed them into stepping stones. Here's a toast to embracing failure and perseverance despite the occasional stumble.

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E16: Aspirations and Goals

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Your aspirations reflect your core values and dreams, while goals are the building blocks to realizing your aspirations. Join Jill Lillard, MA LPC as she explores these concepts in a spiritual context, discussing the role of faith in shaping our lives with intentional and disciplined goal setting. This episode is part of the series on Being & Doing, and unveils the importance of daily practices that honor God, helping us to love others and perceive ourselves in relation to the greater whole.

Uncover how to effectively set goals that align with your aspirations and create impactful results. We'll use the scientific method to draw hypotheses and guide our goal-setting process, providing insights into the importance of prayerful commitment. As we walk through this process, you'll learn that working towards your goals doesn’t have to be a burden. We also delve into the energy required to realize our aspirations. Prepare yourself to journey through life and faith, grow in character, and experience the greatness of God.

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E15: Feelings On Purpose

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0500

What if you could unlock the secret to living a life fueled by emotions on purpose? As we explore the relationship between Being & Doing, we delve into why we want what we want and what it is that we think will make us happy. You will learn how to feel on purpose, owning your emotional experiences. In this episode Jill shares valuable techniques for identifying the desired feelings and sensations you want to experience, as well as crafting thoughts that lead to those emotions. Learn from three essential scriptures that emphasize choosing our thoughts to redirect our lives.

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E14: Why You Do What You Do

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This episode is part of the four-part series on Being & Doing. You will learn why we do certain things and why we may not do what we want to do. I introduce The Heart Scan Process as a way of gaining a deeper understanding of your life and creating change. You will discover:

Relatable examples of clients who are unhappy with their actions not aligning with their values and not achieving desired results.
Four parts of Heart Scanning: Expose, Renew, Engage, and Press On.
The Self-Coaching Model is introduced as a tool to analyze problems and break them down into five components: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.
Circumstances are things outside of our control, while thoughts, feelings, actions, and results can be controlled.
Trusting in God's sovereignty over circumstances is discussed.
The importance of awareness of our thoughts and how they create feelings and fuel actions is emphasized.
The relationship between thoughts, feelings, actions, and results is explained.
The process of doing a Thought Capture is introduced as a way to observe and analyze our thoughts and feelings.
The importance of approaching this process with grace instead of judgment is emphasized.
The benefits of exposing hidden thoughts and feelings are discussed, including the ability to consciously decide how to deal with them.
The connection between hiding and being unable to experience God's presence is mentioned.
The podcast emphasizes examining our hearts and emotions for sustainable change rather than relying solely on external actions.

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E13: Making Repair Attempts

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

The Hallmark of happy couples is NOT that they never have disagreements or regrettable incidences. What sets the "masters of marriage" apart from the "disasters of marriage," as Gottman likes to classify them, is Repair Attempts. If you can have a fight but come back together and effectively move forward, learning from your last conversation that didn’t go well, then you are on the right track for a growing relationship. This week I show you how to repair your conversations by tapping the breaks, taking a time out, and coming back together.

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E12: How To Deepen Understanding So You Can Move Past Gridlock

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Do you have issues in your marriage where you don't see eye to eye? When the topic comes up, do you lock horns and get stuck in hurt? Nothing is wrong that you have a "problem." However, if you become gridlock over it, you may decide, "It's better to deal with this on my own," a thought that ignites the cascade of distance, loneliness, and isolation. Though the fighting has stopped, you are now separate lives. There has to be another alternative to move forward and get unstuck. I tell you how here.

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E11: Four Conversation Killers (and what to do instead)

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Here I explore four habitual ways of engaging that shut down communication and can destroy your relationship. If you want better conversations, I will show you what to do instead. This is part of the Better Conversations Series.

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E10: The Talk Table

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

The Talk Table is a conversation tool that will allow you to stay calm, listen better, and effectively share. Learn four tips for using this tool so you can create better conversations. This is part of The Better Conversations Series.

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E9: Why Conversations Are Hard

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

This episode is part of The Better Conversations series. We have the amazing opportunity and capacity to exchange thoughts and feelings with others. However, sometimes conversations don't go as planned, and we decide that conversations can be hard. In this episode, I tell you the ONE reason your conversations are hard and give you three tips for creating Better Conversations.

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E8: "Rooted Joy" with special guest Becky Harling

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

True Joy is rooted in a relationship with Christ and others. Join me with special guest Becky Harling as she walks us through four aspects of joy highlighted in her first group devotional book Rooted Joy, part of The Girlfriends Gathering Series.

You can find Becky's books and more at www.beckyharling.com

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E7: Experiencing Negative Emotions

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Happiness does not mean we have positive feelings all the time. Life is 50/50; to create a happy life, we must make room for negative emotions. All your feelings, the negative ones included, can be portals to experiencing more of God's presence.

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E6: The Reason You Aren't Happy

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

If you want to feel better, you must first understand the REAL reason why you are feeling the way you are. In this episode, you will discover seven sneaky thought errors and what to do about them. When you get to the root of your dissatisfaction, you can take your power back regaining peace and joy.

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E5: What Is A Happy Life?

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

There are many different ideas and questions about happiness. Does being happy imply that we will never feel terrible? Is there a formula for happiness? Is being happy something we should even strive for as Christians? I answer all this and more as I give you 5 Biblical teachings on happiness that you can apply to your life. Unlike momentary, fleeting pleasure, true happiness can sustain us through the worst times.

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E4: Stop Struggling

Fri, 26 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Though where we are is uncomfortable, getting to where we want to be can feel terrifying. Oftentimes we sit on the shorelines of our life, choosing familiar discomfort over our deepest longings. Between where we are and where we are going, we find ourselves in a sea of struggle or surrender. Everything changes when we invite the Lord into the misery of becoming, surrendering to him rather than our circumstances.

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E3: Living In The Already But Not Yet

Fri, 19 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

When you received Jesus, you received a new identity. The old is gone, yet you are still becoming who you already are, awaiting this transformation's fullness. This is a paradox that we can't fully understand. When we think things should be different than they are, we become discouraged. In this episode, I give you six tips for living in the tension of the already but not yet.

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E2: Taking Declare-Actions Despite Unwanted Emotions

Fri, 12 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Creating change starts with our intellect, emotion, and will. Actions must follow. Even as we press on, we will experience unwanted emotions that seem to work against our deepest desires. When we declare new truths and take action despite these feelings, we will keep moving forward and build a better relationship with ourselves as we honor our greatest values.

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E1: Who Do You Think You Are?

Fri, 05 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Knowing who you are is foundational to how you show up in your life and relationships. It defines your worth, value, purpose and what resources you have access to. As a Christian believer you are 100% whole, even as you are still becoming . In this episode I give you 7 suggestions to guide you as you become the woman Scripture says you already are.

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SNEAK PEEK: The Happiest Lives Podcast

Sat, 08 Apr 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Join me, Jill Lillard, on a journey to transform your life and relationships through The Happiest Lives Podcast. New episodes are released every Friday.

As a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Couples Therapist with the world-renowned Gottman Institute, and Certified Life Coach, I have spent over two decades helping people navigate relationships and emotions. My faith and relationship with Jesus is center to all my work.

If you're new to The Happiest Lives, it's my coaching business designed exclusively for Christian wives seeking to find greater fulfillment in their marriages and experience deeper love. If you want to honor the Lord in all you do, abiding in his joy and peace as you navigate life and relationships, then you're in the right place.

Throughout the podcast, you'll encounter five fundamental concepts that underpin all the work we do:

Focus on the Controllable: Shift your energy away from trying to change others and channel it into becoming the woman you aspire to be. By doing so, you'll enhance your relationships and embrace greater enjoyment.

Embrace Emotional Awareness: Learn how to handle emotions effectively to prevent conversations from derailing. Gain insights into managing triggered emotions, allowing you to respond productively and create space for others.

Prioritize God at the Center: Recognize that your husband can't fill the void only God can occupy. When you prioritize God at the center of your life, everything else falls into place.

Take Action Amid Unwanted Emotions: Discover the power of aligning your actions with your beliefs and values, even when negative emotions arise. By tapping into what's most important to you, you can honor your commitments consistently.

Turn Toward Each Other: Foster stronger connections with your partner by facing challenges together. Transform from a "ME" mentality to a united "WE," building trust and intimacy.

I'll also introduce you to a powerful process called The Heart Scan, which helps you delve deep into your intellect, emotions, and will to bring about lasting change. As you explore intriguing perspectives on your relationships and inner world, you'll have the opportunity to apply what you learn through my coaching programs.

In The Happiest Lives Academy, our most intensive coaching program, you'll experience five life-transforming shifts in five months as you learn to Organize You Life from the Inside Out, Leverage Your Emotions, Make Powerful Decisions, Create Calm Conversations, and Break Strongholds.

Clarity+Courage, my cost-effective coaching program, offers ongoing access to new concepts, live coaching, and workshops. You can join or cancel anytime, making it an ideal fit for your needs.

Additionally, the Relationship Reinvention program, offered annually for couples, provides self-study materials and interventions to strengthen your bond as a couple, all within a supportive group setting.

Explore my array of self-study courses, including "The Happy Marriage Mindset," "Connection Cure," and "The 6-Week Marriage Makeover," which also offers the option for six weeks of coaching support.

Not sure where to start? Try my FREE mini-courses: "The 4 Things You Must Do To Become The Happiest Wife" or "Living In Confidence No Matter What."

Over the past 25 years as a therapist and couples counselor, I've gathered invaluable insights I'm eager to share with you. Together, we'll m

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