I explore my overthinking tendencies and how this shows up in my life. One of the ways this shows up, is in the belief that I am ‘too much’ for others. That my presence is too much and that I need to dim myself down to be able to fit in and connect with others. However, all this has done has encouraged me to connect to the wrong people. People that don’t align with me. That’s not to say these people in my past have been bad or wrong in any way, but I have been the one to lose out because I have been altering myself to fit in when, if I had stayed authentic to myself, I would have eventually found connections that align with who I actually am! It’s a very scary prospect though because staying true to yourself puts you in a position of being rejected and that is a scary thought. But I’m trying to work through my relationship with that. 

This episode is definitely a daunting one to share but FUCK IT, I don’t get a second chance at this life and I know that by sharing this, I will strengthen the courage I need to keep being ME.

I wanted to make an episode on dating because I have always found dating, meeting new people, experiencing myself in different environments, to be something that has taught me SO MUCH about myself. The fact you are opening yourself to be more intimate and vulnerable with another person teaches you a lot about how you react to certain situations that you would not have experienced when you were single. 

However, I have definitely found that dating feels quite unnatural? It can sometimes feel like a game and that people don’t have much consideration for others’ feelings. AND I sense a lack of authenticity from people almost because of a fear of being rejected/for being seen for who you truly are… Which is a beautifully flawed human being!? :D

It’s been a rollercoaster so far and I thought I would just waffle on a bit about it in the hopes that someone may understand what it is I’m experiencing! :) 

This is the basis of todays episode. 

One of my teachers, Ethan, on my counselling course mentioned Edith Eger and her work as a psychotherapist after surviving the holocaust. He quoted the above and it impacted me so deeply. 

I am naturally someone who craves love and validation from outside of myself and that has been the cause of much pain in my life. Hearing something like this almost gives me permission to be ME. I struggle to explain it in any other way than this. 

I think the idea that if I was stripped of everything material in my life and was left with just myself, I would genuinely be happy. That is SO POWERFUL. 

I really hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed making it. It’s a special one ♡ 

I have personally noticed how misaligned from my own body I have been and how much I have ignored the signs it has desperately tried to communicate to me. It is a trait that I feel many of us have experienced, and not something I criticise at all, because I think that life is simply too busy for us to take a breather and check in with ourselves. So this is the invite to BREATHE. 

Our bodies are a strong and powerful shell that allow us to experience this beautiful world. We need to remind ourselves of how lucky we are to have able, healthy bodies that support us throughout this wonderful life. We need to treat it with love and grace, even when it feels like its working against us… It’s not. It’s doing it’s best to work for you ♡ 

The people I have mentioned in this episode are:

• Florence Given
• Esther Perel
• Alain de Botton 
• James Sexton
• Chris Williamson

Enjoy!