Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding

52: The powerful role the skill of greiving plays in boundaries & weaning

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0400

Hey friends, I'm back behind the mic and easing into a new season with a heartfelt episode on a topic that might seem a little odd - how grief is an important part of breastfeeding boundaries. In this episode, I open up about the emotional undercurrents we face in transitions—from weaning and toddler boundaries to unexpected life moments that stir up deep feelings.

Grief shows up in subtle and surprising ways as our children grow, especially during limit-setting moments. I share personal stories, including the tender experience of my daughter's emotional resilience after the loss of a pet, and reflect on how guiding our children through their frustration, sadness, and eventual acceptance can become one of the most valuable life skills we nurture in them. If you've ever felt the tug of grief during a parenting milestone, this episode on gentle parenting, breastfeeding boundaries, and emotional development in toddlers is for you.

Grab your free guide to say "No" to the feed while still saying "yes" to the need at www.ownyourparentingstory.com/guide

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51: Myth Busting Facts on Toddler Breastfeeding (empowerment for your next family holiday gathering)

Sun, 08 Dec 2024 23:00:00 -0500

Are you nervous about your next holiday get-together, worrying about unsolicited comments about your breastfeeding toddler?

Myths and misconceptions abound when it comes to breastfeeding - and for some reason, there are people who feel they have a right to comment on your parenting.

But have no fear! I've got you.

In this episode, we’re busting common myths about breastfeeding beyond the first year, using research-backed information to help you feel confident and supported in your choices. We’ll cover:

Why breastfeeding into toddlerhood is biologically normal and globally common.
The nutritional powerhouse of breast milk after the first year.
Tandem feeding and breastfeeding during pregnancy: myths vs. reality.
The truth about breast milk, cavities, and oral health.
Benefits for both you and your child—beyond the emotional connection.

Grab your free Myth-Busting Toddler breastfeeding Fact Sheet at ownyourparentingstory.com/myths and have the facts at your fingertips for tough conversations with family, friends, or healthcare providers.

Podcast episodes mentioned:

50 - Natasha's Story - Boundaries and Tandem Feeding

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 16:00:00 -0500

Natasha was rocked when the breastfeeding relationship she loved so much became something she felt she had to white knuckle to endure.

Using compassion, curiosity, and creativity Natasha transformed her breastfeeding relationship with her 3 year old son, night-weaned and created a rhythm that works for both of them (and her baby!).

If you have been lonely in your breastfeeding challenges, curious about what tandem feeding could look like, or wanting inspiration for the changes you could make in your own breastfeeding story - do not miss this episode!

49 - What is "Gentle" Weaning & Boundaries?

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0500

The word "Gentle" can be really divisive in the parenting world these days.

I've used that word a LOT to describe the way that I approach and support breastfeeding families to set boundaries and even wean. But I don't mean it in the way you might think.

In this podcast episode, I unpack what I mean by "gentle" and the 3 different areas in which gentle boundaries and weaning can a difference for you and your child: Mind, Body & Heart.

Post-Weaning Depression Research:
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38300295/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39427882/
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00737-018-0871-9

48 - An Action Plan for the Stressed Out Breastfeeding Mom

Sun, 27 Oct 2024 19:00:00 -0400

If you are feeling at the end of your rope with your breastfeeding toddler - this episode is for you.

I break down 4 steps to creating your own action plan to find ease in your breastfeeding relationship that WILL help to:

Stop the continual meltdowns
Support your child to be able to tolerate the word "no"
Get your butt unglued from your couch (where your toddler always demands you sit to feed).
Help your child sleep for longer stretches
Reduce food battles

Grab a pen and paper while you listen so you can chart out your personalized plan. Or, keep an eye on your email this week for a free printable worksheet. (Not on my email list? Sign up here and get my free Making Changes guide & cheat sheet).

47 - 5 Body Safety Rules for Toddlers with Sex Education Coach Alisha Lunsford of Sexpert Parenting

Sun, 20 Oct 2024 23:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Sex Educator, Alisha Lunsford, and I explore the crucial body safety rules every child should know by age five so that you can feel equipped with the tools needed to foster confidence and autonomy in your kids. We cover modeling consent, trusting intuition, managing tricky situations, and much more.

You can grab the free PDF summary of the top 5 rules here.

Remember:

Start the conversation about body safety early and repeat it often.
Use everyday moments to reinforce these safety principles.
Model respectful, consent-based behavior in your own interactions with your children.

More about Alisha Lunsford:
"I’m Alisha. I’m a straight, cisgender female and sex educator.

I understand that as parents, we often feel overwhelmed and under-prepared for many of the roles we take on. Ultimately, we’re expected to keep our little humans physically and mentally safe, happy and healthy – and whether we like it or not, sexuality impacts each of these needs.

I provide straightforward sex education for parents of toddlers, teens and in-betweens. I focus on both mental and physical health while providing insight on a variety of content ranging from safety, sexual predators, puberty, LGBTQIA+, consent, porn exposure, birth control, and all the nooks and crannies throughout."

Check out her website at: sexpertparenting.org
Click here to follow her on Instagram.

46: How "Felt Safety" makes a difference when breastfeeding (and generally adulting!)

Sun, 06 Oct 2024 23:00:00 -0400

I'm back!

It's been a hot minute since I've posted a new episode, but I am here!

I'm also working on new content and resources - let me know what you want to hear about here.

As I have been navigating diagnosis, treatment, and recovery from a number of health issues while also serving breastfeeding toddler families, I have noticed a few parallels between my own path to health, and the path to breastfeeding & weaning ease.

In this episode I share about my own my sense of "felt safety" around wasps - yellow jackets to be exact, and how the timeline of the ebb and flow of the intensity of my fear coincided with the timeline of the intensity of my stress/overwhelm.

I use that parallel to describe how our stress as humans shows up in our breastfeeding & parenting.

From there, I provide 2 different ways to support a felt sense of safety so that you can in turn cultivate ease in your breastfeeding (and most other areas of life!):

#1 - Soaking in the positive moments (because our negativity bias feeds our fear/stress).

#2 - Meeting our fears/stress with kindness and self-compassion (because ignoring, catastrophizing, and/or arguing with ourselves only serves to reinforce and grow our fears and stress.)

Try these 2 things out this week and then use the "fan mail"/text me option to let me know how they have made a difference for you.

45: "Help! I'm going on a work trip" 3 ways to prep dad & breastfed toddler for their first night alone together

Sun, 21 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0400

This week I'm answering a coaching call question from an extended breastfeeding mom:
"My toddler often doesn't accept dad at night when she wakes up crying. I am and have always been the preferred parent. I have just found out about a work trip I need to take which will have me away from my 2-year-old overnight for the first time. Typically, I feed her to sleep and to resettle throughout the night. If I am out of the house for bedtime, she does goes to sleep for other people, but it often takes a lot longer than if I am doing bedtime.

Wondering if you had any tips that might help them both prepare for my work trip over the next few weeks and allow dad to be involved in general?"

While there are a lot of things can be done to indirectly support a family in this situation, in this podcast episode, I break down a simple 3 part strategy to support a non-breastfeeding parent & a breastfed toddler for their first night(s) alone together.

Whether you decide to night wean ahead of time or not (and I do explore this a little more in the episode), bolstering and leveraging your child's connection with the person who will be caring for them is key to a relaxing time apart.

Find more opportunities for playful interactions between dad & kiddo (without pulling back from your own playful interactions with your child.)
Utilizing "bridging" tools to help your child feel connected with you even when you are apart and help that separation feel less scary and intense.
Expand the non-breastfeeding caregiver's capacity to hold space for the feelings that may come up.

Resources Mentioned:
https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/serve-and-return/

44 - HELP! My toddler is struggling to listen first thing in the morning (and a quick personal update!)

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0400

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In this week's episode of Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding, I'm answering a question I received from a student in Own Your Breastfeeding Story.

"How can I encourage my 2 year old to settle down when he is on the bed with us?

We cosleep and most of the time especially in the morning when he wakes up, after he nurses from me, he immediately goes to wake up our 4 month old, or will start making big movements that will wake her up.

We try to explain to him that when the newborn is sleeping (or anyone) we whisper and we try not to disturb them.

Is this an unrealistic expectation of a toddler? What else can we do? "

This kind of situation comes up in lots of different contexts - and for tandem breastfeeding moms, it can feel particularly loaded.

Breastfeeding is your number one tool, but maybe your toddler isn't interested, or maybe YOU aren't interested. Are you destined to have a horrible day that begins with a stressful morning?

In the episode I share a few different things to consider, and give some practical support:

1 - Check in with YOUR expectations first.

2 - Set your little one up for success by talking about this issue outside of the moment.

3 - Support them to have something else to do.

4 - Playfully engage with them to put them into a receptive state and avoid having to tell them what to do/not to do altogether.

43: UPDATED Tandem breastfeeding: Life with 2 booby-monsters (part 3 of the tandem feeding series)*

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 10:00:00 -0400

**AUDIO FIXED**
Breastfeeding a toddler and a newborn... at the same time -> most people in the Western world think this is crazy.

And yet, I breastfed 2 kids (of different ages) for 3.5 years, and I hear from listeners all the time who are either doing it or considering it.

But, just like most things "extended breastfeeding" there aren't many places to find support when you start out on your tandem nursing journey.

In this final part of the Tandem Feeding series I give you all the things I wish I would have known as a first time tandem feeding mom,

I cover:

The most commonly asked tandemfeeding questions
Preparing to tandem feed
Navigating the early days of tandem nursing (including positions & sleep)
Common challenges
Some benefits of tandem nursing.

Resources & Links from the episode:
Sleep:

Baby Wearing:

Studies referenced in the episode:

Supportive resources for navigating judgment while tandem feeding:

42 - Breastfeeding a toddler while pregnant (part 2 of the tandem feeding series)

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 12:00:00 -0500

Finding out you are pregnant is a complex at the best of times.

Having concerns about safety for you and your growing baby, finding your life impacted in ways you never would have expected, and feeling emotions you didn't know were possible (thank you hormones!) are all normal things in pregnancy - but there is an added layer of concern and change when you conceive while you are currently breastfeeding.

It's (unfortunately) common to immediately get advice from friends, family, and even doctors that you must wean for your well-being and the health of your fetus. It's understood that breastfeeding during pregnancy has far more risks and benefits and continuing on is just foolish... or is it?

In this week's podcast episode I bring together some of the lastest research & science around breastfeeding during pregnancy, as well as my own personal experience as a tandem feeding mom, and my professional experience as a toddler breastfeeding coach to give you the best information on:

The safety of breastfeeding during pregnancy
Your milk supply while pregnan
Pain & aversion during pregnancy while breastfeeding
Weaning & making changes with your toddler

Hit follow/subscribe to get notified when the 3rd and final part of this series drops!

Much of the research I share in this podcast episode is from the 2nd edition of Dr. Hilary Flower's book: "Adventures in Tandem Nursing"

Click to listen to the referenced episode on Milk Supply while breastfeeding a toddler.

Stalimerou V, Dagla M, Vivilaki V, Orovou E, Antoniou E, Iliadou M. Breastfeeding During Pregnancy: A Systematic Review of the Literature. Maedica (Bucur). 2023 Sep;18(3):463-469. doi: 10.26574/maedica.2023.18.3.463. PMID: 38023747; PMCID: PMC10674114.

Madarshahian F, Hassanabadi M. A comparative study of breastfeeding during pregnancy: impact on maternal and newborn outcomes. J Nurs Res. 2012 Mar;20(1):74-80. doi: 10.1097/JNR.0b013e31824777c1. PMID: 22333968.

41: Getting pregnant (or not!) while breastfeeding a toddler (part 1 of the tandem feeding series)

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Trying to understand your fertility while you are breastfeeding your toddler is an uphill battle.

Sure - Google abounds with tips & information about conception and contraception, but less so about conception and contraception while you are breastfeeding... and finding support for making sense of those things while you are breastfeeding a TODDLER?! ...virtually impossible.

But, have no fear - your toddler breastfeeding guru is here! [insert Wonder Woman gif]

In this half hour episode I have packed in:

Considerations for timing your next pregnancy (or not!) and how there might be factors you are unaware of that could be increasing your stress, and impacting your day-to-day breastfeeding with your toddler.
Tips for supporting your sex-life while breastfeeding
A simplified breakdown of the menstrual cycle, the hormones involved, AND how they are impacted by breastfeeding.
What is normal (and what is not) for your period when breastfeeding
What contraceptive methods are compatible with breastfeeding (and WHY)
Support to talk about fertility drugs with your doctor (before you decide to wean)
How to be empowered to understand YOUR body better
...and last but not least, how to support your body to move back into fertility while you are breastfeeding.

Make sure to hit "follow" or "subscribe" so you don't miss next week's episode all about breastfeeding through pregnancy.

Resources mentioned in the podcast:
https://www.infantrisk.com/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK501922/

Resources I used in preparation for this episode:

"The Second Baby Book" by Sarah Ockwell Smith

"Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler

Heinig MJ, Nommsen-Rivers LA, Peerson JM, Dewey KG. Factors related to duration of postpartum amenorrhoea among USA women with prolonged lactation. J Biosoc Sci. 1994 Oct;26(4):517-27. doi: 10.1017/s0021932000021647. PMID: 7983102.

Wilcox AJ, Weinberg CR, Baird DD. Timing of sexual intercourse in relation to ovulation. Effects on the probability of conception, survival of the pregnancy, and sex of the baby. N Engl J Med. 1995 Dec 7;333(23):1517-21. doi: 10.1056/NEJM199512073332301. PMID: 7477165.

(Toddler) Breastfeeding Goals - Do they really matter? (BTS Bonus Episode 4)

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt the pressure of setting specific breastfeeding goals? I know I have! In the beginning, I felt like I had to have these concrete goals because, let's face it, everyone asks! But guess what? Once you are actually "in it" - things shift and change day-to-day and all of that concrete thinking feels a whole lot more abstract.

In this episode, I share my journey from setting specific goals to embracing a more values-based approach... and the shift I am seeing in those I support.

Join me as I share my insights on the modern dilemma of breastfeeding goals and what it all might mean for you and your toddler.

My Nursing Aversion & Mental Health Struggles (BTS Bonus Episode 3)

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 13:00:00 -0500

Welcome to episode three of this Behind the Scenes series!
In this candid conversation, I'm opening up about my mental health journey, embracing the highs and lows of anxiety, and depression, and sharing how it all ties into my experience with nursing aversion.

This episode isn't just about my journey; it's an invitation to explore the intersection of mental health, motherhood - and of course, breastfeeding.

I also dip into the things that have supported me through the most intense periods of emotional and mental struggles in my life and are still supporting me now. My hope is that they offer you support as well.

I do share a few details around the trauma I experienced with my daughter's birth. If you would like to skip that part - jump ahead to 9:56 when I give the warning (at around 7 minutes.)

What it's like breastfeeding my 4 yo - a day in the life (BTS Bonus Episode 2)

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 13:00:00 -0500

Tune into this episode to hear about sleep, boundaries, and more in my home right now.

Ever wonder what life might look like if you were breastfeeding a 4 year old?

Apparently, a lot of you have! Hundreds of you were curious about my current breastfeeding experience. So, I decided to break down what it's like to breastfeed my 4-year-old.

I know it sounds like the title of a click-bait article, but the truth is, the fact that I am *still* breastfeeding my 4 year old barely enters my mind. It's a normal (and mostly enjoyable) small part of our lives.

Also - I am sharing the toddler planner I use in my home to support ease and calm around breastfeeding and beyond.

(It's literally the exact same one I created for my family, based on tools I have used and optimized for years)

You can grab your free printable toddler planner here.

Survival Mode Motherhood (Ep. 1 of Behind the Scenes Series)

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

If you have longed for a "me too," or an "I get it" for the times when parenting feels like you are just doing what you can to survive the day - this is the episode for you.

2023 was a crazy ride for me. Launching this podcast was incredible, but a lot was going on behind the scenes - including health struggles for me, which led to a lot of "survival mode parenting".

Over the next month, I'll be sharing shorter, laid-back episodes that explore some of the things that I have experienced personally over my last 6.5 years of breastfeeding - and the last year of utter chaos.

In this first episode of the BTS seried, I share how my own exhaustion and limited capacity have had benefits in my parenting.

(And make sure to subscribe/follow this podcast so you don't miss out on the rest of the episodes in this BTS series.)

40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

The shirt-pulling, screaming, and demands to breastfeed have gotten to the point that you find yourself dreading them before your toddler has even thought about breastfeeding again.

When they do, inevitably "ask" to breastfeed, the fear of reinforcing all of their bad behaviors reverberates through your body as you quickly try to decide if you will hold the boundary; or give in to their demands this time.

...and the guilt that comes from the fact that they "act" so poorly can be crushing. Did you cause this behavior with your bad parenting? Will they end up as disrespectful teenagers? Will the choices you make today define their character as adults?

Man - the pressure that mounts in those moments is crushing!

But what if there is another way?

In this final podcast episode of season 1 of Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding I break down:

What respectful behaviour is and isn't
The truth about the magic words: "Please" & "Thank You"
Rewards, punishments & reinforcing behaviours
How to support your child in the moment
How to raise an empathetic, respectful human who has integrity
How to support YOURSELF in the moment

Looking for the episodes I mentioned at the beginning to re-listen to during the holidays?

References:
Harvard Making Caring Common Project

39: a massive cultural barrier to natural term breastfeeding & toddler weaning with confidence and calm

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 13:00:00 -0500

Breastfeeding & weaning your toddler with confidence and connection isn't impossible. But the reason it feels that way (at least some of the time) isn't your fault.

In today's podcast episode I break down the first of 3 cultural traps that keep you stuck and frustrated on your natural term breastfeeding & toddler weaning journey.

(The other 2 are available in my free instant-access workshop here!)

The trap? The belief/instinct to start by changing your child's behavior first.

What does it look like?
->Deciding it's time to wean
->Shorten feeds/dropping feeds/reading the weaning story books
->...and your child asks to breastfeed more, not less (and at an increasing volume.)

Tune in to learn how to get un-stuck from this trap (and avoid it if you haven't fallen in yet!)

38 - My toddler only wants me for my milk - confessions of a milk machine

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 15:00:00 -0500

"They swarm me whenever I sit down and will SCREAM until I breastfeed them - and then they are off to play. They never want snuggle without breastfeeding. I feel like all I am is a milk machine." <- Have you ever had these thoughts?

I know I have!

This week I challenge the cultural narrative that we are only milk machines, unpack the ways that this belief impacts our moment-by-moment breastfeeding, and leave you with some practical tips to connect with your child beyond the boob.

Note - I'll take things a little slower until the New Year, so stay tuned for new episodes on a slightly less frequent schedule.

37 - My Supporting Toddler Breastfeeding Moms Evolution - (Aka the birth of my 3rd "child" Own Your Breastfeeding Story")

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Lactation support for newborns is hard enough to come by - but when I decided to focus on toddler breastfeeding there was NO one to look too and say "ah, that's how it's done!"

So, there was (a lot of) trial & error as I worked to create some kind of support that WORKED to help toddler breastfeeding families get unstuck from the loop of boundary burnout and thrive in their breastfeeding & weaning.

In this episode I take you through the different methods I tried, what worked and what didn't, and why - which I hope will help you be able to sort through what support options will work best for you and your family!

36: To wean or not to wean (for the unsure toddler breastfeeding momma)

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Hands up if you have gone back & forth about whether or not you should wean your breastfeeding toddler?! 🙋‍♀️

It makes sense - and trust me, you are NOT alone. (It's one of the most common dilemmas "extended" breastfeeding moms face.)

In this episode, I offer you an alternative to the "to wean or not to wean" conundrum that will have you feeling hopeful and empowered regardless of your weaning status.

Key Takeaways:

1. Self-Aggression vs. Self-Kindness:

Understand the fundamental difference between self-aggression and self-kindness in parenting.
How self-aggression can lead to unnecessary stress and conflict.

2. Real-Life Examples of Self-Kindness:

Learn practical examples of self-kindness in action.
Setting healthy boundaries and nurturing personal needs.
Offering self-compassion when breastfeeding & weaning

3. The Impact on Parent-Child Relationships:

Discover how embracing self-kindness can lead to a more harmonious and loving parent-child relationship.
The importance of teaching self-kindness to your children.

Click here to listen to episode #7 where I share more about the biological process of weaning & readiness.

35: How to wean a clingy toddler from breastfeeding

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I discuss the challenges of weaning your booby-obsessed toddler when they're not quite ready to stop breastfeeding. I explore the role of internal experiences, stress, and co-regulation in this process.

Key Points:

You Can't Magically Make Them Ready: Unfortunately, you can't instantly make your toddler ready to wean - no matter how badly you might want to! It's important to understand that their internal experiences and feelings can't be changed on a whim - but that doesn't mean you don't have anything within your control...
The Toddler Breastfeeding Stress Spiral: I delve into the "toddler breastfeeding stress cycle" where a stressed parent can lead to more frequent breastfeeding, creating a cycle of stress for both child and parent. This is the part you CAN control!
Addressing Your Internal Experience: By addressing your own internal experiences and managing your stress, you can turn down the dial of intensity in your child's breastfeeding demands and clinginess. But, your ability to influence your toddler's readiness doesn't stop there.
External Stressors: Examine your child's environment to identify external stressors that might be affecting them. Reducing these stressors can empower your child to handle the stress associated with weaning more effectively.
Empowering Your Child: Weaning is a big change, and if they haven't stopped breastfeeding on their own they probably aren't "ready to stop" - BUT if you have laid the foundation well, you can empower them to move through the change of weaning without too much stress. And the stress that is there will be met with connection & co-regulation from you that will strengthen your bond.
Upcoming Workshop: Don't forget to register for the upcoming workshop on October 27th at 2 p.m. Eastern, where I'll dive deeper into these topics and answer your questions. The replay will be available if you can't attend live.

Stay Tuned: In the next podcast episode, I'll be talking about how to know if YOU are truly ready to wean.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode.

34: Why (almost) all the toddler breastfeeding advice is WRONG (and why there is still hope!)

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Who knew you would be longing for the early days of breastfeeding again a year or two don't the road?

It seems to get MORE complicated the further along you go - and the big reason for this?

Really terrible advice, from (often) really well-meaning people!

In this week's podcast episode I am breaking down the 3 different types of toddler breastfeeding "advice" I see out in the world:

Behaviour Focused
Fantasy Focused
Overly Generalized

AND I'll be sharing why I believe there is still so much hope for you and your little one.

33: When to stop breastfeeding on demand (and what to do instead)

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Breastfeeding on demand is recommended by leading health & breastfeeding organizations around the world, but what happens when your little one isn't so little anymore? Is there an age where you should stop offering breastmilk anytime your child asks? And if there is - what are you supposed to do after it?

In this podcast episode, I break down:

What on-demand breastfeeding is
Why it's recommended (and touch on the sorted history of infant feeding recommendations)
3 Problems with on-demand breastfeeding
What the typical answer is for "when to stop on-demand breastfeeding" (and why it doesn't hit the mark)
Why you should stop on-demand breastfeeding today and what to do instead

Tune in for a nuanced conversation about the topics that keep you up at night (literally & figuratively) as a full-term breastfeeding mom.

Read the blog version of this podcast here.

32: Navigating Tantrums While Night Weaning A Toddler

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

The hardest part about night weaning? The BIG emotions!

In this episode, I break down:

The 2 types of toddler "mis"-behavior (what to do for each kind)
6 Big picture considerations for less-stress night weaning
4 steps to navigate night time tantrumss (and when to change course)
My best "tip" for night weaning your toddler

If you want to read this podcast as a blog - head over here.

31: Why is my child waking so much?! Unpacking normal sleep & gentle strategies with Kim Hawley, MA, MPH, IBCLC & Holistic Sleep Coach (Intuitive Parenting DC)

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 13:00:00 -0400

Ever wished you could decode the enigma of infant and toddler sleep? As your guide through this labyrinth, I’m excited to bring you my engaging conversation with Kim Hawley, an expert in holistic sleep coaching, lactation consulting, and peaceful parenting education – a rare combination indeed! Drawing on Kim’s years of experience, we delve into the winding path of sleep in a child’s early years, distinguishing what’s normal, what's not, and how to respond when you're caught in the crosshairs of uncertainty.

During our enlightening chat, Kim shares insights into her personal journey and how it led her to become a passionate advocate for biologically normal sleep in the modern world. We examine the range of factors that influence sleep in the first two years of life, from developmental milestones to temperamental traits and even medical issues like allergies. Kim shares insider tips on how parental sleep hygiene can positively impact their child's rest, and we shed a light on the often-overlooked importance of night feeds for not just nutrition, but also connection and co-regulation.

Finally, we discuss the critical role of physical proximity and connection in a child's overall development. We shed light on why this instinct is deeply embedded in us, courtesy of our evolutionary past, and how it can be adapted to suit modern parenting. Tune in to discover practical advice on incorporating proximity and connection into your child's sleep routine, even if they're sleeping independently. Whether you're just embarking on the parenting journey or already navigating through sleepless nights, this conversation is brimming with invaluable insights that you won't want to miss.

Kim Hawley, MA, MPH, IBCLC is a Holistic Sleep Coach, Lactation Consultant, Peaceful Parenting Educator, and the owner of Intuitive Parenting. She helps tired parents bring together developmental knowledge, sleep science, and their intuition to improve family sleep. Her specialty is holistic, responsive sleep support for babies, toddlers, and nursing families. She is the founder of Responsive Family Sleep, an online sleep support program for parents looking to support sleep without sleep training, and the host of the new podcast, The Responsive Family Sleep Podcast. Kim lives in Capitol Hill, Washington DC with her husband, 2 kids, guide dog, and cat. She loves running, listening to audio books, coffee, chocolate, and wine.

Kim's Website: https://intuitiveparentingdc.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intuitive_parenting_dc
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/intuitiveparentingdc

Kim's Comprehensive guide to normal sleep 0-5 years.

30: Clogged Ducts, Engorgement & Mastitis in extended breastfeeding, weaning & beyond

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 19:00:00 -0400

Engorgement, clogged ducts & mastitis are words all breastfeeding moms are familiar with.
They can be scary & overwhelming, particularly at the beginning of your breastfeeding journey, but can pop up throughout the duration of time that you are breastfeeding - mainly when significant changes are happening in your life, including night weaning & complete weaning.

To further complicate things, there has been a fundamental shift in the way that science and leading lactation organizations and experts understand these conditions - this has resulted in the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine completely overhauling their Mastitis Proctol. This means that the approach both lactating people & those who support them take when addressing engorgement, clogged ducts & mastitis has changed, or needs to change.

This is relevant to those who are early in their breastfeeding experience, of course, but it’s ALSO relevant to those who have been breastfeeding for a year or more. You are more likely to be supporting friends & family members when they are encountering these things, and you are more likely to be using methods you were told to use when you face them yourself - but those methods are likely based on an outdated understanding of what engorgement, clogged ducts & mastitis are and could be creating MORE issues than they are solving.

In this episode I break down:
-> The big change
-> Each condition in the Mastitis Spectrum of Conditions
-> Support for general treatment & prevention
-> The role stress plays (and what to do about it)

DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be medical advice.

Resources & Citations:
Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine Mastitis Protocol.

Quoted study:
Segerstrom, S. C., & Miller, G. E. (2006, July). Psychological stress and the human immune system: A meta-analytic study of 30 years of inquiry. Psychological bulletin.

Study on EFT Tapping efficacy

"Burn Out" Book by Emily & Amelia Nagoski

Strains to look for in a probitic: Lactobacillus fermentum and
Ligilactobacillus salivarius

29: Birthing to breastfeed (and tandemfeed!) with Beau Wilson, Midwife & Childbirth Educator

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Labour and deliver impact breastfeeding - and Beau Wilson is here to share all about it.

Whether you are pregnant with your first, or planning for your third, this episode will leave you inspired & empowered.

Learn about how you can set yourself up for success in both your birthing & breastfeeding, regardless of the external factors that you encounter - and how the power of your intuition can guide you.

About Beau:
Beau is a passionate Australian midwife with over a decade of experience in guiding and supporting women and their families through the transformative journey of childbirth. As a mother herself, she understands the profound significance of this momentous life event and is driven by her mission to empower women with the education and tools they need to approach birth and parenthood with confidence and informed decision-making. Whilst not initially planned, she is still breastfeeding her daughter 4.5 years on. She knew that during the pandemic, the single-most valuable thing she could do for her daughter's health is to continue to breastfeed. Extended breastfeeding has afforded her daughter ongoing emotional comfort and immune support while promoting a sense of security and emotional wellbeing.

You can read more about Beau's work at www.birthtobaby.com.au or follow her on Instagram @birthtobabyaus

28: 3 Unexpected ways to get more sleep without night weaning

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered why your little one wakes up frequently throughout the night, leaving you both exhausted? Could it be something more than just regular feeding needs? This episode illuminates how certain overlooked medical issues might be the hidden culprits affecting sleep patterns. Learn about the unexpected connection between low iron levels, thyroid imbalances, and sleep disturbances. Discover how something as simple as a blood test might be the key to unlocking a peaceful night's sleep for you and your child.

Moving beyond the physical, we also delve into the psychological aspects of sleep. Stress, a ubiquitous part of modern motherhood, often goes unnoticed as a significant disruptor of sleep. Unravel the cues of danger and threat that loom in your daily life and learn how they may be affecting your sleep. This episode uncovers practical strategies to create a sense of safety and calm amidst the chaos, ultimately aiding in better sleep. Whether you're a stay-at-home mom or juggling work and family, this episode equips you with the tools to manage your stress effectively. Remember, improving your sleep may not necessitate a massive change like night weaning - sometimes, it's about understanding your body better and keeping your stress levels in check.

27: Breastfeeding aches & pains, pelvic floor health and beyond with Katherine Baquie from The FitNest Mama Podcast

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

What happens when we start taking care of our bodies and minds during pregnancy and after childbirth? Kath Baquie, a women's physiotherapist and the founder of FitNest Mama, joins us to share her unique insights.

In this enlightening conversation, we discuss the real post-birth challenges and how they can affect your breastfeeding journey. Kath also shares some practical strategies for breastfeeding moms, including the art of lying down to breastfeed—a real game-changer for many mothers.

As Kath passionately tells us, investing in pelvic health and making adjustments to our exercise routine after childbirth can have long-term positive impacts. We also explore easy exercises for moms because even small movements can help us feel better. So, join us for this heartfelt discussion and learn why taking time for ourselves as new mothers is not just important, it's essential.

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Kath Baquie is an Australian mum of 3 young girls, a physiotherapist for women, and owner of FitNest Mama, an online community which provides new and expecting mothers with the exercises, support & resources they need to move from the physical aches & pains of pregnancy, the weakness felt after birth, to strong bodies and minds so that they can get back to doing what they love with a bubba by their side (whether or not that’s running around with the kids at the park, or running the next marathon).

Kath also has a podcast, the FitNest Mama Podcast, where each week she dives into all things pregnancy care, childbirth, and postnatal recovery.

Kath was so generous and is offering listeners of this podcast 7 free days in her Fitnest community - click here to take advantage of this opportunity.

26: How Katie night weaned her 2 year old and re-discovered herself in the process.

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Ever felt drained, tired, and even resentful while going through the demanding process of breastfeeding and weaning your toddler? Join me as I sit down with Katie, a recent graduate of Own Your Breastfeeding Story, who courageously takes us through her night weaning journey. Katie’s transformation is nothing short of inspiring, especially considering she had recently moved to a new province and got pregnant while she was weaning.

What if I told you that a crucial factor in Katie's parenting transformation was a healthy dose of self-compassion? Yes, that's right. Together, Katie and I delve into how her newfound self-compassion not only enhanced her breastfeeding journey but also improved her understanding of her child's needs. We also talk about how this compassionate perspective has helped her create a safe and trusting space for her little one, something that plays a vital role in the emotional journey of weaning.

We also reflect on Katie's personal weaning process, underlining the importance of emotional safety and, once again, self-compassion. Tune into our conversation to discover how finding hope and support can pivot your parenting challenges and provide you with practical and comforting insights. Whether you're in the throes of your own weaning journey or about to embark on one, Katie's story will certainly resonate with you, offering not just hope, but also practical tips to cope and thrive.

Wanna join Own Your Breastfeeding Story? Spots are open - get all the details here.

25: 5 Ways to navigate judgement & social pressure while extended breastfeeding

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 15:00:00 -0400

Have you ever felt judged for your choices around breastfeeding? Are you looking for strategies to confidently navigate these pressures and judgments? We tackle these sensitive topics head-on, offering grounded ways to manage societal pressures surrounding extended breastfeeding. From your intimate relationships to healthcare professionals, we delve into the dynamics of this area that is often fraught with unsolicited opinions. Whether you’ve already settled on extended breastfeeding or are still weighing the options, we provide actionable strategies to guide you through this journey.

24: Limits & Boundaries: Empowering Strategies for Breastfeeding Toddlers

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 15:00:00 -0400

Does the word 'boundaries' make you flinch? Are you riddled with guilt about setting limits when it comes to breastfeeding your toddler? Release that guilt and hold your head high as this episode tackles the often-contentious subject of breastfeeding boundaries head-on.

In this episode you'll get:

A fresh take on boundaries and a (probably) new-to-you definition.
Insight into how to create structure & predictability with your breastfeeding toddler.
A step-by-step guide to boundary setting in breastfeeding .

Resources mentioned:
Instant access workshop: www.ownyourparentingstory.com/workshop
Toddler Communcation Guide: www.ownyourparentingstory.com/guide

23: cavities, teething, and toddler biting while nursing

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 16:00:00 -0400

Teeth, and all the issues that come with them, seem to pop up alongside breastfeeding concerns throughout the breastfeeding journey.

It's hard not to worry when these are things you hear day-to-day:
"You'll be ready to wean once they have teeth!"
"You need to stop breastfeeding at night or you will rot their teeth"
"They have teeth now, they are supposed to be eating REAL food!"

In this episode I'll dip into the science, and provide some practical support for:

Breastfeeding a baby with teeth
Breastfeeding a teething toddler
Handling biting
Oral development
Cavities & breastfeeding toddlers

Don't forget to subscribe and leave a rating & review!

Research Links:
A Natural Age of Weaning by Katherine Dettwyler, PhD

Devenish G, Mukhtar A, Begley A, Spencer AJ, Thomson WM, Ha D, Do L, Scott JA. Early childhood feeding practices and dental caries among Australian preschoolers. Am J Clin Nutr. 2020 Apr 1;111(4):821-828. doi: 10.1093/ajcn/nqaa012. PMID: 32047898.

Law V, Seow WK. A longitudinal controlled study of factors associated with mutans streptococci infection and caries lesion initiation in children 21 to 72 months old. Pediatr Dent. 2006 Jan-Feb;28(1):58-65. PMID: 16615377.

22: Part 2 The Secret Sabotage - Frequent Night Waking, Tantrums, Picky Eating - TMJ, Teeth Grinding and more with Orofacial Myologist Jenny Cacilhas (MyoBalanace OMT)

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Your tongue posture (or your child's!) could be sabotaging all of your attempts at making breastfeeding & weaning an enjoyable experience.

Continuing last week's interview - Jenna and Jenny discuss the importance of orofacial myofunctional therapy for children and adults.

In this partition of the interview, we go over various symptoms that may indicate the need for "tongue physiotherapy" (Aka - Myofunctional therapy!) such as sleep issues, mouth breathing, clenching and grinding, (in adults) and messy eating, picky eating and frequent night waking in kids.

We talk about how your child's quick "clip" of a tongue tie as a newborn might need revisiting and covers the benefits of bodywork and massages to release tension in the facial muscles.

Show Notes:

Symptoms that may indicate the need for orofacial myofunctional therapy: sleep issues, mouth breathing, clenching and grinding, messy eating, sleep disturbances.
The role of tongue ties and the importance of proper stretching and care after a release.
The benefits of bodywork and massages in releasing tension in the facial muscles.
How tongue function affects overall health, facial changes, pain relief, and improved jaw function.
Compensatory muscle movements and their impact on facial pain and TMJ issues.
Goals of therapy: helping children sleep better and adults alleviate pain.
The transformative impact of simple exercises on quality of life.

Schedule an initial virtual (or in person) consult with Jenny at www.myobalanceomt.com and keep the conversation going on Instagram @myobalanceomt

21 : The Secret Sabotage Part 1 - How the position of your tongue might be making breastfeeding & weaning extra hard with Orofacial Myofunctional Therapist Jenny Cacilhas (MyoBalance OMT)

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we delve into the fascinating world of orofacial myofunctional therapy with our special guest, Jenny, a registered dental hygienist. Jenny shares her personal journey and how she discovered the transformative effects of this therapy. We explore the core principles of myofunctional therapy and how it can impact so many areas of your life (and your child's) including night waking & challenging daytime behaviours.

Episode Highlights:

Jenny's personal story (inspired by her daughter's struggles with dyslexia, behavioral issues, and sleep problems) to explore oral-facial myofunctional therapy.
The 4 main goals of myofunctional therapy.
The impact of myofunctional therapy on behavior, sleep, allergies, and even tonsil size.
The role of tongue ties and oral restrictions in oral facial myofunctional disorders.
The importance of nasal breathing for oxygen delivery, nitric oxide production, and overall health.

Book an initial in-person or virtual assessment with Jenny on her website.
Hang out with Jenny on Instagram & Facebook @myobalanceomt

A bit about Jenny:

"I am a Registered Dental Hygienist and Orofacial Myofunctional Therapist. I first stepped foot into the dental field back in 2011 graduating St. Clair College in 2014. Over the years I have taken many continuing education courses, leading me to finish my Bachelor of Science - with specialization in dental hygiene, at the University of Detroit Mercy in 2018. I have always been interested in how oral health effects overall health, and have taken many continuing education courses around this area. I have found that there are many people (including myself) with orofacial myofunctional disorders (OMD) and that people were just dealing with it. This brought me to do some research and asking myself - Why are people just dealing with the symptoms? There has to be negative long-term effects in having OMDs and there has to be a root cause to the OMD.

During the shutdown of March of 2020 due to the global pandemic, I came across the field of Orofacial Myofunctional Therapy (OMT). This was the first time I have heard of OMT and wondered why I havent heard of it before. Researching more about OMT, I knew I had to get certified, and completed my certification October 2020.

During my studies of OMT I learned how to assess for signs and symptoms of orofacial myofunctional disorders (OMDs) and learned how to treat my own OMDs, realizing the impact it had on my overall health. I am excited to provide the same services to you! Through a comprehensive examination, a therapy program is specifically designed depending on the persons myofunctional disorder and severity to help them start breathing well, sleeping well, and living well.

I also look forward in collaborating with other health care professionals who are interested in learning about OMT and how it can help make a difference in their patients who live with OMDs.

Outside of Dental Hygiene and OMT, you can find me out and about in the community with my husband and daughter, usually taking our two dogs for their walks. I have recently enjoyed learning the art of photography - mainly landscapes. My biggest joy would have to be traveling; Im always looking for a new destination to plan our next adventure!"

20: Breastfeeding A Sick Toddler (Why, How & What to do when they're well again)

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 17:00:00 -0400

Immune system support is something we think about when we're talking about breastfeeding newborns, but did you know that the immune support in your breastmilk increases when your child reaches toddlerhood?

You might think that breastfeeding your toddler is a helpful way to comfort them when they are sick, but the reality is that even a few drops of your breastmilk is providing sooo much more than comfort.

In this week's episode, I share with you:
-Some mindblowing reasons why you may want to breastfeed your toddler through their next illness
-Practical ways to make breastfeeding a sick toddler easier (including some of my tried & true mom-hacks)
-How to navigate moving back into a routine once your little one is well again.

Don't forget to sign up for my free workshop on toddler breastfeeding, weaning & tandem feeding at www.ownyourparentingstory.com/workshop.

19: Part 2: Preparing for the night away & having realistic expectations

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 11:00:00 -0400

You've decided you want to have a night away from your breastfeeding toddler - now how do you actually make it happen?!

Expanding on the conversation from last week's episode, I dig a bit deeper in both how to prepare your child for the night away from you AND the importance of having realistic expectations about your night away.

Be sure to shoot me a DM on Instagram and keep the conversation going!

18: A Night Away - What to consider when you are leaving your breastfeeding toddler overnight

Sun, 28 May 2023 23:00:00 -0400

"Is it even POSSIBLE to leave your breastfed toddler for an entire night?

And if it is... do you have to wean?"

These are thoughts that go through your mind when you have an invitation show up in the mail for an out-of-town wedding.

And let's be real, sometimes you even fantasize about a king-size bed all to yourself and a night with ZERO interruptions! But then the guilt sinks in.

Or maybe none of that has ever felt appealing but you are feeling pressure from your partner to plan a getaway, or hearing that it's strange that you have never slept apart from your toddler.

Never fear, sweet mama!

In this episode, I cover 5 considerations you need to make before you plan a night away from your breastfed toddler.

I got you!

17: ADHD in women with Katy Weber & the (extended) breastfeeding experience

Mon, 22 May 2023 09:00:00 -0400

"Sensory Overload", feeling ashamed of the condition of your house, constantly trying to "get organized" ... maybe it's just early motherhood, or maybe it's ADHD.

As an LC working with breastfeeding moms from pregnancy through to preschool (and beyond!), I have been a little shocked to see how frequently clients come to me who have ADHD, suspect they have ADHD, or are surprised themselves how many boxes they tick off in a screening questionnaire. There are so many ADHDer's in the "extended" breastfeeding community - but I don't see it being spoken about very much.

As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood myself, I knew it was important to open this conversation up in the breastfeeding space, and I knew that Katy Weber would be the perfect person to do it with.

We talk about what the lived experience of an adult woman with ADHD is, different avenues for pursuing a diagnosis, and how to navigate the world once you have one.

A little about Katy:
" Diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 45, I've now made it my mission to help neurodivergent women learn to love their brains!

I've spent the last 7 years coaching women to change their mindset and reframe their self-concept so they can finally recognize and lean into their gifts and abilities.

I'm an author & public speaker, as well as a certified holistic health coach (INHC) and a certified yoga instructor (200 hr RYT). I live in the Hudson Valley, NY, with my husband, two children, our dog, and two cats. Before coaching, I spent 15 years as a newspaper editor & designer. I'm currently pursuing an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

I'm also the host of the Women & ADHD podcast, ranked among the top 0.5% of all podcasts globally."

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Sari Solden's Checklist

Katy's Women & ADHD Community

Katy's Instagram - Women & ADHD Podcast Instagram

Jenna's Episode on the Women & ADHD podcast

Katy's Website (book club, coaching, free resources & more)

16: Your Boob-Addicted Toddler And the Toddler Breastfeeding Stress Cycle

Tue, 09 May 2023 19:00:00 -0400

FREE Instant Access Workshop: Steal my Essential Roadmap to Toddler Wean, Tandem Feed & Extended Breastfeed (without feeling like a human fidget toy, or pushing your kiddo away.)

Your toddler's boob addiction is actually a *GOOD* thing - AND there is a really good reason why it drives you nuts.

Your toddler is still waking frequently at night to breastfeed. You can’t leave them with anyone without an *epic* meltdown. You are embarrassed to take them to the park because of the amount of shirt-pulling that is likely to occur, and it seems everyone around you thinks you should have had this figured out already.

In our culture, all of those things are pretty “strange” for a toddler to be doing.

Because it’s strange, our brains immediately go to “bad”. Psychologically, we want to be like our peers. Practically, the standards we are used to measuring our child against (milestones, growth charts, etc.) are based on averages. “Kids that fall outside of the norm have something wrong with them” is an unconscious belief that is easy to develop.

Your toddler is addicted to your breast, and your only options are tough love or toughing it out. Or so you perceive....

But here is what your unconscious brain misses - it’s not your child with the problem. It’s the culture.

Now, I know that doesn’t seem to leave a lot of hope. You’re thinking: “I can’t change the culture, Jenna. Am I supposed to surrender to this chaos and hope that I survive until my child magically stops being a boob-monster?”

I promise you, there is an alternative to the “tough-love/toughing-it-out” conundrum.

You don’t have to force your child to do anything they aren’t ready for, *and* you don’t have to wait until they decide they are no longer going to scream “BOOB” as they dig their hands into your bra at your in-law’s thanksgiving table. (No? Just me?)

Despite what others around you might say, your child still being “addicted” to breastfeeding is a good thing.

(Catch the blog post that inspired this podcast episode here.)

15: Reducing Toxins in Your Home With Dr. Samantha Radford (Evidence-Based Mommy)

Mon, 01 May 2023 19:00:00 -0400

Dr. Samantha Radford owns Evidence-based Mommy (evidence-basedmommy.com), where she combines science and wellness to help moms and kids thrive. She is a mom of 4 who has breastfed for nearly 10 years straight. She has been through the highs and lows of natural term breastfeeding, including nursing while pregnant, tandem feeding, nursing aversion, and more.

In this episode we deep dive the biggest toxin exposures to your little one in the early years of life and how to avoid them.

Download Sam's Night Weaning Action Pack here.
Check out The Evidence-Based Mommy Podcast on your favourite podcst player

14: Extended Nursing In Real Life - Erin Harris' Story 4.5 years of nursing (Nursing Mamas)

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 15:00:00 -0400

I sit down with veteran nursing mom and virtual lactation educator, Erin Harris, to talk about her personal breastfeeding journey, the struggles that extended breastfeeding moms face, and how we can navigate them while keeping the bond and ditching the burnout.

Erin is a virtual lactation educator and creator of Nursing Mamas. She combines her two Master's Degrees in Health and Family communication, lactation knowledge, and personal nursing experience to focus on the parent-toddler nursing relationship. Through online courses and consults she helps extended breastfeeding women who aren't ready to wean, but are feeling overwhelmed by on-demand nursing and are ready to set breastfeeding boundaries so they can keep the bond without the burnout. She lives in Costa Mesa, CA with her husband Scott, daughter, Avery, and son, Luca, and is a veteran nursing mama of 4 ½ years.

Erin's 3 Day Seminar - The Extended Breastfeeding Workshop.
https://www.nursingmamas.com/extendedbreastfeedingworkshop
IG: @erin.nursingmamas
Website: https://www.nursingmamas.com/

13: Milk Supply - Maintaining, Upping and Drying Up After The First Year of Breastfeeding

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0400

"Mama, there's no milk"

Sweet little eyes looking up at you, frustrated after unlatching from your breast, the same one they have been nursing at for years.

You feel a sense of dread and grief wash over you.

Is this it? Have you dried up?!

In this episode of Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding, I cover everything you have ever wanted to know about milk supply after the first year of breastfeeding.

Come with me on a deep dive into how your breasts begin and end making milk! You will leave with the confidence to know how to navigate building up supply as an extended breastfeeder, combat dips in milk supply, and understand how your milk will dry up when you are ready to wean.

BONUS: Is saying "no" to a breastfeed HARMING your child? A conversation with Samantha Radford, Phd (Evidence-Based Mommy Podcast)

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Have you ever worried that boundaries around breastfeeding might be wrong or inappropriate?

It can feel like you are caught between 2 worlds:

One where sleep training is the norm, and breastfeeding beyond 6 or 12 months is said to be "more for the mom than the baby"
And another where "surrendering" to your child's needs is the ONLY way to parent, and refusing a feed for any reason is inherently problematic.

But what if there is a third option?

In this bonus episode, I sit down with my friend and colleague, Samantha Radford to talk about this nuanced subject with grace, humility, and humor.

12: Picky Eating & Breastfeeding with Registered Pediatric Dietitian and IBCLC Krystyn Parks (Feeding Made Easy)

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Introducing solid foods to your breastfed baby can feel like a really exciting (and somewhat scary) milestone. But what happens when your 12 month old, 18 month old or 3 year old prefers breastfeeding to solid foods?

Google (and your pediatrician) can have conflicting advice that only serves to confuse and frustrate you.

Where do you turn?! To Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding, of course! ;)

This week I interviewed Krystyn Parks, owner of Feeding Made Easy.

Krystyn is a registered pediatric dietitian and an Internation Board Certified Lactation Consultant. She brings expertise of both breastfeeding physiology AND nutritional needs of growing toddlers.

Tune into this jam-packed episode where we answer the q's I get the *most* in my dm's as an LC for breastfeeding toddlers.

11: Codependency in Breastfed Kids - Coping Skills, Calm Down Corners and Booby Monsters

Sun, 26 Mar 2023 22:00:00 -0400

After breastfeeding for months and years, independent play and sleep can sound like winning the lottery!

Hearing that you are creating "codependency" in your child, and worrying that you have stopped your child from learning other ways to calm themselves down can feel really scary.

But what is *really* happening? Is it realistic to expect independence? Is your child breastfeeding actually setting them up for failure later in life?

I'll share with you 4 different types of relationships that humans can have and which one you really want to foster in your child.

10: Breastfeeding through trauma and beyond - Real Life Toddler Breastfeeding Story from Claudine Mossberg

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Claudine has been breastfeeding for 13 years and is currently breastfeeding her 4 year old.

In this inspiring interview, she shares what it has been like to breastfeed for over a decade. She share wise insights she has acquired over her breastfeeding journey and vulnerably speaks about an unexpected trauma that almost stopped her breastfeeding journey in its tracks.

Claudine is a postpartum doula, breastfeeding support volunteer, and outdoor lifestyle coach.

Send Claudine an DM on Instagram.
Check out Claudine's website.

9: Birth Control & Conception during Extended Nursing with Fertility Awareness Specialist Holly Leever L.Ac. MTOM, Dipl.OM

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 18:00:00 -0500

Holly and I talk about the power of connecting with your body during your breastfeeding journey to understand your health and fertility. We discuss alternatives to hormonal birth control & how to feel empowered to conceive without weaning.

Holly is the owner of Rosebud Wellness, where she practices women's holistic health as a licensed Acupuncturist, Herbalist, Yoni Steam Therapist, Arvigo Abdominal Massage Therapist & Fertility Awareness Mentor. Holly became interested in working with women's health after learning how much could be revealed about a woman's overall health by looking at the parameters of the menstrual cycle.

She has continued to study a variety of techniques in order to offer women at all stages of life, from menarche to menopause, the care they deserve. She is especially passionate about working with women in the perinatal time (prenatal, birth & postpartum).

Holly also hosts a weekly podcast called, Womb Wisdom. The podcast is a combination of information on women's holistic health practices and stories from women on their experience with periods, fertility, pregnancy, birth, postpartum and motherhood.

Check out Holly's Instagram and Website.

8: How to Stop Breastfeeding - Gentle Toddler Weaning Series Part 3

Mon, 27 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0500

You are ready to be DONE breastfeeding your kiddo! But how can you stop in a way that protects your relationship and sets you up for long-term parenting success???

In this final installment in the Gentle Toddler Weaning Series, I break down the 5 "types" of weaning AND my 4 phase system to Own Your Breastfeeding Story.

You don't wanna miss it!

7: Are you (and your child) ready to wean? Gentle Toddler Weaning Part 2

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Whether you have been breastfeeding for 5 minutes, 5 months, or 5 years, it's likely that the thought "am I ready to be done breastfeeding?" has crossed your mind.

While some breastfeeding families feel very clear about what next step to take, you don't.

One moment you are sure you are done, and the next, waves of doubt overtake you and wonder if it truly is the right time.

In this second part of the Gentle Toddler Weaning series I'm unpacking how to know if you are ready to wean.

I'll walk you through:

How to get a read on how your unconscious might be influencing your choice to wean or not.
What the definition of weaning actually is and wether or not your weaning process has already begun.
The start-to-finish breastfeeding timeline and how it unfolds
The real question you need to ask yourself (hint - it's not "am i ready to wean?")

Hit subscribe so you don't miss next week's episode "How to Stop Breatfeeding" the 3rd & final part of the Gentle Toddler Weaning Series.

5: Postpartum Anxiety, Hypnosis, Joy & Emotional Safety with Certified Hypnotherapist, Maria Harrison

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Maria Harrison, MSc. Ed, C. HT & PNLP, is the owner of Infinitely You Coaching where she supports moms to create fulfilling relationships with themselves and their children.

This conversation covers SO much. We talk about navigating postpartum mental health disorders, matresence, the power of our intuition and how to make changes in your mental wellness that LAST.

We deep dive the need for emotional safety and how it shows up in our daily interactions with our kids and in the breastfeeding journey.

Maria opens up about her personal struggles with PPA and breastfeeding into toddlerhood with both of her kids.

Grab her free Hypnosis "The Confident Mother" here: https://www.infinitelyyoucoaching.com/the-confident-mother-hypnosis

Check her out on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/infinitelyyoucoaching/

4: Hope for toddler bedtime battles, night weaning and more with holistic toddler sleep coach Maisie Ruttan

Sun, 29 Jan 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Maisie is a heart-centered and holistic sleep coach, with a specialization in toddler and child sleep. She has an international practice supporting frustrated and overwhelmed families to gently and responsively parent their kids to sleep, without yelling, threats, bribes, or sleep training.

We talk all about the unique sleep challenges that parents of toddlers & kids face AND the unique resources that are available to parents once their kids reach toddlerhood.

Check out Maisie's Hello Bedtime Program at
https://www.maisieruttan.com/hello-bedtime-parenting-to-sleep-program-for-toddlers/

3: 2083 Days of Breastfeeding - and why "0" days should still be celebrated.

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share my journey so far of 2083 days of breastfeeding, my personal struggles with birth trauma, why every choice you make as a parent is valid, and how I hope for this podcast to be a safe space for everyone regardless of the twists and turns in their personal journey.

2: How to stop nipple twiddling, gymnurstrics & other irritating breastfeeding behaviours

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I give you my entire framework for navigating those pesky breastfeeding behaviors our older nurslings can often have.

1: The Toddler Breastfeeding STRUGGLE

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I break down some of the unique challenges that those breastfeeding older babies, toddlers, and preschoolers face while sharing stories from listeners.

I talk about the difficulty that terminology has created for "extended"/"fullterm" breastfeeding families and how we need to create unity as well as language that can support us all on this journey.

If you are listening during the week of January 23rd - January 30th, make sure to post a screen shot to your stories on Instagram and tag me for a chance to win a 1 hour zoom session with me! @own.your.parenting.story

Subscribe so you don't miss a single episode - catch you in the next one!

Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding Coming Soon

Sat, 14 Jan 2023 18:00:00 -0500

Is toddler breastfeeding not all it’s cracked up to be?

I bet you didn’t expect:

your skin crawling with each latch
sleepless nights (still)
shirt pulling in public
wondering if your child is getting enough (expect now it’s solid foods!)
nipple twiddling
gymnurstrics
meltdowns and more...

How are you supposed to get to “two years and beyond”? And once you are there, what’s next?!

Hey, I’m Jenna Wolfe, LC, Parent coach and “extended” breastfeeding mom of 2.

I know the struggle and I know how lonely it is to be in it. That’s why I’m launching a brand new podcast - Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding where I will share my insights, tips and practical knowledge on navigating fullterm breastfeeding, tandem feeding and gentle weaning, along the way invite moms like you to share their stories AND bring on incredible experts to shed light on all of the areas of life that make toddler breastfeeding and weaning hard.

Mark your calendars for January 24th, 2023 when the first episodes drop, and smash that subscribe button so you don’t miss any in the future.

Follow along with the podcast journey on Instagram - @own.your.parenting.story

Theme Song: "Little Balloon" by Jenny & Tyler

Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding

52: The powerful role the skill of greiving plays in boundaries & weaning

51: Myth Busting Facts on Toddler Breastfeeding (empowerment for your next family holiday gathering)

50 - Natasha's Story - Boundaries and Tandem Feeding

49 - What is "Gentle" Weaning & Boundaries?

48 - An Action Plan for the Stressed Out Breastfeeding Mom

47 - 5 Body Safety Rules for Toddlers with Sex Education Coach Alisha Lunsford of Sexpert Parenting

46: How "Felt Safety" makes a difference when breastfeeding (and generally adulting!)

45: "Help! I'm going on a work trip" 3 ways to prep dad & breastfed toddler for their first night alone together

44 - HELP! My toddler is struggling to listen first thing in the morning (and a quick personal update!)

43: *UPDATED* Tandem breastfeeding: Life with 2 booby-monsters (part 3 of the tandem feeding series)*

42 - Breastfeeding a toddler while pregnant (part 2 of the tandem feeding series)

41: Getting pregnant (or not!) while breastfeeding a toddler (part 1 of the tandem feeding series)

(Toddler) Breastfeeding Goals - Do they really matter? (BTS Bonus Episode 4)

My Nursing Aversion & Mental Health Struggles (BTS Bonus Episode 3)

What it's like breastfeeding my 4 yo - a day in the life (BTS Bonus Episode 2)

Survival Mode Motherhood (Ep. 1 of Behind the Scenes Series)

40: Breastfeeding Manners - what to do with demanding older babies, toddlers & preschoolers

39: a massive cultural barrier to natural term breastfeeding & toddler weaning with confidence and calm

38 - My toddler only wants me for my milk - confessions of a milk machine

37 - My Supporting Toddler Breastfeeding Moms Evolution - (Aka the birth of my 3rd "child" Own Your Breastfeeding Story")

36: To wean or not to wean (for the unsure toddler breastfeeding momma)

35: How to wean a clingy toddler from breastfeeding

34: Why (almost) all the toddler breastfeeding advice is WRONG (and why there is still hope!)

33: When to stop breastfeeding on demand (and what to do instead)

32: Navigating Tantrums While Night Weaning A Toddler

31: Why is my child waking so much?! Unpacking normal sleep & gentle strategies with Kim Hawley, MA, MPH, IBCLC & Holistic Sleep Coach (Intuitive Parenting DC)

30: Clogged Ducts, Engorgement & Mastitis in extended breastfeeding, weaning & beyond

29: Birthing to breastfeed (and tandemfeed!) with Beau Wilson, Midwife & Childbirth Educator

28: 3 Unexpected ways to get more sleep without night weaning

27: Breastfeeding aches & pains, pelvic floor health and beyond with Katherine Baquie from The FitNest Mama Podcast

26: How Katie night weaned her 2 year old and re-discovered herself in the process.

25: 5 Ways to navigate judgement & social pressure while extended breastfeeding

24: Limits & Boundaries: Empowering Strategies for Breastfeeding Toddlers

23: cavities, teething, and toddler biting while nursing

22: Part 2 The Secret Sabotage - Frequent Night Waking, Tantrums, Picky Eating - TMJ, Teeth Grinding and more with Orofacial Myologist Jenny Cacilhas (MyoBalanace OMT)

21 : The Secret Sabotage Part 1 - How the position of your tongue might be making breastfeeding & weaning extra hard with Orofacial Myofunctional Therapist Jenny Cacilhas (MyoBalance OMT)

20: Breastfeeding A Sick Toddler (Why, How & What to do when they're well again)

19: Part 2: Preparing for the night away & having realistic expectations

18: A Night Away - What to consider when you are leaving your breastfeeding toddler overnight

17: ADHD in women with Katy Weber & the (extended) breastfeeding experience

16: Your Boob-Addicted Toddler And the Toddler Breastfeeding Stress Cycle

15: Reducing Toxins in Your Home With Dr. Samantha Radford (Evidence-Based Mommy)

14: Extended Nursing In Real Life - Erin Harris' Story 4.5 years of nursing (Nursing Mamas)

13: Milk Supply - Maintaining, Upping and Drying Up After The First Year of Breastfeeding

BONUS: Is saying "no" to a breastfeed HARMING your child? A conversation with Samantha Radford, Phd (Evidence-Based Mommy Podcast)

12: Picky Eating & Breastfeeding with Registered Pediatric Dietitian and IBCLC Krystyn Parks (Feeding Made Easy)

11: Codependency in Breastfed Kids - Coping Skills, Calm Down Corners and Booby Monsters

10: Breastfeeding through trauma and beyond - Real Life Toddler Breastfeeding Story from Claudine Mossberg

9: Birth Control & Conception during Extended Nursing with Fertility Awareness Specialist Holly Leever L.Ac. MTOM, Dipl.OM

8: How to Stop Breastfeeding - Gentle Toddler Weaning Series Part 3

7: Are you (and your child) ready to wean? Gentle Toddler Weaning Part 2

5: Postpartum Anxiety, Hypnosis, Joy & Emotional Safety with Certified Hypnotherapist, Maria Harrison

4: Hope for toddler bedtime battles, night weaning and more with holistic toddler sleep coach Maisie Ruttan

3: 2083 Days of Breastfeeding - and why "0" days should still be celebrated.

2: How to stop nipple twiddling, gymnurstrics & other irritating breastfeeding behaviours

1: The Toddler Breastfeeding STRUGGLE

Start to Stop Toddler Breastfeeding Coming Soon

43: UPDATED Tandem breastfeeding: Life with 2 booby-monsters (part 3 of the tandem feeding series)*