Wed, 04 Mar 2026 19:50:41 -0500 https://betterthanbeforebetrayal.buzzsprout.com en-us © 2026 better than before betrayal yes 0db6e639-2efd-5854-ba5f-d31d73c6db80 Ruth episodic false Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Ruth https://storage.buzzsprout.com/t302q945yqhb6j1vyi9yowxhuh49?.jpg The Johari Window-replay For connection, we need to be willing to be known. This tool, The Johari Window, helps us take a look at how we allow ourselves to be known by others, or not. It helps us see how honest and open we are. We get to decide how we show up in our relationships. So I invite you to use this tool to get curious about your willingness to be known and decide if you want to make a change.

]]> For connection, we need to be willing to be known. This tool, The Johari Window, helps us take a look at how we allow ourselves to be known by others, or not. It helps us see how honest and open we are. We get to decide how we show up in our relationships. So I invite you to use this tool to get curious about your willingness to be known and decide if you want to make a change.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17308713 Mon, 09 Jun 2025 15:00:00 -0600 1524 3 134 full false The Three Stages of Awareness-replay This week I share a replay of a Season One episode. The Three Stages of Awareness. Awareness is key to living life intentionally. Progressing through each of these stages is a skill that you will want to develop.

]]> This week I share a replay of a Season One episode. The Three Stages of Awareness. Awareness is key to living life intentionally. Progressing through each of these stages is a skill that you will want to develop.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17268720 Mon, 02 Jun 2025 12:00:00 -0600 784 3 133 full false Is Relapse a part of Recovery? If relapse is so common, why do people say that it isn't part of recovery? Do you think relapse IS a part of recovery? What has been your experience? What are your thoughts on this? Listen in to hear mine.

]]> If relapse is so common, why do people say that it isn't part of recovery? Do you think relapse IS a part of recovery? What has been your experience? What are your thoughts on this? Listen in to hear mine.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17216253 Mon, 26 May 2025 00:00:00 -0600 638 3 132 full false Storytime-The Wall In this episode I'm going to read you a story. It is a beautiful parable of truth, of life, and of healing. Enjoy!

]]> In this episode I'm going to read you a story. It is a beautiful parable of truth, of life, and of healing. Enjoy!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17199421 Tue, 20 May 2025 16:00:00 -0600 1455 3 131 full false Discovering your Gifts What are your gifts? Have you struggled to recognize that you have gifts and talents? In this episode I share an extensive list of Spiritual Gifts. Some of them may be surprising to you. Listen in and see if you can identify gifts you have that you didn't think of. Or get some ideas for gifts you'd like to develop. 

]]> What are your gifts? Have you struggled to recognize that you have gifts and talents? In this episode I share an extensive list of Spiritual Gifts. Some of them may be surprising to you. Listen in and see if you can identify gifts you have that you didn't think of. Or get some ideas for gifts you'd like to develop. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17146390 Mon, 12 May 2025 12:00:00 -0600 713 3 130 full false No Wrong or Right Way to Journal I resist journaling. I KNOW the powerful benefits of journaling. So why do I resist it? I have lots of reasons. When I realized that there is no wrong or right way to journal, my resistance was greatly reduced! Listen in and find help if you resist journaling too!

]]> I resist journaling. I KNOW the powerful benefits of journaling. So why do I resist it? I have lots of reasons. When I realized that there is no wrong or right way to journal, my resistance was greatly reduced! Listen in and find help if you resist journaling too!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17044187 Mon, 05 May 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1219 3 129 full false My 2025 Goal In this episode I share my focus for this year. It might surprise you. You may want to join me in working on this for yourself!

]]> In this episode I share my focus for this year. It might surprise you. You may want to join me in working on this for yourself!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17029083 Mon, 28 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1312 3 128 full false Easter is Hope to the Brokenhearted As we have been celebrating Easter have you been able to feel His love? Have you chosen to TRUST in Him and TRUST Him? He is here for us with outstretched arms. He is our hope. 

]]> As we have been celebrating Easter have you been able to feel His love? Have you chosen to TRUST in Him and TRUST Him? He is here for us with outstretched arms. He is our hope. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-17015842 Mon, 21 Apr 2025 13:00:00 -0600 696 3 127 full false Bound to Our Savior In this week's episode I share some of my thoughts from a talk I gave at my grandson's baptism. We bind ourselves to the Lord as we make and keep covenants. This brings us peace, confidence, joy and POWER!

]]> In this week's episode I share some of my thoughts from a talk I gave at my grandson's baptism. We bind ourselves to the Lord as we make and keep covenants. This brings us peace, confidence, joy and POWER!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16977855 Mon, 14 Apr 2025 14:00:00 -0600 650 3 126 full false What if that is exactly what we need? I recently asked my husband how he would like our marriage to grow. His answer was a far cry from what I thought/think we need. AND I worked to consider ...what if he is right? "What if his answer is exactly what we need?" This led me to some beautiful experiences that I share here. 

]]> I recently asked my husband how he would like our marriage to grow. His answer was a far cry from what I thought/think we need. AND I worked to consider ...what if he is right? "What if his answer is exactly what we need?" This led me to some beautiful experiences that I share here. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16947108 Wed, 09 Apr 2025 13:00:00 -0600 1106 3 125 full false Broken-replay I've been hearing 2 songs a lot lately about being broken. It has turned my thoughts to this episode originally published a year ago. What do you think about the idea of being broken? Give this a listen and hear some of my thoughts. 

]]> I've been hearing 2 songs a lot lately about being broken. It has turned my thoughts to this episode originally published a year ago. What do you think about the idea of being broken? Give this a listen and hear some of my thoughts. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16894229 Mon, 31 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0600 955 3 124 full false Expanding our emotional vocabulary In this episode I share a few ideas on how to exoand our emotional vocabulary. This work will bring growth and connection. It is worth doing!

]]> In this episode I share a few ideas on how to exoand our emotional vocabulary. This work will bring growth and connection. It is worth doing!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16852971 Mon, 24 Mar 2025 15:00:00 -0600 931 3 123 full false What ELSE a human brain needs This episode piggybacks on last week's, so be sure to listen to that one first. I will complete the list of what a human brain needs. It doesn't REALLY NEED of these things. We can live without them,...many people do. We may have (probably have) already lived much of our lives without these skills. This list is for those who want to live intentionally!

]]> This episode piggybacks on last week's, so be sure to listen to that one first. I will complete the list of what a human brain needs. It doesn't REALLY NEED of these things. We can live without them,...many people do. We may have (probably have) already lived much of our lives without these skills. This list is for those who want to live intentionally!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16794997 Mon, 17 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0600 784 3 122 full false What a Human Brain Needs Our human brain has a job to do. It looks for danger. It Looks for pleasure. It tries to do things the easy way. We need skills to help our lower brain. We need skills to navigate our human experience. In this episode I illustrate how I used skills to help me navigate an experience I had while on vacation. I invite you to use these skills in whatever you are going through in your life right now.

]]> Our human brain has a job to do. It looks for danger. It Looks for pleasure. It tries to do things the easy way. We need skills to help our lower brain. We need skills to navigate our human experience. In this episode I illustrate how I used skills to help me navigate an experience I had while on vacation. I invite you to use these skills in whatever you are going through in your life right now.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16767577 Mon, 10 Mar 2025 13:00:00 -0600 1165 3 121 full false Anticipation not Expectation-replay This episode originally aired December 2023. I invite you to consider anticipating rather than expecting. This is a small shift in our thinking that can have a great impact in our lives. Try it out and see what you think. 

]]> This episode originally aired December 2023. I invite you to consider anticipating rather than expecting. This is a small shift in our thinking that can have a great impact in our lives. Try it out and see what you think. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16596947 Mon, 03 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0700 863 3 120 full false What to do with "I don't like being around them" replay Here is a replay of an earlier episode that I think is a great example of strengthen our sense of self. 

]]> Here is a replay of an earlier episode that I think is a great example of strengthen our sense of self. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16522242 Mon, 24 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0700 960 3 119 full false I don't make other people's actions mean anything about me This episode aired earlier (number 5) as "I don't hang my emotions on others". This is one of the skills that I practice to make my life better now. It is an important skill and a challenging one. And it is not one that we will "arrive" at. It will be a lifelong practice. AND it does get easier with practice.

]]> This episode aired earlier (number 5) as "I don't hang my emotions on others". This is one of the skills that I practice to make my life better now. It is an important skill and a challenging one. And it is not one that we will "arrive" at. It will be a lifelong practice. AND it does get easier with practice.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16520212 Mon, 17 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0700 1399 3 118 full false Valentine's Day replay This is a replay of last year's Valentine's Day episode. I share some ideas on how you can approach this holiday intentionally and authentically. Do what works for you.

]]> This is a replay of last year's Valentine's Day episode. I share some ideas on how you can approach this holiday intentionally and authentically. Do what works for you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16514933 Mon, 10 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0700 1145 3 117 full false Zero Responsibility The work we do here in better than before betrayal is the work of healing and growth. We take responsibility for what is ours and leave the rest to others. What's yours is yours, what's theirs is theirs. We have zero responsibility for other peoples's choices, and yet, our brains like to tell us otherwise. 

]]> The work we do here in better than before betrayal is the work of healing and growth. We take responsibility for what is ours and leave the rest to others. What's yours is yours, what's theirs is theirs. We have zero responsibility for other peoples's choices, and yet, our brains like to tell us otherwise. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16514776 Mon, 03 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0700 816 3 116 full false Your Sense of Self (Part 3) In this episode learn practices to strengthen your sense of self. This is vital work for your healing and creating a life you love. 

]]> In this episode learn practices to strengthen your sense of self. This is vital work for your healing and creating a life you love. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16484695 Mon, 27 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0700 1067 3 115 full false Your Sense of Self (Part 2) In this episode I will share some examples from my life. You get to judge whether I was coming from a strong or weak sense of self. I help this helps you as you look at your own life experiences and see where your sense of self was at times.

]]> In this episode I will share some examples from my life. You get to judge whether I was coming from a strong or weak sense of self. I help this helps you as you look at your own life experiences and see where your sense of self was at times.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16457155 Mon, 20 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0700 1171 3 114 full false Your Sense of Self Part 1 In this episode I will define Sense of Self. What is a solid, strong sense of self? What is a weak or reflective sense of self?  Looking at where we are and were we have been can be very helpful to our healing. Strengthening our sense of self is important life changing work.

]]> In this episode I will define Sense of Self. What is a solid, strong sense of self? What is a weak or reflective sense of self?  Looking at where we are and were we have been can be very helpful to our healing. Strengthening our sense of self is important life changing work.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16430686 Mon, 13 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -0700 1174 3 113 full false Balance in Life isn't a Thing-replay I'm sending out this replay episode hoping it will help you intentionally choose how you want to think about balance in life in reference to the beginning of a new year and goals or New Year's resolutions you might have set. Make 2025 a great year!

]]> I'm sending out this replay episode hoping it will help you intentionally choose how you want to think about balance in life in reference to the beginning of a new year and goals or New Year's resolutions you might have set. Make 2025 a great year!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16377875 Mon, 06 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0700 1929 3 112 full false Do You Still Love Him? Do you still love your husband? This is a short message with an invitation to consider your feelings and the power you have to choose intentionally what you want to focus on. What do you want to feel?

]]> Do you still love your husband? This is a short message with an invitation to consider your feelings and the power you have to choose intentionally what you want to focus on. What do you want to feel?

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16358830 Mon, 30 Dec 2024 14:00:00 -0700 743 2 111 full false Recovering from the Trap of Pornography In this episode I share the second part of Dallin H Oaks article. I focus on what is needed for recovery. 

]]> In this episode I share the second part of Dallin H Oaks article. I focus on what is needed for recovery. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16309735 Mon, 23 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1674 2 110 full false Levels of Pornography Involvment In this episode I share information found in a great article by Dallin H Oaks entitled Recovering From the Trap of Pornography". It describes the different levels of involvement. I have found this article to be very helpful in understanding pornography use. 

]]> In this episode I share information found in a great article by Dallin H Oaks entitled Recovering From the Trap of Pornography". It describes the different levels of involvement. I have found this article to be very helpful in understanding pornography use. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16284351 Mon, 16 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1015 2 109 full false There Are Angels With Us replay I have been loving the Light the World Campaign this year as we consider angels. There are angels with us, earthly and from the other side of the veil. And we can be angels in other peoples lives. Take times to consider the angels that have been and that are with you. And enjoy being an angel to someone else this week.

]]> I have been loving the Light the World Campaign this year as we consider angels. There are angels with us, earthly and from the other side of the veil. And we can be angels in other peoples lives. Take times to consider the angels that have been and that are with you. And enjoy being an angel to someone else this week.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16243627 Mon, 09 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1127 2 108 full false Weakness and Weaknesses replay I didn't plan to republish this episode until I was studying Ether 12. God gives us weakness. In this episode, I share my thoughts about the difference between weakness and weaknesses. Listen in and see if you agree with this idea. And as always, it is okay if you don't agree with me. Either way, it is interesting to consider. 

]]> I didn't plan to republish this episode until I was studying Ether 12. God gives us weakness. In this episode, I share my thoughts about the difference between weakness and weaknesses. Listen in and see if you agree with this idea. And as always, it is okay if you don't agree with me. Either way, it is interesting to consider. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16180480 Mon, 02 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0700 854 2 107 full false Happy Thanksgiving...unless it's not Here we are at the holiday season again. Holidays can be especially challenging for us when we are dealing with betrayal. This episode is a replay from last year. It has some really good stuff to help you navigate the season.

]]> Here we are at the holiday season again. Holidays can be especially challenging for us when we are dealing with betrayal. This episode is a replay from last year. It has some really good stuff to help you navigate the season.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16114061 Mon, 25 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1071 2 106 full false What the Guys are saying about slips and relapses In this episode I share some of the things my husband's friends in recovery say. 

]]> In this episode I share some of the things my husband's friends in recovery say. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16113810 Mon, 18 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1049 2 105 full false The Best Is Yet To Come It is hard to find peace and hope in betrayal. I want you to know that the best IS yet to come.

]]> It is hard to find peace and hope in betrayal. I want you to know that the best IS yet to come.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16076038 Mon, 11 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0700 783 2 104 full false A slip, a relapse, a setback...which is it? How do you define a slip, a relapse or a setback? Do they mean the same thing to you? Do they mean the same thing to your husband? Are you on the same page? That's what this episode is about. 

]]> How do you define a slip, a relapse or a setback? Do they mean the same thing to you? Do they mean the same thing to your husband? Are you on the same page? That's what this episode is about. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16021953 Mon, 04 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1082 2 103 full false Bottom Lines In this episode I will teach you about bottom lines. They are crucial to an addicts recovery. It can be very helpful for you to understand them in order for you to be a support to them. 

]]> In this episode I will teach you about bottom lines. They are crucial to an addicts recovery. It can be very helpful for you to understand them in order for you to be a support to them. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-16001243 Mon, 28 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0600 808 2 102 full true Your Threshold Do you know what your threshold is? Your line in the sand that can't be crossed? The thing that is a deal breaker? In this episode I will share my thoughts about why you may or may not want to name your threshold. 

]]> Do you know what your threshold is? Your line in the sand that can't be crossed? The thing that is a deal breaker? In this episode I will share my thoughts about why you may or may not want to name your threshold. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15940070 Mon, 21 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1085 2 101 full false The ways my life is better than before betrayal In this episode I do a review of the ways my life is better than before betrayal. It is a quick review of my first podcast episodes. Listen in and then go back and do a deeper dive on the full episodes of the ways YOU want to change.

]]> In this episode I do a review of the ways my life is better than before betrayal. It is a quick review of my first podcast episodes. Listen in and then go back and do a deeper dive on the full episodes of the ways YOU want to change.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15845738 Mon, 14 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1418 2 100 full false You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel. In this episode, I will share my thoughts about this true sentence. I will show how it fits in the coaching Model. I will invite you to discover Truth.

]]> You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel. In this episode, I will share my thoughts about this true sentence. I will show how it fits in the coaching Model. I will invite you to discover Truth.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15808739 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0600 920 2 99 full false I want my husband to do what he wants What comes up for you when I say, "I want my husband to do what he wants"? Do you want your husband to do what he wants? Does that idea bring fear? In this episode I will explain why I want this. Maybe you will decide you want this too.

]]> What comes up for you when I say, "I want my husband to do what he wants"? Do you want your husband to do what he wants? Does that idea bring fear? In this episode I will explain why I want this. Maybe you will decide you want this too.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15778102 Mon, 30 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0600 641 2 98 full false Thought: This Shouldn't Have Happened Have you ever thought, "This shouldn't have happened?" This is not a useful thought. It can actually be hurtful. It can keep you stuck. Even if it feels true, you may not want to hold on to it. Listen in to find out why.

]]> Have you ever thought, "This shouldn't have happened?" This is not a useful thought. It can actually be hurtful. It can keep you stuck. Even if it feels true, you may not want to hold on to it. Listen in to find out why.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15770171 Mon, 23 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0600 873 2 97 full false Your Husband is Not the Enemy Have you thought that your husband was the enemy? This is common with betrayal. How can someone hurt you so deeply not be your enemy? In this episode I will invite you to consider how this belief keeps you stuck. I invite you acknowledge who the enemy really is. And I will invite you to move forward to greater healing.

]]> Have you thought that your husband was the enemy? This is common with betrayal. How can someone hurt you so deeply not be your enemy? In this episode I will invite you to consider how this belief keeps you stuck. I invite you acknowledge who the enemy really is. And I will invite you to move forward to greater healing.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15738040 Mon, 16 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1143 2 96 full false You Were Prepared For This You were prepared for this trial? Did you know this? Do you see it? In this episode I will invite you to consider how you were prepared. We will talk about how realizing that this is true can strengthen you.

]]> You were prepared for this trial? Did you know this? Do you see it? In this episode I will invite you to consider how you were prepared. We will talk about how realizing that this is true can strengthen you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15698189 Mon, 09 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0600 980 2 95 full false Introvert or Extrovert Are you an introvert or an extrovert. Or are you an ambivert or omnivert? In this episode I will talk about these different personality traits and why it can be helpful to know what you are and what those around you are.

]]> Are you an introvert or an extrovert. Or are you an ambivert or omnivert? In this episode I will talk about these different personality traits and why it can be helpful to know what you are and what those around you are.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15669841 Mon, 02 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1110 2 94 full false Alone? or Lonely? Are you Alone? or Lonely? In this episode I will talk about the differences and invite you to consider your experience. I'll invite you to decide what you want to do about it, if anything.

]]> Are you Alone? or Lonely? In this episode I will talk about the differences and invite you to consider your experience. I'll invite you to decide what you want to do about it, if anything.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15621026 Mon, 26 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0600 806 2 93 full false The Zeigarnik Effect The Zegarnik Effect is our brains tendency to return its attention to unresolved problems. We can use this to benefit our lives. Listen to this episode to find out how.

]]> The Zegarnik Effect is our brains tendency to return its attention to unresolved problems. We can use this to benefit our lives. Listen to this episode to find out how.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15600848 Mon, 19 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0600 649 2 92 full false One Up and One Down in Relationships One upping and one downing can damage our relationships. We all do it. When we are willing to look at ourselves and clean this up, we can create more intimate relationships.

]]> One upping and one downing can damage our relationships. We all do it. When we are willing to look at ourselves and clean this up, we can create more intimate relationships.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15562687 Mon, 12 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1219 2 91 full false How To Not Be Triggered In this episode I will teach you how to manage triggers so that they will not have power over you. This is a next level healing skill. You may not be ready for it yet. Please Know that I am not minimizing the pain of triggers! I am not! I offer this tool for those that are ready for it.

]]> In this episode I will teach you how to manage triggers so that they will not have power over you. This is a next level healing skill. You may not be ready for it yet. Please Know that I am not minimizing the pain of triggers! I am not! I offer this tool for those that are ready for it.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15530307 Mon, 05 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1535 2 90 full false Myth: He Can Read and Pray His Addictions Away Have you heard the idea that your husband can read and pray his addictions away? In this episode I will share MY thoughts on this. I will share why I don't think it is true, how this idea can be harmful, AND I will tell you HOW it CAN be true.

]]> Have you heard the idea that your husband can read and pray his addictions away? In this episode I will share MY thoughts on this. I will share why I don't think it is true, how this idea can be harmful, AND I will tell you HOW it CAN be true.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15442070 Mon, 29 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1112 2 89 full false The Power of THESE Words Words are powerful. In this episode I invite you to make a small change. I talk about little words that have a big impact. If you choose, you can make a big change with the little words you use. 

]]> Words are powerful. In this episode I invite you to make a small change. I talk about little words that have a big impact. If you choose, you can make a big change with the little words you use. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15424243 Mon, 22 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1091 2 88 full false All or Nothing Thinking Do you find yourself going to all or nothing thinking? This habit can cause you pain and keep you stuck. You can free yourself from the all or nothing thinking trap. In this episode I will share a few ideas of how to do it.

]]> Do you find yourself going to all or nothing thinking? This habit can cause you pain and keep you stuck. You can free yourself from the all or nothing thinking trap. In this episode I will share a few ideas of how to do it.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15404701 Mon, 15 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1190 2 87 full false The Johari Window In this episode I am describing and explaining the Johari Window. It is a great tool for self introspection, awareness, and connection. 

]]> In this episode I am describing and explaining the Johari Window. It is a great tool for self introspection, awareness, and connection. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15357806 Mon, 08 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1373 2 86 full false Building Self Trust Self Trust is SO important to a happy life. What is Self Trust. How is your level of self trust?  Would you like to improve it? Listen in this episode for thoughts and ideas.

]]> Self Trust is SO important to a happy life. What is Self Trust. How is your level of self trust?  Would you like to improve it? Listen in this episode for thoughts and ideas.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15337083 Mon, 01 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1012 2 85 full false Support Groups: For or Against Are you For or Against group support meetings? What has been your experience? Have you heard people claim that group support meetings are not helpful? I have and in this episode I'm going to share my thoughts about this. 

]]> Are you For or Against group support meetings? What has been your experience? Have you heard people claim that group support meetings are not helpful? I have and in this episode I'm going to share my thoughts about this. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15298550 Mon, 24 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0600 810 2 84 full false Someone To Talk To This struggle of a spouse's unwanted sexual behaviors is so isolating. All struggles are! Today I have a super short message about a super important aspect of your healing: Having someone to talk to.

]]> This struggle of a spouse's unwanted sexual behaviors is so isolating. All struggles are! Today I have a super short message about a super important aspect of your healing: Having someone to talk to.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15152088 Mon, 17 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0600 487 2 83 full false Victim vs Victim Mindset Do you know the difference between Victim and Victim Mindset? One is acknowledging your experience, the other will keep you stuck. They are both a choice. Which choice do you want to make?

]]> Do you know the difference between Victim and Victim Mindset? One is acknowledging your experience, the other will keep you stuck. They are both a choice. Which choice do you want to make?

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15131291 Mon, 10 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0600 632 2 82 full false Bridge Thoughts Sometimes we wish we could just choose a new thought. And sometimes we can. Not usually though. In this episode I will teach you about bridge thoughts and ladder thoughts. These tools can get your thought from where it is now to where you want it to be.

]]> Sometimes we wish we could just choose a new thought. And sometimes we can. Not usually though. In this episode I will teach you about bridge thoughts and ladder thoughts. These tools can get your thought from where it is now to where you want it to be.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15130812 Mon, 03 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0600 772 2 81 full false Pity Party We have all thrown a pity party for oursevles because we are human and it is so easy for our brains to go there. However, we don't have to get stuck there. 

]]> We have all thrown a pity party for oursevles because we are human and it is so easy for our brains to go there. However, we don't have to get stuck there. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15089210 Mon, 27 May 2024 00:00:00 -0600 889 2 80 full false THOUGHT: "I'm doing more work on our marriage than he is" Have you ever had this thought? Do you have it now? In this episode I will share my experience with this thought and show you the power it has. I will point out the result this thought brings. Then you get to decide if you want to hold on to this thought.

]]> Have you ever had this thought? Do you have it now? In this episode I will share my experience with this thought and show you the power it has. I will point out the result this thought brings. Then you get to decide if you want to hold on to this thought.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15074872 Mon, 20 May 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1114 2 79 full false Balance in Life-it isn't a thing Have you every thought you want more balance in life? In today's episode, we are going to play around with this idea, consider some options, the YOU get to decide how you want to choose to think about balance in life.

]]> Have you every thought you want more balance in life? In today's episode, we are going to play around with this idea, consider some options, the YOU get to decide how you want to choose to think about balance in life.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-15050870 Mon, 13 May 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1501 2 78 full false Comfortable, Discomfort, Comforted In this episode I will share my ideas about being comfortable, being in discomfort, and being comforted.  Knowing when we WANT to be there and when we don't. Knowing WHY it is useful to be there and when it isn't. 

]]> In this episode I will share my ideas about being comfortable, being in discomfort, and being comforted.  Knowing when we WANT to be there and when we don't. Knowing WHY it is useful to be there and when it isn't. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14963824 Mon, 06 May 2024 00:00:00 -0600 776 2 77 full false River of Misery The River of Misery is a concept that we can use for our growth. Understanding where we are now is not where we have to stay is powerful. AND to grow we have to be willing to cross The River of Misery. Is IS worth it!

]]> The River of Misery is a concept that we can use for our growth. Understanding where we are now is not where we have to stay is powerful. AND to grow we have to be willing to cross The River of Misery. Is IS worth it!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14914315 Mon, 29 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0600 874 2 76 full false Dailies Here is a tool that can help you AND your husband in your individual healing and growth journeys. It is a tool that everyone can use for creating life intentionally. See how your life can improve by implementing this tool, choose one area and start today!

]]> Here is a tool that can help you AND your husband in your individual healing and growth journeys. It is a tool that everyone can use for creating life intentionally. See how your life can improve by implementing this tool, choose one area and start today!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14909703 Mon, 22 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1251 2 75 full false Vulnerability When you think of vulnerability, do you think of weakness or strength? Many people think of it as a weakness. I want to invite you to use it as a strength. Listen in to hear more.

]]> When you think of vulnerability, do you think of weakness or strength? Many people think of it as a weakness. I want to invite you to use it as a strength. Listen in to hear more.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14853454 Mon, 15 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0600 780 2 74 full false Shame vs Guilt Many people use the words shame and guilt interchangeably. Do you? Or do you think they are different? Listen to this episode to hear my thoughts on how shame and guilt are different. 

]]> Many people use the words shame and guilt interchangeably. Do you? Or do you think they are different? Listen to this episode to hear my thoughts on how shame and guilt are different. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14837099 Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1014 2 73 full false The Lord Is My Light I have used many Hymns in my healing. This one spoke to me today. 

]]> I have used many Hymns in my healing. This one spoke to me today. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14796679 Mon, 01 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0600 731 2 72 full false Thought: It's Been Quite a Week This is a thought. This is MY thought and I'm sticking to it. I think it serves me. Listen in and see if you agree.

]]> This is a thought. This is MY thought and I'm sticking to it. I think it serves me. Listen in and see if you agree.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14755151 Mon, 25 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0600 676 2 71 full false Navigating Negative Thoughts We are all going to have negative thoughts. It is a part of life . It is how our brains work. As we learn how to navigate our way through them, how to manage them, we will not get stuck in them. And we will be on our way to creating a life that is better than before betrayal.

]]> We are all going to have negative thoughts. It is a part of life . It is how our brains work. As we learn how to navigate our way through them, how to manage them, we will not get stuck in them. And we will be on our way to creating a life that is better than before betrayal.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14701660 Mon, 18 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1078 2 70 full false Options for your Circumstance We can sometimes feel stuck in our circumstance. Today I am going to share options that are available to you to help you get unstuck. You always have options, even when you may not think you do.

]]> We can sometimes feel stuck in our circumstance. Today I am going to share options that are available to you to help you get unstuck. You always have options, even when you may not think you do.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14659147 Mon, 11 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1465 2 69 full false Broken What do you think about the idea of being broken? Do you feel broken? Do you think your husband is broken? What do you make that mean? Does it mean you (or he) needs fixing? In this episode I will share my thoughts and ideas and a couple of songs about being broken.

]]> What do you think about the idea of being broken? Do you feel broken? Do you think your husband is broken? What do you make that mean? Does it mean you (or he) needs fixing? In this episode I will share my thoughts and ideas and a couple of songs about being broken.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14614256 Mon, 04 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0700 924 2 68 full false Sundays are the Hardest Day Thought: "Sundays are the hardest days" Are Sundays the hardest day for you? All days can be hard when dealing with betrayal. Sundays were especially hard for me. In this episode I will point out the clean pain in our thoughts on this day. And I will show you the dirty pain as well. Once you know the difference, you can make progress!

]]> Thought: "Sundays are the hardest days" Are Sundays the hardest day for you? All days can be hard when dealing with betrayal. Sundays were especially hard for me. In this episode I will point out the clean pain in our thoughts on this day. And I will show you the dirty pain as well. Once you know the difference, you can make progress!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14542171 Mon, 26 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1120 2 67 full false What to Pray For In this episode I will share experiences with prayer that have blessed my life. I hope that you will recognize how your life has been blessed through this gift we have.

]]> In this episode I will share experiences with prayer that have blessed my life. I hope that you will recognize how your life has been blessed through this gift we have.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14513034 Mon, 19 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1139 2 66 full false Valentine's Day Valentine's Day can be painful, especially for those who have been betrayed. In this episode I will share some ideas on how you may choose to celebrate or NOT celebrate. Choose intentionally, how you meet this day.

]]> Valentine's Day can be painful, especially for those who have been betrayed. In this episode I will share some ideas on how you may choose to celebrate or NOT celebrate. Choose intentionally, how you meet this day.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14473682 Mon, 12 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1064 2 65 full false Weakness and Weaknesses I've been thinking about weakness and weaknesses and what I think the difference is. Listen in today and hear my ideas on this.

]]> I've been thinking about weakness and weaknesses and what I think the difference is. Listen in today and hear my ideas on this.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14439356 Mon, 05 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0700 748 2 64 full false There Are Angels With Us In this episode I share some experiences of feeling angels protecting me. I invite you to remember the times that you have felt angels with you.

]]> In this episode I share some experiences of feeling angels protecting me. I invite you to remember the times that you have felt angels with you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14395280 Mon, 29 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0700 963 2 63 full false Should I Stay or Should I Go Now? In this episode I will talk about the decision we get to make to stay in our marriage or not. I will give you some things to consider to make sure you decide from a clean place.

]]> In this episode I will talk about the decision we get to make to stay in our marriage or not. I will give you some things to consider to make sure you decide from a clean place.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14244467 Mon, 22 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1566 2 62 full false Sentences I Use in Self Coaching In this episode I share 10 sentences I use in self coaching. Talking to yourself rather than just listening to yourself is key in creating the life you want.

]]> In this episode I share 10 sentences I use in self coaching. Talking to yourself rather than just listening to yourself is key in creating the life you want.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14223159 Mon, 15 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1271 2 61 full false Self Coaching Self Coaching is a great tool to help you take responsibility for your life and your happiness. In this episode, I'll tell you the first step to get started self coaching.

]]> Self Coaching is a great tool to help you take responsibility for your life and your happiness. In this episode, I'll tell you the first step to get started self coaching.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14221188 Mon, 08 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1130 2 60 full false Past or Future Focused Are you Past or Future Focused? In this episode I will share a simple way to create the life of your dreams. You decide what you want for your life, then create daily habits that will bring you this reality.

]]> Are you Past or Future Focused? In this episode I will share a simple way to create the life of your dreams. You decide what you want for your life, then create daily habits that will bring you this reality.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14219837 Mon, 01 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0700 1313 2 59 full false Christmas Past Listen in as I report back on how my Christmas was 50/50 and how I had the opportunity to use my skills to manage my mind to stay present this Christmas.

]]> Listen in as I report back on how my Christmas was 50/50 and how I had the opportunity to use my skills to manage my mind to stay present this Christmas.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14206935 Tue, 26 Dec 2023 17:00:00 -0700 622 1 58 full false Christmas Future, Present, and Past Merry Christmas! I want to give you a quick message to remind you that you can feel peace, hope and joy this because of our Savior. Celebrate this day! It will take using your skills to manage your mind through your 50/50 Christmas. I'm going to be using mine! And I will tell you how it goes!  We've got this!

]]> Merry Christmas! I want to give you a quick message to remind you that you can feel peace, hope and joy this because of our Savior. Celebrate this day! It will take using your skills to manage your mind through your 50/50 Christmas. I'm going to be using mine! And I will tell you how it goes!  We've got this!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14194875 Mon, 25 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0700 623 1 57 full false What to do with "I don't like being around them" Do you ever think, or say, "I don't like being around them"? I did. In this episode I will teach you a concept that will challenge this thought. I could change the way you think and therefore change your life! Give it a listen, then give it a try...if you want to. 

]]> Do you ever think, or say, "I don't like being around them"? I did. In this episode I will teach you a concept that will challenge this thought. I could change the way you think and therefore change your life! Give it a listen, then give it a try...if you want to. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-14086946 Mon, 18 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0700 912 1 56 full false Showing Up for the Holidays How do you feel about he Holidays? Do you feel stress and overwhelm? How do you show up? In this episode I will help you learn how to show up the way you want to.

]]> How do you feel about he Holidays? Do you feel stress and overwhelm? How do you show up? In this episode I will help you learn how to show up the way you want to.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13998175 Mon, 11 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1197 1 55 full false Anticipation not Expectation In this episode I will discuss how anticipation is so much more useful than expectation. Listen in and see if this is something you would like to try.

]]> In this episode I will discuss how anticipation is so much more useful than expectation. Listen in and see if this is something you would like to try.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13985859 Mon, 04 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0700 760 54 full false Wanting without Needing Sometimes we believe that we NEED someone or something to change. This can keep us stuck and miserable. In this episode I will discuss wanting without needing, it is a freeing concept! I hope you will give it a try!

]]> Sometimes we believe that we NEED someone or something to change. This can keep us stuck and miserable. In this episode I will discuss wanting without needing, it is a freeing concept! I hope you will give it a try!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13971970 Mon, 27 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1349 1 53 full false Happy Thanksgiving unless it's not Did you know that it is okay not to feel grateful on Thanksgiving? IF we think we SHOULD feel grateful when we're not, we feel shame. I give you permission to feel whatever you are feeling.

]]> Did you know that it is okay not to feel grateful on Thanksgiving? IF we think we SHOULD feel grateful when we're not, we feel shame. I give you permission to feel whatever you are feeling.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13963604 Mon, 20 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0700 972 1 52 full false Emotional Childhood Do you blame others for how you feel?  Do you think it is your husband's job to make you happy? Are you ready to take back the power for your own happiness? You can and this episode will tell you how. Listen in and give it a try!

]]> Do you blame others for how you feel?  Do you think it is your husband's job to make you happy? Are you ready to take back the power for your own happiness? You can and this episode will tell you how. Listen in and give it a try!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13929784 Mon, 13 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0700 1090 1 51 full false React vs Respond Do you use the words react and respond interchangeably? Many people do. In this episode I will talk about the differences and why these differences matter. 

]]> Do you use the words react and respond interchangeably? Many people do. In this episode I will talk about the differences and why these differences matter. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13896744 Mon, 06 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1091 1 50 full false Agency goes between the C line and the T line Listen in today for insight about agency and how and where it fits in The Model.  Learn why it matters and  how this information can be helpful to you.

]]> Listen in today for insight about agency and how and where it fits in The Model.  Learn why it matters and  how this information can be helpful to you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13860228 Mon, 30 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0600 1390 1 49 full false When he steals your choice We all have agency, no one can take it from us. So what does it mean when I say that he steals your choice? Listen in to find out what I mean and what good it does to know.

]]> We all have agency, no one can take it from us. So what does it mean when I say that he steals your choice? Listen in to find out what I mean and what good it does to know.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13810672 Mon, 23 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0600 1118 1 48 full false Be a safe place for their honesty WHAT? 
In this episode I'm inviting you to be a safe place for your husband.!?!? 
YOU want HIM to be a safe place for YOU! 
YOU want to trust HIM! 
How is this going to help? 
Listen and find out.

]]> WHAT? 
In this episode I'm inviting you to be a safe place for your husband.!?!? 
YOU want HIM to be a safe place for YOU! 
YOU want to trust HIM! 
How is this going to help? 
Listen and find out.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13762174 Mon, 16 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0600 1329 1 47 full false Why do they lie? Why do they lie? Do you find yourself asking this question? The answer is pretty simple. Understanding why they lie can help you as you navigate your journey.

]]> Why do they lie? Do you find yourself asking this question? The answer is pretty simple. Understanding why they lie can help you as you navigate your journey.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13740401 Mon, 09 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0600 965 1 46 full false What is The Spirit saying to you today? As we take the opportunity to listen to General Conference, we can receive peace, strength and guidance for our lives. What personal message did you hear? 

]]> As we take the opportunity to listen to General Conference, we can receive peace, strength and guidance for our lives. What personal message did you hear? 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13667157 Mon, 02 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0600 1036 1 45 full false What a peacemaker is not We are admonished to be peacemakers. What do you make that mean?  Do you hide in the name of being a peacemaker? In this episode I share my thoughts about what a peacemaker is not. 

]]> We are admonished to be peacemakers. What do you make that mean?  Do you hide in the name of being a peacemaker? In this episode I share my thoughts about what a peacemaker is not. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13629248 Mon, 25 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1091 1 44 full false Are you living Plan A? We all have unexpected events in our lives. We don't get our Plan A. I used to say "Life is how we live Plan B". And then I heard something I like better.  Listen to find out how we really can live Plan A.

]]> We all have unexpected events in our lives. We don't get our Plan A. I used to say "Life is how we live Plan B". And then I heard something I like better.  Listen to find out how we really can live Plan A.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13574107 Mon, 18 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0600 884 1 43 full false What to do with SHOULD In this episode I will give you a tool to help you get out of SHOULD thinking. It is simple, maybe not easy. If you use it, it can really help you.

]]> In this episode I will give you a tool to help you get out of SHOULD thinking. It is simple, maybe not easy. If you use it, it can really help you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13536460 Mon, 11 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0600 936 1 42 full false Disappointment Either Way This sounds like a miserable concept! Right? Don't skip it! It is a very powerful concept for allowing urges, for allowing emotions...for growth! It is key to living your life intentionally!

]]> This sounds like a miserable concept! Right? Don't skip it! It is a very powerful concept for allowing urges, for allowing emotions...for growth! It is key to living your life intentionally!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13445058 Mon, 04 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1055 1 41 full false How much do I need to know? How much do you need to know concerning your husband's infidelity? This is a question that every betrayed partner needs to consider. In this episode, I offer some insight that will help you decide. 

]]> How much do you need to know concerning your husband's infidelity? This is a question that every betrayed partner needs to consider. In this episode, I offer some insight that will help you decide. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13434253 Mon, 28 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0600 865 1 40 full false "I don't know" is a lie Do you find yourself saying "I don't know" a lot? Listen in today to learn about how "I don't know" is a lie. See how this little concept can change your life in little and big ways.

]]> Do you find yourself saying "I don't know" a lot? Listen in today to learn about how "I don't know" is a lie. See how this little concept can change your life in little and big ways.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13434092 Mon, 21 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0600 991 1 39 full false Why don't I feel so miserable anymore? Join me today as I talk about a coaching session with a client in which she asked me why she doesn't feel so miserable anymore. I will touch on her 4 theories and give you my thoughts on each of them. Then , as always, you get to decide what you think!

]]> Join me today as I talk about a coaching session with a client in which she asked me why she doesn't feel so miserable anymore. I will touch on her 4 theories and give you my thoughts on each of them. Then , as always, you get to decide what you think!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13345337 Mon, 14 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0600 856 1 38 full false I Don't Say SHOULD Anymore You have heard me refer to the word "should" as the "S" word. I don't say it anymore. In this episode I will tell you why.

]]> You have heard me refer to the word "should" as the "S" word. I don't say it anymore. In this episode I will tell you why.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13325889 Mon, 07 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1259 1 37 full false How To Be A Good Mother-In-Law We get to choose how we show up in the world. This episode is based on a list I got at a Women's Conference years ago. I love it. It is how I want to show up. Give it a listen, and then choose how YOU want to show up in the different roles in your life. You DO get to choose.

]]> We get to choose how we show up in the world. This episode is based on a list I got at a Women's Conference years ago. I love it. It is how I want to show up. Give it a listen, and then choose how YOU want to show up in the different roles in your life. You DO get to choose.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13317357 Mon, 31 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1402 1 36 full false Triggers Triggers are a part of betrayal trauma.  You don't have to live with them forever! I will give you some tips to handle those triggering thoughts so they won't have power over you.

]]> Triggers are a part of betrayal trauma.  You don't have to live with them forever! I will give you some tips to handle those triggering thoughts so they won't have power over you.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13141115 Mon, 24 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1303 1 33 full false Patients Simply Need Other Patients This episode is my husband's Sacrament meeting talk, Patients Simply Need Other Patients. Grab you husband and ask him if he would like to listen with you on this one. None of us are alone in our struggles. We can find strength and support in others who have been through what we are going through. I hope you find it helpful. 

]]> This episode is my husband's Sacrament meeting talk, Patients Simply Need Other Patients. Grab you husband and ask him if he would like to listen with you on this one. None of us are alone in our struggles. We can find strength and support in others who have been through what we are going through. I hope you find it helpful. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13186213 Mon, 17 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1187 1 35 full false Forgiveness-what we make it mean that it doesn't mean We talk a lot about forgiveness with betrayal. Today let's consider some things that we make forgiveness mean that it doesn't mean. We can clean up our thinking to help us move forward from wherever we are. 

]]> We talk a lot about forgiveness with betrayal. Today let's consider some things that we make forgiveness mean that it doesn't mean. We can clean up our thinking to help us move forward from wherever we are. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13184964 Mon, 10 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1413 1 34 full false Abide in Me, and I in You; therefore walk with Me I recently spoke in Sacrament meeting and I thought I would share it with you. I hope you feel The Spirit as you listen.

]]> I recently spoke in Sacrament meeting and I thought I would share it with you. I hope you feel The Spirit as you listen.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13133085 Mon, 03 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1041 1 32 full false Gaslighting Have you heard of gaslighting? Do you know if you've experienced it? In this episode I will tell you what it is, how you can detect it, and what you can do to keep yourself safe from it.

]]> Have you heard of gaslighting? Do you know if you've experienced it? In this episode I will tell you what it is, how you can detect it, and what you can do to keep yourself safe from it.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13097280 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1175 1 31 full false Can I Ever Trust Him Again? After betrayal, trust is shattered. We want to know if we can ever trust again. I hope that you find this episode helpful in how you think about trust.

]]> After betrayal, trust is shattered. We want to know if we can ever trust again. I hope that you find this episode helpful in how you think about trust.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13062915 Mon, 19 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1452 1 30 full false I just want things to be like they used to be Today's episode is about a thought that many people have after betrayal. It sounds like a lovely thought. Is it though? Listen and see if you change your mind about it. 

]]> Today's episode is about a thought that many people have after betrayal. It sounds like a lovely thought. Is it though? Listen and see if you change your mind about it. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-13015773 Mon, 12 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0600 859 1 29 full false How long is this going to take? Possibly the most common question asked when it comes to healing: How long is this going to take? Listen to some of my thoughts and ideas in this episode. See if you can answer that question, and be okay with your answer.

]]> Possibly the most common question asked when it comes to healing: How long is this going to take? Listen to some of my thoughts and ideas in this episode. See if you can answer that question, and be okay with your answer.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12962040 Mon, 05 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0600 1250 1 27 full false The Three Stages of Awareness Awareness is key to managing our minds. Managing our minds is crucial to our healing. Join me in this episode to learn about the stages of awareness. We make progress a little at a time. And we know that practice makes progress. Progress is a great thing. Start now.

]]> Awareness is key to managing our minds. Managing our minds is crucial to our healing. Join me in this episode to learn about the stages of awareness. We make progress a little at a time. And we know that practice makes progress. Progress is a great thing. Start now.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12797426 Mon, 29 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 767 1 28 full false The Model-line 5-Results and wrap up This week I will finish up the zoomed in look at each line of The Model as I talk about Results. Amazingly, our results always reflect our thoughts. Listen in to learn more!

]]> This week I will finish up the zoomed in look at each line of The Model as I talk about Results. Amazingly, our results always reflect our thoughts. Listen in to learn more!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12796919 Mon, 22 May 2023 12:00:00 -0600 1134 1 26 full false The Model line 4-Actions In this episode I focus on the fourth line of The Model. We will take a closer look at why we do the things we do. 

]]> In this episode I focus on the fourth line of The Model. We will take a closer look at why we do the things we do. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12747375 Mon, 15 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1064 1 25 full false The Model-line 3-Feelings Feelings are created by our thoughts not our circumstances. It is crucial to our healing to be able to identify and label our emotions and to process and allow them. 

]]> Feelings are created by our thoughts not our circumstances. It is crucial to our healing to be able to identify and label our emotions and to process and allow them. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12634115 Mon, 08 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 607 1 24 full false The Model-line 2-Thoughts Our thoughts are how we experience our lives. As we increase the awareness of our thoughts, we can notice what thoughts we have that are true and what thoughts are in distortion. Becoming aware of our thoughts is powerful. It is a great step toward healing.

]]> Our thoughts are how we experience our lives. As we increase the awareness of our thoughts, we can notice what thoughts we have that are true and what thoughts are in distortion. Becoming aware of our thoughts is powerful. It is a great step toward healing.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12633711 Mon, 01 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 843 1 23 full false The Model-line 1-Circumstances Circumstance is the first line of the Coaching Model. In this episode I will tell you some things about circumstances to help you get a better understanding of them. This information can help you on your healing journey and in every aspect of your life. 

]]> Circumstance is the first line of the Coaching Model. In this episode I will tell you some things about circumstances to help you get a better understanding of them. This information can help you on your healing journey and in every aspect of your life. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12625086 Mon, 24 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 901 1 22 full false The Model Explained In this episode I will explain The Model.  This amazing tool  can be used to gain awareness. We can use it in every area of our life to create the life we want. 

]]> In this episode I will explain The Model.  This amazing tool  can be used to gain awareness. We can use it in every area of our life to create the life we want. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12609393 Mon, 17 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 938 1 21 full false Want Matches Want Matches are a beautiful thing. You want it, he wants it. You have them! Finding the want matches in your relationship will help you in your growth and healing. 

]]> Want Matches are a beautiful thing. You want it, he wants it. You have them! Finding the want matches in your relationship will help you in your growth and healing. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12557875 Mon, 10 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 881 1 20 full false Manuals We have manuals for people in our lives. In this episode I will explain what a manual is, why we have them, and how our manuals can be hurting us. Understanding ourselves is a big step (or giant leap) in our ability to find happiness. Recognizing our manuals is a crucial part of this journey. 

]]> We have manuals for people in our lives. In this episode I will explain what a manual is, why we have them, and how our manuals can be hurting us. Understanding ourselves is a big step (or giant leap) in our ability to find happiness. Recognizing our manuals is a crucial part of this journey. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12556553 Mon, 03 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1054 1 19 full false Infidelity Defined Just what constitutes infidelity? I will share my thoughts on this. Do you share my thoughts and opinions on it? Listen in and see what you think. 

]]> Just what constitutes infidelity? I will share my thoughts on this. Do you share my thoughts and opinions on it? Listen in and see what you think. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12369531 Mon, 27 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600 939 1 17 full false D-day To most of the world D-day refers to the invasion of Normandy, marking the "beginning of the end of WWII".  In the world of betrayal, D-day has a different meaning. In this episode I will give you some ideas of how you can change the way you think of this date. I hope you find it helpful, no matter where you are on your healing journey.

]]> To most of the world D-day refers to the invasion of Normandy, marking the "beginning of the end of WWII".  In the world of betrayal, D-day has a different meaning. In this episode I will give you some ideas of how you can change the way you think of this date. I hope you find it helpful, no matter where you are on your healing journey.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12450934 Mon, 20 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1036 1 18 full false Boundaries Boundaries are necessary for all healthy relationships. In this episode I define what a boundary is and what it is not. All boundaries are not right for everyone. I invite you to look at your relationships and determine which ones could benefit from some boundary work.  It is your work to do to create your boundaries. 

]]> Boundaries are necessary for all healthy relationships. In this episode I define what a boundary is and what it is not. All boundaries are not right for everyone. I invite you to look at your relationships and determine which ones could benefit from some boundary work.  It is your work to do to create your boundaries. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12369401 Mon, 13 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1372 1 16 full false Life is 50/50 As humans we want to be happy all of the time and this simply isn't realistic. As we accept that life is sometimes "good" and sometimes "bad", we can find greater peace and joy. Life is good, even when it is hard.

]]> As humans we want to be happy all of the time and this simply isn't realistic. As we accept that life is sometimes "good" and sometimes "bad", we can find greater peace and joy. Life is good, even when it is hard.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12341303 Mon, 06 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1279 1 15 full false Allowing Urges *It will be helpful to listen to episode #13 before you listen to this episode.*

In today's episode I talk about allowing urges. What is it?  Are you good at it? Why would we even want to do this? Is it important to having the life of our dreams? Find out now.

]]> *It will be helpful to listen to episode #13 before you listen to this episode.*

In today's episode I talk about allowing urges. What is it?  Are you good at it? Why would we even want to do this? Is it important to having the life of our dreams? Find out now.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12292064 Mon, 27 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1162 1 14 full false Buffering and Addiction This week I talk about buffering. What is it?  Why do we do it?  How do we stop it? What does it have to do with addiction?  IS your husband's pornography use an addiction? I don't think so. Listen in and I'll tell you why.

]]> This week I talk about buffering. What is it?  Why do we do it?  How do we stop it? What does it have to do with addiction?  IS your husband's pornography use an addiction? I don't think so. Listen in and I'll tell you why.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12276189 Mon, 20 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1464 1 13 full false Let go of control When we find out that our husband has been lying to us, we feel that our life is a lie. We feel like we are not in control, so we want to take control of things that we can not control. Letting go of control of your husbands healing is crucial for your healing and your peace of mind. Listen in to learn more. 

]]> When we find out that our husband has been lying to us, we feel that our life is a lie. We feel like we are not in control, so we want to take control of things that we can not control. Letting go of control of your husbands healing is crucial for your healing and your peace of mind. Listen in to learn more. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12222987 Mon, 13 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1495 1 12 full false Clean Pain/Dirty Pain In this week's episode I talk about clean pain and dirty pain. What are they? How do you know when your pain is clean or dirty? What can you do about it? I'll answer these questions for you today.

]]> In this week's episode I talk about clean pain and dirty pain. What are they? How do you know when your pain is clean or dirty? What can you do about it? I'll answer these questions for you today.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12174098 Mon, 06 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1293 1 11 full false I'm willing to feel any emotion I spent much of my life pushing emotions down, rarely even acknowledging them. On my journey of healing, I have learned the importance of feeling them. It is life changing. Join me today and I will teach you how to do this. It is a crucial tool for your healing.

]]> I spent much of my life pushing emotions down, rarely even acknowledging them. On my journey of healing, I have learned the importance of feeling them. It is life changing. Join me today and I will teach you how to do this. It is a crucial tool for your healing.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12127283 Mon, 30 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1495 1 10 full false I have greater trust in my Savior, my Heavenly Parents, and Myself Who do you trust? Who do you want to trust? Betrayal can bring trust challenges, for sure! When you can't trust your husband, find strength in knowing there are those that you can trust.  Listen today as I share my experience of knowing in whom I can trust and the strength and peace it brings to my soul. 

]]> Who do you trust? Who do you want to trust? Betrayal can bring trust challenges, for sure! When you can't trust your husband, find strength in knowing there are those that you can trust.  Listen today as I share my experience of knowing in whom I can trust and the strength and peace it brings to my soul. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12087014 Mon, 23 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1058 1 9 full false I have more confidence When faced with betrayal, your confidence can take a hit. In this episode I will discuss what confidence is, how we can build it, or rebuild it, and how you can have more confidence than before.

]]> When faced with betrayal, your confidence can take a hit. In this episode I will discuss what confidence is, how we can build it, or rebuild it, and how you can have more confidence than before.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-12042338 Mon, 16 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1393 1 8 full false Courage for Conversations I did not have a pattern of always sharing my thoughts and opinions in my marriage. I had many thoughts that kept me from doing so. In this episode I share my struggle and my progress. Listen in and identify what areas you may need more courage in.

]]> I did not have a pattern of always sharing my thoughts and opinions in my marriage. I had many thoughts that kept me from doing so. In this episode I share my struggle and my progress. Listen in and identify what areas you may need more courage in.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11972430 Mon, 09 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1239 1 7 full false I keep ME from relapse In the world of addiction we talk a lot about relapse of the addict. What about the relapse of the spouse? Did you know that you relapse? Listen as I share what this means, and what is possible. Learn how to stop YOUR relapses. 

]]> In the world of addiction we talk a lot about relapse of the addict. What about the relapse of the spouse? Did you know that you relapse? Listen as I share what this means, and what is possible. Learn how to stop YOUR relapses. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11949569 Mon, 02 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1296 1 6 full false I don't hang my emotions on others Making other peoples choices mean something about me is something that we do as humans. Listen today for insights on how we do this, why we do this  on how we can learn to stop doing this. When we use this skill, we don't hand our emotions on other people's actions. 

]]> Making other peoples choices mean something about me is something that we do as humans. Listen today for insights on how we do this, why we do this  on how we can learn to stop doing this. When we use this skill, we don't hand our emotions on other people's actions. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11923654 Mon, 26 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700 1288 1 5 full false I see others with more love In this episode I explain what I have learned about love as I have grown through life's experiences. 

]]> In this episode I explain what I have learned about love as I have grown through life's experiences. 

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11908489 Sat, 24 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700 1309 1 4 full true I talk to myself more than I listen to myself In the upcoming episodes I will tell you of 10 ways my life is better than before betrayal. This is the first way.

]]> In the upcoming episodes I will tell you of 10 ways my life is better than before betrayal. This is the first way.

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11906278 Fri, 23 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700 1243 1 2 full false I take responsibility for my happiness You are responsible for your happiness. The power is yours and no one else's. Learn how I do this and how you can too!

]]> You are responsible for your happiness. The power is yours and no one else's. Learn how I do this and how you can too!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11906635 Thu, 22 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0700 1615 1 3 full false My Story In this first episode, I share my story. My wish is that you will find hope and healing as you listen. Merry Christmas to you!

]]> In this first episode, I share my story. My wish is that you will find hope and healing as you listen. Merry Christmas to you!

]]> Ruth Buzzsprout-11905566 Tue, 20 Dec 2022 11:00:00 -0700 1434 1 1 full false