Our Whole Childhood with Patrick Teahan

When History Repeats: The Golden Child Gets Betrayed

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Patrick Teahan, MSW, explores a difficult and personal topic: how abusive family dynamics can scale into larger systems, and what happens when legal authority functions like an abusive parent. He introduces a framework he calls the Abusive Parent State, using trauma pattern recognition to connect family systems language to collective trauma.

Rather than staying inside the usual home-based roles, Patrick widens the lens to examine how gaslighting, enforcer dynamics, and discard phases can appear at a societal level. The episode begins with a family story from County Kerry, Ireland in 1920, when a home invasion by the Black and Tans changed his family’s lineage and left a long nervous system legacy. From there, he draws parallels to historical and present-day examples, including Hitler’s SA and a current lens on ICE, to illustrate how state-sponsored fear can imprint across generations.

Listeners will learn:

How legal abuse can replicate the same power dynamics as an abusive household
The clinical blueprint of state-sponsored terror and how it targets home-based safety
The golden child to scapegoat pipeline and why enforcers are often eventually betrayed
How home invasions and forced instability create long-term hypervigilance in families
Why trauma is a time traveler and how it shapes parenting and attachment across generations
How to maintain humanity and groundedness when the “parent state” becomes the abuser

Patrick also discusses recovery tools for holding reality clearly, staying regulated, and resisting the pull to normalize abusive dynamics, whether they come from family or from systems.

If you feel activated by the current climate, carry inherited fear, or recognize familiar abuse patterns playing out on a larger scale, this episode offers language, validation, and a way to think about collective trauma without losing sight of healing.

Keywords: collective trauma, intergenerational trauma, childhood trauma, state violence, hypervigilance, gaslighting, family systems, abusive parent dynamics, enforcer dynamics, scapegoating, trauma patterns, trauma recovery

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My Highschool Bully

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Patrick, explores why memories of school bullies can still feel visceral years later, even after you have done a lot of healing work. Using a poll with over 2,000 participants, Patrick breaks down the different ways bullying can stick in the nervous system, from occasional intense flashbacks to lingering resentment and revenge fantasies.

Rather than treating bullying as a standalone issue, Patrick connects it to childhood trauma and family systems. He explains how bullies often target vulnerability, how being disconnected at home can amplify what happens at school, and why many survivors cannot fully process bullying until they also confront the bully at home or the caregivers who minimized it, blamed them, or failed to protect them.

A major turning point in the episode comes from Patrick’s own story: years after high school, he looks up a bully online and finds a single comment that reframes the entire relationship...

Listeners will learn:

What the data says about bullying and adulthood
Why bullying can feel personal when home life already attacked your worth
How the bully at school sometimes mirrors the emotional climate at home
How a single piece of context can shift long-held pain and meaning
What real compassion looks like after healthy processing

Patrick also discusses recovery themes like validating your younger self, noticing “trauma detective” dynamics where bullies spot fear and disconnection, and how reclaiming your own humanity makes it easier to see humanity in others without excusing harm.

If you still think about a bully once in a while and the feelings hit hard, this episode offers a grounded way to understand why, and a path toward loosening what is still stuck.

Keywords: school bullying, childhood trauma, emotional flashbacks, resentment, revenge fantasies, family systems, emotional neglect, unsafe parents, hypervigilance, self-worth, healing, compassion

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The Feeling of Being “In Trouble”

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Patrick Teahan, MSW, explores the baseline feeling of being “in trouble”, that constant sense that someone is mad at you, you did something wrong, or you are about to be shamed. He breaks down why this internal alarm is so common in childhood trauma and how it can follow people into adulthood through imposter syndrome, anxiety dreams, and chronic hypervigilance.

Rather than treating it like a personality flaw, Patrick connects the “in trouble” feeling to shame-based family systems, especially homes with emotionally immature or abusive caregivers, scapegoating, addiction, unpredictable rules, and punishment instead of repair. He reframes it as an emotional flashback where the body signals, “It’s happening again,” even when the present moment is safe.

Listeners will learn:

Why you might feel “in trouble” even when nothing is wrong
How toxic shame damages self-trust and relationships
Why relaxing can feel unsafe after growing up with chronic blame
How survival responses like fawning, shutdown, fight, and parentification develop
How to tell the difference between present-day accountability and old conditioning
Journal prompts to trace where this started and “talk back” to the internalized abusive voice

Patrick also shares recovery tools like inner child work, repairing distorted perception, boundary development, and practicing self-protection in present-day triggers, such as conflict, tense emails, and setting preferences.

If you grew up feeling like a burden, the “bad kid,” or like one misstep could ruin everything, this episode offers language, validation, and a path toward reclaiming safety and self-trust.

Keywords: childhood trauma, toxic shame, feeling in trouble, emotional flashbacks, hypervigilance, emotionally immature parents, scapegoating, parentification, fawning, imposter syndrome, inner child work, trauma recovery

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Ireland—Where Flashbacks Pass Away

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Patrick shares a personal story about what it can look like when long-held trauma responses begin to loosen after years of recovery work and how flashbacks can shift into quieter moments of recognition instead of distress.

Rather than focusing on symptoms alone, Patrick connects the body-level experience of trauma anniversaries, shame attacks, and emotional flashbacks to the family system that created them, including emotionally immature parenting, addiction, domestic violence, and poor boundaries.

Using a trip through Ireland as the backdrop, Patrick reflects on returning to the Ring of Kerry and Dingle Peninsula decades after a childhood visit with a narcissistic, alcoholic father and noticing a body memory that arrives without the old shame and fear. He contrasts that earlier experience with traveling alongside his son, describing what it means to feel detached from a parent’s legacy and present in your own life.

Important Takeaways for the Listener:

How trauma anniversaries can show up as subtle body memories, and how they can change after sustained healing work
Why kids often feel like accomplices to adult dysfunction, and how that fuels shame and distorted self-perception
How emotionally immature caregivers and chaotic family systems shape attachment, safety, and identity
What it means to break cycles with or without becoming a parent, and how to separate yourself from a family legacy
Why overwhelm in the current climate can activate old survival states, and how to orient back to the present
How reflective tools, including a toxic family style assessment he references, can help name what the ACE framework may miss about family dynamics

Patrick also discusses recovery themes like inner child work, repairing distorted perception, reducing shame-based identity, and building a life where you no longer represent your parents’ choices.

If you carry a sense of inherited shame, feel easily activated by the world, or are noticing your triggers changing as you heal, this episode offers a grounded example of what progress can feel like over time.

Keywords: childhood trauma, emotional flashbacks, body memories, shame attacks, trauma anniversaries, emotionally immature parents, narcissistic parent, addiction in families, intergenerational trauma, breaking cycles, inner child work, recovery

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Was This Your Family? (9 Oddly Specific Family Issues)

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Patrick Teahan, MSW, explores nine rarely named but deeply damaging family dynamics that quietly shape childhood trauma and follow people into adulthood.

Rather than focusing on symptoms alone, Patrick breaks down the dysfunctional family systems behind them—the unspoken rules, emotional roles, and survival patterns that distort self-worth, boundaries, and relationships.

As a follow-up to 11 Oddly Specific Childhood Trauma Issues, this episode examines how growing up in emotionally immature or unsafe families affects perception, identity, and connection. From households where feelings are ignored but secretly run everything, to families that bond through complaining instead of change, Patrick explains how these patterns condition children to self-betray, overfunction, or disappear.

Listeners will learn:

What happens when children grow up without mutually satisfying parental relationships
How scapegoating, gaslighting, and chronic blame damage self-trust
Why some families resist growth and punish success
The emotional cost of always being “the responsible one”
How gender roles and hierarchy reinforce dysfunction
Why survivors are often told to “be the better person” with abusive relatives

Patrick also discusses recovery tools, including inner child work, repairing distorted perception, boundary development, and learning to step out of dysfunctional family roles.

If you grew up feeling unseen, unsafe, or emotionally responsible for others, this episode offers language, validation, and a clearer path toward healing.

Keywords: childhood trauma, toxic family systems, emotionally immature parents, CPTSD, family dysfunction, emotional neglect, scapegoating, parentification, trauma recovery, boundaries, inner child healing

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5 Types of Lost Childhood Personalities

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500

This episode explores how childhood trauma and emotionally unsafe parenting can cause us to lose touch with our original personality, the self we were born with before survival, compliance, and shame took over.

Through personal stories and clinical insight, Patrick explains how emotionally immature or abusive parents distort a child’s sense of self by mislabeling innate traits as problems. Poor emotional mirroring, lack of goodness of fit, and pressure to comply can force a child’s spark underground, leading trauma responses to be mistaken for personality well into adulthood.

Learn how many survivors grow up feeling disconnected from who they really are, surprised by positive feedback, or unsure whether their behaviors reflect their true self or trauma adaptations, and how to begin reclaiming what was lost.

Topics include:

How childhood trauma suppresses innate personality
The impact of emotional abuse, misattunement, and forced compliance
Why trauma responses often replace a true sense of self
The five core childhood personality types and how they’re shaped by family dynamics
How to begin reconnecting with your authentic identity through trauma healing

If you grew up feeling like the difficult child, the odd duck, or the misunderstood one, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path back to yourself.

Keywords: childhood trauma, lost sense of self, emotionally immature parents, trauma recovery, inner child healing, emotional abuse, identity development, CPTSD, family of origin trauma

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Why Are Victims Expected to Do All the Work?

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0500

This episode tells the story of Thomas, a survivor who went no contact with his abusive father after a public meltdown at his wedding, and how the world around him quietly blames him for the relationship he didn’t break.

From well-meaning coworkers saying “all families have stuff,” to relatives insisting “you’ll have to let it go,” Patrick explores why the burden to forgive and reconnect so often falls on the person who was hurt, not the person who caused the harm.

Learn how survivors like Thomas are pressured to “be the bigger person,” while abusers avoid accountability, and how to stop carrying that emotional labor yourself.

Topics include:

Why abusive parents are rarely held accountable
How relatives and in-laws minimize harm to “keep the peace”
The shame, guilt, and invisibility survivors feel when going no contact
The hidden motives behind advice like “just forgive”
How to flip the script and protect your peace

If you’ve ever been told to reconcile with someone who never took responsibility for the pain they caused, this episode offers validation, and a new way forward.

Keywords: family estrangement, toxic parents, no contact healing, emotional abuse recovery, accountability, narcissistic parent, trauma recovery, boundaries, forgiveness pressure, inner child healing

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Toxic Mothers and the Impact on Daughters

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0400

This episode explores how growing up with a toxic or emotionally unavailable mother can shape a daughter’s sense of worth, identity, and boundaries, and how to finally break free.

Rather than focusing on blame, Patrick unpacks the lasting emotional damage that daughters carry into adulthood and the path toward self-trust and emotional independence.

Learn why patterns like people-pleasing, guilt, and over-responsibility aren’t flaws, they’re survival strategies that once kept you safe. Through stories, insights, and tools, Patrick guides you toward seeing your story with compassion and clarity.

Topics include:

How toxic maternal behavior damages self-perception
The “good daughter” role and its emotional consequences
Guilt, shame, and the confusion between love and obligation
Reparenting yourself and building healthy emotional boundaries
Reclaiming confidence and connection without losing yourself

You’ll leave this episode with practical tools to stop carrying emotional responsibility for others, repair your self-image, and begin building the safety your mother couldn’t provide.

Keywords: toxic mother, mother-daughter trauma, emotional abuse, inner child healing, childhood trauma recovery, boundaries, reparenting, self-worth repair, codependency, healing tools, family roles, emotional neglect

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Breaking Free From a Narcissistic Parent

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0400

This episode explores how growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally immature parent can distort your perception of yourself, others, and your worth, and how to reclaim it. Instead of fixating on the parent, we look at the damage that lingers and the path to undo it.

Learn why triggers around work, relationships, and self-doubt aren’t personality flaws—they're leftover survival responses from childhood. Patrick shares vulnerable personal stories about being cast as “the dumb one” and how those old narratives showed up in adulthood, even during success.

Topics include:

How narcissistic parents damage a child’s perception
The impact on self-worth, identity, and intimacy
Hypervigilance, projection, and feeling “in trouble” for existing
Three powerful recovery tools:
- Protecting your inner child
- Writing a truth statement
- Giving back what was never yours to carry

You’ll walk away with practical exercises to shift perception, stop living in fear, and reclaim a sense of self that was always yours.

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Workbook Chapters
1 — How to Get Your Inner Adult in Place … 12
2 — The Built-In Forgetter (Codependency) … 27
3 — Honoring Our Trauma Responses & Coping Strategies … 38
4 — Overcoming Magical Thinking … 51
5 — The Feeling of Being "In Trouble"… 63
6 — How to Stop Anticipating Criticism … 74
7 — Childhood Trauma & Physical Energy Issues … 84
8 — Depression Related to Childhood Trauma … 97
9 — Processing Childhood Emotional Neglect
(The Things That Didn’t Happen)… 107
10 - Processing Childhood Enmeshment with an
Emotionally Immature Parent …118
11 - Processing Childhood Trauma-Related Grief … 131
12 - Processing Guilt: Recognizing the Family History
Before Low or No Contact … 143
13 - How to Recover from a Narcissistic Parent … 153

Journal Prompts
Journal Prompt #1: How did self-worth get twisted?
How did your narcissistic parent create damage around your self-worth and how you perceive yourself?

Write a list of ten experiences about lost self-worth due to that parent.

Examples
That Christmas when my mother made me stand up in front of the entire extended family while she berated me about why I didn’t get any gifts.

My father would take any achievement I had and one-up me. I gave up on having self-worth because he was the focus.

Journal Prompt #2: Who did they say you are?
Write several paragraphs about your struggle with a healthy sense of self and how the narcissistic parent contributed to a poor sense of self. Who did your parents say you were, either through protection, neglect, or supply?

Example

I’ve always guessed at what I like or who I am. My mother had these twisted ideas, or fantasies, that I was going to become an entrepreneur and live a fabulous life in support of her. Did I want that? What even is that? What I know now is if she had a child who was a rich genius, she could have supply and validation—she could tell her friends she raised an entrepreneur. Of course I don’t know who I am.

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Keywords: narcissistic parent recovery, childhood trauma, perception wounds, inner child healing, self-worth repair, intimacy triggers, emotional abuse healing, trauma recovery tools

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4 Tools to Fix Triggers

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400

This episode dives into the ways childhood trauma shows up in daily triggers—and how to break free from them faster. Learn how your past shapes present reactions and discover practical tools to release the emotional charge that keeps you stuck.

Topics include:

Understanding how triggers connect past and present
Four actionable tools for regulating emotional triggers
Healing practices for body and mind
Reclaiming your time, energy, and creativity from trauma

Join us for an empowering conversation on building resilience, calming your nervous system, and supporting your inner child.

Keywords: Childhood trauma, emotional triggers, healing tools, inner child work, trauma recovery, nervous system regulation

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Answering Your Questions! - Social Challenges

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400

This episode explores the ways childhood trauma survivors often feel left out in friendships and social situations, and how those early family patterns show up in adult connections.

Topics include:

Struggling to “jump in” during conversations
Starting friendships but pulling away quickly
Feeling “too much” or too intense for others
How family modeling shapes social shame
Inner child work and dialoguing prompts for healing

Join us for an honest, compassionate conversation on finding belonging and becoming more comfortable in your own skin.

Keywords: childhood trauma, social anxiety, inner child healing, friendships, boundaries, CPTSD, feeling excluded, self-worth.

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Stop Fawning with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Patrick sits down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton to unpack fawning, the often-missed, deeply relational trauma response: why “people-pleasing” isn’t what it seems, how power dynamics shape it, and first steps toward taking up space—without turning into someone you’re not.

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Healing From Toxic Mothers

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0400

This episode explores in-depth how emotionally immature or abusive mothers impact their sons long into adulthood. Keep an eye out for two more parts of this series!

Topics include:

Feeling triggered by other women - imaginary or real
Different types of toxic mothers
Replicating patterns from our childhood trauma
Tips for healing and building healthy relationships

Join us for an insightful conversation on healing and finding emotional balance.

Keywords: Childhood trauma, toxic mother, relationships, healing, self-worth.

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Toxic Fathers & The Daughters They Leave Behind

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Toxic Fathers & The Daughters They Leave Behind

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Why You’re Stuck with C-PTSD (And How to Heal)

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Why Your C-PTSD Isn't Getting Better

Topics covered: sense of self, childhood trauma, DSO, CPTSD, PTSD, relationship problems, emotional triggers, psychology, assessment, measurable goals, journal prompts, childhood trauma, trauma response, attachment.

In this episode I go over Disturbances in Self-Organization, a diagnostic criteria set that separates PTSD from C-PTSD. We can fine tune our healing efforts if we know which of the three DSO ideas affects our functioning the most. This episode also discusses a tool we are developing to measure C-PTSD progress and gives resources such as what therapy modalities might be the most useful for the category that you score the highest in.

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Hidden Psychology of Star Wars (Feat. C3PO)

Wed, 02 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode I cover the mental health personality of a Star Wars character C-3P0. Other Star Wars mental health mentions: K-2S0, gonk droid, Luke Skywalker, Andor, Mon Mothma, Empire Strikes Back, Luthen Rael, Dedra Meero, Syrill, R2-D2, Darth Vader, Palpatine, Han Solo, Narcissism, Covert Narcissist, codependency, Chewbacca, Emperor Palpatine, Princess Leia, Yoda, Boba Fett, Sith, Star Wars fans.

The sound clips used in this episode are owned by Lucasfilm Ltd. and are part of the Star Wars franchise. All rights are reserved by the respective copyright holders. This episode is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only and falls under fair use.

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Triggered Parents Make Triggered Kids

Thu, 08 May 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Our biggest fear is that we’re failing our children somehow.”
If you’re worried—because most parents are—this video will help you approach that fear with compassion and clarity.

In this video, you’ll learn:

Real-life “no-one-tells-you” parenting stressors, from biting toddlers to boundary-pushing tweens.

How to spot and rethink your personal triggers by tracing them back to your own childhood.

Practical “reset” tools: what to say to yourself (and your child) when you feel that hot-button reaction.

Healthy parenting concepts for responding with patience, even in your most challenging moments.

Additional Thoughts:

1. If you’re struggling with hitting your children, yes, that causes damage—try to get that issue resolved first.

2. I believe that a child needs at least one engaged and loving parent working on themselves.

3. Repairing is discussed in the webinar - it’s never too late to repair and be real about failings.

4. Amplifying situations such as co-parenting with a toxic person are real issues. Try to just focus on your own parenting. A parenting coach can be very helpful in those situations if available.

5. No parent is perfect, but that cannot be used to self-enable or minimize.

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Is It Anxiety or Childhood Trauma?

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Anxiety rarely shows up without a backstory. In this video, I’m diving deep into how childhood trauma — especially experiences rooted in neglect and abuse — can shape the anxiety many of us struggle with today.

These issues often get labeled just as anxiety.

We'll explore:

1️⃣ The root causes of anxiety tied to our past

2️⃣ How those early experiences can still affect us in the present

I’ll walk you through a list of childhood trauma-related issues that might help you connect some important dots in your own life. These topics can be intense, so please take care of yourself as you watch. This isn’t about blaming the past, but about understanding it — because when we understand where anxiety comes from, we can begin to loosen its grip. I’ll also share my personal thoughts on anxiety, therapy, and how trauma differs from general anxiety.

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Estranged Parents, This Is For You

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0400

While this episode is directed at parents who are struggling to understand why their children have gone low or no contact, I think many of you—especially those who have lived through painful or invalidating family experiences—may find it deeply resonant.

In it, I speak directly to estranged parents about: Seven of the most common blind spots I’ve seen in 15+ years of working with childhood trauma.

Why insight without accountability is never enough.

The disconnect between intention and impact.

What real reconciliation actually requires.

If you’ve ever felt like your parent didn’t—or couldn’t—see the truth of your experience… this may feel like someone finally saying it out loud.

And no, I don’t recommend sending it to your parents.

But I do hope it brings you some clarity, validation, or even peace.

Keywords: Childhood trauma, estrangement, no-contact, low-contact, healing.

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Rebuilding Emotional Security After Childhood Trauma

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 12:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma, like neglect or toxic parenting, affects emotional security and shapes our relationships. We discuss how these early experiences can lead to insecurities, especially in romantic relationships and when receiving feedback. You’ll hear practical tips for healing, building trust in yourself, and improving emotional resilience.

Topics include:

How neglect or toxic parenting impacts emotional security
How childhood insecurities show up in romantic relationships
Dealing with feedback without feeling triggered
Tips for rebuilding trust and self-worth

Join us for an insightful conversation on healing and finding emotional balance.

Keywords: Childhood trauma, emotional security, relationships, healing, self-worth, feedback.

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My First Client - "Slow Jack"

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this season 2 opener, we look back at a pivotal childhood experience with "Slow Jack," my first client. This story goes beyond a simple interaction—it’s about the genuine moments I experienced as a child in an adult world. No clinical jargon—just real, personal stories of growing up with childhood trauma and the journey to healing.

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The Witch's Daughter - With Orenda Fink

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 16:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Orenda Fink opens up about her journey growing up in chaos with an alcoholic mother struggling with mental illness who self-identified as a practicing and often vindictive witch. As she navigates the trauma of her childhood, Orenda escapes to pursue music, forming bands like Little Red Rocket and Azure Ray. We explore the lasting impact of childhood trauma, the codependent other parent, the fine line between mental illness and the myth of magic, and the ongoing search for healing and self-discovery. A raw and moving conversation about resilience, family, and mental health. Don't miss it!

Learn more about Orenda Fink: Orendafink.com

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Get Your SH*T Together!

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I discuss mental health, psychology, functioning, self-care, relationships, childhood trauma, substance abuse, emotional regulation, dysthymia, depression, anxiety, conflict, alcohol, growth, progress, sobriety, and men's mental health.

I've given a broad overview about possible reasons for not having one's SH*T together. I related them to being in the context of childhood trauma, but they don't always have to be. These issues can also be in line with problems ranging from ADHD to neurodivergent. It's important to consult a licensed professional. I educate on topics related to childhood trauma and voice my content around that issue. This episode is not a definitive diagnostic tool.

Access the full-length, extended video version of "How to Get Your SH*T Together" in my healing membership.

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9 Random Examples of Shame (PTSD & CPTSD)

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Today's episode covers where hidden shame comes from and to how to tackle it!

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3 Ways To Work With Toxic Shame - Part 2 - Episode 9:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dnOzP29OWA&t=1037s

11 Oddly Specific Childhood Trauma Issues:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lULd-wnWjT4&t=1567s

Toxic Shame and Childhood Trauma Course:
https://membership.patrickteahantherapy.com/c/toxic-shame-and-childhood-trauma-webinar-e-course/

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Are You Creatively Stuck? (Childhood Trauma)

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Today's episode covers being creatively stuck and how to tackle our stuckness.

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5 Emotional Development Delays (What to Know)

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Today's episode covers five emotional developmental delays I often see and what we can do about them.

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How to Rebuild a Lost Sense of Self

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Goodness and Power

11 Oddly Specific Childhood Trauma Issues (Chameleon)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lULd-wnWjT4

Is this your real personality? 5 Childhood Trauma Personalities
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WiGbgKICNEU

3 Ways To Work With Toxic Shame
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKvtGwDZ78w

Inner Child Work Playlist
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1tOAzOD0sB3oe_mhsKT6GcVmB4w5GtZx

Learn more about Patrick Teahan,
Childhood Trauma Resources and Offerings
https://linktr.ee/patrickteahan

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My Response to the NYT Article on No Contact

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400

Today's episode features the New York Times article on the topic of family estrangement, going no contact, TikTok trending and more.

Read the article here -
https://www.nytimes.com/2024/07/14/health/therapy-family-estrangement.html?unlocked_article_code=1.7E0.wkkS.W1t92q4DI9sW&smid=url-share

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Parents Reactions to Going No Contact

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 06:00:00 -0400

On today's episode, we'll cover common reactions that parents have to going no contact and what to do about it!

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Do You Overwhelm People?

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400

On today's episode, we'll cover how overwhelming others affects our relationships.
I'm going to name the issues, list where it comes from in childhood, and what to do instead! This episode features role plays for each type of overwhelming energy.

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Toxic Parents & Sneaky Boundary Crossings

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I'm going to talk about each issue and also name:

*What boundary is crossed in terms of parenting

*How it can affect us as adults in terms of triggers

*How do you overcome the issue if you struggle with it?

*What would have been healthy parenting

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6 Tips to Prevent Being Socially Awkward

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I cover what I believe are six effective ways to combat Social Awkwardness. I also discuss where it comes from in Childhood Trauma, and how to work on it by being more real and proactive.

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The Untouchable Mother - Believing Me... With Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500

Grab Ingrid's Book - Believing Me

Connect with Ingrid here

For this special episode, I have the tough conversation of the Untouchable Mother, and dive into Dr. Ingrid Clayton's wonderful memoir Believing Me, Healing From Narcissistic Abuse.

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Is This Your Real Personality? (5 Childhood Trauma Personalities)

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I cover what I believe to be five trauma based personality types that are not our true personality. I cover the behaviors, intimacy problems, social problems, where it comes from, and how to work on it by being more real.

If you're unsure about family toxicity - take the test!
(www.toxicfamilytest.com)

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How Toxic Is Your Family?

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I share details on how family toxicity can be measurable, and breakdown the term "Toxic."

The toxic family test was developed to assist in processing of childhood trauma and family dynamics, but primarily was created to raise awareness of the toxic family system.

I hope you find it helpful!

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The Signs of Bad Therapy With Nate Postlethwait

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode, featuring my first guest of the Podcast, Nate Postlethwait, and I describe the various issues in the world of therapy and what you may encounter while seeking it!
I hope it's helpful to you!

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6 Archetypes of Toxic Parents

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0500

In this episode, I describe six archetypes of toxic parents, characteristics, variations, how you might get triggered in the present day, and what makes it toxic!
I hope it's helpful to you!

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6 Common Pitfalls in Healing Childhood Trauma

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I describe six common pitfalls or stuck places that often happen in the process of working on childhood trauma. I hope it's helpful to you!

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When They Take the Abuser’s Side - Childhood Trauma Work

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0400

If you’ve ever felt betrayed by family by having them side with abusive people over you - this episode is going to be helpful.

In this episode, I will be going over:

⦁Describing the problem.
⦁Giving Concrete specific examples of when abusive parents side with abusers
⦁How it affects us emotionally as well as discuss triggers
⦁How to process or work through it when it’s happening.

Join me for Episode 8 where we explore "When They Take the Abuser’s Side - Childhood Trauma Work"

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Religious Abuse and Cults - Childhood Trauma

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I discuss how the human experience around a religious or spiritual path gets wrecked by what systems and individuals model - all that and more!

Join me for Episode 7 where we explore "Religious Abuse and Cults - Childhood Trauma"

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Shadow Work & the Dark Side of Childhood Trauma

Wed, 21 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0400

Hello Everyone!
At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
I'd like to from time to time as requested by YOU the subscribers.
Thank you!

In this sixth episode, I want us to think about how there is a dark side to our childhood trauma symptoms... (muah ha ha). I’m trying to be funny to lessen this stuff.
This video is about not taking our dark side so seriously by accepting it.

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What Happens to Men? (John Lennon)

Thu, 18 May 2023 06:00:00 -0400

Hello Everyone!
At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
I'd like to from time to time as requested by YOU the subscribers.
Thank you!

In this fifth episode I'd like us to ask "What Happens to Men".
What happens to men like my father who wasn’t equipped to be a father or a husband, or his father. What chain of events lead to long lasting generation trauma and a struggle to connect for men?

This episode will focus on the one and only John Lennon, English singer, songwriter, musician and peace activist who achieved worldwide fame as founder, co-songwriter, co-lead vocalist and rhythm guitarist of the Beatles.

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Limerence, Attachment, and Childhood Trauma

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 18:00:00 -0400

So you may be wondering "what is limerence?"
Limerence is a present and deep emotional preoccupation or obsession with another person and it's something that can really take over one's life until it runs its course or we can do some work and get out of limerence faster like burst the bubble...

Join me for Episode 4 where we explore "Limerence, Attachment, and Childhood Trauma."

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What Happens to Men? (John Quincy Adams)

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0500

Hello Everyone!
At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
I'd like to from time to time as requested by YOU the subscribers.
Thank you!

In this third episode I'd like us to ask "What Happens to Men".
What happens to men like my father who wasn’t equipped to be a father or a husband, or his father. What chain of events lead to long lasting generation trauma and a struggle to connect for men?

This episode will focus on a hypothetical case example compiled from the history and stories of America's 6th president, John Quincy Adams.

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Are You Just Being a Victim? (Dismantling Victim Mindset)

Sat, 28 Jan 2023 19:00:00 -0500

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Hello Everyone!
At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
I'd like to from time to time as requested by YOU the subscribers.
Thank you!

In this second episode I talk about how the community around us gets someone processing their childhood trauma wrong. This episode will focus on a hypothetical case example compiled from what I see is like a culture of essentially abuse denying and the psychology around that and the blaming and the shaming of a Survivor for their own childhood trauma.

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The Piano

Sun, 11 Dec 2022 17:00:00 -0500

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This podcast is a first for me!
At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
I'd like to from time to time as requested by YOU the subscribers.
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In this very first episode I tell the story of how I actually landed in therapy,
all thanks to a Spinet Piano.

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