We hear—and sometimes repeat—phrases like:

· I’m too old to start again.

· I’m past all that now.

· People my age don’t do things like that.

· I’d look ridiculous.

· It’s too late for me.

We gradually exclude ourselves from our own lives.

The Teaching Age—or attitude?

Age is real. Our bodies change.

Not about denial

Attitude asks a different question:

am I adapting—or am I disappearing?

Am I making a wise choice, or am I using my age to avoid living?

“I’m at a certain stage of life,” as though life has been divided into sections—

Every stage is life!

3 attitude shifts that keep us alive

1. Keep doing things for the first time

A class, learn something, go somewhere different, make a new friend or say yes to an invitation. A first experience tells your mind: “My life is still expanding.”

2. Stop rehearsing your age

Notice “At my age…” as a reason to shrink. Replace it with: “What might be possible for me at this age?”

What if you are finally experienced enough, wise enough and free enough.

3. Stay interested in life

Ask questions. Meet people. Make plans. Laugh. Learn. Contribute. Put something in the diary that you are looking forward to. The goal isn’t to pretend to be younger. The goal is to remain fully alive.

Ask yourself:

“If my age wasn’t allowed to make this decision, what would I choose?”

Then do one small thing that makes you feel alive:

· Wear the outfit.

· Make the phone call.

· Book the class or plan the trip.

· Put on the music.

· Say yes to the invitation.

· Begin again.

Not to prove anything—but to remind yourself that you are still here and your life is still happening.

My Closing Quote

Getting older is not evidence that life is leaving us. It is evidence that we have been given more life.

Whatever stage you are at, don’t stand outside your own life waiting for a better part to begin. This is life. It is precious, and it is happening now. How you meet it, value it and live it is up to you.

One of the greatest lessons I brought home from walking the Camino wasn’t about the miles or even reaching Santiago. It was about people.

There were 29 women on our Camino. Most of us had never met before. We came from different backgrounds, different careers, different stages of life.

Yet within just one week, we had become a genuine community.

Not because we all agreed on everything.

Not because we had known each other for years.

But because we chose to walk together.

We encouraged one another. We waited for one another. We celebrated one another. We laughed together, cried together and quietly carried each other through the tougher moments.

It made me realise something profound.

We often think community is something we have to find.

The Camino taught me that community is something we create.

Every day we have a choice.

Will I walk past people, or will I notice them?

Will I criticise, or will I encourage?

Will I think only about myself, or will I ask, “How can I make someone else’s day a little easier?”

On the Camino, nobody was interested in job titles or status.

People asked, “How are your feet?”

“Are you okay?”

“Do you need anything?”

For a little while, strangers became villagers.

And I think that’s a lesson our world needs right now.

If 29 women who had never met before could become a caring, supportive community in just seven days, imagine what could happen in our families, workplaces, churches and neighbourhoods if each of us decided to become that kind of person.

So here’s my Mindset Mastery challenge for this week.

Don’t spend your time looking for your village.

Be the villager.

Smile first.

Say hello first.

Offer encouragement.

Notice the person who might otherwise feel invisible.

And before you go to bed each night, ask yourself one simple question:

“What kind of villager was I today?”

Because villages aren’t found.

They’re created—one act of kindness at a time.

Perhaps you met exactly the right person…

Missed a flight…

Took a different road home…

Or something happened that completely changed the direction of your life.

MY TESCO STORY

A young man was scanning my shopping.

He looked outside and said,

‘It’s such a lovely day… and I’m stuck in here all day.’

‘If I could give you one piece of information that might change the way you see today… would you take it?’

‘You are exactly where you’re supposed to be.’

So I explained…

Maybe you’re not missing the sunshine.

Maybe the reason you’re here today…

As I walked back to my car…

I suddenly smiled.

But proof that supported my belief that life often gives us exactly what we need…

exactly when we need it.”

THE TEACHING

There’s a beautiful quote that says…

“Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.”

Whether you believe in God…

The Universe…

Fate…

Synchronicity…

Or simply the power of human connection…

isn’t really the point.

The point is this…

We all choose a belief system.

And whatever we believe…

our brain starts collecting evidence to support it.

If I believe life is against me…

I’ll notice problems.

If I believe life is teaching me…

I’ll notice lessons.

If I believe every challenge is helping me grow…

I’ll begin to grow.

So perhaps the better question isn’t…

“Is this belief true?”

Perhaps the better question is…

“Is this belief helping me live with greater peace andfreedom?”

THE PROBLEM People ask 

“Why is this happening to me?”

It keeps us looking backwards…

instead of forwards.

 THE SOLUTION

The Freedom STEPS™

don’t ask,

“Why me?”

Walk yourself through these four Freedom STEPS.

S — What is this SHOWING me?

What can I see now that perhaps I couldn’t see before?

T — What is this TEACHING me?

Every experience carries a lesson…

if we’re willing to learn it.

E — How can this EMPOWER me?

How can I use this experience to become wiser…stronger…

more compassionate

P — What is this PREPARING me for?

Sometimes life develops us…

before it delivers to us.

o More success.

o More followers.

o More productivity.

o More achievement.

o But are we actually happier?

o Or are we lonelier than ever?

· The Problem

· Many people are successful on paper but lonely in real life.

· We are more connected than ever through phones and social media.

· But connection online is not always real connection of the heart.

· We have convenience, but less conversation.

· We have contacts, but fewer close friends.

The Evidence
•Loneliness is now recognised as a major wellbeing issue.
•The World Health Organization has reported that around one in six people worldwide experiences loneliness.

•Poor social connection is compared  to smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day.

•Research shows people with strong relationships have around a 50% greater likelihood of long-term survival.

The Mindset Shift
•Inspired by Simon Sinek’s principle:
oIf you want a friend, be a friend.
•Instead of asking:
oWho hasn’t phoned me?
oWho forgot me?
oWho is there for me?
•Ask:
oWho can I phone?
oWho can I encourage?
oWho can I celebrate?
oWho can I serve?
Friendship as Service
•Friendship is an act of service.
•Service is love in action.
•It is not people-pleasing.
•It is not exhausting yourself.
•It is showing another human being:
oI see you.
oI hear you.
oI’m glad you’re here.
•In 12-step recovery, Step 12 is service.
•Help someone who is feeling today the way you once felt.
•When you help someone you often strengthen yourself.
•Sometimes the words you give someone else are the very words your own heart needs to hear.
Three-Step Call to Action
1. Say Hello
•Speak to someone you would normally walk past.
•Smile first.
•Start one small conversation.
2. Reach Out
•Phone or message one friend.
•Don’t wait for them to contact you.
•Let someone know you were thinking about them.
3. Serve
•Encourage one person.
•Celebrate someone’s success.
•Help someone facing something you understand.
•Ask:
oWho can I help today?

"Everything just seems to fall into place for them."

The right person appears. The perfect opportunity arrives. They meet someone by chance. They get the phone call they needed.

Is it just luck...

Or is there something else going on?

Maybe life isn't random.

Maybe we simply notice more of what we're tuned into.

Just as you suddenly decide to buy a blue car and then see blue cars everywhere.

The cars were always there.

Your attention changed.

3. Simple Science

Your brain has a filtering system.

It can't process millions of pieces of information every second, so it asks one question:

"What's important?"

When you become clear about something...

your brain starts noticing opportunities, people and conversations that were always there.

It feels like luck.

In reality, your awareness has expanded.

4. Then Add the Human Element

And here's the interesting bit.

When you're calmer...

more open...

less stressed...

and moving with purpose...

you naturally smile more, talk more, notice more, take more chances, and say yes to opportunities.

People call that luck.

I call it living awake.

Three Ways to Create More "Luck"

1. Get Clear

Know what you're looking for.

Your brain needs a destination.

2. Stay Open

Don't dismiss invitations.

Talk to strangers.

Take the different route.

Read the extra page.

Answer the phone.

3. Follow the Nudge

Every meaningful change usually begins as a tiny thought.

Call them.

Apply.

Book the ticket.

Send the email.

Take the walk.

Procrastination often happens when the mind is trying to hold too much at once. There may be emails, calls, bills, work tasks, home jobs, decisions, conversations and unfinished promises all sitting in the head at the same time.

When everything feels urgent, the mind can freeze, avoid or distract itself. You may look busy, but still avoid the one task that would really move things forward.

The solution is not to attack yourself. The solution is to give your mind clarity, safety and structure.

The Pomodoro Technique — adapted for real life

The classic Pomodoro Technique is simple: work for 25 minutes, then take a 5-minute break. It was created by Francesco Cirillo, who used a tomato-shaped kitchen timer. “Pomodoro” means tomato in Italian.

My adaptation starts before the timer, because for many people the first problem is not time — it is the noise in the mind.

The brain dump clears the noise. The small page chooses the direction. The timer creates the discipline.

The 3-step method

1. Brain dump the noise

Take one full sheet of paper and write down everything that is swirling around in your mind.

Do not make it neat. Do not organise it. Just empty the mind: emails, calls, bills, home jobs, work tasks, worries, appointments, and the thing you keep avoiding.

When everything stays in your head, it feels like chaos. When it is on paper, you can see it. Once you can see it, you can lead it.

2. Choose one task only

Take a smaller piece of paper and choose one task from the brain dump.

Write that one task on the smaller page. This becomes your focus card.

For the next 25 minutes, you are only allowed to work on what is written on that page. If your mind pulls you somewhere else, say: “Not now. This is the task.”

3. Set the timer and begin

Set a timer for 25 minutes and give that one task your full attention.

You are not trying to sort your whole life. You are simply beginning.

When the timer goes, take a 5-minute break. Stand up, breathe, stretch, drink water and reset. Then decide whether to do another 25 minutes or choose the next task.

The 3-Step Solution
1. Control Your Mouth

Number one: control your mouth.
Pause before you vent.
This might sound very simple, but it is powerful.
Not everything you think needs to be spoken out loud.
Because every time we repeat the complaint, we strengthen it.
Every time we tell the same story again, we give it more energy.
Every time we speak the problem without any intention to move forward, we rehearse the problem.
So the first act of power is the pause.
Before you say it, ask yourself:
“Am I saying this to move forward, or am I repeating it to stay stuck?”
That one question can change everything.
You are not silencing yourself.
You are leading yourself.
There is a huge difference.
2. Control Your Mind
Deirdre:
Number two: control your mind.
Once you pause the mouth, you can catch the thought.
And this is where we name it.
You might say to yourself:
“I notice my mind is complaining.”
“I notice I’m rehearsing that conversation again.”
“I notice a part of me is looking for what’s wrong.”
That little phrase, “I notice,” is powerful.
Because the moment you notice the thought, you are no longer completely inside it.
You have created distance.
And distance gives you choice.
Then ask:
“What else could be true?”
“What is one thing I can do?”
“What would the calmest version of me choose next?”
Now you’ve moved from reaction into leadership.
3. Control Your Mood
Deirdre:
Number three: control your mood.
Because your mood is not just in your head.
Your mood is in your body.
If your shoulders are tight, your jaw is clenched, your breathing is shallow, your stomach is knotted, your body is already telling you that it feels under threat.
So we use the body to calm the body.
Here is a simple practice listeners can do.
Take a slow breath in.
And as you breathe out, softly say the word:
Peace.
Then feel your feet on the floor.
Again.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Say:
Peace.
Feel your feet.
And one more time.
Breathe in.
Breathe out.
Peace.
Feet on the floor.
That simple cycle brings you back into the present moment.
Because very often, negative thinking pulls us into the past or throws us into the future.
But your breath and your feet bring you back to now.
And in the now, you have power.
So that is the formula:
Control your mouth.
Control your mind.
Control your mood.
Because when you stop feeding the storm, the weather inside begins to change.
Summary for Listeners
Deirdre:
So to summarise it simply:
Number one: control your mouth.
Pause before you vent.
Ask yourself, “Am I saying this to move forward, or am I repeating it to stay stuck?”
Number two: control your mind.
Catch the thought and name it.
Say, “I notice my mind is complaining,” or “I notice I’m rehearsing the problem again.”
And number three: control your mood.
Take a breath in.
Breathe out.
Say the word peace.
Feel your feet on the floor.
Control your mouth.
Control your mind.
Control your mood.
That is how you stop feeding the storm and start changing the weather inside.

  I am using that in the widest sense.

I mean your connection life.

How stress affects your ability to feel close, patient, affectionate, emotionally available and present with the people you love.

So, whether someone is married, single, dating, separated, widowed, living alone, or simply trying to feel more connected in life, this applies.

We’re talking about how pressure affects human connection — and how we can come back to calm and closeness in a healthy way.

Stress changes the state we live from.

When the body is under pressure, it moves into survival mode. 

the system is focused on

·       getting through the day,

·       managing risk, solving problems, staying alert and keeping control.

Good for a real emergency.

 not the best state for love, intimacy, affection or emotional connection.

 connection requires presence. 

It requires safety and the ability to let go 

And a stressed body does not easily let go.

This is why people can love each other deeply and still feel miles apart.

It is not always a lack of love. 

Sometimes it is a lack of regulation.

·       When the nervous system is overstretched, we become more defensive, less affectionate 

Not because they don’t care. But because their body is carrying too much.

The Big Reframe today is this:

 | Your love life — or your connection life, if you prefer — is not separate from your stress life.

The way you carry pressure during the day follows you into the evening.

If you spend all day in fight-or-flight — rushing, worrying, fixing, pleasing, performing, holding everything together — you cannot expect your body to suddenly become calm, open and connected the moment you walk through the door.

There must be A reset. A way to say 

“We are safe now. We can soften now. We can connect now.”

That is why emotional intimacy often begins long before any romantic moment.

It begins with how you come home. How you speak. How you listen. How you breathe. How you put the phone down. How you stop treating your partner, your family, or even yourself as another task on the list.

Why Stress Can Affect Connection

When we are stressed, our body prioritises survival over connection.

We become more irritable, more withdrawn, more distracted, more defensive, more tired, less affectionate, less patient and less emotionally available.

And this can create confusion in relationships.

One person may think: “They’re not interested in me anymore.” 

Or: “They don’t care.” 

Or: “We’ve lost something.”

 the truth is much simpler: 

they are exhausted, overloaded,

and the body has not yet received the message that it is safe to relax.

And that is why this conversation matters.

People start blaming themselves, their age, their partner, or the relationship — when what needs addressed 

first is the stress load.

I had one of those lovely reminders of this yesterday. I was out for a birthday tea with my four siblings and afterwards we were walking along the promenade. We overheard three American tourists asking where they could find a convenience store.
 
 We knew there wasn’t one nearby and they would actually need a car to get there. So without really thinking about it, we simply offered to take them.
 
 Naturally, they were very surprised — probably wondering who these mad Irish people were!
 
 In the end, they politely said no. But honestly, there was something lovely about simply being kind for no reason other than being kind.

The Compound Effect of Kindness

Imagine the ripple effect of something like that.
 
 Those three Americans go home and tell people:
 ‘The people in Ireland were so kind.’
 
 Maybe they tell family. Maybe friends. Maybe those people come to visit Ireland. Maybe they then help somebody else.
 
 Kindness has a compound effect. The smallest thing can travel much further than we ever realise.

The Big Reframe

Kindness does NOT mean being a pushover.
 It doesn’t mean people pleasing.
 It doesn’t mean saying yes when you mean no.
 
 Kindness is deciding who you want to be in a world that can sometimes feel hard.
 
 And maybe the person we need to be kinder to is ourselves.
 
 Ask yourself:
 ‘Would I speak to somebody I love like this?’
 If the answer is no… change the conversation.

3 Calls to Action for Listeners

1. Send the text:
 ‘You crossed my mind today — just checking in.’
 
 2. Give one genuine compliment:
 Not fake. Real.
 
 3. Practise self-kindness:
 Catch the inner critic and ask:
 ‘Would I speak to somebody I love like this?’

We are often trying to do life on top of stress. When overwhelmed, everything feels heavier, confidence drops, decisions feel harder, and little things feel big.

Reframe: “What if there’s nothing wrong with you? What if your system simply needs support?”

Key line: “You don’t always need to solve the problem — sometimes you need to settle the system.”

Practical Listener Tool – STATES

·       ST — Stop: Interrupt the spiral.

·       A — Air: Take a breath in…

·       T — Thanks: Think of one thing to say thank you for.

·       E — Exhale: Slow breath out.

·       S — Say Peace: Quietly say the word peace.

3 Practical Listener Examples

·       3am Overthinker: Use STATES instead of fighting thoughts. Remind your body: ‘I am safe in this moment.’

·       Work Stress / Driving / Pressure: 30 seconds of STATES to interrupt stress before stress drives you. “We don’t make our best decisions from survival mode.”

·       Family Tension / Relationship Stress: Before reacting in an argument, use STATES. “Sometimes one regulated moment saves an unnecessary argument.”

“Well honestly Frank, that’s exactly why I created the Freedom Community — because so many people were saying, ‘I know what to do but I struggle to actually do it consistently.’ It’s a place where people learn practical tools like this every week to feel calmer, stronger and more in control of their lives.”

Closing Quote for Frank

“Peace is not something we find — it’s something we practise.”

26.2 miles
 Thousands of runners

 All hit a hard moment

Key line:
“It’s not the marathon that stops them…
it’s what happens inside them.”

 TEACHING (BANNISTER MOMENT)

1954 — Roger Bannister

 First man to run a mile under 4 minutes
  Said to be impossible

BUT…

Within 18 months — broken over 40 times
  Now — 2000+ people have done it

Key learning
 “What changed wasn’t the body…
  it was the belief.”

Same with the marathon.

One person breaks the limit
  Others realise: it’s possible

“Limits fall when belief changes.

 3 STEPS (SIMPLE + CLEAR)

1. CATCH IT “What’s happening inside me?”

 Stress?
  Doubt?
 Overthinking?

2. CALM IT  Slow it down.

 Breathe.  Reset.  Regulate.

Line:
You don’t make good decisions in a stressed state.

3. CHOOSE IT “What’s my next step — if I was calm?”

Not the whole marathon
 Just the next step..

You’re not stuck…

You’re solving the wrong problem.

And when you change what’s happening inside…

everything outside starts to move.”

“Once one person proves it’s possible… it becomes available to everyone.”

Why belief — not ability — is what really holds you back, and how to change it.“Yesterday was the London Marathon… tens of thousands of people running 26.2 miles through the city.

And here’s what struck me…

Not everyone who started that race had the same fitness…
 Not everyone had the same conditions…

But the ones who finished?

They all had to solve the same problem.”

(Pause)

“And it’s the same problem you and I face every single day.”

Teaching (Relatable + Clear)

At some point in that marathon…

Their legs were sore.
 Their mind started to doubt.
 Their body wanted to stop.

Now here’s the key…

 The problem wasn’t the marathon.
  The problem was what was happening inside them in that moment.

And that’s the same for all of us.

Whether it’s stress…
 A difficult conversation…
 Money worries…
 Or just feeling overwhelmed…

It’s not the situation itself that stops you.

It’s how you meet it.

Because just like in that marathon —
 some people hit the wall and stop…

…and others hit the same wall and find something within themselves to keep going.

Do top players see it as:

A) Failure
 B) Bad luck
 C) Feedback?

Even teams like Manchester City
 Even players like Rory McIlroy

They don’t get through careers without mistakes…

 They just don’t label them as failure

3. CORE TEACHING 

“The moment you call something failure… you shut yourself down.
 The moment you call it feedback… you open yourself up.”

“When we think ‘failure’…”

• We tighten 
• We doubt ourselves 
• We pull back 

 The body goes into protection

But when we think ‘feedback’…

• We stay open 
• We stay curious 
• We stay in the game 

5. SPORT EXAMPLES (Making it real)

“With Man City…”

A misplaced pass isn’t:
  “I’ve failed”

It’s:
  “Adjust the angle, reset, go again”

“With Rory…

A missed putt isn’t:
  “I can’t do this “It’s:
  “What changed there?”

That’s how they stay in flow.

6. THE TURN (Powerful moment)

“Because the problem isn’t the mistake…”

 It’s the meaning we attach to it.

7. BRIDGE TO LISTENER 

“And this is where people listening will recognise themselves…”

• One bad meeting → “I’m not good enough” 
• One mistake → “I’ve messed it all up” 
• One wobble → “Here we go again” 

 That’s failure thinking8. PRACTICAL SHIFT (My solution)

“So here’s the shift…”

1. CATCH THE WORD

Notice when you say:
 “I failed”

2. CHANGE THE LANGUAGE

Ask:
 “What is this showing me?”

3. TAKE ONE ADJUSTED ACTION

Not 10 things…

 One small correction
  One better step

“Because when you treat it as feedback…

 You stay in motion
  You stay in control
  You build confidence again 

10. CLOSE 

In sport—and in life…

The people who win aren’t the ones who never get it wrong…”

 They’re the ones who know how to use it.

A)      Yes – I can talk to anyone

 B) Sometimes – depends on the situation

 C) No – most of my friends are from years ago

 D) I’d love more friends… but don’t know where to start

TEACHING POINTS

• Making friends isn’t harder as an adult… it’s just different 
• When we were younger → friendship = proximity 
• Now → friendship = intention 

The real problem is not opportunity

 It’s the belief:

 “Everyone already has their friends”

Friendship isn’t about history…
 It’s about energy, openness, and shared space.

3-STEP SOLUTION (Freedom Framework™)

1. FACE THE TRUTH

Ask yourself:

Am I open to connection…
 or am I protecting myself?

• Avoiding 
• Waiting 
• Staying in comfort 

 That’s protection, not connection

2. RELEASE THE STORY

Let go of:

• “It’s harder at my age” 
• “People already have their groups” 
• “I wouldn’t fit in” 

These beliefs block connection before it begins

3. OPERATE FROM ALIGNMENT

Start simple:

• Go where people are (classes, gym, groups) 
• Speak to one person 
• Use the line:
    “Do you want to grab a coffee?” 

Most people aren’t rejecting connection…
 they’re just waiting for someone else to lead.

Friendship doesn’t come from how long you’ve known someone…
 it comes from how safe you feel to be yourself with them.

Adult friendship isn’t about time — it’s about intention.

Waiting to feel ready…
 Waiting for the right time…
 Waiting for life to calm down…

But here’s the truth— that moment rarely comes.

Life doesn’t suddenly line up perfectly.

If you keep waiting…
 life passes while you prepare.

🟦 3-STEP TAKEAWAY (Simple + practical)

So here’s something your listeners can do today:

1. Notice it Ask yourself
 Where am I waiting?

2. Ask
How would I feel  if I stopped waiting? And did the thing I’m not doing yet ?

3. Move
Take one small step—today

And what today reminds me, Frank, is this…

The people who feel free…
 aren’t the ones with perfect lives…

They’re the ones who decide…
 not to wait.

So if there’s something on your heart today…

a call…
 a conversation…
 a step…

Don’t wait.

Because your freedom… 
 is in what you do next.

Closing quote 
 life’s not waiting on us…
 so maybe it’s time we stop waiting on life.

“So just remember this today…

You’re not here by accident.
 You’re not behind.
 And you’re not broken.

There is something within you…
 ready to be lived.

So don’t wait.

Step into your life.”

What do you think matters more for success?

A) Intelligence
 B) Qualifications
 C) Skills
 D) Attitude

Most people go straight to intelligence or qualifications.

But research referenced from Harvard and Stanford studies suggests something surprising.

Research shows  around 85% of success in life and work comes from attitude, 

while only about 15% comes from aptitude — meaning technical skills or intelligence.

This doesn't mean skills don’t matter.

Of course they do.

But what it shows is that 

1.how you think, 

2. how you respond to pressure, 

3. and how you handle setbacks matters far more than raw talent.

Because two people can have the same skills…

But the person who

1.             stays calm, 

2.             keeps learning, 

3.             and doesn’t give up will nearly always move further ahead.

Your attitude determines your altitude.

3 PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYS FOR LISTENERS

If you want to strengthen your attitude this week, try this:

1️⃣ Notice your reaction to problems
Do you collapse… or can you get  curious “What can I learn from this?”

2️⃣ Train your response to pressure
When stress rises, slow your breathing and calm the body first. In for 4 out for 8 
A calm body leads to a clear mind.

3️⃣ Choose progress over perfection
People with strong attitudes keep moving forward, even when things aren’t perfect.

PS Closing  QUOTE 

“Your skills might open the door, but your attitude decides how far you go once you’re inside.”

Most secrets are not terrible things. 

They’re very human things: 

• worrying about money 
• feeling unhappy about your appearance 
• wishing life had turned out differently 
• feeling stuck but pretending everything is fine 

These are the quiet worries many people carry. 

The Key Insight 

One of the most freeing things I see in my work is this: 

When people bring something into the light safely, the emotional charge around it drops almost immediately. 

Because shame grows in silence. 

But when something is acknowledged and understood, people realise: 

“Maybe I’m not broken — maybe I’m just human.” 

3 Practical Takeaways 

If something is weighing on your mind: 

1. Write it down 
Getting it out of your head and onto paper reduces mental pressure. 

2. Question the story 
Ask yourself: 
“Is this actually true — or just the story my mind keeps repeating?” 

3. Share safely 
With a trusted friend, counsellor or coach. 
Secrets lose power when they are held in safe connection. 

If you’re carrying something quietly today, remember this: 

You’re not the only one. 

Most people are walking around with a few hidden worries. 

And sometimes the first step toward freedom
is simply telling the truth to yourself. 

Closing quote  

"The heaviest secrets are not the ones we hide from others — they’re the ones we keep from ourselves." 

A) Knowing your craft inside out
 B) Trusting instinct over overthinking
 C) Staying physically calm so the mind can follow
 D) Letting go of needing it to be perfect

Experience doesn’t remove pressure — it teaches you how to handle it.

Even very experienced, successful people still feel pressure in moments that matter.
 What changes with experience is not the absence of nerves, but the ability to lead yourself through them..

Confidence is about

 1. Regulating the body first — 

2. and letting the mind follow.

It’s a skill anyone can learn.

Experience doesn’t remove pressure — it teaches you how to handle it. 

Experienced people  don’t fight it — 

1.      they regulate their body first.

2.       When the body settles, the mind follows..

B.R.A.V.E.

B — Breathe Out
Slow the exhale. Drop the shoulders. Unclench the jaw.

R — Recognise
Silently say: This is pressure, not danger.

A — Allow the Pause
You don’t need to respond instantly. A pause signals calm and authority.

V — Voice the Next Line
Not the perfect answer — just the first true sentence.

E — Engage, Don’t Evaluate
Stay present. Don’t judge how you’re doing.

 CORE TEACHING LINE

Confidence doesn’t come from thinking faster — it comes from calming the body first

PRACTICAL EXAMPLE 1

Being put on the spot at work — a meeting, interview, or being asked a question unexpectedly.

What happens:

• Heart races
• Mind goes blank
• Pressure to say the right thing

Using B.R.A.V.E. in the moment:

• Breathe out — slow exhale, shoulders drop
• Recognise — This is a false alarm. I am not in danger.
• Allow the pause — you don’t rush
• Voice the next line — “My initial thought is…”
• Engage, don’t evaluate — stay in the conversation

Nothing bad happens.
 The nervous system stands down.

PRACTICAL EXAMPLE 2

Making a difficult phone call — asking for something, setting a boundary, or having a challenging conversation.

What usually  happens:

• Avoidance
• Rehearsing worst outcomes
• Tight chest before dialling

Using B.R.A.V.E. before and during the call:

• Breathe out before dialling — slow the body first
• Recognise — This is pressure, not danger. Nothing bad is happening.
• Allow the pause when they answer — you don’t rush your words
• Voice the next line — “I’m calling about…”
• Engage, don’t evaluate — stay present instead of judging how it’s going

The call ends. You’re safe.
 Confidence returns through evidence.

3-STEP SOLUTION FOR LISTENERS

3 STEPS TO TURN OFF THE ALARM

(Because it’s a false one)

Step 1 —  G = Ground
Signal Safety  to your body  Say out loud 

‘I am not in danger.’

Slow the exhale. Drop the shoulders. Unclench the jaw.

Step 2 — E= Evidence Remind nervous system.
 Say out loud 

‘Nothing bad is happening right now’.

Bring attention back to the present moment.

Step 3 — T —TRUST Provide Evidence
 

You might think you can’t say no — but the truth is, you’re saying no all the time.

There is a universal principle at play — the law of polarity, the law of opposites:

Front and back. Up and down. In and out. Yes and no.

Every time you say yes, you are automatically saying no to something else.

Saying no isn’t negative.

It’s directional.

Every no is really a yes in disguise.

3-Step Practical Takeaway

1. Pause – “Let me check and come back to you.”

2. Be clear, not detailed – “That doesn’t work for me right now.”

3. Stay calm in your body – breathe, drop the shoulders.

I’m not saying no – not now

“What am I saying yes to if I say No to this.

And with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, today we’re talking about relationship

“We often think confidence comes from outside — from approval, success, or what other people think.”

“But real, steady confidence comes from the relationship you have with yourself.”

“The way you speak to yourself. The way you treat yourself. The way you respond when things go wrong.”

“If that inner relationship is harsh, critical, or full of comparison, confidence struggles to grow.”

“But when that inner relationship becomes calmer, kinder, and more supportive, confidence naturally strengthens — and so do your relationships.”

THE HIDDEN TREASURE STORY

“A long, long time ago, when the world was very new, the Great Creators wanted to give humanity a special gift — the secret of happiness and peace… the spark that allows a person to feel calm, whole, and capable of anything.”

“They wanted to hide it somewhere safe, so it wouldn’t be taken for granted.”

“One said, ‘Let’s hide it on the highest mountain.’ But the others said, ‘No, humans will climb it.’”

“Another said, ‘Let’s hide it in the deepest ocean.’ But again they said, ‘No, they’ll explore there too.’”

“Finally, the oldest and wisest Creator said, ‘Let’s hide it deep within their own hearts. It’s the one place they’ll only look when they’re ready to be still… and ready to listen.’”

“And that’s where they placed it — the spark of peace and confidence — inside every human being.”

“So while we travel the world looking for answers, the real treasure is already inside us, waiting for us to turn inward.”

“As part of this series, I’m giving you a simple affirmation each week. Choose one and say it out loud this week — while driving, walking, or getting ready.”

Choose ONE:

“I am kind and supportive in the way I treat myself.”

“I release comparison and trust my own path.”

“The confidence I seek is already within me.”

THREE CALLS TO ACTION

Notice your inner voice

“This week, notice how you speak to yourself — especially in difficult moments.”

Interrupt comparison

“When comparison shows up, gently replace it with your affirmation.”

Create one quiet moment

“Take one minute a day to sit quietly, breathe slowly, and reconnect with yourself.”

“Small moments of self-connection are where confidence is rebuilt.”

Where clarity meets calm — and confidence follows

WEEK THEME: FINANCES

Building Confidence with 

Money

“We’re continuing our series Tune into the Confident You — where clarity meets calm and confidence follows.

Each week stands completely on its own, so you can join us at any point.

Today we’re talking about money — because for a lot of people, confidence quietly leaks through financial stress, worry, or avoidance.”

“This series is about building real confidence — not by pushing harder, but by creating clarity and calm first.”

“Each week we start with a simple tool called the Snapshot Circle — a powerful way to tune in and  take a clear look at where you are currently your life ( always without judgement.)

(Draw • Mark • Join • Balance)

1.  “If you can, grab a pen and a bit of paper — even the back of an envelope will do.”

2.  “First, draw a large circle in the middle of the page — like a clock face.”

3.  “Now draw one line straight down the middle of the circle, top to bottom.”

4.  “Then draw one line straight across the middle, left to right.”
“You now have four sections.”

5.  “Label the sections like this:

o   Relationships Health 

o   Finances Purpose. 

6.  “Now here’s the scale.”
“The very centre of the circle is zero — that’s the lowest point.”
“The outside edge of the circle is ten — that’s the highest or most satisfied you feel.”

7.  We’re just taking a snapshot.”

8.  “For each section, ask yourself one simple question…”
“On a scale of zero to ten, how satisfied do I feel in this area of my life right now?”

9.  “Start with Relationships.”
“Along that line, mark an X where it feels right — closer to the centre if it’s low, closer to the edge if it’s strong.”

10.               “Now Health “Mark an X.”

11.               “Now Money “Mark an X.”

12.               “Now Purpose “Mark an X.”

13“Once you’ve marked all the Xs, gently join them together.”

“What you’re meant to see is a circle.”
“Because when life is balanced, the shape is round.”

“If what you see isn’t a circle — and for most people it isn’t — 

“It simply shows that some areas of life are getting more attention than others.”

“And when life isn’t balanced, we feel it — in our energy, our mood, and our confidence.”
“It’s about noticing where things are uneven and gently bringing more care there.”

“Confidence grows when you keep small promises to yourself.”

Where clarity meets calm — and confidence follows

WEEK THEME: PHYSICAL HEALTH

(Confidence through daily care of the body)

We’re in a short series called Tune into the Confident You — where clarity meets calm and confidence follows.

Each week stands completely on its own, so whether this is the first or only one you hear, you’ll get something practical you can use straight away.

“Most people think confidence comes from pushing harder or being more disciplined.

In reality, confidence grows when your life feels more balanced, your body feels more supported, and you keep small promises to yourself.

Today we’ll start with clarity — because confidence can’t grow in confusion.”

And this is how we get clear.

Snapshot circle.  

1. “If you can, grab a pen and a bit of paper — even the back of an envelope will do.” 
2. “First, draw a large circle in the middle of the page — like a clock face.” 
3. “Now draw one line straight down the middle of the circle, top to bottom.” 
4. “Then draw one line straight across the middle, left to right.
   You now have four sections.” 
5. “Label the sections like this:
   • Relationships
   • Health & Energy
   • Money & Work
   • Purpose & Direction” 
6. “Now here’s the scale.
   The very centre of the circle is zero — that’s the lowest point.
   The outside edge of the circle is ten — that’s the highest or most satisfied you feel.” 
7. For each section, ask yourself one simple question:
   On a scale of zero to ten, how satisfied do I feel in this area of my life right now?” 
8. “Start with Relationships.
   Along that line, mark an X where it feels right — closer to the centre if it’s low, closer to the edge if it’s strong.” 
9. Now Health & Energy.
   Mark an X. 
10. Now Money & Work.
    Mark an X. 
11. Now Purpose & Direction.
    Mark an X. 
12. Once you’ve marked all the Xs, gently join them together. 

What you’re meant to see is a circle — because when life is balanced, the shape is round.” 

If what you see isn’t a circle — and for most people it isn’t — that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. 

It simply shows that some areas of life are getting more attention than others. And when life isn’t balanced, we feel it — in our energy, our mood, and our confidence. 

Balance isn’t about being perfect in every area.
It’s about noticing where things are uneven and gently bringing more care there. 

Now choose just one area to focus on this week. The section that feels like it needs the most care or clarity.” 

1. “Under that section, write one small step you can take this week.” 
2. “Small is powerful — confidence grows when you keep small promises to yourself.” 
3. “And finally, say this to yourself:
   This is a snapshot, not a verdict. No judgement — just information.” 
4. “When life becomes more balanced, your mind calms, your choices clear — and confidence follows.” 

“But it stuck — not because it’s factual — but because January can genuinely feel heavier for a lot of people.”

So, Frank, when life throws you a curveball, what usually helps you stay steady?

1. Perspective? People?

1.Perspective how we see what’s happening. “This is a hard moment, not a hard life.”

2.People Reaching out to someone - a text or a chat.

What This Time of Year Really Reflects 1.Shorter days, less daylight,

2.Back to routine,

3.Bills arriving, the buzz of Christmas wearing off.”

“So it’s not that today is ‘bad’ — it’s that this time of year invites us to slow down and check in.”

This week also marks the anniversary of my father’s passing by suicide.

In the depths of such pain, I found the core of my truth. What success really is.

Emerson (the heart of the poem):

To laugh often. To win the affection of children. To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends. To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others. To leave the world a bit better. Whether by a healthy child. A garden patch... To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived this is to have succeeded.

“This poem reminds me that success isn’t about a perfect life.

It’s about kindness, connection and peace

towards ourselves and others.

Peace in Action -Walk for Peace – I am reminded of the Buddhist monks in the United

States who are currently walking across the country to promote peace — step by intentional step.”

It’s all about The Power of Peace. The Power of Connection. The Power of Love.

MMM 2-Step Action

Step – Connect Kindly with yourself. Be gentle- go easy – Rest. Sleep.

2. Be kind to others “Reach out to one person — a text, a call, or a walk — and remind yourself you’re not doing life alone.”

Close “Blue Monday doesn’t have to be something to fear. It can be an invitation to walk through life a little more gently.”

What it means:
Being with the moment instead of racing through it. 

Practical example:
You’re sitting having a cup of tea, the lights are on, music in the background.
Instead of scrolling or mentally planning tomorrow, you pause and actually notice: 

• the warmth of the mug 
• the sound of laughter 
• the comfort of the moment 

That’s presence — and it costs nothing. 

 E — Expectations (Lower Them) 
Letting go of the “it has to be perfect” story. 

Practical example: 
Dinner isn’t on time. Something burns. Someone’s late. 
Instead of tightening up, you say: 
“Sure, this is still Christmas.” 

Lowering expectations doesn’t lower standards — it raises enjoyment. 

A — Atmosphere (Protect It) 

What it means: 
Not every comment needs your reaction. 

Practical example: 
Someone makes a remark that would normally hook you. 
This time, you smile, take a breath, and change the subject — or step away. 

You protect the atmosphere, not your ego 

C — Calm the Body First 

What it means: 
Regulate before you respond. 

Practical example: 
You feel yourself getting snappy or overwhelmed. 
Instead of reacting, you: 

• slow your breathing drop your shoulders 
• count to 3 (Creating a gap) 

E — Enjoyment (Define Your Own) 

What it means:
Deciding what success looks like for you. 

Practical example: 
You decide: 
“If we have one good laugh, one meaningful chat, and I go to bed feeling peaceful — Christmas is a success.” 

That’s your win. No comparison required. 

 Wrap it up  

“So remember P.E.A.C.E.: 
Presence. 
Expectations. 
Atmosphere. 
Calm. 
Enjoyment. 

That’s your Christmas checklist — for fun, success and peace.” 

 Closing Quote  

“It’s not what’s under the tree that makes Christmas — it’s the presence you bring with you.” 

The simple truth.

Food stops being fuel when it starts doing a job.

Food becomes relief.

Evening alone → food becomes company

Stress, boredom, distraction/reward →

food steps in.

So it’s not about hunger anymore —

it’s about how we feel.”

PRACTICAL EXAMPLES

You’ve had dinner. You’re not hungry. You open the fridge anyway.

Or you say, ‘I’ll just have one’… and suddenly the packet’s empty.

That’s not greed.

That’s a habit the brain has learned because it worked. It solves a problem

That’s why will power doesn’t win this battle.

You’re not weak. You’re not broken.

You’re just running an old programme — and programmes can be changed.

THE MMM 3-STEP SOLUTION

STEP 1 — Notice the Moment

Like Frank did. Noticing(non-judgement) beats guilt every time.

Instead of: ‘What’s wrong with me?’

Ask: ‘What’s going on for me right now?’

STEP 2 — Small shifts break the pattern – do something different

· A short walk- Get outside

· A conversation instead of a cupboard raid. Talk to someone

STEP 3 — Think Identity, Not Diet

Instead of asking: ‘Will this help me lose weight?’

Ask: ‘Is this what the version of me I’m becoming would do?’

Not perfection. Consistency.

Not the goal. The person you’re growing into.

“And when this clicks, life feels different.

You drive past the shop and don’t even think about it. You open the fridge… and close it. Not because you’re being ‘good’ —

but because food isn’t running the show anymore. You are. That’s freedom.”

COMMUNITY & SUPPORT Accountability Freedom Community

“And this is where support matters.

When people feel backed up instead of judged, habits soften.

That’s why connection works. That’s why accountability works. That’s why community works.

No pressure — just progress.”

Join us today: https://deirdremaguire.com/progreammes/freedom-community/

A) Fresh notebook, new start, full of hope
B) Long, dark, cold… just get me to February
C) A bit of both — optimistic one minute, tired the next

January gets such a bad reputation. 

Bad PR over the years.

It’s blamed for the weather.
 It’s blamed for the bills.
 It’s blamed for broken resolutions.

“But what if January isn’t the problem at all?” It’s how we look at it!

Lets Reframe January 

January isn’t a punishment.
January is a foundation month.

1.It’s quieter — and that’s a gift.

2.Less pressure — and that’s a gift.

 3.There’s space to reflect and  reset — and that’s a gift.

 It’s the Month where:

• We eat a little better.
• We move our bodies a little more.
• We spend less.
• We reconnect at home.
• We start asking better questions  to plan for  the year ahead

And when you change your habits — even slightly — your mental health and physical health improve together.

Key Reframe (Core Message)

“January isn’t meant to be glamorous.
 It’s meant to be grounding.

It’s the month where the foundations are laid — quietly — for everything that follows.”

 MMM 3-Step January Reset

Step 1: Stop Fighting January

“Instead of wishing it away, ask:
 What is January actually giving me?

More time.
 More stillness.
 More chance to refocus.”

Step 2: Choose One Small Upgrade

“Not a full life overhaul — just one thing:

• One better food choice
• One daily walk
• One earlier night
• One calmer morning

Small changes done consistently in January set the tone for the whole year.”

Step 3: Find One Thing to Look Forward To

“January needs a cheerleader.

It might be:

• A birthday
• A family gathering
• A weekly routine
• A personal goal.

When you give January a better  meaning, you feel better.

Which one are you?

A) Do you smile politely and slowly lose the will to live? B) Do you try to fix their problem just to get out alive? C) Or do you suddenly remember you “need to check the oven”… even though you don’t have one?

Christmas is emotional, noisy, nostalgic… and full of people and personalities we don’t always choose.

But here’s the truth:

We can’t change difficult people. We can change how we meet them — internally. And that’s where the peace begins.

Most of us jump into their drama, take on their emotions, and end up irritated or drained.

Empathy is different. Empathy is steady. Empathy says: “I see you — but I’m not losing myself in your story.”

And the good news is you only need two steps to do this at Christmas.

THE TWO-STEP CHRISTMAS PEACE SOLUTION

STEP 1: Say something that starts with “I hear you…”

This helps the other person feel seen — without you taking on their feelings.

Use whichever feels most natural:

· “I hear you — that sounds tough.”

· “I hear you — I get why you’d feel that way.”

· “I hear you — and I hope things get easier for you.”

Short. Kind. Boundaried.Job done.

STEP 2: Say something silently in your own mind:

“Just like me…” This is the internal shift —the part they never hearbut you always feel.

Examples:

· “ just like me. They’re doing their best…”

· “ just like me.” They want to feel loved and safe…

· “ just like me.” They get overwhelmed sometimes…

This softens how you see them. It keeps you calm, grounded, and in control of your own state.

Together, these two steps mean you can be kind without being consumed.

If you want more peace and less emotional turbulence…

Don’t try to fix people. Don’t join their drama.

Just: Step 1: “I hear you…” Step 2: “Just like me…”

Two steps. Big difference.

That’s how you stay centred, compassionate, and still enjoy your Christmas dinner.

Peace is a decision. 

It’s why it’s called the present — because peace only exists in this moment. 

Three Key Teaching Points 

1. Recreate the Feeling 

Your happiest memories aren’t in the past — they’re in your nervous system. You can activate joy, gratitude, and calm any time. 

2. Happiness Without Agenda 

You can feel good without waiting for circumstances to be perfect. Choose peace now, before anything improves. 

3. Choose Peace Over Pressure 

This season, decide to respond from calm instead of chaos. 

Faith over fear. 

Love over control. 

Presence over pressure. 

Three Practical Steps for Listeners 

Step 1 – Pause for ten seconds before reacting. 

Peace lives in that gap. 

Step 2 – Ask: “What would the peaceful version of me do right now?” 

Instant clarity. 

Step 3 – Be the reason someone believes the world is still good. 

A small kindness changes everything. 

The Reframe 

When you choose peace again and again, happiness becomes your default state. Not because everything went right — but because you did. You showed up for yourself. You mastered your mind. 

At Christmas, people say things to themselves like: 

• “I should be happier.” 
• “I’m not doing enough.” 
• “Everyone else has it sorted except me.” 
• “This has to be perfect.” 

This inner Grinch steals the joy of the season. 
But we can flip it — quickly and powerfull! 

 The Christmas Mindset Shift 

Tool 1: Become Your Own Christmas Coach 

Instead of: 

“I can’t cope — everything’s going wrong.” 

Say: 

“Deirdre, you’re doing your best. Christmas is about connection, not perfection.” 

Example: 
You burn the roasties? 
stick on your favourite Christmas song, start again  

Tool 2: The January Test 

When you start spiralling, ask yourself:
“Will this matter in mid-January?” 
99% of the time — no. 

Example: 
A relative makes a half-snide comment? 
In January, you won’t even remember it. 
Instant relief. 

Tool 3: Shift Your State 

Your environment affects your thoughts. 
A quick physical or sensory shift snaps you out of overthinking. 

Try: 

• Step outside into the cold for 2 minutes 
• Put on a song that changes your emotional temperature 
• Light a candle 

Example: 
Kids shouting, dinner burning, phone buzzing — step outside, breathe, re-enter with new energy. 

Tool 4: The Christmas Permission Slip 

Give yourself permission to: 

• Not be perfect 
• Say no 
• Simplify gifts 
• Attend fewer events 
• Protect your peace 
• Do Christmas in your own way 

Example: 
“This year I’m choosing presence over pressure.” 

Your 3-Step Christmas Solution 

1. Catch the Inner Grinch 
Notice when your thinking goes negative. 

2. Coach Yourself Kindly 
Speak to yourself the way you’d speak to someone you adore. 

3. Choose People Over Perfection 
Ask: “What actually matters today?” 
The answer is usually: the moment, the connection, the feeling — not the job list. 

How to get ahead,

stay in control,

and actually enjoy

the next 6 weeks.

Question for Frank

“What Are You a YES For This Christmas?”

A) “Here we go — stress, pressure, and trying to please everyone.”

B) “Ach, I’ll leave it ’til the week before.”

C) “This year… I want it to feel different.”

D) “I love Christmas, but it exhausts me!”

But the people who enjoy it — the calm ones, the present ones, the grounded ones —

they decide ahead of time what Christmas is going to mean for them.

The 3 Bullet-Proof Christmas Mindset Decisions

1 — YES to Emotional Boundaries

Like Malachy, decide what you’re focusing on this year.

Examples:

- Say, “Let me get back to you on that,” instead of instant yes.

- Give yourself permission to leave gatherings early.

- Choose the people who fill your cup, not empty it.

Reframe:

You’re not being difficult — you’re being deliberate

2 — YES to a Calm Financial Plan

Christmas panic spending is a mindset problem, not a money problem.

Examples:

- One present per adult.

- A simple spending limit.

- Buy meaning, not madness.

3- One grounding ritual every day: a candle, a cup of tea, a breath.

Now a global movement focusing on:

1. Prostate cancer

2. Testicular cancer

3. Men’s mental health and suicide prevention

3 Steps to Strengthen Your Mindset

Step 1 – Check In, Don’t Check Out. When stress hits, most men distract or push it down.

Instead, take a moment and ask:

“What’s really going on for me right now?” A small pause can stop a mental spiral before it starts.

Step 2 – Challenge the Voice in Your Head. If that inner critic says, “You should handle this on your own,” — question it. Would you speak that way to your best mate? Then don’t say it to yourself.

Step 3 – Connect to Release. Find one safe outlet — a mate, a mentor, a moment alone. Speaking your truth, or even writing it down, releases pressure and brings clarity. Connection is the cure for isolation.

 Your brain and body can get hooked on that surge of adrenaline — the very chemical that’s meant to help in emergencies.

 When life gets calm, you crave the chaos again, because calm feels foreign.
 
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 Practical examples:
 - The man who finally gets a weekend off work… and ends up fixing the shed, cutting the grass, and reorganising the garage because he “can’t sit still.”
 - The mum who says she wants peace and quiet — but when the house finally goes silent, she feels uneasy and starts tidying.
 - The taxi driver who keeps the radio blaring, the phone pinging, and the conversation going — because silence feels uncomfortable.
 - The manager who checks emails at 10 PM “just in case,” unable to switch off, thinking that being always available equals being valuable.
 
 We say, “I work better under pressure” — but what we really mean is: I’m more familiar with panic than peace.
 
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3-Step Solution :
 
 1️⃣ Notice your baseline.
 Ask yourself: What does peace feel like in my body?
 If you can’t remember the last time you felt truly relaxed — without needing to check your phone or plan your next move — that’s your sign.
 
 Example:
 You’re watching TV but half your brain is thinking about tomorrow’s to-do list.
 That’s not relaxation — that’s low-grade stress.
 Try this instead: lie on the sofa, breathe deeply, and stay present for two minutes.
 
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 2️⃣ Pause before reacting.
 When you feel that surge to do something now, take one deep breath.
 Say to yourself: “This is just my old wiring — I’m safe even when I’m still.”
 
 Example:
 The email pings — instead of jumping to reply instantly, pause.
 When someone says something triggering — instead of snapping, breathe first.
 That pause is your power. It breaks the addiction cycle.
 
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 3️⃣ Replace the rush.
 Find a new kind of “high.” Replace the stress buzz with movement, laughter, or gratitude.
 
 Examples:
 - Take a brisk walk before work instead of doom scrolling.
 - Turn your car drive into quiet time — no radio, just breathing.
 - Swap scrolling for stretching.
 - Call a friend to share good news instead of venting about stress.
 

 A) skill and strategy?
 B) luck and timing?
 C) Or is it about belief — that invisible energy every winning team carries before they even step on the pitch?

The Sequence – Living from the Inside Out 

Northern Ireland have kicked off the World Cup in style — and the buzz across the country is electric!
 But here’s what’s interesting… success in football and success in life follow the same sequence.

  So this is my team talk before the big match:

I call it the Freedom Frequency — the inner game that creates the outer scoreline.
1️⃣ Activate the Burning Desire –

The Goal Before the Goal

Before any player touches the ball, they’ve already seen it — in their mind. That burning desire to win is the emotional ignition that fuels everything else.great teams feel victory before they live it.
2️⃣ Compound the Energy Every Training, Every Thought
 The energy builds — through repetition, belief, teamwork. Just like a player repeating the same move until it becomes instinct, we build our thought patterns until they become habits.

3️⃣ Add L-O-V-E – Levels of Vibrational Energy
 Love 

for the game, 

love for the fans, 

love for the jersey — that’s what lifts the energy. It’s why the fans matter so much — they’re not just watching; they’re co-creating the frequency.

 4️⃣ Move It into Form – Take the Shot
 The thought becomes action — it’s not enough to visualise the goal, you’ve got to take the shot. Every inspired action you take is your version of putting the ball in the back of the net.
 
 

 5️⃣ Feel the Amplitude Rise – The Stadium Effect
 You know that roar when Northern Ireland scores? That’s energy amplified. Your life responds the same way — when you celebrate small wins, your vibration rises, and momentum builds.

 
 6️⃣ Give Out a Different Energy – The Ripple Effect
 When the team wins, the whole country feels it. When you raise your inner frequency, everything around you starts to align — opportunities, people, and results.
 

 That’s the Freedom Frequency — the inner game that creates the outer scoreline.

3-Step Team Talk for Listeners

1. Visualise the win – See your goal as if it’s already happened.
 2. Feel the team energy – Surround yourself with people who cheer you on.
 3. Take your shot – Every small action builds confidence and compounds success. 

The Freedom Frequency

The inner game that creates the outer scoreline.

1️⃣ Activate the Burning Desire 

2️⃣ Compound the Energy

3️⃣ Add L-O-V-E

4️⃣ Move It into Form

5️⃣ Raise the Amplitude 

6️⃣ Give Out the Energy

A) “Typical — it’s always me that this happens to!”
B) “Right, that’s annoying — but I’ll sort it out.”
C) “I knew it — I can’t catch a break.”
D) “Maybe there’s a reason this happened — what can I learn from it?”

Teaching

Most of us start in A or C — and we don’t even realise we’ve slipped into what I call the victim mindset.
That’s when life feels like it’s happening to you instead of for you.
The car breaks down, the job’s a pain, the boss doesn’t listen — and suddenly you’re thinking, ‘Why does this always happen to me?’

Here’s the truth — that thought alone keeps you stuck.
When you think you’ve no control, your brain stops looking for solutions.
But when you flip it — and say, ‘What’s this teaching me?’ — your brain wakes up again.
And that’s when you move from being the passenger to being the driver of your own life.”

 3-Step Solution – How to Get Out of the Victim Seat

1️⃣ Notice it.
Catch yourself when you’re saying “always” or “never.”
Those words are a sure sign you’re giving away your power.
Example: “It’s always me that gets the bad shifts.” — Just notice that thought.

2️⃣ Name it.
Say to yourself, “Hold on — that’s my victim voice talking.”
When you name it, you separate from it.
You remind yourself — I have a choice.

3️⃣ Reframe it.
Ask, “If this was happening for me, not to me — what might it be showing me?”
Maybe it’s a lesson in boundaries, patience, or direction.
Either way — you’ve just taken your power back.

3-Step Solution for Listeners →

Step 1: Write it down.
 Putting pen to paper signals seriousness to your brain.

Step 2: See it and say it.
 Read it silently, speak it aloud, and visualise it. The more senses involved, the stronger the imprint.

Step 3: Repeat daily.
 Repetition is the secret — just like lifting weights builds muscle, repeating your intention builds brain circuitry until your goal feels natural.

A) Saying ‘yes’ to something you don’t want to do, just to keep the peace.
B) Saying ‘no’ when you’d actually love to say yes, because you’re afraid of being judged.
C) Saying ‘I’m fine’ when the truth is you’re anything but fine.

3-Step Teaching 

1. Pretending creates pressure. Every time you go along with something you don’t mean, you add another weight to your shoulders.

  It’s like blowing up a balloon but never letting the air out. The more you pretend, the bigger the pressure — and sooner or later, it bursts.

2. Honesty feels risky — but it brings relief. 

The fear is “What if people don’t like it?” But in reality, telling the truth often earns you more respect and frees you from the mental gymnastics of keeping up the act.
 

It’s like ripping off a plaster. For a second it stings, but then the pain is gone and you can breathe again.

3. Real honesty builds real trust. 

When you drop the pretending, people know where they stand with you. 

That’s the foundation of strong relationships at home, at work, and especially with yourself.

 It’s like driving with clean windows instead of steamed-up glass. You and everyone else can see clearly, and that makes the journey safer and easier.

 3 Action Steps 

1. Notice where you’re saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no.’ This week, swap just one of those for honesty.

2. Practise a softer truth — instead of “I’m fine,” try “It’s been a tough day, but I’m getting through.”

3. Watch how people respond — you’ll see most lean in with respect and connection, not rejection.

  Book Recommendation

“Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown —  a down-to-earth book that shows how vulnerability, 

Anger is rarely the root emotion. More often, it’s a cover for hurt, fear, or powerlessness. If raised around anger, you may have learned two patterns: • Avoid anger completely, because it felt unsafe. • Slip easily into anger, because it was modelled as normal. Understanding this helps us stop judging ourselves and start changing how we respond.

3 Practical Steps

1. STOP & STEP AWAY – Remove yourself briefly.

2. GROUND & BREATHE – Use deep breathing or 5-4-3-2-1 grounding.

3. REFRAME & RESPOND – Challenge your thoughts, choose a clearer response.

✨ Light: “Remember, anger is like hot coal — the longer you hold it, the more you get burned. Better to drop it before it singes your eyebrows!”

💙 Supportive: “Anger is just hurt in disguise. When you meet it with awareness instead of judgment, you set yourself free.”

1.         Complaining = Giving Away Power — Nothing says, “life controls me” like narrating every inconvenience out loud.

2.         Rehearsing the Wrong Script — Every time you retell the same story of what went wrong, you’re just rehearsing being miserable.

3.         Energy Drain — You drain the room. Honestly, even the plants don’t want to be around you.

4.         Training Your Brain Badly — When you complain, you’re teaching your brain the wrong skills. Spotting problems gets easier, but spotting solutions gets harder.

5.         Momentum Killer — You stop your own progress. While you’re venting, the problem is still sitting there waiting for someone who’ll actually solve it.

3 Steps for you 

 Catch Yourself — Notice when you start to complain and pause.

 Flip It — Instead of replaying the problem, ask: What’s one small solution?

Shift the Energy — Share a win, a gratitude, or even a laugh — anything that moves you forward.

 

How to Complain Properly (When You Need To)

Complaining becomes destructive when it’s just venting. But when you complain with clarity, purpose, and respect — it’s not complaining anymore, it’s asserting yourself. Done well, it solves the problem instead of rehearsing it.

Be Clear, Not Emotional — State the facts without the drama. Instead of: “This is ridiculous, it always happens to me!”, try: “The service I received didn’t match what was promised.”

Ask for the Outcome You Want — Don’t just highlight what’s wrong — say what you’d like instead. For example: “I’d like a refund, or a replacement within the week.”

Stay Respectful but Firm — You can be calm and polite while still holding your ground. Respect gets you heard — aggression gets you ignored.

Closing  Quotes

“Complaining rehearses misery — gratitude rehearses freedom.”

“Don’t complain to rehearse the problem — complain to create the solution.”

But we also  know that life  throws curveballs,  And that’s when “just feel good” can feel impossible. 

Here’s where the Stress Solution System thinking comes in: When we sleep,  our conscious mind turns off   

It’s the one time your mind stops resisting.  

This is your backdoor.- to the engine room -  aka subconscious install  

something powerful — and let it grow all night long! 

3-Step Listener Solution 

1. Plant the seeds before bed. Write down three things you want in the area of health,  

relationships, and finances — nine things in total. 

 Keep them believable but slightly out of 

reach,  

so they feel like a stretch and  also a possibility.  

Write them in first-person present tense: 

“I’m so happy and grateful  and I have an extra £500 5000 in my bank account. I love the security 

and freedom this gives me.” 

2. Turn it into a bedtime story. 

 Put your nine bullet points into a short, first-person story. 

Read it aloud to yourself as the last thing you do before turning out the light. 

3. Let your subconscious take over. As you fall asleep, your mind’s grip on negativity 

lets go naturally. You drift into the night holding this positive vision — and your 

subconscious starts making it real. 

PS Quote:  

“Your last thought at night is the first seed of tomorrow’s reality — plant it well.” 

Deirdre dives into the magic of body-mind connection and why it’s not just a wellness buzzword — it’s the foundation of real, lasting change. From the joy of Belfast Pride to the incredible energy at HappyFest, this episode is a reminder that transformation doesn't have to be heavy. It can be joyful, playful, and even a little rebellious.

We also shine a spotlight on the amazing Ciara Daly, who’s helping bring real, grounded wellness leaders to the frontline — making mindset work more visible, more accessible, and more powerful than ever through the HappyFest event.

✨ If you’re ready to feel more freedom, more fun, and more fully yourself… hit play.

Don't forget you can get your own Freedom on the 14th September at Deirdre's event in the Merchant Hotel https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-freedom-event-tickets-1407342241529?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp&aff=ebdsshcopyurl

In this episode, you will learn:

• What frustration is really telling you.
• How anger often hides deeper feelings like fear or grief.
• Deirdre’s 3-step tool to shift your mindset when life interrupts your plans.

Sometimes the universe does not ask you to hustle it asks you to heal.
Tune in and discover how frustration can become your teacher, not your enemy.

Find out more about Deirdre’s Freedom Event (14th September 2025, Merchant Hotel) at DeirdreMaguire.com.

#MindsetMasteryMonday #DeirdreMaguire #FrustrationToFreedom

In this episode, we dive into the science behind why repetition is so powerful — and how it literally reshapes your brain. Frank and Deirdre explore Hebb’s Law: “Neurons that fire together, wire together,” and how this principle affects your habits, your reactions, and your growth.

You’ll learn:
💭 Why familiar patterns feel so automatic
🔁 How to interrupt unhelpful wiring
🧠 A 3-step tool to rewire your brain with intention

Whether it’s fear, self-doubt, or anxiety — you didn’t choose it, you wired it. And the best news? You can rewire something better.

Quote of the Day:
“Every time you think a thought, you’re training your brain. So be careful what class you’re attending.” – Deirdre Maguire

Tune in and train your brain on purpose.

U105 with Frank Mitchell

From mastering six gears in a camper van on Achill Island to navigating the emotional gears of life, Deirdre Maguire brings humour, wisdom, and clarity in this vibrant Monday morning chat with Frank Mitchell.

In this episode, Deirdre shares:

• Her hilarious motorhome adventure on the West of Ireland roads 
• A raw and real story about a Vespa incident that rattled her peace – and how she used mindset tools to reset in the moment
• Why envy isn’t something to be ashamed of, but something to lean into – it’s showing you what you deeply desire
• Her two-step mindset mastery tool for transforming envy into action
• A powerful reframe:
  "Envy is the art of seeing what’s possible for you, disguised as someone else’s success."

This is your sign to stop scrolling, stop shaming yourself, and start following the breadcrumbs toward what you truly want.

Because clarity is power. And envy is trying to hand it to you.

Learn more: www.deirdremaguire.com

Want to be in the room where change happens?
Join Deirdre at The Freedom Event – Sunday, 14th September at The Merchant Hotel, Belfast.
A day for breakthroughs, clarity, and lasting change.
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But here’s the breakthrough:
If fear is built through repetition — then so is confidence.

If you can visualise failure, you can visualise victory.
 If you can rehearse disaster, you can also rehearse domination.

The battlefield isn’t “out there.”
 It’s in here
The voice in your head might be loud, but it doesn’t always tell the truth.

 Fear isn’t your limit — it’s your signal. 

It’s the flag waving at the edge of your growth.

3-Step Mindset Tool: Rehearse Bravery, Not Breakdown

1. Flip the Script

If you can imagine falling… try imagining landing.
Tell a better story in your mind — where you speak and you’re heard.
Where you leap and you rise.
Where you fail and grow stronger for it.

Tool: Say aloud: “This is a signal, not a stop sign.”

2. Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable

Fear shrinks with exposure, not avoidance.
 It gets louder the more you ignore it.
 But when you take action — even shaking, even scared — it loses its power.

Tool: Do something small today that scares you — send the email, say the truth, show up.

3. Rewire Through Repetition

The first time is terrifying.
 The 10th time is tolerable.
 The 100th time? 

3It's freedom.
 The brave ones didn’t start brave — they started scared and kept going.

Tool: Ask: What fear needs exposure today?
Don’t wait for courage. Act — and let courage meet you there.

 PS (Closing Quote):

“Fear doesn’t go away. You just stop flinching when it speaks.”
 The only way out… is through.

 “Today on Mindset Mastery Monday – How to Kill Fear at the Source and Take Back the Mic in Your Mind.”

When I have the money, 

then I’ll feel relaxed, confident, happy.

But what if the real formula for wealth – and life – is the other way round?

Most people live in this order:
Have → Do → Be
 “Once I have the time/money/energy… then I’ll do what I want, and I’ll be happy.”
 But that doesn’t work — because it waits for life to change before you do.

 ‘The Science of Getting Rich’ by Wallace D. Wattles.

 It’s not just about money. 

It’s about living a rich life — in every sense. Confidence. Peace. Purpose. Joy.
 

🔁 The Real Formula Is:

Be → Do → Have

 1.Choose who you want to be now.

 2.Act from that energy.

 3.And then the results come.

 Example: you want to feel more confident. “Once I lose the weight… or earn more… or get the relationship… then I’ll be confident.”
 
  Decide to be confident now?
 What would change? Your posture, your choices, your conversations?
 That energy makes you act differently – and that creates different results.
 
 It’s not

 fake-it-till-you-make-it. 

It’s:

Be it till you see it

 3-Step Listener Takeaway:

Be → Do → Have
 1. BE – Pick your identity today. Calm? Capable? Courageous? Choose it now.
 2. DO – Let that version of you take the next action – even a small one.
 3. HAVE – Watch what changes as you embody the person you’re becoming.

- Frank, ever done something bold just because you felt like someone who could?
 - Would you agree most people wait too long for life to give them permission?
 - What would U105 listeners say if we asked them: Who are you ready to be — starting today?

 Final Thought:

This isn’t just about being rich with money.
 It’s about being rich in mindset, 

 and in how you show up in your life.
 When you lead with who you want to be, everything else starts to catch up.

💬 Easy Closing Quote:

“You don’t get what you want. You get who you are.” – Unknown

 Their message is clear:
 Your pain is real – but its root is emotional, not structural.
 
 when we give ourselves permission to feel and express our emotions safely and honestly, the pain no longer needs to “speak for us.”

 Practical Examples:

 For example, Michael’s migraines would spike during family conflicts. Once he acknowledged repressed anger toward his father and tapped into that story, the migraines lost their grip.

 Jane had chronic back pain for years – MRI scans showed nothing. After starting expressive journaling and emotional release work, her pain significantly eased.

 3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Listen to Your Pain and Let It Go

1. Acknowledge It Without Fear

Instead of fighting pain or fearing it, gently say: “I see you. I hear you. I know you’re trying to protect me.” This interrupts the fear-pain-fear cycle.

2. Feel to Heal

Give yourself a safe space to express the emotion underneath. Ask: “What is my pain trying to distract me from?” Let yourself write, speak, cry, or tap it out.

3. Rewire the Story

Shift the belief from “There’s something wrong with me” to: “My body is wise. I’m listening now.” 

Use  affirmations, to calm the nervous system and update the message.

 Call to Action:

This week, instead of silencing your pain—get curious. Journal, tap, or simply sit with it. Ask: “What truth is this pain pointing me toward?”

💬 PS Quote to End With:

“Your symptoms are not the problem. They’re your body’s way of trying to get your attention.” – Nicole Sachs 

What if your stress isn’t even yours? 

We explore the invisible emotional weight you’ve been lugging around—and how to finally put it down.

We carry a lot—responsibilities, expectations, roles we never asked for. But some of the heaviest weights aren’t visible at all. They’re emotional hand-me-downs: guilt, shame, worry… Not yours, but inherited, absorbed, or assigned. And they drain our joy.

Today is your permission slip to *put it down*. You can still love people, be there for them, and care deeply—without carrying their pain as your own.

3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Drop the Weight That’s Not Yours

1. Notice the Load Ask: “Is this mine?” Whether it's guilt, stress, or emotional exhaustion—pause and check: *Did I create this? Or did I absorb it?*

2. Name the Pattern Are you the fixer, the peacekeeper, the over-giver? Identifying your default role helps you change the script.

3. Return to Sender With love and respect, you can energetically release what’s not yours. Say it: *“This is not mine to carry. I set it down with love.”*

A. “Sorry, I'm breathing.” You apologise for everything, even things that aren't your fault.  

B.“Sorry, not sorry.” You avoid apologising unless absolutely necessary. 

C. “I'm sorry but” you say it but it comes with a built-in excuse. 

D. “I own it”. You apologise clearly, kindly and without losing your dignity. 

  
 Main Message: 
We’ve all been there – stuck between our pride and the pit in our stomach that says, “I should make this right.” 
 
But here’s the truth: Apologising doesn’t make you weak – it makes you wise. 
It’s not about grovelling. It’s about growth. 
It’s not about giving away your power. It’s about owning your impact. 
 
3-Step Mindset Tool: How to Apologise with Power (Not People-Pleasing) 
1. Pause Before You Apologise 
Ask yourself: Am I apologising because I’ve hurt someone? Or because I feel uncomfortable with conflict? 
A real apology needs to come from clarity, not guilt. 
 
Reframe: “What’s the most respectful way I can take responsibility here?” 
 
Example: You snapped at your partner after a stressful day. Instead of blurting "Sorry, I'm just tired!", pause, reflect, and say, "I’m sorry I took that out on you – that wasn’t fair." 
 
2. Drop the 'But' 
"I'm sorry *but* I was tired." 
"I'm sorry *but* you started it." 
That tiny word cancels everything before it. 
 
A powerful apology sounds like: 
“I’m sorry for how that came across. It wasn’t my intention, but I can see how it affected you.” 
 
Example: A work colleague was hurt by your comment. Instead of saying, "I'm sorry, but you were being oversensitive," say, "I'm sorry my words landed that way – I didn’t mean to hurt you." 
 
3. Don’t Lose Yourself in the Apology 
You can be sorry for what happened without making yourself wrong as a person. 
 
Healthy mindset: “That wasn’t okay – and I want to make it right.” 
 
Example: You missed a friend’s event. Don’t say, "I'm the worst friend ever!" Instead: "I'm sorry I missed it. I really care and want to hear all about it." 
 
Psychology Behind Apology Patterns 
Why some people can’t apologise: 
- Deep shame or fear of being wrong 
- Belief that mistakes equal failure or rejection 
- Childhood conditioning: “If I’m wrong, I’m unlovable.” 
 
Example: Someone who can never say sorry at work because they believe admitting fault will make them look weak or incompetent. They might deflect, blame others, or minimise the issue instead. 
 
 
Why some people apologise all the time: 
- Habitual people-pleasing 
- Fear of conflict or abandonment 
- Internalised low self-worth: “Sorry I exist.” 
- Socialised to be small, agreeable, or not take up space 
 
Example: Someone constantly says "sorry" for asking a question, expressing an opinion, or even just walking past someone. It's less about the situation and more about feeling unworthy of taking up space. 
 
The key question to ask yourself: 
“What’s behind my apology strategy?” 
 
Is it healing or hiding? Am I seeking connection or avoiding discomfort? 
 
Apologising isn’t just about manners. It’s about mindset. 
 
📚Recommended Reading: 
“The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brené Brown 
A foundational read for anyone who over-apologises due to shame, perfectionism, or not feeling “enough.” 
Key insight: You don’t have to hustle for your worth. Owning your truth is where your power lies. 
 
Quote: “Owning our story and loving ourselves throug

If we only play the games we know we can win, life gets smaller.

The power of being *rubbish* at something new

— and why it might just be the secret to staying alive inside.

The Problem:

As we get older, we stick with what we know.

We don’t want to look silly.

We shrink We only play the games we *know* we can win.

And slowly… our lives get smaller. Safer. Staler.

Core Message:

Growth doesn’t live in mastery — it lives in messy beginnings. The willingness to be a beginner again is how we stay ‘alive !’

3 Mindset Moves to Reignite Beginner Energy:

1. Ask yourself: What haven’t I done “yet”?

Write a list. Painting? Dancing? Coding? Spanish?

Let curiosity lead.

2. Normalise the awkward stage.

If you feel awkward

congrats, you’re doing it right!

3. Share your beginner stories. There’s power in saying, “I’m learning.” It keeps you humble, open and interesting.

Bonus: it gives others permission to begin too.

Call to Action:

This week, try something new — not to be good at it, but to feel the joy of *beginning again*.

Pick up the pen.

Book the class.

Join the dance floor.

P.S. Quote to Close:

“If you only do what you already know how to do, you will never grow.”

Step 1: The Benefits of Playfulness

Research shows playfulness can: - Reduce stress - Boost creativity - Strengthen relationships - And increase happiness

When we play, we’re present. Whether it's a hobby, a joke, or simply goofing around—play gives the mind a break and the heart a lift.

Step 2: Letting Go of Seriousness

As adults, we often wear a 'serious hat' all the time. But here's the truth—taking life too seriously can weigh us down. By lightening up, not sweating the small stuff, and letting our inner child out to play, we make room for joy in the everyday.

Step 3: Fun Activities to Try This Week

Here are a few easy ways to bring more fun into your week: 1. Play a game – Board games, card games, even charades with the family. 2. Try something new – A class, a creative hobby, even dancing in your kitchen. 3. Laugh more – Watch a comedy, hang out with a funny friend, or just look for the humour in the little things.

Quote (Deirdre):

"We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." – George Bernard Shaw So here’s your Mindset Mastery message today: Don’t wait for fun—create it. A little laughter can go a long way.

3 Steps:

1. Pause with Purpose: Take 10 quiet minutes today. Ask yourself: "What is working in my life — and what isn’t?" 2. Reconnect to Your Direction: Remember where you actually want to go — not where habit or busyness is pushing you. 3. Reignite with Intention: Pick one small, meaningful action you can take this week that feels aligned with your true goals, not just the day-to-day noise.

Inspirational Line:

A pause today could be the beginning of your next great chapter tomorrow.

Quote:

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes — including you. — Anne Lamott

Deirdre emphasises that when we truly understand our own value, it becomes easier to make decisions that honour our wellbeing. She also highlights the power of optimism and mindset in helping us move towards our personal goals — that it’s not just about what we do, but how we see ourselves while doing it.

She offers practical ways to strengthen self-worth, such as journaling and positive affirmations, tools that help us reconnect with our inner value and stay committed to the journey — like the one so many are taking with "The Shred."

At the heart of her message is this: when you value yourself, your choices naturally start to reflect that truth.

In conversation with Frank Mitchell on U105, Deirdre reflects on what it means to live a successful life, inspired by the Pope’s example and a poem close to her heart.

Deirdre shares “What is Success?” by Ralph Waldo Emerson — a reading she first offered at her own father’s passing. The words still resonate deeply and offer a moment of stillness in today’s noisy world.

What is Success?
by Ralph Waldo Emerson

To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—
This is to have succeeded.

🙏 May the legacy of Pope Francis inspire us to live with deeper purpose, gentler hearts, and clearer intention.

Reframing Age as Your Superpower

This week, Deirdre turns a birthday into a breakthrough.
For anyone feeling like they’ve “missed their moment” — this episode is a wake-up call.

✨ The Big Reframe:

Age isn’t the enemy — it’s evidence.
Of your wisdom.
Your resilience.
Your courage to become.

🔥 3 Power Shifts:

1. Reframe It:
   You’re not getting older — you’re living longer.
2. Honour It:
   Ask: What have I done my younger self never thought possible?
3. Upgrade It:
   Fear isn’t about age — it’s about unrealised potential.
   Ask: If I believed the best was still to come, what would I do today?

💬 Final Thought:

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second-best time is now.”

Throughout the conversation, they reframe grief not as something to “get over,” but as a natural response to love. With compassion and insight, they discuss how grief, when approached with an open heart, can become a transformative force in our lives—one that deepens connection, gratitude, and meaning.

If you need help navigating loss then this episode is for you and if you'd like to work with Deirdre on a deeper level then reach out through www.deirdremaguire.com

Frank, when was the last time you unlearned something you thought was true your whole life?

We’ve all had those moments:

• Like realising the Earth isn’t flat.
• Or that smoking was never sexy – despite what the movies told us.

Now we look back and think, “How did we ever believe that?”

And yet, we still carry around old beliefs about ourselves that we’ve never questioned.
Beliefs that sound sensible, but silently sabotage our confidence, our peace, our power.

So today, we’re shining a light on:

3 Things Worth Unlearning

1. Rest = Lazy

We’ve been raised to glorify hustle.
But rest isn’t weakness – it’s wisdom. It’s leadership.
It’s how we reset our nervous system, clear the mental clutter, and reawaken our creativity.

You’re not lazy for slowing down. You’re wise.

2. Your Worth = Your Productivity

You’re not a machine. You’re a miracle.
We’ve been conditioned to measure our value by our output.
But you are worthy, even when you pause. Even when the to-do list stays undone.

You are enough, even in stillness.

3. Conflict is Bad

Many of us learned to avoid conflict, fearing it meant trouble or rejection.
But when done with care, conflict isn’t chaos – it’s connection.
It’s honesty. It’s courage. It can bring more peace, not less.

Speaking your truth is a gift, not a threat.

✅ Your 3-Step Mindset Reset is inside this episode

 Final Thought

Sometimes the path to more confidence, more clarity, and more peace…
Isn’t about adding more to your life –
It’s about letting go of what was never yours to carry in the first place.

See you next week for another Mindset Mastery Monday with Deirdre Maguire.

This episode introduces The Talking Stick Technique — an ancient yet powerful method to bring emotional safety and clarity back into your conversations. It’s not about speaking louder to win… it’s about listening fully, responding with care, and creating space for real connection.

👂 What You’ll Learn:

• Why full attention beats sarcasm and volume
• How communication breaks down (with a hilarious example)
• How to try the "talking stick" method (even without an actual stick)
• Why being truly heard can feel like being truly loved

💡 Call to Action:
Try just one conversation this week where you fully listen — no interruptions, no fixing, just presence.

💬 Quote to Close:
"Being heard is so close to being loved that most people can’t tell the difference."
– David Augsburger

A) Luck is purely a matter of chance.

B) Luck is something you can create through your actions and mindset.

C) Luck only happens to certain people."

Teaching Segment:

"Saint Patrick's Day often brings to mind the idea of luck, but there are many misconceptions about what luck really is. Let's debunk some of these myths and learn how to create our own fortune. Here are three steps to understand and harness the true nature of luck:

1. Preparation: One of the biggest lies about luck is that it’s all about chance. In reality, luck often comes to those who are prepared. By setting goals, acquiring skills, and being ready to seize opportunities, you can create your own luck. Think of it as planting seeds; the more you prepare, the more likely you are to reap a bountiful harvest.

2. Positive Mindset: Another myth is that luck is something you either have or you don’t. In truth, a positive mindset can attract opportunities and good fortune. By maintaining an optimistic outlook and focusing on solutions rather than problems, you can turn potential setbacks into stepping stones. For example, if you face a challenge, view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

3. Action: Many people believe that luck is passive, but it’s actually about taking action. By being proactive and taking steps towards your goals, you increase your chances of encountering 'lucky' breaks. This could mean networking, seeking out new experiences, or simply putting yourself out there. Remember, fortune favors the bold.

By understanding these principles, you can move beyond the myths of luck and start creating your own fortune."

1. Instant Change: You see a documentary on animal cruelty and immediately stop eating meat. 
2. Cumulative Change: Bit by bit, repeated actions add up. (Example: Learning a new language – you practice daily, and over time, fluency develops. 

3.Retroactive Change: 

 You take action first, even if it’s small, and later see the progress. Example: Going to the gym without immediate results, but over months, tracking progress and seeing transformation. 

 2 Steps to Overcome Inaction:  

1. Make It So Small You Can’t Fail 

The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that a single action is too small to matter. But in reality, every big achievement starts with micro-movements. Instead of trying to ‘get fit,’ commit to one push-up. Instead of ‘writing a book,’ write a single sentence. Action builds momentum. 

1. Measure What Matters 

If you don’t measure it, you can’t improve it. Whether it’s  

• steps walked, 
•  pages read,  
• or conversations had,  tracking your progress keeps you engaged.  

Even ‘bad’ action teaches you something. 

Examples  

1. Colonel Sanders – Success in His 60s)   

 knocked on over 1,000 doors  

 Today KFC is a global brand, 

started with small, persistent actions over decades. 

2. J.K. Rowling  Harry Potter – 7 Years of Writing, 12 Rejections 

• single mother battling depression. 

 Now, 500 million copies worldwide,  

 started with consistent writing 

• 3. James Dyson 5,126 Failed Prototypes – 15 Years to Success 

  revolutionary bagless vacuum cleaner.  

• massive debt multiple failures,  

 now Dyson = a multi-billion-pound brand. 

Closing Thought: 

"Life rewards action, not intelligence.”  

Discipline is necessary in our life in order to generate consistent systematic action.  

The way you make massive progress in life is that you show up and try. 

Even if the action is poor action, you're going to learn something from it.  

1️ The 3-Second Rule – Trick Your Brain into Action

• If you think of something you need to do, take action within 3 seconds before your brain talks you out of it.
• It can be as small as opening an email, picking up the phone, or writing the first sentence.
• Why? Action kills overthinking.

2️ The 5-Minute Sprint – Make It Tiny

• Tell yourself: "I’ll just do this for 5 minutes."
• Once you start, momentum kicks in, and you’ll likely keep going.
• Why? It bypasses the brain’s resistance to big tasks.

3️ The Public Commitment – No More Hiding

• Say it out loud or message someone: "I will [task] by [time]."
• Why? When we make things public, we’re more likely to follow through.

PS: Procrastination is just fear dressed up as excuses. Action is the only antidote. 

Opening Statistics & Example: 

" 92% of people fail to keep their New Year’s resolutions,  

but those who set up systems for accountability are 42% more likely to succeed." 

"Consistency is key: James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, found that small, repeated actions lead to remarkable results over time." 

• Practical Example: "Imagine you want to walk 10,000 steps a day. Instead of relying on motivation, schedule a daily reminder, 
•  track your progress in an app and commit to a reward if you hit your goal for 30 days. Small daily steps create long-term success." 

3-Step Solution  

1. Set Up Your Own Contract 

• "Momentum comes from commitment. Write a contract with yourself, identifying a specific challenge you want to tackle. Make it real - put it on paper, sign it, and make a promise to yourself." 

1. Create a Reward and a Consequence 

• 1. Choose a meaningful reward for completing your goal.  

2.Then, set a consequence if you don’t follow through—something that stings, like donating money to someone you don’t like! This keeps you accountable and committed." 

1. Make Self-Accountability Non-Negotiable 

"Self-discipline is the bridge between goals and achievement. Share your contract with a trusted friend or mentor, track your progress, and reward  yourself.  

Closing PS Quote:  

‘Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.’ – Abraham Lincoln 

"Love and momentum have a lot in common—you've got to keep showing up! Whether it's sticking to your goals or making time for someone special, a little effort every day goes a long way." 

2.  What do you think it means when fear shows up right before a big decision?

The 3-StepSolution

1.          Acknowledge It

Fear is natural. Instead of ignoring it, take a moment to notice how it’s showing up for you. Is it in your body, your thoughts, or your actions?

2. Reframe It: Remind yourself that fear isn’t the enemy; it’s a sign of growth. Say to yourself, “If I wasn’t pushing myself, I wouldn’t feel this way.”

2.          Take One Brave Step:

Action is the antidote to fear. No matter how small the step, moving forward keeps fear from taking the driver’s seat

**Closing Quote:**

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”

 George Adair

Intention.  

Direction.  

Life by Design.  

I.N.T.E.N.T. 

A simple acronym to guide your intention-setting process. 

I: Identify – Be clear about what you truly want. 

N: Navigate – Focus your energy in the right direction. 

T: Trust – Believe in the process and your ability to achieve. 

   E: Evaluate – Check in with yourself     and adjust as needed. 

N: Nurture – Stay consistent and kind to yourself. 

T: Triumph – Celebrate small and big wins alike 

3 Action Steps to Implement Intentions: 

1. Start with Clarity: Each morning, ask yourself, “What do I want to feel, achieve, or create today?” Write it down. 
2. Visualize Success: Take a moment to imagine your intention coming to life. How will it feel? What actions will lead you there? 
3. Take Aligned Action: Break your intention into small, actionable steps and tackle them with focus. 

Closing PS Quote: 

 
"Intention is the seed. 

Action is the water.  

Together, they grow the life you desire." 

It’s like your brain is on autopilot, always on the lookout for what’s meaningful to you. Why do you think that happens

Manifesting isn’t about magic; it’s about training your brain to focus on what matters to you. Your brain has something called the “salience network,” which acts like a personal assistant, constantly scanning your environment for anything connected to your goals.

3 Steps to Embed Your Intention and Manifest with Meaning:

1.        Anchor Your Intention in Purpose:

Write down your goal and connect it to how it benefits others. “I want to get fit so I can be a role model for my kids” instead of just “I want to lose weight.”

2.        Value-Tag Your Intention:

Spend time visualizing the emotion tied to achieving your goal—what will it feel like to help or inspire someone else? The more emotionally charged it is, the better your brain will track it.

3.        Act with Meaning:

Do one small action daily that aligns with your intention. It might be helping someone, learning something new, or just being kind to yourself. These actions add up and reinforce your purpose.

Closing PS Quote:

"Purpose is the heartbeat of manifesting. When you focus on others, your rewards come naturally."

1.Workplace Stress: you’re at your desk feeling overwhelmed by emails .

You feel tightness in your chest or a headache. These physical reactions are signals to slow down and reassess.

2.Relationship Tension: During an argument with a loved one, you might feel your shoulders tense or your heart race. That’s your body telling you there’s more beneath the surface emotionally that needs to be addressed.

3.Decision-Making: When faced with a tough decision, like going for a new job,

you might feel a knot in your stomach.

It’s your body helping you gauge your true feelings about the situation.

3 Action Steps to Implement:

1.Body Scan: Pause during moments of stress to perform a quick body scan, from head to toe.

Notice where tension lies and recognize it as an indication of something deeper.

2.Name the Feeling: Identify the emotion tied to the physical sensation—whether it’s fear, excitement, or frustration. This helps you process the feeling instead of letting it control you.

3.Deep Breathing: When you’re in a tense moment, take three deep, slow breaths. This simple act will help calm your nervous system, clear your mind, and allow you to act with more clarity.

Say the word “Peace”

Closing Quote

"The mind’s first step to self-awareness must be through the body." — George Sheehan

George Sheehan was an American physician and runner known for his writings on the mind-body connection.

His work emphasized how physical activity can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

“Using Your Body as a Compass to Overcome Any Obstacle.” Because when life throws you a curveball, your gut feeling is often more reliable than your morning coffee!

2. Create Space for Self-Reflection During your time off, use the opportunity to reflect on where you're headed and what’s truly important to you. Investing in this self-awareness leads to better decisions in all areas of life.

3. Seek Out Experiences that Align with Freedom Whether it's a retreat or simply disconnecting for a while, find experiences that help you focus on what truly matters. Sometimes, the right environment can unlock the clarity and freedom you’ve been seeking.

PS Quote: “Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott

I just came back from a few days away, and it was a real game-changer. Sometimes, stepping away is exactly what we need to step up in life. Imagine the difference a few intentional days focused on freedom could make. I feel more energized than ever to deliver my best, and I think everyone deserves a chance to feel that too!

Your freedom is my promise!

Teaching 

What boredom really is: Boredom happens when your brain isn’t fully engaged or stimulated, leaving you restless or craving something to do, but it’s also a natural signal that you need a break from constant activity.

·  Increased Screen Time: Studies show that adults spend over 11 hours a day interacting with media, leading to decreased moments of  free mental time. This shift can reduce the time we spend in reflection or creative thinking.

·  Creativity and Downtime: Research indicates that taking breaks and allowing for boredom can enhance creativity. 

For example, a study found that participants who engaged in mundane tasks performed better on creative tasks afterward than those who were constantly stimulated.

·  Mental Health: A survey found that many people report feeling more stressed and anxious when they don’t allow time for boredom. 

constant busyness may hinder mental well-being, downtime  is essential for mental health. 

Power of Boredom:  Practical Steps

1.  Embrace Boredom as a Reset:

 Step 1:resist the urge to grab your phone. Sit for 5 minutes and just observe your thoughts.

 Step 2: Take a short walk without any distractions. Let your mind wander naturally.

Step 3: Keep a notebook handy to jot down any random ideas or thoughts that come up when you’re bored.

In closing 

All of that will lead to increased productivity, clearer thinking, and more creativity, ultimately helping you achieve your goals faster and with less stress. 

You'll find yourself more energized and focused, with a greater sense of control over your time and life.

Ever feel like the world thinks you're past your prime just because you've celebrated a few extra birthdays?

or 

the surprise in someone's voice when you smash a workout?!

Ageism is that sneaky belief that people become “less”

 because they’re “more”... 

more experienced, more seasoned.

Here are 3 steps to help:

1.   Flip the Script
Next time  you tell yourself  “Too old for that,” Write a new affirmation

“It’s safe for me to try something new.”

“Its ok for me to give it a go.” 

“My age is my  asset.”

2.   Keep Learning and Trying New Things
Show  yourself and the world that curiosity and growth don’t have an expiration date.

3  Look for proof  for what you want to do.

I always find someone older than me whom is already good at doing what I aspire to do. Check out YouTube videos. TikTok etc .

 Give your mind the proof it needs to believe its possible. 

What if we are  not getting older rather “living longer” ?!

1.    "Frank, when was the last time you said 'yes' to something that really surprised you? 

Maybe something you weren’t sure about at first, but it turned out to be a great experience?"(Sea Swim)

2.    "Do you ever feel like we get a little too comfortable saying 'no' as we get older? (Live longer)

3.    What do you think life would look like if you  just started saying 'yes' more often ?

Problem: 

As we get older, we often start saying “no”

 We stick to the familiar and shy away from the new!

 Imagine what your life could look like if you started saying yes more often!

3 Steps 

1.    Say Yes to New Experiences
Say yes to that invitation you’ve been dodging—

 a weekend road trip,  Hire a motor home 

trying a new restaurant,

or joining a local group. 

Each "yes" opens doors to new experiences, memories, and maybe even new friends.

2.    Say Yes to Self-Investment
When was the last time you said yes to you? 

·       Sign up for that online course, 

·       start the project you’ve been postponing, 

3.    Say Yes to Spontaneity
Get out of your routine and throw in some spontaneity. 

Say yes to the little things: 

a spontaneous walk, an unplanned visit to a friend, 

or even just saying “yes” to taking a break. 

Spontaneous moments bring an energy that a set routine can’t match.

P.S.:
"In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take." – Lewis Carroll

1. Acknowledge and Feel Your Emotions

• What to do: Let yourself feel whatever emotions come up—whether it’s sadness, anger, fear, or grief. These feelings are natural and deserve to be acknowledged. Give yourself permission to experience them without judgment.
• Why it helps: Accepting your emotions is the first step toward healing. When you allow yourself to feel, you’re not bottling up the pain, which can make things harder over time.

2. Look for Growth and Learning

• What to do: Try to reframe the situation as a chance for growth. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this?" or "How can this experience make me stronger or wiser?"
• Why it helps: This approach turns pain into something meaningful. Instead of just surviving the hardship, you’re actively finding ways to grow from it, which can make the experience feel less overwhelming.

3. Focus on Gratitude and Resilience

• What to do: Even in difficult times, try to focus on things you’re grateful for—like the support of loved ones, small moments of joy, or just getting through the day. Also, work on building resilience by setting small, achievable goals to regain a sense of control.
• Why it helps: Shifting your focus from what you’ve lost to what you still have, and what you’re capable of overcoming, fosters hope and strength. It helps you see that even in adversity, there are still positive things to hold on to and build upon.

Buzzing for life or stuck  on the starting blocks? 

How would you answer the question Frank “Are you  growing or dying”?

Embracing the mindset of continuous growth and curiosity is essential for a fulfilling and successful life. 

Think of a rose. Imagine it as a plant. 

Then think of a cut flower. 

Both look the same, One is growing, and one is dying.

The same is true with you and me. 

When we stop growing, we start dying. 

 When you stop growing anywhere that area immediately begins to die.

By cultivating an attitude of curiosity 

(code for nonjudgment) 

we ensure our personal and professional growth.

By staying  curious we keep our minds sharp and our spirits vibrant. 

This cultivates resilience, adaptability, and innovation—

 3 Steps 

1. Set Learning Goals:Identify a specific area you want to develop and go for it

2. Allocate Time for Learning:

non-negotiable 

10 minutes of reading each morning

 or a one hour online class weekly.

3. Engage with a Like-Minded Community:Join a group or  community of like minded people.My Freedom Community is a perfect example, bringing together people with a shared interest in personal improvement.

Keep learning. 

Keep growing. 

Keep mastering yourself — 

you are the only person in this world you need to beat.

 You don’t need to prove anything to anyone, you just need to be the best you that you could possibly be.

From the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”

― Jiddu Krishna murti

Affirmation of the week.. 💎my potential is limitless."

Rhys McClenaghan and 3  key steps that he took as a guide for listeners who aspire to achieve their own dreams. 

Step 1: Find a Dream You Love

 Why is that important ?

It keeps you motivated and driven.

1.   When you're passionate about your goal, you to put in the necessary effort and overcome challenges.  

Passion fuels dedication .

Step 2: Chase It

1. Set clear goals 

2.  Set actionable steps

3.  Stay disciplined, 

4.  and keep pushing forward, even when it gets tough."

   Step 3: Enjoy the Journey

"Enjoying the journey is vital because it's where the true growth happens. 

Fall in love with the journey. 

Embrace the learning, the challenges, and the small victories 

along the way. 

Conclusion

6.  Final Thoughts

Find what you love

 Chase it with everything you have and enjoy every step of the way regardless of your age."

 Famous people who achieved their dreams later in life:

1.  Colonel Harland Sanders - Founded KFC at the age of 65.

Ronald Reagan - Elected President of the United States at 69 after a career in acting and as Governor of California.

2.  Henry Ford - Created the Model T car at 45, revolutionizing the automobile industry.

3.  Samuel L. Jackson - Landed his breakthrough role in "Pulp Fiction" at 46

  Irish people who achieved their dreams later in life:

1.  Bram Stoker - Published "Dracula" at 50, becoming one of the most famous horror writers in history.

2.  Maeve Binchy - Published her first novel "Light a Penny Candle" at 42 and became one of Ireland's most beloved authors.

3.  Christy Moore - Achieved major success as a solo artist in his 40s after earlier success with the band Planxty.

4.  Seamus Heaney - Won the Nobel Prize in Literature at 56, cementing his status as a leading poet.

5.  Mary O'Hara - Began her career as a novelist in her 50s after decades as a harpist and singer.

6.  Nuala O'Faolain - Published her memoir "Are You Somebody?" at 58, which became an international bestseller.

7.  Richard Harris - Gained major film success in his 60s with roles in "Gladiator" and "Harry Potter."

8.  Brian Friel - Wrote his acclaimed play "Dancing at Lughnasa" at 63, which won multiple awards and brought him international fame.

 Confidence and assertiveness 

Challenges Men Face:

We all know society can be tough on men, expecting them to always be strong and self-reliant. 

Makes  it hard to show vulnerability or ask for help. Because of 

·    fear of rejection

·      failure 

·    balance between  assertive and  aggressive can be tricky.

Why Confidence and Assertiveness Matter:

1.    When you're confident, you believe in yourself and your abilities. 

2.    you make decisions without second-guessing .

3.    When you’re  Assertive  you can  expressyour needs and wants in a respectful way.

4.     Together,  you navigate life at home, at work, or in social situations.

Action Steps:

1.    Get to know yourself 

Focus on your strengths. 

Write them down. 

Or ask someone you trust. 

2.    Practice good self-talk

  "I can do this."  

Use "I" statements.

 Not "You never listen," 

"I feel unheard when my suggestions are ignored."

3.    Pay attention to your body language. Maintain eye contact, use a calm tone, and stand tall.

4.    !!!Role-play assertive scenarios with a friend or coach. This can help you practice and feel more comfortable.

In closing

It doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a journey!

 Remember, it’s not about being perfect. It’s about being true to yourself and standing up for what you need in a respectful way.

 
 
  |    "Fear does not prevent death. It prevents life."     |   

1.When was the last time you had a good or a wee cry ?

1.           Different catalysts have different chemical makeup. 

2.           This means  the tears that you cry from chopping onion versus the tears that you cry when you're grieving look totally different under microscope. 

Tears – the facts 

Rose Lynne Fisher

“The Topography of Tears”

American  Photographer expert in Microphotography. 

“Tears are in the medium of our most primal language for  moments as unrelenting as death, as basic as hunger. 

They are  the evidence of our inner life overflowing  into consciousness.”

They release us to the  short circuit of feeling good. Shedding tears is  shedding old skin. 

Here are the facts 

·    Tears release oxytocin and endorphins that help ease your physical and emotional pain. 

·    Tears hold stress hormones that they intentionally evacuate from your body. 

·    Tears calm your  sympathetic nervous system.

·    lower your heart rate, 

·    lower your blood pressure.

·    They're intentional, functional and helpful.

 3-step action plan to help men deal with crying in a healthy and empowering way.

Step 1: Acknowledge and Accept Your Emotions 

Step 2: Find a Safe Space  A private place

Step 3: Reflect and Reframe 

Step 1: Acknowledge and Accept Your Emotions 

• Recognize the Importance: Understand that crying is a natural human response to emotions. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
• Self-Acceptance: Allow yourself to feel. It’s okay to cry.
• Avoid Suppression: Suppressing emotions can lead to mental health issues. Acceptance is the first step toward emotional well-being.

Step 2: Find a Safe Space 

• Private Moments: If you’re uncomfortable crying in public, find a quiet and private place. This could be your room, car, or any safe environment.

• Trusted Confidant: Talk to someone you trust – a friend, family member, or therapist. Sharing your feelings can provide comfort and perspective.

• Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a cathartic process. It helps in processing emotions and understanding their roots.

Step 3: Reflect and Reframe 

• Reflect:  take  time to reflect. What triggered your emotions? Understanding the cause can help manage future reactions.
• Reframe: Change the narrative around crying.  view it as  a step toward emotional healing.
• Growth Mindset: Embrace the experience as part of your personal growth towards becoming more emotionally intelligent and resilient.

Conclusion 

 Crying is a natural and essential part of the human experience.

 By 

·    acknowledging your emotions, 

·    finding a safe space, 

·    and reflecting on the experience, you can transform crying into a powerful tool for emotional growth and  taking  control of your mental well-being. 

So, next time you cry, 

I want you remind yourself that your

·    Tears are productive. 

·    Tears  are on purpose.

·    They are intentional. 

And remember Eagles soar alone 

Sparrows flock. 

Have the courage to do the clever thing cry when it’s called for .Bottom of Form

Whatever it is 

Step one is more information opens the door! 

Here’s what you need to know! 

The Inside Scoop 

1. Your thoughts create your future.

2. 60,000 70,000 thoughts per day and 90 % are repeated. 

The principles of Neuroscience say that

 Nerve Cells that fire together wire together 

3. Our current results are the  proof  of  our past thinking.