F*ck N*ce Mon, 18 May 2026 18:01:55 -0400 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2045805 en-us © 2026 F*ck N*ce yes e3318a97-1b39-5c1e-8981-a98882a1bd85 F*ck N*ce episodic true Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) F*ck N*ce https://storage.buzzsprout.com/1xpvc5irar87cpthi8behym17gwo?.jpg F*ck N*ce Values Values In this episode we focus on values. We talk about what values are, how we use them in therapy, and how knowing your values and keeping them front of mind can help in life. 

Resources and sources mentioned are "Love Every Day" by Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Andrea Gibson's definition of codependency, Brene Brown's Values List and BRAVING acronym, and the values cards created by Lisa Congdon and Andreea Niculescu. 

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

#values

]]> In this episode we focus on values. We talk about what values are, how we use them in therapy, and how knowing your values and keeping them front of mind can help in life. 

Resources and sources mentioned are "Love Every Day" by Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Andrea Gibson's definition of codependency, Brene Brown's Values List and BRAVING acronym, and the values cards created by Lisa Congdon and Andreea Niculescu. 

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

#values

]]> Buzzsprout-17898777 Mon, 20 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400 5982 3 6 full true The Unknown The Unknown In this episode we explore The Unknown (tm)

What even is the unknown? What are examples of experiencing unknown in day to day life as well as big life events? How often are we afraid of the unknown versus afraid our experience will not meet our hopes or expectations? 

We talk about all these questions as well as trusting faith and when it teeters into looking for control or certainty. Living from a place of love rather than fear. And the subtle difference in searching and openness.

Resources mentioned are "How We Live is How We Die" by Pema Chödrön, "The Universe Has your Back" By Gabby Bernstein, and "Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe" by Laura Lynne Jackson.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#theunknown
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> In this episode we explore The Unknown (tm)

What even is the unknown? What are examples of experiencing unknown in day to day life as well as big life events? How often are we afraid of the unknown versus afraid our experience will not meet our hopes or expectations? 

We talk about all these questions as well as trusting faith and when it teeters into looking for control or certainty. Living from a place of love rather than fear. And the subtle difference in searching and openness.

Resources mentioned are "How We Live is How We Die" by Pema Chödrön, "The Universe Has your Back" By Gabby Bernstein, and "Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe" by Laura Lynne Jackson.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#theunknown
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> Buzzsprout-17898733 Thu, 25 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400 4687 3 5 full true Grief Grief In this episode we explore grief and loss. 

Resources mentioned are "How We Live is How We Die" by Pema Chödrön and "The Wild Edge of Sorrow" by Francis Weller.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

#grief

]]> In this episode we explore grief and loss. 

Resources mentioned are "How We Live is How We Die" by Pema Chödrön and "The Wild Edge of Sorrow" by Francis Weller.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

#grief

]]> Buzzsprout-17189732 Mon, 23 Jun 2025 08:00:00 -0400 4837 3 4 full true Relationships Part 3- Codependency Relationships Part 3- Codependency Join us as we focus on codependency in relationships part 3. Truly one of my (Chelsea's) favorite topics. 

Resources include Melody Beattie's books such as "Codependent No More" and "The New Codependency". 


#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth
#codependency

]]> Join us as we focus on codependency in relationships part 3. Truly one of my (Chelsea's) favorite topics. 

Resources include Melody Beattie's books such as "Codependent No More" and "The New Codependency". 


#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth
#codependency

]]> Buzzsprout-17189707 Mon, 26 May 2025 11:00:00 -0400 4544 3 3 full true Relationships Part 2 Relationships Part 2 In relationships part 2 we focus on exploring a tool called the non-escalator relationship menu. Shared with us by a friend who first discovered the menu on reddit (thank you internet crowdsourcing!) This tool is awesome. Chelsea believes that if everyone filled this form out and walked around with and exchanged with others, we would get to the core of compatibility a lot faster. One of my requirements is hourly texting and you don't own a phone? Oh? Easy, we should NOT date." This sounds dry as I type it but truly, this tool is awesome. And we cover only three sub items on this episode so it becomes clear how much this menu can open up conversations for those interested in being in connection with someone else.

https://www.amorywellness.com/_files/ugd/4f6a21_44ae73d7c6da4a4694d75422f3f9a79d.pdf?index=true

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> In relationships part 2 we focus on exploring a tool called the non-escalator relationship menu. Shared with us by a friend who first discovered the menu on reddit (thank you internet crowdsourcing!) This tool is awesome. Chelsea believes that if everyone filled this form out and walked around with and exchanged with others, we would get to the core of compatibility a lot faster. One of my requirements is hourly texting and you don't own a phone? Oh? Easy, we should NOT date." This sounds dry as I type it but truly, this tool is awesome. And we cover only three sub items on this episode so it becomes clear how much this menu can open up conversations for those interested in being in connection with someone else.

https://www.amorywellness.com/_files/ugd/4f6a21_44ae73d7c6da4a4694d75422f3f9a79d.pdf?index=true

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> Buzzsprout-15803888 Mon, 04 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0500 4898 3 2 full true Relationships Part 1 Relationships Part 1 It's the start of season three! Holy cow!

In this episode we stumble into a new ongoing series about relationships. Friendships, romantic relationships, family...all types of relationships will be included and can benefit from the ideas and tools we will be discussing. 

In relationships part 1 we discuss the idea that relationships don't have to be hard (and how we somewhat disagree about this), the impact of issues of security (housing, finances, raising children) on relationships, loneliness and shame, and security v. freedom as ways people keep themselves safe and feel secure.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> It's the start of season three! Holy cow!

In this episode we stumble into a new ongoing series about relationships. Friendships, romantic relationships, family...all types of relationships will be included and can benefit from the ideas and tools we will be discussing. 

In relationships part 1 we discuss the idea that relationships don't have to be hard (and how we somewhat disagree about this), the impact of issues of security (housing, finances, raising children) on relationships, loneliness and shame, and security v. freedom as ways people keep themselves safe and feel secure.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> Buzzsprout-15803863 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0400 4368 3 1 full true Therapy Myths Therapy Myths In this episode we explore a number of myths about therapy such as "you have to unpack your deepest shit" or "I have to give them all the background information". We also touch on things that listeners shared have been surprising to them about therapy. We hope this episode gives you some new insight into therapy and demystifies some of it. 

Resources mentioned:

All About Love by bell hooks

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> In this episode we explore a number of myths about therapy such as "you have to unpack your deepest shit" or "I have to give them all the background information". We also touch on things that listeners shared have been surprising to them about therapy. We hope this episode gives you some new insight into therapy and demystifies some of it. 

Resources mentioned:

All About Love by bell hooks

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-15803687 Tue, 24 Sep 2024 06:00:00 -0400 6792 2 11 full true Therapy 101 Therapy 101 Join us as we talk about the basics of therapy. Why do people go to therapy? How often is normal? How long do people go? Who can provide therapy? How do you find a therapist? And most importantly: What on earth do all the f*cking acronyms mean?

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> Join us as we talk about the basics of therapy. Why do people go to therapy? How often is normal? How long do people go? Who can provide therapy? How do you find a therapist? And most importantly: What on earth do all the f*cking acronyms mean?

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#therapy
#mentalhealth

]]> Buzzsprout-15301889 Tue, 25 Jun 2024 06:00:00 -0400 7292 2 10 full true I Feel Statements I Feel Statements This episode was intended to be a minisode but the content was just too good! Listen to learn about what "I Feel" statements are, how to use them, why they are helpful, and how to embrace the awkwardness!

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#Ifeel
#feelings

]]> This episode was intended to be a minisode but the content was just too good! Listen to learn about what "I Feel" statements are, how to use them, why they are helpful, and how to embrace the awkwardness!

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#Ifeel
#feelings

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14901815 Wed, 01 May 2024 06:00:00 -0400 2472 2 9 full true Enneagram Type 8- The Protector Enneagram Type 8- The Protector It's our final enneagram type episode! (for now). Listen to learn why it makes sense that we had no questions about or from 8's, how they are actually one of the types you may feel safest and most secure with, and some new lingo for previously discussed triads!

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typeeight
#protector
#defender

]]> It's our final enneagram type episode! (for now). Listen to learn why it makes sense that we had no questions about or from 8's, how they are actually one of the types you may feel safest and most secure with, and some new lingo for previously discussed triads!

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typeeight
#protector
#defender

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14871409 Wed, 17 Apr 2024 06:00:00 -0400 5254 2 8 full true Mini Minisode Mini Minisode Don't miss this one!

]]> Don't miss this one!

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14871128 Thu, 11 Apr 2024 10:00:00 -0400 97 2 bonus true Enneagram Type 9- The Peacekeeper Enneagram Type 9- The Peacekeeper Listen and learn about what makes type 9’s tick and specific nuances such as what is the difference between a peacemaker and peacekeeper.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typenine
#peacekeeper
#peacemaker

]]> Listen and learn about what makes type 9’s tick and specific nuances such as what is the difference between a peacemaker and peacekeeper.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typenine
#peacekeeper
#peacemaker

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14480734 Tue, 20 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 5530 2 7 full true Minisode: Apology Languages Minisode: Apology Languages In today's minisode we go over Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas' apology languages. We may not love everything about the creators, but we are big believers that any time we have more language around things it helps us to grow. Learn about the different ways apologies can sound and why "I am sorry" isn't an apology. 

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
The Five Apology Languages by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#apologylanguage
#apology
#lovelanguage

]]> In today's minisode we go over Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas' apology languages. We may not love everything about the creators, but we are big believers that any time we have more language around things it helps us to grow. Learn about the different ways apologies can sound and why "I am sorry" isn't an apology. 

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
The Five Apology Languages by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas.

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#apologylanguage
#apology
#lovelanguage

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14435805 Mon, 05 Feb 2024 06:00:00 -0500 1767 2 6 bonus true Enneagram Type 1- The Perfectionist Enneagram Type 1- The Perfectionist Welcome to our enneagram episode about Type One's. Chelsea is a one so she is pumped to share with you guys! Take a listen to learn about the type that wants desperately to be good and to have control and order to resist chaos. We all may relate to the common feature of one's, a harsh inner critic. So what makes that different in a type one? Listen to find out!

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typeone
#reformer
#perfectionist

]]> Welcome to our enneagram episode about Type One's. Chelsea is a one so she is pumped to share with you guys! Take a listen to learn about the type that wants desperately to be good and to have control and order to resist chaos. We all may relate to the common feature of one's, a harsh inner critic. So what makes that different in a type one? Listen to find out!

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typeone
#reformer
#perfectionist

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14350203 Sun, 21 Jan 2024 19:00:00 -0500 5870 2 5 full true Minisode: BRAVING principles for trust Minisode: BRAVING principles for trust Join us as we discuss Brene Brown's BRAVING acronym which acts as a guideline for breaking down different aspects of trusting and safe relationships. We discuss how we use this as a tool personally and in our work.

Resources:

Brene Brown's "Braving The Wilderness"
Brene Brown's "Dare to Lead"

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#trust
#BRAVING
#integrity

]]> Join us as we discuss Brene Brown's BRAVING acronym which acts as a guideline for breaking down different aspects of trusting and safe relationships. We discuss how we use this as a tool personally and in our work.

Resources:

Brene Brown's "Braving The Wilderness"
Brene Brown's "Dare to Lead"

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#trust
#BRAVING
#integrity

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14209380 Mon, 01 Jan 2024 09:00:00 -0500 1772 2 4 bonus true Enneagram type 2- The Helper Enneagram type 2- The Helper This episode focuses on enneagram type two's. Perhaps our greatest number of listener questions yet! Find out all about enneagram two's including how to support them in voicing and taking care of their own needs, how to approach a type two boss in the workplace, and best romantic pairings (heads up, it's not a clear cut answer). While some types can be a bit more difficult to understand how all the parts come together, two's are pretty clearly about meeting the needs of others so that their needs can be met.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typetwo
#helper
#lover

]]> This episode focuses on enneagram type two's. Perhaps our greatest number of listener questions yet! Find out all about enneagram two's including how to support them in voicing and taking care of their own needs, how to approach a type two boss in the workplace, and best romantic pairings (heads up, it's not a clear cut answer). While some types can be a bit more difficult to understand how all the parts come together, two's are pretty clearly about meeting the needs of others so that their needs can be met.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typetwo
#helper
#lover

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-14168236 Mon, 18 Dec 2023 13:00:00 -0500 5983 2 3 full true Enneagram type 3- The Performer Enneagram type 3- The Performer Come learn about type 3’s, the performers or achievers. Our longest episode yet. It’s not a competition but if it was the 3’s would be very happy to win.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typethree
#performer
#achiever

]]> Come learn about type 3’s, the performers or achievers. Our longest episode yet. It’s not a competition but if it was the 3’s would be very happy to win.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

https://cpenneagram.com/subtypes

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typethree
#performer
#achiever

]]> Buzzsprout-13915444 Mon, 06 Nov 2023 06:00:00 -0500 6065 2 2 full true Enneagram type 4- The Romantic Enneagram type 4- The Romantic Back from a break for our second season! In the fourth Enneagram deep dive episode, Heather and Chelsea focus on the Romantics/Individualists (Enneagram type 4).  Learn about type 4’s, how Chelsea becomes 4ish in stress as a 1, and why the world as it currently exists is not always set up to allow 4’s to be their authentic selves.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typefour
#romantic
#individualist

]]> Back from a break for our second season! In the fourth Enneagram deep dive episode, Heather and Chelsea focus on the Romantics/Individualists (Enneagram type 4).  Learn about type 4’s, how Chelsea becomes 4ish in stress as a 1, and why the world as it currently exists is not always set up to allow 4’s to be their authentic selves.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/

Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typefour
#romantic
#individualist

]]> Buzzsprout-13605519 Sun, 17 Sep 2023 12:00:00 -0400 5316 2 1 full true Enneagram Type 5- The Investigator Enneagram Type 5- The Investigator In the third Enneagram episode, Heather and Chelsea focus on the "Investigators" (Enneagram type 5). Learn about this often direct and curious type that is motivated by being competent and not having needs.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/


#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typefive
#investigator
#observer
#analyst

]]> In the third Enneagram episode, Heather and Chelsea focus on the "Investigators" (Enneagram type 5). Learn about this often direct and curious type that is motivated by being competent and not having needs.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/


#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#boundaries
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#enneagram 
#typefive
#investigator
#observer
#analyst

]]> Buzzsprout-13234507 Sun, 16 Jul 2023 21:00:00 -0400 5444 1 15 full true Enneagram type 6- The Loyalist Enneagram type 6- The Loyalist Heather and Chelsea spend an episode on enneagram type 6’s. Find out why Heather loves 6’s, what makes 6 and 1’s similar and different when it comes to “standards” and hear answers to questions from Instagram about 6’s.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/


#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#enneagram 

#typesix

#loyalist

#skeptic

]]> Heather and Chelsea spend an episode on enneagram type 6’s. Find out why Heather loves 6’s, what makes 6 and 1’s similar and different when it comes to “standards” and hear answers to questions from Instagram about 6’s.

Resources:

Tammy Sollenberger

Joan Ryan

Beatrice Chestnut books

The wisdom of the Enneagram

The spiritual dimension of the enneagram 

The Honest Enneagram

https://enneagramexplained.com/enneagram-vices-and-virtues/


#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#enneagram 

#typesix

#loyalist

#skeptic

]]> Buzzsprout-13088974 Tue, 27 Jun 2023 15:00:00 -0400 5024 1 14 full true Enneagram Type 7- The Enthusiast Enneagram Type 7- The Enthusiast Heather and Chelsea dive into their first enneagram episode, focusing on the "the fun one", type 7. This will be the first of 9 episodes where they dive into each type. Come along for the journey and learn about your type or the types you could be as well as those around you. If you have questions about your type, please head to the instagram page to submit your inquiries! 

 Resources:
The Honest Enneagram by Sara Jane Case
The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The One Inside Podcast
The Spiritual Enneagram by Sandra Maitri

#Enneagram
#theenthusiast
#Type7
#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#selfcompassion 



]]> Heather and Chelsea dive into their first enneagram episode, focusing on the "the fun one", type 7. This will be the first of 9 episodes where they dive into each type. Come along for the journey and learn about your type or the types you could be as well as those around you. If you have questions about your type, please head to the instagram page to submit your inquiries! 

 Resources:
The Honest Enneagram by Sara Jane Case
The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The One Inside Podcast
The Spiritual Enneagram by Sandra Maitri

#Enneagram
#theenthusiast
#Type7
#indygrammers
#podcast
#relationalselfawareness
#communication
#selfawareness
#therapistsofinstagram
#relationships 
#fucknice
#selfcompassion 



]]> Buzzsprout-12963795 Thu, 01 Jun 2023 21:00:00 -0400 5456 1 13 full true Perfectionist trap doors and Anemia: A guide to the Universe and the VA (a bonus episode) Perfectionist trap doors and Anemia: A guide to the Universe and the VA (a bonus episode) Basically we thought we could do a short single episode on Fair Play and turns out we had a lot to say about our own lives. Jump aboard as we squirrel!

]]> Basically we thought we could do a short single episode on Fair Play and turns out we had a lot to say about our own lives. Jump aboard as we squirrel!

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-12748669 Mon, 15 May 2023 07:00:00 -0400 2773 1 bonus true Fair Play Fair Play In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about the Fair Play Book and Card system from Eve Rodsky. Both talk about their experiences with Fair Play and demonstrate dividing up their tasks for the podcast and what the minimum standard of care is for these tasks. 

https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary

]]> In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about the Fair Play Book and Card system from Eve Rodsky. Both talk about their experiences with Fair Play and demonstrate dividing up their tasks for the podcast and what the minimum standard of care is for these tasks. 

https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary

]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-12748643 Mon, 01 May 2023 07:00:00 -0400 4815 1 12 full true Self-Compassion Part Two Self-Compassion Part Two Part two of self-compassion with Heather and Chelsea focuses on potential applications of the enneagram to self-compassion and examples of barriers and struggles with self-compassion from listeners.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger- especially episodes with Joan Ryan from January 2022.


Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

]]> Part two of self-compassion with Heather and Chelsea focuses on potential applications of the enneagram to self-compassion and examples of barriers and struggles with self-compassion from listeners.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger- especially episodes with Joan Ryan from January 2022.


Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

]]> Buzzsprout-12397356 Mon, 10 Apr 2023 11:00:00 -0400 3434 1 11 full true Self-Compassion Part One Self-Compassion Part One In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about self-compassion, what it is, what it isn’t, the components of self-compassion, and how it shows up in their relationship. Look out for part two with shares from listeners and potential applications to the enneagram.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger


Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

]]> In this episode, Heather and Chelsea talk about self-compassion, what it is, what it isn’t, the components of self-compassion, and how it shows up in their relationship. Look out for part two with shares from listeners and potential applications to the enneagram.

Resources:

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

Self-Compassion scale by Kristin Neff

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

IFS Institute

Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor

The One Inside podcast by Tammy Sollenberger


Hashtags

#indygrammers

#podcast

#relationalselfawareness

#boundaries

#communication

#selfawareness

#therapistsofinstagram

#relationships 

#fucknice

#selfcompassion

]]> Buzzsprout-12397344 Tue, 07 Mar 2023 22:00:00 -0500 2987 1 10 full true No Sorry’s, Should’s, or Supposed to’s Part Two No Sorry’s, Should’s, or Supposed to’s Part Two In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part two focuses on “Supposed to’s” and explored examples of these things/how these things show up in Chelsea and Heather’s relationship. Just like in part one, this episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Supposed to’s”.

Resources:

  • The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
  • “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
  • The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
  • Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
  • The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
  • The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

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]]> In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part two focuses on “Supposed to’s” and explored examples of these things/how these things show up in Chelsea and Heather’s relationship. Just like in part one, this episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Supposed to’s”.

Resources:

  • The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
  • “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
  • The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
  • Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
  • The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
  • The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

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]]> Buzzsprout-12309827 Wed, 22 Feb 2023 21:00:00 -0500 2620 1 9 full true No Sorry's, Should's or Supposed to's Part One No Sorry's, Should's or Supposed to's Part One In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part one focuses on an overview of these ideas and then talking more specifically on "Sorry" and  "Should". This episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Should's" and apologizing unnecessarily. 

Resources:

  • The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
  • “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
  • The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
  • Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
  • The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
  • The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron


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]]> In this episode, Chelsea and Heather focus on a common therapy saying of Heather's which calls attention to times people apologize for things they do not need to, "should" on themselves, or find themselves holding themselves to expectations they don't have to meet. Part one focuses on an overview of these ideas and then talking more specifically on "Sorry" and  "Should". This episode includes listener responses of what they struggle with in regards to "Should's" and apologizing unnecessarily. 

Resources:

  • The five apology languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language
  • “We Can do Hard Things” podcast 
  • The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
  • Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
  • The Journal of Radical Permission by adrienne maree brown and Sonya Renee Taylor
  • The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron


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]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-12199050 Mon, 06 Feb 2023 21:00:00 -0500 3593 1 8 full true Nice v. Kind Part Two Nice v. Kind Part Two In Part Two of exploring nice v. kind we focus on macro (big picture, systemic) applications of the same ideas such as the concept of "nice white women". Amy the Magnanimous joins us once again to share her experiences of noticing how nice v. kind comes out in policy, politics and advocacy. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

https://medium.com/@realtalkwocandallies/when-white-women-practice-the-politics-of-polite-the-violence-of-nice-a7f2c167bb2e

https://nonprofitaf.com/2021/01/21-signs-you-or-your-organization-may-be-the-white-moderate-dr-king-warned-about/


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]]> In Part Two of exploring nice v. kind we focus on macro (big picture, systemic) applications of the same ideas such as the concept of "nice white women". Amy the Magnanimous joins us once again to share her experiences of noticing how nice v. kind comes out in policy, politics and advocacy. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman

https://medium.com/@realtalkwocandallies/when-white-women-practice-the-politics-of-polite-the-violence-of-nice-a7f2c167bb2e

https://nonprofitaf.com/2021/01/21-signs-you-or-your-organization-may-be-the-white-moderate-dr-king-warned-about/


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]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-12097322 Sun, 22 Jan 2023 20:00:00 -0500 2220 1 7 full true Nice v. Kind Part One Nice v. Kind Part One Featuring special guest Amy the Magnanimous. In the first episode focusing on nice v. kind we go a bit deeper into the “why” begins the podcast’s name and how nice and kind are different and ways they show up in life, including in our friendship. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman


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]]> Featuring special guest Amy the Magnanimous. In the first episode focusing on nice v. kind we go a bit deeper into the “why” begins the podcast’s name and how nice and kind are different and ways they show up in life, including in our friendship. 

Resources:

https://www.blackburncenter.org/amp/nice-vs-kind-why-does-it-matter

https://www.dartmouth.edu/wellness/emotional/rakhealthfacts.pdf

https://thepleasantmind.com/nice-vs-kind/

Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman


Music by EColins on Audio Jungle

]]> Buzzsprout-12010112 Mon, 09 Jan 2023 15:00:00 -0500 4277 1 6 full true Enneagram Part Two Enneagram Part Two Heather and Chelsea continue to talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast. This episode continues an overview, looking at triads, subtypes and countertypes. Then the focus shifts to how the enneagram is used and comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/


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]]> Heather and Chelsea continue to talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast. This episode continues an overview, looking at triads, subtypes and countertypes. Then the focus shifts to how the enneagram is used and comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/


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]]> Buzzsprout-11939821 Wed, 28 Dec 2022 08:00:00 -0500 4046 1 5 full true Enneagram Part One Enneagram Part One Another foundation episode. Heather and Chelsea talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast due to the frequency of which it will likely come up in the future. Buckle in for this "brief" overview. Heather and Chelsea spend this episode reflecting on how their weeks have been and beginning by introducing the enneagram for anyone who may be new (or not!) to the concept. Tune in next time for more specifics about the Enneagram and how it comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/

More resources and sources to come...


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]]> Another foundation episode. Heather and Chelsea talk the enneagram as a foundation to their podcast due to the frequency of which it will likely come up in the future. Buckle in for this "brief" overview. Heather and Chelsea spend this episode reflecting on how their weeks have been and beginning by introducing the enneagram for anyone who may be new (or not!) to the concept. Tune in next time for more specifics about the Enneagram and how it comes up in Chelsea and Heather's relationship. 

Sources and Resources:

The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut
The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up by Beatrice Chestnut
The HONEST Enneagram by  Sara Jane Case
The Enneagram Institute (specifically the relationship paring descriptions)
The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram by Sandra Maitri
Michael Shahan: https://www.instagram.com/michaelshahan_therapy/

More resources and sources to come...


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]]> Buzzsprout-11861655 Mon, 12 Dec 2022 21:00:00 -0500 2725 1 4 full true Minisode 1: Boundaries 1.5 Minisode 1: Boundaries 1.5 In our first minisode we cover common barriers to setting boundaries- basically what gets in the way of people setting boundaries. We cover lots of things for such a short amount of time, such as fear of abandonment, not being able to risk the fallout, avoiding disappointment, and cognitive distortions like jumping to conclusions (or mind reading).


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]]> In our first minisode we cover common barriers to setting boundaries- basically what gets in the way of people setting boundaries. We cover lots of things for such a short amount of time, such as fear of abandonment, not being able to risk the fallout, avoiding disappointment, and cognitive distortions like jumping to conclusions (or mind reading).


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]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-11783436 Tue, 29 Nov 2022 14:00:00 -0500 1101 1 2 bonus true Boundaries Part 2 Boundaries Part 2 And the boundaries conversation continues. If this is your first time finding the podcast, I recommend listening to Boundaries Part 1 as well as the minisode Boundaries 1.5 before this episode. But also, feel free to live your life and do what you want to do. In this episode Heather walks us through four main tools for navigating creating/negotiating boundaries. We then both discuss things that help these four main tools more effective and successful. Lastly, we share some examples from our relationship of times we have used boundaries/navigated potentially difficult situations by using and sticking to our boundaries. 

Resources:
Assertiveness Inventory: https://www.psychotherapy.net/data/fe/file/Assert_Invent(5).pdf
"The Assertiveness Guide for women" by Julie de Azevedo Hanks (book)
"Set Boundaries Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab (book)
"The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban (book)
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie
Hailey Paige Magee on instagram:
 https://www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee/
Brene Brown's SFD technique:
 https://brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Integration-Ideas_Rising-Strong_092221-1.pdf


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]]> And the boundaries conversation continues. If this is your first time finding the podcast, I recommend listening to Boundaries Part 1 as well as the minisode Boundaries 1.5 before this episode. But also, feel free to live your life and do what you want to do. In this episode Heather walks us through four main tools for navigating creating/negotiating boundaries. We then both discuss things that help these four main tools more effective and successful. Lastly, we share some examples from our relationship of times we have used boundaries/navigated potentially difficult situations by using and sticking to our boundaries. 

Resources:
Assertiveness Inventory: https://www.psychotherapy.net/data/fe/file/Assert_Invent(5).pdf
"The Assertiveness Guide for women" by Julie de Azevedo Hanks (book)
"Set Boundaries Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab (book)
"The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban (book)
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie
Hailey Paige Magee on instagram:
 https://www.instagram.com/haileypaigemagee/
Brene Brown's SFD technique:
 https://brenebrown.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/Integration-Ideas_Rising-Strong_092221-1.pdf


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]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-11778073 Mon, 28 Nov 2022 21:00:00 -0500 4324 1 3 full true Boundaries part 1 Boundaries part 1 We had a hard time knowing where to go next after starting and decided upon boundaries because it's such an important part of life, but in particular within our friendship and it's the foundation of a lot of future topics. In this episode we talk about a definition of boundaries, how you can tell when you may need to re-evaluate your boundaries, and times/situations that you may need boundaries.  We also almost fail at our podcast structure the first time we are supposed to use it (ha!) 


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]]> We had a hard time knowing where to go next after starting and decided upon boundaries because it's such an important part of life, but in particular within our friendship and it's the foundation of a lot of future topics. In this episode we talk about a definition of boundaries, how you can tell when you may need to re-evaluate your boundaries, and times/situations that you may need boundaries.  We also almost fail at our podcast structure the first time we are supposed to use it (ha!) 


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]]> F*ck N*ce Buzzsprout-11651343 Mon, 07 Nov 2022 21:00:00 -0500 3855 1 2 full true Kickoff Episode Kickoff Episode Welcome to F*ck N*ce! 
In today's episode we cover how Heather and Chelsea met and became friends, what we intend to do with this podcast, the idea behind the name, and some insight into our structure.  With lots of story telling and tangents as is to be expected with us. Welcome aboard for our adventure of using our relationship to talk about, teach about and explore relational self-awareness. 

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]]> Welcome to F*ck N*ce! 
In today's episode we cover how Heather and Chelsea met and became friends, what we intend to do with this podcast, the idea behind the name, and some insight into our structure.  With lots of story telling and tangents as is to be expected with us. Welcome aboard for our adventure of using our relationship to talk about, teach about and explore relational self-awareness. 

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]]> Fuck Nice Buzzsprout-11473124 Mon, 10 Oct 2022 14:00:00 -0400 3433 1 1 full true