Trandescendant Mon, 12 Oct 2026 10:07:33 -0400 https://trandescendant.buzzsprout.com en-us © 2026 Trandescendant yes Support this Podcast a6470965-38c6-52b4-b355-fcc2ae9f45dd trandescendant@gmail.com Trandescendant Podcast episodic false Father/daughter duo, Joe and Rya, discuss LGBTQ family issues and how to preserve positive relationships

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Trandescendant Podcast trandescendant@gmail.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/wqphh8obqmtxv5u23a3oooi8jr4r?.jpg Trandescendant https://trandescendant.buzzsprout.com Joe Jones Rya Jones Finding God After the Church Turned Them Away Finding God After the Church Turned Them Away What do you do when the people who promised to take you in close the door? A local pastor and youth director spent six months planning their youth group's mission trip. After driving the whole day in the bus, they learned they were not welcome. Why? Because the youth group included LGBTQ kids. With nowhere safe to stay, they had to decide whether to go home or keep going. What happened next surprised everyone, including them. Sometimes you only discover God's welcome after a door has been slammed in your face.

If you're an LGBTQ young person and your church, school or family hasn't been a safe place for you, you deserve people in your corner. The Trevor Project offers free support from trained counselors 24/7. Call 1-866-488-7386, text START to 678-678, or chat at thetrevorproject.org. Trans Lifeline is peer support run by and for trans people at 877-565-8860, weekdays from 1 to 9 PM Eastern. If you're in immediate danger, call 911. 

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]]> What do you do when the people who promised to take you in close the door? A local pastor and youth director spent six months planning their youth group's mission trip. After driving the whole day in the bus, they learned they were not welcome. Why? Because the youth group included LGBTQ kids. With nowhere safe to stay, they had to decide whether to go home or keep going. What happened next surprised everyone, including them. Sometimes you only discover God's welcome after a door has been slammed in your face.

If you're an LGBTQ young person and your church, school or family hasn't been a safe place for you, you deserve people in your corner. The Trevor Project offers free support from trained counselors 24/7. Call 1-866-488-7386, text START to 678-678, or chat at thetrevorproject.org. Trans Lifeline is peer support run by and for trans people at 877-565-8860, weekdays from 1 to 9 PM Eastern. If you're in immediate danger, call 911. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19922560 Mon, 12 Oct 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1690 LGBTQ youth, affirming church, mission trip, youth group, trans youth, queer Christians, faith and LGBTQ, Christian hospitality, LGBTQ allies, parents of LGBTQ kids, church welcome, Lutheran 5 6 full false Coming Out: What No One Ever Tells You Coming Out: What No One Ever Tells You You might think coming out is one brave conversation and then it is over. That framing sets you up to be blindsided by everything that comes after. Nobody warns you that you will have to come out again for the rest of your life. Rya describes what she wishes someone had handed her before she came out, and Joe fills in the part only a parent can see.

National Coming Out Day is Sunday, October 11, 2026.

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National Coming Out Day is Sunday, October 11, 2026.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19782809 Mon, 05 Oct 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1998 coming out, National Coming Out Day, LGBTQ, transgender, coming out as trans, coming out story, LGBTQ family, parents of LGBTQ kids, supporting a trans child, father daughter podcast, LGBTQ advice, queer identity 5 5 full false Without Hope There is No Tomorrow Without Hope There is No Tomorrow Think about the person who gave you hope when you needed it most. Somebody did. Maybe they said one sentence and never knew it mattered. Harvey Milk built an entire movement on it at a time when hope was in very short supply. Joe and Rya trace what happens to people when hope runs out, and what it takes to put it back. Is there someone in your life right now who needs the hope you were given?

This episode discusses hopelessness and suicide. If you are struggling, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by call or text at 988. LGBTQ+ callers can press 3, or reach the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or by texting START to 678-678. Trans Lifeline, staffed entirely by trans people, is at 877-565-8860. 

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]]> Think about the person who gave you hope when you needed it most. Somebody did. Maybe they said one sentence and never knew it mattered. Harvey Milk built an entire movement on it at a time when hope was in very short supply. Joe and Rya trace what happens to people when hope runs out, and what it takes to put it back. Is there someone in your life right now who needs the hope you were given?

This episode discusses hopelessness and suicide. If you are struggling, the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by call or text at 988. LGBTQ+ callers can press 3, or reach the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or by texting START to 678-678. Trans Lifeline, staffed entirely by trans people, is at 877-565-8860. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19634870 Mon, 28 Sep 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1736 Harvey Milk, hope, LGBTQ history, coming out, gay rights movement, Proposition 6, LGBTQ family support, allies, transgender, mental health, suicide prevention, Anita Bryant, father daughter podcast, LGBTQ podcast, Castro San Francisco 5 4 full false Loving Your LGBTQ Child Is A Behavior, Not A Feeling Loving Your LGBTQ Child Is A Behavior, Not A Feeling When his daughter came out, Joe suggested she dress at home and go back to being someone else the moment she stepped outside. He thought he was keeping her safe. Years later, researchers have put numbers to what those compromises do to a young person, and the numbers are hard to look at. They have the difference down to a list of ordinary, specific behaviors. A parent can love a child completely and still land on the wrong side of that list. And most who do believe they are protecting. Nobody has to finish working out what they believe before they start showing love in regular, simple ways.

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]]> When his daughter came out, Joe suggested she dress at home and go back to being someone else the moment she stepped outside. He thought he was keeping her safe. Years later, researchers have put numbers to what those compromises do to a young person, and the numbers are hard to look at. They have the difference down to a list of ordinary, specific behaviors. A parent can love a child completely and still land on the wrong side of that list. And most who do believe they are protecting. Nobody has to finish working out what they believe before they start showing love in regular, simple ways.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19709321 Mon, 21 Sep 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1924 LGBTQ, family acceptance, coming out, parenting LGBTQ kids, gay child, transgender child, Christian parents LGBTQ, family rejection, LGBTQ youth mental health, affirming parents, father daughter, LGBTQ family relationships 5 3 full false How LGBTQ Media Portrayals Have Both Helped and Hurt Us How LGBTQ Media Portrayals Have Both Helped and Hurt Us You have probably felt the pull in both directions. Seeing a queer character on screen for the first time can change what a young person believes is possible for their own life. Watching that same character get written off as a punchline can undo years of careful conversation with a parent who was almost there. So which is it? It's often both. Knowing how to tell the difference is the part nobody hands you. Joe and Rya work through what makes representation land well or poorly. If you have ever sat in a living room watching a scene go sideways and had no idea whether to speak up or let it pass, this is the one to hear.

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]]> You have probably felt the pull in both directions. Seeing a queer character on screen for the first time can change what a young person believes is possible for their own life. Watching that same character get written off as a punchline can undo years of careful conversation with a parent who was almost there. So which is it? It's often both. Knowing how to tell the difference is the part nobody hands you. Joe and Rya work through what makes representation land well or poorly. If you have ever sat in a living room watching a scene go sideways and had no idea whether to speak up or let it pass, this is the one to hear.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19674714 Mon, 14 Sep 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1880 LGBTQ representation, LGBTQ media, trans representation, queer representation in media, LGBTQ allies, parents of LGBTQ kids, LGBTQ family, media portrayals, bury your gays, LGBTQ visibility, supporting trans family, LGBTQ podcast 5 2 full false I Feared Coming Out More Than Death I Feared Coming Out More Than Death What does it actually feel like to be so afraid of coming out as LGBTQ+ that dying starts to look like the reasonable option? Rya lived it. These are her real journal entries from 2014, read aloud for the first time, written during the two years she spent bargaining with God over whether she could survive being herself. If you love a gay or transgender person who is still in the closet, you will hear what they cannot tell you. If you are queer and hiding, you will hear your own thoughts in another person's handwriting. This is one person's story of what it cost, and how she made it through to find hope again.

Content warning: this episode contains detailed discussion of suicidal thoughts and one attempt. Please take care of yourself while listening.

If you are struggling, help is available. Call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Trans Lifeline, staffed by and for trans people, is 1-877-565-8860. The Trevor Project, for LGBTQ+ young people under 25, is 1-866-488-7386.

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]]> What does it actually feel like to be so afraid of coming out as LGBTQ+ that dying starts to look like the reasonable option? Rya lived it. These are her real journal entries from 2014, read aloud for the first time, written during the two years she spent bargaining with God over whether she could survive being herself. If you love a gay or transgender person who is still in the closet, you will hear what they cannot tell you. If you are queer and hiding, you will hear your own thoughts in another person's handwriting. This is one person's story of what it cost, and how she made it through to find hope again.

Content warning: this episode contains detailed discussion of suicidal thoughts and one attempt. Please take care of yourself while listening.

If you are struggling, help is available. Call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Trans Lifeline, staffed by and for trans people, is 1-877-565-8860. The Trevor Project, for LGBTQ+ young people under 25, is 1-866-488-7386.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19745573 Mon, 07 Sep 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2517 coming out, LGBTQ, transgender, trans, queer, coming out of the closet, suicide prevention, mental health, 988, faith and sexuality, family, journals 5 1 full false Answering the Objective-Sounding Case Against Trans People Answering the Objective-Sounding Case Against Trans People It is possible to get everything wrong in a perfectly calm voice. Is it true that transgender people had the culture on their side until they pushed too far? Father and daughter, Joe and Rya answer the points one at a time, showing why claims that sound objective can be misleading. You are not wrong to have questions. But this is what it sounds like when the evidence presented gets fact-checked.

The video we respond to is Ken LaCorte's "What Killed the Transgender Movement?" (titled "Why Trans People Lost the Culture" at the time of recording): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9mxEmt4obg

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]]> It is possible to get everything wrong in a perfectly calm voice. Is it true that transgender people had the culture on their side until they pushed too far? Father and daughter, Joe and Rya answer the points one at a time, showing why claims that sound objective can be misleading. You are not wrong to have questions. But this is what it sounds like when the evidence presented gets fact-checked.

The video we respond to is Ken LaCorte's "What Killed the Transgender Movement?" (titled "Why Trans People Lost the Culture" at the time of recording): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9mxEmt4obg

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19501484 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1927 transgender, LGBTQ, transgender rights, anti trans talking points, gender affirming care, puberty blockers, trans athletes, Lia Thomas, rapid onset gender dysphoria, social contagion myth, Ken LaCorte, trans culture war 4 52 full false The Riot Before Stonewall: What Happened at Compton's Cafeteria The Riot Before Stonewall: What Happened at Compton's Cafeteria Most people know the name Stonewall. Almost nobody knows what happened three years earlier in a San Francisco cafeteria. In 1966 the word transgender did not exist yet. Joe and Rya follow the trail from a church basement to the local diner where queens finally stood up to the bullies. History nearly lost this story, and that is exactly why it is worth reclaiming.

On the thumbnail: Nearly every photograph of Compton's Cafeteria is under copyright, so we could not use one. This thumbnail was made with ChatGPT. We generally steer clear of AI art, but Edward Hopper's Nighthawks restaged with the queens of the Tenderloin District in the window was too good to pass up.

One correction: In the episode, we say that nothing earlier than Compton's was documented. That is inaccurate. The Dewey's lunch counter sit-in in Philadelphia came first in April 1965, and the Black Nite brawl happened in Milwaukee, in 1961. There are also accounts of a riot at Cooper Do-nuts in Los Angeles in 1959, though that one is thinly sourced. Compton's is still among the earliest and by far the largest. We are learning this history right along with you.

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]]> Most people know the name Stonewall. Almost nobody knows what happened three years earlier in a San Francisco cafeteria. In 1966 the word transgender did not exist yet. Joe and Rya follow the trail from a church basement to the local diner where queens finally stood up to the bullies. History nearly lost this story, and that is exactly why it is worth reclaiming.

On the thumbnail: Nearly every photograph of Compton's Cafeteria is under copyright, so we could not use one. This thumbnail was made with ChatGPT. We generally steer clear of AI art, but Edward Hopper's Nighthawks restaged with the queens of the Tenderloin District in the window was too good to pass up.

One correction: In the episode, we say that nothing earlier than Compton's was documented. That is inaccurate. The Dewey's lunch counter sit-in in Philadelphia came first in April 1965, and the Black Nite brawl happened in Milwaukee, in 1961. There are also accounts of a riot at Cooper Do-nuts in Los Angeles in 1959, though that one is thinly sourced. Compton's is still among the earliest and by far the largest. We are learning this history right along with you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19461981 Mon, 24 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1681 TAGS: Compton's Cafeteria riot, transgender history, LGBTQ history, before Stonewall, trans rights, drag queens, San Francisco Tenderloin, 1966 uprising, queer history, LGBTQ allies, transgender resistance, father daughter podcast 4 51 full false Advocating For Your LGBTQ Kid Before Trouble Starts Advocating For Your LGBTQ Kid Before Trouble Starts Most parents call the school after something has already gone wrong. By then you are negotiating from behind. The teacher who could have been your ally has already built their own explanation for your kid, and nobody handed them the real one. There is another version of this. You go first, before anyone is upset, and you hand the school the things only you know. Joe and Rya walk through what to say and who to say it to, starting long before you need it. The parents who get the best results are not the ones with the loudest voice in the principal's office. They are the ones who never had to raise it.

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]]> Most parents call the school after something has already gone wrong. By then you are negotiating from behind. The teacher who could have been your ally has already built their own explanation for your kid, and nobody handed them the real one. There is another version of this. You go first, before anyone is upset, and you hand the school the things only you know. Joe and Rya walk through what to say and who to say it to, starting long before you need it. The parents who get the best results are not the ones with the loudest voice in the principal's office. They are the ones who never had to raise it.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19501231 Mon, 17 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2159 LGBTQ parenting, school advocacy, back to school, LGBTQ students, transgender kids, parent teacher communication, ally parents, parenting advice, school bullying, coming out at school, teaching self advocacy, LGBTQ family 4 50 full false The Person Who Sent This To You Wants You In Their Life The Person Who Sent This To You Wants You In Their Life Somebody was probably nervous to send you this link. Nothing here asks you to change your mind. This episode is a conversation between an LGBTQ child and her father, talking about how to stay close to someone you are not going to agree with. Joe and Rya have been doing it for eleven years. If the arguing has cost more than it has won you, that is worth twenty-five minutes.

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]]> Somebody was probably nervous to send you this link. Nothing here asks you to change your mind. This episode is a conversation between an LGBTQ child and her father, talking about how to stay close to someone you are not going to agree with. Joe and Rya have been doing it for eleven years. If the arguing has cost more than it has won you, that is worth twenty-five minutes.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19607106 Mon, 10 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1564 LGBTQ family relationships, faith and sexuality, evangelical, transgender Christian, parenting an LGBTQ child, Preston Sprinkle, Mark Yarhouse, Sam Allberry, church and LGBTQ, disagreeing without division, coming out to family, father daughter podcast 4 49 full false He Tried to Marry the Gay Away He Tried to Marry the Gay Away Content note: This episode includes a personal account of suicidal thoughts and a suicide attempt. If you are struggling, you can reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 in the US, any time.

What do you do when the life you built is wrong? Jess Betts-Nelson chased the marriage, the four kids, the business and the white picket fence for nine years. But you can't marry your way out of who you are. If you are in that same bargain, telling yourself to try a little harder, Jess knows exactly how you're feeling. He has something to say to you from the other side of it. 

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What do you do when the life you built is wrong? Jess Betts-Nelson chased the marriage, the four kids, the business and the white picket fence for nine years. But you can't marry your way out of who you are. If you are in that same bargain, telling yourself to try a little harder, Jess knows exactly how you're feeling. He has something to say to you from the other side of it. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19434215 Mon, 03 Aug 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1641 Jess Betts-Nelson, coming out story, gay married man, mixed orientation marriage, coming out later in life, LGBTQ podcast, rural LGBTQ, small town gay, coming out to family, living authentically, self acceptance, Trandescendant 4 48 full false Do This When You Can't Agree Do This When You Can't Agree When someone you love disagrees with you about LGBTQ issues, faith, or politics, there is a better way through than fighting. It starts with knowing the difference between a person seeking understanding and a person seeking victory. Learn to tell the two apart and stop wasting your heart on conversations that were never going to move. Most of us were never taught how to do this. There is another way, and it just might save a relationship you were starting to give up on.

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]]> When someone you love disagrees with you about LGBTQ issues, faith, or politics, there is a better way through than fighting. It starts with knowing the difference between a person seeking understanding and a person seeking victory. Learn to tell the two apart and stop wasting your heart on conversations that were never going to move. Most of us were never taught how to do this. There is another way, and it just might save a relationship you were starting to give up on.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19364752 Mon, 27 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1765 LGBTQ, transgender, bad faith arguments, difficult conversations, family relationships, faith and sexuality, parenting LGBTQ kids, how to disagree, preserving relationships, allyship, religion and LGBTQ, communication skills 4 47 full false The Man King David Couldn't Stop Loving The Man King David Couldn't Stop Loving Have you ever loved someone you could not talk yourself out of, no matter how much simpler life would have been if you could? King David knew that feeling. Joe and Rya look at the famous Bible story with fresh eyes, asking whether David was actually bisexual. LGBTQ+ readers may meet an ancestor right in the pages of the Bible. You will never read this story the same way again.

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]]> Have you ever loved someone you could not talk yourself out of, no matter how much simpler life would have been if you could? King David knew that feeling. Joe and Rya look at the famous Bible story with fresh eyes, asking whether David was actually bisexual. LGBTQ+ readers may meet an ancestor right in the pages of the Bible. You will never read this story the same way again.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19394079 Mon, 20 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1763 King David, David and Jonathan, Bible and homosexuality, was King David gay, bisexual in the Bible, queer theology, LGBTQ Christian, affirming theology, gay Christian, queer Bible interpretation, faith and sexuality, David and Jonathan love story 4 46 full false Answering the Hardest Questions Skeptics Ask About LGBTQ+ Issues Answering the Hardest Questions Skeptics Ask About LGBTQ+ Issues Maybe you have a question you stopped asking out loud, because the last time you tried you got corrected on your wording or treated like the enemy. So here is something rare. Someone willing to take your hardest objection and build it stronger than you could, then give it an honest answer instead of a script. Rya spent years as a conservative evangelical pastor who held the skeptic's case and preached it from the pulpit. She has not forgotten how it sounds from the inside. She and Joe pick up the questions people are most afraid to ask and give them a fair hearing, no scolding and no spin.

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]]> Maybe you have a question you stopped asking out loud, because the last time you tried you got corrected on your wording or treated like the enemy. So here is something rare. Someone willing to take your hardest objection and build it stronger than you could, then give it an honest answer instead of a script. Rya spent years as a conservative evangelical pastor who held the skeptic's case and preached it from the pulpit. She has not forgotten how it sounds from the inside. She and Joe pick up the questions people are most afraid to ask and give them a fair hearing, no scolding and no spin.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19328974 Mon, 13 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1845 LGBTQ podcast, transgender, former pastor, faith and sexuality, Christianity and LGBTQ, skeptic questions, bridge building, family acceptance, coming out, parents of LGBTQ kids, affirming faith, respectful dialogue 4 45 full false Behaviors That Help and Those That Harm Your LGBTQ Child Behaviors That Help and Those That Harm Your LGBTQ Child What if the most important thing you do for your child has nothing to do with whether you understand them yet? Loving someone well doesn't have to mean you agree with everything they do. You only have to be good at the first part. Joe and Rya show how small, everyday choices pull a child closer or push them farther away. The one thing you cannot afford to lose is the relationship itself. Your child does not need a perfect parent. They need you.

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]]> What if the most important thing you do for your child has nothing to do with whether you understand them yet? Loving someone well doesn't have to mean you agree with everything they do. You only have to be good at the first part. Joe and Rya show how small, everyday choices pull a child closer or push them farther away. The one thing you cannot afford to lose is the relationship itself. Your child does not need a perfect parent. They need you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19291503 Mon, 06 Jul 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2048 LGBTQ family, parenting LGBTQ child, family acceptance, supporting transgender child, LGBTQ parenting advice, family acceptance project, accepting LGBTQ child, conservative Christian parents LGBTQ, parents of transgender child, LGBTQ mental health 4 44 full false Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: She Followed the Law. It Almost Put Her In Jail. Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: She Followed the Law. It Almost Put Her In Jail. Kris Ripper changed the gender marker on her license because Kansas law required it. Then a rainy night traffic stop over her headlights turned into a ten minute interrogation and the threat of jail time, all for doing exactly what the state told her to. Joe and Rya trace how a law sold as making IDs accurate for police did the exact opposite the first time it met the real world, and ask the question underneath it: what are these laws actually protecting when obeying them is what puts you in danger?

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]]> Kris Ripper changed the gender marker on her license because Kansas law required it. Then a rainy night traffic stop over her headlights turned into a ten minute interrogation and the threat of jail time, all for doing exactly what the state told her to. Joe and Rya trace how a law sold as making IDs accurate for police did the exact opposite the first time it met the real world, and ask the question underneath it: what are these laws actually protecting when obeying them is what puts you in danger?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19433787 Wed, 01 Jul 2026 18:00:00 -0500 304 Kris Ripper, Kansas SB 244, transgender drivers license, Kansas anti-trans law, Kris Kobach, gender marker law, trans news 2026, LGBTQ podcast, transgender rights, trans woman, Kansas, Joe and Rya Take Five, Trandescendant 4 full false Voices of 2026 Pride Voices of 2026 Pride What does it feel like to walk into a place where you finally get to stop explaining yourself? For a lot of people, that place is Pride. This time the microphone belongs to the community itself, real voices recorded right there at the festival. A woman who came out the day she met her wife. A mom who accepted her kid without a second's hesitation. A drag performer in seven layers of tights and a whole lot of heart. Some were standing at their very first Pride. Others have long since lost count. And if you have ever wanted to go but felt too scared to walk through the door, these are the people who will tell you that you already belong. Come hear what is waiting on the other side of the fear.

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]]> What does it feel like to walk into a place where you finally get to stop explaining yourself? For a lot of people, that place is Pride. This time the microphone belongs to the community itself, real voices recorded right there at the festival. A woman who came out the day she met her wife. A mom who accepted her kid without a second's hesitation. A drag performer in seven layers of tights and a whole lot of heart. Some were standing at their very first Pride. Others have long since lost count. And if you have ever wanted to go but felt too scared to walk through the door, these are the people who will tell you that you already belong. Come hear what is waiting on the other side of the fear.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19415950 Mon, 29 Jun 2026 10:00:00 -0500 2084 Pride, LGBTQ podcast, coming out stories, Pride festival, trans community, drag performers, allies, parents of LGBTQ kids, found family, queer community, first Pride, LGBTQ acceptance 4 43 full false Unexpected Gifts of Being LGBTQ+ Unexpected Gifts of Being LGBTQ+ Most stories about being LGBTQ+ start with what it costs. But ask a queer person if they'd trade it, and most won't. The road that demands so much also gives so much back. And the gifts are not small. You may be carrying something you once wished you could give away, only to discover it became the very thing that made your life worth living.

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]]> Most stories about being LGBTQ+ start with what it costs. But ask a queer person if they'd trade it, and most won't. The road that demands so much also gives so much back. And the gifts are not small. You may be carrying something you once wished you could give away, only to discover it became the very thing that made your life worth living.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19251975 Mon, 22 Jun 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2029 LGBTQ podcast, Pride Month, queer identity, LGBTQ family, coming out stories, chosen family, transgender life, LGBTQ allies, queer joy, LGBTQ self-discovery, faith and sexuality, LGBTQ community 4 42 full false Pride Has Won and Pride Has Failed Pride Has Won and Pride Has Failed Stonewall was a riot, not a parade. Fifty-seven years later, that fact still shapes every argument about what Pride should be. The people inside the LGBTQ+ community disagree more than you might think. A gay man who fought for marriage equality says the work is done. A trans woman says the backlash proves visibility still matters. A queer author says corporate Pride sold the movement out. All three trace their position back to the same 1969 riot. Hearing where they land changes what you might notice this June.

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]]> Stonewall was a riot, not a parade. Fifty-seven years later, that fact still shapes every argument about what Pride should be. The people inside the LGBTQ+ community disagree more than you might think. A gay man who fought for marriage equality says the work is done. A trans woman says the backlash proves visibility still matters. A queer author says corporate Pride sold the movement out. All three trace their position back to the same 1969 riot. Hearing where they land changes what you might notice this June.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19225298 Mon, 15 Jun 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2023 pride month, LGBTQ podcast, Stonewall, gay rights history, transgender rights, LGBTQ allies, Andrew Sullivan, Laverne Cox, Sarah Schulman, marriage equality, queer history, LGBTQ family 4 41 full false The One Practice That Makes Hard Things Easier and Good Things Better The One Practice That Makes Hard Things Easier and Good Things Better Some relationships feel harder than they should be. The conversations that used to flow now feel careful. The distance keeps quietly growing. Most advice tells you to talk it out, set boundaries, communicate better, pick the right words. But what if the most important thing you could do has nothing to do with conversation skills at all? One single practice has been studied in depth, and it might be the single most underused tool for keeping the people you love close.

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]]> Some relationships feel harder than they should be. The conversations that used to flow now feel careful. The distance keeps quietly growing. Most advice tells you to talk it out, set boundaries, communicate better, pick the right words. But what if the most important thing you could do has nothing to do with conversation skills at all? One single practice has been studied in depth, and it might be the single most underused tool for keeping the people you love close.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19138493 Mon, 08 Jun 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1969 LGBTQ family, family relationships, queer family, building connection, relationship advice, shared meals, hospitality, bridging differences, accepting but not affirming, communication, faith and family, communion 4 40 full false The Transgender Millionaire You've Never Heard Of The Transgender Millionaire You've Never Heard Of Reed Erickson used his fortune to quietly build the foundation of transgender healthcare in America. The first gender clinic at Johns Hopkins Hospital existed because of his funding. So do many of the medical pathways trans people still rely on today. He was eccentric, generous, problematic, and absolutely essential. Joe and Rya kick off Pride Month by getting to know an ancestor of the transgender community. Sometimes family is a little strange, and that's exactly the point.

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]]> Reed Erickson used his fortune to quietly build the foundation of transgender healthcare in America. The first gender clinic at Johns Hopkins Hospital existed because of his funding. So do many of the medical pathways trans people still rely on today. He was eccentric, generous, problematic, and absolutely essential. Joe and Rya kick off Pride Month by getting to know an ancestor of the transgender community. Sometimes family is a little strange, and that's exactly the point.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19174597 Mon, 01 Jun 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1846 trans history, transgender history, LGBTQ history, pride month, transgender healthcare, gender clinic, Johns Hopkins, Reed Erickson, Harry Benjamin, LGBTQ podcast, trans pioneer, queer history, transgender millionaire, trans healthcare access, LGBTQ famil 4 39 full true How to Actually Change Someone's Mind About LGBTQ+ Issues How to Actually Change Someone's Mind About LGBTQ+ Issues At some time in your life, you've probably tried to convince someone that LGBTQ+ people deserve respect and equality. You presented facts, you raised your voice, and you walked away more frustrated than when you started. It's so easy to assume the worst about people who disagree. What if there was a better way? If you've ever wanted to reach someone on the other side of the LGBTQ+ conversation but didn't know how, this one's for you.

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]]> At some time in your life, you've probably tried to convince someone that LGBTQ+ people deserve respect and equality. You presented facts, you raised your voice, and you walked away more frustrated than when you started. It's so easy to assume the worst about people who disagree. What if there was a better way? If you've ever wanted to reach someone on the other side of the LGBTQ+ conversation but didn't know how, this one's for you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18942626 Mon, 25 May 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1852 LGBTQ family acceptance, changing minds about LGBTQ, how to talk to anti-LGBTQ family, LGBTQ conversation tips, transgender acceptance, fundamental attribution error, LGBTQ relationships, how to convince someone about LGBTQ rights, LGBTQ ally advice, fami 4 38 full false Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: Watertown LGBTQ School Board Scandal Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: Watertown LGBTQ School Board Scandal Students rehearsed Omar Thomas's "A Mother of a Revolution" for months. Then their school board banned it. Joe and Rya unpack the Watertown Wisconsin controversy that's now national news and ask the real question underneath it: can honoring LGBTQ history be considered indoctrination when the music has no words? 

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]]> Trandescend Podcast Buzzsprout-19214238 Wed, 20 May 2026 21:00:00 -0500 391 Marsha P Johnson, Omar Thomas, A Mother of a Revolution, Watertown Wisconsin, LGBTQ, trans rights, school board, censorship, Stonewall, music censorship, Trandescendant, Take Five 4 full false The Bible's Famous Marriage Vow Is Quietly Queer The Bible's Famous Marriage Vow Is Quietly Queer You probably know the words "Where you go, I will go." Maybe you've heard them at a wedding. What most people don't realize is that this famous wedding vow was spoken in the Bible between two women, and the book it comes from is queer in ways most readers miss. Joe and Rya walk through the story of Ruth and Naomi and find one of the most quietly affirming stories in scripture for anyone who has ever built family from love rather than blood. The Bible isn't yelling. But sometimes the most important things aren't said loudly. 

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]]> You probably know the words "Where you go, I will go." Maybe you've heard them at a wedding. What most people don't realize is that this famous wedding vow was spoken in the Bible between two women, and the book it comes from is queer in ways most readers miss. Joe and Rya walk through the story of Ruth and Naomi and find one of the most quietly affirming stories in scripture for anyone who has ever built family from love rather than blood. The Bible isn't yelling. But sometimes the most important things aren't said loudly. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19101212 Mon, 18 May 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1950 LGBTQ podcast, queer Christianity, Ruth and Naomi, Bible and LGBTQ, queer theology, chosen family, faith and sexuality, affirming faith, queer Bible, transgender Christian, deconstruction, Pentecost, Shavuot, family acceptance 4 37 full false Avoid These 4 Toxic Patterns Before They Destroy Your Loving Family Avoid These 4 Toxic Patterns Before They Destroy Your Loving Family You love your family. But love alone does not protect a relationship from the patterns that tear families apart. Research shows that four specific toxic patterns can predict whether a relationship will survive or fall apart, and most people never see them coming. The good news is that once you can name them you can stop them. Joe and Rya walk through each of these four patterns and share practical ways to interrupt the cycle before it does real damage. Whether the conflict in your family is about politics or religion or identity or just what to have for dinner, you will walk away from this episode knowing exactly what to watch for and what to do instead. 

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]]> You love your family. But love alone does not protect a relationship from the patterns that tear families apart. Research shows that four specific toxic patterns can predict whether a relationship will survive or fall apart, and most people never see them coming. The good news is that once you can name them you can stop them. Joe and Rya walk through each of these four patterns and share practical ways to interrupt the cycle before it does real damage. Whether the conflict in your family is about politics or religion or identity or just what to have for dinner, you will walk away from this episode knowing exactly what to watch for and what to do instead. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19023965 Mon, 11 May 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2203 family conflict, toxic relationship patterns, John Gottman, four horsemen, family communication, LGBTQ family support, how to stop family fights, loving family, relationship repair, parent child conflict, stonewalling, family relationships 4 36 full false What We've Learned About Hard Family Conversations, 10,000 Downloads Later What We've Learned About Hard Family Conversations, 10,000 Downloads Later What does it actually take to hold a family together across a divide most people would call too wide? After over three years of conversations with parents, children, pastors, priests, scientists, scholars, and LGBTQ+ people from across the spectrum, Joe and Rya keep coming back to the same simple thing that saved their own relationship in its hardest moment. Whether you're a parent whose child just came out, an LGBTQ+ person trying to stay connected to a conservative family, or someone who thinks they don't know anyone this applies to yet, there's one frame here you can use in your own family tonight. 

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]]> What does it actually take to hold a family together across a divide most people would call too wide? After over three years of conversations with parents, children, pastors, priests, scientists, scholars, and LGBTQ+ people from across the spectrum, Joe and Rya keep coming back to the same simple thing that saved their own relationship in its hardest moment. Whether you're a parent whose child just came out, an LGBTQ+ person trying to stay connected to a conservative family, or someone who thinks they don't know anyone this applies to yet, there's one frame here you can use in your own family tonight. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19057067 Mon, 04 May 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1220 LGBTQ family support, transgender parent daughter, family relationships LGBTQ, hard conversations, parenting transgender child, conservative family LGBTQ, listening skills relationships, father daughter podcast, coming out support, LGBTQ allies 4 35 full false How Other People's Words Almost Destroyed Me How Other People's Words Almost Destroyed Me What if the voice telling you you're not good enough isn't even yours? Professional figure skater, Stef Vachon came out at 18 and thought the hard part was over. But years of bullying had already buried themselves so deep that freedom didn't feel like freedom. He walked away from his greatest passion and spent decades lost in anxiety, carrying shame that was never his to carry. Joe and Rya sit down with the host of the Together Moving Forward podcast to hear how he finally traced that shame back to where it came from and reclaimed everything he thought was gone for good.

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]]> What if the voice telling you you're not good enough isn't even yours? Professional figure skater, Stef Vachon came out at 18 and thought the hard part was over. But years of bullying had already buried themselves so deep that freedom didn't feel like freedom. He walked away from his greatest passion and spent decades lost in anxiety, carrying shame that was never his to carry. Joe and Rya sit down with the host of the Together Moving Forward podcast to hear how he finally traced that shame back to where it came from and reclaimed everything he thought was gone for good.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-19080976 Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1706 LGBTQ+ shame, internalized shame, childhood bullying, coming out story, gay men, figure skating, mental health recovery, LGBTQ+ healing, family acceptance, chosen family, LGBTQ+ podcast, queer identity, self-acceptance, Together Moving Forward podcast 4 34 full false How Small Town Allies Can Make a Big Impact How Small Town Allies Can Make a Big Impact You probably imagine the worst when you think about LGBTQ+ life in a small town. Rya lives in a Midwestern town of 1,300 people where she knows her neighbors knows their dog by name. Most people there just don't care that she's trans. They've got their own lives. But the real trade-offs are loneliness, few local resources, and feeling like the only queer person for miles. Joe and Rya share practical ways allies can make a real difference, from practicing pronouns to speaking up when it counts. 

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]]> You probably imagine the worst when you think about LGBTQ+ life in a small town. Rya lives in a Midwestern town of 1,300 people where she knows her neighbors knows their dog by name. Most people there just don't care that she's trans. They've got their own lives. But the real trade-offs are loneliness, few local resources, and feeling like the only queer person for miles. Joe and Rya share practical ways allies can make a real difference, from practicing pronouns to speaking up when it counts. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18980601 Mon, 20 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0500 2335 LGBTQ small town, transgender ally, small town allyship, LGBTQ rural, supporting transgender people, LGBTQ community, pronoun practice, transgender small town, LGBTQ allies, rural LGBTQ life, small town acceptance, transgender support 4 33 full true We Asked a Scientist If Being Gay Is Natural We Asked a Scientist If Being Gay Is Natural "Being gay is unnatural." If you've ever had someone throw that line at you in a conversation about LGBTQ+ people, you know how hard it is to respond in the moment. Do you have the facts to tell them why they are wrong? Dr. Pete Gasper, a veterinary scientist with over 20 years in biomedical research, reviewed the most current research and came back with an answer that leaves no room for doubt. Whether you're defending a loved one at the dinner table or just trying to arm yourself with the truth, this is the episode that gives you the confidence to respond. Once you know what science actually says, that argument loses all of its power.

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]]> "Being gay is unnatural." If you've ever had someone throw that line at you in a conversation about LGBTQ+ people, you know how hard it is to respond in the moment. Do you have the facts to tell them why they are wrong? Dr. Pete Gasper, a veterinary scientist with over 20 years in biomedical research, reviewed the most current research and came back with an answer that leaves no room for doubt. Whether you're defending a loved one at the dinner table or just trying to arm yourself with the truth, this is the episode that gives you the confidence to respond. Once you know what science actually says, that argument loses all of its power.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18942226 Mon, 13 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1609 LGBTQ science, is being gay natural, homosexuality in animals, LGBTQ myths debunked, gay animals, transgender in nature, LGBTQ acceptance, same-sex behavior animals, veterinary science LGBTQ, is homosexuality unnatural, LGBTQ family conversations, bonobos 4 32 full false A History of Cross-Dressing Laws A History of Cross-Dressing Laws In 1863, San Francisco made it a crime to wear clothing "not belonging to your sex," with a fine of up to $500. That and other laws gave police the power to arrest drag queens and anyone who didn't look "right." And while the specific statutes have mostly been struck down, the same logic lives on in bathroom bills and restrictions on legal gender recognition. After 163 years, why does the state still thinks it gets to decide what gender looks like?

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]]> In 1863, San Francisco made it a crime to wear clothing "not belonging to your sex," with a fine of up to $500. That and other laws gave police the power to arrest drag queens and anyone who didn't look "right." And while the specific statutes have mostly been struck down, the same logic lives on in bathroom bills and restrictions on legal gender recognition. After 163 years, why does the state still thinks it gets to decide what gender looks like?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18684604 Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1618 cross-dressing laws, transgender history, bathroom bills, LGBTQ rights, trans-misogyny, gender expression, drag ban, Susan Stryker, anti-drag legislation, queer history, gender nonconforming, family acceptance 4 31 full false The Bible Is Full of People Who Broke Gender Rules The Bible Is Full of People Who Broke Gender Rules If you've ever been told the Bible has no place for people like you, you're not alone. For many who don't fit neatly into male or female categories, scripture has been used as a weapon of exclusion. But what if that's not the whole story? Joe and Rya explore the biblical category of eunuch, people who broke gender rules and became some of scripture's most celebrated heroes. The arc they find moves from "you don't belong" to radical acceptance. You're not an afterthought. You never were.

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]]> If you've ever been told the Bible has no place for people like you, you're not alone. For many who don't fit neatly into male or female categories, scripture has been used as a weapon of exclusion. But what if that's not the whole story? Joe and Rya explore the biblical category of eunuch, people who broke gender rules and became some of scripture's most celebrated heroes. The arc they find moves from "you don't belong" to radical acceptance. You're not an afterthought. You never were.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18684031 Mon, 30 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1848 transgender, nonbinary, LGBTQ faith, Bible and gender, eunuch in the Bible, queer theology, LGBTQ Christian, trans affirming, gender identity, family acceptance, Transgender Day of Visibility, LGBTQ podcast, affirming church, Bible inclusion, queer Bible 4 30 full false The Stone Between Us: What Easter Teaches LGBTQ Families About New Life The Stone Between Us: What Easter Teaches LGBTQ Families About New Life There is a stone between you and someone you love. Maybe one of you placed it there out of fear that faith has no room for who the other is becoming. Or maybe the stone was placed by silence, weeks and months where the real conversation never happened and you both learned to live on opposite sides. The good news is that the stone was never meant to stay. Acceptance rarely happens one small rolled-away moment at a time. We look for the day when love walks out of the tomb and the family you were afraid you'd lost turns out to be more alive than ever.

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]]> There is a stone between you and someone you love. Maybe one of you placed it there out of fear that faith has no room for who the other is becoming. Or maybe the stone was placed by silence, weeks and months where the real conversation never happened and you both learned to live on opposite sides. The good news is that the stone was never meant to stay. Acceptance rarely happens one small rolled-away moment at a time. We look for the day when love walks out of the tomb and the family you were afraid you'd lost turns out to be more alive than ever.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18848908 Mon, 23 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1528 LGBTQ family relationships, transgender family acceptance, Christian LGBTQ affirming, Easter LGBTQ meaning, coming out family support, parents of transgender children, LGBTQ faith journey, family reconciliation, Holy Saturday meaning, religious families 4 29 full false The One Mistake Good Parents Make That Pushes Kids Away The One Mistake Good Parents Make That Pushes Kids Away You love your child. You're trying to protect them. But what if the way you are treating the relationship is the very thing driving them away. Most parents who lose their relationship with their LGBTQ child never saw it coming because everything they did felt like good parenting at the time. Joe and Rya unpack the difference between influence and control, and why one builds trust while the other quietly destroys it. If you've ever tightened your grip out of fear and wondered why your kid started pulling back, this one will give you language for what's happening and honest questions to ask yourself before it's too late.

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]]> You love your child. You're trying to protect them. But what if the way you are treating the relationship is the very thing driving them away. Most parents who lose their relationship with their LGBTQ child never saw it coming because everything they did felt like good parenting at the time. Joe and Rya unpack the difference between influence and control, and why one builds trust while the other quietly destroys it. If you've ever tightened your grip out of fear and wondered why your kid started pulling back, this one will give you language for what's happening and honest questions to ask yourself before it's too late.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18729045 Mon, 16 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1907 LGBTQ parenting, parenting LGBTQ child, controlling parents, parent child relationship, LGBTQ family support, coming out parents, transgender child, how to support LGBTQ kid, family rejection LGBTQ, PFLAG, parental control, faith and LGBTQ 4 28 full false Small Towns That Surprise: Acceptance is More Common Than You Think Small Towns That Surprise: Acceptance is More Common Than You Think When you think of LGBTQ-friendly places, small towns probably aren't the first thing that comes to mind. But what if the stereotype is wrong? Across America, towns with populations under 6,000 are becoming more and more welcoming. Joe and Rya share surprising stories of small town acceptance that counter the narrative we've been told. In this episode, they bring us positive stories of affirmation where we would least expect them.

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]]> When you think of LGBTQ-friendly places, small towns probably aren't the first thing that comes to mind. But what if the stereotype is wrong? Across America, towns with populations under 6,000 are becoming more and more welcoming. Joe and Rya share surprising stories of small town acceptance that counter the narrative we've been told. In this episode, they bring us positive stories of affirmation where we would least expect them.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18602357 Mon, 09 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0500 1814 LGBTQ small towns, rural pride, small town acceptance, LGBTQ families, transgender mayor, rural LGBTQ community, pride festivals, LGBTQ allies, small town living, queer community, LGBTQ hope, rural America LGBTQ 4 27 full false Warning: Anti-Trans Cruelty Legislation Is More Devastating Than We Feared Warning: Anti-Trans Cruelty Legislation Is More Devastating Than We Feared What happens when a state passes a law designed not to protect anyone, but to attack people who already exist? Kansas just showed us. And if you think it stops there, you're not paying attention. If you or someone you love are love are trans, or if you believe that cruelty shouldn't be passed off as policy, this is the one you need to hear. It's worse than you think, and it's not stopping at Kansas.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18770059 Mon, 02 Mar 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1311 transgender rights, anti-trans legislation, Kansas trans law, LGBTQ family support, transgender ally, trans rights rollback, gender marker laws, transgender driver's license, trans advocacy, LGBTQ politics 2026, supporting trans loved ones, transgender di 2 26 full false How to find an LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapist How to find an LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapist You've been meaning to find a therapist. But every time you think about it, the questions pile up: Can I trust them? Can I afford it? How do I know if I've found the right person? It's enough to make you put it off another month. Another year. You deserve someone who won't treat your identity as a problem to solve and won't leave you feeling worse than when you walked in. If you've been stuck in that "I should really do this" loop, this episode gives you a five-point action plan you can finish in five minutes. No more excuses. Finding the right therapist is easy once you have the right tools. This episode breaks down exactly what to do to finally get the ball rolling. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18582046 Mon, 23 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1898 LGBTQ affirming therapist, gender therapist, transgender mental health, finding a therapist, therapy red flags, telehealth therapy, faith trauma, coming out support, inclusive therapists, psychology today, perplexity AI 4 25 full false The Bible and Trans Identity: What Does Genesis Actually Say? The Bible and Trans Identity: What Does Genesis Actually Say? "God made them male and female." It's one of the first verses people reach for when they want to argue that being transgender goes against God's design. Rya spent two decades not knowing how to reconcile her gender struggles with what the Bible says... until she learned she didn't have to choose between them. In this episode, she and Joe look at what scholars actually say about Genesis 1,  not to twist the text, but to read it honestly.

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]]> "God made them male and female." It's one of the first verses people reach for when they want to argue that being transgender goes against God's design. Rya spent two decades not knowing how to reconcile her gender struggles with what the Bible says... until she learned she didn't have to choose between them. In this episode, she and Joe look at what scholars actually say about Genesis 1,  not to twist the text, but to read it honestly.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18564457 Mon, 16 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1927 transgender, Genesis, male and female, Bible and gender, trans Christian, LGBTQ faith, gender binary, trans acceptance, Bible interpretation, LGBTQ family, faith and identity, trans affirming, Genesis 1:27, non-binary, Christian parents 4 24 full false Stop Waiting to Reconnect — You Make the First Move Stop Waiting to Reconnect — You Make the First Move Maybe you're having a hard time accepting a loved one who came out. Maybe you're the one who came out. Either way, the relationship feels stuck and you're both waiting for the other person to make it better. It's too easy for us to fall into a pattern of silence, thinking we will keep the relationship from getting worse. But here's good news. We don't have to resolve everything to stay connected. We don't even have to agree. Someone just has to go first. Each of us has more power than we think. Joe and Rya share why small gestures matter more than grand reconciliations, and why the next move is yours to make.

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]]> Maybe you're having a hard time accepting a loved one who came out. Maybe you're the one who came out. Either way, the relationship feels stuck and you're both waiting for the other person to make it better. It's too easy for us to fall into a pattern of silence, thinking we will keep the relationship from getting worse. But here's good news. We don't have to resolve everything to stay connected. We don't even have to agree. Someone just has to go first. Each of us has more power than we think. Joe and Rya share why small gestures matter more than grand reconciliations, and why the next move is yours to make.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18563857 Mon, 09 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1761 LGBTQ family, family relationships, reconnecting with family, estranged family, LGBTQ support, family communication, making the first move, relationship repair, family acceptance, coming out, LGBTQ allies, mending relationships 4 23 full false What Your LGBTQ+ Loved One Actually Needs What Your LGBTQ+ Loved One Actually Needs So much of what we've been told about "the gay agenda" is overblown. Most LGBTQ+ people aren't asking for you to change who you are. But here's the hard truth that loving families need to hear: good intentions don't cancel harm caused You can love your child deeply and still be hurting them. Joe and Rya speak directly to parents and family members who say "I love you, but I can't support this." We don't have to change our theology to change our behaviors. We don't have to agree with each other to practice real love.

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]]> So much of what we've been told about "the gay agenda" is overblown. Most LGBTQ+ people aren't asking for you to change who you are. But here's the hard truth that loving families need to hear: good intentions don't cancel harm caused You can love your child deeply and still be hurting them. Joe and Rya speak directly to parents and family members who say "I love you, but I can't support this." We don't have to change our theology to change our behaviors. We don't have to agree with each other to practice real love.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18434670 Mon, 02 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1694 LGBTQ family, transgender daughter, Christian parent, accepting LGBTQ child, intent vs impact, faith and LGBTQ, loving LGBTQ child, family acceptance, parent support, LGBTQ relationships, conservative Christian LGBTQ, unconditional love 4 22 full true Protect the Children? How Fear is Used to Target Trans People Protect the Children? How Fear is Used to Target Trans People “We're just trying to protect the children.” It sounds so reasonable. But throughout history, this same phrase has been used to justify targeting marginalized people. When lawmakers claim to protect kids while ignoring actual trans children, protection starts to sound a lot like rejection. Trans kids are children too. They hear every word adults say about people like them. Real protection starts with listening to our kids and taking them seriously.

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]]> “We're just trying to protect the children.” It sounds so reasonable. But throughout history, this same phrase has been used to justify targeting marginalized people. When lawmakers claim to protect kids while ignoring actual trans children, protection starts to sound a lot like rejection. Trans kids are children too. They hear every word adults say about people like them. Real protection starts with listening to our kids and taking them seriously.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18409931 Mon, 26 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1972 transgender children, protect the children, trans kids, LGBTQ family, gender affirming care, trans rights, family acceptance, supporting trans youth, LGBTQ parenting, trans ally, transgender awareness, anti-trans legislation 4 21 full false A Dad's Honest Advice for Struggling Parents A Dad's Honest Advice for Struggling Parents When your child comes out, the fear you feel isn't really fear. It's just uncertainty. Joe knows because he lived it when Rya came out. His struggle for acceptance wasn't instant. He knew their relationship would go through challenges. But what he didn't expect is how they would grow closer through it. In this episode, he shares the tips and tricks he's learned since Rya came out. And he reveals his most important secret that kept their relationship strong.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18529032 Mon, 19 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1977 LGBTQ parent support, transgender child, coming out advice, family acceptance, parent of trans child, LGBTQ family, how to accept LGBTQ child, father daughter relationship, trans parent advice, supporting transgender teen, LGBTQ ally parent, family relati 4 20 full false The Group of Misfits who Taught a School to be Kind The Group of Misfits who Taught a School to be Kind  In 2001, a book told the story of outcasts who were mocked for their height, their weight, and how they looked. They ran for student council, called themselves the No Name Party, and lost. But they convinced their principal to start something no school had done before. It sparked a movement now in its 21st year. Name-calling seems like a small thing until you see how much damage words can actually do. Joe and Rya share why breaking the cycle might start closer to home than you think. 

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]]>  In 2001, a book told the story of outcasts who were mocked for their height, their weight, and how they looked. They ran for student council, called themselves the No Name Party, and lost. But they convinced their principal to start something no school had done before. It sparked a movement now in its 21st year. Name-calling seems like a small thing until you see how much damage words can actually do. Joe and Rya share why breaking the cycle might start closer to home than you think. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18368829 Mon, 12 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600 1695 name-calling, no name calling week, bullying prevention, LGBTQ families, anti-bullying, the misfits book, school bullying, LGBTQ support, kindness, breaking the cycle, family relationships, GLSEN, ally resources 4 19 full false Why Are So Many Gay and Lesbian Allies Still Transphobic? Why Are So Many Gay and Lesbian Allies Still Transphobic? Have you ever met someone who fully supports their gay friends but gets uncomfortable when trans issues come up? The same people who celebrate Pride and fight for marriage equality often have a completely different reaction to transgender rights. Joe and Rya break down the psychology behind this contradiction and explore why trans people trigger fears that gay and lesbian people don't. Understanding why transphobia feels different is the first step toward building true solidarity across the entire LGBTQ community.

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]]> Have you ever met someone who fully supports their gay friends but gets uncomfortable when trans issues come up? The same people who celebrate Pride and fight for marriage equality often have a completely different reaction to transgender rights. Joe and Rya break down the psychology behind this contradiction and explore why trans people trigger fears that gay and lesbian people don't. Understanding why transphobia feels different is the first step toward building true solidarity across the entire LGBTQ community.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18241767 Mon, 05 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600 2045 LGBTQ, transgender, transphobia, gay allies, lesbian allies, LGBTQ family, trans rights, homophobia vs transphobia, LGBTQ support, transgender education, ally training, LGBTQ community, trans acceptance, gender identity, LGBTQ solidarity, transgender issu 4 18 full false What We Know Will Last and What We Hope Will Change in 2026 What We Know Will Last and What We Hope Will Change in 2026 Some things about LGBTQ+ life will never change, and that's actually good news. When everything feels uncertain, we need to know what's worth fighting for. How can we separate the noise from what actually matters? The good news is that some things hold steady no matter what happens next. And we have good reasons to anticipate changes for the better. If you're tired of feeling anxious about the future, this episode offers genuine reasons for hope.

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]]> Some things about LGBTQ+ life will never change, and that's actually good news. When everything feels uncertain, we need to know what's worth fighting for. How can we separate the noise from what actually matters? The good news is that some things hold steady no matter what happens next. And we have good reasons to anticipate changes for the better. If you're tired of feeling anxious about the future, this episode offers genuine reasons for hope.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18276312 Mon, 29 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1885 lgbtq future, family hope, lgbtq anxiety, what will change, lgbtq stability, family uncertainty, lgbtq optimism, transgender future, coming out fears, lgbtq progress, family support, lgbtq community, what to expect, lgbtq families, uncertain times 4 17 full false Is It Normal to Feel This Different? Is It Normal to Feel This Different? When people carry secret shame about the ways they are different from everyone around them, it affects their entire sense of self. This shame gets passed down through culture that teaches rigid ideas about what's acceptable. There's nothing wrong with being exactly who you are. Joe and Rya talk about why so many people struggle with feeling abnormal. We shouldn't have to dim our authentic personalities just because some people don't connect with us. Being normal simply means being true to yourself.

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]]> When people carry secret shame about the ways they are different from everyone around them, it affects their entire sense of self. This shame gets passed down through culture that teaches rigid ideas about what's acceptable. There's nothing wrong with being exactly who you are. Joe and Rya talk about why so many people struggle with feeling abnormal. We shouldn't have to dim our authentic personalities just because some people don't connect with us. Being normal simply means being true to yourself.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18275318 Mon, 22 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1848 feeling different, am i normal, lgbtq family, transgender daughter, coming out support, family acceptance, parenting transgender, lgbtq shame, authentic self, being yourself, lgbtq allies, transgender support, identity acceptance, family love, normal vs d 4 16 full false The Texas Law That Protects Nobody: Here's What You Need to Know The Texas Law That Protects Nobody: Here's What You Need to Know What happens when lawmakers create a bathroom law that forces men into women's restrooms and women into men's restrooms? Texas Senate Bill 8 claims to protect women's privacy, but the reality is far more complicated. This law forces schools, libraries, airports, and government buildings to become surveillance systems or face massive fines. The legal framework in Texas now creates the exact scenarios it claims to prevent. Joe and Rya break down why even supporters of the law's intent should be concerned about its consequences.

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]]> What happens when lawmakers create a bathroom law that forces men into women's restrooms and women into men's restrooms? Texas Senate Bill 8 claims to protect women's privacy, but the reality is far more complicated. This law forces schools, libraries, airports, and government buildings to become surveillance systems or face massive fines. The legal framework in Texas now creates the exact scenarios it claims to prevent. Joe and Rya break down why even supporters of the law's intent should be concerned about its consequences.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18335209 Mon, 15 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1695 transgender, bathroom bills, Texas law, LGBTQ rights, anti-trans legislation, family support, civil rights, transgender rights, bathroom laws, LGBTQ families, allies, discrimination, transgender issues 4 15 full true Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: New Texas Bathroom Law Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: New Texas Bathroom Law A new segment where Joe & Rya discuss a current topic. This week is the new Texas Senate Law 8.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18335188 Thu, 11 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 288 4 bonus false Being Different Doesn't Mean Being Wrong Being Different Doesn't Mean Being Wrong Have you ever noticed how the word "normal" gets turned into a weapon? People use it to make LGBTQ+ folks feel like something's wrong with them just for being different. They act like statistics prove morality, as if being in the minority makes you broken. But here's the thing. Why should any of us have to be "normal" in the first place? It's time to stop letting that word control who gets to live authentically.

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]]> Have you ever noticed how the word "normal" gets turned into a weapon? People use it to make LGBTQ+ folks feel like something's wrong with them just for being different. They act like statistics prove morality, as if being in the minority makes you broken. But here's the thing. Why should any of us have to be "normal" in the first place? It's time to stop letting that word control who gets to live authentically.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18121806 Mon, 08 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1836 LGBTQ families, transgender acceptance, coming out support, LGBTQ parenting, trans daughter, supportive parents, family relationships, LGBTQ pride, being different, authenticity, self acceptance, queer community, trans rights, LGBTQ allies, gender identit 4 14 full false Finding Faith After Religious Abuse Finding Faith After Religious Abuse You've been hurt by the church. Maybe you walked away years ago, or maybe you're still trying to make it work in a place that tells you who you are is wrong. The wounds run deep. Spiritual abuse often comes wrapped in Scripture. Two-thirds of Christians report experiencing spiritual abuse. That means you're not alone in this pain, even when it feels isolating. Is it even possible to trust a religious community when the last one broke you? Mother Julie Hendrix, an Episcopal priest who understands both sides of this story, reveals what she wishes every LGBTQ+ person knew about healing.

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]]> You've been hurt by the church. Maybe you walked away years ago, or maybe you're still trying to make it work in a place that tells you who you are is wrong. The wounds run deep. Spiritual abuse often comes wrapped in Scripture. Two-thirds of Christians report experiencing spiritual abuse. That means you're not alone in this pain, even when it feels isolating. Is it even possible to trust a religious community when the last one broke you? Mother Julie Hendrix, an Episcopal priest who understands both sides of this story, reveals what she wishes every LGBTQ+ person knew about healing.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18039949 Mon, 01 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600 2164 church trauma, religious trauma, LGBTQ faith, spiritual abuse, Episcopal church, LGBTQ Christianity, finding faith, religious healing, queer Christians, transgender faith, faith after trauma, LGBTQ spirituality, accepting churches, PFLAG 4 14 full false We Are Still Thankful In Dark Times — Here's Why We Are Still Thankful In Dark Times — Here's Why With rights under threat and uncertainty everywhere, choosing thankfulness can feel like denial. But what if gratitude isn't about pretending everything is fine? Learning to find thankfulness is more than just emotional comfort, it's survival strategy. Joe and Rya look at why gratitude matters more than ever when times are hard. They redirect our focus to things the LGBTQ community still has that nobody can take away. 

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]]> With rights under threat and uncertainty everywhere, choosing thankfulness can feel like denial. But what if gratitude isn't about pretending everything is fine? Learning to find thankfulness is more than just emotional comfort, it's survival strategy. Joe and Rya look at why gratitude matters more than ever when times are hard. They redirect our focus to things the LGBTQ community still has that nobody can take away. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-18079227 Mon, 24 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1700 LGBTQ gratitude, transgender thanksgiving, queer family support, finding hope, LGBTQ rights, trans acceptance, PFLAG resources, chosen family, LGBTQ resilience, gratitude practice, trans community, ally support, LGBTQ podcast, transgender podcast, queer p 4 13 full false How LGBTQ Infighting Is Doing Our Enemies’ Work How LGBTQ Infighting Is Doing Our Enemies’ Work History shows us that divided movements stay powerless. But the pattern never changes: together we stand, divided we fall. Right now many factors are fracturing the rainbow coalition that built everything from Stonewall to marriage equality. Meanwhile, opponents of LGBTQ+ rights are smirking from the sidelines as they watch our community tear itself apart. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss how to stop the infighting to build a unified coalition.

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]]> History shows us that divided movements stay powerless. But the pattern never changes: together we stand, divided we fall. Right now many factors are fracturing the rainbow coalition that built everything from Stonewall to marriage equality. Meanwhile, opponents of LGBTQ+ rights are smirking from the sidelines as they watch our community tear itself apart. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss how to stop the infighting to build a unified coalition.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17999943 Mon, 17 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1715 LGBTQ unity, LGBTQ community, gay rights, transgender rights, LGBTQ activism, queer community, LGBTQ family, LGBTQ support, LGBTQ allies, LGBTQ podcast, queer podcast, family relationships, LGBTQ history, Stonewall, rainbow coalition, community building 4 12 full false Rate Yourself on LGBTQ Family Acceptance and See Where You Really Stand Rate Yourself on LGBTQ Family Acceptance and See Where You Really Stand Are you as accepting as you think you are? Most parents believe they're supportive of their LGBTQ family members. But when put to the test, many discover significant gaps between their intentions and their actual level of acceptance. This ten-question assessment reveals where you stand on the acceptance scale and identifies the specific areas where you can strengthen your connection with LGBTQ loved ones. By the end this episode, you will be able to:

  • Uncover blind spots you didn't know existed
  • Recognize patterns that may be creating distance in your relationships
  • Gain clarity on which behaviors truly demonstrate support versus those that only feel supportive to you
  • Discover concrete steps to improve your score and build deeper relationships with your LGBTQ loved one

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]]> Are you as accepting as you think you are? Most parents believe they're supportive of their LGBTQ family members. But when put to the test, many discover significant gaps between their intentions and their actual level of acceptance. This ten-question assessment reveals where you stand on the acceptance scale and identifies the specific areas where you can strengthen your connection with LGBTQ loved ones. By the end this episode, you will be able to:

  • Uncover blind spots you didn't know existed
  • Recognize patterns that may be creating distance in your relationships
  • Gain clarity on which behaviors truly demonstrate support versus those that only feel supportive to you
  • Discover concrete steps to improve your score and build deeper relationships with your LGBTQ loved one

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17974883 Mon, 10 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1933 LGBTQ family, parent acceptance, LGBTQ support, family relationships, coming out, LGBTQ parenting, acceptance test, family acceptance, LGBTQ allies, parent support, transgender family, gay family, lesbian family, bisexual family, LGBTQ children 4 11 full false LGBTQ Coming Out Readiness Checklist LGBTQ Coming Out Readiness Checklist Are you wondering if it's the right time to share your LGBTQ+ identity with family, friends, or your community? The decision to come out is deeply personal. Timing matters more than you might think. Whether you're feeling pressure to come out or wondering if you should wait, this practical checklist provides the clarity you need to make the decision that's right for your unique situation. 

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]]> Are you wondering if it's the right time to share your LGBTQ+ identity with family, friends, or your community? The decision to come out is deeply personal. Timing matters more than you might think. Whether you're feeling pressure to come out or wondering if you should wait, this practical checklist provides the clarity you need to make the decision that's right for your unique situation. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17936555 Mon, 03 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600 2048 coming out, LGBTQ, readiness checklist, coming out safety, LGBTQ support, transgender coming out, gay coming out, lesbian coming out, bisexual coming out, LGBTQ family, coming out advice, LGBTQ resources, coming out timing, LGBTQ identity, coming out prep 4 10 full false The Real Reasons LGBTQ Adults Cut Contact with Family The Real Reasons LGBTQ Adults Cut Contact with Family Why do loving, supportive parents still lose their LGBTQ children? The answer isn't what most families expect. Learn how to recognize the hidden patterns that destroy family relationships before it's too late. Understanding these dynamics will change how you approach every difficult family conversation. These principles are important for all of us, whether you're a parent trying to reconnect with an estranged child or an ally who wants to help others navigate these painful situations. Discover why good intentions can backfire and how to actually rebuild trust after relationships have been broken. 

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]]> Why do loving, supportive parents still lose their LGBTQ children? The answer isn't what most families expect. Learn how to recognize the hidden patterns that destroy family relationships before it's too late. Understanding these dynamics will change how you approach every difficult family conversation. These principles are important for all of us, whether you're a parent trying to reconnect with an estranged child or an ally who wants to help others navigate these painful situations. Discover why good intentions can backfire and how to actually rebuild trust after relationships have been broken. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17896336 Mon, 27 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1870 LGBTQ family, family estrangement, parenting LGBTQ kids, LGBTQ parents, family relationships, coming out, transgender family, gay family, LGBTQ support, family therapy, parenting advice, LGBTQ allies, family conflict, relationship repair, LGBTQ acceptance 4 9 full false Here's What We Learned About Non-Binary Identity Here's What We Learned About Non-Binary Identity Do you hear the term "non-binary" and feel confused or overwhelmed? What does it actually mean? How do pronouns work when someone uses both he and they? Eos, who leads a local transgender support group, breaks down the real experience of non-binary identity beyond stereotypes. This conversation covers the practical questions families need answered. "Accepting" isn't the same as "affirming." Small changes in language can make the difference between a child feeling supported or invisible. For those just starting to understand gender diversity, this conversation gives us guidance from someone living the experience. 

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]]> Do you hear the term "non-binary" and feel confused or overwhelmed? What does it actually mean? How do pronouns work when someone uses both he and they? Eos, who leads a local transgender support group, breaks down the real experience of non-binary identity beyond stereotypes. This conversation covers the practical questions families need answered. "Accepting" isn't the same as "affirming." Small changes in language can make the difference between a child feeling supported or invisible. For those just starting to understand gender diversity, this conversation gives us guidance from someone living the experience. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17778539 Mon, 20 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1896 non-binary, transgender, LGBTQ parenting, pronouns, gender identity, family acceptance, LGBTQ youth, transgender support, gender expression, LGBTQ education, parenting advice, family relationships, LGBTQ allies, transgender community, gender diversity 4 8 full false What to Do When Your Loved One Shuts Down What to Do When Your Loved One Shuts Down  Have you ever poured your heart into loving someone only to discover they don't feel loved at all? This happens frequently in LGBTQ+ families where parents think they're being supportive, but their child feels misunderstood or invalidated. When someone you care about shuts down completely, your instinct might be to defend how much you've done for them. Instead, there are four specific strategies that can help draw people out of emotional withdrawal and back into connection. These tools work whether someone has gone silent or they are lashing out. These approaches can help each of us repair damaged relationships and open up real conversations that currently seem impossible. 

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]]>  Have you ever poured your heart into loving someone only to discover they don't feel loved at all? This happens frequently in LGBTQ+ families where parents think they're being supportive, but their child feels misunderstood or invalidated. When someone you care about shuts down completely, your instinct might be to defend how much you've done for them. Instead, there are four specific strategies that can help draw people out of emotional withdrawal and back into connection. These tools work whether someone has gone silent or they are lashing out. These approaches can help each of us repair damaged relationships and open up real conversations that currently seem impossible. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17591597 Mon, 13 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1899 LGBTQ families, family communication, crucial conversations, parental support, transgender support, gay families, family relationships, difficult conversations, conflict resolution, active listening, family therapy, LGBTQ parenting, coming out support, fa 4 7 full false What This Supreme Court Term Means for LGBTQ People What This Supreme Court Term Means for LGBTQ People The Supreme Court is hearing cases right now that could fundamentally reshape what it means to be LGBTQ in America. States are passing laws that ban medical care for transgender youth, restrict which sports teams kids can join, and  , and allow therapists to practice conversion therapy on minors. Former US Attorney Jim Santelle has good news for you. There are specific, practical actions that actually move the needle. Your voice matters more than the headlines suggest.

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]]> The Supreme Court is hearing cases right now that could fundamentally reshape what it means to be LGBTQ in America. States are passing laws that ban medical care for transgender youth, restrict which sports teams kids can join, and  , and allow therapists to practice conversion therapy on minors. Former US Attorney Jim Santelle has good news for you. There are specific, practical actions that actually move the needle. Your voice matters more than the headlines suggest.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17929279 Mon, 06 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2545 LGBTQ rights, transgender youth, Supreme Court, conversion therapy, transgender sports, legal advocacy, LGBTQ parenting, gender affirming care, school bullying, ally support, state legislation, LGBTQ legal help 4 6 full false Why Avoiding LGBTQ Talks Backfires on Parents Why Avoiding LGBTQ Talks Backfires on Parents Most parents think, "Don't confuse them," "They're too young," "Let them figure it out themselves." These all sound like reasonable approaches. But the research reveals a shocking truth. Families that stay silent about LGBTQ issues actually harm their children. Too many well-meaning parents choose quiet over conversation. What feels like protection is actually the very thing putting kids in danger.

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]]> Most parents think, "Don't confuse them," "They're too young," "Let them figure it out themselves." These all sound like reasonable approaches. But the research reveals a shocking truth. Families that stay silent about LGBTQ issues actually harm their children. Too many well-meaning parents choose quiet over conversation. What feels like protection is actually the very thing putting kids in danger.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17857829 Mon, 29 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2009 LGBTQ parenting, family communication, LGBTQ youth, parenting advice, family relationships, LGBTQ acceptance, transgender parenting, coming out, suicide prevention, family conversations, LGBTQ support, protective parenting, LGBTQ families, LGBTQ allies, f 4 5 full false LGBTQ+ Political Engagement that Actually Changes Things LGBTQ+ Political Engagement that Actually Changes Things Tired of feeling powerless while politicians make decisions that affect your life? Your voice carries more weight than you realize. Especially at the local level where real change happens fastest. Most people stop at voting. But the smartest advocates know that ongoing communication with representatives is where the actual influence lies. Local politicians are accessible and responsive. They are desperate to understand their constituents' needs... but only if you show up and speak up. Joe and Rya show us how to turn political frustration into concrete policy wins. Stop waiting for change to happen and start making it happen. 

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]]> Tired of feeling powerless while politicians make decisions that affect your life? Your voice carries more weight than you realize. Especially at the local level where real change happens fastest. Most people stop at voting. But the smartest advocates know that ongoing communication with representatives is where the actual influence lies. Local politicians are accessible and responsive. They are desperate to understand their constituents' needs... but only if you show up and speak up. Joe and Rya show us how to turn political frustration into concrete policy wins. Stop waiting for change to happen and start making it happen. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17825294 Mon, 22 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1770 LGBTQ political engagement, political advocacy, local politics, LGBTQ rights, political influence, constituents, politicians, civic engagement, political change, LGBTQ activism, political power, local government, political participation, LGBTQ policy, gra 4 4 full false The Hard Questions Parents Don't Want to Admit They Have About Their LGBTQ Child The Hard Questions Parents Don't Want to Admit They Have About Their LGBTQ Child When your child comes out as LGBTQ+, suddenly you have questions you never expected to face. Did you cause this somehow? Will they ever truly be happy? What if this is just a phase and you're enabling something harmful? These are the 2 AM thoughts that keep us awake at night. Joe and Rya tackle the deepest parental fears head-on. They address the guilt and the secret wishes that maybe this wasn't happening at all. You don't have to have all the answers, just love.

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]]> When your child comes out as LGBTQ+, suddenly you have questions you never expected to face. Did you cause this somehow? Will they ever truly be happy? What if this is just a phase and you're enabling something harmful? These are the 2 AM thoughts that keep us awake at night. Joe and Rya tackle the deepest parental fears head-on. They address the guilt and the secret wishes that maybe this wasn't happening at all. You don't have to have all the answers, just love.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17740207 Mon, 15 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2000 LGBTQ parenting, coming out, transgender child, gay child, lesbian child, parental support, family acceptance, LGBTQ families, parental fears, supporting LGBTQ youth, Christian parents LGBTQ, religious parents, LGBTQ questions, transgender parents 4 3 full false Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: Charlie Kirk's Assassination Joe & Rya TAKE FIVE: Charlie Kirk's Assassination Conservative activist Charlie Kirk was assassinated today at a college speaking event in Utah. Regardless of where you stand politically, murder is never the answer to disagreement. In this special episode, Joe and Rya give us their personal response to the news.

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]]> Conservative activist Charlie Kirk was assassinated today at a college speaking event in Utah. Regardless of where you stand politically, murder is never the answer to disagreement. In this special episode, Joe and Rya give us their personal response to the news.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17824722 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 18:00:00 -0500 325 Charlie Kirk, political violence, assassination, LGBTQ family, father daughter podcast, political disagreement, democracy, conservative, liberal, family relationships, political divide, unity, respect, rhetoric, tragedy, Utah shooting, college campus 4 full false LGBTQ Questions You Want to Ask But Shouldn't LGBTQ Questions You Want to Ask But Shouldn't Understanding the difference between supportive curiosity and invasive questioning isn't just about avoiding awkwardness. Many of us want to ask questions about LGBTQ experiences. We care deeply and want to show genuine interest, but the fear of saying something wrong keeps us from asking authentic questions. The truth is, some questions that feel perfectly reasonable in our minds can actually hurt the people we're trying to support. Even worse, we might be asking those questions right now without realizing it. This episode gives three rules for knowing which questions are okay and which are not.

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]]> Understanding the difference between supportive curiosity and invasive questioning isn't just about avoiding awkwardness. Many of us want to ask questions about LGBTQ experiences. We care deeply and want to show genuine interest, but the fear of saying something wrong keeps us from asking authentic questions. The truth is, some questions that feel perfectly reasonable in our minds can actually hurt the people we're trying to support. Even worse, we might be asking those questions right now without realizing it. This episode gives three rules for knowing which questions are okay and which are not.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17701876 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2167 LGBTQ allies, transgender questions, LGBTQ support, ally guide, transgender ally, LGBTQ family, coming out support, transgender parents, LGBTQ relationships, ally mistakes, transgender etiquette, LGBTQ boundaries, supportive questions, transgender support 4 2 full false When Your Child and Grandchild Are Both Trans When Your Child and Grandchild Are Both Trans It's our third year anniversary of Trandescendant Podcast! And boy, do we have a shocking episode for you. We decided to expand our podcast from two to three generations. And this might surprise you, but Rya has a transgender son. This is his story. You might expect that having a transgender parent would make the journey easier for a transgender child, but the reality is far more complex. Each person's path to authenticity looks different, even within the same family. Kelly shares how college transformed his confidence and allowed him to step fully into his identity, while Rya reflects on her own very different transition experience. Joe offers the rare perspective of a grandfather who has supported two family members through transition, revealing insights that only come from walking this path multiple times. 

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]]> It's our third year anniversary of Trandescendant Podcast! And boy, do we have a shocking episode for you. We decided to expand our podcast from two to three generations. And this might surprise you, but Rya has a transgender son. This is his story. You might expect that having a transgender parent would make the journey easier for a transgender child, but the reality is far more complex. Each person's path to authenticity looks different, even within the same family. Kelly shares how college transformed his confidence and allowed him to step fully into his identity, while Rya reflects on her own very different transition experience. Joe offers the rare perspective of a grandfather who has supported two family members through transition, revealing insights that only come from walking this path multiple times. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17686239 Mon, 01 Sep 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2105 transgender family, transgender son, LGBTQ family, three generations, transgender parent, transgender grandchild, college transition, family support, transgender stories, LGBTQ podcast, transgender youth, family acceptance, transgender grandfather, LGBTQ 4 1 full false How To Discuss Hard Topics Without Conflict How To Discuss Hard Topics Without Conflict Have you ever tried to have an important conversation with a family member only to watch it explode into an argument you never wanted? Most people think there are only two choices when something needs to be addressed: stay silent and let resentment build, or speak up and risk a fight. But there's another option. Joe and Rya break down a simple five-step method that transforms even the most sensitive topics into productive conversations. Whether you're advocating for an LGBTQ family member or addressing your own needs, this approach turns potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding and stronger relationships.

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]]> Have you ever tried to have an important conversation with a family member only to watch it explode into an argument you never wanted? Most people think there are only two choices when something needs to be addressed: stay silent and let resentment build, or speak up and risk a fight. But there's another option. Joe and Rya break down a simple five-step method that transforms even the most sensitive topics into productive conversations. Whether you're advocating for an LGBTQ family member or addressing your own needs, this approach turns potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding and stronger relationships.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17585651 Mon, 25 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1852 LGBTQ family, difficult conversations, family conflict, crucial conversations, coming out, transgender family, pronouns, family relationships, LGBTQ allies, communication skills, family dynamics, conflict resolution, LGBTQ support, parenting LGBTQ 3 52 full false 2 Simple Techniques that Bring Healing When LGBTQ Family Relationships Are In Danger 2 Simple Techniques that Bring Healing When LGBTQ Family Relationships Are In Danger What happens when the conversations that matter most feel impossible to have? Too many families avoid difficult talks until relationships reach a breaking point. They think they're protecting each other when they're actually making everything worse. Most family conflicts aren't caused by different beliefs. What matters is how we approach our loved ones. When you practice these two simple conversation techniques, even the hardest topics become manageable. This episode gives us proven tools that work when relationships feel like they're hanging by a thread.


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]]> What happens when the conversations that matter most feel impossible to have? Too many families avoid difficult talks until relationships reach a breaking point. They think they're protecting each other when they're actually making everything worse. Most family conflicts aren't caused by different beliefs. What matters is how we approach our loved ones. When you practice these two simple conversation techniques, even the hardest topics become manageable. This episode gives us proven tools that work when relationships feel like they're hanging by a thread.


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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17535785 Mon, 18 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1780 family communication, difficult conversations, LGBTQ families, relationship preservation, family conflict resolution, coming out conversations, family therapy, crucial conversations, transgender family support, gay family acceptance, family relationships, 3 51 full false “I Don't Hate Gay People, But...” “I Don't Hate Gay People, But...” Have you ever noticed how some of the most hurtful rejections come wrapped in language that sounds accepting? Coded phrases hide judgment behind politeness, creating what feels like acceptance but actually delivers conditional love with strings attached. From military culture to church communities, conditional acceptance creates exhausting energy costs for LGBTQ+ people who must constantly manage which parts of themselves are acceptable. Love that comes with disclaimers and conditions isn't really love at all. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17644827 Mon, 11 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1837 LGBTQ family, conditional acceptance, coded language, LGBTQ allies, transgender support, family relationships, parenting, coming out, religious LGBTQ, LGBTQ acceptance, family reconciliation, unconditional love, LGBTQ community, religious acceptance 3 50 full false LGBTQ Laws and Rights Worldwide: Proof that Acceptance is Gaining! LGBTQ Laws and Rights Worldwide: Proof that Acceptance is Gaining! The global landscape of LGBTQ+ rights reveals dramatic contrasts that might surprise you. While places like Iceland, Canada, and the Netherlands boast acceptance rates above 90%, over 30 countries in sub-Saharan Africa still criminalize LGBTQ+ identities entirely. Yet beneath these stark differences lies a hopeful truth: younger generations worldwide are driving unprecedented change. From Taiwan becoming Asia's first country to legalize same-sex marriage to underground activist networks fighting back in the Middle East, progress is happening in unexpected places. The generation that grew up with the internet has created a global culture of acceptance that transcends borders, and the statistics prove it. For the first time in history, a majority of people globally say their area is a good place for gay and lesbian people to live.

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]]> The global landscape of LGBTQ+ rights reveals dramatic contrasts that might surprise you. While places like Iceland, Canada, and the Netherlands boast acceptance rates above 90%, over 30 countries in sub-Saharan Africa still criminalize LGBTQ+ identities entirely. Yet beneath these stark differences lies a hopeful truth: younger generations worldwide are driving unprecedented change. From Taiwan becoming Asia's first country to legalize same-sex marriage to underground activist networks fighting back in the Middle East, progress is happening in unexpected places. The generation that grew up with the internet has created a global culture of acceptance that transcends borders, and the statistics prove it. For the first time in history, a majority of people globally say their area is a good place for gay and lesbian people to live.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17512717 Mon, 04 Aug 2025 00:00:00 -0500 2108 LGBTQ rights, gay marriage, transgender rights, global acceptance, LGBTQ worldwide, marriage equality, coming out, LGBTQ family, queer rights, LGBTQ progress, Gen Z acceptance, LGBTQ allies 3 49 full false Should Coming Out Be Encouraged? Should Coming Out Be Encouraged? Is it better to stop hiding who you are, or are there times when staying private is the better choice? This question divides even the most supportive allies and LGBTQ+ advocates. From teenagers navigating hostile family situations to adults managing workplace dynamics, every coming out decision is complicated. The debate is even more layered when considering the differences in coming out between gay and transgender people. How can allies be most supportive? Advocates of both perspectives offer compelling arguments that deserve serious consideration before we make a decision as a community.

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]]> Is it better to stop hiding who you are, or are there times when staying private is the better choice? This question divides even the most supportive allies and LGBTQ+ advocates. From teenagers navigating hostile family situations to adults managing workplace dynamics, every coming out decision is complicated. The debate is even more layered when considering the differences in coming out between gay and transgender people. How can allies be most supportive? Advocates of both perspectives offer compelling arguments that deserve serious consideration before we make a decision as a community.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17481806 Mon, 28 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1800 coming out, LGBTQ, transgender, gay, lesbian, bisexual, family relationships, allies, LGBTQ support, gender identity, sexual orientation, LGBTQ family, transgender coming out, LGBTQ allies, coming out advice 3 48 full false Why Your Queer and Trans Friends Are Scared and What You Can Do Why Your Queer and Trans Friends Are Scared and What You Can Do Real people are losing access to healthcare, having their gender markers erased, and watching their rights disappear with each new executive order and state law. While some allies post supportive messages online, many don't grasp the depth of fear gripping the LGBTQ+ community right now. Joe and Rya examine the harsh realities while also spotlighting victories around the world. When hate rises, so must we. That means moving from comfortable concern to uncomfortable action. This episode give concrete steps each of us can take to make a real difference.


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]]> Real people are losing access to healthcare, having their gender markers erased, and watching their rights disappear with each new executive order and state law. While some allies post supportive messages online, many don't grasp the depth of fear gripping the LGBTQ+ community right now. Joe and Rya examine the harsh realities while also spotlighting victories around the world. When hate rises, so must we. That means moving from comfortable concern to uncomfortable action. This episode give concrete steps each of us can take to make a real difference.


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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17434725 Mon, 21 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1941 LGBTQ+ Rights, Trans Rights, Political Activism, Hope and Resilience, Anti-Trans Legislation, Allyship, Mental Health, Pride, Voting Rights, Civil Rights, Community Support, Legal Gender Recognition 3 47 full false When Loving Your LGBTQ+ Child Feels Like Betraying God When Loving Your LGBTQ+ Child Feels Like Betraying God Thousands of Christian parents feel trapped between two impossible choices: fully supporting their LGBTQ+ child or staying faithful to their religious beliefs. This devastating dilemma tears families apart and leaves both parents and children feeling abandoned. Do we have to choose between them, or is it possible to have both?

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]]> Thousands of Christian parents feel trapped between two impossible choices: fully supporting their LGBTQ+ child or staying faithful to their religious beliefs. This devastating dilemma tears families apart and leaves both parents and children feeling abandoned. Do we have to choose between them, or is it possible to have both?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17356226 Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1849 LGBTQ parenting, Christian families, faith and sexuality, biblical interpretation, religious guilt, LGBTQ acceptance, Christian parents, faith crisis, clobber verses, family relationships, LGBTQ allies, religious trauma, progressive Christianity, biblical 3 46 full false A Direct Message to Anti-LGBTQ+ Voices A Direct Message to Anti-LGBTQ+ Voices We know that many LGBTQ+ critics are tired of being painted as hateful bigots when their heart is in the right place. We understand your position because we believed exactly what you believe now, and we can explain why we changed our minds without calling you names or questioning your faith. This isn't another lecture about tolerance—it's a conversation from people who get where you're coming from and want to show you what we discovered when we stopped being afraid of the truth. The conversation that follows isn't about winning an argument—it's about recognizing our shared humanity before it's too late.

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]]> We know that many LGBTQ+ critics are tired of being painted as hateful bigots when their heart is in the right place. We understand your position because we believed exactly what you believe now, and we can explain why we changed our minds without calling you names or questioning your faith. This isn't another lecture about tolerance—it's a conversation from people who get where you're coming from and want to show you what we discovered when we stopped being afraid of the truth. The conversation that follows isn't about winning an argument—it's about recognizing our shared humanity before it's too late.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17394250 Mon, 07 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1560 LGBTQ advocates, anti-LGBTQ, religious freedom, transgender issues, LGBTQ family, coming out, Christian LGBTQ, LGBTQ faith, transgender daughter, LGBTQ acceptance, family relationships, LGBTQ critics, transgender transition, LGBTQ understanding, biblical 3 45 full false LGBTQ+ Predictions for the Next 12 Months LGBTQ+ Predictions for the Next 12 Months What if the real story about LGBTQ+ futures isn't what's dominating your social media timeline? While headlines focus on legislative battles and political backlash, the actual data reveals a dramatically different trajectory for 2026 and beyond. The geographic divide between high-equality and low-equality states is widening, creating both challenges and opportunities that most coverage misses entirely. Joe and Rya cut through the noise with hard statistics from Gallup, GLAAD, and the Williams Institute to reveal what's actually happening on the ground and what LGBTQ+ people and their allies can realistically expect in the year ahead.

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]]> What if the real story about LGBTQ+ futures isn't what's dominating your social media timeline? While headlines focus on legislative battles and political backlash, the actual data reveals a dramatically different trajectory for 2026 and beyond. The geographic divide between high-equality and low-equality states is widening, creating both challenges and opportunities that most coverage misses entirely. Joe and Rya cut through the noise with hard statistics from Gallup, GLAAD, and the Williams Institute to reveal what's actually happening on the ground and what LGBTQ+ people and their allies can realistically expect in the year ahead.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17322720 Mon, 30 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1521 LGBTQ future, LGBTQ predictions 2026, LGBTQ statistics, LGBTQ data, transgender rights, gay rights, LGBTQ acceptance, LGBTQ trends, LGBTQ family support, LGBTQ allies, Pride podcast, LGBTQ news 3 44 full false Nobody's Guilt, Nobody's Shame: A Coming-Out Guide for the Family Nobody's Guilt, Nobody's Shame: A Coming-Out Guide for the Family Have you ever noticed how shame quietly shapes your life even though it doesn't actually belong to you? Shame isn't something we're born with—it's learned through societal messages, family dynamics, and religious teachings that told us we should feel inadequate for who we are. Your identity is a gift rather than a burden, and there is absolutely nothing shameful about being your true self.

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]]> Have you ever noticed how shame quietly shapes your life even though it doesn't actually belong to you? Shame isn't something we're born with—it's learned through societal messages, family dynamics, and religious teachings that told us we should feel inadequate for who we are. Your identity is a gift rather than a burden, and there is absolutely nothing shameful about being your true self.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17180631 Mon, 23 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1614 lgbtq, breaking free from shame, overcoming shame, trans family, lgbtq family, authenticity, self acceptance, pflag, chosen family, pride, mental health, lgbtq support, internalized shame, identity, transgender, parenting, transgender daughter, healing fr 3 43 full false Good Intentions Aren't Enough: What Real Allyship Actually Looks Like Good Intentions Aren't Enough: What Real Allyship Actually Looks Like Have you ever thought someone had your back, only to find them missing when you actually needed support? The difference between someone who says they're an ally and someone who truly shows up can be the difference between feeling safe and feeling betrayed. Many people in the LGBTQ+ community would rather deal with outright hostility than fake support because at least with hostility, you know to keep your guard up. Learning to distinguish between them isn't just helpful, it's essential. 

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]]> Have you ever thought someone had your back, only to find them missing when you actually needed support? The difference between someone who says they're an ally and someone who truly shows up can be the difference between feeling safe and feeling betrayed. Many people in the LGBTQ+ community would rather deal with outright hostility than fake support because at least with hostility, you know to keep your guard up. Learning to distinguish between them isn't just helpful, it's essential. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17237889 Mon, 16 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1837 LGBTQ allies, ally spotting, fake allies, performative allyship, LGBTQ support, transgender allies, gay allies, LGBTQ family, queer allies, true allies, LGBTQ safety, ally recognition, LGBTQ community, supportive family, LGBTQ relationships 3 42 full false 10 Things I Learned In the 10 Years Since Coming Out 10 Things I Learned In the 10 Years Since Coming Out Rya marks her 10-year transition anniversary by sharing the hard-won wisdom that only comes from a decade of living authentically. These surprising discoveries reveal how to navigate the unexpected emotional challenges that no one prepares you for. How do you maintain loving relationships when everything changes? How do you find peace when letting go becomes necessary? If you're considering major life changes, supporting someone who is, or simply seeking the courage to live more authentically, these lessons prove that transformation can lead to a freedom you never imagined possible.

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]]> Rya marks her 10-year transition anniversary by sharing the hard-won wisdom that only comes from a decade of living authentically. These surprising discoveries reveal how to navigate the unexpected emotional challenges that no one prepares you for. How do you maintain loving relationships when everything changes? How do you find peace when letting go becomes necessary? If you're considering major life changes, supporting someone who is, or simply seeking the courage to live more authentically, these lessons prove that transformation can lead to a freedom you never imagined possible.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17277988 Mon, 09 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1865 transgender, LGBTQ family, transition journey, authentic living, family relationships, coming out, gender transition, LGBTQ support, transgender stories, personal growth, life lessons, LGBTQ parenting 3 41 full false The Different Ways Pride Month Saves Lives The Different Ways Pride Month Saves Lives Does visibility truly matter when your community feels isolated? Pride Month isn't just parades in big cities—it's survival in small towns, cautious celebration in suburbs, and bold expression in urban centers. Participating in Pride activities creates ripples of change that extend far beyond June, whether by raising a flag in a town of 1,000 or showing solidarity amid opposition. Those simple acts of visibility become lifelines for others who feel alone, transforming communities one symbol at a time. Even a single rainbow sticker can break through isolation, reminding everyone that support exists in unexpected places.

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]]> Does visibility truly matter when your community feels isolated? Pride Month isn't just parades in big cities—it's survival in small towns, cautious celebration in suburbs, and bold expression in urban centers. Participating in Pride activities creates ripples of change that extend far beyond June, whether by raising a flag in a town of 1,000 or showing solidarity amid opposition. Those simple acts of visibility become lifelines for others who feel alone, transforming communities one symbol at a time. Even a single rainbow sticker can break through isolation, reminding everyone that support exists in unexpected places.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17200328 Mon, 02 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1958 LGBTQ pride, pride month history, rural pride, small town visibility, LGBTQ allies, pride month celebration, LGBTQ community support, suburban pride events, pride visibility, LGBTQ family discussions, transgender visibility, pride month meaning, Stonewall 3 40 full false The Power of LGBTQ+ Support Groups The Power of LGBTQ+ Support Groups Have you ever felt like no one else understands what you're going through? Support groups offer more than just friendly faces—they provide crucial knowledge sharing, emotional validation, and the relief of not having to explain your experiences. Finding your people doesn't have to be overwhelming.  Even if you're convinced there's no support community anywhere near you, discover five proven strategies to find or create meaningful connections that will change your life—starting with a simple search you can complete before this podcast ends. 

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]]> Have you ever felt like no one else understands what you're going through? Support groups offer more than just friendly faces—they provide crucial knowledge sharing, emotional validation, and the relief of not having to explain your experiences. Finding your people doesn't have to be overwhelming.  Even if you're convinced there's no support community anywhere near you, discover five proven strategies to find or create meaningful connections that will change your life—starting with a simple search you can complete before this podcast ends. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17165159 Mon, 26 May 2025 08:00:00 -0500 1936 LGBTQ, support groups, finding community, transgender resources, rural queer life, PFLAG, allies, coming out, isolation, mental health, online communities, LGBTQ centers, chosen family, safe spaces 3 39 full false What We Wish Skeptics Knew About the LGBTQ+ Community What We Wish Skeptics Knew About the LGBTQ+ Community Have you ever feared that accepting your LGBTQ+ loved one might compromise your deeply-held values or beliefs? Many parents, relatives, and friends struggle with this exact tension, feeling forced to choose between their principles and their relationships. The truth is, you don't have to sacrifice either. Understanding the authentic, lifelong nature of LGBTQ+ identity opens a path where respect and love can flourish without requiring you to abandon your convictions. 

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]]> Have you ever feared that accepting your LGBTQ+ loved one might compromise your deeply-held values or beliefs? Many parents, relatives, and friends struggle with this exact tension, feeling forced to choose between their principles and their relationships. The truth is, you don't have to sacrifice either. Understanding the authentic, lifelong nature of LGBTQ+ identity opens a path where respect and love can flourish without requiring you to abandon your convictions. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17113785 Mon, 19 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1884 LGBTQ, family relationships, transgender, acceptance, faith and sexuality, coming out, preserving relationships, respect, parenting, LGBTQ myths, transgender daughter, skeptics guide, family love 3 38 full false What's Actually Wrong With Me? A Therapist's Surprising Answer What's Actually Wrong With Me? A Therapist's Surprising Answer Mental health professional Michael Larkey joins Joe and Rya to discuss the hidden culprit behind our nagging self-criticism. Why do we feel like we're never good enough? Why do we struggle with accepting ourselves or the ones we love? Especially for those in the LGBTQ+ community, the stakes can be life-threatening. This simple but powerful approach will finally free you from the torment in your mind.

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]]> Mental health professional Michael Larkey joins Joe and Rya to discuss the hidden culprit behind our nagging self-criticism. Why do we feel like we're never good enough? Why do we struggle with accepting ourselves or the ones we love? Especially for those in the LGBTQ+ community, the stakes can be life-threatening. This simple but powerful approach will finally free you from the torment in your mind.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17069588 Mon, 12 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1999 anxiety, mental health, authenticity, self-criticism, LGBTQ+, therapy, fear, comparison, self-acceptance, mental wellness, transgender support, healing, personal growth, social worker, breaking cycles 3 37 full false Exploring Representative Sarah McBride's Positive Politics Exploring Representative Sarah McBride's Positive Politics How do we respond when politics becomes personal? Representative Sarah McBride made history as the first openly transgender person elected to the United States Congress. She recently gave an insightful interview with The Atlantic where she shared her thoughtful approach to navigating hostility while maintaining focus on her constituents and mission. Joe and Rya unpack her powerful message of resilience and strategic optimism - wisdom that offers guidance for anyone facing opposition while trying to create positive change in today's divisive political climate. 

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]]> How do we respond when politics becomes personal? Representative Sarah McBride made history as the first openly transgender person elected to the United States Congress. She recently gave an insightful interview with The Atlantic where she shared her thoughtful approach to navigating hostility while maintaining focus on her constituents and mission. Joe and Rya unpack her powerful message of resilience and strategic optimism - wisdom that offers guidance for anyone facing opposition while trying to create positive change in today's divisive political climate. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17054456 Mon, 05 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1817 Sarah McBride, transgender representation, Congress, political resilience, LGBTQ+ rights, positive politics, responding to hate, political discourse, first transgender representative, dignity in politics, transgender issues, inclusive leadership 3 36 full false The Most Important Tool You Need When Words Fail The Most Important Tool You Need When Words Fail Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. Knowing when to use silence can completely transform difficult family conversations. While silence can feel uncomfortable at first—even like surrender—it actually demonstrates remarkable strength. If you're working to keep important relationship connections despite challenging differences, the use of silence might be the relationship-saving skill you've been searching for all along.

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]]> Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. Knowing when to use silence can completely transform difficult family conversations. While silence can feel uncomfortable at first—even like surrender—it actually demonstrates remarkable strength. If you're working to keep important relationship connections despite challenging differences, the use of silence might be the relationship-saving skill you've been searching for all along.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-17025266 Mon, 28 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1513 silence, communication, family relationships, difficult conversations, conflict resolution, listening skills, boundaries, emotional intelligence, nonverbal communication, parenting, LGBTQ+ families, conversation tools, de-escalation, relationship skills 3 35 full false "Stop Trying to Fix Me!!!" "Stop Trying to Fix Me!!!" When a child comes out as LGBTQ+, parental instincts shift into "fixing" mode. We approach with good intentions, believing we know what's best. Moving from fear to freedom means releasing our vision for our children and embracing their truth. When we let go of being right and lean into being kind, both parent and child find unexpected freedom. The relationship doesn't just survive — it emerges stronger than before. 

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]]> When a child comes out as LGBTQ+, parental instincts shift into "fixing" mode. We approach with good intentions, believing we know what's best. Moving from fear to freedom means releasing our vision for our children and embracing their truth. When we let go of being right and lean into being kind, both parent and child find unexpected freedom. The relationship doesn't just survive — it emerges stronger than before. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16987172 Mon, 21 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1718 parenting, LGBTQ+, coming out, acceptance, family relationships, transgender, allyship, affirmation, fear to freedom, letting go, emotional growth, parent-child communication 3 34 full false The Happiness Heist: Steal Back Control of Your Life Immediately The Happiness Heist: Steal Back Control of Your Life Immediately Have you ever wondered who's truly in charge of your happiness? The real power to transform your life isn't held by external circumstances but lies within you, waiting to be reclaimed. It's time to reject conventional wisdom about where fulfillment comes from. Too many people never discover the surprising truth that our inner world determines our experience far more than our outer reality. Drawing from their unique perspectives within the LGBTQ+ community, Joe and Rya share wisdom on how to break free from invisible constraints that quietly steal your joy without permission. This episode might just change how you approach every challenge and relationship in your life. 

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]]> Have you ever wondered who's truly in charge of your happiness? The real power to transform your life isn't held by external circumstances but lies within you, waiting to be reclaimed. It's time to reject conventional wisdom about where fulfillment comes from. Too many people never discover the surprising truth that our inner world determines our experience far more than our outer reality. Drawing from their unique perspectives within the LGBTQ+ community, Joe and Rya share wisdom on how to break free from invisible constraints that quietly steal your joy without permission. This episode might just change how you approach every challenge and relationship in your life. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16934189 Mon, 14 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1659 happiness, self-help, LGBTQ+, personal growth, authenticity, mental health, emotional wellness, life wisdom, self-empowerment, inner peace, LGBTQ+ wisdom, positive mindset, relationship advice, LGBTQ+ perspective, self-acceptance 3 33 full false Don't Make This Devastating Parenting Mistake Don't Make This Devastating Parenting Mistake What makes a parent respond with love when their child comes out? When Rya transitioned, Joe's immediate thought wasn't about changing her—it was about preserving their relationship. His values created the foundation for unconditional acceptance. Joe shares how his faith deepened his commitment to love rather than judgment. Their strong bond didn't just survive transition—it grew stronger, offering a blueprint for parents seeking to truly support their children through life's unexpected journeys. 

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]]> What makes a parent respond with love when their child comes out? When Rya transitioned, Joe's immediate thought wasn't about changing her—it was about preserving their relationship. His values created the foundation for unconditional acceptance. Joe shares how his faith deepened his commitment to love rather than judgment. Their strong bond didn't just survive transition—it grew stronger, offering a blueprint for parents seeking to truly support their children through life's unexpected journeys. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16902400 Mon, 07 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1504 transgender acceptance, supportive parents, LGBTQ family, father daughter relationship, transition support, unconditional love, faith and LGBTQ, parental values, family acceptance, transgender journey, coming out stories, Christian acceptance 3 32 full false This Four-Word Phrase Can Stop LGBTQ+ Arguments Before They Start! This Four-Word Phrase Can Stop LGBTQ+ Arguments Before They Start! Have you ever felt cornered in a conversation about LGBTQ+ issues? Too often, we find ourselves on the defensive, scrambling to respond to accusations and misconceptions. But what if you could flip the script with just four simple words? Joe and Rya reveal a powerful conversational technique that isn't about winning arguments; it's about creating space for genuine dialogue and understanding. Take control of difficult conversations without sacrificing relationships. Whether you're dealing with skeptical family members, uncomfortable jokes, or challenging questions, the most effective responses aren't always the ones we think of first.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16878320 Mon, 31 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1316 LGBTQ, difficult conversations, family relationships, communication tips, coming out, allyship, conflict resolution, transgender parenting, acceptance, tough questions, building bridges, conversation skills 3 31 full false One Simple Act That Tells LGBTQ+ They Truly Belong One Simple Act That Tells LGBTQ+ They Truly Belong What if we could create spaces that feel so welcoming, it would get someone to drive four hours just to experience it? Martha Juillerat shares how one simple yet profound act can transform environments from merely tolerant to soul-affirming. Imagine creating a place where LGBTQ+ individuals finally feel seen, embraced, and able to breathe freely. Small gestures create those "I can be myself here" moments that change lives and foster genuine belonging. Discover the surprisingly accessible way to signal "you're home" that leaves such a powerful impact, people will tell you it changed everything. 

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]]> What if we could create spaces that feel so welcoming, it would get someone to drive four hours just to experience it? Martha Juillerat shares how one simple yet profound act can transform environments from merely tolerant to soul-affirming. Imagine creating a place where LGBTQ+ individuals finally feel seen, embraced, and able to breathe freely. Small gestures create those "I can be myself here" moments that change lives and foster genuine belonging. Discover the surprisingly accessible way to signal "you're home" that leaves such a powerful impact, people will tell you it changed everything. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16770266 Mon, 24 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1883 LGBTQ+ inclusion, Shower of Stoles Project, National Gay Lesbian Task Force, belonging, safe spaces, welcoming communities, LGBTQ+ acceptance, coming out stories, inclusive churches, identity affirmation, LGBTQ+ advocacy, religious inclusion 3 30 full false How to Respond to Spiritual Abuse How to Respond to Spiritual Abuse LGBTQ+ individuals in conservative religious environments often face a harrowing struggle to discern between spiritual abuse and genuine care. Recognizing the signs of toxic faith communities—such as demands for blind loyalty, prioritizing rules over people, and equating dissent with disobedience—can be life-changing for those trapped in cycles of shame and fear. Understanding how to find our "true north" amidst conflicting messages is crucial for all of us who may be questioning our place in a spiritually abusive situation. By learning to prioritize love as a core value and seek communities that welcome critical thinking, we can embark on a transformative journey towards self-acceptance and authentic faith.

Reference:
Lytle, Megan C., et al. (2018), "Association of Religiosity With Sexual Minority Suicide Ideation and Attempt." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 54(5), 644-651. https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/S0749-3797(18)30050-3/abstract?uuid=uuid%3Aab318321-cbaf-4f50-9b7e-a73e75a8b959

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]]> LGBTQ+ individuals in conservative religious environments often face a harrowing struggle to discern between spiritual abuse and genuine care. Recognizing the signs of toxic faith communities—such as demands for blind loyalty, prioritizing rules over people, and equating dissent with disobedience—can be life-changing for those trapped in cycles of shame and fear. Understanding how to find our "true north" amidst conflicting messages is crucial for all of us who may be questioning our place in a spiritually abusive situation. By learning to prioritize love as a core value and seek communities that welcome critical thinking, we can embark on a transformative journey towards self-acceptance and authentic faith.

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Lytle, Megan C., et al. (2018), "Association of Religiosity With Sexual Minority Suicide Ideation and Attempt." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 54(5), 644-651. https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/S0749-3797(18)30050-3/abstract?uuid=uuid%3Aab318321-cbaf-4f50-9b7e-a73e75a8b959

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16783658 Mon, 17 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1667 spiritual abuse, LGBTQ+, toxic church culture, religious trauma, self-acceptance, biblical interpretation, love vs. judgment, healthy faith communities, critical thinking, setting boundaries, identity affirmation, religious manipulation, compassion 3 29 full false Moving Beyond Political Divisions Moving Beyond Political Divisions Our political climate has made it feel impossible to keep relationships with people who see the world differently than we do. But what if building bridges was easier than we think? Political differences often mask shared values underneath. But a simple refocus on our shared underlying values can transform even the most challenging conversations. Whether you're navigating difficult family dynamics or seeking to understand perspectives different from your own, you'll discover practical approaches for moving beyond divisive rhetoric toward meaningful connection.

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]]> Our political climate has made it feel impossible to keep relationships with people who see the world differently than we do. But what if building bridges was easier than we think? Political differences often mask shared values underneath. But a simple refocus on our shared underlying values can transform even the most challenging conversations. Whether you're navigating difficult family dynamics or seeking to understand perspectives different from your own, you'll discover practical approaches for moving beyond divisive rhetoric toward meaningful connection.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16736940 Mon, 10 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500 1861 transgender, family relationships, finding common ground, compassion, political divisions, communication skills, acceptance, values, parenting, LGBTQ+, faith reconciliation, authenticity, bridge building, difficult conversations, listening skills 3 28 full false What Is Your Definition of Woman? What Is Your Definition of Woman? Transgender advocates seem to say outlandish things sometimes that seem so far outside of the realm of common sense. Do they really believe a man can become a woman? What is happening to our culture? Has woke ideology make half the population lose their minds? There must be a way for people of good faith to find our way through the conflict. In this episode, Rya presents her definition of woman to her father Joe. Together they discuss how people of common sense on both sides of the culture war can find common ground. Whether we are transgender skeptics or allies, true understanding begins when we learn to listen with both our minds and hearts.

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]]> Transgender advocates seem to say outlandish things sometimes that seem so far outside of the realm of common sense. Do they really believe a man can become a woman? What is happening to our culture? Has woke ideology make half the population lose their minds? There must be a way for people of good faith to find our way through the conflict. In this episode, Rya presents her definition of woman to her father Joe. Together they discuss how people of common sense on both sides of the culture war can find common ground. Whether we are transgender skeptics or allies, true understanding begins when we learn to listen with both our minds and hearts.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16566904 Mon, 03 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1703 Transgender issues, What is a woman, Gender identity, Inclusion, Allyship, Discrimination, Acceptance, Transgender community, Reproductive capacity, Social construction of gender, LGBTQ+ 3 27 full false An Open Letter to a Skeptical Parent An Open Letter to a Skeptical Parent What does it mean to be there for someone you love when you don't agree with their decision? When a child or loved one comes out as LGBTQ, it is natural to experience struggles and questions. Love doesn't mean instant agreement or abandoning your beliefs. Joe and Rya offer advice for parents seeking to preserve relationships while navigating unfamiliar territory. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance your values with your love for your child, this episode is for you.

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]]> What does it mean to be there for someone you love when you don't agree with their decision? When a child or loved one comes out as LGBTQ, it is natural to experience struggles and questions. Love doesn't mean instant agreement or abandoning your beliefs. Joe and Rya offer advice for parents seeking to preserve relationships while navigating unfamiliar territory. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance your values with your love for your child, this episode is for you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16400369 Mon, 24 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1839 parenting, LGBTQ+, skeptical parents, transgender children, coming out, family relationships, empathy, listening, acceptance, self-discovery, parental guidance, understanding, identity, communication, Trandescendant 3 26 full false Stop Being Your Own Worst Critic: 7 Ways to Beat Internalized Homophobia Stop Being Your Own Worst Critic: 7 Ways to Beat Internalized Homophobia Internalized homophobia can feel like carrying around a weight that no one else can see. But what if you could learn to set that weight down? From grounding yourself in scientific research to mastering the "lockout" technique, Joe and Rya outline seven practical ways to cultivate your own self-acceptance. The path to authenticity opens up when we give ourselves permission to grow at our own pace. 

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]]> Internalized homophobia can feel like carrying around a weight that no one else can see. But what if you could learn to set that weight down? From grounding yourself in scientific research to mastering the "lockout" technique, Joe and Rya outline seven practical ways to cultivate your own self-acceptance. The path to authenticity opens up when we give ourselves permission to grow at our own pace. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16440459 Mon, 17 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1575 lgbtq+, self-acceptance, mental health, personal growth, internalized homophobia, self-compassion, family relationships, queer identity, emotional wellbeing, healing, self-esteem, community support, authenticity, psychological tools, coming out, positive 3 25 full false How to Deal With Excessive Worry How to Deal With Excessive Worry What if we could worry less and live more fully? Joe and Rya explore practical strategies that help us break free from the grip of excessive worry. Most of our worries never materialize. What if we could channel that energy into activities that truly enhance our peace of mind? Create a more balanced life by mindfully choosing what to consume - from news to social media. Discover a more peaceful, positive way to live.

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]]> What if we could worry less and live more fully? Joe and Rya explore practical strategies that help us break free from the grip of excessive worry. Most of our worries never materialize. What if we could channel that energy into activities that truly enhance our peace of mind? Create a more balanced life by mindfully choosing what to consume - from news to social media. Discover a more peaceful, positive way to live.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16573227 Mon, 10 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1664 worry, LGBTQ+ anxiety, mental health, peace of mind, mindfulness, well-being, personal growth, balance, self-improvement, lifestyle, mindful living, stress management, emotional wellness, positive change, meditation, mindful choices, digital wellness 3 24 full false Rejection Sucks—Here’s How to Heal Rejection Sucks—Here’s How to Heal Rejection is one of the most universal yet misunderstood experiences, capable of leaving deep emotional scars that shape how we see ourselves and others. Whether you’re struggling to heal from a recent rejection or simply want to better understand this common human experience, this episode can help you turn pain into resilience. Joe and Rya discuss the four treatments for rejection offered by author Guy Winch to rebuild self-worth, strengthen connections, and move forward with confidence. Transform rejection from a source of hurt into a chance to bounce back. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16360550 Mon, 03 Feb 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1978 Guy Winch, Emotional First Aid, LGBTQ families, family rejection, emotional healing, self-esteem, resilience, mental health, emotional pain, coping strategies, self-worth, belonging, allyship, LGBTQ support, family dynamics, overcoming rejection, self-cri 3 23 full false Rebuilding Trust After Family Rejection Rebuilding Trust After Family Rejection For LGBTQ+ individuals and their families, the journey toward healing can feel overwhelming. Is it possible to restore connection and understanding after feeling betrayed and hurt by a loved one? This episode explores important principles of healing and reconciliation. Through them, families can move from estrangement to deeper bonds. Whether you're seeking to repair a fractured relationship or understand the healing process, empathy and connection can begin the process to rebuild trust. 

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]]> For LGBTQ+ individuals and their families, the journey toward healing can feel overwhelming. Is it possible to restore connection and understanding after feeling betrayed and hurt by a loved one? This episode explores important principles of healing and reconciliation. Through them, families can move from estrangement to deeper bonds. Whether you're seeking to repair a fractured relationship or understand the healing process, empathy and connection can begin the process to rebuild trust. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16299060 Mon, 27 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600 2045 trust, healing, LGBTQ+, family relationships, reconciliation, empathy, connection, rebuilding trust, family rejection, emotional healing, understanding, acceptance, love, communication, boundaries 3 22 full false I Once Was Blind But Now I See I Once Was Blind But Now I See In 1996, New Testament scholar Richard B. Hays wrote the definitive text on New Testament Ethics for the Evangelical Christian church. In the chapter on homosexuality, he wrote, "same-sex relationships are a tragic distortion of God's created order." Now, twenty-eight years later, he confessed that he got it wrong. And it's sending shockwaves through the church. This is his story.

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]]> In 1996, New Testament scholar Richard B. Hays wrote the definitive text on New Testament Ethics for the Evangelical Christian church. In the chapter on homosexuality, he wrote, "same-sex relationships are a tragic distortion of God's created order." Now, twenty-eight years later, he confessed that he got it wrong. And it's sending shockwaves through the church. This is his story.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16461761 Mon, 20 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1829 Richard B. Hays, LGBTQ, Biblical Interpretation, New Testament Ethics, Moral Vision, Theological Change, Affirming Theology, Homosexuality, Pancreatic Cancer, The Widening of God's Mercy, Luke Timothy Johnson, Old Testament, Church History, Community 3 21 full false 7 Behaviors that Rob You of Happiness 7 Behaviors that Rob You of Happiness What if the secret to happiness isn’t about finding it but clearing the path for it to flourish? It's time for a fresh perspective on the pursuit of happiness. Uncover the seven terrible habits and mindsets that hold us back. Let's shift the focus from chasing an ideal to creating space for authentic contentment. This episode provides inspiring insights that point the way toward a more fulfilling life. True happiness happens one small change at a time.

Original article: https://personalbrandingblog.com/if-you-want-to-be-genuinely-happy-without-being-rich-say-goodbye-to-these-behaviors/

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16259120 Mon, 13 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600 1857 happiness, self-improvement, mindset, personal growth, contentment, habits, relationships, self-care, perfectionism, emotional well-being, practical advice, overcoming obstacles, Joe and Rya, podcast, inspiration 3 20 full false So You Think Diversity Isn't Profitable? Think Again So You Think Diversity Isn't Profitable? Think Again What if your business could be a force for inclusivity, equality, and economic growth—all at the same time? Whether you’re a business owner, an ally, or simply curious about how diversity drives success, you'll want to learn about the inspiring work of the LGBT Chamber of Commerce. From combating discriminatory legislation to fostering partnerships between small businesses and major corporations, the Chamber proves that advocacy and economic opportunity go hand in hand. This conversation with the Chamber's founder Jason Rae reveals how collaboration and diversity can transform communities in ways you never imagined.

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]]> What if your business could be a force for inclusivity, equality, and economic growth—all at the same time? Whether you’re a business owner, an ally, or simply curious about how diversity drives success, you'll want to learn about the inspiring work of the LGBT Chamber of Commerce. From combating discriminatory legislation to fostering partnerships between small businesses and major corporations, the Chamber proves that advocacy and economic opportunity go hand in hand. This conversation with the Chamber's founder Jason Rae reveals how collaboration and diversity can transform communities in ways you never imagined.

National LGBT Chamber: https://nglcc.org/
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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16340050 Mon, 06 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600 2044 Jason Rae, LGBTQ Chamber of Commerce, Wisconsin, business growth, economic opportunity, diversity, equality, advocacy, networking, community impact, small business, corporate partnerships, pro-equality policies, combating discrimination, inclusive economy 3 19 full false A Workplace Where Everyone Belongs A Workplace Where Everyone Belongs What does it take to make workplaces truly inclusive for LGBTQ+ employees? Drawing on personal stories and practical advice, this conversation explores how you can foster authenticity and respect at work. With just a little thought about how to build inclusive spaces where everyone feels valued, each of us can find ways we can ensure our workplaces are not just diverse but genuinely affirming.

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]]> What does it take to make workplaces truly inclusive for LGBTQ+ employees? Drawing on personal stories and practical advice, this conversation explores how you can foster authenticity and respect at work. With just a little thought about how to build inclusive spaces where everyone feels valued, each of us can find ways we can ensure our workplaces are not just diverse but genuinely affirming.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16204293 Mon, 30 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600 2088 LGBTQ+, workplace inclusion, diversity, transgender employees, microaggressions, workplace safety, inclusivity training, company culture, respect, employee benefits, leadership, coworker support, authentic workplaces, LGBTQ+ allies 3 18 full false How to Create a Safe Home for Everyone How to Create a Safe Home for Everyone What can parents do to create a home where LGBTQ+ children feel truly safe and affirmed? Joe and Rya explore the transformative power of unconditional love and acceptance, revealing how even small acts of rejection can leave lasting scars. By prioritizing communication, affirmation, and inclusivity, we can ensure that our loved ones feel valued and free to express their authentic selves. Joe and Rya share actionable strategies for creating a home rooted in understanding and love. 

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]]> What can parents do to create a home where LGBTQ+ children feel truly safe and affirmed? Joe and Rya explore the transformative power of unconditional love and acceptance, revealing how even small acts of rejection can leave lasting scars. By prioritizing communication, affirmation, and inclusivity, we can ensure that our loved ones feel valued and free to express their authentic selves. Joe and Rya share actionable strategies for creating a home rooted in understanding and love. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16162392 Mon, 23 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1923 LGBTQ+, parenting, unconditional love, acceptance, affirming home, safe space, pronoun usage, open communication, family inclusivity, respect, supporting LGBTQ+ children, identity affirmation, mental health, family culture 3 17 full false The Emotional Cost of Being Queer in Today's World The Emotional Cost of Being Queer in Today's World The LGBTQ+ experience is often shaped by discrimination, microaggressions, and minority stress. Joe and Rya examine how these challenges intersect with body image concerns and the personal struggles of LGBTQ people. Navigating a world that frequently misunderstands or marginalizes queer identities requires a healthy dose of resilience. This episode gives tips for finding that resilience.

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]]> The LGBTQ+ experience is often shaped by discrimination, microaggressions, and minority stress. Joe and Rya examine how these challenges intersect with body image concerns and the personal struggles of LGBTQ people. Navigating a world that frequently misunderstands or marginalizes queer identities requires a healthy dose of resilience. This episode gives tips for finding that resilience.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16124170 Mon, 16 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600 2002 LGBTQ+, emotional health, minority stress, gender dysphoria, body image, microaggressions, discrimination, safe spaces, boundaries, gender affirmation, mental health, resilience, queer identity, self-care 3 16 full false You Can Overcome Your Negatives Emotions—Here's How You Can Overcome Your Negatives Emotions—Here's How Struggles with identity and acceptance can weigh heavily on both LGBTQ individuals and allies. Questions of identity can create difficult emotional challenges, from internalized homophobia and transphobia to the anxiety of coming out. External struggles like family rejection and social isolation can also cause difficulties. So how can we overcome those negative emotions? Joe and Rya offer practical advice to build self-love, a supportive network, and strength in connection. 

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]]> Struggles with identity and acceptance can weigh heavily on both LGBTQ individuals and allies. Questions of identity can create difficult emotional challenges, from internalized homophobia and transphobia to the anxiety of coming out. External struggles like family rejection and social isolation can also cause difficulties. So how can we overcome those negative emotions? Joe and Rya offer practical advice to build self-love, a supportive network, and strength in connection. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16082276 Mon, 09 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1804 LGBTQ support, LGBTQ identity, overcoming negative emotions, internalized homophobia, internalized transphobia, coming out anxiety, self-acceptance, self-affirmation, LGBTQ role models, family rejection, Telaina Erikson, Unconditional book, 3 15 full false The Ebenezer Scrooge Guide to Changing Hearts for LGBTQ+ Inclusion The Ebenezer Scrooge Guide to Changing Hearts for LGBTQ+ Inclusion How can we help the “Scrooges” in our lives become more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community? We can use A Christmas Carol as a framework to explore practical, research-backed strategies for changing hearts and minds. Each of Scrooge's encounters suggest concrete steps for fostering empathy by sharing personal stories and guiding people toward a more inclusive future. Whether you're confronting ignorance or encouraging reflection, this episode provides essential tools for allies to help bridge the gap between resistance and acceptance.

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]]> How can we help the “Scrooges” in our lives become more inclusive of the LGBTQ+ community? We can use A Christmas Carol as a framework to explore practical, research-backed strategies for changing hearts and minds. Each of Scrooge's encounters suggest concrete steps for fostering empathy by sharing personal stories and guiding people toward a more inclusive future. Whether you're confronting ignorance or encouraging reflection, this episode provides essential tools for allies to help bridge the gap between resistance and acceptance.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16041420 Mon, 02 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1788 LGBTQ inclusion, family relationships, allyship, LGBTQ allies, Christmas Carol metaphor, LGBTQ+ advocacy, empathy building, changing hearts and minds, LGBTQ education, holiday podcast, maintaining family ties, LGBTQ acceptance, holiday inclusion, Scrooge 3 14 full false A Handful of LGBTQ Films We Think You'll Love A Handful of LGBTQ Films We Think You'll Love So much of what we learn about others comes from the media we consume. Listen in on Joe and Rya's conversation about how allies can educate themselves on LGBTQ experiences by engaging with film and television. They share some of their favorite queer movies and reflect on the power of media to foster empathy and understanding. The discussion offers accessible recommendations for those looking to broaden their perspective, while also exploring the emotional impact of LGBTQ narratives. It’s a warm and personal look at how media can shape both awareness and connection. 

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]]> So much of what we learn about others comes from the media we consume. Listen in on Joe and Rya's conversation about how allies can educate themselves on LGBTQ experiences by engaging with film and television. They share some of their favorite queer movies and reflect on the power of media to foster empathy and understanding. The discussion offers accessible recommendations for those looking to broaden their perspective, while also exploring the emotional impact of LGBTQ narratives. It’s a warm and personal look at how media can shape both awareness and connection. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15811127 Mon, 25 Nov 2024 22:00:00 -0600 1627 LGBTQ films, queer cinema, movie recommendations, LGBTQ media, allyship, queer representation, film discussion, LGBTQ education, media analysis, LGBTQ storytelling, inclusive media, movie picks, Pray Away, Boy Erased, Love Simon, Disobedience, The L Word, 3 13 full false American LGBTQ Milestones on the Path to Affirmation American LGBTQ Milestones on the Path to Affirmation What can we learn from the pivotal moments in LGBTQ history in the U.S.? This episode explores key events that have shaped the fight for equality and civil rights within the U.S. government. From the Lavender Scare to the Stonewall Riots, and through landmark legal cases like Obergefell v. Hodges, they reflect on the challenges and triumphs of the LGBTQ movement. This episode highlights the importance of understanding the past to protect the progress made. We must always remember that the struggle for equality is ongoing and deeply relevant today. 

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]]> What can we learn from the pivotal moments in LGBTQ history in the U.S.? This episode explores key events that have shaped the fight for equality and civil rights within the U.S. government. From the Lavender Scare to the Stonewall Riots, and through landmark legal cases like Obergefell v. Hodges, they reflect on the challenges and triumphs of the LGBTQ movement. This episode highlights the importance of understanding the past to protect the progress made. We must always remember that the struggle for equality is ongoing and deeply relevant today. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15928051 Mon, 18 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1839 LGBTQ history, civil rights, U.S. government, Lavender Scare, Executive Order 10450, Stonewall Riots, homosexuality in the DSM, HIV/AIDS crisis, Don't Ask Don't Tell, same-sex marriage, Massachusetts legalizing same-sex marriage, United States v. Windsor, 3 12 full false Two Decades in the Closet: Military Service Before Obama Two Decades in the Closet: Military Service Before Obama From 1981 to 1999. she lived in constant fear of being outed, knowing that discovery could end her career in an instant. In honor of Veteran's Day, Monica Skarban returns to the podcast to share her personal story of serving in the U.S. Air Force as a closeted gay woman. She watched firsthand as friends were dishonorably discharged after being exposed. Despite serving with dedication as a nurse across the globe, from Germany to Saudi Arabia during the Gulf War, she was forced to hide her true identity. Monica recounts the pain of living under "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell" and how the threat of being found out hung over every relationship. Monica’s story is a powerful reminder of the sacrifices so many were forced to make in silence. 

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]]> From 1981 to 1999. she lived in constant fear of being outed, knowing that discovery could end her career in an instant. In honor of Veteran's Day, Monica Skarban returns to the podcast to share her personal story of serving in the U.S. Air Force as a closeted gay woman. She watched firsthand as friends were dishonorably discharged after being exposed. Despite serving with dedication as a nurse across the globe, from Germany to Saudi Arabia during the Gulf War, she was forced to hide her true identity. Monica recounts the pain of living under "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell" and how the threat of being found out hung over every relationship. Monica’s story is a powerful reminder of the sacrifices so many were forced to make in silence. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15738847 Mon, 11 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1586 Air Force, LGBTQ military, closeted service members, Monica Skarban, Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, military nurse, Special Investigation Unit, gay women in the military, softball, gay men in the military, military discharge, Clinton policy, early retirement, Gulf 3 11 full false Bonus Podcast: Our Take on the Election Bonus Podcast: Our Take on the Election For those struggling with the recent election results, this episode offers a bit of encouragement. Joe and Rya share their thoughts on the outcome and present a perspective you probably haven't heard. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-16081812 Sun, 10 Nov 2024 20:00:00 -0600 385 presidential election, LGBTQ representation, transgender congressperson, Delaware politics, LGBTQ legislation, state-level politics, LGBTQ house representatives, anti-LGBTQ politicians, North Carolina election, LGBTQ political wins, election reaction 3 full false The Lavender Scare: How the First Gay Activists Stood Up To the U.S. Government The Lavender Scare: How the First Gay Activists Stood Up To the U.S. Government The mid-twentieth century was a defining moment in LGBTQ history, marking the beginning of a long and difficult fight for equality. Joe and Rya retell the stories of Frank Kameny and Jamie Shoemaker, two key figures whose lives were forever changed by the persecution of LGBTQ individuals. Kameny’s activism helped ignite the struggle for LGBTQ rights. Once the fight for progress began, there was no going back. Through courage and resilience, the LGBTQ community finally refused to be silenced.

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]]> The mid-twentieth century was a defining moment in LGBTQ history, marking the beginning of a long and difficult fight for equality. Joe and Rya retell the stories of Frank Kameny and Jamie Shoemaker, two key figures whose lives were forever changed by the persecution of LGBTQ individuals. Kameny’s activism helped ignite the struggle for LGBTQ rights. Once the fight for progress began, there was no going back. Through courage and resilience, the LGBTQ community finally refused to be silenced.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15887446 Mon, 04 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600 1837 Lavender Scare, Frank Kameny, Jamie Shoemaker, LGBTQ history, gay rights movement, DSM homosexuality removal, NSA, FBI, CIA, Red Scare, McCarthyism, Mattachine Society, Gay is Good, LGBTQ activism, family relationships, allyship, educating allies, queer h 3 10 full false Pixels, Pride, and Progress: How Technology is Shaping LGBTQ Experience Pixels, Pride, and Progress: How Technology is Shaping LGBTQ Experience Imagine if computer AI could help you discover your true identity—perhaps even before you understood yourself. From personalized health care for trans individuals, to tools that aid in gender exploration, "Artificial Intelligence" is transforming the LGBTQ+ community. We live in a time of exciting possibilities for progress. But is there also a dark side?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15995840 Mon, 28 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1769 LGBTQ, technology, health care, gender identity, trans rights, augmented reality, personalized medicine, queer advocacy, privacy concerns, online safety, digital tools, artificial intelligence, gender exploration, voice modulation, ethical challenges, LGB 3 9 full false Behind the Algorithm: What the LGBTQ Community Needs to Know About Artificial Intelligence Behind the Algorithm: What the LGBTQ Community Needs to Know About Artificial Intelligence In this episode, Rya and Joe have a heartfelt discussion about how AI is transforming society, with a focus on its potential impact on the LGBTQ community. They explore how AI functions, its growing role in various fields like healthcare and creative work, and the ethical concerns surrounding data usage and misinformation. The conversation touches on the differences between AI and human intelligence, highlighting both the benefits and challenges of integrating AI into our daily lives. Ultimately, they reflect on the future of AI, questioning its influence on culture and the broader implications for society. 

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]]> In this episode, Rya and Joe have a heartfelt discussion about how AI is transforming society, with a focus on its potential impact on the LGBTQ community. They explore how AI functions, its growing role in various fields like healthcare and creative work, and the ethical concerns surrounding data usage and misinformation. The conversation touches on the differences between AI and human intelligence, highlighting both the benefits and challenges of integrating AI into our daily lives. Ultimately, they reflect on the future of AI, questioning its influence on culture and the broader implications for society. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15927197 Mon, 21 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500 2016 AI, artificial intelligence, LGBTQ, technology, algorithms, data ethics, privacy, healthcare technology, AI in education, AI and creativity, misinformation, social media algorithms, AI in healthcare, ethical AI, chatgpt, data security, algorithm bias, tec 3 8 full false Life After Rejecting Conversion Therapy Life After Rejecting Conversion Therapy In the second half of their interview with John Paulk, Joe and Rya continue to explore the complexities of his journey out of the ex-gay movement. Rya shares her experience attending a Love Won Out conference as a closeted trans woman in the '90s, while John opens up about the "dirty little secret" within the ex-gay community—that no one actually changes. They discuss the evolving attitudes within the church, with even his son's Campus Crusade group accepting LGBTQ individuals. John reflects on whether being born gay matters, concluding that God’s love is all that counts. He also addresses how the family dynamics have changed between him and his two sons as well as him and his ex-wife.

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]]> In the second half of their interview with John Paulk, Joe and Rya continue to explore the complexities of his journey out of the ex-gay movement. Rya shares her experience attending a Love Won Out conference as a closeted trans woman in the '90s, while John opens up about the "dirty little secret" within the ex-gay community—that no one actually changes. They discuss the evolving attitudes within the church, with even his son's Campus Crusade group accepting LGBTQ individuals. John reflects on whether being born gay matters, concluding that God’s love is all that counts. He also addresses how the family dynamics have changed between him and his two sons as well as him and his ex-wife.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15797397 Mon, 14 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1565 Trandescendant, John Paulk, Anne Edward, Exodus International, Restored Hope Network, conversion therapy, ex-gay movement, LGBTQ issues, Jerry Falwell, Moral Majority, church and LGBTQ, Mormon bishop coming out, LGBTQ later in life, God's new story, faith 3 7 full false The Damage of Conversion Therapy The Damage of Conversion Therapy Our good friend of the podcast, John Paulk, returns in this important episode. John is a former leader of the ex-gay movement who has since renounced conversion therapy and embraced his true identity. He gives a first-hand account of why conversion therapy is so hurtful. He discusses the lack of evidence supporting the idea that anyone can truly change their sexual orientation and the deep personal toll it takes on those involved. He shares his experience of publicly claiming he was no longer attracted to men while privately knowing it was a lie, as well as his evolving connection to James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family, after coming out. Despite his past, John remains a person of faith and emphasizes that God's love extends to everyone, including those in the LGBTQ community. 

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]]> Our good friend of the podcast, John Paulk, returns in this important episode. John is a former leader of the ex-gay movement who has since renounced conversion therapy and embraced his true identity. He gives a first-hand account of why conversion therapy is so hurtful. He discusses the lack of evidence supporting the idea that anyone can truly change their sexual orientation and the deep personal toll it takes on those involved. He shares his experience of publicly claiming he was no longer attracted to men while privately knowing it was a lie, as well as his evolving connection to James Dobson, founder of Focus on the Family, after coming out. Despite his past, John remains a person of faith and emphasizes that God's love extends to everyone, including those in the LGBTQ community. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15796714 Mon, 07 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1545 Trandescendant, John Paulk, Exodus International, conversion therapy, ex-gay movement, LGBTQ issues, faith and sexuality, James Dobson, Focus on the Family, celibate gays in the church, LGBTQ faith, church and sexuality, coming out, public versus private 3 6 full false Allyship Gone Wrong: When Good Intentions Fall Short Allyship Gone Wrong: When Good Intentions Fall Short Many well-meaning allies unknowingly cause harm by not recognizing their own ignorance. Joe and Rya explore how even the most supportive allies can miss the signals that they are pushing their loved one away and don't know it. Good intentions are not enough. What does it take to educate yourself? Using sales analogies from their shared business experiences, Joe and Rya provide insights on how allies can avoid these common mistakes and become truly supportive.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15771970 Mon, 30 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1979 Trandescendant, allyship, LGBTQ issues, Dunning Kruger effect, family dynamics, grandmas and grandchildren, broken relationships, communication in families, sales tactics, overcoming objections, ally responsibility, preserving relationships, keeping famil 3 5 full false How Playing a Made-up Role Can Help You Live Your Most Authentic Life How Playing a Made-up Role Can Help You Live Your Most Authentic Life Joe and Rya take a deep-dive into the ways LGBTQ people can learn to accept themselves through play. They discuss Rya's childhood love for Dungeons & Dragons, a game which is celebrating its 50th anniversary in 2024. They explore how role-playing games and other childhood hobbies offer queer individuals a safe space for self-discovery and expression. The role of the Role can be a gamechanger in your own path towards understanding your true self.

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]]> Joe and Rya take a deep-dive into the ways LGBTQ people can learn to accept themselves through play. They discuss Rya's childhood love for Dungeons & Dragons, a game which is celebrating its 50th anniversary in 2024. They explore how role-playing games and other childhood hobbies offer queer individuals a safe space for self-discovery and expression. The role of the Role can be a gamechanger in your own path towards understanding your true self.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15692172 Mon, 23 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1792 Dungeons & Dragons, roleplaying games, RPGs, self-discovery, identity, LGBTQ, non-binary, Dave Arneson, Gary Gygax, University of Minnesota, Lake Geneva, improv acting, theater, Car Wars, Robotech, Star Wars RPG, superhero RPGs, video games, personas, cre 3 4 full false The Remarkable Power of Therapy in Family Dynamics The Remarkable Power of Therapy in Family Dynamics Is mental health therapy really worth the investment, especially when navigating complex LGBTQ experiences? In this episode, Joe and Rya consider common skepticism about therapy's value, addressing concerns over cost and effectiveness. Through personal reflections on seeking therapy before coming out, Rya illustrates how professional guidance can offer invaluable tools for communication and fresh perspectives. The discussion also touches on navigating insurance and making therapy more accessible, providing a comprehensive view of its role in fostering healthy family dynamics.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15654306 Mon, 16 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1973 therapy, LGBTQ issues, mental health, physical health, telehealth, virtual therapy, professional training, cost of therapy, communication tools, personal experiences, physical therapy, mental health comparisons, family dynamics 3 3 full false How Our Biggest Political Enemy is Hiding in Plain Sight How Our Biggest Political Enemy is Hiding in Plain Sight What happens when our opponents' political rhetoric spirals out of control? Joe and Rya explore how the intense divisiveness in politics feeds the growing conflict surrounding LGBTQ+ issues. The way we frame our own stories can mask the true values that would bring us together.

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]]> What happens when our opponents' political rhetoric spirals out of control? Joe and Rya explore how the intense divisiveness in politics feeds the growing conflict surrounding LGBTQ+ issues. The way we frame our own stories can mask the true values that would bring us together.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15615962 Mon, 09 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1834 political divide, LGBTQ+ issues, divisiveness, rhetoric, shared values, freedom of speech, misinformation, political discourse, unity, societal impact, tolerance, understanding, political tension, heroes in stories, community, modern politics, cultural co 3 2 full false Be Not Afraid: A Priest's Coming-Out Story Be Not Afraid: A Priest's Coming-Out Story Father Greg Greiten knew from an early age that he had a secret. In this episode, he shares the deep mental anguish he experienced trying to keep his identity hidden, including moments when he considered ending it all. In this episode, Father Greg tells Joe and Rya how he finally came out as gay to his parishes, and what happened in the aftermath. Despite the risks, his story is one of faith, courage, and the power of acceptance. He challenges each of us to be more loving and accepting of others without fear. 

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]]> Father Greg Greiten knew from an early age that he had a secret. In this episode, he shares the deep mental anguish he experienced trying to keep his identity hidden, including moments when he considered ending it all. In this episode, Father Greg tells Joe and Rya how he finally came out as gay to his parishes, and what happened in the aftermath. Despite the risks, his story is one of faith, courage, and the power of acceptance. He challenges each of us to be more loving and accepting of others without fear. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15647959 Mon, 02 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500 2046 Father Greg Greiten, LGBTQ Catholics, Catholic Church, celibacy, ministry, 60 Minutes, protests, inclusion, seminary experiences, bagpipes, dad jokes, radical honesty, faith and acceptance, bishop, national exposure, religious conflict, Catholic mass, pea 3 1 full false "I'm Worried My Son Is Gay. How Do I Cope?" "I'm Worried My Son Is Gay. How Do I Cope?" A listener shares how she has been grappling with fear that her son might be gay. Joe and Rya offer thoughts on how to maintain a strong relationship without compromising her beliefs. The discussion centers on how to reconcile personal values with the love and connection she has for her son. Joe shares some ways he coped when Rya came out, and Rya gives practical tips on preparing to have a coming out conversation. Together, they provide insights that aim to foster understanding and compassion. 

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]]> A listener shares how she has been grappling with fear that her son might be gay. Joe and Rya offer thoughts on how to maintain a strong relationship without compromising her beliefs. The discussion centers on how to reconcile personal values with the love and connection she has for her son. Joe shares some ways he coped when Rya came out, and Rya gives practical tips on preparing to have a coming out conversation. Together, they provide insights that aim to foster understanding and compassion. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15580279 Mon, 26 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1856 parenting, relationships, family connection, LGBTQ, faith, love, acceptance, reconciliation, parenting challenges, navigating beliefs, compassion, understanding, family bonds, communication, support 2 52 full false When it Becomes Wrong to Fight Injustice When it Becomes Wrong to Fight Injustice In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss the complexities of fighting injustice, exploring when standing up for what’s right can go too far. They examine how political divisiveness and social media can lead to the dehumanization of others, even in the name of a good cause. The conversation also touches on the importance of preserving dignity in all relationships, including those within the LGBTQ community. With honest feedback, they challenge each other and us to rethink how we approach morality and justice in an increasingly polarized world.

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]]> In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss the complexities of fighting injustice, exploring when standing up for what’s right can go too far. They examine how political divisiveness and social media can lead to the dehumanization of others, even in the name of a good cause. The conversation also touches on the importance of preserving dignity in all relationships, including those within the LGBTQ community. With honest feedback, they challenge each other and us to rethink how we approach morality and justice in an increasingly polarized world.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15562302 Mon, 19 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1730 justice, morality, politics, dehumanization, social media, LGBTQ, family, relationships, God’s image, divisiveness, compassion, human dignity, integrity, polarization, ethics, family relationships, dealing with difficult people 2 51 full false Understanding Asexuality, with Will Church Understanding Asexuality, with Will Church  In this episode, Will shares his experiences of being asexual and aromantic, providing insights into his journey and what it means to navigate the world with these identities. The conversation delves into his worries about coming out at work and how his message would be received. Additionally, the discussion turns to the importance of being a better ally and challenges listeners to question their own assumptions about sexuality and gender. Will’s story highlights the diversity within the LGBTQ+ community and underscores the need for greater understanding and acceptance.

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]]>  In this episode, Will shares his experiences of being asexual and aromantic, providing insights into his journey and what it means to navigate the world with these identities. The conversation delves into his worries about coming out at work and how his message would be received. Additionally, the discussion turns to the importance of being a better ally and challenges listeners to question their own assumptions about sexuality and gender. Will’s story highlights the diversity within the LGBTQ+ community and underscores the need for greater understanding and acceptance.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15537050 Mon, 12 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1716 Asexual, Aromantic, LGBTQ+, Allyship, Identity, Social Media, Coming Out, Acceptance, Sexuality, Gender, Understanding, Support, Workplace Inclusion, Diversity, Personal Journey, Assumptions, Inclusivity, Joe and Rya, Podcast Interview, Will Church 2 50 full false The Difference Between Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation The Difference Between Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation Did you know that there is dramatic segmentation between different parts of the LGBTQ+ community? We often group people together when we don't understand them. But no one is a stereotype. Each person is an individual, and each is on a continuum. Joe and Rya explore the variety of ways people might find themselves as a part of the LGBTQ+ community. The combination of gender identity and orientation are as unique as personality. No two people are alike.

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]]> Did you know that there is dramatic segmentation between different parts of the LGBTQ+ community? We often group people together when we don't understand them. But no one is a stereotype. Each person is an individual, and each is on a continuum. Joe and Rya explore the variety of ways people might find themselves as a part of the LGBTQ+ community. The combination of gender identity and orientation are as unique as personality. No two people are alike.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15426524 Mon, 05 Aug 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1848 LGBTQ+, Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, Family, Support, Relationships, Inclusivity, Diversity, Understanding, Individuality, Continuum, Stereotypes, Coming Out, Support Systems, Personal Stories 2 49 full false How She and Her Wife found Acceptance in the Catholic Church How She and Her Wife found Acceptance in the Catholic Church In this moving interview with Monica Skarban, she shares how her Catholic Church embraced her with full acceptance after the death of her wife. She discusses the rejection she experienced in some churches and the joy of discovering a parish that fully embraced them. Monica’s story highlights that there are affirming churches for everyone, and no one should let others dictate their self-worth. Together with Joe and Rya, they explore how faith, love, and inclusivity can make a difference in anyone's life.

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]]> In this moving interview with Monica Skarban, she shares how her Catholic Church embraced her with full acceptance after the death of her wife. She discusses the rejection she experienced in some churches and the joy of discovering a parish that fully embraced them. Monica’s story highlights that there are affirming churches for everyone, and no one should let others dictate their self-worth. Together with Joe and Rya, they explore how faith, love, and inclusivity can make a difference in anyone's life.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15465416 Mon, 29 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1895 LGBTQ+, Faith, Acceptance, Catholic Church, Inclusivity, Affirming Church, Love, Spirituality, Relationships, Overcoming Rejection, Religious Acceptance, Personal Journey, LGBTQ+ Faith, Acceptance in Religion, Community, Hope, Support, Resilience, Faith 2 48 full false The Roots of Homophobia The Roots of Homophobia This episode delves into the origins and complexities of prejudice against LGBTQ+ individuals, specifically focusing on attitudes towards homosexuality. Homophobia extends beyond mere dislike or fear; it encompasses deep-seated societal norms, cultural biases, and often religious teachings that contribute to discrimination and exclusion. This episode explores the historical, psychological, and sociological roots of homophobia, shedding light on how these prejudices manifest in different contexts. Joe and Rya aim to uncover the underlying factors driving homophobia and advocate for greater awareness and empathy to foster a more inclusive and accepting world. 

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]]> This episode delves into the origins and complexities of prejudice against LGBTQ+ individuals, specifically focusing on attitudes towards homosexuality. Homophobia extends beyond mere dislike or fear; it encompasses deep-seated societal norms, cultural biases, and often religious teachings that contribute to discrimination and exclusion. This episode explores the historical, psychological, and sociological roots of homophobia, shedding light on how these prejudices manifest in different contexts. Joe and Rya aim to uncover the underlying factors driving homophobia and advocate for greater awareness and empathy to foster a more inclusive and accepting world. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15359828 Mon, 22 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500 2305 Homophobia, LGBT Rights, LGBTQ+ Community, Discrimination, Prejudice, Social Justice, LGBTQ+ History, Cultural Bias, Religious Beliefs, Psychological Factors, Societal Norms, LGBTQ+ Awareness, Acceptance, Equality 2 47 full false Common Lies that Homophobes Like to Tell Common Lies that Homophobes Like to Tell Have you ever tried to convince someone they are believing a lie? If you say something enough times with no proof at all, people start to believe it. A lot of what homophobes have been saying for decades just isn't true. But you can't convince them otherwise. So what can you do? Speak up. Dismantling lies happens the same way they are constructed in the first place, one statement at a time. Joe and Rya look at a few of these misconception from a compassionate perspective. Although statistics show that acceptance for LGBTQ+ people is growing, there still are a lot of skeptics.

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]]> Have you ever tried to convince someone they are believing a lie? If you say something enough times with no proof at all, people start to believe it. A lot of what homophobes have been saying for decades just isn't true. But you can't convince them otherwise. So what can you do? Speak up. Dismantling lies happens the same way they are constructed in the first place, one statement at a time. Joe and Rya look at a few of these misconception from a compassionate perspective. Although statistics show that acceptance for LGBTQ+ people is growing, there still are a lot of skeptics.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15313916 Mon, 15 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1740 Combating Homophobia, False narratives about LGBTQ+ people, religion and homophobia, cultural norms and rejecting gay and lesbian people, peer pressure and rejecting homosexuality, it's okay to be gay 2 46 full false How Two Transgender Muslim Women Fell In Love When They Least Expected It How Two Transgender Muslim Women Fell In Love When They Least Expected It Every love story is different. Ameera and Julia didn't plan to have a relationship. It just happened, and suddenly they realized they were together. Despite objections from conservative Muslims peers, they affirmed their gender, retained their faith, and pursued their love.  After three years of marriage, their love for one another shines even brighter. Their story will inspire and encourage you.

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]]> Every love story is different. Ameera and Julia didn't plan to have a relationship. It just happened, and suddenly they realized they were together. Despite objections from conservative Muslims peers, they affirmed their gender, retained their faith, and pursued their love.  After three years of marriage, their love for one another shines even brighter. Their story will inspire and encourage you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15274807 Mon, 08 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1763 transgender and muslim, queer marriage, She-Ra and the Princess of Power, Queer Hafiz, What does the Quran say about being gay?, LGBTQ love stories, transfeminine, bi-gender, transitioning gender in Islam, affirming Muslim theology 2 45 full false Exposing Rya's Deepest Insecurities Exposing Rya's Deepest Insecurities Rya had an emotional session with her therapist this afternoon. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss what happened and why she felt so vulnerable. Joe asks about the value of seeing a therapist. We all know mental health is important, and we need to learn to accept the help that is available for us when we need it. Discover how to live life to its fullest by eliminating harmful thought patterns that keep you from moving forward. Your situation will be different, but the process is similar.

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]]> Rya had an emotional session with her therapist this afternoon. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss what happened and why she felt so vulnerable. Joe asks about the value of seeing a therapist. We all know mental health is important, and we need to learn to accept the help that is available for us when we need it. Discover how to live life to its fullest by eliminating harmful thought patterns that keep you from moving forward. Your situation will be different, but the process is similar.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15077578 Mon, 01 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1967 therapy, mental health, lgbtq+ counselors, mental stress over transitioning, self-esteem, overcome mental roadblocks, the value of seeing a therapist, transgender struggles with not feeling attractive, why do people go to therapy, what can you expect from 2 44 full false Allyship part 2: Ten More Ideas to Level Up as an Ally Allyship part 2: Ten More Ideas to Level Up as an Ally As we near the end of Pride month, we want to keep looking for ways to strengthen our commitment to our LGBTQ loved ones. This episode gives a checklist for maximizing the good and minimizing the harmful in our relationships. Let's show those who closest to us that we are ALL IN.

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]]> As we near the end of Pride month, we want to keep looking for ways to strengthen our commitment to our LGBTQ loved ones. This episode gives a checklist for maximizing the good and minimizing the harmful in our relationships. Let's show those who closest to us that we are ALL IN.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15235516 Mon, 24 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1596 LGBTQ family relationships, How to be an LGBTQ ally, Building Positive Relationships Together, Queer, Acceptance, Radical Acceptance 2 43 full false Allyship part 1: Eight Simple Ways to Become a More Confident Ally Allyship part 1: Eight Simple Ways to Become a More Confident Ally Being an ally means more than just being accepting our gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or other sexual- or gender-non-conforming loved one. We want to become fully affirming. How do we learn to stand proud of our LGBTQ+ friends and family? The  way to grow is to keep learning. The more we know, the more we become true advocates and supporters. In this episode, Joe and Rya present your motivational guide to being ALL IN.

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]]> Being an ally means more than just being accepting our gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or other sexual- or gender-non-conforming loved one. We want to become fully affirming. How do we learn to stand proud of our LGBTQ+ friends and family? The  way to grow is to keep learning. The more we know, the more we become true advocates and supporters. In this episode, Joe and Rya present your motivational guide to being ALL IN.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15139602 Mon, 17 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1569 LGBTQ ally, How to make friends, Positive LGBTQ+ media, Preserving relationships with LGBTQ+ family and friends, Join a club, Gay and lesbian, bisexual, transgender, affirming 2 42 full false The Shocking Feedback She Got After Rya's Transition: The Mom's Story The Shocking Feedback She Got After Rya's Transition: The Mom's Story You've heard from the Dad. You've heard from the Daughter. But you've never heard from the Mom... until now. In this episode, she shares her earliest struggles to accept the news that her adult child came out as transgender. At first the shock was overwhelming. But she found a deep well of strength to bring her through. If you or someone you know is struggling after someone close has come out, you will find comfort and wisdom in her words.

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]]> You've heard from the Dad. You've heard from the Daughter. But you've never heard from the Mom... until now. In this episode, she shares her earliest struggles to accept the news that her adult child came out as transgender. At first the shock was overwhelming. But she found a deep well of strength to bring her through. If you or someone you know is struggling after someone close has come out, you will find comfort and wisdom in her words.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15195507 Mon, 10 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1463 LGBTQ Family Issues, Friendships with LGBTQ people, Queer family, LGBTQ secrets, Parent Child relationships, Family relationships, Difficult conversations, Strengthening family ties 2 41 full false When the Spokesman for the Ex-Gay Movement Finally Stopped Lying to Himself: an Interview with John Paulk When the Spokesman for the Ex-Gay Movement Finally Stopped Lying to Himself: an Interview with John Paulk For over a decade, John Paulk was the most visible spokesperson for conversion therapy. He gave his testimony on Oprah, 60 Minutes, and everywhere he could about how God had changed him from gay to straight. But inside, it was just fake-it-till-you-make-it. What happens when you finally admit to yourself that your entire ministry has been nothing but smoke and mirrors? 

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]]> For over a decade, John Paulk was the most visible spokesperson for conversion therapy. He gave his testimony on Oprah, 60 Minutes, and everywhere he could about how God had changed him from gay to straight. But inside, it was just fake-it-till-you-make-it. What happens when you finally admit to yourself that your entire ministry has been nothing but smoke and mirrors? 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15161131 Mon, 03 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500 2112 John Paulk, Conversion therapy, Exodus International, Love Won Out, James Dobson, ex-gay ministries, failure of conversion therapy 2 40 full false Do You Know How to Call Out These 12 Myths About LGBTQ+ People? Do You Know How to Call Out These 12 Myths About LGBTQ+ People? We need to tell people that myths are just that. When we do not challenge ideas that have already been debunked, we allow falsehoods to perpetuate . Don't buy into the misinformation. This episode gives a taste of some of the misleading views about gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people. Be a voice of positivity in the world.

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]]> We need to tell people that myths are just that. When we do not challenge ideas that have already been debunked, we allow falsehoods to perpetuate . Don't buy into the misinformation. This episode gives a taste of some of the misleading views about gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people. Be a voice of positivity in the world.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15030861 Mon, 27 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1728 LGBTQ+ myths, Gay and Lesbians Families, Is being gay a phase?, Can gay and lesbian people be cured?, Conversion therapy, Religion and LGBTQ+ people, Are transgender people just confused?, Do gay rights threaten family values? 2 39 full false Coming Out Slowly: the Positives, Negatives, and Surprises Coming Out Slowly: the Positives, Negatives, and Surprises Maggie Williams joins us for a one-year update about her transition. A year ago, we explored the similarities and differences with Rya's transition. But this past year has brought some important milestones on her journey. You won't want to miss her unexpected story.

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]]> Maggie Williams joins us for a one-year update about her transition. A year ago, we explored the similarities and differences with Rya's transition. But this past year has brought some important milestones on her journey. You won't want to miss her unexpected story.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14910479 Mon, 20 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1863 Differences in transgender experiences, LGBTQ issues, transiting, transgender grade school teacher, transgender high school teacher, transgender artist, transperience art installation 2 38 full false Elliott Green: From Homecoming Queen to Euphoric Trans Man Elliott Green: From Homecoming Queen to Euphoric Trans Man When we hear transgender stories, we often encounter tragic elements and tales of difficult experiences. We frequently learn how gender dysphoria drives trans people to give up everything. But what about uplifting trans experiences? What happens when the popular kid comes out? In this episode, Elliott shares his inspiring story about how positive his life has been after he found his most authentic self.

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]]> When we hear transgender stories, we often encounter tragic elements and tales of difficult experiences. We frequently learn how gender dysphoria drives trans people to give up everything. But what about uplifting trans experiences? What happens when the popular kid comes out? In this episode, Elliott shares his inspiring story about how positive his life has been after he found his most authentic self.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-15014672 Mon, 13 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1594 Transitioning gender, FTM, Gender dysphoria, Gender Euphoria, using a binder, transgender community organizing, transgender fiction 2 37 full false I Quit Drinking Alcohol When I Was 36 – Here’s How It Changed Me I Quit Drinking Alcohol When I Was 36 – Here’s How It Changed Me Joe has mentioned on this podcast in the past how he had a drinking problem. We wanted to explore the ways alcohol affected his life, and what brought him to the decision never to have another drink. Whether you have a healthy relationship with alcohol or you struggle with abusing alcohol or other drugs, you will benefit from hearing his story.

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]]> Joe has mentioned on this podcast in the past how he had a drinking problem. We wanted to explore the ways alcohol affected his life, and what brought him to the decision never to have another drink. Whether you have a healthy relationship with alcohol or you struggle with abusing alcohol or other drugs, you will benefit from hearing his story.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14994806 Mon, 06 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500 1748 Alcohol, Drugs, Overcoming addiction, Drinking problems, Relationship problems and drinking, abusive relationship, lgbtq+ and alcohol 2 36 full false How to Fight Confirmation Bias How to Fight Confirmation Bias We like to think we know what we're talking about. But the people who disagree with us think they are just as correct we think we are. How do we know who is right? When it comes to preserving relationships, sometimes it is more important to accept when we are wrong than it is to recognize when they are. Joe and Rya share ways to discover our own biases. We all have work to do on this one.

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]]> We like to think we know what we're talking about. But the people who disagree with us think they are just as correct we think we are. How do we know who is right? When it comes to preserving relationships, sometimes it is more important to accept when we are wrong than it is to recognize when they are. Joe and Rya share ways to discover our own biases. We all have work to do on this one.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14945285 Sun, 28 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1777 Peter Cathcart Wason, Confirmation Bias, LGBTQ issues, Fact Check, Empathy, Critical thinking 2 35 full false Queer is Not Queer Queer is Not Queer Everyone is different. Everyone is a minority, and minorities are good. Let's end the stigma against LGBTQ people being weird or odd. Committed allies understand that the majority is comprised of a combination of minorities. We are all queer in some form. The happiest people embrace our authentic differences and celebrate one another for who we are.

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]]> Everyone is different. Everyone is a minority, and minorities are good. Let's end the stigma against LGBTQ people being weird or odd. Committed allies understand that the majority is comprised of a combination of minorities. We are all queer in some form. The happiest people embrace our authentic differences and celebrate one another for who we are.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14824669 Sun, 21 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1821 LGBTQ Family Issues, Queer, LGBTQ secrets, Minorities, Majority, Are LGBTQ people weird? 2 34 full false Important Changes for TranDescendant Podcast Important Changes for TranDescendant Podcast A year ago, we shared an update about the podcast and where things were headed. Now, one year later, the TranDescendant community has grown exponentially. Joe and Rya paint their vision for where the podcast is headed for the coming year. Plus, a CRITICAL ANNOUNCEMENT you won't want to miss!

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14868224 Sun, 14 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1444 TranDescendant podcast, LGBTQ issues, Allies 2 33 full false How to Be Yourself and Help Your Family Support You, with Brian McNaught How to Be Yourself and Help Your Family Support You, with Brian McNaught Brian McNaught, a prominent LGBTQ+ advocate, discusses his experiences coming out as gay in 1974 and his subsequent work promoting understanding and acceptance of LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly transgender people. McNaught recounts facing job loss and societal rejection but emphasizes his unwavering faith and the importance of self-love. A key theme is the "hero's journey" of coming out, mirroring the challenges and transformations faced by many. He promotes open communication within families and advocates for education to combat ignorance and fear surrounding LGBTQ+ identities, promoting his book, Sex Camp and podcast "Are You Happy Without the Movie?" as resources for fostering acceptance and self-discovery.

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]]> Brian McNaught, a prominent LGBTQ+ advocate, discusses his experiences coming out as gay in 1974 and his subsequent work promoting understanding and acceptance of LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly transgender people. McNaught recounts facing job loss and societal rejection but emphasizes his unwavering faith and the importance of self-love. A key theme is the "hero's journey" of coming out, mirroring the challenges and transformations faced by many. He promotes open communication within families and advocates for education to combat ignorance and fear surrounding LGBTQ+ identities, promoting his book, Sex Camp and podcast "Are You Happy Without the Movie?" as resources for fostering acceptance and self-discovery.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14614731 Sun, 07 Apr 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1774 Coming out stories, LGBTQ+ acceptance, Family support, Hero's Journey, Self-love 2 32 full false The Bible Revisited: Why It is Morally Wrong to Condemn LGBTQ People The Bible Revisited: Why It is Morally Wrong to Condemn LGBTQ People One of our most powerful episodes yet! In our March 11 podcast, we went through the  verses that anti-LGBTQ people use to say that it is wrong to be gay. We provided an approach that allows you to affirm LGBTQ people while still following the Bible. In this episode, we take the argument a step further, demonstrating why it is absolutely wrong to condemn LGBTQ people for being their most authentic selves.  IF YOU ONLY LISTEN TO ONE PODCAST THIS MONTH, MAKE SURE IT IS THIS ONE.

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]]> One of our most powerful episodes yet! In our March 11 podcast, we went through the  verses that anti-LGBTQ people use to say that it is wrong to be gay. We provided an approach that allows you to affirm LGBTQ people while still following the Bible. In this episode, we take the argument a step further, demonstrating why it is absolutely wrong to condemn LGBTQ people for being their most authentic selves.  IF YOU ONLY LISTEN TO ONE PODCAST THIS MONTH, MAKE SURE IT IS THIS ONE.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14776057 Sun, 31 Mar 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1622 LGBTQ issues and the Bible, Queer family, Morality, homosexuality, condemnation, Trandescendant Podcast 2 31 full false The Battle for Acceptance: Heather's Transition The Battle for Acceptance: Heather's Transition Did you know that Rya is not the only transgender person in the family? Shortly after her transition, another younger member of the family also transitioned. Heather shares the heart wrenching story of how she was rejected by her mother before winning the battle for acceptance. She offers advice on how she ultimately found peace with her own gender identity, and how you can too.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14725828 Sun, 24 Mar 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1595 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, coming out to a parent, how to come out of the closet, gender identity and sexuality, a transgender story 2 30 full false The Subtleties of Gender The Subtleties of Gender Society does not have any written rules for how men or women behave. The social aspect of gender is simply "how things are done." But what happens when someone is sending the "wrong" signals? Rya describes her journey as a transgender woman learning to navigate a new set of social rules. From there, Joe and Rya discuss how gender functions in general, and how those subtleties impact people who do not naturally conform with the rules.

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]]> Society does not have any written rules for how men or women behave. The social aspect of gender is simply "how things are done." But what happens when someone is sending the "wrong" signals? Rya describes her journey as a transgender woman learning to navigate a new set of social rules. From there, Joe and Rya discuss how gender functions in general, and how those subtleties impact people who do not naturally conform with the rules.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14433583 Sun, 17 Mar 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1898 Gender rules, Gender norms, Gender expectations, Social roles for men and women, Feminine and masculine communication, gender non-conformity, gay and lesbian gender presentation, transgender experience, lgbtq+ 2 29 full false Can You Be an Ally and Hold Biblical Morality? Can You Be an Ally and Hold Biblical Morality? This episode starts by examining honestly the main reasons why some believers feel they must reject gay relationships to follow the Bible. It's not a lack of sincerity. But interpretation is a value judgment. The surface reading of the text is not necessarily the best reading. The Bible is a collection of statements from many viewpoints. Each statement does not carry the same weight. Rya and Joe make the case that it is impossible to follow the text exactly without negotiating parts of it to make it relevant for today.

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]]> This episode starts by examining honestly the main reasons why some believers feel they must reject gay relationships to follow the Bible. It's not a lack of sincerity. But interpretation is a value judgment. The surface reading of the text is not necessarily the best reading. The Bible is a collection of statements from many viewpoints. Each statement does not carry the same weight. Rya and Joe make the case that it is impossible to follow the text exactly without negotiating parts of it to make it relevant for today.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14389658 Sun, 10 Mar 2024 23:00:00 -0500 1664 Gay Christian, What does the Bible say about Homosexuality?, Is it wrong to be gay?, arsenokoites, Sodom and Gomorrah, "sodomites", 2 28 full false How Do You Know If You're Transgender? How Do You Know If You're Transgender? If you're in that place of searching right now, this episode will help you along your way. Rya shares her journey of how she continually weighed the positives and negatives and how agonizing the decision was for her. When enough of the answers converge, there comes a point when you can finally accept who you are inside. Everyone's story is different.

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]]> If you're in that place of searching right now, this episode will help you along your way. Rya shares her journey of how she continually weighed the positives and negatives and how agonizing the decision was for her. When enough of the answers converge, there comes a point when you can finally accept who you are inside. Everyone's story is different.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14389642 Sun, 03 Mar 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1928 transgender, accepting yourself, self-acceptance, questioning your gender, gender identity, how to know if you are transgender, preparing to transition 2 27 full false Common Language Mistakes Allies Make Common Language Mistakes Allies Make Are you using the wrong words without knowing it? Despite all the best intentions, if we use the wrong vocabulary in talking about LGBTQ issues, we can unintentionally alienate ourselves from the very people we were trying to support. Allies can become a closer part of the group simply by using the language of the community. Once you decide to become a real ally, you naturally start to talk like an ally talks.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14304544 Sun, 25 Feb 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1767 LGBTQ allyship, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, language, vocabulary 2 26 full false The Struggle to Accept Being Transgender: The Daughter's Story The Struggle to Accept Being Transgender: The Daughter's Story Coming out of the closet brings a newfound freedom. But it can also be accompanied by great loss. Rya tells her story of coming out, and the loss she experienced. Together, she and her dad explore how the first few stages of grieving can affect a person who has decided to come out. They discuss ways to find hope in the midst of the pain of loss.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14304531 Sun, 18 Feb 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1288 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, grief, 5 stages of grief 2 25 full false Mourning the Loss of a Son: the Dad's Story Mourning the Loss of a Son: the Dad's Story Joe tells his journey towards becoming totally accepting towards Rya after she transitioned. How did he feel after the son he thought he had now was presenting as his daughter? They tell the story of the difficulties the family had in coming to a place of acceptance. They look at ways their story can help others when a loved one comes out as gay or transgender.

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]]> Joe tells his journey towards becoming totally accepting towards Rya after she transitioned. How did he feel after the son he thought he had now was presenting as his daughter? They tell the story of the difficulties the family had in coming to a place of acceptance. They look at ways their story can help others when a loved one comes out as gay or transgender.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14266633 Sun, 11 Feb 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1784 Transgender issues, LGBTQ family issues, 5 stages of grief, emotions when a family member transitions 2 24 full false Being Gay: How Others See Me, How I See Me Being Gay: How Others See Me, How I See Me What does it mean to "act gay?" We often find ourselves embodying stereotypes. But those stereotypes do not define us. They are often the byproduct of living authentically. It's easy for outsiders to focus only on the mannerisms and never see the real person. The truth about being LGBTQ is that we have the same hopes and dreams as anyone else. Matthew returns to discuss from the heart how he feels about being out as a gay man in a small community.

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]]> What does it mean to "act gay?" We often find ourselves embodying stereotypes. But those stereotypes do not define us. They are often the byproduct of living authentically. It's easy for outsiders to focus only on the mannerisms and never see the real person. The truth about being LGBTQ is that we have the same hopes and dreams as anyone else. Matthew returns to discuss from the heart how he feels about being out as a gay man in a small community.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14245290 Sun, 04 Feb 2024 23:00:00 -0600 2095 coming out, public perceptions of gay people, living authentically, lgbtq+ living, freedom in coming out 2 23 full false How Gen Z is approaching Gender and Orientation Differently, with special guest Maya How Gen Z is approaching Gender and Orientation Differently, with special guest Maya Joe's granddaughter Maya returns to discuss how younger generations are slowly beginning to view orientation and gender as a non-issue. Topics include changes to expectations and gender norms among teenagers and early twenty-somethings. Next, the conversation shifts to younger students, exploring the ways Junior High children are approaching LGBTQ+ issues differently now than even five years ago. The final topic includes suggestions for how students can promote positive interactions with unsupportive parents.

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]]> Joe's granddaughter Maya returns to discuss how younger generations are slowly beginning to view orientation and gender as a non-issue. Topics include changes to expectations and gender norms among teenagers and early twenty-somethings. Next, the conversation shifts to younger students, exploring the ways Junior High children are approaching LGBTQ+ issues differently now than even five years ago. The final topic includes suggestions for how students can promote positive interactions with unsupportive parents.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14228090 Sun, 28 Jan 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1342 LGBTQ+ and Gen Z, changing views on gender and orientation in 2024, High school, Junior High, Middle School, Queer issues 2 22 full false Is Divorce Ever the Right Option? Is Divorce Ever the Right Option? We like to believe that love and commitment are enough to make a marriage work. But what happens when one partner comes out as LGBTQ+? Is divorce ever the right option? Rya speaks from the heart about her difficult journey coming out to her wife as a transgender woman, and her wife's own struggle at suddenly facing a spouse who could no longer be the man she married. They began with open and honest talk about feelings, no more secrets. Though they both tried desperately to find a way to make it work, Rya shares why they concluded that divorce was the only viable alternative. The podcast ends with advice to both sides when you're going through a similar struggle in your marriage.

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]]> We like to believe that love and commitment are enough to make a marriage work. But what happens when one partner comes out as LGBTQ+? Is divorce ever the right option? Rya speaks from the heart about her difficult journey coming out to her wife as a transgender woman, and her wife's own struggle at suddenly facing a spouse who could no longer be the man she married. They began with open and honest talk about feelings, no more secrets. Though they both tried desperately to find a way to make it work, Rya shares why they concluded that divorce was the only viable alternative. The podcast ends with advice to both sides when you're going through a similar struggle in your marriage.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14212275 Sun, 21 Jan 2024 23:00:00 -0600 2053 Coming out to a straight husband or wife, LGBTQ+ spouse in a straight marriage, Divorce, LGBTQ+ relationship issues, Children and divorce 2 21 full false Let's Talk About "Sex-Change Surgeries" Let's Talk About "Sex-Change Surgeries" This episode is everything you've always wondered about "the surgery" but were afraid to ask. Or maybe you weren't afraid to ask, and some poor trans person had to remind you that we don't talk about those things in polite society. Either way, this episode has all your answers. We discuss the various types of surgeries on offer, the history of surgeries, and Rya's own personal history. Joe and Rya speak frankly about a sensitive subject while keeping it light-hearted with a few laughs.

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]]> This episode is everything you've always wondered about "the surgery" but were afraid to ask. Or maybe you weren't afraid to ask, and some poor trans person had to remind you that we don't talk about those things in polite society. Either way, this episode has all your answers. We discuss the various types of surgeries on offer, the history of surgeries, and Rya's own personal history. Joe and Rya speak frankly about a sensitive subject while keeping it light-hearted with a few laughs.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14138770 Sun, 14 Jan 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1709 Gender Reassignment Surgery, Gender Affirmation Surgeries, Sex Reassignment Surgery, SRS, Facial Feminization Surgery, Top and Bottom Surgeries, Transgender surgeries 2 20 full false Are We Making Things Worse? Are We Making Things Worse? Recent debacles involving the school board in Bucks county, Pennsylvania prompted Joe and Rya to have a discussion about how we should approach cultural conflict. When we make a negative display of ourselves, those on the other side can paint us as villains. We end up working against our own society. When others begin to see us as a threat, we lose our own voice and subvert the message we were hoping to promote. If we want to make positive change, we must start by finding common ground.

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]]> Recent debacles involving the school board in Bucks county, Pennsylvania prompted Joe and Rya to have a discussion about how we should approach cultural conflict. When we make a negative display of ourselves, those on the other side can paint us as villains. We end up working against our own society. When others begin to see us as a threat, we lose our own voice and subvert the message we were hoping to promote. If we want to make positive change, we must start by finding common ground.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14116979 Sun, 07 Jan 2024 23:00:00 -0600 1490 Cultural conflict, Bucks county school board, transgender representation, banned books, LGBTQ+ representation 2 19 full false Roy & Matthew, Love at First Sight Roy & Matthew, Love at First Sight Do you believe in love at first sight? Roy and Matthew do. The first time they met, they knew they belonged together. But for each of them, telling friends and family about a new partner also meant coming out as gay. To their surprise, they never anticipated the  sense of freedom that would come with being their most authentic selves. Start the year with a feelgood story that will inspire you to live your own best life.

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]]> Do you believe in love at first sight? Roy and Matthew do. The first time they met, they knew they belonged together. But for each of them, telling friends and family about a new partner also meant coming out as gay. To their surprise, they never anticipated the  sense of freedom that would come with being their most authentic selves. Start the year with a feelgood story that will inspire you to live your own best life.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14157935 Sun, 31 Dec 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1410 LGBTQ love stories, gay couples, coming out, family acceptance, gay marriage, finding your true identity, happiness comes from authentic living 2 18 full false 7 Actions You Can Take to Strengthen Your Self-Image 7 Actions You Can Take to Strengthen Your Self-Image We often contemplate resolutions we can make to improve our lives. Coming off of last week's episode about cultivating self-esteem, Joe and Rya provide seven actionable habits you can implement into your life right now to help you live a more positively. Here are seven actions to strengthen your self-image. It's your privilege and your responsibility. Nobody can build you up better than you. 

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]]> We often contemplate resolutions we can make to improve our lives. Coming off of last week's episode about cultivating self-esteem, Joe and Rya provide seven actionable habits you can implement into your life right now to help you live a more positively. Here are seven actions to strengthen your self-image. It's your privilege and your responsibility. Nobody can build you up better than you. 

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14025088 Sun, 24 Dec 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1519 self-esteem, self-image, support, thankfulness, gratitude, be on your own team, physical and mental health, lgbtq issues 2 17 full false How to Build Your Self-Esteem and Overcome Shame How to Build Your Self-Esteem and Overcome Shame We all have experiences in our lives that tax our self-esteem. It's too easy to let other people's opinions of us make us feel ashamed. We can allow those negative emotions to bring us down...or we can take intentional steps to counteract them and to cultivate positivity.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13944634 Sun, 17 Dec 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1700 Shame over being queer, LGBTQ+ Self-Esteem, Personal Pride, Self-love, Being true to yourself, Remember who the heck you are, How can I raise my self-esteem? 2 16 full false Our Responsibility to Aging LGBTQ+ Seniors Our Responsibility to Aging LGBTQ+ Seniors As a society, we must always watch out for the marginalized among us. LGBTQ+ elders are among the most vulnerable. Yet most of us have never stopped to consider the unique challenges of aging LGBTQ+ seniors. How can we act with compassion and love towards those who have gone before us?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-14026531 Sun, 10 Dec 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1650 lgbtq+ elders, gay and lesbian seniors, senior citizens, SAGE advocacy group, sageusa.org, Medicare and queer issues, 2 15 full false 10 Suicide Warning Signs: Are You Picking Up the Signals? 10 Suicide Warning Signs: Are You Picking Up the Signals? There are a lot of ways that people communicate that they are considering suicide. What you may think is only a mood swing may in fact be an indication of something much deeper. Signals could be anything from verbal comments to changes in routine. Our LGBTQ+ loved ones are most at risk. Do you know what to watch for? Are you ready to interpret the signals when they need you most? Educate yourself on how to react and what positive steps you can take.

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]]> There are a lot of ways that people communicate that they are considering suicide. What you may think is only a mood swing may in fact be an indication of something much deeper. Signals could be anything from verbal comments to changes in routine. Our LGBTQ+ loved ones are most at risk. Do you know what to watch for? Are you ready to interpret the signals when they need you most? Educate yourself on how to react and what positive steps you can take.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13900364 Sun, 03 Dec 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1259 LGBTQ+ suicide prevention, Spotting warning signs of suicide, Signals that someone is considering suicide, Allyship 2 14 full false What's Involved in Starting an LGBTQ Support Group – Here's What We're Learning What's Involved in Starting an LGBTQ Support Group – Here's What We're Learning Have you considered forming a support group for LGBTQ+ people and allies? Joe and Rya approached a national organization, PFLAG, about starting a local chapter in their community. The discussion centers on what makes people come, what entices them stay, and what keeps it welcoming.

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]]> Have you considered forming a support group for LGBTQ+ people and allies? Joe and Rya approached a national organization, PFLAG, about starting a local chapter in their community. The discussion centers on what makes people come, what entices them stay, and what keeps it welcoming.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13812619 Sun, 26 Nov 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1463 Starting a Support Group, PFLAG, 121 Ways to Liven Up Your Club, LGBTQ+ and Allies, Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays 2 13 full false A Time to Mourn A Time to Mourn November 20 is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. There is still so much violence against transgender people because of transphobia and misunderstanding. Joe and Rya offer suggestion for how each of us can make a difference.

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]]> November 20 is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. There is still so much violence against transgender people because of transphobia and misunderstanding. Joe and Rya offer suggestion for how each of us can make a difference.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13812437 Sun, 19 Nov 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1272 Transgender Day of Remembrance, Gwendolyn Ann Smith, Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, counteracting transphobia, transgender panic defense 2 12 full false How to Avoid Family Conflict at Holiday Gatherings How to Avoid Family Conflict at Holiday Gatherings You wanted a nice, happy time together with your family. But Uncle George just can't let things be! And Casey is manufacturing new things to be offended by. With the holidays coming up, we want to minimize potential arguments between people who don't always see eye-to-eye. It's not easy, but there are ways to create an environment that fosters love. Rya and Joe explore ideas from two different perspectives for creating memories we can cherish for years.

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]]> You wanted a nice, happy time together with your family. But Uncle George just can't let things be! And Casey is manufacturing new things to be offended by. With the holidays coming up, we want to minimize potential arguments between people who don't always see eye-to-eye. It's not easy, but there are ways to create an environment that fosters love. Rya and Joe explore ideas from two different perspectives for creating memories we can cherish for years.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13855522 Sun, 12 Nov 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1477 Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Holiday celebrations, Family gatherings, Minimizing family conflict, How to get along with difficult family members 2 11 full false Responding to "Gotcha Questions" Responding to "Gotcha Questions" Some people don't want an actual dialogue about LGBTQ people, they just want a debate. How do you avoid that trap? Anyone who has had their gay or lesbian loved ones' identities dismissed will find a wealth of insight about how to respond. Some people expect answers but are not asking in good faith.  And some questions are not appropriate to ask. Let's find ways to support our loved ones in being exactly who they were meant to be.

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]]> Some people don't want an actual dialogue about LGBTQ people, they just want a debate. How do you avoid that trap? Anyone who has had their gay or lesbian loved ones' identities dismissed will find a wealth of insight about how to respond. Some people expect answers but are not asking in good faith.  And some questions are not appropriate to ask. Let's find ways to support our loved ones in being exactly who they were meant to be.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13726689 Sun, 05 Nov 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1596 Responding to homophobes and transphobes, LGBTQ allyship, how to respond to people who do not ask questions in good faith, definition of woman, is being gay or lesbian a phase? 2 10 full false Help, I'm Gay – But My Wife Doesn't Know Help, I'm Gay – But My Wife Doesn't Know In a recent written exchange, a man approached Rya with concerns about his long-term, committed marriage. He and his wife have children and grandchildren. But he is secretly attracted to other men. He doesn't want to tell his wife because he believes it could only end poorly. Will such a conversation really result in disaster? Joe and Rya discuss the situation from a broader perspective and consider the outcome from a variety of viewpoints. Is there a way to find hope in what feels like a hopeless situation?

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]]> In a recent written exchange, a man approached Rya with concerns about his long-term, committed marriage. He and his wife have children and grandchildren. But he is secretly attracted to other men. He doesn't want to tell his wife because he believes it could only end poorly. Will such a conversation really result in disaster? Joe and Rya discuss the situation from a broader perspective and consider the outcome from a variety of viewpoints. Is there a way to find hope in what feels like a hopeless situation?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13682915 Sun, 29 Oct 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1815 Coming out of the closet, What to do when you're gay but in a straight relationship, honesty in a marriage, finding intimacy with your spouse through telling the truth, lgbtq issues in the family 2 9 full false What is the "Q" in LGBTQ+? What is the "Q" in LGBTQ+? How do you find your own identity? There are more options than you think. Are you queer? Are you questioning? Or something else? Maybe none of the words really define you. Take the first step toward figuring out how to be the real you.

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]]> How do you find your own identity? There are more options than you think. Are you queer? Are you questioning? Or something else? Maybe none of the words really define you. Take the first step toward figuring out how to be the real you.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13380848 Sun, 22 Oct 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1602 LGBTQ+, Queer, Questioning, LGBTQ+ family issues, Finding your identity, Was Klinger in MASH queer 2 8 full false Church Trauma, with Mother Julie Hendrix Church Trauma, with Mother Julie Hendrix Churches are like giant families. Just like families,  they can sometimes become abusive. When someone is trapped in a toxic system, the have to leave in order for healing to begin. Some church leaders subvert that process by trying to push those who have been wounded to come back to the church by saying, "Well we're not like the church you used to be in." But for many people in the LGBTQ+ community, the damage is too deep. Mother Julie Hendrix shares the message that it is okay to leave in order to heal. If you're not ready to come back, and even if you never come back, that's also okay.

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]]> Churches are like giant families. Just like families,  they can sometimes become abusive. When someone is trapped in a toxic system, the have to leave in order for healing to begin. Some church leaders subvert that process by trying to push those who have been wounded to come back to the church by saying, "Well we're not like the church you used to be in." But for many people in the LGBTQ+ community, the damage is too deep. Mother Julie Hendrix shares the message that it is okay to leave in order to heal. If you're not ready to come back, and even if you never come back, that's also okay.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13637562 Sun, 15 Oct 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1537 Trauma, Deconstruction, church, LGBTQ+, Spiritual abuse 2 7 full false How to Show Support for a Transgender Person How to Show Support for a Transgender Person It's great to be an ally, but when you're ready to take the next step, how do you go about it? Often, when we try to be most helpful, we end up making things more awkward. Learn how to communicate true sincerity, not just with words, but also with actions. This episode gives tips to point you in the right direction.

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]]> It's great to be an ally, but when you're ready to take the next step, how do you go about it? Often, when we try to be most helpful, we end up making things more awkward. Learn how to communicate true sincerity, not just with words, but also with actions. This episode gives tips to point you in the right direction.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13588084 Sun, 08 Oct 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1671 LGBTQ+ ally, how to show support for a transgender person, how to treat transgender people 2 6 full false "I Only Want What's Best for You" "I Only Want What's Best for You" Really?

Who gets to choose what's best for someone? Who makes the rules? Parents often say, "I only want what's best for you," with the hope that their children will understand their good intentions. But is it really honest care and concern? Is it unsolicited advice? Or is it nothing more than manipulation?

Joe and Rya discuss how to tell the difference between genuine love and false concern that masks ulterior motives. When it comes to relationships with family and friends, we can all do better.

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Who gets to choose what's best for someone? Who makes the rules? Parents often say, "I only want what's best for you," with the hope that their children will understand their good intentions. But is it really honest care and concern? Is it unsolicited advice? Or is it nothing more than manipulation?

Joe and Rya discuss how to tell the difference between genuine love and false concern that masks ulterior motives. When it comes to relationships with family and friends, we can all do better.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13545246 Sun, 01 Oct 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1840 Family relationships, manipulation, how to express genuine compassion, caring for your LGBTQ+ loved one 2 5 full false 5 Ways to Build Bridges 5 Ways to Build Bridges MUST LISTEN EPISODE. Are you having a difficult time mending a broken relationship? Developing and repairing relationships can feel overwhelming when disagreements separate you. Joe and Rya discuss five ways you can get past what divides you and start to build that bridge. And it's not just theoretical. They discuss conflicting opinions where they are actively trying to build bridges in their own lives.

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]]> MUST LISTEN EPISODE. Are you having a difficult time mending a broken relationship? Developing and repairing relationships can feel overwhelming when disagreements separate you. Joe and Rya discuss five ways you can get past what divides you and start to build that bridge. And it's not just theoretical. They discuss conflicting opinions where they are actively trying to build bridges in their own lives.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13509003 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1609 Building Bridges, Allies and Non-Allies, LGBTQ+ Family Relationships 2 4 full false How to Love a Non-Ally How to Love a Non-Ally The most important thing we can do is maintain relationships with the people who are closest to us. And yet, how often do we end up finding ourselves at odds with the people we love the most, especially when we desperately yearn for their approval? It's our responsibility to take the lead. In this episode, we discuss how to set a positive tone to help our non-ally loved-ones to more become accepting on their own time frame. It all starts with love.

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]]> The most important thing we can do is maintain relationships with the people who are closest to us. And yet, how often do we end up finding ourselves at odds with the people we love the most, especially when we desperately yearn for their approval? It's our responsibility to take the lead. In this episode, we discuss how to set a positive tone to help our non-ally loved-ones to more become accepting on their own time frame. It all starts with love.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13461373 Sun, 17 Sep 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1517 LGBTQ Family Issues, Friendships with LGBTQ people, Queer family, LGBTQ secrets, Parent Child relationships, Family relationships, Difficult conversations, Strengthening family ties 2 3 full false An Episode for Non-Allies An Episode for Non-Allies LGBTQ issues can tear families and friendships apart. What if you don't approve when someone close to you comes out? How can you preserve the relationship without compromising your values? Many of our podcasts on Trandescendant are geared towards allies. But not everyone feels they can be an ally in good conscience. This episode is specifically addressed to those who do not approve of LGBTQ lifestyles but desperately want to salvage the relationship. As the father of an transgender daughter, Joe gives advice on what he has learned. Spoiler: We're not asking you to change.

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]]> LGBTQ issues can tear families and friendships apart. What if you don't approve when someone close to you comes out? How can you preserve the relationship without compromising your values? Many of our podcasts on Trandescendant are geared towards allies. But not everyone feels they can be an ally in good conscience. This episode is specifically addressed to those who do not approve of LGBTQ lifestyles but desperately want to salvage the relationship. As the father of an transgender daughter, Joe gives advice on what he has learned. Spoiler: We're not asking you to change.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13341248 Sun, 10 Sep 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1490 LGBTQ relationships, I don't want to be an ally, accepting but not affirming, preserving family relationships after someone comes out 2 2 full false Explaining LGBTQ+ Trauma: A Live Presentation Explaining LGBTQ+ Trauma: A Live Presentation Joe and Rya gave a live presentation about the importance of accepting your gay or transgender loved one. Since it was a large general audience, no one explicitly identified whether they were an ally. We didn't know how well our message would be received. No one expected how emotional it would become.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13419873 Sun, 03 Sep 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1190 LGBTQ+ suicide, affirming and accepting, Rotary, LGBTQ presentation, Speaking to allies and skeptics 2 1 full false LGBTQ Issues in Education, with Megan Jones LGBTQ Issues in Education, with Megan Jones We're going back to school! We asked ourselves how new teachers are being taught. Is the system getting more accepting of LGBTQ students, or are things going backwards? Do you see the school as your defender... or does the system side with the bullies? We had a discussion with our resident expert in the education field, a recent graduate from the education program and fresh with her teacher's license, Rya's daughter Megan.

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]]> We're going back to school! We asked ourselves how new teachers are being taught. Is the system getting more accepting of LGBTQ students, or are things going backwards? Do you see the school as your defender... or does the system side with the bullies? We had a discussion with our resident expert in the education field, a recent graduate from the education program and fresh with her teacher's license, Rya's daughter Megan.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13255537 Sun, 27 Aug 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1541 Education and LGBTQ issues 1 45 full false What's High School Like Today? An Interview with an LGBTQ Senior What's High School Like Today? An Interview with an LGBTQ Senior Is it better than it used to be to be openly gay in high school? While society has become more open and tolerant, things are far from easy. In this episode we welcome a special guest, our granddaughter and niece, Maya. She describes her experiences as a high school senior, and the strategies she employs to get along with everyone. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean you can't be friends. Maya shares her secrets for promoting conversation instead of confrontation.

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]]> Is it better than it used to be to be openly gay in high school? While society has become more open and tolerant, things are far from easy. In this episode we welcome a special guest, our granddaughter and niece, Maya. She describes her experiences as a high school senior, and the strategies she employs to get along with everyone. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean you can't be friends. Maya shares her secrets for promoting conversation instead of confrontation.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13297705 Sun, 20 Aug 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1745 LGBTQ strategies for dealing with bullies in high school, Gay in high school, eschewing labels, LGBTQ niece 1 44 full false The Wind and the Sun The Wind and the Sun How do you get along with someone you disagree with? How do you convince them? CAN you even convince them? We live in a society where we tune out the people who disagree with us and create echo chambers where everyone thinks and acts like we do. There is a better way. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss how to disagree without being disagreeable.

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]]> How do you get along with someone you disagree with? How do you convince them? CAN you even convince them? We live in a society where we tune out the people who disagree with us and create echo chambers where everyone thinks and acts like we do. There is a better way. In this episode, Joe and Rya discuss how to disagree without being disagreeable.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13255499 Sun, 13 Aug 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1303 How to get along with people you disagree with, Winning arguments, Argumentative, Getting your Point Across 1 43 full false Teaching LGBTQ+ Slang to the Dad Teaching LGBTQ+ Slang to the Dad Chaser, clock, ace, gold star, queerbaiting, and lots more. Do you know what these words mean? In this episode,  Rya quizzes her father Joe about the meaning of these terms and other current gay and transgender lingo. If you don't know the meanings, you can feel like you're hearing a whole other language when you're at a Pride event. Listen along and learn with him.

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]]> Chaser, clock, ace, gold star, queerbaiting, and lots more. Do you know what these words mean? In this episode,  Rya quizzes her father Joe about the meaning of these terms and other current gay and transgender lingo. If you don't know the meanings, you can feel like you're hearing a whole other language when you're at a Pride event. Listen along and learn with him.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13085989 Sun, 06 Aug 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1665 Transgender slang, LGBTQIA2S+, Chaser, Clock, Fish, Pass, Ace, Arrow, Cishet, AFAB, AMAB, Trans*, Transsexual, Gold Star, U-Haul, Stud, Butch, Queerbaiting, Deadname 1 42 full false How Religious Communities Are Embracing LGBTQ People, with Father Wilson Roane How Religious Communities Are Embracing LGBTQ People, with Father Wilson Roane You will often hear that religion and LGBTQ+ experiences as mutually exclusive. The most hateful advocates for faith are often the most vocal. But their perspective does not represent most people of faith. A growing majority of faith communities are welcoming LGBTQ+ people with open arms in ways that are both accepting AND affirming. Father Wilson Roane from the American Episcopal Church joins us to discuss how religious groups are demonstrating love for the most marginalized, including LGBTQ+ people.

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]]> You will often hear that religion and LGBTQ+ experiences as mutually exclusive. The most hateful advocates for faith are often the most vocal. But their perspective does not represent most people of faith. A growing majority of faith communities are welcoming LGBTQ+ people with open arms in ways that are both accepting AND affirming. Father Wilson Roane from the American Episcopal Church joins us to discuss how religious groups are demonstrating love for the most marginalized, including LGBTQ+ people.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13214782 Sun, 30 Jul 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1032 LGBTQ faith, religion and queer people, Can Christians be gay? 1 41 full false Anti-LGBTQ Misconceptions Anti-LGBTQ Misconceptions So you want to be an LGBTQ ally. What misconceptions have you embraced without realizing it? Despite greater visibility for LGBTQ people, there is still a lot of misinformation about how coming out can affect someone's life. In this episode, Joe and Rya look at the research compiled by AJ Willingham and Scottie Andrew for CNN about common misconceptions that are harmful to the LGBTQ community.

Read the original article at https://www.cnn.com/2022/06/30/us/lgbtq-faq-misconceptions-2022-cec/index.html

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]]> So you want to be an LGBTQ ally. What misconceptions have you embraced without realizing it? Despite greater visibility for LGBTQ people, there is still a lot of misinformation about how coming out can affect someone's life. In this episode, Joe and Rya look at the research compiled by AJ Willingham and Scottie Andrew for CNN about common misconceptions that are harmful to the LGBTQ community.

Read the original article at https://www.cnn.com/2022/06/30/us/lgbtq-faq-misconceptions-2022-cec/index.html

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13214750 Sun, 23 Jul 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1571 LGBTQ relationships, Transgender misconceptions, LGBTQ individuals and religion, LGBTQ marriage and family, Is Transition always medical?, Is non-binary a new concept?, Visibility for LGBTQ people is not enough 1 40 full false How are Children Affected When Their Parents are LGBTQ+? How are Children Affected When Their Parents are LGBTQ+? Joe and Rya respond to questions from a listener about the impact on children when parents are LGBTQ+. How does a lack of traditional gender role models affect development? Does having LGBTQ+ parents confuse children's understanding of gender and sexuality?

CW: discussion of suicide

Research sited: https://www.ncfr.org/policy/research-and-policy-briefs/lgbtq-parents-and-their-children

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]]> Joe and Rya respond to questions from a listener about the impact on children when parents are LGBTQ+. How does a lack of traditional gender role models affect development? Does having LGBTQ+ parents confuse children's understanding of gender and sexuality?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13043320 Sun, 16 Jul 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1453 LGBTQ family, Gay and lesbian parents, transgender parents, effects of gay parents on children 1 39 full false Everything You Think You Know About Gender is Wrong Everything You Think You Know About Gender is Wrong What's the deal with people making up all these new genders? Is that all just a load of mumbo jumbo that young people have made up? In this episode we look at the five aspects of gender, and how they combine to make you who you are. This is important stuff that applies to everyone.

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]]> What's the deal with people making up all these new genders? Is that all just a load of mumbo jumbo that young people have made up? In this episode we look at the five aspects of gender, and how they combine to make you who you are. This is important stuff that applies to everyone.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13169220 Sun, 09 Jul 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1878 Gender, Genderbread person, Gender identity, Gender expression, Sex assigned at birth, Sexual orientation, Romantic orientation 1 38 full false Trending Statistics – Moving in the Right Direction? Trending Statistics – Moving in the Right Direction? In this episode, we look at some facts and figures to help us better understand the LGBTQ+ community and where the numbers show we are trending. Joe and Rya explore where the community has made progress so far, and where there is still a lot of work to be done.

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]]> In this episode, we look at some facts and figures to help us better understand the LGBTQ+ community and where the numbers show we are trending. Joe and Rya explore where the community has made progress so far, and where there is still a lot of work to be done.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13136405 Sun, 02 Jul 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1513 LGBTQ+ statistics, trandescendant, Joe and Rya, hate crimes, gay and lesbian parents, job protections for LGBTQ+ employees 1 37 full false The Importance of Pronouns, with Mel Davis The Importance of Pronouns, with Mel Davis The first step in communicating total acceptance of your transgender loved one is getting their pronouns right. But why is it so important? Why do our trans friends and relatives react so strongly when someone gets it wrong? Can't they understand that the people around them are trying? Their reactions can be confusing if you've never experienced having people use the wrong pronouns for you. Mel Davis from Rainbow Alliance Advocacy returns to the podcast to help the rest of us understand in simple language why pronouns matter, and how to adjust to they/them and neo-pronouns.

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]]> The first step in communicating total acceptance of your transgender loved one is getting their pronouns right. But why is it so important? Why do our trans friends and relatives react so strongly when someone gets it wrong? Can't they understand that the people around them are trying? Their reactions can be confusing if you've never experienced having people use the wrong pronouns for you. Mel Davis from Rainbow Alliance Advocacy returns to the podcast to help the rest of us understand in simple language why pronouns matter, and how to adjust to they/them and neo-pronouns.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13086192 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1694 Transgender pronouns, Neo-pronouns, They/Them pronouns, Why do pronouns matter?, LGBTQ+ issues, Transgender ally 1 36 full false Is it Unnatural to be Gay?, with Dr. Pete Gasper Is it Unnatural to be Gay?, with Dr. Pete Gasper What have we learned about being gay from the animal kingdom? Sociologists have learned a whole lot about how humans behave. But what happens in the rest of nature? Veterinary researcher, Dr. Pete Gasper looks at what the science says. Current research indicates that sexual orientation is the result of three converging natural causes. Shame should never be a part of the formations of our identities.

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]]> What have we learned about being gay from the animal kingdom? Sociologists have learned a whole lot about how humans behave. But what happens in the rest of nature? Veterinary researcher, Dr. Pete Gasper looks at what the science says. Current research indicates that sexual orientation is the result of three converging natural causes. Shame should never be a part of the formations of our identities.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12871492 Sun, 18 Jun 2023 23:00:00 -0500 998 Homosexuality in animals, Is it unnatural to be gay?, LGBTQ family issues 1 35 full false Coming Out as Transgender in a Small Town Coming Out as Transgender in a Small Town What is it like to be transgender in a small town? What is it like to be the parent of a transgender person in a community where everyone knows you? There's no hiding in a small town. Everyone knows your family, your neighbors, your friends, and everything about you.  Joe and Rya open up about the preconceived notions they harbored about what it would be like in town prior to Rya's transition. They explore the dramatic differences between expectations and reality, as well as a few unexpected surprises.

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]]> What is it like to be transgender in a small town? What is it like to be the parent of a transgender person in a community where everyone knows you? There's no hiding in a small town. Everyone knows your family, your neighbors, your friends, and everything about you.  Joe and Rya open up about the preconceived notions they harbored about what it would be like in town prior to Rya's transition. They explore the dramatic differences between expectations and reality, as well as a few unexpected surprises.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-13000215 Sun, 11 Jun 2023 23:00:00 -0500 2416 Transgender living, LGBTQ+ issues in a small town, Midwest communities and LGBTQ+ issues, parents of transgender people 1 34 full false Joe and Rya's Ultimate Guide to Happiness Joe and Rya's Ultimate Guide to Happiness Okay, we confess, we didn't create this ultimate guide. The five points of well-being come from Martin Seligman, the famous researcher on the science of happiness. But we live it. And so can you. LGBTQ+ people face unique challenges and complexities in our lives, so having these five points of focus can help us find a deeper sense of peace and positive attitude.

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]]> Okay, we confess, we didn't create this ultimate guide. The five points of well-being come from Martin Seligman, the famous researcher on the science of happiness. But we live it. And so can you. LGBTQ+ people face unique challenges and complexities in our lives, so having these five points of focus can help us find a deeper sense of peace and positive attitude.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12964189 Sun, 04 Jun 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1738 Science of happiness, Martin Seligman, PERMA, LGBTQ+, Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, Accomplishments 1 33 full false Help, My Child is Trans! What Do I Do? Help, My Child is Trans! What Do I Do? Being a good ally is about the journey to understanding. This episode looks at what YOU can do to take the initiative. Love leads to listening, listening leads to understanding, and understanding leads to acceptance. Just start with the first step.

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]]> Being a good ally is about the journey to understanding. This episode looks at what YOU can do to take the initiative. Love leads to listening, listening leads to understanding, and understanding leads to acceptance. Just start with the first step.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12915739 Sun, 28 May 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1821 LGBTQ, family issues, coming out, maintaining relationships 32 full false Different Perspective on Transitioning, with Maggie Williams Different Perspective on Transitioning, with Maggie Williams If you've met one trans person, you've met one trans person. Each of us has a different story. In this episode, we discuss the similarities and differences between two trans-feminine people, Rya Jones and Maggie Williams.

This podcast was recorded before a live audience at the PRIDEducation event, sponsored by Rainbow Alliance Advocacy in Appleton, WI on May 21, 2023.

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This podcast was recorded before a live audience at the PRIDEducation event, sponsored by Rainbow Alliance Advocacy in Appleton, WI on May 21, 2023.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12892922 Sun, 21 May 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1477 LGBTQ, Transgender issues, coming out, coming out of the closet, coming out as transgender 1 31 full false International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, and Transphobia International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, and Transphobia May 17 is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. In honor of IDAHOBIT, we discuss ways to support our LGBTQ+ loved ones. Together, we can break down the stigma and create a safe and respectful community for everyone. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

Go to may17.org to find the illustration we used for this episode's podcast. The illustration is available in many languages. We are grateful to Chilean artist Sofía Miranda Van den Bosch, who created all six illustrations, incorporating feedback from LGBTQIA+ organizations and activists across the world. We thank them for the permission to use these illustrations for social media posts like this podcast.

[image description: Red sky with plants and stars in the background. On the foreground, there are five people with diverse expressions on a globe. The text reads, "Together always: united in diversity." The IDAHOBIT campaign logo is on the bottom right and we added the TranDescendant logo to the upper left.]

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]]> May 17 is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. In honor of IDAHOBIT, we discuss ways to support our LGBTQ+ loved ones. Together, we can break down the stigma and create a safe and respectful community for everyone. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

Go to may17.org to find the illustration we used for this episode's podcast. The illustration is available in many languages. We are grateful to Chilean artist Sofía Miranda Van den Bosch, who created all six illustrations, incorporating feedback from LGBTQIA+ organizations and activists across the world. We thank them for the permission to use these illustrations for social media posts like this podcast.

[image description: Red sky with plants and stars in the background. On the foreground, there are five people with diverse expressions on a globe. The text reads, "Together always: united in diversity." The IDAHOBIT campaign logo is on the bottom right and we added the TranDescendant logo to the upper left.]

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12826817 Sun, 14 May 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1376 IDAHOBIT, International Day Against Homophobia Biphobia and Transphobia, PFLAG, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender 30 full false Transgender Healthcare Transgender Healthcare What kinds of issues are important in healthcare for transgender patients? While transgender people may still experience some pushback from doctors and other providers, things are much better than they once were. In this episode, Rya discusses her own experience with healthcare, which has been generally positive.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12801873 Sun, 07 May 2023 23:00:00 -0500 2078 Transgender healthcare, hrt, hormone replacement therapy, trans-affirming surgery 29 full false What Everyone Gets Wrong About Privilege What Everyone Gets Wrong About Privilege People are notoriously bad at knowing how things will make us feel. Things that happen to us are rarely as mild or as intense as we predict they will be. A common pit trap in relationships is that we overlook what our loved ones are going through because we imagine incorrectly what we would feel in their shoes. In this episode, we discuss how we can all be open to listen to our loved ones when they tell us things are affecting them differently than we would anticipate.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12732458 Sun, 30 Apr 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1992 Privilege, LGBTQ+ family, Honor Flight, Pronouns, Deadnaming, Communication 1 28 full false A Listener's Concerns about the LGBT Agenda A Listener's Concerns about the LGBT Agenda We received an interesting e-mail from a subscriber who expresses gratitude for the podcast, but concerns about some of the issues in the LGBTQ+ community. We discuss those concerns and how it affects our capacity to build healthy relationships with one another.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12686901 Sun, 23 Apr 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1368 "LGBT Agenda", Drag Queen story hour, Mack Beggs, maintaining healthy relationships, transgender issues, sanctity of marriage, "fabric of society" 1 27 full false When Dad Transitions, with special guest Megan Jones When Dad Transitions, with special guest Megan Jones Rya's daughter joins us to discuss her journey to accepting Rya's transition. It was not easy for her, especially at first. What is it like to have a parent transition? What emotions did she go through? How does she feel about Rya now?

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]]> Rya's daughter joins us to discuss her journey to accepting Rya's transition. It was not easy for her, especially at first. What is it like to have a parent transition? What emotions did she go through? How does she feel about Rya now?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12660707 Sun, 16 Apr 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1656 Transgender parent, Accepting your transgender parent, Transitioning dad, LGBTQ+ family, Coming out to your family, relationships, Coming out to your daughter 1 26 full false The Critical Importance of Open Communication with LGBTQ+ Youth (with special guest Mel Davis) The Critical Importance of Open Communication with LGBTQ+ Youth (with special guest Mel Davis) Many adults assume that LGBTQ+ youth may just be going through a phase. But the most critical thing we can do as allies and guardians of youth is to find ways to unabashedly affirm and support them. When a parent is surprised that a child is coming out, it demonstrates that there has already been a breakdown in communication. Mel Davis offers guidance on how we can support our LGBTQ+ youth during this crucial window of time.

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]]> Many adults assume that LGBTQ+ youth may just be going through a phase. But the most critical thing we can do as allies and guardians of youth is to find ways to unabashedly affirm and support them. When a parent is surprised that a child is coming out, it demonstrates that there has already been a breakdown in communication. Mel Davis offers guidance on how we can support our LGBTQ+ youth during this crucial window of time.

For more info, go to RainbowAllianceAdvocacy.org.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12598295 Mon, 10 Apr 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1839 LGBTQ+ youth, communication, affirmation, parents of LGBTQ+ youth, caregivers for LGBTQ+ children 25 full false How to Recognize Transmisia and Be a Better Ally How to Recognize Transmisia and Be a Better Ally We learned a new word and we wanted to share it with you. What is transmisia? And what does it mean for promoting healthier relationships?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12537802 Sun, 02 Apr 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1302 Transphobia, Homophobia, Transmisia, Transmisogyny, Discrimination against Transgender people, Promoting positive relationships together 1 24 full false LGBTQ+ Experiences in the Workplace, with guest Vic Civik LGBTQ+ Experiences in the Workplace, with guest Vic Civik What is it like to be a transgender person in the workforce? How is it different if you stay at the same job you worked before your transition. In this episode, we discuss the topic with one of Rya's childhood friends, a transgender man who works at the local foundary.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12521303 Sun, 26 Mar 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1747 Transgender issues, being transgender in the workplace, trans-masculine, trans-feminine, LGBTQ family issues 1 23 full false Radical Acceptance Radical Acceptance One of the great tragedies of many LGBTQ people's life stories is the frequent non-acceptance by family members. We offer two perspectives on how gay, lesbian, and other queer people experience family life. You never know how much time you have left, so we must all make the most of the relationships we have now.

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]]> One of the great tragedies of many LGBTQ people's life stories is the frequent non-acceptance by family members. We offer two perspectives on how gay, lesbian, and other queer people experience family life. You never know how much time you have left, so we must all make the most of the relationships we have now.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12451058 Sun, 19 Mar 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1437 LGBTQ family relationships, How to be an LGBTQ ally, Building Positive Relationships Together, Queer, Acceptance, Radical Acceptance 22 full false A Trandescendant Podcast Update A Trandescendant Podcast Update Rya and Joe take a moment to stop and reflect on how the podcast has changed since they started.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12383613 Sun, 12 Mar 2023 23:00:00 -0500 1335 LGBTQ issues, Queer family, Maintaining positive relationships, Trandescendant Podcast 1 21 full false How You're Hurting Us...And You Don't Realize It How You're Hurting Us...And You Don't Realize It This kind of thing happens all the time but often goes unnoticed. In this episode, we share a real-life example of how words can hurt, even when they have the best intentions.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12379392 Sun, 05 Mar 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1568 LGBTQ family relationships, words can hurt, unintentional harm, Queer loved ones 1 20 full false How to Respond to Offensive LGBTQ Jokes and Comments How to Respond to Offensive LGBTQ Jokes and Comments You've been there. Someone tells an off color joke that set off your alarms. You know you should speak up. But you're not sure what to say. In this episode, we discuss an effective strategy for being a positive influence in that situation without having to become the "wet blanket."

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12073932 Sun, 12 Feb 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1271 LGBTQ+, offensive jokes, feel/felt/found, 1 19 full false A Skeptic's Guide to Healthier LGBTQ Conversations A Skeptic's Guide to Healthier LGBTQ Conversations "Cultivating positive relationships together" means positive for EVERYONE. But what about for the person who has reservations about LGBTQ issues? Or the person who sincerely believes it conflicts with their faith? Is it possible to still make meaningful contributions towards the relationship? We believe it is. In this episode, we discuss things the skeptic can do to work towards healthier conversations with their LGBTQ loved one.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12134204 Sun, 29 Jan 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1511 LGBTQ skeptics, cultivating positive relationships together, queer family issues, communication breakdowns, getting along with my LGBTQ child, contrasting, healthy communication skills 1 18 full false Your Biggest Roadblock to Positive Relationships Your Biggest Roadblock to Positive Relationships We all want to have positive relationships. But how can we cultivate them after we've gotten hurt? In this episode we discuss the one thing that is the biggest favor you can do for yourself and for your relationships. It's good for your physical health, it's good for your mental health, and it contributes to your happiness.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12073973 Sun, 22 Jan 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1695 Cultivating positive relationships together, forgiveness, lgbtq family issues, bitterness, Corrie Ten Boom, June Hunt 1 17 full false The Shocking Truth About Your Hopeless Situation The Shocking Truth About Your Hopeless Situation When you're faced with a hopeless situation, everything can feel overwhelming. But there is a solution, and it's already there. You just have to find it. No matter what, there is an answer for you. This episode explores the types of hopeless situations you could be facing and suggests ways to get through them even when there seems to be no way.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-12027516 Sun, 15 Jan 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1845 hopelessness, hope, How do I get through my hopeless situation?, What to when I have no hope?, Hope through difficult times, Finding support, Focus on the Positives, the Lockout 1 16 full false 15 Things Your LGBTQ Loved One Won't Tell You 15 Things Your LGBTQ Loved One Won't Tell You Even in the best of relationships, there are things that can be difficult to discuss. We share the secrets that LGBTQ people can be reluctant to talk about. Some are too painful. Others simply go unnoticed. But all are important.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11982888 Mon, 09 Jan 2023 23:00:00 -0600 2068 LGBTQ Family Issues, Friendships with LGBTQ people, Queer family, LGBTQ secrets, Parent Child relationships, Family relationships, Difficult conversations, Strengthening family ties 1 15 full false Turning Over a New Leaf Turning Over a New Leaf Relationships are a complicated thing. They can be the most rewarding and fulfilling thing in your life, but they can also be the most difficult. It is important to remember that relationships are not just about you. They are about two people who have their own needs and wants, and it is up to you to find a way to make both of those needs and wants work together.

This episode will help you learn how to turn over a new leaf in your relationships by setting realistic goals for yourself, learning how to communicate better, and understanding what healthy relationships look like.

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]]> Relationships are a complicated thing. They can be the most rewarding and fulfilling thing in your life, but they can also be the most difficult. It is important to remember that relationships are not just about you. They are about two people who have their own needs and wants, and it is up to you to find a way to make both of those needs and wants work together.

This episode will help you learn how to turn over a new leaf in your relationships by setting realistic goals for yourself, learning how to communicate better, and understanding what healthy relationships look like.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11950932 Sun, 01 Jan 2023 23:00:00 -0600 1880 Turning over a new leaf, strengthening relationships, Crucial Conversations, setting goals in relationships 1 14 full false This Will Create the Change You Desire – It's Not What You Think This Will Create the Change You Desire – It's Not What You Think Have you ever tried to make a change in your life only to have it fail? Trying harder doesn't work. But there is something that can motivate you without even needing any discipline.

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]]> Have you ever tried to make a change in your life only to have it fail? Trying harder doesn't work. But there is something that can motivate you without even needing any discipline.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11915213 Sun, 25 Dec 2022 23:00:00 -0600 1710 Change, the Elephant and the Rider, Jonathan Haidt, Chip and Dan Heath, Don't Be Gross, Defeating Alcoholism, Quit Drinking, Defeating Addiction 1 13 full false A Culture of Relationships A Culture of Relationships What makes a family a family? For some, family is based on blood. For others, family is chosen. Either way, there is a lot we can do to invest in those relationships to make family everything we yearn for it to be.

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]]> What makes a family a family? For some, family is based on blood. For others, family is chosen. Either way, there is a lot we can do to invest in those relationships to make family everything we yearn for it to be.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11895330 Sun, 18 Dec 2022 23:00:00 -0600 1127 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, family issues, queer family, chosen family 1 12 full false Start Where You Stand Start Where You Stand A listener responds to our first episodes. We seemed to offer an all-or-nothing approach to relationships. But what about when relationships don't work out? What about when a family member refuses to reconcile? Or when the dynamic is too toxic to continue? Is there any wiggle room?

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]]> A listener responds to our first episodes. We seemed to offer an all-or-nothing approach to relationships. But what about when relationships don't work out? What about when a family member refuses to reconcile? Or when the dynamic is too toxic to continue? Is there any wiggle room?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11851577 Sun, 11 Dec 2022 23:00:00 -0600 2095 LGBTQ, Transgender issues, Maintaining family relationships, queer family dynamics 1 11 full false Accepting Your LGBTQ Family Accepting Your LGBTQ Family Family is so important, and very few things in life matter more. How do we keep keep ties strong, especially if we don't see eye-to-eye about issues of gender and sexuality? Differences in perspective don't have to result in broken relationships. What are ways we can demonstrate unconditional acceptance despite our differences?

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]]> Family is so important, and very few things in life matter more. How do we keep keep ties strong, especially if we don't see eye-to-eye about issues of gender and sexuality? Differences in perspective don't have to result in broken relationships. What are ways we can demonstrate unconditional acceptance despite our differences?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11685791 Sun, 20 Nov 2022 23:00:00 -0600 2221 LGBTQ, queer family issues, acceptance of others, maintaining relationships, transgender family 1 10 full false Bullying Bullying LGBTQ family members frequently have to face issues of bullying. What are some coping strategies they can use? And what can those who love them do to help?

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11685664 Sun, 13 Nov 2022 23:00:00 -0600 1874 bullying, effects of bullying, what is bullying, queer bullying, transgender bullying 1 9 full false Preparing to Come Out Preparing to Come Out A guide to preparing for that critical moment when you let your loved one know that you are LGBTQ. We discuss the concept of metacommunication and how you can prepare the way so that the big moment goes well.

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]]> A guide to preparing for that critical moment when you let your loved one know that you are LGBTQ. We discuss the concept of metacommunication and how you can prepare the way so that the big moment goes well.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11598292 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 23:00:00 -0600 1568 LGBTQ, Transgender issues, coming out, coming out of the closet, coming out as gay, coming out as lesbian, coming out as transgender, Maintaining family relationships 1 8 full false Critical Things to Know Before You Come Out Critical Things to Know Before You Come Out How do you know when you're ready to come out? What are the benefits of coming out? What are the risks of coming out? What are some things to consider before coming out? In this episode we discuss the most important things you need to consider before you take that big step.

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]]> How do you know when you're ready to come out? What are the benefits of coming out? What are the risks of coming out? What are some things to consider before coming out? In this episode we discuss the most important things you need to consider before you take that big step.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11598268 Sun, 30 Oct 2022 23:00:00 -0500 1336 LGBTQ, family issues, coming out, maintaining relationships 1 7 full false How to Make it Through Grief: the Lock-Out How to Make it Through Grief: the Lock-Out Whether it is you or a loved one coming out, you can deal with a tremendous sense of loss. Rya shares about the anger she felt in the process. Joe shares the secret of the Lock-Out, a strategy he developed to help him through the most difficult time of his life. This is the third part of Joe and Rya's discussion about grieving through the coming-out process.

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]]> Whether it is you or a loved one coming out, you can deal with a tremendous sense of loss. Rya shares about the anger she felt in the process. Joe shares the secret of the Lock-Out, a strategy he developed to help him through the most difficult time of his life. This is the third part of Joe and Rya's discussion about grieving through the coming-out process.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11426046 Sun, 16 Oct 2022 23:00:00 -0500 1063 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, grief, 5 stages of grief 1 6 full false Grief When You Come Out of the Closet Grief When You Come Out of the Closet Coming out of the closet brings a newfound freedom. But it can also be accompanied by great loss. Rya tells her story of coming out, and the loss she experienced. Together, she and her dad explore how the first few stages of grieving can affect a person who has decided to come out. They discuss ways to find hope in the midst of the pain of loss.

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]]> Coming out of the closet brings a newfound freedom. But it can also be accompanied by great loss. Rya tells her story of coming out, and the loss she experienced. Together, she and her dad explore how the first few stages of grieving can affect a person who has decided to come out. They discuss ways to find hope in the midst of the pain of loss.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11426106 Sun, 09 Oct 2022 23:00:00 -0500 1181 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, grief, 5 stages of grief 1 5 full false Grief When a Loved One Comes Out Grief When a Loved One Comes Out What happens when a loved one comes out to you as gay or trans? The person you thought you knew is not the same person. There can be a very real grieving process as you come to terms with who they are. Joe tells his story about accepting Rya when she came out as transgender. They discuss the difficulties the family had in coming to a place of acceptance.

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]]> What happens when a loved one comes out to you as gay or trans? The person you thought you knew is not the same person. There can be a very real grieving process as you come to terms with who they are. Joe tells his story about accepting Rya when she came out as transgender. They discuss the difficulties the family had in coming to a place of acceptance.

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]]> Trandescendant Buzzsprout-11426008 Sun, 02 Oct 2022 23:00:00 -0500 1723 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, grief, 5 stages of grief 1 4 full false 7 Behaviors that Show Meaningful Acceptance 7 Behaviors that Show Meaningful Acceptance Rya and Joe discuss the difficulties in accepting our LGBTQ family members and friends, and then look at seven ways we can each demonstrate unconditional acceptance in order to affirm our relationships.

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]]> Rya and Joe discuss the difficulties in accepting our LGBTQ family members and friends, and then look at seven ways we can each demonstrate unconditional acceptance in order to affirm our relationships.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11308346 Mon, 19 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0500 1484 LGBTQ, family issues, acceptance of others 1 3 full false The Secret that Saves Relationships The Secret that Saves Relationships Joe recounts the surprising decision of a girl in a leper colony, drawing parallels with how to respond when LGBTQ family members come out.

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]]> Joe recounts the surprising decision of a girl in a leper colony, drawing parallels with how to respond when LGBTQ family members come out.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11307766 Mon, 12 Sep 2022 22:00:00 -0500 1181 LGBTQ, Transgender issues, Maintaining family relationships 1 2 full false The Transgender Daughter The Transgender Daughter Transitioning is not just a physical journey, but an emotional one that can reshape lives in unexpected ways. In the first episode of Trandescendant, Rya opens up to her father Joe about her experience with the emotional and physical challenges of going through a second puberty, as well as the heartbreak of ending her marriage and feeling like she had lost everything in the process. It’s an conversation about love, loss, and family through the lens of gender transition. 
 
This episode was remastered in November 2024.

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]]> Transitioning is not just a physical journey, but an emotional one that can reshape lives in unexpected ways. In the first episode of Trandescendant, Rya opens up to her father Joe about her experience with the emotional and physical challenges of going through a second puberty, as well as the heartbreak of ending her marriage and feeling like she had lost everything in the process. It’s an conversation about love, loss, and family through the lens of gender transition. 
 
This episode was remastered in November 2024.

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]]> Trandescendant Podcast Buzzsprout-11246849 Thu, 01 Sep 2022 20:00:00 -0500 1625 transgender issues, LGBTQ family, gender transition, emotional trauma, second puberty, family support, marriage and transition, father-daughter relationship, coming out, gender identity, physical changes, emotional challenges, family dynamics 1 1 full false