A Better Man, A Better You

Male Stereotypes & Stupidities

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 14:00:00 -0400

On this episode I take a little dive into male stereotypes and the stupidities that come with them.
There is talk of a few examples of some of these and a little breakdown of things. I dive a little behind the scenes of why these stereotypes exist and where the area of concern is.

Like so many things in life, we have been programmed and influenced by parents, siblings, religion, television, media and society without us even knowing what is going on. We take this and run with it and let it be a basis of how we live our lives, yet we never really stop to question things.

When it comes to relationship and intimacy many men lack in this department and majority of the time it is because of something in the stereotypes & stupidities. This, along with the ego, is the perfect recipe for a disastrous dying relationship.
In order to thrive and truly connect in a relationship we must get passed these and be the change.
It is not always easy to go about things differently and approach things with a different perspective or To take a more pure approach to life and intimacy. But when you do it will pay off, it will be more rewarding and more fulfilling. Not to mention the connection will be deeper.

Clean Booty Consciousness

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 14:00:00 -0400

In this quick 15 minute episode, I touch on the importance of using wet wipes to keep it fresh and clean between the cheeks. Using them is crucial but in order to use them you have to have them. So making sure you have a pack on the back of your toilet at home is a must just like having a roll of toilet paper.

It is easy to have them at home but what about when you are out on the go? Whether for that rare emergency or if you are a regular public pooper, either way you are covered. I talk about the convenience and easy accessibility of having single wipes on and around you. In your car, gym bag or back pocket like a condom back in the day, being ready with single wipes is easily done.

Don't let the ego get in the way of keep your balls and booty as fresh as possible. Take pride in yourself and avoid itchy ass syndrome. Do it for you and keep in mind that if you wanting to be a good partner then do it for them too.

The LITTLE Things 3/3: Gotta Get Outta Your Comfort Zone

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 14:00:00 -0400

This is the final episode in The LITTLE Things series.
In previous episodes there was talk about being attentive and present when you are with your partner or person of interest and by being in the moment then you realize that so many nuggets of useful information is constantly being presented to you.
You take the info that you discover and then you have to turn that into action.

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. There is no surprise or shock there. Listening is crucial in any situation. As you deliver the the action to or for them the best and most memorable way is by doing it with an element of surprise.

All this stuff is fine and dandy but the energy in which you do the actions will make all the difference in the world. For many men, when it comes to emotions, affection and feelings it can be outside of their comfort zone. By doing this it only hingers the progress and evolution of the relationship. So being open and willing to step outside of your comfort zone and do the little things will fuel your relationship and strengthen the love.

The LITTLE Things 2/3: Listen, Effort and Surprise

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 15:00:00 -0500

In continuing our talk on The LITTLE Things, in episode 2 I talk about once you have brought awareness to being attentive and being present then what?
We roll right into it with talking about how listening is key in order to pick up on what and how our partners are saying.
Once you have made the mental notes and have developed the nuggets then you have to do something with them. And it is here where effort comes into play. This also goes for general saying in any kind of relationship. Putting forth effort speaks volume and shouldn't go unnoticed. Simply by putting in effort shows that you care, especially when it is not expected.
When it comes to delivering the effort and doing something nice, kind, thoughtful for someone the best way is to do it with en element of surprise. Having something unexpectedly loving or thoughtful happen to us is going to make anyone feel special, loved, heard and admired. It is also the fun surprises that make some of the best memories. The surprises are what makes us all smile.

The LITTLE Things 1/3: Be Attentive, Be Present.

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 15:00:00 -0500

When it comes to a healthy fun and lasting relationships it is always the small things that make the biggest impact. So I talk a little bit about what I mean by the little things as well as how/why you should approach them.
I recorded the episode than broke it into 3 separate episodes so each of the 3 episodes can deliver info and keep your attention. This episode I talk about the first steps at implementing the little things in your relationship is to be attentive and when you are with your partner be present.

Being attentive and present will allow you to be fully be in the moments with them so you are able to discover helpful nuggets that will help you deliver when you are ready. Being present not only shows respect to that person but it also is a way to find enjoyment and to not take for granted the gift of having someone to spend time with.

Episode 7: A Little Bit Deeper On Who I Am

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 14:00:00 -0500

After the first few recorded episodes, I finally felt comfortable enough to launch the site and share a few episodes. I shared them with my longest friend my best friend and my brother and he said what I already knew, that I needed to show more of who I am. He said to share more about me so more people can relate easier.

This is what I knew and felt so it was so nice to hear it.

Because I am more on the introverted side I tend to come across as shy, one who undersells and over delivers. Because I am still new to this podcast stuff I am still finding my comfortability in front of the mic. I struggled to "be myself" when I was doing auditions and in acting classes and I have found that facing a mic gives off a very similar energy.

I know that the comfort and ease will come with time and experience so I am not worried about that at all. I do know that even in just the few episodes that I have recorded, I am feeling better each time I step in front of the mic and press record. So this episode is a little bit more of who I am and my vision behind this podcast.

I am wanting to being awareness to toxic masculinity and promote and support responsible masculinity. To help men bring a non egoic attention to themselves in order to step their game up to be better so that when it comes time to being in a relationship we as men are better for our partners and better to them.

Bring fuel to the flame of intimacy in order to keep it lit and flaming bright. Doing the little things is actually doing the big things and being in touch with your emotions makes you more of a man.

The Spiritual Health Petal

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 15:00:00 -0400

We are back at it with coverage of another petal on the healthy balanced Health Flower and today we are talking about MY FAVORITE petal!! The Spiritual Health Petal. For me, this is the petal that has gifted me the biggest impact in my life thus far and it is a topic that I could talk about all night and into the dawn. I know it is all about balance but... I don't feel my bias shows up in the episode (shhhhhh).

Spiritual health comes down to remaining OPEN to views, systems, ideas, beliefs...that are outside of yours. To question what was taught to us and perhaps deprograming our traditional way of thinking and truly develop our own.
When were on point in our spiritual health petal things happen that are often hard to put into words so we sum it up to "being in the zone". Thinking is not involved and as that channel opens up the connection is made to Your higher self and spirit is flowing through you. Think about that rush when you are suddenly "inspired" to do something, you are IN-SPIRIT, an urge or rush that is rather unexplainable.
Yoga, meditation and a deep connected experience of sexual ecstasy are all about connecting to that spiritual component of your higher self. Not to mention that I believe the Spiritual Health Petal has the biggest impact on all the others.

The E-motion-Al Health Petal

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 15:00:00 -0400

Rolling right on through the properly balanced Health Flower, this episode we are focusing our attention on the Emotional Health Petal. This will bring up the topic of energies and how thanks do our good ol pal Al (Albert Einstein) we know that everything is energy including our emotions.

We are here on this beautiful living planet, Mother GAIA, and we are in this human form. We are all here on earth as spiritual beings having a human experience. A HUGE part of this human experience is the emotional aspect of it and feeling an array of these emotions, human emotions. We as men tend to block a lot of certain emotions in order to feed our ego. The emotions/energy will only continue to build and become more and more toxic.
We as men have traditionally been taught by society and our upbringing that showing emotion is a sign of weakness and that real men don't cry or show emotion, that could't be further from the truth, it is actually the exact opposite.

The Social Health Petal

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 14:00:00 -0400

In continuing the coverage of the properly balanced Health Flower, this episode we're talking a breakdown and importance of the Social Health Petal. The focus is on the importance of having healthy relationships with others and making sure to maintain the close friendships certain people in your life.
We also talk about the impact social media has our lives and how to be were of it. Sometimes we need to put out phones and devices away and be present with someone else. Our devices and technology have made our world more connected that it ever has been in modern time, and yet people are the most disconnected they have ever been.

Properly Balanced Health Flower- The Physical Petal

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 14:00:00 -0400

We are introducing the Health Flower and breaking it down to the 5 basic petals: physical, social, mental, emotional and spiritual. With all petals healthy and colorful it creates a beautiful flower. The goal of it all is to have a properly balanced Health Flower. Each petal is equally as important as the others and each petal is connected and directly effects the others.

Today we jump into the Physical Health Petal and break it down a bit. Go over what things in our daily life fall under this petal and why this petal in particular drives our ego. You physical appearance, your style/fashion, the cleanliness of your house your ass and your mouth all fall under this important petal. So be open and be aware! Notice how much energy we place on our physical health and how ego driven it is. There is also a little chatter of how healthily balancing this petal will positively impact other areas of your life.

Energies- The Feminine & The Masculine

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 13:00:00 -0400

This episode we are laying the other major foundational building block of self betterment and talking about energies, and the breakdown of the Feminine & Masculine. These energies have acquired many names throughout time (yin-yang, positive/negative, good/evil, light/dark, good/evil, masculine/feminine...) they all are talking about the universal law of duality.
As people tend to associate gender when hearing feminine or masculine, we are talking about universal duality and how the 2 opposing energies work in perfect harmony to form and create the Universal ONE. Everything we do is done by energy and creates energy, how this energy is charged is either feminine or masculine. (for example: the simple act of giving is a certain energy and the opposite simple act creates an energy of receiving.
We as men who are ego driven and fuel that male ego live very heavy in that masculine energy. So bringing awareness to the divine feminine energy, that we all posses, and nurturing it to bring into a better balance with our divine masculine energy is the perfect recipe for a healthier & balanced You.

Ego, The Male Ego

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 13:00:00 -0400

In this episode we are talking about the ego, and not just any ego but the male ego. Starting the first few episodes we are talking about the foundational building blocks of self betterment (better_MEN_t).
Arguably, ego is not so much a foundational block but rather the ground that the foundation is built on. Because of its major importance, it only felt right to start the very first episode with its attention.
So we do a breakdown of what the ego is, the male ego and the toxicity it creates and how being aware of it is the best way to change and becoming a better You.

A Better Man, A Better You Podcast Intro Episode

Thu, 14 Jul 2022 21:00:00 -0400

Welcome podcast world and all you lovely listeners! In this episode I will be doing what any podcasted would and should do and that is giving an intro to A Better Man, A Better You Podcast.
I will break it down a bit into the 5 categories of health: Mental, Physical, Emotional, Social, Spiritual and how self improvement and growth all stems from one of the areas of a combination of multiple areas.

I give a glimpse into the future direction of the show and what you can expect and towards the end of the intro I give a little detail about me and why I decided to start the podcast as well as my intentions behind it.

The sole purpose of A Better Man, A Better You Podcast is to tap into the minds of men in order to bring awareness and change to standards of men individually and as a collective. By bringing awareness to certain areas it will create an understanding and bring about an importance to change.

The changes that will occur are for each man to change and better himself for himself, and in return will be better for others, especially those you're in relationships with. Working together with other men to eliminate toxic masculinity, male stereotypes and keeping the male ego in check.