The Rising Beyond Podcast Sun, 13 Sep 2026 10:58:53 -0600 https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ en-us © 2026 The Rising Beyond Podcast yes 793e1740-90e6-5000-b110-3bc542b320af Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS episodic false If you're trying to protect your children while navigating an abusive ex, this podcast is for you. Because leaving the relationship didn't end the abuse, and no one prepared you for what came next.


The Rising Beyond Podcast is for protective mothers navigating the overwhelming reality of sharing children with someone who continues patterns of manipulation, coercive control, or emotional abuse after separation. Join Sybil Cummin, licensed professional counselor, who has spent the last decade helping survivors and their children navigate this incredibly difficult chapter. Every week, we share trauma-informed education, nervous system insights, protective parenting strategies, and honest conversations about family court, post-separation abuse, and healing, so you can feel more confident, more grounded, and better equipped to protect both your children and yourself. 


Whether you're in the middle of family court, struggling with parenting alongside someone who continues patterns of control, or simply trying to become the parent you want to be after everything you've survived, you'll find validation, practical guidance, and hope here.

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) post-separation abuse, coercive control, family court, protective parenting, nervous system regulation, domestic violence, coparenting Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS https://storage.buzzsprout.com/8tnc3q9yr88680iv3mwnhjehmijs?.jpg The Rising Beyond Podcast https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ Ep 220: What Is a Therapist’s Role When Coercive Control Enters the Courtroom? Ep 220: What Is a Therapist’s Role When Coercive Control Enters the Courtroom? If they see the safety concerns, why can’t they tell the court?

In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the role of a treating therapist in cases involving coercive control, post-separation abuse, and family court. I explain why a child’s therapist must remain focused on the child, why a survivor’s therapist may be cautious about testifying, and how therapy records, diagnoses, and even honest testimony can sometimes be weaponized.

But staying within our clinical role does not mean therapists have to remain silent about the larger systems affecting our clients.

I also explore the ways mental health professionals can make an impact beyond the therapy room through continued education, collaboration, thoughtful documentation, professional training, public education, and advocacy.

We explore:

  • Why treating therapists generally cannot make parenting-time or decision-making recommendations.
  • Why testifying may not always help—and can sometimes create additional risks for clients.
  • How therapists can protect a child’s privacy and the trust built in therapy.
  • Why diagnoses, records, and disclosures may be weaponized in family court.
  • The importance of collaboration among therapists, attorneys, evaluators, GALs, and other professionals.
  • How clinicians can advocate for survivors and children without practicing outside their scope.
  • Why therapists have a role in changing the systems that shape their clients’ safety and healing.

I would love to hear from both survivors and mental health professionals: What do you wish therapists could do in these cases? What has surprised you about their role? And where could therapists make the greatest impact beyond an individual case?

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]]> If they see the safety concerns, why can’t they tell the court?

In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the role of a treating therapist in cases involving coercive control, post-separation abuse, and family court. I explain why a child’s therapist must remain focused on the child, why a survivor’s therapist may be cautious about testifying, and how therapy records, diagnoses, and even honest testimony can sometimes be weaponized.

But staying within our clinical role does not mean therapists have to remain silent about the larger systems affecting our clients.

I also explore the ways mental health professionals can make an impact beyond the therapy room through continued education, collaboration, thoughtful documentation, professional training, public education, and advocacy.

We explore:

  • Why treating therapists generally cannot make parenting-time or decision-making recommendations.
  • Why testifying may not always help—and can sometimes create additional risks for clients.
  • How therapists can protect a child’s privacy and the trust built in therapy.
  • Why diagnoses, records, and disclosures may be weaponized in family court.
  • The importance of collaboration among therapists, attorneys, evaluators, GALs, and other professionals.
  • How clinicians can advocate for survivors and children without practicing outside their scope.
  • Why therapists have a role in changing the systems that shape their clients’ safety and healing.

I would love to hear from both survivors and mental health professionals: What do you wish therapists could do in these cases? What has surprised you about their role? And where could therapists make the greatest impact beyond an individual case?

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19772291 Wed, 09 Sep 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1222 1 220 full false Ep 219: 20 Things Professionals Need to Understand About Coercive Control Ep 219: 20 Things Professionals Need to Understand About Coercive Control What if just one professional truly understood coercive control?

What if your therapist, evaluator, attorney, judge, child protection worker, or GAL recognized the patterns that so often go unseen?

Would your family's story look different?

In this episode, I share more than 20 of the most important things I believe professionals need to understand about coercive control, post-separation abuse, and the experiences of protective parents and children.

These aren't abstract theories. They are lessons I've learned from years of working with survivors, children, and families—and from listening to the stories of people who have lived through these systems.

Whether you're a survivor hoping professionals will better understand your experience or you're a professional wanting to improve your practice, I hope this episode sparks curiosity, conversation, and change.

We explore:

  • Why looking at isolated incidents causes professionals to miss the larger pattern of coercive control.
  • How children experience coercive control—and why their behaviors should invite curiosity rather than quick conclusions.
  • The mindset shifts professionals need to better recognize, assess, and respond to coercive control while supporting protective parents and children.

This episode is also an invitation.

As I continue developing trainings for therapists, evaluators, attorneys, judges, and other professionals, I want to hear from you.

What did I miss?

What do you wish every professional understood that could have changed your family's story?

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Couples Therapy Episode - “Ep 212: When Couples Therapy Causes Harm | Understanding Coercive Control in the Therapy Room with Frances Russell, LMFT”  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/19493873

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]]> What if just one professional truly understood coercive control?

What if your therapist, evaluator, attorney, judge, child protection worker, or GAL recognized the patterns that so often go unseen?

Would your family's story look different?

In this episode, I share more than 20 of the most important things I believe professionals need to understand about coercive control, post-separation abuse, and the experiences of protective parents and children.

These aren't abstract theories. They are lessons I've learned from years of working with survivors, children, and families—and from listening to the stories of people who have lived through these systems.

Whether you're a survivor hoping professionals will better understand your experience or you're a professional wanting to improve your practice, I hope this episode sparks curiosity, conversation, and change.

We explore:

  • Why looking at isolated incidents causes professionals to miss the larger pattern of coercive control.
  • How children experience coercive control—and why their behaviors should invite curiosity rather than quick conclusions.
  • The mindset shifts professionals need to better recognize, assess, and respond to coercive control while supporting protective parents and children.

This episode is also an invitation.

As I continue developing trainings for therapists, evaluators, attorneys, judges, and other professionals, I want to hear from you.

What did I miss?

What do you wish every professional understood that could have changed your family's story?

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Couples Therapy Episode - “Ep 212: When Couples Therapy Causes Harm | Understanding Coercive Control in the Therapy Room with Frances Russell, LMFT”  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/19493873

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.html

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19738811 Wed, 02 Sep 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2077 1 219 full true Bonus Coaching Session: My Teen Refuses to Go to the Other Parent's House. What Do I Do? Bonus Coaching Session: My Teen Refuses to Go to the Other Parent's House. What Do I Do? This week's question comes from a protective mom navigating one of the most heartbreaking and misunderstood situations in family court.

Her teenage daughter refuses to go to her dad's house. She's crying, begging not to go, and sometimes won't even get out of the car. She's too old to physically carry, and her mom doesn't want to force her in a way that could be traumatic. At the same time, she's terrified that if she doesn't somehow "make her go," the court will accuse her of alienation or violating the parenting plan.

What is a protective parent supposed to do in a situation like this?

In this Friday Coaching Corner, we explore the difference between facilitating parenting time and forcing a child, why that distinction matters, and how to navigate these impossible moments in a way that supports your child while making reasonable efforts to follow court orders.

I answer the questions:

  • What should I actually do when my teen refuses to get out of the car for parenting time?
  • Where is the line between encouraging my child and forcing them?
  • How can I show the court that I am supporting parenting time without traumatizing my child or appearing to alienate?

Whether you're living this situation now or simply wondering how you would respond if it happened, this episode offers practical guidance, a trauma-informed perspective, and a mindset shift that can help you navigate one of the most difficult parenting dilemmas protective parents face.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> This week's question comes from a protective mom navigating one of the most heartbreaking and misunderstood situations in family court.

Her teenage daughter refuses to go to her dad's house. She's crying, begging not to go, and sometimes won't even get out of the car. She's too old to physically carry, and her mom doesn't want to force her in a way that could be traumatic. At the same time, she's terrified that if she doesn't somehow "make her go," the court will accuse her of alienation or violating the parenting plan.

What is a protective parent supposed to do in a situation like this?

In this Friday Coaching Corner, we explore the difference between facilitating parenting time and forcing a child, why that distinction matters, and how to navigate these impossible moments in a way that supports your child while making reasonable efforts to follow court orders.

I answer the questions:

  • What should I actually do when my teen refuses to get out of the car for parenting time?
  • Where is the line between encouraging my child and forcing them?
  • How can I show the court that I am supporting parenting time without traumatizing my child or appearing to alienate?

Whether you're living this situation now or simply wondering how you would respond if it happened, this episode offers practical guidance, a trauma-informed perspective, and a mindset shift that can help you navigate one of the most difficult parenting dilemmas protective parents face.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19651141 Fri, 28 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1190 1 full false Ep 218: Surviving a Smear Campaign Without Losing Yourself Ep 218: Surviving a Smear Campaign Without Losing Yourself Back-to-school season often brings more than new teachers, new classmates, and new routines.

For many protective parents, it also marks the beginning of a new round of smear campaigns.

Whether it's with teachers, other parents, coaches, family members, or professionals involved in your case, someone who uses coercive control often looks for opportunities to shape the narrative before you have a chance to tell your own story.

The result? Anxiety. Isolation. Self-doubt. And the overwhelming urge to defend yourself.

But what if your greatest strength isn't convincing everyone you're telling the truth?

What if it's learning to stay grounded in your values while allowing your consistency to speak louder than their accusations?

In this episode, we explore practical mindset shifts that can help you respond differently to smear campaigns while protecting both your peace and your credibility.

In this episode, we answer:

  • How do I stop a smear campaign from taking over my thoughts and emotions?
  • When should I respond to false accusations—and when is it better not to?
  • How can I protect my credibility without constantly defending myself?

If you've ever found yourself replaying conversations, worrying about what other people think, or wondering how to protect your reputation without losing yourself in the process, this episode is for you.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

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]]> Back-to-school season often brings more than new teachers, new classmates, and new routines.

For many protective parents, it also marks the beginning of a new round of smear campaigns.

Whether it's with teachers, other parents, coaches, family members, or professionals involved in your case, someone who uses coercive control often looks for opportunities to shape the narrative before you have a chance to tell your own story.

The result? Anxiety. Isolation. Self-doubt. And the overwhelming urge to defend yourself.

But what if your greatest strength isn't convincing everyone you're telling the truth?

What if it's learning to stay grounded in your values while allowing your consistency to speak louder than their accusations?

In this episode, we explore practical mindset shifts that can help you respond differently to smear campaigns while protecting both your peace and your credibility.

In this episode, we answer:

  • How do I stop a smear campaign from taking over my thoughts and emotions?
  • When should I respond to false accusations—and when is it better not to?
  • How can I protect my credibility without constantly defending myself?

If you've ever found yourself replaying conversations, worrying about what other people think, or wondering how to protect your reputation without losing yourself in the process, this episode is for you.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19649363 Wed, 26 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1518 1 218 full false Ep 217: AI and Post-Separation Abuse: What Protective Parents Need to Know with Rina Rosewell Ep 217: AI and Post-Separation Abuse: What Protective Parents Need to Know with Rina Rosewell Artificial intelligence is everywhere, including family court.

More and more protective parents are telling me that their ex has suddenly started sending perfectly written messages, using AI to draft legal documents, or threatening to subpoena their ChatGPT conversations.

It's understandable to feel intimidated.

But does AI actually give an abusive person more power?

Or is it simply another tool that can be used well—or misused?

In this episode, I'm joined by divorce coach and author Rina Rosewell to unpack the growing role of AI in coercive control, post-separation abuse, and family court. We discuss both the opportunities and the limitations of AI, along with practical ways survivors can use it without becoming dependent on it.

In this episode, we answer:

  • Should I be worried if my ex suddenly starts using AI to write messages or court documents?
  • Can AI actually help me communicate, organize my case, and reduce the emotional toll of post-separation abuse?
  • What are the limitations of AI, and why shouldn't it replace the support of safe, trusted people in your healing?

Whether you're curious about AI, already using it, or feeling anxious because your ex has discovered it, this conversation will help you separate fear from facts and use this technology in ways that support—not replace—your healing.

About Rina: Rina Rosewell is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, High-Conflict Coach, and Amazon bestselling author of AI ARMOR: Your Digital Defense Solution for Coparenting with a Narcissist. She helps post-separation abuse survivors use AI strategically to communicate, document, and protect themselves when their ex weaponizes every interaction.

Find Rina:
https://lifeafteranabusiverelationship.com/
https://rinas-newsletter-fbfe96.beehiiv.com/

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Artificial intelligence is everywhere, including family court.

More and more protective parents are telling me that their ex has suddenly started sending perfectly written messages, using AI to draft legal documents, or threatening to subpoena their ChatGPT conversations.

It's understandable to feel intimidated.

But does AI actually give an abusive person more power?

Or is it simply another tool that can be used well—or misused?

In this episode, I'm joined by divorce coach and author Rina Rosewell to unpack the growing role of AI in coercive control, post-separation abuse, and family court. We discuss both the opportunities and the limitations of AI, along with practical ways survivors can use it without becoming dependent on it.

In this episode, we answer:

  • Should I be worried if my ex suddenly starts using AI to write messages or court documents?
  • Can AI actually help me communicate, organize my case, and reduce the emotional toll of post-separation abuse?
  • What are the limitations of AI, and why shouldn't it replace the support of safe, trusted people in your healing?

Whether you're curious about AI, already using it, or feeling anxious because your ex has discovered it, this conversation will help you separate fear from facts and use this technology in ways that support—not replace—your healing.

About Rina: Rina Rosewell is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, High-Conflict Coach, and Amazon bestselling author of AI ARMOR: Your Digital Defense Solution for Coparenting with a Narcissist. She helps post-separation abuse survivors use AI strategically to communicate, document, and protect themselves when their ex weaponizes every interaction.

Find Rina:
https://lifeafteranabusiverelationship.com/
https://rinas-newsletter-fbfe96.beehiiv.com/

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19640448 Wed, 19 Aug 2026 05:00:00 -0600 3163 1 217 full false Ep 216: The Problem with Using Children as Evidence in Family Court Ep 216: The Problem with Using Children as Evidence in Family Court This week's episode comes from a question I was asked by a group of family law attorneys.

"What behaviors can we look for in a child that tell us coercive control or domestic violence is happening?"

On the surface, it seems like a simple question. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized just how complicated, and potentially harmful, that question can become.

As a child therapist, I absolutely believe we need to understand children's experiences. Their voices matter.

But when our legal and child protection systems rely too heavily on children to provide the evidence, we can unintentionally place them in impossible loyalty binds, increase pressure on them, and even teach them that speaking up doesn't change anything.

In this episode, I process these tensions out loud and share why I believe we need to think differently about assessing coercive control.

We answer:

  • Why is it so difficult to use children's behaviors as proof of coercive control or domestic violence?
  • What should parents actually pay attention to when trying to understand their child's experience?
  • How can we support our children without turning them into evidence in a family court case?

If you've ever wondered why your child's behaviors seem confusing—or why professionals sometimes miss what's really happening—this conversation is for you.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> This week's episode comes from a question I was asked by a group of family law attorneys.

"What behaviors can we look for in a child that tell us coercive control or domestic violence is happening?"

On the surface, it seems like a simple question. But the more I sat with it, the more I realized just how complicated, and potentially harmful, that question can become.

As a child therapist, I absolutely believe we need to understand children's experiences. Their voices matter.

But when our legal and child protection systems rely too heavily on children to provide the evidence, we can unintentionally place them in impossible loyalty binds, increase pressure on them, and even teach them that speaking up doesn't change anything.

In this episode, I process these tensions out loud and share why I believe we need to think differently about assessing coercive control.

We answer:

  • Why is it so difficult to use children's behaviors as proof of coercive control or domestic violence?
  • What should parents actually pay attention to when trying to understand their child's experience?
  • How can we support our children without turning them into evidence in a family court case?

If you've ever wondered why your child's behaviors seem confusing—or why professionals sometimes miss what's really happening—this conversation is for you.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.html

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19621233 Wed, 12 Aug 2026 05:00:00 -0600 1525 1 216 full true Ep 215: When Justice Isn't Accessible: Closing the Gaps in Legal Support for Survivors with Heather Bellino Ep 215: When Justice Isn't Accessible: Closing the Gaps in Legal Support for Survivors with Heather Bellino Leaving an abusive relationship is only the beginning.

For many survivors, the legal system becomes the next obstacle, especially when financial abuse, intimidation, and limited access to legal representation leave them trying to navigate family court alone.

I'm talking with Heather Bellino from the Texas Advocacy Project to discuss the often-overlooked civil legal needs of survivors and the systemic gaps that continue to put families at risk. Although Texas Advocacy Project serves survivors in Texas, the themes discussed apply to communities across the United States.

We explore how coordinated community responses, trauma-informed legal advocacy, and increased collaboration between professionals can improve both safety and access to justice.

We discuss:

  • The difference between criminal and civil legal remedies for survivors
  • Why protective orders, custody, and family court often determine a survivor's immediate safety
  • Why abuse must be understood as a pattern of coercive control, not isolated incidents
  • How stalking and coercive control are frequently minimized when viewed one event at a time
  • The importance of trauma-informed judges, evaluators, and court professionals
  • Why passing new legislation is only the first step—and why implementation matters
  • The role of court watchers in increasing accountability and transparency
  • How Texas Advocacy Project helps survivors who must represent themselves in court (pro se)
  • Why knowing your legal rights can be empowering after coercive control
  • The importance of coordinated community responses rather than organizations working in silos
  • Why funding survivor services is essential to long-term systemic change

Survivors shouldn't have to navigate complex legal systems alone. When professionals collaborate, communities invest in survivor-centered services, and systems understand coercive control as a pattern rather than isolated incidents, families have a far greater chance of finding both safety and justice.

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]]> Leaving an abusive relationship is only the beginning.

For many survivors, the legal system becomes the next obstacle, especially when financial abuse, intimidation, and limited access to legal representation leave them trying to navigate family court alone.

I'm talking with Heather Bellino from the Texas Advocacy Project to discuss the often-overlooked civil legal needs of survivors and the systemic gaps that continue to put families at risk. Although Texas Advocacy Project serves survivors in Texas, the themes discussed apply to communities across the United States.

We explore how coordinated community responses, trauma-informed legal advocacy, and increased collaboration between professionals can improve both safety and access to justice.

We discuss:

  • The difference between criminal and civil legal remedies for survivors
  • Why protective orders, custody, and family court often determine a survivor's immediate safety
  • Why abuse must be understood as a pattern of coercive control, not isolated incidents
  • How stalking and coercive control are frequently minimized when viewed one event at a time
  • The importance of trauma-informed judges, evaluators, and court professionals
  • Why passing new legislation is only the first step—and why implementation matters
  • The role of court watchers in increasing accountability and transparency
  • How Texas Advocacy Project helps survivors who must represent themselves in court (pro se)
  • Why knowing your legal rights can be empowering after coercive control
  • The importance of coordinated community responses rather than organizations working in silos
  • Why funding survivor services is essential to long-term systemic change

Survivors shouldn't have to navigate complex legal systems alone. When professionals collaborate, communities invest in survivor-centered services, and systems understand coercive control as a pattern rather than isolated incidents, families have a far greater chance of finding both safety and justice.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19568011 Wed, 05 Aug 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2706 1 215 full false Bonus Coaching Session: How Do I Trust Again After Isolation and Abuse? Bonus Coaching Session: How Do I Trust Again After Isolation and Abuse? You left the relationship. You're rebuilding your life. You're even trying to reconnect with friends.

So why does every interaction leave you questioning everything?

In this Friday Coaching Corner, I answer a listener question from a survivor who wants connection but finds herself constantly analyzing whether people are genuine, worrying about how she showed up, and struggling to trust her own judgment.

Questions We'll Explore

  • How do I know the difference between discernment and hypervigilance?
  • Why do I replay conversations and judge myself so harshly afterward?
  • How do I rebuild trust without becoming naive?

We'll talk about the impact of coercive control and isolation on trust, why your nervous system may still be scanning for danger, and how trust is rebuilt one safe relationship at a time.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> You left the relationship. You're rebuilding your life. You're even trying to reconnect with friends.

So why does every interaction leave you questioning everything?

In this Friday Coaching Corner, I answer a listener question from a survivor who wants connection but finds herself constantly analyzing whether people are genuine, worrying about how she showed up, and struggling to trust her own judgment.

Questions We'll Explore

  • How do I know the difference between discernment and hypervigilance?
  • Why do I replay conversations and judge myself so harshly afterward?
  • How do I rebuild trust without becoming naive?

We'll talk about the impact of coercive control and isolation on trust, why your nervous system may still be scanning for danger, and how trust is rebuilt one safe relationship at a time.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19564128 Fri, 31 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0600 864 full false Ep 214: Hope When Family Court Breaks Your Heart: Holding On Through the Impossible Ep 214: Hope When Family Court Breaks Your Heart: Holding On Through the Impossible What do you do when the outcome you feared actually happens?

What happens when you've lost time with your children, the professionals who were supposed to protect them didn't listen, and you're wondering how you're supposed to keep going?

This is one of the heaviest episodes I've ever recorded—but it's also one of the most important.

Too often, survivors are told to "stay positive" or "everything happens for a reason." But that's not what hope looks like after coercive control, systemic betrayal, or devastating family court outcomes.

In this episode, I talk honestly about the hopelessness many protective parents experience, including suicidal thoughts that can arise after prolonged trauma and loss. More importantly, we explore what research tells us about hope—and why hope is not passive optimism. Hope is something we build one small step at a time.

If you've ever wondered whether you'll make it through this season, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.

We discuss:

  • The difference between optimism and hope—and why the distinction matters.
  • Why toxic positivity can feel invalidating after trauma.
  • The grief that many protective parents carry after family court and post-separation abuse.
  • How focusing on what is within your control can restore a sense of agency.
  • Why breaking overwhelming goals into smaller steps builds hope.
  • The importance of community and allowing others to hold hope for you when you can't.
  • Why purpose can exist alongside pain.
  • Practical ways to nurture hope, even when circumstances haven't changed.

If this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it with another protective parent who may need to hear that they are not alone.

If this episode brought up thoughts of suicide or you feel like you may be in immediate emotional danger, please don't go through this alone. Here are some resources.

United States & Canada

  • Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day.
  • Chat online through the 988 Lifeline website.

International Suicide Hotlines and Resources https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> What do you do when the outcome you feared actually happens?

What happens when you've lost time with your children, the professionals who were supposed to protect them didn't listen, and you're wondering how you're supposed to keep going?

This is one of the heaviest episodes I've ever recorded—but it's also one of the most important.

Too often, survivors are told to "stay positive" or "everything happens for a reason." But that's not what hope looks like after coercive control, systemic betrayal, or devastating family court outcomes.

In this episode, I talk honestly about the hopelessness many protective parents experience, including suicidal thoughts that can arise after prolonged trauma and loss. More importantly, we explore what research tells us about hope—and why hope is not passive optimism. Hope is something we build one small step at a time.

If you've ever wondered whether you'll make it through this season, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.

We discuss:

  • The difference between optimism and hope—and why the distinction matters.
  • Why toxic positivity can feel invalidating after trauma.
  • The grief that many protective parents carry after family court and post-separation abuse.
  • How focusing on what is within your control can restore a sense of agency.
  • Why breaking overwhelming goals into smaller steps builds hope.
  • The importance of community and allowing others to hold hope for you when you can't.
  • Why purpose can exist alongside pain.
  • Practical ways to nurture hope, even when circumstances haven't changed.

If this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it with another protective parent who may need to hear that they are not alone.

If this episode brought up thoughts of suicide or you feel like you may be in immediate emotional danger, please don't go through this alone. Here are some resources.

United States & Canada

  • Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day.
  • Chat online through the 988 Lifeline website.

International Suicide Hotlines and Resources https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/suicide/suicide-prevention-hotlines-resources-worldwide

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19541847 Wed, 29 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1752 1 214 full true Ep 213: What Colorado's New Family Court Bill Actually Means for Survivors Ep 213: What Colorado's New Family Court Bill Actually Means for Survivors Colorado recently signed HB26-1309 into law, and many survivors and protective parents are asking what it actually means for families navigating family court.

I break down what I am learning about HB26-1309, a bill focused on domestic violence, coercive control, and child safety in Colorado family courts.

While some headlines make it sound like family court has been completely transformed overnight, the reality is more nuanced. Many of the protections addressed in this bill already existed in Colorado law. What HB26-1309 primarily does is clarify, reorganize, and strengthen how courts are expected to analyze evidence of domestic violence and coercive control.

We discuss:

  • What changes were actually made to Colorado law
  • Why requiring courts to make findings on the record may matter
  • How coercive control is addressed within the statute
  • What attorneys are saying about how they may use these changes in practice
  • Potential benefits for survivors and protective parents
  • Remaining concerns about implementation and court culture

I also share insights from attorneys who were closely involved with the bill and discuss how these changes could influence litigation strategy, evidence presentation, and judicial accountability moving forward.

HB26-1309 does not automatically change custody orders or fix family court overnight. But it may create greater clarity, accountability, and recognition of abuse dynamics within the legal process.

Whether you're navigating family court yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you understand both the promise and limitations of this new law.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.html

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]]> Colorado recently signed HB26-1309 into law, and many survivors and protective parents are asking what it actually means for families navigating family court.

I break down what I am learning about HB26-1309, a bill focused on domestic violence, coercive control, and child safety in Colorado family courts.

While some headlines make it sound like family court has been completely transformed overnight, the reality is more nuanced. Many of the protections addressed in this bill already existed in Colorado law. What HB26-1309 primarily does is clarify, reorganize, and strengthen how courts are expected to analyze evidence of domestic violence and coercive control.

We discuss:

  • What changes were actually made to Colorado law
  • Why requiring courts to make findings on the record may matter
  • How coercive control is addressed within the statute
  • What attorneys are saying about how they may use these changes in practice
  • Potential benefits for survivors and protective parents
  • Remaining concerns about implementation and court culture

I also share insights from attorneys who were closely involved with the bill and discuss how these changes could influence litigation strategy, evidence presentation, and judicial accountability moving forward.

HB26-1309 does not automatically change custody orders or fix family court overnight. But it may create greater clarity, accountability, and recognition of abuse dynamics within the legal process.

Whether you're navigating family court yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you understand both the promise and limitations of this new law.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19516380 Wed, 22 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2029 1 213 full true Ep 212: When Couples Therapy Causes Harm | Understanding Coercive Control in the Therapy Room with Frances Russell, LMFT Ep 212: When Couples Therapy Causes Harm | Understanding Coercive Control in the Therapy Room with Frances Russell, LMFT What if the therapy that was supposed to help actually made things worse?

For many survivors of coercive control, couples therapy doesn't bring clarity, it deepens confusion, self-doubt, and shame.

In this episode, I'm joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Frances Russell to talk about why traditional couples therapy can be harmful when coercive control or domestic violence is present. We discuss what survivors should know, what therapists often miss, and why understanding patterns of power and control—not just isolated incidents—is essential.

Whether you're a survivor wondering why couples therapy didn't work or a mental health professional wanting to better recognize coercive control, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate validation.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why couples therapy can unintentionally reinforce coercive control.
  • How neutrality can cause harm when abuse is present.
  • The subtle signs therapists should be watching for.
  • Why assessment for coercive control is an ongoing process—not a one-time intake questionnaire.
  • The difference between incident-based and pattern-based thinking.
  • What survivors can do if they're looking back and realizing therapy caused additional harm.
  • Considerations for therapists when ending couples therapy due to safety concerns.
  • What to know about therapy notes, confidentiality, and family court.

About Frances: Frances works as a therapist for both individuals and couples, and specializes in trauma recovery, helping people rebuild trust in themselves, others and life after experiences that have shattered it. She works with clients who want to process childhood abuse and neglect as well as others who come in to process recent, traumatic experiences between themselves and their partner. She primarily uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with individuals. 

In addition to being a therapist, Frances is a trauma-informed yoga instructor with Comeback Yoga, an organization that supports veterans and their families. Frances also teaches graduate students at Regis University and her courses include Crisis, Trauma and Loss and Human Growth and Development.

In her free time, Frances enjoys staying active and getting outdoors through running, backpacking and skiing. She is also always on the lookout for new restaurants and recipes.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> What if the therapy that was supposed to help actually made things worse?

For many survivors of coercive control, couples therapy doesn't bring clarity, it deepens confusion, self-doubt, and shame.

In this episode, I'm joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Frances Russell to talk about why traditional couples therapy can be harmful when coercive control or domestic violence is present. We discuss what survivors should know, what therapists often miss, and why understanding patterns of power and control—not just isolated incidents—is essential.

Whether you're a survivor wondering why couples therapy didn't work or a mental health professional wanting to better recognize coercive control, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate validation.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why couples therapy can unintentionally reinforce coercive control.
  • How neutrality can cause harm when abuse is present.
  • The subtle signs therapists should be watching for.
  • Why assessment for coercive control is an ongoing process—not a one-time intake questionnaire.
  • The difference between incident-based and pattern-based thinking.
  • What survivors can do if they're looking back and realizing therapy caused additional harm.
  • Considerations for therapists when ending couples therapy due to safety concerns.
  • What to know about therapy notes, confidentiality, and family court.

About Frances: Frances works as a therapist for both individuals and couples, and specializes in trauma recovery, helping people rebuild trust in themselves, others and life after experiences that have shattered it. She works with clients who want to process childhood abuse and neglect as well as others who come in to process recent, traumatic experiences between themselves and their partner. She primarily uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with couples and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) with individuals. 

In addition to being a therapist, Frances is a trauma-informed yoga instructor with Comeback Yoga, an organization that supports veterans and their families. Frances also teaches graduate students at Regis University and her courses include Crisis, Trauma and Loss and Human Growth and Development.

In her free time, Frances enjoys staying active and getting outdoors through running, backpacking and skiing. She is also always on the lookout for new restaurants and recipes.

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19493873 Wed, 15 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2857 1 212 full false Ep 211: Attachment Styles, Dating After Abuse, and Why This Isn't Your Fault Ep 211: Attachment Styles, Dating After Abuse, and Why This Isn't Your Fault Attachment theory has become one of the most talked-about topics in the dating and relationship world.

You have probably heard terms like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and disorganized attachment. Maybe you've even wondered whether your attachment style played a role in your abusive relationship.

But what if attachment theory isn't about blaming yourself?

In this episode, I unpack attachment styles through a trauma-informed lens and explore how understanding your attachment patterns can support healing, self-awareness, and future relationships after abuse.

We discuss:

  • What attachment theory actually is (and what it isn't)
  • The four primary attachment styles
  • Childhood experiences that can contribute to different attachment patterns
  • Why attachment styles are adaptations, not character flaws
  • How attachment styles can influence dating and relationships
  • The role attachment may play in how we experience attention, connection, and love bombing
  • Why survivors should be cautious about using attachment theory as a form of self-blame
  • How coercive control and abusive relationships can create attachment injuries of their own
  • Why understanding yourself is often more important than trying to become an expert at spotting abusers

One of the most important takeaways from this conversation is that attachment styles do not explain why someone was abused.

Abuse happens because someone chose to abuse.

Understanding your attachment style can be incredibly helpful for healing, building self-awareness, and creating healthier relationships moving forward. But it should never be used as evidence that you caused, invited, or deserved the abuse you experienced.

If you've ever wondered how attachment theory fits into your healing journey, this episode is for you.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Attachment theory has become one of the most talked-about topics in the dating and relationship world.

You have probably heard terms like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and disorganized attachment. Maybe you've even wondered whether your attachment style played a role in your abusive relationship.

But what if attachment theory isn't about blaming yourself?

In this episode, I unpack attachment styles through a trauma-informed lens and explore how understanding your attachment patterns can support healing, self-awareness, and future relationships after abuse.

We discuss:

  • What attachment theory actually is (and what it isn't)
  • The four primary attachment styles
  • Childhood experiences that can contribute to different attachment patterns
  • Why attachment styles are adaptations, not character flaws
  • How attachment styles can influence dating and relationships
  • The role attachment may play in how we experience attention, connection, and love bombing
  • Why survivors should be cautious about using attachment theory as a form of self-blame
  • How coercive control and abusive relationships can create attachment injuries of their own
  • Why understanding yourself is often more important than trying to become an expert at spotting abusers

One of the most important takeaways from this conversation is that attachment styles do not explain why someone was abused.

Abuse happens because someone chose to abuse.

Understanding your attachment style can be incredibly helpful for healing, building self-awareness, and creating healthier relationships moving forward. But it should never be used as evidence that you caused, invited, or deserved the abuse you experienced.

If you've ever wondered how attachment theory fits into your healing journey, this episode is for you.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19457751 Wed, 08 Jul 2026 05:00:00 -0600 1297 1 211 full true Ep 210: Healing from Domestic Abuse: Rethinking Our Relationship with Our Bodies with Karianne Gwinn Ep 210: Healing from Domestic Abuse: Rethinking Our Relationship with Our Bodies with Karianne Gwinn What if your body isn’t betraying you… but trying to protect you?

In this episode, we’re rethinking the relationship survivors often have with their bodies after trauma. I’m joined by Karianne Gwinn to talk about the very real physical impact domestic violence and chronic stress can have on the body, including digestive issues, chronic pain, fatigue, nervous system dysregulation, and feeling disconnected from yourself.

We also explore what healing can look like beyond just “thinking differently” — including bottom-up, somatic, and mindfulness-based approaches that help survivors reconnect with safety, regulation, and their bodies in a more compassionate way.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by symptoms your body seems to hold onto long after the relationship ended, this conversation may help you understand why.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The physical impact of trauma and chronic stress
  • Nervous system dysregulation after abuse
  • Digestive issues, chronic pain, and trauma
  • Why healing is not just cognitive
  • Somatic and mindfulness-based healing approaches
  • Rebuilding trust and connection with your body

About Karianne: Karianne Gwinn is a Functional Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, Psychosomatic Practitioner, speaker, and cancer survivor who specializes in helping people cultivate whole-person wellbeing in the aftermath of major health challenges and trauma. Drawing from training in nutrition, nervous system regulation, and psychosomatic healing—as well as her own lived experience—she helps people better understand the relationship between stress, trauma, the body, and healing.

Karianne is especially passionate about helping people rebuild trust with their bodies after experiences that leave them feeling disconnected, fearful, or confused. Her approach blends evidence-informed wellness practices with deep compassion, practicality, and a healthy dose of humanity. She believes healing doesn’t require perfection—and that sometimes the most powerful shifts begin with very small, very doable changes. 

Connect with Karianne at kariannegwinn.com

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]]> What if your body isn’t betraying you… but trying to protect you?

In this episode, we’re rethinking the relationship survivors often have with their bodies after trauma. I’m joined by Karianne Gwinn to talk about the very real physical impact domestic violence and chronic stress can have on the body, including digestive issues, chronic pain, fatigue, nervous system dysregulation, and feeling disconnected from yourself.

We also explore what healing can look like beyond just “thinking differently” — including bottom-up, somatic, and mindfulness-based approaches that help survivors reconnect with safety, regulation, and their bodies in a more compassionate way.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated by symptoms your body seems to hold onto long after the relationship ended, this conversation may help you understand why.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The physical impact of trauma and chronic stress
  • Nervous system dysregulation after abuse
  • Digestive issues, chronic pain, and trauma
  • Why healing is not just cognitive
  • Somatic and mindfulness-based healing approaches
  • Rebuilding trust and connection with your body

About Karianne: Karianne Gwinn is a Functional Nutritional Therapy Practitioner, Psychosomatic Practitioner, speaker, and cancer survivor who specializes in helping people cultivate whole-person wellbeing in the aftermath of major health challenges and trauma. Drawing from training in nutrition, nervous system regulation, and psychosomatic healing—as well as her own lived experience—she helps people better understand the relationship between stress, trauma, the body, and healing.

Karianne is especially passionate about helping people rebuild trust with their bodies after experiences that leave them feeling disconnected, fearful, or confused. Her approach blends evidence-informed wellness practices with deep compassion, practicality, and a healthy dose of humanity. She believes healing doesn’t require perfection—and that sometimes the most powerful shifts begin with very small, very doable changes. 

Connect with Karianne at kariannegwinn.com

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19426594 Wed, 01 Jul 2026 06:00:00 -0600 3051 1 210 full true Bonus Coaching Session: My Child Stopped Fighting Parenting Time. Should I Be Relieved? Bonus Coaching Session: My Child Stopped Fighting Parenting Time. Should I Be Relieved? Your child stopped fighting parenting time… but something still feels off. In this FCC episode, we unpack what may be happening when a young child goes from visible distress to emotional shutdown during transitions, how to think about attachment and regulation, and ways to support reconnection while avoiding assumptions or panic. 

  • From a child mental health perspective, what could be happening when a child goes from intense distress at transitions to seeming quiet or shut down?
  • Is my ex right that this means things are getting better because she isn’t kicking and screaming anymore?
  • How do you tell the difference between adjustment, developmental changes, and a child protecting themselves emotionally?
  • How can I support my daughter before and after transitions without making things harder for her?
  • Are there signs I should watch for that suggest she may need more support, even if exchanges look “easier” on the surface?

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> Your child stopped fighting parenting time… but something still feels off. In this FCC episode, we unpack what may be happening when a young child goes from visible distress to emotional shutdown during transitions, how to think about attachment and regulation, and ways to support reconnection while avoiding assumptions or panic. 

  • From a child mental health perspective, what could be happening when a child goes from intense distress at transitions to seeming quiet or shut down?
  • Is my ex right that this means things are getting better because she isn’t kicking and screaming anymore?
  • How do you tell the difference between adjustment, developmental changes, and a child protecting themselves emotionally?
  • How can I support my daughter before and after transitions without making things harder for her?
  • Are there signs I should watch for that suggest she may need more support, even if exchanges look “easier” on the surface?

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19386835 Fri, 26 Jun 2026 06:00:00 -0600 835 full false Ep 209: Why Coparenting Feels Like a Trap (And What to Do Instead) Ep 209: Why Coparenting Feels Like a Trap (And What to Do Instead) What if “coparenting” isn’t failing because you are doing it wrong?

And instead, it is not working because the map you were given on how to do it is not meant for “coparenting” with someone abusive.

The way that our system is designed sets a huge trap for protective parents who want to do everything they can to protect their children and allows for someone who uses coercive control to maneuver in ways that continue to abuse.

While there are many traps that happen within this larger system, three of the ones that seem to impact protective parents the most are:

  • Attempting to be the perfect parent
  • Attempting to convince your child of the truth about the other parent
  • Parenting from a reactionary stance and survival mode.

And all of these traps do not allow you to show up as the parent you want to be.  

In this episode, I share the reasons for these traps and a starting point for maneuvering around them so that you can parent from a values-based perspective rather than from fear.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> What if “coparenting” isn’t failing because you are doing it wrong?

And instead, it is not working because the map you were given on how to do it is not meant for “coparenting” with someone abusive.

The way that our system is designed sets a huge trap for protective parents who want to do everything they can to protect their children and allows for someone who uses coercive control to maneuver in ways that continue to abuse.

While there are many traps that happen within this larger system, three of the ones that seem to impact protective parents the most are:

  • Attempting to be the perfect parent
  • Attempting to convince your child of the truth about the other parent
  • Parenting from a reactionary stance and survival mode.

And all of these traps do not allow you to show up as the parent you want to be.  

In this episode, I share the reasons for these traps and a starting point for maneuvering around them so that you can parent from a values-based perspective rather than from fear.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19385931 Wed, 24 Jun 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1543 1 209 full true Ep 208: Parenting Under Pressure: Why Perfection Isn't the Goal Ep 208: Parenting Under Pressure: Why Perfection Isn't the Goal If you're sharing children with an abusive or controlling ex, parenting can feel like walking a tightrope.

Every mistake feels high stakes. Every emotional moment feels like evidence. And many protective moms carry a quiet fear that if they don't do everything perfectly, they could lose connection with their child—or worse.

In this episode, I'm challenging the myth of perfect parenting and exploring what children actually need from us.

Because despite what family court, your ex, social media, or your own inner critic may have convinced you of, your child does not need a perfect parent.

They need a safe one.

You'll learn why so many protective parents feel overwhelming pressure to get everything right, how trauma and chronic stress impact your ability to show up the way you want to, and why repair matters far more than perfection.

Most importantly, you'll walk away with a gentler, more realistic standard for parenting during one of the hardest seasons of your life.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> If you're sharing children with an abusive or controlling ex, parenting can feel like walking a tightrope.

Every mistake feels high stakes. Every emotional moment feels like evidence. And many protective moms carry a quiet fear that if they don't do everything perfectly, they could lose connection with their child—or worse.

In this episode, I'm challenging the myth of perfect parenting and exploring what children actually need from us.

Because despite what family court, your ex, social media, or your own inner critic may have convinced you of, your child does not need a perfect parent.

They need a safe one.

You'll learn why so many protective parents feel overwhelming pressure to get everything right, how trauma and chronic stress impact your ability to show up the way you want to, and why repair matters far more than perfection.

Most importantly, you'll walk away with a gentler, more realistic standard for parenting during one of the hardest seasons of your life.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19358158 Wed, 17 Jun 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1528 1 208 full false Ep 207: How to Create a Parenting Plan That Protects You and Your Kids with Cat Climaco Ep 207: How to Create a Parenting Plan That Protects You and Your Kids with Cat Climaco What happens when a parenting plan leaves too much room for interpretation?

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the biggest mistakes survivors make during divorce and custody negotiations: agreeing to vague parenting plans that unintentionally create openings for ongoing manipulation, conflict, and coercive control.

I’m joined by Cat Climaco to discuss why detailed, clearly written parenting plans matter so much in high-conflict and abusive co-parenting situations. We break down some of the most common loopholes narcissistic or controlling co-parents exploit, including pick-up and drop-off logistics, extracurricular activities, communication expectations, and what happens when parents with joint decision-making reach an impasse.

We also talk about how to advocate for a more specific parenting plan when attorneys or mediators push back and prefer “standard” or cookie-cutter agreements.

If you’re currently negotiating a parenting plan or struggling with one that feels impossible to navigate, this episode will help you understand why clarity and specificity matter far more than most people realize.

In This Episode We Discuss:

  • Common parenting plan loopholes
  • Why vague agreements create more conflict
  • Decision-making impasse clauses
  • Extracurricular and exchange challenges
  • Advocating for specificity with attorneys 

About Cat: Cat Climaco, Founder of Peaceful Presence Divorce Coaching, is a nationally certified High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, and Co-Parenting Coach, mediator, DASH Risk Assessor, and trauma-informed Colorado Victim's Advocate who specializes in helping protective parents navigate complex, high-conflict family court cases to achieve greater peace and safety in life after divorce. Cat blends professional expertise with lived experience to support parents facing coercive control, post-separation abuse, abusive co-parenting, and cases involving children with additional emotional or developmental needs. 

Connect w/ Cat: 
https://www.peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching.com
https://www.instagram.com/peacefulpresencedivorcecoach/
https://www.facebook.com/peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/catclimaco/
https://www.youtube.com/@PeacefulPresenceDivorceCoach
https://www.peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching.com/workshops-documentation

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]]> What happens when a parenting plan leaves too much room for interpretation?

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the biggest mistakes survivors make during divorce and custody negotiations: agreeing to vague parenting plans that unintentionally create openings for ongoing manipulation, conflict, and coercive control.

I’m joined by Cat Climaco to discuss why detailed, clearly written parenting plans matter so much in high-conflict and abusive co-parenting situations. We break down some of the most common loopholes narcissistic or controlling co-parents exploit, including pick-up and drop-off logistics, extracurricular activities, communication expectations, and what happens when parents with joint decision-making reach an impasse.

We also talk about how to advocate for a more specific parenting plan when attorneys or mediators push back and prefer “standard” or cookie-cutter agreements.

If you’re currently negotiating a parenting plan or struggling with one that feels impossible to navigate, this episode will help you understand why clarity and specificity matter far more than most people realize.

In This Episode We Discuss:

  • Common parenting plan loopholes
  • Why vague agreements create more conflict
  • Decision-making impasse clauses
  • Extracurricular and exchange challenges
  • Advocating for specificity with attorneys 

About Cat: Cat Climaco, Founder of Peaceful Presence Divorce Coaching, is a nationally certified High-Conflict Divorce, Custody, and Co-Parenting Coach, mediator, DASH Risk Assessor, and trauma-informed Colorado Victim's Advocate who specializes in helping protective parents navigate complex, high-conflict family court cases to achieve greater peace and safety in life after divorce. Cat blends professional expertise with lived experience to support parents facing coercive control, post-separation abuse, abusive co-parenting, and cases involving children with additional emotional or developmental needs. 

Connect w/ Cat: 
https://www.peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching.com
https://www.instagram.com/peacefulpresencedivorcecoach/
https://www.facebook.com/peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/catclimaco/
https://www.youtube.com/@PeacefulPresenceDivorceCoach
https://www.peacefulpresencedivorcecoaching.com/workshops-documentation

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19313937 Wed, 10 Jun 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2943 1 207 full true Ep 206: Waiting for the Shoe to Drop: Why Survivors Stay on Edge Even When Things Are Quiet Ep 206: Waiting for the Shoe to Drop: Why Survivors Stay on Edge Even When Things Are Quiet What if the reason you can’t relax… is because your body learned that calm never lasted and does not mean you are safe?

In this episode, I’m talking about something so many survivors experience after coercive control and domestic violence: feeling constantly on edge, even when nothing is actively happening. The messages stop. The house is quiet. Things seem calm. But your body still feels like it’s bracing for impact.

We explore why survivors often struggle to feel safe even after separation, how trauma and unpredictability train the nervous system to stay hypervigilant, and why this is not a character flaw or “loving drama.” It’s survival.

I also break down the difference between being safe and feeling safe, the role of the nervous system and amygdala in trauma responses, and why healing has to include more than just insight or positive thinking.

Most importantly, we talk about “felt safety” — those moments where your body starts to believe you might actually be okay — and how building those moments can change the way you parent, communicate, respond to stress, and begin healing after abuse.

In This Episode We Discuss:

  • Why survivors feel anxious even during calm moments
  • Hypervigilance and the nervous system after abuse
  • The impact of unpredictability in coercive control
  • Why healing is not just cognitive
  • Felt safety and nervous system regulation
  • How trauma responses impact parenting
  • Practical grounding and regulation strategies
  • The difference between being safe and feeling safe

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just relax?” this episode is for you.

Nervous System episodes:
Ep 150: Post-Separation Abuse Burnout: A Nervous System Perspective https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17103086
Ep 11: Your Nervous System is Shot: Strategies to Move Out of Fight, Flight, and Freeze https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/11272280





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]]> What if the reason you can’t relax… is because your body learned that calm never lasted and does not mean you are safe?

In this episode, I’m talking about something so many survivors experience after coercive control and domestic violence: feeling constantly on edge, even when nothing is actively happening. The messages stop. The house is quiet. Things seem calm. But your body still feels like it’s bracing for impact.

We explore why survivors often struggle to feel safe even after separation, how trauma and unpredictability train the nervous system to stay hypervigilant, and why this is not a character flaw or “loving drama.” It’s survival.

I also break down the difference between being safe and feeling safe, the role of the nervous system and amygdala in trauma responses, and why healing has to include more than just insight or positive thinking.

Most importantly, we talk about “felt safety” — those moments where your body starts to believe you might actually be okay — and how building those moments can change the way you parent, communicate, respond to stress, and begin healing after abuse.

In This Episode We Discuss:

  • Why survivors feel anxious even during calm moments
  • Hypervigilance and the nervous system after abuse
  • The impact of unpredictability in coercive control
  • Why healing is not just cognitive
  • Felt safety and nervous system regulation
  • How trauma responses impact parenting
  • Practical grounding and regulation strategies
  • The difference between being safe and feeling safe

If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just relax?” this episode is for you.

Nervous System episodes:
Ep 150: Post-Separation Abuse Burnout: A Nervous System Perspective https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17103086
Ep 11: Your Nervous System is Shot: Strategies to Move Out of Fight, Flight, and Freeze https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/11272280





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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19284168 Wed, 03 Jun 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2000 1 206 full false Bonus Coaching: When Your Ex Suddenly Becomes the “Perfect Parent” During a PRE Evaluation Bonus Coaching: When Your Ex Suddenly Becomes the “Perfect Parent” During a PRE Evaluation What happens when the parent who was minimally involved suddenly becomes “Parent of the Year” once court professionals start watching?

In this Friday Coaching Corner episode, we’re talking about a situation many protective parents quietly fear:

A second court evaluation where the abusive parent is seeking 50/50 parenting time and increased decision-making authority while pushing a narrative that the protective parent is exaggerating concerns or harming the child through over-medicalizing or overprotectiveness.

Meanwhile, the protective parent feels terrified of looking emotional, reactive, or “high conflict” while trying to advocate for their children’s safety and well-being.

If you are navigating a PRE, custody evaluation, or other family court professional process, this episode will help you think more strategically about grounding yourself, communicating clearly, and staying focused on your children’s needs.

Questions from this episode:

  • Can a PRE evaluator in Colorado recommend decision-making authority?
  • How do I show up credibly when my ex suddenly acts like the perfect parent once people are watching?
  • How do I talk about coercive control and my children’s wellbeing without sounding reactive or “high conflict”?

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> What happens when the parent who was minimally involved suddenly becomes “Parent of the Year” once court professionals start watching?

In this Friday Coaching Corner episode, we’re talking about a situation many protective parents quietly fear:

A second court evaluation where the abusive parent is seeking 50/50 parenting time and increased decision-making authority while pushing a narrative that the protective parent is exaggerating concerns or harming the child through over-medicalizing or overprotectiveness.

Meanwhile, the protective parent feels terrified of looking emotional, reactive, or “high conflict” while trying to advocate for their children’s safety and well-being.

If you are navigating a PRE, custody evaluation, or other family court professional process, this episode will help you think more strategically about grounding yourself, communicating clearly, and staying focused on your children’s needs.

Questions from this episode:

  • Can a PRE evaluator in Colorado recommend decision-making authority?
  • How do I show up credibly when my ex suddenly acts like the perfect parent once people are watching?
  • How do I talk about coercive control and my children’s wellbeing without sounding reactive or “high conflict”?

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19243492 Fri, 29 May 2026 09:00:00 -0600 856 1 full false Ep 205: Children as Collateral Damage in Family Court | The Hidden Impact of Post-Separation Abuse Ep 205: Children as Collateral Damage in Family Court | The Hidden Impact of Post-Separation Abuse We don’t talk enough about the real collateral damage of broken systems.

And it’s not just survivors.

It’s our kids.

In this episode, I’m naming something that so many of you are living through but rarely see acknowledged out loud — the ways children are impacted when systems like family court, child protection, and even therapeutic settings fail to fully understand coercive control and domestic violence.

Because this isn’t just about what happened in the relationship.

It’s about what continues to happen after separation… when you’re doing everything “right,” and your child is still paying the price.

We’re talking about the full spectrum of collateral damage — from the quieter, everyday barriers (like not being able to access therapy due to joint decision-making) to the more extreme and devastating outcomes that can occur when abuse is minimized, misunderstood, or ignored.

This episode is honest. It’s heavy.
And it also holds space for hope — because that matters too.

In this episode, we cover:

  • How coercive control and post-separation abuse continue to impact kids
  • Why joint decision-making can block access to critical care
  • How children learn to stay silent in medical, legal, and therapeutic settings
  • The impact of misinformed professionals (including in therapy and court)
  • How fear, threats, and “provoke and record” dynamics affect children
  • The misuse of terms like “parental alienation” and its consequences
  • What happens when abuse (including sexual abuse) is not believed or substantiated
  • The emotional and psychological toll on protective parents and children

Peer-Reviewed Articles
https://www.law.georgetown.edu/georgetown-law-journal/wp-content/uploads/sites/26/2022/06/Meier_Denial-of-Family-Violence-in-Court.pdf

https://scholarship.law.gwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2809&context=faculty_publications

https://scholarship.law.gwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1857&context=faculty_publications

https://barrygoldstein.net/component/tags/tag/the-saunders-study

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]]> We don’t talk enough about the real collateral damage of broken systems.

And it’s not just survivors.

It’s our kids.

In this episode, I’m naming something that so many of you are living through but rarely see acknowledged out loud — the ways children are impacted when systems like family court, child protection, and even therapeutic settings fail to fully understand coercive control and domestic violence.

Because this isn’t just about what happened in the relationship.

It’s about what continues to happen after separation… when you’re doing everything “right,” and your child is still paying the price.

We’re talking about the full spectrum of collateral damage — from the quieter, everyday barriers (like not being able to access therapy due to joint decision-making) to the more extreme and devastating outcomes that can occur when abuse is minimized, misunderstood, or ignored.

This episode is honest. It’s heavy.
And it also holds space for hope — because that matters too.

In this episode, we cover:

  • How coercive control and post-separation abuse continue to impact kids
  • Why joint decision-making can block access to critical care
  • How children learn to stay silent in medical, legal, and therapeutic settings
  • The impact of misinformed professionals (including in therapy and court)
  • How fear, threats, and “provoke and record” dynamics affect children
  • The misuse of terms like “parental alienation” and its consequences
  • What happens when abuse (including sexual abuse) is not believed or substantiated
  • The emotional and psychological toll on protective parents and children

Peer-Reviewed Articles
https://www.law.georgetown.edu/georgetown-law-journal/wp-content/uploads/sites/26/2022/06/Meier_Denial-of-Family-Violence-in-Court.pdf

https://scholarship.law.gwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2809&context=faculty_publications

https://scholarship.law.gwu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1857&context=faculty_publications

https://barrygoldstein.net/component/tags/tag/the-saunders-study

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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19242251 Wed, 27 May 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1285 1 205 full true Ep 204: Why Context Matters in Abuse Cases and How an Expert Witness Can Help with Carol Ann Peterson, PhD Ep 204: Why Context Matters in Abuse Cases and How an Expert Witness Can Help with Carol Ann Peterson, PhD What actually happens when domestic violence cases enter the courtroom?

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Carol Ann Peterson—expert witness, consultant, and longtime advocate—who brings a behind-the-scenes look at how abuse is understood (and often misunderstood) in criminal, civil, and family court.

We talk about what expert witnesses really do, when they can make a difference, and why context—not isolated incidents—is critical in understanding abuse. Dr. Peterson also shares how survivors are often misperceived in court, how abusers present, and what decision-makers frequently get wrong.

This conversation pulls back the curtain on the systems many survivors are navigating—and highlights where change is still urgently needed.

About Carol Ann: Dr. Carol Ann Peterson is an expert witness, consultant, and nationally recognized trainer specializing in domestic and intimate partner violence. She has trained with the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center under the U.S. Department of Homeland Security and has consulted with the U.S. Attorney General’s Office, the California Attorney General’s Office, the Los Angeles County District Attorney, and the Los Angeles City Attorney.

Dr. Peterson has served as an expert witness in criminal, civil, and family court cases for both prosecution and defense, including district attorneys, public defenders, and private attorneys. She is a certified strangulation prevention expert and a member of the Expert Advisory Group for DomesticShelters.org.



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]]> What actually happens when domestic violence cases enter the courtroom?

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Carol Ann Peterson—expert witness, consultant, and longtime advocate—who brings a behind-the-scenes look at how abuse is understood (and often misunderstood) in criminal, civil, and family court.

We talk about what expert witnesses really do, when they can make a difference, and why context—not isolated incidents—is critical in understanding abuse. Dr. Peterson also shares how survivors are often misperceived in court, how abusers present, and what decision-makers frequently get wrong.

This conversation pulls back the curtain on the systems many survivors are navigating—and highlights where change is still urgently needed.

About Carol Ann: Dr. Carol Ann Peterson is an expert witness, consultant, and nationally recognized trainer specializing in domestic and intimate partner violence. She has trained with the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center under the U.S. Department of Homeland Security and has consulted with the U.S. Attorney General’s Office, the California Attorney General’s Office, the Los Angeles County District Attorney, and the Los Angeles City Attorney.

Dr. Peterson has served as an expert witness in criminal, civil, and family court cases for both prosecution and defense, including district attorneys, public defenders, and private attorneys. She is a certified strangulation prevention expert and a member of the Expert Advisory Group for DomesticShelters.org.



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]]> Sybil Cummin Buzzsprout-19204603 Wed, 20 May 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2554 1 204 full true Ep 203: Anger After Trauma: What Do You Do With It? Ep 203: Anger After Trauma: What Do You Do With It? A lot of survivors feel exhausted for a long time.

Physically tired.
Mentally overloaded.
Emotionally drained.

And then one day, something shifts.

Anger shows up.

And what surprises many people is not just the anger. It is the energy that comes with it.

In this episode, we are looking at anger in a different way. Not just as something to manage or calm down, but as something that can actually be useful when you understand how to work with it.

Because anger is one of the few emotions that brings movement back into a system that has been stuck in survival mode.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why trauma often leads to exhaustion and low energy
 • What is happening in your body when anger shows up
 • Why anger can feel uncomfortable or even scary
 • The ways anger often gets pushed down or turned inward
 • How anger can support boundaries and decision making
 • The difference between feeling anger and acting on it
 • Practical ways to release and direct anger energy
 • How anger can reconnect you with your values and your voice

This episode is especially helpful if you have started to feel more anger and are not sure what to do with it.



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]]> A lot of survivors feel exhausted for a long time.

Physically tired.
Mentally overloaded.
Emotionally drained.

And then one day, something shifts.

Anger shows up.

And what surprises many people is not just the anger. It is the energy that comes with it.

In this episode, we are looking at anger in a different way. Not just as something to manage or calm down, but as something that can actually be useful when you understand how to work with it.

Because anger is one of the few emotions that brings movement back into a system that has been stuck in survival mode.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why trauma often leads to exhaustion and low energy
 • What is happening in your body when anger shows up
 • Why anger can feel uncomfortable or even scary
 • The ways anger often gets pushed down or turned inward
 • How anger can support boundaries and decision making
 • The difference between feeling anger and acting on it
 • Practical ways to release and direct anger energy
 • How anger can reconnect you with your values and your voice

This episode is especially helpful if you have started to feel more anger and are not sure what to do with it.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-19123909 Wed, 13 May 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1596 1 203 full false Ep 202: Inside Family Court: What Domestic Violence Assessments Actually Do with Lisa Fontes Ep 202: Inside Family Court: What Domestic Violence Assessments Actually Do with Lisa Fontes What actually happens in a domestic violence assessment? And how do you know if you even need one?


In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lisa Fontes, an expert in coercive control and domestic violence assessments, to talk about something many survivors are navigating but don’t fully understand — how these evaluations and expert witnesses show up in family court.


If you’ve ever been told to “get an expert” or wondered if that would help your case, this conversation will give you a clearer picture of what that actually means and when it might (and might not) be helpful.


We also talk about the reality that many survivors face in family court — where experiences like coercive control, sexual coercion, and post-separation abuse are often misunderstood, minimized, or not given the weight they deserve.


Inside this episode, we talk about:
• What a domestic violence or coercive control assessment actually looks like
 • The difference between an expert witness and a subject matter expert
 • When an expert can be helpful in family court — and when they may not be necessary
 • Why self-report assessments can be unreliable in abuse cases
 • How coercive control and sexual abuse often go unrecognized in legal settings
 • What “manufactured” claims and “provoke and record” tactics can look like
 • The misuse of the term “parental alienation” and how it shows up in court
 • Why post-separation abuse is often missed — and why that matters
 • How to evaluate whether an expert witness is actually qualified
 • The growing trend of survivors pursuing civil cases for damages


This episode is especially relevant if you are navigating family court, dealing with custody issues, or trying to figure out how to advocate for yourself in systems that may not fully understand abuse.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> What actually happens in a domestic violence assessment? And how do you know if you even need one?


In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Lisa Fontes, an expert in coercive control and domestic violence assessments, to talk about something many survivors are navigating but don’t fully understand — how these evaluations and expert witnesses show up in family court.


If you’ve ever been told to “get an expert” or wondered if that would help your case, this conversation will give you a clearer picture of what that actually means and when it might (and might not) be helpful.


We also talk about the reality that many survivors face in family court — where experiences like coercive control, sexual coercion, and post-separation abuse are often misunderstood, minimized, or not given the weight they deserve.


Inside this episode, we talk about:
• What a domestic violence or coercive control assessment actually looks like
 • The difference between an expert witness and a subject matter expert
 • When an expert can be helpful in family court — and when they may not be necessary
 • Why self-report assessments can be unreliable in abuse cases
 • How coercive control and sexual abuse often go unrecognized in legal settings
 • What “manufactured” claims and “provoke and record” tactics can look like
 • The misuse of the term “parental alienation” and how it shows up in court
 • Why post-separation abuse is often missed — and why that matters
 • How to evaluate whether an expert witness is actually qualified
 • The growing trend of survivors pursuing civil cases for damages


This episode is especially relevant if you are navigating family court, dealing with custody issues, or trying to figure out how to advocate for yourself in systems that may not fully understand abuse.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-19114452 Wed, 06 May 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2884 1 202 full true Ep 201: The Healing Plateau: Why Progress Slows Down After Abuse and Trauma Ep 201: The Healing Plateau: Why Progress Slows Down After Abuse and Trauma At some point in healing, a lot of people hit this moment:


You were making progress.
You were starting to feel a shift.
And then… it feels like nothing is happening anymore.


It can feel confusing. Frustrating. Even discouraging.


In this episode, we’re talking about something that does not get talked about enough: the phase of healing where things slow down and it starts to feel like you are stuck.


If you have caught yourself thinking: Am I actually getting better? Why does this feel harder again? Shouldn’t I be further along by now?


You are not alone.


What many survivors don’t realize is that there is a phase of healing that is less about big changes and more about integration. And that phase often feels quiet, slow, and sometimes even uncomfortable.


In this episode, we talk about:
• Why healing is not linear and tends to happen in layers
 • What the plateau phase actually is and why it matters
 • Why things can feel slower after the initial stages of healing
 • What is happening in your nervous system during this time
 • Signs you are healing that are easy to miss
 • Why comparison can make this phase feel worse
 • How to look at progress in a more realistic way
 • What actually helps during this stage

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> At some point in healing, a lot of people hit this moment:


You were making progress.
You were starting to feel a shift.
And then… it feels like nothing is happening anymore.


It can feel confusing. Frustrating. Even discouraging.


In this episode, we’re talking about something that does not get talked about enough: the phase of healing where things slow down and it starts to feel like you are stuck.


If you have caught yourself thinking: Am I actually getting better? Why does this feel harder again? Shouldn’t I be further along by now?


You are not alone.


What many survivors don’t realize is that there is a phase of healing that is less about big changes and more about integration. And that phase often feels quiet, slow, and sometimes even uncomfortable.


In this episode, we talk about:
• Why healing is not linear and tends to happen in layers
 • What the plateau phase actually is and why it matters
 • Why things can feel slower after the initial stages of healing
 • What is happening in your nervous system during this time
 • Signs you are healing that are easy to miss
 • Why comparison can make this phase feel worse
 • How to look at progress in a more realistic way
 • What actually helps during this stage

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-19072087 Wed, 29 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1326 1 201 full true Bonus Coaching: Afraid CPS Will Believe Your Ex? What Protective Parents Need to Know Bonus Coaching: Afraid CPS Will Believe Your Ex? What Protective Parents Need to Know When child protection gets involved, it can feel like everything your ex threatened is starting to happen.

Many survivors were told: “If you leave, I’ll make sure everyone thinks you’re unstable—and I’ll take the kids.”

So when CPS opens an investigation, the fear isn’t just about the process.
It’s about the possibility that the narrative could be turned against you.

In this Friday Coaching Corner episode, we’re talking about how to navigate a CPS investigation when there is a history of coercive control—and when you’re worried your ex will present well while you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or misunderstood.

We’ll walk through:

  • How to gauge whether a caseworker understands coercive control and domestic violence
  • How to present in a way that is grounded, credible, and child-focused (without overexplaining)
  • What CPS is often paying attention to beyond first impressions
  • How to prepare your children in a supportive way without coaching or adding pressure

This episode also focuses on something that often gets missed:
You don’t need to outperform your ex. You need to stay steady, consistent, and anchored in what your children need.

If you’re in the middle of an investigation—or fear this could happen—this conversation will help you move from panic to strategy.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> When child protection gets involved, it can feel like everything your ex threatened is starting to happen.

Many survivors were told: “If you leave, I’ll make sure everyone thinks you’re unstable—and I’ll take the kids.”

So when CPS opens an investigation, the fear isn’t just about the process.
It’s about the possibility that the narrative could be turned against you.

In this Friday Coaching Corner episode, we’re talking about how to navigate a CPS investigation when there is a history of coercive control—and when you’re worried your ex will present well while you feel anxious, overwhelmed, or misunderstood.

We’ll walk through:

  • How to gauge whether a caseworker understands coercive control and domestic violence
  • How to present in a way that is grounded, credible, and child-focused (without overexplaining)
  • What CPS is often paying attention to beyond first impressions
  • How to prepare your children in a supportive way without coaching or adding pressure

This episode also focuses on something that often gets missed:
You don’t need to outperform your ex. You need to stay steady, consistent, and anchored in what your children need.

If you’re in the middle of an investigation—or fear this could happen—this conversation will help you move from panic to strategy.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-19034989 Fri, 24 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 962 full false Ep 200: Epistemic Injury: The Trauma of Not Being Believed Ep 200: Epistemic Injury: The Trauma of Not Being Believed Sometimes the deepest wound isn't just what happened to you.

It's what happens when you try to explain it, and no one believes you.

In this episode, we are talking about epistemic injury — a form of harm that happens when your reality, your knowledge, or your credibility is questioned, dismissed, or minimized. Many survivors of coercive control experience this not only in their relationships but also in the systems they turn to for help.

If you have ever walked out of a meeting, court appointment, therapy session, or conversation, wondering:
 Did I explain that wrong?
 Did I sound crazy?
 Maybe it really is me…

You are not alone. And you are not imagining the impact this has on you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What epistemic injury is and why it affects so many survivors
 • How not being believed can recreate the effects of gaslighting
 • Why this type of injury can be so destabilizing to your identity
 • How systemic betrayal connects to epistemic injury
 • Signs you may be dealing with epistemic injury
 • How healing begins by rebuilding trust in your own perception
 • Why healing sometimes means protecting your reality instead of proving it

This conversation is especially important for survivors navigating family court, post-separation abuse, or professional systems that may not fully understand coercive control.



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]]> Sometimes the deepest wound isn't just what happened to you.

It's what happens when you try to explain it, and no one believes you.

In this episode, we are talking about epistemic injury — a form of harm that happens when your reality, your knowledge, or your credibility is questioned, dismissed, or minimized. Many survivors of coercive control experience this not only in their relationships but also in the systems they turn to for help.

If you have ever walked out of a meeting, court appointment, therapy session, or conversation, wondering:
 Did I explain that wrong?
 Did I sound crazy?
 Maybe it really is me…

You are not alone. And you are not imagining the impact this has on you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What epistemic injury is and why it affects so many survivors
 • How not being believed can recreate the effects of gaslighting
 • Why this type of injury can be so destabilizing to your identity
 • How systemic betrayal connects to epistemic injury
 • Signs you may be dealing with epistemic injury
 • How healing begins by rebuilding trust in your own perception
 • Why healing sometimes means protecting your reality instead of proving it

This conversation is especially important for survivors navigating family court, post-separation abuse, or professional systems that may not fully understand coercive control.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-19034853 Wed, 22 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1537 1 200 full false Ep 199: Changing the System From the Inside: A Law Enforcement Perspective on Domestic Violence with Captain Eric Threlkeld Ep 199: Changing the System From the Inside: A Law Enforcement Perspective on Domestic Violence with Captain Eric Threlkeld What if the most important parts of your story were never being asked about?

Many survivors share a similar fear when the call in law enforcement for help:
What if they only look at what happened that day… and not everything that led up to it?

I'm talking with law enforcement captain, Eric Threlkeld who has over 30 years of experience to talk about something that needs to be discussed more openly: why domestic violence cannot be understood by looking at a single incident, and why patterns of coercive control matter far more than one moment in time.

We talk about what officers are typically trained to look for, what often gets missed, and what happens when professionals start asking different questions.

This conversation also highlights something I want survivors to hear clearly: there are people inside these systems working to better understand coercive control and push for change.

Inside this conversation, we discuss:

• Why domestic violence is a community issue, not just a law enforcement issue
• Why focusing on one incident can miss the real danger
• How trauma impacts how survivors tell their stories
• Why survivors may appear overwhelmed or emotional when finally asking for help
 • Why lethality assessments matter
 • How multidisciplinary teams can improve outcomes
 • The role survivors and advocates play in creating change
 • Why this work can feel discouraging and why it still matters

If you have ever worried that professionals only saw your reaction instead of what you were reacting to, this episode is for you.

Book - STRANGLED: A Survivor's Plea To Men Who Look The Other Way https://www.amazon.com/STRANGLED-Survivors-Plea-Look-Other/dp/B0G8RZX8LV



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]]> What if the most important parts of your story were never being asked about?

Many survivors share a similar fear when the call in law enforcement for help:
What if they only look at what happened that day… and not everything that led up to it?

I'm talking with law enforcement captain, Eric Threlkeld who has over 30 years of experience to talk about something that needs to be discussed more openly: why domestic violence cannot be understood by looking at a single incident, and why patterns of coercive control matter far more than one moment in time.

We talk about what officers are typically trained to look for, what often gets missed, and what happens when professionals start asking different questions.

This conversation also highlights something I want survivors to hear clearly: there are people inside these systems working to better understand coercive control and push for change.

Inside this conversation, we discuss:

• Why domestic violence is a community issue, not just a law enforcement issue
• Why focusing on one incident can miss the real danger
• How trauma impacts how survivors tell their stories
• Why survivors may appear overwhelmed or emotional when finally asking for help
 • Why lethality assessments matter
 • How multidisciplinary teams can improve outcomes
 • The role survivors and advocates play in creating change
 • Why this work can feel discouraging and why it still matters

If you have ever worried that professionals only saw your reaction instead of what you were reacting to, this episode is for you.

Book - STRANGLED: A Survivor's Plea To Men Who Look The Other Way https://www.amazon.com/STRANGLED-Survivors-Plea-Look-Other/dp/B0G8RZX8LV



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-19010831 Wed, 15 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2486 1 199 full true Ep 198: Religious Betrayal: When Faith Communities Don’t Recognize Abuse Ep 198: Religious Betrayal: When Faith Communities Don’t Recognize Abuse What happens when the place you expected to find support becomes another place where you feel unseen?

In this episode, we talk about religious betrayal and how it shows up for survivors of coercive control and domestic abuse. Many survivors seek guidance from faith leaders or communities and are met with messages that unintentionally reinforce harm rather than safety.

We explore how advice meant to preserve relationships can sometimes ignore patterns of power and control, and why this can create deep confusion, shame, and self-doubt.

This conversation also introduces the idea of moral injury and how it can happen when your core values around safety, protection, and dignity collide with messages telling you to tolerate harm.

If you’ve ever wondered:
Did I fail? Did I give up too soon? Did I do something wrong?

I hope to offer a different perspective.

You may not have failed your faith. You may have been protecting what matters most.

This episode will help you start separating harmful messages from your own values and begin rebuilding trust in your own inner compass.



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]]> What happens when the place you expected to find support becomes another place where you feel unseen?

In this episode, we talk about religious betrayal and how it shows up for survivors of coercive control and domestic abuse. Many survivors seek guidance from faith leaders or communities and are met with messages that unintentionally reinforce harm rather than safety.

We explore how advice meant to preserve relationships can sometimes ignore patterns of power and control, and why this can create deep confusion, shame, and self-doubt.

This conversation also introduces the idea of moral injury and how it can happen when your core values around safety, protection, and dignity collide with messages telling you to tolerate harm.

If you’ve ever wondered:
Did I fail? Did I give up too soon? Did I do something wrong?

I hope to offer a different perspective.

You may not have failed your faith. You may have been protecting what matters most.

This episode will help you start separating harmful messages from your own values and begin rebuilding trust in your own inner compass.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18972170 Wed, 08 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1455 1 198 full false Ep 197: Manufactured Crazy: When an Abuser Provokes the Reaction They Later Use Against You Ep 197: Manufactured Crazy: When an Abuser Provokes the Reaction They Later Use Against You Have you ever felt like your ex keeps pushing and pushing until you finally react… and then suddenly you’re the problem?

In this episode, we’re talking about what I often call manufactured crazy — when someone intentionally provokes reactions and then uses those reactions to support a narrative that you are unstable, high-conflict, or difficult to work with.

We also discuss dog whistles — subtle phrases or references that sound harmless to others but are meant to trigger you because of your shared history. When you react, the focus often shifts to your response instead of the pattern of provocation that led up to it.

This episode explores why this happens, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and how learning to recognize the setup can help you move from reacting emotionally to responding strategically.

If you’ve ever thought “that is exactly what they wanted me to do,” this conversation will help you understand why — and what you can do differently next time.



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]]> Have you ever felt like your ex keeps pushing and pushing until you finally react… and then suddenly you’re the problem?

In this episode, we’re talking about what I often call manufactured crazy — when someone intentionally provokes reactions and then uses those reactions to support a narrative that you are unstable, high-conflict, or difficult to work with.

We also discuss dog whistles — subtle phrases or references that sound harmless to others but are meant to trigger you because of your shared history. When you react, the focus often shifts to your response instead of the pattern of provocation that led up to it.

This episode explores why this happens, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and how learning to recognize the setup can help you move from reacting emotionally to responding strategically.

If you’ve ever thought “that is exactly what they wanted me to do,” this conversation will help you understand why — and what you can do differently next time.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18934133 Wed, 01 Apr 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1315 1 197 full true Bonus Coaching Session: When Your Parenting Plan Needs More Specificity (and Your Attorney Pushes Back) Bonus Coaching Session: When Your Parenting Plan Needs More Specificity (and Your Attorney Pushes Back) What do you do when you know vague parenting plan language will create problems, but your attorney says you’re asking for too much detail?

In this Bonus Coaching episode, we look at a common situation many protective parents face: trying to create clear agreements around things like extracurricular activities, schedule changes, and communication expectations after experiencing patterns of manipulation or conflict.

When you’ve lived through chaos, wanting clarity isn’t about control. It’s often about trying to protect peace for you and your children.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How to tell the difference between healthy specificity and fear-based overplanning
  • How to advocate for clearer language when your attorney doesn’t fully understand coercive control dynamics
  • Common vague areas in parenting plans that often create problems later

If you’ve ever been told you’re being too detailed when you’re really just trying to prevent future conflict, this episode is for you.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> What do you do when you know vague parenting plan language will create problems, but your attorney says you’re asking for too much detail?

In this Bonus Coaching episode, we look at a common situation many protective parents face: trying to create clear agreements around things like extracurricular activities, schedule changes, and communication expectations after experiencing patterns of manipulation or conflict.

When you’ve lived through chaos, wanting clarity isn’t about control. It’s often about trying to protect peace for you and your children.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How to tell the difference between healthy specificity and fear-based overplanning
  • How to advocate for clearer language when your attorney doesn’t fully understand coercive control dynamics
  • Common vague areas in parenting plans that often create problems later

If you’ve ever been told you’re being too detailed when you’re really just trying to prevent future conflict, this episode is for you.

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18902939 Fri, 27 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0600 915 full true Ep 196: Hope After 12 Years of Post-Separation Abuse: Jennifer’s Story Ep 196: Hope After 12 Years of Post-Separation Abuse: Jennifer’s Story There is something many survivors quietly wonder but don’t always say out loud:

Will this ever end?
Will my kids be okay?
Will I ever feel like myself again?

In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer, who spent over a decade navigating post-separation abuse and repeated family court litigation. Her story isn’t shared to scare you. It’s shared because so many survivors are living this reality and need to know they are not alone and that hope is still possible.

We talk about what it actually looks like to survive years of legal conflict while still showing up for your children, managing fear about what could happen next, and holding onto small pieces of hope along the way.

Jennifer shares honestly about:

  • The emotional toll of repeated court motions and legal uncertainty
  • The exhaustion of constant documentation and preparing for the unknown
  • The fear of lies being told in court that you cannot fully prepare for

But this conversation is also about what survivors rarely get to hear:

What happens when you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation:

Healing isn’t just about surviving the legal process.
It’s about eventually finding yourself again.

If you are in the middle of this right now and feel exhausted, discouraged, or unsure if things will ever get better, this episode is meant to remind you:

You can make it through this. Your kids can be okay. And there is life after survival mode.

Connect with Jennifer: 

https://open.substack.com/pub/jenniferpeyton356426

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]]> There is something many survivors quietly wonder but don’t always say out loud:

Will this ever end?
Will my kids be okay?
Will I ever feel like myself again?

In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer, who spent over a decade navigating post-separation abuse and repeated family court litigation. Her story isn’t shared to scare you. It’s shared because so many survivors are living this reality and need to know they are not alone and that hope is still possible.

We talk about what it actually looks like to survive years of legal conflict while still showing up for your children, managing fear about what could happen next, and holding onto small pieces of hope along the way.

Jennifer shares honestly about:

  • The emotional toll of repeated court motions and legal uncertainty
  • The exhaustion of constant documentation and preparing for the unknown
  • The fear of lies being told in court that you cannot fully prepare for

But this conversation is also about what survivors rarely get to hear:

What happens when you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation:

Healing isn’t just about surviving the legal process.
It’s about eventually finding yourself again.

If you are in the middle of this right now and feel exhausted, discouraged, or unsure if things will ever get better, this episode is meant to remind you:

You can make it through this. Your kids can be okay. And there is life after survival mode.

Connect with Jennifer: 

https://open.substack.com/pub/jenniferpeyton356426

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18896334 Wed, 25 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0600 2792 1 196 full false Ep 195: Why Emotional Intelligence Matters More Than Ever After Coercive Control Ep 195: Why Emotional Intelligence Matters More Than Ever After Coercive Control Have you ever walked out of a court hearing, a meeting with a professional, or even a hard parenting moment and thought, 

“Well, that didn’t come out the way I meant it?”

Maybe your anxiety came out sharp.  

Maybe your urgency sounded like anger.

Or maybe you were doing everything you knew of to protect your child but feel like you showed up as “mentally unstable.”

When you have lived through coercive control and continued post separation abuse, your nervous system will continually scan for danger and has been conditioned to suppress specific emotions like anger.  This can be a huge obstacle as you heal and try to get decision makers to understand the truth about what is going on.

In this episode, we dive into why emotional intelligence is one of the biggest healing and protective strategies for you and your children.  Emotional intelligence is about noticing what is happening inside you so that you can show up in ways you feel good about.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Have you ever walked out of a court hearing, a meeting with a professional, or even a hard parenting moment and thought, 

“Well, that didn’t come out the way I meant it?”

Maybe your anxiety came out sharp.  

Maybe your urgency sounded like anger.

Or maybe you were doing everything you knew of to protect your child but feel like you showed up as “mentally unstable.”

When you have lived through coercive control and continued post separation abuse, your nervous system will continually scan for danger and has been conditioned to suppress specific emotions like anger.  This can be a huge obstacle as you heal and try to get decision makers to understand the truth about what is going on.

In this episode, we dive into why emotional intelligence is one of the biggest healing and protective strategies for you and your children.  Emotional intelligence is about noticing what is happening inside you so that you can show up in ways you feel good about.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18848612 Wed, 18 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1645 1 195 full true Ep 194: Why the Jeffrey Epstein Coverage Is So Triggering for Survivors Ep 194: Why the Jeffrey Epstein Coverage Is So Triggering for Survivors How are you, really? With the Jeffrey Epstein coverage everywhere, many survivors are feeling triggered, angry, betrayed, and exhausted. The language in the media. The redactions. The victim blaming. The protection of powerful people. It is a reminder of the same power and control dynamics many of you are living through in family court and post separation abuse.

In this episode, I am not breaking down the files or diving into case details. Instead, I am talking about the impact.

Why this coverage hits so hard.
Why systemic betrayal feels personal.
Why it is exhausting to watch people in power protect each other.
And what you can do if you find yourself doomscrolling, dysregulated, or unable to turn it off.

We talk about:

  • The harm of language that minimizes abuse
  • How power structures silence victims
  • Why betrayal from trusted public figures feels destabilizing
  • When to limit exposure to media
  • How to protect your nervous system
  • The two steps that actually matter if we want change

If you are overwhelmed, you are not weak.
If you are angry, it makes sense.
If you need to turn it off, you are allowed.

Believe survivors.
Hold people accountable.

That is where it starts.



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]]> How are you, really? With the Jeffrey Epstein coverage everywhere, many survivors are feeling triggered, angry, betrayed, and exhausted. The language in the media. The redactions. The victim blaming. The protection of powerful people. It is a reminder of the same power and control dynamics many of you are living through in family court and post separation abuse.

In this episode, I am not breaking down the files or diving into case details. Instead, I am talking about the impact.

Why this coverage hits so hard.
Why systemic betrayal feels personal.
Why it is exhausting to watch people in power protect each other.
And what you can do if you find yourself doomscrolling, dysregulated, or unable to turn it off.

We talk about:

  • The harm of language that minimizes abuse
  • How power structures silence victims
  • Why betrayal from trusted public figures feels destabilizing
  • When to limit exposure to media
  • How to protect your nervous system
  • The two steps that actually matter if we want change

If you are overwhelmed, you are not weak.
If you are angry, it makes sense.
If you need to turn it off, you are allowed.

Believe survivors.
Hold people accountable.

That is where it starts.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18807635 Wed, 11 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0600 1499 1 194 full true Ep 193: Trust Your Gut: Reclaiming Safety After Coercive Control Ep 193: Trust Your Gut: Reclaiming Safety After Coercive Control We have been conditioned to be polite over safe. To make others comfortable even when our bodies are signaling danger. To be small, sweet, accommodating.

That conditioning increases risk for women, especially survivors of coercive control. What kept you safer inside an abusive relationship can make you more vulnerable outside of it.

I unpack why love bombing is better understood as grooming. It is not just gifts or grand gestures. It is learning your values and vulnerabilities so they can be used later.

We also talk about:

  • Trusting your body’s warning signals
  • Seeing trauma responses as data
  • Practicing strategic rudeness when something feels off
  • Using the broken record approach in communication
  • Naming patterns clearly with an ex or even professionals
  • Teaching your children discernment instead of forced politeness

Your discomfort matters.
Your instincts matter.
And awareness is the first step in breaking this conditioning for you and your kids.

If this episode brings something up for you, I would love to hear from you.

BOOK: The Gift of Fear: https://a.co/d/0gxTtekZ



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]]> We have been conditioned to be polite over safe. To make others comfortable even when our bodies are signaling danger. To be small, sweet, accommodating.

That conditioning increases risk for women, especially survivors of coercive control. What kept you safer inside an abusive relationship can make you more vulnerable outside of it.

I unpack why love bombing is better understood as grooming. It is not just gifts or grand gestures. It is learning your values and vulnerabilities so they can be used later.

We also talk about:

  • Trusting your body’s warning signals
  • Seeing trauma responses as data
  • Practicing strategic rudeness when something feels off
  • Using the broken record approach in communication
  • Naming patterns clearly with an ex or even professionals
  • Teaching your children discernment instead of forced politeness

Your discomfort matters.
Your instincts matter.
And awareness is the first step in breaking this conditioning for you and your kids.

If this episode brings something up for you, I would love to hear from you.

BOOK: The Gift of Fear: https://a.co/d/0gxTtekZ



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18782639 Wed, 04 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1638 1 193 full false Bonus Coaching Session: When Abusive Exes Team Up: Custody Threats, Coercive Control, and What to Do Bonus Coaching Session: When Abusive Exes Team Up: Custody Threats, Coercive Control, and What to Do A mother of three is navigating ongoing post-separation abuse from two different ex-partners. After disagreeing with a proposed school and therapist change, her second ex escalated with threats of full custody, weaponizing her trauma history and mental health. Shortly after, her first ex announced a move near the second ex, and she discovered the two men have been communicating.

With limited financial resources, no attorney, and little outside support, she is trying to understand what is happening, how to protect herself and her children, and how to respond without making the situation worse.

This episode explores coordinated coercive tactics, fear-based legal threats, and how protective parents can ground themselves, preserve stability, and respond strategically without escalating conflict.

Questions Answered in This Episode

  1. Have you ever seen two abusive ex-partners coordinate or team up, and why does this happen?
  2. How should a protective parent respond when custody threats and mental health accusations are used as leverage after saying no?
  3. What practical steps can you take to protect yourself and your children, especially when you cannot afford an attorney and want to avoid court?

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> A mother of three is navigating ongoing post-separation abuse from two different ex-partners. After disagreeing with a proposed school and therapist change, her second ex escalated with threats of full custody, weaponizing her trauma history and mental health. Shortly after, her first ex announced a move near the second ex, and she discovered the two men have been communicating.

With limited financial resources, no attorney, and little outside support, she is trying to understand what is happening, how to protect herself and her children, and how to respond without making the situation worse.

This episode explores coordinated coercive tactics, fear-based legal threats, and how protective parents can ground themselves, preserve stability, and respond strategically without escalating conflict.

Questions Answered in This Episode

  1. Have you ever seen two abusive ex-partners coordinate or team up, and why does this happen?
  2. How should a protective parent respond when custody threats and mental health accusations are used as leverage after saying no?
  3. What practical steps can you take to protect yourself and your children, especially when you cannot afford an attorney and want to avoid court?

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Download the free script guide, Protective Parenting Scripts for Hard Moments: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/parentingscripts

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-18688205 Fri, 27 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1045 1 full false Ep 192: Disability Rights in Family Court: What Survivors with Anxiety or PTSD Need to Know (Part 1) Ep 192: Disability Rights in Family Court: What Survivors with Anxiety or PTSD Need to Know (Part 1) Family court is one of the most overwhelming environments a trauma survivor can face.

For some survivors, the idea of court brings intense anxiety, panic, or shutdown. For others, it feels like a space where they must perform calm and composure at all costs, even when their nervous system is under threat.

What many survivors do not realize is that disability rights may apply in family court, including for conditions like anxiety and PTSD.

In this episode, we begin a grounded, realistic conversation about disability rights in family court, with a specific focus on what survivors with anxiety or PTSD should know before deciding whether to request accommodations.

This episode is not about telling you what you should do.
It is about helping you understand what may be possible, what the risks are, and how to think strategically about access to justice in a system that was not designed with trauma in mind.

Transparency Matters

I want to name this clearly. I am not an expert in disability law or ADA accommodations. In this episode, you are learning alongside me as I share what I have been able to research and understand so far.

This is a starting point, not the end of the conversation. In Part 2, I plan to invite a guest who specializes in disability rights and court access so we can explore this topic more deeply and responsibly, including best practices and real world considerations.

Colorado Court ADA Information

Disability Rights Support

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]]> Family court is one of the most overwhelming environments a trauma survivor can face.

For some survivors, the idea of court brings intense anxiety, panic, or shutdown. For others, it feels like a space where they must perform calm and composure at all costs, even when their nervous system is under threat.

What many survivors do not realize is that disability rights may apply in family court, including for conditions like anxiety and PTSD.

In this episode, we begin a grounded, realistic conversation about disability rights in family court, with a specific focus on what survivors with anxiety or PTSD should know before deciding whether to request accommodations.

This episode is not about telling you what you should do.
It is about helping you understand what may be possible, what the risks are, and how to think strategically about access to justice in a system that was not designed with trauma in mind.

Transparency Matters

I want to name this clearly. I am not an expert in disability law or ADA accommodations. In this episode, you are learning alongside me as I share what I have been able to research and understand so far.

This is a starting point, not the end of the conversation. In Part 2, I plan to invite a guest who specializes in disability rights and court access so we can explore this topic more deeply and responsibly, including best practices and real world considerations.

Colorado Court ADA Information

Disability Rights Support

Download the free script guide, Protective Parenting Scripts for Hard Moments: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/parentingscripts

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18670017 Wed, 25 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1722 full false Ep 191: What the Research Shows About Family Court, Abuse, and Child Safety with Joan Meier & Danielle Pollack Ep 191: What the Research Shows About Family Court, Abuse, and Child Safety with Joan Meier & Danielle Pollack What happens when survivors of domestic violence and coercive control enter family court isn’t just anecdotal — it’s documented, researched, and deeply concerning.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Joan S. Meier, Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington University Law School and founder of the National Family Violence Law Center, and Danielle Pollack, Policy Manager at the Center, to unpack what decades of research and policy work reveal about how family courts respond to abuse allegations — and why so many protective parents feel disbelieved, punished, or silenced.

Together, they explore how concepts like parental alienation are frequently weaponized against survivors, how unregulated reunification programs put children at risk, and what policy efforts like Kayden’s Law are doing to change the system. This conversation also speaks directly to therapists, advocates, and professionals, offering insight into how research can inform ethical practice, advocacy, and trauma-informed testimony.

NSPO: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/ 

About the Guests

Joan S. Meier
Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington University Law School and founder of the National Family Violence Law Center. Joan is a leading national expert on domestic violence, child abuse, and family court outcomes, and the lead author of the landmark study examining how courts respond to abuse allegations in custody cases.

Website: https://www.nfvlc.org/

Danielle Pollack
Policy Manager at the National Family Violence Law Center. Danielle works at the intersection of research and legislation, helping states adopt laws that better protect children and survivors, including implementation efforts related to Kayden’s Law. She also supports survivor-led advocacy through the National Safe Parents Organization (NSPO).


Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

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]]> What happens when survivors of domestic violence and coercive control enter family court isn’t just anecdotal — it’s documented, researched, and deeply concerning.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Joan S. Meier, Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington University Law School and founder of the National Family Violence Law Center, and Danielle Pollack, Policy Manager at the Center, to unpack what decades of research and policy work reveal about how family courts respond to abuse allegations — and why so many protective parents feel disbelieved, punished, or silenced.

Together, they explore how concepts like parental alienation are frequently weaponized against survivors, how unregulated reunification programs put children at risk, and what policy efforts like Kayden’s Law are doing to change the system. This conversation also speaks directly to therapists, advocates, and professionals, offering insight into how research can inform ethical practice, advocacy, and trauma-informed testimony.

NSPO: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/ 

About the Guests

Joan S. Meier
Professor of Clinical Law at George Washington University Law School and founder of the National Family Violence Law Center. Joan is a leading national expert on domestic violence, child abuse, and family court outcomes, and the lead author of the landmark study examining how courts respond to abuse allegations in custody cases.

Website: https://www.nfvlc.org/

Danielle Pollack
Policy Manager at the National Family Violence Law Center. Danielle works at the intersection of research and legislation, helping states adopt laws that better protect children and survivors, including implementation efforts related to Kayden’s Law. She also supports survivor-led advocacy through the National Safe Parents Organization (NSPO).


Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18687568 Wed, 18 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0700 2980 1 191 full false Ep 190: Parentification After Abuse: When Children Are Asked to Carry Adult Emotions Ep 190: Parentification After Abuse: When Children Are Asked to Carry Adult Emotions What happens when one parent leans on a child emotionally and you are determined not to do the same?

Many protective parents notice it quietly at first.
Their child starts worrying about the other parent.
They feel responsible for adult emotions.
They try to comfort, reassure, or stabilize situations that are far beyond their role.

And when you are isolated, overwhelmed, or under constant pressure, the temptation to lean back can feel very real.

In this episode, Sybil explores why children are so often pulled into adult emotional roles after abuse, separation, or high conflict co parenting and why resisting that pull is one of the most protective parenting choices you can make.

This episode is not about shaming parents who are struggling.
It is about understanding impact, preserving family hierarchy, and keeping children emotionally safe even when the other parent does not.

Links to episodes mentioned: 

Episode 56: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-56-start-healing-from-moral-injury-with-guest-dr/id1633920067?i=1000621633927

Episode 50: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-50-how-narcissistic-abuse-leads-to-moral-injury/id1633920067?i=1000616005777

Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop, Feb 18th 2026: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control 

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]]> What happens when one parent leans on a child emotionally and you are determined not to do the same?

Many protective parents notice it quietly at first.
Their child starts worrying about the other parent.
They feel responsible for adult emotions.
They try to comfort, reassure, or stabilize situations that are far beyond their role.

And when you are isolated, overwhelmed, or under constant pressure, the temptation to lean back can feel very real.

In this episode, Sybil explores why children are so often pulled into adult emotional roles after abuse, separation, or high conflict co parenting and why resisting that pull is one of the most protective parenting choices you can make.

This episode is not about shaming parents who are struggling.
It is about understanding impact, preserving family hierarchy, and keeping children emotionally safe even when the other parent does not.

Links to episodes mentioned: 

Episode 56: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-56-start-healing-from-moral-injury-with-guest-dr/id1633920067?i=1000621633927

Episode 50: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-50-how-narcissistic-abuse-leads-to-moral-injury/id1633920067?i=1000616005777

Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop, Feb 18th 2026: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control 

Download the free script guide, Protective Parenting Scripts for Hard Moments: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/parentingscripts

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18611950 Wed, 11 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1361 1 190 full false Ep 189: “High-Conflict” Divorce, Mediation, and Child-Centered Parenting Plans with Laura Lorber Ep 189: “High-Conflict” Divorce, Mediation, and Child-Centered Parenting Plans with Laura Lorber Parenting plans, mediation, and negotiations are some of the most stressful parts of divorce — especially when abuse, coercive control, or high conflict are involved.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Laura, a family law mediator and co-parenting coach, to unpack what mediation can look like when it is truly child-centered and trauma-informed — and when it isn’t.

Laura brings years of experience mediating high-conflict parenting cases involving domestic violence, substance use, and power imbalances. Together, they explore how mediation can either reinforce harm or become a place where autonomy, safety, and children’s real needs are finally centered.

This conversation is especially helpful for protective parents who feel trapped by cookie-cutter parenting plans, fear retaliation for speaking up, or are being pressured to “just agree” for the sake of the court.

In This Episode, We Discuss

  • Why mediation often feels re-traumatizing for survivors — and how it can be done differently
  • The importance of autonomy after coercive control
  • Why “getting to agreement” is not the same as creating a safe parenting plan
  • How documenting only the bad can distort negotiations

Laura Lorber is an MC3 Certified Mediator, Certified Co-Parenting Specialist, and Program for Infant-Toddler Care (PITC) Fellow. She brings a deeply reflective and facilitative approach to complex family matters, including high-conflict co-parenting, interpersonal violence, and elder care. Laura’s evolving theory of mediation centers on the idea that every conflict offers a chance to model and teach — giving families a lasting legacy of learning to navigate challenges with understanding, resilience, and care for future generations.

Connect with Laura:
Website: www.lauralorberjd.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauramlorber/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lmlorber/

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

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]]> Parenting plans, mediation, and negotiations are some of the most stressful parts of divorce — especially when abuse, coercive control, or high conflict are involved.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Laura, a family law mediator and co-parenting coach, to unpack what mediation can look like when it is truly child-centered and trauma-informed — and when it isn’t.

Laura brings years of experience mediating high-conflict parenting cases involving domestic violence, substance use, and power imbalances. Together, they explore how mediation can either reinforce harm or become a place where autonomy, safety, and children’s real needs are finally centered.

This conversation is especially helpful for protective parents who feel trapped by cookie-cutter parenting plans, fear retaliation for speaking up, or are being pressured to “just agree” for the sake of the court.

In This Episode, We Discuss

  • Why mediation often feels re-traumatizing for survivors — and how it can be done differently
  • The importance of autonomy after coercive control
  • Why “getting to agreement” is not the same as creating a safe parenting plan
  • How documenting only the bad can distort negotiations

Laura Lorber is an MC3 Certified Mediator, Certified Co-Parenting Specialist, and Program for Infant-Toddler Care (PITC) Fellow. She brings a deeply reflective and facilitative approach to complex family matters, including high-conflict co-parenting, interpersonal violence, and elder care. Laura’s evolving theory of mediation centers on the idea that every conflict offers a chance to model and teach — giving families a lasting legacy of learning to navigate challenges with understanding, resilience, and care for future generations.

Connect with Laura:
Website: www.lauralorberjd.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauramlorber/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lmlorber/

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18584380 Wed, 04 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0700 2773 1 189 full false Bonus Coaching Session: When Facts Don’t Matter: Parenting a Child Aligned With an Abusive Ex Bonus Coaching Session: When Facts Don’t Matter: Parenting a Child Aligned With an Abusive Ex In this Friday Coaching Corner, Sybil responds to a protective mother navigating ongoing post-separation abuse involving her highly gifted, autistic teenager. The abusive co-parent has repeatedly pulled the child into adult financial and legal conflicts, framing the protective parent as the cause of manufactured crises and positioning himself as the victim and rescuer.

Over time, the child has become increasingly aligned with the abusive parent — repeating legal language, expressing contempt toward court-ordered support, rejecting care from the protective parent, and threatening legal consequences when demands aren’t met. This episode explores what happens when a child is placed in an impossible loyalty bind and the emotional toll this takes on both the child and the protective parent.

Questions Answered in This Episode

  • How do you respond when your child has been weaponized against you and genuinely believes the abusive parent’s narrative?
  • How can a protective parent hold boundaries when their child uses legal threats, contempt, or adult language learned from the abusive parent?
  • What does staying connected look like when your child is rejecting you to remain loyal to the abusive parent?
  • How can protective parents grieve the loss of connection without collapsing, over-explaining, or losing themselves in the process?

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> In this Friday Coaching Corner, Sybil responds to a protective mother navigating ongoing post-separation abuse involving her highly gifted, autistic teenager. The abusive co-parent has repeatedly pulled the child into adult financial and legal conflicts, framing the protective parent as the cause of manufactured crises and positioning himself as the victim and rescuer.

Over time, the child has become increasingly aligned with the abusive parent — repeating legal language, expressing contempt toward court-ordered support, rejecting care from the protective parent, and threatening legal consequences when demands aren’t met. This episode explores what happens when a child is placed in an impossible loyalty bind and the emotional toll this takes on both the child and the protective parent.

Questions Answered in This Episode

  • How do you respond when your child has been weaponized against you and genuinely believes the abusive parent’s narrative?
  • How can a protective parent hold boundaries when their child uses legal threats, contempt, or adult language learned from the abusive parent?
  • What does staying connected look like when your child is rejecting you to remain loyal to the abusive parent?
  • How can protective parents grieve the loss of connection without collapsing, over-explaining, or losing themselves in the process?

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18512318 Fri, 30 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1399 1 full false Ep 188: Custody Evaluations Explained: What Evaluators Look For and What Can Go Wrong Ep 188: Custody Evaluations Explained: What Evaluators Look For and What Can Go Wrong Custody evaluations tend to bring up two very different reactions for survivors.

For some, the idea of an evaluation is terrifying, especially if they have heard stories about how much power evaluators hold and how often survivors feel misunderstood or mischaracterized.

For others, a custody evaluation feels like hope. It can feel like the moment they will finally be seen, believed, or taken seriously after months or years of being dismissed.

Both reactions make sense.

In this episode, we break down what custody evaluators are actually supposed to assess, where the process often breaks down, especially in cases involving coercive control or post-separation abuse, and what options survivors may have if the evaluation does not reflect their reality.

This episode is not meant to scare you or tell you to expect the worst.
It is about understanding the process well enough to reduce surprises and protect yourself emotionally and strategically.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Custody evaluations tend to bring up two very different reactions for survivors.

For some, the idea of an evaluation is terrifying, especially if they have heard stories about how much power evaluators hold and how often survivors feel misunderstood or mischaracterized.

For others, a custody evaluation feels like hope. It can feel like the moment they will finally be seen, believed, or taken seriously after months or years of being dismissed.

Both reactions make sense.

In this episode, we break down what custody evaluators are actually supposed to assess, where the process often breaks down, especially in cases involving coercive control or post-separation abuse, and what options survivors may have if the evaluation does not reflect their reality.

This episode is not meant to scare you or tell you to expect the worst.
It is about understanding the process well enough to reduce surprises and protect yourself emotionally and strategically.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Join me on February 18th at 12pm MST for the Parenting to Combat Coercive Control Live Workshop for protective moms focused on protecting and repairing the parent–child relationship: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coercive-control

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18506296 Wed, 28 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1785 1 188 full false Ep 187: Mend or Move On? How to Decide If a Relationship Is Too Toxic with Kate King, LPC Ep 187: Mend or Move On? How to Decide If a Relationship Is Too Toxic with Kate King, LPC Should you keep trying to repair a relationship, or is it time to walk away? If you’ve found yourself repeatedly questioning the level of toxicity in your relationships — with a parent, sibling, friend, or even a new romantic partner — this episode will help you sort through the tug of war inside your body and mind.

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, the end of an abusive marriage doesn’t magically clarify all of the other relationships in your life. Instead, it often brings more confusion. You may start noticing behaviors you once excused, feeling drained after interactions, or wondering whether you are seeing red flags or simply overreacting because of your trauma history. And when you’re already carrying the emotional weight of post-separation abuse and rebuilding your life, the question “Should I mend this relationship or should I go?” can feel overwhelming.

To help bring clarity, I sit down with Kate King, LPC, who offers a grounded framework for checking in with your authentic self to decide whether a relationship can be repaired with boundaries or whether it’s healthier — and safer — to step away. We talk about:

  • What your nervous system is trying to tell you about a relationship
  • How your trauma history influences the way you assess safety
  • What repair actually looks like in healthy relationships
  • The signs that it may be time to move on
  • How to begin healing through the body, not just the mind

Kate also shares insights from her upcoming book, Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships (coming January 2026), including how survivors can use it to navigate these complex decisions with more confidence and compassion.

If you’re wrestling with whether to give someone another chance, set firmer boundaries, or let go completely, this conversation offers clarity, direction, and deep validation.

Connect with Kate:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theradiantlifeproject
YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@TheRadiantLifeProject 

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]]> Should you keep trying to repair a relationship, or is it time to walk away? If you’ve found yourself repeatedly questioning the level of toxicity in your relationships — with a parent, sibling, friend, or even a new romantic partner — this episode will help you sort through the tug of war inside your body and mind.

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, the end of an abusive marriage doesn’t magically clarify all of the other relationships in your life. Instead, it often brings more confusion. You may start noticing behaviors you once excused, feeling drained after interactions, or wondering whether you are seeing red flags or simply overreacting because of your trauma history. And when you’re already carrying the emotional weight of post-separation abuse and rebuilding your life, the question “Should I mend this relationship or should I go?” can feel overwhelming.

To help bring clarity, I sit down with Kate King, LPC, who offers a grounded framework for checking in with your authentic self to decide whether a relationship can be repaired with boundaries or whether it’s healthier — and safer — to step away. We talk about:

  • What your nervous system is trying to tell you about a relationship
  • How your trauma history influences the way you assess safety
  • What repair actually looks like in healthy relationships
  • The signs that it may be time to move on
  • How to begin healing through the body, not just the mind

Kate also shares insights from her upcoming book, Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships (coming January 2026), including how survivors can use it to navigate these complex decisions with more confidence and compassion.

If you’re wrestling with whether to give someone another chance, set firmer boundaries, or let go completely, this conversation offers clarity, direction, and deep validation.

Connect with Kate:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theradiantlifeproject
YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@TheRadiantLifeProject 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18500242 Wed, 21 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0700 3037 187 full false Ep 186: Will My Child Become an Abuser? What Teens Really Need from the Protective Parent with Riley Cochran, LPC Ep 186: Will My Child Become an Abuser? What Teens Really Need from the Protective Parent with Riley Cochran, LPC If you are a protective parent trying to “co-parent” with a narcissistic ex-partner, you’ve likely found yourself awake at night wondering how all of this will shape your child’s future.

Will my child grow up to be an abuser?
Will my child end up in abusive relationships themselves?
Will my ex succeed in damaging our bond beyond repair?

These fears often intensify during the teen years, when behavior becomes more complex and the stakes feel higher.

In this episode, I sit down with Riley Cochran, a licensed therapist and true teen whisperer who works with adolescents carrying trauma, big explosive emotions, and sometimes juvenile justice involvement. Riley brings a grounded and compassionate lens to what’s really happening beneath the surface of those challenging teen behaviors.

Together, we explore:

  • How to understand the why behind your teen’s difficult or explosive behaviors
  • What trauma responses can look like in adolescents
  • How your connection and attachment with your teen can be a source of healing
  • Ways to build resilience in your child even when the other parent is undermining you
  • The power of steady, attuned parenting when a teen is caught in a high-conflict dynamic

If you fear what your ex’s behavior might mean for your child’s long-term emotional health, this episode offers clarity, direction, and hope. You are not powerless — your relationship with your teen still matters more than you think.

Riley Cochran is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Addiction Counselor with over a decade of experience supporting high-risk and system-involved youth and families. He serves as the Executive Director of Resolute Counseling Center in Colorado and is the founder of The Guardians Guide, a parent coaching program designed to help caregivers respond to big behaviors and crisis with clarity, confidence, and connection. Riley is known for translating complex mental health concepts into practical, real-world guidance that empowers families to navigate challenging seasons together.

Connect with Riley:
Website: www.resolutecounselingcenter.com, https://www.rileycochran.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riley_cochran_official 

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]]> If you are a protective parent trying to “co-parent” with a narcissistic ex-partner, you’ve likely found yourself awake at night wondering how all of this will shape your child’s future.

Will my child grow up to be an abuser?
Will my child end up in abusive relationships themselves?
Will my ex succeed in damaging our bond beyond repair?

These fears often intensify during the teen years, when behavior becomes more complex and the stakes feel higher.

In this episode, I sit down with Riley Cochran, a licensed therapist and true teen whisperer who works with adolescents carrying trauma, big explosive emotions, and sometimes juvenile justice involvement. Riley brings a grounded and compassionate lens to what’s really happening beneath the surface of those challenging teen behaviors.

Together, we explore:

  • How to understand the why behind your teen’s difficult or explosive behaviors
  • What trauma responses can look like in adolescents
  • How your connection and attachment with your teen can be a source of healing
  • Ways to build resilience in your child even when the other parent is undermining you
  • The power of steady, attuned parenting when a teen is caught in a high-conflict dynamic

If you fear what your ex’s behavior might mean for your child’s long-term emotional health, this episode offers clarity, direction, and hope. You are not powerless — your relationship with your teen still matters more than you think.

Riley Cochran is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Addiction Counselor with over a decade of experience supporting high-risk and system-involved youth and families. He serves as the Executive Director of Resolute Counseling Center in Colorado and is the founder of The Guardians Guide, a parent coaching program designed to help caregivers respond to big behaviors and crisis with clarity, confidence, and connection. Riley is known for translating complex mental health concepts into practical, real-world guidance that empowers families to navigate challenging seasons together.

Connect with Riley:
Website: www.resolutecounselingcenter.com, https://www.rileycochran.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/riley_cochran_official 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18468059 Wed, 14 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0700 2899 1 186 full false Ep 185: Starting the New Year When You’re Still Facing Post-Separation Abuse Ep 185: Starting the New Year When You’re Still Facing Post-Separation Abuse What do you do when you’re staring down a new year and your life looks nothing like what you imagined? When you’re navigating post-separation abuse, family court chaos, or the long tail of coercive control, the idea of setting goals or creating a “new year plan” can feel impossible — or irrelevant.

In this episode, Sybil talks about how to begin again when you’re stuck in the thought “this is not the life I signed up for”. Instead of pretending everything is fine or forcing resolutions you don’t have the energy for, Sybil offers a grounded, compassionate way to approach the start of a new year.

You’ll hear about:

  • Why it’s normal to feel stuck or resentful heading into a new year
    • — especially when you’re still in a battle you didn’t choose.
  • How to shift from overwhelm to clarity
    • by identifying what you want now, not what you thought your life would be.
  • Understanding what’s in your control — and what’s not
    • so you can stop pouring energy into dead ends.
  • How to identify small wins
    • and why these matter so much more than big goals when you’re carrying a heavy load.
  • Creating momentum through micro-actions
    • that fit your season of life, your capacity, and the reality you're living in.
  • A gentle way to start the year
    • without bypassing the grief or frustration of where you are.

This episode is for anyone who is beginning a new year in survival mode, in a hard chapter, or while parenting in the midst of ongoing post-separation abuse. You don’t have to rebuild your entire life right now — but you can start with one clear step that’s within your control.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> What do you do when you’re staring down a new year and your life looks nothing like what you imagined? When you’re navigating post-separation abuse, family court chaos, or the long tail of coercive control, the idea of setting goals or creating a “new year plan” can feel impossible — or irrelevant.

In this episode, Sybil talks about how to begin again when you’re stuck in the thought “this is not the life I signed up for”. Instead of pretending everything is fine or forcing resolutions you don’t have the energy for, Sybil offers a grounded, compassionate way to approach the start of a new year.

You’ll hear about:

  • Why it’s normal to feel stuck or resentful heading into a new year
    • — especially when you’re still in a battle you didn’t choose.
  • How to shift from overwhelm to clarity
    • by identifying what you want now, not what you thought your life would be.
  • Understanding what’s in your control — and what’s not
    • so you can stop pouring energy into dead ends.
  • How to identify small wins
    • and why these matter so much more than big goals when you’re carrying a heavy load.
  • Creating momentum through micro-actions
    • that fit your season of life, your capacity, and the reality you're living in.
  • A gentle way to start the year
    • without bypassing the grief or frustration of where you are.

This episode is for anyone who is beginning a new year in survival mode, in a hard chapter, or while parenting in the midst of ongoing post-separation abuse. You don’t have to rebuild your entire life right now — but you can start with one clear step that’s within your control.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18380486 Wed, 07 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0700 1323 1 185 full false Ep 184: Going Pro Se in Family Court: How to Represent Yourself and Protect Your Kids with Casey Brinkman Ep 184: Going Pro Se in Family Court: How to Represent Yourself and Protect Your Kids with Casey Brinkman Take a listen to this episode that listeners come back to frequently.

If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well?

Do you feel heard?  

Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney.

And so you find yourself going pro se.  Representing yourself in family court.  This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney.  On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se.

Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey.  We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more.  

Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn’t until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children’s voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges.

Today, Casey channels her experience and expertise into helping other mothers become strong and effective litigants, whether working with an attorney or representing themselves pro se. Her mission is to inspire and equip protective moms to navigate the legal system with confidence, ensuring their children’s best interests remain the top priority.



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]]> Take a listen to this episode that listeners come back to frequently.

If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well?

Do you feel heard?  

Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney.

And so you find yourself going pro se.  Representing yourself in family court.  This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney.  On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se.

Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey.  We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more.  

Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn’t until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children’s voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges.

Today, Casey channels her experience and expertise into helping other mothers become strong and effective litigants, whether working with an attorney or representing themselves pro se. Her mission is to inspire and equip protective moms to navigate the legal system with confidence, ensuring their children’s best interests remain the top priority.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17916102 Wed, 31 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0700 2349 1 185 full false Ep 183: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan Ep 183: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan I'm sharing this episode again as it's one that many of you listen to frequently.

If your parenting plan is not working or there has been a change in yours or your child’s lives to where the parenting plan no longer reflects the actual needed arrangements for the child, what do you do?

If you are coparenting with a narcissist, broaching a change in the parenting plan can feel extremely scary.  You know that it will be a catalyst for increased engagement and conflict.  So, what steps can you follow that will help minimize the conflict and increase the likelihood of a change?

A change in circumstance might be (not an exhaustive list):

  • A change in address outside of the parenting plan agreement
  • A change in school
  • A change in the child’s medical or mental health providers
  • A change in the child’s needs that the current parenting plan does not address
  • A loss of job that will have an impact on the current parenting plan
  • Abuse or Neglect
  • Co-parent is not following the orders AND it is causing harm to the child

If you feel like you need to broach a change in the parenting plan, there are some steps that you can take that will protect you and will increase the likelihood that the plan will be modified.

  • Send the initial message to “put the concern on your co-parent’s radar”
  • Start to accrue data and evidence that the concern is negatively impacting your child and what needs to happen to remedy this
  • Send a second email stating that the problem is still present, share some of the data, and then write a clear ask of what needs to be done to remedy the situation.
  • Be prepared for your ex to fight back and be an A-hole
  • Be prepared for the next possible steps in a worst case scenario

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]]> I'm sharing this episode again as it's one that many of you listen to frequently.

If your parenting plan is not working or there has been a change in yours or your child’s lives to where the parenting plan no longer reflects the actual needed arrangements for the child, what do you do?

If you are coparenting with a narcissist, broaching a change in the parenting plan can feel extremely scary.  You know that it will be a catalyst for increased engagement and conflict.  So, what steps can you follow that will help minimize the conflict and increase the likelihood of a change?

A change in circumstance might be (not an exhaustive list):

  • A change in address outside of the parenting plan agreement
  • A change in school
  • A change in the child’s medical or mental health providers
  • A change in the child’s needs that the current parenting plan does not address
  • A loss of job that will have an impact on the current parenting plan
  • Abuse or Neglect
  • Co-parent is not following the orders AND it is causing harm to the child

If you feel like you need to broach a change in the parenting plan, there are some steps that you can take that will protect you and will increase the likelihood that the plan will be modified.

  • Send the initial message to “put the concern on your co-parent’s radar”
  • Start to accrue data and evidence that the concern is negatively impacting your child and what needs to happen to remedy this
  • Send a second email stating that the problem is still present, share some of the data, and then write a clear ask of what needs to be done to remedy the situation.
  • Be prepared for your ex to fight back and be an A-hole
  • Be prepared for the next possible steps in a worst case scenario

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17916067 Wed, 24 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1393 1 183 full false Ep 182: Breaking Down Coercive Control with Kate Amber, MS Ep 182: Breaking Down Coercive Control with Kate Amber, MS Enjoy this fan-favorite rerun episode with my guest, Kate Amber. What the heck is coercive control anyway?  If you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, you have experienced coercive control.  And it’s likely that you have experienced it in ways and by people and systems that are outside of your romantic relationship.

In this episode, I have an expert on coercive control, Kate Amber, MS that is going to break it all down for you.  We look at the most common challenges that survivors face as they work through the larger systems and she shares her BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model as a framework for how professionals in the system can identify coercive control in these cases.

In this model we look at the D's:

  • Double Standards
  • Double Binds
  • Double Team
  • DARVO

The E's:

  • Ensnare
  • Entrap
  • Exploit
  • Preventing Escape

And the F's:

  • Force
  • Fraud
  • Fear

These are all used to maintain control over the target.

Kate Amber, MSc, is the founder of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA) and an international speaker, consultant, trainer, writer, and expert witness on domestic abuse, coercive control, and extremist groups. She holds advanced certifications in psychology, leadership, human rights, and advocacy, and her award-winning master’s research introduced the BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ of Coercive Control, synthesizing decades of research on abuse, trafficking, cults, gangs, and torture. Kate and ECCUSA have been recognized with multiple Purple Ribbon Awards for survivor leadership and outstanding community education. 

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]]> Enjoy this fan-favorite rerun episode with my guest, Kate Amber. What the heck is coercive control anyway?  If you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, you have experienced coercive control.  And it’s likely that you have experienced it in ways and by people and systems that are outside of your romantic relationship.

In this episode, I have an expert on coercive control, Kate Amber, MS that is going to break it all down for you.  We look at the most common challenges that survivors face as they work through the larger systems and she shares her BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model as a framework for how professionals in the system can identify coercive control in these cases.

In this model we look at the D's:

  • Double Standards
  • Double Binds
  • Double Team
  • DARVO

The E's:

  • Ensnare
  • Entrap
  • Exploit
  • Preventing Escape

And the F's:

  • Force
  • Fraud
  • Fear

These are all used to maintain control over the target.

Kate Amber, MSc, is the founder of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA) and an international speaker, consultant, trainer, writer, and expert witness on domestic abuse, coercive control, and extremist groups. She holds advanced certifications in psychology, leadership, human rights, and advocacy, and her award-winning master’s research introduced the BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ of Coercive Control, synthesizing decades of research on abuse, trafficking, cults, gangs, and torture. Kate and ECCUSA have been recognized with multiple Purple Ribbon Awards for survivor leadership and outstanding community education. 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17916020 Wed, 17 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0700 3024 1 182 full false Ep 181: Anger, Grief, and Gratitude: A Survivor’s Guide to the Holiday Season Ep 181: Anger, Grief, and Gratitude: A Survivor’s Guide to the Holiday Season Do you ever feel like you “should” be grateful, especially around the holidays — but underneath, you’re still angry, grieving, or exhausted?

You’re not doing anything wrong. You’re being human.

This episode explores how gratitude and anger can coexist, why both are valid, and how making room for all of your emotions can actually support your healing after abuse and during post-separation parenting.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

  • Why this season can intensify conflicting emotions
  • How anger can point to your deepest values
  • How to use curiosity and a non-judgemental stance to allow the difficult feelings to coexist with gratitude and peace
  • Grounding practices and reflections that allow you to connect with yourself
  • How to create holiday traditions that reflect your current reality
  • The power of emotional honesty 
  • Ways to hold space for hope without dismissing your pain

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]]> Do you ever feel like you “should” be grateful, especially around the holidays — but underneath, you’re still angry, grieving, or exhausted?

You’re not doing anything wrong. You’re being human.

This episode explores how gratitude and anger can coexist, why both are valid, and how making room for all of your emotions can actually support your healing after abuse and during post-separation parenting.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

  • Why this season can intensify conflicting emotions
  • How anger can point to your deepest values
  • How to use curiosity and a non-judgemental stance to allow the difficult feelings to coexist with gratitude and peace
  • Grounding practices and reflections that allow you to connect with yourself
  • How to create holiday traditions that reflect your current reality
  • The power of emotional honesty 
  • Ways to hold space for hope without dismissing your pain

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18259939 Wed, 10 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1369 1 181 full false Ep 180: Bad Mom Moments and How to Repair Ep 180: Bad Mom Moments and How to Repair What happens when you have every intention of showing up as the best mom possible and then things go awry and you show up as someone that you do not want to be?

Do you beat yourself up for days?  

We all have bad mom moments no matter how intentional we are in our parenting.  I even share some of my bad mom moments so that you do not feel alone in this.

When those bad mom moments strike, there are things you can do to repair.  And the repair is extremely important because it is one more thing that your child will not experience at their other parent’s home.  In this episode I share some of my greatest tips on how you can repair your relationship with your child to help them grow up connected and resilient.

I’d love to hear your bad mom moments if you need a safe place to share them.  Email me at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

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]]> What happens when you have every intention of showing up as the best mom possible and then things go awry and you show up as someone that you do not want to be?

Do you beat yourself up for days?  

We all have bad mom moments no matter how intentional we are in our parenting.  I even share some of my bad mom moments so that you do not feel alone in this.

When those bad mom moments strike, there are things you can do to repair.  And the repair is extremely important because it is one more thing that your child will not experience at their other parent’s home.  In this episode I share some of my greatest tips on how you can repair your relationship with your child to help them grow up connected and resilient.

I’d love to hear your bad mom moments if you need a safe place to share them.  Email me at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18257785 Wed, 03 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1678 1 180 full false Ep 179: The Cult of One: How Narcissistic Abuse Mimics a Cult with Brooke Deanne Ep 179: The Cult of One: How Narcissistic Abuse Mimics a Cult with Brooke Deanne How long do you think it takes for someone to heal after leaving a cult?

Coercive control is the underlying tactic of narcissistic abuse relationships, often known as a cult of one.

Does it give you more self compassion as you work towards healing when you realize that your healing mimics the healing of someone healing from a cult?
 
In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I do a deep dive into the similarities between domestic violence and narcissistic abuse relationships and those of cults with Brooke Deanne.  She uses her personal experience of leaving a high control religion which then led to an abusive romantic relationship to help survivors heal.

We discuss the similarities of tactics used post separation or when leaving a cult, how cult experiences may lead to future abusive relationships, and the first steps to healing.

Brooke Deanne is a Trauma Healing Mentor, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner empowering female survivors of abuse and trauma to reclaim their lives by rewriting their stories via a holistic approach to access new levels of mind, body, and spirit integration.

After overcoming her history of abuse as an ex-Jehovah’s Witness, and toxic relationships, Brooke brings profound insight to her work and as an advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence. She is the author of The Grief Monster, a trusted resource in therapy offices and hospitals to help children process loss, and Shattered, Broken, & Beautiful - Losing My Religion and Finding Faith, a transformative memoir exploring her healing journey from a religious cult and abusive relationships.

Brooke also hosts The Cult Diaries podcast. Discover more at https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/shattered-broken-beautiful

Connect with Brooke:
Instagram: @lifecoachinggoddess
YouTube: @Lifecoachinggoddess
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brooke-kekos-253905231/
Website: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/

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]]> How long do you think it takes for someone to heal after leaving a cult?

Coercive control is the underlying tactic of narcissistic abuse relationships, often known as a cult of one.

Does it give you more self compassion as you work towards healing when you realize that your healing mimics the healing of someone healing from a cult?
 
In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I do a deep dive into the similarities between domestic violence and narcissistic abuse relationships and those of cults with Brooke Deanne.  She uses her personal experience of leaving a high control religion which then led to an abusive romantic relationship to help survivors heal.

We discuss the similarities of tactics used post separation or when leaving a cult, how cult experiences may lead to future abusive relationships, and the first steps to healing.

Brooke Deanne is a Trauma Healing Mentor, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner empowering female survivors of abuse and trauma to reclaim their lives by rewriting their stories via a holistic approach to access new levels of mind, body, and spirit integration.

After overcoming her history of abuse as an ex-Jehovah’s Witness, and toxic relationships, Brooke brings profound insight to her work and as an advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence. She is the author of The Grief Monster, a trusted resource in therapy offices and hospitals to help children process loss, and Shattered, Broken, & Beautiful - Losing My Religion and Finding Faith, a transformative memoir exploring her healing journey from a religious cult and abusive relationships.

Brooke also hosts The Cult Diaries podcast. Discover more at https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/shattered-broken-beautiful

Connect with Brooke:
Instagram: @lifecoachinggoddess
YouTube: @Lifecoachinggoddess
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brooke-kekos-253905231/
Website: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18246148 Wed, 26 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0700 2340 1 179 full false Bonus Coaching Session: Staying Connected to Your Teen When an Abusive Ex Is Pulling Them Away Bonus Coaching Session: Staying Connected to Your Teen When an Abusive Ex Is Pulling Them Away In this final Friday Coaching Corner of 2025, Sybil follows up on a previous episode after hearing from a listener whose story echoes so many others navigating malicious interference in the parent–child relationship.

This mom has been enduring post-separation abuse for over two years, including weaponized court orders, ignored therapeutic directives, and a teen who has been heavily influenced by the abusive parent. 

She asks Sybil to address three painful and important questions:

  1. How can a mom who has been partially separated from her teen due to manipulation and lies maintain connection outside of the legal and family court systems?
  2. Why do teens so often side with the abusive parent, even when that parent is violating orders or causing harm?
  3. What steps can a protective parent take to begin radically accepting the situation, especially when their child seems brainwashed, fearful, or aligned with the harmful parent?

Listen to episode 2 of the Friday Coaching Corner "When Unconditional Love Looks Like “Being Walked Over”": https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17927785

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> In this final Friday Coaching Corner of 2025, Sybil follows up on a previous episode after hearing from a listener whose story echoes so many others navigating malicious interference in the parent–child relationship.

This mom has been enduring post-separation abuse for over two years, including weaponized court orders, ignored therapeutic directives, and a teen who has been heavily influenced by the abusive parent. 

She asks Sybil to address three painful and important questions:

  1. How can a mom who has been partially separated from her teen due to manipulation and lies maintain connection outside of the legal and family court systems?
  2. Why do teens so often side with the abusive parent, even when that parent is violating orders or causing harm?
  3. What steps can a protective parent take to begin radically accepting the situation, especially when their child seems brainwashed, fearful, or aligned with the harmful parent?

Listen to episode 2 of the Friday Coaching Corner "When Unconditional Love Looks Like “Being Walked Over”": https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17927785

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18212558 Fri, 21 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1069 1 full false Ep 178: The Retaliation Playbook: How Narcissists Punish Survivors and Silence Their Allies Ep 178: The Retaliation Playbook: How Narcissists Punish Survivors and Silence Their Allies Speaking out about abuse is never easy.

For survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, telling the truth can feel like reclaiming your voice and your dignity, but telling the truth often comes with a significant cost: retaliation.

In this episode I do a deep dive (and a bit of a rant) into the reasons why a narcissist feels the need to retaliate and the steps that they take to silence you and anyone who supports you.  They use threats, smear campaigns, and then move to revenge on a larger scale.

This doesn’t only impact the survivor…an abuser will also retaliate against those who support their victim in order to maintain control over the narrative.  The consequence of this is fewer who are willing to stand up and support those who need it the most.

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]]> Speaking out about abuse is never easy.

For survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, telling the truth can feel like reclaiming your voice and your dignity, but telling the truth often comes with a significant cost: retaliation.

In this episode I do a deep dive (and a bit of a rant) into the reasons why a narcissist feels the need to retaliate and the steps that they take to silence you and anyone who supports you.  They use threats, smear campaigns, and then move to revenge on a larger scale.

This doesn’t only impact the survivor…an abuser will also retaliate against those who support their victim in order to maintain control over the narrative.  The consequence of this is fewer who are willing to stand up and support those who need it the most.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18204864 Wed, 19 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1251 1 178 full false Ep 177: Documentation, Subpoenas, and Soft Strength: Family Court Strategy with Becky Sampson Ep 177: Documentation, Subpoenas, and Soft Strength: Family Court Strategy with Becky Sampson Family court can feel like a battlefield — especially when your ex-partner uses the system as another tool for control. But what if advocacy didn’t have to mean becoming hardened or adversarial?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Becky Sampson, founder of a subpoena support service and a survivor who turned her own three-and-a-half-year divorce battle into a mission to help others navigate family court with confidence, compassion, and strength.

Together, they discuss:

  • Why knowledge is your greatest form of protection — from learning court terminology to understanding your rights.
  • How documentation can make or break your case (and what judges actually look for).
  • The role of subpoenas, when to use them, and why they can be a game-changer in uncovering hidden information.
  • Balancing empathy and boundaries — learning to lead with heart without letting it be weaponized.
  • What self-advocacy looks like for survivors representing themselves in court.
  • Why your worth and your parenting are not defined by the outcome of a case.

Whether you’re preparing for your first hearing, fighting post-decree motions, or simply trying to stay steady through the process, this episode offers both practical tools and deep validation.

Connect with Becky:

📚 Resources Mentioned:

  • Becky’s free 100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know download — available at beckysampson.com
  • The Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on documentation, parenting plans, and preparing for court.

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]]> Family court can feel like a battlefield — especially when your ex-partner uses the system as another tool for control. But what if advocacy didn’t have to mean becoming hardened or adversarial?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Becky Sampson, founder of a subpoena support service and a survivor who turned her own three-and-a-half-year divorce battle into a mission to help others navigate family court with confidence, compassion, and strength.

Together, they discuss:

  • Why knowledge is your greatest form of protection — from learning court terminology to understanding your rights.
  • How documentation can make or break your case (and what judges actually look for).
  • The role of subpoenas, when to use them, and why they can be a game-changer in uncovering hidden information.
  • Balancing empathy and boundaries — learning to lead with heart without letting it be weaponized.
  • What self-advocacy looks like for survivors representing themselves in court.
  • Why your worth and your parenting are not defined by the outcome of a case.

Whether you’re preparing for your first hearing, fighting post-decree motions, or simply trying to stay steady through the process, this episode offers both practical tools and deep validation.

Connect with Becky:

📚 Resources Mentioned:

  • Becky’s free 100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know download — available at beckysampson.com
  • The Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on documentation, parenting plans, and preparing for court.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-18150078 Wed, 12 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0700 3080 177 full false Ep 176: Double Standards in Narcissistic Abuse: How to Stay Grounded as a Co-Parent Ep 176: Double Standards in Narcissistic Abuse: How to Stay Grounded as a Co-Parent Do the double standards that show up in a narcissistic relationship and “co-parenting” relationship drive you crazy?

Double standards are a hallmark of narcissistic abuse and are pervasive even (maybe especially) after you have left the relationship.

In this episode we explore why someone with narcissism requires these double standards to work in their world and how the larger system allows and supports them to continue.  We also discuss ways in which you can lessen their emotional impact, decide if and when to engage and point the double standards out, and how best to do this to present as a good “co-parent.”

While the double standards will always be a part of any relationship your ex partner has, you can make shifts to not allow it to take so much of your emotional energy.

Be sure to listen to Episode 83: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/14356912-ep-83-co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-strategies-for-modifying-the-parenting-plan

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]]> Do the double standards that show up in a narcissistic relationship and “co-parenting” relationship drive you crazy?

Double standards are a hallmark of narcissistic abuse and are pervasive even (maybe especially) after you have left the relationship.

In this episode we explore why someone with narcissism requires these double standards to work in their world and how the larger system allows and supports them to continue.  We also discuss ways in which you can lessen their emotional impact, decide if and when to engage and point the double standards out, and how best to do this to present as a good “co-parent.”

While the double standards will always be a part of any relationship your ex partner has, you can make shifts to not allow it to take so much of your emotional energy.

Be sure to listen to Episode 83: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/14356912-ep-83-co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-strategies-for-modifying-the-parenting-plan

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18112400 Wed, 05 Nov 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1462 1 176 full false Bonus Coaching Session: How to Support Your Child’s Relationship with an Abusive Co-Parent (Without Gaslighting Them) Bonus Coaching Session: How to Support Your Child’s Relationship with an Abusive Co-Parent (Without Gaslighting Them) In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a mom’s heartfelt question that so many survivors share:

“How do I support my children’s relationship with their dad—because the court says I have to—while knowing he is emotionally and psychologically abusing them every week?”

This episode dives deep into one of the hardest balancing acts for protective parents: offering emotional honesty and safety without crossing into parental alienation.

You’ll hear strategies and validation around:

  • How to build felt safety for your children when the other home is unsafe.
  • Why it’s vital not to gaslight your kids—and what to say instead.
  • How to reflect what you see (“Your body looks like it needs to move after visits”) instead of judging or rescuing.
  • Using simple rituals and routines to help kids regulate after contact with the abusive parent.
  • How to teach emotional intelligence and discernment so your kids can identify safe people and unsafe behaviors.
  • Ways to contrast your safe home environment with the other parent’s behavior—without speaking negatively about them.
  • The truth that children need one consistent, unconditional, loving caregiver to build resilience—and that person can be you.

This episode is a compassionate guide for every survivor-parent navigating the impossible tension between protecting your children and being forced to “support” a relationship that hurts them.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 


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]]> In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a mom’s heartfelt question that so many survivors share:

“How do I support my children’s relationship with their dad—because the court says I have to—while knowing he is emotionally and psychologically abusing them every week?”

This episode dives deep into one of the hardest balancing acts for protective parents: offering emotional honesty and safety without crossing into parental alienation.

You’ll hear strategies and validation around:

  • How to build felt safety for your children when the other home is unsafe.
  • Why it’s vital not to gaslight your kids—and what to say instead.
  • How to reflect what you see (“Your body looks like it needs to move after visits”) instead of judging or rescuing.
  • Using simple rituals and routines to help kids regulate after contact with the abusive parent.
  • How to teach emotional intelligence and discernment so your kids can identify safe people and unsafe behaviors.
  • Ways to contrast your safe home environment with the other parent’s behavior—without speaking negatively about them.
  • The truth that children need one consistent, unconditional, loving caregiver to build resilience—and that person can be you.

This episode is a compassionate guide for every survivor-parent navigating the impossible tension between protecting your children and being forced to “support” a relationship that hurts them.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics. 


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17927992 Fri, 31 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 804 1 full true Ep 175: Protect Your Peace In Spite of Having to Communicate with Your “High Conflict” Co-Parent with Jill Kaufman Ep 175: Protect Your Peace In Spite of Having to Communicate with Your “High Conflict” Co-Parent with Jill Kaufman How do you communicate with someone who continues to abuse you post separation?

I cannot stress how important it is to learn how to communicate with your “high conflict” co-parent in ways that will protect you and your mental health in order to better protect your children.

In this episode I talk with Jill Kaufman about how she supports those going through a “high conflict” divorce and post separation abuse find peace in their lives while also having to communicate with their coparent about their children.  We discuss the pitfalls that many survivors fall into, how to pick your battles, and how to stop taking everything said personally to protect your peace.

Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course and transformative group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. 

Connect with Jill:

If you are struggling with communicating with your ex, Rising Beyond Power and Control offers many resources including our Canned Responses that can help when you just can’t find the words.


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]]> How do you communicate with someone who continues to abuse you post separation?

I cannot stress how important it is to learn how to communicate with your “high conflict” co-parent in ways that will protect you and your mental health in order to better protect your children.

In this episode I talk with Jill Kaufman about how she supports those going through a “high conflict” divorce and post separation abuse find peace in their lives while also having to communicate with their coparent about their children.  We discuss the pitfalls that many survivors fall into, how to pick your battles, and how to stop taking everything said personally to protect your peace.

Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course and transformative group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. 

Connect with Jill:

If you are struggling with communicating with your ex, Rising Beyond Power and Control offers many resources including our Canned Responses that can help when you just can’t find the words.


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-18081157 Wed, 29 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2468 1 175 full false Ep 174: Don’t Let Family Court Break You Ep 174: Don’t Let Family Court Break You Family court can feel like it’s designed to wear you down. The long waits, the unpredictability, the endless back-and-forth with your ex — it can seem impossible to get through without breaking.

But what if you didn’t have to let court define you?

In this episode, Sybil shares how survivors can walk through family court with steadiness and strength. Instead of waiting for one big “final win,” you’ll learn how to find momentum in small victories, focus your energy where it counts, and adopt key mindset shifts that protect your well-being along the way.

You’ll hear about:

  • Small wins that matter — how to recognize progress in the middle of a long battle.
  • Control vs. no control — a practical way to separate what deserves your energy from what doesn’t.
  • Mindset shifts that sustain you, including:
    • Court is a chapter, not your whole story.
    • Your strength is not defined by the outcome.
    • Preparation is power.
    • The courtroom doesn’t define your parenting.
    • Endurance over perfection.
    • Anchoring in values when the process feels chaotic.

Court is difficult — but with these strategies, it doesn’t have to break you.



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]]> Family court can feel like it’s designed to wear you down. The long waits, the unpredictability, the endless back-and-forth with your ex — it can seem impossible to get through without breaking.

But what if you didn’t have to let court define you?

In this episode, Sybil shares how survivors can walk through family court with steadiness and strength. Instead of waiting for one big “final win,” you’ll learn how to find momentum in small victories, focus your energy where it counts, and adopt key mindset shifts that protect your well-being along the way.

You’ll hear about:

  • Small wins that matter — how to recognize progress in the middle of a long battle.
  • Control vs. no control — a practical way to separate what deserves your energy from what doesn’t.
  • Mindset shifts that sustain you, including:
    • Court is a chapter, not your whole story.
    • Your strength is not defined by the outcome.
    • Preparation is power.
    • The courtroom doesn’t define your parenting.
    • Endurance over perfection.
    • Anchoring in values when the process feels chaotic.

Court is difficult — but with these strategies, it doesn’t have to break you.



Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-18011326 Wed, 22 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1561 1 174 full false Bonus Coaching Session: When Unconditional Love Looks Like “Being Walked Over” Bonus Coaching Session: When Unconditional Love Looks Like “Being Walked Over” In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a listener who’s six years post–custody loss and doing her best to stay connected with her teen daughter—while being accused of crossing boundaries and “embarrassing” her.

This mom wonders: “Am I doing okay? Or am I being walked over by my child and my ex?”

It’s a question many protective parents ask themselves when trying to balance compassion, boundaries, and the constant pressure to appear “perfect” under the court’s microscope.

In this episode, I explore:

  • What it means to show unconditional love without losing your footing.
  • How to reframe communication to focus on love, connection, and curiosity instead of control.
  • The difference between compassionate boundaries and compliance.
  • How to handle teens who use “therapy language” to push back or deflect.
  • Why you can (and should) stop caring what outsiders think.
  • Hope for parents who’ve lost time with their kids—how consistent, grounded love can bring them back in the long run.

This episode is for every parent who’s been told they’re “too soft,” when in reality, they’re showing incredible restraint and resilience in the face of impossible systems and emotionally complex parenting.

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.



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]]> In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a listener who’s six years post–custody loss and doing her best to stay connected with her teen daughter—while being accused of crossing boundaries and “embarrassing” her.

This mom wonders: “Am I doing okay? Or am I being walked over by my child and my ex?”

It’s a question many protective parents ask themselves when trying to balance compassion, boundaries, and the constant pressure to appear “perfect” under the court’s microscope.

In this episode, I explore:

  • What it means to show unconditional love without losing your footing.
  • How to reframe communication to focus on love, connection, and curiosity instead of control.
  • The difference between compassionate boundaries and compliance.
  • How to handle teens who use “therapy language” to push back or deflect.
  • Why you can (and should) stop caring what outsiders think.
  • Hope for parents who’ve lost time with their kids—how consistent, grounded love can bring them back in the long run.

This episode is for every parent who’s been told they’re “too soft,” when in reality, they’re showing incredible restraint and resilience in the face of impossible systems and emotionally complex parenting.

Want your question featured in a future Friday Coaching Corner? Send a short paragraph explaining your situation and 2–3 specific questions to info@risingbeyondpc.com.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17927785 Fri, 17 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 669 1 full false Ep 173: Staying Steady in Family Court: Handling Provocation and Curveball Questions Ep 173: Staying Steady in Family Court: Handling Provocation and Curveball Questions Walking into family court is intimidating enough — and then your ex smirks, rolls their eyes, or drops a lie designed to rattle you. On top of that, opposing counsel may throw you questions that feel like traps or come out of nowhere.

In this episode, Sybil breaks down how to keep your composure in court when your ex tries to provoke you, and how to handle curveball questions during cross-examination.

You’ll learn:

  • Why abusers use provocation in court and how judges often notice your reaction more than the provocation itself.
  • Simple emotional defense strategies — like the “poker face,” grounding tools, and focusing only on the judge.
  • The most common types of curveball questions attorneys ask (from vague to rapid-fire) and how to respond without being trapped.
  • Practical scripts for redirecting with calm and keeping the focus on your child’s needs.

These strategies don’t make court easy — but they can help you feel steady, credible, and prepared in a system that often feels stacked against you.



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]]> Walking into family court is intimidating enough — and then your ex smirks, rolls their eyes, or drops a lie designed to rattle you. On top of that, opposing counsel may throw you questions that feel like traps or come out of nowhere.

In this episode, Sybil breaks down how to keep your composure in court when your ex tries to provoke you, and how to handle curveball questions during cross-examination.

You’ll learn:

  • Why abusers use provocation in court and how judges often notice your reaction more than the provocation itself.
  • Simple emotional defense strategies — like the “poker face,” grounding tools, and focusing only on the judge.
  • The most common types of curveball questions attorneys ask (from vague to rapid-fire) and how to respond without being trapped.
  • Practical scripts for redirecting with calm and keeping the focus on your child’s needs.

These strategies don’t make court easy — but they can help you feel steady, credible, and prepared in a system that often feels stacked against you.



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]]> Buzzsprout-17986101 Wed, 15 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1836 1 173 full false Ep 172: Training Attorneys to Recognize Coercive Control — With Jill Montes and Dr. Ramona Ep 172: Training Attorneys to Recognize Coercive Control — With Jill Montes and Dr. Ramona Family court is often the last place survivors expect to or actually find safety, yet for so many, it’s where their battle continues. What if we could do something to change that?

I’m talking with Jill Montes and Dr. Ramona Probasco from the Healing While Living Free Foundation to talk about the systemic failures of family court, why survivors often lose their voice in the process, and what can actually be done to shift things, starting with training attorneys.

Together, we dive into:

  • Why family court isn’t designed for abuse cases and how survivors end up at a disadvantage from the start.
  • How abusers present in court vs. how survivors show up in trauma—and why courts often misinterpret both.
  • The dangerous myths that persist, like “mutual abuse” or “false reporting,” and how they harm protective parents.
  • Their new resource for attorneys and judges: practical do’s and don’ts to represent survivors safely and effectively.
  • The role of “super traits” like empathy and loyalty that make survivors vulnerable to abuse—and how to reclaim them as strengths.
  • Why training attorneys now matters for the future of family court.

We share with full honesty, lived experience, and hope for change. If you’re navigating family court or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and concrete ideas for next steps.

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]]> Family court is often the last place survivors expect to or actually find safety, yet for so many, it’s where their battle continues. What if we could do something to change that?

I’m talking with Jill Montes and Dr. Ramona Probasco from the Healing While Living Free Foundation to talk about the systemic failures of family court, why survivors often lose their voice in the process, and what can actually be done to shift things, starting with training attorneys.

Together, we dive into:

  • Why family court isn’t designed for abuse cases and how survivors end up at a disadvantage from the start.
  • How abusers present in court vs. how survivors show up in trauma—and why courts often misinterpret both.
  • The dangerous myths that persist, like “mutual abuse” or “false reporting,” and how they harm protective parents.
  • Their new resource for attorneys and judges: practical do’s and don’ts to represent survivors safely and effectively.
  • The role of “super traits” like empathy and loyalty that make survivors vulnerable to abuse—and how to reclaim them as strengths.
  • Why training attorneys now matters for the future of family court.

We share with full honesty, lived experience, and hope for change. If you’re navigating family court or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and concrete ideas for next steps.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17926571 Wed, 08 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 3002 1 172 full true Bonus Coaching Session: Rebuilding the Parent-Child Bond When the System Gets in the Way Bonus Coaching Session: Rebuilding the Parent-Child Bond When the System Gets in the Way In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a heartbreaking listener story that highlights just how overwhelming it can feel to keep fighting for your child when the family court system and even your own attorney seem to be standing in the way.

This listener’s ex-partner is refusing to comply with the court order requiring their child to participate in family therapy, therapy that could be covered by Medicaid, while continuing to manipulate both the child and the process. The result is devastating: a protective parent with only a weekly phone call and a mountain of grief, legal obstacles, and financial strain.

Questions Answered in this Episode:

  • How to use the exact language in your court order to advocate for family therapy.
  • The difference between family therapy and reunification therapy (and why it matters for insurance coverage).
  • Practical steps for documenting refusals and setting up a motion to compel, rather than just contempt proceedings.
  • Strategies for getting your unresponsive attorney to act, including how to organize your communications using the Rocks in a Jar method.
  • Where to turn for ADA accommodation requests or grievances in Colorado.
  • Speaking to the grief of being kept from your child—and why your early bond still matters.


This is a tough but important conversation. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the whole burden of advocacy while the system lets you down, I hope you find both validation and practical direction here.

Referred Links:
Rocks in a Jar video - https://www.canva.com/design/DAGv_UPUPeA/aGbiC6yT5hNhbsoevU-cQQ/edit
Project Justice USA Survey - https://www.projectjusticeusa.com/



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]]> In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a heartbreaking listener story that highlights just how overwhelming it can feel to keep fighting for your child when the family court system and even your own attorney seem to be standing in the way.

This listener’s ex-partner is refusing to comply with the court order requiring their child to participate in family therapy, therapy that could be covered by Medicaid, while continuing to manipulate both the child and the process. The result is devastating: a protective parent with only a weekly phone call and a mountain of grief, legal obstacles, and financial strain.

Questions Answered in this Episode:

  • How to use the exact language in your court order to advocate for family therapy.
  • The difference between family therapy and reunification therapy (and why it matters for insurance coverage).
  • Practical steps for documenting refusals and setting up a motion to compel, rather than just contempt proceedings.
  • Strategies for getting your unresponsive attorney to act, including how to organize your communications using the Rocks in a Jar method.
  • Where to turn for ADA accommodation requests or grievances in Colorado.
  • Speaking to the grief of being kept from your child—and why your early bond still matters.


This is a tough but important conversation. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the whole burden of advocacy while the system lets you down, I hope you find both validation and practical direction here.

Referred Links:
Rocks in a Jar video - https://www.canva.com/design/DAGv_UPUPeA/aGbiC6yT5hNhbsoevU-cQQ/edit
Project Justice USA Survey - https://www.projectjusticeusa.com/



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17863489 Fri, 03 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0600 910 1 full true Ep 171: How We Break Generational Cycles of Abuse — Together with Michael Brasher Ep 171: How We Break Generational Cycles of Abuse — Together with Michael Brasher What happens when you bring a passionate male advocate for survivors of domestic violence into a space that’s usually led by women? That’s what we're doing in this episode!

I talk with Michael, a rare but powerful male voice in this movement, to talk about the complexities of abuse, how children really experience it, and what it looks like for men to step into prevention and healing work.

Together, we cover:

  • An unexpected start: How a “mess around job” at a domestic violence shelter shifted Michael’s path and purpose.
  • Kids always know: Why children absorb far more than we think when abuse is happening at home.
  • The gender gap: What keeps men out of advocacy spaces—and what could change that.
  • Breaking cycles: Michael’s stories from working with boys and men, and how change actually happens.
  • Parenting through it: How survivors can support their children in building healthy relationships and identities.
  • The role of women: What’s yours to carry, and what isn’t, when it comes to men’s healing.

This conversation is honest, challenging, and full of hope. If you’ve ever wondered how to raise compassionate boys, how to include men in real culture change, or how to support your kids after abuse, this is one you won’t want to miss.

Michael Brasher, PhD, PCIC is a men's coach, researcher, and author working at the intersection of public health, gender, and racial justice. He helps men and boys unlearn toxic conditioning to build safe, equitable relationships with women, and engages them as allies in ending gender-based violence. His work focuses on the socialization of masculinity as a public health issue, with a research emphasis on domestic violence and anti-Blackness.

Connect with Michael:



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]]> What happens when you bring a passionate male advocate for survivors of domestic violence into a space that’s usually led by women? That’s what we're doing in this episode!

I talk with Michael, a rare but powerful male voice in this movement, to talk about the complexities of abuse, how children really experience it, and what it looks like for men to step into prevention and healing work.

Together, we cover:

  • An unexpected start: How a “mess around job” at a domestic violence shelter shifted Michael’s path and purpose.
  • Kids always know: Why children absorb far more than we think when abuse is happening at home.
  • The gender gap: What keeps men out of advocacy spaces—and what could change that.
  • Breaking cycles: Michael’s stories from working with boys and men, and how change actually happens.
  • Parenting through it: How survivors can support their children in building healthy relationships and identities.
  • The role of women: What’s yours to carry, and what isn’t, when it comes to men’s healing.

This conversation is honest, challenging, and full of hope. If you’ve ever wondered how to raise compassionate boys, how to include men in real culture change, or how to support your kids after abuse, this is one you won’t want to miss.

Michael Brasher, PhD, PCIC is a men's coach, researcher, and author working at the intersection of public health, gender, and racial justice. He helps men and boys unlearn toxic conditioning to build safe, equitable relationships with women, and engages them as allies in ending gender-based violence. His work focuses on the socialization of masculinity as a public health issue, with a research emphasis on domestic violence and anti-Blackness.

Connect with Michael:



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17856571 Wed, 01 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2801 1 171 full false Ep 170: Why Custody Decisions Need a Pattern-Based Approach When There has Been Coercive Control Ep 170: Why Custody Decisions Need a Pattern-Based Approach When There has Been Coercive Control When it comes to domestic violence and coercive control, the systems we rely on to protect children are often looking at the wrong thing.

Instead of assessing for patterns like, long-term, consistent dynamics of fear, control, and power imbalances, many custody decisions are still made based on isolated incidents. And that’s a huge problem.

In this solo episode, I’m sharing why we need a major shift in how we assess safety, parenting, attachment, and the best interests of the child, and how a pattern-based approach can more accurately reflect the lived experience of survivors and their children.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why coercive control often doesn’t show up in isolated “incidents”
  • How this outdated model fails kids in custody evaluations
  • Why it can take months or even a year for a child to feel safe enough to reveal the full picture in therapy
  • The dangers of assuming we can determine a child’s best interest after two brief sessions with an evaluator

Whether you're a survivor navigating the family court system or a professional working in this space, this episode offers clarity and validation, and a call to do better by the families most impacted.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> When it comes to domestic violence and coercive control, the systems we rely on to protect children are often looking at the wrong thing.

Instead of assessing for patterns like, long-term, consistent dynamics of fear, control, and power imbalances, many custody decisions are still made based on isolated incidents. And that’s a huge problem.

In this solo episode, I’m sharing why we need a major shift in how we assess safety, parenting, attachment, and the best interests of the child, and how a pattern-based approach can more accurately reflect the lived experience of survivors and their children.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why coercive control often doesn’t show up in isolated “incidents”
  • How this outdated model fails kids in custody evaluations
  • Why it can take months or even a year for a child to feel safe enough to reveal the full picture in therapy
  • The dangers of assuming we can determine a child’s best interest after two brief sessions with an evaluator

Whether you're a survivor navigating the family court system or a professional working in this space, this episode offers clarity and validation, and a call to do better by the families most impacted.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17863149 Wed, 24 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1227 1 170 full false Bonus Coaching Session: How to Feel Safe When Your Abusive Ex Lives Next Door (and More) Bonus Coaching Session: How to Feel Safe When Your Abusive Ex Lives Next Door (and More) Welcome to our very first Friday Coaching Corner! In this session, I answer questions from a listener navigating the challenges of living near her abusive ex, parenting through manipulation, and dealing with silent treatment in co-parenting apps.

The listener shares that her ex still lives in an outbuilding on the marital property, creating constant stress and safety concerns. On top of that, her ex is weaponizing the children against her, and she’s experiencing co-parenting sabotage through both denial of parenting time and the silent treatment in their communication app.

I answer these questions...

  1. How can I create a sense of safety in my home when my abusive ex lives so close by?
  2. How do I respond when my 13-year-old mimics my ex’s critical tone and behavior toward me, and how should I explain this shift to their therapist?
  3. What strategies can I use when my co-parent stops responding to messages and uses the silent treatment as a tactic?

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics.

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]]> Welcome to our very first Friday Coaching Corner! In this session, I answer questions from a listener navigating the challenges of living near her abusive ex, parenting through manipulation, and dealing with silent treatment in co-parenting apps.

The listener shares that her ex still lives in an outbuilding on the marital property, creating constant stress and safety concerns. On top of that, her ex is weaponizing the children against her, and she’s experiencing co-parenting sabotage through both denial of parenting time and the silent treatment in their communication app.

I answer these questions...

  1. How can I create a sense of safety in my home when my abusive ex lives so close by?
  2. How do I respond when my 13-year-old mimics my ex’s critical tone and behavior toward me, and how should I explain this shift to their therapist?
  3. What strategies can I use when my co-parent stops responding to messages and uses the silent treatment as a tactic?

Want to have your questions featured on a Friday Coaching Corner? Send me a short summary of your situation and 2–3 questions at info@risingbeyondpc.com.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not legal advice, mental health treatment, or a substitute for advice from professionals familiar with your specific situation. Every parenting plan and court order is different. If you have questions about your legal obligations or your child's safety, consult with a qualified attorney and other professionals knowledgeable about coercive control and family court dynamics.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17856129 Fri, 19 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1093 full false Ep 169: Rebuilding Connection with Your Older Teen or Adult Child After Post-Separation Abuse Ep 169: Rebuilding Connection with Your Older Teen or Adult Child After Post-Separation Abuse After years of surviving post-separation abuse and high-conflict co-parenting, you may find yourself disconnected from your older teen or adult child. Maybe they’re distant. Maybe they believe things about you that aren’t true. Or maybe they just don’t seem to want a relationship anymore. It can be heartbreaking.

Listen for ideas on how to begin rebuilding a stronger, more grounded connection with teenager or adult child, even when the path feels uncertain.

We cover:

  • The emotional and developmental landscape of older teens and young adults
  • How loyalty binds, trauma, and autonomy affect the parent-child dynamic
  • Common emotional struggles parents face — like grief, guilt, and helplessness
  • Small but powerful ways to reopen communication and rebuild trust
  • The importance of boundaries — for you and for them
  • How to let go of control while still showing up with love and steadiness
  • What to do if your child isn’t ready (yet) to reconnect

I hope this episode leaves you feeling more grounded in your role as a parent, even if the relationship looks different than you hoped, and more confident in taking steps toward authentic, lasting connection.

Want to share your experience or ask a question for a future episode? You can do that anonymously via https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/podcasts.html or email me at info@risingbeyondpc.com.



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]]> After years of surviving post-separation abuse and high-conflict co-parenting, you may find yourself disconnected from your older teen or adult child. Maybe they’re distant. Maybe they believe things about you that aren’t true. Or maybe they just don’t seem to want a relationship anymore. It can be heartbreaking.

Listen for ideas on how to begin rebuilding a stronger, more grounded connection with teenager or adult child, even when the path feels uncertain.

We cover:

  • The emotional and developmental landscape of older teens and young adults
  • How loyalty binds, trauma, and autonomy affect the parent-child dynamic
  • Common emotional struggles parents face — like grief, guilt, and helplessness
  • Small but powerful ways to reopen communication and rebuild trust
  • The importance of boundaries — for you and for them
  • How to let go of control while still showing up with love and steadiness
  • What to do if your child isn’t ready (yet) to reconnect

I hope this episode leaves you feeling more grounded in your role as a parent, even if the relationship looks different than you hoped, and more confident in taking steps toward authentic, lasting connection.

Want to share your experience or ask a question for a future episode? You can do that anonymously via https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/podcasts.html or email me at info@risingbeyondpc.com.



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]]> Buzzsprout-17855805 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1842 1 169 full false Ep 168: Finding Yourself After Abuse: Human Design as a Path to Healing with Erin Siegel Ep 168: Finding Yourself After Abuse: Human Design as a Path to Healing with Erin Siegel One of the most horrific and insidious consequences of coercive control and dv is the systematic way in which an abuser strips away their victim’s sense of self and identity. One of the most impactful parts of the healing process is rebuilding that connection with the self and redefining your roles and identities. 

On this episode, I invited my friend and colleague, Erin Siegel to share how the framework of Human Design has been pivotal as she heals from her abuse and continued post separation abuse and how it could be a tool for your healing as well.

Erin Siegel, Master Aesthetician, Certified High Conflict Divorce and Parenting Coach, and Human Design guide and Creatrix of Fortitude & Flourish, shares how this powerful system has supported her own transformation and how it can support yours, especially while navigating healing trauma and navigating the family courts.

Books Mentioned:
• A Modern Guide to Human Design by Rachel Lieberman
• The Definitive Book of Human Design: The Science of Differentiation by Ra Uru Hu & Lynda Bunnell

Human Design App:
• HDesign App – Why we love it: You can add your children’s charts and gain insights on how to parent and relate more consciously.

Explore your unique blueprint and connect with community through one of our upcoming events:
→ Human Design Social Gathering
→ Divorce Unlocked Community Gatherings

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Text your name, phone number, email, and a brief note about how you’ve risen beyond power and control to 720-933-8848.
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The winner will be announced on IG and contacted directly!

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]]> One of the most horrific and insidious consequences of coercive control and dv is the systematic way in which an abuser strips away their victim’s sense of self and identity. One of the most impactful parts of the healing process is rebuilding that connection with the self and redefining your roles and identities. 

On this episode, I invited my friend and colleague, Erin Siegel to share how the framework of Human Design has been pivotal as she heals from her abuse and continued post separation abuse and how it could be a tool for your healing as well.

Erin Siegel, Master Aesthetician, Certified High Conflict Divorce and Parenting Coach, and Human Design guide and Creatrix of Fortitude & Flourish, shares how this powerful system has supported her own transformation and how it can support yours, especially while navigating healing trauma and navigating the family courts.

Books Mentioned:
• A Modern Guide to Human Design by Rachel Lieberman
• The Definitive Book of Human Design: The Science of Differentiation by Ra Uru Hu & Lynda Bunnell

Human Design App:
• HDesign App – Why we love it: You can add your children’s charts and gain insights on how to parent and relate more consciously.

Explore your unique blueprint and connect with community through one of our upcoming events:
→ Human Design Social Gathering
→ Divorce Unlocked Community Gatherings

GIVEAWAY!
Win a free pair of tickets to the Human Design Social Gathering
Text your name, phone number, email, and a brief note about how you’ve risen beyond power and control to 720-933-8848.
Deadline: 1 week after this episode airs.
The winner will be announced on IG and contacted directly!

Book your complimentary coaching call with Erin here:
https://calendly.com/fortitudeandflourish/holistic-coaching-complimentary-discovery-call



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]]> Buzzsprout-17790608 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0600 3083 1 168 full true Ep 167: The Pressure to be the Perfect Mom and How to Break Free with Stephanie Konter-O'Hara Ep 167: The Pressure to be the Perfect Mom and How to Break Free with Stephanie Konter-O'Hara For many survivors, the deepest wound from coercive control is the loss of your connection to who you truly are. And for many women, especially protective mothers, your role as a mom becomes so entwined with your identity that life changes. Whether it's from abuse, family court challenges, or shifting seasons of parenting. It can all feel cataclysmic.

I’m joined by my friend and colleague, Stephanie Konter- O’Hara, LPC, to have an honest conversation about rebuilding identity after abuse. We explore how societal pressures, “supermom” expectations, and systemic biases in parenting roles impact women’s sense of worth. We also share tips for reconnecting with your authentic self, redefining your roles, and parenting in alignment with your values, even under the watchful eye of family court or in the face of counter-parenting.

We cover:

  • Why abuse and coercive control so effectively strip away identity and autonomy
  • The difference between “role” and “identity” in parenting for mothers and fathers
  • How societal biases and family court systems reinforce perfectionism for moms
  • The dangers of tying your worth to “performing” motherhood perfectly
  • How to reframe parenting decisions through values rather than outside pressure
  • Why connection, not perfection, creates lasting impact on your kids
  • Navigating limited or supervised parenting time while keeping connection alive
  • The role of community and shared stories in healing from relational trauma

Whether you’re still in the storm of family court or finally in a season where healing feels possible, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and reminders that you are already enough just as you are.

Connect with Stephanie:

  • Instagram: @redefining_us_pod
  • Website: www.wellmindedcounseling.com/redefining_us_pod

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]]> For many survivors, the deepest wound from coercive control is the loss of your connection to who you truly are. And for many women, especially protective mothers, your role as a mom becomes so entwined with your identity that life changes. Whether it's from abuse, family court challenges, or shifting seasons of parenting. It can all feel cataclysmic.

I’m joined by my friend and colleague, Stephanie Konter- O’Hara, LPC, to have an honest conversation about rebuilding identity after abuse. We explore how societal pressures, “supermom” expectations, and systemic biases in parenting roles impact women’s sense of worth. We also share tips for reconnecting with your authentic self, redefining your roles, and parenting in alignment with your values, even under the watchful eye of family court or in the face of counter-parenting.

We cover:

  • Why abuse and coercive control so effectively strip away identity and autonomy
  • The difference between “role” and “identity” in parenting for mothers and fathers
  • How societal biases and family court systems reinforce perfectionism for moms
  • The dangers of tying your worth to “performing” motherhood perfectly
  • How to reframe parenting decisions through values rather than outside pressure
  • Why connection, not perfection, creates lasting impact on your kids
  • Navigating limited or supervised parenting time while keeping connection alive
  • The role of community and shared stories in healing from relational trauma

Whether you’re still in the storm of family court or finally in a season where healing feels possible, this episode offers hope, practical tools, and reminders that you are already enough just as you are.

Connect with Stephanie:

  • Instagram: @redefining_us_pod
  • Website: www.wellmindedcounseling.com/redefining_us_pod

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17770521 Wed, 03 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0600 2985 1 167 full true Ep 166: My Child Won’t Open Up to the Therapist… Now what? Ep 166: My Child Won’t Open Up to the Therapist… Now what? You worked SO hard to find a therapist for your child and getting consent from your ex was no easy feat.  And now your child isn’t talking.

If your child isn’t talking in therapy — or worse, tells you it’s “boring” or “pointless” — you’re not alone. Many parents feel discouraged or even panicked when therapy doesn’t look the way they expected. In this episode, I’ll walk you through the common reasons children (especially those navigating trauma or high-conflict family dynamics) may shut down in therapy — and what you can do to support the process without getting in the way.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why silence in therapy isn’t necessarily a bad sign
  • What NOT to do when your child seems disengaged
  • Simple ways to support trust-building between your child and their therapist
  • When (and how) to check in with the therapist
  • Why patience and presence are your superpowers as a parent

You’ll leave with practical ideas and a deeper understanding of how healing actually starts for kids — even when they’re not saying much.



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]]> You worked SO hard to find a therapist for your child and getting consent from your ex was no easy feat.  And now your child isn’t talking.

If your child isn’t talking in therapy — or worse, tells you it’s “boring” or “pointless” — you’re not alone. Many parents feel discouraged or even panicked when therapy doesn’t look the way they expected. In this episode, I’ll walk you through the common reasons children (especially those navigating trauma or high-conflict family dynamics) may shut down in therapy — and what you can do to support the process without getting in the way.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why silence in therapy isn’t necessarily a bad sign
  • What NOT to do when your child seems disengaged
  • Simple ways to support trust-building between your child and their therapist
  • When (and how) to check in with the therapist
  • Why patience and presence are your superpowers as a parent

You’ll leave with practical ideas and a deeper understanding of how healing actually starts for kids — even when they’re not saying much.



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]]> Buzzsprout-17698564 Wed, 27 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0600 1641 1 166 full false Ep 165: Back to School Stressors: Coparenting with a Narcissist Ep 165: Back to School Stressors: Coparenting with a Narcissist It’s that time of the year when kids go back to school. This is stressful for most families, but if you are coparenting with a narcissist the stress can increase exponentially.  

In this episode we are talking about how the start of the school year opens up opportunities for your ex to double down on their smear campaign, their continued expectations of you to be their secretary even though you are no longer together, and other ways they cause chaos at the school.  But, there are things that you can do to minimize their attacks and maintain your sanity during a stressful time of year. Listen for some tips. 



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]]> It’s that time of the year when kids go back to school. This is stressful for most families, but if you are coparenting with a narcissist the stress can increase exponentially.  

In this episode we are talking about how the start of the school year opens up opportunities for your ex to double down on their smear campaign, their continued expectations of you to be their secretary even though you are no longer together, and other ways they cause chaos at the school.  But, there are things that you can do to minimize their attacks and maintain your sanity during a stressful time of year. Listen for some tips. 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17678298 Wed, 20 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1321 1 165 full false Ep 164: Inside CPS: Navigating the System as a Survivor with guest Christine Garcia, LPC Ep 164: Inside CPS: Navigating the System as a Survivor with guest Christine Garcia, LPC If you’ve ever had to interact with Child Protective Services (CPS), you know the process can feel confusing, overwhelming, and, let’s be honest, downright terrifying. Whether you’ve made a report, had one made against you, or are just trying to protect your child in the midst of a high-conflict situation, understanding the system is key.

In this episode, I’m speaking with Christine Garcia, LPC, a seasoned therapist and fierce advocate for families, to demystify what actually happens when CPS gets involved. Together, we discuss how the system works (and how it doesn’t), what survivors of domestic violence need to know, and how to best communicate and document when CPS is part of your reality.

We don’t shy away from the hard stuff, like how the system can retraumatize survivors or misunderstand coercive control, but we also offer practical tips for how to protect yourself and your child through the process.

Connect with Christine:

https://cwccolorado.com/

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]]> If you’ve ever had to interact with Child Protective Services (CPS), you know the process can feel confusing, overwhelming, and, let’s be honest, downright terrifying. Whether you’ve made a report, had one made against you, or are just trying to protect your child in the midst of a high-conflict situation, understanding the system is key.

In this episode, I’m speaking with Christine Garcia, LPC, a seasoned therapist and fierce advocate for families, to demystify what actually happens when CPS gets involved. Together, we discuss how the system works (and how it doesn’t), what survivors of domestic violence need to know, and how to best communicate and document when CPS is part of your reality.

We don’t shy away from the hard stuff, like how the system can retraumatize survivors or misunderstand coercive control, but we also offer practical tips for how to protect yourself and your child through the process.

Connect with Christine:

https://cwccolorado.com/

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]]> Buzzsprout-17661040 Wed, 13 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2978 1 164 full false Ep 163: When Power Doesn’t Listen: The Cost of Excluding Survivors from the Conversation Ep 163: When Power Doesn’t Listen: The Cost of Excluding Survivors from the Conversation In this episode, I go on a bit of a rant—and for good reason.

When people in positions of power make sweeping decisions without input from the people most affected, the results are often not just ineffective… they’re harmful.

I share a recent example from my own therapy practice, where state-level Medicaid changes made by HCPF (Colorado’s Department of Health Care Policy & Financing) have had huge ripple effects—harming my team’s ability to provide care and hurting the very clients those changes were supposed to help.

And unfortunately, this isn’t a one-off issue. It’s a pattern we see all the time in the family court system.

Survivors of domestic violence are rarely invited to the table when reforms are discussed or policies are implemented. Professionals make assumptions, apply blanket solutions, and often ignore the lived experiences of the people navigating these systems every single day.

In this episode, I explore:

  • Why top-down decisions without feedback loops cause damage
  • How survivors are continuously silenced and sidelined in court processes
  • The emotional toll of fighting systems that claim to help—but don’t listen
  • Why true change must include the voices of those impacted

Whether you’ve felt powerless in court, frustrated by the mental health system, or just plain angry at the disconnect between what’s needed and what’s delivered—this one’s for you.

Tune in and share your own story. We need more survivor voices in these conversations.



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]]> In this episode, I go on a bit of a rant—and for good reason.

When people in positions of power make sweeping decisions without input from the people most affected, the results are often not just ineffective… they’re harmful.

I share a recent example from my own therapy practice, where state-level Medicaid changes made by HCPF (Colorado’s Department of Health Care Policy & Financing) have had huge ripple effects—harming my team’s ability to provide care and hurting the very clients those changes were supposed to help.

And unfortunately, this isn’t a one-off issue. It’s a pattern we see all the time in the family court system.

Survivors of domestic violence are rarely invited to the table when reforms are discussed or policies are implemented. Professionals make assumptions, apply blanket solutions, and often ignore the lived experiences of the people navigating these systems every single day.

In this episode, I explore:

  • Why top-down decisions without feedback loops cause damage
  • How survivors are continuously silenced and sidelined in court processes
  • The emotional toll of fighting systems that claim to help—but don’t listen
  • Why true change must include the voices of those impacted

Whether you’ve felt powerless in court, frustrated by the mental health system, or just plain angry at the disconnect between what’s needed and what’s delivered—this one’s for you.

Tune in and share your own story. We need more survivor voices in these conversations.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17621439 Wed, 06 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1475 1 163 full true Ep 162: Financial Healing for Survivors: Undoing Toxic Money Messages with Khara Croswaite Brindle, LPC, CFT Ep 162: Financial Healing for Survivors: Undoing Toxic Money Messages with Khara Croswaite Brindle, LPC, CFT Money isn't just about numbers—it's about our stories, our sense of worth, and the messages we've absorbed over time.

In this powerful episode, I'm speaking with a financial therapist (and friend) Khara, Croswaite Brindle, LPC, CFT to explore how our beliefs about money are deeply shaped by our past—especially for survivors of abuse. We talk about how messages from childhood, cultural conditioning, and the experience of financial abuse or control from an ex-partner can distort the way we view ourselves and our financial decisions.

If you've ever felt shame, fear, or confusion around money, or if you've found yourself stuck in scarcity or self-sabotage, tune into this one.

Khara also shares practical tools and mindset shifts you can start using today to challenge negative money beliefs and begin healing your relationship with finances. You’ll learn that financial wellness isn't just about saving or budgeting—it's about reclaiming your autonomy and rewriting the story that money tells about you.

Connect with Khara:

  • https://www.linkedin.com/in/kharacroswaite/
  • https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/financial-therapy
  • https://www.instagram.com/kharacroswaite/

References:

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]]> Money isn't just about numbers—it's about our stories, our sense of worth, and the messages we've absorbed over time.

In this powerful episode, I'm speaking with a financial therapist (and friend) Khara, Croswaite Brindle, LPC, CFT to explore how our beliefs about money are deeply shaped by our past—especially for survivors of abuse. We talk about how messages from childhood, cultural conditioning, and the experience of financial abuse or control from an ex-partner can distort the way we view ourselves and our financial decisions.

If you've ever felt shame, fear, or confusion around money, or if you've found yourself stuck in scarcity or self-sabotage, tune into this one.

Khara also shares practical tools and mindset shifts you can start using today to challenge negative money beliefs and begin healing your relationship with finances. You’ll learn that financial wellness isn't just about saving or budgeting—it's about reclaiming your autonomy and rewriting the story that money tells about you.

Connect with Khara:

  • https://www.linkedin.com/in/kharacroswaite/
  • https://croswaitecounselingpllc.com/financial-therapy
  • https://www.instagram.com/kharacroswaite/

References:

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]]> Buzzsprout-17547980 Wed, 30 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2870 1 162 full false Ep 161: You’re Not Broken—How Abuse Creates the “Not Enough” Belief Ep 161: You’re Not Broken—How Abuse Creates the “Not Enough” Belief If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough, no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore how trauma and post-separation abuse can wire your brain for shame, self-doubt, and a deep sense of inadequacy.

You’ll learn how those “not good enough” beliefs aren’t your truth - instead you’ll see that they are neural pathways shaped by chronic invalidation, coercion, and fear. And most importantly, you’ll hear ways to begin disrupting that narrative and cultivating a sense of worthiness from within.

In this episode I talk about:

  • Why survivors of abuse often carry deep-seated beliefs of inadequacy
  • How trauma and repeated invalidation shape your brain’s sense of self
  • Small, doable acts of self-trust that begin to rewire that belief
  • How to root into your values and start showing up for yourself
  • The power of recognizing this belief as part of the trauma, not your identity

You don’t have to be perfect, healed, or strong all the time to be enough. You already are.

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]]> If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough, no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore how trauma and post-separation abuse can wire your brain for shame, self-doubt, and a deep sense of inadequacy.

You’ll learn how those “not good enough” beliefs aren’t your truth - instead you’ll see that they are neural pathways shaped by chronic invalidation, coercion, and fear. And most importantly, you’ll hear ways to begin disrupting that narrative and cultivating a sense of worthiness from within.

In this episode I talk about:

  • Why survivors of abuse often carry deep-seated beliefs of inadequacy
  • How trauma and repeated invalidation shape your brain’s sense of self
  • Small, doable acts of self-trust that begin to rewire that belief
  • How to root into your values and start showing up for yourself
  • The power of recognizing this belief as part of the trauma, not your identity

You don’t have to be perfect, healed, or strong all the time to be enough. You already are.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17542152 Wed, 23 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1441 1 161 full false Ep 160: Episode 160: What to Do When Trauma and Post Separation Abuse Hijack Your Executive Functioning Ep 160: Episode 160: What to Do When Trauma and Post Separation Abuse Hijack Your Executive Functioning If you’ve ever found yourself staring at a to-do list, knowing what needs to get done but feeling completely stuck… you're not alone.

You know what needs to get done. You even want to do it. But the overwhelm hits like a wave and suddenly the dishwasher, the court papers, the email you need to send—it all feels impossible.

This week’s podcast episode is for those days.

In this episode, I break down how trauma, and especially the ongoing stress of post-separation abuse, disrupts your brain’s executive function. 

If you're beating yourself up for not being "productive enough," please give this episode a listen. You’ll walk away with a little more compassion for yourself—and a few tools to make life feel a bit more manageable.

Ep 158: Felt Safety After Trauma: Why You Can’t Heal Without It https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17419028



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]]> If you’ve ever found yourself staring at a to-do list, knowing what needs to get done but feeling completely stuck… you're not alone.

You know what needs to get done. You even want to do it. But the overwhelm hits like a wave and suddenly the dishwasher, the court papers, the email you need to send—it all feels impossible.

This week’s podcast episode is for those days.

In this episode, I break down how trauma, and especially the ongoing stress of post-separation abuse, disrupts your brain’s executive function. 

If you're beating yourself up for not being "productive enough," please give this episode a listen. You’ll walk away with a little more compassion for yourself—and a few tools to make life feel a bit more manageable.

Ep 158: Felt Safety After Trauma: Why You Can’t Heal Without It https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/17419028



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]]> Buzzsprout-17497004 Wed, 16 Jul 2025 07:00:00 -0600 1727 1 160 full false Ep 159: Misbehavior at One Home: What It Really Says About Your Child’s Safety Ep 159: Misbehavior at One Home: What It Really Says About Your Child’s Safety Your ex says, “They don’t act that way at my house,” and then the GAL or judge deems that you are the worst parent?

If you’re the parent your child melts down with, you might be blamed for being too soft, too emotional, or too permissive. But what if your child is acting this way because they feel safe with you?

We're diving into the misunderstood dynamics of how children behave differently between two homes, especially when one home is rooted in coercive control or emotional unsafety. I’ll explore why your child might appear calm and obedient in one environment but fall apart in another, and why this behavior is often misinterpreted in court or by professionals.

You’ll learn:

  • Why “good” behavior doesn’t always mean a child feels safe
  • What trauma responses can look like in kids—especially freeze, fawn, or performative behaviors
  • Why emotional outbursts may signal trust in the safe parent
  • How family court often gets this dynamic wrong, and how to reframe it
  • What protective parents can do to validate their own experience and advocate for their child

If you’ve been made to feel like the problem because your child cries, resists transitions, or has big feelings in your care—this episode is for you.

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]]> Your ex says, “They don’t act that way at my house,” and then the GAL or judge deems that you are the worst parent?

If you’re the parent your child melts down with, you might be blamed for being too soft, too emotional, or too permissive. But what if your child is acting this way because they feel safe with you?

We're diving into the misunderstood dynamics of how children behave differently between two homes, especially when one home is rooted in coercive control or emotional unsafety. I’ll explore why your child might appear calm and obedient in one environment but fall apart in another, and why this behavior is often misinterpreted in court or by professionals.

You’ll learn:

  • Why “good” behavior doesn’t always mean a child feels safe
  • What trauma responses can look like in kids—especially freeze, fawn, or performative behaviors
  • Why emotional outbursts may signal trust in the safe parent
  • How family court often gets this dynamic wrong, and how to reframe it
  • What protective parents can do to validate their own experience and advocate for their child

If you’ve been made to feel like the problem because your child cries, resists transitions, or has big feelings in your care—this episode is for you.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17472928 Wed, 09 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1173 1 159 full true Ep 158: Felt Safety After Trauma: Why You Can’t Heal Without It Ep 158: Felt Safety After Trauma: Why You Can’t Heal Without It What happens when the world tells you that you need “safety” to heal from trauma, but your life after leaving abuse still feels anything but safe?

We’re talking about felt safety—what it is, why it matters, and how to begin creating moments of it even when post-separation abuse is ongoing.

Sybil talks about:

  • The difference between actual safety and felt safety
  • Why most trauma therapies rely on safety as a starting point, and what to do when that’s not your reality
  • How felt safety helps your nervous system shift out of survival mode, even in tiny doses
  • Tools for creating micro-moments of safety in your body, relationships, and environment
  • Why your child’s behavior may be linked to their sense of safety—and how to foster it, even when co-parenting with someone who is harmful

Drawing on the work of trauma and attachment expert Robyn Gobbel, we explore how felt safety unlocks the door to healing, and how you can offer that gift to yourself and your children starting today.

Whether you're in the thick of court battles, navigating scary transitions, or just feeling stuck in survival mode—this episode is here to remind you: you don’t have to wait to be “safe” to start healing.

Link to - Episode 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW.

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]]> What happens when the world tells you that you need “safety” to heal from trauma, but your life after leaving abuse still feels anything but safe?

We’re talking about felt safety—what it is, why it matters, and how to begin creating moments of it even when post-separation abuse is ongoing.

Sybil talks about:

  • The difference between actual safety and felt safety
  • Why most trauma therapies rely on safety as a starting point, and what to do when that’s not your reality
  • How felt safety helps your nervous system shift out of survival mode, even in tiny doses
  • Tools for creating micro-moments of safety in your body, relationships, and environment
  • Why your child’s behavior may be linked to their sense of safety—and how to foster it, even when co-parenting with someone who is harmful

Drawing on the work of trauma and attachment expert Robyn Gobbel, we explore how felt safety unlocks the door to healing, and how you can offer that gift to yourself and your children starting today.

Whether you're in the thick of court battles, navigating scary transitions, or just feeling stuck in survival mode—this episode is here to remind you: you don’t have to wait to be “safe” to start healing.

Link to - Episode 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW.

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]]> Buzzsprout-17419028 Wed, 02 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1832 1 158 full false Ep 157: “High-Conflict” Divorce and Special Needs Kids: What Every Protective Parent Should Know with guest Dr. Susan Bernstein Ep 157: “High-Conflict” Divorce and Special Needs Kids: What Every Protective Parent Should Know with guest Dr. Susan Bernstein Navigating a high-conflict divorce is overwhelming on its own — but when you're also raising a child with special needs? The legal, emotional, and logistical challenges multiply.

In this important conversation, Sybil sits down with Dr. Susan Bernstein, a Certified Divorce Coach and expert in high-conflict divorce involving children with special needs. Drawing from her experience as both a professional and a mother of a child with severe special needs, Susan shares critical insights, concrete strategies, and the systemic gaps families must prepare for.

Whether you're in the thick of a custody battle, advocating for services, or worried about long-term care and planning — this episode will offer clarity, hope, and tangible next steps.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why the divorce rate is significantly higher for parents of children with special needs
  • How high-conflict personalities often resist diagnosis or care for their child — and what that means for legal decision-making
  • The long-term financial, medical, and educational planning you must include in your parenting plan
  • How to structure a tiered parenting plan with clear benchmarks and consequences
  • The importance of documenting behaviors instead of using psychological labels in court
  • Why many parents of special needs kids don’t get the relief of a countdown to 18 — and what long-term advocacy really looks like
  • The surprising “silver lining” of divorce when it comes to planning for a child’s lifelong care

Connect w Dr. Susan:

G: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach__plus/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/SusanKBernsteincdc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-susan-bernstein-new-york-s-premier-divorce-coach-5aa32510/

https://www.divorcecoachplus.com/

https://divorcewithspecialneedschildren.com/

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]]> Navigating a high-conflict divorce is overwhelming on its own — but when you're also raising a child with special needs? The legal, emotional, and logistical challenges multiply.

In this important conversation, Sybil sits down with Dr. Susan Bernstein, a Certified Divorce Coach and expert in high-conflict divorce involving children with special needs. Drawing from her experience as both a professional and a mother of a child with severe special needs, Susan shares critical insights, concrete strategies, and the systemic gaps families must prepare for.

Whether you're in the thick of a custody battle, advocating for services, or worried about long-term care and planning — this episode will offer clarity, hope, and tangible next steps.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why the divorce rate is significantly higher for parents of children with special needs
  • How high-conflict personalities often resist diagnosis or care for their child — and what that means for legal decision-making
  • The long-term financial, medical, and educational planning you must include in your parenting plan
  • How to structure a tiered parenting plan with clear benchmarks and consequences
  • The importance of documenting behaviors instead of using psychological labels in court
  • Why many parents of special needs kids don’t get the relief of a countdown to 18 — and what long-term advocacy really looks like
  • The surprising “silver lining” of divorce when it comes to planning for a child’s lifelong care

Connect w Dr. Susan:

G: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach__plus/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/SusanKBernsteincdc

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-susan-bernstein-new-york-s-premier-divorce-coach-5aa32510/

https://www.divorcecoachplus.com/

https://divorcewithspecialneedschildren.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17391737 Wed, 25 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2609 1 157 full false Ep 156: How to Reclaim Your Identity After Coercive Control and Narcissistic Abuse Ep 156: How to Reclaim Your Identity After Coercive Control and Narcissistic Abuse Ever look in the mirror and think, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?

If you've survived a coercive, abusive relationship — or are still dealing with the chaos of post-separation abuse — that feeling isn’t just common, it’s expected. You’ve been in survival mode for so long that things like identity, purpose, and values may feel like luxuries you can’t afford.

But what if reconnecting with your values is exactly what helps you move forward.

In this episode Sybil gets real about what happens to your sense of self after abuse — and how you can begin to reclaim it, even if you're still living in the storm of post-separation chaos. She’ll walk you through how your values got buried (or used against you), why reconnecting with them is not optional for healing, and a powerful exercise that helps uncover what truly matters to you.

This is not about reinventing yourself — it’s about remembering who you are.

You'll Learn:

  • Why your values were likely distorted or silenced during the abuse
  • How moral injury shows up when you're forced to act against your beliefs
  • What your current pain might reveal about your deepest values
  • A powerful journaling exercise to help you reconnect with your truth
  • How to start living by your values again — even in tiny ways — and why that changes everything

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Ever look in the mirror and think, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?

If you've survived a coercive, abusive relationship — or are still dealing with the chaos of post-separation abuse — that feeling isn’t just common, it’s expected. You’ve been in survival mode for so long that things like identity, purpose, and values may feel like luxuries you can’t afford.

But what if reconnecting with your values is exactly what helps you move forward.

In this episode Sybil gets real about what happens to your sense of self after abuse — and how you can begin to reclaim it, even if you're still living in the storm of post-separation chaos. She’ll walk you through how your values got buried (or used against you), why reconnecting with them is not optional for healing, and a powerful exercise that helps uncover what truly matters to you.

This is not about reinventing yourself — it’s about remembering who you are.

You'll Learn:

  • Why your values were likely distorted or silenced during the abuse
  • How moral injury shows up when you're forced to act against your beliefs
  • What your current pain might reveal about your deepest values
  • A powerful journaling exercise to help you reconnect with your truth
  • How to start living by your values again — even in tiny ways — and why that changes everything

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17289869 Wed, 18 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1286 1 156 full false Ep 155: When the Test Gets It Wrong: Why Psych Assessments Can Hurt Survivors in Family Court Ep 155: When the Test Gets It Wrong: Why Psych Assessments Can Hurt Survivors in Family Court If you’ve ever been told that a psychological test “proved” you were unstable or overeactive in your custody case—while your abusive ex seemed cool, calm, and collected—you are not alone.

In this short but important episode, I’m unpacking why the MMPI and MMPI-2—often used in court-ordered evaluations—can misrepresent survivors of coercive control and domestic violence. These tests were not designed with trauma survivors in mind, and their results can be dangerously misinterpreted when evaluators aren’t trained in coercive dynamics.

I’ll also explain how abusers, especially narcissists, often “pass” these tests easily by presenting as emotionally flat or in control—while the survivor appears anxious, reactive, or paranoid, all of which are normal trauma responses.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating family court, custody evaluations, or preparing for a psychological assessment after surviving abuse.

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]]> If you’ve ever been told that a psychological test “proved” you were unstable or overeactive in your custody case—while your abusive ex seemed cool, calm, and collected—you are not alone.

In this short but important episode, I’m unpacking why the MMPI and MMPI-2—often used in court-ordered evaluations—can misrepresent survivors of coercive control and domestic violence. These tests were not designed with trauma survivors in mind, and their results can be dangerously misinterpreted when evaluators aren’t trained in coercive dynamics.

I’ll also explain how abusers, especially narcissists, often “pass” these tests easily by presenting as emotionally flat or in control—while the survivor appears anxious, reactive, or paranoid, all of which are normal trauma responses.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating family court, custody evaluations, or preparing for a psychological assessment after surviving abuse.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-17288515 Wed, 11 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1033 1 155 full false Ep 154: Getting Financially Back on Track After Narcissistic and Financial Abuse with Jun Chen CDFA, CFP Ep 154: Getting Financially Back on Track After Narcissistic and Financial Abuse with Jun Chen CDFA, CFP How much did financial abuse impact you in your relationship?

We know that over 98% of all domestic violence victims experience some form of financial abuse and that it does not stop once you have left.

So, how can you be prepared for your separation and divorce and be set up to survive in the aftermath?

Because I am not a financial expert AND because I understand the devastation that financial abuse can cause, I asked Jun Chen, a certified divorce financial analyst and certified financial planner to share his knowledge with all of us. We discuss the basics, like what a CDFA actually does and the best ways to prepare to the more nuanced questions around what to do if your ex is hiding money.

And similar to most aspects of divorcing a narcissistic and abusive partner, there are nuances to your situation.  So, if this episode has given your more questions that you started out with or something wasn’t answered…I invite you to come to our FREE Q&A style workshop on June 12th. 

REGISTER FOR THE FREE WORKSHOP W/ JUN: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/finances

About Jun: With over 13 years of experience in the financial services industry, Jun Chen is a seasoned wealth advisor known for providing comprehensive, client centric guidance tailored at each stage of life.  As a Certified Financial Planner™ (CFP®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), and Certified Plan Fiduciary Advisor™ (CPFA™), Jun brings a uniquely broad skill set to families seeking to create bespoke financial plans that require a high level of expertise.  

Jun  specializes in holistic financial planning, investment management, retirement planning, and workplace retirement plans. Known for a thoughtful, educational approach, Jun prioritizes building long-term relationships rooted in trust and transparency. 

Outside the office, Jun is active in the local community, frequently volunteering as a pro bono CFP with Women's Resource Center to End Domestic Violence and Wings For Widows  He is also a board member of Sunnyside, a non-profit focused on resources for neurodivergent individuals.  Jun believes that financial planning should not be limited to those of high net worth but available to those who might not have the resources.

Connect with Jun:
linkedin.com/in/jun-chen-cfp®-cdfa®-cpfa®-067bb443
Email: jun.team@fidarewealth.com

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]]> How much did financial abuse impact you in your relationship?

We know that over 98% of all domestic violence victims experience some form of financial abuse and that it does not stop once you have left.

So, how can you be prepared for your separation and divorce and be set up to survive in the aftermath?

Because I am not a financial expert AND because I understand the devastation that financial abuse can cause, I asked Jun Chen, a certified divorce financial analyst and certified financial planner to share his knowledge with all of us. We discuss the basics, like what a CDFA actually does and the best ways to prepare to the more nuanced questions around what to do if your ex is hiding money.

And similar to most aspects of divorcing a narcissistic and abusive partner, there are nuances to your situation.  So, if this episode has given your more questions that you started out with or something wasn’t answered…I invite you to come to our FREE Q&A style workshop on June 12th. 

REGISTER FOR THE FREE WORKSHOP W/ JUN: https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/finances

About Jun: With over 13 years of experience in the financial services industry, Jun Chen is a seasoned wealth advisor known for providing comprehensive, client centric guidance tailored at each stage of life.  As a Certified Financial Planner™ (CFP®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), and Certified Plan Fiduciary Advisor™ (CPFA™), Jun brings a uniquely broad skill set to families seeking to create bespoke financial plans that require a high level of expertise.  

Jun  specializes in holistic financial planning, investment management, retirement planning, and workplace retirement plans. Known for a thoughtful, educational approach, Jun prioritizes building long-term relationships rooted in trust and transparency. 

Outside the office, Jun is active in the local community, frequently volunteering as a pro bono CFP with Women's Resource Center to End Domestic Violence and Wings For Widows  He is also a board member of Sunnyside, a non-profit focused on resources for neurodivergent individuals.  Jun believes that financial planning should not be limited to those of high net worth but available to those who might not have the resources.

Connect with Jun:
linkedin.com/in/jun-chen-cfp®-cdfa®-cpfa®-067bb443
Email: jun.team@fidarewealth.com

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]]> Buzzsprout-17267493 Wed, 04 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2556 1 154 full false Ep 153: Dismantling Coercive Control: How Family Court Fails Survivors with Kate Amber, MS Ep 153: Dismantling Coercive Control: How Family Court Fails Survivors with Kate Amber, MS Are you in need of a little bit of hope?

If you are a survivor of coercive control and domestic abuse (or a professional who works in this space) then hope can often be hard to come by.  

In this episode, I reconnect with coercive control expert, Kate Amber, M.S. after our joint presentation at this year's International Justice Center Conference in San Diego in order to share our reflections from our experience.  We share some of the questions we were asked during our panel along with our answers, some of the most impactful speakers and presentations we were able to attend and how their topics may impact you, along with our overall reflections of where the field is trending. And this is where both Kate and I experienced some hope and hopefully you will too.

Since many of you were not able to be there with us, we wanted to be able to share with you so that you can start to see some of the hope too.

Episode 66 with Kate: “Breaking Down Coercive Control” - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13665588

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]]> Are you in need of a little bit of hope?

If you are a survivor of coercive control and domestic abuse (or a professional who works in this space) then hope can often be hard to come by.  

In this episode, I reconnect with coercive control expert, Kate Amber, M.S. after our joint presentation at this year's International Justice Center Conference in San Diego in order to share our reflections from our experience.  We share some of the questions we were asked during our panel along with our answers, some of the most impactful speakers and presentations we were able to attend and how their topics may impact you, along with our overall reflections of where the field is trending. And this is where both Kate and I experienced some hope and hopefully you will too.

Since many of you were not able to be there with us, we wanted to be able to share with you so that you can start to see some of the hope too.

Episode 66 with Kate: “Breaking Down Coercive Control” - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13665588

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17236059 Wed, 28 May 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2669 1 153 full true Ep 152: Healing After Domestic Abuse: The Progress That You Don’t See Ep 152: Healing After Domestic Abuse: The Progress That You Don’t See If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this episode is for you.
When you’re still navigating post-separation abuse, family court chaos, or co-parenting with someone who continues to hurt you, healing might not look—or feel—like what you expected. You might still freeze when a message comes in. You might still cry in the car before showing up for your kids. And you might believe that means you're not healing.

But what if the most important signs of healing are the ones no one sees—not even you?

We’re talking about the invisible signs of progress: the quiet, powerful shifts that don’t get celebrated but matter immensely.

You’ll hear:

  • Why healing doesn’t always feel like joy or peace—and what it might feel like instead
  • Real-life examples of subtle progress that survivors often overlook
  • How trauma makes it harder to recognize growth, even when it’s happening
  • A new way to think about hope when the future feels foggy

Because even if it doesn’t feel like it… you are healing.

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]]> If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this episode is for you.
When you’re still navigating post-separation abuse, family court chaos, or co-parenting with someone who continues to hurt you, healing might not look—or feel—like what you expected. You might still freeze when a message comes in. You might still cry in the car before showing up for your kids. And you might believe that means you're not healing.

But what if the most important signs of healing are the ones no one sees—not even you?

We’re talking about the invisible signs of progress: the quiet, powerful shifts that don’t get celebrated but matter immensely.

You’ll hear:

  • Why healing doesn’t always feel like joy or peace—and what it might feel like instead
  • Real-life examples of subtle progress that survivors often overlook
  • How trauma makes it harder to recognize growth, even when it’s happening
  • A new way to think about hope when the future feels foggy

Because even if it doesn’t feel like it… you are healing.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17147943 Wed, 21 May 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1075 1 152 full false Ep 151: Maternal Narcissism with Katherine Fabrizio Ep 151: Maternal Narcissism with Katherine Fabrizio As you heal from the narcissistic abuse from an intimate partner, you might come to this realization - that one of your parents is also a narcissist and has been abusive.

Sometimes this realization is mind blowing and stops you in your tracks forcing you to rethink everything you thought you knew about your childhood and the family you grew up with.

In today’s episode I have a conversation with Katherine Fabrizio, a therapist working with these dynamics for decades, more specifically with the mother daughter relationship resulting in “The Good Daughter Syndrome.”

We discuss the dynamics and challenges that arise for the daughters of mothers with narcissistic or other difficult personalities throughout their lives.  This includes the subconscious conditioning that starts during the early childhood years and how that impacts all of their relationships moving forward.  Katherine shares how she works with clients with these challenges with some ideas and tips that you can take and use right away after listening to this episode.

BIO: Katherine Fabrizio, M.A., L.C.M.H.C., psychotherapist, mother, and author, has treated adult daughters of difficult mothers trapped in the “Good Daughter” role for over 35 years.

Book https://a.co/d/0kUKQtO/ 
Quiz -https://daughtersrising.info/good-daughter-quiz/

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]]> As you heal from the narcissistic abuse from an intimate partner, you might come to this realization - that one of your parents is also a narcissist and has been abusive.

Sometimes this realization is mind blowing and stops you in your tracks forcing you to rethink everything you thought you knew about your childhood and the family you grew up with.

In today’s episode I have a conversation with Katherine Fabrizio, a therapist working with these dynamics for decades, more specifically with the mother daughter relationship resulting in “The Good Daughter Syndrome.”

We discuss the dynamics and challenges that arise for the daughters of mothers with narcissistic or other difficult personalities throughout their lives.  This includes the subconscious conditioning that starts during the early childhood years and how that impacts all of their relationships moving forward.  Katherine shares how she works with clients with these challenges with some ideas and tips that you can take and use right away after listening to this episode.

BIO: Katherine Fabrizio, M.A., L.C.M.H.C., psychotherapist, mother, and author, has treated adult daughters of difficult mothers trapped in the “Good Daughter” role for over 35 years.

Book https://a.co/d/0kUKQtO/ 
Quiz -https://daughtersrising.info/good-daughter-quiz/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17104693 Wed, 14 May 2025 06:00:00 -0600 2790 1 151 full false Ep 150: Post Separation Abuse Burnout: A Nervous System Perspective Ep 150: Post Separation Abuse Burnout: A Nervous System Perspective Feeling completely burned out from healing? You’re not alone.

In this episode, Sybil dives into a phase of healing that almost no one talks about — the exhaustion that hits after leaving an abusive relationship. If you're feeling numb, unmotivated, or like healing is suddenly impossible… this is for you.
We’ll explore:

  • Why burnout happens after you finally find safety
  • How the nervous system shifts from fight/flight to freeze
  • What healing burnout really looks like (spoiler: it’s not laziness)
  • How to give yourself permission to rest and reset
  • A gentle guided practice to reconnect with your body, without shame
  • How to reframe what “progress” really means

And if you're listening when this episode goes live — enrollment for The Rising Beyond Community is open until May 8th, 2025 at 11:59pm MST. If burnout is where you are right now, the community could be the lifeline you didn’t know you needed.


🎧 Join the community: risingbeyondpc.com/membership

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]]> Feeling completely burned out from healing? You’re not alone.

In this episode, Sybil dives into a phase of healing that almost no one talks about — the exhaustion that hits after leaving an abusive relationship. If you're feeling numb, unmotivated, or like healing is suddenly impossible… this is for you.
We’ll explore:

  • Why burnout happens after you finally find safety
  • How the nervous system shifts from fight/flight to freeze
  • What healing burnout really looks like (spoiler: it’s not laziness)
  • How to give yourself permission to rest and reset
  • A gentle guided practice to reconnect with your body, without shame
  • How to reframe what “progress” really means

And if you're listening when this episode goes live — enrollment for The Rising Beyond Community is open until May 8th, 2025 at 11:59pm MST. If burnout is where you are right now, the community could be the lifeline you didn’t know you needed.


🎧 Join the community: risingbeyondpc.com/membership

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17103086 Wed, 07 May 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1776 1 150 full false Ep 149: Domestic Violence and Family Court: A Candid Conversation with Attorney Meg Groff Ep 149: Domestic Violence and Family Court: A Candid Conversation with Attorney Meg Groff In this episode, I speak with attorney, advocate, and author Meg Groff, whose 40+ years of experience supporting victims of domestic violence have impacted countless families. We dive into the critical missteps attorneys often make in family court, how those missteps put survivors and children at risk, and what needs to change. Meg also shares insights from her powerful new book, Not If I Can Help It, and offers a vision for how legal systems, legislation, and cultural understanding must evolve to better protect survivors.

About Meg:
Meg Groff is an attorney, advocate, and author with more than four decades of experience representing victims of domestic violence in family court. She has trained thousands of professionals on the dynamics of abuse, contributed to legislation protecting survivors, and developed legal programs ensuring free representation for victims seeking protection. Since retiring from trial work, she continues to consult, mentor, and write, most recently authoring Not If I Can Help It, a memoir and call to action for legal and cultural reform.

Connect with Meg:
Buy Not If I Can Help It - https://www.amazon.com/Not-If-Can-Help-Domestic/dp/1953943470/ref=sr_1_1?
Meg Groff Twitter/X - @meggroffauthor
Meg Groff Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571087065596
Meg Groff Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/meggroff2025/
www.meggroff.com



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]]> In this episode, I speak with attorney, advocate, and author Meg Groff, whose 40+ years of experience supporting victims of domestic violence have impacted countless families. We dive into the critical missteps attorneys often make in family court, how those missteps put survivors and children at risk, and what needs to change. Meg also shares insights from her powerful new book, Not If I Can Help It, and offers a vision for how legal systems, legislation, and cultural understanding must evolve to better protect survivors.

About Meg:
Meg Groff is an attorney, advocate, and author with more than four decades of experience representing victims of domestic violence in family court. She has trained thousands of professionals on the dynamics of abuse, contributed to legislation protecting survivors, and developed legal programs ensuring free representation for victims seeking protection. Since retiring from trial work, she continues to consult, mentor, and write, most recently authoring Not If I Can Help It, a memoir and call to action for legal and cultural reform.

Connect with Meg:
Buy Not If I Can Help It - https://www.amazon.com/Not-If-Can-Help-Domestic/dp/1953943470/ref=sr_1_1?
Meg Groff Twitter/X - @meggroffauthor
Meg Groff Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571087065596
Meg Groff Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/meggroff2025/
www.meggroff.com



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17068563 Wed, 30 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0600 2749 1 149 full true Ep 148: Survivor’s Guilt and Moral Injury: You Escaped When Your Children Have Not Ep 148: Survivor’s Guilt and Moral Injury: You Escaped When Your Children Have Not You finally left. You survived.

So why do you still feel like you're the one who did something wrong?

We’re unpacking the survivor’s guilt and moral injury that often surface after leaving an abusive relationship—especially when your children are still in contact with the abusive parent, or when you feel like others "had it worse."

We explore:

  • The psychological and emotional experience of moral injury
  • The guilt of not being able to protect your children full-time
  • How survivors remain stuck with “no-win” decisions
  • How survivors often minimize their own trauma
  • The long-term impact of being the safe parent while the abuser still holds power
  • And, most importantly, how to begin healing and moving from moral injury to moral resilience

If you're listening to this as it comes out, this episode is a prelude to my upcoming workshop (May 2, 2025) on healing from moral injury—if you’ve ever felt crushed by guilt for surviving or worry that your pain isn’t valid, this is for you.

Referenced episodes:

Episode 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16741508

Ep 147: Co-Parenting with a Manipulative Ex: How to Shield Your Child from Coercive Control - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16971544

Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/12984312

Ep 56: Start Healing from Moral Injury with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13198006

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]]> You finally left. You survived.

So why do you still feel like you're the one who did something wrong?

We’re unpacking the survivor’s guilt and moral injury that often surface after leaving an abusive relationship—especially when your children are still in contact with the abusive parent, or when you feel like others "had it worse."

We explore:

  • The psychological and emotional experience of moral injury
  • The guilt of not being able to protect your children full-time
  • How survivors remain stuck with “no-win” decisions
  • How survivors often minimize their own trauma
  • The long-term impact of being the safe parent while the abuser still holds power
  • And, most importantly, how to begin healing and moving from moral injury to moral resilience

If you're listening to this as it comes out, this episode is a prelude to my upcoming workshop (May 2, 2025) on healing from moral injury—if you’ve ever felt crushed by guilt for surviving or worry that your pain isn’t valid, this is for you.

Referenced episodes:

Episode 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16741508

Ep 147: Co-Parenting with a Manipulative Ex: How to Shield Your Child from Coercive Control - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16971544

Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/12984312

Ep 56: Start Healing from Moral Injury with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/13198006

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-17021404 Wed, 23 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1734 1 148 full true Ep 147: Co-Parenting with a Manipulative Ex: How to Shield Your Child from Coercive Control Ep 147: Co-Parenting with a Manipulative Ex: How to Shield Your Child from Coercive Control Abusers who use coercive control don’t just manipulate one person—they manipulate everyone around them, including their own children. As a protective parent, whether you’ve left the relationship or are still navigating it, how can you empower your child to recognize manipulation and maintain their sense of self?

In this episode, we dive deep into:

✔️ How coercive control tactics—like triangulation, gaslighting, and emotional withholding—are used against children
 ✔️ The subtle and overt ways abusers condition kids to doubt themselves and comply with their demands
 ✔️ Why strengthening your bond with your child is the first and most critical step in protecting them
 ✔️ How to foster open communication and critical thinking without “disparaging” the other parent (and putting your legal case at risk)
 ✔️ Practical strategies to help children recognize manipulation and trust their own perceptions
 ✔️ How to teach emotional intelligence, body awareness, and discernment in an age-appropriate way

🎙 Why This Matters:
Coercive control isn’t always loud—it’s often the silent conditioning that strips a child of their developing identity. As a safe parent, you can give your child the tools to recognize manipulation and make empowered choices, even in the most challenging co-parenting situations.

Referrenced Links:"
Episode 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/15091121

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]]> Abusers who use coercive control don’t just manipulate one person—they manipulate everyone around them, including their own children. As a protective parent, whether you’ve left the relationship or are still navigating it, how can you empower your child to recognize manipulation and maintain their sense of self?

In this episode, we dive deep into:

✔️ How coercive control tactics—like triangulation, gaslighting, and emotional withholding—are used against children
 ✔️ The subtle and overt ways abusers condition kids to doubt themselves and comply with their demands
 ✔️ Why strengthening your bond with your child is the first and most critical step in protecting them
 ✔️ How to foster open communication and critical thinking without “disparaging” the other parent (and putting your legal case at risk)
 ✔️ Practical strategies to help children recognize manipulation and trust their own perceptions
 ✔️ How to teach emotional intelligence, body awareness, and discernment in an age-appropriate way

🎙 Why This Matters:
Coercive control isn’t always loud—it’s often the silent conditioning that strips a child of their developing identity. As a safe parent, you can give your child the tools to recognize manipulation and make empowered choices, even in the most challenging co-parenting situations.

Referrenced Links:"
Episode 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/15091121

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16971544 Wed, 16 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0600 1737 1 147 full false Ep 146: How Parental Abandonment Shapes Your Healing from Coercive Control and Domestic Violence with Kaytee Gillis, LCSW Ep 146: How Parental Abandonment Shapes Your Healing from Coercive Control and Domestic Violence with Kaytee Gillis, LCSW As you start healing from coercive control and domestic violence within your relationship, it is likely that you will start to have revelations about other relationships in your life.

Patterns and experiences in your family of origin, specifically with your parents may come to the forefront, especially if there was physical or emotional abandonment.  

We welcome Kaytee Gillis, LCSW back to The Rising Beyond Podcast as we do a deep dive on the impacts of parental abandonment; what that means, how you have been impacted, how cultural messages have impacted your ability to understand unhealthy dynamics, and what you can do now on your healing journey to heal those attachment wounds.

Kaytee Specializes in working with survivors of family and relationship trauma, psychological abuse, and CPTSD.  She is a psychotherapist, author, educator and proud cat mom of three fur babies.  She has published 4 books, two on the topic of intimate partner violence and two on family trauma and her newest book, “Healing from Parental Abandonment and Neglect” may be a game changer as you process your relationship with your parents.

Connect with Kaytee:
https://www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com/

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]]> As you start healing from coercive control and domestic violence within your relationship, it is likely that you will start to have revelations about other relationships in your life.

Patterns and experiences in your family of origin, specifically with your parents may come to the forefront, especially if there was physical or emotional abandonment.  

We welcome Kaytee Gillis, LCSW back to The Rising Beyond Podcast as we do a deep dive on the impacts of parental abandonment; what that means, how you have been impacted, how cultural messages have impacted your ability to understand unhealthy dynamics, and what you can do now on your healing journey to heal those attachment wounds.

Kaytee Specializes in working with survivors of family and relationship trauma, psychological abuse, and CPTSD.  She is a psychotherapist, author, educator and proud cat mom of three fur babies.  She has published 4 books, two on the topic of intimate partner violence and two on family trauma and her newest book, “Healing from Parental Abandonment and Neglect” may be a game changer as you process your relationship with your parents.

Connect with Kaytee:
https://www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com/

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]]> Buzzsprout-16914136 Wed, 09 Apr 2025 05:00:00 -0600 2425 1 146 full false Ep 145: How Abusers Weaponize Words and How Survivors Can Take Them Back Ep 145: How Abusers Weaponize Words and How Survivors Can Take Them Back Language shapes how we see ourselves, our experiences, and our healing journey. In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, we’re diving into why words matter for survivors of domestic violence—how they can be used to manipulate and harm, and how they can also be reclaimed to empower and heal.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
 ✔️ The power of survivor language vs. the gaslighting words abusers use.
 ✔️ How trauma-informed language can support healing while victim-blaming language hinders it.
 ✔️ The role of the media and family court in shaping narratives around abuse.
 ✔️ How abusers weaponize language to maintain control—gaslighting, word salad, and blame-shifting.
 ✔️ Why naming experiences like coercive control, post-separation abuse, and trauma bonding is so validating.
 ✔️ The impact of self-talk on your recovery and how to reframe harmful internalized messages.
 ✔️ How to reclaim your narrative and choose empowering language for yourself.

Why This Matters:
Language isn’t just about words—it’s about power, control, validation, and healing. When survivors don’t have the right words to describe their experiences, they can feel lost or even doubt their own reality. But when they do? It’s like turning on a light in a dark room.


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]]> Language shapes how we see ourselves, our experiences, and our healing journey. In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, we’re diving into why words matter for survivors of domestic violence—how they can be used to manipulate and harm, and how they can also be reclaimed to empower and heal.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
 ✔️ The power of survivor language vs. the gaslighting words abusers use.
 ✔️ How trauma-informed language can support healing while victim-blaming language hinders it.
 ✔️ The role of the media and family court in shaping narratives around abuse.
 ✔️ How abusers weaponize language to maintain control—gaslighting, word salad, and blame-shifting.
 ✔️ Why naming experiences like coercive control, post-separation abuse, and trauma bonding is so validating.
 ✔️ The impact of self-talk on your recovery and how to reframe harmful internalized messages.
 ✔️ How to reclaim your narrative and choose empowering language for yourself.

Why This Matters:
Language isn’t just about words—it’s about power, control, validation, and healing. When survivors don’t have the right words to describe their experiences, they can feel lost or even doubt their own reality. But when they do? It’s like turning on a light in a dark room.


Glossary: www.risingbeyondpc.com/glossary

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16904271 Wed, 02 Apr 2025 08:00:00 -0600 1624 1 145 full false Ep 144: Share Your Story of Coercive Control with Credibility So You Will Not Be Dismissed Ep 144: Share Your Story of Coercive Control with Credibility So You Will Not Be Dismissed Being able to share your experiences of coercive control and domestic violence in a way that is credible is imperative if you are dealing with any larger systems or trying to get support from friends and family.

And this is something survivors of abuse struggle with.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast we look at not only the importance of sharing a credible story, but the common challenges that survivors face and then some practical steps that can be taken to improve the level of credibility that you can gain when telling your story.

Some of the top challenges are:
The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence that lead to bias
The timeline of family court and other evaluations do not allow for healing to happen before a survivor needs to tell their story
The trauma responses that arise when sharing the narrative
Survivors sharing context before their key points, concerns or asks

Some of the ways discussed to become more credible:

  • Use “rocks in a jar” for all communication
  • Find ways to regulate your nervous system
  • Use the support of others to find places and people where it is safe to be safe



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]]> Being able to share your experiences of coercive control and domestic violence in a way that is credible is imperative if you are dealing with any larger systems or trying to get support from friends and family.

And this is something survivors of abuse struggle with.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast we look at not only the importance of sharing a credible story, but the common challenges that survivors face and then some practical steps that can be taken to improve the level of credibility that you can gain when telling your story.

Some of the top challenges are:
The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence that lead to bias
The timeline of family court and other evaluations do not allow for healing to happen before a survivor needs to tell their story
The trauma responses that arise when sharing the narrative
Survivors sharing context before their key points, concerns or asks

Some of the ways discussed to become more credible:

  • Use “rocks in a jar” for all communication
  • Find ways to regulate your nervous system
  • Use the support of others to find places and people where it is safe to be safe



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16825530 Wed, 26 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0600 1519 1 144 full true Ep 143: Silenced No More: How Loraine Marshall Beat a Defamation Case and Found Her Voice Ep 143: Silenced No More: How Loraine Marshall Beat a Defamation Case and Found Her Voice How often have you felt voice-less and silenced as a survivor of coercive control and domestic violence?

Survivors are voice-less when living in the relationship with their abuser.  They also often do not get a chance to speak their truth in family court or within any other larger systems either.

And so when you are in a place where you want to be heard and decide to make things more public, it is possible that your abuser will do anything and everything to silence you again. This is what happened to my guest, Lorraine Marshall. She received defamation charges against her after writing her book titled, “Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?”

So, if you have ever been in a place where you want to be an advocate for other survivors by writing a book or having a podcast or Youtube channel you will need to learn how to protect yourself just in case.  Lorraine Marshall shares her story of abuse, how she was silenced, and how she was able to beat the charges filed against her. 

Loraine Marshall is a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to her post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings.

Connect with Loraine:
Book - Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?
UK - https://amzn.to/3NBlQbx
US - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDH
Blog - https://successwithloraine.com/when-four-months-turns-into-four-years/
https://ko-fi.com/lorenkeelingauthor  https://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcasts

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]]> How often have you felt voice-less and silenced as a survivor of coercive control and domestic violence?

Survivors are voice-less when living in the relationship with their abuser.  They also often do not get a chance to speak their truth in family court or within any other larger systems either.

And so when you are in a place where you want to be heard and decide to make things more public, it is possible that your abuser will do anything and everything to silence you again. This is what happened to my guest, Lorraine Marshall. She received defamation charges against her after writing her book titled, “Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?”

So, if you have ever been in a place where you want to be an advocate for other survivors by writing a book or having a podcast or Youtube channel you will need to learn how to protect yourself just in case.  Lorraine Marshall shares her story of abuse, how she was silenced, and how she was able to beat the charges filed against her. 

Loraine Marshall is a self-published author and survivor of hidden emotional abuse that was revealed to her post-separation. If money was not a concern, I would buy a home and run a retreat to help women in recovery from trauma after any of the three Ds in relationship endings.

Connect with Loraine:
Book - Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?
UK - https://amzn.to/3NBlQbx
US - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDH
Blog - https://successwithloraine.com/when-four-months-turns-into-four-years/
https://ko-fi.com/lorenkeelingauthor  https://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcasts

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]]> Buzzsprout-16812174 Wed, 19 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0600 2795 1 143 full true Ep 142: Inside the Broken System of Supervised and Therapeutic Visitation Ep 142: Inside the Broken System of Supervised and Therapeutic Visitation Supervised visitation and therapeutic visitation are meant to provide safety and structure for children and families navigating complex custody dynamics. But what happens when there are no regulations, inconsistent oversight, and a severe lack of training among those facilitating these visits? In this episode, I share real-life stories, my experiences getting trained, and the major concerns with how these services are currently being implemented. I’ll break down:

  • What supervised and therapeutic visitation should look like
  • The risks of unregulated or poorly structured visitation services
  • Why documentation, training, and therapist collaboration must be prioritized
  • What we can do to bring awareness and demand better oversight

If you’ve experienced supervised or therapeutic visitation—or have concerns about how it’s being handled in your case—this episode is for you.

Referenced Links: 
Episode 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation: What is it really?

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]]> Supervised visitation and therapeutic visitation are meant to provide safety and structure for children and families navigating complex custody dynamics. But what happens when there are no regulations, inconsistent oversight, and a severe lack of training among those facilitating these visits? In this episode, I share real-life stories, my experiences getting trained, and the major concerns with how these services are currently being implemented. I’ll break down:

  • What supervised and therapeutic visitation should look like
  • The risks of unregulated or poorly structured visitation services
  • Why documentation, training, and therapist collaboration must be prioritized
  • What we can do to bring awareness and demand better oversight

If you’ve experienced supervised or therapeutic visitation—or have concerns about how it’s being handled in your case—this episode is for you.

Referenced Links: 
Episode 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation: What is it really?

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16748883 Wed, 12 Mar 2025 05:00:00 -0600 1980 1 142 full true Ep 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse Ep 141: The Shame Was Never Yours: Healing from Vicarious Shame After Abuse Even though you’ve left the relationship, do you still feel embarrassed when you remember the way your ex treated others? Do you find yourself cringing at memories of their public outbursts, apologizing for their past behavior, or worrying that others judge you because of them?

This lingering sense of responsibility is called vicarious shame—when you feel embarrassed on behalf of someone else’s actions, even though you weren’t the one who did anything wrong.

In this episode, we explore:
✔️ Why vicarious shame lingers long after leaving an abuser
✔️ How abusers used it to manipulate and control you
✔️ The emotional toll of feeling responsible for someone else’s behavior
✔️ Steps to stop carrying their shame and fully step into your own healing

Vicarious shame is a tool abusers rely on to keep you second-guessing yourself, isolating from support, and feeling like you need to "fix" things that were never your fault. But the truth is: You are not responsible for their actions—then or now.



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]]> Even though you’ve left the relationship, do you still feel embarrassed when you remember the way your ex treated others? Do you find yourself cringing at memories of their public outbursts, apologizing for their past behavior, or worrying that others judge you because of them?

This lingering sense of responsibility is called vicarious shame—when you feel embarrassed on behalf of someone else’s actions, even though you weren’t the one who did anything wrong.

In this episode, we explore:
✔️ Why vicarious shame lingers long after leaving an abuser
✔️ How abusers used it to manipulate and control you
✔️ The emotional toll of feeling responsible for someone else’s behavior
✔️ Steps to stop carrying their shame and fully step into your own healing

Vicarious shame is a tool abusers rely on to keep you second-guessing yourself, isolating from support, and feeling like you need to "fix" things that were never your fault. But the truth is: You are not responsible for their actions—then or now.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16741508 Wed, 05 Mar 2025 14:00:00 -0700 1385 1 141 full true Ep 140: Acceptance and Agency: How to Find Your Power in the Midst of Coercive Control with Karen McMahon Ep 140: Acceptance and Agency: How to Find Your Power in the Midst of Coercive Control with Karen McMahon What if the key to your post-separation freedom wasn’t fighting for control, but letting go of what’s beyond it?

Imagine reclaiming your energy by focusing only on what you can control, even in the face of narcissistic abuse or coercive control. How might that shift your healing journey?

Our guest Karen McMahon is a divorce coach specializing in supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse. Karen shares how to move from helplessness to empowerment. Together, we explore:

  • The power of accepting your current reality and identifying what is truly within your control.
  • How the 7 Layers of Energy Blueprint can help you shift your mindset and reclaim your agency.
  • Practical steps to transform feelings of powerlessness into purposeful action.

If you’re ready to let go of the struggle and embrace a new kind of freedom, this episode is for you.

Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is also the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”.

Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/media
IG: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/
Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast - http://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624



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]]> What if the key to your post-separation freedom wasn’t fighting for control, but letting go of what’s beyond it?

Imagine reclaiming your energy by focusing only on what you can control, even in the face of narcissistic abuse or coercive control. How might that shift your healing journey?

Our guest Karen McMahon is a divorce coach specializing in supporting survivors of narcissistic abuse. Karen shares how to move from helplessness to empowerment. Together, we explore:

  • The power of accepting your current reality and identifying what is truly within your control.
  • How the 7 Layers of Energy Blueprint can help you shift your mindset and reclaim your agency.
  • Practical steps to transform feelings of powerlessness into purposeful action.

If you’re ready to let go of the struggle and embrace a new kind of freedom, this episode is for you.

Karen McMahon is a High Conflict Divorce Strategist, Certified Divorce Coach and Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into a powerful and unexpected new life. Karen leads a national team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. Karen is also the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, and co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility”.

Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/media
IG: https://www.instagram.com/journey_beyond_divorce/
Podcast: Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast - http://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-beyond-divorce-podcast/id1261400624



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16671224 Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0700 2540 1 140 full true Ep 139: When Abuse Follows You: Recognizing Coercive Control Outside of Romantic Relationships Ep 139: When Abuse Follows You: Recognizing Coercive Control Outside of Romantic Relationships You are likely listening to The Rising Beyond Podcast because of coercive control and abuse within a romantic relationship.  Unfortunately coercive control often shows up in other relationships as well and can have long term impacts on your mental health and wellness and can interfere with your healing journey.

Many of my clients have experienced what they often call a “test” of their healing.  This is when they encounter a narcissistic and abusive person in another area of their lives.


In this episode we dive into how coercive control and abuse can show up in the workplace, in your family of origin, and within friendships. We touch on how to assess for these relationships in other areas of your life and what you can do to minimize their negative impacts on you.

Family of Origin, Referred Episode:  Episode 19: Boundaries: I get to decide who’s in my life

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]]> You are likely listening to The Rising Beyond Podcast because of coercive control and abuse within a romantic relationship.  Unfortunately coercive control often shows up in other relationships as well and can have long term impacts on your mental health and wellness and can interfere with your healing journey.

Many of my clients have experienced what they often call a “test” of their healing.  This is when they encounter a narcissistic and abusive person in another area of their lives.


In this episode we dive into how coercive control and abuse can show up in the workplace, in your family of origin, and within friendships. We touch on how to assess for these relationships in other areas of your life and what you can do to minimize their negative impacts on you.

Family of Origin, Referred Episode:  Episode 19: Boundaries: I get to decide who’s in my life

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16619035 Wed, 19 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0700 1748 1 139 full false Ep 138: Going Pro Se in Family Court: How to Represent Yourself and Protect Your Kids with Casey Brinkman Ep 138: Going Pro Se in Family Court: How to Represent Yourself and Protect Your Kids with Casey Brinkman If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well?

Do you feel heard?  

Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney.

And so you find yourself going pro se.  Representing yourself in family court.  This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney.  On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Schreiber-Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se.

Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey.  We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more.  

About Casey: Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn’t until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children’s voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges. 


Connect w Casey:
Tik Tok: @pro.se.strategies
IG: @prosestrategiesLLC
Email: prosestrategies@gmail.com

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]]> If you are a survivor in the battle ground of family court, would you say that your attorney is representing you well?

Do you feel heard?  

Or maybe you do not have the financial means to even hire an attorney.

And so you find yourself going pro se.  Representing yourself in family court.  This can be extremely scary and it is possible that you will be able to do an even better job going pro se than with an attorney.  On this episode of I have a conversation with Casey Schreiber-Brinkman on how she was able to turn her case around to finally be able to protect herself and her children when she got rid of her attorneys and became pro se.

Casey shares her best tips for representing yourself well as well as what a family court coach/consultant can do to help you on this journey.  We discuss the importance of documentation, knowing your rights, doing the right research, how to get evidence in as evidence, and more.  

About Casey: Casey is a dedicated protective mother who spent nearly five years navigating the complexities of the family court system. For just under three years, she worked with an attorney, but it wasn’t until she took on her case pro se in the last two years that she was able to truly have her voice, and her children’s voices, heard. Through her persistence and determination, Casey successfully turned her case around to protect her children, a journey that sparked her passion for helping other protective moms facing similar challenges. 


Connect w Casey:
Tik Tok: @pro.se.strategies
IG: @prosestrategiesLLC
Email: prosestrategies@gmail.com

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]]> Buzzsprout-16577160 Wed, 12 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0700 2351 1 138 full true Ep 137: Reclaiming Your Life: How to Heal When the Abuse Isn’t Over Ep 137: Reclaiming Your Life: How to Heal When the Abuse Isn’t Over Have you ever felt like your entire life is consumed by the chaos of post-separation abuse? What if I told you that there’s a part of you—a healing self—that can exist outside of the constant stress and conflict? And what if you could nurture that part of you, even in the middle of everything you're facing?

There is the delicate balance between the part of you that is stuck in survival mode—managing the daily chaos of post-separation abuse, family court battles, and co-parenting with a toxic ex—and the part of you that is yearning to heal, grow, and reclaim your life.

This episode will help you understand and separate these two selves so you can protect your energy, find moments of joy, and ultimately integrate these parts of yourself to live more fully. We’ll also share powerful mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you navigate this complex journey.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in the chaos, this episode is here to offer you hope, clarity, and actionable steps toward healing.



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]]> Have you ever felt like your entire life is consumed by the chaos of post-separation abuse? What if I told you that there’s a part of you—a healing self—that can exist outside of the constant stress and conflict? And what if you could nurture that part of you, even in the middle of everything you're facing?

There is the delicate balance between the part of you that is stuck in survival mode—managing the daily chaos of post-separation abuse, family court battles, and co-parenting with a toxic ex—and the part of you that is yearning to heal, grow, and reclaim your life.

This episode will help you understand and separate these two selves so you can protect your energy, find moments of joy, and ultimately integrate these parts of yourself to live more fully. We’ll also share powerful mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you navigate this complex journey.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in the chaos, this episode is here to offer you hope, clarity, and actionable steps toward healing.



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]]> Buzzsprout-16541102 Wed, 05 Feb 2025 05:00:00 -0700 1457 1 137 full true Ep 136: A TikTok Revelation: Mita Begum’s Journey to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Ep 136: A TikTok Revelation: Mita Begum’s Journey to Healing from Narcissistic Abuse When you finally realize that you are being abused in your relationship and that your partner is a narcissist, it can hit you like a ton of bricks.

In this episode, I have a conversation with Mita Begum on her experience of realizing that she had been in two different abusive relationships after watching a video on Tik Tok and what she did to start getting her power back before even leaving her relationship.  She shares the steps she continues to take as she heals and helps other women heal and find their power.

We also talk about:

  • How domestic violence does not discriminate and how she did not fit the “picture” of a victim
  • How your family of origin and culture can make you more vulnerable to finding an abusive relationship
  • The difficulties of breaking a trauma bond and what helped for her
  • Tips to finding your power and sense of self

About Mita:

Mita is a passionate advocate for personal growth and empowerment, holding certifications as a Life Coach, Mindset Coach, and Domestic Violence and Abuse Specialist. She is the founder of Glowing Beyond, where she helps individuals reconnect with their mind, body, and soul while guiding abuse survivors to reclaim their power and transition into healthier, thriving lifestyles.

With 16 years of experience as a makeup artist, including working as a celebrity makeup artist for clients like four-time Olympic gold medalist Hayley Wickenheiser, Mita’s expertise extends to empowering women through both inner and outer transformation. Her work has been featured in magazines, multiple podcasts, and community platforms.

As the host of The Glowing Beyond Show, Mita shares her journey of overcoming depression, anxiety, and abuse through self-acceptance and inner work, inspiring others to embrace their own power to thrive.

Connect with Mita:
glowingbeyond.com
IG: @mindsetcoachmita
FB: https://www.facebook.com/share/1Wi6oBteBf/



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]]> When you finally realize that you are being abused in your relationship and that your partner is a narcissist, it can hit you like a ton of bricks.

In this episode, I have a conversation with Mita Begum on her experience of realizing that she had been in two different abusive relationships after watching a video on Tik Tok and what she did to start getting her power back before even leaving her relationship.  She shares the steps she continues to take as she heals and helps other women heal and find their power.

We also talk about:

  • How domestic violence does not discriminate and how she did not fit the “picture” of a victim
  • How your family of origin and culture can make you more vulnerable to finding an abusive relationship
  • The difficulties of breaking a trauma bond and what helped for her
  • Tips to finding your power and sense of self

About Mita:

Mita is a passionate advocate for personal growth and empowerment, holding certifications as a Life Coach, Mindset Coach, and Domestic Violence and Abuse Specialist. She is the founder of Glowing Beyond, where she helps individuals reconnect with their mind, body, and soul while guiding abuse survivors to reclaim their power and transition into healthier, thriving lifestyles.

With 16 years of experience as a makeup artist, including working as a celebrity makeup artist for clients like four-time Olympic gold medalist Hayley Wickenheiser, Mita’s expertise extends to empowering women through both inner and outer transformation. Her work has been featured in magazines, multiple podcasts, and community platforms.

As the host of The Glowing Beyond Show, Mita shares her journey of overcoming depression, anxiety, and abuse through self-acceptance and inner work, inspiring others to embrace their own power to thrive.

Connect with Mita:
glowingbeyond.com
IG: @mindsetcoachmita
FB: https://www.facebook.com/share/1Wi6oBteBf/



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]]> Buzzsprout-16522971 Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700 2353 1 136 full true Ep 135: The Power of Creative Expression in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Ep 135: The Power of Creative Expression in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Explore the transformative power of creativity as a tool for processing emotions and reclaiming your identity after abuse. Learn how engaging in creative expression can help rewire your brain, improve your mood, and reconnect you to your true self.

We’ll dive into:

  • Why creativity is particularly powerful for survivors of trauma.
  • Insights from The Body Keeps the Score on how trauma affects brain function.
  • How creative outlets like art, writing, and movement can help you reframe your story and build resilience.
  • Overcoming perfectionism and embracing the healing power of the creative process.

This episode includes real-life examples of creative healing and actionable steps to start your own creative journey today.

Key Takeaways:

  • Creativity engages the right side of the brain, enabling you to process trauma in ways that words alone cannot.
  • Artistic expression can help you find new strengths, reframe your narrative, and celebrate progress in your healing journey.
  • You don’t need to be an artist—just willing to explore and experiment.

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]]> Explore the transformative power of creativity as a tool for processing emotions and reclaiming your identity after abuse. Learn how engaging in creative expression can help rewire your brain, improve your mood, and reconnect you to your true self.

We’ll dive into:

  • Why creativity is particularly powerful for survivors of trauma.
  • Insights from The Body Keeps the Score on how trauma affects brain function.
  • How creative outlets like art, writing, and movement can help you reframe your story and build resilience.
  • Overcoming perfectionism and embracing the healing power of the creative process.

This episode includes real-life examples of creative healing and actionable steps to start your own creative journey today.

Key Takeaways:

  • Creativity engages the right side of the brain, enabling you to process trauma in ways that words alone cannot.
  • Artistic expression can help you find new strengths, reframe your narrative, and celebrate progress in your healing journey.
  • You don’t need to be an artist—just willing to explore and experiment.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-16465584 Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700 1503 1 135 full true Ep 134: Triggers 101: What They Are and How to Navigate Them as a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse Ep 134: Triggers 101: What They Are and How to Navigate Them as a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse We’re diving deep into the world of triggers. A common and often overwhelming experience for survivors of trauma and abuse. We’ll explore what triggers are, why they happen, and how they can actually become opportunities for healing and growth.

Whether you’re just beginning your recovery journey or you’re further along, this episode offers practical tools and validation to help you navigate triggers with confidence and compassion.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Understanding Triggers: What they are, how they relate to the brain and body’s fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses, and the difference between triggers and flashbacks.
  • Common Triggers: Examples like certain sounds, behaviors, or phrases that may remind you of past trauma.
  • Recognizing Triggers: Learn how to identify early signs of being triggered and track patterns using a “trigger tracker” journal.
  • Managing Triggers in the Moment: Techniques like grounding exercises, deep breathing, and creating a personalized “calm kit.”
  • Growing Through Triggers: How to reframe triggers as milestones in your healing journey and use them as data to guide therapeutic work.

Key Takeaways:

  • Triggers are a normal part of recovery and not a sign of failure.
  • Grounding tools, when practiced consistently, can help regulate your nervous system.
  • With mindfulness and support, triggers can illuminate unresolved trauma and help you move toward healing.

Call to Action:
This week, choose one grounding tool like deep breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, and practice it daily. Building this habit can make it easier to manage triggers when they arise.

Related Episodes:

  • Episode 133: Polyvagal Healing with Erica

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]]> We’re diving deep into the world of triggers. A common and often overwhelming experience for survivors of trauma and abuse. We’ll explore what triggers are, why they happen, and how they can actually become opportunities for healing and growth.

Whether you’re just beginning your recovery journey or you’re further along, this episode offers practical tools and validation to help you navigate triggers with confidence and compassion.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Understanding Triggers: What they are, how they relate to the brain and body’s fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses, and the difference between triggers and flashbacks.
  • Common Triggers: Examples like certain sounds, behaviors, or phrases that may remind you of past trauma.
  • Recognizing Triggers: Learn how to identify early signs of being triggered and track patterns using a “trigger tracker” journal.
  • Managing Triggers in the Moment: Techniques like grounding exercises, deep breathing, and creating a personalized “calm kit.”
  • Growing Through Triggers: How to reframe triggers as milestones in your healing journey and use them as data to guide therapeutic work.

Key Takeaways:

  • Triggers are a normal part of recovery and not a sign of failure.
  • Grounding tools, when practiced consistently, can help regulate your nervous system.
  • With mindfulness and support, triggers can illuminate unresolved trauma and help you move toward healing.

Call to Action:
This week, choose one grounding tool like deep breathing or the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, and practice it daily. Building this habit can make it easier to manage triggers when they arise.

Related Episodes:

  • Episode 133: Polyvagal Healing with Erica

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16439344 Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700 1539 1 134 full true Ep 133: You Can’t Think Your Way to Healing: Full Bodied Healing for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse with Erica Bonham, LPC Ep 133: You Can’t Think Your Way to Healing: Full Bodied Healing for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse with Erica Bonham, LPC Why is it that we can understand the abuse we suffered, understand why we are hypervigilant, and yet not see the progress we are hoping for on the healing front?

The trauma of an abusive, narcissistic and coercively controlling relationship affects survivors in such a way that we cannot just think our way out of it.  Your brains and nervous systems have been re-wired to protect you and your survival at all costs.  And your nervous system will not give up those strategies of survival just because you now understand the abuse.

This abuse is held in our bodies as well.  So we need a full bodied, holistic approach to healing and this is what I am talking about with Erica Bonham, LPC today.  We discuss the different ways in which trauma is held in our bodies and she shares some practical tips and skills you can use today to start to lower your hypervigilance and fight, flight, freeze, and fawning responses.

Erica shares her passion in helping survivors heal and how she is offering this healing to a wider audience in her new book, Always Enough, Never Done.

Erica Bonham is a certified EMDR clinician, consultant and trainer, and is a licensed professional counselor and nervous system regulation coach in the state of Colorado.   She aspires to be a catalyst for change, justice, growth, evolution and all around badassery.  She specializes in abuse recovery, trauma related to social injustice, and spiritual abuse.  She incorporates her training as a yoga instructor and mindfulness practitioner to deepen clients healing of their bodies and specializes in somatic and attachment EMDR, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, and ego state work. She is a published author and speaker.  

Connect with Erica:
AVOS practice website: www.avoscounseling.com
To order the book, Always Enough, Never Done, the accompanying workbook, course, and/or join coaching calls: https://www.avoscounseling.com/coaching-packages
Download Erica's Free Polyvagal Toning Guide with a BONUS of 6 guided meditations:
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]]> Why is it that we can understand the abuse we suffered, understand why we are hypervigilant, and yet not see the progress we are hoping for on the healing front?

The trauma of an abusive, narcissistic and coercively controlling relationship affects survivors in such a way that we cannot just think our way out of it.  Your brains and nervous systems have been re-wired to protect you and your survival at all costs.  And your nervous system will not give up those strategies of survival just because you now understand the abuse.

This abuse is held in our bodies as well.  So we need a full bodied, holistic approach to healing and this is what I am talking about with Erica Bonham, LPC today.  We discuss the different ways in which trauma is held in our bodies and she shares some practical tips and skills you can use today to start to lower your hypervigilance and fight, flight, freeze, and fawning responses.

Erica shares her passion in helping survivors heal and how she is offering this healing to a wider audience in her new book, Always Enough, Never Done.

Erica Bonham is a certified EMDR clinician, consultant and trainer, and is a licensed professional counselor and nervous system regulation coach in the state of Colorado.   She aspires to be a catalyst for change, justice, growth, evolution and all around badassery.  She specializes in abuse recovery, trauma related to social injustice, and spiritual abuse.  She incorporates her training as a yoga instructor and mindfulness practitioner to deepen clients healing of their bodies and specializes in somatic and attachment EMDR, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, and ego state work. She is a published author and speaker.  

Connect with Erica:
AVOS practice website: www.avoscounseling.com
To order the book, Always Enough, Never Done, the accompanying workbook, course, and/or join coaching calls: https://www.avoscounseling.com/coaching-packages
Download Erica's Free Polyvagal Toning Guide with a BONUS of 6 guided meditations:
https://www.avoscounseling.com/freebie
Follow Erica on social:
http://m.facebook.com/avoscounseling
https://www.instagram.com/avoscounseling/
https://www.tiktok.com/@ericabonhamsomaticcoach?_t=8sEnEoat3zH&_r=1

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16398559 Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700 3121 1 133 full true Ep 132: New Year Survival Guide: Creating Goals When Co-Parenting with an Abuser Ep 132: New Year Survival Guide: Creating Goals When Co-Parenting with an Abuser If you’re a survivor navigating family court, co-parenting with an abusive ex, and just trying to make it through another day, goal-setting might feel like an impossible task. Even though it is a new year, you are expecting the same old BS from your co-parent and the family court system.

In this episode, we explore how to set meaningful goals for the year ahead—even when life feels like it’s stuck on repeat and the container you’re in does not seem to be changing.

Drawing inspiration from the book 10X Is Easier Than 2X, I share how thinking bigger—instead of smaller—can help you create radical change, even in challenging circumstances. We’ll contrast 10X thinking with the more traditional SMART goals and “1% better each day” theories, highlighting the pros and cons of each approach. Most importantly, I validate the very real feeling that if you’re low on energy or hope, these big ideas might feel overwhelming or out of reach. And that’s okay—we’re meeting you where you are.

This episode focuses on balancing outside-the-box thinking with the strategies you already know work for, as well as putting energy into what is in our control:

  • Navigating family court more effectively
  • Parenting and co-parenting in high-conflict situations
  • Protecting your energy and mental health

Whether you’re ready to dream big or simply looking for small steps to regain control, this episode offers practical, compassionate guidance to help you move forward in your unique situation. cJHs2fzYlu5CvCQx080x

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Episode 128 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16201738-ep-128-when-hope-feels-out-of-reach-for-domestic-violence-survivors
Book: 10x Is Easier Than 2x: 



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]]> If you’re a survivor navigating family court, co-parenting with an abusive ex, and just trying to make it through another day, goal-setting might feel like an impossible task. Even though it is a new year, you are expecting the same old BS from your co-parent and the family court system.

In this episode, we explore how to set meaningful goals for the year ahead—even when life feels like it’s stuck on repeat and the container you’re in does not seem to be changing.

Drawing inspiration from the book 10X Is Easier Than 2X, I share how thinking bigger—instead of smaller—can help you create radical change, even in challenging circumstances. We’ll contrast 10X thinking with the more traditional SMART goals and “1% better each day” theories, highlighting the pros and cons of each approach. Most importantly, I validate the very real feeling that if you’re low on energy or hope, these big ideas might feel overwhelming or out of reach. And that’s okay—we’re meeting you where you are.

This episode focuses on balancing outside-the-box thinking with the strategies you already know work for, as well as putting energy into what is in our control:

  • Navigating family court more effectively
  • Parenting and co-parenting in high-conflict situations
  • Protecting your energy and mental health

Whether you’re ready to dream big or simply looking for small steps to regain control, this episode offers practical, compassionate guidance to help you move forward in your unique situation. cJHs2fzYlu5CvCQx080x

Referenced Links:
Episode 128 - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/16201738-ep-128-when-hope-feels-out-of-reach-for-domestic-violence-survivors
Book: 10x Is Easier Than 2x: 



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]]> Buzzsprout-16312233 Wed, 01 Jan 2025 05:00:00 -0700 1705 full false Ep 131: How Pursuing Your Dreams Can Jumpstart Healing from Abuse with Lola Reid Allin Ep 131: How Pursuing Your Dreams Can Jumpstart Healing from Abuse with Lola Reid Allin One of the most devastating consequences of coercive control and domestic abuse is the stripping away of the victim’s identity and sense of self.

The emotional and psychological abuse leads victims to feel incapable of doing even small tasks that may once have felt easy, let alone the belief that one can follow their dreams.

What if finding a way to take that first step towards your dreams could catapult your healing?

On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I talk with Lola REid Allin on how following her dreams to become a pilot allowed her to escape her abusive marriage in a time when it was shocking for a woman to leave her husband.  In this episode we also discuss the harmful culture in the male dominated profession of aviation and what leads to this harassment and “boys club” culture.

Lola shares her reason for writing her memoir,  HIGHWAY to the SKY: An Aviator’s Journey. It is a way that she can bring light to the many women’s issues that prevent women from living out their dreams.

About Lola: Lola Reid Allin is a survivor, former Airline Transport Pilot, pilot examiner, and the first female flight instructor at two flight schools (BC & ON), and the first woman to fly the Twin Otter (DHC6/300) for a scheduled air service, commemorated on the Wall of Women in Aviation History at the Bush Plane Museum in Sault Ste Marie.

In addition, she is a SCUBA Dive Master, and an award-winning author and photographer whose work has appeared in many notable local, national, and international publications, including National Post, Globe & Mail, Toronto Star, National Geographic, Santa Fe Centre for Photography, Verge Magazine, & Grapevine Magazine. 

To promote the role of women in aviation and to encourage other females to consider aviation careers, Lola is a speaker with the Northern Lights Aero Foundation & the Eastern Ontario 99s Education & Outreach Committee. 
In 2022, she and Robin Hadfield, the International 99s President, created the New Track Scholarship, an annual award for female pilots.

Connect with Lola: 
https://www.lolareidallin.com/
https://www.facebook.com/Lola.Reid.Allin.Pilot/
https://www.instagram.com/lola.reid.allin/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lola-reid-allin-77662220/
https://x.com/Lola_ReidAllin

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]]> One of the most devastating consequences of coercive control and domestic abuse is the stripping away of the victim’s identity and sense of self.

The emotional and psychological abuse leads victims to feel incapable of doing even small tasks that may once have felt easy, let alone the belief that one can follow their dreams.

What if finding a way to take that first step towards your dreams could catapult your healing?

On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I talk with Lola REid Allin on how following her dreams to become a pilot allowed her to escape her abusive marriage in a time when it was shocking for a woman to leave her husband.  In this episode we also discuss the harmful culture in the male dominated profession of aviation and what leads to this harassment and “boys club” culture.

Lola shares her reason for writing her memoir,  HIGHWAY to the SKY: An Aviator’s Journey. It is a way that she can bring light to the many women’s issues that prevent women from living out their dreams.

About Lola: Lola Reid Allin is a survivor, former Airline Transport Pilot, pilot examiner, and the first female flight instructor at two flight schools (BC & ON), and the first woman to fly the Twin Otter (DHC6/300) for a scheduled air service, commemorated on the Wall of Women in Aviation History at the Bush Plane Museum in Sault Ste Marie.

In addition, she is a SCUBA Dive Master, and an award-winning author and photographer whose work has appeared in many notable local, national, and international publications, including National Post, Globe & Mail, Toronto Star, National Geographic, Santa Fe Centre for Photography, Verge Magazine, & Grapevine Magazine. 

To promote the role of women in aviation and to encourage other females to consider aviation careers, Lola is a speaker with the Northern Lights Aero Foundation & the Eastern Ontario 99s Education & Outreach Committee. 
In 2022, she and Robin Hadfield, the International 99s President, created the New Track Scholarship, an annual award for female pilots.

Connect with Lola: 
https://www.lolareidallin.com/
https://www.facebook.com/Lola.Reid.Allin.Pilot/
https://www.instagram.com/lola.reid.allin/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lola-reid-allin-77662220/
https://x.com/Lola_ReidAllin

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]]> Buzzsprout-16256694 Wed, 25 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2604 1 131 full true Ep 130: Survivor Struggles, Legislative Wins, and Family Court Failures Ep 130: Survivor Struggles, Legislative Wins, and Family Court Failures What can we learn from all that happened in 2024?

In this episode, I share some of the top themes that I have seen throughout the year based on the most listened to podcast episodes, my communications with the other advocates fighting for survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, and most importantly the clients and community members I have the honor to walk alongside every day.

I have seen parallels between the podcast episodes that had the highest engagement and that of the typical healing process from abuse.  I also discuss the changes legislatively that have happened in 2024, as well as the increased awareness and media coverage of our family court crisis. I also share the common struggles of the survivors I am working with currently.

While we have done a better job working together this year, we still have a long way to go including improvements in accountability and enforcement, transparency, and leading people to take the next step when we are doing work to bring awareness to family court and domestic violence issues.

Offer your input on what you want to know more about in 2025 - https://us20.list-manage.com/survey?u=7d2b7e1333294299a48cf04aa&id=fd5c41ccdf&e=07c24158c9&mc_cid=a6957ae7b5

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]]> What can we learn from all that happened in 2024?

In this episode, I share some of the top themes that I have seen throughout the year based on the most listened to podcast episodes, my communications with the other advocates fighting for survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, and most importantly the clients and community members I have the honor to walk alongside every day.

I have seen parallels between the podcast episodes that had the highest engagement and that of the typical healing process from abuse.  I also discuss the changes legislatively that have happened in 2024, as well as the increased awareness and media coverage of our family court crisis. I also share the common struggles of the survivors I am working with currently.

While we have done a better job working together this year, we still have a long way to go including improvements in accountability and enforcement, transparency, and leading people to take the next step when we are doing work to bring awareness to family court and domestic violence issues.

Offer your input on what you want to know more about in 2025 - https://us20.list-manage.com/survey?u=7d2b7e1333294299a48cf04aa&id=fd5c41ccdf&e=07c24158c9&mc_cid=a6957ae7b5

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16241091 Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1403 1 130 full true Ep 129: AImee One Year Later: Fighting Loneliness and Saving Time for Survivors of Abuse with Anne Wintemute Ep 129: AImee One Year Later: Fighting Loneliness and Saving Time for Survivors of Abuse with Anne Wintemute Post separation abuse resources are still scarce even though it is no longer a secret that abuse continues after a victim leaves the relationship.

Feeling like you are on your own as you read and respond to your co-parent’s messages in your co-parenting app or as you search through hundreds of messages to find that one thread that your attorney has asked you to find by the end of the day is common for survivors dealing with post separation abuse.

The Rising Beyond Podcast first introduced Anne Wintemute, the co-founder of Aimee says, the AI companion for survivors of domestic violence in Dec 2023 when this resource was just getting off the ground.  A year later, AImee is helping tens of thousands of survivors every month and we wanted to follow up to chat about how this tool continues to help combat the challenges post separation brings and some interesting themes that Anne is seeing with their users.

We explore the time and money saved by using Aimee and how "Aimee" combats the loneliness and isolation that survivors experience by offering 24/7 support, from co-parenting advice to emotional validation.

Listen now to see if Aimee could be a helpful tool in your post separation abuse tool box.

Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance.  Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver.

Checkout the app - https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home

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]]> Post separation abuse resources are still scarce even though it is no longer a secret that abuse continues after a victim leaves the relationship.

Feeling like you are on your own as you read and respond to your co-parent’s messages in your co-parenting app or as you search through hundreds of messages to find that one thread that your attorney has asked you to find by the end of the day is common for survivors dealing with post separation abuse.

The Rising Beyond Podcast first introduced Anne Wintemute, the co-founder of Aimee says, the AI companion for survivors of domestic violence in Dec 2023 when this resource was just getting off the ground.  A year later, AImee is helping tens of thousands of survivors every month and we wanted to follow up to chat about how this tool continues to help combat the challenges post separation brings and some interesting themes that Anne is seeing with their users.

We explore the time and money saved by using Aimee and how "Aimee" combats the loneliness and isolation that survivors experience by offering 24/7 support, from co-parenting advice to emotional validation.

Listen now to see if Aimee could be a helpful tool in your post separation abuse tool box.

Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance.  Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver.

Checkout the app - https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16228125 Wed, 11 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2481 1 129 full false Ep 128: When Hope Feels Out of Reach for Domestic Violence Survivors Ep 128: When Hope Feels Out of Reach for Domestic Violence Survivors Navigating the family court system with an abusive ex can feel like an endless, uphill battle. 

And with our current system broken and the current state of our world, the idea of “finding hope” and positivity may not feel possible.

In this episode, we explore how to find steadiness and strength when hope feels out of reach. Instead of relying on external outcomes, we discuss how cultivating resilience and persistence can empower you, and how creating personal anchors can offer daily stability. These tools are practical, actionable, and within your control—helping you stay grounded, no matter what challenges arise.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why “hope” can feel misplaced in the family court system and what to focus on instead.
  • The power of resilience and persistence in staying steady through the process.
  • How to create and use emotional, physical, and mental “anchors” for daily grounding.
  • Practical examples of resilience-building practices and anchoring techniques.
  • How to integrate persistence and anchors for long-term stability and self-empowerment.


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Navigating the family court system with an abusive ex can feel like an endless, uphill battle. 

And with our current system broken and the current state of our world, the idea of “finding hope” and positivity may not feel possible.

In this episode, we explore how to find steadiness and strength when hope feels out of reach. Instead of relying on external outcomes, we discuss how cultivating resilience and persistence can empower you, and how creating personal anchors can offer daily stability. These tools are practical, actionable, and within your control—helping you stay grounded, no matter what challenges arise.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why “hope” can feel misplaced in the family court system and what to focus on instead.
  • The power of resilience and persistence in staying steady through the process.
  • How to create and use emotional, physical, and mental “anchors” for daily grounding.
  • Practical examples of resilience-building practices and anchoring techniques.
  • How to integrate persistence and anchors for long-term stability and self-empowerment.


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16201738 Wed, 04 Dec 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1272 1 128 full true Ep 127: Stuck in Your Head? The Role of Emotions as You Heal from Abuse with Bre Wolta Ep 127: Stuck in Your Head? The Role of Emotions as You Heal from Abuse with Bre Wolta Do you ever feel like you are stuck in your head?

It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions.

On this week’s episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified EFT practitioner, on her experiences leaving an abusive relationship and the invaluable lessons about boundaries, self-worth, and the illusion of "potential land” she learned on her healing journey. She explains how clinging to hope can keep you anchored in dysfunction, and emphasizes the importance of emotional recognition and processing. Discover the transformative power of the "analytical buoy," and how allowing yourself to feel the full range of emotions, from grief to anger, can be healing.

While it is important to understand what you’ve gone through it is just as important to allow yourself to feel what you’ve gone through.  Healing from abuse takes both.

Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of toxic relationships so that they can securely attach and finally experience healthy love. Bre's own toxic relationship healing journey, and her ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they find clarity and build trust from within, rekindling the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves.

Connect with Bre:

  • Website: www.brewolta.com
  • Podcast (Heartbreak to Healing: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships): https://link.chtbl.com/nGsnWVzZ
  • Episode 25 "What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-what-to-do-after-the-breakup-4-steps-to-help-you/id1714991254?i=1000655949382
  • Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBd9yoGwfdc-m5RhAUolGwg
  • IG: @‌lucid.living.with.bre
  • Mini Course: Find Yourself Again - https://www.brewolta.com/find-yourself-again. Use code Podcast10 to receive 10% off

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]]> Do you ever feel like you are stuck in your head?

It may mean that you need to get out of your thoughts and into your body and emotions.

On this week’s episode we do a deep dive with Bre Wolta, a relationship coach and certified EFT practitioner, on her experiences leaving an abusive relationship and the invaluable lessons about boundaries, self-worth, and the illusion of "potential land” she learned on her healing journey. She explains how clinging to hope can keep you anchored in dysfunction, and emphasizes the importance of emotional recognition and processing. Discover the transformative power of the "analytical buoy," and how allowing yourself to feel the full range of emotions, from grief to anger, can be healing.

While it is important to understand what you’ve gone through it is just as important to allow yourself to feel what you’ve gone through.  Healing from abuse takes both.

Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of toxic relationships so that they can securely attach and finally experience healthy love. Bre's own toxic relationship healing journey, and her ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they find clarity and build trust from within, rekindling the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves.

Connect with Bre:

  • Website: www.brewolta.com
  • Podcast (Heartbreak to Healing: Untangling the Mindf*ck of Narcissistic Relationships): https://link.chtbl.com/nGsnWVzZ
  • Episode 25 "What To Do After The Breakup: 4 Steps to Help You Move Through The Grief & Heartbreak Of A Narcissistic Relationship" - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/25-what-to-do-after-the-breakup-4-steps-to-help-you/id1714991254?i=1000655949382
  • Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBd9yoGwfdc-m5RhAUolGwg
  • IG: @‌lucid.living.with.bre
  • Mini Course: Find Yourself Again - https://www.brewolta.com/find-yourself-again. Use code Podcast10 to receive 10% off

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]]> Buzzsprout-16180824 Wed, 27 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2749 1 127 full true Ep 126: Can Narcissists Change? What Family Court and Survivors Need to Know Ep 126: Can Narcissists Change? What Family Court and Survivors Need to Know What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change?

That is if they are willing to change.

And if you are struggling to leave, hoping that your partner will make the changes they have promised, what do you need to know?

In this episode I critique and summarize an article that hooked me in several years ago called 
“10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders: Narcissists can slowly change, with appropriate therapy and a lot of effort.”

This article suggests 10 stages for the clinical “curing” of NPD. I share the takeaways for those who come into contact with someone with NPD or someone high on the continuum of narcissism including how the family court system can learn from and make changes to their assumptions based in this article.  I also discuss what is missing from the article and ideas for future research.

Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201908/10-stages-in-the-treatment-narcissistic-disorders

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]]> What does the family court system and other systems need to know about the realistic time it will take someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or those who are high on the continuum of narcissism to actually change?

That is if they are willing to change.

And if you are struggling to leave, hoping that your partner will make the changes they have promised, what do you need to know?

In this episode I critique and summarize an article that hooked me in several years ago called 
“10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders: Narcissists can slowly change, with appropriate therapy and a lot of effort.”

This article suggests 10 stages for the clinical “curing” of NPD. I share the takeaways for those who come into contact with someone with NPD or someone high on the continuum of narcissism including how the family court system can learn from and make changes to their assumptions based in this article.  I also discuss what is missing from the article and ideas for future research.

Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201908/10-stages-in-the-treatment-narcissistic-disorders

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16123800 Wed, 20 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1615 1 126 full false Ep 125: Shining a Light on Family Court Failures with Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins and Erin Siegal Ep 125: Shining a Light on Family Court Failures with Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins and Erin Siegal Transparency is a requirement for any meaningful change in our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  This is extremely apparent when you hear the horror stories of survivors day after day of their time and retraumatization in family court.

And just recently, the curtain has been pulled back to allow the world to see what is really going on when a survivor of domestic violence tries to protect her children in family court.  Today I am talking with two survivors with their own horror stories who have both received media attention on their cases.

Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins was recently in the news after being jailed for protecting her children.  And while the media reported several things incorrectly (which will be corrected in this episode) it shed the light on courts ordering reunification therapy when there are significant concerns of sexual abuse with what turns out to be an unethical therapist.

Erin Siegal’s case was in the limelight several years ago on her experiences with unethical and harmful court evaluators and other legal professionals.  This case and reporting were at the start of the movement here in Colorado that allowed Kayden’s Law and other laws to be passed to help start court reform.  She continues to be threatened with gag orders to silence her advocacy.

We need to continue the momentum and continue to shine the spotlight on what is really going on in our family court system.  So that survivors are not silenced.  

Where to find Erin and Rachel -
Erin - https://linktr.ee/fortitudeflourish
Rachel - https://www.tiktok.com/@mount.simon.minis?_t=8qQwZPeFfit&_r=1 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550070298795&mibextid=LQQJ4d 

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]]> Transparency is a requirement for any meaningful change in our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  This is extremely apparent when you hear the horror stories of survivors day after day of their time and retraumatization in family court.

And just recently, the curtain has been pulled back to allow the world to see what is really going on when a survivor of domestic violence tries to protect her children in family court.  Today I am talking with two survivors with their own horror stories who have both received media attention on their cases.

Rachel Pickrel-Hawkins was recently in the news after being jailed for protecting her children.  And while the media reported several things incorrectly (which will be corrected in this episode) it shed the light on courts ordering reunification therapy when there are significant concerns of sexual abuse with what turns out to be an unethical therapist.

Erin Siegal’s case was in the limelight several years ago on her experiences with unethical and harmful court evaluators and other legal professionals.  This case and reporting were at the start of the movement here in Colorado that allowed Kayden’s Law and other laws to be passed to help start court reform.  She continues to be threatened with gag orders to silence her advocacy.

We need to continue the momentum and continue to shine the spotlight on what is really going on in our family court system.  So that survivors are not silenced.  

Where to find Erin and Rachel -
Erin - https://linktr.ee/fortitudeflourish
Rachel - https://www.tiktok.com/@mount.simon.minis?_t=8qQwZPeFfit&_r=1 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61550070298795&mibextid=LQQJ4d 

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]]> Buzzsprout-16093086 Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700 3246 1 125 full true Ep 124: Leveraging Your Expertise for Better Custody Outcomes in Family Court with Julie Nabors Ep 124: Leveraging Your Expertise for Better Custody Outcomes in Family Court with Julie Nabors Coercive control and dv thrive in secrecy and so for many reasons victims lose their voices in the process of these relationships.  

Once a victim has left they have to make the decision of what parts of their story to share and with whom.  This is especially important when a victim finds themselves in the family court system trying to protect their family.

When facing a divorce with your abusive ex partner it would seem that a trial is inevitable and based on research and the experiences of so many I've worked with, it's a crap shoot to whether your story will be heard or believed.

What if there was another way? What if you as the survivor could use your expertise on your ex and your family to get a better deal in divorce?

This is what we are discussing today; the different ways you can use your knowledge and voice to get a settlement agreement with your ex, even if only for some of the concerns, instead of leaving it all up to the cookie cutter decrees set by most family court judges.  

If you have a case that needs a custom plan due to things like substance use or abuse, then the tips and tricks in this episode may be exactly what you are missing. 

Julie blends professional insights with her personal story of navigating a high-conflict custody dispute. She avoids sharing too many specifics to respect her ex and children, she explains how her background in dispute resolution helped keep their family out of the courtroom, despite major challenges. Julie specializes in helping law firms enhance client experience (CX) through customized training and support. Outside of work, she volunteers to support parents navigating divorce, ensuring the safety and well-being of their children remain central. 

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]]> Coercive control and dv thrive in secrecy and so for many reasons victims lose their voices in the process of these relationships.  

Once a victim has left they have to make the decision of what parts of their story to share and with whom.  This is especially important when a victim finds themselves in the family court system trying to protect their family.

When facing a divorce with your abusive ex partner it would seem that a trial is inevitable and based on research and the experiences of so many I've worked with, it's a crap shoot to whether your story will be heard or believed.

What if there was another way? What if you as the survivor could use your expertise on your ex and your family to get a better deal in divorce?

This is what we are discussing today; the different ways you can use your knowledge and voice to get a settlement agreement with your ex, even if only for some of the concerns, instead of leaving it all up to the cookie cutter decrees set by most family court judges.  

If you have a case that needs a custom plan due to things like substance use or abuse, then the tips and tricks in this episode may be exactly what you are missing. 

Julie blends professional insights with her personal story of navigating a high-conflict custody dispute. She avoids sharing too many specifics to respect her ex and children, she explains how her background in dispute resolution helped keep their family out of the courtroom, despite major challenges. Julie specializes in helping law firms enhance client experience (CX) through customized training and support. Outside of work, she volunteers to support parents navigating divorce, ensuring the safety and well-being of their children remain central. 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16027780 Wed, 06 Nov 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2898 1 124 full true Ep 123: No Accountability for Abusers: Is There Anything a Survivor of Domestic Violence Can Do to Change This? Ep 123: No Accountability for Abusers: Is There Anything a Survivor of Domestic Violence Can Do to Change This? Are awareness and education the best option for decreasing the rates of domestic violence and coercive control?

While it is important, we have been bringing awareness to the public since 1987 and it doesn’t feel like a lot has changed.

What I believe will have the most impact is accountability for those that perpetrate family violence and coercive control on others? And I am not the only one.  But why isn’t it happening?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I share my thoughts on why there is consistently no accountability for abusers in our larger systems and what you can do to improve the chances of seeing accountability in your case.

We are focusing on the things that are within your control, looking at the logistical things that will make it more likely for your abuser to be held accountable to some extent and things you can do to take care of yourself during this journey when so much is outside of your control.


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]]> Are awareness and education the best option for decreasing the rates of domestic violence and coercive control?

While it is important, we have been bringing awareness to the public since 1987 and it doesn’t feel like a lot has changed.

What I believe will have the most impact is accountability for those that perpetrate family violence and coercive control on others? And I am not the only one.  But why isn’t it happening?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I share my thoughts on why there is consistently no accountability for abusers in our larger systems and what you can do to improve the chances of seeing accountability in your case.

We are focusing on the things that are within your control, looking at the logistical things that will make it more likely for your abuser to be held accountable to some extent and things you can do to take care of yourself during this journey when so much is outside of your control.


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-16012545 Wed, 30 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1398 1 123 full true Ep 122: The Hidden Damage of Isolation: Restoring Brain Health After Domestic Abuse with Social Connections Ep 122: The Hidden Damage of Isolation: Restoring Brain Health After Domestic Abuse with Social Connections Isolation as a tactic of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence is fairly well understood, however are there larger consequences to continued isolation post separation?

Similar to the scores from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale (ACES), isolation has been shown to have long term negative impacts on your physical, mental, and brain health.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast you will come along with me as I learn more about how the tactic of isolation can impair your brain’s ability to heal through neuroplasticity and impair its ability to form new connections.  

I take a look at: 

  • Why isolation is so helpful to the abuser to maintain power and control during the relationship as well as post separation
  • The negative long term effects of isolation
  • How social connections can be the number one tool for healing and getting your brain function back on track.


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]]> Isolation as a tactic of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence is fairly well understood, however are there larger consequences to continued isolation post separation?

Similar to the scores from the Adverse Childhood Experiences Scale (ACES), isolation has been shown to have long term negative impacts on your physical, mental, and brain health.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast you will come along with me as I learn more about how the tactic of isolation can impair your brain’s ability to heal through neuroplasticity and impair its ability to form new connections.  

I take a look at: 

  • Why isolation is so helpful to the abuser to maintain power and control during the relationship as well as post separation
  • The negative long term effects of isolation
  • How social connections can be the number one tool for healing and getting your brain function back on track.


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15963097 Wed, 23 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1128 1 122 full false Ep 121: Abigail’s Story: Exposing the Hidden Truth of Officer Involved Domestic Violence Ep 121: Abigail’s Story: Exposing the Hidden Truth of Officer Involved Domestic Violence What is Officer Involved Domestic Violence? 

This is an area of advocacy where we have known to be a problem for years and it is unspoken; a “dirty little secret.”  Bruce Bieber agreed to share his story as a way to move this issue into the forefront so that change might actually happen.

Take care of yourself as you listen to this story.

Abigail Rose Bieber, “Abby” to her friends and family, was the first of their three children to move to the Tampa Bay area.  In short order, Abby became a Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office Deputy where she served for four years.  Both of her brothers are also in law enforcement.

The Biebers have always been an incredibly close family and the pull to join their children in Florida was too great to resist so Bruce and Sarah retired and followed their three kids and grandkids to Florida. 

Seven months after moving to a home 1.5 miles from Abby’s house, Bruce and Sarah were planning Abby’s funeral.  On January 29, 2022, Abby was shot three times in the head by Detective Daniel M. Leyden, also with the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office while they, along with two other HCSO Deputy couples, were vacationing in St. Augustine.  Leyden killed himself.   

Since that fateful night, Bruce has been on a journey of grief, learning, discovery and advocacy – seeking to understand what went wrong and how to apply the lessons learned to the prevention of another death at the hands of a law enforcement officer.   


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]]> What is Officer Involved Domestic Violence? 

This is an area of advocacy where we have known to be a problem for years and it is unspoken; a “dirty little secret.”  Bruce Bieber agreed to share his story as a way to move this issue into the forefront so that change might actually happen.

Take care of yourself as you listen to this story.

Abigail Rose Bieber, “Abby” to her friends and family, was the first of their three children to move to the Tampa Bay area.  In short order, Abby became a Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office Deputy where she served for four years.  Both of her brothers are also in law enforcement.

The Biebers have always been an incredibly close family and the pull to join their children in Florida was too great to resist so Bruce and Sarah retired and followed their three kids and grandkids to Florida. 

Seven months after moving to a home 1.5 miles from Abby’s house, Bruce and Sarah were planning Abby’s funeral.  On January 29, 2022, Abby was shot three times in the head by Detective Daniel M. Leyden, also with the Hillsborough County Sheriff’s Office while they, along with two other HCSO Deputy couples, were vacationing in St. Augustine.  Leyden killed himself.   

Since that fateful night, Bruce has been on a journey of grief, learning, discovery and advocacy – seeking to understand what went wrong and how to apply the lessons learned to the prevention of another death at the hands of a law enforcement officer.   


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15892785 Wed, 16 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0600 3311 1 121 full false Ep 120: Finding Validation After Narcissistic Abuse: Building Friendships That Don’t Keep You Stuck Ep 120: Finding Validation After Narcissistic Abuse: Building Friendships That Don’t Keep You Stuck What happens when you finally find that one or two people who actually get the narcissistic abuse that you have gone through and continue to go through post separation?

Oftentimes you might find yourself sharing like water coming out of a fire hose.  The validation and head nods when you are sharing your experiences just increase the amount you are sharing.  And this is solidified when they are able to finish your sentences before you do.

And while these experiences can be extremely helpful as you heal, the constant conversations around the abuse can create a relationship that is extremely limited.  And you (and your new found friend) are more than the abuse you have endured.

So how can you maintain this level of support while also creating relationships where you do not feel burn out and can move beyond the labels of being “survivors.”

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]]> What happens when you finally find that one or two people who actually get the narcissistic abuse that you have gone through and continue to go through post separation?

Oftentimes you might find yourself sharing like water coming out of a fire hose.  The validation and head nods when you are sharing your experiences just increase the amount you are sharing.  And this is solidified when they are able to finish your sentences before you do.

And while these experiences can be extremely helpful as you heal, the constant conversations around the abuse can create a relationship that is extremely limited.  And you (and your new found friend) are more than the abuse you have endured.

So how can you maintain this level of support while also creating relationships where you do not feel burn out and can move beyond the labels of being “survivors.”

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15884977 Wed, 09 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1229 1 120 full false Ep 119: The Typical Patterns of Abuse: Why They Continue to Work Post Separation with Nova Gibson Ep 119: The Typical Patterns of Abuse: Why They Continue to Work Post Separation with Nova Gibson What is a typical pattern or blueprint for the relationship with a narcissist?

Love Bombing happens first.  Followed by devaluation.  And then concludes with the Discard.

And this cycle happens over and over again within the relationship leaving the victim confused, hurt and willing to do anything just to experience the good times again.

But does this pattern happen after a victim separates from their partner?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Nova Gibson and I discuss this pattern and how it changes and what it looks like during post separation abuse.  Nova shares her insight on why this patterns works so well for the narcissist before, during, and after the relationship.

Nova Gibson is director, founder and primary counsellor of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service and the go-to expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. She is the author of Australia's best-selling practical self help book of 2023, 'Fake Love  - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse published by Harpercollins and the host of her own Podcast,  Fake Love and Flying Monkeys. Nova has helped thousands of clients in Australia and around the world with one-on-one professional support. She lives in Brisbane, Australia.

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]]> What is a typical pattern or blueprint for the relationship with a narcissist?

Love Bombing happens first.  Followed by devaluation.  And then concludes with the Discard.

And this cycle happens over and over again within the relationship leaving the victim confused, hurt and willing to do anything just to experience the good times again.

But does this pattern happen after a victim separates from their partner?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Nova Gibson and I discuss this pattern and how it changes and what it looks like during post separation abuse.  Nova shares her insight on why this patterns works so well for the narcissist before, during, and after the relationship.

Nova Gibson is director, founder and primary counsellor of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling Service and the go-to expert on narcissistic abuse recovery in Australia. She is the author of Australia's best-selling practical self help book of 2023, 'Fake Love  - Understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse published by Harpercollins and the host of her own Podcast,  Fake Love and Flying Monkeys. Nova has helped thousands of clients in Australia and around the world with one-on-one professional support. She lives in Brisbane, Australia.

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]]> Buzzsprout-15844081 Wed, 02 Oct 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2882 1 119 full false Ep 118: Behind the Curtain: Exposing the Failings of Family Court for Survivors of Domestic Violence Ep 118: Behind the Curtain: Exposing the Failings of Family Court for Survivors of Domestic Violence What is it going to take for there to be real systemic change? 

The state of our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is horrific for so many families.  And recently some of the unethical and biased decisions made by judges has had the curtain pulled back and has made it into the media here in CO.  

This episode is a rant and some of my thoughts about everything that has been going on in our family court system as I supported those working with Rachel Pickrel Hawkins, the mom who was sent to jail for protecting her children.

And if you are feeling ignored or silenced because your case is not getting the support or attention that it deserves, I talk directly to you.

Link to articles about the case:
https://denvergazette.com/colorado-watch/reunification-therapy-colorado-child-abuse/article_96e08e26-66f4-11ef-b15c-ab5c4905bfc1.html

https://denvergazette.com/news/colorado-mother-avoids-jail-therapy-dispute/article_7db23428-716b-11ef-ac35-73da23496db5.html

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]]> What is it going to take for there to be real systemic change? 

The state of our family court system for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse is horrific for so many families.  And recently some of the unethical and biased decisions made by judges has had the curtain pulled back and has made it into the media here in CO.  

This episode is a rant and some of my thoughts about everything that has been going on in our family court system as I supported those working with Rachel Pickrel Hawkins, the mom who was sent to jail for protecting her children.

And if you are feeling ignored or silenced because your case is not getting the support or attention that it deserves, I talk directly to you.

Link to articles about the case:
https://denvergazette.com/colorado-watch/reunification-therapy-colorado-child-abuse/article_96e08e26-66f4-11ef-b15c-ab5c4905bfc1.html

https://denvergazette.com/news/colorado-mother-avoids-jail-therapy-dispute/article_7db23428-716b-11ef-ac35-73da23496db5.html

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15782926 Wed, 25 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1425 1 118 full false Ep 117: Reproductive Coercion with Lynn Stroud Ep 117: Reproductive Coercion with Lynn Stroud How does a narcissistic and abusive partner get you stuck in a relationship?

Most of the time it is through love bombing, moving extremely quickly, and coercing you into a larger commitment, like living together, getting engaged or married or having a baby.

But what does it look like when the victim says “no?”

Oftentimes the perpetrator will find another way, like with reproductive coercion.

In this episode, my guest, Lynn Stroud and I dive into a lesser discussed topic where a perpetrator of abuse does all they can to get their partner pregnant leaving the victim in a precarious spot. A place where they need to make decisions that will impact their lives forever, no matter what choice they make.

Lynn is a survivor of sexual assault, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and reproductive abuse. She aims to educate the world about the danger of reproductive coercion. Lynn was fortunate enough to escape her abusers, but will continue to share her story in the hopes that better laws surrounding coercive control will protect others.

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]]> How does a narcissistic and abusive partner get you stuck in a relationship?

Most of the time it is through love bombing, moving extremely quickly, and coercing you into a larger commitment, like living together, getting engaged or married or having a baby.

But what does it look like when the victim says “no?”

Oftentimes the perpetrator will find another way, like with reproductive coercion.

In this episode, my guest, Lynn Stroud and I dive into a lesser discussed topic where a perpetrator of abuse does all they can to get their partner pregnant leaving the victim in a precarious spot. A place where they need to make decisions that will impact their lives forever, no matter what choice they make.

Lynn is a survivor of sexual assault, coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and reproductive abuse. She aims to educate the world about the danger of reproductive coercion. Lynn was fortunate enough to escape her abusers, but will continue to share her story in the hopes that better laws surrounding coercive control will protect others.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15769602 Wed, 18 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2183 1 117 full true Ep 116: Choosing My Battles When Coparenting with My Narcissistic Ex Ep 116: Choosing My Battles When Coparenting with My Narcissistic Ex Is it easy for you to choose what battles to fight and what battles to let go of when you are co-parenting with your abusive and narcissistic ex-partner?

Many of the survivors I have worked with struggle to make this decision based on the judgments of others, the self-doubt, and the weight that their decisions may carry for their children.

In this episode, I want to guide you through some questions that you can use to assess whether the battle in front of you is worth fighting or not in a way that will keep your children safer and minimize the negative impacts on your mental health. We will also look at ways to respond to others when they do not agree with your decision.

The questions are broken up into the following categories:

  • Safety Implications
  • Legal Implications
  • Co-parenting/Day to Day
  • Personal Boundaries/Healing/Moral Injury

Episode References:
Grab your FREE PDF of all of the questions discussed HERE.
Episode 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury
Maslow's hierarchy of needs


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]]> Is it easy for you to choose what battles to fight and what battles to let go of when you are co-parenting with your abusive and narcissistic ex-partner?

Many of the survivors I have worked with struggle to make this decision based on the judgments of others, the self-doubt, and the weight that their decisions may carry for their children.

In this episode, I want to guide you through some questions that you can use to assess whether the battle in front of you is worth fighting or not in a way that will keep your children safer and minimize the negative impacts on your mental health. We will also look at ways to respond to others when they do not agree with your decision.

The questions are broken up into the following categories:

  • Safety Implications
  • Legal Implications
  • Co-parenting/Day to Day
  • Personal Boundaries/Healing/Moral Injury

Episode References:
Grab your FREE PDF of all of the questions discussed HERE.
Episode 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury
Maslow's hierarchy of needs


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15721903 Wed, 11 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1631 1 116 full false Ep 115: Understanding Generational Trauma and Its Role in Abusive Relationships Ep 115: Understanding Generational Trauma and Its Role in Abusive Relationships Why did I end up in an abusive relationship?

There is no one reason or answer to this question with the exception of…your partner chose to abuse you.

And I know that this answer does not satisfy anyone.  So we are going to look at one of the factors that make women more susceptible to being targeted by an abusive person and why they are more likely to stay in an abusive relationship. 

We are doing a deep dive into generational trauma.

Generational trauma is when trauma is passed down through generations through a combination of psychological, behavioral, and biological mechanisms or pathways. I touch on each of these pathways and the impacts that they have on you and your family.
Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and abuse in a family system is extremely difficult work and starting with a trained mental health professional is the first step to healing yourself so that you can break this cycle for your family. 

Some of the work you may do during this process are:

  • Understanding where it comes from and how your family has contributed to your trauma is not an excuse, but an explanation
  • Understanding your role in the family dynamic and what your family might do to keep you in the role and why? Plate and marble example
  • Help you identify where you need to set boundaries
  • Allowing you a place to examine your values and set plans for how to live with those at the forefront 
  • Allowing you to imagine a life that looks different
  • Grieving the loss of … innocence or your childhood
  • Offering yourself forgiveness
  • Finding inspirational stories of success of breaking the cycle
  • Creating your safe inner circle of support with healthy people
  • One of the most positive impacts of doing all of this work is that you get to teach your children all of the things you are learning!!! Through modeling and conversation, which will impact generations to come.

Show Resources:
Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children
Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury


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]]> Why did I end up in an abusive relationship?

There is no one reason or answer to this question with the exception of…your partner chose to abuse you.

And I know that this answer does not satisfy anyone.  So we are going to look at one of the factors that make women more susceptible to being targeted by an abusive person and why they are more likely to stay in an abusive relationship. 

We are doing a deep dive into generational trauma.

Generational trauma is when trauma is passed down through generations through a combination of psychological, behavioral, and biological mechanisms or pathways. I touch on each of these pathways and the impacts that they have on you and your family.
Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and abuse in a family system is extremely difficult work and starting with a trained mental health professional is the first step to healing yourself so that you can break this cycle for your family. 

Some of the work you may do during this process are:

  • Understanding where it comes from and how your family has contributed to your trauma is not an excuse, but an explanation
  • Understanding your role in the family dynamic and what your family might do to keep you in the role and why? Plate and marble example
  • Help you identify where you need to set boundaries
  • Allowing you a place to examine your values and set plans for how to live with those at the forefront 
  • Allowing you to imagine a life that looks different
  • Grieving the loss of … innocence or your childhood
  • Offering yourself forgiveness
  • Finding inspirational stories of success of breaking the cycle
  • Creating your safe inner circle of support with healthy people
  • One of the most positive impacts of doing all of this work is that you get to teach your children all of the things you are learning!!! Through modeling and conversation, which will impact generations to come.

Show Resources:
Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children
Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury


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]]> Buzzsprout-15691817 Wed, 04 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1782 1 115 full true Ep 114: Combating Coercive Control: Bringing Education into the Classroom with Lis Hoyte Ep 114: Combating Coercive Control: Bringing Education into the Classroom with Lis Hoyte How can we add a layer of protection for young people so that they can see coercive control in relationships a mile away?

What if we brought education about coercive control and teen dating violence into our schools?

In this episode, I have a conversation with Lis Hoyte on her goal to bring this education on coercive control and healthy relationships into the school systems in the UK and then across the globe.  We talk about the realities of when coercive control starts to show up in the relationships of our teens and tweens and some of the consequences of this.  We talk about the challenges of getting schools on board with bringing this into the classroom. We also look at some benefits that might come from adding this curriculum to our schools, including introducing this information to the staff so that families dealing with coercive control and post-separation abuse can get better treatment and allowing children with coercively controlling parents the education to truly see and understand their situations.

Where to find Lis:
Lis's Website - https://www.lishoyte.com/
Lis's Email Address - lisreallywhat@gmail.com
Lis's LinkedIn Profile - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lishoyte/

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]]> How can we add a layer of protection for young people so that they can see coercive control in relationships a mile away?

What if we brought education about coercive control and teen dating violence into our schools?

In this episode, I have a conversation with Lis Hoyte on her goal to bring this education on coercive control and healthy relationships into the school systems in the UK and then across the globe.  We talk about the realities of when coercive control starts to show up in the relationships of our teens and tweens and some of the consequences of this.  We talk about the challenges of getting schools on board with bringing this into the classroom. We also look at some benefits that might come from adding this curriculum to our schools, including introducing this information to the staff so that families dealing with coercive control and post-separation abuse can get better treatment and allowing children with coercively controlling parents the education to truly see and understand their situations.

Where to find Lis:
Lis's Website - https://www.lishoyte.com/
Lis's Email Address - lisreallywhat@gmail.com
Lis's LinkedIn Profile - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lishoyte/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15646414 Wed, 28 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2545 1 114 full false Ep 113:Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex Ep 113:Co-Parenting vs. Parallel Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex What is the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting?
If you have separated from your narcissistic ex-partner and you share children together, it is likely that you will still have to parent your children together in some capacity.  So, which one is right for you?

Co-parenting, in theory, is what is in the best interest of your children. During co-parenting, you are making decisions together, discussing concerns, attending events together, and trying to keep the rules and structure in the home consistent. This only works if both parents can truly put the child’s needs first and there is some trust in the other parent.

It is more likely that you all are going to be parallel parenting. Parallel parenting is shared parenting where you limit contact and interact with the other parent as little as possible to avoid conflict while both parents maintain a relationship with the child.

In this episode I speak about the challenges of parallel parenting with an abusive ex, why the courts still use the term co-parenting (and why you will use it too), and some of the things that you can do to help support your children during this and how to take care of yourself.

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]]> What is the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting?
If you have separated from your narcissistic ex-partner and you share children together, it is likely that you will still have to parent your children together in some capacity.  So, which one is right for you?

Co-parenting, in theory, is what is in the best interest of your children. During co-parenting, you are making decisions together, discussing concerns, attending events together, and trying to keep the rules and structure in the home consistent. This only works if both parents can truly put the child’s needs first and there is some trust in the other parent.

It is more likely that you all are going to be parallel parenting. Parallel parenting is shared parenting where you limit contact and interact with the other parent as little as possible to avoid conflict while both parents maintain a relationship with the child.

In this episode I speak about the challenges of parallel parenting with an abusive ex, why the courts still use the term co-parenting (and why you will use it too), and some of the things that you can do to help support your children during this and how to take care of yourself.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15607176 Wed, 21 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1414 1 113 full true Ep 112: How Women are Framed in the Family Court System with Dr. Cocchiola and Amy Polacko Ep 112: How Women are Framed in the Family Court System with Dr. Cocchiola and Amy Polacko Our family court system continues to harm families on a daily basis.  If you are a survivor of domestic violence, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse and share children with your ex-partner, you are likely experiencing this firsthand.

But what can we do about it?

We are creating an army of advocates who are passionate about creating massive changes within our larger systems.  And today I have the honor of talking with two of the women on the front lines of this fight, Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko.

In this episode, you are going to hear how and why their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld was created and how it is going to be a necessary tool in this fight.  You will get a sneak peek into this book as Dr. C and Amy share excerpts from the stories in the book and it will give you chills.

This book is available for pre-order at the time of this release and it is extremely important that folks pre-order so that we can get this book to more of the people who need it.  You can pre-order this book here:

https://narcfreepress.com/

If you want to help spread the word about this book, please take a look at how you can be a part of the book launch team.

A few things you can do:
Join our FB FRAMED Book Launch Team: FRAMED Facebook Book Launch Team
Add yourself to our FRAMED email list and check for updates
Like our social media posts and share them.
Ask others to follow us on social media.
Write a review.
Invite friends to our workshop: Know The Abuser's Playbook (dates to be determined once we have a pre-order date).
Share our book FRAMED with people you know. It should be a prerequisite for therapists, attorneys, court professionals, advocates, ...
Tell a friend to purchase this book - it is a warning for women everywhere.

Who are these amazing women?

Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW
Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19 as a domestic abuse/sexual assault crisis counselor and a child welfare advocate. She served as a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has actively supported codifying coercive control as the foundation of domestic abuse, writing policy briefs supporting these efforts and providing expert testimony at legislative hearings. Most importantly, through her own experiences as a protective parent, her clinical expertise as a trauma trained therapist, a researcher, and educator, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on both adult and child victims. A college professor teaching social work for over 20 years, she is the creator of The Protective Parenting Program, a program to support protective parents navigating parenting children harmed by a coercive controller. Her other educational programming supports creating a greater awareness for attorneys, mental health clinicians, divorce coaches, and other allies to understand the often insidious nuanced nature of coercive control.

Amy Polacko
Amy Polacko is an award-winning journalist, investigative reporter, and divorce coach who survived a narcissist nightmare. After her own experience, she formed Freedom Warrior Coaching to become the guide she wished she had. Amy earned a Master’s degree from Columbia University’s School of Journalism and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning reporting team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash for Newsday. She has coached hundreds of women going through divorce, runs a support group and writes for national news outlets about coercive control, domestic abuse, divorce, online dating, and singlehood. Her work has been featured in HuffPost, Ms. Magazine,

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]]> Our family court system continues to harm families on a daily basis.  If you are a survivor of domestic violence, coercive control, or narcissistic abuse and share children with your ex-partner, you are likely experiencing this firsthand.

But what can we do about it?

We are creating an army of advocates who are passionate about creating massive changes within our larger systems.  And today I have the honor of talking with two of the women on the front lines of this fight, Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko.

In this episode, you are going to hear how and why their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld was created and how it is going to be a necessary tool in this fight.  You will get a sneak peek into this book as Dr. C and Amy share excerpts from the stories in the book and it will give you chills.

This book is available for pre-order at the time of this release and it is extremely important that folks pre-order so that we can get this book to more of the people who need it.  You can pre-order this book here:

https://narcfreepress.com/

If you want to help spread the word about this book, please take a look at how you can be a part of the book launch team.

A few things you can do:
Join our FB FRAMED Book Launch Team: FRAMED Facebook Book Launch Team
Add yourself to our FRAMED email list and check for updates
Like our social media posts and share them.
Ask others to follow us on social media.
Write a review.
Invite friends to our workshop: Know The Abuser's Playbook (dates to be determined once we have a pre-order date).
Share our book FRAMED with people you know. It should be a prerequisite for therapists, attorneys, court professionals, advocates, ...
Tell a friend to purchase this book - it is a warning for women everywhere.

Who are these amazing women?

Dr. Christine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW
Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19 as a domestic abuse/sexual assault crisis counselor and a child welfare advocate. She served as a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has actively supported codifying coercive control as the foundation of domestic abuse, writing policy briefs supporting these efforts and providing expert testimony at legislative hearings. Most importantly, through her own experiences as a protective parent, her clinical expertise as a trauma trained therapist, a researcher, and educator, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on both adult and child victims. A college professor teaching social work for over 20 years, she is the creator of The Protective Parenting Program, a program to support protective parents navigating parenting children harmed by a coercive controller. Her other educational programming supports creating a greater awareness for attorneys, mental health clinicians, divorce coaches, and other allies to understand the often insidious nuanced nature of coercive control.

Amy Polacko
Amy Polacko is an award-winning journalist, investigative reporter, and divorce coach who survived a narcissist nightmare. After her own experience, she formed Freedom Warrior Coaching to become the guide she wished she had. Amy earned a Master’s degree from Columbia University’s School of Journalism and was part of the Pulitzer Prize-winning reporting team covering the TWA Flight 800 crash for Newsday. She has coached hundreds of women going through divorce, runs a support group and writes for national news outlets about coercive control, domestic abuse, divorce, online dating, and singlehood. Her work has been featured in HuffPost, Ms. Magazine,

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15579135 Wed, 14 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2917 1 112 full true Ep 111: The Realities of Court Ordered Reunification Therapy Ep 111: The Realities of Court Ordered Reunification Therapy If your children have not had contact or very little contact with your abusive ex-partner then it is likely that a judge will court order reunification therapy.

What exactly is reunification therapy?  And is it in the best interests of your children?

I share the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of reunification therapy based on my personal experiences of being trained (sort of) and providing reunification therapy with families involved with child protection.  There were times where the process was beautiful and other times when the process was completely unethical.  

Don't miss the CRUCIAL questions you MUST ask therapists before starting reunification therap in order to better protect your children from potential trauma and abuse.

  • What does the process of reunification therapy look like with you?
  • What kind of documentation do you provide to the parents or to the courts? 
  • What do you need from me? 
  • What is my role in this? 
  • What is your communication like with the other members of the team?
  • How do you ensure that you're building enough rapport and relationship with my child so that they will share if they don't feel safe with you or with their other parent, what does that process look like?
  • How are you assessing for emotional safety, how are you assessing when it's safe to move forward?

Two questions you can ask that might cause some discomfort for everyone involved:

  • What is your stance on parental alienation?
  • Are there cases or do you have cases where you did not recommend that the child reunify and have parenting time with the parent you're working with?


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]]> If your children have not had contact or very little contact with your abusive ex-partner then it is likely that a judge will court order reunification therapy.

What exactly is reunification therapy?  And is it in the best interests of your children?

I share the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of reunification therapy based on my personal experiences of being trained (sort of) and providing reunification therapy with families involved with child protection.  There were times where the process was beautiful and other times when the process was completely unethical.  

Don't miss the CRUCIAL questions you MUST ask therapists before starting reunification therap in order to better protect your children from potential trauma and abuse.

  • What does the process of reunification therapy look like with you?
  • What kind of documentation do you provide to the parents or to the courts? 
  • What do you need from me? 
  • What is my role in this? 
  • What is your communication like with the other members of the team?
  • How do you ensure that you're building enough rapport and relationship with my child so that they will share if they don't feel safe with you or with their other parent, what does that process look like?
  • How are you assessing for emotional safety, how are you assessing when it's safe to move forward?

Two questions you can ask that might cause some discomfort for everyone involved:

  • What is your stance on parental alienation?
  • Are there cases or do you have cases where you did not recommend that the child reunify and have parenting time with the parent you're working with?


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15540821 Wed, 07 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1577 1 111 full true Ep 110: Playing the Narcissist’s Game: Is There A Way To Win? Ep 110: Playing the Narcissist’s Game: Is There A Way To Win? “Playing the game” of family court and co-parenting when your ex partner is a narcissist is so mentally taxing and goes against every fiber of the survivors I work with.

This episode is a bit of a rant after the themes of the moving goal posts of an abuser and the system, needing a crystal ball to make decisions to ensure safety, and the mental exhaustion all came up in my first few days back from vacation.

How can you find relief from the extreme weight placed on your shoulders and combat the moral injury that continues to develop as you follow court orders?

Know that you are not alone
Become in-tune with what you need in the moment
Focus on your Why when moral injury feels extreme
Choose your battles to make fewer decisions
Acknowledge the weight and heaviness of what you are experiencing
Use coping skills like distraction and self soothing with intention
Acknowledge what is in your control

Episode References:

Moral Injury Episodes
Ep 56 Start Healing from Moral Injury | with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts
Ep 63: Reducing Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits

National Domestic Violence Hotline - 800.799.SAFE (7233)
Call 988 a mental health crisis line from anywhere in the United States 

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> “Playing the game” of family court and co-parenting when your ex partner is a narcissist is so mentally taxing and goes against every fiber of the survivors I work with.

This episode is a bit of a rant after the themes of the moving goal posts of an abuser and the system, needing a crystal ball to make decisions to ensure safety, and the mental exhaustion all came up in my first few days back from vacation.

How can you find relief from the extreme weight placed on your shoulders and combat the moral injury that continues to develop as you follow court orders?

Know that you are not alone
Become in-tune with what you need in the moment
Focus on your Why when moral injury feels extreme
Choose your battles to make fewer decisions
Acknowledge the weight and heaviness of what you are experiencing
Use coping skills like distraction and self soothing with intention
Acknowledge what is in your control

Episode References:

Moral Injury Episodes
Ep 56 Start Healing from Moral Injury | with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts
Ep 63: Reducing Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits

National Domestic Violence Hotline - 800.799.SAFE (7233)
Call 988 a mental health crisis line from anywhere in the United States 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15496793 Wed, 31 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1511 1 110 full false Ep 109: Effective Storytelling: How to Share Your Narcissistic Abuse Experience Ep 109: Effective Storytelling: How to Share Your Narcissistic Abuse Experience What do you do with the story of your abuse?

Who do you tell?  What do you tell them? 

You will find yourself in many different situations with many different people where you will need to share the same story of your narcissistic abuse over and over again and it is actually important to make a conscious decision on how and what you are sharing with the different people.

Today we are going to talk about discernment, specifically about sharing your story.  But the strategies here can generalize to many other areas where you need to make conscious and intentional decisions.

Early on in your healing…

You likely look like a hot mess, you are learning the language, learning the systems, it is likely that you do not fully understand what you are in for with post separation abuse and the family court system…

You probably show up in one of two ways,

Word vomit/fire hydrant of info… context for days, looking like a crazy person
Shut down, not trusting, fearful

Both make sense.

Now that you have some psycho ed under your belt and hopefully have done some healing work with a therapist or in a group…

Use these questions to assess who and what you will share about your abuse story?

What is the role of the person you are talking to?
What is the goal you hope to achieve?
What evidence do you have that this person will listen/understand?
Where are you in this moment?
How safe will the information be?

Once you have asked these questions, then you can make decisions and some discernment about how much and what to share.

And if you have the calling to do advocacy work, write a book, or speak in public about your story, there are some other considerations you need to consider.

Episode References:
Episode 74: Leveraging your Experience with your Family Court Evaluator with Courtney Gilmartin

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> What do you do with the story of your abuse?

Who do you tell?  What do you tell them? 

You will find yourself in many different situations with many different people where you will need to share the same story of your narcissistic abuse over and over again and it is actually important to make a conscious decision on how and what you are sharing with the different people.

Today we are going to talk about discernment, specifically about sharing your story.  But the strategies here can generalize to many other areas where you need to make conscious and intentional decisions.

Early on in your healing…

You likely look like a hot mess, you are learning the language, learning the systems, it is likely that you do not fully understand what you are in for with post separation abuse and the family court system…

You probably show up in one of two ways,

Word vomit/fire hydrant of info… context for days, looking like a crazy person
Shut down, not trusting, fearful

Both make sense.

Now that you have some psycho ed under your belt and hopefully have done some healing work with a therapist or in a group…

Use these questions to assess who and what you will share about your abuse story?

What is the role of the person you are talking to?
What is the goal you hope to achieve?
What evidence do you have that this person will listen/understand?
Where are you in this moment?
How safe will the information be?

Once you have asked these questions, then you can make decisions and some discernment about how much and what to share.

And if you have the calling to do advocacy work, write a book, or speak in public about your story, there are some other considerations you need to consider.

Episode References:
Episode 74: Leveraging your Experience with your Family Court Evaluator with Courtney Gilmartin

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.html

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15457432 Wed, 24 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1408 1 109 full false Ep 108: The Golden Child and The Scapegoat Child Ep 108: The Golden Child and The Scapegoat Child If you share more than one child with your narcissistic ex, then it is likely that you have seen your children treated differently.

Oftentimes a narcissistic parent creates a dynamic where one child is “the golden child” and another is “the scapegoat.”  The golden child is treated much differently than the other children, getting more attention and special treatment, whereas a scapegoated child will take the brunt of the blame and shame for anything that is going wrong or that the narcissistic parent doesn’t like.

But why does this dynamic persist and why is it so common?

And more importantly, what can you do as a protective parent to help your children as they manage the negative consequences of this dynamic?

In this episode we take a look at why this dynamic works for a narcissistic parent, the negative consequences for each child, and what you can do about it as a protective parent.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> If you share more than one child with your narcissistic ex, then it is likely that you have seen your children treated differently.

Oftentimes a narcissistic parent creates a dynamic where one child is “the golden child” and another is “the scapegoat.”  The golden child is treated much differently than the other children, getting more attention and special treatment, whereas a scapegoated child will take the brunt of the blame and shame for anything that is going wrong or that the narcissistic parent doesn’t like.

But why does this dynamic persist and why is it so common?

And more importantly, what can you do as a protective parent to help your children as they manage the negative consequences of this dynamic?

In this episode we take a look at why this dynamic works for a narcissistic parent, the negative consequences for each child, and what you can do about it as a protective parent.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15407759 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1422 1 108 full false Ep 107: High Risk Domestic Violence Team/Law Enforcement with Detective Brandon Wootan Ep 107: High Risk Domestic Violence Team/Law Enforcement with Detective Brandon Wootan Did you know that there are actually members of law enforcement that understand and want to find solutions to support victims of domestic violence and coercive control?

I know for many of you this is hard to believe, and I have found one!

In today’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I interview Detective Brandon Wootan on his journey starting a high risk domestic violence team, what it looks like and the goals of the team.  We also take a look at the risk factors correlated with domestic violence homicide, where law enforcement is missing the mark, and some tips and strategies for victims and survivors when reaching out to law enforcement to help.

I learned a lot from this episode and I feel a sense of hope with each conversation I have with Detective Wootan.   

Detective Brandon Wootan's Bio:
As a police detective with over a decade of law enforcement experience, I am committed to protecting and serving the community with integrity, professionalism, and compassion. My core competencies include investigation management, teaching, teamwork and leadership.

Currently, I work as a detective at the City of Fort Collins, where I investigate crimes against persons, such as homicide, assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence. I also lead the Larimer County Domestic Violence High Risk Team, a multidisciplinary team of professionals who collaborate to identify, assess, and intervene in high-risk domestic violence cases. Additionally, I leverage my teaching skills to provide training and education on domestic violence prevention and response to law enforcement agencies, community organizations, and the public. I have contributed to the development and implementation of policies and protocols to enhance the safety and well-being of domestic violence survivors and their families.

References mentioned:
AIMEE Says app
Talking Parents app

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]]> Did you know that there are actually members of law enforcement that understand and want to find solutions to support victims of domestic violence and coercive control?

I know for many of you this is hard to believe, and I have found one!

In today’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I interview Detective Brandon Wootan on his journey starting a high risk domestic violence team, what it looks like and the goals of the team.  We also take a look at the risk factors correlated with domestic violence homicide, where law enforcement is missing the mark, and some tips and strategies for victims and survivors when reaching out to law enforcement to help.

I learned a lot from this episode and I feel a sense of hope with each conversation I have with Detective Wootan.   

Detective Brandon Wootan's Bio:
As a police detective with over a decade of law enforcement experience, I am committed to protecting and serving the community with integrity, professionalism, and compassion. My core competencies include investigation management, teaching, teamwork and leadership.

Currently, I work as a detective at the City of Fort Collins, where I investigate crimes against persons, such as homicide, assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence. I also lead the Larimer County Domestic Violence High Risk Team, a multidisciplinary team of professionals who collaborate to identify, assess, and intervene in high-risk domestic violence cases. Additionally, I leverage my teaching skills to provide training and education on domestic violence prevention and response to law enforcement agencies, community organizations, and the public. I have contributed to the development and implementation of policies and protocols to enhance the safety and well-being of domestic violence survivors and their families.

References mentioned:
AIMEE Says app
Talking Parents app

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15374971 Wed, 10 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2465 1 107 full false Ep 106: Trauma Symptom Relief: All About Neurofeedback with Louise Finley, LPC, OMC Ep 106: Trauma Symptom Relief: All About Neurofeedback with Louise Finley, LPC, OMC What would it be like to get a full night sleep?  Or to be able to focus on the task at hand?

After experiencing the trauma of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse many survivors find that their daily functioning completely goes away.  And this makes complete sense, right?

The constant trauma while in the relationship and the continued trauma in the aftermath cause a myriad of problems for your physical and mental health.

On the last episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I explained many of the most common trauma modalities that therapists today are using to support survivors.  In this episode we are diving deeper into a lesser known modality; neurofeedback.

I have a conversation with Louise Finley, LPC on how neurofeedback can be used as a part of your healing journey from your abusive relationship.  We discuss what neurofeedback is and what it might look like during a session, and we also talk about some of the possible benefits and symptoms that can be targeted through this modality.  

Louise is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia, USA and has worked in the therapy field since 2011.  Her early career years were split between private practice and hospital outpatient settings and consequently, Louise has gotten to work with individuals in many stages of life, mental health crises, trauma recovery, and growth.  In 2017 Louise was offered the opportunity to be trained in the Othmer Method of Neurofeedback--she initially saw this as a way to expand support for clients, but it has ended up re-shaping her, both personally and as a clinician.  The additional training has led Louise to actively integrate more brain and nervous system education in her talk therapy work and to appreciate how an appropriately timed brain-based intervention can be a catalyst for beautiful change.  Louise currently balances being a parent and seeing a small number of clients in private practice.  She occasionally blogs about Neurofeedback at www.louisefinley.com and would love to be a resource to any individuals or clinicians with Neurofeedback questions or looking to connect with a Georgia provider!

Where to find Louise:
www.louisefinley.com
www.eeginfo.com (website of the organization that trained Louise, some providers listed here) 
https://neurofeedback-network.squarespace.com/home (international/US NF provider listings, as well as basic NF information)

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]]> What would it be like to get a full night sleep?  Or to be able to focus on the task at hand?

After experiencing the trauma of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse many survivors find that their daily functioning completely goes away.  And this makes complete sense, right?

The constant trauma while in the relationship and the continued trauma in the aftermath cause a myriad of problems for your physical and mental health.

On the last episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I explained many of the most common trauma modalities that therapists today are using to support survivors.  In this episode we are diving deeper into a lesser known modality; neurofeedback.

I have a conversation with Louise Finley, LPC on how neurofeedback can be used as a part of your healing journey from your abusive relationship.  We discuss what neurofeedback is and what it might look like during a session, and we also talk about some of the possible benefits and symptoms that can be targeted through this modality.  

Louise is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Georgia, USA and has worked in the therapy field since 2011.  Her early career years were split between private practice and hospital outpatient settings and consequently, Louise has gotten to work with individuals in many stages of life, mental health crises, trauma recovery, and growth.  In 2017 Louise was offered the opportunity to be trained in the Othmer Method of Neurofeedback--she initially saw this as a way to expand support for clients, but it has ended up re-shaping her, both personally and as a clinician.  The additional training has led Louise to actively integrate more brain and nervous system education in her talk therapy work and to appreciate how an appropriately timed brain-based intervention can be a catalyst for beautiful change.  Louise currently balances being a parent and seeing a small number of clients in private practice.  She occasionally blogs about Neurofeedback at www.louisefinley.com and would love to be a resource to any individuals or clinicians with Neurofeedback questions or looking to connect with a Georgia provider!

Where to find Louise:
www.louisefinley.com
www.eeginfo.com (website of the organization that trained Louise, some providers listed here) 
https://neurofeedback-network.squarespace.com/home (international/US NF provider listings, as well as basic NF information)

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15344641 Wed, 03 Jul 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2610 1 106 full false Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children If you have experienced relationship abuse, then you have experienced trauma. And even if you do not meet all of the requirements for post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) it is likely that some form of trauma therapy will be a helpful part of your healing journey.

And if your children have experienced or witnessed any of the abuse or the aftermath of the abuse, then they have experienced trauma as well and will likely need some support.

In this episode I am going to give you an overhead and general view of some of the possible trauma modalities that you may find beneficial and share the most important aspects of all therapeutic relationships for survivors of domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, and coercive control.

We discuss:
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)
Narrative Therapy
Group Therapy
And for children:
Play Therapy
Other experiential therapies (music, art, dance)
EMDR
TF-CBT

The most important aspect of whether the trauma modality will work for you is actually not the modality.  The most important aspect of your healing journey with your therapist is your relationship with the therapist.  Do you feel safe enough to ask questions? Does your therapist take on a collaborative role with you instead of an expert role talking to you? Do you feel a sense of unconditional positive regard? If they are working with your children, do they have strong boundaries and protect your children’s information?

VIDEO: EMDR: Special Considerations for Domestic Violence with Barbara Sheehan-Zeidler, MA, LPC

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]]> If you have experienced relationship abuse, then you have experienced trauma. And even if you do not meet all of the requirements for post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) it is likely that some form of trauma therapy will be a helpful part of your healing journey.

And if your children have experienced or witnessed any of the abuse or the aftermath of the abuse, then they have experienced trauma as well and will likely need some support.

In this episode I am going to give you an overhead and general view of some of the possible trauma modalities that you may find beneficial and share the most important aspects of all therapeutic relationships for survivors of domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, and coercive control.

We discuss:
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)
Narrative Therapy
Group Therapy
And for children:
Play Therapy
Other experiential therapies (music, art, dance)
EMDR
TF-CBT

The most important aspect of whether the trauma modality will work for you is actually not the modality.  The most important aspect of your healing journey with your therapist is your relationship with the therapist.  Do you feel safe enough to ask questions? Does your therapist take on a collaborative role with you instead of an expert role talking to you? Do you feel a sense of unconditional positive regard? If they are working with your children, do they have strong boundaries and protect your children’s information?

VIDEO: EMDR: Special Considerations for Domestic Violence with Barbara Sheehan-Zeidler, MA, LPC

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15310247 Wed, 26 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1502 1 105 full false Ep 104: Finding Yourself After Abuse Using the Enneagram with Talya Dash, LCSW Ep 104: Finding Yourself After Abuse Using the Enneagram with Talya Dash, LCSW Domestic violence and narcissistic abuse strips away your sense of self and autonomy.  One of the most important parts of the healing process is to rediscover who you are and what you value so that you can learn to trust yourself again.

As you become curious about who you were before the abuse and who you would like to be after you heal it can be helpful to have a guide to understand what drives you, what challenges you, and your best attributes.

On this episode I have a conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Talya Dash, LCSW about how to use the Enneagram to connect with yourself as you heal from abuse.  The Enneagram system is a widely accepted personality model that offers deep insight into our core driving motivations, opening up exciting possibilities in the prediction and understanding of human behavior.  Talya describes each of the 9 types and how each one may find themselves susceptible to an abusive relationship and what may motivate each one as they heal.

Received my BA in Psychology from Earlham College and Masters in Social Work from Virginia Commonwealth University. She has been in the mental health field for over 17 years, in private practice for over 8 years. She is a Certified Somatic Experiencing practitioner, SE focuses as much on body sensations and the nervous system as it does on emotions, thoughts, actions and imagery. She is also a PACT couples therapist, and utilizes attachment work and the Enneagram. Talya Fell in love with the Enneagram almost 15 years ago and has not only found it instrumental in her own life, marriage, and parenthood, but also in her practice working with individuals, couples, and families.

Talya's Website: https://www.thrivenowpsychotherapy.com/

Resources:
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

Books:
Wisdom of the Enneagram (More technical/textbook descriptions to learn ) Understanding the Enneagram
The Road Back to You (An exploration of types and experiences, has some Christian/spiritual aspects but not dominating) - 



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]]> Domestic violence and narcissistic abuse strips away your sense of self and autonomy.  One of the most important parts of the healing process is to rediscover who you are and what you value so that you can learn to trust yourself again.

As you become curious about who you were before the abuse and who you would like to be after you heal it can be helpful to have a guide to understand what drives you, what challenges you, and your best attributes.

On this episode I have a conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Talya Dash, LCSW about how to use the Enneagram to connect with yourself as you heal from abuse.  The Enneagram system is a widely accepted personality model that offers deep insight into our core driving motivations, opening up exciting possibilities in the prediction and understanding of human behavior.  Talya describes each of the 9 types and how each one may find themselves susceptible to an abusive relationship and what may motivate each one as they heal.

Received my BA in Psychology from Earlham College and Masters in Social Work from Virginia Commonwealth University. She has been in the mental health field for over 17 years, in private practice for over 8 years. She is a Certified Somatic Experiencing practitioner, SE focuses as much on body sensations and the nervous system as it does on emotions, thoughts, actions and imagery. She is also a PACT couples therapist, and utilizes attachment work and the Enneagram. Talya Fell in love with the Enneagram almost 15 years ago and has not only found it instrumental in her own life, marriage, and parenthood, but also in her practice working with individuals, couples, and families.

Talya's Website: https://www.thrivenowpsychotherapy.com/

Resources:
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

Books:
Wisdom of the Enneagram (More technical/textbook descriptions to learn ) Understanding the Enneagram
The Road Back to You (An exploration of types and experiences, has some Christian/spiritual aspects but not dominating) - 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15223284 Wed, 19 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0600 3550 1 104 full false Ep 103: Summertime Fun: How Your Abusive Ex Will Try to Ruin Your Summer Ep 103: Summertime Fun: How Your Abusive Ex Will Try to Ruin Your Summer Summertime means fun in the sun, getting outdoors, swimming, camping and s'mores.  But will your abusive, high conflict co-parent allow you to enjoy the fun? 

They will try to do everything they can to cause conflict and ruin these memory-making times with your children. In this episode we are going to touch on:

  • The challenges that come with a change in transitions if your children have normally transitioned from house to house after school
  • The challenges that arise with childcare and right of first refusal
  • How they will try to ruin any of your planned vacations
  • Extended family issues
  • The differences in supervision and parenting that occurs over the summer
  • And more


And now that we know what some of the challenges are, what can you do about them to have less conflict and anxiety over the summer?

The number one tip is to know your parenting plan inside and out and use the language in it in your communication with your narcissistic ex.  It is also important to understand what are day to day decisions and to remember what you have control over and what you don’t.

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]]> Summertime means fun in the sun, getting outdoors, swimming, camping and s'mores.  But will your abusive, high conflict co-parent allow you to enjoy the fun? 

They will try to do everything they can to cause conflict and ruin these memory-making times with your children. In this episode we are going to touch on:

  • The challenges that come with a change in transitions if your children have normally transitioned from house to house after school
  • The challenges that arise with childcare and right of first refusal
  • How they will try to ruin any of your planned vacations
  • Extended family issues
  • The differences in supervision and parenting that occurs over the summer
  • And more


And now that we know what some of the challenges are, what can you do about them to have less conflict and anxiety over the summer?

The number one tip is to know your parenting plan inside and out and use the language in it in your communication with your narcissistic ex.  It is also important to understand what are day to day decisions and to remember what you have control over and what you don’t.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15137225 Wed, 12 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1233 1 103 full false Ep 102: Surviving Domestic Abuse: Strategies for Child Protection Involvement Ep 102: Surviving Domestic Abuse: Strategies for Child Protection Involvement If you are a victim or survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse you will likely come into contact with a lot of our larger systems. One of them being Child Protective Services (CPS).

This may bring up your greatest fear, one that your partner threatened on many occasions; that if you leave they will do everything to take your children away from you.  And if your abuser has done a good job at making you feel crazy and worthless, the possibility that CPS will take away your children feels imminent.  

So, what can you do as the protective parent if CPS becomes involved in your case?

First, it is helpful to know a bit about the process and how your ex partner will show up.  Because of their MO of taking control of the narrative, it is paramount that you develop a relationship with the team of people involved in your case.  It is important that you show up in ways that refute the narrative of your ex and do this consistently.

I also discuss the negative ramifications of how our current CPS system is impacting cases where family court is involved and what I think needs to change.

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]]> If you are a victim or survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse you will likely come into contact with a lot of our larger systems. One of them being Child Protective Services (CPS).

This may bring up your greatest fear, one that your partner threatened on many occasions; that if you leave they will do everything to take your children away from you.  And if your abuser has done a good job at making you feel crazy and worthless, the possibility that CPS will take away your children feels imminent.  

So, what can you do as the protective parent if CPS becomes involved in your case?

First, it is helpful to know a bit about the process and how your ex partner will show up.  Because of their MO of taking control of the narrative, it is paramount that you develop a relationship with the team of people involved in your case.  It is important that you show up in ways that refute the narrative of your ex and do this consistently.

I also discuss the negative ramifications of how our current CPS system is impacting cases where family court is involved and what I think needs to change.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15137219 Wed, 05 Jun 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1658 1 102 full false Ep 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW Ep 101: The Protective Parent’s Guide to Parenting with Guest Robyn Gobbel, MSW If you have ever felt powerless to help your children as they behave in ways that let you know that they are hurting or scared inside, this episode is for you.

Parenting is hard even when you are not having to manage all that comes with post separation abuse; which includes the guilt and shame of what your children are experiencing.

So, what can you do to help them and parent in a way that will build their resilience and foster your connection?

I am so honored to share this conversation with Robyn Gobbel, MSW on the neuroscience behind our children’s behaviors, the differences between physical safety and felt safety, and specific strategies that you can use to parent children with big baffling behaviors.  We touch on how to understand your reactions to your children and how to regulate yourself with compassion.

Robyn Gobbel, MSW, has 20 years of practice in family and child therapy experience,
specializing in complex trauma, attachment, and adoption. She integrated her diverse clinical training to offer an attachment-rich, sensory-sensitive, and relational neurosciences supported healing environment for children and families. Robyn now consults, teaches, and trains extensively throughout the US. She is the host of The Baffling Behavior Show podcast and author of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work.

Where to find Robyn:
Host- The Baffling Behavior Show podcast
Creator- Being With {an immersion course for parenting professionals}
Creator- The Club {a virtual community for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors}
Author- Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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]]> If you have ever felt powerless to help your children as they behave in ways that let you know that they are hurting or scared inside, this episode is for you.

Parenting is hard even when you are not having to manage all that comes with post separation abuse; which includes the guilt and shame of what your children are experiencing.

So, what can you do to help them and parent in a way that will build their resilience and foster your connection?

I am so honored to share this conversation with Robyn Gobbel, MSW on the neuroscience behind our children’s behaviors, the differences between physical safety and felt safety, and specific strategies that you can use to parent children with big baffling behaviors.  We touch on how to understand your reactions to your children and how to regulate yourself with compassion.

Robyn Gobbel, MSW, has 20 years of practice in family and child therapy experience,
specializing in complex trauma, attachment, and adoption. She integrated her diverse clinical training to offer an attachment-rich, sensory-sensitive, and relational neurosciences supported healing environment for children and families. Robyn now consults, teaches, and trains extensively throughout the US. She is the host of The Baffling Behavior Show podcast and author of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work.

Where to find Robyn:
Host- The Baffling Behavior Show podcast
Creator- Being With {an immersion course for parenting professionals}
Creator- The Club {a virtual community for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors}
Author- Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors: Brain-Body-Sensory Strategies that Really Work

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]]> Buzzsprout-15091121 Wed, 29 May 2024 05:00:00 -0600 3104 1 101 full false Ep 100: 100 Episodes Strong: Sybil's Story Behind the Mic with Guest Host Lundy Bancroft Ep 100: 100 Episodes Strong: Sybil's Story Behind the Mic with Guest Host Lundy Bancroft It is episode 100 and we are flipping the script and doing something completely different.  

My good friend, Lundy Bancroft is interviewing ME, so that you can get a behind the scenes look at how I got started doing this work and why I am so passionate about helping you.

We touch on the lack of training mental health professionals get specific to working with domestic violence and coercive control, some of the shifts in the field that I have seen and the shifts that need to happen, how I make decisions that are in the best interest of the survivors I serve and more.

This was a fun episode and a way for you to get to know the woman behind the microphone.  I hope you enjoy it!

Lundy’s Bio: With over thirty years' experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families, Lundy Bancroft has authored seven books, including the world’s best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That? and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.’s first counseling program for men who batter, and was involved in over 2000 cases as counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.

Show Resources:
Order Lundy's many books
And Then We Do Harm - E-Book by Sybil Cummin



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]]> It is episode 100 and we are flipping the script and doing something completely different.  

My good friend, Lundy Bancroft is interviewing ME, so that you can get a behind the scenes look at how I got started doing this work and why I am so passionate about helping you.

We touch on the lack of training mental health professionals get specific to working with domestic violence and coercive control, some of the shifts in the field that I have seen and the shifts that need to happen, how I make decisions that are in the best interest of the survivors I serve and more.

This was a fun episode and a way for you to get to know the woman behind the microphone.  I hope you enjoy it!

Lundy’s Bio: With over thirty years' experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families, Lundy Bancroft has authored seven books, including the world’s best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That? and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.’s first counseling program for men who batter, and was involved in over 2000 cases as counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.

Show Resources:
Order Lundy's many books
And Then We Do Harm - E-Book by Sybil Cummin



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15090549 Wed, 22 May 2024 05:00:00 -0600 3435 1 100 full false Ep 99: What is Narcissistic Abuse Recovery? Ep 99: What is Narcissistic Abuse Recovery? What does it mean to recover or heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse?  I am not sure that there is a universal answer to this question.  So my answer…”It depends.”

Your healing journey depends on so many different factors such as:

  • Are you/were you legally married?
  • Do you share children with your abuser?
  • How old are your children?
  • How financially dependent have you been on your abuser?
  • What is your experience with your family of origin?
  • What is your current level of emotional support?
  • Do you have previous mental health conditions?
  • Are you able bodied?

Why are these factors so important to look at when visualizing your healing journey? They will determine where you are going to start your journey, who you need to support you on your journey, what level of contact you will have to maintain with your abuser, and if the trauma from your abusive relationship will exacerbate other mental health issues you already experience.

So, instead of me telling you what recovery or healing looks like, I want you to think about what you want your life to look like.  What would a life look like where you are content, have stability, can make autonomous decisions, feel confident in who you are and what you can do, and find some joy?

Some of the common strategies or areas of focus for healing from domestic violence are:

  • Education
  • Regulating Your Nervous System
  • Redefining Your Sense of Self
  • Creating a Strong Inner Circle of Support
  • Safety

If you are not sure where you need to start on your journey, The Rising Beyond Community may be for you. You will get support from trained therapists and survivors as you determine what a life healed will look like for you.  And once you have determined where you want to go, we will help provide you the strategies you need to get there.

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]]> What does it mean to recover or heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse?  I am not sure that there is a universal answer to this question.  So my answer…”It depends.”

Your healing journey depends on so many different factors such as:

  • Are you/were you legally married?
  • Do you share children with your abuser?
  • How old are your children?
  • How financially dependent have you been on your abuser?
  • What is your experience with your family of origin?
  • What is your current level of emotional support?
  • Do you have previous mental health conditions?
  • Are you able bodied?

Why are these factors so important to look at when visualizing your healing journey? They will determine where you are going to start your journey, who you need to support you on your journey, what level of contact you will have to maintain with your abuser, and if the trauma from your abusive relationship will exacerbate other mental health issues you already experience.

So, instead of me telling you what recovery or healing looks like, I want you to think about what you want your life to look like.  What would a life look like where you are content, have stability, can make autonomous decisions, feel confident in who you are and what you can do, and find some joy?

Some of the common strategies or areas of focus for healing from domestic violence are:

  • Education
  • Regulating Your Nervous System
  • Redefining Your Sense of Self
  • Creating a Strong Inner Circle of Support
  • Safety

If you are not sure where you need to start on your journey, The Rising Beyond Community may be for you. You will get support from trained therapists and survivors as you determine what a life healed will look like for you.  And once you have determined where you want to go, we will help provide you the strategies you need to get there.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15042217 Wed, 15 May 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1320 1 99 full false Ep 98: How to Know If You're Ready to Date Again? with Maggie VanDenBerg and Joanna Banana Ep 98: How to Know If You're Ready to Date Again? with Maggie VanDenBerg and Joanna Banana How do you know when you are ready to date again after leaving an abusive relationship?

It is common that folks find themselves in two camps:

  • I will never date again as long as I live
  • I jumped into a relationship too fast and found myself another abusive, narcissistic A-hole

But, for those of you in the middle, this question comes up often.  

There is no one right way to make this decision, however there are some commonalities in the things you need to see within yourself in order to best make this decision.  Because there is not one right way, I asked two friends and colleagues to join me in a conversation looking at all the things to think about when starting to dip your toe into the water of dating.

Maggie VanDenBerg is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Approved Clinical Supervisor. She specializes in working with trauma survivors who have been affected by emotional and narcissistic abuse. She also specializes in perinatal mental health, couples therapy, and working with parents of young children. She contracts with Arvada Therapy Solutions, Trade Winds Therapy, and has her own private practice, Magpie Therapy and Consultation. She is passionate about normalizing the complexities of abuse, relationships, and parenthood.

Joanna Baanana has been a guest on The Rising Beyond Podcast before (ep 68) where you can learn more about her experiences.

Joanna shares about herself: In March of 2019, after an incident involving police and the removal of guns from my marital home, I began a journey that no one expects to be on. I became a client at the local domestic violence shelter - Safe Futures in Southeastern Connecticut. I filed for the dissolution of my marriage and obtained a restraining order. I also became a plaintiff in the civil family court system.

While my civil family court exposure is ongoing, I have decided to be a part of the solution as opposed to simply complaining about the injustices I see. Because of this, I am a founding member of the VOICES Committee for The Center for Safe Futures. I am on the Advisory Board of the Connecticut Protective Moms Non-Profit. I have been certified as a DV Crisis Counselor. I am a Girl Scout leader. And I’ve written my first book, a memoir, which I hope to be published by 2025.



Books Mentioned:
Heart Talk by Cleo Wade
https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Talk-Poetic-Wisdom-Better/dp/1501177346

If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl
https://www.amazon.com/If-Buddha-Dated-Handbook-Spiritual/dp/0140195831

The Seven Stories of Love by Marcia Millman
https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Stories-Love-Choose-Ending/dp/0688172008

Inward by yung pueblo
https://www.amazon.com/Inward-Yung-Pueblo-ebook/dp/B07FKFJLRY/

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]]> How do you know when you are ready to date again after leaving an abusive relationship?

It is common that folks find themselves in two camps:

  • I will never date again as long as I live
  • I jumped into a relationship too fast and found myself another abusive, narcissistic A-hole

But, for those of you in the middle, this question comes up often.  

There is no one right way to make this decision, however there are some commonalities in the things you need to see within yourself in order to best make this decision.  Because there is not one right way, I asked two friends and colleagues to join me in a conversation looking at all the things to think about when starting to dip your toe into the water of dating.

Maggie VanDenBerg is a Marriage and Family Therapist and Approved Clinical Supervisor. She specializes in working with trauma survivors who have been affected by emotional and narcissistic abuse. She also specializes in perinatal mental health, couples therapy, and working with parents of young children. She contracts with Arvada Therapy Solutions, Trade Winds Therapy, and has her own private practice, Magpie Therapy and Consultation. She is passionate about normalizing the complexities of abuse, relationships, and parenthood.

Joanna Baanana has been a guest on The Rising Beyond Podcast before (ep 68) where you can learn more about her experiences.

Joanna shares about herself: In March of 2019, after an incident involving police and the removal of guns from my marital home, I began a journey that no one expects to be on. I became a client at the local domestic violence shelter - Safe Futures in Southeastern Connecticut. I filed for the dissolution of my marriage and obtained a restraining order. I also became a plaintiff in the civil family court system.

While my civil family court exposure is ongoing, I have decided to be a part of the solution as opposed to simply complaining about the injustices I see. Because of this, I am a founding member of the VOICES Committee for The Center for Safe Futures. I am on the Advisory Board of the Connecticut Protective Moms Non-Profit. I have been certified as a DV Crisis Counselor. I am a Girl Scout leader. And I’ve written my first book, a memoir, which I hope to be published by 2025.



Books Mentioned:
Heart Talk by Cleo Wade
https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Talk-Poetic-Wisdom-Better/dp/1501177346

If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl
https://www.amazon.com/If-Buddha-Dated-Handbook-Spiritual/dp/0140195831

The Seven Stories of Love by Marcia Millman
https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Stories-Love-Choose-Ending/dp/0688172008

Inward by yung pueblo
https://www.amazon.com/Inward-Yung-Pueblo-ebook/dp/B07FKFJLRY/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-15019250 Wed, 08 May 2024 05:00:00 -0600 3319 1 98 full false Ep 97: Navigating Co-parenting Challenges: Setting Boundaries like a Badass with Jan and Jillian Yuhas Ep 97: Navigating Co-parenting Challenges: Setting Boundaries like a Badass with Jan and Jillian Yuhas Struggling to keep the peace with a high-conflict ex?

Does setting boundaries make you so uncomfortable that you don’t do it?  But then you are kicking yourself and are full of resentment because you said yes to something that you absolutely do not want to do or don’t have time for?

This value-packed episode of "The Rising Beyond Podcast" features sisters, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, who share revolutionary tactics from their latest book "Boundary Badass."

Discover how to reclaim your power, protect your children, and transform your co-parenting relationship from toxic to triumphant. Learn about setting rock-solid boundaries, engaging in solution-oriented communication, and aligning daily actions with your deepest values.

Whether you're dealing with legal dilemmas or everyday disputes, this episode offers possible solutions for you from folks who truly get it.

Bio: Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC are Family Mediators and Co-Parenting Coaches. They specialize in coercive control and high-conflict dynamics by guiding co-parents to overcome the challenges of divorce through creative solutions that are children-centered. Their expertise is a blend of family psychology, conflict resolution, negotiation strategy, healthy boundaries, and real-life experience to guide and serve all family members.
 
You can learn more about Jan and Jillian through their mediation services and coaching programs at https://www.divorcefamilymediations.com/ and
https://www.boundarybadass.com/

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If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> Struggling to keep the peace with a high-conflict ex?

Does setting boundaries make you so uncomfortable that you don’t do it?  But then you are kicking yourself and are full of resentment because you said yes to something that you absolutely do not want to do or don’t have time for?

This value-packed episode of "The Rising Beyond Podcast" features sisters, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, who share revolutionary tactics from their latest book "Boundary Badass."

Discover how to reclaim your power, protect your children, and transform your co-parenting relationship from toxic to triumphant. Learn about setting rock-solid boundaries, engaging in solution-oriented communication, and aligning daily actions with your deepest values.

Whether you're dealing with legal dilemmas or everyday disputes, this episode offers possible solutions for you from folks who truly get it.

Bio: Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC are Family Mediators and Co-Parenting Coaches. They specialize in coercive control and high-conflict dynamics by guiding co-parents to overcome the challenges of divorce through creative solutions that are children-centered. Their expertise is a blend of family psychology, conflict resolution, negotiation strategy, healthy boundaries, and real-life experience to guide and serve all family members.
 
You can learn more about Jan and Jillian through their mediation services and coaching programs at https://www.divorcefamilymediations.com/ and
https://www.boundarybadass.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14986024 Wed, 01 May 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2668 1 97 full false Ep 96: Stomaching the Smear Campaign from your Narcissistic Ex Ep 96: Stomaching the Smear Campaign from your Narcissistic Ex What is the most damaging lie your narcissistic ex partner has said about you?  And who are they saying it to?

The smear campaign can be extremely hurtful and can cause a lot of problems with receiving support, maintaining relationships, and even family court outcomes.

But why do perpetrators of domestic violence and coercive control use the smear campaign post separation?

  • The are trying to get back control and limit your support
  • They are trying to hurt you on purpose
  • They are trying to protect their own ego and perception of others

What can you do about these false narratives and lies?

There are some logistical and tactical things you can do with communication strategies and documentation strategies (see episode 32) and can show consistency in who you really are and show the contrast between you and your ex.

But how can you stomach these smear campaigns?

  • Know you are not alone
  • Change your mindset to see the lies as data
  • Remember the source of the information
  • Radically accept what is in your control vs what is outside your control
  • Assess if this is a battle worth fighting for
  • Learning to stay regulated through difficult emotions
  • Finding a community of support

Ep 32: Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser

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]]> What is the most damaging lie your narcissistic ex partner has said about you?  And who are they saying it to?

The smear campaign can be extremely hurtful and can cause a lot of problems with receiving support, maintaining relationships, and even family court outcomes.

But why do perpetrators of domestic violence and coercive control use the smear campaign post separation?

  • The are trying to get back control and limit your support
  • They are trying to hurt you on purpose
  • They are trying to protect their own ego and perception of others

What can you do about these false narratives and lies?

There are some logistical and tactical things you can do with communication strategies and documentation strategies (see episode 32) and can show consistency in who you really are and show the contrast between you and your ex.

But how can you stomach these smear campaigns?

  • Know you are not alone
  • Change your mindset to see the lies as data
  • Remember the source of the information
  • Radically accept what is in your control vs what is outside your control
  • Assess if this is a battle worth fighting for
  • Learning to stay regulated through difficult emotions
  • Finding a community of support

Ep 32: Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser

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]]> Buzzsprout-14894048 Wed, 24 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0600 1480 1 96 full false Ep 95: Navigating Co-Parenting: The Impact of New Partners on Narcissistic Ex Dynamics Ep 95: Navigating Co-Parenting: The Impact of New Partners on Narcissistic Ex Dynamics How does co-parenting change when either you or your narcissistic ex partner finds a new significant other?

What role does your new partner play in the situation?

Safety Alert: Oftentimes your abuser will increase their intensity of post separation abuse when you find a new partner.  This is not meant to scare, only to inform.

First, it is important to have open communication with your new partner before things become extremely serious.  This means that you will need to wrap your own mind around what your relationship looks like, develop the skills needed to share this with your partner, and know when, what, and how you are sharing with them.

We also look at what roles your new partner will play in parenting, communication with your ex, and how they can support you, as well as how to mitigate any concerns that come along with your ex’s new significant other.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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If you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.

If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/

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]]> How does co-parenting change when either you or your narcissistic ex partner finds a new significant other?

What role does your new partner play in the situation?

Safety Alert: Oftentimes your abuser will increase their intensity of post separation abuse when you find a new partner.  This is not meant to scare, only to inform.

First, it is important to have open communication with your new partner before things become extremely serious.  This means that you will need to wrap your own mind around what your relationship looks like, develop the skills needed to share this with your partner, and know when, what, and how you are sharing with them.

We also look at what roles your new partner will play in parenting, communication with your ex, and how they can support you, as well as how to mitigate any concerns that come along with your ex’s new significant other.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14894017 Wed, 17 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1460 1 95 full false Ep 94: Allowing the Voices of Survivors of Domestic Violence to be Heard with Sheri Kurdakul Ep 94: Allowing the Voices of Survivors of Domestic Violence to be Heard with Sheri Kurdakul Documentation is extremely important for victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  But is what you are documenting really going to matter?  And how can we keep it safe?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I interview Sheri Kurdakul on her experience as a survivor, the shortcomings of the family court system and other larger systems, and why she decided to create Victims Voice.  She critiques the existing legal and therapeutic approaches to domestic violence, especially the requirement of mandatory co-parenting in such situations, and calls for more accountability.

the Victims Voice app, a tool she created to help victims of domestic abuse document their experiences in a legally admissible way. The episode explores how this app aids survivors and professionals across various sectors, emphasizing the importance of privacy, safety, and inclusivity for all victims, including those within the LGBTQ and indigenous communities.

We also briefly touch on the ethical considerations when partnering with other organizations and the decision to operate as a for-profit instead of a nonprofit.

Sheri Kurdakul is the Founder of EBinRA, Inc. dba VictimsVoice and serves as its Chief Executive Officer. Formerly, she was the Managing Partner of Holistic Business Solutions, a small business, and nonprofit consulting firm. As a survivor of child abuse, child sexual assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence, she has devoted herself to ensuring victims of discrimination, harassment, and abuse are heard, believed, and able to seek legal justice. She resides in Central New Jersey with her husband and daughter, as well as a myriad of adopted furry family members.


Victims Voice App Website https://victimsvoice.app/
On social media as @victimsvoiceapp

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]]> Documentation is extremely important for victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  But is what you are documenting really going to matter?  And how can we keep it safe?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I interview Sheri Kurdakul on her experience as a survivor, the shortcomings of the family court system and other larger systems, and why she decided to create Victims Voice.  She critiques the existing legal and therapeutic approaches to domestic violence, especially the requirement of mandatory co-parenting in such situations, and calls for more accountability.

the Victims Voice app, a tool she created to help victims of domestic abuse document their experiences in a legally admissible way. The episode explores how this app aids survivors and professionals across various sectors, emphasizing the importance of privacy, safety, and inclusivity for all victims, including those within the LGBTQ and indigenous communities.

We also briefly touch on the ethical considerations when partnering with other organizations and the decision to operate as a for-profit instead of a nonprofit.

Sheri Kurdakul is the Founder of EBinRA, Inc. dba VictimsVoice and serves as its Chief Executive Officer. Formerly, she was the Managing Partner of Holistic Business Solutions, a small business, and nonprofit consulting firm. As a survivor of child abuse, child sexual assault, sexual assault, and domestic violence, she has devoted herself to ensuring victims of discrimination, harassment, and abuse are heard, believed, and able to seek legal justice. She resides in Central New Jersey with her husband and daughter, as well as a myriad of adopted furry family members.


Victims Voice App Website https://victimsvoice.app/
On social media as @victimsvoiceapp

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]]> Buzzsprout-14859470 Wed, 10 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2745 1 94 full false Ep 93: Behind the Scenes: Lessons Learned from Testifying for Family Court Reform and HB24-1350 Ep 93: Behind the Scenes: Lessons Learned from Testifying for Family Court Reform and HB24-1350 Everyone that knows anything about our family court system knows that it continues to harm survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  Most want extreme court reform, while those that benefit would like to keep it just like it is.

In this episode I share my experience testifying at the House Judiciary Committee in support of HB24-1350 and how listening to the opposition and those who showed up in the amendment position spotlighted areas that were unclear.  This changed my view of the bill from a support position to an amended position.

By the time you listen to this episode, the bill will likely have been amended and changed a bit and may have been voted on in different arenas.  There likely will not be a final vote on if this bill will be made into law at the time this episode is released.

The number one lesson that I learned from listening to all the testimony for this bill is the importance of clarity when it comes to setting any rules, laws, accountability, or standardization when a narcissistic person is involved.  They are so good at muddying the waters and exploiting loopholes and our laws need to be watertight.

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]]> Everyone that knows anything about our family court system knows that it continues to harm survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  Most want extreme court reform, while those that benefit would like to keep it just like it is.

In this episode I share my experience testifying at the House Judiciary Committee in support of HB24-1350 and how listening to the opposition and those who showed up in the amendment position spotlighted areas that were unclear.  This changed my view of the bill from a support position to an amended position.

By the time you listen to this episode, the bill will likely have been amended and changed a bit and may have been voted on in different arenas.  There likely will not be a final vote on if this bill will be made into law at the time this episode is released.

The number one lesson that I learned from listening to all the testimony for this bill is the importance of clarity when it comes to setting any rules, laws, accountability, or standardization when a narcissistic person is involved.  They are so good at muddying the waters and exploiting loopholes and our laws need to be watertight.

Make sure to follow me on socials or hop on my email list to get updates on the passing (fingers crossed) of HB24-1350.

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]]> Buzzsprout-14813863 Wed, 03 Apr 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1334 1 93 full false Ep 92: Financial Challenges/Strategies When Coparenting with Your Abuser with Liz Bailey Ep 92: Financial Challenges/Strategies When Coparenting with Your Abuser with Liz Bailey Everyone talks about the financial abuse that occurs when you are in an abusive relationship.  But what happens after you leave?

The financial abuse continues during post separation abuse and oftentimes gets worse.  When an abuser believes they are losing control of their victim, they will adapt, intensify and find other ways to abuse.  

This includes refusing to pay child support or becoming under or unemployed so they do not have to pay as much child support.  But the main way in which a narcissist will continue their financial abuse post separation is through continued litigation and legal abuse.

So, what can you do to mitigate the financial impact of your narcissistic ex partner?

In this episode I talk with financial advisor and survivor, Liz Bailey on her experiences of financial abuse post separation and ways in which survivors can get back on track and maintain some level of groundedness throughout the process.



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]]> Everyone talks about the financial abuse that occurs when you are in an abusive relationship.  But what happens after you leave?

The financial abuse continues during post separation abuse and oftentimes gets worse.  When an abuser believes they are losing control of their victim, they will adapt, intensify and find other ways to abuse.  

This includes refusing to pay child support or becoming under or unemployed so they do not have to pay as much child support.  But the main way in which a narcissist will continue their financial abuse post separation is through continued litigation and legal abuse.

So, what can you do to mitigate the financial impact of your narcissistic ex partner?

In this episode I talk with financial advisor and survivor, Liz Bailey on her experiences of financial abuse post separation and ways in which survivors can get back on track and maintain some level of groundedness throughout the process.



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]]> Buzzsprout-14758106 Wed, 27 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0600 2734 1 92 full false Ep: 91 Co-parenting with a Narcissist Through the Teen Years Ep: 91 Co-parenting with a Narcissist Through the Teen Years Coparenting with a narcissist is a challenge no matter the age of your child.  We often focus on co-parenting when your children are younger because of the inherent safety concerns.  But things don’t necessarily get easier as your children get older.

There are new challenges when you are co-parenting your teens. There are still safety concerns, but they look different.

Some of the new areas of conflict are:

  • When one parent has structure and rules and the other parent has none
  • When the narcissistic parent uses the teen as their only emotional support 
  • Issues around mental health care or substance use
  • Phones, curfews, driving, first jobs, and more

In this episode we will talk about how to mitigate these challenges that develop as your child moves into the teen years.



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]]> Coparenting with a narcissist is a challenge no matter the age of your child.  We often focus on co-parenting when your children are younger because of the inherent safety concerns.  But things don’t necessarily get easier as your children get older.

There are new challenges when you are co-parenting your teens. There are still safety concerns, but they look different.

Some of the new areas of conflict are:

  • When one parent has structure and rules and the other parent has none
  • When the narcissistic parent uses the teen as their only emotional support 
  • Issues around mental health care or substance use
  • Phones, curfews, driving, first jobs, and more

In this episode we will talk about how to mitigate these challenges that develop as your child moves into the teen years.



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]]> Buzzsprout-14694008 Wed, 20 Mar 2024 06:00:00 -0600 2158 1 91 full false Ep 90: Divorcing a Narcissist: Managing Extended Family Relationships After Abuse Ep 90: Divorcing a Narcissist: Managing Extended Family Relationships After Abuse What role should extended family play in your life and your children’s lives after divorcing a narcissist?

Your divorce will have a ripple effect on those in yours and your children’s lives and your extended family will feel this.  Your ex’s extended family will also be impacted.  The role they get to have in your life and your children’s lives will vary depending on the situation and your relationship with each of them.  In this episode I share some things to think about to help you make decisions on what role you would like them to play.

First and foremost, it is important to assess the safety of each of these relationships; physical safety and emotional safety.  Who do they believe?  Will they put your child’s safety ahead of everything else? What type of support are they willing to give?

Then you will need to think about what the communication needs to look like for everyone involved to be safe. This includes setting boundaries and expectations with your side of the family and possibly sharing these with your ex’s extended family as well if you have the opportunity.

Think about how to manage special occasions and vacations.  What is in your parenting plan and how can your extended family be involved?

These situations can be extremely challenging and being proactive in making these decisions for yourself can prevent a whole lot of stress later on.

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]]> What role should extended family play in your life and your children’s lives after divorcing a narcissist?

Your divorce will have a ripple effect on those in yours and your children’s lives and your extended family will feel this.  Your ex’s extended family will also be impacted.  The role they get to have in your life and your children’s lives will vary depending on the situation and your relationship with each of them.  In this episode I share some things to think about to help you make decisions on what role you would like them to play.

First and foremost, it is important to assess the safety of each of these relationships; physical safety and emotional safety.  Who do they believe?  Will they put your child’s safety ahead of everything else? What type of support are they willing to give?

Then you will need to think about what the communication needs to look like for everyone involved to be safe. This includes setting boundaries and expectations with your side of the family and possibly sharing these with your ex’s extended family as well if you have the opportunity.

Think about how to manage special occasions and vacations.  What is in your parenting plan and how can your extended family be involved?

These situations can be extremely challenging and being proactive in making these decisions for yourself can prevent a whole lot of stress later on.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14635057 Wed, 13 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0600 1249 1 90 full true Ep 89: Reclaiming Health: Addressing Domestic Abuse Trauma with Nutrition Strategies with Stephanie Small, LCSW Ep 89: Reclaiming Health: Addressing Domestic Abuse Trauma with Nutrition Strategies with Stephanie Small, LCSW Has the constant stress from your narcissistic relationship and continued post separation abuse had a negative impact on your physical health?

It is common that the constant hypervigilance and ongoing trauma will cause problems with sleep, your digestive system, your immune system…basically all of your systems.

Is there anything you can do about it?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I talk with Stephanie Small, LCSW on a more holistic approach to regaining your physical and emotional health as you heal from abuse.  How can you use nutrition and supplements to accelerate your healing journey?

We address the current Western medical model where the goal is to reduce symptoms rather than find the root of the problem.  The goal of this more holistic approach is to identify the root causes before starting to treat the concern.

We start by exploring gut health and how it is the gateway to our overall health and wellness.  Our digestive process is not only linked to our physical symptoms, but our mental health as well.  Stephanie discusses the importance of blood sugar regulation and managing inflammation as a huge component to using nutrition on your healing path.

Stephanie's Bio:
As a licensed clinical social worker / somatic psychotherapist and functional nutritionist, I help people reconnect to their wild and essential truths. In addition to my private practice, I also consult, supervise, teach, and speak at live and online events. I founded my practice Stephanie Small Health in 2012. Ten years later, I founded Las Lobas del Corazón, a holistic psychotherapy and health clinic that exists in order to make deeper and more effective healing available for everyone, regardless of income level. I am of Ashkenazi descent and use she/her pronouns.

I hold a BA from Yale University and an MSW from Smith College for Social Work, and multiple certifications in various disciplines and modalities, including Holistic Nutrition Education from Bauman College and Mental Health Nutrition from the Academy for Addiction and Mental Health Nutrition. I also created the five week online course Supplements and Nutrition for Mental Health. When not working, I enjoy immersing in cold creeks, pursuing the art of eight limbs, singing songs in other languages, kitchen witchery, connecting with various loved ones including the two legged, four legged, rooted and elemental kind, and of course running with the wolves. You can find out more about me here.

Stephanie's Website
Stephanie's Online Course

Use code: RisingBeyond for 20% off the course



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]]> Has the constant stress from your narcissistic relationship and continued post separation abuse had a negative impact on your physical health?

It is common that the constant hypervigilance and ongoing trauma will cause problems with sleep, your digestive system, your immune system…basically all of your systems.

Is there anything you can do about it?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast I talk with Stephanie Small, LCSW on a more holistic approach to regaining your physical and emotional health as you heal from abuse.  How can you use nutrition and supplements to accelerate your healing journey?

We address the current Western medical model where the goal is to reduce symptoms rather than find the root of the problem.  The goal of this more holistic approach is to identify the root causes before starting to treat the concern.

We start by exploring gut health and how it is the gateway to our overall health and wellness.  Our digestive process is not only linked to our physical symptoms, but our mental health as well.  Stephanie discusses the importance of blood sugar regulation and managing inflammation as a huge component to using nutrition on your healing path.

Stephanie's Bio:
As a licensed clinical social worker / somatic psychotherapist and functional nutritionist, I help people reconnect to their wild and essential truths. In addition to my private practice, I also consult, supervise, teach, and speak at live and online events. I founded my practice Stephanie Small Health in 2012. Ten years later, I founded Las Lobas del Corazón, a holistic psychotherapy and health clinic that exists in order to make deeper and more effective healing available for everyone, regardless of income level. I am of Ashkenazi descent and use she/her pronouns.

I hold a BA from Yale University and an MSW from Smith College for Social Work, and multiple certifications in various disciplines and modalities, including Holistic Nutrition Education from Bauman College and Mental Health Nutrition from the Academy for Addiction and Mental Health Nutrition. I also created the five week online course Supplements and Nutrition for Mental Health. When not working, I enjoy immersing in cold creeks, pursuing the art of eight limbs, singing songs in other languages, kitchen witchery, connecting with various loved ones including the two legged, four legged, rooted and elemental kind, and of course running with the wolves. You can find out more about me here.

Stephanie's Website
Stephanie's Online Course

Use code: RisingBeyond for 20% off the course



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14634980 Wed, 06 Mar 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2931 1 89 full false Ep 88: The Intersection of Addiction and Domestic Violence with Guest Kevin Petersen, MA, LMFT Ep 88: The Intersection of Addiction and Domestic Violence with Guest Kevin Petersen, MA, LMFT When addiction intersects with domestic violence and narcissistic abuse scary things can happen.

The intensity of abuse typically increases and leaves so many women off balance.

Many victims hold onto the hope that if their partner becomes sober, they will no longer be abusive and this is the explanation many perpetrators of abuse will use to continue abusing their partners.

And while there are significant parallels between families who experience addiction and families who experience domestic violence, one does not cause the other.

My guest today is an expert in the family dynamics of addiction and we discuss the intersection between addiction and abuse as well as the many parallels between the two.  We identify what sobriety actually means and how the old method of solely doing individual work with an addict and then bringing them back into the same family dynamic does not work.  We identify the parallel processes that can help families experiencing addiction go through to heal as being similar to the processes when there has been violence in the home.

Kevin Petersen, LMFT is the founder of The Chronic Hope Institute.  He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with offices in Colorado and Florida. He started The Chronic Hope Institute to help families that are sick and tired of being dominated by their loved one's addiction. He helps them solve the problem with a clear and concise action plan through family addiction coaching.

He is also the author of two books, Chronic Hope: Families and Addiction and Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child.

Book: Chronic Hope : Families & Addiction
Book: Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child
Kevin's Website
Kevin on Instagram
Kevin on YouTube

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]]> When addiction intersects with domestic violence and narcissistic abuse scary things can happen.

The intensity of abuse typically increases and leaves so many women off balance.

Many victims hold onto the hope that if their partner becomes sober, they will no longer be abusive and this is the explanation many perpetrators of abuse will use to continue abusing their partners.

And while there are significant parallels between families who experience addiction and families who experience domestic violence, one does not cause the other.

My guest today is an expert in the family dynamics of addiction and we discuss the intersection between addiction and abuse as well as the many parallels between the two.  We identify what sobriety actually means and how the old method of solely doing individual work with an addict and then bringing them back into the same family dynamic does not work.  We identify the parallel processes that can help families experiencing addiction go through to heal as being similar to the processes when there has been violence in the home.

Kevin Petersen, LMFT is the founder of The Chronic Hope Institute.  He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with offices in Colorado and Florida. He started The Chronic Hope Institute to help families that are sick and tired of being dominated by their loved one's addiction. He helps them solve the problem with a clear and concise action plan through family addiction coaching.

He is also the author of two books, Chronic Hope: Families and Addiction and Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child.

Book: Chronic Hope : Families & Addiction
Book: Chronic Hope: Parenting the Addicted Child
Kevin's Website
Kevin on Instagram
Kevin on YouTube

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14580381 Wed, 28 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700 3007 1 88 full false Ep 87: Top 10 Survival Strategies: Balancing Life Amidst Post-Separation Challenges Ep 87: Top 10 Survival Strategies: Balancing Life Amidst Post-Separation Challenges You finally left your narcissistic partner and find yourself a single parent.  (Let’s be real here, you were basically a single parent before)  And being a single parent is HARD!

You’re working, maintaining a home, helping with homework, planning meals, driving to the extra curricular activities, and more.  And, you likely also have a full time job mitigating everything that comes up during post separation abuse.

So, is there a way to get it all done and save your sanity?

There is a way.  In this episode, I am going to share some strategies that you can use to start to find some balance in a life where there is not enough time and plenty of stress. 
Here are my top 10 tips to finding some balance and sanity as you manage everything that single parenting and post separation abuse brings.

  • Be Intentional.  You will need to use this intentionality through out the other strategies on this list in order to make your decisions about what is important now and which strategy will give you the biggest bang for your buck.
  • Compartmentalize so that the tough stuff does not bleed into other areas of your life.
  • Simplify.  What areas in your life can you eliminate or automate things?  Another questions you can ask yourself (courtesy of Pat Flynn) is “If this were easy, what would it look like?”
  • Structure and Routines.  Nope this is not sexy, but having routines and structure prevents decision fatigue.
  • Break the “rules” of parenting occasionally.  I know this one causes fear of retribution within the family court system, and there are some things you can do to decrease the amount of things you need to take on on any given day.
  • Make your free time meaningful and intentional.  Make sure to add little pockets of peace or joy into your free time instead of filling it solely with dishes and laundry.
  • Set Boundaries. It is important that you know what matters to you now, and what is a “Yes” and what is a “No.”
  • Quality time vs Quantity time with your children.  The quality of your time with your children is much more important than the amount of time spent.
  • Build your support system.  Having safe people to vent to, strategize with, laugh with, and ask for help will do wonders for you if you are overwhelmed.
  • Ask for Help.  After you have safe people in your inner circle it is possible that you can take something off your plate by asking for help.

Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on boundaries:
Ep 18: Boundary Setting 101: Tips for setting boundaries after an abusive relationship
Ep 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After Abuse

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]]> You finally left your narcissistic partner and find yourself a single parent.  (Let’s be real here, you were basically a single parent before)  And being a single parent is HARD!

You’re working, maintaining a home, helping with homework, planning meals, driving to the extra curricular activities, and more.  And, you likely also have a full time job mitigating everything that comes up during post separation abuse.

So, is there a way to get it all done and save your sanity?

There is a way.  In this episode, I am going to share some strategies that you can use to start to find some balance in a life where there is not enough time and plenty of stress. 
Here are my top 10 tips to finding some balance and sanity as you manage everything that single parenting and post separation abuse brings.

  • Be Intentional.  You will need to use this intentionality through out the other strategies on this list in order to make your decisions about what is important now and which strategy will give you the biggest bang for your buck.
  • Compartmentalize so that the tough stuff does not bleed into other areas of your life.
  • Simplify.  What areas in your life can you eliminate or automate things?  Another questions you can ask yourself (courtesy of Pat Flynn) is “If this were easy, what would it look like?”
  • Structure and Routines.  Nope this is not sexy, but having routines and structure prevents decision fatigue.
  • Break the “rules” of parenting occasionally.  I know this one causes fear of retribution within the family court system, and there are some things you can do to decrease the amount of things you need to take on on any given day.
  • Make your free time meaningful and intentional.  Make sure to add little pockets of peace or joy into your free time instead of filling it solely with dishes and laundry.
  • Set Boundaries. It is important that you know what matters to you now, and what is a “Yes” and what is a “No.”
  • Quality time vs Quantity time with your children.  The quality of your time with your children is much more important than the amount of time spent.
  • Build your support system.  Having safe people to vent to, strategize with, laugh with, and ask for help will do wonders for you if you are overwhelmed.
  • Ask for Help.  After you have safe people in your inner circle it is possible that you can take something off your plate by asking for help.

Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on boundaries:
Ep 18: Boundary Setting 101: Tips for setting boundaries after an abusive relationship
Ep 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After Abuse

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14542842 Wed, 21 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2209 1 87 full false Ep 86: Saying ‘NO’ to People-Pleasing As You Heal From Narcissistic Abuse with Guest Anita Sandoval, LPCS Ep 86: Saying ‘NO’ to People-Pleasing As You Heal From Narcissistic Abuse with Guest Anita Sandoval, LPCS How often are you kicking yourself because you said “Yes” to something when you didn’t have the time or backed down and agreed to one of your ex’s requests because you just wanted to avoid the conflict?

Being a victim of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse will lead to fawning or people-pleasing behaviors as a way to maintain safety and the idea of control and calm. People pleasing was a skill that kept you safe but it is something that you do not want to continue forever.

In this episode we are going to discuss how people-pleasing develops and some strategies to become more empowered, find love and acceptance for yourself, and learn to set some compassionate boundaries.  

My guest, Anita Sandoval, LPCS shares her experience of generational trauma and abuse that led her to people-please and stay in an abusive relationship.  We discuss how modeling of behaviors and what is accepted is passed down through generations and how difficult it is to break these cycles.  

Anita's Bio:
I'm Anita Sandoval, a licensed professional counselor Supervisor and EMDR certified with over 14 years of experience and  the author of 'Broken Chains,' and the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations' podcast.
 
With over 13 years of dedicated practice as a licensed professional counselor at Positive Awakenings Counseling Center.
 
In addition to my writing, I'm also the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations,' a podcast where we dive into meaningful discussions that aim to uplift and empower women from all walks of life.

My own path to becoming a licensed professional counselor is deeply rooted in a story of transformation. As a third-generation survivor of abuse and neglect, I know firsthand the challenges and pain that such cycles can perpetuate. However, my determination to break this cycle and become a woman empowered was unwavering.

Through years of personal growth, therapy, and self-discovery, I found the strength to rewrite my narrative. I realized that I could use my experiences to not only heal but also to help others do the same. This journey led me to the field of counseling, where I've spent over a decade honing my skills, gaining valuable insights.

Today, I'm passionate about guiding individuals and families on their own journeys from generational abuse to generational growth. It's my mission to empower others to break free from the chains of the past and discover their own resilience and potential. I'm living proof that transformation is possible, and I'm here to support you in your own journey of healing and empowerment."

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]]> How often are you kicking yourself because you said “Yes” to something when you didn’t have the time or backed down and agreed to one of your ex’s requests because you just wanted to avoid the conflict?

Being a victim of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse will lead to fawning or people-pleasing behaviors as a way to maintain safety and the idea of control and calm. People pleasing was a skill that kept you safe but it is something that you do not want to continue forever.

In this episode we are going to discuss how people-pleasing develops and some strategies to become more empowered, find love and acceptance for yourself, and learn to set some compassionate boundaries.  

My guest, Anita Sandoval, LPCS shares her experience of generational trauma and abuse that led her to people-please and stay in an abusive relationship.  We discuss how modeling of behaviors and what is accepted is passed down through generations and how difficult it is to break these cycles.  

Anita's Bio:
I'm Anita Sandoval, a licensed professional counselor Supervisor and EMDR certified with over 14 years of experience and  the author of 'Broken Chains,' and the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations' podcast.
 
With over 13 years of dedicated practice as a licensed professional counselor at Positive Awakenings Counseling Center.
 
In addition to my writing, I'm also the host of 'Empowering Women in Conversations,' a podcast where we dive into meaningful discussions that aim to uplift and empower women from all walks of life.

My own path to becoming a licensed professional counselor is deeply rooted in a story of transformation. As a third-generation survivor of abuse and neglect, I know firsthand the challenges and pain that such cycles can perpetuate. However, my determination to break this cycle and become a woman empowered was unwavering.

Through years of personal growth, therapy, and self-discovery, I found the strength to rewrite my narrative. I realized that I could use my experiences to not only heal but also to help others do the same. This journey led me to the field of counseling, where I've spent over a decade honing my skills, gaining valuable insights.

Today, I'm passionate about guiding individuals and families on their own journeys from generational abuse to generational growth. It's my mission to empower others to break free from the chains of the past and discover their own resilience and potential. I'm living proof that transformation is possible, and I'm here to support you in your own journey of healing and empowerment."

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14474952 Wed, 14 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700 3171 1 86 full false Ep 85: Finding Peace: Overcoming Injustice in the Broken Family Court System Ep 85: Finding Peace: Overcoming Injustice in the Broken Family Court System For those of you dealing with post separation abuse and the family court system this episode is for you.

How can you live your life accepting or stomaching the decisions made by a judge or evaluator that you know in your heart is not in the best interest of your children.

How do we just accept that our systems are unjust when it is negatively affecting our babies? 

Hopefully these strategies will be a place you can start.

  • Focusing on what is in your control vs what is not in your control.  In this system and situation there are SO many things outside of our control.  Focusing on the things we can control will give us a bigger bang for our buck than sharing focus with things outside of our control.
  • Ask yourself these questions:
    • Can you be at peace with your efforts to protect your children?
    • Can you be at peace with your effort to heal yourself so you can be the best parent for your children?
    • Focusing on effort vs focusing on outcome can be a helpful perspective.
  • Be present with your children when you are with them.  Give them the unconditional love that will carry them through all of the challenges they will experience.
  • Think back to positive times with your child(ren).  If you have had your children taken from you, this can be excruciating and healing all at the same time.  Children will have benefited from your attachment and love from the past even if they are not getting it directly now.  Remember how you have positively impacted them in the past.
  • Compartmentalization: Give yourself time where you can think about things, vent about things, do your research and then set up times where you put this fight away and put it on the shelf.  It’s important to not solely avoid it because avoidance will increase your trauma symptoms and it is not helpful to be in it all the time because then you cannot focus on anything else.  
  • Find your tribe.  Put as many safe people around you where you can share the struggle and allow you to hate the injustice and speak to it so that it doesn't constantly come out when you don't want it to.
  • Depending on where you are in the healing process, can you speak out or work towards greater change?

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> For those of you dealing with post separation abuse and the family court system this episode is for you.

How can you live your life accepting or stomaching the decisions made by a judge or evaluator that you know in your heart is not in the best interest of your children.

How do we just accept that our systems are unjust when it is negatively affecting our babies? 

Hopefully these strategies will be a place you can start.

  • Focusing on what is in your control vs what is not in your control.  In this system and situation there are SO many things outside of our control.  Focusing on the things we can control will give us a bigger bang for our buck than sharing focus with things outside of our control.
  • Ask yourself these questions:
    • Can you be at peace with your efforts to protect your children?
    • Can you be at peace with your effort to heal yourself so you can be the best parent for your children?
    • Focusing on effort vs focusing on outcome can be a helpful perspective.
  • Be present with your children when you are with them.  Give them the unconditional love that will carry them through all of the challenges they will experience.
  • Think back to positive times with your child(ren).  If you have had your children taken from you, this can be excruciating and healing all at the same time.  Children will have benefited from your attachment and love from the past even if they are not getting it directly now.  Remember how you have positively impacted them in the past.
  • Compartmentalization: Give yourself time where you can think about things, vent about things, do your research and then set up times where you put this fight away and put it on the shelf.  It’s important to not solely avoid it because avoidance will increase your trauma symptoms and it is not helpful to be in it all the time because then you cannot focus on anything else.  
  • Find your tribe.  Put as many safe people around you where you can share the struggle and allow you to hate the injustice and speak to it so that it doesn't constantly come out when you don't want it to.
  • Depending on where you are in the healing process, can you speak out or work towards greater change?

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14444191 Wed, 07 Feb 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1399 1 85 full true EP 84: Covert vs Malignant Narcissists with Stephany Ann EP 84: Covert vs Malignant Narcissists with Stephany Ann If you have google searched “Is my husband/partner a narcissist?” then it is very likely that they are.

You know that something is wrong, but it does not feel like domestic violence is the correct term because you’ve never been hit.  You’ve read some things on narcissism, but what you know of narcissism doesn’t quite fit your partner.

So what is it?

In this episode, I talk with Stephany Ann on some of the differences between covert narcissists and  overt, malignant narcissists and how they will show up differently in your relationship and post separation.  Stephany shares her experiences of being married to one of each and what it looked like post separation.  We also touch on the misconceptions of domestic violence that are keeping women stuck in these abusive relationships and the misconception that after one abusive partner you will know all of the red flags to look for in your next partner.

Meet an extraordinary woman , an attorney and recipient of the governor's award for advocacy with survivors of domestic violence, who triumphed over narcissistic abuse. With two marriages to narcissists behind her, she’s harnessed the transformative power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to guide others on their path to healing and personal growth. Her transformation came when she shifted from “why me” to “for me”. Hear her incredible story today! 

You can email Stephany at stephanyannspeaks@gmail.com to connect with her on Facebook and LinkedIn. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> If you have google searched “Is my husband/partner a narcissist?” then it is very likely that they are.

You know that something is wrong, but it does not feel like domestic violence is the correct term because you’ve never been hit.  You’ve read some things on narcissism, but what you know of narcissism doesn’t quite fit your partner.

So what is it?

In this episode, I talk with Stephany Ann on some of the differences between covert narcissists and  overt, malignant narcissists and how they will show up differently in your relationship and post separation.  Stephany shares her experiences of being married to one of each and what it looked like post separation.  We also touch on the misconceptions of domestic violence that are keeping women stuck in these abusive relationships and the misconception that after one abusive partner you will know all of the red flags to look for in your next partner.

Meet an extraordinary woman , an attorney and recipient of the governor's award for advocacy with survivors of domestic violence, who triumphed over narcissistic abuse. With two marriages to narcissists behind her, she’s harnessed the transformative power of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to guide others on their path to healing and personal growth. Her transformation came when she shifted from “why me” to “for me”. Hear her incredible story today! 

You can email Stephany at stephanyannspeaks@gmail.com to connect with her on Facebook and LinkedIn. 

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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]]> Buzzsprout-14408859 Wed, 31 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2897 1 84 full false Ep 83: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan Ep 83: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan If your parenting plan is not working or there has been a change in yours or your child’s lives to where the parenting plan no longer reflects the actual needed arrangements for the child, what do you do?

If you are coparenting with a narcissist, broaching a change in the parenting plan can feel extremely scary.  You know that it will be a catalyst for increased engagement and conflict.  So, what steps can you follow that will help minimize the conflict and increase the likelihood of a change?

A change in circumstance might be (not an exhaustive list):

  • A change in address outside of the parenting plan agreement
  • A change in school
  • A change in the child’s medical or mental health providers
  • A change in the child’s needs that the current parenting plan does not address
  • A loss of job that will have an impact on the current parenting plan
  • Abuse or Neglect
  • Co-parent is not following the orders AND it is causing harm to the child

If you feel like you need to broach a change in the parenting plan, there are some steps that you can take that will protect you and will increase the likelihood that the plan will be modified.

  • Send the initial message to “put the concern on your co-parent’s radar”
  • Start to accrue data and evidence that the concern is negatively impacting your child and what needs to happen to remedy this
  • Send a second email stating that the problem is still present, share some of the data, and then write a clear ask of what needs to be done to remedy the situation.
  • Be prepared for your ex to fight back and be an A-hole
  • Be prepared for the next possible steps in a worst case scenario


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> If your parenting plan is not working or there has been a change in yours or your child’s lives to where the parenting plan no longer reflects the actual needed arrangements for the child, what do you do?

If you are coparenting with a narcissist, broaching a change in the parenting plan can feel extremely scary.  You know that it will be a catalyst for increased engagement and conflict.  So, what steps can you follow that will help minimize the conflict and increase the likelihood of a change?

A change in circumstance might be (not an exhaustive list):

  • A change in address outside of the parenting plan agreement
  • A change in school
  • A change in the child’s medical or mental health providers
  • A change in the child’s needs that the current parenting plan does not address
  • A loss of job that will have an impact on the current parenting plan
  • Abuse or Neglect
  • Co-parent is not following the orders AND it is causing harm to the child

If you feel like you need to broach a change in the parenting plan, there are some steps that you can take that will protect you and will increase the likelihood that the plan will be modified.

  • Send the initial message to “put the concern on your co-parent’s radar”
  • Start to accrue data and evidence that the concern is negatively impacting your child and what needs to happen to remedy this
  • Send a second email stating that the problem is still present, share some of the data, and then write a clear ask of what needs to be done to remedy the situation.
  • Be prepared for your ex to fight back and be an A-hole
  • Be prepared for the next possible steps in a worst case scenario


Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Buzzsprout-14356912 Wed, 24 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1278 1 83 full false Ep 82: Alone in Your Wound: Healing Unresolved Trauma with Elizabeth Kipp Ep 82: Alone in Your Wound: Healing Unresolved Trauma with Elizabeth Kipp The trauma of an abusive relationship impacts your life in so many ways.  And if the trauma remains unresolved it can show up in your body in a myriad of ways.

Elizabeth Kipp uses the phrase “Being alone in your wound” to describe how it can feel when you have experienced domestic violence and narcissistic abuse and continue experiencing post separation abuse in the aftermath.  This aloneness can prevent you from fully healing.

In this episode we touch on addiction, chronic illness, people pleasing as a survival strategy,  and a pathway to healing from any relational trauma.

Elizabeth Kipp is a Stress Management and Historical Trauma Specialist who uses Trauma-Trained and Yoga-Informed Addiction Recovery Coaching, Ancestral Clearing®, Compassionate Inquiry, and Yoga to help people with their healing.

Elizabeth healed from over 40 years of chronic pain, including anxiety, panic attacks, and addiction. She now guides others to unleash their healing power, find freedom from suffering, and live a thriving life.

She is the best-selling author of “The Way Through Chronic Pain: Tools to Reclaim Your Healing Power.”


Where to Find Elizabeth:

Website https://Elizabeth-Kipp.com
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethKippStressManagement/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lizi.kipp/
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethkipp/
YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@elizabethkipp9855/videos
Amazon Author Page http://bit.ly/EKBooks
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BOOK mention in the episode: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté, MD



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]]> The trauma of an abusive relationship impacts your life in so many ways.  And if the trauma remains unresolved it can show up in your body in a myriad of ways.

Elizabeth Kipp uses the phrase “Being alone in your wound” to describe how it can feel when you have experienced domestic violence and narcissistic abuse and continue experiencing post separation abuse in the aftermath.  This aloneness can prevent you from fully healing.

In this episode we touch on addiction, chronic illness, people pleasing as a survival strategy,  and a pathway to healing from any relational trauma.

Elizabeth Kipp is a Stress Management and Historical Trauma Specialist who uses Trauma-Trained and Yoga-Informed Addiction Recovery Coaching, Ancestral Clearing®, Compassionate Inquiry, and Yoga to help people with their healing.

Elizabeth healed from over 40 years of chronic pain, including anxiety, panic attacks, and addiction. She now guides others to unleash their healing power, find freedom from suffering, and live a thriving life.

She is the best-selling author of “The Way Through Chronic Pain: Tools to Reclaim Your Healing Power.”


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14313862 Wed, 17 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700 2659 1 82 full false Ep 81: Mic Drop Moments: Responses for Invalidating Conversations about the Abuse Ep 81: Mic Drop Moments: Responses for Invalidating Conversations about the Abuse How often do you feel misunderstood and invalidated when talking with family and friends or even the professionals in your case?

It is so frustrating when you get the questions or comments from folks who clearly do not understand narcissistic abuse or domestic violence.

How many times have you been in a situation with someone where you wish you had that one-liner that would stop someone in their tracks but it didn't come to you until hours later?

And then you're kicking yourself because you didn't get your point across and were misunderstood?

We need some canned mic drop moments to end this cycle. And this is what I am going to share with you in this episode; some responses you can use when the people around you say those things that are hurtful and invalidating.

In addition, I have created a free resource with more examples of responses that you can use and revise to make them your own to go with this episode.  You can grab that free resource by going here.

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]]> How often do you feel misunderstood and invalidated when talking with family and friends or even the professionals in your case?

It is so frustrating when you get the questions or comments from folks who clearly do not understand narcissistic abuse or domestic violence.

How many times have you been in a situation with someone where you wish you had that one-liner that would stop someone in their tracks but it didn't come to you until hours later?

And then you're kicking yourself because you didn't get your point across and were misunderstood?

We need some canned mic drop moments to end this cycle. And this is what I am going to share with you in this episode; some responses you can use when the people around you say those things that are hurtful and invalidating.

In addition, I have created a free resource with more examples of responses that you can use and revise to make them your own to go with this episode.  You can grab that free resource by going here.

Mic Drop Moments Freebie - Grab it HERE

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14256781 Wed, 10 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1032 1 81 full false Ep 80: Reclaiming Parenthood: Redefining Your Identity After Narcissistic Abuse Ep 80: Reclaiming Parenthood: Redefining Your Identity After Narcissistic Abuse One of the best weapons of a narcissistic partner is to shame you into believing you are a horrible parent.

Abusers use many tactics while in a relationship with their victim in order to illicit shame including gaslighting, constant criticism, counter parenting, questioning every decision made, and getting you to doubt your abilities to take care of your children.

These tactics cause significant harm in how you identify yourself as a parent and then how you parent your children.  

The constant hypervigilance and anxiety you experience while living with your abusive partner causes you to parent in ways that are not authentic to you as well.

And then even once you have left, the constant criticism continues post separation and you are also feeling judged by the larger system of how you parent.

So, how can you start to redefine your sense of self as a safe, confident, and protective parent?

First, it is important to look at the dynamics you experienced in your family of origin.  Explore any patterns of shame, criticism, or unhealthy dynamics in your upbringing.

Second, define who you want to be and what you want your relationship with your children to look like as a parent.  This clarity can create a plan for action.

Next, it is important to become aware of your current strengths as a parent.  If this is difficult for you to identify your strengths, find small positive parenting moments to acknowledge.  And as you accrue more of these smaller moments, they will lead to more confidence that you are a good parent.

Then separate your abusers narrative from who you know you are as a parent.

If this feels impossible or you need more support, reach out to a therapist, parenting coach, or support group.  Your strengths can be mirrored back to you in these settings which will improve your sense of self and help you redefine your identity as a parent.

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]]> One of the best weapons of a narcissistic partner is to shame you into believing you are a horrible parent.

Abusers use many tactics while in a relationship with their victim in order to illicit shame including gaslighting, constant criticism, counter parenting, questioning every decision made, and getting you to doubt your abilities to take care of your children.

These tactics cause significant harm in how you identify yourself as a parent and then how you parent your children.  

The constant hypervigilance and anxiety you experience while living with your abusive partner causes you to parent in ways that are not authentic to you as well.

And then even once you have left, the constant criticism continues post separation and you are also feeling judged by the larger system of how you parent.

So, how can you start to redefine your sense of self as a safe, confident, and protective parent?

First, it is important to look at the dynamics you experienced in your family of origin.  Explore any patterns of shame, criticism, or unhealthy dynamics in your upbringing.

Second, define who you want to be and what you want your relationship with your children to look like as a parent.  This clarity can create a plan for action.

Next, it is important to become aware of your current strengths as a parent.  If this is difficult for you to identify your strengths, find small positive parenting moments to acknowledge.  And as you accrue more of these smaller moments, they will lead to more confidence that you are a good parent.

Then separate your abusers narrative from who you know you are as a parent.

If this feels impossible or you need more support, reach out to a therapist, parenting coach, or support group.  Your strengths can be mirrored back to you in these settings which will improve your sense of self and help you redefine your identity as a parent.

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]]> Buzzsprout-14230390 Wed, 03 Jan 2024 05:00:00 -0700 1146 1 80 full false Ep 79: Unmasking Coercive Control: A Revolutionary Tool for Co-parenting with a Narcissist with Anne Wintemute Ep 79: Unmasking Coercive Control: A Revolutionary Tool for Co-parenting with a Narcissist with Anne Wintemute What if there was a way for you to show the patterns of coercive control still present in your co-parenting relationship with your narcissistic ex partner?

And what if there was a way you could organize all of your documentation for family court without having the trauma of going back and reading  through everything?

A resource like this is just around the corner and I am talking with the creator of this technology in today’s episode.  Anne shares how her experience co-parenting with an abusive ex partner led to her decision to create this product, AImee Says.  We discuss the many challenges that arise as you try to manage post separation and verbalize it to those making decisions about your life and your children’s lives, like how coercive control is more insidious and difficult to spot when the court only has a snapshot of these behaviors.

Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance.  Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver.


Where to Find Ann and the app AImee:
A Garden Grows Website
AImee Says Website

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]]> What if there was a way for you to show the patterns of coercive control still present in your co-parenting relationship with your narcissistic ex partner?

And what if there was a way you could organize all of your documentation for family court without having the trauma of going back and reading  through everything?

A resource like this is just around the corner and I am talking with the creator of this technology in today’s episode.  Anne shares how her experience co-parenting with an abusive ex partner led to her decision to create this product, AImee Says.  We discuss the many challenges that arise as you try to manage post separation and verbalize it to those making decisions about your life and your children’s lives, like how coercive control is more insidious and difficult to spot when the court only has a snapshot of these behaviors.

Anne Wintemute is a post-separation abuse consultant and co-founder of Aimee Says, an Al tool for survivors. Her work strives to bridge the gap in understanding that allows perpetrators of abuse to act within a culture of tolerance.  Previously, Anne was a Head of School at an independent elementary in Denver.


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A Garden Grows Website
AImee Says Website

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]]> Buzzsprout-14189074 Wed, 27 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700 2741 1 79 full false Ep 78: Breaking the Comparison Trap: Owning Your Trauma as you Heal from Narcissistic Abuse Ep 78: Breaking the Comparison Trap: Owning Your Trauma as you Heal from Narcissistic Abuse Victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse minimize their experience through comparison, which prevents you from fully healing.

If you have ever thought “I should just stop complaining or stay quiet,” because someone else’s situation seems so much worse than yours then you need to listen to this episode.  

Or maybe you are constantly thinking, “Why can’t I just get over this?  It wasn’t that big of a deal.” 

Comparing your relationship and abuse to other victims and survivors can completely stunt your healing and growth.

“There is no hierarchy of suffering . . . being a survivor, being a ‘thriver’ requires absolute acceptance of what was and what is. If we discount our pain, or punish ourselves for feeling lost or isolated or scared about the challenges in our lives, however insignificant these challenges may seem to someone else, then we’re still choosing to be victims” (pg 8). Dr. Edith Eger

Some of the ways that I hear survivors comparing themselves to others are:

I didn’t escape, I was discarded.

I was never physically abused/sexually abused.

I don’t have children.

I was able to get a protection order or I wasn’t able to get a protection order.

I haven’t lost my children in family court and other protective parents have.

I am employed and have an education.

I have a supportive family while others do not.

Trauma is relative to you, your situation, your past, you as an individual.

Often we are using comparison to minimize our pain and betrayal.  It can be so daunting and scary to really look at what has happened to us and so when we compare ourselves to someone who has it worse, it is a way to lighten the damage.  But this is doing us a huge disservice.  It is increasing or creating the cognitive dissonance that keeps us stuck and confused.  We need to own how much harm that has been done and is still happening.  By our ex partners, by the system…

“This is the work of healing. You deny what hurts, what you fear. You avoid it at all costs. Then you find a way to welcome and embrace what you’re most afraid of. And then you can finally let it go” (pg 209). Dr. Edith Eger

So, what can we do?

  • Name it.  Name how you have been betrayed and the trauma you have experienced.
  • Name when you are minimizing and comparing yourself to someone else.
  • Ask yourself “why?”
  • Share your story with safe people who will acknowledge your experience.


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]]> Victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse minimize their experience through comparison, which prevents you from fully healing.

If you have ever thought “I should just stop complaining or stay quiet,” because someone else’s situation seems so much worse than yours then you need to listen to this episode.  

Or maybe you are constantly thinking, “Why can’t I just get over this?  It wasn’t that big of a deal.” 

Comparing your relationship and abuse to other victims and survivors can completely stunt your healing and growth.

“There is no hierarchy of suffering . . . being a survivor, being a ‘thriver’ requires absolute acceptance of what was and what is. If we discount our pain, or punish ourselves for feeling lost or isolated or scared about the challenges in our lives, however insignificant these challenges may seem to someone else, then we’re still choosing to be victims” (pg 8). Dr. Edith Eger

Some of the ways that I hear survivors comparing themselves to others are:

I didn’t escape, I was discarded.

I was never physically abused/sexually abused.

I don’t have children.

I was able to get a protection order or I wasn’t able to get a protection order.

I haven’t lost my children in family court and other protective parents have.

I am employed and have an education.

I have a supportive family while others do not.

Trauma is relative to you, your situation, your past, you as an individual.

Often we are using comparison to minimize our pain and betrayal.  It can be so daunting and scary to really look at what has happened to us and so when we compare ourselves to someone who has it worse, it is a way to lighten the damage.  But this is doing us a huge disservice.  It is increasing or creating the cognitive dissonance that keeps us stuck and confused.  We need to own how much harm that has been done and is still happening.  By our ex partners, by the system…

“This is the work of healing. You deny what hurts, what you fear. You avoid it at all costs. Then you find a way to welcome and embrace what you’re most afraid of. And then you can finally let it go” (pg 209). Dr. Edith Eger

So, what can we do?

  • Name it.  Name how you have been betrayed and the trauma you have experienced.
  • Name when you are minimizing and comparing yourself to someone else.
  • Ask yourself “why?”
  • Share your story with safe people who will acknowledge your experience.


The Choice
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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14155730 Wed, 20 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700 1164 1 78 full false Ep 77: Mindfulness Beyond the Beach: Practical Strategies for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Ep 77: Mindfulness Beyond the Beach: Practical Strategies for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Do you struggle with being present in the moment?  

Trauma  after surviving domestic violence and narcissistic abuse and continually being triggered during post separation abuse, mindfulness can be extremely difficult.

Do you feel like mindfulness is out of reach because you equate mindfulness with meditating on a beautiful beach?

Mindfulness means that you are aware of where you are at this moment; what you are physically feeling, what you are emotionally feeling, and what your mind is saying. It does not mean that you are feeling calm or grounded.  It just means that you are aware.

Use this skill to start to become mindful:

Observe: take a look around and a look inside yourself and observe what is happening in this moment.

Just Notice: Notice what you are feeling, what your mind is saying, and if there is anything you can notice about the why, WITHOUT JUDGEMENT

Put words on: You are then going to narrate what is happening without adding judgemental statements, like I should be…  

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]]> Do you struggle with being present in the moment?  

Trauma  after surviving domestic violence and narcissistic abuse and continually being triggered during post separation abuse, mindfulness can be extremely difficult.

Do you feel like mindfulness is out of reach because you equate mindfulness with meditating on a beautiful beach?

Mindfulness means that you are aware of where you are at this moment; what you are physically feeling, what you are emotionally feeling, and what your mind is saying. It does not mean that you are feeling calm or grounded.  It just means that you are aware.

Use this skill to start to become mindful:

Observe: take a look around and a look inside yourself and observe what is happening in this moment.

Just Notice: Notice what you are feeling, what your mind is saying, and if there is anything you can notice about the why, WITHOUT JUDGEMENT

Put words on: You are then going to narrate what is happening without adding judgemental statements, like I should be…  

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpc

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14107036 Wed, 13 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700 892 1 77 full false Ep 76: Revolutionizing Family Court: Building a Community-Powered Movement for Survivor Justice with Lundy Bancroft Ep 76: Revolutionizing Family Court: Building a Community-Powered Movement for Survivor Justice with Lundy Bancroft What needs to happen for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse to get a fair shake in family court?

The overwhelming majority of people you ask will say family court reform or maybe that we need to burn it down to the ground and start again.

And while those of us in this space see the egregious nature of how survivors are treated in family court, at this point there does not seem to be a clear path on how to have sustainable change of this larger, patriarchal system.

So, what needs to happen for us to create a sustainable and powerful social movement to see actual change?

On this episode I talk again with Lundy Bancroft as a follow up for our discussion in episode 60.  We touch on the shift of domestic violence agencies and professionals moving away from a support group and community support style of help to a more one-on-one approach to helping individual survivors as they go through family court.  And while some of the one-on-one strategy is extremely helpful, the isolation of survivors is causing challenges to the overall healing of women and children.  We discuss how a community support model could be extremely beneficial to support women who are in a position to start doing advocacy work.

We also discuss moving away from only focusing on education of court professionals and more to the accountability of these family court professionals in following laws that are already created and the importance of creating more protocols for these cases to follow. 

We also touch on the importance of safety measures to ensure that survivors can speak out as well as their allies.

https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/
https://centerforjudicialexcellence.org/
https://www.mothersontherise.org/
https://peaklivingnetwork.org/



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]]> What needs to happen for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse to get a fair shake in family court?

The overwhelming majority of people you ask will say family court reform or maybe that we need to burn it down to the ground and start again.

And while those of us in this space see the egregious nature of how survivors are treated in family court, at this point there does not seem to be a clear path on how to have sustainable change of this larger, patriarchal system.

So, what needs to happen for us to create a sustainable and powerful social movement to see actual change?

On this episode I talk again with Lundy Bancroft as a follow up for our discussion in episode 60.  We touch on the shift of domestic violence agencies and professionals moving away from a support group and community support style of help to a more one-on-one approach to helping individual survivors as they go through family court.  And while some of the one-on-one strategy is extremely helpful, the isolation of survivors is causing challenges to the overall healing of women and children.  We discuss how a community support model could be extremely beneficial to support women who are in a position to start doing advocacy work.

We also discuss moving away from only focusing on education of court professionals and more to the accountability of these family court professionals in following laws that are already created and the importance of creating more protocols for these cases to follow. 

We also touch on the importance of safety measures to ensure that survivors can speak out as well as their allies.

https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/
https://centerforjudicialexcellence.org/
https://www.mothersontherise.org/
https://peaklivingnetwork.org/



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]]> Buzzsprout-14072459 Wed, 06 Dec 2023 05:00:00 -0700 3154 1 76 full false Ep 75: Deciphering Trustworthiness: Finding Support During Post Separation Abuse Ep 75: Deciphering Trustworthiness: Finding Support During Post Separation Abuse The support space for working with victims and survivors of domestic violence is confusing.  It can be really difficult to know who to trust.

We talk about rebuilding trust all the time on the podcast and within The Rising Beyond Community and I find myself in a parallel process as I find the best people to share their stories, insights, and strategies with you.  

I can have an amazing conversation with a professional in this space, have several clients with positive experiences, and then have several in a row that are horrific.  For example some of the attorneys who I have worked with in the past, who have really stepped up and understood what domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are and how it impacts the children all of a sudden are completely different.

The parallel processes of feeling like I can’t win, feeling like I cannot trust anyone unless I have a complete background check on them, know their entire history, and get 3 references, and feeling like there is a moving target match much of what you are going through.

And what it always comes down to for me is promoting your autonomy.  Promoting you in building trust with yourself so that you feel confident in making decisions.

When following or paying for any service or support, ask yourself:

  • How is this person benefiting from me?
  • Do they do what they say they are going to do?
  • Do they make promises?
  • Is my gut telling me anything about this person?
  • Am I being loyal to a fault with this person?
  • What can I learn from this person?
  • When is it time to move on?


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]]> The support space for working with victims and survivors of domestic violence is confusing.  It can be really difficult to know who to trust.

We talk about rebuilding trust all the time on the podcast and within The Rising Beyond Community and I find myself in a parallel process as I find the best people to share their stories, insights, and strategies with you.  

I can have an amazing conversation with a professional in this space, have several clients with positive experiences, and then have several in a row that are horrific.  For example some of the attorneys who I have worked with in the past, who have really stepped up and understood what domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are and how it impacts the children all of a sudden are completely different.

The parallel processes of feeling like I can’t win, feeling like I cannot trust anyone unless I have a complete background check on them, know their entire history, and get 3 references, and feeling like there is a moving target match much of what you are going through.

And what it always comes down to for me is promoting your autonomy.  Promoting you in building trust with yourself so that you feel confident in making decisions.

When following or paying for any service or support, ask yourself:

  • How is this person benefiting from me?
  • Do they do what they say they are going to do?
  • Do they make promises?
  • Is my gut telling me anything about this person?
  • Am I being loyal to a fault with this person?
  • What can I learn from this person?
  • When is it time to move on?


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-14044124 Wed, 29 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700 1139 1 75 full false Ep 74: Leveraging your Experience with your Family Court Evaluator with Courtney Gilmartin Ep 74: Leveraging your Experience with your Family Court Evaluator with Courtney Gilmartin If you are in family court with an abusive and narcissistic ex partner it is likely that the possibility of having a court/custody evaluation will be on the table.

Is having a separate person who is supposed to be neutral evaluate your case in order to give recommendations to the judge always helpful?  Ever helpful?

There are many nuances to making the decision to choose and  hire a family court evaluator and even more nuances in how to present your case when you do have one on your case.

In this episode I speak with Courtney Gilmartin, a survivor and current non-profit founder focusing on legislation to change our family court system for the better, shares her experience of post separation abuse, legal abuse, and being able to leverage a court evaluator for a positive outcome for her custody case. We touch on the importance of timing when asking for a family court evaluation, keeping the focus on the children as you are interviewed, the anxiety and mindset shift when doing the psychological assessment, and how to get through such an emotionally taxing event.

About Courtney:
Courtney is a Protective Mom of two who resides in New Jersey and is the Co-Founder of New Jersey Protective Moms, a grassroots non profit dedicated to improving the family law system in New Jersey.  Courtney is also a Domestic Abuse survivor, and has extensive experience with custody litigation, Family Court strategy for Protective Moms and has become increasingly active in her efforts relating to legislative reform.

Website : NJProtectiveMoms.org
Email Me Directly : NJProtectiveMoms@gmail.com



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]]> If you are in family court with an abusive and narcissistic ex partner it is likely that the possibility of having a court/custody evaluation will be on the table.

Is having a separate person who is supposed to be neutral evaluate your case in order to give recommendations to the judge always helpful?  Ever helpful?

There are many nuances to making the decision to choose and  hire a family court evaluator and even more nuances in how to present your case when you do have one on your case.

In this episode I speak with Courtney Gilmartin, a survivor and current non-profit founder focusing on legislation to change our family court system for the better, shares her experience of post separation abuse, legal abuse, and being able to leverage a court evaluator for a positive outcome for her custody case. We touch on the importance of timing when asking for a family court evaluation, keeping the focus on the children as you are interviewed, the anxiety and mindset shift when doing the psychological assessment, and how to get through such an emotionally taxing event.

About Courtney:
Courtney is a Protective Mom of two who resides in New Jersey and is the Co-Founder of New Jersey Protective Moms, a grassroots non profit dedicated to improving the family law system in New Jersey.  Courtney is also a Domestic Abuse survivor, and has extensive experience with custody litigation, Family Court strategy for Protective Moms and has become increasingly active in her efforts relating to legislative reform.

Website : NJProtectiveMoms.org
Email Me Directly : NJProtectiveMoms@gmail.com



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]]> Buzzsprout-14005245 Wed, 22 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700 2891 1 74 full false Ep 73: When Narcissists Ruin the Holidays: Strategies for Peace and Joy Ep 73: When Narcissists Ruin the Holidays: Strategies for Peace and Joy The holidays are coming and guess who always seems to ruin them?

That’s right, your narcissistic partner or ex partner.  Whether you are still with your abusive partner or you are separated, special occasions are a great time and place for them to cause chaos.

Think back to all of the important events and holidays that you shared with your ex partner and see how many of them were ruined or sabotaged in some way by your narcissistic partner.

Why do they ruin these special moments?

The event is not about them and they need to remind you of this or make it all about themselves
The special occasion is important to you and they have the power to ruin it for you or hang it over your head so that you’ll do what they want you to do
People will be watching and they want to present as the perfect couple or family.  This can cause so much stress because the consequences of not being perfect can be brutal.

So, what are some things you can do to mitigate all of the ways that they will try to ruin the upcoming holidays?

  • Check and clarify your current parenting plan or court orders
  • Have a plan A, B, C and maybe even D
  • Change your mindset on the importance of celebrating on a specific day
  • Focus on connection and traditions with your children, which is what they are more likely to remember than the fancy party or expensive gift
  • Help prepare your extended family (and maybe prepare for your family if you have difficult relationships)
  • Take care of yourself any moment you have the chance.
  • Turn off your parenting app notifications!


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]]> The holidays are coming and guess who always seems to ruin them?

That’s right, your narcissistic partner or ex partner.  Whether you are still with your abusive partner or you are separated, special occasions are a great time and place for them to cause chaos.

Think back to all of the important events and holidays that you shared with your ex partner and see how many of them were ruined or sabotaged in some way by your narcissistic partner.

Why do they ruin these special moments?

The event is not about them and they need to remind you of this or make it all about themselves
The special occasion is important to you and they have the power to ruin it for you or hang it over your head so that you’ll do what they want you to do
People will be watching and they want to present as the perfect couple or family.  This can cause so much stress because the consequences of not being perfect can be brutal.

So, what are some things you can do to mitigate all of the ways that they will try to ruin the upcoming holidays?

  • Check and clarify your current parenting plan or court orders
  • Have a plan A, B, C and maybe even D
  • Change your mindset on the importance of celebrating on a specific day
  • Focus on connection and traditions with your children, which is what they are more likely to remember than the fancy party or expensive gift
  • Help prepare your extended family (and maybe prepare for your family if you have difficult relationships)
  • Take care of yourself any moment you have the chance.
  • Turn off your parenting app notifications!


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]]> Buzzsprout-13936050 Wed, 15 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700 1444 1 73 full false Ep 72: Rebuilding Autonomy: A Roadmap to Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse Ep 72: Rebuilding Autonomy: A Roadmap to Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse There are many horrific consequences of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  But I think that this one is probably the most damaging.  During the course of your relationship, your autonomy is systematically taken away from you, which prevents you from being able to leave but even worse it prevents you from living a full and whole life on your terms.

In this episode I am going to share the ways in which your autonomy has been stripped away from you by your abuser and some steps that you can take to start the process of rebuilding your trust and independence so you can fully heal.

How is autonomy taken from you during an abusive relationship?

  • Isolation-not allowing people to mirror your strengths back
  • Gaslighting-questioning your reality, doubting self, doubting your choices
  • Labeling and name-calling i.e. you are irresponsible with money
  • Financial abuse/control - making you dependent on them for everything
  • Emotional manipulation of you and the people around you
  • By the larger systems i.e. the family court system or child protective services

So what can you do?

  • Re-evaluate or rediscover your values and who you are as a person.  This will help you build trust with yourself and trust is the key to making decisions.
  • Increasing your safe inner circle of support
  • Learning to set and hold boundaries
  • Gain financial freedom and independence
  • Therapy, trauma work, emotional healing, mindfulness, etc.

Autonomy is extremely important to regain as you heal.  And this is one of the most difficult parts of the process. It is the foundation that the rest of your life will be built upon as you heal.

Show Links:
Financial Support Groups:
https://allstatefoundation.org/what-we-do/end-domestic-violence/
-AND-
https://www.finabilityus.org/

Bonded by Trauma: Exploring the Parallels of Trauma Bonds and Cults Episode 52 



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]]> There are many horrific consequences of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  But I think that this one is probably the most damaging.  During the course of your relationship, your autonomy is systematically taken away from you, which prevents you from being able to leave but even worse it prevents you from living a full and whole life on your terms.

In this episode I am going to share the ways in which your autonomy has been stripped away from you by your abuser and some steps that you can take to start the process of rebuilding your trust and independence so you can fully heal.

How is autonomy taken from you during an abusive relationship?

  • Isolation-not allowing people to mirror your strengths back
  • Gaslighting-questioning your reality, doubting self, doubting your choices
  • Labeling and name-calling i.e. you are irresponsible with money
  • Financial abuse/control - making you dependent on them for everything
  • Emotional manipulation of you and the people around you
  • By the larger systems i.e. the family court system or child protective services

So what can you do?

  • Re-evaluate or rediscover your values and who you are as a person.  This will help you build trust with yourself and trust is the key to making decisions.
  • Increasing your safe inner circle of support
  • Learning to set and hold boundaries
  • Gain financial freedom and independence
  • Therapy, trauma work, emotional healing, mindfulness, etc.

Autonomy is extremely important to regain as you heal.  And this is one of the most difficult parts of the process. It is the foundation that the rest of your life will be built upon as you heal.

Show Links:
Financial Support Groups:
https://allstatefoundation.org/what-we-do/end-domestic-violence/
-AND-
https://www.finabilityus.org/

Bonded by Trauma: Exploring the Parallels of Trauma Bonds and Cults Episode 52 



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]]> Buzzsprout-13910319 Wed, 08 Nov 2023 05:00:00 -0700 1421 1 72 full false Ep 71: The Self-Representation Success Story: Beating the Odds in Family Court with guest Lisa Johnson Ep 71: The Self-Representation Success Story: Beating the Odds in Family Court with guest Lisa Johnson What does it take to be successful in family court against your narcissistic ex when you have to represent yourself?  

If financial abuse has made it impossible for you to afford an attorney or if you have chosen to go pro se after a bad experience with an attorney, what can you do to stack the odds in your favor?

On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast Lisa Johnson with Been There Got Out shares her story of years of litigation against a narcissistic ex partner where she has had success while representing herself.  She shares some of her top tips when going pro se (or even if you have an attorney representing you) and some of the things that she wished she had known before starting this process.

We also discuss the importance of having education and support as you go through what may be one of the most difficult experiences in your life and how community with safe people is paramount on this journey.  

Lisa Johnson is the co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict divorce coach and certified domestic violence advocate who has successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances. Her case, published in the Connecticut Law Journal, is being used as legal precedent. Her live testimony helped pass Jennifers’ Law in Connecticut, the third state in America to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include “coercive control.”  She and her partner, Chris, the male half of Been There Got Out, coach people in high-conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and co-parenting hell so they have the chance of the best outcome in family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters. Their book, "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances'' was released in March 2023.


Where to find Lisa:
Instagram
YouTube
Podcast
Facebook
TikTok
LinkedIn
Pinterest
Twitter

Get the book: "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances'' 




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]]> What does it take to be successful in family court against your narcissistic ex when you have to represent yourself?  

If financial abuse has made it impossible for you to afford an attorney or if you have chosen to go pro se after a bad experience with an attorney, what can you do to stack the odds in your favor?

On this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast Lisa Johnson with Been There Got Out shares her story of years of litigation against a narcissistic ex partner where she has had success while representing herself.  She shares some of her top tips when going pro se (or even if you have an attorney representing you) and some of the things that she wished she had known before starting this process.

We also discuss the importance of having education and support as you go through what may be one of the most difficult experiences in your life and how community with safe people is paramount on this journey.  

Lisa Johnson is the co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict divorce coach and certified domestic violence advocate who has successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances. Her case, published in the Connecticut Law Journal, is being used as legal precedent. Her live testimony helped pass Jennifers’ Law in Connecticut, the third state in America to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include “coercive control.”  She and her partner, Chris, the male half of Been There Got Out, coach people in high-conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and co-parenting hell so they have the chance of the best outcome in family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters. Their book, "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances'' was released in March 2023.


Where to find Lisa:
Instagram
YouTube
Podcast
Facebook
TikTok
LinkedIn
Pinterest
Twitter

Get the book: "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances'' 




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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13875951 Wed, 01 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600 3052 1 71 full true Ep 70: Navigating Divorce with a Narcissist: The Crucial Role of a Comprehensive Parenting Plan Ep 70: Navigating Divorce with a Narcissist: The Crucial Role of a Comprehensive Parenting Plan How important is it to have a thorough parenting plan if you are divorcing a narcissist?

EXTREMELY IMPORTANT!

It is possible to limit the opportunities for your ex to file motion after motion (saving you money) and opportunities to exploit your niceness by creating a tight and clear parenting plan.  A clear and detailed plan will better protect you and your children.

Some tips and strategies shared in this episode are as follows:

  • The importance of taking your time
  • Learning to stop some of the people pleasing and conflict avoidance specifically when your attorney pushes back
  • Predicting your ex partner's behaviors and perceived wins
  • Planning for your child growing older with a progressive plan that speaks to needs at least 5 years in the future
  • Not assuming your ex will ever be logical or that they know anything about parenting or your children
  • Being proactive with your schedule
  • Knowing your line in the sand and being on the same page with your attorney

In the beginning you likely feel overwhelmed and traumatized and just want some guidance.  Taking the time to create a thorough parenting plan is one of the best steps you can focus on to protect yourself in the long run. 


Documentation Workshop - November 3, 2023

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]]> How important is it to have a thorough parenting plan if you are divorcing a narcissist?

EXTREMELY IMPORTANT!

It is possible to limit the opportunities for your ex to file motion after motion (saving you money) and opportunities to exploit your niceness by creating a tight and clear parenting plan.  A clear and detailed plan will better protect you and your children.

Some tips and strategies shared in this episode are as follows:

  • The importance of taking your time
  • Learning to stop some of the people pleasing and conflict avoidance specifically when your attorney pushes back
  • Predicting your ex partner's behaviors and perceived wins
  • Planning for your child growing older with a progressive plan that speaks to needs at least 5 years in the future
  • Not assuming your ex will ever be logical or that they know anything about parenting or your children
  • Being proactive with your schedule
  • Knowing your line in the sand and being on the same page with your attorney

In the beginning you likely feel overwhelmed and traumatized and just want some guidance.  Taking the time to create a thorough parenting plan is one of the best steps you can focus on to protect yourself in the long run. 


Documentation Workshop - November 3, 2023

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]]> Buzzsprout-13819488 Wed, 25 Oct 2023 05:00:00 -0600 1445 1 70 full false Ep 69: Protect Yourself in Family Court Through Documentation Ep 69: Protect Yourself in Family Court Through Documentation Please do not show up to court with your narcissistic ex-partner thinking that because what you say is true, a judge will believe you.

In order to prevent the judge from thinking this is just a “he said, she said” game you need a strong documentation strategy in place.  And because it is likely you have experienced trauma at the hands of your abusive ex-partner you may not show up in a credible way to those who do not understand.

In this episode, I go over some of the different types of documentation that you need to have prepared including:

  • Financial documentation
  • Documentation based on the factors of a child’s best interest
  • Documentation based on the factors a judge is looking for to determine parental allocation of decision-making

Some basic tips for documentation for family court include:

  • Documenting in a separate journal/planner/spreadsheet
  • Having as much documentation time-stamped
  • Use of a co-parenting messenger app
  • Use of a “vault” for evidence to be court-admissible
  • Marking emails/messages as important so that you don’t have to go back and search
  • Choosing your battles
  • Predicting your ex’s behaviors and perceived wins

If you want more support on how to document including ways to document based on how our minds take in information and ways to make this less than a full-time job, join us for our low-cost documentation workshop on Friday, Nov 3, 2023.

Documentation Workshop. November 3rd, 2023

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]]> Please do not show up to court with your narcissistic ex-partner thinking that because what you say is true, a judge will believe you.

In order to prevent the judge from thinking this is just a “he said, she said” game you need a strong documentation strategy in place.  And because it is likely you have experienced trauma at the hands of your abusive ex-partner you may not show up in a credible way to those who do not understand.

In this episode, I go over some of the different types of documentation that you need to have prepared including:

  • Financial documentation
  • Documentation based on the factors of a child’s best interest
  • Documentation based on the factors a judge is looking for to determine parental allocation of decision-making

Some basic tips for documentation for family court include:

  • Documenting in a separate journal/planner/spreadsheet
  • Having as much documentation time-stamped
  • Use of a co-parenting messenger app
  • Use of a “vault” for evidence to be court-admissible
  • Marking emails/messages as important so that you don’t have to go back and search
  • Choosing your battles
  • Predicting your ex’s behaviors and perceived wins

If you want more support on how to document including ways to document based on how our minds take in information and ways to make this less than a full-time job, join us for our low-cost documentation workshop on Friday, Nov 3, 2023.

Documentation Workshop. November 3rd, 2023

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13797077 Wed, 18 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1536 1 69 full false Ep 68: Turning the Tide in Family Court: A Survivor's Journey with Joanna Baanana Ep 68: Turning the Tide in Family Court: A Survivor's Journey with Joanna Baanana “I’m not sure I can make it through this.” 

If you are experiencing post-separation abuse after leaving your narcissistic partner, especially through the family court system it is likely that this thought has run through your head.

So, what can you do to get through your family court battle with your mental health and your children’s mental health intact?

I am speaking with a friend, advocate, and survivor today on what has helped her through this process and how she is making big waves in her community to improve the family court process for survivors.  We touch on documentation, how to get the right form of support, identifying what is inside and outside of our control, and some mindset shifts that helped her become empowered during this experience.

Joanna writes:

In March of 2019, after an incident involving police and the removal of guns from my marital home, I began a journey that no one expects to be on. I became a client at the local domestic violence shelter - Safe Futures in Southeastern Connecticut. I filed for the dissolution of my marriage and obtained a restraining order. I also became a plaintiff in the civil family court system.

While my civil family court exposure is ongoing, I have decided to be a part of the solution as opposed to simply complaining about the injustices I see. Because of this, I am a founding member of the VOICES Committee for The Center for Safe Futures. I am on the Advisory Board of the Connecticut Protective Moms Non-Profit. I have been certified as a DV Crisis Counselor. I am a Girl Scout leader. And I’ve written my first book, a memoir, which I hope to be published by 2025.



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]]> “I’m not sure I can make it through this.” 

If you are experiencing post-separation abuse after leaving your narcissistic partner, especially through the family court system it is likely that this thought has run through your head.

So, what can you do to get through your family court battle with your mental health and your children’s mental health intact?

I am speaking with a friend, advocate, and survivor today on what has helped her through this process and how she is making big waves in her community to improve the family court process for survivors.  We touch on documentation, how to get the right form of support, identifying what is inside and outside of our control, and some mindset shifts that helped her become empowered during this experience.

Joanna writes:

In March of 2019, after an incident involving police and the removal of guns from my marital home, I began a journey that no one expects to be on. I became a client at the local domestic violence shelter - Safe Futures in Southeastern Connecticut. I filed for the dissolution of my marriage and obtained a restraining order. I also became a plaintiff in the civil family court system.

While my civil family court exposure is ongoing, I have decided to be a part of the solution as opposed to simply complaining about the injustices I see. Because of this, I am a founding member of the VOICES Committee for The Center for Safe Futures. I am on the Advisory Board of the Connecticut Protective Moms Non-Profit. I have been certified as a DV Crisis Counselor. I am a Girl Scout leader. And I’ve written my first book, a memoir, which I hope to be published by 2025.



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13747307 Wed, 11 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0600 3290 1 68 full false Ep 67: My Child has Been Turned Against Me Ep 67: My Child has Been Turned Against Me Does it feel like your child has been brainwashed and turned against you?

You used to have a close relationship and now that you have separated it has fallen apart?

Unfortunately, once your abuser has no other ways to control you, they will likely start using your children.  This doesn’t start just after you have separated though; there are patterns throughout your relationship where your abusive partner has used coercive control to control your children, usually against you.

If you find yourself in this heartbreaking situation there are some dos and don’ts that can impact your relationship with your children.  I share stories where the non-abusive parent proved the abuser's narrative correct by putting the child in the middle because they did not do their own work and used alcohol to cope with the trauma of the relationship and post-separation abuse.  In both of these situations, the outcome was poor for both the children and the non-abusive parent.

So, what can you do if you feel like your child is being turned against you?

The most important thing is to take care of yourself.  If you do not do the hard work of healing, learning how to communicate with an abuser post-separation and all the other things that go along with post-separation abuse, you may put your child in harm's way.  

You need to describe the behaviors you see or hear your ex doing and how your child is being negatively affected by this.  Evidence of this is important otherwise to a judge it seems like a “he said she said” game.  If you need a label, stay away from the term parental alienation.  For more information on this, listen to episode 44, The Myth of Parental Alienation.

And then finally, you need to act in ways that disprove your ex’s false narrative.  You need to show up and find out everything you can about your child if you do not have much contact.  Let them see that they are always on your mind. You need to follow through with your promises.  You need to refrain from any disparaging remarks about the other parent to or in front of your child.  Your children need to feel the difference between the unconditional love that you provide versus the conditional love they will receive from their other parent.



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]]> Does it feel like your child has been brainwashed and turned against you?

You used to have a close relationship and now that you have separated it has fallen apart?

Unfortunately, once your abuser has no other ways to control you, they will likely start using your children.  This doesn’t start just after you have separated though; there are patterns throughout your relationship where your abusive partner has used coercive control to control your children, usually against you.

If you find yourself in this heartbreaking situation there are some dos and don’ts that can impact your relationship with your children.  I share stories where the non-abusive parent proved the abuser's narrative correct by putting the child in the middle because they did not do their own work and used alcohol to cope with the trauma of the relationship and post-separation abuse.  In both of these situations, the outcome was poor for both the children and the non-abusive parent.

So, what can you do if you feel like your child is being turned against you?

The most important thing is to take care of yourself.  If you do not do the hard work of healing, learning how to communicate with an abuser post-separation and all the other things that go along with post-separation abuse, you may put your child in harm's way.  

You need to describe the behaviors you see or hear your ex doing and how your child is being negatively affected by this.  Evidence of this is important otherwise to a judge it seems like a “he said she said” game.  If you need a label, stay away from the term parental alienation.  For more information on this, listen to episode 44, The Myth of Parental Alienation.

And then finally, you need to act in ways that disprove your ex’s false narrative.  You need to show up and find out everything you can about your child if you do not have much contact.  Let them see that they are always on your mind. You need to follow through with your promises.  You need to refrain from any disparaging remarks about the other parent to or in front of your child.  Your children need to feel the difference between the unconditional love that you provide versus the conditional love they will receive from their other parent.



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]]> Buzzsprout-13700235 Wed, 04 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1497 1 67 full false Ep 66: Breaking Down Coercive Control with Guest Kate Amber, MS Ep 66: Breaking Down Coercive Control with Guest Kate Amber, MS What the heck is coercive control anyway?  If you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, you have experienced coercive control.  And it’s likely that you have experienced it in ways and by people and systems that are outside of your romantic relationship.

In this episode, I have an expert on coercive control, Kate Amber, MS that is going to break it all down for you.  We look at the most common challenges that survivors face as they work through the larger systems and she shares her BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model as a framework for how professionals in the system can identify coercive control in these cases.

In this model we look at the D's:

  • Double Standards
  • Double Binds
  • Double Team
  • DARVO

The E's:

  • Ensnare
  • Entrap
  • Exploit
  • Preventing Escape

And the F's:

  • Force
  • Fraud
  • Fear

These are all used to maintain control over the target.

Kate Amber, MSc, is the founder of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA) and an international speaker, consultant, trainer, writer, and expert witness on domestic abuse, coercive control, and extremist groups. She holds advanced certifications in psychology, leadership, human rights, and advocacy, and her award-winning master’s research introduced the BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ of Coercive Control, synthesizing decades of research on abuse, trafficking, cults, gangs, and torture. Kate and ECCUSA have been recognized with multiple Purple Ribbon Awards for survivor leadership and outstanding community education. 

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]]> What the heck is coercive control anyway?  If you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, you have experienced coercive control.  And it’s likely that you have experienced it in ways and by people and systems that are outside of your romantic relationship.

In this episode, I have an expert on coercive control, Kate Amber, MS that is going to break it all down for you.  We look at the most common challenges that survivors face as they work through the larger systems and she shares her BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model as a framework for how professionals in the system can identify coercive control in these cases.

In this model we look at the D's:

  • Double Standards
  • Double Binds
  • Double Team
  • DARVO

The E's:

  • Ensnare
  • Entrap
  • Exploit
  • Preventing Escape

And the F's:

  • Force
  • Fraud
  • Fear

These are all used to maintain control over the target.

Kate Amber, MSc, is the founder of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA) and an international speaker, consultant, trainer, writer, and expert witness on domestic abuse, coercive control, and extremist groups. She holds advanced certifications in psychology, leadership, human rights, and advocacy, and her award-winning master’s research introduced the BioPsychoSocial Quicksand Model™ of Coercive Control, synthesizing decades of research on abuse, trafficking, cults, gangs, and torture. Kate and ECCUSA have been recognized with multiple Purple Ribbon Awards for survivor leadership and outstanding community education. 

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]]> Buzzsprout-13665588 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2990 1 66 full true Ep 65: Rebuilding Trust After Abuse Ep 65: Rebuilding Trust After Abuse Do you feel like you can never trust another person again?  Ever?

The coercive nature of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse take aim and destroy your ability to trust in others and trust in yourself.  One of the main reasons for this is because of the different violations of social contracts that you have experienced.

The definition of social contracts according to the Oxford Dictionary is “an implicit agreement among the members of a society to cooperate for social benefits.”  So basically what we know and agree are how specific people are supposed to act.

  • Parents are supposed to meet the needs of their children and offer them unconditional love.
  • A police officer is supposed to protect the good guys and hold the bad guys accountable.
  • A soulmate or partner is supposed to love us, work through conflicts with cooperation, want the best for us and be loyal.

When these are broken, our trust is broken.

So, what can you do to start to rebuild the capacity to trust people again?

  • Move slowly and with intention
  • Remember that there are different levels of trust and closeness and not everyone will be in your inner circle of trust
  • You will need to learn to trust yourself before you will be able to start to discern whether or not to trust others.  You can do this by becoming attuned to yourself, learning your likes and dislikes, values, and emotional cues.  By being consistent and showing up for yourself in the ways you say you will.  And by offering yourself grace and unconditional love.

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]]> Do you feel like you can never trust another person again?  Ever?

The coercive nature of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse take aim and destroy your ability to trust in others and trust in yourself.  One of the main reasons for this is because of the different violations of social contracts that you have experienced.

The definition of social contracts according to the Oxford Dictionary is “an implicit agreement among the members of a society to cooperate for social benefits.”  So basically what we know and agree are how specific people are supposed to act.

  • Parents are supposed to meet the needs of their children and offer them unconditional love.
  • A police officer is supposed to protect the good guys and hold the bad guys accountable.
  • A soulmate or partner is supposed to love us, work through conflicts with cooperation, want the best for us and be loyal.

When these are broken, our trust is broken.

So, what can you do to start to rebuild the capacity to trust people again?

  • Move slowly and with intention
  • Remember that there are different levels of trust and closeness and not everyone will be in your inner circle of trust
  • You will need to learn to trust yourself before you will be able to start to discern whether or not to trust others.  You can do this by becoming attuned to yourself, learning your likes and dislikes, values, and emotional cues.  By being consistent and showing up for yourself in the ways you say you will.  And by offering yourself grace and unconditional love.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13591995 Wed, 20 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1474 1 65 full false Ep 64: Rewiring Your Brain After Coercive Control and Domestic Violence with Jennifer Fraser Ep 64: Rewiring Your Brain After Coercive Control and Domestic Violence with Jennifer Fraser The research is clear…our brains change after experiencing domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  The actual structure of our brains changes after experiencing this long-term coercive control and trauma.

If you have experienced brain fog, issues with concentration and focus, constant hypervigilance and irritability, you need to listen to this episode.  My guest, Jennifer Frasier, the author of The Bullied Brain shares a look at her research using brain scans of those who have experienced bullying and relationship abuse.  We discuss the structural changes to our amygdala, corpus callosum, and hippocampus and the consequences of these changes.  We also discuss how malleable and amazing our brains are and specific strategies on how to correct and rewire those structures in our brains.

Jennifer Fraser has a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Toronto where she was trained to take different discourses out of their silos, put them into an arena, and see if the conversation changed. Putting bullying, abuse and brain science into the arena significantly changed the conversation. In her new book, The Bullied Brain, she uses science to debunk myths that prevail in our society in terms of bullying and abuse. Her goal is to educate and share with all who need it the key takeaway which is that the brain is wired to repair and recover regardless of what a target has suffered. We can all benefit from learning brain science and thus becoming empowered and inspired to restore our health and happiness.  

You Can Find Jennifer Fraser at:

The Bullied Brain on Amazon
Jennifer's website
My "Bullied Brain" series for Psychology Today 



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]]> The research is clear…our brains change after experiencing domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  The actual structure of our brains changes after experiencing this long-term coercive control and trauma.

If you have experienced brain fog, issues with concentration and focus, constant hypervigilance and irritability, you need to listen to this episode.  My guest, Jennifer Frasier, the author of The Bullied Brain shares a look at her research using brain scans of those who have experienced bullying and relationship abuse.  We discuss the structural changes to our amygdala, corpus callosum, and hippocampus and the consequences of these changes.  We also discuss how malleable and amazing our brains are and specific strategies on how to correct and rewire those structures in our brains.

Jennifer Fraser has a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Toronto where she was trained to take different discourses out of their silos, put them into an arena, and see if the conversation changed. Putting bullying, abuse and brain science into the arena significantly changed the conversation. In her new book, The Bullied Brain, she uses science to debunk myths that prevail in our society in terms of bullying and abuse. Her goal is to educate and share with all who need it the key takeaway which is that the brain is wired to repair and recover regardless of what a target has suffered. We can all benefit from learning brain science and thus becoming empowered and inspired to restore our health and happiness.  

You Can Find Jennifer Fraser at:

The Bullied Brain on Amazon
Jennifer's website
My "Bullied Brain" series for Psychology Today 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13543305 Wed, 13 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0600 3293 1 64 full true Ep 63: Reducing Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits Ep 63: Reducing Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits How can you help your child who doesn’t want to go to a visit with their other parent and the visits are court-ordered?

As a protective parent, you have a lot of weight on your shoulders.  This is especially true when your child is anxious, acts out, or refuses to go on visits with their other parent and the decision is outside of your control because they are court-ordered. 

I decided to do a follow-up episode to last week’s episode with Dr. Cocchiolla because I get so many questions about how to handle these situations and because this dynamic, leads to moral injury for you.  In this episode, I share strategies that you can put into place as a protective parent when your child is anxious about going on their court-ordered visits.  These include:

  • Playful strategies for pre-visit activities and rituals
  • Last-minute anxiety-reducing strategies for those anxiety spikes right before the transition to the other parent
  • Things you can say to a child who is anxious or says they don’t want to go to their court-ordered visits

As a bonus, you can download my FREE Mini-Guide: How to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits to accompany this episode and to give you some tangible strategies to try with your children that will help them build their resilience and give them a sense of agency when they have little to no control over their situation.
You can grab your Mini-Guide Here.



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]]> How can you help your child who doesn’t want to go to a visit with their other parent and the visits are court-ordered?

As a protective parent, you have a lot of weight on your shoulders.  This is especially true when your child is anxious, acts out, or refuses to go on visits with their other parent and the decision is outside of your control because they are court-ordered. 

I decided to do a follow-up episode to last week’s episode with Dr. Cocchiolla because I get so many questions about how to handle these situations and because this dynamic, leads to moral injury for you.  In this episode, I share strategies that you can put into place as a protective parent when your child is anxious about going on their court-ordered visits.  These include:

  • Playful strategies for pre-visit activities and rituals
  • Last-minute anxiety-reducing strategies for those anxiety spikes right before the transition to the other parent
  • Things you can say to a child who is anxious or says they don’t want to go to their court-ordered visits

As a bonus, you can download my FREE Mini-Guide: How to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around Visits to accompany this episode and to give you some tangible strategies to try with your children that will help them build their resilience and give them a sense of agency when they have little to no control over their situation.
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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13527240 Wed, 06 Sep 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1981 1 63 full false Ep 62: Strategies for Protective Parents in Coercive Relationships with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Ep 62: Strategies for Protective Parents in Coercive Relationships with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Parenting is hard. Parenting a child who is being coercively controlled by their other parent is on a whole different level.  The misconception that domestic violence and narcissistic abuse only harms a parent and not the children living in it is putting children in harm every day.

If you are a survivor of relationship abuse and coercive control, you will experience your own triggers as your ex-partner weaponizes your children against you and increases their attempts to destroy your agency as a parent and your relationship with your children.

In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and I discuss the larger context of coercive control, from a micro, meso, and macro perspective.  We discuss how our children are being negatively affected by witnessing abuse and coercive control within the parental relationship and how they are negatively affected by being coercively controlled themselves.  Dr. Cocchiola shares some examples of things you can do as a protective parent to help your child build their resilience and agency including ways to help them rewire their nervous system.


Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, Survivor, and Protective Parent. A college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics both nationally and internationally.

Most importantly, through her own clinical expertise as a trauma-trained therapist, research, and personal experiences, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches and supports victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate protective parents and their allies, such as clinicians, coaches, and court professionals on the experiences of children, victims of the coercive controller.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts.

Where to find Dr. Cocchiola:

www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com

@dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 



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]]> Parenting is hard. Parenting a child who is being coercively controlled by their other parent is on a whole different level.  The misconception that domestic violence and narcissistic abuse only harms a parent and not the children living in it is putting children in harm every day.

If you are a survivor of relationship abuse and coercive control, you will experience your own triggers as your ex-partner weaponizes your children against you and increases their attempts to destroy your agency as a parent and your relationship with your children.

In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and I discuss the larger context of coercive control, from a micro, meso, and macro perspective.  We discuss how our children are being negatively affected by witnessing abuse and coercive control within the parental relationship and how they are negatively affected by being coercively controlled themselves.  Dr. Cocchiola shares some examples of things you can do as a protective parent to help your child build their resilience and agency including ways to help them rewire their nervous system.


Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, Survivor, and Protective Parent. A college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years and has been a social justice advocate since the age of 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in the areas of coercive control and the traumatic experiences of both adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics both nationally and internationally.

Most importantly, through her own clinical expertise as a trauma-trained therapist, research, and personal experiences, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on children. She coaches and supports victims and survivors as they navigate parenting their harmed children. She has created programming to educate protective parents and their allies, such as clinicians, coaches, and court professionals on the experiences of children, victims of the coercive controller.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference and a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. She has actively supported codifying coercive control, writing numerous policy briefs supporting these efforts.

Where to find Dr. Cocchiola:

www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com

@dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol 



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]]> Buzzsprout-13469441 Wed, 30 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2635 1 62 full false Ep 61: Embracing Anger: Empowering Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse Ep 61: Embracing Anger: Empowering Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse “How can I let go of my anger?”  I am asked this question all the time by survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  And my answer…”Do you need to let go of your anger?”

Your anger is WARRANTED!

A recent situation led to an amazing conversation about anger in The Rising Beyond Community and I wanted to share that with you all in this episode.  

Anger isn’t good or bad…it just is.

So many of my clients are really uncomfortable with anger for good reason.  They experienced extreme consequences when they showed any anger or displeasure in their abusive relationship.  The anger shown by their partner was scary.  And most women have been conditioned since they were young girls that “anger is not becoming of a lady.”  And so we push it down.  But anger has some benefits to us as well.

So, if you have a situation where you are angry, ask yourself these questions:

  • Where is this anger coming from?
  • Is this anger creating a catalyst for action?
  • Is this anger causing me to go into a freeze state?
  • What can I control/What can I not control?
  • What support do I need?

Learn the different ways to move out of a freeze state so that you can use anger for action and how to start to use anger in a way that will move you forward.

Show Notes:

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]]> “How can I let go of my anger?”  I am asked this question all the time by survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  And my answer…”Do you need to let go of your anger?”

Your anger is WARRANTED!

A recent situation led to an amazing conversation about anger in The Rising Beyond Community and I wanted to share that with you all in this episode.  

Anger isn’t good or bad…it just is.

So many of my clients are really uncomfortable with anger for good reason.  They experienced extreme consequences when they showed any anger or displeasure in their abusive relationship.  The anger shown by their partner was scary.  And most women have been conditioned since they were young girls that “anger is not becoming of a lady.”  And so we push it down.  But anger has some benefits to us as well.

So, if you have a situation where you are angry, ask yourself these questions:

  • Where is this anger coming from?
  • Is this anger creating a catalyst for action?
  • Is this anger causing me to go into a freeze state?
  • What can I control/What can I not control?
  • What support do I need?

Learn the different ways to move out of a freeze state so that you can use anger for action and how to start to use anger in a way that will move you forward.

Show Notes:

www.risingbeyondpc.com/membership



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13426018 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1488 1 61 full false Ep 60: Beyond Legislation: Reshaping Family Court with Lundy Bancroft Ep 60: Beyond Legislation: Reshaping Family Court with Lundy Bancroft What does an expert with over 30 years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families think about our family court system?  

I had the privilege to sit down with Lundy Bancroft to discuss the current state of our family court system and his thoughts on how it is continuing to harm mothers and their children.  We discuss the recent passing of Kayden’s Law in Colorado and his thoughts on the impact of legislation.  His belief is that we should not be creating a movement solely to pass a law, but use the momentum from the passing of a law to create a movement.

We take a look at how many advocacy groups passionate about supporting survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are working within silos, which is preventing the movement from generating the traction needed for significant change.

Lundy shares the approach for writing his first novel with the hopes that it will have a greater reach to helping family and friends of survivors dealing with post-separation abuse and the family court system.

And in case you don’t know who Lundy Bancroft is:
Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years' of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored seven books, including the world’s best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That?, and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.’s first counseling program for men who batter and was involved in over 2000 cases as a counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.


References:

Order Lundy's book In Custody

Center for Judicial Excellence

Connie Valentine of the California Protective Parents Association



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]]> What does an expert with over 30 years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families think about our family court system?  

I had the privilege to sit down with Lundy Bancroft to discuss the current state of our family court system and his thoughts on how it is continuing to harm mothers and their children.  We discuss the recent passing of Kayden’s Law in Colorado and his thoughts on the impact of legislation.  His belief is that we should not be creating a movement solely to pass a law, but use the momentum from the passing of a law to create a movement.

We take a look at how many advocacy groups passionate about supporting survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are working within silos, which is preventing the movement from generating the traction needed for significant change.

Lundy shares the approach for writing his first novel with the hopes that it will have a greater reach to helping family and friends of survivors dealing with post-separation abuse and the family court system.

And in case you don’t know who Lundy Bancroft is:
Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years' of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored seven books, including the world’s best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That?, and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.’s first counseling program for men who batter and was involved in over 2000 cases as a counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.


References:

Order Lundy's book In Custody

Center for Judicial Excellence

Connie Valentine of the California Protective Parents Association



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]]> Buzzsprout-13411531 Wed, 16 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0600 3218 1 60 full false Ep 59: Protecting Our Children Through Legislation: A look at Kayden’s Law with Colorado Rep. Meg Froelich Ep 59: Protecting Our Children Through Legislation: A look at Kayden’s Law with Colorado Rep. Meg Froelich Did you know that Kayden’s Law passed in Colorado?  Kayden’s Law is one step needed to keep children safe as families go through our family court system.

If you are a survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse and you share children with your abuser, it is likely that you will find yourself in a family court battle when you leave.  Our family court system needs significant reform in order to put the interest of children at the forefront to protect them from abusive and narcissistic parents.

On this episode I have a conversation with Colorado Representative Meg Froelich, one of the sponsors of Kayden’s law about the incremental changes that are happening and that still need to happen to reform our family court system.  We break down what Kayden’s Law requires of court professionals with regard to training, who can be considered an expert in these cases, and how it prevents reunification camps that are harmful to children.  We look at the views of the opposition and other challenges to having bills like this passed, with the hope of more states being able to gain some traction and pass similar legislation in their states.

Representative Meg Froelich is in her third term in the Colorado House of Representatives and serves as the, Chair of the Transportation, Housing and Local Governments Committee and sits on the Energy and Environment Committee. 

Rep. Froelich has a passion for recruiting, supporting, and training women who run for office which has informed her extensive work on protecting women and children. She was the prime sponsor of the Reproductive Health Equity Act, (2022), which preserved the fundamental right to access the full range of reproductive healthcare in Colorado and the Protections for Reproductive Healthcare Access, (2023), which ensured protections for providers and reproductive and gender affirming healthcare access. She has promoted the rights and protections for sexual assault and domestic violence survivors with recent bills, Julie’s Law, (2021), and the recently signed Kayden’s Law, (2023), and the Forensic Medical Evidence Process Improvements, (2023), which will provide funding for additional access to services for victims of sexual assault As a former teacher and parent to three Littleton Public School graduates, Froelich has helped to increase K12 education funding, recalibrate our teacher evaluation system and to advocate for equity and inclusion for our students. 

Rep. Froelich was previously elected to the Greenwood Village City Council in 2003 where she served two terms on Greenwood Village City Council and was the liaison to the Greenwood Village Chamber of Commerce (now DTC Chamber) and the Highline Canal Preservation Association. Prior to being elected to public office, Rep. Froelich produced many historical documentaries for television (American Experience, BIOGRAPHY, American Masters) and completed Strong Sisters: Elected Women in Colorado in 2016. She has served as the Executive Director of the Colorado Institute for Leadership Training, NARAL Pro Choice Colorado, (now COBALT), and the House Majority Project and has a passion for recruiting, supporting, and training women who run for office which has also informed her extensive work on protecting women and children. 

Rep. Froelich is a graduate of Bryn Mawr College and holds a Masters Degree in History from the University of Michigan. She has three adult children and currently resides in Englewood, CO.



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]]> Did you know that Kayden’s Law passed in Colorado?  Kayden’s Law is one step needed to keep children safe as families go through our family court system.

If you are a survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse and you share children with your abuser, it is likely that you will find yourself in a family court battle when you leave.  Our family court system needs significant reform in order to put the interest of children at the forefront to protect them from abusive and narcissistic parents.

On this episode I have a conversation with Colorado Representative Meg Froelich, one of the sponsors of Kayden’s law about the incremental changes that are happening and that still need to happen to reform our family court system.  We break down what Kayden’s Law requires of court professionals with regard to training, who can be considered an expert in these cases, and how it prevents reunification camps that are harmful to children.  We look at the views of the opposition and other challenges to having bills like this passed, with the hope of more states being able to gain some traction and pass similar legislation in their states.

Representative Meg Froelich is in her third term in the Colorado House of Representatives and serves as the, Chair of the Transportation, Housing and Local Governments Committee and sits on the Energy and Environment Committee. 

Rep. Froelich has a passion for recruiting, supporting, and training women who run for office which has informed her extensive work on protecting women and children. She was the prime sponsor of the Reproductive Health Equity Act, (2022), which preserved the fundamental right to access the full range of reproductive healthcare in Colorado and the Protections for Reproductive Healthcare Access, (2023), which ensured protections for providers and reproductive and gender affirming healthcare access. She has promoted the rights and protections for sexual assault and domestic violence survivors with recent bills, Julie’s Law, (2021), and the recently signed Kayden’s Law, (2023), and the Forensic Medical Evidence Process Improvements, (2023), which will provide funding for additional access to services for victims of sexual assault As a former teacher and parent to three Littleton Public School graduates, Froelich has helped to increase K12 education funding, recalibrate our teacher evaluation system and to advocate for equity and inclusion for our students. 

Rep. Froelich was previously elected to the Greenwood Village City Council in 2003 where she served two terms on Greenwood Village City Council and was the liaison to the Greenwood Village Chamber of Commerce (now DTC Chamber) and the Highline Canal Preservation Association. Prior to being elected to public office, Rep. Froelich produced many historical documentaries for television (American Experience, BIOGRAPHY, American Masters) and completed Strong Sisters: Elected Women in Colorado in 2016. She has served as the Executive Director of the Colorado Institute for Leadership Training, NARAL Pro Choice Colorado, (now COBALT), and the House Majority Project and has a passion for recruiting, supporting, and training women who run for office which has also informed her extensive work on protecting women and children. 

Rep. Froelich is a graduate of Bryn Mawr College and holds a Masters Degree in History from the University of Michigan. She has three adult children and currently resides in Englewood, CO.



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]]> Buzzsprout-13372922 Wed, 09 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0600 3403 1 59 full false Ep 58: Supporting a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse without Victim-Blaming Ep 58: Supporting a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse without Victim-Blaming The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence and narcissistic abuse prevent those who want to support their loved ones who have been victims from supporting them without victim blaming.

I asked hundreds of survivors what they felt were the most important things for their support people to understand in order to offer the support they need throughout their healing journey.  I was overwhelmed with responses and identified some of the most common themes to share with you in this episode.

The top 8 most common ideas or themes that survivors want you to understand in order to support them are:

  • Secrecy allows the abuse to continue.
  • There are many different forms of relationship abuse outside of physical abuse which are often times more damaging.
  • Victims often return to their abusers for a myriad of reasons; their brains have been conditioned to assess for the danger based on where their abuser’s mind is at that day to allow them to compute the safest behaviors for them and their children.  This makes it feel less safe when they have no contact.
  • Abuse does not end when the relationship ends.  Sometimes post-separation abuse is worse.
  • Our family court system is set up to support continued abuse, does not look out for the best interests of the child, and supports secrecy to continue.
  • Domestic violence and coercive control do extreme amounts of harm to children and someone who is abusive to the other parent of their child is unable to be a safe parent.
  • A survivor of relationship abuse has so many internal struggles including self-doubt, shame, and extreme indecisiveness.
  • If you are supporting a survivor of narcissistic abuse you need to ensure that you have support too.

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]]> The myths and misconceptions about domestic violence and narcissistic abuse prevent those who want to support their loved ones who have been victims from supporting them without victim blaming.

I asked hundreds of survivors what they felt were the most important things for their support people to understand in order to offer the support they need throughout their healing journey.  I was overwhelmed with responses and identified some of the most common themes to share with you in this episode.

The top 8 most common ideas or themes that survivors want you to understand in order to support them are:

  • Secrecy allows the abuse to continue.
  • There are many different forms of relationship abuse outside of physical abuse which are often times more damaging.
  • Victims often return to their abusers for a myriad of reasons; their brains have been conditioned to assess for the danger based on where their abuser’s mind is at that day to allow them to compute the safest behaviors for them and their children.  This makes it feel less safe when they have no contact.
  • Abuse does not end when the relationship ends.  Sometimes post-separation abuse is worse.
  • Our family court system is set up to support continued abuse, does not look out for the best interests of the child, and supports secrecy to continue.
  • Domestic violence and coercive control do extreme amounts of harm to children and someone who is abusive to the other parent of their child is unable to be a safe parent.
  • A survivor of relationship abuse has so many internal struggles including self-doubt, shame, and extreme indecisiveness.
  • If you are supporting a survivor of narcissistic abuse you need to ensure that you have support too.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13321437 Wed, 02 Aug 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1730 1 58 full false Ep 57: Your Path to Healing From Narcissistic Abuse from Lightbulb Moment to Joyfully Living with Tracy Malone Ep 57: Your Path to Healing From Narcissistic Abuse from Lightbulb Moment to Joyfully Living with Tracy Malone Do you remember your lightbulb moment?  Maybe it was the first time you heard the term narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or love bombing.

How can a survivor move from that lightbulb moment to feeling joy and thriving in their lives after an abusive relationship?

In this episode, I chat with Tracy Malone about her lightbulb moment and how that has led her to helping hundreds (maybe thousands) of survivors of narcissistic abuse along this healing path.  We touch on some of the most common challenges survivors will experience, the differences in the healing process when you have been discarded rather than escaped, and the importance of peeling back the onion to those early messages learned in your family of origin that have impacted your relationship decisions and self-worth.

Tracy shares some of the ways she helps survivors through her book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: You Can’t Make this Shit Up” and her healing journals.  

Tracy Malone Author, Speaker, Educator, and International narcissistic abuse divorce coach. She is a surTHRIVER of abuse herself and the founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com.  Tracy's Bestselling book is– DIVORCING A NARCISSIST: You Can’t Make This Shit Up! As well as 32 healing journals.

Tracy has a popular YouTube channel and podcast that has reached millions of survivors.

Tracy's Website
Tracy's Facebook Group
Tracy on Instagram
Pinterest
Tracy's YouTube Channel
Tracy's Podcasts
Tracy on Twitter 



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]]> Do you remember your lightbulb moment?  Maybe it was the first time you heard the term narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, or love bombing.

How can a survivor move from that lightbulb moment to feeling joy and thriving in their lives after an abusive relationship?

In this episode, I chat with Tracy Malone about her lightbulb moment and how that has led her to helping hundreds (maybe thousands) of survivors of narcissistic abuse along this healing path.  We touch on some of the most common challenges survivors will experience, the differences in the healing process when you have been discarded rather than escaped, and the importance of peeling back the onion to those early messages learned in your family of origin that have impacted your relationship decisions and self-worth.

Tracy shares some of the ways she helps survivors through her book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: You Can’t Make this Shit Up” and her healing journals.  

Tracy Malone Author, Speaker, Educator, and International narcissistic abuse divorce coach. She is a surTHRIVER of abuse herself and the founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com.  Tracy's Bestselling book is– DIVORCING A NARCISSIST: You Can’t Make This Shit Up! As well as 32 healing journals.

Tracy has a popular YouTube channel and podcast that has reached millions of survivors.

Tracy's Website
Tracy's Facebook Group
Tracy on Instagram
Pinterest
Tracy's YouTube Channel
Tracy's Podcasts
Tracy on Twitter 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13285756 Wed, 26 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2656 1 57 full false Ep 56: Start Healing from Moral Injury with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts Ep 56: Start Healing from Moral Injury with Guest Dr. Daniel Roberts What constitutes moral injury?

It is quite possible that you have experienced enough trauma to have symptoms of PTSD after experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  And it is also possible that this is compounded by something even deeper; the destruction of your moral code.

As promised in episode 50, I am doing a deep dive into all things moral injury so that I can help you become unstuck on your healing journey and find self-forgiveness which is required for healing.  I reached out to Dr. Daniel Roberts, a leader in the research on moral injury to learn how experiences lead to moral injury and how one can heal.

In this episode, we touch on the differences between a moral dilemma, moral distress/conflict, and moral injury.  Dr. Roberts shares what he has seen to be effective in treating moral injury and the next step in researching this topic.

Dr. Daniel Roberts is the President and CEO of Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc., and a 20+ year U.S. Army Chaplain Corps member. In the span of time, he has helped many servicewomen who experienced moral injury due to sexual assaults, bullying, spousal infidelity, and other traumatic events. His work and research on moral injury and providing pastoral care have been published in the Journal of Health Care Chaplaincy, the Journal of Pastoral Care and Counseling, the Qualitative Report, SAGE Business Cases, and Amazon.

Show Links:

Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc. (MISNS) web page: https://misns.org.

MISNS interviewing spouses of military service members with PTSD for our moral injury research project: https://misns.org/what-is/moral-injury-research/seeking-participants-for-research-project/.

MISNS provides moral injury training for organizations: https://misns.org/moral-injury-training-for-your-organization/.

Through the Harriet Tubman Chaplain Network, MISNS provides free pastoral care to women veterans in the U.S. and Canada: https://misns.org/tubman-chaplain-network/.

Donate now to support research and programs that help women veterans suffering from moral injury: https://misns.org/donate/.



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]]> What constitutes moral injury?

It is quite possible that you have experienced enough trauma to have symptoms of PTSD after experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  And it is also possible that this is compounded by something even deeper; the destruction of your moral code.

As promised in episode 50, I am doing a deep dive into all things moral injury so that I can help you become unstuck on your healing journey and find self-forgiveness which is required for healing.  I reached out to Dr. Daniel Roberts, a leader in the research on moral injury to learn how experiences lead to moral injury and how one can heal.

In this episode, we touch on the differences between a moral dilemma, moral distress/conflict, and moral injury.  Dr. Roberts shares what he has seen to be effective in treating moral injury and the next step in researching this topic.

Dr. Daniel Roberts is the President and CEO of Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc., and a 20+ year U.S. Army Chaplain Corps member. In the span of time, he has helped many servicewomen who experienced moral injury due to sexual assaults, bullying, spousal infidelity, and other traumatic events. His work and research on moral injury and providing pastoral care have been published in the Journal of Health Care Chaplaincy, the Journal of Pastoral Care and Counseling, the Qualitative Report, SAGE Business Cases, and Amazon.

Show Links:

Moral Injury Support Network for Servicewomen, Inc. (MISNS) web page: https://misns.org.

MISNS interviewing spouses of military service members with PTSD for our moral injury research project: https://misns.org/what-is/moral-injury-research/seeking-participants-for-research-project/.

MISNS provides moral injury training for organizations: https://misns.org/moral-injury-training-for-your-organization/.

Through the Harriet Tubman Chaplain Network, MISNS provides free pastoral care to women veterans in the U.S. and Canada: https://misns.org/tubman-chaplain-network/.

Donate now to support research and programs that help women veterans suffering from moral injury: https://misns.org/donate/.



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]]> Buzzsprout-13198006 Wed, 19 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2570 2 56 full false Ep 55: Reaching Your Goals After Relationship Abuse is Possible Ep 55: Reaching Your Goals After Relationship Abuse is Possible Have you even allowed yourself to think about setting goals for your life after surviving an abusive relationship?

Instead of just surviving, I want to invite you to set some long-term goals so that you have some direction to start living again.

In this episode, we explore some of the most common ideas and goals that survivors long for but do not believe are possible for their lives; finding a sense of peace and freedom, finding safety for their children, not being triggered all the time for example.  And after choosing a goal (or two or three), you will learn how to reverse engineer your healing or process so that you have some direction and know your next best step on your journey.

This framework requires you to determine what parts of your situation are within your control and which parts are outside your control to know where to place your focus.  And while it may feel like you do not have control of anything, you might be surprised to learn that you likely have more control than you think.

domesticviolence.org


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]]> Have you even allowed yourself to think about setting goals for your life after surviving an abusive relationship?

Instead of just surviving, I want to invite you to set some long-term goals so that you have some direction to start living again.

In this episode, we explore some of the most common ideas and goals that survivors long for but do not believe are possible for their lives; finding a sense of peace and freedom, finding safety for their children, not being triggered all the time for example.  And after choosing a goal (or two or three), you will learn how to reverse engineer your healing or process so that you have some direction and know your next best step on your journey.

This framework requires you to determine what parts of your situation are within your control and which parts are outside your control to know where to place your focus.  And while it may feel like you do not have control of anything, you might be surprised to learn that you likely have more control than you think.

domesticviolence.org


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13153550 Wed, 12 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1218 1 55 full false Ep 54: Most Common Loopholes in your Parenting Plan with Guests Jan and Jillian Yuhas Ep 54: Most Common Loopholes in your Parenting Plan with Guests Jan and Jillian Yuhas Don’t sign off on your parenting plan until you have listened to this episode!  There may be loopholes that a narcissistic ex-partner will exploit for years to come.

Divorcing an abusive ex-partner leads to further abuse, called post-separation abuse, especially if you share children with them.  The way our family court system is set up allows abuse to continue and at times actually seems to support the abuse.  

So, it is imperative that you know what loopholes to look out for as you create a parenting plan as a part of the separation and divorce process, to prevent as much of the post-separation abuse as possible and to protect your children.  

In this episode, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC and I discuss some of the most common loopholes that are exploited by a narcissistic ex-partner and some ways that you can mitigate these loopholes ahead of time.  

We explore the most common loopholes regarding:

  • Travel and vacation time
  • Substance Use and Mental Health Concerns of a parent
  • Inability to Parent
  • Breach of Contract
  • Parentification (basing decisions like when they can be left home alone on child development)
  • Introduction of New Romantic Partners and their role in the child’s life
  • Make-up time for visits
  • First Right of Refusal


Bio: Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC are Family Mediators and Co-Parenting Coaches. They specialize in coercive control and high-conflict dynamics by guiding co-parents to overcome the challenges of divorce through creative solutions that are children-centered. Their expertise is a blend of family psychology, conflict resolution, negotiation strategy, healthy boundaries, and real-life experience to guide and serve all family members. You can learn more about Jan and Jillian through their mediation services and coaching programs at divorcefamilymediations.com

Website: divorcefamilymediations.com
Instagram: @divorcefamilymediation



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]]> Don’t sign off on your parenting plan until you have listened to this episode!  There may be loopholes that a narcissistic ex-partner will exploit for years to come.

Divorcing an abusive ex-partner leads to further abuse, called post-separation abuse, especially if you share children with them.  The way our family court system is set up allows abuse to continue and at times actually seems to support the abuse.  

So, it is imperative that you know what loopholes to look out for as you create a parenting plan as a part of the separation and divorce process, to prevent as much of the post-separation abuse as possible and to protect your children.  

In this episode, Jan and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC and I discuss some of the most common loopholes that are exploited by a narcissistic ex-partner and some ways that you can mitigate these loopholes ahead of time.  

We explore the most common loopholes regarding:

  • Travel and vacation time
  • Substance Use and Mental Health Concerns of a parent
  • Inability to Parent
  • Breach of Contract
  • Parentification (basing decisions like when they can be left home alone on child development)
  • Introduction of New Romantic Partners and their role in the child’s life
  • Make-up time for visits
  • First Right of Refusal


Bio: Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas, MA, MFT, CPC are Family Mediators and Co-Parenting Coaches. They specialize in coercive control and high-conflict dynamics by guiding co-parents to overcome the challenges of divorce through creative solutions that are children-centered. Their expertise is a blend of family psychology, conflict resolution, negotiation strategy, healthy boundaries, and real-life experience to guide and serve all family members. You can learn more about Jan and Jillian through their mediation services and coaching programs at divorcefamilymediations.com

Website: divorcefamilymediations.com
Instagram: @divorcefamilymediation



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]]> Buzzsprout-13141694 Wed, 05 Jul 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2853 2 54 full false Ep 53: Tips for Testifying in Family Court Ep 53: Tips for Testifying in Family Court Testifying in court is an extremely overwhelming and scary experience, especially when you are testifying against your abusive ex-partner.

In this episode, I share some tips on things to do before, during, and after a hearing where you will need to testify in family court.

Before you show up to court, make sure you have:

  • Organized documentation
  • Practiced with your attorney/divorce coach/therapist
  • Practiced self-regulation and grounding skills
  • Set up your support network and have them on standby
  • Planned a comfortable outfit that shows respect to the court
  • Snacks, water, money in the bag you will bring to court

The day of court

  • Show up early, 30 minutes before your scheduled time
  • Walk in with a support person
  • Double check you do not have anything that cannot go through security
  • Use the restroom

Testifying

  • Take a breath/count to 3
  • Listen carefully to what is asked and answer accordingly (ie. if a yes or no question, answer with yes or no)
  • Trust your attorney to tell the story
  • Talk about observations, not labels
  • Bring a small object as an anchor
  • Do NOT lie on the stand

After

  • Walk out with a support person or your attorney
  • Schedule a time to process with attorney and/or therapist
  • Safety plan if needed

Extra links:https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/family-court-checklist

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

Text START to 88788



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]]> Testifying in court is an extremely overwhelming and scary experience, especially when you are testifying against your abusive ex-partner.

In this episode, I share some tips on things to do before, during, and after a hearing where you will need to testify in family court.

Before you show up to court, make sure you have:

  • Organized documentation
  • Practiced with your attorney/divorce coach/therapist
  • Practiced self-regulation and grounding skills
  • Set up your support network and have them on standby
  • Planned a comfortable outfit that shows respect to the court
  • Snacks, water, money in the bag you will bring to court

The day of court

  • Show up early, 30 minutes before your scheduled time
  • Walk in with a support person
  • Double check you do not have anything that cannot go through security
  • Use the restroom

Testifying

  • Take a breath/count to 3
  • Listen carefully to what is asked and answer accordingly (ie. if a yes or no question, answer with yes or no)
  • Trust your attorney to tell the story
  • Talk about observations, not labels
  • Bring a small object as an anchor
  • Do NOT lie on the stand

After

  • Walk out with a support person or your attorney
  • Schedule a time to process with attorney and/or therapist
  • Safety plan if needed

Extra links:https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/family-court-checklist

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

Text START to 88788



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13092260 Wed, 28 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1783 1 53 full false Ep 52: Bonded by Trauma: Exploring the Parallels of Trauma Bonds and Cults Ep 52: Bonded by Trauma: Exploring the Parallels of Trauma Bonds and Cults If you have struggled to move on from your abusive partner and feel a draw to return or if you are a support person who is frustrated and confused as to why someone would continue to return to an abusive relationship, this episode will shed some light on the topic.

A trauma bond is a powerful aspect of many abusive relationships and is often overlooked, misunderstood, and minimized.  Its effects are long-lasting and devastating for the victim and have many similarities to someone who has experienced life in a cult.

A trauma bond is characterized by:

  • An intense emotional connection with a false sense of attachment
  • And extreme power imbalance which leads to the victim becoming emotionally dependent on the abuser
  • Isolation
  • Is done through a process of intermittent reinforcement and a cycle of idealization and devaluation

And results in:

  • A complete loss of self identity
  • Significant amount of guilt and shame
  • Cognitive dissonance
  • Moral Injury
  • PTSD
  • Extreme difficulty in letting go of the relationship

These characteristics are extremely similar to how a cult works to obtain and maintain its members.  The healing process when there has been a trauma bond is also similar to healing from a cult experience.  These include:

  • Redefining your values and belief system
  • Deconstructing the indoctrination that you were conditioned with
  • Finding a support system that understands what you have been through
  • Self-compassion and self-forgiveness
  • Establishing boundaries
  • Reclaiming autonomy by increasing your knowledge and making and standing by your choices
  • Getting professional help to process your trauma



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]]> If you have struggled to move on from your abusive partner and feel a draw to return or if you are a support person who is frustrated and confused as to why someone would continue to return to an abusive relationship, this episode will shed some light on the topic.

A trauma bond is a powerful aspect of many abusive relationships and is often overlooked, misunderstood, and minimized.  Its effects are long-lasting and devastating for the victim and have many similarities to someone who has experienced life in a cult.

A trauma bond is characterized by:

  • An intense emotional connection with a false sense of attachment
  • And extreme power imbalance which leads to the victim becoming emotionally dependent on the abuser
  • Isolation
  • Is done through a process of intermittent reinforcement and a cycle of idealization and devaluation

And results in:

  • A complete loss of self identity
  • Significant amount of guilt and shame
  • Cognitive dissonance
  • Moral Injury
  • PTSD
  • Extreme difficulty in letting go of the relationship

These characteristics are extremely similar to how a cult works to obtain and maintain its members.  The healing process when there has been a trauma bond is also similar to healing from a cult experience.  These include:

  • Redefining your values and belief system
  • Deconstructing the indoctrination that you were conditioned with
  • Finding a support system that understands what you have been through
  • Self-compassion and self-forgiveness
  • Establishing boundaries
  • Reclaiming autonomy by increasing your knowledge and making and standing by your choices
  • Getting professional help to process your trauma



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]]> Buzzsprout-13048354 Wed, 21 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1430 1 52 full false Ep 51: It’s Not High Conflict, It’s Post-Separation Abuse with Kaytee Gillis Ep 51: It’s Not High Conflict, It’s Post-Separation Abuse with Kaytee Gillis The misconception that once a victim leaves an abusive relationship they are safe and can move on leaves the majority of survivors without the support they need and alone as they mitigate post-separation abuse.

In her new book, It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation Abuse, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW shares the story of this dynamic in a gentle, yet realistic way.  In this episode, we explore some of the most common themes during post-separation abuse, specifically how our current family court system not only allows this to happen but supports continued abuse.  Kaytee shares some tips on how to make it through this difficult time using the N.E.B. technique for communication with an abusive ex (Necessary, Emotionless, and Brief). The importance of Never Assessing the Patterns (N.A.P.) by labeling your ex-partner as a Narcissist or using the term abuse in the courtroom.  And we also discuss the all too real experience of having to respond and attend family court without legal representation due to financial abuse.

Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion for
working with survivors of relationship and family trauma.  Her recent book, It's Not High Conflict, it's Post Separation Abuse, sheds light on the way abusers take advantage of the legal system to continue their abuse.
Her blog on Psychology Today, Invisible Bruises, posts articles in support
of family and relationship trauma survivors. Kaytee has been featured on Psychology Today, iHeart radio, Psychotherapy Networker, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show, CP24 News out of Toronto, Newsweek, Shaye Ganam, and others.
Kaytee has given trainings for The Zur Institute on recognizing patterns of domestic violence and helping survivors move forward. Trainings are available for all clinicians on her website or on The Zur Institute.

To get in touch with Kaytee:
www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com
Instagram: @KurleeKaytee
Instagram: @Claras_ _Voice – support for relationship trauma survivors and allies
Facebook: @KayteeLCSW
Facebook: Claras Voice- a group in support of relationship trauma survivors and allies
Twitter: @Kaytee_Gillis
Blog: Invisible Bruises, Psychology Today

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]]> The misconception that once a victim leaves an abusive relationship they are safe and can move on leaves the majority of survivors without the support they need and alone as they mitigate post-separation abuse.

In her new book, It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation Abuse, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW shares the story of this dynamic in a gentle, yet realistic way.  In this episode, we explore some of the most common themes during post-separation abuse, specifically how our current family court system not only allows this to happen but supports continued abuse.  Kaytee shares some tips on how to make it through this difficult time using the N.E.B. technique for communication with an abusive ex (Necessary, Emotionless, and Brief). The importance of Never Assessing the Patterns (N.A.P.) by labeling your ex-partner as a Narcissist or using the term abuse in the courtroom.  And we also discuss the all too real experience of having to respond and attend family court without legal representation due to financial abuse.

Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion for
working with survivors of relationship and family trauma.  Her recent book, It's Not High Conflict, it's Post Separation Abuse, sheds light on the way abusers take advantage of the legal system to continue their abuse.
Her blog on Psychology Today, Invisible Bruises, posts articles in support
of family and relationship trauma survivors. Kaytee has been featured on Psychology Today, iHeart radio, Psychotherapy Networker, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show, CP24 News out of Toronto, Newsweek, Shaye Ganam, and others.
Kaytee has given trainings for The Zur Institute on recognizing patterns of domestic violence and helping survivors move forward. Trainings are available for all clinicians on her website or on The Zur Institute.

To get in touch with Kaytee:
www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com
Instagram: @KurleeKaytee
Instagram: @Claras_ _Voice – support for relationship trauma survivors and allies
Facebook: @KayteeLCSW
Facebook: Claras Voice- a group in support of relationship trauma survivors and allies
Twitter: @Kaytee_Gillis
Blog: Invisible Bruises, Psychology Today

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-13034153 Wed, 14 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2294 1 51 full false Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury If you have tried all of the trauma treatments and still feel stuck as you heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, then moral injury may be to blame.

Moral injury refers to the psychological, emotional, behavioral and spiritual distress you feel after exposure to a situation where you feel like you have violated your conscience or moral compass when you take part in, witness, or fail to prevent an act that goes against your own morals, values or personal principles.  It is often when you are told to act by someone who has authority or power over you.

Moral injury may look similar to PTSD with symptoms of extreme shame and guilt, loss of faith in humanity, issues with trust, loss of self-worth and identity, and extreme levels of cognitive dissonance.  You may find yourself withdrawing from others, using self-destructive behaviors, avoiding triggers and questioning your values and morals.

The difference between PTSD and Moral injury is that PTSD comes from an experience when you are in a dangerous situation and have the risk of bodily harm or death.  Moral injury comes from the experience of acting against your morals or values either at the direction of someone else or by your own choice.

One example of how this shows up in survivors experiencing post-separation abuse and the family court system is being ordered to send your children to their other parent’s house knowing that they may be abused by that parent.  And still, you are required to do so.

While this is a newer psychological experience that is being researched and there are not a lot of evidence-based modalities researched, specifically with survivors of relationship abuse, there are some things you can do to start the healing process.

  • Self-reflection and acknowledgment of the situation
  • Identifying values and morals
  • Increasing your support network including professional mental health care
  • Deconstructing the narrative and labels you place on yourself due to the situation
  • Self-compassion and forgiveness work


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]]> If you have tried all of the trauma treatments and still feel stuck as you heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, then moral injury may be to blame.

Moral injury refers to the psychological, emotional, behavioral and spiritual distress you feel after exposure to a situation where you feel like you have violated your conscience or moral compass when you take part in, witness, or fail to prevent an act that goes against your own morals, values or personal principles.  It is often when you are told to act by someone who has authority or power over you.

Moral injury may look similar to PTSD with symptoms of extreme shame and guilt, loss of faith in humanity, issues with trust, loss of self-worth and identity, and extreme levels of cognitive dissonance.  You may find yourself withdrawing from others, using self-destructive behaviors, avoiding triggers and questioning your values and morals.

The difference between PTSD and Moral injury is that PTSD comes from an experience when you are in a dangerous situation and have the risk of bodily harm or death.  Moral injury comes from the experience of acting against your morals or values either at the direction of someone else or by your own choice.

One example of how this shows up in survivors experiencing post-separation abuse and the family court system is being ordered to send your children to their other parent’s house knowing that they may be abused by that parent.  And still, you are required to do so.

While this is a newer psychological experience that is being researched and there are not a lot of evidence-based modalities researched, specifically with survivors of relationship abuse, there are some things you can do to start the healing process.

  • Self-reflection and acknowledgment of the situation
  • Identifying values and morals
  • Increasing your support network including professional mental health care
  • Deconstructing the narrative and labels you place on yourself due to the situation
  • Self-compassion and forgiveness work


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12984312 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1293 1 50 full false Ep 49: Collaboration with the Professionals in Your Child’s Life: Refuting the Lies of Your Abuser Ep 49: Collaboration with the Professionals in Your Child’s Life: Refuting the Lies of Your Abuser You learn that your high-conflict co-parent has shared lies with the school or your child’s therapist.  You fear that these will be believed automatically and you panic.  How do I defend myself now?

It is hard knowing that your narcissistic ex-partner will try to take control of the narrative in every situation they can and that you will have to find a way to defend yourself when the professional they lied to carries a lot of weight in your child’s life.  So what can you do?

  • Manage your expectations: It is likely they will build a relationship with these professionals and lie about you.
  • Maintain composure: Stay calm, and manage your NS to feel prepared when discussing the issue with these professionals. Emotional reactions may hinder effective communication and until they can see more of your ex’s patterns they might mistake for the false narratives of your ex.
  • Gather evidence: Collect any evidence that refutes the lies being spread, such as emails, text messages, or other documentation.
  • Request time with them: Schedule a meeting with the relevant professional to address the situation. Provide them with the opportunity to hear your side of the story.
  • Focus on facts and stay on topic: Clearly and objectively state the facts, emphasizing the impact the false information may have on your child's well-being.
  • Be cooperative: Show your willingness to collaborate with this person to ensure your child's best interests are protected.
  • Maintain open communication: Establish an open line of communication to address any concerns promptly. Regularly update them on the situation's progress and maintain a positive working relationship.
  • Seek legal advice if necessary: If the situation persists or escalates, consult with a family law attorney who can guide you on potential legal actions or steps to protect your rights and your child's well-being.

Throughout this whole process, you are showing consistency, you are showing up, and are maintaining a focus on your child's best interests.  Your words match your actions.  You show your concern and then you do what a concerned parent does.  

And remember, the primary focus should always be on your child's well-being and safety.



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]]> You learn that your high-conflict co-parent has shared lies with the school or your child’s therapist.  You fear that these will be believed automatically and you panic.  How do I defend myself now?

It is hard knowing that your narcissistic ex-partner will try to take control of the narrative in every situation they can and that you will have to find a way to defend yourself when the professional they lied to carries a lot of weight in your child’s life.  So what can you do?

  • Manage your expectations: It is likely they will build a relationship with these professionals and lie about you.
  • Maintain composure: Stay calm, and manage your NS to feel prepared when discussing the issue with these professionals. Emotional reactions may hinder effective communication and until they can see more of your ex’s patterns they might mistake for the false narratives of your ex.
  • Gather evidence: Collect any evidence that refutes the lies being spread, such as emails, text messages, or other documentation.
  • Request time with them: Schedule a meeting with the relevant professional to address the situation. Provide them with the opportunity to hear your side of the story.
  • Focus on facts and stay on topic: Clearly and objectively state the facts, emphasizing the impact the false information may have on your child's well-being.
  • Be cooperative: Show your willingness to collaborate with this person to ensure your child's best interests are protected.
  • Maintain open communication: Establish an open line of communication to address any concerns promptly. Regularly update them on the situation's progress and maintain a positive working relationship.
  • Seek legal advice if necessary: If the situation persists or escalates, consult with a family law attorney who can guide you on potential legal actions or steps to protect your rights and your child's well-being.

Throughout this whole process, you are showing consistency, you are showing up, and are maintaining a focus on your child's best interests.  Your words match your actions.  You show your concern and then you do what a concerned parent does.  

And remember, the primary focus should always be on your child's well-being and safety.



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]]> Buzzsprout-12938652 Wed, 31 May 2023 06:00:00 -0600 1195 1 49 full false Ep 48: Healing from a Narcissistic Parent wth Dr. Praveena Ep 48: Healing from a Narcissistic Parent wth Dr. Praveena Did you grow up learning that you were never good enough?  Did it feel normal when your abusive partner started their emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship?

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can set you up for unhealthy relationships as an adult.

Dr. Praveena specializes in working with adult children of narcissistic parents after her own experiences growing up.  In this episode, we discuss how to change the thought patterns that were conditioned in your mind as a child and how to stop people-pleasing.  Dr. Praveena shares the framework she uses with survivors to find freedom from their narcissistic parents, but also those toxic thoughts that keep survivors stuck in that cycle.  One of the first steps in to find self-forgiveness and self-love as you try to take control of your life and find freedom.

Dr. Praveena is a Certified Mental Health & Awareness practitioner and works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She uses various techniques and coping mechanisms, including her personal life experience, to help victims recognize abusive behaviors, heal and live an empowered life. She has also created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She understands that many may find it difficult to speak about parental narcissistic abuse due to the trauma bondage and societal perception associated with it, hence Dr Praveena takes it as a personal mission to empower as many individuals out there to take the reins of their own life. 

Dr. Praveena has a dedicated column called “Mind the Mind” in The Sun; Malaysia’s national daily where she writes about mental health awareness. Also, she sits at the board of Malaysia Mental Health Association (MMHA) 

On the professional front, Dr. Praveena wears various hats. As an engineer, academician, researcher and avid animal activist, she holds notable positions in multiple non-profit organizations and serves as a voice for issues pertaining to the environment and animals. For her numerous contributions to the society as a whole: people, environment, and animals namely, Dr. Praveena has received the Malaysia's Women Leaders Award by the World Women Leadership Congress. 


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]]> Did you grow up learning that you were never good enough?  Did it feel normal when your abusive partner started their emotional and psychological abuse in your relationship?

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can set you up for unhealthy relationships as an adult.

Dr. Praveena specializes in working with adult children of narcissistic parents after her own experiences growing up.  In this episode, we discuss how to change the thought patterns that were conditioned in your mind as a child and how to stop people-pleasing.  Dr. Praveena shares the framework she uses with survivors to find freedom from their narcissistic parents, but also those toxic thoughts that keep survivors stuck in that cycle.  One of the first steps in to find self-forgiveness and self-love as you try to take control of your life and find freedom.

Dr. Praveena is a Certified Mental Health & Awareness practitioner and works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She uses various techniques and coping mechanisms, including her personal life experience, to help victims recognize abusive behaviors, heal and live an empowered life. She has also created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She understands that many may find it difficult to speak about parental narcissistic abuse due to the trauma bondage and societal perception associated with it, hence Dr Praveena takes it as a personal mission to empower as many individuals out there to take the reins of their own life. 

Dr. Praveena has a dedicated column called “Mind the Mind” in The Sun; Malaysia’s national daily where she writes about mental health awareness. Also, she sits at the board of Malaysia Mental Health Association (MMHA) 

On the professional front, Dr. Praveena wears various hats. As an engineer, academician, researcher and avid animal activist, she holds notable positions in multiple non-profit organizations and serves as a voice for issues pertaining to the environment and animals. For her numerous contributions to the society as a whole: people, environment, and animals namely, Dr. Praveena has received the Malaysia's Women Leaders Award by the World Women Leadership Congress. 


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12825889 Wed, 24 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 2772 2 48 full false Ep 47: I Didn’t Escape, I Was Discarded By a Narcissist Ep 47: I Didn’t Escape, I Was Discarded By a Narcissist Everyone talks about the escape from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship.  The resources and support are for those trying to escape the abuse.

But what if you were not trying to escape?  What if the reason you are now separated from your abuser is that you were discarded?

In this episode, we look at the differences in support, perception, and reactions after separation from an abusive partner when the victim is discarded vs someone who left on their own volition and timeline.  Shame can increase when a victim is not the one who has chosen to leave, the grief process may be prolonged or look different, and the belief that a discard means that there will not be post-separation abuse is debunked. 





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]]> Everyone talks about the escape from domestic violence or a narcissistic relationship.  The resources and support are for those trying to escape the abuse.

But what if you were not trying to escape?  What if the reason you are now separated from your abuser is that you were discarded?

In this episode, we look at the differences in support, perception, and reactions after separation from an abusive partner when the victim is discarded vs someone who left on their own volition and timeline.  Shame can increase when a victim is not the one who has chosen to leave, the grief process may be prolonged or look different, and the belief that a discard means that there will not be post-separation abuse is debunked. 





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12859966 Wed, 17 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1038 2 47 full false Ep 46: Journaling Can Help You Heal from Abuse with Amanda Stern Ep 46: Journaling Can Help You Heal from Abuse with Amanda Stern You can never have too many tools as you heal from relationship abuse.

I want to offer you the power of journaling.

Okay, okay...before you roll your eyes and think nope, journaling is not for me, please stay open to the possibility.

Because I have seen the power that telling and writing our stories can have on healing from abuse, I called in an expert.  Amanda Stern is a journaling coach helping people live better, happier lives as they journal their way to self-discovery, success on their own terms, and a life they don’t want a vacation from, even after domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.

We discuss the many different forms of journaling and strategies to find the best fit for you and your healing journey.  We discuss the most common barriers that prevent people from using journaling to help them heal and ways to overcome them.

Amanda Stern is a journaling coach helping people live better, happier lives as they journal their way to self-discovery, success on their own terms, and a life they don’t want a vacation from. She works with clients 1:1 and in groups to help them understand how to use journaling as a mechanism for growth, change, and transformation. She shares journaling inspiration and resources, as well as lots of journal prompts in her weekly newsletter and in her daily posts on LinkedIn.

Amanda can be found at GoodThingsComeToThoseWhoJournal.com. 



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]]> You can never have too many tools as you heal from relationship abuse.

I want to offer you the power of journaling.

Okay, okay...before you roll your eyes and think nope, journaling is not for me, please stay open to the possibility.

Because I have seen the power that telling and writing our stories can have on healing from abuse, I called in an expert.  Amanda Stern is a journaling coach helping people live better, happier lives as they journal their way to self-discovery, success on their own terms, and a life they don’t want a vacation from, even after domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.

We discuss the many different forms of journaling and strategies to find the best fit for you and your healing journey.  We discuss the most common barriers that prevent people from using journaling to help them heal and ways to overcome them.

Amanda Stern is a journaling coach helping people live better, happier lives as they journal their way to self-discovery, success on their own terms, and a life they don’t want a vacation from. She works with clients 1:1 and in groups to help them understand how to use journaling as a mechanism for growth, change, and transformation. She shares journaling inspiration and resources, as well as lots of journal prompts in her weekly newsletter and in her daily posts on LinkedIn.

Amanda can be found at GoodThingsComeToThoseWhoJournal.com. 



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]]> Buzzsprout-12810551 Wed, 10 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 2204 1 46 full false Ep 45: Advocating for Yourself After Abuse with A. Garcia Ep 45: Advocating for Yourself After Abuse with A. Garcia Have you been able to find the support you needed after leaving an abusive relationship?  There is often support right after leaving or as you try to escape, but what about as you try to get your life back on track?


My guest, A. Garcia shares her story of leaving her abuser after an attempted murder of her and her unborn child and having to advocate for herself in a place where she had no connection.  1000 phone calls later and she finally found an advocate.  She shares her healing journey with her children and is vulnerable about the continued healing she is still working through.  We also discuss her role in actively supporting survivors so that you do not have to make the 1000 calls to get help.


Ms. Garcia is a PTG Strategian, Whole Life Coach, Certified High Performance Coach with a tenacious attitude toward empowering others. Over the past 35 years she’s navigated through domestic violence, privacy, safety, vulnerability, and the mindset to endure personal adverse events in life. Her survival of a double attempted homicide while 8 months pregnant (by the father) and the desperation to survive became the catalyst to the foundation of BYIS while achieving an undisputed outlook of independence. Her personal journey of Post Traumatic Growth has led Garcia to dedicating her life in developing transformational programs, various forms of coaching, and establishing a nonprofit to help real time victims of Domestic Violence with real time resources. Her commitment is to provide lifelong transformational habits that can restore your powerful internal sense of awareness and control. One of her personal statements is, ‘You can move a million times, but you live in your head,’ which is why some of her laser-focused teachings are on aligning your positive belief system with your actions.

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Www.beyourincredibleself.com



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]]> Have you been able to find the support you needed after leaving an abusive relationship?  There is often support right after leaving or as you try to escape, but what about as you try to get your life back on track?


My guest, A. Garcia shares her story of leaving her abuser after an attempted murder of her and her unborn child and having to advocate for herself in a place where she had no connection.  1000 phone calls later and she finally found an advocate.  She shares her healing journey with her children and is vulnerable about the continued healing she is still working through.  We also discuss her role in actively supporting survivors so that you do not have to make the 1000 calls to get help.


Ms. Garcia is a PTG Strategian, Whole Life Coach, Certified High Performance Coach with a tenacious attitude toward empowering others. Over the past 35 years she’s navigated through domestic violence, privacy, safety, vulnerability, and the mindset to endure personal adverse events in life. Her survival of a double attempted homicide while 8 months pregnant (by the father) and the desperation to survive became the catalyst to the foundation of BYIS while achieving an undisputed outlook of independence. Her personal journey of Post Traumatic Growth has led Garcia to dedicating her life in developing transformational programs, various forms of coaching, and establishing a nonprofit to help real time victims of Domestic Violence with real time resources. Her commitment is to provide lifelong transformational habits that can restore your powerful internal sense of awareness and control. One of her personal statements is, ‘You can move a million times, but you live in your head,’ which is why some of her laser-focused teachings are on aligning your positive belief system with your actions.

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Www.confrontingdv.org
Www.beyourincredibleself.com



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12651332 Wed, 03 May 2023 00:00:00 -0600 2982 1 45 full false Ep 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation Ep 44: The Myth of Parental Alienation Do abusive parents try to use children against a protective parent?  Yes.

But is it really parental alienation?

In this episode I discuss the origin of the term parental alienation, how it is used as a false narrative by abusers in family court, and what is really happening if you are experiencing a parent trying to turn your children against you.

It is really called domestic violence by proxy.

If your abuser is using the parental alienation claim falsely in court, you can use specific forms of documentation and specific behaviors to refute it.  And if your abuser is using the children as a weapon during post separation abuse you can use the “gift of perspective” to help your child see through this type of abuse. 

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Joan S. Meier  research article



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]]> Do abusive parents try to use children against a protective parent?  Yes.

But is it really parental alienation?

In this episode I discuss the origin of the term parental alienation, how it is used as a false narrative by abusers in family court, and what is really happening if you are experiencing a parent trying to turn your children against you.

It is really called domestic violence by proxy.

If your abuser is using the parental alienation claim falsely in court, you can use specific forms of documentation and specific behaviors to refute it.  And if your abuser is using the children as a weapon during post separation abuse you can use the “gift of perspective” to help your child see through this type of abuse. 

Show Links:
Joan S. Meier  research article



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12636972 Wed, 26 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1497 1 44 full false Ep 43: I Escaped…and yet I am still dealing with abuse with Aimee Ep 43: I Escaped…and yet I am still dealing with abuse with Aimee You dream of the day when you can find freedom and safety for yourself and your children.  You escape your abusive partner and are ready to start healing.  But years later, you are still dealing with the onslaught of abuse; not only from your abuser but from their family as well.

This is what my guest, Aimee has been dealing with for the last 13 years.  Aimee shares her story of her abusive relationship and the post-separation abuse she has experienced and the near lethal incident that changed the path of her life.  Aimee shares hope that even after such a scary and life-altering moment and consistent post-separation abuse, you can still find freedom and safety for you and your children.

Aimee is the Amazon Best Selling Author of The Re-Wilding of Womxn: Release Your Inner Wild to Live the Life of Your Dreams. She is the creator and host of Now and Zen, a Top 50 podcast, created to share the neuroscience of joy with the world. She is an expert on the neuroscience of adult learning, a speaker, a spiritual gangster, a lazy but avid meditator, and a fellow trauma survivor. Aimee’s mission is to help others on their spiritual and trauma-healing journeys through the neuroscience of mindfulness and joy. She has worked as a leader in higher education for over 20 years and regularly hosts healing meditation ceremonies and workshops in her hometown of Denver, Colorado, USA.

Website & Podcast: www.draimeecallahan.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_aimeecallahan/



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]]> You dream of the day when you can find freedom and safety for yourself and your children.  You escape your abusive partner and are ready to start healing.  But years later, you are still dealing with the onslaught of abuse; not only from your abuser but from their family as well.

This is what my guest, Aimee has been dealing with for the last 13 years.  Aimee shares her story of her abusive relationship and the post-separation abuse she has experienced and the near lethal incident that changed the path of her life.  Aimee shares hope that even after such a scary and life-altering moment and consistent post-separation abuse, you can still find freedom and safety for you and your children.

Aimee is the Amazon Best Selling Author of The Re-Wilding of Womxn: Release Your Inner Wild to Live the Life of Your Dreams. She is the creator and host of Now and Zen, a Top 50 podcast, created to share the neuroscience of joy with the world. She is an expert on the neuroscience of adult learning, a speaker, a spiritual gangster, a lazy but avid meditator, and a fellow trauma survivor. Aimee’s mission is to help others on their spiritual and trauma-healing journeys through the neuroscience of mindfulness and joy. She has worked as a leader in higher education for over 20 years and regularly hosts healing meditation ceremonies and workshops in her hometown of Denver, Colorado, USA.

Website & Podcast: www.draimeecallahan.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_aimeecallahan/



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12583535 Wed, 19 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 2824 2 43 full false Ep 42: Building Your Child's Resilience Ep 42: Building Your Child's Resilience If you are like many of The Rising Beyond Community members, then your WHY is around keeping your children safe, physically and emotionally.  Getting your children the support they need after leaving an abusive relationship with their other parent can feel extremely overwhelming, especially if they have to continue to see that parent without having you as a buffer.

Based on my training as a play therapist, I want to share some tips on building your child’s resilience after this transition.  So, this episode will focus on using play to build your connection and attachment with your child.  

As you begin to use imaginary play with your child, what is important about this special time for the two of you?  First, using child-centered play will allow your child to feel some power and control when they have very little of this in their world.  And second, it will give you a window into their world and allow you to connect in a way that is speaking the same language, will build problem-solving skills, and will feel amazing to your child.

Using the tools from Parent Child Interactional Therapy (PCIT), you can start to foster that connection with your child.  The skills discussed are:

  • Praise
  • Reflect
  • Imitate
  • Describe Behaviors
  • Enjoy and Enthusiasm

Even if you can only spend 10 minutes a day due to single parent commitments or low energy levels, this type of connection will help increase their sense of felt safety with you and their resilience.


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]]> If you are like many of The Rising Beyond Community members, then your WHY is around keeping your children safe, physically and emotionally.  Getting your children the support they need after leaving an abusive relationship with their other parent can feel extremely overwhelming, especially if they have to continue to see that parent without having you as a buffer.

Based on my training as a play therapist, I want to share some tips on building your child’s resilience after this transition.  So, this episode will focus on using play to build your connection and attachment with your child.  

As you begin to use imaginary play with your child, what is important about this special time for the two of you?  First, using child-centered play will allow your child to feel some power and control when they have very little of this in their world.  And second, it will give you a window into their world and allow you to connect in a way that is speaking the same language, will build problem-solving skills, and will feel amazing to your child.

Using the tools from Parent Child Interactional Therapy (PCIT), you can start to foster that connection with your child.  The skills discussed are:

  • Praise
  • Reflect
  • Imitate
  • Describe Behaviors
  • Enjoy and Enthusiasm

Even if you can only spend 10 minutes a day due to single parent commitments or low energy levels, this type of connection will help increase their sense of felt safety with you and their resilience.


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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12573982 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1539 2 42 full false Ep 41: Post Separation Abuse Q&A Ep 41: Post Separation Abuse Q&A What questions do you have about post separation abuse?  I received many many questions before, during, and after a webinar I did for domesticshelters.org and know that many of you have the same questions.  In this episode I will be answering five of the questions received.

  • If you have not left your abuser yet, how can you prepare for post separation abuse?  What should we make sure we do? What should we avoid?
  • Do you have some suggestions for safely maintaining boundaries while co-parenting with an abusive ex-partner?
  • We often work with a parent with a child who is court-ordered to visit the abuser.  The children in these situations often act out and have negative behaviors when they’re supposed to go to the visits, so the protective parent often doesn’t take them-which leads the abuser claiming that the child is being withheld and may file contempt of the court order.  Is there anything we can do to support clients in this situation?
  • How do we deal with children who are mimicking the behaviors of the abusive parent?
  • Do you have any tips on how to help children from blaming the survivor/protective parent and getting the kids to avoid taking sides?

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]]> What questions do you have about post separation abuse?  I received many many questions before, during, and after a webinar I did for domesticshelters.org and know that many of you have the same questions.  In this episode I will be answering five of the questions received.

  • If you have not left your abuser yet, how can you prepare for post separation abuse?  What should we make sure we do? What should we avoid?
  • Do you have some suggestions for safely maintaining boundaries while co-parenting with an abusive ex-partner?
  • We often work with a parent with a child who is court-ordered to visit the abuser.  The children in these situations often act out and have negative behaviors when they’re supposed to go to the visits, so the protective parent often doesn’t take them-which leads the abuser claiming that the child is being withheld and may file contempt of the court order.  Is there anything we can do to support clients in this situation?
  • How do we deal with children who are mimicking the behaviors of the abusive parent?
  • Do you have any tips on how to help children from blaming the survivor/protective parent and getting the kids to avoid taking sides?

Register for the Audio Summit, April 17th-22nd: Surviving Post-Separation Abuse and a High-Conflict Co-Parent 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12559685 Wed, 05 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1754 2 41 full false Ep 40: One of the Lucky Ones: Getting out of Domestic Violence with Your Life with Amanda Lee Ep 40: One of the Lucky Ones: Getting out of Domestic Violence with Your Life with Amanda Lee Did you ever feel the nagging voice of your intuition telling you to get out or to stop a wedding and then ignore it?  You had dreams of a happy marriage and children and you were trying to will that into existence even when there were red flags waving in your face?

My guest, Amanda Lee knows this all too well.  In this week’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Amanda shares her experience of falling in love with her abuser and getting married even when her gut was telling her to get out.  She shares the extreme amount of shame she felt when thinking of telling her family that her relationship was not as wonderful as she made it out to be and that things were getting worse.  An extreme threat of violence to her and her children allowed her to break her silence and force past that shame in order to be “one of the lucky ones.”

We discuss the feelings of shame that come up when having to be honest with family and friends and that comes up when having to accept that you have been a victim of domestic violence.

A.E. Lee started her career in Pennsylvania politics, and while she had hoped it would be everything like her favorite TV show The West Wing, she quickly learned it was not. Long hours, little pay, and even less respect she decided it was time for a change and embarked on a second career in education. She is now a beloved sixth-grade teacher in Fairfax County, Virginia.

She resides there now with her two beautiful children, Ethan and Tessa where she continues her passion for writing and being a domestic violence advocate.


Show Links:

Amanda's Website
Buy Amanda's Book
Amanda on Instagram
Amanda on LinkedIn
Robin Gobbel on the Nervous System 




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]]> Did you ever feel the nagging voice of your intuition telling you to get out or to stop a wedding and then ignore it?  You had dreams of a happy marriage and children and you were trying to will that into existence even when there were red flags waving in your face?

My guest, Amanda Lee knows this all too well.  In this week’s episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Amanda shares her experience of falling in love with her abuser and getting married even when her gut was telling her to get out.  She shares the extreme amount of shame she felt when thinking of telling her family that her relationship was not as wonderful as she made it out to be and that things were getting worse.  An extreme threat of violence to her and her children allowed her to break her silence and force past that shame in order to be “one of the lucky ones.”

We discuss the feelings of shame that come up when having to be honest with family and friends and that comes up when having to accept that you have been a victim of domestic violence.

A.E. Lee started her career in Pennsylvania politics, and while she had hoped it would be everything like her favorite TV show The West Wing, she quickly learned it was not. Long hours, little pay, and even less respect she decided it was time for a change and embarked on a second career in education. She is now a beloved sixth-grade teacher in Fairfax County, Virginia.

She resides there now with her two beautiful children, Ethan and Tessa where she continues her passion for writing and being a domestic violence advocate.


Show Links:

Amanda's Website
Buy Amanda's Book
Amanda on Instagram
Amanda on LinkedIn
Robin Gobbel on the Nervous System 




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]]> Buzzsprout-12509193 Wed, 29 Mar 2023 06:00:00 -0600 2174 2 40 full false Ep 39: Surviving Family Court with a Narcissist Ep 39: Surviving Family Court with a Narcissist If you have just separated from your abusive ex and are facing family court for the first time or if you have been doing this for a while, it is important to have realistic expectations and tangible skills to use as you go through this process.

In this episode, you will learn what to expect and how to mitigate the challenges of family court with a high-conflict personality ex-partner before you go to court, during a court hearing and testimony, and then in the aftermath.  Some of the topics touched on are:


  • Documentation
  • Your relationship with your attorney
  • Realistic expectations around the length of your case
  • The false narrative of your abuser
  • Tips for testifying in court
  • Mindset shifts regarding the role of your attorney and that of the opposing counsel
  • Safety planning after a hearing
  • The importance of your support network
  • The importance of self-care and how to regulate your nervous system


Remember that family court with a narcissistic and abusive ex is a marathon, not a sprint.

Show Links:
Blog Post - Let 'Em Have a Win
Ep 32 - Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser
Ep 11 - Your Nervous System Is Shot



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]]> If you have just separated from your abusive ex and are facing family court for the first time or if you have been doing this for a while, it is important to have realistic expectations and tangible skills to use as you go through this process.

In this episode, you will learn what to expect and how to mitigate the challenges of family court with a high-conflict personality ex-partner before you go to court, during a court hearing and testimony, and then in the aftermath.  Some of the topics touched on are:


  • Documentation
  • Your relationship with your attorney
  • Realistic expectations around the length of your case
  • The false narrative of your abuser
  • Tips for testifying in court
  • Mindset shifts regarding the role of your attorney and that of the opposing counsel
  • Safety planning after a hearing
  • The importance of your support network
  • The importance of self-care and how to regulate your nervous system


Remember that family court with a narcissistic and abusive ex is a marathon, not a sprint.

Show Links:
Blog Post - Let 'Em Have a Win
Ep 32 - Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser
Ep 11 - Your Nervous System Is Shot



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12453906 Wed, 22 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600 1445 2 39 full false Ep 38: Finding Your Purpose After Trauma and Domestic Violence with Misty Chaviers Ep 38: Finding Your Purpose After Trauma and Domestic Violence with Misty Chaviers Even at your lowest, after experiencing trauma and domestic violence, it is possible to heal and find your purpose.  

This week’s guest, Misty Chaviers shares her story of abuse and how she was able years later to heal and find her purpose as an advocate and podcaster helping other victims.  She is vulnerable and shares how she used drugs and alcohol and eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope with the pain.  

We discuss how important it is for professionals working in this space to be authentic and what that offers victims and survivors.  This authenticity allows victims to feel safe to share their most shameful stories and secrets in order to start the healing process.

Misty Chaviers is a court advocate, case manager and podcast host of the I’m a Survivor Podcast.

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]]> Even at your lowest, after experiencing trauma and domestic violence, it is possible to heal and find your purpose.  

This week’s guest, Misty Chaviers shares her story of abuse and how she was able years later to heal and find her purpose as an advocate and podcaster helping other victims.  She is vulnerable and shares how she used drugs and alcohol and eating disorder behaviors as a way to cope with the pain.  

We discuss how important it is for professionals working in this space to be authentic and what that offers victims and survivors.  This authenticity allows victims to feel safe to share their most shameful stories and secrets in order to start the healing process.

Misty Chaviers is a court advocate, case manager and podcast host of the I’m a Survivor Podcast.

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I'm A Survivor Podcast
Misty on Instagram

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12424558 Wed, 15 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600 2315 2 38 full false Ep 37: Moving from Victim to “Sur-thriver” after Domestic Violence with Lovern Gordon Ep 37: Moving from Victim to “Sur-thriver” after Domestic Violence with Lovern Gordon Does witnessing domestic violence in your family of origin have effects on your relationships in adulthood?  My guest, Lovern Gordon shares her experiences of witnessing her father abuse her mother during her childhood and how this affected her self-worth and identity and led her into becoming a victim of domestic violence later in life.  

We discuss the misconception that we could pick out an abusive person by how they look and about the mask they wear for the outside world.  She shares why victims continue to stay in these abusive relationships and how our survival strategies to do everything in our power to “have a good day” that then lead us to more intense cycles of abuse.

Lovern shares her experiences of how she moved from a victim to survivor and now a “surthriver” and about her current advocacy work.  We discuss the need for major changes within the legal system to improve safety for victims and survivors.

Lovern Gordon is a two-time sur-THRIVER of domestic violence (a child witness until she was 15 years old in Trinidad, as well as a 2-year, young adult relationship in the United States). Ten years after escaping the adult relationship, she became the Founder of Love Life Now Foundation, Inc. (LLN), where she used 2 back-to-back pageant wins to increase awareness around issues in 2010 and the following year, LLN was formed. Today, Lovern continues to head LLN, a global awareness and education organization that supports survivors of abuse through their year-round initiatives and direct assistance to other domestic violence programs. She is also a DV awareness book author of the international memoir called, The Legacy He Left Me, which is on a nationwide book and speaking tour. She conducts DV awareness workshops worldwide, in-person and virtually for corporations, high schools, colleges and community groups.

Follow Lovern at:
Love Life Now Foundation, Inc.
The Legacy He Left Me



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]]> Does witnessing domestic violence in your family of origin have effects on your relationships in adulthood?  My guest, Lovern Gordon shares her experiences of witnessing her father abuse her mother during her childhood and how this affected her self-worth and identity and led her into becoming a victim of domestic violence later in life.  

We discuss the misconception that we could pick out an abusive person by how they look and about the mask they wear for the outside world.  She shares why victims continue to stay in these abusive relationships and how our survival strategies to do everything in our power to “have a good day” that then lead us to more intense cycles of abuse.

Lovern shares her experiences of how she moved from a victim to survivor and now a “surthriver” and about her current advocacy work.  We discuss the need for major changes within the legal system to improve safety for victims and survivors.

Lovern Gordon is a two-time sur-THRIVER of domestic violence (a child witness until she was 15 years old in Trinidad, as well as a 2-year, young adult relationship in the United States). Ten years after escaping the adult relationship, she became the Founder of Love Life Now Foundation, Inc. (LLN), where she used 2 back-to-back pageant wins to increase awareness around issues in 2010 and the following year, LLN was formed. Today, Lovern continues to head LLN, a global awareness and education organization that supports survivors of abuse through their year-round initiatives and direct assistance to other domestic violence programs. She is also a DV awareness book author of the international memoir called, The Legacy He Left Me, which is on a nationwide book and speaking tour. She conducts DV awareness workshops worldwide, in-person and virtually for corporations, high schools, colleges and community groups.

Follow Lovern at:
Love Life Now Foundation, Inc.
The Legacy He Left Me



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]]> Buzzsprout-12394730 Wed, 08 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0700 2557 2 37 full false Ep 36: Moving Through Grief After Domestic Violence Ep 36: Moving Through Grief After Domestic Violence  “Why can’t I just get over this and move on?”

There are many reasons why you may feel stuck in your healing process after domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  Grief is one of these reasons.  And grief and loss happen when most relationships end, but it looks different for survivors.

You are likely grieving the loss of the dream of what could have been, the loss of the fictitious person your ex-partner pretended to be, the loss of time and the loss of yourself.

In this episode, I share the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) and how they look different after surviving an abusive relationship versus what it looks like after someone passes away.  I also share some simple steps to start moving through the grief process including:

  • Allowing and accepting your emotions as they come
  • Seeing anger in a different light
  • Being mindful of your emotional state and mindset when making decisions
  • Spending time with safe people
  • Offering yourself self-compassion and grace
  • Practical types of self-care

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Your Nervous System is Shot - Rising Beyond Podcast, Episode 11

 

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]]>  “Why can’t I just get over this and move on?”

There are many reasons why you may feel stuck in your healing process after domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  Grief is one of these reasons.  And grief and loss happen when most relationships end, but it looks different for survivors.

You are likely grieving the loss of the dream of what could have been, the loss of the fictitious person your ex-partner pretended to be, the loss of time and the loss of yourself.

In this episode, I share the 5 stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) and how they look different after surviving an abusive relationship versus what it looks like after someone passes away.  I also share some simple steps to start moving through the grief process including:

  • Allowing and accepting your emotions as they come
  • Seeing anger in a different light
  • Being mindful of your emotional state and mindset when making decisions
  • Spending time with safe people
  • Offering yourself self-compassion and grace
  • Practical types of self-care

Show Links:
Your Nervous System is Shot - Rising Beyond Podcast, Episode 11

 

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]]> Buzzsprout-12315656 Wed, 01 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1549 1 36 full false Ep 35: Is Mediation Possible when Divorcing a Narcissist? with Liz Merrill Ep 35: Is Mediation Possible when Divorcing a Narcissist? with Liz Merrill Will mediation work when you are divorcing a narcissist?

This is the million dollar question.  My guest today, Liz Merrill is a mediator and divorce and transitions coach with a specialization in narcissistic relationships and high-conflict personalities.  In this episode, Liz shares her experience in a high-conflict marriage and litigious divorce and how that led her to start helping others in the same situation.  Liz shares the important factors to succeed in mediation including managing your nervous system, the importance of your relationship with your attorney, and the best ways to present your case.  She also shares the role a mediator plays in the divorce process and some overall tips on healing from these relationships. 

Liz Merrill is a mediator, an educator, and a divorce and transitions coach with a specialization in Narcissistic relationships and high-conflict personalities. She’s the owner of Open Space Mediation. Her knowledge of how the nervous system works and understanding of the role it plays in psychological and physiological reactions to trauma, conflict and anxiety brings a holistic approach to her work with families and individuals caught in the High Conflict cycle. 

After her own high-conflict marriage and litigious divorce, Liz saw the need for a holistic approach to divorce mediation which includes mindfulness, managing trauma, understanding how personality traits and disorders create high conflict in divorce, and learning powerful techniques to deescalate, disengage, and move on.

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Read Managing High-Conflict Dissolutions in Mediation and Court
The Survivor's Guide to High Conflict Divorce: A Free Video Course 



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]]> Will mediation work when you are divorcing a narcissist?

This is the million dollar question.  My guest today, Liz Merrill is a mediator and divorce and transitions coach with a specialization in narcissistic relationships and high-conflict personalities.  In this episode, Liz shares her experience in a high-conflict marriage and litigious divorce and how that led her to start helping others in the same situation.  Liz shares the important factors to succeed in mediation including managing your nervous system, the importance of your relationship with your attorney, and the best ways to present your case.  She also shares the role a mediator plays in the divorce process and some overall tips on healing from these relationships. 

Liz Merrill is a mediator, an educator, and a divorce and transitions coach with a specialization in Narcissistic relationships and high-conflict personalities. She’s the owner of Open Space Mediation. Her knowledge of how the nervous system works and understanding of the role it plays in psychological and physiological reactions to trauma, conflict and anxiety brings a holistic approach to her work with families and individuals caught in the High Conflict cycle. 

After her own high-conflict marriage and litigious divorce, Liz saw the need for a holistic approach to divorce mediation which includes mindfulness, managing trauma, understanding how personality traits and disorders create high conflict in divorce, and learning powerful techniques to deescalate, disengage, and move on.

Show Links:
Liz's Website
Liz on Facebook
Liz on Instagram
Read Managing High-Conflict Dissolutions in Mediation and Court
The Survivor's Guide to High Conflict Divorce: A Free Video Course 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12269779 Wed, 22 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 2451 1 35 full false Ep 34: Maintaining Hope During Post Separation Abuse Ep 34: Maintaining Hope During Post Separation Abuse If you thought that the abuse would end after you left your abusive partner, you may be stunned and extremely overwhelmed by the continued abuse.  Post-separation abuse can look different from the abuse when living with your abuser, but it can be just as harmful if not more.  

So, how is it possible for you to maintain a sense of hope while you are still being abused?

What is hope?

Wikipedia says that hope (noun) is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.  I prefer the definition of the verb, hope; expect with confidence.

It is important to hold onto hope, not as the belief that life will always be rainbows and butterflies, but one that includes the reality of the situation we find ourselves in.  

Here are some tips to maintaining hope as you go through post separation abuse:

  • As you learn more about abuse, look for the opportunities of what you can use to better your situation and choose information that has a positive outcome, not just the horror stories.
  • Put as many safe people around you and your children as possible.
  • Acknowledge your progress, even the small victories
  • Write down your goal and put it in places you can see it
  • Get therapeutic support if the hopelessness remains and if you have thoughts of harming yourself or others.

Links:

Dial 988 to talk with someone at the suicide and crisis hotline

https://988lifeline.org/



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]]> If you thought that the abuse would end after you left your abusive partner, you may be stunned and extremely overwhelmed by the continued abuse.  Post-separation abuse can look different from the abuse when living with your abuser, but it can be just as harmful if not more.  

So, how is it possible for you to maintain a sense of hope while you are still being abused?

What is hope?

Wikipedia says that hope (noun) is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s life or the world at large.  I prefer the definition of the verb, hope; expect with confidence.

It is important to hold onto hope, not as the belief that life will always be rainbows and butterflies, but one that includes the reality of the situation we find ourselves in.  

Here are some tips to maintaining hope as you go through post separation abuse:

  • As you learn more about abuse, look for the opportunities of what you can use to better your situation and choose information that has a positive outcome, not just the horror stories.
  • Put as many safe people around you and your children as possible.
  • Acknowledge your progress, even the small victories
  • Write down your goal and put it in places you can see it
  • Get therapeutic support if the hopelessness remains and if you have thoughts of harming yourself or others.

Links:

Dial 988 to talk with someone at the suicide and crisis hotline

https://988lifeline.org/



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12229150 Wed, 15 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1289 1 34 full false Ep 33: First Steps to Divorce Recovery with Leanne Kanzler Ep 33: First Steps to Divorce Recovery with Leanne Kanzler You get to that point in your relationship where you know you can no longer live with the control and abuse.  You separate from your abuser and are left to pick up the pieces.

Now what?  How do I recover from this?  Where do I even start the healing process?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Leanne Kanzler, a psychologist and coach on how she helps women and men who have separated from an abusive and controlling partner get back on their feet and move forward in their lives.  Leanne shares not only from her career experience but also from what she has learned after leaving a controlling relationship and what it takes to heal and become empowered.  

We discuss some of the first steps to healing including finding moments to become attuned to your self and body and learning to listen to what you need in the moment, how to set boundaries with others, and the possibility of needing to remove some people out of you support network and how to bring the safe people closer.

Leanne's Bio:

Leanne Kanzler is a psychologist and coach, author and speaker.  She is a business owner, second-time wife, and mother.

Leanne believes that we find our true selves through our deepest wounds. Her sense of being disconnected from herself and the world around her drove her to continually self-reflect and grow.

After being in a controlled marriage for twenty years, she took a leap of faith and started to do things for herself, finding herself along the way. This journey led to many realizations, including a beautiful second marriage.

Now, she is passionate about helping others go from Breakup to Breakthrough.

This means discovering your sense of self and what you want for YOU. Self-empowerment is the key to happy relationships and great boundaries.

Leanne knows that by helping both men and women, there is a  flow-on effect, where the children and extended family also benefit. 

SHOW LINKS:
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Leanne on Instagram
Leanne on Tik Tok
Leanne on Facebook 



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]]> You get to that point in your relationship where you know you can no longer live with the control and abuse.  You separate from your abuser and are left to pick up the pieces.

Now what?  How do I recover from this?  Where do I even start the healing process?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Leanne Kanzler, a psychologist and coach on how she helps women and men who have separated from an abusive and controlling partner get back on their feet and move forward in their lives.  Leanne shares not only from her career experience but also from what she has learned after leaving a controlling relationship and what it takes to heal and become empowered.  

We discuss some of the first steps to healing including finding moments to become attuned to your self and body and learning to listen to what you need in the moment, how to set boundaries with others, and the possibility of needing to remove some people out of you support network and how to bring the safe people closer.

Leanne's Bio:

Leanne Kanzler is a psychologist and coach, author and speaker.  She is a business owner, second-time wife, and mother.

Leanne believes that we find our true selves through our deepest wounds. Her sense of being disconnected from herself and the world around her drove her to continually self-reflect and grow.

After being in a controlled marriage for twenty years, she took a leap of faith and started to do things for herself, finding herself along the way. This journey led to many realizations, including a beautiful second marriage.

Now, she is passionate about helping others go from Breakup to Breakthrough.

This means discovering your sense of self and what you want for YOU. Self-empowerment is the key to happy relationships and great boundaries.

Leanne knows that by helping both men and women, there is a  flow-on effect, where the children and extended family also benefit. 

SHOW LINKS:
Leanne's website
Leanne on Instagram
Leanne on Tik Tok
Leanne on Facebook 



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12136828 Wed, 08 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 2022 2 33 full false Ep 32: Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser Ep 32: Surviving the False Narrative of Your Abuser It is not a question of if your abusive ex will share a false narrative about you but when, to whom, and what will it be about.  After working for over a decade with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse I have seen false narratives and lies cause so much distress and have legal implications.  So, how can you survive these false narratives?

First, we need to understand that the false narratives do not only come up once you have left your abuser.  You are conditioned from the very beginning of the relationship to be a part of these lies.  Through strategies of gaslighting, DARVO, and the constant mask they wear in public, the false narrative is a constant.

These narratives seem to increase in intensity after a victim leaves and include anything that will help them avoid taking accountability, saving face, and destroying you.  So what are some tips for surviving these types of attacks?

  • Know what to expect, remember it’s not if, but when
  • Learn to predict the possible narratives
  • Increase your inner circle of support
  • Choose your battles of who/what/when you defend yourself to
  • Defend with evidence and little emotion
  • Radical acceptance of what you can and cannot control


Show links:
Couples Therapy is Not the Answer

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]]> It is not a question of if your abusive ex will share a false narrative about you but when, to whom, and what will it be about.  After working for over a decade with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse I have seen false narratives and lies cause so much distress and have legal implications.  So, how can you survive these false narratives?

First, we need to understand that the false narratives do not only come up once you have left your abuser.  You are conditioned from the very beginning of the relationship to be a part of these lies.  Through strategies of gaslighting, DARVO, and the constant mask they wear in public, the false narrative is a constant.

These narratives seem to increase in intensity after a victim leaves and include anything that will help them avoid taking accountability, saving face, and destroying you.  So what are some tips for surviving these types of attacks?

  • Know what to expect, remember it’s not if, but when
  • Learn to predict the possible narratives
  • Increase your inner circle of support
  • Choose your battles of who/what/when you defend yourself to
  • Defend with evidence and little emotion
  • Radical acceptance of what you can and cannot control


Show links:
Couples Therapy is Not the Answer

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]]> Buzzsprout-12135993 Wed, 01 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0700 1277 1 32 full false Ep 31: Tips to Succeed in Family Court with Attorney Rachel Dane Ep 31: Tips to Succeed in Family Court with Attorney Rachel Dane If you are a survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse and will be participating in family court, your relationship with your attorney is paramount to your success.  Many attorneys shy away from domestic violence litigation because it is so difficult.  Ms. Dane, on the other hand, has dedicated her career to helping survivors of violence pursue safety through the court system. She has counseled, represented, and supervised the representation of hundreds of survivors of domestic violence in family law cases.

Rachel shares some helpful tips on how to choose an attorney that will work for you and your case including some questions to ask as you interview possible attorneys and the importance of a strong client/attorney relationship.  She shares her thoughts on changing your attorney during the course of your case and some things to think about before you make that decision.  And she shares some tips to help you through some of the most difficult aspects of family court, including if you have to testify.

In 2010, Ms. Dane graduated fourth in her class from the University of Colorado, Boulder with a degree in Political Science. She then went on to attend the George Washington University Law School in Washington D.C. Starting with her first internship in the summer of 2012, Ms. Dane began counseling survivors of violence on the protection order process. While in D.C. she also interned with the National Network to End Domestic Violence and represented clients through several other prominent DV organizations. After moving back to Colorado, Ms. Dane started her own firm, The Survivors' Legal Institute, focusing on representing survivors in family law cases. She was selected as the Managing Attorney for Safehouse Progressive Alliance's Lawyers for Victims Program and, in 2021, joined the team at Boulder Bridge to Justice.

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Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence 

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]]> If you are a survivor of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse and will be participating in family court, your relationship with your attorney is paramount to your success.  Many attorneys shy away from domestic violence litigation because it is so difficult.  Ms. Dane, on the other hand, has dedicated her career to helping survivors of violence pursue safety through the court system. She has counseled, represented, and supervised the representation of hundreds of survivors of domestic violence in family law cases.

Rachel shares some helpful tips on how to choose an attorney that will work for you and your case including some questions to ask as you interview possible attorneys and the importance of a strong client/attorney relationship.  She shares her thoughts on changing your attorney during the course of your case and some things to think about before you make that decision.  And she shares some tips to help you through some of the most difficult aspects of family court, including if you have to testify.

In 2010, Ms. Dane graduated fourth in her class from the University of Colorado, Boulder with a degree in Political Science. She then went on to attend the George Washington University Law School in Washington D.C. Starting with her first internship in the summer of 2012, Ms. Dane began counseling survivors of violence on the protection order process. While in D.C. she also interned with the National Network to End Domestic Violence and represented clients through several other prominent DV organizations. After moving back to Colorado, Ms. Dane started her own firm, The Survivors' Legal Institute, focusing on representing survivors in family law cases. She was selected as the Managing Attorney for Safehouse Progressive Alliance's Lawyers for Victims Program and, in 2021, joined the team at Boulder Bridge to Justice.

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Safehouse Progressive Alliance for Nonviolence 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12100806 Wed, 25 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0700 2508 1 31 full false Ep 30: A Co-parenting App Can Protect You from your Narcissistic Ex with Bianca Balogh Ep 30: A Co-parenting App Can Protect You from your Narcissistic Ex with Bianca Balogh Communicating with your narcissistic and abusive ex can be excruciating.  And if you share children with them, you are stuck having to maintain contact with them for as long as you have to coparent.  What is the best strategy to protect yourself from negative outcomes in family court and stay sane during the process?

One important step you can take is by communicating with your ex solely through a coparenting app.  And in this episode, I am speaking with Bianca Balogh, the creator of the Peaceful Coparenting Messenger App.  Bianca shares her story as a survivor, her struggles with communicating with her “coparent” through endless family court using a common coparenting app, and why she decided to create a new one.

Bianca shares examples of where she received dozens of messages in a single day to having to comb through the weeds of narcissistic word salad in order to find the one question she needed to respond to and how it took a toll on her mental health and daily functioning.  And from these experiences, she created the different features of the Peaceful Coparenting Messenger App.

Inspired by her own difficult co-parenting journey, Bianca Balogh (BAAL-oh) created Peaceful CoParenting Messenger to help others dealing with her same situation: post-separation abuse in the form of digital communications. She has two sons, ages 6 and 8, and she felt like dysfunctional co-parenting communication with her ex-husband was impacting her quality of life, her happiness as a person and her ability to be the kind of mother she wanted to be. Bianca started the app 3 years ago. Along the way, she's found other people, men and women alike, to be grateful to have a tool that gives users the ability to set communication boundaries with their co-parent... to bring more peace back to their lives.

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www.peacefulparentapp.com



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]]> Communicating with your narcissistic and abusive ex can be excruciating.  And if you share children with them, you are stuck having to maintain contact with them for as long as you have to coparent.  What is the best strategy to protect yourself from negative outcomes in family court and stay sane during the process?

One important step you can take is by communicating with your ex solely through a coparenting app.  And in this episode, I am speaking with Bianca Balogh, the creator of the Peaceful Coparenting Messenger App.  Bianca shares her story as a survivor, her struggles with communicating with her “coparent” through endless family court using a common coparenting app, and why she decided to create a new one.

Bianca shares examples of where she received dozens of messages in a single day to having to comb through the weeds of narcissistic word salad in order to find the one question she needed to respond to and how it took a toll on her mental health and daily functioning.  And from these experiences, she created the different features of the Peaceful Coparenting Messenger App.

Inspired by her own difficult co-parenting journey, Bianca Balogh (BAAL-oh) created Peaceful CoParenting Messenger to help others dealing with her same situation: post-separation abuse in the form of digital communications. She has two sons, ages 6 and 8, and she felt like dysfunctional co-parenting communication with her ex-husband was impacting her quality of life, her happiness as a person and her ability to be the kind of mother she wanted to be. Bianca started the app 3 years ago. Along the way, she's found other people, men and women alike, to be grateful to have a tool that gives users the ability to set communication boundaries with their co-parent... to bring more peace back to their lives.

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www.peacefulparentapp.com



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-12040495 Wed, 18 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0700 2254 1 30 full false Ep 29: What Is Post Separation Abuse? Ep 29: What Is Post Separation Abuse? There is this belief that once a woman leaves an abusive relationship that they are finally safe.  This could not be further from the truth.  And this is especially true if you share children with your abuser.  When there is domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, the year after leaving can be the most dangerous time for a survivor.  

Domestic violence is all about one partner gaining and maintaining power and control over the other partner.  This “need” does not end once you escape or are discarded.  And so a new form of hell will begin, Post Separation Abuse.

In this episode, you will learn the many ways in which an abusive ex-partner will attempt to maintain control after a victim has left the relationship including:

  • Smear Campaign to further isolate their victim
  • Using coercive control to continue to gaslight, criticize, shame, and blame their victim
  • Counter Parent to undermine the safe parent
  • Abusive or neglectful parenting
  • Harassment and stalking (huge red flags for further physical violence)
  • Continuing financial abuse by blocking access to funds, refusing to pay bills and child support, and quitting their jobs to limit the amount they owe 
  • Using the family court system to further abuse the victim

You will also learn some ways to mitigate these strategies and to start the healing process despite the post separation abuse.

Some of these things are:

  • Good documentation
  • Self-care that includes therapy
  • Creating a safe inner circle of support (making any necessary changes to those in there now)
  • Learning how to set and stick with your boundaries
  • Getting your children the support they need
  • Being very selective of the professionals you have in your corner

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Family Court Checklist - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/family-court-checklist

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]]> There is this belief that once a woman leaves an abusive relationship that they are finally safe.  This could not be further from the truth.  And this is especially true if you share children with your abuser.  When there is domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, the year after leaving can be the most dangerous time for a survivor.  

Domestic violence is all about one partner gaining and maintaining power and control over the other partner.  This “need” does not end once you escape or are discarded.  And so a new form of hell will begin, Post Separation Abuse.

In this episode, you will learn the many ways in which an abusive ex-partner will attempt to maintain control after a victim has left the relationship including:

  • Smear Campaign to further isolate their victim
  • Using coercive control to continue to gaslight, criticize, shame, and blame their victim
  • Counter Parent to undermine the safe parent
  • Abusive or neglectful parenting
  • Harassment and stalking (huge red flags for further physical violence)
  • Continuing financial abuse by blocking access to funds, refusing to pay bills and child support, and quitting their jobs to limit the amount they owe 
  • Using the family court system to further abuse the victim

You will also learn some ways to mitigate these strategies and to start the healing process despite the post separation abuse.

Some of these things are:

  • Good documentation
  • Self-care that includes therapy
  • Creating a safe inner circle of support (making any necessary changes to those in there now)
  • Learning how to set and stick with your boundaries
  • Getting your children the support they need
  • Being very selective of the professionals you have in your corner

Show Links:
Family Court Checklist - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/family-court-checklist

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11999187 Wed, 11 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0700 1163 1 29 full false Ep 28: Finding Freedom After Abuse: A look at women’s rights with Naz Meknat Ep 28: Finding Freedom After Abuse: A look at women’s rights with Naz Meknat All over the world, women experience domestic violence and other forms of abuse.  And while we may see these issues on the news for a few days when there is a “news-worthy” story, the stories fade into the background and everyone seems to forget.  This is exactly what is happening in Iran today.

In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Naz Meknat, a woman who escaped from an abusive relationship and the systemic abuse of women in her home country and has found freedom here in the United States.  Naz shares experiences with the morality police and the lengths she had to go to flee, heal, and now use her voice as an activist to help those women who are silenced.

Naz’s story started 7000 miles away, however, the elements of power and control and abuse are universal.

Naz Meknat, born in Tehran, Iran is a Los Angeles-based fashion stylist and author who has been working in the fashion industry since 2005 with a degree in Fashion from the Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising in Los Angeles. As a celebrity stylist, she has worked with celebrities such as Sterling K. Brown, Brian Tyree Henry, Nyambi Nyambi, Camilla Luddington, Jeannie Mai and Tara Reid to name a few. She has also worked on countless editorial photo shoots and ad campaigns. Her work can be seen in publications such as Hollywood Reporter and Variety. In May of 2014 Naz was featured in People Magazine for her beauty, style, and unique story. 

On August 26th, 2021 her first book, 7000 Miles to Freedom, a memoir, was released. 7000 Miles to Freedom is a story of survivorship and triumph, a story about persistence and resilience. Naz is an advocate for Women’s rights and works tirelessly to bring more awareness to Sexual and Domestic violence against women. She actively volunteers in her community serving as a member of non-profit organizations such as Women Helping Women, Live Your Dream, Greater West Hollywood Food Coalition, and Out of the Closet.

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https://nazmeknat.com/
https://www.instagram.com/naz_meknat/



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]]> All over the world, women experience domestic violence and other forms of abuse.  And while we may see these issues on the news for a few days when there is a “news-worthy” story, the stories fade into the background and everyone seems to forget.  This is exactly what is happening in Iran today.

In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Naz Meknat, a woman who escaped from an abusive relationship and the systemic abuse of women in her home country and has found freedom here in the United States.  Naz shares experiences with the morality police and the lengths she had to go to flee, heal, and now use her voice as an activist to help those women who are silenced.

Naz’s story started 7000 miles away, however, the elements of power and control and abuse are universal.

Naz Meknat, born in Tehran, Iran is a Los Angeles-based fashion stylist and author who has been working in the fashion industry since 2005 with a degree in Fashion from the Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising in Los Angeles. As a celebrity stylist, she has worked with celebrities such as Sterling K. Brown, Brian Tyree Henry, Nyambi Nyambi, Camilla Luddington, Jeannie Mai and Tara Reid to name a few. She has also worked on countless editorial photo shoots and ad campaigns. Her work can be seen in publications such as Hollywood Reporter and Variety. In May of 2014 Naz was featured in People Magazine for her beauty, style, and unique story. 

On August 26th, 2021 her first book, 7000 Miles to Freedom, a memoir, was released. 7000 Miles to Freedom is a story of survivorship and triumph, a story about persistence and resilience. Naz is an advocate for Women’s rights and works tirelessly to bring more awareness to Sexual and Domestic violence against women. She actively volunteers in her community serving as a member of non-profit organizations such as Women Helping Women, Live Your Dream, Greater West Hollywood Food Coalition, and Out of the Closet.

Show Links:
https://nazmeknat.com/
https://www.instagram.com/naz_meknat/



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]]> Buzzsprout-11939401 Wed, 04 Jan 2023 06:00:00 -0700 2573 1 28 full false Ep 27: Getting Back on Track After Financial Abuse with Claudia Porter Ep 27: Getting Back on Track After Financial Abuse with Claudia Porter 98% of all victims of domestic violence experience financial abuse.  This type of abuse is one of the most significant barriers keeping women from leaving an abusive relationship and one of the many reasons women return to their abusers.

In this week’s episode, I interview Claudia Porter, a survivor who has experienced financial abuse and now assists in supporting financial education and independence as a financial advisor.  Claudia shares her story of how financial abuse was used by her abusive partner and how he appealed the financial award all the way to the supreme court of Oregon.  

Claudia shares her views on the common pitfalls that victims fall into including the more subtle and covert forms of financial abuse.  She also offers first steps on what women who have recently left their abuser can do to get back on their feet financially and how you can best plan for the litigation process in family court. 

Claudia joined Financial Reserve in 2016. She is a Certified Financial Planner™ professional and holds FINRA Series 7 and 66 licenses with Cambridge Investment Research as well as life and health licenses.

Born and raised in Germany, Claudia earned her M.A. in Teaching English and French from Georg-August University of Göttingen, followed by a Ph.D. in Applied Linguistics from Technical University of Braunschweig Carolo-Wilhelmina in Germany. She spent her previous academic career in adult education teaching linguistics and English to international students in both in Germany and the U.S. Prior to joining Financial Reserve, she worked with Merrill Lynch Wealth Management.

Claudia is the mother of four boys, Jack, Leonard, Nicholas, and Harry, with whom she enjoys spending time pursuing outdoor activities, tennis, swimming, biking, fishing, and reading.

Discussions in this show should not be construed as specific recommendations or investment advice. Always consult with your investment professional before making important investment decisions. Securities offered through Cambridge Investment Research, Inc., a registered Broker/Dealer, Member FINRA/SIPC. Advisory services offered through Cambridge Investment Research Advisors, Inc., a Registered Investment Advisor.

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-porter-cfp%C2%AE-a55a6434/
https://www.nfcc.org/credit-counseling?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIu-i054KV-wIVUi2tBh0nUQRcEAAYASAAEgJUYfD_BwE
https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-8857
www.financialreserve.com



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]]> 98% of all victims of domestic violence experience financial abuse.  This type of abuse is one of the most significant barriers keeping women from leaving an abusive relationship and one of the many reasons women return to their abusers.

In this week’s episode, I interview Claudia Porter, a survivor who has experienced financial abuse and now assists in supporting financial education and independence as a financial advisor.  Claudia shares her story of how financial abuse was used by her abusive partner and how he appealed the financial award all the way to the supreme court of Oregon.  

Claudia shares her views on the common pitfalls that victims fall into including the more subtle and covert forms of financial abuse.  She also offers first steps on what women who have recently left their abuser can do to get back on their feet financially and how you can best plan for the litigation process in family court. 

Claudia joined Financial Reserve in 2016. She is a Certified Financial Planner™ professional and holds FINRA Series 7 and 66 licenses with Cambridge Investment Research as well as life and health licenses.

Born and raised in Germany, Claudia earned her M.A. in Teaching English and French from Georg-August University of Göttingen, followed by a Ph.D. in Applied Linguistics from Technical University of Braunschweig Carolo-Wilhelmina in Germany. She spent her previous academic career in adult education teaching linguistics and English to international students in both in Germany and the U.S. Prior to joining Financial Reserve, she worked with Merrill Lynch Wealth Management.

Claudia is the mother of four boys, Jack, Leonard, Nicholas, and Harry, with whom she enjoys spending time pursuing outdoor activities, tennis, swimming, biking, fishing, and reading.

Discussions in this show should not be construed as specific recommendations or investment advice. Always consult with your investment professional before making important investment decisions. Securities offered through Cambridge Investment Research, Inc., a registered Broker/Dealer, Member FINRA/SIPC. Advisory services offered through Cambridge Investment Research Advisors, Inc., a Registered Investment Advisor.

Show Links:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-porter-cfp%C2%AE-a55a6434/
https://www.nfcc.org/credit-counseling?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIu-i054KV-wIVUi2tBh0nUQRcEAAYASAAEgJUYfD_BwE
https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-8857
www.financialreserve.com



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11913432 Wed, 28 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1841 1 27 full false Ep 26: Is My Ex Tracking Me? Ep 26: Is My Ex Tracking Me? Domestic Violence is all about having power and control over their partner.  When an abusive partner or an abusive ex-partner feels like they are losing that control over their victim one way they can get that back is by tracking their movements and online activities.  

In this episode, I am going to share a brief overview of some tips and tricks that you can use to protect yourself and your family regarding tech safety.  As a part of The Rising Beyond Community, I hosted Connie Matthews Reynolds, a cybersecurity expert on all things tech safety.  This webinar was recorded for free for you to watch on the Rising Beyond Power and Control YouTube channel (link below) and where I pulled the information from for this episode.  I also participated in another tech safety training webinar that was hosted by Domesticshelters.org which has also informed this episode and I will provide the link to that one as well.

Show Links:
Tech Safety interview with Connie Matthews Reynolds
Domesticshelters.org

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]]> Domestic Violence is all about having power and control over their partner.  When an abusive partner or an abusive ex-partner feels like they are losing that control over their victim one way they can get that back is by tracking their movements and online activities.  

In this episode, I am going to share a brief overview of some tips and tricks that you can use to protect yourself and your family regarding tech safety.  As a part of The Rising Beyond Community, I hosted Connie Matthews Reynolds, a cybersecurity expert on all things tech safety.  This webinar was recorded for free for you to watch on the Rising Beyond Power and Control YouTube channel (link below) and where I pulled the information from for this episode.  I also participated in another tech safety training webinar that was hosted by Domesticshelters.org which has also informed this episode and I will provide the link to that one as well.

Show Links:
Tech Safety interview with Connie Matthews Reynolds
Domesticshelters.org

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11889102 Wed, 21 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0700 956 1 26 full false Ep 25: Can I let my guard down? Navigating Hypervigilance After Abuse Ep 25: Can I let my guard down? Navigating Hypervigilance After Abuse Does it feel impossible that you will ever be able to let your guard down after you have experienced an abusive relationship?

The aftermath of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse, especially if you continue to experience post-separation abuse can leave you feeling hopeless.  And, I am here to tell you that there are some ways to slowly start taking some breaks so that you are not always feeling hypervigilant and like you need to be doing something all the time.

In this episode, you will learn some of the reasons why our hypervigilance sticks around and why it can be anxiety-provoking to give yourself a break.  Listen to hear tips to relax if it feels extremely anxiety-provoking to take a break from monitoring your security cameras or checking your co-parenting app for new emails or documenting every little thing your ex is doing and the resulting behaviors of your child.  

Reconditioning your brain to find times when it is safe to feel safe and remembering that you are doing all the things you need to do already can be extremely helpful in allowing yourself time to let your guard down.  And we discuss the importance of having the right support around you so that when something goes wrong or you are extremely triggered, you know exactly where to go for help.



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]]> Does it feel impossible that you will ever be able to let your guard down after you have experienced an abusive relationship?

The aftermath of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse, especially if you continue to experience post-separation abuse can leave you feeling hopeless.  And, I am here to tell you that there are some ways to slowly start taking some breaks so that you are not always feeling hypervigilant and like you need to be doing something all the time.

In this episode, you will learn some of the reasons why our hypervigilance sticks around and why it can be anxiety-provoking to give yourself a break.  Listen to hear tips to relax if it feels extremely anxiety-provoking to take a break from monitoring your security cameras or checking your co-parenting app for new emails or documenting every little thing your ex is doing and the resulting behaviors of your child.  

Reconditioning your brain to find times when it is safe to feel safe and remembering that you are doing all the things you need to do already can be extremely helpful in allowing yourself time to let your guard down.  And we discuss the importance of having the right support around you so that when something goes wrong or you are extremely triggered, you know exactly where to go for help.



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]]> Buzzsprout-11847608 Wed, 14 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1296 1 25 full false Ep 24: Healing And Hope After Domestic Violence with Chantelle Mitchell Ep 24: Healing And Hope After Domestic Violence with Chantelle Mitchell It is absolutely possible to heal and overcome domestic violence.  This is even true for those who have experienced extreme physical violence including gun violence.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Chantelle Mitchell, a woman who has overcome childhood abuse, sexual abuse, and was stalked and shot by an abusive ex-partner 8 months after the relationship ended.  Chantelle shares her story in order to educate and offer hope so that other women and men do not find themselves in a near-death situation as she did.

We discuss why the common misperceptions around “just leave and you’ll be safe,” what a victim of domestic violence looks like, and that domestic violence only constitutes physical abuse cause victims to remain stuck in these abusive situations.  Chantelle also shares what was most influential on her healing journey in order to help others start this process.

Chantelle was born in Charleston, SC.  She is a motivational speaker, youth advocate, mentor, author, certified life and family coach, and most importantly a mother.  As a young child, love was shown in the most toxic manner and it was the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse that she experienced that set the tone for poor choices and decisions about relationships in her adulthood.  She realized that these decisions did not only affect her but her children as well.  As an “overcomer” of abuse, Chantelle is passionate about educating others on understanding what trauma looks like and how important it is to heal from it.

Where you can find Chantelle:
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Continuum of Violence
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]]> It is absolutely possible to heal and overcome domestic violence.  This is even true for those who have experienced extreme physical violence including gun violence.

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, I have a conversation with Chantelle Mitchell, a woman who has overcome childhood abuse, sexual abuse, and was stalked and shot by an abusive ex-partner 8 months after the relationship ended.  Chantelle shares her story in order to educate and offer hope so that other women and men do not find themselves in a near-death situation as she did.

We discuss why the common misperceptions around “just leave and you’ll be safe,” what a victim of domestic violence looks like, and that domestic violence only constitutes physical abuse cause victims to remain stuck in these abusive situations.  Chantelle also shares what was most influential on her healing journey in order to help others start this process.

Chantelle was born in Charleston, SC.  She is a motivational speaker, youth advocate, mentor, author, certified life and family coach, and most importantly a mother.  As a young child, love was shown in the most toxic manner and it was the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse that she experienced that set the tone for poor choices and decisions about relationships in her adulthood.  She realized that these decisions did not only affect her but her children as well.  As an “overcomer” of abuse, Chantelle is passionate about educating others on understanding what trauma looks like and how important it is to heal from it.

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]]> Buzzsprout-11807561 Tue, 06 Dec 2022 06:00:00 -0700 2479 1 24 full false Ep 23: The Many Ways Survivors of Domestic Violence are Silenced Ep 23: The Many Ways Survivors of Domestic Violence are Silenced There are so many ways in which victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are silenced.  And this silence is one of the barriers for true change in our world to happen.

In this episode, we look at the different ways in which victims of domestic violence are silenced within their abusive relationship and by the myths and misconceptions that are still promoted by our media and uninformed professionals.  I address the ways in which the larger system and court system silences victims.  And we look at the gravely sad statistics on the ultimate silencing of victims of domestic violence, the murder of women by their intimate partners.

We end the episode with a look at some of the things that can be done to start breaking the silence and offering a place where survivors can find their voice and support.

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https://www.unodc.org/documents/data-and-analysis/statistics/crime/UN_BriefFem_251121.pdf



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]]> There are so many ways in which victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are silenced.  And this silence is one of the barriers for true change in our world to happen.

In this episode, we look at the different ways in which victims of domestic violence are silenced within their abusive relationship and by the myths and misconceptions that are still promoted by our media and uninformed professionals.  I address the ways in which the larger system and court system silences victims.  And we look at the gravely sad statistics on the ultimate silencing of victims of domestic violence, the murder of women by their intimate partners.

We end the episode with a look at some of the things that can be done to start breaking the silence and offering a place where survivors can find their voice and support.

Show Link:
https://www.unodc.org/documents/data-and-analysis/statistics/crime/UN_BriefFem_251121.pdf



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11724944 Wed, 30 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1133 1 23 full false Ep 22: Creating New Holiday Traditions for Your Family While Sharing Your Children with an Abusive Ex Ep 22: Creating New Holiday Traditions for Your Family While Sharing Your Children with an Abusive Ex There is a misconception that the abuse ends after you leave a domestic violence relationship.  Unfortunately, this is not the case, especially when you share children with them.  Your life will be affected in ways you may not have realized until you face a specific situation.  

One of the issues that comes up for separated families is not knowing how to manage the holiday season as a separated family.  This can be difficult for any family who is recently divorced or separated but can be extremely difficult when you have separated or divorced an abusive partner.  It is typical in domestic violence relationships that the abusive partner will find a way to ruin important events, especially if the attention is drawn away from them and if the event or holiday is really important to you.

Originally in recording this episode, it was an interview with a momma who has been out of her abusive relationships for years, and I thought we would be able to play it straight through as I typically do.  We were thrown a wrench in the situation and her abusive ex filed a motion a few days after we recorded which would make airing the episode in full potentially dangerous for my guest and her family.  And, my guest, we’ll call her Rachel, still wanted to share her experience and important information from our conversation.  So, we were creative and changed what we needed to change so that you can find ideas and inspiration in creating a special holiday time with your children while also keeping her safe.

I hope you enjoy this episode.



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]]> There is a misconception that the abuse ends after you leave a domestic violence relationship.  Unfortunately, this is not the case, especially when you share children with them.  Your life will be affected in ways you may not have realized until you face a specific situation.  

One of the issues that comes up for separated families is not knowing how to manage the holiday season as a separated family.  This can be difficult for any family who is recently divorced or separated but can be extremely difficult when you have separated or divorced an abusive partner.  It is typical in domestic violence relationships that the abusive partner will find a way to ruin important events, especially if the attention is drawn away from them and if the event or holiday is really important to you.

Originally in recording this episode, it was an interview with a momma who has been out of her abusive relationships for years, and I thought we would be able to play it straight through as I typically do.  We were thrown a wrench in the situation and her abusive ex filed a motion a few days after we recorded which would make airing the episode in full potentially dangerous for my guest and her family.  And, my guest, we’ll call her Rachel, still wanted to share her experience and important information from our conversation.  So, we were creative and changed what we needed to change so that you can find ideas and inspiration in creating a special holiday time with your children while also keeping her safe.

I hope you enjoy this episode.



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]]> Buzzsprout-11724884 Wed, 23 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1472 1 22 full false Ep 21: Has My Narcissistic Ex Changed for Someone Else? Ep 21: Has My Narcissistic Ex Changed for Someone Else? How often have you wondered if your narcissistic partner can change? 

In this episode, you will gain some insight and perspective to relieve this confusion, doubt, and other difficult feelings when your abusive ex-partner seems to have an amazing and healthy new relationship.

You find out through Facebook stalking or when your ex-partner shows up to grab the kids for their parenting time and they are in another relationship.  And the relationship, from the outside, looks amazing and perfect.

You might think, “there must be something wrong with me if they can have the relationship they promised me with this other person.”

You think back to all of the things that you tried to fix the relationship and to support your ex-partner.  And it causes a lot of confusion and doubt about who you are and your level of blame for the abuse and the end of the relationship.

Is it possible that their picture-perfect relationship is not as it seems?  Can they actually change?   

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]]> How often have you wondered if your narcissistic partner can change? 

In this episode, you will gain some insight and perspective to relieve this confusion, doubt, and other difficult feelings when your abusive ex-partner seems to have an amazing and healthy new relationship.

You find out through Facebook stalking or when your ex-partner shows up to grab the kids for their parenting time and they are in another relationship.  And the relationship, from the outside, looks amazing and perfect.

You might think, “there must be something wrong with me if they can have the relationship they promised me with this other person.”

You think back to all of the things that you tried to fix the relationship and to support your ex-partner.  And it causes a lot of confusion and doubt about who you are and your level of blame for the abuse and the end of the relationship.

Is it possible that their picture-perfect relationship is not as it seems?  Can they actually change?   

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11678517 Wed, 16 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1045 1 21 full false Ep 20: From Fear to Freedom: Empowering Women After Abuse with Jaime Hobbs Ep 20: From Fear to Freedom: Empowering Women After Abuse with Jaime Hobbs After experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, women typically feel completely beat down, broken and scared.  The idea of empowerment may not even seem possible.  And, my guest, Jaime Hobbs has worked with countless victims of domestic violence and other violence and has seen women become more confident and empowered in a single day.

Jaime shares her experience with us as a self-defense and self-empowerment instructor including things like situational awareness and listening to our gut in order to stay safe.  Jaime also shares some tips in speaking with law enforcement after an abusive incident based in her experiences as an on-scene victim advocate for local law enforcement.

Jaime was born and raised in Kansas City, Missouri and has made Colorado home since 2002. In addition to over a decade in Emergency Communications (911), trained in active shooter response, crisis negotiations, sexual assault response, and more, Jaime is also an on-scene Victim Advocate for two other local police departments and has a background in rape crisis and domestic violence assistance. Jaime co-owns Paragon Defense and has been teaching women's safety and self defense in both the private and public sector since 2012.

Find More of Jamie Here:
Website - https://www.paragonselfdefense.com/
FaceBook - https://www.facebook.com/paragondefensecolorado
Instagram - @paragondefense

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]]> After experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, women typically feel completely beat down, broken and scared.  The idea of empowerment may not even seem possible.  And, my guest, Jaime Hobbs has worked with countless victims of domestic violence and other violence and has seen women become more confident and empowered in a single day.

Jaime shares her experience with us as a self-defense and self-empowerment instructor including things like situational awareness and listening to our gut in order to stay safe.  Jaime also shares some tips in speaking with law enforcement after an abusive incident based in her experiences as an on-scene victim advocate for local law enforcement.

Jaime was born and raised in Kansas City, Missouri and has made Colorado home since 2002. In addition to over a decade in Emergency Communications (911), trained in active shooter response, crisis negotiations, sexual assault response, and more, Jaime is also an on-scene Victim Advocate for two other local police departments and has a background in rape crisis and domestic violence assistance. Jaime co-owns Paragon Defense and has been teaching women's safety and self defense in both the private and public sector since 2012.

Find More of Jamie Here:
Website - https://www.paragonselfdefense.com/
FaceBook - https://www.facebook.com/paragondefensecolorado
Instagram - @paragondefense

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]]> Buzzsprout-11648226 Wed, 09 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0700 1945 1 20 full false Ep 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After Abuse Ep 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After Abuse As you heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse it is common to start reevaluating the relationships in your life.  You may start to notice that there are others in your world that are abusive to you in different ways which may cause a lot of hurt and anger.

In this episode you will get some ideas on how to assess your current relationships and how they either positively or negatively affect your life.  With this new information, you will then be able to decide what role these people will get to play in your life and the lives of your children.

We discuss the difference between going no-contact and having a detached contact in your relationships and will offer different strategies for making this decision and how to hold firm to your decision.  Some of the strategies for maintaining a detached relationship are:

  • Asking yourself what support you will need to maintain emotional distance while being in the presence of the person
  • Identifying and challenging your cognitive distortions
  • Learning to regulate your nervous system and trauma responses
  • Managing your expectations
  • Using radical acceptance

Show Links

Book: Healing From Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas

https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Hidden-Abuse-Recovery-Psychological/dp/0997829087/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2MPSD4CEYN4W0&keywords=healing+from+hidden+abuse&qid=1665419749&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMS45NyIsInFzcCI6IjEuODgifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=healing+from+%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1



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]]> As you heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse it is common to start reevaluating the relationships in your life.  You may start to notice that there are others in your world that are abusive to you in different ways which may cause a lot of hurt and anger.

In this episode you will get some ideas on how to assess your current relationships and how they either positively or negatively affect your life.  With this new information, you will then be able to decide what role these people will get to play in your life and the lives of your children.

We discuss the difference between going no-contact and having a detached contact in your relationships and will offer different strategies for making this decision and how to hold firm to your decision.  Some of the strategies for maintaining a detached relationship are:

  • Asking yourself what support you will need to maintain emotional distance while being in the presence of the person
  • Identifying and challenging your cognitive distortions
  • Learning to regulate your nervous system and trauma responses
  • Managing your expectations
  • Using radical acceptance

Show Links

Book: Healing From Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas

https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Hidden-Abuse-Recovery-Psychological/dp/0997829087/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2MPSD4CEYN4W0&keywords=healing+from+hidden+abuse&qid=1665419749&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMS45NyIsInFzcCI6IjEuODgifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=healing+from+%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1



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]]> Buzzsprout-11591636 Wed, 02 Nov 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1745 1 19 full false Ep 18: Boundary Setting 101: Tips for setting boundaries after an abusive relationship Ep 18: Boundary Setting 101: Tips for setting boundaries after an abusive relationship It can be extremely difficult to set boundaries after you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  Your partner crossed every boundary you have ever tried to set and conditioned you to give up your boundaries with them altogether.  

And, boundaries are an important part of the healing process from relationship abuse and can help prevent you from being taken advantage of in the future.  

In this episode, you will learn the importance of setting firm and compassionate boundaries for your future life and relationships and how setting boundaries positively affects your self-worth.

This episode will provide tangible tips for setting boundaries that you can use immediately to help you feel more confident during this process.  These tips are:

  • Slowing things down
  • Becoming Aware
  • Making a list of priorities
  • Staying on topic
  • Planning ahead
  • Maintaining realistic expectations
  • Practice, practice, practice
  • Setting and following through with consequences

Show Links:

Boundaries of Steel: A Workbook for Managing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships
https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Steel-Workbook-Recovering-Relationships/dp/1734571438/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3GYF97PYGE8MD&keywords=boundaries+of+steel+by+cathy+wilson&qid=1665419079&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjAwIiwicXNhIjoiMC4wMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=Boundaries+of+s%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-1



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]]> It can be extremely difficult to set boundaries after you have experienced domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  Your partner crossed every boundary you have ever tried to set and conditioned you to give up your boundaries with them altogether.  

And, boundaries are an important part of the healing process from relationship abuse and can help prevent you from being taken advantage of in the future.  

In this episode, you will learn the importance of setting firm and compassionate boundaries for your future life and relationships and how setting boundaries positively affects your self-worth.

This episode will provide tangible tips for setting boundaries that you can use immediately to help you feel more confident during this process.  These tips are:

  • Slowing things down
  • Becoming Aware
  • Making a list of priorities
  • Staying on topic
  • Planning ahead
  • Maintaining realistic expectations
  • Practice, practice, practice
  • Setting and following through with consequences

Show Links:

Boundaries of Steel: A Workbook for Managing and Recovering from Toxic Relationships
https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Steel-Workbook-Recovering-Relationships/dp/1734571438/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3GYF97PYGE8MD&keywords=boundaries+of+steel+by+cathy+wilson&qid=1665419079&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjAwIiwicXNhIjoiMC4wMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=Boundaries+of+s%2Caps%2C178&sr=8-1



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]]> Buzzsprout-11525552 Wed, 26 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1994 1 18 full false Ep 17: Bringing Baby Home: Is this normal or is this abuse? with Christie Sears Thompson Ep 17: Bringing Baby Home: Is this normal or is this abuse? with Christie Sears Thompson Bringing home a new baby is hard and can cause a strain on your relationship with your partner.  But is the strain and conflict normal in your relationship or is it abusive?

If there is domestic violence or narcissistic abuse in your relationship, you will not only experience the “normal hard” of bringing a baby into your family, you will likely experience a significant increase in abuse and lack of help in taking care of your new child.

Christie and I discuss what the “normal hard” looks like, some steps you can take to improve your relationship with your partner, what abuse may look like in this situation, and what you need to look for to make decisions about remaining in your relationship.

Christie Sears Thompson, LMFT
As not only a therapist but also a wife and mother, I have seen first-hand the importance of a strong family foundation. My main goal in forming The Partnerhood coaching program and working with couples in my private practice is to help couples achieve genuine connection, communicate more effectively, and create the relationships they want to have so this foundation can carry them through the storms that life will inevitably throw at them.

Websites:
www.thepartnerhood.com
www.tradewindstherapy.com

The Partnerhood Workbook

https://www.amazon.com/Partnerhood-Workbook-resources-knowledge-successful/dp/B08QBPSBDF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1AY59OIIKH9TG&keywords=The+partnerhood+workbook&qid=1662222198&sprefix=the+partnerhood+workbook%2Caps%2C156&sr=8-1



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]]> Bringing home a new baby is hard and can cause a strain on your relationship with your partner.  But is the strain and conflict normal in your relationship or is it abusive?

If there is domestic violence or narcissistic abuse in your relationship, you will not only experience the “normal hard” of bringing a baby into your family, you will likely experience a significant increase in abuse and lack of help in taking care of your new child.

Christie and I discuss what the “normal hard” looks like, some steps you can take to improve your relationship with your partner, what abuse may look like in this situation, and what you need to look for to make decisions about remaining in your relationship.

Christie Sears Thompson, LMFT
As not only a therapist but also a wife and mother, I have seen first-hand the importance of a strong family foundation. My main goal in forming The Partnerhood coaching program and working with couples in my private practice is to help couples achieve genuine connection, communicate more effectively, and create the relationships they want to have so this foundation can carry them through the storms that life will inevitably throw at them.

Websites:
www.thepartnerhood.com
www.tradewindstherapy.com

The Partnerhood Workbook

https://www.amazon.com/Partnerhood-Workbook-resources-knowledge-successful/dp/B08QBPSBDF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1AY59OIIKH9TG&keywords=The+partnerhood+workbook&qid=1662222198&sprefix=the+partnerhood+workbook%2Caps%2C156&sr=8-1



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11510527 Wed, 19 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2441 1 17 full false Ep 16: Reclaiming Power: Strategies to Release Shame and Heal from Narcissistic Relationships Ep 16: Reclaiming Power: Strategies to Release Shame and Heal from Narcissistic Relationships Shame is the bread and butter of a narcissistic and abusive partner.  It prevents you from leaving the relationship by decreasing your self-worth and maintaining the secrecy of the abuse.

Our lizard brains are constantly looking out for signs of danger vs safety and will have us behave in ways to maintain as much safety in any given situation, even if it doesn’t feel congruent with your value system.  As a way to manage the state of cognitive dissonance, your brain may also focus on the positive times with your partner rather than the abuse.  So, the behaviors we do make sense in the situation and may not feel positive to you now that you are out or as you are evaluating your role in the relationship.

In this episode, you will learn ways to start to decrease the shame you hold that is stalling your healing process.  

  • Stop comparing your current self that understands how abusive relationships work with the before you
  • Start challenging your shameful thoughts 
  • Reframe the behaviors that feel shameful as survival strategies
  • Sharing your shame stories with safe people


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]]> Shame is the bread and butter of a narcissistic and abusive partner.  It prevents you from leaving the relationship by decreasing your self-worth and maintaining the secrecy of the abuse.

Our lizard brains are constantly looking out for signs of danger vs safety and will have us behave in ways to maintain as much safety in any given situation, even if it doesn’t feel congruent with your value system.  As a way to manage the state of cognitive dissonance, your brain may also focus on the positive times with your partner rather than the abuse.  So, the behaviors we do make sense in the situation and may not feel positive to you now that you are out or as you are evaluating your role in the relationship.

In this episode, you will learn ways to start to decrease the shame you hold that is stalling your healing process.  

  • Stop comparing your current self that understands how abusive relationships work with the before you
  • Start challenging your shameful thoughts 
  • Reframe the behaviors that feel shameful as survival strategies
  • Sharing your shame stories with safe people


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]]> Buzzsprout-11459662 Wed, 12 Oct 2022 08:00:00 -0600 1204 1 16 full false Ep 15: A Discussion of Spiritual Abuse | Guest Danielle Patterson Ep 15: A Discussion of Spiritual Abuse | Guest Danielle Patterson One of the least talked about forms of abuse is spiritual abuse.  Spiritual abuse is when one person attempts to exert power and control over another person using religion, faith , or beliefs and can be an element of domestic violence, child abuse or elder abuse.  

Danielle and I discuss the systemic nature of spiritual abuse and how it continues within different organizations and allows abusive people a place to hide.  Danielle shares her experiences of spiritual abuse and some steps you can take to become aware if you are experiencing spiritual abuse and how to get out of an abusive situation.

Danielle Patterson is the clinical director of The Patterson Center for Resiliency located in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She holds a Masters of Social Work and is passionate about helping youth and adults overcome trauma. Danielle was previously a youth pastor although has since left the church and helps individuals recognize and overcome spiritual abuse.

You can find Danielle at
www.thepattersoncenter.org

More information about spiritual abuse: https://theallendercenter.org/category/podcast/spiritual-abuse/

BOOK - Let the Children Come: Preparing Faith Communities to End Child Abuse and Neglect by Jeanette Harder:  https://www.amazon.com/Let-Children-Come-Preparing-Communities/dp/0836195183/ref=sr_1_4?crid=3SEMCI41CL8GG&keywords=let+the+children+come+book&qid=1661203239&sprefix=let+the+children+come+boo%2Caps%2C307&sr=8-4

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]]> One of the least talked about forms of abuse is spiritual abuse.  Spiritual abuse is when one person attempts to exert power and control over another person using religion, faith , or beliefs and can be an element of domestic violence, child abuse or elder abuse.  

Danielle and I discuss the systemic nature of spiritual abuse and how it continues within different organizations and allows abusive people a place to hide.  Danielle shares her experiences of spiritual abuse and some steps you can take to become aware if you are experiencing spiritual abuse and how to get out of an abusive situation.

Danielle Patterson is the clinical director of The Patterson Center for Resiliency located in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She holds a Masters of Social Work and is passionate about helping youth and adults overcome trauma. Danielle was previously a youth pastor although has since left the church and helps individuals recognize and overcome spiritual abuse.

You can find Danielle at
www.thepattersoncenter.org

More information about spiritual abuse: https://theallendercenter.org/category/podcast/spiritual-abuse/

BOOK - Let the Children Come: Preparing Faith Communities to End Child Abuse and Neglect by Jeanette Harder:  https://www.amazon.com/Let-Children-Come-Preparing-Communities/dp/0836195183/ref=sr_1_4?crid=3SEMCI41CL8GG&keywords=let+the+children+come+book&qid=1661203239&sprefix=let+the+children+come+boo%2Caps%2C307&sr=8-4

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11387424 Wed, 05 Oct 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2300 1 15 full false Ep 14: Couples Therapy is Not the Answer When There is Narcissistic Abuse Ep 14: Couples Therapy is Not the Answer When There is Narcissistic Abuse Something needs to change in your relationship because you can’t go on living like this.  So, you decide to try couples therapy. Unfortunately, this may be the worst thing that you could do if you are experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  

In this episode, you will learn why couples therapy is contraindicated if you are in an abusive relationship.  

  • The lack of training around domestic violence and narcissistic abuse in the mental health community
  • How couples therapy will be used as an arena for further abuse
  • How accountability will be shifted from your abusive partner to you
  • The ways a couples therapist will be distracted from the power and control dynamics of the relationship

And if you do decide to try couples therapy with your partner, you will get some tips to do this more safely.

Show Links:

Big Little Lies
https://www.hbo.com/big-little-lies



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]]> Something needs to change in your relationship because you can’t go on living like this.  So, you decide to try couples therapy. Unfortunately, this may be the worst thing that you could do if you are experiencing domestic violence or narcissistic abuse.  

In this episode, you will learn why couples therapy is contraindicated if you are in an abusive relationship.  

  • The lack of training around domestic violence and narcissistic abuse in the mental health community
  • How couples therapy will be used as an arena for further abuse
  • How accountability will be shifted from your abusive partner to you
  • The ways a couples therapist will be distracted from the power and control dynamics of the relationship

And if you do decide to try couples therapy with your partner, you will get some tips to do this more safely.

Show Links:

Big Little Lies
https://www.hbo.com/big-little-lies



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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11370155 Wed, 28 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1310 1 14 full false Ep 13: Are You Fawning to Stay Safe from Your Abuser: The 4th trauma response Ep 13: Are You Fawning to Stay Safe from Your Abuser: The 4th trauma response Would you call yourself a people pleaser? This fourth trauma response, fawning, is extremely common for victims and survivors of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse as a way to stay safer in these relationships.

This trauma response is when you abandon your own needs and sense of self to avoid conflict, criticism, and abuse; over time, you lose your sense of self altogether.

Where does is response come from?

  • Relational abuse that happens over time rather than single event trauma
  • Experiences in our family of origin
  • Our personality traits
  • Messages from our culture

You can reverse this type of trauma response by:

  • Becoming mindful of your patterns of behaviors 
  • Validating your experiences and emotions
  • Finding your sense of self and your identity
  • Building a safe inner circle of support

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, Peter walker 

https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Pete-Walker-audiobook/dp/B07MK5F3KQ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CKU77RWXTAIL&keywords=complex+ptsd+from+surviving+to+thriving&qid=1661195925&sprefix=complex%2Caps%2C179&sr=8-1

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]]> Would you call yourself a people pleaser? This fourth trauma response, fawning, is extremely common for victims and survivors of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse as a way to stay safer in these relationships.

This trauma response is when you abandon your own needs and sense of self to avoid conflict, criticism, and abuse; over time, you lose your sense of self altogether.

Where does is response come from?

  • Relational abuse that happens over time rather than single event trauma
  • Experiences in our family of origin
  • Our personality traits
  • Messages from our culture

You can reverse this type of trauma response by:

  • Becoming mindful of your patterns of behaviors 
  • Validating your experiences and emotions
  • Finding your sense of self and your identity
  • Building a safe inner circle of support

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, Peter walker 

https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Pete-Walker-audiobook/dp/B07MK5F3KQ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CKU77RWXTAIL&keywords=complex+ptsd+from+surviving+to+thriving&qid=1661195925&sprefix=complex%2Caps%2C179&sr=8-1

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11353327 Wed, 21 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1176 1 13 full false Ep 12: Healing From the Scam Cathy Wilson Ep 12: Healing From the Scam Cathy Wilson Why does it hurt so much when you are healing from domestic violence and narcissistic abuse?  

Because you are grieving a relationship and a person that was not real.  It was all a scam!  And that is extremely hurtful and there is a lot of shame that goes along with it.

In this episode, we are talking with Cathy Wilson, LPC about how abusive relationships and common scams and healing from them is so similar.  We discuss how the effects and consequences of them is similar, how people in our lives react to the situations are similar, and the similarities of the healing process.

Cathy shares the first steps she uses to support people recovering from being scammed, which can also be used as the first steps to healing from relationship abuse.

Find More About Cathy:
Life Paths Counseling
Scam Survivor Healing Website 
You can also find her new series of videos for scam survivors on YouTube HERE 

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]]> Why does it hurt so much when you are healing from domestic violence and narcissistic abuse?  

Because you are grieving a relationship and a person that was not real.  It was all a scam!  And that is extremely hurtful and there is a lot of shame that goes along with it.

In this episode, we are talking with Cathy Wilson, LPC about how abusive relationships and common scams and healing from them is so similar.  We discuss how the effects and consequences of them is similar, how people in our lives react to the situations are similar, and the similarities of the healing process.

Cathy shares the first steps she uses to support people recovering from being scammed, which can also be used as the first steps to healing from relationship abuse.

Find More About Cathy:
Life Paths Counseling
Scam Survivor Healing Website 
You can also find her new series of videos for scam survivors on YouTube HERE 

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11296242 Wed, 14 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2200 1 12 full false Ep 11: Your Nervous System is Shot: Strategies to Move Out of Fight, Flight, and Freeze Ep 11: Your Nervous System is Shot: Strategies to Move Out of Fight, Flight, and Freeze Are you always on edge?  Constantly looking over your shoulder?

Abusive relationships condition our brains to always be on the lookout for danger, keeping our cortisol levels high and exhausting our nervous systems.

In this episode, we will look at the basics of our nervous system and how it has been affected by domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  Using polyvagal theory, you will learn ways to move out of the fight, flight, and freeze states and into a more safe, secure, and connected state of being.

Check out these links for a deeper understanding of your nervous system and the polyvagal theory.

https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/safeandsound.html
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108032
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ec3AUMDjtKQ





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]]> Are you always on edge?  Constantly looking over your shoulder?

Abusive relationships condition our brains to always be on the lookout for danger, keeping our cortisol levels high and exhausting our nervous systems.

In this episode, we will look at the basics of our nervous system and how it has been affected by domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.  Using polyvagal theory, you will learn ways to move out of the fight, flight, and freeze states and into a more safe, secure, and connected state of being.

Check out these links for a deeper understanding of your nervous system and the polyvagal theory.

https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/safeandsound.html
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108032
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ec3AUMDjtKQ





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]]> Buzzsprout-11272280 Wed, 07 Sep 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1349 1 11 full false Ep 10: Communicating with Your Narcissistic Ex Ep 10: Communicating with Your Narcissistic Ex Do you still have to have communication with your narcissistic ex?  

It’s likely that if you have children with your abusive ex, you will have to have some form of communication with them until your youngest child is 18 years old or even longer.  And if you are dealing with litigation as a form of post-separation abuse, it is really important that you figure out how best to communicate with your ex so that custody and decision making decisions are not negatively affected.

Tips to communicate with your narcissistic ex:

  • Slow…Things…Down
  • Stay On Topic
  • Use BIFF
  • Use the Speckled Rock Technique rather than gray rock
  • Write as if your Judge is CC'd 
  • Maintain Realistic Expectations
  • Ditch the Empathy

Other Helpful Resources:
https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/biff-responses
https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

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]]> Do you still have to have communication with your narcissistic ex?  

It’s likely that if you have children with your abusive ex, you will have to have some form of communication with them until your youngest child is 18 years old or even longer.  And if you are dealing with litigation as a form of post-separation abuse, it is really important that you figure out how best to communicate with your ex so that custody and decision making decisions are not negatively affected.

Tips to communicate with your narcissistic ex:

  • Slow…Things…Down
  • Stay On Topic
  • Use BIFF
  • Use the Speckled Rock Technique rather than gray rock
  • Write as if your Judge is CC'd 
  • Maintain Realistic Expectations
  • Ditch the Empathy

Other Helpful Resources:
https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/biff-responses
https://www.onemomsbattle.com/

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11223920 Wed, 31 Aug 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1482 1 10 full false Ep 9: No, It Wasn't Your Fault with Alana Sharps Ep 9: No, It Wasn't Your Fault with Alana Sharps In this episode, Alana shares her story of living in narcissistic abuse including the post-separation abuse she is still experiencing today through legal and financial abuse.  We discuss things she would have done differently if she knew what she knows now, including leaving earlier, sharing her experiences with others, not going to couples counseling with her abuser, finding a therapist with specific experience with narcissism, and the playbook of a narcissist in family court.

And, even if you have felt crazy in your relationship and believe the abuse is your fault, you can learn from her mistakes and experience and know that it wasn’t your fault.

You can find Alana and her resources at:





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]]> In this episode, Alana shares her story of living in narcissistic abuse including the post-separation abuse she is still experiencing today through legal and financial abuse.  We discuss things she would have done differently if she knew what she knows now, including leaving earlier, sharing her experiences with others, not going to couples counseling with her abuser, finding a therapist with specific experience with narcissism, and the playbook of a narcissist in family court.

And, even if you have felt crazy in your relationship and believe the abuse is your fault, you can learn from her mistakes and experience and know that it wasn’t your fault.

You can find Alana and her resources at:





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11169012 Wed, 24 Aug 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2171 1 9 full false Ep 8: To Forgive or Not to Forgive: Is forgiveness required for healing from abuse? Ep 8: To Forgive or Not to Forgive: Is forgiveness required for healing from abuse? Do you feel this extreme pressure to forgive your ex?  

Do you have people tell you that once you forgive them you will finally be able to heal?

How do you forgive someone who continues to abuse you every day and blames you for it?

What if I told you that it is not clinically required to forgive your abusive ex to fully heal?  But that it is required to forgive yourself to fully heal.

In this episode, we break down the three different types of forgiveness: exoneration, forbearance, and release.  We look at which type of forgiveness is best suited for different situations and how you can offer forgiveness to yourself.  Self-forgiveness is necessary to reduce the shame that is negatively impacting your life.


Show Links:
https://dreditheger.com/
http://healmyshame.com/





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]]> Do you feel this extreme pressure to forgive your ex?  

Do you have people tell you that once you forgive them you will finally be able to heal?

How do you forgive someone who continues to abuse you every day and blames you for it?

What if I told you that it is not clinically required to forgive your abusive ex to fully heal?  But that it is required to forgive yourself to fully heal.

In this episode, we break down the three different types of forgiveness: exoneration, forbearance, and release.  We look at which type of forgiveness is best suited for different situations and how you can offer forgiveness to yourself.  Self-forgiveness is necessary to reduce the shame that is negatively impacting your life.


Show Links:
https://dreditheger.com/
http://healmyshame.com/





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11127740 Wed, 17 Aug 2022 06:00:00 -0600 1609 1 8 full false Ep 7: Intentionally Fearless with Caroline Hammond Ep 7: Intentionally Fearless with Caroline Hammond Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence in all the ugly tentacles of emotional, sexual, financial, and physical levels of abuse. 

Strong language could be used

Have you shared your story of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse with someone (or many people) and they look at you with disbelief?

Or maybe they say something harmful or ask a harmful question because they believe the myths and misconceptions that are rampant about victims of relationship abuse.

Caroline shares her story of surviving an extremely abusive relationship with things that seem unbelievable and what happens when you are finally believed.  She shares what it takes to heal and to be intentionally fearless as you start to rediscover who you are and deal with the trauma you have experienced.

Contact Caroline at:
MoveMomentsToHealing.com and receive your FREE PDF for how to jumpstart your own healing! 

You can connect with Caroline at: CarolineMarkelHammond.com

You can reach services for people navigating the sadness, worry, lies, screaming, fear and pain of toxic relationships at: SafeInHarmsWay.org

 If your workplace needs assistance in helping employees navigate abuse at home, Epizon Strategy Solutions can help. Contact Caroline for a FREE consultation at: EpizonStrategy.com





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]]> Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence in all the ugly tentacles of emotional, sexual, financial, and physical levels of abuse. 

Strong language could be used

Have you shared your story of domestic violence or narcissistic abuse with someone (or many people) and they look at you with disbelief?

Or maybe they say something harmful or ask a harmful question because they believe the myths and misconceptions that are rampant about victims of relationship abuse.

Caroline shares her story of surviving an extremely abusive relationship with things that seem unbelievable and what happens when you are finally believed.  She shares what it takes to heal and to be intentionally fearless as you start to rediscover who you are and deal with the trauma you have experienced.

Contact Caroline at:
MoveMomentsToHealing.com and receive your FREE PDF for how to jumpstart your own healing! 

You can connect with Caroline at: CarolineMarkelHammond.com

You can reach services for people navigating the sadness, worry, lies, screaming, fear and pain of toxic relationships at: SafeInHarmsWay.org

 If your workplace needs assistance in helping employees navigate abuse at home, Epizon Strategy Solutions can help. Contact Caroline for a FREE consultation at: EpizonStrategy.com





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11096116 Wed, 10 Aug 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2674 1 7 full false Ep 6: The Safety Of the Disneyland Dad During Post Separation Abuse Ep 6: The Safety Of the Disneyland Dad During Post Separation Abuse If you fear for your child’s safety when they are at parenting time visits with your narcissistic ex, you are not alone.

You may also feel the frustration of your child coming home with expensive gifts or going on expensive trips, hearing how much fun their other parent is when you are having to manage all the day to day tough parts of parenting.

Even though this is a tough situation, what if I told you that your children are safer if their other parent is a “Disneyland dad?”

If you have to send your child to visit with their other parent who has been abusive, having them take on the “Disneyland dad” role will actually keep them safer based on the needs and desires of a narcissist.  Listen to the discussion to learn why this is safer and ways that you can stomach this horrible dynamic in order to keep your children as safe as you can given the situation.





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]]> If you fear for your child’s safety when they are at parenting time visits with your narcissistic ex, you are not alone.

You may also feel the frustration of your child coming home with expensive gifts or going on expensive trips, hearing how much fun their other parent is when you are having to manage all the day to day tough parts of parenting.

Even though this is a tough situation, what if I told you that your children are safer if their other parent is a “Disneyland dad?”

If you have to send your child to visit with their other parent who has been abusive, having them take on the “Disneyland dad” role will actually keep them safer based on the needs and desires of a narcissist.  Listen to the discussion to learn why this is safer and ways that you can stomach this horrible dynamic in order to keep your children as safe as you can given the situation.





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11062210 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 06:00:00 -0600 841 1 6 full false Ep 5: Finding Yourself After Relationship Abuse Ep 5: Finding Yourself After Relationship Abuse How do you find yourself in the aftermath of abuse?

The systematic process of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse strips away your identity and sense of self.  The decisions you make while in your abusive relationship and often when you are dealing with post-separation abuse are based on your safety and the safety of your children.  You are conditioned to silence your needs and wants.

How can you get your sense of self back?

Listen to this episode to learn the first steps on how to regain your identity and sense of self.

LINKS
Russ Harris The Happiness Trap https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841





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]]> How do you find yourself in the aftermath of abuse?

The systematic process of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse strips away your identity and sense of self.  The decisions you make while in your abusive relationship and often when you are dealing with post-separation abuse are based on your safety and the safety of your children.  You are conditioned to silence your needs and wants.

How can you get your sense of self back?

Listen to this episode to learn the first steps on how to regain your identity and sense of self.

LINKS
Russ Harris The Happiness Trap https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Start-Living/dp/1590305841





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-11024836 Wed, 27 Jul 2022 06:00:00 -0600 998 1 5 full false Ep 4: Tackling Mom Guilt with Brooke Jean Ep 4: Tackling Mom Guilt with Brooke Jean In this episode, we are tackling mom guilt.  Mom guilt can be exacerbated when you have been criticized over and over again about your parenting by your partner, when you look at the effects of your children witnessing abuse in the home, or even more so if you are in the throes of family court with your narcissistic ex.

Brooke shares how we were set up since birth to focus on the “shoulds” and what it means to be a “good girl through conditioning".  How we have a moving target of what it means to be a perfect mom that has real consequences in our lives from substance abuse concerns, isolation, and a loss of our sense of self.  Remember that where you are at is an okay place to be.

Some of the ways Brooke shares to help rediscover who you are and decrease your mom guilt:

  • Noticing what feels good in your body or what allows you to feel like yourself even for just a moment 
  • Remembering what you loved as a younger version of yourself
  • Follow what feels good
  • Give yourself permission to follow what feels good 
  • Follow and acknowledge even small moments when you feel safe
  • Replacing one thing you dislike doing with one thing you enjoy, even for 10 min.
  • Permission to normalize normal.
  • Instead of following the moving target of being a perfect mom, remember that you are exactly who you need to be for your children.

Find more from Brooke by going to:
www.liveunperfected.com
https://brookejean.thinkific.com/courses/3-tips-to-tackle-mom-guilt

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]]> In this episode, we are tackling mom guilt.  Mom guilt can be exacerbated when you have been criticized over and over again about your parenting by your partner, when you look at the effects of your children witnessing abuse in the home, or even more so if you are in the throes of family court with your narcissistic ex.

Brooke shares how we were set up since birth to focus on the “shoulds” and what it means to be a “good girl through conditioning".  How we have a moving target of what it means to be a perfect mom that has real consequences in our lives from substance abuse concerns, isolation, and a loss of our sense of self.  Remember that where you are at is an okay place to be.

Some of the ways Brooke shares to help rediscover who you are and decrease your mom guilt:

  • Noticing what feels good in your body or what allows you to feel like yourself even for just a moment 
  • Remembering what you loved as a younger version of yourself
  • Follow what feels good
  • Give yourself permission to follow what feels good 
  • Follow and acknowledge even small moments when you feel safe
  • Replacing one thing you dislike doing with one thing you enjoy, even for 10 min.
  • Permission to normalize normal.
  • Instead of following the moving target of being a perfect mom, remember that you are exactly who you need to be for your children.

Find more from Brooke by going to:
www.liveunperfected.com
https://brookejean.thinkific.com/courses/3-tips-to-tackle-mom-guilt

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-10989227 Wed, 20 Jul 2022 06:00:00 -0600 2183 1 4 full true Ep 3: Changing Your Mindset On Anger Ep 3: Changing Your Mindset On Anger There are reasons why anger makes survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse uncomfortable unless it is anger directed inwards towards themselves.  Anger has not been a safe emotion in your relationship and so you have been conditioned to keep it in and forget about it.

While it may be uncomfortable for survivors, from a clinical perspective it is a barometer of change and a measurement of an increase in a survivor's self-worth.  Listen to this episode if you need a reframe of the anger that you are experiencing and would like some ways to use this anger in a productive way.

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]]> There are reasons why anger makes survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse uncomfortable unless it is anger directed inwards towards themselves.  Anger has not been a safe emotion in your relationship and so you have been conditioned to keep it in and forget about it.

While it may be uncomfortable for survivors, from a clinical perspective it is a barometer of change and a measurement of an increase in a survivor's self-worth.  Listen to this episode if you need a reframe of the anger that you are experiencing and would like some ways to use this anger in a productive way.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-10949994 Wed, 13 Jul 2022 13:00:00 -0600 828 1 3 full false Ep 2: Healing from Pathological Love Relationships with Chelli Pumphrey Ep 2: Healing from Pathological Love Relationships with Chelli Pumphrey Have you ever thought, “I would never allow someone to treat me that way,” and yet you stay?  Or maybe “I’m well educated and confident.  How did I get sucked into such a toxic relationship?”

Chelli shares her clinical knowledge as well as the knowledge she has gained from experiences in pathological love relationships to explain the answer to these questions above.  Chelli shares the importance of listening to our internal red flags in order to protect ourselves from abusive relationships.  She shares different things that are important for us to know about ourselves including symptoms of trauma, attachment styles, cognitive dissonance and personality traits to give us the insight to make decisions about the safety of our relationships.

You can find Chelli at:
https://www.chellipumphrey.com
https://www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy
https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey/

Chelli's book:
https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/





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]]> Have you ever thought, “I would never allow someone to treat me that way,” and yet you stay?  Or maybe “I’m well educated and confident.  How did I get sucked into such a toxic relationship?”

Chelli shares her clinical knowledge as well as the knowledge she has gained from experiences in pathological love relationships to explain the answer to these questions above.  Chelli shares the importance of listening to our internal red flags in order to protect ourselves from abusive relationships.  She shares different things that are important for us to know about ourselves including symptoms of trauma, attachment styles, cognitive dissonance and personality traits to give us the insight to make decisions about the safety of our relationships.

You can find Chelli at:
https://www.chellipumphrey.com
https://www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy
https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey
https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey/

Chelli's book:
https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/





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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-10949955 Wed, 13 Jul 2022 11:00:00 -0600 2398 1 2 full false Ep 1: Understanding A Narcissist Ep 1: Understanding A Narcissist Have you ever spent hours trying to research and understand why your partner did what they did to you only to feel more confused afterward?  Being in a relationship with an abusive and narcissistic partner can leave you feeling crazy and full of self-doubt.

It is not necessary for you to have a full understanding of why your partner has hurt you the way that they have in order to fully heal.  It is important to understand what you have experienced, how you became a target, the systematic way in which you became stuck in the relationship, and who your true support system is in order to heal.

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]]> Have you ever spent hours trying to research and understand why your partner did what they did to you only to feel more confused afterward?  Being in a relationship with an abusive and narcissistic partner can leave you feeling crazy and full of self-doubt.

It is not necessary for you to have a full understanding of why your partner has hurt you the way that they have in order to fully heal.  It is important to understand what you have experienced, how you became a target, the systematic way in which you became stuck in the relationship, and who your true support system is in order to heal.

Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.

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]]> Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS Buzzsprout-10929188 Fri, 08 Jul 2022 16:00:00 -0600 1025 1 1 full false