And in the middle of our conversation, he stopped and asked me:

“LaKisa… do you know your number?”

I paused. Because I thought I did.

 I thought I had a general idea.
 I thought I had a ballpark.

But he wasn’t asking for a ballpark.
 He wasn’t asking for a vibe.
 He wasn’t asking for a feeling.

He was asking for a number — a specific, intentional, measurable number tied to my goals, my lifestyle, my business, and my legacy.

And that question shifted something in me.

Because if you don’t know your number…
You don’t know what you’re working toward.
Your number is:

• The amount you need to hit your financial goals
• The amount required to live the life you desire
• The amount tied to your long-term vision
• The amount that makes your sacrifices make sense
• The amount that keeps you focused and intentional

Your number might be:

• A monthly income goal
• A yearly revenue target
• A savings milestone
• A debt payoff amount
• A retirement number
• A freedom number
• A legacy number

Your number is the why behind your daily actions.

 Now let’s talk about why this matters so deeply for Marriagepreneurs.

Because when you’re building a business and a marriage, clarity is not optional — it’s essential.

Knowing your number:

• Reduces conflict
• Creates alignment
• Strengthens communication
• Builds trust
• Keeps both partners focused
• Eliminates confusion
• Helps you make decisions faster

When both spouses know the number, you’re not just working — you’re working together.

You’re not just hustling — you’re building.
You need to know your number individually AND collectively.

Because two people do not count as one just because you’re married.

How to actually figure out your number — because this is where the clarity comes in.

1. Start With Your Vision  - What do you want your life to look like?
Vision determines the number.

2. Calculate Your Lifestyle Costs  -  Not survival — lifestyle.
The life you desire.  The life you’re building toward.

3. Add Your Financial Goals - Savings.  Investments.  Debt payoff.  Retirement.
Generational wealth.

4. Add Your Business Goals - Revenue.  Profit.  Growth.  Team.  Systems.

5. Add Your Legacy Goals - Giving. Impact. Inheritance. Community work.
 Family support.

When you add all of this together — you get your number.

When you know your number, you become intentional.

When you know your number, you become intentional.

 So as you move through this week, I want you to ask yourself:

“Do I know my number?”
“Does my spouse know theirs?”
“Do we know our number together?”

A power struggle happens when:

• You’re both trying to be heard
• You’re both trying to protect yourselves
• You’re both trying to avoid vulnerability
• You’re both trying to win instead of connect

It’s not that you’re incompatible.
 It’s that you’re both fighting from a place of self-protection instead of partnership.

And here’s the truth:
 Power struggles are normal — but they’re not sustainable.

If you don’t address them, they become patterns.
 And patterns become walls.
 And walls become distance.

But the good news is:
 Every power struggle is an invitation to grow.

Power Struggles happen because understanding the “why” helps you change the “how.”

1. Competing Needs
2. Unspoken Expectations
3. Past Wounds
4. Fear of Losing Control
5. Misaligned Communication Styles

Healing is possible when both people are willing to shift.

1. Shift From Winning to Understanding
2. Practice Soft Starts
3. Name the Need Beneath the Emotion
4. Take Breaks Without Abandoning the Conversation
5. Create Shared Language
6. Pray Together Before you Problem-Solve 

7. Rebuild Safety

When you move beyond power struggles, you rediscover each other.

Wealth is not just money, its structure.
 Wealth is unity.  Wealth is vision.
 Wealth is communication.  Wealth is systems.  Wealth is partnership.

And this is one of the reasons I created the Make Money Marriage 5‑Day Challenge. Because couples want wealth, but they don’t always know how to build the foundation that wealth requires.

 Let’s start with the truth:
 You cannot build wealth on confusion.
 You cannot build wealth on chaos.
 You cannot build wealth on misalignment.

Wealth requires unity.
Wealth requires clarity.
Wealth requires agreement.

Day 1 of the Make Money Marriage Challenge is all about Having a Shared Vision.

Because if you and your spouse are not building the same thing, in the same direction, with the same intention — you’re not building wealth. You’re building tension.

A shared vision answers questions like:

• What are we building?
• Why are we building it?
• What does success look like for us?
• What does legacy mean in our home?

When you have a shared vision, you stop pulling against each other and start pulling with each other.  That’s building well.

 Day 2: Strength Inventory of Roles & Expectations.

Listen — wealth requires clarity.
 And clarity requires knowing who does what, who carries what, and who is gifted for what.

A lot of couples are frustrated not because they’re incompatible, but because they’re unclear.

This is not about gender roles. This is about gift roles.

When you build according to your strengths, you build faster, smoother, and with less friction.

 Day 3: Setting Up Home and Business Systems.

Systems are the secret sauce of wealth.

Wealthy people don’t just work harder, they work smarter.
 They automate.  They delegate.
 Systems create: 

When your home has systems, you eliminate unnecessary stress.
 When your business has systems, you eliminate unnecessary chaos.

Systems help you:

A system is simply a repeatable process that makes life easier.

And when life is easier, building wealth becomes easier.

Day 4: Putting Your Plans in Place.

A plan is a strategy. It's a roadmap.
 A plan is a commitment.

You cannot build wealth without a plan.

A plan answers questions:

Couples who plan together build together.
Couples who build together grow together.
Couples who grow together prosper together.

Day 5: Building Your Foundation.

Your foundation is everything.

You cannot build wealth on:

Your foundation includes:

A strong foundation makes wealth sustainable.
A weak foundation makes wealth stressful.

When your foundation is strong, you can build anything — a business, a brand, a legacy, a movement.

Effective Communication.

Communication is not just talking, its understanding.
 Communication is clarity and connection.

You cannot build wealth with someone you cannot communicate with.

Effective communication helps you:

Communication is the glue that holds the vision, the roles, the systems, the plans, and the foundation together.

Without communication, everything falls apart.

With communication, everything comes together.

Three words that sound simple… but when you understand them, align with them, and live them out, they transform everything — your marriage, your mindset, your money, and your mission.

Let’s get into it.

Purpose is the assignment God placed inside you long before you ever met your spouse.  Purpose answers the question:
 “Why am I here, and what am I called to build?” Purpose is alignment with God’s plan for your life.

1. Purpose in You
Before you can walk in purpose as a couple, you must understand your individual calling.  Your gifts, strengths and your spiritual assignment.

2. Purpose in Your Marriage
When two purpose-driven people come together, the marriage becomes a ministry.  Your union becomes a tool God uses to impact others.

3. Purpose in Your Work
Your business, your career, your creative work — these are vehicles for purpose, not the purpose itself.

Reflection moment:
 Ask yourself, “What has God placed in me that the world needs?”

Purpose is the starting point for everything else.

The Bible says, “Two are better than one.”
 Not because two is cute — but because two is powerful.

1. Partnership in Communication
Partnership requires honest, consistent, grace-filled communication.
 

2. Partnership in Vision
You don’t have to have the same dream, but you must have the same direction.
 Your visions should complement each other, not compete.

3. Partnership in Roles
Partnership is not 50/50 — it’s 100/100.
Each person brings their strengths, their gifts, their capacity.

4. Partnership in Spiritual Alignment
Praying together.  Seeking God together.  Making decisions together.

5. Partnership in Support
A true partner doesn’t just cheer for you — they build with you.
 They cover you.  They challenge you.  They grow with you.

Reflection moment:
 Ask yourself, “How can we strengthen our partnership this season?”

Prosperity is the fruit of purpose and partnership working together.

1. Prosperity in Mindset
You cannot prosper with a scarcity mindset.

2. Prosperity in Marriage
A prosperous marriage is one where love flows, communication is healthy, and unity is protected.

3. Prosperity in Finances
Stewardship.  Budgeting.  Investing.  Building assets.  Making decisions that support long-term legacy.

4. Prosperity in Purpose
When you walk in purpose, doors open.  Resources appear.  Opportunities align.

5. Prosperity in Peace
Peace is prosperity.  Rest is prosperity.  Joy is prosperity.

Prosperity is not just what you have — it’s who you become.

You were created with intention.
 Your marriage was designed with purpose.
 Your legacy is waiting to be built.

And the question we’re exploring today is simple but powerful:

“What does all of this mean for YOU — and why should it push you to start your own business, even if it’s on the side?”

 Let’s start with the truth:
 The workplace is not what it used to be.

Government shutdowns have become more frequent.
 Federal employees — people who once felt secure — are now facing furloughs, delayed paychecks, and uncertainty.

Private companies are restructuring.
 Entire DEI departments — once celebrated — are being downsized or eliminated.
 Roles that were “essential” two years ago are suddenly “no longer needed.”

And here’s the part we don’t talk about enough:

Loyalty doesn’t guarantee security anymore.

You can give a company 10 years…
 20 years…
 Your best ideas…
 Your best energy…
 Your best effort…

And still find yourself on the wrong side of a budget cut.

This is not fear-based talk.
 This is reality-based awareness.

And awareness is what leads to empowerment.

 So what does all of this mean for you — the entrepreneur, the spouse, the parent, the dreamer, the builder?

It means you cannot afford to rely on one stream of income.
 You cannot afford to let one company determine your livelihood.
 You cannot afford to let one paycheck dictate your peace.

It means you need options.
 You need ownership.
 You need something that belongs to you.

Because here’s the truth:

When the government shuts down — your business doesn’t have to.
 When DEI gets downsized — your purpose doesn’t.
 When companies restructure — your gifts remain intact.

You are the most secure investment you will ever make.

Starting a business, even a small one, even a side one, is not just smart — it’s strategic.

1. It Gives You Financial Cushion
A side business can cover:  Groceries, Gas, Childcare, Savings, Debt payoff, Emergency funds

One stream pays the bills.  The other stream builds the future.

2. It Gives You Control
You decide your hours.  You decide your rates.
 You decide your clients.  You decide your growth.

No shutdown.  No budget cut.  No restructuring can take that from you.

3. It Activates Your Gifts
Your job uses your skills.  Your business uses your purpose.

4. It Builds Legacy
A job pays you. A business outlives you.

5. It Creates Options
Options create peace.  Options create confidence.  Options create freedom.

Even if you love your job, having something on the side gives you leverage.

From a Marriagepreneur lens,  because when you and your spouse build together, everything shifts.

1. Two Streams Become Four
Your job.  Their job. Your business. Their business. Or a shared business.

That’s stability, strategy, and legacy.

2. You Become Less Vulnerable to External Forces
If one spouse’s job is affected by a shutdown or restructuring, the other streams keep the household stable.

3. You Build Confidence Together
There is nothing like building something with your spouse, something that belongs to your family, not a corporation.

4. You Model Ownership for Your Children. That’s generational impact.

Here’s the real shift:

Stop thinking like an employee.  Start thinking like an owner.

Employees wait for instructions.  Owners create opportunities.

Employees rely on one stream.  Owners build multiple.

Employees hope for stability. Owners create it.

You don’t have to quit your job to think like an owner. You just have to stop giving all your power to a sy

Not — do you have a business.
Not — do you have a brand.
Not — do you have a product.

But do you have the mindset required to build, grow, and sustain something bigger than you?

Let’s get into it.

An entrepreneurial mindset is not about owning a business — it’s about how you think, how you respond, and how you approach life.

It’s a mindset rooted in:

• Possibility
• Creativity
• Resilience
• Ownership
• Faith
• Courage
• Vision

Entrepreneurs don’t just see what is — they see what could be.
They don’t wait for opportunities — they create them.
They don’t run from challenges — they learn from them.

And here’s the truth:
 You can have an entrepreneurial mindset even if you never start a business.
 Because the mindset is about leadership, stewardship, and legacy.

Let’s talk about the signs — because some of you have this mindset and don’t even realize it.

1. You See Solutions Where Others See Problems
You’re the person who says, “There has to be a better way.”

2. You’re Driven by Purpose, Not Pressure
You don’t just want to work — you want to make impact.

3. You Take Initiative
You don’t wait for permission.  You move when God nudges you.

4. You’re Comfortable With Growth
Growth requires discomfort — and you’re willing to stretch.

5. You Think Long-Term
You’re not just thinking about today.  You’re thinking about legacy.

6. You’re Resourceful
Entrepreneurs don’t always have everything — but they use what they have.

7. You Believe There’s More
More purpose.  More impact.  More alignment.  More legacy.

If any of these resonate, you already have the seeds of an entrepreneurial mindset.

Now let’s flip it — because awareness is growth.

Here are signs you may still be developing your entrepreneurial mindset:

1. You Fear Failure More Than You Desire Growth
Entrepreneurs understand failure is feedback.

2. You Need Constant Validation
Entrepreneurial thinking requires internal confidence, not external approval.

3. You Avoid Risk
Not reckless risk — but faith-led, strategic risk.

4. You Struggle With Discipline
Entrepreneurship requires consistency, not convenience.

5. You Think Small
If your dreams don’t stretch you, they won’t grow you.

6. You Wait for the “Perfect Time”
Spoiler: it doesn’t exist.

7. You See Obstacles as Stop Signs
Entrepreneurs see them as detours.

And listen — none of these are judgments.  They’re invitations.
Invitations to grow, stretch, and evolve.

Now let’s talk about how to cultivate this mindset — because it’s not just a gift, it’s a discipline.

1. Strengthen Your Faith
Entrepreneurship is spiritual.
You need God’s voice louder than your fear.

2. Build Your Confidence
Confidence comes from clarity, competence, and consistency.

3. Surround Yourself With Builders
Your environment shapes your mindset. Your village matters.

4. Learn to Think Strategically
Entrepreneurs don’t just dream — they plan.

5. Embrace Failure as Part of the Process
Every mistake is a lesson.  Every setback is a setup.

6. Practice Ownership
Your life.  Your choices.  Your habits.  Your results.

Entrepreneurs don’t blame — they build.

7. Stay Curious
Ask questions.  Study people.  Learn new skills.  Stay open.

Curiosity fuels innovation.

So as you move through this week, I want you to ask yourself:

“Do I have an entrepreneurial mindset — and if not, am I willing to develop one?”

Because your mindset determines your momentum.
 Your mindset determines your marriage.
 Your mindset determines your legac

Not — do you want to be married.
Not — do you love your spouse.
Not — do you enjoy companionship.

But do you have the mindset required to build, sustain, and thrive in marriage?

Let’s get into it.

 A marriage mindset is not about the wedding.
 It’s not about the aesthetics.
 It’s not about the Instagram moments.

A marriage mindset is a way of thinking, a way of loving, and a way of showing up that honors the covenant you’re in.

A marriage mindset says:

• “We are a team.”
• “We solve problems together.”
• “We communicate with intention.”
• “We protect our unity.”
• “We build legacy, not just memories.”

It’s a mindset rooted in commitment, communication, compassion, and collaboration.

A marriage mindset is not about perfection — it’s about partnership.

 Let’s talk about the signs — because some of you are walking in a marriage mindset and don’t even realize it.

1. You Think “We,” Not Just “Me”
Your decisions consider your spouse, your home, and your future.

2. You Prioritize Communication Over Comfort
You’re willing to have the hard conversations because connection matters more than convenience.

3. You Protect Your Unity
You don’t let outsiders, opinions, or distractions interfere with your partnership.

4. You Value Growth
You’re committed to becoming a better version of yourself — not just for you, but for your marriage.

5. You See Conflict as an Opportunity
Not a threat. Not a battle.
But a chance to understand each other more deeply.

6. You’re Legacy-Minded
You’re thinking about what you’re building, not just what you’re experiencing.If these resonate, you’re already cultivating a marriage mindset.

Now let’s flip it — because awareness is the first step to alignment.

Here are signs you may still be developing your marriage mindset:

1. You Prioritize Winning Over Understanding
If the goal is to be right instead of being connected, that’s not a marriage mindset.

2. You Operate Independently
Marriage requires interdependence — not isolation.

3. You Avoid Vulnerability
A marriage mindset requires openness, honesty, and emotional availability.

4. You Keep Score
Marriage is not a competition.
Scorekeeping destroys intimacy.

5. You Expect Your Spouse to Read Your Mind
Healthy marriages require clear communication, not assumptions.

6. You See Your Spouse as the Problem
A marriage mindset sees the problem as the problem — not the person.

And listen — none of this is about shame.
It’s about growth.  It’s about awareness.
It’s about becoming the partner you desire to be.

Now let’s talk about how to cultivate a marriage mindset — because it’s not automatic. It’s intentional.

1. Strengthen Your Spiritual Foundation
Marriage is spiritual.
You need God at the center — not ego, not fear, not pride.

2. Practice Emotional Intelligence
Learn to listen.
Learn to pause.
Learn to respond, not react.

3. Build Communication Skills
Healthy communication is the oxygen of marriage.

4. Prioritize Quality Time
Connection doesn’t happen by accident — it happens by intention.

5. Embrace Teamwork
You’re not opponents.
You’re partners.
You’re builders.
You’re legacy-makers.

6. Heal Individually
Unhealed wounds create unhealthy patterns.
Healing is a gift to your marriage.

7. Create Shared Vision
A marriage mindset thrives when both partners know what they’re building.

Here’s the beautiful truth:

A marriage mindset doesn’t just strengthen your relationship — it strengthens your purpose.

Because when your marriage is aligned:

• You communicate better
• You build better
• You dream bigger
• You love deeper
• Yo

This is a real tension.
A real struggle.
A real balancing act.

And if you’re not intentional, you can end up sacrificing the very thing God gave you to sustain you.

Let’s be honest — building a business takes time, energy, creativity, and sacrifice.
 And building a marriage takes time, energy, communication, and sacrifice.

So what happens when both require the same resources at the same time?

You feel stretched.
You feel torn.
You feel guilty.
You feel overwhelmed.

And if you’re not careful, you start to believe the lie that you have to choose one or the other.

But here’s the truth:
You don’t have to choose. You have to prioritize.

Your marriage is a covenant.
Your business is an assignment.
Both matter — but they matter differently.

The goal is not to sacrifice one for the other.
The goal is to learn how to honor both.

 Let’s talk about the first danger zone:
 When the business starts to overshadow the marriage.

This happens when:

• Every conversation becomes about work
• Your spouse feels like they’re competing with your laptop
• You’re physically present but emotionally unavailable
• You’re always “on” and never resting
• You’re building a brand but losing intimacy
• You’re chasing success but neglecting connection

Business can become a third partner in the marriage if you’re not intentional.

And here’s the thing — your spouse doesn’t need all your time.
They need your presence.
Your attention.
Your affection.
Your intentionality.

Reflection moment:
Ask yourself, “Have I been giving my business the version of me my spouse deserves?”

If the answer stings, that’s okay. Awareness is the first step to alignment.

Now let’s talk solutions — because balance is possible when you’re intentional.

1. Set Clear Boundaries
Create work hours.
Create rest hours.
Create “no business talk” zones.
Protect date nights like meetings with investors.

2. Communicate With Transparency
Share your goals.
Share your stress.
Share your wins.
Share your needs.

Your spouse can’t support what they don’t understand.

3. Build Rhythms, Not Rigid Rules
Every season looks different.
Some seasons require more business focus.
Some require more marriage focus.
Honor the season you’re in.

4. Involve Your Spouse in the Vision
Not necessarily in the business — but in the why.
When they understand the purpose, they support the process.

5. Protect Intimacy
Emotional.
Spiritual.
Physical.
Relational.

Intimacy is the glue that keeps the marriage strong while you build.

6. Rest Together
Rest is not a luxury — it’s a strategy.
A rested couple is a connected couple.
A connected couple is an unstoppable couple.

You don’t have to lose your marriage for your business.
You don’t have to lose your business for your marriage.

When purpose and partnership align, prosperity follows.

A strong marriage fuels a strong business.
A strong business supports a strong marriage.
A strong couple builds a strong legacy.

Remember this:

Your marriage is your ministry.
Your business is your assignment.
Your legacy is the result of how you steward both.

Don’t choose — align.
Don’t sacrifice — strategize.
Don’t lose one — honor both.

How do you actually thrive… and stay balanced while doing it?

Not just functioning.
 Not just surviving.
 But thriving — with intention, with joy, and with peace.

If you’ve been feeling stretched, overwhelmed, or pulled in multiple directions, this episode is going to meet you right where you are.

Thriving is not about doing everything.
Thriving is about doing the right things — in the right season — with the right posture.

Thriving is:

• Living aligned, not rushed
• Moving with purpose, not pressure
• Operating from overflow, not depletion
• Choosing peace over perfection
• Building a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside

Balance, on the other hand, is not about equal distribution.
 It’s about intentional prioritization.

Balance asks:
 “What matters most in this season?”
 “What needs my attention today?”
 “What can wait?”
 “What can be delegated?”
 “What can be released?”

When you understand that balance is fluid — not fixed — you stop chasing perfection and start embracing rhythm.

Thriving requires seasonal clarity.

Ask yourself:
 “What season am I in right now?”

Maybe it’s a season of:

• Building
• Resting
• Healing
• Learning
• Expanding
• Reconnecting
• Preparing
• Pruning

When you identify your season, you give yourself permission to focus.

Practical step:
 Write down your top three priorities for this season.
 Not ten.
 Not twelve.
 Three.

Everything else becomes supportive — not central.

This is how you protect your energy, your peace, and your purpose.

Boundaries are not walls.
 They are guardrails that keep you aligned with your purpose.

A few areas where boundaries matter most:

1. Time
Your calendar should reflect your calling — not everyone else’s expectations.

2. Energy
If it drains you consistently, it needs distance.

3. Relationships
Not everyone gets access to every part of you.

4. Work
You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you cannot build legacy from a place of exhaustion.

5. Digital Space
Sometimes the boundary is simply:
 “I’m logging off.”

Practical step:
 Choose one boundary you will reinforce this week.  Just one.  Small shifts create big results.

“How do you find the one who builds with you?”

Not the one who drains you.
Not the one who distracts you.
Not the one who competes with you.
But the one who builds with you.

Let’s start with the foundation.
When I say “the one who builds with you,” I’m not just talking about business. I’m talking about someone who builds:

• Faith
• Character
• Communication
• Vision
• Legacy
• Stability
• Peace

Building is about alignment.
 It’s about shared values.
 It’s about two people who understand that partnership is a calling, not a convenience.

A builder doesn’t just show up when it’s easy.
 A builder shows up when it’s uncomfortable, when it’s stretching, when it requires sacrifice.

And here’s the truth:
 You can’t find someone who builds with you if you’re still entertaining people who only want to benefit from what you’ve built.

Let’s talk about what a builder looks like in real life. Because it’s not always flashy. Sometimes it’s subtle. Sometimes it’s quiet. But it’s always consistent.

1. They Support Your Purpose
2. They Bring Solutions, Not Chaos
3. They Communicate With Intention
4. They Invest — Time, Effort, Prayer
5. They See Your Future, Not Just Your Present

Builders have vision. They see who you’re becoming and they want to grow with you.

Now let’s flip it. Because discernment requires both clarity and courage.

1. They Drain You Emotionally
2. They Avoid Responsibility
3. They’re Intimidated by Your Purpose
4. They Want the Benefits Without the Work
5. They Disrupt Your Peace

HOST:
Before you can find the one who builds with you, you have to become someone who builds.

1. Build Your Relationship With God
2. Build Your Identity
3. Build Your Boundaries
4. Build Your Vision
5. Build Your Healing

When you find the one who builds with you, it feels different.

It feels peaceful.
 It feels steady.
 It feels intentional.
 It feels like partnership, not performance.

You don’t have to beg for effort.
 You don’t have to shrink your purpose.
 You don’t have to question their intentions.

A builder shows up.
A builder listens.
A builder grows.
A builder covers you spiritually, emotionally, and practically.

And the most beautiful part?
You build together — not perfectly, but purposefully.

So if you’re in a season of waiting, discerning, or preparing… hear me clearly:

God is not withholding.
He is aligning.
He is pruning.
He is protecting.
He is preparing you for someone who can carry the weight of your calling.

And when that person arrives, you’ll know — not because it’s perfect, but because it’s purposeful.

Thank you for joining me today. If this episode blessed you, share it with someone who needs encouragement on their journey. And don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode.

Until next time — keep building, keep believing, and keep blossoming into everything God has called you to be.

In today's episode, I further discuss the definition of a marriagepreneur, what it looks like in a real marriage and share on experiences from my own marriage dynamic.

• Defines the term marriagepreneur 
• Who can be part of this community
• Faith being part of your foundation
• How you can support your spouse
• Marriagepreneur Relationship Dynamics