10:16 Man - Shepherd Warrior King

Exploring a Christian Perspective in American Culture

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 02:00:00 -0800

Today’s episode is a little different. Scott Walker, the Anglican Warrior, is back to host the 10:16 Man. He will be interviewing Nathan Betts. Nathan is a husband, father, pastor at Highlands Community Church in Renton, Wa, an apologist and a writer. He has written blogs, a book, and for publications such as the Seattle Times. For more on Nathan Betts go to: https://nathanbetts.com/#contact

Scott and Nathan explore a Christian perspective in American culture. They dig into the following topics:

Defining Christian worldview

Individual versus collective identity

Defining freedom in society

Freedom in Christ versus cultural freedom

Understanding, addiction and love

Reflecting Christ interactions

The importance of personal transformation

Agency in a broken world

The role of service in finding joy

The power of questions in faith

Embracing the cross for true freedom

Finding Hope in a broken world

The foundation of human dignity

The incarnation and its implications

Beyond minimalism: a deeper faith

The American dream versus the call of Christ

Hope amidst cultural challenges

Resilience through Christ centered healing

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Don’t Stand Idly By!

"Good To Go" - with Professor George Hissung

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0700

In this episode I have a conversation with Professor George Hissung. George is a: man of God, husband, father, retired Seattle Police Officer, Defensive Tactics instructor, owner/professor of Hybrid BJJ gym, and inductee to the BJJ Hall of Fame.

Topics, themes, quotes and ideas:

Early Life:

Dad was a scrapper - Liked to fight
Admired soft spoken men with high level of skills
Pro-ack 17 yrs
Short fused
BJJ helped me step back
Get military out of “fight fight kill kill”
For in BJJ in Early 30s
- Under Marcelo Alonso 7th degree black belt Coral belt under Carlson Gracie

Importance of lineage

Does it trace back to someone who contributed to the art
Marcelo has not been inactive in the art for 40 years
Carlson Gracie was a father figure to many young, poor Brazilians

Mindset of Law Enforcement

Can’t have warm and fuzzy
Interview position
Time to lock in
“Modulate force down”

Somebody who trains is less likely to get in a fight

The more you are comfortable with violence or confrontation the less anxiety and less you will either over/under react.
Get control and modulate them down.

Physical culture is just trashed now they want to become police officers

May not be THE MOST COMMUNITY ORIENTED
May be hard
- Not looking for fights but PREPARED
Cocky at first - gain maturity
Get out of the civilian way of thinking

Purpose

Serve people
Chase bad guys
Have emotions under control
- Training helps
Good “handler”

How are they dealing with mental health

Have to be switched on
- In trouble if not
Trouble if on all the time
BJJ is part of a wellness program

Political left against law enforcement

Officers are bad
Defund movement

Get street smarts

OG Larry

He’ll teach you fair
If you take discretion away from officers that’s when things fall apart

Risk to the community with warm and fuzzy and defund police

Seattle is a perfect example
City fell apart
Have to be proactive and violent
If you have a good rep and are present

Can’t hire sheep to do the role of a sheepdog

Treat everyone the same

Deescalation is a verbal and physical

Were you ever fearful on the Job

I never was
In the morning I made my peace
Got to give everything to my partner
My fear was not being there for my partner
I had to be “good to go”
As Sergeant I was first one in, lead from the front
Have a bear or two
- Worst fear is not being “good to go”
To be a protector
- You have to give up things

You gotta be good with God

Strong belief system
There is only one real belief system “a Christ follower”
Of something turns out bad at least my partner goes home
On partner
- I don’t have to like you, I just have to step in front and take a bullet for you
Be a shield
Overload their senses

Others before self (physical and mental)

I want to be able to take on any one person on the street
Spiritual and emotional side need to be strengthened as well

Women in Sports - The sacrifices, benefits, and adversity on the road to the next level. -With Melissa Speer

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0700

I had the opportunity to speak with Melissa Speer. Melissa is a woman of God, wife, mother of three daughters, athlete, coach and mentor. In this episode we talk about women in sports. We delve into the sacrifices, benefits, and adversity on the road to the next level. You will hear topics like: faith, team, grit, resilience, perseverance, effort, competition, IDENTITY, failure, and much more.

Follow to listen to the followup episode to this one.

"Filling the Void" - Overcoming Addiction and Worship Disorder with Lyle Skillman

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode I have a conversation with Lyle Skillman. Lyle talks about his early years of growing up in a fatherless environment, abuse, abandonment, and extreme poverty. Drugs, thieving, and fighting became a big part of Lyle’s life, and led him to a stay at all of the prisons in Washington. Lyle’s struggle with addiction followed him through his first 20 yrs walking with the Lord, but eventually opened up a Jesus centered rehab facility, “Mission House”. Lyle goes on to address some of the commonalities that men who have battled addition share.

Stay tuned for the release of his upcoming book “Filling the Void”

Also, stop in and visit Lyle at Harper Church @ 6pm Thursdays in Port Orchard Washington where you can get a meal and get some Jesus.

Pain, suffering, and purpose with Todd Stabelfeldt.

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 02:00:00 -0700

Have you ever felt pain? Have you ever had to suffer? My guest today is Todd Stabelfeldt. Todd suffered a traumatic gun accident at the age of 8, and has been a quadriplegic for more than 35 yrs. Todd was emancipated and began living on his own at the age of 16. Todd had his Associates degree by the age of 17. He has learned to systematize quadriplegia and maximize his ROI for Christ. Hold on to your hats, grab a box of tissues; whether you are sad or laughing, you will need them. Enjoy!

To learn more about Todd visit:

Public Website

toddstabelfeldt.com

Youtube

youtube.com/@ToddStabelfeldt

Facebook

facebook.com/ToddStabelfeldt

C4 Consulting

c4databasemanagement.com

Spirit Lead Family Priorities with Jared Haley

Wed, 29 May 2024 02:00:00 -0700

My guest today is Jared Haley. Jared is a man of God, husband, father of 4, pastor of 20+ years, co-host of Strong By Design Podcast, part of the production team for Critical Bench, and a public speaker.

In todays episode, Jared and I delve into many topics:

-What is a man of God?
-Being a father
-Raising children with Christ at the center
-Leadership
-Discipleship
-Submission
-Relationships
-Much more

To listen to more of Jared go to:

https://open.spotify.com/show/37JGBDEEJpXmudAv2p2Hwl

Biblical Masculinity with the Anglican Warrior Scott Walker

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode I have a conversation with Scott Walker. Scott is a: man of God, husband, father, firefighter, real estate agent, and an ordained Anglican Priest. A bicep tendon tear led Scott to seek struggle and doing hard things to find hope and gain resilience.

We talk about:

Being comfortable being uncomfortable
Getting outside
The brutality of the cross
The masculinity of Jesus
What it means to be a man
Individual vs. collective relationship with Christ
Our King is a warrior
Brotherhood
Church retention
Fishermen and shipyard worker
Nice guys vs good men
Manufacturing difficulties for our kids
Traditional values
- Honor
- Integrity
- Courage
- Discipline
- Work ethic
Masculinity vs Biblical masculinity
The four Ps
- Protect
- Provide
- Prepare
- Procreate
God Brings order out of chaos - we bring chaos out of order
We finish with the Collect of purity
- “Almighty God, to you all hearts are open, all desires known, and from you no secrets are hid: Cleanse the thoughts of our hearts by the inspiration of your Holy Spirit, that we may perfectly love you, and worthily magnify your holy Name; through Christ our Lord. Amen.”

Overcoming Insecurities with Paul McArthur

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 20:00:00 -0800

I am honored to share this episode with you. Paul McArthur has been a friend since Pee Wee basketball.

Paul is a man of God, a pastor, husband, father and gym owner. Paul shares his struggles with insecurities, which kept him from participating early on, and the journey he has been on to find out; who God has created him to be, how to be the best version of that, and ultimately live out God's purpose for his life.

From feeling like an outsider, to gaining confidence, becoming a youth pastor, catching vision for what is important in life, the importance of overcoming struggles, failures he had along the way, his relationship with his father, reconciliation, the tension between competition in characters, to having thick skin, but keeping your heart soft

Raising Sheepdogs with Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0800

Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is a former US Army Ranger, a paratrooper, and a former West Point Psychology Professor. He has published many novels, non-fiction, and children’s’ books, including a bestseller On Killing (with over half a million copies sold), On Combat, and Sheepdogs children’s book. Col. Grossman’s has testified before the U.S. Senate, the U.S. Congress, and numerous state legislatures. He has served as an expert witness and consultant in state and Federal courts. Lt. Grossman is one of our nation’s leading trainers for military, law enforcement, mental health providers, and school safety organizations.

To learn more about Lt. Col. Dave Grossman or to buy one of his books, go to:

www.GrossmanOnTruth.com

- The only thing you can control is how you choose to respond . . .

- You don’t lose control you give it away . . .

- It is never appropriate to lose your temper . . .

- "Put here on this battlefield love God and people" - Galatians 6:9

- "If you truly love something let it go, if it comes back to you it is yours"

- Prodigal Son

- The opposite of evil is love as the opposite of darkness is light

- Empathy is what makes first responders great

“Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying:
“Whom shall I send,
And who will go for Us?”
Then I said, “Here am I! Send me.” - Isaiah 6:8

- "Greater love has no one than this that they lay down their lives for friends. '

- "Sometimes the greatest love is not to sacrifice your life, but to live a life of sacrifice”

- Effects of violent video games on boys . . .

Developing the Warrior Within - With DJ Vanas

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0700

DJ Vanas is a member of the Odawa tribe of Michigan, served in the U.S. Air Force where he received his B.S. and was a boxer. DJ is an internationally acclaimed speaker for Fortune 500 companies, has written a few books, including “The Warrior Within: Own your power to serve, fight, protect, and heal”. DJ is a true ogichidaa (warrior).

In this episode we talk about:

Fighter vs Warrior
Struggle
Changing your trajectory
Choosing friends
Fear, Courage, Setbacks, and Trials
Keeping the Fires lit
Discipline vs Motivation
Developing a war cry
Faith
“Wiping of the Tears Ceremony”
Elders
Legacy
Finding your path

To learn more about DJ Vanas or purchase one of his books go to:

www.nativediscovery.com

Becoming a "foxhole friend" with Mike "The Legend" Baldwin

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Mike Balwin is a man of God, a devoted husband and father, and now handles the day to day operations of Grossman on Truth. Prior to that, Mike served Arizona as a law enforcement officer in areas of patrol, Field Training Officer, SWAT Operator, Sergeant, and Lead Detective in the Major Felons Unit, where Mike was given the nickname, "The Legend", by those he worked with.

Today we discuss topics such as
- 5:56 faith
- 9:19 being the light amidst the darkness
- 12:27 commonalities in criminals and lack of responsiblity
- 15:30 raising boys
- 17:58 oath of a law enforcement officer
- 20:00 do the right thing no matter what
- 29:00 "foxhole friends"
- 33:27 fear
- 36:00 what makes a "Legend"
- 42:13 reputation
- 45:00 sheep, sheepdog, and wolf - Grossman on Truth
- 49:58 family

Grossman on Truth - https://grossmanontruth.com/

Rite of Passage, Faith, and the Brain Science of Boys vs Girls with Tim Wright

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0700

Today's guest is Tim Wright. Tim is an author, pastor, husband, father, and co-host of The Wonder of Parenting Podcast with Dr. Michael Gurian. We talk about brain science, education, faith, rites of passage and more.

To find out more about Tim Wright follow the links below:

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-barbie-movie-girls-and-boys/id1436262138?i=1000625923393

Books: https://www.timwrightbooks.com/

Rites of Passage Material: https://www.timwrightministries.org/rites-of-passage

Normalizing Emotions for Boys

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0700

In this episode Dr. Cheryl Hart talks about normalizing emotions for boys. She dives into: lizard brain vs. logic brain, families stigmatizing emotions, emotional management, changing the culture around talking about emotions, naming our feelings, introduces the Anger Iceberg, creating safety in the home, de-escalation, and resiliency.

#1016man #Shepherd #Warrior #King #emotionalcontrol #strongmen #strongboys #suicideawareness #mentalhealth #stressmanagement #firefighter #lawenforcement #military #purpose #faith #leadership #character #emotionalresilience #emotions #resilience #deescalation #families

Three Dads

Tue, 30 May 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Shane is a US military veteran whose personal and professional mission is to serve veterans and their families. Shane is a husband, father, and dedicated man of God who you can find serving his church and community. He has started a group called the Cadre Concept which is a group of “like-minded high achievers who choose to lead abundant lives in service to others.”

My conversation with Shane covers his early life where abuse, neglect, drugs and death were a part of his story. Shane’s mom packed his family into a car to flee this life and father #1. Shane talks about the three fathers he had and the impacts each of them and those stages of life had on him. We talk about the importance of faith, raising boys, and the concept of drifting, being driven, and being directed.

You can find these concepts in his book,

“Becoming H.E.R.O.I.C: How to Protect Your Family, Finances, and Future”

https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-H-R-I-C-Finances/dp/1978031394/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2440ZPU1H4W9E&keywords=H.E.R.O.I.C+shane+mcgraw&qid=1685120831&sprefix=h.e.r.o.i.c+shane+mcgra%2Caps%2C237&sr=8-1

Faith + Character + Leadership

Tue, 16 May 2023 02:00:00 -0700

Today you get to hear from my friend Philip Flatau. You will get to follow along with a story that spans from

Wild young Philip turning off Friday night lights at a local football game, to Husband, Father, Dr, Lt. Colonal serving in the United States Airforce , and devoted Man of God.
Philip is the son of my mentor and first podcast guest, Mark Flatau. As you will hear, the apple didn’t fall too far from the proverbial tree.

Philip's wisdom builds a foundation hewn from his faith in Jesus Christ, a character woven by intentionality, consistency, grace, and humility, with a leadership philosophy of Authentic service and Consistent in character to empower, encourage and take care of those beneath him, making rational decisions that are people focused.

Intergenerational Growth Through Repair - Behavioral Neuroscience

Tue, 02 May 2023 02:00:00 -0700

My guest today is Laura Smith. Laura is a teacher, administrator, wife, mom, and educational consultant. Her aim is to build connection and community through behavioral neuroscience. She brings up topics like neurodivergence, the formative years from 0-3, attuned parenthood, coregulation, intentionality, intergenerational growth through repair, yelling neuroplasticity, and how we are wired for two things, connection and protection.

You can follow her on Instagram: https://instagram.com/lauraleesmithconsulting

or at her website: https://lauraleesmithconsulting.com/

3.5 Yards at a Time

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 02:00:00 -0700

In this episode Mike Washington shares his experiences from 0-18; foster home, abandonment, homelessness, alcoholism, domestic violence, molestation, and the impacts they had on his life. Mike talks about his time in the marines and the fire service, as well as the loss of his son, PTSD, and suicidal ideations. He goes on to express the negative impacts of boys just shoving down their stress and emotions, and ends by teaching us four things we need to teach our boys; emotions are ok, learn how to manage them, talk about them, and model them.

“To Be Known and Loved" - Insights from the Nigerian Pastor

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0700

My guest today is; Author, Evangelist, Educator, Church Planter, and Social Entrepreneur.

James Owolabi is an evangelist, church planter and christian educator who currently lives in Nigeria. He is passionate about training next generation leaders. James was born and raised in Africa and spent the first twenty years of his adult life in full time ministry in the United States. He served in youth ministry for over two decades in North America before relocating to Africa. Owolabi is on the teaching team of two multi-site churches in the Chicago and Minneapolis area. James is a second-generation ordained Baptist Minister who is passionate about buidling leaders, planting healthy local churches and establishing Christ-centered academic institutions in Nigeria and across Africa. He is married to Helen Olabisi Owolabi and together they love serving Christ in Nigeria.

In this episode, the Nigerian pastor shares insights into the needs of the youth he has pastored, while also speaking to the strengths of each community he has served in.

James shares the importance of living out the gospel, building relationships, and the family unit, as well as, the effects of poverty and fatherlessness on our youth throughout the world.

As you listen to the pastors knowledge and love for each community, keep in mind, I didn’t give pastor one prompt.

He speaks about; honor, race, faith, discernment, the media, laziness, and much more.

To follow follow and or support James’ mission to serve youth throughout the world visit:

jamesowolabi.com/donate or nigeriaforjesus.com

You can also find his book:

“The Real Cure for Racism" Reflections on the murder of George Floyd, at Amazon;

https://www.amazon.com/Real-Cure-Racism-James-Owolabi/dp/0578314959

Firefighter to Farmer

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0800

This episode is a tough one. Andrew Douglas and I talk about his struggle with PTSD, and how suicidal ideations almost ended his life. This is an uncensored, very raw, face to face account with a man who was on his way to end it all. This may be hard to listen to if you have lost someone to suicide, are suicidal, or have someone in your life who is. Andrew identifies where the struggle began, where it went, his journey towards healing, and the skills necessary for boys to deal with stresses and traumas.

Andrew welcomes you to book at stay at his permaculture farm in Costa Rica, Finca de los Colores. Follow Andrew and finca de los Colores on:

Instagram: @finca_de_los_colores or @the_fresh_outdoors
Website: www.fincadeloscolores.com
Facebook: Finca De Los Colores

If you or anyone you know is struggling with suicidal ideations please call 911 for emergencies or:

988 National Suicide Prevention Hotline

(206) 459-3020 Safe call Now

(425)243-5092 Code4NW.com

(844) 525-FIRE. Firestrong.org

(888) 443-4898. First Responder Wellness Center

(855) 957-4877 IAFF Center of Excellence.

Emotionally Resilient Badass

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0800

In this episode I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr Cheryl Hart. Dr. Hart is a mental health therapist who spends her time walking alongside firefighters dealing predominantly with PTSD and L&I claims. Dr. Hart has walked along side of many of my brothers and sisters, adding life and longevity to them, their careers and their families. Today we discuss the importance of men acknowledging and being aware of their emotions, the increased propensity of suicide and depression in firefighters, law enforcement and military personnel. We dive into emotional resiliency, building up “emotional muscle”, and the power of getting in emotional reps. We touch on emotional neglect, PTSD, Depression, emotional safety, having a menu of responses to pull from, and that sometimes you have to kick ass, go to war and punch people in the face.

Cornerman

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0800

Having a man in your corner is invaluable. They are aware of your strengths and your weaknesses, and are willing to walk along side of you. I cover the traits of a good cornerman, as well as the importance of seeking wise counsel.

Wise Counsel

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 23:00:00 -0800

In this episode I interview a man who I can call, "wise counsel", Mark Flatau. Mark is a son of God, husband, father, and has served as a; teacher, coach, athletic director, principal, and superintendent. Mark holds a special place. in my heart. Mark was a major factor in me coming to Christ, and has served as my mentor for over 20 years. Today Mark and I talk about his early years, the importance of God in our lives, breaking the chains of family circumstances, discipline, boundaries/structure, intentionality, "pink hair", emotional control, and the "how not the what".

Trailer

Thu, 12 Jan 2023 14:00:00 -0800

Podcast coming soon!

This world needs honorable men. Are you raising the next generation of men? Do you have a son? A younger brother? A boy in the neighborhood that needs guidance? Are you a coach? A mentor? Wise counsel? Join me in discovering and putting into action what it takes to raise up and train the next generation of men. This world needs 10:16 men.

As rates of suicide, depression, and other mental health issues rise, and responsibility, accountability, masculinity and purpose decline, I invite you to explore the soft and hard traits of man; how to engage in community, be a shepherd, warrior and king, lead, follow, debate, how to manage stress, how to be confident and take control of your life, and live it with purpose.

The 10:16 man is controlled, calculated, emotionally intelligent and resilient, engaged in family and community, is dangerous and kind. He is a shepherd, a warrior and a king.