The Conscious Couples Podcast

Couples Who Get Fit Together, Stay Together (213)

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 11:00:00 -0400

Can your relationship get stronger simply by getting healthier together?

In today’s episode, Alan and Emilia explain why shared fitness habits can strengthen both relationships and individuals. They talk about how exercise, sleep, nutrition, and daily discipline influence attraction, energy, and long-term partnership success.

In this episode of the Conscious Couples Podcast, Alan Lazaros and Emilia Smith explain why shared fitness habits can strengthen both relationships and individuals. They talk about how exercise, sleep, nutrition, and daily discipline influence attraction, energy, and long-term partnership success. Whether you’re single or partnered, the habits you choose today shape the life and relationships you build tomorrow.

Show notes:
(2:06) Fitness accountability in relationships
(6:14) Why fitness improves everything in life
(13:09) Their daily fitness commitment story
(19:18) How couples align health standards
(21:39) Fitness is the best medicine
(22:22) Outro

Episode Giveaway:
The 25 Conscious Love Languages (For Conscious Couples) - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1AnT8gmAsmlAlLtUj8RJvBZdNC17nj109/view?usp=drive_link

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Is Your Partner Too Set in Their Ways? (212)

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros explore a question many couples quietly wrestle with: what happens when one partner wants to grow and the other seems stuck? Using powerful lessons from Inside Out 2, they unpack how identity, core beliefs, and fear of being seen as “not good enough” can hold a relationship back. They explain the difference between fixed and growth mindsets, why anxiety often masks deeper pain, and how couples can move forward without blame or shame.

This episode is for anyone who feels like they are carrying the vision for the future alone. Growth requires courage from both partners. The good news is that change is possible, and it starts from the inside out.

Show notes:
(0:59) Is your partner too set in their ways?
(2:48) Why Inside Out 2 is essential for emotional intelligence
(7:59) The belief tree and identity shifts
(9:12) Signs your partner may have a fixed mindset
(20:49) Three steps to support real growth
(29:55) Why every couple needs a Personal Growth Plan

Episode Giveaway:
Fixed vs. Growth Mindset Asset: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1XwlaeDQe61y0QcaoL5_8nB9NAa6oCYdf/view

Evolve Movie Club Membership Form: https://forms.gle/zexeM8uGYV4jGcNEA

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Are You Two Working Toward the Same Future? (211)

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros speak to a kind of tension many couples feel but struggle to explain. Two people can care deeply about each other and still feel stuck, disconnected, or uncertain about the direction they are heading together. They touch on alignment, personal growth, and the subtle shifts that change how partners move forward side by side.

This episode is for anyone who wants a relationship that feels strong, supportive, and intentional over time, whether you are single or committed. Sometimes clarity shows up in a single moment. Let this be one of them.

Show notes:
(1:43) Long-term Vs. Short-term thinking
(5:00) Identifying mindset differences in couples
(8:21) Coping with uncertainty and stress
(12:08) Where fixed mindset beliefs come from
(16:23) Why couples must check alignment
(19:39) Event invitation
(22:06) Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

How Often Does Your Partner Disappoint You? (210)

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they address a common experience that quietly erodes connection and leaves partners feeling misunderstood, frustrated, or alone. Most couples think they know the cause, but the real reason often runs much deeper.

If you have ever felt let down in your relationship or worried that you are drifting out of sync, this conversation will challenge your perspective and help you see what might actually be happening beneath the surface. Let this episode be the moment you choose growth over comfort.

Show notes:
(2:46) Expectations Vs. Reality explained simply
(4:41) Real couple example with newborn stress
(8:21) Trust breaks when marks are missed
(10:37) Cognitive load and emotional burnout
(14:24) Standards Vs. Expectations in partnership
(19:19) Weekly check-ins to stay aligned
(20:40) Outro

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What Does Support ACTUALLY Mean to You? (209)

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0500

Are you asking for support or hoping your partner will read your mind?

In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down why many couples feel unsupported even when they think they are communicating clearly. Through a real-life coaching story, they show how small misunderstandings can slowly turn into frustration, resentment, and emotional distance. You will learn how to clearly ask for what you need, set healthy boundaries, and create simple feedback loops that help both partners grow.

Whether you are in a relationship or single and preparing for one, this episode teaches you how to build trust, respect, and teamwork from the inside out. Listen now and start building stronger, healthier connections today.

Show notes:
(1:42) Defining what support means
(3:01) Coaching story about boundaries
(6:34) Being clear about time needs
(8:14) Using feedback after conflict
(14:05) Raising relationship standards
(15:52) Frustration into growth
(18:14) What support does not look like
(21:13) Final questions for couples
(23:04) Outro

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This ONE Thing Can Change Your Relationship Forever (208)

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 11:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros explain how rational thinking can change your relationship forever. They share why many couples struggle when emotions take over and how clear thinking brings calm, teamwork, and better decisions. Through real stories, coaching insights, and practical examples, they show how to use logic without losing love.

Whether you are dating, married, single, or building a future with someone, this conversation will help you think ahead, communicate better, and stay focused on shared goals. If you want a relationship that feels steady, supportive, and strong, this episode gives you tools you can use right away.

Show notes:
(1:49) Why rational thinking matters in love
(3:17) The $200 date strategy example
(7:22) Using emotions without losing control
(11:00) Goals that strengthen relationships
(14:30) Money choices and long-term impact
(17:21) Choosing your future as a couple
(20:48) Regulating emotions instead of yelling
(25:34) Wandering Vs. Living with purpose
(29:33) Growing wiser over time
(32:02) Outro

Episode Giveaway:
25 Conscious Couples Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1nxJl-7uRD4IPIsELatDYTax_STO5LM1C/view

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Where learning turns into action. “Next Level Book Club” every Saturday:
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

The Difference Between a Childish and an Adult Relationship (207)

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, the focus is on what separates relationships that grow stronger from those that stay stuck in old patterns. This conversation is for couples and singles who want real connection, emotional maturity, and a partnership built to last. The episode invites honest reflection on how intimacy, responsibility, and long-term commitment are shaped over time, often in quiet and unseen ways. It speaks to anyone who senses that love should feel steadier, safer, and more intentional than it does now.

If you are ready to raise your standards and stop repeating the same cycles, this episode offers a powerful pause to reset how you approach love and partnership. Listen with care and let this be the moment your relationship grows.

Show notes:
(2:15) Childish Vs. Adult relationships
(7:49) Long-term focus changes everything
(9:01) Serious conversations build maturity
(13:12) Jokes Vs. Emotional avoidance
(15:48) Investing time, money, and effort
(17:51) Quality time without distractions
(23:24) Planning creates relational safety
(27:09) Outro

Episode Giveaway:
25 Conscious Couples Love Languages Worksheet - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1nxJl-7uRD4IPIsELatDYTax_STO5LM1C/view

🎁 Book Your First Free Relationship Talk Coaching Session:
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Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia
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*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

The Top 3 Ways to Align With Your Partner on Finances (206)

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0500

What if money didn’t cause stress, fear, or distance in your relationship?

In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan speak to couples and singles who want peace, trust, and teamwork around finances. They share why money arguments are so common, how early life experiences shape financial behavior, and why most people never feel truly calm talking about money. You’ll hear simple ways to identify your money attachment style, shift into a long-term investor mindset, and stop avoiding the numbers that matter most.

This episode focuses on clarity, emotional safety, and practical steps that help relationships grow stronger instead of pulling apart. Financial alignment is not about control. It is about shared vision, honest conversations, and building a future together.

Show notes:
(2:05) Why couples fight about money
(6:05) Creating safe money conversations
(8:31) Money attachment styles explained
(12:33) Shifting into an investor mindset
(17:59) Simplifying money tracking
(21:05) The shared finance board method
(26:09) Outro

Episode Giveaway:
The We Whiteboard - Worksheet / Activity - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1IYYJNacvG8lGG1_86dFFS8vaNvRzGrM-/view?usp=drive_link

Digital Asset:
Attachment Styles Visual Flash - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ys4BSMOKwcIG4TbswAU91a0OQxEL3dUe/view

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*Email:* 💬
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emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Does Your Partner Have Low Self-Awareness? Part Two (205)

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros pick up where the last episode left off and go deeper into the real role self-awareness plays in relationships. Part two unpacks why most people believe they are self-aware, why that belief is often misplaced, and how that blind spot quietly fuels conflict, disconnection, and stalled growth. The conversation centers on honesty, responsibility, and the unseen patterns shaping how couples communicate and relate.

If you care about building a stronger partnership, this episode will challenge how you see yourself inside the relationship. Listen closely, then decide whether comfort or clarity guides your next move.

Show notes:
(1:50) Why self-awareness matters most
(3:40) Most people overestimate awareness
(5:25) Only a few are truly self-aware
(9:28) Green, yellow, red self-check
(13:59) You meet others at yourself
(16:09) Three pillars of self-awareness
(21:26) How awareness improves happiness
(24:24) Outro

🎁 Book Your First Free Relationship Talk Coaching Session:
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📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Event #55 on Thursday, January 15th, 2026, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: "How to Align With Your Partner on Finances" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/Mac_-bprTHKM9L7vCdxxbQ#/registration

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*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Does Your Partner Have Low Self-Awareness? (204)

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they confront a relationship dynamic that quietly creates imbalance, frustration, and emotional fatigue. They introduce a simple awareness framework that helps make sense of what often feels confusing or hard to name, offering clearer language for what is actually happening beneath the surface. Emilia and Alan challenge familiar stories around responsibility, respect, and emotional labor, while presenting a sharper way to recognize what is healthy and what slowly drains connection.

If you have ever felt like effort is uneven, or growth feels one-sided, this episode will shift how you see both yourself and your relationship. Press play and choose clarity over comfort.

Show notes:
(2:32) Green, yellow, red awareness test
(4:01) When helping turns into resentment
(6:17) Why is it not your responsibility
(11:29) Respect as the real divider
(15:22) Money, power, and self-worth
(17:43) Clear signs of low self-awareness
(20:53) Outro

Episode Reference:
Fair Play documentary - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt15857800/

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Do You & Your Partner Have Passions in Common? (203)

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0500

What if the missing spark in your relationship is not romance, but shared passion?

In this episode, Emilia and Alan challenge the quiet habits that slowly disconnect couples over time. Drawing from years of coaching conscious couples worldwide, they reveal why engagement, shared energy, and meaning matter more than chemistry alone.

This conversation is for partners who want more than comfort, more than routines, and more than coexistence. It is about building a relationship that stays alive, aligned, and intentional. Do not wait for passion to return. Choose it, practice it, and let it change everything.

Show notes:
(2:15) Why shared passions shape relationship health
(4:12) Engagement Vs. Zoning out together
(7:10) Admiration, inspiration, and attraction
(10:46) The power of me, you, and we
(16:44) Why passion fades in long relationships
(19:33) How to reconnect with real passions
(21:21) Turning passion into a weekly practice
(25:27) Outro

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____________________________

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*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Men's Struggles Don't Happen in Isolation (202)

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros draw from years of real-world experience coaching couples, hosting live events, and guiding individuals through relationship challenges. They center on a truth that often goes unspoken. Men’s struggles do not happen in isolation. This brief, impactful conversation is for conscious couples and singles who want deeper connection, stronger communication, and relationships that feel emotionally safe.

Rooted in lived experience, the episode explores how men’s mental health, vulnerability, and internal pressure quietly shape trust, intimacy, and partnership. Press play, listen closely, and let this conversation shift how you relate to the people you love.

Show notes:
(2:02) The missing male role model problem
(4:41) Mental health stats men avoid sharing
(7:14) Why men struggle with vulnerability
(8:55) Pushing too hard leads to a breakdown
(11:43) Simple language that creates connection
(14:33) Why men want deeper conversations
(17:50) How self-awareness shapes intimacy
(19:09) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Top 3 Things Men Struggle With in Their Relationship

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The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

The Most Important Character Trait to Having a Successful Relationship (201)

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they challenge the idea that love alone makes a relationship work. This conversation is for conscious couples and singles who feel stuck in repeating patterns or carrying more emotional weight than they should. It points to the unseen factor that shapes trust, safety, and lasting connection, without spelling it out.

If you want a relationship that feels grounded, steady, and real, this episode will shift how you think about love and responsibility. Press play and decide how you show up in love.

Show notes:
(2:05) Getting off relationship autopilot
(3:24) Why self-improvement matters first
(5:19) What conscientiousness really means
(9:32) Four pillars of conscientiousness
(12:48) Emotional maturity Vs. Age
(15:06) Why low conscientiousness hurts love
(19:24) Sleep, empathy, and responsibility
(23:52) How to address partner behavior
(26:05) Who you would bet on long-term
(31:29) Outro

Learn more about:
Books for Babes gives children hope and possibility by putting meaningful stories in their hands. When we give a book, we give a future – GoFundMe donation link:
https://www.gofundme.com/f/books-for-babes-annual-fundraiser-2025

The “Next Level Hope Foundation” creates meaningful experiences for kids growing up without a father figure and builds a positive, supportive community around them.
To support this event, you can donate here: https://gofund.me/5c6abcf7f

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Creating Your Own Rulebook (200)

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Do you ever feel pulled between family expectations and the relationship you’re trying to build? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what happens when couples stop following old family rules and start choosing what truly supports love, growth, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how “old world” patterns keep partners stuck, why the holidays trigger so much stress, and how stepping into a “new world” together can strengthen communication, alignment, and connection.

With simple relationship frameworks and real client breakthroughs, this conversation shows you how to break generational cycles, create healthier traditions, and build a partnership that feels true to who you are becoming.

Show notes:
(2:44) Creating your own rule book
(4:10) Old world Vs. New world
(7:20) Butterfly metaphor for growth
(10:08) Family roles that shape us
(14:15) Choosing aligned traditions together
(22:16) Honest partnership conversations
(26:36) Books for Babes impact
(30:37) Outro

Digital Assets:
1. Alan, Emilia & Tucker 2019
2. The Growth Journey
3. Dysfunctional Family Roles
4. Family Roles - Dysfunctional to Functional

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How to See Your Partner Through New Eyes (199)

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 11:00:00 -0500

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down why long-term love changes over time, what really happens in the brain when partners start taking each other for granted, and the simple relationship practices that bring back connection, spark, and emotional safety. You’ll learn how small daily moments rebuild trust, strengthen appreciation, and create the kind of partnership that grows instead of fades.

If you want a relationship that feels supported, seen, and deeply alive, press play and let this be the moment you choose love with intention.

Show notes:
(2:01) Why the brain stops noticing your partner
(5:40) Mental subtraction and remembering early love
(7:20) Noticing small changes that rebuild connection
(11:48) How commitment trains the brain to stay curious
(15:16) The RAS and why goals help relationships
(20:15) Capturing “core memories” in tiny everyday moments
(24:39) The nightly gratitude practice that strengthens love
(29:32) Why internal beauty matters more than external trends
(31:37) Three habits for long-lasting connection
(36:03) Outro

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How Well Does Your Partner Manage Their Mood? (198)

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down how emotional state shapes connection, timing, and the way couples show up for each other. They reveal why green, yellow, and red moods matter, how stress pushes partners into the “collision zone,” and why late nights and alcohol make everything harder. This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, timing, and the simple shifts that protect love when it matters most.

If you want a relationship that lasts, start by mastering the moments that break most couples.

Show notes:
(2:08) The green-yellow-red awareness system
(6:29) What creates the “collision zone”
(9:29) How your nervous system signals danger
(11:57) Why alcohol makes hard moments harder
(13:20) Simple language to avoid conflict
(19:17) Nighttime fights and next-day fallout
(22:02) Checking your state as a team
(23:28) Outro

Digital Asset:
The Shared Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TKs_PSiMzfZGyNQFKI4OKzsFc48MA9zb/view?usp=drive_link

Referenced Research Articles:
https://www.google.com/url?q=https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5293605/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764094977531479&usg=AOvVaw08OVyxCcj8z-LOtR2nH6on

https://www.google.com/url?q=https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi%3D10.1037%252Ffam0000227&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1764095121534954&usg=AOvVaw01XE6-0-LiIdNf0W7yGxLQ

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Why Are Men So Afraid of Their Feelings? (197)

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0500

What if the real reason men struggle in relationships has nothing to do with love and everything to do with emotion? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the hidden forces that keep men guarded, silent, and disconnected from their own feelings. You’ll hear why women often carry the emotional load, how empathy can backfire, and why emotional safety, not strength, creates real intimacy. This isn’t about blame. It’s about truth, awareness, and the kind of growth that rewrites what it means to love and be loved.

Show notes:
(2:14) Empathy Vs. “Man-keeping”
(5:38) Why women do the emotional work
(7:13) Men judge their own growth
(9:03) Masculinity and early conditioning
(14:44) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(16:14) Why does emotion feel unsafe for men
(18:57) Status, ego, and the gym
(20:18) What’s under male frustration
(25:40) Look strong Vs. Get strong
(27:29) Outro

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Will Your Relationship Last The Next 10 Years? (196)

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0500

In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share the surprising truth behind what actually predicts long-term success in relationships, and the one thing partners must do to stay aligned for life. You’ll rethink how you set goals, communicate, and build your future together. Forget the fairytale. This is the science of staying in love for decades. Stay curious, stay conscious, and don’t just grow old together, grow better together.

Show notes:
(5:37) The study that shocked us
(9:01) 46% higher divorce risk explained
(10:28) Why missed check-ins matter
(11:47) How to create shared goals
(14:42) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(17:17) The power of time perspective
(22:20) Weekly “life optimization” meetings
(25:31) Calling your partner forward with humility
(29:05) Outro

Episode Reference:
The Effects of Lack of Joint Goal Planning on Divorce Over 10 Years -
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1yo796KxkvxeWrlo-KJgEjw1BzvVoZoln/view?usp=drive_link

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Is Your Partner Aware of How Your Cycle Impacts You? (195)

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this fiery episode, they open the secret rhythm running your relationship and how it quietly shapes your moods, energy, and connection. Forget the “be more consistent” advice. What if you’re already consistent, just on a different wavelength? It’s science meets self-awareness with a twist of humor, honesty, and relationship real talk you won’t hear anywhere else. Tune in, sync up, and watch your relationship level up in ways that’ll surprise you.

Show notes:
(2:29) The 24-hour Vs. 28-day rhythm explained
(4:01) Why women think they lack consistency
(5:49) The lightbulb moment that changes everything
(7:04) The four hormonal “seasons” explained
(9:18) How emotions and body temperature fluctuate
(11:00) The Peaceful Period Project and resources
(12:12) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:42) How mismatched cycles cause disconnection
(17:06) The belief shift that improves relationships
(20:12) Are you operating on a 24- or 28-day cycle?
(23:39) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 28 Day Cycle - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bewUe8khOJIEfeEh6YDNk3vqeFIyC9d8/view?usp=drive_link

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Do You ACTUALLY Have a Safe Relationship? (194)

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What if the real test of love isn’t passion, but safety? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the difference between feeling comfortable and being safe. They reveal the top three signs you’re in an unsafe relationship, the cues your body gives when something feels “off,” and how to stop overriding your intuition. From unmet needs to emotional neglect, they explain how safety starts with awareness and grows through repair, not perfection. Whether you’re single or partnered, this episode will help you identify what a safe relationship feels like and how to build one grounded in trust, vulnerability, and calm. Don’t just settle for chemistry. Learn what safety really feels like. Hit play and find out.

Show notes:
(3:04) What safe relating really means
(5:00) Overriding intuition and ignoring red flags
(6:42) Defining what safety feels like
(9:30) High standards Vs. Psychological safety
(13:08) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(16:00) The truth about men and vulnerability
(20:21) Top 3 signs of an unsafe and safe relationship
(24:20) Outro

Digital Asset:
Safe Relationship Assessment - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CpmwZ187J6Dspb4mqQ3a33grR3Wl0uHJ/view?usp=drive_link

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How to Guarantee Your Love Lasts (193)

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In this heartfelt episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros reveal the surprising truth behind what keeps relationships thriving when others fall apart. From hidden habits that sabotage love to the real formula that guarantees growth together, this episode will challenge everything you think you know about lasting connection. If you’ve ever wondered why some couples evolve while others drift apart, this is the one you can’t miss. Stop waiting for love to “work out.” Build it intentionally. Tune in now and learn the secret to a forever kind of love.

Show notes:
(2:40) The secret sauce for lasting relationships
(5:01) Shocking stats about goal setting
(8:20) Why “winging it” ruins love
(10:14) How shame blocks your growth
(14:45) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(23:24) Five steps to make your love last
(27:15) Outro

Digital Asset:
RTE 52: "How to Set and Crush Goals with Your Partner!" - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ka2HEh6ii75U5fc3SXfGdmuMyHhnJvKw/view

Episode Reference:
Relationship Longevity Study - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9999318/

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How Strong Is Your Relationship's Foundation? (192)

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they break down why most relationships crumble under the weight of tradition and how to build a bond that actually stands the test of time. From skipping the wedding checklist to investing in what really matters. Together, they share real stories, hard truths, and a powerful tool that will completely change how you see love and commitment. Forget the highlight reel. This is about building your “we” on purpose, not pressure. Press play, and start building your forever, your way.

Show notes:
(2:17) Why the wedding industry misguides couples
(5:32) The real cost of chasing tradition
(8:34) Redefining what engagement means
(9:49) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(11:09) The core values exercise - https://drive.google.com/file/d/16zozk9YNGBNpP7qixiFi6AsV2xQZGJE1/view?usp=drivesdk
(16:26) How three values shape your future
(18:56) Clarity over social pressure
(20:21) Outro

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The 5 Love Languages No One Ever Talks About (191)

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What if everything you’ve been taught about love languages is outdated and keeping you from the connection you crave? In this raw and high-energy episode, Emilia and Alan break open The Five Love Languages No One Talks About, the real codes to emotional depth, passion, and unstoppable partnership. Forget surface-level affection, this is about conscious love that challenges, ignites, and transforms. If you’re ready to stop settling for “fine” and start building a love that’s alive, electric, and unbreakable, this episode will wake something up in you. It’s time to upgrade how you love. Press play and feel the fire.

Show notes:
(3:30) Why traditional love languages fall short
(5:01) The truth about unmet emotional needs
(8:10) Lessons from Hope Springs on connection
(10:47) The real reason couples stop expressing feelings
(14:43) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(16:29) Introducing the five conscious love languages
(19:00) How proactive thoughtfulness strengthens trust
(21:25) Conscious loving care that melts distance
(23:49) Building mutual mastery as a couple
(25:54) The power of loving challenge in growth
(29:29) Invitation to grow your love consciously
(31:43) Outro

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How to Be More Emotionally in Tune With Your Partner Part 2 (190)

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share real stories about emotional intelligence, trust, and what it takes to truly be in tune with your partner. From reading micro-expressions to building honest communication, you’ll hear how small moments can shape the future of a relationship. Ready to stop missing the signals that matter most? Listen now and learn how to create the connection you’ve been searching for.

Show notes:
(1:09) Early conflict that built trust
(3:17) Reading micro-expressions and emotions
(6:15) Why men struggle with emotional intelligence
(9:12) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(12:50) Simple steps to tune into yourself
(14:21) How to tune into your partner
(17:11) Outro

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How to Be More Emotionally in Tune With Your Partner Part 1 (189)

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reveal how emotional attunement can transform your relationship. Through powerful real-life coaching stories, a surprising Pixar metaphor, and simple tools like the emotions wheel, they show why validation and empathy, not quick fixes, are the key to lasting connection. Whether you’re newly together or years into marriage, this conversation will help you build emotional literacy, strengthen intimacy, and create a bond that lasts.

Show notes:
(2:12) Real coaching call with a young couple
(3:38) Top conscious love language: Trauma & triggers
(4:42) Inside Out metaphor on emotional validation
(6:40) Why sadness is a powerful connector
(8:41) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(10:22) Emotional literacy and the emotions wheel
(15:26) Simple practice: “A part of me feels…”
(16:52) Outro

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The Top 10 Reasons You & Your Partner Need Goals Part 2 (188)

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Are goals the secret to lasting love and personal growth? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan share why goals are the foundation of clarity, teamwork, and fulfillment, whether you’re in a relationship or building your future solo. Discover the hidden reasons most couples feel disconnected, how simple goals can transform communication, and why designing your future beats leaving it to chance. Ready to learn why goals change everything? Press play and find out.

Show notes:
(3:31) Goals as a path to self-awareness
(5:02) Why teamwork is impossible without goals
(10:12) The difference between goals and experiences
(11:29) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(13:30) The investor’s mindset formula
(15:42) Using time effectively through goals
(18:20) Why resourcefulness grows with necessity
(19:07) From job to calling with goals
(20:46) Inspiring others through shared goals
(22:05) Outro

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The Top 10 Reasons You & Your Partner Need Goals Part 1 (187)

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down the top reasons why goals matter for every relationship and even for singles preparing for love. They share how goals add meaning, reduce conflict, and build the skills that keep couples strong for the long run. You’ll hear how structure, accountability, and vision can transform not just your relationship but also your life. Whether you’re already with someone or still searching, this episode will help you see why goals are the heartbeat of growth and connection. Take the first step today and set a goal that brings you closer to the life and love you want.

Show notes:
(2:14) Why direction matters in love
(4:02) The power of building a vision
(8:40) Goals give meaning to suffering
(9:49) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(11:00) Shared goals connect all of us
(13:44) Neuroscience shows goals boost growth
(16:22) Conflict skills come from shared goals
(18:09) Outro

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Why You & Your Partner Need Joint Goals (186)

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they reveal why joint goals are the foundation of strong, fulfilling relationships. Together, they discuss surprising research that shows couples without goals or those who set them but never make progress, face lower life satisfaction and more conflict. Through real stories and client experiences, you’ll learn how goal setting transforms “me” into “we,” creating trust, alignment, and deeper love. Whether you’re just starting or years into your relationship, this conversation will help you design a future together instead of drifting apart.

Show notes:
(2:20) Only 3% have written goals
(7:17) The 10-year roadmap exercise
(13:55) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(15:20) Research on goal coordination & progress
(19:04) Couples with goals but no progress
(23:05) Joint goals as an orange flag warning
(26:51) Outro

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Don't Make THIS Mistake Most Couples Make (185)

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What’s the sneaky mistake most couples make without realizing it? In this week’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the one mistake most couples make that slowly pulls them apart. Through the concept of duality, balancing gratitude with frustration, individuality with togetherness, they share how conscious relationships thrive while others drift. Drawing from their 50th Relationship Talks event and the film Marriage Story, they illustrate how neglecting duality leads to resentment and disconnection. Listeners will gain practical tools, heartfelt stories, and a powerful framework for building a relationship rooted in truth, growth, and love.

Show notes:
(2:16) What duality really means
(5:57) How couples drift without awareness
(9:40) The shift from gratitude to frustration
(13:36) Why does everything have pros and cons
(16:28) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(20:23) Honoring individuality without losing “we”
(22:53) Integration Vs. Compromise in relationships
(26:07) Balancing gratitude and frustration daily
(28:34) Real work behind a fairy tale love
(29:06) The courage, humility, and vulnerability triad
(31:44) Outro

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The Three Levels of Quality Time (184)

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan break down the three levels of quality time and why being intentional with your minutes matters more than ever. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, you’ll discover how to use time as an investment that strengthens connection, builds confidence, and shapes your future. Tune in today and learn how to make every moment count.

Show notes:
(3:16) Why devices hurt real connection
(5:20) Time as an investment in “we”
(10:24) The three levels of quality time
(12:54) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(15:37) Why intentional time makes you high value
(20:05) Everything in relationships should be by design
(25:24) Outro

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A Deeper Dive into The 25 Conscious Love Languages Part 2 (183)

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this follow-up episode, they open the final chapter to a lasting connection. From the warmth of holiday traditions to the thrill of shared adventures, from the steady rhythm of money alignment to the tender art of conscious parenting, each moment becomes a thread in love’s enduring fabric. They show how mismatches can become meeting points, how conflict can grow roots of understanding, and how alignment can light the path forward. Whether single or walking hand in hand, this is a gentle map to a relationship that feels safe, fulfilling, and beautifully unshakable.

Show notes:
(2:01) Holidays as a relationship love language
(6:52) Practicing empathy and vulnerability
(9:39) Growing by learning together
(13:25) Prioritizing health and fitness
(15:45) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(17:05) Aligning on money and lifestyle
(23:05) Conscious parenting and caregiving
(31:27) Outro

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A Deeper Dive into The 25 Conscious Love Languages Part 1 (182)

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Are you loving your partner the way they need to be loved? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the 25 Conscious Love Languages, a powerful upgrade to the classic five. Through real stories, practical tools, and a playful back-and-forth, they help you spot where conflicts are coming from and how to better meet your partner’s emotional needs. Whether it’s quality time, deep conversation, supporting growth, or understanding trauma, this framework is designed to help you build a relationship that feels deeply aligned.

Show notes:
(5:11) The green-yellow-red framework
(8:13) What affirmation actually means
(12:10) Deep conversations Vs. Small talk
(13:17) Supporting your partner’s growth
(14:15) What it looks like to support goals
(17:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(20:03) Food as an emotional connector
(22:06) Rethinking sexual intimacy
(23:18) Understanding trauma, triggers, and shame
(31:07) Outro

Digital Asset:
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___________________________

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Are You Taking Everything Personally? (181)

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0400

In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan share a story that shines light on how hidden insecurities can turn love into misunderstanding. They gently unpack the weight of personalization when we take things too personally and how it quietly shapes the way we connect. With warmth and wisdom, they offer three simple tools to shift from tension to tenderness. Whether you're caught in your storm or reaching for your partner’s hand, this episode is a soft place to land and a path back to clarity, compassion, and connection.

Show notes:
(1:51) When personal choices trigger conflict
(4:51) Insecurity at the root of reactivity
(7:02) What personalization really means
(9:25) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(11:11) The “me loop” that distorts reality
(16:04) Curiosity: the antidote to taking it personally
(18:03) Three tools to break the pattern
(19:48) Outro

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Do You Feel Emotionally Safe In Your Relationship? (180)

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s eye-opening episode, they unpack what emotional safety means and why it’s the foundation for connection, trust, and long-term love. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a touching moment from The Vow, they reveal how past experiences, misattunement, and unhealed triggers can quietly sabotage your connection. You’ll learn what emotional safety looks like, how to recognize emotional danger, and what it takes to build a relationship where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(3:18) The cost of hiding your true self
(5:26) How past relationships shape the present
(8:03) Real-life triggers in safe relationships
(11:07) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(14:39) The power of attunement in love
(19:50) What emotional safety truly looks like
(23:36) Outro

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#179 - What is Your Partner's Shame Response?

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Ever wonder why small comments turn into big arguments? In this powerful episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the four hidden shame responses that quietly shape how couples react, communicate, and connect. You will discover how blame, defensiveness, withdrawal, and self-criticism often stem from unconscious patterns and what to do instead. With relatable stories and expert insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create emotional safety and deepen their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:22) How shame erodes relationships
(7:16) The four main shame responses
(12:38) Real-life examples of shame in action
(14:01) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(20:16) The difference between shame and accountability
(23:02) Coaching and creating emotional safety
(25:43) Outro

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___________________________

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#178 - Squashing Unrealistic Expectations in Your Relationship

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Think your relationship struggles might be rooted in unspoken expectations? In today’s honest and deeply practical episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the unconscious beliefs that quietly sabotage connection. Like expecting your partner to “just know,” assuming passion will never fade, or believing they should meet all your needs. Through real stories and coaching insights, they help you spot and squash these hidden assumptions before they create distance. Whether you are preparing for marriage, moving in together, or navigating daily life as a couple, this conversation helps you shift the focus from fantasy to foundation.

Show notes:
(2:36) The hidden cost of unspoken expectations
(6:31) Why weddings aren’t about the couple
(12:01) Read my mind: The unfair ask
(16:46) Your partner can’t complete you
(19:33) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(21:17) Career conflicts and unrealistic demands
(25:37) The truth about passion over time
(28:49) Relationships require personal growth
(33:56) Expecting your partner to be everything
(36:20) Practical ways to reset expectations
(39:03) Outro

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___________________________

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#177 - What's Your Relationship's Mantra?

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they reflect on the quiet truths that shape who we are and the sacred mantras that guide us through love’s ever-changing seasons. Sparked by a single question, Emilia and Alan uncover the core purpose of their relationship and invite you to do the same. Whether you walk beside a partner or journey solo as a conscious single, this episode invites you to listen inward, find the words that ground you, and use them as your compass in both life and love.

Show notes:
(2:17) The purpose of a relationship is growth
(5:11) Emilia’s one-word personal mantra
(10:22) Alan’s core mantra and essence
(11:04) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(13:02) Growth, truth, and commitment
(15:48) Grow together, not apart
(17:03) The GPS exercise for self-awareness
(19:56) Outro

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#176 - How Committed Is Your Partner?

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Do you and your partner define commitment the same way? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the quiet power of true commitment. They share their personal “Code of Commitment,” a five-part framework that keeps their relationship grounded in honesty, empathy, and connection, even during life’s toughest moments. Whether you're newly dating or decades in, this episode will give you the clarity to stop relying on assumptions and start building a relationship rooted in trust, safety, and love.

Show notes:
(2:03) The Doom Loop Vs. Success Loop
(3:41) What does commitment mean
(6:21) Creating your code of commitment
(10:30) Protecting each other’s hearts
(11:42) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:06) Honoring autonomy without changing each other
(16:28) Staying connected before bed
(18:01) Code of Commitment
(20:41) Outro

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___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#175 - Who's The Source of The Drama?

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Does chaos keep finding its way into your relationships? In this soul-stirring episode, Emilia and Alan explore how hidden wounds from our past, unhealed generational trauma, and toxic family dynamics can quietly weave tension into our closest relationships. Through raw stories, heartfelt reflection, and a metaphor that lingers long after listening, they help you trace the true origin of your relationship struggles. Discover how to name the patterns, reclaim your power, and set loving boundaries that make room for connection. Whether you’re in a relationship or preparing your heart for one, this is your invitation to choose peace over patterns and healing over history.

Show notes:
(2:33) When the source is your parent
(7:27) The toxic lake metaphor
(11:07) How shame shapes identity
(13:01) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(15:32) Three signs of a drama source
(18:05) The pain of breaking cycles
(20:01) Reclaiming peace through boundaries
(23:22) Outro

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___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#174 - Are You Trying to Change Your Partner?

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Love their soul, but check their behavior. In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the emotional tension that arises when one partner is more growth-oriented than the other. Through real client stories and personal reflections, they explore the difference between loving someone for who they are and trying to change them into who you want them to be. You’ll discover the power of belief vs. hope, why dragging someone up a mountain never works, and how to hold high standards without losing compassion. This episode offers truth, encouragement, and a fresh perspective on love and growth.

Show notes:
(3:31) The strain of uneven growth
(5:31) Loving them, holding standards
(7:16) Accept, set boundaries, or leave
(9:05) Hope versus belief in change
(11:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(14:56) Know your limits as a catalyst
(17:57) Love their essence, not behavior
(20:39) Outro

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___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#173 - The 5 Skills To Being A Great Partner

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What makes a great partner, and how do you become one? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down the five essential relationship skills every couple needs to grow together, not apart. From emotional regulation to honest communication and conflict repair, they don’t just name the skills, they show you how to practice them every day. Whether you're in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers the clarity and tools to stop guessing and start growing.

Show notes:
(3:06) The five skills preview
(7:01) Most people never learn this
(9:29) Why emotional regulation comes first
(11:35) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:00) How to communicate your needs
(14:25) The right way to repair conflict
(15:17) Why trust hinges on honesty
(17:19) What true self-ownership looks like
(20:08) Practice, not perfection
(21:10) Your reference group shapes your love
(22:49) Outro

Digital Asset:
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___________________________

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*Email:* 💬
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#172 - Where Is Your Partner Just “Too Different”?

Mon, 26 May 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Is your partner really too different, or is that just the story you’ve been telling yourself? In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore what that phrase often hides: a lack of understanding, unresolved values, or a quiet cry for help. You’ll learn how to decode mismatches using the 25 Conscious Love Languages and uncover whether the differences in your relationship are deal-breakers or opportunities for growth. With real coaching stories and powerful insights, this episode is a must-listen for couples, singles, and conscious partners who want to build something real.

Show notes:
(3:27) The power of love language mismatches
(6:09) Core values Vs. Core conflicts
(9:16) When differences are actually deal-breakers
(11:54) The doom loop in relationships
(12:20) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(14:09) What “too different” really means
(17:52) Cry for help or emotional exit?
(20:59) Real integration requires mutual respect
(25:19) Outro

Digital Asset:
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#171 - What's Your Partner's Fight Language?

Mon, 19 May 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Better love begins with knowing how we give and receive. In this intimate episode, Emilia and Alan introduce the five fight languages that quietly shape our conflicts and connection. With heartfelt stories and thoughtful insights, they reveal how our default reactions can create distance instead of closeness. You’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, respond with more grace, and build the kind of emotional safety that invites deeper intimacy and lasting love.

Show notes:
(1:48) Falling for potential in relationships
(5:28) Abuse, wake-up moments, and self-worth
(6:39) The HALT acronym and trauma responses
(10:23) The five fight languages explained
(12:21) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:51) Connection techniques for each type
(17:44) Fight Lingo Bingo and why it helps
(21:32) When effort feels one-sided in love
(24:52) Outro

Digital Assets:
Fight Lingo Bingo and Connection Techniques PDFs -
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___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#170 - Are You & Your Partner on the Same Page About Health?

Mon, 12 May 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What if love isn’t just about chemistry but about shared care for the life you’re building? In today’s soulful episode, Emilia and Alan explore what happens when one heart holds a higher standard for health. From silent misalignments to moments of deep recognition, they reflect on how the wellness of the body, mind, and soul shapes connection. For those already walking together or those waiting for the right hand to hold, this conversation is a gentle nudge to lead with love, speak with courage, and choose a future built on intention.

Show notes:
(2:37) Who has the higher standard?
(4:43) Falling for potential in love
(6:25) Fitness values and misalignment
(10:42) What shared intensity reveals
(12:42) Brain health, memory, and love
(14:28) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(16:25) How health impacts the future
(22:48) Courageous conversations about wellness
(28:03) Systems that help love last
(30:45) Outro

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#169 - How Heard Do You Feel in Your Relationship?

Mon, 05 May 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this heartfelt episode, they share a powerful communication tool called Clear The Air, a three-step process to help you express emotions, feel understood, and strengthen connection without jumping into fix-it mode. Discover how a simple three-minute practice can reduce resentment, build trust, and transform how you and your partner show up for each other. Perfect for couples, conscious singles, or anyone craving a deeper emotional connection.

Show notes:
(4:33) The “Clear The Air” method
(6:10) Share emotions without fixing
(8:29) Why emotional timing matters
(11:52) How small annoyances become big issues
(14:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(17:39) Most people were never taught this
(20:43) Visualizing emotional balance with inside out
(22:13) Emotional Vs. Strategic relationship tools
(25:44) Outro

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#168 - Are You Expecting More From Them Than From Yourself?

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0400

When we expect more than we give, love begins to crumble in silence. In today’s episode, Alan and Emilia unravel the quiet damage caused by unrealistic expectations. Through real coaching moments and heartfelt stories, they reveal how resentment grows where understanding should live. If you’ve ever felt the quiet ache of mismatched efforts, this conversation will meet you where you are and gently guide you home.

Show notes:
(2:59) Expectations and resentment
(5:54) Two types of relationship dynamics
(7:11) Everyday examples of unfair expectations
(8:30) How broken expectations hurt trust
(10:26) Generational patterns in relationships
(11:19) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(14:48) Platinum rule and relationship growth
(17:16) Leadership, self-awareness, and competence
(20:10) Conscious communication Vs. Outdated roles
(22:25) Outro

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#167 - What Does Love Mean to You?

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Do you really know what love means to you, or have you just been guessing all along? In this episode, Emilia and Alan open up about their definitions of love and reveal why so many relationships suffer simply because partners never ask this one essential question. Through heartfelt stories, practical frameworks, and yes, even eagle metaphors, they break down what it takes to experience real connection, growth, and intimacy. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you reflect, reconnect, and grow.

Show notes:
(3:51) Lessons from 46 Relationship Events
(5:08) Love is growing together
(7:09) Emilia’s definition of love
(12:58) Soaring higher than the crows
(14:57) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(17:07) What quality time really means
(19:29) The three pillars of quality time
(22:54) Intimacy and emotional attunement
(25:51) Depth Vs. Surface-level connection
(30:28) Outro

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#166 - How Your Relationship With Yourself Impacts Your Relationship

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore how self-respect, self-awareness, and inner dialogue shape every aspect of your intimate relationship. Through honest stories, surprising insights, and practical tools, they’ll help you stop outsourcing your happiness and start building a solid foundation within. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode will shift the way you think about love—from the inside out.

Show notes:
(2:09) Blind spots and inner work
(4:38) Self-worth and admiration
(6:00) The long list of inner requirements
(9:53) Crossing personal boundaries
(12:58) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:31) Outsourcing emotional security
(16:43) Going deeper to climb higher
(23:22) Self-esteem’s impact on relationships
(25:58) Outro

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#165 - Does Your Partner Get Competitive?

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Competition in relationships can build you up—or break you down. In this episode, Emilia and Alan unpack the hidden effects of competition in relationships. They share real stories, challenge the “zero-sum” mindset, and explore how healthy support and playful competition can make couples stronger. You'll learn how your self-belief influences how you show up for your partner—and what to do if you feel held back instead of lifted up.

Show notes:
(2:32) Childhood experiences with toxic competition
(4:46) Monopoly and the wake-up call
(6:49) Zero-sum thinking in relationships
(8:38) When support turns into control
(10:24) Building a growth mindset together
(13:54) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(16:03) Abundance starts with self-belief
(20:24) Why do you struggle to celebrate your partner
(24:26) Outro

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#164 - What CAN'T You Talk to Your Partner About?

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Do you ever turn to your friends before your partner when something big happens? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan break down why so many couples feel like they can’t talk about certain things—and what to do about it. They share powerful stories and explain the three things every relationship needs to feel emotionally safe. Whether you're struggling to open up or want to build a deeper connection, this episode offers simple, heartfelt guidance to help you grow together—not apart.

Show notes:
(4:32) What is psychological safety?
(6:29) Responsiveness in relationships
(10:13) Why even delayed replies can harm the connection
(13:32) Co-regulation and emotional support
(16:40) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(18:05) Why do we turn to friends instead of our partner
(20:13) Avoiding judgment when your partner opens up
(25:09) How to offer real emotional support
(31:31) Outro

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#163 - Are You Being Mistreated?

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they reveal a powerful tool that helps people worldwide determine whether they’re being mistreated or experiencing something more profound. They walk through the 10 most common signs of mistreatment and how even well-meaning partners can cause harm without realizing it. You’ll also learn how your past may affect what you tolerate now—and what to do if your heart, mind, and gut don’t agree. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this episode will help you recognize red flags early and give you the clarity to take the next step.

Show notes:
(2:18) What is the mistreatment scorecard?
(4:06) Green, yellow, red: Growth skittles and top 10 mistreatments
(7:38) Why your gut often knows first
(10:29) Small mistreatment can lead to abuse
(11:54) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks.
(13:31) Rational lies: Why we stay too long
(17:05) Unseen mistreatment
(20:13) Growth comes from honest scoring
(22:52) Outro

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#162 - How Dangerous It Is to Assume Nothing’s Wrong

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Assuming everything is fine in your relationship might be causing cracks to form. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan explore the silent relationship killer. They share real-life coaching experiences where couples unknowingly drifted apart due to a lack of communication and self-awareness. Together, they provide practical steps to help couples stay connected, set relationship goals, and ensure both partners grow together, not apart.

Show notes:
(4:05) Why discomfort leads to relationship growth
(5:34) A real-life example of a couple drifting apart
(7:35) The danger of avoiding hard conversations
(10:06) The cycle of ignoring problems until it’s too late
(12:17) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(16:42) How setting goals keeps you humble
(22:42) A simple gratitude habit to strengthen relationships
(24:46) Outro

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#161 - How to Avoid Breaking Up

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0400

What if you could prevent your relationship from falling apart before it’s too late? Many couples break up not because they don’t love each other but because they ignore small problems until they become too big to fix. In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the two biggest reasons couples struggle. Learn how to recognize early signs of trouble, build emotional security, and take responsibility for your growth so your relationship can thrive. Whether in a committed relationship or preparing for one, these lessons will help you build trust, communicate better, and create a relationship where both partners feel safe, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(2:30) Why couples wait too long to get help
(5:44) Unhealed wounds and relationship struggles
(7:46) The silent shame that leads to breakups
(9:50) What is psychological safety?
(12:14) Signs you don’t feel safe in your relationship
(14:22) Listen to Jason's and LJason’sestimLisa’son Alan and Emilia’s RelaEmilia’s Coaching.
(16:40) How fights weaken your relationship
(20:26) What safety looks like for each partner
(24:14) The role of personal growth in love
(28:40) Outro

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#160 - Does Your Partner Support Your Bucket List?

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss a real-life coaching session where a couple had to choose between an African safari and their long-term financial goals. They break down the law of trade-offs, the importance of communication, and why mapping out dreams together is key. Whether your bucket list includes travel, personal growth, or big life milestones, this episode will help you find a way to make it happen—without sacrificing your relationship.

Show notes:
(2:32) A client’s bucket list dilemma
(5:08) Men’s perspective on bucket lists & practicality
(10:25) The law of trade-offs: Dreams Vs. Reality
(15:17) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(16:35) Why couples should use a shared whiteboard
(19:00) How a couple reworked their roadmap to make a dream happen
(23:19) Why do some dreams get suppressed in relationships
(26:50) How to strategically plan bucket list goals
(29:43) Outro

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What a wonderful day! - https://bit.ly/3XoQfik

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#159 - Which of These Roles Are You Playing in Your Relationship?

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Discover the roles that shape love and how to bridge the growth gap. In this episode, Emilia and Alan share clear, simple insights to help you strengthen your bond. They show how small shifts in daily habits might slowly change your relationship. With real-life examples and heartfelt advice, they introduce three key roles—pusher, nudger, and inspirer—that each partner might play. Their conversation shows how being aware of your actions and leading by example can bring you and your partner closer.

Show notes:
(2:48) Exploring three relationship roles dynamics
(3:19) Understanding the “60 rule” in relationships
(4:22) Daily connection and bridging the gap
(7:02) Moving from agree-to-disagree to true integration
(17:03) Identifying the pusher's role in action
(20:11) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(21:23) Explaining the nudger role effectively
(26:06) Learning the inspirer role by example
(34:21) Growth integration
(38:39) Outro

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#158 - How Different Are You & Your Partner's Richter Scales?

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered why some people tolerate mistreatment while others set strict boundaries? In this episode, Emilia and Alan break down the “Richter Scale” of relationships—how our upbringing influences what we see as usual in love, conflict, and emotional connection. They explore how past experiences shape how we treat (and accept treatment from) our partners. They share personal stories and examples of how childhood environments create unconscious relationship patterns. Whether you grew up in a calm, respectful household or one filled with tension and conflict, this episode will help you assess your relationship standards. More importantly, you’ll learn to set a healthier, higher standard for yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:05) What is a relationship Richter scale?
(3:45) Why your normal might not be your partner’s
(7:04) How childhood experiences shape what we tolerate
(12:50) Recognizing mistreatment & raising standards
(14:45) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(16:55) Breaking generational patterns of toxic relationships
(24:26) How to start raising your standards
(28:10) Outro

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#157 - Are You In An Emotionally Mature Relationship?

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore emotional maturity—why it matters and how it strengthens relationships. Learn key skills like self-awareness, emotional regulation, and healthy communication. Plus, assess your relationship with a simple rating system. Tune in to grow together, not apart!

Show notes:
(3:44) What emotional maturity looks like in relationships
(6:40) Defining emotional maturity Vs. Immaturity
(12:40) The 10 key skills that define emotional maturity
(14:49) Relationship rating exercise: Green, yellow, red system
(21:42) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(26:20) The long-term impact of emotional immaturity
(29:37) Real-life example: Emotional immaturity in daily life
(35:26) How to actively build emotional maturity in your relationship
(38:55) Outro

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#156 - What’s Your Go-To Communication Style?

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Unlock the secrets to transforming your relationship. In this episode, Emilia and Alan explore four communication styles, which help you identify your default approach and how it affects your relationship. They share real-life examples, discuss the impact of past experiences, and provide practical ways to shift toward healthier, more effective conversations. Whether you struggle to speak up, avoid conflict, or tend to dominate discussions, understanding your communication style can strengthen your connection.

Show notes:
(2:44) The “iceberg” concept—what’s beneath communication struggles?
(4:21) Passive communication
(5:50) Assertive communication
(7:05) Metaphors for communication styles: Turtle, Puffer Fish, and Turtle Puff
(11:18) Passive-aggressive communication
(17:08) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(18:35) Aggressive communication
(22:14) Recognizing aggressive tendencies and setting boundaries
(26:39) The key to healthy relationships
(28:58) Outro

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#155 - How to Become a Better Partner

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Are you the kind of person who wants a better relationship but isn’t sure where to begin? What if the secret lies within you? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how personal growth fuels lasting, meaningful relationships. Through personal stories and real-world coaching experiences, they highlight why actions outweigh words, how self-discipline drives growth, and what happens when one partner outpaces the other. Tune in to learn how to break through stagnation and create the partnership of your dreams.

Show notes:
(1:59) The “Me” builds the “We.”
(6:42) Pretenders Vs. Doers in growth
(11:28) Real habits of growth-oriented people
(13:51) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(15:09) The impact of personal effort on relationships
(17:26) Balancing business and personal life
(22:57) Relationship Talks Event invitation
(24:38) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth” - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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#154 - One Reason Your Needs Aren't Being Met

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore why courage is essential for expressing your needs and creating deeper intimacy. Through real-life stories, playful anecdotes, and actionable advice, they discuss how fear and past rejection shape our ability to ask for what we need. Learn how to identify your core needs, overcome the fear of rejection, and build a more balanced partnership, perfect for couples and individuals committed to personal growth and meaningful connections.

Show notes:
(2:24) Funny story: Courage at a dance club
(6:29) What is courage, and why does it matter?
(8:31) The “Rainbow Slide” explanation
(14:37) How rejection shapes our fear of asking
(16:43) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(19:21) Identifying unmet needs in relationships
(22:49) Balancing conflicting needs in partnerships
(24:58) Risks of being overly selfless or selfish
(30:11) The "growth gap" in relationships
(32:18) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth" - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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#153 - One Powerful Tool That's Changed Our Relationship

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Frustrations aren’t just complaints—they’re pathways to innovation! In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan share a powerful tool that transformed their connection and deepened their understanding of each other. Learn why expressing gratitude and frustrations is key to building psychological safety and fostering collaboration in your relationship. They discuss how unspoken frustrations can create unseen wedges, the importance of honest communication, and how gratitude can coexist with constructive criticism. Whether single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical tips to foster openness and growth with your partner.

Show notes:
(2:25) The powerful relationship tool
(5:16) The “home theater” story and frustrations
(9:09) The role of psychological safety in relationships
(14:34) Bonnie says this about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
(17:09) Why frustrations spark creativity and innovation
(24:24) The genius of the “and” in communication
(28:19) Relationship coaching and upcoming events
(30:22) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

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#152 - Does Your Partner Love All of You?

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Are you being your true self in your relationship, or are parts of you hiding to fit in? In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss what it means for your partner to love all of you genuinely—your past, present, and future selves. With relatable stories and actionable advice, they’ll inspire you to reflect on your relationships and teach you how to foster more profound, authentic connections. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper, more authentic bond.

Show notes:
(2:39) The sun and planets analogy for true self
(5:37) Hiding your true self in relationships
(10:04) How fear impacts authenticity
(12:13) Looking back: growth over time
(14:12) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(20:06) Does your partner love all of you?
(25:25) Courageous conversations and authenticity
(27:41) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

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#151 - Why You Might Be Feeling Disconnected

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they share personal stories, practical tips, and thoughtful insights on setting boundaries to enhance emotional intimacy. Discover how small, intentional changes—like moving your devices to another room—can transform how you connect with your partner. From putting your phone aside to establishing healthier screen-time habits, this episode offers actionable tools to help you and your loved one prioritize meaningful moments together. Tune in now to reconnect and strengthen your bond!

Show notes:
(3:36) Personal strategies to limit distractions
(5:50) Understanding “Brain Rot” and “Digiphrenia”
(7:31) Choosing your partner over your screen
(10:29) Identifying your biggest distractions
(11:32) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(14:48) Impact of unmet needs on relationships
(19:15) Setting boundaries for a deeper connection
(21:15) Courageous communication with your partner
(23:09) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

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#150 - How to Start 2025 Off on the Same Page

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Transform your relationship goals into reality! In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan guide couples through the “Three C’s” for building a strong, fulfilling relationship in the new year. They share inspiring client stories, practical tips, and exercises to help couples align on goals, create sustainable plans, and support each other through challenges. Whether planning for a home, a wedding, or a fitness goal, these tools will help you and your partner align your visions and create lasting memories.

Show notes:
(2:12) Highlighting client success
(4:16) The iceberg analogy: Visible results Vs. Hidden work
(9:25) The three C’s
(14:05) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(17:18) Overcoming mental blocks around goal-setting
(24:05) Real-life examples of the three C’s in action
(30:13) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

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#149 - Does Your Partner Always Think They're Right

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Are you stuck in a never-ending tug-of-war over who’s ‘right’ in your relationship? What if the goal wasn’t to win the argument but to uncover the truth? In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how shifting your mindset can transform your connection. Through real-life stories, practical examples, and the powerful metaphor of a ‘truth chamber,’ they’ll show you how to build trust, accept feedback gracefully, and align your goals for a thriving partnership. Tune in to discover simple strategies to grow closer and flourish as a team.

Show notes:
(2:30) A humorous story about feedback in relationships
(6:56) Personal growth through embracing past mistakes
(10:09) The “truth chamber” metaphor for objective communication
(14:59) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(18:45) Aligning goals as a couple for mutual success
(25:26) Invitation to the upcoming RTE
(27:03) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#148 - How "Protecting Your Partner" Can Backfire

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how protective relationship behaviors can unintentionally create tension and hinder growth. They discuss the dangers of shielding your partner from constructive feedback out of fear of their reaction—a behavior that often leads to resentment and emotional disconnection. Through real-life examples, Emilia and Alan highlight the importance of courage and vulnerability in addressing challenges, prioritizing emotional safety, and fostering meaningful communication. Tune in to discover practical ways to strengthen your bond and grow together, not apart.

Show notes:
(2:14) The “resentment formula” explained
(4:37) Struggling with boundaries and feedback.
(7:18) Balancing personal growth and protecting the family dynamic
(10:57) How generational beliefs shape relationship behaviors
(12:56) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(15:22) The power of courage and vulnerability in feedback
(22:21) Aligning goals and communication for a flourishing relationship.
(26:27) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#147 - One Conversation That Will Make Your Holiday Great

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Turn holiday chaos into a bonding experience! Emilia and Alan share simple, effective strategies to reduce stress and strengthen your relationship during the busiest time of the year. Discover three must-ask questions to prioritize what matters, support each other meaningfully, and enjoy the holidays peacefully and purposefully. Don’t let holiday stress pull you apart—learn how to grow together and end the year feeling more connected.

Show notes:
(1:51) The holiday season: Why it often brings relationship challenges
(5:22) What’s most important to you during the holidays?
(9:07) What does support look like for you during this time?
(11:56) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(15:39) What do we need to do now to be proactive?
(20:01) Building peaceful holiday routines
(22:45) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#146 - How to Stay Connected When There’s a Core Belief in Conflict

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0500

What do you do when your beliefs clash with your partner’s? In this episode, Alan and Emilia offer practical tools and real-life examples to help couples bridge the gap. They’ll show how conflicts over deep-seated beliefs can be an opportunity to grow stronger together. Through their stories and insights from coaching, they share simple strategies to stay connected, even in tough times. Tune in for relatable advice and actionable tips to help you and your partner move forward, no matter how different your perspective may seem.

Show notes:
(2:09) Turning conflicts into opportunities for growth
(4:22) How societal events highlight belief differences
(10:26) Core beliefs and relationship journeys
(12:50) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(18:11) Resolving belief-based tensions
(21:30) “Weeding the garden” of minor conflicts
(24:45) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#145 - Do You Have Full Self-Acceptance In Your Relationship

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they unpack the challenges and beauty of self-acceptance. Learn why embracing your strengths and flaws is vital to personal growth and thriving relationships. They share real stories from their coaching experiences, offering tools to transform insecurities into opportunities for deeper connection and mutual respect. Discover how self-compassion can be the first step toward better relationships, and reflect on the role models who shaped your self-perception.

Show notes:
(2:25) Three “camps” of self-acceptance
(4:07) The triad of transformation
(6:27) How self-acceptance impacts relationships
(10:26) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently
(11:55) The three layers of truth in self-identity
(14:36) Self-acceptance and relational growth
(19:42) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” - https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#144 - How Does Your Relationship Handle Stress?

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Transform stress into strength! Alan and Emilia talk about how stress affects relationships—and what couples can do to manage it together. They introduce two types of stress: the kind that motivates us and the kind that overwhelms us, showing how each impacts our relationships. They share four ways couples usually handle stress together, from building each other up to accidentally tearing each other down. With practical tips, they explain how to turn stressful moments into chances for connection. You’ll learn helpful strategies for supporting each other’s growth, setting boundaries, and keeping a strong “we” through life’s ups and downs. Tune in for real stories, laughs, and advice you can use right away to bring you and your partner closer, even when life gets tough.

Show notes:
(2:22) Two types of stress
(6:55) Increasing digital and social stress
(10:48) Dyadic coping
(12:24) Supportive coping in action
(18:48) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(24:39) Negative coping in relationships
(27:32) Protective coping and shielding partners from growth
(30:12) Validation with constructive feedback
(37:19) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” - https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8

___________________________

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*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#143 - Do You & Your Partner Have Different Energies?

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Ever feel like you and your partner are just not in sync? Maybe they’re buzzing with energy while you’re more relaxed, or the roles are reversed. In this episode, Alan and Emilia dive into understanding your unique energy levels and what they mean for your relationship. Learn how to align with each other’s natural rhythms, improve communication, and even use these energy differences to deepen your connection. Packed with tips on daily habits and impactful reflection exercises, this episode is your guide to building a more balanced, harmonious relationship. Tune in and bring new harmony to your connection!

Show notes:
(2:06) Energy differences in relationships
(3:54) Identifying personal energy set points
(5:06) Introvert Vs. Extrovert energy dynamics
(9:08) Framework for identifying energy "zones"
(11:56) Tips on raising energy levels
(17:22) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
(24:26) Communication as the key to bridging energy gaps
(31:11) Top Three tips for increasing your energy
(35:38) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” - https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8

___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#142 - What We’ve Learned From Our 5 Year Anniversary

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this special anniversary episode, Alan and Emilia celebrate five transformative years together, sharing heartfelt insights into their love, growth, and partnership journey. They discuss the importance of growth-oriented relationships, highlighting three foundational lessons. They share heartfelt insights and practical steps for couples looking to strengthen their relationships and grow together, not apart. Whether in a relationship or single, tune in to discover the keys to building a lasting, growth-driven connection.

Show notes:
(4:48) Going through memories together
(7:53) Lessons learned on relationships, others, and self
(10:13) Importance of deep conversations
(13:02) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(14:33) Building relationships with humility, courage, and vulnerability
(18:47) Growth in vulnerability
(21:05) How deeper understanding strengthens relationships
(26:32) Relationship coaching and gratitude practices
(27:02) Outro

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#141 - Does Your Partner Know How to Support Your Goals?

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Discover the secret to thriving relationships! In this heartfelt episode, hosts Alan and Emilia discuss how differing ambitions can create tension in relationships, especially when one partner feels unsupported. Alan shares stories from past relationships where he felt dragged down due to a lack of shared vision, while Emilia reflects on her experiences with misaligned goals in her relationships. Together, they offer listeners practical advice on communicating needs, setting clear boundaries, and supporting one another’s dreams. Whether you’re a conscious couple or a single individual eager to strengthen your love life, this episode promises to equip you with the skills and mindset needed for a successful and harmonious partnership.

Show notes:
(3:01) Metaphor of goals and dragging a partner
(4:06) Types of relationships (A, B, C)
(5:33) Alan’s personal story of feeling unsupported
(7:07) The courage to express what support looks like
(10:35) Emilia’s experience with juggling goals and unsupportive partners
(14:03) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(16:25) How to measure and communicate goal support in relationships
(21:45) Practical steps to enhance goal support in your relationship
(27:57) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks #41 on Friday, November 22nd, 2024, at 05:00 pm EST: “Our Top 5 Relationship Game Changers and How to Implement Them” - https://bit.ly/4dTp0C8

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#140 - How To Come Back Stronger After Heartache

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Ever wonder how some relationships grow stronger after heartache? Alan and Emilia share valuable insights on rebuilding relationships, focusing on accountability, growth, and embracing imperfections in this episode. Learn how the Japanese concept of Kintsugi applies to mending emotional wounds and making your relationship even more beautiful after facing challenges. Whether you’re struggling with a breakup or want to strengthen your bond, this episode offers heartfelt advice for returning stronger as a couple.

Show notes:
(1:50) The origin of their relationship coaching journey
(3:28) The couple’s story: Growth divergence and accountability
(5:18) Introduction to the concept of Kintsugi
(9:51) Repairing the “relationship fabric” with patience and care
(10:52) The triad of transformation: Humility, courage, and vulnerability
(16:18) Using conflict to grow stronger in relationships
(13:16) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(20:32) The power of forgiveness and taking ownership
(26:46) Outro

Video Reference:
Kara Lawson: Handle Hard Better - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDzfZOfNki4

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” - https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt

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#139 - What It’s Like to Be an Empowered, Growth-Minded Woman in a Relationship

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Are you navigating a relationship where growth isn’t aligned? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros share personal stories and helpful advice for women who want to stay strong in their self-worth while building a healthy relationship. You’ll hear tips on setting boundaries, knowing when to take charge, and how to grow together with your partner. Whether in a relationship or focusing on self-love, this episode offers practical insights to help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Show notes:
(3:56) Challenges of being growth-oriented in a relationship
(6:42) Assessing growth in a relationship
(10:38) Falling in love with potential and setting boundaries
(17:44) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(19:41) The importance of taking control in relationships
(25:26) Recognizing who is holding the relationship back
(35:15) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” - https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt

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#138 - A Male’s Perspective On Being In A Growth Relationship

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 11:00:00 -0400

How can men overcome societal expectations to thrive in love? In this episode, Alan shares a male’s perspective on being in a growth-oriented relationship. Through his experience as a coach and partner, he reveals how men often struggle with self-reflection, humility, and vulnerability in relationships. Alan discusses the pressures men face to achieve outward success while neglecting emotional connection, which women typically value deeply. He offers insights into the importance of personal growth for both partners and the dangers of settling in relationships. Alan and Emilia encourage listeners to embrace growth, communicate openly, and work toward building more robust, more fulfilling relationships together.

Show notes:
(2:17) Alan’s journey with relationships before meeting Emilia
(3:38) Alan’s experience coaching women in growth relationships
(7:19) The issue of cognitive dissonance in men
(12:28) Growth relationships vs. fixed mindset relationships
(17:55) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(20:53) Choosing between a growth-oriented or non-growth-oriented partner
(25:34) Tools for men in growth relationships
(34:35) Outro

Link mentioned:
Next Level Dreamliner: https://a.co/d/aWiJ3FK

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” - https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt

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#137 - Do You Feel Like Your Partner's Mom Sometimes?

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Do you ever feel like you’re doing all the work in your relationship? In this episode, Alan and Emilia discuss the hidden challenges of invisible work and unequal partnerships that many couples face today. Learn why fair play and shared responsibilities are critical to a balanced relationship and how you and your partner can start growing together by creating an equal partnership. Whether in a relationship or embracing self-love, tune in for real-life examples, insightful discussions, and practical advice for strengthening your relationship!

Show notes:
(2:21) The concept of invisible work and cognitive labor
(5:34) Personal examples of unequal partnership
(8:07) Defining cognitive labor and its impact
(12:01) Listener feedback and event insights
(14:08) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(16:40) How entitlement affects relationships
(19:03) The idea of equal partnership
(28:41) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #40 on Tuesday, October 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be Your True Self in Your Relationship” - https://bit.ly/3MSSYLt

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emilia@theweuniversity.com

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#136 - A Secret to Living Together Better

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Do minor disagreements at home sometimes turn into more significant issues? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Together, they dive into the little habits that can make or break harmony in relationships. From bedtimes to dishes, they explore why understanding each other’s lifestyle preferences is vital to living together better. Tune in to discover how you and your partner can align your needs for a deeper connection. Whether in a relationship or embracing self-love, this episode offers valuable insights to help nurture fulfilling connections with others or yourself.

Show notes:
(3:05) 25 Conscious Love Languages Worksheet
(4:14) Importance of lifestyle preferences
(5:31) Safety and comfort in home environments
(7:18) Sharing personal experiences and tips
(10:16) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(12:46) Discussing individual lifestyle musts
(19:31) Closing thoughts and invitation to upcoming events
(20:17) Outro

Digital Asset:
The 25 Conscious Love Languages: https://bit.ly/3TLc2PS

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration

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#135 - What Does 'Equal Partnership' Mean to You?

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 11:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Alan and Emilia dive into what equal partnership looks like in relationships. They share personal stories and coaching experiences to explore how partners can divide responsibilities fairly, whether in business or at home. Highlighting the idea of “invisible work” and the challenges many couples face, they stress the importance of defining equality for each partner. They offer practical advice on creating a balanced and supportive partnership from household chores to financial duties.

Show notes:
(1:40) Defining equal partnership and its impact on couples
(4:26) Example of cognitive labor and invisible work in relationships
(6:11) Introduction of the DRI (Directly Responsible Individual) concept for task division
(7:46) Story of a couple’s unequal household work perception
(11:24) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(16:41) Importance of defining what equality means in your relationship
(18:49) Creating a win-win approach to dividing household responsibilities
(20:58) Outro

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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration

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#134 - What Can You Learn From Your Relationship History?

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Are your past relationships affecting your present and future ones? In this episode, Alan and Emilia share how reflecting on your relationship history can help you understand your preferences and avoid repeating mistakes. They offer practical advice on being your true self in a relationship, ensuring growth and alignment with your partner. Tune in to discover how to cultivate a relationship that amplifies who you are!

Show notes:
(2:01) The importance of reflecting on relationship history
(3:00) Exercise: Bright spots and dark spots in relationships
(5:50) Learning from past relationships to make better choices
(12:04) The danger of ignoring relationship standards
(12:46) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(20:40) Amplifying your true self in a relationship
(24:05) How to not be held back by your relationship
(25:14) Final thoughts and invitation to Relationship Talks coaching
(25:20) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration

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#133 - How Are Your Partner’s Decisions Impacting You?

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how the decisions you and your partner make every day shape your relationship. Whether a simple or extensive choice, these decisions can lead to a stronger, healthier connection or create challenges. Through personal stories and real-life examples, they share how partners can unknowingly impact each other’s actions and emphasize the power of honest, caring conversations. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship by making more thoughtful choices together.

Show notes:
(1:47) Emilia shares a personal story on emotional vulnerability
(3:22) The significance of better decision-making in relationships
(5:12) Alan discusses the long-term impact of decisions made in high school
(8:30) The influence of partner behavior on personal growth
(12:21) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks
(13:55) How to address misaligned standards with your partner
(18:09) The 1% improvement rule in decision-making
(20:20) How to have a courageous conversation about sensitive issues
(24:27) Invitations to RTC and RTE
(26:05) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us at Relationship Talks Event #39 on Thursday, September 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to NOT Be Held Back in Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwof-yrqTsjGtEUfK4DcWkkAtxnTFHLoAQd#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#132 - Does Your Partner REALLY Believe in Themself?

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Do you ever wonder if your partner truly believes in themselves or if they’re secretly struggling with self-doubt? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.This eye-opening episode explores how deep-rooted beliefs can shape our relationships, mainly focusing on two core wounds: feeling “defective” and “unlovable.” Discover how these underlying fears can trigger conflicts and how to build genuine self-belief to foster healthier, more supportive partnerships.

Show notes:
(2:12) Two main buckets of the core wound
(5:58) The formula for building self-belief: State, Prove, Self-assign
(8:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
(10:40) Comparison of self-belief processes in "Defective" Vs. "Unlovable"
(13:35) Humility and courage in relationships
(16:38) Continue vulnerability
(17:36) Invitation to Relationship Talks Coaching
(19:23) Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#131 - When Are You Your Partner's Primary Focus?

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Do you feel like your partner truly sees you, or are you sometimes left in the background? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode unpacks what it means to be your partner’s primary focus and why it’s crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. Listen in as they share real-life examples and tips to help you and your partner stay connected, even when life gets busy. Perfect for couples and individuals who want to strengthen their relationships and feel more valued in their connections. Whether in a relationship or single, this episode provides valuable insights into creating more profound, more intentional connections.

Show notes:
(2:15) The challenge of harmonizing podcasting and relationship
(4:41) Scenario 1: When your partner is your primary focus
(5:54) Scenario 2: When your partner is a secondary focus
(10:03) Scenario 3: Switching focus and its challenges
(13:38) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(15:56) Slow, tiny, boiling water analogy and regular “No-Stim” nights for reconnection
(17:53) Personal “software updates”
(19:56) Growth mindset, adaptability, and understanding
(24:30) Homework for everyone
(26:44) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#130 - Staying Connected While Your Needs Are Neglected

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how prioritizing personal needs is crucial for a healthy relationship. Life’s pressures, from financial stress to everyday challenges, can easily make you neglect yourself, putting a strain on even the strongest bonds. Discover practical tips and heartfelt advice to keep your relationship loving and supportive, no matter what life throws at you. Tune in for an engaging discussion that helps you stay connected and harmonize with yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:29) H.H.A.L.L.T
(3:33) 10-pound, 10-week challenge
(5:47) Scarcity 101: Financial stress
(8:27) Maslow’s Mountain of Needs
(10:32) Business growth and relationship dynamics
(12:57) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(14:05) Micro and Macro assessments
(17:31) Personal responsibility and mutual support
(18:57) “How can I support you?”
(20:55) Do check in’s with yourself and your partner
(24:31) Outro

Digital Asset:
Maslow’s Mountain of Needs - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JPjcS0LT26EtFCknvwzldi-GIlON7QuS/view

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

#129 - What "Doing THE WORK" Actually Means

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered why some people grow emotionally while others stay stuck? Tune into The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explain what “doing the work” means regarding personal growth, especially for men. Using relatable stories and insights, they explore how men and women differ in self-improvement, the value of therapy, and the power of humility. Join them as they discuss the challenges and rewards of personal growth and how it can improve your relationships and self-awareness.

Show notes:
(1:57) Origin story of “doing the work.”
(3:36) The value of therapy and inner work to men
(5:05) Distinction between male and female focus in personal development
(6:53) Inner work vs. external work
(7:58) From inside out
(10:39) Signs of not doing the inner work
(15:24) Listen to what Amy and Chris say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(16:28) The concept of “truth target” and ego circles
(18:01) The challenge of benchmarking identity against reality
(20:18) Gender differences in facing ego challenges
(24:16) Importance of humility and self-belief in personal growth
(29:16) Outro

Digital Assets:
The Ego Circles - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19CytO6WS3FWr00ig-Nft92HmxgxYma0N/view?usp=drive_link
The 25 Conscious Love Languages - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view?usp=drive_link

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

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#128 - Is Your Partner Addicted to Their Devices?

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Are you struggling with device addiction in your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss the importance of setting boundaries with technology, the impact of excessive screen time on relationships, and strategies to reclaim quality time together. From creating device-free zones to establishing notification hygiene, learn how to foster a more connected and present partnership in a tech-driven world. Tune in for a comprehensive guide to healthier, more present relationships in the age of constant connectivity.

Show notes:
(2:34) Event feedback: The relevance of discussing device addiction
(4:31) Tools in the hands of fools
(5:39) Staggering statistics on daily screen time
(7:02) Have the conversation
(8:16) Future implications of technology in relationships
(11:39) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(14:09) Tips and setting boundaries
(15:15) Device and notification hygiene
(19:08) Protecting your consciousness and device-free quality time
(21:27) Harmonizing work and relationship presence
(24:54) Outro

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#127 - How Much Is Your Past Hurting Your Relationship?

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Can unresolved childhood experiences sabotage your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, we’ll explore the profound impact of viewing the past as a slingshot for future growth, the significance of creating core memories together, and the role of understanding and supportive partners. The discussion highlights the importance of exploring underlying fears and core limiting beliefs with courage and vulnerability, which can pave the way for personal growth and stronger connections. Join us to learn how to transform past pain into opportunities for connection and joy.

Show notes:
(1:55) Story about the client’s engagement party
(2:55) Surface level indicators of deep-rooted problems
(5:26) Childhood experiences affecting adult behavior
(7:18) Importance of identifying and addressing triggers
(9:13) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(13:27) Strategies for partners to support each other
(15:40) Recognizing defensive reactions vs. true preferences
(17:17) Upcoming events
(18:18) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

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#126 - Why Do I Still Feel Lonely in a Relationship?

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Feeling lonely even when you’re with your partner? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode reveals why many people think this way in relationships and how to change it. Learn the real reasons behind this common issue and how understanding it can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Alan and Emilia share their insights from coaching, highlighting the importance of emotional availability and creating safe spaces. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical advice on addressing loneliness and fostering deeper intimacy.

Show notes:
(2:28) Misbeliefs about relationships solving loneliness
(4:28) Romanticism around relationships and the two beliefs
(8:20) The necessity of recognizing and communicating your needs
(11:33) Safe space: Emotional availability, especially in traditional roles
(13:24) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:25) Depths are valuable and perceived weakness
(18:05) Gender conditioning and emotional expression
(21:02) Playing not to lose and not playing to win
(22:24) Pretend stoicism
(29:30) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

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#125 - Is Your Pride Creating Conflict in Your Relationship?

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Join Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros on The Conscious Couples Podcast to explore how pride can impact love and relationships. In this episode, they define pride, share relatable examples of its effects, and introduce the Love-to-Pride (LTP) ratio—a key to sustaining a loving partnership. Learn practical advice on balancing accuracy and humility in your interactions, ensuring a healthy and harmonious relationship. Tune in for a concise yet impactful discussion that will help you and your partner navigate the complexities of love with greater awareness and intention.

Show notes:
(2:05) Defining pride and its effects on relationships
(3:41) Love to Pride “LTP” ratio
(4:27) Four horsemen and bids for connection
(7:16) Practical application of the LTP ratio in daily life
(9:39) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(11:40) Accurate perception
(13:48) What you measure changes the way you play
(15:51) Constructive conflict
(18:43) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

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#124 - Does Your Relationship See Conflict as Good or Bad?

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Can conflict be the hidden key to a healthier relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Many people view disagreements as detrimental, but what if they could be the key to fostering stronger, more resilient partnerships? By shifting our perspective and adopting a growth mindset, engaging in open communication, and taking personal responsibility, couples can transform disagreements into opportunities for mutual growth and deeper connection. This topic is a reminder that, like a home renovation, addressing foundational issues in a relationship leads to a stronger, more resilient partnership.

Show notes:
(1:35) Setting intentions
(2:28) Metaphor of the axe
(3:17) Relationship Talks Event recap
(4:27) Question on conflict in relationships
(6:01) Belief systems in conflict
(7:39) Growth vs. Fixed mindset
(11:13) External vs. Internal improvement
(12:29) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(15:02) You cannot change someone
(16:47) Three phases of conflict
(23:09) Relationship Talks Coaching
(25:19) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

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#123 - The Top 3 Tools to Help Your Relationship Flourish

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss how couples can stay close and happy even when life gets busy. They share three powerful tools designed to streamline collaboration, enhance communication, and structure your daily interactions, helping you and your partner achieve a well-organized, goal-oriented, and harmonious partnership. Tune in to hear their stories, learn tips, and how these tools can help your relationship flourish.

Show notes:
(2:52) Past relationship experiences
(3:41) Overview of the top three tools
(6:53) First tool
(10:14) Guidelines
(13:03) Second tool
(13:57) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks
(17:30) The cheat code
(19:59) Third tool
(21:38) Ground rules
(23:34) Practical tips for using these tools
(25:31) Relationship Talks Coaching
(27:48) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #36 on Thursday, June 20th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Three Phases of Conflict You MUST Learn” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAodOigrz4iE9dA8_AKJqI8cPCAWQpBxKUw#/registration

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#122 - How to Prevent Destructive Patterns in Your Relationship

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this insightful episode, they dive into the crucial role of self-regulation in maintaining healthy relationships. They break down the three types of regulation—external, co-regulation, and self-regulation—emphasizing the importance of each in developing emotional stability and resilience. Understanding and applying self-regulation can prevent destructive patterns and enhance emotional intelligence, leading to healthier, more harmonious, stable, and constructive interactions with partners.

Show notes:
(4:20) Analogy to illustrate the concept of regulation
(5:53) The importance of self-regulation in emotional intelligence
(7:02) External regulation and its significance
(10:33) Co-regulation in peer groups and its challenges
(15:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
(16:50) The necessity of self-regulation for individual and relationship growth
(19:03) Personal anecdotes illustrating self-regulation benefits
(21:19) The impact of self-regulation on rational thinking and behavior
(24:19) Constructive vs. destructive self-regulation methods
(30:54) Outro

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#121 - How Often is Your Partner Taking the High Road?

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Conflict is inevitable, but how we handle it can significantly impact our personal development and the quality of our relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore the complexities of managing confrontations that can catalyze growth and more profound connections when approached with composure, understanding, maturity, and respect.

Show notes:
(2:13) Spill the tea
(8:04) Poor gym etiquette
(12:10) Stand up for yourself, Take ownership and accountability
(15:58) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(18:38) Taking the high road in relationships
(20:48) Steering conflict with composure
(24:45) Earned value, ego, and shame
(29:06) Question to ponder
(30:46) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #36 on Thursday, June 20th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Three Phases of Conflict You MUST Learn” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAodOigrz4iE9dA8_AKJqI8cPCAWQpBxKUw#/registration

___________________________

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#120 - Is Your Partner's Self-Talk Hurting Your Relationship

Tue, 28 May 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they explore how our inner conversations impact personal growth and relationships. They dig into the powerful effect of self-talk on our connections with others. This candid chat sheds light on the vulnerability of recognizing and changing our internal dialogue. Together, they share practical insights on improving your life by understanding and mastering that little voice inside your head.

Show notes:
(2:01) Relationship talks event recap
(4:11) Vulnerability and memory challenges
(7:56) Understanding toxic positivity vs. overly critical self-talk
(10:50) Impact of self-talk on relationships
(14:46) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(15:54) Tune in and tune up; notice the patterns
(18:55) Candid, encouraging, and supportive
(24:32) Reparenting techniques for self-talk
(26:20) Protection mechanism
(29:20) Outro

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#119 - Do You Feel Held Back By Your Partner?

Mon, 20 May 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore the impact of feeling held back by a partner on relationships and how limiting beliefs can hinder personal and relationship growth. Together, they highlight the importance of intuition as a signal for being held back and the significance of addressing such dynamics in relationships, emphasizing the need for open communication, support, and empowering beliefs to nurture personal and collective development.

Show notes:
(2:20) The impact of limiting beliefs
(4:08) Recognizing intuitive pings and self-challenge
(8:42) Leadership: Awareness of blind spots
(9:14) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(11:09) Marathon challenge, partner support and dynamics
(12:21) Overcoming limiting beliefs together
(15:33) Doubt: Partner’s support in envisioning the future
(17:34) Balancing optimism and pessimism
(20:07) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #36 on Thursday, June 20th, 2024, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Three Phases of Conflict You MUST Learn” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAodOigrz4iE9dA8_AKJqI8cPCAWQpBxKUw#/registration

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#118 - Do You Know Your Partner's Keystone Habit?

Mon, 13 May 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the concept of keystone habits, a topic that is as fascinating as it is critical to personal and relational development. These habits are the central stone in the arch of our daily lives, holding together the myriad of routines and practices we engage in. Identifying and nurturing your keystone habits can significantly enhance your sanity, productivity, and connection with your partner.

Show notes:
(2:15) What’s the 1 thing...?
(3:27) Keystone habits in relationships
(5:25) Knowing your partner’s keystone habit
(7:15) Importance of self-awareness
(8:05) Alan & Emilia’s keystone habits
(10:26) Listen to what Branden and Hannah say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(12:36) The power of certainty in habits
(14:14) Harnessing habitual leverage for personal and relational growth
(15:16) Discover your best self: A journey for Women
(16:39) Notice those patterns
(19:21) Outro

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#117 - How Honest is Your Partner With You?

Mon, 06 May 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Regarding relationships, the truth can be both a shield and a sword. It can protect us from harm and cut through the confusion, clarifying our bonds. But how often do we dare to wield this sword, to turn the ‘truth dial’ up in our relationships? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they venture into this delicate territory, discussing the significance of honesty in nurturing a solid relationship and personal growth.

Show notes:
(1:57) Infinity symbol of connection
(4:06) Truth dial
(6:05) Navigating truth and authenticity
(8:22) The power of self-honesty
(9:56) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(11:24) Open feedback loops and candor
(13:34) Three things to ask
(14:40) There is something to learn
(16:01) How do co-exist?
(18:46) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #35 on Thursday, May 16th, 2024, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: “How Your Self-Talk Is Sabotaging Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwsf-GvrD8sH9b0QAH6BsZsZs8-oVsVJisE#/registration

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#116 - Are You Overswinging Between Clingy & Avoidant?

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.In this episode, the couple delves into the struggle to find the right balance between togetherness and personal space. They emphasize the issue of losing one’s identity in pursuing a solid bond, introducing terms like ‘hyper-individualism’ and ‘enmeshment,’ which are crucial for understanding this dynamic. They also discuss the common tendency to swing between clinginess and distance and how recognizing these patterns can lead to healthier relationships, all while validating the importance of maintaining individual identity.

Show notes:
(3:46) Understanding hyperindividualism
(8:09) Learn from the past
(9:24) What is enmeshment?
(12:24) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(13:34) The two extremes
(14:16) Lossing the ‘Me’ for the ‘We’
(17:34) Truth and data
(18:33) Center point
(21:27) Three takeaways
(24:52) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #35 on Thursday, May 16th, 2024, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: “How Your Self-Talk Is Sabotaging Your Relationship” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwsf-GvrD8sH9b0QAH6BsZsZs8-oVsVJisE#/registration

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#115 - Your Trust Issues Aren't Just From Your Partner

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Navigating the nuanced world of romantic relationships can be as challenging as rewarding. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss trust, advice, and the dynamics of love, dissecting the essence of what makes or breaks the bonds we share with our significant others. Their discussion empowers listeners to guard the sacred space of their relationship and keep it thriving amidst challenges and change.

Show notes:
(5:28) Identify your friends
(6:33) What could be on the other side?
(9:51) Break the cycle
(12:12) Your partner shouldn’t be your everything?
(15:05) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently.
(16:27) Importance of self-advocacy and safe space in relationships
(19:10) Growing and learning: Developing discernment with influences
(23:16) Recognize the power of our influences
(28:04) Outro

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#114 - Are You Jumping to Conclusions Too Much?

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the intricate dance of relationships, a delicate balance between trust, communication, and managing insecurities. They offer practical insights and tools from their experiences and research to help listeners distinguish thoughts from actions, manage emotions with reason, and foster trust and intimacy. This topic is a practical guide towards healthier and happier relationships.

Show notes:
(2:30) Jumping to conclusions: CBT triad
(5:03) Trust, fear or insecurity
(8:21) Cagey
(9:43) Managing insecurities and fears in relationships
(11:06) Fear VS Data
(13:01) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(14:43) Emotional regulation
(17:46) Distorting the reality
(19:01) Stay at five
(21:25) Jump from A to B
(23:04) Hybrid model for couples coaching
(27:21) Outro

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#113 - How to Spot Pretend Growth in Your Partner

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode serves as a valuable guide for individuals seeking to enhance their relationships. It underscores the benefits of self-reflection, open dialogue, and personal growth. By fostering an environment conducive to genuine progress, couples can fortify their bond and progress together. The guide also aids in discerning between genuine personal growth and superficial changes, a crucial aspect of maintaining a profound and enduring relationship.

Show notes:
(1:59) Love story
(5:07) Be yourself
(6:19) Key demarcation line
(9:25) No inflation, no deflation
(10:51) Courage component: How do you spot pretend growth?
(15:35) Bonnie says this about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
(17:58) Traning wheels analogy
(19:39) Mismatched growth trajectories
(21:16) Hide the struggles and amplify the successes
(23:09) Honeymoon, power struggle and commitment
(25:40) Trigger warning
(26:15) Intentions, effort, and intuitions
(29:15) Signs of growth in relationships
(31:48) Outro

Digital Asset:
Alan & Emilia’s first date: https://bit.ly/43Rs8e5

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #34 on Thursday, April 18th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “Who is Your Partner Getting Bad Advice From?”
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#112 - Which "Relationship Killer" Do You Struggle With Most?

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Nurturing a healthy relationship can be challenging, especially when emotions come into play. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the core dynamics of relationships. Drawing from John Gottman’s groundbreaking research, they shed light on four critical behaviors that can spell trouble for any partnership. Recognizing these patterns empowers couples to safeguard their love and build stronger foundations.

Show notes:
(2:20) Anticipate in relationships
(4:07) Don’t be on this stat’s
(5:01) Criticism -> Gentle Vulnerability
(9:24) Stonewalling -> Self-soothing
(11:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(15:12) Defensivesness -> Take Responsibility
(17:20) Contempt -> Sense of Appreciation
(19:49) Antidotes don’t happen until the end
(21:05) The gratitude game and nudge not nag
(23:40) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #34 on Thursday, April 18th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “Who is Your Partner Getting Bad Advice From?”
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#111 - Accepting Your Partner For Who They Are

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they’ll walk us through the simple yet powerful ways to connect with your partner truly. Discover how embracing and celebrating each other’s unique qualities can lead to a stronger, more loving relationship. Learn about the 25 conscious love languages to help you and your loved one grow together. It’s all about understanding, appreciating, and loving your partner for who they are.

Show notes:
(2:41) Importance of accepting your partner and exploring mismatches in 25 conscious love languages
(4:16) Understanding each other: connecting hearts and minds
(7:25) Projecting expectations
(8:56) Accepting your partner where they’re at and falling in love with potential.
(12:26) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:18) Balancing acceptance, integration, and personal boundaries
(16:02) Embracing passions and the power of open hearts and support
(19:33) Suppressed VS Supportive
(23:15) Love languages simplified: Three buckets to harmony
(25:30) Outro

The 25 Conscious Love Languages:
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#110 - Which Partner Has the Longer Time Perspective?

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Have you ever felt like you’re playing tug-of-war with your significant other regarding the future? You’re not alone. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they peel back the layers of long-term thinking in relationships, revealing how it shapes our bonds with our significant others. They share real-life scenarios highlighting how the balance of open-ended and closed-ended questions can either nurture connections or foster disconnects. Uncover the secrets to leveraging these conversational tools to deepen your intimacy and understanding, transforming how you and your partner envision your shared future.

Show notes:
(2:01) How partners communicate
(7:01) Time perspective
(10:39) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(11:42) Visualization exercise
(13:56) Navigating questions: Open vs. Closed
(19:26) Two concepts
(20:16) Homework
(23:08) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
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#109 - Which Partner Is Shouldering More Weight?

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they dive deep into the silent struggle plagues many romantic partnerships: the unequal distribution of responsibilities. They explore how this imbalance can build resentment and what can be done to communicate needs effectively and foster mutual support and respect. The discussion concerns identifying the issue and offering solutions and strategies for couples to evolve.

Show notes:
(2:10) Fairness and support
(5:28) Courageous transformative conversations
(7:22) Gender roles and shifting responsibilities
(9:50) Entropy principle
(12:58) The weight of responsibility in relationships
(15:49) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(17:13) Constant check-ins and teamwork
(20:57) Continue to increase the shared value of growth
(22:16) The challenge and the benefit
(30:19) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
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#108 - My Partner Keeps Signing Us Up for Stuff

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In the realm of relationships, the journey of two individuals coming together to navigate the intricacies of life is a delicate dance of alignment and adaptation. The balance between maintaining individual identities while creating a unified partnership requires constant attention and fine-tuning. Alan and Emilia delve into the complexities of this process, sharing personal anecdotes and actionable strategies that resonate with anyone seeking harmony in their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:06) Navigating Alignment: Effective decision-making
(5:46) Balancing relationship considerations
(8:32) Reassessing decision-making together
(10:11) Have check-ins
(12:56) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(14:12) 3D Plan: Delete, delegate, double-down
(16:59) Navigating relationship priorities
(18:52) Aligned decision-making
(23:41) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
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#107 - Have You Become Just Like Your Parents

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Have you ever heard your mother’s catchphrase or mirrored your father’s habits? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They navigate the complexities of our inherited traits and the invisible legacies passed down through generations. They shine a light on the halo effect and its deceptive rose-colored lens as they reveal how confronting these influences is vital to personal growth and emotional regulation in our own lives. The path to redefining our relationships and breaking free from the shadows of our ancestors is not a solitary endeavor. It is a shared journey, a collective rising, and a communal renaissance of the heart. With courage, with hope, and with the conviction that the legacy we leave can be one of love, understanding, and harmony.

Show notes:
(2:11) Trigger warning: Sensitive topic
(4:25) Halo effect: Cognitive bias
(6:24) Three pivotal questions
(13:12) Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:39) Ask these questions and be honest with yourself
(15:16) What was the good and what was the bad
(17:27) Identify the cycles you want to break and rectify
(20:24) Three steps
(25:09) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#106 - How Is Stress Affecting Your Relationship

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Discover the unseen forces that stress exerts on your most precious connections as today’s topic unravels the mystery behind emotional disconnection in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, the discussion provides an invaluable guide for couples to manage stress together and maintain emotional intimacy. The strategies and insights offered are practical and deeply resonant, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship in today’s fast-paced world. By recognizing the silent battle against stress and taking proactive steps to reconnect, couples can build a foundation of love that can withstand the challenges of modern life.

Show notes:
(2:32) What is emotional connection and emotional disconnection
(4:04) 5 emotional disconnectors
(6:01) What is the biggest barrier?
(7:09) Overcommit
(8:38) Pressure pie: Macro and micro stressors of life
(9:29) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(12:26) Three steps
(14:26) Shoulder or solver?
(16:25) Ask these questions
(19:10) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#105 - Living a Valentine's Day Life Instead

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss a journey, making Valentine’s Day a weekly event rather than a once-a-year occurrence. They share personal anecdotes and strategies to infuse romance every week, turning relationships into a continuous celebration of love. This approach to love is proactive and intentional, emphasizing the importance of regularly nurturing the bond between partners. This conversation serves as a reminder that love is not confined to a calendar date but a feeling and action that can be cultivated daily.

Show notes:
(2:40) Weekend getaway
(5:15) Little things to make every day/week special
(8:35) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
(9:31) Three criteria: Quality alone time, something special, and at least 1hr
(11:57) The We Nucleus
(14:04) Make ’em special
(15:33) Me date
(18:20) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

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*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#104 - Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Ever find yourself nodding along to your partner’s promises, only to be met with inaction? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss that the delicate dance between promises and actions can be the linchpin for harmony or the seed of discontent in relationships. As partners strive for equality within their domestic realms, a chasm often emerges between what is said and what is done. This friction, born out of unmet expectations and the uneven distribution of household tasks, is a familiar battleground for couples navigating the terrain of love and life.

Show notes:
(2:01) A partner who is willing to contribute and go beyond
(4:04) The impact of traditional gender household roles in relationships
(5:46) Words don’t match the actions
(6:24) Mind the gap
(9:59) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(11:37) Cultural and gender expectations
(12:20) Open communication and the willingness to craft a system tailored to each couple’s unique composition
(14:30) Reassess and redefine rulebooks consciously and continuously
(17:06) What does it mean to feel supported?
(19:33) Actively choose the dynamics that work best
(21:53) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

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*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#103 - Are You Afraid of Being "Not Enough" or "Too Much"?

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explored a familiar relationship dilemma many face: the pervasive feeling of being either ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ for one’s partner. This intricate emotional terrain often leads individuals into a maze of insecurities, questioning their worthiness and the balance of affection within their romantic connections.

Show notes:
(2:05) How to overcome insecurities in relationships
(7:04) Openness leads to progress
(8:43) The concept of turtle puff
(10:11) Grace, space, and acceptance
(13:07) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
(14:28) Identify and confront the root
(15:40) Which one of these kind of hurts? Worthiness, loveability, and defectiveness
(18:04) The importance of creating that safe space
(19:15) Applying the real or not real method
(24:31) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#102 - Why Men Struggle in Relationships

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode highlights the delicate subject of men’s emotional struggles within relationships. A topic often shrouded in silence due to societal expectations. The conversation courageously addresses men’s barriers when attempting to express vulnerability and authenticity in their relationships.

Show notes:
(2:32) Pattern
(4:34) Two problems
(6:16) The unseen struggles
(9:17) Understanding trauma and its impact
(14:57) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(16:43) Alan’s truth
(17:52) How to address
(27:21) Outro

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*Email:* 💬
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emilia@theweuniversity.com

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#101 - You Have the Right to Be Happy Even When Your Partner Isn’t

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Have you ever dimmed your light to match the mood of your significant other? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today’s episode delves deep into the delicate equilibrium between self-care and partnership. This conversation is crucial when the world increasingly recognizes the importance of maintaining individuality within a romantic relationship. The shift from codependency to interdependence is a transformative process that allows both partners to thrive without losing sight of their journeys.

Show notes:
(2:30) Walk on eggshells
(5:40) Unconscious belief
(7:16) Emotional manipulation
(11:34) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:18) Codependency and interdependence
(19:47) Be a lighthouse
(24:13) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks #31 on Thursday, January 18th, 2024, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Overcoming Insecurities in Your Relationship”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYrcu2oqj4iGNRLdXRgUVo6dh6NPuYV1F2D#/registration

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

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#100 - The 2 Biggest Relationship Unlocks

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this topic, they discuss how navigating the balance of humility and courage within relationships is akin to a complex dance that requires awareness, grace, and the willingness to learn new steps. This delicate balance was the centerpiece of the 100th episode of the Conscious Couples Podcast, which served as both a celebration of reaching a significant milestone and an insightful exploration of the dynamics that make or break partnerships.

Show notes:
(2:41) Growth-oriented activity story
(4:23) Steamrolling
(5:04) The two unlocks
(10:12) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(13:24) Two responses
(16:25) Rate yourself
(21:20) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks #31 on Thursday, January 18th, 2024, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Overcoming Insecurities in Your Relationship”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYrcu2oqj4iGNRLdXRgUVo6dh6NPuYV1F2D#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#99 - Why You NEVER Feel Heard in Your Relationship

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 11:00:00 -0500

Have you ever poured your heart out, only to feel like your words evaporated into thin air? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They share their very own moments of disconnect and breakthroughs in communication. Through candid conversations, they unravel the delicate threads of feeling unheard in relationships and present you with tools to express yourself and ensure you're being heard. Together, they probe into the nuances of active listening, setting boundaries, and embracing a growth mindset. The art of being listened to is not about talking louder or more persuasively but about creating a space where both partners can speak and listen with empathy and openness. It's about transforming dialogues to strengthen relationship bonds, ensuring everyone feels acknowledged and understood.

Show notes:
(1:44) Intention: Talk louder?
(2:27) Personal anecdote for getting feedback
(4:41) Two energies
(5:48) Areas of low self-belief
(8:24) How to navigate constructive feedback with sensitivity
(10:04) Listening skills
(11:22) Conversational connection
(12:24) Verbal processors and active listening
(13:52) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(14:44) Importance of recognizing the contexts in which we feel unheard
(19:14) It's a skill
(20:08) The power of a growth mindset and listening
(22:48) The goal
(25:15) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks #31 on Thursday, January 18th, 2024, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Overcoming Insecurities in Your Relationship”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYrcu2oqj4iGNRLdXRgUVo6dh6NPuYV1F2D#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#98 - What We Never Realized About Boundaries

Mon, 25 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. As the festive season twinkles on the horizon, join us in a heart-to-heart on aligning our lives with our deepest values amidst the chaos of celebration. This dialogue isn't just a conversation; it's a toolset designed to shed light on the fears that throttle our ability to protect our space and needs—whether it's the fear of judgment or the unsettling worry of losing love. We've devised a straightforward three-step process beyond theory, equipping you with actionable tactics to uphold your boundaries. It's about crafting a holiday season that respects your well-being and fosters joy, not stress. It is a conversation that sheds light on setting boundaries and celebrates them as catalysts for an enriched life experience.

Show notes:
(1:24) Emilia's intention
(2:20) Analogy from a movie
(5:14) Boundary violations everywhere
(6:35) Biggest boundary blocker
(9:00) The unawareness
(11:01) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(12:20) Understanding and setting boundaries
(14:43) Examples
(16:04) Three steps
(18:03) Value of taking messy actions
(19:11) Review
(21:56) Relationship Talks Coaching
(24:17) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #31 on Thursday, January 18th, 2024, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Overcoming Insecurities in Your Relationship”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYrcu2oqj4iGNRLdXRgUVo6dh6NPuYV1F2D#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#97 - How To Navigate Boundary Violations

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0500

The holiday season can bring a lot of joy, but it can also get a fair share of challenges, especially regarding relationships. It is not uncommon for the stress and pressure of the festive season to inadvertently lead to boundary violations in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Navigating boundary violations in relationships during the holiday season may be challenging, but it is also an opportunity for growth. We can turn these challenges into stepping stones toward more vital, healthier relationships with open communication, respect for each other's boundaries, and a commitment to personal growth. After all, the holiday season is not just about the festive cheer and presents - it's about love, respect, and healthy boundaries.

Show notes:
(1:37) How to feel comfortable having uncomfortable conversations
(2:25) Bookstore story
(7:46) The importance of establishing boundary
(11:04) Addressing boundary violations
(12:54) Lucas and Antonie talks about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(14:12) 3 primary elements: Identifying the behavior, conversation & propose
(17:24) Assertiveness and humility
(23:47) Honor your inner-self
(26:36) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #30 on Thursday, December 21st, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Learn How To Honor Your Boundaries During The Holidays”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYvde-urjsoE9aOr_C0v33gE3zIOA6v6YTu#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#96 - Designing Your "Perfect" Date Night

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0500

Are you looking to take your date nights to a new level and spice up your relationship with meaningful experiences? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today's episode discusses the art of designing the perfect date night or day. They share anecdotes and insights into understanding and leveraging each other's love languages. They tap into their own experiences, from hitting the gym to movie nights and outdoor adventures, showcasing how including food and adventure can turn ordinary into extraordinary. All aimed to inspire you to craft your perfect date based on your unique preferences and love languages.

The 25 Conscious Love Languages: For Conscious Couples
https://bit.ly/3NnzCih

Show notes:
(2:02) Cup fillers stacked
(3:19) Alan's perfect evening
(5:36) Designing your rule book
(9:13) What would be a meaningful day shared with your partner?
(10:51) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(13:47) Elevating your relationship experience
(14:40) Knowing the focal point and being intentional
(19:14) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #30 on Thursday, December 21st, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Learn How To Honor Your Boundaries During The Holidays”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYvde-urjsoE9aOr_C0v33gE3zIOA6v6YTu#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#95 - How To Share Uncertainties With Your Partner

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 11:00:00 -0500

Uncertainty and fear of vulnerability can sneak in slowly, placing invisible barriers between you and the one you hold dear. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, honesty about uncertainties creates certainty in relationships. Sharing uncertainties with your partner is critical to maintaining a solid and connected relationship. However, this requires the courage to be vulnerable to expose your insecurities and fears. Not doing so can lead to disconnection and increased insecurity.

Show notes:
(1:44) Alan's vulnerability
(5:19) Unconscious fear
(7:19) Taking accountability for you're feeling
(10:56) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
(11:41) Identify the truth, challenge the fear, and share it with your partner.
(15:31) Courageous, vulnerable communication
(20:31) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #30 on Thursday, December 21st, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Learn How To Honor Your Boundaries During The Holidays”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYvde-urjsoE9aOr_C0v33gE3zIOA6v6YTu#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#94 - How Often Are You And Your Partner Discussing The Future

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they discuss the fascinating concept of time perspective in relationships and drive home the need to align time perspectives. Some people have a longer time perspective, contemplating and planning for a future that extends several years or even decades ahead. Others may have a shorter time perspective, focusing more on the immediate present or near future. These differing perspectives can often lead to misunderstandings and conflicts within relationships. Understanding and aligning your time perspectives can significantly improve your relationship dynamics.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:46] Constantly check in on the future together
[4:34] Time perspective
[9:10] Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[10:51] Write the same book
[14:24] Self-awareness
[18:18] Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #30 on Thursday, December 21st, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Learn How To Honor Your Boundaries During The Holidays”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYvde-urjsoE9aOr_C0v33gE3zIOA6v6YTu#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#93 - How Your Self-Talk is Affecting Your Relationship

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0500

The power of nonviolent communication and its transformative potential in how we communicate, especially with ourselves, and its impacts on our relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We talked about how self-talk significantly affects our relationships. We discussed the negative impact of violent self-talk and the importance of adopting a nonviolent communication approach in our self-talk. Nonviolent communication provides a valuable framework for transforming our self-talk and, by extension, our relationships. It's about recognizing and harnessing our words' power to foster healthier, more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others.

Show notes:
[1:25] Understanding Non-Violent Communication
[3:10] The takeaways
[6:03] Understand & recognize when NVC is happening
[7:15] Recognize and overcome NVC
[10:30] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[11:49] How can we be better at NVC with ourselves?
[13:52] The four elements of NVC
[14:31] "When I ___, I feel ___, because I need ___. Would you be willing to ___?"
[18:36] Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #30 on Thursday, December 21st, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “Learn How To Honor Your Boundaries During The Holidays”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYvde-urjsoE9aOr_C0v33gE3zIOA6v6YTu#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#92 - How To Regulate As the “Anxious One”

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0500

In today's interconnected world, it's easy to overlook the importance of self-regulation and understanding our attachment styles in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We talked about how self-regulation and understanding our attachment styles are crucial to building and maintaining strong, healthy relationships. By managing our emotions and responding empathetically to our partners, we can foster deeper connections and navigate the complexities of love with greater ease.

Show notes:
[1:53] Lean more into the components of self-regulation
[2:36] Understanding attachment styles
[7:10] Trust that you'll reach a breakthrough
[9:53] Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[12:41] Meet halfway and be supportive
[14:37] The whole is greater than the sum of its parts
[16:06] Homeostasis State
[17:36] Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #29 on Thursday, November 16th, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Practice Non-Violent Communication”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYkd-ytrDIrHdNHD0KxPQ4WJbjgtpoR36jB#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#91 - Treat Every Day Like It's Your Anniversary

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 11:00:00 -0500

Can you recall the sparkly magic that surrounded the beginning days of your relationship? Every moment felt like a celebration, right? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We discussed that the spark that ignites at the beginning of a relationship doesn't have to fade away but can be nurtured and sustained to make every day a celebration of love. This commitment involves prioritizing each other, acknowledging each other, and creating daily micro-moments of love and appreciation. The goal is to build a meaningful love life that doesn't rely on grand gestures or anniversaries to feel special but instead celebrates love in everyday mundane activities.

Show notes:
[1:56] Create a meaningful love life
[4:14] Make your partner feel like a top priority
[9:09] The work you need to put in daily
[10:45] Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[13:59] The level of dedication to be considerate and thoughtful
[17:44] Love bombing dangers
[21:44] Micro-moments
[22:50] Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #29 on Thursday, November 16th, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Practice Non-Violent Communication”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYkd-ytrDIrHdNHD0KxPQ4WJbjgtpoR36jB#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#90 - Which Partner Is More Emotional?

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Are you a thinker or a feeler? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We will discuss a thorough exploration of emotions, relationships, and the different ways we think and feel. We will delve into how understanding these aspects can protect our relationships from conflict and enhance our ability to problem-solve. The art of mastering emotions within relationships is an ongoing journey. It requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to step into the emotional waters of your relationship. But the rewards - a deeper connection, a stronger bond, and a more resilient relationship - are worth every step of the journey.

Show notes:
[1:23] More value to EQ
[3:11] Righty or lefty
[5:16] Modalities of thinking
[8:06] Identify them
[11:16] Be heard or want advice?
[11:47] Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[16:08] Practice the opposite
[21:18] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

Join us on Relationship Talks #29 on Thursday, November 16th, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Practice Non-Violent Communication”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYkd-ytrDIrHdNHD0KxPQ4WJbjgtpoR36jB#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#89 - How Connected Do You Feel To Your Partner?

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Do you ever feel stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and disconnection with your partner? We're here to unravel that knot and lead you toward a more profound connection in your relationship. We explore the five stages of a relationship: the romantic honeymoon phase, the discovery of differences, the power struggle, the healing repair stage, and the beautiful transformation into enduring love. We uncover common pitfalls and how to navigate them with emotional intelligence to restore and transform your love. We also delve deep into the pivotal role of communication and emotional connection. We reveal three practical steps to de-clutter digital distractions, uncover hidden exiles, and foster open, vulnerable communication to rekindle connection with your partner. We talk about setting healthy boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and the art of navigating difficult conversations. Whether you're feeling a disconnect or seeking to enhance your relationship further, this episode offers insights and coaching sessions tailored to your needs. Join us on this enlightening journey towards a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
[0:00} Intro
[2:25] Create a deeper holistic connection in your relationship
[2:49] 5 stages of relationship
[3:05] Stage 1: The Honeymoon Phase
[3:27] Stage 2: Differences
[3:41] Stage 3: Struggle
[6:13] Stage 4: Repair
[6:41] Stage 5: Enduring Love
[8:22] Level of prioritization
[10:20] How connected do you feel to yourself?
[11:16] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[13:26] Handle your relationship challenges with grace, love, and acceptance
[17:28] Seeing the contrast
[18:03] Step 1: Remove The Digital Distractions
[18:39] Step 2: Identify The Exiles
[20:19] Step 3: Vulnerable Communication
[22:55] Relationship Talks Coaching
[24:35] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #29 on Thursday, November 16th, 2023, 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Practice Non-Violent Communication”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYkd-ytrDIrHdNHD0KxPQ4WJbjgtpoR36jB#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/free-30-minute-relationships-talk-with-alan-and-emilia

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#88 - Is Status Stopping You From Having an Authentic Relationship?

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. We start by exploring how the quest for status can hinder the authenticity of our relationships. It's a harsh truth many face - a picture-perfect relationship that's hollow on the inside. Identifying these signs and confronting the discomfort will pave the way for a more fulfilling relationship. From there, we will delve into the essence of authenticity in a relationship. In a society obsessed with appearances, finding a partner who values growth over grandeur is crucial. We discuss scenarios you might encounter while seeking a partner and offer insights to help you manage a status-driven relationship. We urge listeners to prioritize real-life connections over virtual validation. After all, genuine love isn't about maintaining a status quo. It's about growing together, navigating through the highs and lows, and cherishing your bond in its raw, unfiltered glory.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:52] Is your relationship status driven?
[3:18] Relationship should be even better than it looks
[5:37] You'll only solve a problem if you admit it’s there
[7:18] The shinning object to be paraded around
[9:24] Try to be a great partner more than trying to look like a great partner
[11:35] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[13:09] Scenario 1: Be careful of shiny objects
[14:51] Scenario 2: Both partners are growth-oriented
[14:58] Scenario 3: One partner is growth-oriented, and the other partner is status-driven (Be good than look good)
[15:40] Status driven: Values are placed in the behavior
[16:27] Time with others vs. time being together
[17:46] Practice, performance, and pretending
[20:42] The delta of what is said and what they believe
[21:35] Decide to prioritize real-life connections over virtual validation
[23:07] Outro

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#87 - How is Digital Distraction Impacting Your Relationship?

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In our increasingly tech-saturated world, balancing the digital and physical aspects of our lives is becoming more challenging. This issue has become even more prevalent as our emotional immaturity and lack of emotional intelligence, coupled with the lure of the digital world, tend to affect our real-life relationships negatively. Digital distractions have a significant impact on relationships. For instance, if you or your partner are constantly distracted by their devices, video games, and the digital world, your relationship is likely suffering in the real world. Therefore, it's crucial to discuss the impact of digital distraction and addiction on relationships and how to navigate it. The good news is that technology is not the enemy. How we use it can either build or break our relationships. Therefore, it's vital to use these devices as tools to develop your relationship rather than letting them become a source of disconnect. We can enjoy the benefits of technology while maintaining meaningful, real-life connections.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:51] Don't dodge the conversation about emotionally immature
[2:16] In hindsight, we reflect on our past
[6:36] Relationships are probably suffering in the digital world
[7:02] You need to mature through life
[7:30] Prejudice of digital distractions
[10:05] Technology is not the enemy, but be mindful of its impact
[11:21] 2 biggest killers of relationships: Resentment and contempt
[11:41] Lucas and Antonie talk about Relationship Talks
[15:17] Current digital world is a slippery slope
[16:56] Use technology and won't be used by it
[17:51] What is your standard for your household? Start small and build
[18:53] Bring the awareness of digital distractions to the surface with your relationships
[20:50] Vulnerable expression around how it's negatively impacting you today will set you up for future conversations
[21:38] An axe can build a house, or it could kill someone
[25:28] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #28 on Oct 19th, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “Creating Deeper Emotional Connection in Your Relationship.”
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#86 - Are You in a Surface Level Relationship?

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They discussed that surface-level relationships often manifest as interactions that skim the surface without delving into emotional depths. This can leave individuals feeling unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and craving for more. Transforming your relationships from superficial to significant requires courage, vulnerability, and humility. It involves acknowledging your emotions, addressing conflicts, and leading by example. The journey might be challenging, but the destination - a life enriched by deep, meaningful connections - is worth every step.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:38] Understand and identify if your relationship is in the shallows
[2:14] Where are you stagnating or losing momentum?
[4:10] Start leading as an example
[6:31] Raise the awareness (Don't be lonely)
[8:15] Live an authentic life
[12:18] Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia about Relationship Talks
[12:41] Don't live your life chasing a quick fix
[14:48] Conflict avoidance
[16:10] View conflicts as constructive
[17:22] It stunts your growth
[18:09] RRedefinewhat a quality relationship looks like with your partner
[19:38] Go a little deeper than the surface
[23:17] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #28 on Oct 19th, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “Creating Deeper Emotional Connection in Your Relationship.”
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#85 - Which Partner Is Better At Money?

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Money, often considered a taboo subject, is an essential part of our lives that we cannot overlook. Especially when it comes to relationships, harmonizing financial goals with personal aspirations becomes a crucial factor. They emphasize the connection between money goals and tangible experiences, making financial conversations less intimidating and more relatable. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your partner's superior financial prowess, fret not. They stress the importance of humility, courage, and vulnerability in these discussions and the transformative power of financial literacy. Their story is a testament to the importance of open financial talks and how it helped them create a 'money map' - a roadmap to reach your dreams. It's a guide to help navigate the financial terrain as a couple, making the journey towards shared goals smoother and more attainable.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:31] Learn how to set money goals
[4:53] Where to start setting money goals?
[5:31] Connect your money goals to an experience
[8:35] Tying the experience you want with the goal that you need
[10:00] Break down the math and do it simple
[10:44] Julie shares her experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talks
[13:32] Build a life together
[14:46] Love should be protected
[15:39] Be humble and let the world open up to you
[17:46] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #28 on Oct 19th, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “Creating Deeper Emotional Connection in Your Relationship.”
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#84 - How Fulfilling Has Your Relationship Been Lately?

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They delve into how understanding your partner's resourcefulness level and incorporating 'cup fillers' into your relationship can make a significant difference. These seemingly small tweaks can introduce refreshing variety and enhance relationship satisfaction. They provide insights into the formula that helped them avoid an 'old and miserable' existence and promote a ten out of ten relationship fulfillment. They offer resources to help you embark on your journey of finding lasting fulfillment in your relationships.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:53] Share your struggle-bus
[3:20] Where are you winning and not?
[8:10] Honor your needs
[10:58] Find fulfillment
[13:39] Alicia shares her experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talks
[16:17] Highest calling
[19:22] How fulfilled are you and why?
[21:42] Creativity in relationships
[25:21] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
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#83 - Are You Giving Your Partner Room To Grow?

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Many of us believe we know our partners well. However, we often fail to recognize our inherent cognitive biases that reaffirm our existing beliefs, hindering our relationship growth. They discuss that recognizing the problem is only half the battle. They talk about practical tips for overcoming these beliefs and issues. Disagreements often exacerbate cognitive biases, causing unnecessary tension in relationships. So, tune in and discover the keys to identifying and overcoming those limiting beliefs that could be stalling your relationship growth.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:55] Consistency on growth journey
[5:09] Recognizing your limiting beliefs
[8:50] Celebrate the latter moments
[10:16] Help your partner see their self-growth
[11:07] Bonnie shares her experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talks
[14:34] Lesson of leadership
[15:13] All the room to grow
[17:24] How to get rid of limiting beliefs
[21:47] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#82 - Stop Breaking Promises To Your Partner

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talked about the impact of optimism and pessimism in every relationship. They discuss how these tendencies can sway us to either overcommit or undercommit and the lessons we've gleaned from our experiences. Discover the value of self-awareness in mitigating the downsides of optimism and pessimism and how a better understanding of our tendencies can bolster our communication and trust-building efforts. They explore the power of vulnerability and taking responsibility for our feelings in resolving conflicts. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to improve their relationships and communication skills.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:46] What we say versus what we do
[5:31] Effective communication
[7:15] Being honest with yourself
[10:14] Jessica and Michael share their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[14:22] The Dance of Optimism and Pessimism in Relationship Commitments
[15:19] How to manage disappointments.
[18:54] How to manage expectations when things do change.
[21:43] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#81 - What Do You REALLY Think of Your Partner's Family

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the profound impact family dynamics have on relationships. The discussion centers around seeing our family through our partner's eyes, a perspective that often uncovers the 'comforting lies' we've been telling ourselves and reveals some 'uncomfortable truths.' They also discuss recognizing the signs of our partner reverting to their childhood behavior in the familial setting. They also discuss the potential consequences of not addressing these behaviors and share an example demonstrating how our perception of family can shift over time. This candid conversation promises to shed light on the often untold stories within families and their subtle but significant impact on our relationships.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:51] 360 degree feedback
[6:09] Comforting lies
[9:39] Changing perspectives with your partner
[12:36] Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[13:50] Unconcious lie
[17:35] Reverting to an old version of yourself
[21:08] Taking action will make things better
[24:38] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#80 - Are You Delivering Truth Bullets or Cannons?

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the delicate balance between expressing your truth and your partner's capacity to receive. They share insights and tips from personal experiences and their clients' journeys, who grappled with the fear of outgrowing their partner. They also share how avoiding the uncomfortable truth can lead to suppressed emotions and potentially harm relationships. To help you visualize these concepts, they use the metaphor of 'truth pebbles,' 'truth bullets,' and 'truth cannons.' Each represents different amounts of truth and has varied impacts on your interactions. But how do you decide which one to use? They guide you through this and share how self-awareness plays a significant role in effectively communicating your truth. Click the link to the digital asset to gain a visual of this concept and join the hosts on this enlightening journey toward effective communication.

Digital Asset: Truth Bullets - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1c3je13MOzMbQiB1cOgJKwgVdRRRlr8o7/view?usp=drive_link

Show notes:
[2:31] People struggle to get their truth across
[6:30] Express the truth pebbles while they're small
[11:13] Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[12:59] Identify your truth pebbles while they're pebbles
[14:49] Expressing the truth could drive you closer
[17:44] The right level of truth between you and your partner
[22:48] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #27 on Sep 21, 2023, at 06:00 PM Eastern Time: “How to Get on the Same Page About Money.”
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#79 - Is Your Partner Insecure?

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the hidden world of insecurity in relationships. Insecurity can lead us to hurt those we love unintentionally. They discuss navigating this complex terrain, sharing the importance of understanding your and your partner's insecurities. They also dive into how apologies and insecurities intertwine in relationships. They share some of their experiences, highlighting the need for humility, courage, and vulnerability to rebuild relationships and reduce insecurity. It's about facing insecurities head-on by understanding ourselves better, removing the power of insecurity, and moving forward as stronger, better individuals and partners.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:41] The more you own your insecurities, the less insecure you are
[5:12] Take the power from your insecurity
[8:13] Everyone has an insecurity
[11:22] Alan talks about feeling insecure
[12:31] Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[18:37] Humility and apologizing
[19:18] Top three insecurities
[22:41] The song stuck in your head
[25:53] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#78 - Is Your Partner Being Too Selfish?

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they discuss finding the balance between selfishness and selflessness in relationships. They discuss how understanding your partner's perspective can influence your interactions and how recognizing the need for more selfishness or selflessness can significantly alter the relationship dynamic. "Is your partner being too selfish?" might be a question that plagues your mind. Overbalancing on either end of the selfishness-selflessness spectrum can wreak havoc on relationships. They shed light on the significance of prioritizing yourself, not out of selfish motives, but to fill your cup to ultimately take better care of your loved ones.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:46] The Conscious Couples’ origin story
[6:26] Selfless vs. selfish
[10:25] Alan reminds Emilia to take time for herself
[11:01] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[12:58] Why a healthy reflection is important
[17:54] Take time for yourself
[21:15] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#77 - Do You and Your Partner Have Different Beliefs About Love?

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into the intricacies of our core beliefs about love. and how these can impact the love journey. They show how these core beliefs shape our interactions and the relationships we attract. They also talk about how conflicting love beliefs can lead to unmet expectations, and share valuable insights on maneuvering through these tricky waters with your partner.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:36] The glasses analogy about love
[8:23] Differing beliefs on love, and growing apart
[12:09] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[14:03] The science underneath love
[16:37] Cultivating love
[19:43] Core beliefs that butt heads
[26:04] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

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#76 - "It Takes Two to Tango"

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt unseen, unheard, or unappreciated in your relationships? Have you ever wondered how to express your truth without causing pain? In this episode, they embark on a soulful journey into the power of vulnerability and courage in our relationships. Drawing parallels to the Tango dance, they unravel the intricate steps of building a lasting bond based on the 'Triad of Belonging' - being seen, being understood, and being valued. They share personal stories and insights into the courage it takes to truly be heard and the transformative power of vulnerability. They also discuss the importance of shared core values and how expressing the truth, even at the risk of pain, fosters meaningful relationships over purely transactional ones.

Digital Assets:
The Triad of Belonging - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Lg-Wd0GU1R-CVFH8eHj9c71qOBzLkEsG/view?usp=drive_link
The 25 Conscious Love Languages - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1B9d9Vbyn4yNNqH9J66Upmdoz-V0RyClB/view

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:10] The Triad of Belonging
[9:18] Feeling unseen
[11:41] Seeing yourself inaccurately
[14:04] Lucas and Antonie talk about...
[15:16] Fear of rejection
[19:06] The slippery slope of the Tango-ing
[24:54] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #26 on August 17, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How To Work Through Uncomfortable Truths with Your Partner": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZwud-ygqz8vHtPbcp31mqRBeK7A5L55VREZ

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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#75 - What Are Your Guilt-Free Pleasures?

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they talk about a powerful concept, something they fondly call guilt-free pleasures. They believe in giving ourselves the liberty to occasionally enjoy that video game, that movie marathon, or that wine we love. Of course, the key lies in not going overboard. They explored how these guilt-free pleasures can supercharge our lives and relationships. They talk about their own guilt-free pleasures and how they've been incorporating them to strike a balance between pleasing themselves and nurturing their relationship. The idea is to maximize potential and savor those moments of pure joy, guilt-free. The episode wraps up with a heartfelt discussion about the power of open conversations, the alignment of expectations with our partners, and the importance of prioritizing self-care.

Show notes:
[2:32] Identify three guilt-free pleasures
[8:40] Superchargers for the "me"
[11:42] Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[12:53] Why only three?
[21:58] Support your partner's guilt-free pleasures
[25:06] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 20, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq

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#74 - How to Share Your Fears with Your Partner

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about navigating fear and vulnerability in your relationships. They discuss how understanding different attachment styles can equip you to express fears more constructively. What happens when you see your partner’s energy shift, but their words don’t match what you notice? Too often, we personalize this mismatch, leading to downward relationship spirals. They share insights on how to acknowledge underlying fears and ask the important question – what support does your partner need now? They also delve into the art of identifying your fears and how to communicate them effectively to your partner.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:32] HHALLT
[7:48] Energy shift
[11:45] Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[12:32] The past, present, or the future
[15:40] Expressing your fear vulnerably
[18:34] Tertiary truth
[24:01] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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#73 - Practicing Non-Violent Communication

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they unmask the varied levels of violent communication that have become our 'normals.' Drawing parallels with the Richter scale, they illustrate how these 'normals' echo in our relationships and interactions. Their anecdotes shed light on these communication patterns' profound influence - shaping our attitudes, reactions, and existence. They share practical tools to create a more harmonious atmosphere in our relationships. They also underline the lasting impact of violent communication on our young ones and pets, and hope to inspire us to cultivate an environment of compassion and understanding.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[2:29] Non-violent communication
[6:04] Your Richter scale
[9:26] We model what we experienced growing up
[12:47] Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[15:02] Assess the normal level of violence in your past
[20:11] NVC
[24:17] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 13, 2023, 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq

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#72 - When is Your Relationship At It's Weakest?

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about being in an unresourceful emotional state and unknowingly allowing it to affect your relationship. They explore how staying aware of our mental and emotional states can make a world of difference in our connections with the people we love most. They discuss how recognizing and navigating our unresourceful states can open doors to celebrating successes and creating magical moments with our significant others. Discover the importance of fostering a strong bond between you and your partner, and how being aware of your individual emotional states can lead to a happier, more fulfilling relationship.

Show notes:
[2:45] Being in an unresourceful state
[9:39] Missing bids for connection or love
[12:01] If you have big goals, you will get stretched and be unresourceful
[12:32] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[13:51] Strategy to check in with your partner
[16:26] Talk about where you're at and where you're headed
[19:06] Talk about what rate you're moving toward where you're headed
[20:32] Planting seeds that will never sprout
[24:05] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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#71 - Avoiding Toxic Masculinity

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they talk about the critical issue of toxic masculinity, which was the topic of Relationship Talks #24. Discover the answers to the three questions that the couple answered in the event. They also talk about the traits such as arrogance, self-absorption, and entitlement that can lead to disconnection and how we can replace these with humility, empathy, and vulnerability.

Show notes:
[3:09] Do most people have the desire to be right than to connect?
[7:02] Alan shares a story as an example
[9:28] Can a relationship work if both have toxic masculinity?
[12:21] Jessica and Michael share their experience with Emilia and Alan, and Relationship Talks
[13:00] Empathy
[17:11] How fine is the fine line between healthy and toxic masculinity?
[24:53] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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#70 - What is Your Partner Avoiding?

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today's episode, they uncover the impact of fear and avoidance on relationships and how couples can grow stronger by facing their fears together. They discuss the tendency for some men to struggle with reaching out for help and for some women to feel hesitant in asking for assistance with math and finance. They dive into three scenarios that could arise when one or both partners do not take steps to grow and lean into their discomfort. So, gear up for an enlightening conversation on overcoming fear and avoidance in relationships and learn how facing fears together can lead to stronger, more fulfilling partnerships!

Show notes:
[2:46] People struggle to ask for help in different areas
[10:46] Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[12:03] Girls were introduced to journaling or diaries, but boys were not
[15:42] Your partner being different than you is not a bad thing
[21:59] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 13, 2023 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq

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#69 - Whose Lack of Growth is Holding Back the Relationship?

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the powerful connection between personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about how our own ego can hinder our progress and hinder the growth of our relationships. At the core of this discussion is the importance of understanding oneself better through therapy. They highlight how therapy can provide insights and tools to overcome personal obstacles and foster personal growth. They touch upon the concept of readiness and the significance of being prepared for growth and change. They also discuss the detrimental effects of an inaccurate ego, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and humility in fostering personal growth and nurturing healthy relationships.

Show notes:
[3:06] The lack of growth is the abundance of ego
[7:10] Understanding yourself better with therapy
[11:17] Maturity is a skill that is developed
[13:45] Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[15:31] Readiness
[21:52] Flipping the meaning
[25:19] Inaccurate ego is the enemy
[28:45] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #25 on July 13, 2023 06:00 PM EST: "How to NOT Fall Out of Love with Your Life Partner":
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZclc-6ppjguEtQz7hNXE52xDhxb2aNQ-5Tq

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#68 - Is Your Partner Still Grateful for You?

Mon, 29 May 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share the secret to cultivating stronger relationships. They begin by emphasizing the importance of investing more in one's relationship, acknowledging that meaningful connections require dedicated time and effort. They talk about sharing things that you are grateful for about each other, highlighting how this exercise can foster a deeper appreciation for each other's presence and contributions.

Related episode:
#64 - Be Careful of the Honeymoon Phase: https://apple.co/3B2XDEv

Show notes:
[2:12] The Gratitude Game
[6:28] Invest more in the relationship
[9:41] Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[10:53] Prime your mind to think more positively
[13:45] Remember what it was like when your partner wasn't there, to appreciate their presence
[17:23] Sometimes, we don't know that we need the appreciation
[18:53] What you appreciate, appreciates in value
[20:50] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #24 on June 8, 2023 06:00 PM EST: "Cultivating Healthy Masculine With An Empowered Female": https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZYkcOGopzIqHtH_GZsW483beqFczxU-F9MW

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#67 - Don't Let This Sink Your RelationSHIP!

Mon, 22 May 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the dynamics of relationships using a powerful ship analogy. They emphasize that relationships are like two ships, and each person represents a different kind of ship. They stress the importance of taking ownership in a relationship and understanding each person's role. They highlight the significance of acknowledging and expressing emotions. Individuals can better understand themselves and their partners by taking time to feel and process emotions. They encourage listeners to embrace vulnerability and open communication to strengthen their relationships. They emphasize the necessity of knowing what responsibilities each person is taking on in the relationship to help establish a sense of balance and avoid unnecessary conflict or misunderstandings.

Digital Asset: The Triad of Disaster and the Triad of Abundance - https://drive.google.com/file/d/10g6-8Jlo1HYVzsY2ryfALftfiECu5yeY/view

Show notes:
[1:55] Two ships, two kinds of people
[6:24] Taking ownership
[11:11] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[11:54] Take time to feel your emotions
[16:52] You need to know what the other is taking responsibility for
[21:52] Outro

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#66 - Early Warning Signs a Break Up Is Coming

Mon, 15 May 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they will discuss three warning signs indicating a relationship is in trouble: arrogance, dishonesty, and immaturity. These behaviors can erode trust and create a sense of distance between partners, leading to frustration, disappointment, and, ultimately, the decision to end the relationship. But it's not all doom and gloom! They also discuss three key attributes that can help couples navigate these warning signs and build stronger, healthier relationships. Humility, trust, and ownership are essential qualities that foster a deeper connection, encourage open communication, and promote mutual respect and understanding.

Digital Asset: The Triad of Disaster and the Triad of Abundance - https://drive.google.com/file/d/10g6-8Jlo1HYVzsY2ryfALftfiECu5yeY/view

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[4:09] Arrogance
[7:10] Dishonesty
[10:23] Immaturity
[11:27] Listen to what Sarah Pringle has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[16:04] Humility, trust, and ownership
[24:59] Outro

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#65 - Who's Showing Up for the Relationship More?

Mon, 08 May 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they delve into who is showing up more in the relationship - and what that means. They discuss the importance of bringing your best self to the table and the crucial role that belief and gratitude play in sustaining relationships over time. They also touch on the actions that can support your words and help you build trust and connection with your partner. And finally, they talk about what it means to be present and committed in your relationship and the importance of reaching out to your partner if you feel they are not showing up as they should.

#64 - Be Careful of the Honeymoon Phase - https://apple.co/3B2XDEv

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:01] Showing up at your best
[5:33] Who believes it will be worth it
[6:43] Gratitude Game
[10:05] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[11:16] The actions that support the words
[14:38] Have the difficult conversation
[20:03] Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#64 - Be Careful of the Honeymoon Phase

Mon, 01 May 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being cautious during the honeymoon phase. It's easy to get caught up in the initial rush of emotions and make long-term decisions based on short-term feelings. However, we must be mindful of the potential consequences of acting impulsively in a heightened state. They explore the common pitfalls of going off the rails and falling into a scarce mindset. They also emphasize the importance of remembering and staying true to the behaviors and mindset that initially attracted our partner and got us into the relationship.

Show notes:
[1:47] Do not make long-term decisions based on short-term emotions
[4:09] Going off the rails
[7:08] Scarce mindset
[8:08] Lucas and Antonie talk about...
[9:20] A dangerous game
[12:20] Making decisions in a heightened state
[15:28] "Don't stop doing what got you to the dance."
[20:10] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #23 on May 11, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "The 3 Biggest Risks to Your Relationship Failing": https://bit.ly/3oxOC3j

#63 - Are You Measuring What Matters in Your Relationship?

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the essence of what truly matters in a relationship and discuss practical ways to focus on the things that truly count. In a world where we are constantly bombarded with distractions and expectations, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters in our relationships. Are you prioritizing the right things? Are you measuring the right metrics to assess the health and quality of your relationship? It is more simple than you may think.

Related Episode:
#5 - Learning Your Partner's Love Languages - https://apple.co/3oAUAka

Digital Asset - The 25 Conscious Love Languages:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1B9d9Vbyn4yNNqH9J66Upmdoz-V0RyClB/view

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:40] "Everything that matters and nothing that doesn't."
[7:06] Top 3 cup fillers
[9:34] Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[13:25] It's that simple
[19:01] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #23 on May 11, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "The 3 Biggest Risks to Your Relationship Failing": https://bit.ly/3oxOC3j

#62 - The Quickest Way to Eliminate Drama

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss what causes drama in relationships. Whether with friends, family, or partners, drama can be a considerable burden. We’re talking about the significant differences between being surrounded by emotionally immature people and those who are more mature. They discuss that the amount of drama in your life is proportional to the people around you and their level of emotional maturity. The hosts also share powerful information on understanding The Emotional Maturity Triad.

Digital Asset - The Triad of Emotional Maturity: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12i8WhZhDgCoTHvmApW_C15TsFBa0GSZr/view

Show notes:
[1:31] Episode intentions
[2:06] Alan talked about the recent Relationship Talks
[5:02] Men tend to be more emotionally immature than women
[5:57] The root cause of drama
[7:02] The Triad of Emotional Maturity
[8:27] Signs of emotional immaturity
[15:19] Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[16:24] Visual of the Triad of Emotional Maturity
[17:53] The Scientist
[19:09] The Buddha
[22:24] The Chameleon
[24:43] Emotional intelligence, regulation, and adaptability
[26:04] What it feels like when you're around emotionally mature people
[34:18] Outro

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#61 - Are The Little Things Creating a BIG Problem?

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how conflicts in lifestyle preferences can be a major issue for couples. Do you let the little things build up in your relationship? Regarding lifestyle conflicts, it's important to talk openly and honestly with your partner. Instead of allowing resentment to grow, take the time to voice what you want and need in the relationship. Make sure to stay respectful and open-minded while having these conversations. It takes two people working together, and being honest and vulnerable with each other, to align their preferences or come to a compromise.

Show notes:
[2:51] Are you letting little things build up?
[4:17] Conflict in the lifestyle preferences
[8:49] Communicating what you want or don't want to bring into the relationship
[9:17] Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[10:58] Struggling to be vulnerable
[12:23] Where are you out of alignment?
[16:30] Whose lifestyle is stronger at the moment?
[18:28] Let it start now before it becomes a big thing
[21:08] Outro

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#60 - How Does Your Attachment Style Control You?

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about how your attachment style controls you and affects your life. They share their attachment styles and examples of the different attachment styles, that they talked about in Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style. They talk about understanding yourself so you can improve your attachment style. Attachment styles are not rigid, but you first need to identify yours in order to address the cause behind it and make a change. Understanding each other's attachment styles helps you stay connected in your relationship and avoid misunderstandings.

Related episode that you ideally should listen to before this episode: Episode #49 - What Is Your Attachment Style - https://apple.co/3m05XB0

Digital Asset: The Different Attachment Styles - https://bit.ly/3McEerr

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:37] Episode intentions
[3:14] Understand yourself to improve yourself
[6:29] The four attachment styles
[8:45] We can get stretched and pulled out of our original form or attachment style
[11:58] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[14:03] Emilia shares being vulnerable with her mom
[17:02] Wanting to shield yourself from an emotional experience
[19:30] We can decide to shift to a secure attachment style
[26:42] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #22 on Apr 13, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "How to Have a Drama Free Relationship": http://bit.ly/3JPAzxf

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#59 - What's Causing All the Fighting?

Mon, 27 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what causes fighting in a relationship. They zero in on where the disconnect happens. They discuss that it is critical to consider both your preferred type of listener and your partner's preferred type of listening style in your relationship. You might want to use various listening styles depending on whether you are in a growth paradigm or a relationship paradigm.

Show notes:
[1:50] Episode intentions
[2:40] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm
[6:45] Not feeling heard, seen, understood, or supported by your partner
[9:34] Three different listener types
[13:00] What listening style do you prefer?
[14:00] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and the Relationship Talk
[16:12] What is your partner's listening style?
[17:18] Preferred listening style when in a growth or relationship paradigm
[18:36] How much do you feel seen or heard in your relationship?
[24:38] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Join us on Relationship Talks #22 on Apr 13, 2023 07:00 PM EST: "How to Have a Drama Free Relationship": http://bit.ly/3JPAzxf

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#58 - Creating Financial Goals with Your Partner

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about financial literacy and setting financial goals. The main analogy they use is team sports, specifically soccer, wherein the players work together, collaborate, and plan for the game in order to score goals. They also discuss why so many are not financially literate and the steps to know more about handling money and possibly earning more.

Show notes:
[2:28] Collaborating on your financial goals like players do in team sports
[9:40] Only one in three adults is financially literate
[12:05] Lucas and Antonie talk about...
[16:10] Alan's analogy
[18:28] The benefits of being more financially literate
[19:30] What is your money story? What is your relationship with money?
[23:08] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#57 - Don't Take Your Past Out on Your Partner

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about how we can sometimes bring our past into our current relationships. Unintentionally, we may take our past out on our partner because we have been conditioned to anticipate things to play out a certain way, and we react accordingly. They share how important it is to heal from our past hurts and to regulate our emotions, so we do not unfairly treat our current partners.

Show notes:
[1:16] Episode intentions
[4:10] Alan shares a good example of not taking your past out on your partner
[7:27] You have to break the cycle yourself
[9:53] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[11:50] Choose not to bring your past into your current relationship
[15:40] What would have happened if Emilia took her past out on Alan
[19:50] Outro

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#56 - Are You & Your Partner Just Different?

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about being vulnerable and open with your partner so you can identify the paradigm that each of you follows. They also share examples of the paradigms and their differences and the effects on the couple and their relationship.

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:26] Relationship paradigm vs growth paradigm
[7:47] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[11:00] Fixed mindset
[14:09] Growth paradigm and goals
[15:52] Ask yourself and your partner these questions
[19:33] Growth is the goal
[23:02] Outro

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#55 - Are You in a Conditional Love Cycle?

Mon, 27 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about identifying when you are in a conditional love cycle. They discuss how sometimes you can’t see that the relationship you're in is holding you back from flourishing. Maybe you're afraid to do some things because your action will cause your partner to get angry, hurt you, or leave you. This fear should not exist in a healthy relationship with someone who genuinely wants the best for you.

Show notes:
[2:32] What is a conditional love cycle?
[8:36] Face the fear
[10:15] Patterns of fear
[10:58] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[13:36] Sometimes, you have to punch the bully in the face
[16:53] Fear masks itself in love
[22:59] Outro

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#54 - When Disaster Strikes, We ______

Mon, 20 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what’s the go-to action or reaction when a crisis happens in a relationship, how you treat each other during that time, and how you treat each other after. They also share such a time in their relationship and how they resolved and got through it together.

Show notes:
[1:58] Alan and Emilia’s challenge
[5:07] How they took action
[10:24] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[13:39] The aftermath
[15:18] How well do you treat your partner during a challenging time?
[21:17] Outro

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#53: Does Your Partner Need Therapy?

Mon, 13 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss how to determine if your partner needs therapy and how to give them a loving nudge in the right direction. They cover the touchy subject of men being more hesitant about going into therapy and what holds them back. They share the reasons for therapy and the benefits you gain when you finally decide to get a therapist.

Show notes:
[3:22] Men and therapy
[7:37] There is an increasing number of people going to therapy
[10:27] Emilia noticed Alan had a reservation about going to therapy
[13:34] Listen to what Sarah Pringle has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[15:49] Being in therapy does not always mean you have mental issues
[18:52] Afraid of what might be uncovered
[21:06] Reprocess your past from a new awareness
[22:35] Everyone could benefit from therapy
[23:51] Therapy opens a whole new world for you
[28:03] Outro

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#52 - Top 3 Relationship Killers

Mon, 06 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being aware of the top three relationship killers and navigating around these to protect your relationship and grow with your partner. It is essential that you deal with these bugs in the garden early on or as soon as they crop up in your relationship. The hosts share examples from their past and current relationships to show you the effects of not dealing with these properly and the benefits of handling them with your partner.

Show notes:
[1:26] Episode intentions
[2:56] Arrogance is a high level of confidence without merit
[8:38] Dishonesty or lying
[11:24] Being lied to is the worst feeling
[15:30] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[16:39] Lack of emotional regulation
[19:01] A trigger is something that pokes a fear or insecurity, causing a trauma response
[20:51] Emotional regulation requires intentional practice
[23:14] Look back at your past relationships
[28:50] Outro

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#51 - Identifying Toxicity In Your Relationship

Mon, 30 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In a healthy relationship, everything just kind of works. Sure, you might disagree from time to time or come upon other bumps in the road. Still, you generally make decisions together, openly discuss any problems that arise, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. In this episode, they talk about toxicity in a relationship and how you can identify if you have it in yours.

Relationship Talks #20: Dialing In Your Love Languages on Feb 9, 2023, 07:00 PM EST: https://bit.ly/3kOavJZ

Show notes:
[1:37] Episode intention
[2:15] Everyone has been toxic to an extent in their relationship
[5:34] Identifying toxicity in your relationship
[8:54] The essence of toxicity
[11:08] The toxicity bubbles
[13:31] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[18:11] What does toxicity feel like in a relationship?
[24:45] Quick wrap-up
[29:30] Outro

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#50 - Creating Your Own Rulebook

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the importance of having your relationship’s rulebook instead of following what other people say are the “shoulds and shouldn’t.” especially when you’re in a new relationship; people often share the rules that made their relationships last. Unfortunately, their rules don’t apply to every relationship because everybody is different, and everybody’s relationships run on different core values. So communicate with your partner, identify your core values and what's important for each of you, and never let anyone dictate your relationship based on what works for them.

Show notes:
[2:06] The stereotypical setup
[4:24] Don’t let your desire to create your own rulebook get doused by anyone
[7:38] Pause and reflect
[10:51] Derek Smith shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[13:17] You can choose the meaning
[15:37] What’s the core of your relationship?
[20:09] Outro

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#49 - What Is Your Attachment Style

Mon, 16 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the different attachment styles. They describe how you develop attachment styles and share a study about them. You can have more than one attachment style and tendencies, depending on your relationship with your caregiver or caregivers when you were a child. Vulnerability plays a huge role in changing your attachment style from an insecure one to a secure attachment style. They also share the adjustments they made in their relationship by tuning in to each other's attachment styles and allowing each other to be vulnerable.

Show notes:
[1:30] Episode intentions
[2:22] The Strange Situation 1978
[6:47] The Theory of Attachment
[8:34] How we form our attachment styles
[11:17] The attachment styles and tendencies
[12:02] The Avoidant Attachment Style
[12:49] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[16:38] The Anxious Attachment Style
[17:50] The Disorganized Attachment Style
[18:09] The Secure Attachment Style
[19:02] Where vulnerability comes in
[24:40] Outro

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#48 - Which Partner is More Focused on the Future?

Mon, 09 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about being growth-oriented in a relationship and who is more future-focused between you and your partner. A lot of people believe that relationships are synonymous with discomfort. This is because a relationship represents a permanent sacrifice, an uncomfortable place to be in for them. But being in a growth-focused relationship allows you to grow as a person and expand your comfort zone. Getting to that point in your relationship may not be easy, but it’s not impossible. Besides, the investment will be worth it.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:24] Episode intentions
[2:00] Are you more growth-oriented than your partner?
[4:32] When neither of you is future-oriented
[6:40] When one of you is more focused on the future
[10:30] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[12:59] The validate-dissipate concept
[16:27] When you and your partner are both future-oriented
[21:08] Outro

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#47 - Setting Real #RelationshipGoals

Mon, 02 Jan 2023 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about a higher level of goal-setting for couples. They share examples of couples who set goals together and achieved them. They also discuss how sharing your goals and dreams with your partner or friend can help make them a reality. They also add that it is okay to change your mind about your goals later on, depending on how you’ve grown since you set your goals.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:52] Episode intentions
[2:21] Examples of couples who set relationship goals
[5:58] Setting real concrete visions and goals together
[8:25] Relationship coaching
[11:15] Derek Smith shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
[12:34] Sharing your goal or dream with a partner gives it a bigger weight
[15:13] Statistics of people who set goals
[18:47] Sit down and set a goal together
[21:41] Outro

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#46 - When Are You Unintentionally Tuning Your Partner Out?

Mon, 26 Dec 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about a not uncommon scenario in a relationship: when you or your partner tune each other out. Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each other becomes a challenge and listening is absent. As you think about the possible causes of this ignoring behavior, be sure to consider how well you are listening and holding space for your partner as well – it's easy to blame one partner, but often, faulty communication is a two-way street.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[1:34] Episode intention
[2:37] The law of familiarity
[8:25] Tuning out as a stress response
[11:55] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[14:49] Calling out your partner when they tune you out
[23:04] Outro

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#45 - Are You Really Happy In Your Relationship?

Mon, 19 Dec 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the vital signs of relationships and share their top five cup fillers. Alan describes how he put his finger on the pulse of their relationship one day. Then, they walk us through how they resolve a problem by talking and making the needed adjustment so that they meet their cup-filler requirements and get back on track.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[2:10] Episode intentions
[7:08] Example of good vital signs in a relationship
[9:14] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[9:59] Example of top five things that determine happiness in a relationship
[14:38] Check your relationship vital signs
[18:30] Outro

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#44 - How Not to Fight in Your Relationship

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. What is your experience with fighting in a relationship? Did you grow up where fighting is constant and regular in your home, or was there no fighting at all? Fighting in a relationship may result from exposure to fights growing up. It appears like a normal part of a relationship because we have seen people in relationships fight. In this episode, they talk about how Alan grew up in a home with lots of fighting while Emilia grew up with none. They quickly discuss the top five reasons people in relationships fight and share that you, too, can have a relationship without fights, just like they do.

Relationship Talks #19: "Understanding You & Your Partner's Attachment Styles" - https://bit.ly/3PjC2y0

Show notes:
[2:26] Episode intentions
[3:16] Origin story
[6:37] Break the cycle
[9:03] Top 5 reasons why you fight
[12:51] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[13:34] Emotional regulation
[17:05] Listening has to be a conscious effort
[21:18] Humility is the key
[24:19] Outro

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#43 - Overcoming Helplessness in Your Relationship

Mon, 05 Dec 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt helpless in your relationship? This usually happens when your partner needs help but they are not helping themselves or when a line is crossed. In this episode, they talk about what to do when you feel helpless in your relationship. They go into setting standards for yourself in the relationship, so you know your limits and can make the right decision for yourself in the relationship.

Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship" on Dec. 8 at 7PM, EST - https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW

Show notes:
[1:23] Episode Intentions
[3:59] What do you do when you feel helpless in your relationship?
[7:25] You cannot do what your partner needs to do for themselves
[10:16] Conditional support
[11:51] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[14:23] Overcome the helplessness
[16:46] Lead by example
[18:33] Love is conditional
[22:27] Outro

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#42 - Are You Getting Enough Alone Time In Your Relationship?

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Your partner is your favorite person in the whole world – so why do you feel like you need time away from them? Today they talk about getting alone time in your relationship and whether or not you’re getting enough of yours. Being partners doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. Needing space does not necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. Getting enough alone time can help you create a stronger, healthier relationship with your partner.

Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship" on Dec 8, 2022 07:00 PM EST: https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[1:41] Episode intentions
[2:12] What does your alone time look like?
[4:56] Four gears of dependency
[9:06] Which gear are you at?
[12:33] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[15:26] If you lose the individuality, you lose the polarity
[17:29] Find your relationship’s dependency sweet spot
[20:34] Don't forget to join the Relationship Talks Event #18 on December 8, 2022
[24:00] Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#41 - Who Wears the Pants in Your Relationship?

Mon, 21 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Essentially, wearing the pants in a relationship refers to dominance. The person who wears the pants in a relationship is the one who has more control. But that doesn’t mean that their feelings are stronger or weaker. You can still have a relationship where someone “wears the pants,” and it’s still perfectly healthy. In this episode, they talk about who wears the pants in their relationship and how it’s supposed to be in your relationship. It’s more than just dominance. A healthy relationship also has a healthy power balance, which means control is passed between the two of you – based on different things, different circumstances, and different times.

Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship" on Dec 8, 2022 07:00 PM EST: https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW

Show notes:
[1:30] Episode intentions
[2:01] The right person should wear the right pants at the right time
[4:05] The concept of dominance in an intimate relationship
[7:01] Acknowledging one partner’s merit in a given arena and letting them lead
[9:42] Put your ego on the bench
[10:15] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[16:11] Relationships Talk event about “How to Not Fight in Your Relationship” - https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW
[19:30] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We.

#40 - Relationship Challenges Working From Home

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. More and more companies are trending to allow some, if not all, of their employees the flexibility to work from home, at least some of the time. The trend for one or both partners to work from home is definitely on the rise. And it comes with one or more challenges. Today they talk about these challenges that partners often go through now that most, if not all, are working from home.

Show notes:
[1:55] Episode intentions
[3:02] Losing your focus
[8:47] Getting pulled out of flow
[9:52] Setting boundaries in working from home
[12:28] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[20:22] Relationship Talks #18: "How To Not Fight in Your Relationship" https://bit.ly/3WSxcuW
[23:07] Book a slot in Alan and Emilia’s Service Saturday: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan
[24:44] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#39 - Stress-Free Holidays with Your Partner

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. It’s that time of year again. Christmas songs are playing on the radio. decorations are up. and the pressure is on to begin (or finish) your gift shopping. How can our memories of Christmas be so joyful and warm while our holiday reality seems so frantic and packed with things to do and obligations to keep? In today’s episode, they talk about how you can keep your holidays stress-free with your partner while going on the hustling and bustling preparations for the most wonderful time of the year.

The We - Stress Free We Strategy: https://bit.ly/3E8yhHC

Show notes:
[1:38] Episode intentions
[2:14] Set your priorities
[7:26] Decide to put the relationship first
[10:07] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[11:19] What is important to you during the holiday season?
[16:45] Relationships Talk event
[18:43] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#38 - How to NOT Lose Yourself in Your Relationship

Mon, 31 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Relationships are wonderful. And we know how exciting it is when you’re first starting to combine your life with another person. But that can sometimes become our whole world! You don’t connect with your friends as much, you stop doing activities you love, all because you’re totally infatuated with this one person. In this episode, they talk about losing yourself in a new relationship and what to watch out for to avoid it.

Show notes:
[1:43] Episode intentions
[2:36] What does losing yourself look like?
[6:26] We tend to villainize the people who want to give us guidance
[9:36] Take the best of yourselves and put them into the relationship
[10:55] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[13:33] Be careful of people who say you have a choice but don’t mean it
[15:55] The power of humility
[17:42] Let the fear of losing yourself in the relationship outweigh the fear of being alone
[18:30] Join Relationship Talks #17: "Putting Your Relationship First During the Holidays" on November 10, 2022 - https://bit.ly/3eUKR3J
[20:18] Book a slot for Alan and Emilia’s Service Saturdays - https://bit.ly/3eWc8Tl
[20:55] Join the Conscious Couples and Conscious Singles WhatsApp community
[21:25] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#37 - Do You and Your Partner Have Common Goals?

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Whether you have common goals with your partner may seem easy to answer, but in reality, it is not. Today they talk about setting goals when you’re in a relationship, figuring out whether you and your partner have the same ones, and what you can do when you feel like you don’t.

Show notes:
[1:23] Episode intentions
[2:01] Getting misaligned with your partner
[4:54] You don’t always realize that self-belief is the determining factor between your and your partner’s goals
[7:20] Having large goals will keep you humble
[8:56] Julie Kilgore, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
[11:34] People can’t help but project their levels of self-belief onto someone else
[15:07] Talk about it
[17:23] Book a free call - https://bit.ly/3eWc8Tl or join Relationship Talks #17: "Putting Your Relationship First During the Holidays" - https://bit.ly/3eUKR3J
[19:37] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#36 - Is Your Partner "Too Emotional"?

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Some people are naturally more emotional than others. That’s not a bad thing when those emotions lead to empathy and caring. But let's talk about those "over-the-top" emotional responses to what life dishes out. In today’s episode, they talk about emotions and whether or not you or your partner has emotional mastery.

Show notes:
[1:26] Episode intentions
[2:09] To have a healthy relationship needs emotional mastery for when things go wrong
[4:31] The constructed theory of emotion
[8:48] It is our responsibility to master our emotions
[10:50] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and the Relationship Talk
[13:50] Takeaways
[16:55] It doesn’t happen with a flip of a switch
[19:50] Relationships Talk event for November — tune in for the link
[22:21] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#35 - Is Your Partner Triggering You?

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. A trigger is something that sets off a memory, a sensation, or an emotion that belongs to another time and place in our lives and leads to an overreaction to what’s happening at the moment. In this episode, they talk about the importance of knowing your attachment style and your relationship's triggers.

Relationship Talks #16: "Building Lasting Trust In Your Relationship" on Oct 13, 2022, 07:00 PM, EST - https://bit.ly/3DizkVC

Show notes:
[1:20] Episode intentions
[1:56] What is being triggered?
[6:16] Knowing your attachment style
[11:08] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[12:18] Step 1: Identify your triggered state
[12:41] Step 2: Sharing it out loud
[13:57] Step 3: Express your needs effectively
[15:42] What is your attachment style?
[18:29] Relationship Talks event on October 13, 2022 - https://bit.ly/3DizkVC
[19:19] Reach out to Alan and Emilia
[21:16] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#34 - Have You Had "The Money Conversation"?

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Talking about money in relationships is inherently awkward, especially when you’ve never done it before. Or if you have and it didn’t go well. Today they talk about the importance of having that conversation in your relationship. It can be an uncomfortable topic, but everyone has to start somewhere.

Show notes:
[1:52] Episode intentions
[3:41] What is your relationship with money?
[7:51] Your relationship with money scrapes every facet of your life
[9:50] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as she journeys into becoming the best person for her future partner
[12:44] Creating a we-board
[13:44] Pain, problem, and the solution
[15:31] We inherit our relationship with money and finances
[17:23] Relationship Talks #16: "Building Lasting Trust In Your Relationship" on October 13, 2022, at 7 PM EST
[20:07] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#33 - Thriving in the Messy Middle

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Our comfort zone is the safest place we can ever be in. But that’s also where we find the least amount of growth if there’s any. In this episode, they talk about how you can grow by finding the balance or the messy middle in your relationship. They also share what you can do to find that balance between extremes.

Show notes:
[1:49] Episode intentions
[2:56] The all-or-nothing thinking
[8:20] You will become stagnant when you have zero room for error
[9:59] Jessica and Michael shares their experience with Emilia and Alan and Relationship Talk
[10:43] Identify when you feel unsuccessful
[10:58] What belief is driving, and where does this come from?
[13:53] Choose an empowering alternative
[18:57] Service Saturdays
[20:30] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#32 - Is Compromise a Lie?

Mon, 19 Sep 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss whether or not compromise is a lie in a relationship. We’ve all heard that “marriage or a relationship is about compromise” talk. It’s like a rite of passage that marriage veterans pass on to singles or couples who are considering tying the knot. But the truth is, blending your life with another person will have its struggles no matter how similar your interests are. The key is to understand who you both are outside of that relationship and appreciate your differences that add value to each other.

Relationship Talks #16: "Building Lasting Trust In Your Relationship": https://bit.ly/3DizkVC

Show notes:
[1:26] Episode intentions
[2:14] Compromise or harmonization?
[7:00] You don’t need to sacrifice what you value to have a healthy relationship
[11:02] You don’t have to justify who you are
[12:37] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[19:36] The process to a win-win-win
[24:35] Next Relationships Talks event on October 13th, 2022, at 7 pm EST: https://bit.ly/3DizkVC
[26:34] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#31 - I'm Not A Mind Reader

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the expectation that one partner knows what the other needs or wants and how this can jeopardize a relationship. In a relationship, there is often a perception that nobody knows you better than your partner. The longer your relationship, the more that perception creates an expectation that a partner should instinctively know what you need. It may appear that what you think, feel, and need at that moment is obvious. However, if you are not bringing those needs, expectations, or feelings to the surface.

Relationship Talks #16: "Building Lasting Trust In Your Relationship": https://bit.ly/3DizkVC

Show notes:
[1:24] Intentions for this episode
[4:13] Two playing fields
[6:26] What’s the most challenging point when an expectation is placed on one partner?
[9:43] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[11:30] Are you constantly learning about your partner?
[13:32] Today’s takeaways
[16:08] Relationships Talk #16 on October 13, at 7 pm EST: https://bit.ly/3DizkVC
[17:03] Reach out to Alan and Emilia
[18:47] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#30 - How to 'Win' at Love

Mon, 05 Sep 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they share how you can win at love whether you’re single or in a relationship. Winning at love is a complex concept. But if you’re willing to do the work, you will be able to reap positive results for your relationship.

Relationship Talks #15: Overcoming the Fixed Mindset in Your Relationship: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG

Show notes:
[2:52] Intentions for the episode
[4:04] Keep the positive ratios high
[11:25] Alicia Romanowiz shares her experience with Relationship Talks
[12:37] Understand that everything is a relationship
[16:06] Get clear on what’s a positive bid for you
[19:34] Keeping promises to yourself and your partner
[22:00] Reach out to Alan and Emilia
[22:31] Monthly Relationships Talk event on September 8, 2022: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG
[23:11] Outro

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: www.theweuniversity.com

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

Book a FREE Relationship Talk: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

#29 - Creating A Safe Space For Vulnerability

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share how you can create space for vulnerability in your relationship and how you can be vulnerable with your partner. Being vulnerable with your partner requires accepting yourself first before you can open up and share with someone else. Vulnerability builds trust, knowing that your partner has your best interest at heart. Knowing this is the one person you can truly be yourself with and still be accepted and loved.

Relationship Talks #15: Overcoming the Fixed Mindset in Your Relationship: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG

Show notes:
[1:49] What is vulnerability?
[7:06] Vulnerability is a skill
[15:22] Here’s Angela and Caleb Roy Backus sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[16:28] How to create a safe space for vulnerability?
[21:24] How to be vulnerable?
[25:00] Monthly Relationships Talk event on September 8, 2022: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG
[27:27] Reach out to Alan and Emilia
[28:45] Outro

#28 - Why You Feel Like You're Walking on Egg Shells

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about walking on eggshells around your partner, what it is, and why you feel like you have to. In the same way an egg demands delicate treatment to avoid cracks in its frame, a person that walks on eggshells around their partner will observe considerable caution to avoid upsetting them. Nobody would want to stay in a relationship where they feel it’s not safe to speak their truth. Sometimes, it all boils down to a calm and open conversation. Agree to be honest with each other. Remind your partner that being honest and listening attentively is better than walking on eggshells.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjgluLOMa0k

Relationship Talks #15: Overcoming the Fixed Mindset in Your Relationship: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG

Show notes:
[1:17] Bugs in the garden
[3:13] You are not alone
[5:47] Fear of the past
[10:59] When you let fear win, you manifest the fear
[12:57] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[16:33] You are suppressing your truth out of some fear
[20:17] Take action
[24:35] Reach out to Alan and Emilia: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/book-your-relationship-talk-with-emilia-and-alan
[25:28] Monthly Relationships Talk event: https://bit.ly/3woz4QG
[27:15] Outro

#27 - Honoring What You Value Guilt Free

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about expressing your truth without guilt in your relationship. To speak the truth in love could mean expressing your feelings about your relationship, what you want to do, or voicing your opinion about something. It is not always comfortable or easy because it goes against our conditioning, saying, ‘Be nice, be perfect, do not upset others.’ But it is a great way to create an extraordinary relationship with your partner.

Show notes:
[2:37] Fawning
[11:02] The permission to express your truth
[14:21] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as a single person
[18:43] The Ferber method
[25:54] Monthly Relationships Talk event on September 8, 2022
[29:26] Outro

#26 - How to Build and Grow Unwavering Trust

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about building and growing unwavering trust in your relationship. You cannot have a healthy relationship without it. And yet, virtually all of us can bring to mind a scenario where our trust has been broken. Trust is vital for a relationship to survive. If your relationship lacks trust, it’s important to work with your partner to build it so that you can let your guard down and be vulnerable with each other.

Relationship Talks #14: Building Your Future as a Team: https://bit.ly/3obtAnH

Show notes:
[2:45] Intentions
[5:38] Time doesn’t necessarily equal trust
[9:10] Trust is setting and keeping promises to yourself and others
[14:31] Listen to what Sarah Pringle has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[17:03] Understand your comfort or discomfort of vulnerability
[26:23] Next monthly meetup is on August 11, 2022
[29:12] Outro

#25 - How to Live Together in Harmony

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share how you can keep harmony in your relationship while living together. Living together can be both exciting and stressful. You’ll have to make adjustments to your lifestyle when you move in together to accommodate each other. No matter what changes or adjustments you’ll have to make, it’s important to understand your partner’s day-to-day life before you officially move in.

Relationship Talks #14: Building Your Future as a Team: https://bit.ly/3obtAnH

Show notes:
[2:05] Emilia and Alan on moving in together
[10:29] Identify the things that are not in harmony
[15:18] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talks experience as a single person
[16:33] Your harmony should be your bubble
[23:22] You can lead, leave, or appease
[27:23] Next monthly event is on August 11, 2022
[28:57] Reach out to Emilia and Alan
[31:04] Outro

#24 - Does Your Partner Have Your Back?

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they ask whether you and your partner have each other's back. It shouldn’t matter who you’re around or who you’re talking to; your partner should be able to rely on you no matter what, and vice versa. At the end of the day, communication is key to any relationship.

Relationship Talks #14: Building Your Future as a Team: https://bit.ly/3obtAnH

Show notes:
[2:02] Can you express your needs to your partner?
[9:29] Lead, Leave, or Appease
[11:33] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[15:18] Expressing how you feel to your partner makes the difference
[19:59] Book a free Relationship Talks call
[21:07] Relationship Talks monthly event on August 11, 2022, at 7 pm EST: https://bit.ly/3obtAnH
[22:45] Outro

#23 - What to Do When You're Just Not Aligned

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about relationship alignment and what you can do when you find out that you and your partner are misaligned. Relationship alignment should be a goal of any couple. Should you be proactive, find the nearest exit, or stay?

Relationship Talks #14: Building Your Future as a Team: https://bit.ly/3obtAnH

Show notes:
[1:38] Today’s episode intentions
[4:10] The target
[7:32] Step #1: Understand the what, how, and why of your misalignment
[10:14] Step #2: Determine your course of action
[11:23] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[16:50] Step #3: Applying necessary action
[19:38] Lead, Leave, or Coast
[20:24] Reach out to Alan and Emilia
[22:00] Free virtual live event
[23:58] Outro

#22 - How To Create Your Own Relationship Standards

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they share how you can create your standards for a potential relationship. When some people think of relationship standards, they jump straight to “the list” of things they want in a partner. The list of attributes you want in a romantic partner is not the same as the standards you set for a relationship. Relationship standards reflect the standards you set for yourself and what you think you are worthy of when looking for love.

Show notes:
[1:56] Intentions
[4:39] Define your musts, must-nots, and negotiables
[7:01] Setting standards creates clarity
[11:55] The must enable you to be who you want to be
[14:55] Lynn Nguyen on her Relationship Talk experience as a single person
[16:19] The must-nots pull you out of alignment and do not enable you to honor what you value
[17:14] The negotiables are a preference but not a deal-breaker
[20:29] These standards can evolve
[22:50] Everyone has a choice to create their standards
[27:49] Next Relationship Talks event on August 11, 2022, at 7 pm EST
[28:53] Service Saturday — one conversation can change your life; book your free call now
[30:00] Outro

#21 - Does Your Partner Have a Fixed Mindset?

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the difference between having a fixed mindset and a growth mindset in relationships. How we think about our relationship and partner matters, and depending on our core beliefs, we might manage our feelings in a way that brings us closer or takes us further apart from the other person.

Show notes:
[1:43] Fixed vs. growth mindset
[5:08] A fixed mindset can complicate your relationship
[8:46] You likely inherited the mindset that you grew up around
[12:12] What conversations make you or your partner uncomfortable?
[15:40] Here’s Angela and Caleb Roy Backus sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[20:13] How to approach a partner who has a fixed mindset
[27:58] Service Saturday – free Relationship Talks session
[29:49] Monthly Virtual Relationships Talk on August 11, 2022, at 7 PM EST
[32:25] Outro

#20 - Are You Afraid of Outgrowing Your Partner?

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the fear most people have about outgrowing or being outgrown by their partner. Identify which of the scenarios they talk about your relationship is in and then take action. It’s difficult, painful, and no one’s fault, but sometimes you really do outgrow the people you love.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:09] Fear and pain points
[5:25] The puzzle scenarios
[10:17] Going with the flow makes you and your partner stagnant
[17:37] Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia's Relationship Talks
[18:57] Do you have the courage to communicate with your partner?
[24:21] Be vulnerable
[31:16] Service Saturday – free Relationship Talks
[32:27] Free live virtual event on July 14, 2022 - https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g
[35:02] Outro

#19 - Easiest Way to Avoid Hurting Your Partner

Mon, 20 Jun 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about what you can do to avoid hurting your partner. It might be a hurtful comment, rejecting your partner physically, or being unfaithful. When you hurt the one you love, it causes strain in the relationship. You're only human, so you can't expect never to hurt the one you love again, but you can work on your behaviors and communication skills to improve the relationship and how you treat one another.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:07] Understand your parts
[7:43] The 4 archetypes of a person
[12:22] Identify when the wrong part is driving at the wrong time
[14:48] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[16:02] Name the part that was driving
[22:59] Express what that part needs
[24:22] Give reassurance or ask for reassurance from your partner
[26:03] Every response you get is either a loving response or a cry for help
[29:11] Free Relationship Talks every Saturday
[29:46] Free Live Virtual Event on July 14, 2022, at 7 PM, EST
[31:34] Outro

#18 - How Gratitude Can Make Or Break Your Relationship

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of showing gratitude to your partner through your actions. It can be through complimenting them, letting them have a break, writing a note of appreciation, or just being thankful for them even when they’re not around. No matter how you choose to show gratitude and cultivate a greater sense of appreciation in your relationship, remember that it is a simple way to build and strengthen your bond.

Register to Relationships Talks #13: How to Have Stress Free Travel with Your Partner https://bit.ly/3HhMX7g

Show notes:
[2:52] Emilia’s experience on the opposite of gratitude
[9:46] If you’re grateful for anything, prove it
[13:53] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[15:39] What does it feel like to be undervalued? And what should you watch out for to avoid it?
[21:37] There’s no replacement for expressing or showing gratitude through actions
[25:55] A lot of people value words of affirmation
[27:48] 3 questions for you to ask yourself
[29:00] Live virtual relationship event on July 14, 2022, at 7 PM, EST
[31:32] Outro

#17 - Overcoming the Challenges of Living With Your Partner

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the challenges people face when they start living with their partners and how they can overcome them. Living with a partner means a new level of shared intimacy, closeness, and togetherness – but it can also lead to some serious relationship stumbling blocks. So tune in and learn how you can address those issues before they even happen.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[2:04] Dealing with the fear of moving in
[4:31] Discovering each other’s lifestyle preferences
[10:47] It’s harder to stay consistent when you live with someone with who you’re not in alignment with
[16:23] Wondering what it’s like to join Relationship Talks?
[17:45] Digging underneath the why
[24:15] What are your real preferences?
[26:52] Relationship Talks live event on June 9, 2022, at 7 PM EST
[30:05] Outro

#16 - Stress-Free Travel with Your Partner

Mon, 30 May 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about why you get stressed when you travel with your partner and how you can address those issues to avoid getting stressed in the future. Because there’s nothing quite like seeing the world with your significant other, visiting a new place together – or bringing your partner to one of your favorite places – can help you feel more connected and keep the romance alive.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[1:40] Intentions
[3:18] Stay on the same page before, during, and after traveling
[7:26] It all comes down to communication
[14:01] Here’s Angela and Caleb Roy Backus sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[16:27] You both have to be aligned
[22:03] Travel intentionally
[26:20] Reach out to Emilia and Alan
[27:21] Do a root-cause analysis
[28:18] Relationship Talks event on June 9, 2022, at 7 pm EST
[29:40] Outro

#15 - How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationship

Mon, 23 May 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about setting healthy boundaries in a relationship and how you can do so. You’ll find boundaries in every kind of relationship — from friends and family to colleagues and brief acquaintances. You can’t see them, but these lines help you stay “you” and provide a sense of mutual respect, protection, expectations, and support.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[2:06] Intentions
[5:25] How do you know when boundaries are needed?
[8:33] Set boundaries around what you value
[14:13] Myth: There’s an unconscious belief that you own that person in a partnership
[18:03] The three Es that you need to be mindful to
[19:43] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[23:17] Healthy boundaries Alan and Emilia have set
[29:35] 3-step process to setting healthy boundaries
[36:29] Relationship Talks Virtual Event
[39:09] Outro

#14 - Is Your Partner Taking Ownership?

Mon, 16 May 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of taking ownership of your actions in a relationship. Taking ownership is an empowering reminder that you have control over your role in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which encourages your partner to be open and authentic with you.

Register for Relationship Talks #12: "Relationship Insurance: Making Sure You're Growing Together, Not Apart." on June 9, 2022, @ 7:00 PM EST - https://bit.ly/3Mmla7B

Show notes:
[1:23] The importance of taking ownership
[4:23] Focus on what’s within your control rather than what’s beyond it
[6:19] You’re likely to take ownership when you have a growth mindset
[7:38] Scenario 1: Lack of ownership between partners
[10:42] Scenario 3: One partner has extreme ownership
[12:54] Scenario 2: Optimal ownership in a partnership
[14:15] It’s all within your control
[15:46] Sherysse Morris, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
[17:12] You will never effectively improve something without ownership
[21:34] Ask yourself…
[26:00] It’s the hardest to take ownership when it’s the most important
[27:21] Service Saturday—if you want to learn more and dig deeper, book the FREE Relationship Talk with Emilia and Alan
[28:31] Next Relationships Talk event on June 9, 2022
[30:26] Outro

#13 - What's Your Relationship Paradigm?

Mon, 09 May 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about relationship paradigms and the importance of recognizing and understanding yours. When it comes to relationships, you and your partner should be on the same page. Although conflict is unavoidable in any kind of relationship, you and your partner should still be able to talk things through and realign your values and beliefs to keep your relationship strong.

Download the 18 Conscious Relationship Paradigms for your reference here; https://bit.ly/3KYuGfB

Registration Link for MAY Relationships Talks about Bouncing Back After Screwing Up In Your Relationship: https://bit.ly/3KNu5y1

Show notes:
[1:31] The relationship paradigms
[4:03] What is a paradigm?
[8:44] Know the paradigm you’re coming from
[13:15] Listen to Jason and Lisa Blackstock’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
[16:00] It will be challenging if you and your partner live with different beliefs
[19:51] What is your paradigm?
[20:33] Digital asset giveaway: see the link above
[22:06] Monthly virtual event on Bouncing Back After Screwing Up In Your Relationship
[25:42] Outro

#12 - Do Your Friends Support Your Relationship?

Mon, 02 May 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today, they talk about the three scenarios you can possibly be in: to blend your friends with your intimate relationships. We all want our friends to like our new partner and vice versa. Otherwise, we’d be in a very awkward and uncomfortable position: in the middle.

To join the MAY Relationships Talks #11 about Bouncing Back After Screwing Up In Your Relationship, click here: https://bit.ly/3KNu5y1

Show notes:
[1:51] Everyone struggles with integrating friendship and intimate relationships
[5:27] Your friends do not approve of your intimate partner
[16:20] Do your friends have the merit, understanding, and awareness to give you sound advice?
[17:49] When you’re partner and friends do not approve of each other
[18:52] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[30:44] When your friends approve of your partner and vice versa
[34:20] Relationship Talks events
[35:23] Relationship Talks free call
[37:45] Outro

#11 - Red Flags and What to Do With Them

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about addressing red flags in your relationships. When you're dating someone new, the romance and excitement of the "honeymoon phase" can blind you, and you may not be aware of the warning signs. When you see them, take note and express your truth to your partner. No matter how small an issue it can be, it may make or break your relationship.

Show notes:
[2:20] What are red flags?
[8:39] Have the courage to express your truth
[13:52] How did Alan feel about the red flag in their relationship?
[15:06] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[20:15] How are you navigating the flags? And how do you handle it?
[22:21] Are you giving your partner the chance to be better?
[28:11] Relationship Talks monthly virtual event
[29:15] 30-minute free call
[31:11] Outro

#10 - How Screwing Up Can Actually Improve Your Relationship

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode talks about how screw-ups are somehow vital to the success of a relationship. Committing mistakes takes a toll on any relationship, often leading to sleepless nights, existential angst, and overwhelming feelings of deficiency. But it doesn’t have to be that way; the key is to take responsibility for your mistakes, reflect honestly on why you made that mistake, and figure out how you can do better—together.

Join the virtual event: Bouncing Back After Screwing Up In Your Relationship on May 12, 2022.

Show notes:
[1:30] Screw ups can be a relationship’s foundational blocks
[5:00] Failing forward in relationships
[11:22] Ownership
[12:20] Vulnerability
[14:41] Working through screw-ups together
[17:14] Here’s Angela Backus and Caleb Roy sharing their Relationship Talk experience
[21:25] How Emilia processed through Alan’s screw-ups
[31:45] Ask yourself this: what is your go-to response when you screw up?
[36:17] Outro

#9 - Why You Need Emergency Check Ins

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of emergency check-ins in your relationship. Every relationship goes through situations that make you or your partner feel frustrated, hurt, or distant. Check in and make sure you’re still on the same page when that happens.

Join Relationship Talks: A Deep Dive Into Your Partner's Love Languages on Apr 14, 2022, 07:00 PM in EST

Show notes:
[3:06] Are you on the same page with your partner?
[9:53] When was the last time that you had a situation where you could have used an emergency check in?
[14:15] Listen to what Sarah Pringle has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[18:45] When should you have an emergency check in?
[24:26] Virtual live event about your partner’s love languages: a deep dive
[24:59] Relationship Talks—join us!
[28:50] Outro

#8 - What's Your Relationship's Cornerstone Question?

Mon, 04 Apr 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they talk about the cornerstone question and how important it is as a foundation for any healthy relationship. It serves as a means for you and your partner to understand each other and make sure that you’re not holding each other back from being yourself in your relationship. They also share their cornerstone question for each other and how they came about. Tune in for an insightful episode about relationships, whether you’re with someone or yourself.

Join the Relationship Talks: A Deep Dive Into Your Partner's Love Languages. Click here!

Show notes:
[1:43] What is a cornerstone question?
[2:12] Emilia’s experience in an insecure relationship versus a healthy relationship with Alan
[9:37] The light dimmer
[15:18] Alan’s cornerstone question
[17:25] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[20:36] The purpose of a healthy relationship is growth
[22:43] What is your cornerstone question?
[24:53] Why do people dim other people’s light?
[29:58] Virtual live event on April 14, 2022, at 7 pm
[30:27] Relationship Talks: book your FREE call now
[33:13] Outro

#7 - Checking In On The Health Of Your Relationship

Mon, 28 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the importance of checking in on your relationship and making sure the connection is still there. Nowadays, it’s so easy to get disconnected from any relationship, even when you live in the same house or sleep beside each other. What with the busy schedule, virtual meetings, and to-do lists at work or in your personal life. That’s why it’s important to carve in a little of your time for checking in to ensure you’re on the same page and that your bond is strong.

Download the weekly check-in framework for free!

Episodes mentioned:
#6 - How To Have A Challenging Conversation With Your Partner
#5 - Learning Your Partner's Love Languages

Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[3:42] Creating systems
[5:31] The seven needs
[8:31] Questions for checking in on your relationship’s health
[13:51] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[18:01] Start now!
[22:14] The quality of your life is contingent on the quality of your relationships
[23:51] How often do you check in on your relationship?
[24:13] Relationship Talks - join now!
[24:55] Relationship Talks Live Virtual Event - click here to join
[26:47] Outro

#6 - How To Have A Challenging Conversation With Your Partner

Mon, 21 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about approaching a challenging conversation with your partner and why it’s important to do so. They also give tips on how you can have that conversation you’ve been trying to put off for so long. Whether it’s picking the right timing or the manner you approach your partner, learn how Emilia and Alan handle their difficult conversations through this episode. So tune in!

Show notes:
[2:36] How do you approach a challenging conversation?
[4:18] Identify the bugs and pull out the weeds
[8:23] Dig a little deeper and make the soft approach
[10:54] Listen to what Sarah has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[15:00] Communicate and be proactive
[16:11] Share your fear with your partner
[16:39] Express yourself and experience you’re having
[17:01] Share your intention
[18:21] Relationship Talks free call. Join here
[18:52] Join the April Relationship Talks Live Virtual Event
[19:36] Whatsapp Conscious Couples Community. Click here
[20:01] Outro

#5 - Learning Your Partner's Love Languages

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode talks about love languages and how conscious love language differs from the love language you know. They also share their own story of figuring out each other’s love languages. Because a key to a healthy relationship is understanding how best to express your love to your partner – loving in a way that resonates with them and fulfills their needs.

Download The We's 25 Conscious Love Languages here

Join the April Relationship Talks: https://bit.ly/3KBEpZi

Show notes:
[2:10] Conscious love languages
[7:23] Challenges in Alan and Emilia’s love languages
[12:27] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[14:23] The difference between love language and conscious love language
[21:40] Learning your partner’s conscious love language
[21:58] Figure out what lights your partner up
[22:09] Ask them about it
[22:20] Gauge their fulfillment afterward
[24:22] Monthly virtual event—join us and learn more about your partner’s love languages. To join, register here
[25:04] Outro

#4 - What Fills Your Partner's Cup?

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome to episode four of The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about the importance of learning your partner’s cup-fillers and knowing how to approach it the right way for a more harmonious relationship that will stand the struggles that may come your way.

Download the Cup Fillers digital asset here!

Show notes:
[2:19] What fills Emilia’s cup and how Alan approached it
[7:16] Importance of paying attention and setting the intention
[10:26] Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[11:07] Everything’s important but not equally
[15:53] Alan and Emilia’s cup-fillers
[19:53] Monthly Virtual Event
[20:56] Outro

#3 - What Does Love Mean To You?

Mon, 28 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about what love means to them and the importance of knowing what it means for you and your partner. They also discuss the importance of you and your partner’s alignment of core values as a strong foundation for your relationship.

Show notes:
[1:20] What it means for Emilia
[5:29] Understanding what life means to you
[8:09] Listen to what Sarah Pringle from the Daily Dose Of Sarahtonin podcast has to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[10:21] Life is about choice
[10:54] Misalignment in a relationship
[12:09] What is your paradigm?
[15:30] Next Virtual Event on March 10, 2022
[15:49] Relationships Talk Coaching
[16:26] Outro

#2- Aligning With Your Partner

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. For the second episode, they talk about the importance of aligning with your partner in terms of your core values in life. Alignment with your partner not only cultivates trust and deeper commitment with each other but also helps you have that reassurance that you’re both heading in the same direction in your relationship.

Show notes:
[1:30] What is alignment?
[5:20] Approaching a team effort in different ways
[8:34] Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
[12:07] Creating your own core values
[14:02] Start small and align with your partner
[16:06] Relationship Talks virtual event on March 10, 2022. Join here
[17:37] Outro

#1 - Our Love Story

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 11:00:00 -0500

Welcome to the first episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple, Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they share their love story: how it all started, who helped them come together, how a mindset shift helped them find each other, and how deciding in advance will help you find someone who is magnificent and aligned. Whether you’re married, in a relationship, or single, this podcast is for everyone, so make sure you subscribe and get notified for weekly uploads.

Show notes:
[1:05] What this episode is all about
[2:30] Emilia’s side of the story
[7:27] Let’s walk down Alan’s memory lane
[13:56] The getting to know each other was so powerful and deep
[18:00] Just be you…
[25:27] Takeaway: believe and decide
[32:50] Don’t settle for anything less than magnificent
[33:30] Join our March relationship talks: https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/relationship-talks-outgrowing-old-friends

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