Maxwell Muff Meeting

MMM S4E10 - The orgasm gap

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 12:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

On the last episode of the season, we talk about the one and only, inevitable (or not), mystical climax—orgasm. Is it really THAT important when it comes to a fulfilling sex life? Is it really about the journey and not the destination?

MMM S4E9 - A dabble into kinks and fetishes

Sat, 28 Dec 2024 13:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

With the alternative becoming mainstream these days, we take a dive into fetishes and kinks out there. As self-proclaimed 'vanilla' and kink-curious lesbians, we share our brief experiences with alternative sex play.

MMM S4E8 - Are sex toys necessary?

Sat, 19 Oct 2024 14:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

Straps-ons and dildos are they really necessary to a good sex life? We give some strong (and lazy) opinions on the matter. One thing's for sure, sex toys can help spice things up in the bedroom but why the hell are they so expensive??

MMM S4E7 - Exploring types of sexual encounters

Sun, 29 Sep 2024 15:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

From one night stands to threesomes, what's the deal about them? We explore the horizons of our sexual openness and ask the real important question — is it alright being vanilla?

MMM S4E6 - What's sex education in Singapore like? with guest Jean Seizure

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 19:00:00 +0800

We all learn about sex in our early formative years and the school curriculum proves to be the perfect place for misconceptions and fear mongering, at least of what we remember from it anyway. This episode, we get singer-songwriter and actress/stuntwoman (what can she not do??), Jean Seizure, to join us as we discover just exactly how different or similar our growing up experiences were.

MMM S4E5 - What does sexual health look like for lesbians?

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 00:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

Does sexual health matter to lesbians? We share our first experiences with sexual health tests and clinics, and other sex-related ailments. For queer women in Singapore, we list down a couple of places where testing is accessible to all.

MMM S4E4 - Spilling the tea about female masturbation

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 17:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

Masturbation gets the hot seat this episode (to the horror of our religious teachers and parents). We explore the many ways and tools that get us in the mood, and why masturbating is so important to self discovery and having a great sex life.

MMM S4E3 - Foreplay: the longer, the better

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 00:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

Don't we just love a good build up? On this episode, we talk about one of the most important parts of sex — foreplay. From an intellectual discussion to listening to sensual music, there are many ways to tease and get in the mood. We share some of the ways that get us h0rny, or do just the opposite.

MMM S4E2 - How do we give and take back consent?

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0800

This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it.

The buzzword of the last few years, CONSENT, is somewhat of a newish concept to us, older millennials. We talk about our own experiences with giving and struggling to take consent back even as fully formed adult women (yes).

MMM S4E1 - What's the difference between gender and sexuality?

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 00:00:00 +0800

We're back!! Missed us? This season we do a deep dive into the topic of SEX and all things queer about it. It's an understatement to say that sex education is desperately lacking in Singapore .

While we're not experts, we're hoping that breaking the stigma for, especially, WLW sex can help us reclaim the way we talk and think about the issue, far far removed from the male gaze or fetishization.

There's lots to demystify even among women who've been queer for more than a decade. We start of the season by talking about sexuality and what are all those labels for?

MMM S3 Episode 10 - Wait, 2023 is over?

Thu, 25 Jan 2024 00:00:00 +0800

Our last episode for 2023 starts on a relative harmless note with beige flags (what are they? and why are they beige??) and turns into a reflection for us both. It's safe to say that we're (still) struggling with social media and the big WWW. We throw in some of our hopes for the new year and turning older in 2024. Adulting, amirite?

MMM S3 Episode 9 - What makes sportswomen so damn attractive?

Thu, 18 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0800

Did the Womens World Cup 2023 increase visibility to the world wide web of lesbians in sports? What sports did we use to excel in, do we still excel in any? And we ask the hardest question, what sport has the most lesbians? Would we date sporty spice?

MMM S3 Episode 8 - Why do lesbians love getting into long distance relationships?

Wed, 03 Jan 2024 10:00:00 +0800

What is LDR? Why do lesbians love getting into them? We chat about our experiences, the pros, the cons, whether we recommend them and what to do when you're apart from each other. Does an open relationship help along the way? Have you been in any? Do YOU recommend them, and what's the biggest hurdle?

MMM S3 Episode 7 - Why do queer women love to U-Haul so much?

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 12:00:00 +0800

What does the term 'U-Haul' mean in the WLW dictionary? We give acknowledgement to the lightning fast speed at which sapphics move in with each other, and breakdown the pros and cons of nesting. Does teamwork actually make the dream work?

MMM S3 Episode 6 - What is lesbian bed death?

Sat, 21 Oct 2023 10:00:00 +0800

The dreaded LBD (lesbian bed death) is more common than most of us realise, and no, it's not just an urban myth. Is it a symptom of something larger in the relationship or just two people get too comfortable and lazy with each other? We talk about how to rekindle the spark with your partner and share our own experiences with this awful plague.

MMM S3 Episode 5 - Why do some lesbians like straight women?

Sat, 05 Aug 2023 22:00:00 +0800

We explore the phenomenon of lesbians dating straight women being, of course, two women who don't do that. (Don't @ us!) Still, lots of our lesbian friends make the annual conversion pilgrimage every time. Listen to us break down the allure of the straight woman, untouched by the sapphic WLW scene.

MMM S3 Episode 4 - Queer Ultimatum: Debrief

Sat, 24 Jun 2023 10:00:00 +0800

Happy Pride Month and happy Pink Dot Day!!! For those who don't reside in Singapore, Pink Dot is our country's equivalent of pride 'march' where queers and allies squeeze in Hong Lim Park for a day. Listen to our season 1 bonus episode a sample of last year's Pink Dot.

Both Jess and I won't be making it for Pink Dot this year but in celebration of #pride, we're releasing our own chaotic contribution on our take on The Ultimatum: Queer Love. We talk favourites, lesbians in conflict (emergency backpack), and Yoly's heart vs. head decision.

MMM S3 Episode 3 - Situationships, get me outta here!

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0800

Are relationships ever straightforward? We dive into the trendy term 'situationships' and break that down (perhaps not so successfully). We spill the tea on some of the less clear cut and toxic relationships we've been in, and offer a solution to us helping you get out of one (1800-GET-ME-OUT).

MMM S3 Episode 2 - How do you ask a girl out?

Sat, 06 May 2023 15:00:00 +0800

From the vast (and sometimes tiny) pool of queer women, asking someone out can be daunting. We share how we've gotten our lady interests to meet us IRL and along the way discover that maybe we suck at it.

MMM S3 Episode 1 - Does your first lesbian sex have to feel magical? (NSFW)

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 00:00:00 +0800

We're back for a third season and this time letting loose (look Ma, no script!). Each episode will see us answer a question and listen to us digress, a particular talent of ours, from there. For episode one, we get on one of our favourite topics — sex. From forgetting our first lesbian sex encounter (were they really so forgettable??) to which fingers we prefer to use, enjoy our unscripted and probably NSFW episode!

MMM S2 Episode 10 - It's just us for the recap

Sun, 05 Feb 2023 14:00:00 +0800

It's the end of season two! We go back to the basics with us two chattering on about what the season has been like. We do plenty of veering off the track now that we're back off-script but don't worry, we still get back to the topics at hand. (Almost) nothing is out of bounds as we discuss our newly discovered lesbian reality TV show, #TampaBaes, to our thoughts on transfolx in sports.

See you for season three!

MMM S2 Episode 9 - Being trans with Shan Menon

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 17:00:00 +0800

For our second last episode for season two, we learn more about the trans community in Singapore as we chat with Shan Menon. A trained psychologist himself, he shares his experience as a social worker for The T Project and a youth educator. Things also get more personal as he gives us a lowdown on his coming out story as a trans man early on in his life, and how the community has changed since then.

Resources:
www.transbefrienders.com
www.thetprojectsg.org

MMM S2 Episode 8 - Queer & Muslim w Zuby from Healing Circle

Sun, 08 Jan 2023 18:00:00 +0800

What is it like being queer and a Muslim? We chat with Zuby, founder of the Healing Circle, an organisation in Singapore for queer Muslims that offers counselling and theoretical studies on the Quran. She candidly shares her coming out story (after 40 years of comphet), the backlash she has faced from her Muslim community, and advice for those who are struggling to reconcile their queerness with religion.

Resources:
www.thehealingcirclesg.org/
www.beyondhijab.sg/
www.facebook.com/Bissu.life/
www.instagram.com/quasasg/
www.facebook.com/JejakaSGR/
www.instagram.com/penawarsg/

MMM S2 Episode 7 - Drag w Becca D'Bus

Mon, 26 Dec 2022 20:00:00 +0800

We love a good drag show and on this episode, we speak to the one and only queen — Becca D'Bus. The founder and organiser of the weekly drag performance, RIOT!, schools us on how drag is a glorious celebration of rule-breaking and finding your community.

Also up for discussion are the different forms of drag — drag kings, hyper queens and hyper kings — as well as the nemesis of a fully dressed up drag queen aka the cisgender hetero female. (CW: rape)

http://www.riotdragshow.com/

MMM S2 Episode 6 - Activism for queer women w Jean Chong of Sayoni

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 10:00:00 +0800

Singapore isn't as queer-friendly as you think it is. We speak to Jean Chong, one of the founders of Sayoni, a local organisation that focuses on research about LBQ (lesbian, bisexual, and queer) women in the country.

It's a sobering topic as we touch on the intersectionality of female violence and queerness (content warning!) as well as the nuances of queer female activism in the region. It was a pleasure speaking to Jean and we hope you enjoy the episode too.

For more information, head to www.sayoni.com or email bravesayoni@gmail.com

MMM S2 Episode 5 - Bisexuality w Kethlyn

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 15:00:00 +0800

Is everyone bisexual? We discuss the often overlooked letter in LGBTQIA+ with Kethlyn, who proudly identifies as one in times when that's not so much the label of choice. She shares her experience coming out as a bisexual woman as well as how she's navigated the rocky seas of dating both men and women.

MMM S2 Episode 4 - Mental health w Antoinette from safespaceapac

Fri, 28 Oct 2022 22:00:00 +0800

Talk about mental wellness and therapy is all the rage these days but how do you get around to getting a therapist for yourself? We chat with Antoinette, co-founder and CEO of SafeSpace (and also lesbian), to find out more about affordable mental healthcare. We also get to the point about queer-friendly therapy and throw in some "asking for a friend" questions.

Queer fam, we got you!

Links -
https://safespace.sg/
https://oogachaga.com/

MMM S2 Episode 3 - Ink w queer tattoo artist manandhand

Sun, 16 Oct 2022 15:00:00 +0800

A more lighthearted episode for the season — we chat with Sarahann, @manandhand on IG from Tooth & Nail Studio, to learn more about tattoos! We also share about the tattoos we both have and what they mean to us. We also give the verdict on couple tatts. Yay or nay?

MMM S2 Episode 2 - Lesbian Families w twomomssg

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 11:00:00 +0800

How does family planning look like for same sex couples in Singapore? We find out as we speak to Brenda, one half of @twomomssg on Instagram. (No, having children is not on the horizon for either of us.)

A big thank you to Brenda who was so open with us about the baby-making process and the struggles they've had to overcome for their first daughter. Follow them on Instagram to find out more!

MMM S2 Episode 1 - Astrology w Stranger Moon

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 00:00:00 +0800

Back for season 2, we change up the format a little by inviting guests on each episode. For the first episode this season, we find out more about astrology with the help of astrologer and tarot card reader, Amanda (@strangermoon.tarot on IG). Listen to hear her get straight to it and point out our weaknesses just by reading our signs.

MMM BONUS Episode - We go to Pink Dot 2022!

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 18:00:00 +0800

Our bonus episode and a great end to the first run of Maxwell Muff Meeting!

We haul our asses down to Hong Lim Park for the first in-person Pink Dot 2022 after three years! It's sweaty, noisy and our first time doing a roving live recording (yes, we walked around the park like conjoined twins) but gives you a pretty good idea of how happy everyone was to be out and proud.

Special thanks to our podcast fellows LazySmells (go check them out on Spotify!) for letting us use their outdoor podcast equipment for this. <3 Much love and allyship.

MMM S1 Episode 10 - Sex talk (Season finale!)

Sat, 11 Jun 2022 18:00:00 +0800

It's the episode you've all been waiting for --- SEX. We talk about the myth of scissoring, explore the world of sex toys and suppositories?? But the sexiest thing we get to chat about is good 'ol communication, a sure way for better sex.

**Watch out for us at Pink Dot on 18 June at Hong Lim Park as we do a season special live recording on location! (Hint: we'll be wearing a pink tie dye shirt.) See you there!

MMM S1 Episode 9 - Lesbians in Pop Culture

Sat, 14 May 2022 23:00:00 +0800

Why do all fictional lesbian characters never get happy endings? We reminisce about the lesbian representation in media (very meagre quantity given Singapore's strict anti-gay censorship). And well, it turns out that we haven't really consumed enough lesbian content as we should but can you blame us?

MMM S1 Episode 8 - Queer rights in Singapore

Sun, 01 May 2022 13:00:00 +0800

We take a closer look at what life is for lesbians in Singapore when it comes to the law and the rest of our allegedly conservative society. It's a brief look at Penal Code 377A, the new regulations allowing egg freezing for the first time in the country's history, praying the gay away and of course, Pink Dot.

Some resources mentioned in the episode:
- https://pinkdot.sg/
- https://oogachaga.com/
- https://www.sayoni.com/
- https://www.facebook.com/proutapp/

MMM S1 Episode 7 - Relationships Part 2

Fri, 15 Apr 2022 15:00:00 +0800

In the second part of the Relationships episode, we start off with long distance relationships (Hutch being the expert here) and dive into cheating and break ups. It's emotionally taxing and we both wish we had some drinks to knock back but well, life is tough ain't it? This is another episode we recommend listening to while cuddled up and cosy (there might be some topics that could bring up your own bad memories of relationships).

MMM S1 Episode 6 - Relationships Part 1

Sat, 19 Mar 2022 10:00:00 +0800

Hutch is down with Covid and we're recording at night! Change into your jammies, get comfortable with a warm cup of milk (or a nightcap) as we dive into the 101s of a relationship. One of our longest episodes so far, we've only just scratched the surface of the beautifully complex relationship between two (or more) women in love. But, what even is love?

MMM S1 Episode 5 - Friendships are complicated

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 12:00:00 +0800

Fresh off our Dating episode, we break down how friendships form from potential love interests and along the way, discover that we both have very different approaches. We also find out what are 'lesbros' and why some friends are considered 'bros' while others are 'sis', and Jess proves that enemies can sometimes turn into good friends.

MMM S1 Episode 4 - Dating

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 10:00:00 +0800

It's Valentine's Day, the day of lurve and we're talking about dating. More importantly, what makes a date a date? We share our best and worst dates, and yes, dating is equally confusing when you're seeing someone of the same sex. Why do we even try?

MMM S1 Episode 3 - Sex Ed

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 09:00:00 +0800

We're up early for our third episode on education! You'll hear lots of ambient noise (e.g. Yawen eating breakfast, the morning bird aka Asian Koel, and Freddie, Hutch's frenchie, chewing on his toy) so bear with us. But this round, we get into what school was like for us and how our own sexual awakening came about (yes, there's the obligatory L Word credit).

MMM S1 Episode 2 - Party Favours

Sun, 16 Jan 2022 13:00:00 +0800

Things get a little chaotic in this episode as we recall one of the highlights of being lesbian - the girls-only parties! We explain the name of our podcast (why Maxwell?) and get drunk on nostalgia in a haze of inebriated mistakes, fights, and general good times at PLay, Mad Monks and White Parties. We also revisit lesbian labels (a fan's request) of the early 2000s, and that unofficial term "bung".

MMM S1 Episode 1 - Coming Out

Sun, 02 Jan 2022 21:00:00 +0800

Welcome to our inaugural Maxwell Muff Meeting!

We're two lesbians in our thirties from Singapore, who've decided to bite the bullet and put on record the outrageous things (and sometimes vulnerable moments). In our first episode, get to know us a little better as we share our coming out story, our shared fear of the younger generation (hahaha), and our dismal love lives.