Messy Can’t Stop Her is taking a short break to prepare for Season 11, and JKO invites listeners to stay connected and look forward to a meaningful new season inspired by 55 years of reflections. 

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Is God a figment of your imagination? JKO answers this question as she shares shares worship, encouragement and gratitude for her birthday on April 29. 

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Am struggling with the direction of this podcast and I need your help. This show was created to encourage women in difficult intimate relationships, especially those who are not able to leave. But lately, my heart has also been pulling me toward a deeper conversation about how these environments affect children. I would truly love your thoughts after you listen. 

References 

Living in the Trenches with Legacy in Mind 

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What if authenticity is only welcomed when it makes other people comfortable? JKO explores the hidden cost of being real, especially for women whose lives do not fit polished expectations. If you’re a woman interested in finding safe community without losing yourself, this episode is for you.

Key scriptures: Proverbs 27:17, Proverbs 18:24, Proverbs 21:1

References

How to Build Trust After Repeated Betrayals

Don’t Lose Your Capacity to Love

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JKO uses a touching rework of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years to remind listeners that God is faithful, present, and able to carry us through emotional and spiritual battles. If you’ve ever experienced difficult seasons where you’ve had to fight despair, and wrestle peace, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Peace has to be fought for intentionally sometimes 

Worship can become a weapon when despair is trying to settle on your mind 

Looking back at God’s faithfulness can strengthen you to face the present 

When you cannot see clearly, remember how far God has already brought you. 

A rewrite of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years 

Key scriptures: Isaiah 26:3, Ephesians 6:12, Romans 8:28 

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This Holy Thursday, JKO reflects on the women of Easter and what their stories reveal about the heart of Jesus toward women. This tender reminder that women are not an afterthought is for every woman who has ever felt unseen, dismissed, or unimportant. 

Nugget of wisdom in this episode 

You are not an afterthought 

Key scriptures: Mathew 27, 28; Mark 15, 16; Luke 8, 10, 11; John 11, 12, 20 

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A woman can lose her capacity to love in the trenches of pain, betrayal, shame, guilt, and repeated disappointment. In this episode, JKO shares tips on how to protect your heart from becoming hardened by what you have been through. If you’re a woman who has noticed that life has made her more irritable, more guarded, more critical, or more difficult to get along with, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

How pain changes the way we love

The overflow effect of bitterness

Protecting your heart without losing tenderness

Rebuilding your love capacity with God’s help

Key scriptures: Hebrews 12:15, Ephesians 4:31–32, Proverbs 4:23

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When life feels like one long crisis, how do you keep believing God? In this episode, JKO talks about how to hold on to faith during betrayal, crisis, loneliness, and long seasons of hardship. If you are a woman who has been navigating challenges for a while, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Faith is confidence in God’s character when your circumstances are confusing.
You do not have to fake strength to have faith.
You may be in the furnace, but God has not abandoned you in it.
Faith is sometimes as simple as refusing to compromise. 

Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 3:16-18, Daniel 3, Hebrews 11:1, Romans 5:3–5, Isaiah 43:2 

Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area. 

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An honest and compassionate conversation about inherited shame, colonized thinking, and the importance of self-reflection. JKO discusses how intergenerational shame affects who a woman becomes, what she accepts in relationships, and how she can pass it down to the ones she loves most. 

If you have ever wondered where your struggle originated from, this episode will help you think more deeply about identity, healing, and the freedom that comes when a woman stops rejecting herself. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Colonization also affects identity and how people see themselves. 

Shame can be inherited through families, communities, institutions, and repeated messages. 

Shame can make a woman struggle in relationships. 

Women do not have to keep passing down what wounded them. 

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This International Women’s Day special examines how some women manage to rise in spite of difficult and even abusive relationships. JKO highlights the importance of women’s support systems, the courage it takes to leave harmful environments, and the quiet strategy some women use to build a path to safety and stability. The episode is both a reflection and an encouragement to women in hard places.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The role of community in helping women survive hard conditions.

A grounded explanation of “ajo” and women’s informal support systems.

The importance of planning for women who cannot move right away.

An example of a Canadian woman who used long-term planning to secure a safer future for herself and her children. 

Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area. 

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An unequal yoke is a relationship marked by misalignment, and women in such situations often pay a huge price for staying in it. JKO discusses the impact of unequal yokes and ways that a woman can protect herself in such a situation. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

What it means to be unequally yoked in a relationship 

The price of an unequal yoke 

How to know if you are unequally yoked 

What to do if you are unequally yoked 

Key scripture: 2 Corinthians 6:12 

References 

Why Some Smart Women Stay in Abuse 

Integrity Music's Lionel Peterson - Peace lyric video 

Unveiling Your Core - Values Worksheet 

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If you’ve been betrayed repeatedly, it’s not easy to trust again, especially when the betrayal came from someone you depended on. This episode is for the woman who feels lonely, cautious, and tired of being used. We talk about the Trust Ladder, how to spot safe people by patterns, and a lesson from 1 Kings 13 about misplaced trust.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Trust is layers and patterns over time.

The 4 Cs that prove a person is trustworthy.

Loneliness makes you vulnerable to wrong counsel.

God’s Word is your safest guide.

Key scriptures: Matthew 10:16, Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 27:12, Psalm 118:8, 1 Kings 13

References

Betrayal Trauma: The Impact of Being Betrayed 

How to Stop Hustling for Love 

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Valentine’s season can be sweet… or sour. So this is not a romance episode, but a reset episode.

Last week we talked about self compassion in the place of self-occupation, that inner courtroom of harsh self-talk. Today we continue with two practical paths to indoor and outdoor reset for physical and mental healing.

If you’ve been carrying stress in your body and shame in your mind, this episode is for you. 

References

It's not Sephora, but Bath and Body Works Shower Steamers

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Women’s bodies go through changes in the course of their lives, but in the trenches, these changes from pregnancy, childbirth, stress, or trauma can feel like grief. Many women judge themselves for the weight, scars and visible reminders of survival that they carry. If you recognize this feeling, this episode is for you. JKO calls you out of that inner courtroom of relentless “self-occupation” and harsh self-blame, into self-compassion. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

The grief of body change is not vanity 

The changes from child-birth and c-sections 

Do not join “the committee” of judgement against yourself 

Why self-compassion is not self-indulgence 

Key Scriptures: Psalm 139:14, Romans 8:1, Matthew 11:28 

References 

Fascia cut after c-section is not Dr. Eric Berg but Dr. Bobbie Price's video about cellulite removal

Bessel van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score 

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Every decision has a price and a prize, and they rarely happen in perfect conditions. Most times, we decide under pressure, with limited information, and moving pieces. JKO explains the trade-offs women making hard choices in the trenches face and breaks down why constant “re-deciding” can steal your peace. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

• Hindsight is not wisdom
• Some correct decisions still hurt
• Decision trade-offs don’t make you a hero or a failure
• A simple 6-step decision process 
• God can still bring good out of what you didn’t fully understand

Key Scriptures: Proverbs 3:5–6, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Lamentations 3:22–23
 
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Why do smart women stay in abusive relationships? JKO breaks down the reasons that keep smart women in abusive dynamics. She also shares safety steps that women staying can take. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

8 reasons women stay 

The prison you do not see 

The place of trauma bonding 

Why leaving can be impossible even with a social safety net 

3 safety steps to take while staying 

Key scriptures: Malachi 2:16, Romans 8:35, Psalm 82:4 

References 

Domestic violence non-profit in Nigeria: Toniabruisedbutnotbroken 

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There is a steep price you pay when you live with an emotionally absent man. Not just you, but your children, your family, and your community. JKO discusses the cost and the steps you can take when leaving is not possible. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Signs of emotional absence 

The emotional, physical, spiritual, and economic price you pay 

7 concrete actions to help you and your children now 

3 tiny practices that can make a whole lot of difference 

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Many women in toxic relationships endure a pattern of weaponized silence that harms them. JKO discusses the difference between healthy cooling-off and punitive silence, what it does to your body, soul, and spirit, and five things you can do to get the better of weaponized silence. 

The January 1 episode had a glitch that made many listeners not see it, so am releasing both episodes back-to-back. Please listen to S10E01, A Pinpoint of Light, with this one. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Cooling-off vs. weaponized silence 

Effects of weaponized silence on your nervous-system effects 

A 3-step self-check you can use to identify weaponized silence 

5 practical responses to keep your life moving when a partner weaponizes silence 

How to handle weaponized silence when co-parenting 

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A New Year reset for women living through hidden abuse or heavy seasons. JKO shares three lessons to carry into 2026. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

A pinpoint of light can make a difference in a tunnel of darkness. 

You don’t need the whole map, just take the first step. 

Your value is real even in chaos. 

It’s okay to have ebbs and flows. 

When you’re overwhelmed, show yourself compassion. 

Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area. 

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In this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Christmas as the ultimate declaration of love.

The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing self-love

Reframing love for 2026

A Christmas benediction for women in the trenches

Key scriptures: John 3:16, Romans 5:8, Romans 8:1, 1 John 4:19 

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Dreaming can feel risky after repeated disappointments. In this episode, JKO explores why women in survival mode struggle with vision, and how faith and a single written goal can help you move forward. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Why women in the trenches stop dreaming 

The power of writing down your vision when life is unstable 

What faith looks like when certainty is unavailable 

How vision + faith move you forward 

Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 2:2, Proverbs 29:18, Hebrews 11:1, Jeremiah 29:11

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 Labels shape our identity, especially during vulnerable seasons. In this episode, JKO explores how labels form, why they stick, their psychological and social impact, and how women can refuse the harmful names that life gave them. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

• What labels really are and why they’re powerful
• The psychological process of labels becoming identity
• The social consequences of being labelled
• Biblical insight on naming and identity
• Practical steps to refuse harmful labels

References

Identity-Level Imprints: The Hidden Code Driving Stress, Health, and Transformation

The Danger of a Single Story: unCreating the Life that You do not Want

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Many women in the trenches live with chronic disrespect starting in childhood, showing up in friendships, and continuing into intimate relationships. Some even experience it from people who they shared their struggles with. Over time, that disrespect slowly reshapes how a woman sees herself.

In this episode, JKO explores how disrespect erodes identity and shares seven steps that can help rebuild self-respect.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

What disrespect looks like in everyday relationships.

How long-term disrespect affects identity and self-worth.

Practical ways to rebuild self-respect in hard seasons.

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Peace can feel impossible when you’re in the middle of life’s challenges. In this episode, we discuss why peace is hard when trauma and stress overwhelm a woman, and the steps that help women in the trenches of life reclaim their peace. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Why peace feels impossible in long-term stress 

Common thieves of peace 

Steps to reclaim your peace 

Key scriptures: John 14:27, Isaiah 26:3, Philippians 4:7 

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When you’ve been in the trenches long enough, compromise can start to feel like survival. This episode explores how exhaustion, fear, and not knowing your values lead to quiet compromise and how, step by step, you can realign with who God created you to be.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

How self-protection leads to compromise

Being raised to please, perform, or “keep the peace” trains you to ignore your own inner compass.

Signs of compromise

Practical steps to overcome compromise when you can’t leave your situation) 

Key Scriptures: Matthew 5:37 

References

Unveiling Your Core - Values Worksheet

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 Have you ever felt that twinge of pain on seeing a friend’s Facebook highlight? That is the twinge of comparison and though it shows up sometimes as jealousy or envy, we are talking about that twinge that makes us wonder if you’ve been forgotten. This episode explores how comparison steals our peace and distorts our worth, and reminds us that our worth was written long before the timeline we see online. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Comparison drains your joy. 

God doesn’t measure your worth by milestones. 

Three spiritual practices to quiet comparison. 

Key Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 10:12, Psalm 139:16 

Songs 

Don Moen - He Knows My Name 

Steve Green - He who began a good work in you - (Philippians 1:6) 

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 Have you learned to smile through the pain, to “forgive and move on,” to shrink your rage into something polite and acceptable? Repressed and unspoken anger turns inward but when purified by purpose, it can lead to advocacy, creativity, and healing. If you are a woman who knows what it feels like to seeth with that silent but simmering force that shows up in sarcasm, cynicism and irritability, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Anger is a signal and a teacher. 

Anger can become a clarifying and redemptive force instead of a destructive one.

Repressed anger is dangerous to our health. 

Redemptive anger transforms pain into purpose, and converts you into a change agent.

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From the fear of rejection to the fear of being alone, from staying quiet to keep the peace to walking on eggshells for approval, we explore how fear shows up in the lives of women who’ve been overlooked, dismissed, or hurt. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

• The voice of fear 
• The difference between the fear that protects and fear that paralyzes.
• How fear shows up as “wisdom” or “self-preservation”
• How to heal from the fear that holds you down

Key Scriptures: 2 Timothy 1:7, 1 John 4:18
 

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Have you ever replayed a moment you wish you could undo over and over again? You may be teetering between conviction and condemnation. This episode explores the difference between guilt that convicts and guilt that condemns, and how guilt can become a path to improving our lives.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The difference between helpful and harmful guilt

The contrast between conviction and condemnation

The psychology of guilt and how it affects our brains

Three steps to release harmful guilt

Key Scriptures: 2 Corinthians 7:10, Romans 8:1, 1 John 1:9, John 21, Mathew 27

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Shame is one of life’s most painful and powerful emotions and it can destroy us if we allow it. In this episode, we explore how shame takes root, how it hides in our stories, why it silences us, and how we can break free from it.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The effect of shame

How shame attacks our identity and silences our potential

How to counter shame’s lies

The kryptonite that weakens shame

Key Scriptures: Genesis 3, Isaiah 54:4, Romans 10:11

References

Why Gratitude Works in Life’s Hardest Seasons

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 What if gratitude could literally change your brain? 

As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture. 

If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Words change our brains 

Gratitude is an instruction from God 

Gratitude reframes pain and strengthens both heart and mind 

Key Scriptures: 1 Thessalonians 5:18, Psalm 100:4–5, John 6 

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Are you worrying about your marriage, finances, health, children, or even the unrest in our world? Then you know how anxiety can take hold and refuse to let go.

This episode explores the scientific and spiritual reality of anxiety in our lives and how to uncover a path to peace that surpasses understanding.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

God recognizes your anxiety

Science confirms the effect of anxiety

God provides help for your anxiety

Key scriptures: Philippians 4:6-7, Matthew 6:25-34, 1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 94:19, Isaiah 26:3 

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If you’ve been wrestling with disappointment, unmet expectations, or regret, OR you’ve been holding tightly to the life you thought you’d have, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Your worth isn’t tied to the life you imagined

Letting go is not weakness 

Letting go involves grief, and wrestling with fear and shame

Faith is believing that God is faithful even when life doesn’t match your dreams

Key scriptures: Ecclesiastes 3:11, Lamentations 3:22–23, Romans 4:20–21 Hebrews 11:1, 1 Peter 5:7 

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This episode shares six powerful lessons from the life and legacy of Charlie Kirk. Whether or not you agreed with him, his story offers insights that can inspire women in the trenches of life. If you believe you are open to learning, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

1. Define your mission and focus on it
2. Don’t despise the little you have in your hand
3. Cultivate kindness in every situation
4. Live Your Faith Out Loud, every day, everywhere, and in every way
5. Always be hungry to learn, even from people you disagree with
6. Think generationally, lead with posterity in mind

Key Scriptures: Ephesians 5:16, John 12:32, Proverbs 19:20 

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For the woman in the “in-between”, still waiting for her turnaround, her answered prayer, her breakthrough. From Hannah’s waiting and the woman with the issue of blood, learn how faith, honesty, and community sustain us when we’re stuck in that long, slow wait.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The In-Between from the pit to the promise is where your spiritual roots grow deeper

The power that propels lies in your self-talk

3 practical tips to get through the weary in-between

Key scriptures: 1 Samuel 1, Luke 8:43–48 

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For women in the trenches: Discover the power of prayer in the trenches of life from the Washington Post, science and scripture. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Prayer may not always change your circumstances but it calms your body, anchors your worth, and reshapes your relationships

Science shows that prayer reduces stress, anxiety, and improves resilience often more effectively than secular meditation

Five-minute prayer strategies

Key scriptures: Luke 22:42, Philippians 4:6–7, 2 Corinthians 12:9 

References

What science says about the power of religion and prayer to heal – The Washington Post

A Prayer for Transforming Pain into Purpose: Giving Our Suffering to God as an Offering

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Do you find yourself always trying to earn love, safety, or belonging in relationships? Then, this episode is for you. Discover the signs of emotional hustle culture in relationships, its effects on mental and physical health, and how to heal and deal with it. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Links between hustling for love and health issues like insomnia, anxiety, and weight gain 

The standard for real love 

Practical healing tools and practices 

Key scriptures: 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, Genesis 29:31–35 

References 

How to Talk to People Who Don’t Like You, episode from The Crappy Childhood Fairy 

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Have you ever heard or even believed that people like you should not be talking? That your challenges make you unworthy to add value to anyone’s life? Let’s uncover the truth from the stories of Rahab, Tamar and Annie Lobert, Hookers for Christ. 

God doesn’t wait for perfection before He uses us. He chooses you just the way you are. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

The surprising role of Rahab the harlot in God’s redemption story 

How Tamar’s bold and scandalous choices placed her in the lineage of Jesus 

A modern-day story of a woman whose past in sex work qualified her to minister hope and freedom to others 

Messy is actually a qualification 

References 

https://hookersforjesus.net/ 

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Have you ever felt spiritually stuck? Do you feel as if your prayers are dry and your heart is distant? Is your self talk shame and guilt filled? This episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

What spiritual “stuckness” feels like

The difference between performance and presence in your faith walk

Encouragement and a prayer for women feeling numb, distant, or weary

Key scriptures: Isaiah 43:2, Jeremiah 29:13, Psalm 46:10, Romans 8:35-39 

References

Elevation Worship & Maverick City’s “Jireh” 

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Back after an unplanned break.

In the midst of loss and grief, faith can be hard and the fear of not being worthy can keep women from living out their purpose. This episode explores how to push through when overwhelm is pulling on you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Grief is strength, not weakness 

How fear drives our decisions and actions

What faith looks like in the middle of pain

A prayer for women grieving people, dreams, or seasons

Key scripture: Psalm 34:18

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 In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you. 

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JKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Judgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed parts

Even when we’re polite, the energy of judgment can be felt 

Judging others harms our own wellbeing

Key Scriptures: Matthew 7:1, Luke 6:41–42, Romans 12:2, Proverbs 23:7

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JKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

True friendship is beneficial to mental health.

Friendships that end without closure can trigger trauma.

Our unhealed wounds can unintentionally sabotage relationships.

Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:27, Proverbs 4:23, Philippians 4:8, Psalm 147:3

References

Crappy Childhood Fairy podcast episode: What Does It Mean If Losing Friends Is a Pattern?

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In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood. 

If you're a woman navigating life’s messiness and craving some peace, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Self-reflection is not self-blame. 

Your past does not define your worth. 

There is Mental health stigma in faith spaces. 

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 On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom from this episode 

You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different. 

Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts? 

True self-worth begins when you stop looking outward and start discovering the treasure within. 

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Advance voting in Canada’s federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error. 

In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself. 

If you’ve ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Don’t confuse a moment with someone’s whole story.

The stories we tell ourselves about others shape how we treat them.

Choosing curiosity over criticism makes room for love to grow. 

Key scriptures:  Matthew 7:1, 1 Samuel 16:7, Galatians 6:7 

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 JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again. 

If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn’t go as planned, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Setbacks can reveal better paths 

Healing can come from unexpected places 

God’s plans often unfold one step at a time 

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In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life’s trajectory, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Your current struggles are a crucial part of your destiny 

You can stay faithful and do good in tough times. 

Let go of regret and bitterness. 

Key Scriptures: Genesis 37, 39-45 

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Have you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.

If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I’m just not enough,” this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Double standards are everywhere. 

Listening to your inner knowing is your weapon against shame and negative people.

Finding a community of your own people can empower you.

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In this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve. 

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Chronic stress can silently shape our lives, impacting our health, emotions, and behaviors in ways we don’t always recognize—until it’s too late. In this episode, I share a personal wake-up call that revealed how stress had been taking its toll on my body for years. We’ll explore the science behind stress, how it manifests in our daily lives, and most importantly, how we can fight back. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Chronic stress has can silently impact your health, emotions, and behavior.

You can’t control others, but you can control your response.

Recognizing triggers, practice mindfulness, and make intentional choices to help your self-care.

References in this episode

How to use your childhood picture to guide your self-care

Podcast website with episodes

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Many of us live under negative labels, sometimes even believing them. Drawing inspiration from notable figures this episode challenges you to reject false labels and stand firm in the truth of who you are. If you have you ever been misunderstood, labeled unfairly, and even treated differently because of it, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

People's opinions do not define you.

Do not waste your energy trying to change perceptions. 

Believe and declare what God says about you, not the negative labels of others.

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JKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they are the very place where God’s power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you. 

If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Your weaknesses do not disqualify you. 

Do not let your weakness truncate your vision 

There is help available. you do not have to rely on your own strength 

Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 12:9 (The Amplified and Message versions) 

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 JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week’s episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 

Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency. 

You Are Seen. No matter how hard life gets, God sees you (El Roi) and cares. 

Prioritize What Truly Matters. Love, faith, and protecting your children outweigh everything else. 

Key scriptures: Ezekiel 44, Genesis 16 

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How are you feeling about Valentine’s Day? Excited? Apprehensive? Whether you’re being showered with love or navigating a difficult relationship, this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her is for YOU. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

1.    Self-love is a Biblical principle. 

2.    Celebrate yourself, no matter your relationship status. 

3.    Treating yourself special sets the standard for how others treat you 

4.    Valentine’s Day is an opportunity for you to set the standard for how you want to be loved this year. 

5.    Practical ways to celebrate yourself this Valentine’s Day

Key Scriptures: John 3:16, Mark 12:31 

References in this episode

Buchi Emecheta’s Second-Class Citizen 

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These days, friendships dissolve at the speed of a tweet. Cancel culture is real, and betrayal is often public. But are we the kind of friends we'd want in our corner when we are in a crisis?

Looking at real-life examples of friendships tested in the spotlight – Jessica Mulroney & Meghan Markle, Justin Baldoni & Blake Lively – and with guidance from the Word of God, we see what true friendship looks like and ask ourselves the question: Are we a true friend or a fair-weather friend?

If you are a woman, who has ever yearned for a true friend, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

How friendship is tested by cancel culture.
 What the Bible says about being a trustworthy and reliable friend.
 How to examine ourselves—are we the kind of friends we want to have?

Key Scriptures: Proverbs 17:17, Proverbs 27:10 

References

Don Williams Fair Weather Friends

Lyrics to Fairweather Friends 

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In the trenches of life, we all crave deep, meaningful friendships. But sometimes we mistake acquaintances for friends? What do we do when those we trust betray us?

This episode explores the deep desire for true friendship, the pain of disloyalty, and how to discern between real friends and mere acquaintances in 2025.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Not everyone you meet is a friend. Learn to differentiate between an acquaintance and a true friend.

Pray for discernment in friendships. Before opening your heart, ask God for wisdom and clarity.

Jesus is the ultimate friend who never fails. When human relationships disappoint, lean on Him for comfort.

References in this episode

·        Trust In God by Elevation Worship (feat. Chris Brown), official lyric video 

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Host, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

·        How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.

·        Why contentment and self-awareness are essential tools in your 2025 success toolkit.

·        What the bible says about copying and comparing, and about you.

·        Practical tools to recognize and embrace your uniqueness.

Key Scriptures: Galatians 5:26 (Message Translation), Exodus 20:17

References in this episode

·        Downloadable Bible-based affirmations to remind yourself of your worth.

·        Getting to Know Me self-love song adapted from Rogers and Hammerstein’s “Getting to know you” song in The King and I.

·        Previous episodes of Messy Can't Stop Her for more encouragement on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon music and other listening platforms.

Step into 2025 with confidence and purpose! 2025 is your year!
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This episode dives into the power of faith to overcome life’s challenges and fear as you step into 2025. If you are a woman who has faced setbacks or struggled with doubt, this episode provides practical tools and spiritual encouragement to embrace a victorious year.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

·        Faith requires aligning your words and actions with God’s promises.

·        Speak life and declare God’s Word over your situations.

·        Stay grounded through challenges by holding onto God’s promises.

Key Scriptures: Hebrews 11:1-6, Romans 8:39, Genesis 22:17

References

Pastor Nick Nilson at Lakewood Church (46:39 minute mark in the video)

Prophesy Your Promise by Jesus Culture 

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A lesson on why you should stop waiting for perfect conditions and instead, take a leap of faith and show up as you are. Learn to use what you have now, trusting God to multiply it.

If you are a woman who is stuck waiting for the right time or for things to be perfect, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Life is happening now, and the world needs what you have to offer, even if it’s not perfect.

Start with what you have and trust God to bless your efforts. 

Honor the legacies of loved ones who have passed by showing up fully in your own life and sharing your gifts generously.

Key scriptures: John 6:1-14,  2 Kings 4:1-7

References

Danniebelle Hall – Ordinary People (little becomes much when you place it in the master’s hands)

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Kick off 2025 with hope and purpose! Learn 3 essentials to making this your best year ever—no matter the challenges. Get ready to embrace the new year with faith, courage, and actionable insights. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Let love lead in your interactions, actions and decisions.

Choose your virtual and in-person relationships with intentionality.

Stand on God’s Word, His promises in them and His prophecies regarding you and your situation.

Learn and apply the lessons in the trenches of life.

Revisit the dreams and visions you set aside because of the challenges of life.

Key scriptures: Psalm 125:1, Mathew 13:3-7

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 Reflecting on God’s promises of restoration,  host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, shares an uplifting message for 2025. She encourages listeners to speak life into challenges, embrace hope, and prepare for a year of thriving. If you desire practical and spiritual insights to guide you into the new year, this episode is for you. 

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Do you know that regret can make us unable to reach our goals? Learn how letting go and reframing regrets can help you create the 2025 you desire. If you are being weighed down by burdens from your past, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Even God, experienced regret.

Dwelling on regret can be harmful to your future.

God can use your past mistakes and negative experiences for good.

To embrace the good in your future, you have to let go of the past.

2025 is a clean slate, a chance to make amends and embrace new beginnings.

Key Scriptures: Genesis 6:6-7, 1 Samuel 15:11, Joel 2:25, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Philippians 3:13-14 (The Passion Translation)

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Do you have unmet goals from previous years? Learn how to approach your 2025 goals with purpose so that you achieve them successfully. If you have lost confidence in your ability to turn your goals into reality, this episode is for you.  

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Our motivation to achieve the goals we set can waver, but routines give us the structure we need to persevere.

Creating routines around your goals can increase your chances of achieving them.

Setting achievable goals and sticking to required routines can boost your self-confidence.

As faith without works is dead, so goals without action is dead.

Lean on God for strength, back your goals with prayer.

Key scriptures: Romans 5:4-5, James 2:26, Galatians 6:9

References in this episode

The Importance of Routines in Pursuit of Your Goals

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear

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Have you ever been told that you do too much? Have you ever been made to feel like your personality is a flaw?  Discover how to embrace your unique qualities, live boldly, and break free from the mold. If you have ever faced the challenge of being yourself in a world that constantly tries to reshape you, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The unique traits of your personality traits are part of your divine design, embrace them.

Do not squeeze yourself into other people’s molds, always stay true to who you are.

People’s negative behavior often stems from envy, insecurity, or misunderstanding; It’s not about you, it’s about them.

Do not internalize the mistreatment or negative opinions of others.

Key Scriptures: 1 Samuel 30 and 1 Samuel chapters 18-24

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Are you feeling the weight of missed opportunities? Inspired by a friend's compliment, JKO explores how our losses can become new beginnings. Through the story of a poor childless widow’s journey to restoration, learn that it is never too late to reclaim your purpose. If you have ever regretted paths not taken, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Missed opportunities do not define or dictate your future.

Honesty about your pain is the first step toward restoration.

Pursuing good for others can open doors to unexpected blessings.

God can restore your lost years, opportunities, and dreams in ways you cannot imagine.

Key Scriptures: Joel 2:25, The Book of Ruth, 1 Peter 5:10

References in this episode

How chaos, crisis and challenges are a training ground for your elevation 

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Have you ever felt that your life was filled with curveballs? What if those challenges are preparing you for greatness? Through science-backed insights and scriptural lessons, learn how the messiest challenges on our journey are not setbacks but setups for our elevation. If you ever wondered why this trouble, this episode is for you. 

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Every experience, whether good or bad, is part of a greater plan—not just for you, but for you to inspire and encourage others.

The brain's ability to rewire itself during tough times strengthens our ability to adapt, solve problems, and navigate similar situations in the future.

Suffering and tribulations produce perseverance, character, and hope, working together for our good and preparing us for greater purposes.

Embrace challenges as opportunities to grow; Instead of asking, “Why me?” shift to asking, “What am I learning?”

The messiest parts of your life often hold the most powerful lessons.

Key Scriptures: Romans 5:3-4, Romans 8:28, Joshua 2, Hebrews 11

References in this episode

Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf

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Do you often find yourself asking, “What will people think?” when facing challenges or making decisions? From social science and scripture, we explore how this fear of judgment and need for approval can limit our ambitions, silence our authenticity, and create unnecessary stress in our lives. Learn how to break free from people-pleasing and live fulfilled even in the trenches of life. If you often hesitate, restricted and held back by the fear of other people’s opinions, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

The prison of other people’s opinions can sentence us to self-silence, compromised decisions, and restricted growth

The mental and emotional toll of worrying about others’ opinions can make us physically and psychologically sick

People are usually more focused on their own struggles than on our lives; we all have our own individual messes

Grounding our worth in God’s purpose not on human approval, will give us peace, confidence and fulfillment

Key Scriptures: Proverbs 29:25, Galatians 1:10 and Romans 8:1

References in this episode

Charles Cooley- Looking glass self

Self-Determination Theory in Psychology

2 Corinthians 3:18

Who You Are When No One's Looking: Choosing Consistency, Resisting Compromise

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Are you overwhelmed by loss, failures, disappointments or setbacks? Discover how small steps can lead to unexpected victories in the game of life. Learn how the divine game master turns seemingly insignificant moves into breakthrough moments. If you are feeling stuck in one of life’s toughest levels, this episode is for you.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Life, like a cellphone game, can feel overwhelming and unwinnable at times

Seemingly insignificant or hopeless moves can set off a chain reaction that leads to unexpected victories

God is the ultimate Game Master, guiding our steps and orchestrating our lives

Despite the challenges, continue to move forward, push through uncertainty and persevere even when you feel like giving up

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Do you know that you can offer the pain of your struggles, disappointments, sacrifices and challenges to God as an offering? On this episode, faith and science align to show us that our pain is never wasted when we offer it to God. With scripture backed by research, we learn how that the offering of our pain can lead to profound healing and spiritual growth. If you have ever had to experience a heartache or disappointment, or sacrifice in pain, this episode is for you!

Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Romans 8:28 and Romans 5:3-4

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Surrendering pain to God deepens spiritual growth and leads to comfort and healing

Insights from neuroscience and psychology on the power of prayer to change brain function and promote growth after adversity (post-traumatic growth)

A guided prayer to help you give the pain of your struggles to God as an offering

References in this episode

Prayers for courage to avoid failures of kindness

Hematohidrosis – A Rare Clinical Phenomenon

Luke 22:42

The Mental Health Benefits of Religion & Spirituality

Cognitive Reframing: How It Works, What It Helps, and More

Transform Your Brain in Twelve Minutes

How Prayer and Meditation Changes Your Brain

The Role of Salah (Prayer) in Promoting Emotional Regulation

I Give You My Heart - Hillsong Worship

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Reflecting on a quote from Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart by George Saunders about “failures of kindness”, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) highlights how fear often holds us back from being kind. She explores the courage it takes to show compassion, both to others and ourselves.

Through Scripture and prayer, JKO encourages listeners to seek boldness, trust in God’s strength, and act with kindness even in difficult situations. This episode also includes a special prayer from Psalms 118:8-9 that you can repeat by yourself to help you connect directly to God for courage and strength. 

Key scriptures: 2 Corinthians 3:5, Psalm 27:1, Philippians 4:13, Psalm 118:8-9.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Fear can prevent us from helping when witnessing unkindness 

We need courage to overcome the struggle to show kindness, especially when it feels risky or uncomfortable

When we show kindness we become conduits of God's love 

We can overcome the fear to act, by praying for courage

References in this episode

“Failures of Kindness” delivered by George Saunders, a transcript by James Clear

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Rounding up our series on praying God’s Word over us Natasha Rae, a prophetess and passionate prayer warrior, offers practical advice on how prayer can heal wounds, restore relationships, and bring hope to even the darkest of times. She encourages and reminds women who are feeling distant from God that He hears every cry, and leads a powerful prayer for listeners to experience God's love healing and restoration. 

If you are struggling with faith or seeking spiritual growth, this episode will reignite your connection with God and empower you to move forward.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

Even if you feel disconnected from God, He still hears you when you call.

No matter the situation, even when it seems your prayers are unanswered, trust in God’s plan for you.

Do not stop calling on God because He is always present and willing to help you.

You can follow Natasha on YouTube at Natasha Rae Ministries and read her books on Amazon.

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Exploring the prayers of 3 Kings of Judah - Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat - who battled overwhelming enemies, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, focuses on how to pray when faced with challenges from people, situations, or systems that are much more powerful than us.

If you’ve ever been helpless before a formidable hater, this episode will teach you how to ask God for help to overcome and emerge victorious.

Nuggets of Wisdom in this episode

Even the most righteous and faithful can face adversity.

The battles we face, whether with people or overwhelming situations, are not ours to fight alone. God is our defender.

Just as God fought for Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat, He will fight for you if you trust in Him and pray.

Trusting in God is more powerful than any force that comes against you

Worship is a powerful weapon in times of difficulty—when we shift our focus to God, He gives us victory.

References in this episode

2 Kings 6:8-17

Outnumbered by Lakewood Music featuring Tauren Wells

Isaiah 59:19

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Continuing the series on Praying God's Word Over Us, Sherry VanDolder, a woman of faith, certified relationship expert, and author shares her journey of writing with purpose, and how aligning prayer with scripture can shift mindsets and bring healing. She speaks powerful prayers over listeners, encouraging them to trust in God's plan and the transformative power of His Word. 

This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to win in the spiritual battle between light and darkness.

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After a period of silence due to a technological hiccup and a very recent loss, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, continues the series on praying God's word over us. JKO reflects on finding solace in God during times of overwhelming grief and uncertainty, much like the story of Job.

Through prayer and scripture, she encourages listeners who may be facing their own trials and reminds them that, in God's hands, even the darkest moments work together for our good. 

If you are in a place where only divine intervention can bring change, tune in to join JKO as she prays over you for help, peace and God’s glorious turnaround in your life.

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As part of the ongoing series on praying scripture over our lives, Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO reveals how she clung to Habakkuk 3:17-18 as a lifeline following the devastating loss of her daughter on August 1, 2023. She shares the profound impact of Jonathan Traylor's song "You Get the Glory from This," as a source of comfort and hope as she navigated her pain. 

In this testimony of faith, grief, and resilience, JKO emphasizes the importance of healing from trauma, not just for ourselves but for the well-being of our children and future generations. She invites listeners to join her at the upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit, where women will explore the significance of emotional healing, aligning values with life choices, and using journaling as a tool for transformation. This free, virtual event is an opportunity to invest in your growth and resilience, no matter where you are on your journey. 

References in this episode

Jonathan Traylor’s You Get the Glory from This

Register for the Confident Godly Woman Summit

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Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO welcomes Becca Rae Eagle, fellow podcast host shares her journey with the Sacred Penning Podcast, emphasizing the importance of quiet time with God for mental and physical health. She highlights her personal experiences of receiving strength and direction through this practice. Becca also talks about her upcoming retreat, "Back to School, Back to You," aimed at helping mothers find peace and strength during stressful times. The episode concludes with a heartfelt prayer from Becca, and an invitation to join the Confident Godly Woman Summit. See the show notes for more details and links to Becca's work.

References in this episode

John 16:33

Register for the Confident Godly Woman Summit

Becca’s Sacred Penning website with a free download to kickstart your journalling practice

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Inspired by the story of Hagar from Genesis 16, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO explores themes of divine recognition and acceptance, reminding us that God sees and knows each of us intimately. Through Psalms 139 verse 13-14 and the song "He Knows My Name" by the Maranatha Singers, JKO offers you comfort and encouragement no matter your circumstances. Don't miss this inspiring message and the special invitation to sign up for the free upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit. 

Tune in to receive hope, healing, and strength through prayer and scripture as you learn to embrace your unique identity and God's unwavering love.

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Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Brenda Rice to share her inspiring journey with prayer.  Brenda opens up about overcoming thyroid cancer and supporting her son through addiction, highlighting the transformative power of prayer in her life. She shares meaningful prayers and uplifting scriptures for women facing life's challenges.

If you need hope, favour, and peace in the trenches of life, this episode offers inspiration and strength through the healing power of prayer. 

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This episode tackles a common wound – the painful experience of rejection. With a definition from Collins Dictionary and a personal story, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, explores how rejection shows up in life: pre-birth experiences, relationships, and even church. She reminds us that true worth comes from God's love and shares powerful scriptures including Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8:31-39 to showcase God's unwavering love, even when we feel rejected.

Feeling rejected? You're not alone! JKO invites you to join her in prayer as we ask God to heal rejection's sting and remind us of His love.

References in this episode

Jeremiah 1v5a

I have loved you with an everlasting love - Don Moen

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Welcome to the 100th episode of Messy Can't Stop Her! Continuing the series on the power of prayers, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Renice Edmison, a devoted women's group leader who has spent years supporting and uplifting women through faith and prayer. Renice shares her personal journey from a season of profound heartache to finding healing and strength through prayer and community. She encourages listeners to embrace the healing power of faith, whether they are believers or simply seeking comfort and guidance.

If you are navigating struggles, tune in to receive Renice’s heartfelt shower of powerful prayers as she speaks God's word over listeners, offering hope and encouragement for women in the trenches of life.

Send your prayer requests via the text message link.

References in this episode
Daniel chapter 3

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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host JKO explores the concept of being in exile, a place of instability and trouble. Drawing a parallel between the Israelites exiled in Babylon and those facing challenges in their own lives, she encourages listeners to find hope in God's promises, using verses 4-7 of Jeremiah 29. These verses instruct the Israelites to build lives, plant gardens, and seek the peace and prosperity of the city they are exiled in. JKO reminds women that even in challenging circumstances, God sees our struggles and equips us to thrive and find peace. She ends this episode with a powerful prayer session for those facing difficulties, encouraging them to trust in God and take steps of obedience. 

Send your prayer requests through JKO’s social media - Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn - messages, or the provided text message link and share this episode with anyone who needs encouragement.

Next Episode Preview: Don't miss the next episode featuring a special guest as we near the 100th episode milestone of "Messy Can't Stop Her."

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Continuing the series on praying God's Word over you, JKO and Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo discuss the power of prayer and finding your inner strength, even in the toughest times. As the founder of the Refuge Children's Home, the Bees Fellowship and The Deborah’s prayer group, Mrs. Jaiye-Ojo is a beacon of spiritual strength and compassion. In this episode, she shares profound insights on how prayer can be a tool for healing and empowerment, why joy is a choice you can make no matter your circumstances, she showers listeners with powerful prayers to lift your spirit against life's challenges. 

Even if you're unsure about faith, this episode offers valuable insights and inspiration!

References in this episode

2 Kings 5

Isaiah 42:16

Genesis 1:3

Psalm 3:5

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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," JKO, embarks on a journey of prayer and reflection inspired by Isaiah 43:1-5a. This episode is the first in a series on praying God’s Word over YOU. It is dedicated to those women in the trenches of life who need a reminder of God's unwavering love and support.Join us as we dive into the scriptures, pray together, and find solace in the divine words that promise hope and healing.

Send your prayer requests through messages to JKO’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn, and let's uplift each other in faith and resilience.

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As we close Mental Health Awareness Month, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores the science behind comparison and its impact on women's mental health, and uncovers practical tips that women can use to break free from the comparison trap.

References in this episode

Jay T. Coza on Twitter 

Journal of Behavioural Addictions: Social comparisons: A potential mechanism linking problematic social media use with depression

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In this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO explores the role of faith in overcoming mistakes and their impact on mental health. Featuring biblical wisdom, scientific evidence, and testimonies from inspiring women like Deb, Brene Brown, and Michelle Obama. Discover how faith can be a source of hope and healing for mental trauma.

References in this episode

Pew Research Study: Religion’s Relationship to Happiness, Civic Engagement and Health Around the World

ResearchGate: The Impact of Religion/Spirituality on Mental Health with a Focus on Depression

Deb’s Story

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In this Mental Health Awareness Month episode JKO explores the transformative impact of self-awareness on mental health. Tune in for practical strategies to manage stress, enhance emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and live a more fulfilling life. 

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In this special Mother's Day episode, we explore the importance of prioritizing healing from trauma as a mother and its profound impact on our children. From redefining narratives to practical strategies for self-awareness and support, this episode discusses the messy yet transformative journey of a mother’s healing for the well-being of her next generation. 

References in this episode

Insight Timer

Happify

Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA)

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

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Turning 53 brings a new chapter for JKO!  This week's episode explores the bittersweet transition into menopause, reflecting on periods and celebrating the freedom and confidence that comes with age.  JKO shares tips on savoring life's moments, big and small, even when they come with hormonal shifts. This episode is an empowering reminder to embrace the "messy magic" of life.

References in this episode

Healing the Heart Retreat

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JKO explores the surprising link between your values and your well-being. She explains how living a life true to yourself can be the secret weapon for better health, less stress, and more happiness. At the end of this episode, you will also learn how to identify your values and make adjustments to create a life that nourishes your body and soul.

References in this episode

Healing the Heart Retreat

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Feeling lost after a friend's betrayal? Today’s episode tackles the pain, forgiveness, and strength needed to rise above it. Learn how to reclaim your self-worth and find peace amidst the storm with biblical wisdom and personal empowerment. Stories, scripture, and the opportunity for self-discovery at the Tobago Retreat await! 

References in this episode 

Healing the Heart Retreat 

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This episode tackles the difficult topic of being married to a Christian of convenience. We explore the emotional toll and offer practical strategies for self-care, maintaining your faith, and building a safe and loving environment for yourself and your children. Join us as we navigate the complexities of this situation, offering honest advice and a glimmer of hope for those feeling alone and confused.

You are not alone. There is hope.

References in this episode

Healing the Heart Retreat

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We all search for meaning, for connection with something bigger than ourselves. This episode explores the connection between self-love and understanding the divine. Learn how knowing yourself and loving yourself while embracing your imperfections in all its messy glory allows you to experience the divine.

References in this episode

Healing the Heart Retreat

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Feeling stuck? Don't hit fast forward! This episode delves into the transformative power of separation for women. Backed by science and real-life stories, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO explores how taking a break, whether from a relationship, job, or even yourself, can unlock incredible growth. Learn how separation fosters self-discovery, forgiveness, and inner strength. Plus, discover practical tips and an exclusive opportunity to attend the Healing the Heart Retreat taking place in May in Tobago. 

References in this episode

Healing the Heart Retreat

Maria Erving

Faith as an anchor: Activating the shield of faith to thrive through chaos

Living a Radically Audacious Life: Tiphany Kane on journeying from subserviency to saying Heck Yes! to life on her own terms 

Debt, Divorce and Death: 5-time Washingtonian top doctor, beauty Queen and Rotary Leader tells us how she came through the trio stronger - Dr. Pallavi Gowda

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We journey through the lives of remarkable women who defied the odds, surmounted overwhelming challenges, and left an indelible mark on history through their unwavering faith. From the courage of Corrie ten Boom amidst the darkness of World War II to the resilience of Sojourner Truth in the fight for freedom, and to the advocacy of Susan B. Anthony for women's rights, these women exemplify the transformative power of faith in the face of adversity. Discover how their stories inspire us to find strength, courage, and hope in our own lives, even amidst the chaos.

References in this episode

The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healing

Sojourner Truth’s, Ain’t I a Woman speech

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Get inspiration for navigating and triumphing over overwhelming challenges from Esther, Ruth, and Rahab. This episode offers timeless lessons on how we can thrive through adversity. Plus an opportunity to activate your own shield of faith and thrive through chaos in the Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago. 

References in this episode

Does Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the Bible
CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD: When Your Kinsman Does not Help
Thriving through chaos: Journey to clarity with faith
Thriving through chaos: The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healing
Thriving through chaos: A Naturopath’s Insight into the Healing Power of Faith

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Join guest host Debra Wright as she interviews the host of Messy Can't Stop Her, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO. Discover the intersection of faith, healing, and finding clarity. JKO shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of investing in yourself and finding peace amid life's chaos. Get a sneak peek into the upcoming retreat in Tobago, where women who are committed to thriving through chaos will gather for a profound experience of connection, empowerment, and transformation. This inspiring conversation will remind you that you are worth the investment in your well-being. 

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Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO and Forgiveness Facilitator Debra Wright discuss how faith, forgiveness, and self-discovery transformed Debra's life and led to her vision of the Healing the Heart retreat taking place this May in Tobago. Learn why signing up for the retreat could be your transformative step towards breaking free from the past, healing from trauma, and embracing your authentic self.

For more information about the 2024 Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago, click on this link.

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Special guest, Dr. Lexi Lain, shares insights from her experience as a naturopathic doctor about the mind-body-spirit connection, and the profound impact of faith in navigating chaos. Don't miss the opportunity to gain practical tips for thriving through stress and trauma by joining Dr. Lexi Lain in Healing the Heart, a life-changing retreat in Tobago from May 13 -17, 2024. 

About Dr. Lexi Lain at drlexilain.com

Dr. Lexi Lain holds a doctorate in naturopathic medicine from Bastyr University in Seattle, Washington, and a bachelor’s degree in biology from Oklahoma State University. As owner and CEO of Summit Vitality, an integrative and functional medicine clinic, she educates and guides her practice members to manage their stress and make their health a priority. A past international chair of the Rotary Club International of Davidson and 3-time half-ironman finisher, Dr. Lexi’s mantra is, “Stop asking me what you should be taking for something. Ask me what you should be DOING instead.” 

She has presented nationally and internationally through virtual events, locally for in-person conferences, and has been a featured guest on radio talk shows. Presently, she is building her community of healthy leaders through a 6-Step Get Your SPARK Back Masterclass and finishing her first book, “Get Your Spark Back in Health.”

You can have a one-on-one with Dr. Lexi at the 2024 Healing the Heart retreat in Tobago where she will be facilitating a full day workshop and a forest bath. Register now to get the early bird discount. 

Connect with Dr. Lexi on Linkedin, Instagram, and on Facebook at DrLexi Fan Page and Summit Vitality Davidson. 

References in this episode

Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

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 Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) opens up about a recent test of her faith. Exploring the depths of personal pain and loss, JKO shares the raw and authentic journey of how activating the shield of faith isn't a one-time event but a continual process in navigating life's storms.

References in this episode
Jonathan Traylor - You Get The Glory

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Join Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) as she discusses the power of faith as an unwavering anchor in life's chaos. In this inspiring conversation, JKO shares effective practices that you can use to activate your shield of faith and thrive through chaos. 

You can download this list of Bible based affirmations to help you in thriving through chaos. 

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Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life. 

To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.

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Continuing with the theme of thriving through chaos, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, delves into how our words affect the lives we have. Explore the science-backed influence of words, from what you say to yourself (your self-talk) to what you say about yourself and your situation to others. Your words shape your reality, and your positive words can be your superpower for a happy life. 

Join me next week for practical tips on how to use your words to create the life you desire.

Meanwhile, here is a list of affirmations that you can download to begin your journey. Progress, not perfection —choose your words wisely.

References 

https://psychcentral.com/blog/words-can-change-your-brain#recap

How to change your thoughts and make them work for you

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Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips for transforming your thoughts and thriving in chaos. Join her as she explores the power of positive thinking, affirmations, mindfulness and gratitude. Listen, learn, and be your sister’s keeper by sharing these insights with a woman who needs a mindset boost. To download a free list of affirmations to kickstart your journey, click here. 

References in this episode

Self Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emotional wellness

Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork

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A thought-provoking exploration into the concept that: "Your thoughts determine how you experience life; improve your thoughts, improve your life." 

Following the theme of thriving through chaos, JKO emphasizes how our thoughts shape our experiences. Drawing from personal stories and insights shared by guests, she highlights the transformative power of positive thinking. JKO encourages listeners to be mindful of what they consume—media, conversations, and thoughts—and concludes with a call to take charge of their thinking. 

Tune in to discover how changing your thoughts can empower you to face life's messiness with resilience.

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In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO, offers practical insights on navigating challenges. She encourages listeners, especially women in difficult situations, to take small steps toward positive change and personal growth in 2024. Join JKO as she discusses finding strength, embracing adversity, and stepping forward with purpose, making it clear that thriving is achievable even in the most difficult times.

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In this episode of 'Messy Can't Stop Her', host Judith Kambia Obatusa discusses the role of past trauma and self-awareness in parenting. Drawing from personal experiences and stories from the YouTube channel 'Soft White Underbelly', she emphasizes how childhood experiences and parental interactions can lead to issues like addiction. Judith shares her tragic loss of her daughter to addiction, revealing that her daughter's search for love led her down the wrong path. She connects the importance of self-love and addressing personal traumas to being a better parent. She also provides resources like '16personalities.com' for self-improvement and suggests asking for feedback from close friends or colleagues to better understand oneself. The episode concludes with encouragement to her listeners to begin the journey of self-discovery and healing, starting with self-reflection.

00:00 Introduction and Recap 

00:36 The Impact of Childhood Trauma

04:08 The Importance of Self-Love and Addressing Trauma for Mothers

04:53 The Impact of Parental Trauma on Children

07:08 The Need for Self-Reflection and Understanding for Better Parenting

07:53 The Role of Personality Tests in Self-Understanding

08:44 Practical Steps to Self-Understanding

10:52 The Impact of Self-Understanding on Motherhood

11:07 The Importance of Focusing on Self-Improvement

13:14 The Importance of Knowing Yourself to Be a Good Mother

13:39 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action 

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Join Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, in this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, titled "From Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental Health." Following the recent loss of her firstborn to a heartbreaking overdose, she shares a powerful exploration of intergenerational impact, urging women to prioritize mental health and break free from the shadows of past pain. This episode is a heartfelt call to empowerment, resilience, and self-care, offering a transformative perspective on turning personal loss into a legacy of strength.

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A minisode about loss, domestic violence impact on children and an encouragement for women to get to know themselves.

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Today we discuss stress management mechanisms that can restore hormonal harmony and uplift spirits. From connecting with nature, mindfulness to movement, to just hanging out with friends, we embrace resilience together. This episode is sponsored by Empowered Faith Tees on Etsy, where inspiring designs celebrate the strength within.

References in this episode

Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork

Doctors can now prescribe access to nature with the Parks Canada Discovery Pass

How mindfulness can change your brain and improve your health

Five Surprising Ways Exercise Changes Your Brain

Manage stress: Strengthen your support network

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Do you know that domestic violence stress impacts women's health? Continuing our self-care series, we explore how difficult spousal relationships, marked by emotional abuse, disrupt female hormones, leading to fertility challenges, irregular cycles, and more. 

At the end of this episode, listeners will receive empowering insights and practical strategies to break free from the cycle of stress, enabling hormonal healing and embracing a life of resilience. Share this episode to drive positive change and support women on their journey to wellness.

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Discover how simple acts of regular communication can provide a lifeline of emotional support, validation, and reassurance for a woman in an abusive relationship. At the end of this episode, you will understand how and why safety check-ins, confidential conversations, and sharing vital information and resources is a vital part of empowering women in domestic violence situations.

References in this episode

Bancroft, L. Why does he do that?: Inside the minds of angry and controlling men 

Buel, S. M. 50 Obstacles to Leaving, a.k.a. Why Abuse Victims Stay

Campbell, J. C. Health consequences of intimate partner violence

Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations 

Stark, E. Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life

Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence

JK Rowling tells of fear former husband would burn Harry Potter manuscript

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Discover the transformative power of financial independence for a woman in an abusive relationship. Through survivor anecdotes, we explore how financial independence, networking, mentorship, and emotional support can help women break free from abuse, create a secure future, and build resilience. 

At the end of this episode, you will learn how you can support that friend, family member, neighbour or colleague to get the financial independence they need to leave abuse. Be part of the solution by sharing this episode with those in your network who will benefit from it. Let us be our sister’s helper.

References in this episode

https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/quick-guide-economic-and-financial-abuse

https://next.voxcreative.com/c/ad/22787460/allstatefoundation-financial-abuse-support-guide

The Power of Parity:  How Advancing Women’s Equality Can Add $12 Trillion to Global Growth

https://news.linkedin.com/2017/6/eighty-percent-of-professionals-consider-networking-important-to-career-success

The Gender Gap in Financial Literacy: A Global Perspective Report

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The second episode in the "Your Role in Ending Femicide," series delves into the critical topic of offering practical support and help to women in abusive situations. Discover six powerful ways you can make a difference and empower survivors as we navigate the complexities of ending femicide. 

By the end of this episode, you will get actionable steps and insights that will inspire you to take an active role in empowering a woman facing abuse in your personal or professional community.

References in this episode

Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations

Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence

Messy Can’t Stop Her self-care series (April 13 – June 7, 2023 episodes)

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In this heartfelt episode, we honor the memory of a community member and countless other women whose lives have been tragically cut short by their intimate partners. Join us as we delve into the heart-wrenching issue of femicide and exploring the barriers that make it difficult for women to leave abusive situations. Together, we will uncover one practical way for each of us to empower a woman in an abusive situation. 

By the end of this episode, you will learn how to create a safe space for your friend, family member, colleague, or community member facing abuse. 

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Becca Rae Eagle, Writing Doula and Host of Joyful Journaling podcast shows us how journaling can be a transformative self-care tool for fostering emotional healing and personal growth. Becca shares how journaling can promote healing, reduce stress, and enhance self-reflection.

At the end of this episode, you will be guided with a journalling prompt into an introspective journey that will help you destress and enhance your well-being.

References in this episode

The Joyful Journaling Podcast

Embodying Joy: A Heart Journal, A Memoir with Journal Space for Body, Mind, & Spirit Health

Check out Becca’s services and books, sign up for a free discovery call or register for  the July 2023 cohort of the Journal C.P.R.: Faith in Journaling course at https://linktr.ee/yourwritingdoula2day

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We delve into Bonnie Sharf Provost's transformative journey of self-healing from trauma, ignited by her introduction to the powerful teachings of renowned author and speaker, Joe Dispenza. 

Gain valuable insights and practical strategies as Bonnie guides and inspires women in abusive situations, empowering them to reclaim their strength and create lives of resilience. Discover how Bonnie's story can give you hope and guide you towards a path of healing and empowerment.

You can connect with Bonnie via email on reinventyourselfwithbonnie@gmail.com, YouTube,   Facebook and Instagram. 

References in this episode

The Truth: It’s Not Because He Doesn’t Love You

How to Use Your Childhood Picture to Guide Your Self-care 

Harnessing the Power of Being Present to Achieve Balance in Difficult Life Situations

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In this episode, backed by research, renowned authors, and inspiring quotes, we explore the reasons behind why abuse in relationships is not because he doesn’t love you. 

At the end of this episode, you will discover the importance of stopping the blame-shame analysis and how prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries can empower you to personal growth and transformation.

References in this episode

Dr. Harville Hendrix - Getting the Love You Want

Dr. Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection

What Is Attachment Theory? 

Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend - Boundaries

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Continuing our self-care series with Stephanie Greenwood, cosmetic formulator, organic advocate and host of the Life Detox podcast, we delve into Stephanie's extraordinary personal journey of resilience, healing, and the transformative power of self-care. From enduring a 17-year abusive relationship to finding healing through self-care practices and creating her own line of self-care products, Stephanie's story is an inspiration. We also explore her experience of primary infertility as a result of the abuse she faced and how, at the age of 42, she defied the odds to welcome her first child into the world. 

On today’s episode, you will learn the physical effects of emotional abuse and how we can break the cycle by embracing self-care even in adversity.

References in this episode

The Body Keeps the Score 

The Life Detox podcast by Stephanie Greenwood

Bubble and Bee

Taming Your Outer Child by Susan Anderson

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Are you a woman facing difficult life situations, including an unhappy marriage? Do you struggle with self-care? In this episode, we'll explore how childhood memories can be a powerful tool for connecting to self-care practices that work for you. We'll discuss practical tips for finding a childhood picture that resonates with you, reflecting on what it represents, and identifying self-care practices that connect to it. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear understanding of how to use childhood memories to guide your self-care routine and improve your overall well-being.

References in this episode

How to Thrive in Chaos: Harnessing the Power of Being Present for a Balanced Life in Difficult Life Situations

Self Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emotional wellness

The Cancer Journals By Audre Lorde

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In this short and sweet episode, Jessica Carter, Yoga teacher, Nutrition coach, Podcaster and Mindfulness coach teaches us how to find peace and balance in the midst of life's chaos by being present and intentionally finding beauty in everyday moments.

At the end of this episode, you will get some practical mindfulness tools for managing stress in difficult situations as well as a bonus tip on how to use essential oils in your wellness journey. Whether you're looking for ways to stay calm amidst chaos or just seeking easy and applicable tips you can use, this episode will empower you to harness the power of being present for a more serene and happier life. 

You can connect with Jessica on LinkedIn @jessica-carter-ommyoga and Facebook @jessica.m.carter.35. To book a free consult with her, visit the Contact Us page on Jessica’s doTERRA business page.

References in this episode

Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork

Jessica Carter's Your Metabolic Reset podcast

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