EQ Applied: Emotional Intelligence in the Real World

Ep 23: Want to build more empathy and strengthen your relationships? Embrace the Rule of the Chess Player

Tue, 01 Nov 2022 03:00:00 -0400

The Rule of the Chess Player helps you to show empathy and build better habits—for better relationships, and a better you.

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Ep 22: Want greater focus and time for the things that matter? Follow the Tom Hanks Rule

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 05:00:00 -0400

The Tom Hanks Rule will give you laser focus as you learn to buy out time for what’s most important to you.

Ep 21: Get rid of negative thoughts with the Blue Dolphin Rule

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 03:00:00 -0400

Negative thoughts can be very difficult to remove…unless you have a blue dolphin.

Ep 20: Stop fighting battles you’ll never win. Try the Milk Carton Rule

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 03:00:00 -0400

The “Milk Carton Rule” will teach you to focus less on problems, and more on solutions—and save your most important relationships in the process.

Ep 19: Want to reduce frustration and stress—and do better work? Learn to follow the simple rule of scope

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

Learn to “define the scope,” and you’ll change the way you work. And live.

Ep 18: Want to build better habits, a better business, or a better life? Try the rule of acquired taste

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 03:00:00 -0400

The rule of acquired taste is based on principles of psychology and emotional intelligence—and it can completely change your perspective.

Ep 17: Feeling defeated or overwhelmed? Try the rule of reappraisal

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 05:00:00 -0400

When you're feeling down and out, you have to resist the urge to look ahead. Instead, take a moment to look back.

Ep 16: Want to control your emotions and improve your relationships? Try the Emotional Postmortem

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 03:00:00 -0400

We all lose control sometimes. But what do you do afterwards? The Emotional Postmortem will help you devise a plan to help you avoid repeating your mistakes.

Ep 15: Can Empathy Be Bad? How to Make Sure Your Empathy Is Helpful, Not Harmful

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 03:00:00 -0400

Empathy is a powerful quality—and a key part of emotional intelligence. But it can prove dangerous when taken too far. When does empathy turn from helpful to harmful? How do you make sure your empathy is emotionally intelligent empathy? Today’s episode answers those important questions.

Ep 14: Want to be a better spouse, parent, boss, or colleague? You can only listen to one voice at a time

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 03:00:00 -0400

What did a Royal Air Force pilot turned psychologist and one of the most popular professors at MIT have in common? They both preached the value of this simple rule, one that holds even more value today, in a world with more distractions than ever. What’s the rule: You can only listen to one voice at a time.

Ep 13: How to give emotionally intelligent feedback

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0400

Nobody enjoys getting critical feedback. But everyone needs feedback to improve. How can you make your feedback more emotionally intelligent, so people see it as helpful, instead of harmful? Today we talk about the remarkable power of a single word that will transform the way you give feedback, forever.

Ep 12: Want to Find More Time? Embrace the Rule of Clocking Out

Tue, 22 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0400

Would you like some help setting priorities? How about a tip to help you save your mental health and avoid burning out? Or, would you simply like to have more time in your day? It may be time to start “clocking out.”

Ep 11: Feeling stressed or overwhelmed? Try the "Help-First" Rule

Tue, 15 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0400

Here’s a story of two days that start the same, but end very differently. The difference? Taking a moment to help first. Learn what the help first rule is all about, and how it can help you—and everyone else.

Ep 10: Want to become better at…everything? Learn how to become a “diamond cutter”

Tue, 08 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0500

What do you do when someone gives you critical feedback? Today, we'll talk about why critical feedback is so valuable, how can you keep your emotions under control when you get it, and the one sentence that can help transform the way you handle feedback, forever.

Ep 9: Want to build emotional intelligence? It starts with 1 simple question

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0500

The term “emotional intelligence” has been around for decades, and the concept has been around for centuries. Still, many are unclear of what exactly emotional intelligence is, or how they can start building theirs. Well, here's a simple question that can kickstart your emotional intelligence journey, and help you start making emotions work for you.

Ep 8: Three simple words that can save your relationships

Tue, 22 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0500

Have you ever found it hard to support someone else’s idea? Maybe it’s a colleague, a friend, or even a spouse or family member. Here’s an emotional intelligence tool that can help in situations like these. It’s called: Disagree and commit. (Here’s the link to the video I mention at the end of today’s episode: 3 Simple Words That Can Save Your Relationships)

Ep 7: How to build a successful (and emotionally intelligent) team, according to Google

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0500

What makes a great team? That’s what Google set out to discover in a years-long study code-named, “Project Aristotle.” Find out what they learned, what it has to with emotional intelligence—and how it can help you be a better teammate, and build a better team.

Ep 6: The rule of awkward silence

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0500

How do you react when you’re faced with awkward silence? Most people aren’t comfortable with long silence, but today we’ll talk about why you should get comfortable with it…Because awkward silence can lead to truly great things.

Ep 5: Change your glasses

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0500

How do you break the cycle of negative thinking? How do you get clarity when emotions are clouding your thinking?

You might simply need to change your glasses.

Ep 4: Emotional intelligence is a superpower

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 05:00:00 -0500

I’ve spent the past several years studying the topic of emotional intelligence in everyday life. Along the way, I learned that emotional intelligence helps you to see many things differently from the rest of the world. Here’s how.

Ep 3: How to be a great boss (according to Google)

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 03:00:00 -0500

What makes a great boss? Google spent over a decade trying to answer that question in a study code named, “Project Oxygen.”

Ep 2: The golden question

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 16:00:00 -0500

Here's one of my favorite tools from the Emotional Intelligence Toolbox. Like a virtual time machine, it lets you take a glimpse into the future and see the consequences of a decision.

It’s called the golden question.

Ep 1: What to do when you’re feeling completely overwhelmed

Mon, 27 Dec 2021 12:00:00 -0500

What do you do when you feel like you’re drowning in a sea of tasks, responsibilities, and expectations? Follow the rule of first things first.