Handing the Shame Back

Survivor Interview: Jay Sefton

Wed, 19 Aug 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Jay Sefton
Survivor. Mental Health Counsellor. Actor. Playwright.

Jay was chosen to play “Jesus” in the Passion Play by a priest in the catholic church. He was 13 years old.

He was so thrilled to be selected, as he always wanted to be an actor. What was to follow were years of sexual abuse from this priest which took place not only within the vestibule but also on camping and ski trips.

Jay is now a renowned playwright and actor. If you’d like to connect with him or see his latest play called Unrecognised, visit his website at https://www.unreconciledtheplay.com/, or follow him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/unreconciledtheplay/. Alternatively, you can email him at unreconciled@gmail.com.

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Interview with Gloria: Dr Caroline Ansley

Wed, 05 Aug 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Dr Caroline Ansley

Co-host of Cult Chat Podcast. Survivor. Clinical lead of the cult informed professional network.

If you want to understand more about the closed systems cults are; watch this interview. Caroline has a wealth of experience and knowledge to share in this space. She describes how cults actually operate, and the loss of identity that ensues. She is a survivor of child sexual abuse at the Centrepoint Community (Cult) when she was just 7 years old.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Rebecca Rose

Wed, 08 Jul 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Rebecca Rose
Healer. Survivor. Outdoor Enthusiast.

She was abused for the first seven years of her life by her godfather, her fathers best friend. He took her to a lot of events where the drug ketamine was used to keep her compliant and also block her memory. She was also sexually abused by both her mother and father, although she believes this happened independently of the other. Rebecca also talks about navy intelligence with links to the CIA and NASA being implicit in her abuse.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Interview with Gloria: Sean Lyons, Chief Online Safety Officer at Netsafe NZ

Wed, 17 Jun 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Gloria is joined by Sean Lyons, Chief Online Safety Officer at Netsafe NZ, where he has worked for 20 years and also serves as Netsafe’s functional lead on Child Sexual Abuse online.

With experience in both the IT industry and education across the UK and New Zealand, Sean has a keen interest in how technology can be used to perpetrate harm online and how it can better be used to address it.

Sean is an active member of INHOPE, the international association of online child sexual abuse hotlines, and also serves on the Meta Safety Advisory Council.

A thoughtful and important conversation for parents, caregivers, educators, and anyone wanting to better understand child safety in digital spaces.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Supporter Interview: Kathie A.

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Kathie A.
Strong advocate of Survivors. Widow of a survivor.

In 2016 Kathie’s husband Kevin told her about his abuse at the hands of a catholic priest when he was 13 years old. Fast track to age 52, when he had a sudden cardiac arrest and his life was brought to an abrupt end.

Watch the story unfold as Kathie courageously shares all that led up to his passing, and her incredible advocacy both before and after this tragedy.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Brianne Williams

Wed, 06 May 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Brianne Williams
Survivor. Counsellor. Outdoor recreation enthusiast.

Brianne was abused from 2 - 14 years of age. Her abusers were her father and her paternal grandfather. It was an open secret in their family, and was, she felt generational. Brianne did really well at school and was a high achiever, but as she states, all it did was mask the reality of the trauma she was experiencing.

If you’d like to connect with Brianne, please visit: https://briannehwilliams.com/

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Global Awareness Day 2026 | Sunday 14 June

Tue, 05 May 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Every year, we come together on Global Awareness Day to raise awareness of child sexual abuse, share ways to prevent it, and honour adult survivors, including those who didn’t make it.

This is a global silent epidemic. It's up to all of us, as a community, to shift the silence.

Wherever you are in the world, we invite you to take part in three simple but powerful ways:

❤️ Join us for a 30-minute walk at 10am your local time, wearing red, white, and black to honour this cause.

❤️ Swap your profile picture with the Handing the Shame Back logo to raise awareness.

❤️ Share the Global Hand Sign for U16s, a non-verbal way for children to signal they are being sexually abused and are not safe, with at least one other person.

If you are in Auckland, New Zealand, we invite you to join our team for a 30-minute walk followed by a BBQ at One Tree Hill Domain on Sunday 14 June at 10am. We will meet on the field by the playground.

Bring your family, friends, and even your fur babies. Everyone is welcome! Mark your calendar now:
https://www.facebook.com/share/1Dn6rUBmBT/

Find out more about the event here: handingtheshameback.org/events

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Survivor Interview: John

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet John
SRA Survivor. Spiritual War Fighter. Philosopher.

John suppressed his childhood sexual abuse for 24 years. He is now 6 years into his healing, and currently works with police on exposing one of the facilities he was abused at. His perpetrators were mainly his parents and extended family, and continued until he was 12 years old.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Shereen Simmonds

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Shereen Simmonds
Advocate. Founder of Phoenix Five

Shereen grew up in a family where attention was not directed her way. Her uncle provided that through grooming her with gifts and allowing her to spend time with his dogs. From age 7 to 14 years old he sexually abused her. When the case went to court, her mother spoke in defence of her uncle, suffice it to say she does not consider her a mother.

If you’d like to connect with Shereen, please email info@phnxfive.com, or visit:
https://www.instagram.com/phnxfive/
https://www.tiktok.com/@phnxfive

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Rob Balfour

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Rob Balfour
Survivor. Just Me. Activist

At the age of 4, Rob was found wandering around the streets and said he would rather die than ‘go home’. Both parents had mental health issues, with his mother having violent episodes. This was the beginning of his trauma, as Rob was abused by several different people over the years, the first beginning when he was 6 years old. His advice? Recover yourself by coming home to who you really are. Don’t miss this interview by yet another brave survivor.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Caroline Hunt

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Caroline Hunt
Advocate. Survivor. Author

She was brought up in a strict Mormon home in a large Samoan family, where her parents were devout followers, and worked very hard. She was abused by her uncle from 4 - 8 years of age, whenever the family went back to visit them. He was seen as a trusted member of the family. He tried to rape her again when she was 15, but she was able to fight him off. What was very difficult for her was discovering one of her own children had also been sexually abused.

If you’d like to connect with Caroline, please visit: https://www.facebook.com/imhealingwithgrace

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Dave Lukins

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Dave Lukins
Survivor. Father of twins.

Dave first experienced abuse at the age of 7 in the toilets at school. Then again at 11 - 13 from a sports coach. He got so used to it happening, he expected it. He believes other boys were abused by the coach as well. When his son turned 7, the triggers began appearing, and the healing once it began, was to change his whole life.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Tips for Survivors: Feeling Off

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +1300

We Survivors are allowed to have off days. Healing isn’t linear, and some days will feel heavier than others. It’s okay to rest, to feel, and to take time for yourself without guilt. Every step, even the quiet or difficult ones, is part of your journey, and taking a pause doesn’t erase your strength, it honours it.

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Survivor Interview: Staci Reay

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Staci Reay
Survivor. Advocate

Staci was abused between 3-17 years of age by her father, who she later discovered was NOT her biological father. Her brothers were also abused by this man. Her twin brother became an alcoholic and died at age of 40. Staci herself, attempted suicide twice as a teenager, trying to escape the ongoing trauma of the abuse. Inspirational and brave, Staci’s story is well worth watching.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

2025 Xmas Message from the Board

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +1300

It’s Christmas.

Getting through Christmas, can be an overwhelming ask for us as survivors. While many people experience joy and celebration during this time, we can feel the opposite through difficult emotions, painful memories, and feelings of isolation surfacing.

Here’s some ideas that may just help.

From all of us here at Handing the Shame Back
We see you
We stand beside you
We believe you

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Alyssa Milligan

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Alyssa Milligan
Advocate for School Student Survivors. Article Writer. High School Student.

Alyssa is an incredible 16-year-old advocate who is wanting to help other students. She was abused when she was 13 years old by a family friend. He was caught by his wife who began calling her names and denigrating her. Her parents believed her, but it was her Church youth leader who went to the police with it. He was charged with the crimes he committed.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

2025 Xmas Panel Discussion

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 00:00:00 +1300

It's that time of year again and we have an exciting panel discussion lined up for you. Meet Ali Mau, Survivor, recent Author and Co-founder of Tika charity. Please welcome Dean Clarkson, Survivor and Founder of the charity Wana, the first male refuge in New Zealand. Together and combined with our own very special Gloria Masters, they will be providing ideas and support to help survivors navigate the Christmas season.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: John Comerford

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 08:00:00 +1300

Meet John Comerford
Survivor. Mental Health Ambassador. Author

John was abused in a catholic school beginning when he was 11 years old. His abuser was a catholic brother who was later found to have been moved by the church from Melbourne to Sydney because of his sexual abuse of boys in his care. The damage he did spanned 3 decades and involved over 100 boys. John has some powerful insights and is both resilient and inspiring.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Blog: Telling Someone

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +1300

When is the right time to disclose what happened to you as a child? There is no one answer to this. Disclosing childhood sexual abuse is deeply personal, and the “right time” should not be determined by a calendar or someone else's expectations. It should defined by you; your readiness, your safety, and your sense of emotional strength in that moment.

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Q&A Session: November 2025

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +1300

Every month we provide answers to YOUR questions. Yes we do read them, so please reach out to contactus@handingtheshameback.org, we want to help you! If you have a burning question, we may have an answer. Each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: As a step parent, how do I have age appropriate conversations around body safety? For this and more, have a watch of this short video, and learn something you may not have known.

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Survivor Interview: Dean Clarkson

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Dean Clarkson
Survivor. Trail Blazer. Founder. Father.

Dean was 6 years old when he was first abused by an older boy who isolated him while playing a game. He never saw him again after that, but his coping mechanism became one of self harming. He was then abused from the age of 9 - 11 by a much older girl. His life as an adult, then became one of a victim as his wife physically abused him for years. What he now does is inspiring. Do not miss this interview.

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Tips for Survivors: Survivors and Sleep

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 07:00:00 +1300

It is beyond important for everyone to get enough sleep. For survivors it is essential. Sleep is where the mind can relax, unwind and rest. We keep our minds busy with unresolved trauma and anxiety, so a good 8 hours of sleep is essential for healing and recovery.

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Survivor Interview: Tracy Lee

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Tracy Lee
Author. Activist. Lived experience CSA victim.

Tracy was the eldest of 4 children and the only girl. Her mother was 17 years old when she had her. She was abused by her father from the age of 4. She was abused by a celebrity at age 9, by a boy at age 12 and then by a man under a bridge at age 15. Her childhood was traumatic and difficult. Don’t miss her story here.

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Blog: Overthinking

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +1300

I believe that overthinking is connected to hypervigilance and is part of a post trauma response. For many survivors, overthinking became second nature, as you had no control over what was happening to you, and you began to think about, plan and replay events endlessly in your head. Simply because your survival depended on it. Question: Does it still serve you in your life as an adult? If not, keep listening to the blog, it provides answers.

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Survivor Interview: Keith Williams

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Keith Williams
Survivor

Keith was 7 years old when the abuse began by an older brother, this went on till he was 12 years of age, at which point Keith believes he aged out. The coercive control and manipulation was powerful and ensured Keith never spoke out. He finally found his voice during Covid in 2021.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

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Q&A Session: October 2025

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Please reach out to contactus@handingtheshameback.org, we want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: How do I help my kids identify who a ‘safe adult’ is? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Tips for Survivors: Overthinking

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Do you ever find yourself overthinking and wondering why you do it?

This can stem from anxiety, fear, and even feelings of not being seen, heard or understood. This was because during the time the abuse occurred, you had no way of overcoming what was happening to you. Instead of having healthy adaptive techniques you developed unhealthy maladaptive techniques. This led to becoming emotionally disregulated instead of being emotionally regulated, and so it goes on….

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Survivor Interview: Lisa Mannina

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Lisa Mannina
Survivor. Pilot. Metastatic Breast Cancer Warrior

Lisa was abused by her mother's 3rd husband's son who was in his mid to late 20’s. She was 10 years old, this abuse carried on for 4 years and occurred at her family home, right under her mother’s and step father's eyes. She was frozen and confused and was told she wouldn't be believed if she ever told anyone. She did tell her best friend and she was believed.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Possibilities

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1200

For most of us possibilities are not something we ever seriously consider. We tend to live with thoughts of things not working out for us as opposed to the opposite: things working out well. Did you know that if you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right? There is so much potential that lies within all of us that is largely untapped. I believe this is because we are not aware of how to access it, let alone use it fully. It is widely considered that most of our minds are underutilised by most of us.

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Q&A Session: September 2025

Fri, 19 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1200

We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to support Survivors as a partner or spouse? What if I say the wrong thing? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Kieron

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Kieron
Survivor. Educator. CEO and Founder of Speak It Out

Kieron was 6 years old when the abuse began and was to continue until he was 17 years of age. This was perpetrated by someone close to him who he trusted and never thought would harm him. This was someone 4 years older than him.

To find out more about Speak It Out, go to: https://www.speakitout.org/

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Tips for Survivors: The Mind Dissociates

Wed, 10 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1200

The Mind Dissociates

There is confusion around why this happens, but put simply the mind leaves when the body can’t. For survivors of child sexual abuse that is a blessing. But what if years later, as an adult, you are still quite dissociative? What if you are struggling to stay present? Can anything be done to help this?

Yes it can, and Gloria shows how.

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Survivor Interview: Isabella Grosso

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Isabella Grosso
Survivor. Dancer. Author

She was abused from the age of 5 years by family friends and neighbours. She told her Dad, but nothing stopped after that. She could see the fear and sadness in his eyes so never spoke out again until she was in her 20’s. She felt her parents didn't want to know, and that her mother was also abused as a child.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Letting Go

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Do you ever find yourself struggling to let go of a situation?

Do you ever find yourself uncomfortable with not having control or insight into what happens next? If the answer is yes, you stand in good company. Many survivors experience just that, and it is more common than you think.

It makes sense, as being abused as children you didn’t have any control, let alone understand how to manage it.

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Q&A Session: August 2025

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to approach schools who are posting children's pictures on Facebook? For this and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. Once you know something, you can’t unknow it.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Lee Cooper

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Lee Cooper
Survivor. Advocate. Photographer

He was abused between 11-13 by a family member. He told no-one until he turned 31 years of age, and that was to his girlfriend. He believes that perpetrators know that disclosure is like a nuclear bomb going off which is why they so confidently operate under the cover of silence.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Tips for Survivors: Using Instinct to Let Go

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Having a quiet time where you can connect in with your inner wisdom, will give you the answers you need. Your higher self is always at play, but you can only truly let go when you trust your instinct. The easiest and most effective way is through the following gateway: Go within.

It may feel odd, and contrary to what you are told… as in look outside yourself for the answers, through other people, books, etc.

But the real wisdom of being able to Let go, lies within you.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

NZ Police Share the Global Hand Sign Message in Te Reo Māori

Fri, 08 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

We are fortunate to have a member of NZ Police share the Global Hand Sign message in Te Reo. Please share far and wide so all who need to can see the hand sign and hear it. The more people that see this, the more children we can save.

For more information, visit:
✅ Global Hand Sign: handingtheshameback.org/global-hand-sign
✅ Global Hand Sign Response: handingtheshameback.org/global-hand-sign-response

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English translation:

Hello,
If you need help but cannot or do not feel safe to ask for it, there is a sign you can use to show someone you need help.

(Sign)
This means I’m not safe, I need help.

This shows people nearby that you need help but are not safe or feel safe to ask for it.

Anyone can use this sign, teach your family and friends about it and what this sign now means.

Stay safe, and well.

Survivor Interview: Debbra Blosnich

Wed, 06 Aug 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Debbra Blosnich
Survivor. Author. Transformational Life Coach

Between the ages of 6 - 18 she was abused by her father, with him telling her you can’t get pregnant, I’ve been fixed. She was 12 at the time. At the age of 9 her mother asked her if her father ‘did’ things to her, with Debbra not answering the question fully as she didn't know how to respond. She was later to discover her father went on to abuse her sisters and niece.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Reflection

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Most of us would rather not revisit the past. It was traumatic, frightening, and understandably triggering. But what if I told you that how you approach your past could make all the difference? What if, by gently reflecting, you could make sense of it and gather some valuable insights about the child you were, and the adult you’ve become as a result? There is real value in understanding more of who we are. In doing so, we begin to regain mastery over our lives—even the painful parts that once devastated us.

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Survivor Interview: Marvin Hitchman

Wed, 23 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Marvin Hitchman
Survivor. Author. A fighter who wants to make more people aware of child sexual abuse.

He was also born in prison. When he was adopted out, he never bonded with his adoptive father, and found himself feeling isolated. He took refuge outside the home, and it was there he was preyed upon. His abuser sexually abused from the age of 11 to 14 years of age, with no respite. He is now an author and legend, helping others to deal with their trauma.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Q&A Session: July 2025

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1200

This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: Why use the hand sign when it's for everyone else to use? Do survivors of child sexual abuse more likely to go on and abuse children? For these answers and more, have a watch of this short educational video, and learn something you may not have known. We all know once you know something, you can’t unknow it.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Tips for Survivors: Guilt

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1200

The role guilt plays in sexual abuse as a child is varied. Please note, that without exception; if you are a survivor of this trauma, you were undoubtedly groomed, manipulated and often bullied into being complicit. However it manifested, you would have felt guilt. As an adult looking back, although you understand this, sometimes the guilt feels too much. Have a listen to this to begin finding your way back to empowerment and self belief.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Ciara Redmond

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Ciara Redmond
Survivor of serial predator and serial rapist. Raises awareness.

Ciara was raised in a family where once her younger brother had cancer the focus needed to be on him. This resulted in her being left alone and vulnerable at times. She was then targeted by a predator and physically and sexually abused from the age of 14. Her story is riveting, and she has been able to turn the trauma into a gift for humanity.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Survivor Interview: Glenn Miles

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Glenn Miles
Survivor. Researcher. Nurse

Although he suffered humiliation and sexualised school bullying at the hands of his peers, Glenn was seriously sexually abused at a Christian camp at age 13 by a 30-year-old male he was sharing a room with. He was told, this is normal and what men do. He felt it was somehow his fault, and then spent the next 3 decades hiding the fact he was gay from everyone but his wife.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Survivor Interview: Karen Shell

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Karen Shell
Survivor. Nonprofit Founder. Champion for Kids. Entrepreneur

Karen was raised in a family where her father was not just sexually abusive, but mentally, physically and psychologically as well. Out of the 4 children, it was she that was the target, and as a result, her childhood was miserable. What she did, and how she managed to turn it around is inspiring.

To reach Karen, email: info@karenshell.com

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Media Spotlight - Interview with NZ Herald (Gloria Masters & Scott Beard)

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 07:00:00 +1200

NZ Herald interviews Gloria and her partner Detective Inspector Scott Beard on the Global Hand Sign for Under 16’s to use, showing they are not safe and being sexually abused. Have a watch and listen of this, as this couple sets out to #LetsSaveSomeKids across the globe.

Read the full article here: https://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/top-police-detective-scott-beard-backing-hand-signal-to-prevent-child-sex-abuse/YCVBDIO2WBAFFOTIH727EQLRXI/

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Jeremy R.

Wed, 28 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Jeremy R.
Survivor. Content Creator. Writer

He was born with Spina Bifida and his parents were told he would never walk let alone live. He is now in his 40’s.

He was 5 years old when his female abuser first started grooming, manipulating and then abusing him. This was to go on for over 4 years, until he became hospitalised and eventually home schooled.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Media Spotlight: Radio Interview with MoreFM Rodney

Tue, 27 May 2025 15:00:00 +1200

Being interviewed by Nick on MoreFM Rodney was empowering. Being able to discuss the book; Keeping Kids Safe which is now in every school in NZ, honouring. It is time for the world to join the campaign to educate and resource our children on how to Keep Safe. So grateful to have been on air for this one. Thanks to Nick and Anna, the cycle has begun.

For more on us, go to: handingtheshameback.org

Blog: Rest and Recovery

Wed, 21 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Rest and Recovery are essential for survivors. Though not often discussed it is crucial for survivors to rest deeply when dealing with this. Thinking about or working through your trauma, reignites it and this leads to the exact same trauma responses you experienced as a child. What was unavailable to you then was resting and recovering from it, especially if the abuser was a family member. Don’t underestimate the healing resting provides, it can make the world of difference.

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Q&A Session: 16 May 2025

Fri, 16 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Q&A Session

Join us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers a range of questions posed by you, the Survivors. One for this month includes: how do you explain the hand sign to younger children. The questions are pertinent, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Cadence P.

Wed, 14 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Cadence P.
Survivor. Poet. Advocate

She was abused by her godmother and her godmother’s father. She was heavily manipulated and groomed to the point where, they made her lie and say it was her brother who was abusing her. This eventuated in him being removed from the home and sent to juvenile then foster care. She was 3 when the abuse began.

You can reach out to Cadence here: https://www.instagram.com/cadence_p.2025/

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Tips for Survivors: Rest and Recovery

Wed, 07 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Having survived this trauma, understand that your body went into the 4 trauma responses, fight, flight, freeze of fawn. Reason: You had a lot of adrenaline cursing through you as you were in survival mode. This affected your central nervous system including mentally, emotionally and physiologically. Now as an adult that is safe, you will became drained when dealing with it, there will feel a natural level of flatness or needing rest. Please give into that.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

HTSB Global Awareness Day – 16 June

Fri, 02 May 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Handing the Shame Back is proud to return for the third year in a row with our GLOBAL AWARENESS DAY (16 June).

This day is dedicated to raising awareness of child sexual abuse, honouring adult survivors — including those who didn’t make it, and most importantly, shifting the silence.

WHEREVER YOU ARE in the world, we invite you to join us for a 30-minute walk at 10am local time. If 16 June falls on a weekday, feel free to do your walk on the closest weekend. Landmarks around the world will be lit in our logo colours — red, white, and black — to honour this cause.

If you are in Auckland, New Zealand, we invite you to join our Handing the Shame Back team for the Global Awareness Day Walk! We will be meeting at Cornwall Park (by the Café and the main carpark) at 10am on Sunday 15 June. Bring your family, friends, and even your fur babies — everyone is welcome!

https://www.facebook.com/events/2216544662138327

Take photos and tag us @‌HandingTheShameBack, or email them to us so we can share them on our channels and inspire others around the world!

Include a caption with your location. For example:
"Alex from Rotorua walking for Handing the Shame Back."

We also invite you to:
❤️ SWAP YOUR PROFILE PICTURE with our logo to raise awareness and boost visibility.
❤️ SHARE THE GLOBAL HAND SIGN with at least one other person — it’s a simple yet powerful way to spread the message.

Let’s break the silent epidemic and make a global impact, together.

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• 💗Download the HTSB logo: http://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=586398213621309&set=a.105405181720617

• ✋Learn the Global Hand Sign: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyJKfU69Nhk

• 📘Plan your own walk: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/62e45d5b0f5e8d4e4f3c8e8c/t/681d701769a59721aaa71427/1746759710756/How+to+Plan+My+Global+Awareness+Walk.pdf

• 📂Full event details: http://handingtheshameback.org/events

Survivor Interview: Reg Johnston

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Reg Johnston
Survivor. Trauma Informed AOD Clinician. Survivor Advocate

Reg was abused by his sister 13 years older than him, who groomed him at the age of 12 mainly through the use of pornography. His home life consisted of confused boundaries, with secrets and lies always a feature. He wants people to know that drugs and alcohol don’t define you, in most cases they are just symptoms of the abuse that occurred.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Being Triggered

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +1200

The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involves one or any of the five senses; sight, smell, sound, taste, or touch: triggering a memory or experience of the abuse we suffered. There is nothing we can do to stop that, but there is a way to manage it.

► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org
► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donate

ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching

Q&A Session: 16 April 2025

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Q&A Session

Join us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving and healthy relationship as an adult. The range of questions is moving, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Diane Payne

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Diane Payne
Survivor

Diane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He got home detention for 8 months, due to a plea deal & the laws in the 1980's, when the abuse occurred. Don’t miss her story here.

You can reach out to Diane here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Tips for Survivors: Guilt and Shame

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 07:00:00 +1300

Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over time of healing, which requires great self compassion and tenderness. Don’t rush it and please give yourself some grace. The blame and shame never belonged to you.

Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/i92FPdCwp8k

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Sue Philip

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 08:00:00 +1300

Meet Sue Philip
Survivor

Sue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left the church as an adult, that she was able to remember the details of what her father had done to her and her siblings.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Mind Games

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, and we do it in a multitude of ways: like testing ourselves, overthinking, questioning ourselves and through sabotaging ourselves! The point being we are constantly undermining who we are by doing this. We need to stop doing this!

► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org
► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donate

ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coaching

Parliamentary Select Committee Hearings - Gloria Masters

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 09:00:00 +1300

On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Although the experience was daunting, the submission was well received.

Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/GwndoRE3kRI

Video source: New Zealand Parliament

Survivor Interview: Hanz Freller

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Hanz Freller
Survivor Advocate. Dad. Author

He was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable teenage years.

You can reach out to Hanz here:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hanz.freller
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hanzfreller

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Q&A Session - 7 March 2025

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +1300

First Q&A Session

Join us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing your child experience the worst trauma possible, Gloria provides calm and measured responses that help soothe and restore equilibrium to these difficult experiences.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Book Distribution Update: Unboxing Day

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 11:00:00 +1300

Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.

Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get them into schools, please consider donating: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss (Reference: ‘Book Distribution’).

At Handing the Shame Back, we don’t see this as just opening boxes. We see it as opening a path to better protecting children, breaking barriers, and giving teachers the tools they need to recognise and respond to child sexual abuse.

Let’s make a difference together!

Tips for Survivors: Feeling Safe Sexually

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back from enjoying intimacy with a loved one.

Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/j-hwv9GTetA

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Book Distribution Update: Book Delivery Day

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 14:00:00 +1300

Today is the day!

We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.

We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you’re able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference "Book Distribution".

Our goal is simple but vital: to equip teachers with the knowledge to recognise the signs of child sexual abuse, respond appropriately, and ultimately protect vulnerable children.

Thank you. Your support could help save some children.

Survivor Interview: Susan Gold

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Susan Gold
Survivor, Author and Transformationalist.

She was the middle child born in a family where generational abuse was undealt with and therefore continued. She was abused by her brother between 7 to 10 years of age with some flashbacks of both her father and grandfather being abusers as well. She believes that finding kindness for yourself from within is a key part of the healing journey.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Book Distribution Donation Update - 21 February 2025

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +1300

We have now raised $2,500. If you are able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!

Thank you. You may just save some kids!

Blog: Sex and Adult Survivors

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +1300

It is entirely natural for you as a survivor of child sexual abuse to struggle with sex as an adult. some survivors have a constant battle with this, preferring to be celibate in the end. For others guilt, fear and dissociation can occur. Wherever you are at is entirely normal, and can be worked with if it is of concern. Don’t miss this podcast.

Tips for Survivors: Managing Guilt

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +1300

As children, we were always dependent on the adults around us to meet our needs. This is common and expected, as we were unable to feed or clothe ourselves. However, guilt does feature because we had to accommodate the adults around us, even when we felt scared and uncomfortable.

For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org

Survivor Interview: Steven Shelton

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Steven Shelton
Survivor and Author

Was abused by many males beginning when he was just 4 years old. His mother walked in on the abuse, saw it, and walked back out again. This was the beginning of Steven’s nightmare, culminating in him developing Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID. He firmly believes that passage of time, a loving spouse, and talking about it, have helped him recover from this.

For further information on Steven, go to: https://stevensheltonauthor.com/author-page/

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Introducing the Q&A Session

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +1300

We are thrilled to provide answers to any questions you may have — let's interact! We want to provide information you need, in order to do that, please email us at contactus@handingtheshameback.org and put ‘Question’ in the subject line, followed by your main question in the body of the email.

Let's customise our content to work with your objectives as closely as possible.

We are always thinking of you and finding ways to support the amazing survivors that you are.

Survivor Interview: Elizabeth Melendez

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Elizabeth Melendez
Author. Advocate. CEO/Founder of the Foundation United Org.

She was sexually abused by a family friend at age 11, though saw that physical, emotional and sexual abuse was happening throughout her family from a very young age, she feels this was ‘generational’ rather than ‘intentional abuse’.

To reach Elizabeth: https://www.thefoundationunited.com/, or on Instagram: @‌thefoundationunited

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: New Year Resolutions

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Don't make any new year resolutions, instead reflect on what you have achieved over the last 12 months and honour that. You may consider growing that skillset further or adding to it, but at this time of year, recovering from Xmas and the holiday season is challenging enough. Don’t pressure yourself by making impossible goals that are unlikely to be achieved.

Book Distribution Donation Update

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +1300

We are bringing you this update due to the generous and much appreciated response to our video asking for help to get the book ‘Keeping Kids Safe - A Roadmap for Parents, Teachers & Others’ into schools. We have the funding to provide the books, just not to post them! So far we have raised over $700, which is an amazing 70 schools. Remember that $10 ensures a book gets into a school of your choice. thank you and what a great legacy for you to have. You may just save some kids!

Want to Save Some Kids?

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 13:00:00 +1300

We are seeking sponsors so we can distribute the book 'Keeping Kids Safe' to every school in NZ. We have the books funded, just not the distribution costs.

If you are able to help, simply visit http://gloriamasters.com , click the 'Donate' button, or use this direct link: https://buy.stripe.com/8wMg0Y1OqdTc1vG4gh. Please include reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!

By making a donation, you not only help save kids in NZ - You also leave a legacy.

Thank you.

Survivor Interview: Avery Kearney

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Avery Kearney
Survivor. Advocate. Non-profit worker in the health sector.

Avery is a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands of his uncle from the age of 8.

The grooming process went on for years prior, and much of his abuse was tied into athletics and masked as massages and stretching to increase his athletic performance. The abuse went on for a few years.

To reach Avery, email: kearneywjj@gmail.com, or Instagram: @‌averykearney

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Xmas Panel Discussion 2024

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Welcome back to Louise Nicholas and Ken Clearwater who join me on the this panel, to discuss all things Survivors experience throughout the Xmas season. We need to honour survivors through this time of year, and I couldn't think of anyone better to bring back to share this important messaging with.

HTSB Xmas Board Message

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Here is our Xmas Message from the Board at Handing the Shame Back Foundation, to all the amazing survivors, supporters and sponsors we have. Thank you so much, and from all of us, Merry Xmas to you.

Blog: It's Christmas

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 05:00:00 +1300

It’s Christmas.

Here’s some ideas that may just help.

Love to all of you.

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► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donate

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#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #letssavesomekids

Survivor Tip: Managing

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +1300

This time of year can be difficult when trying to manage end of year events, Xmas interactions and school concerts. Try to find time to ground yourself by remembering to reflect on you, what you have managed to achieve and the incredible survivor you are.

It should be about you, not just those you love.

Survivor Interview: Deb Aldrick

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Deb Aldrick
Author. Speaker. Advocate

Deb was abused from 5 - 14 by a family member while another family member did nothing to protect her. Pre-abuse she was happy and confident, and enjoyed life with lots of friends. Post-abuse she became anxious and a worrier.

To reach Deb go to: https://dragonflyadvocacy.com.au/
or Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dragonflyadvocacy/
or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dragonflyadvocacy3/
or LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b/ Link for Deb’s book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com.au/Circling-Wagons-hiding-becomes-important-ebook/dp/B0CYN278KZ

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Survivor Interview: Raymond Lum

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Raymond Lum
Survivor and Film Producer

As a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’.

To reach Raymond go to: https://www.facebook.com/sting16 or https://www.instagram.com/raymondtlum/

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.

Blog: Coercive Control

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 05:00:00 +1300

As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it.

What that meant (for some of us), is that we weren’t just controlled through sexual abuse, there was also the emotional and physical manipulation as well. How that impacted us was we had no opportunity to live or behave in a way that was truly ours.

Blog: Resolution

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Be aware if you are deciding on how to confront your abuser, your emotions will be running at an all time high, and therefore deciding on something of this importance may not serve you - Yet!
It will in time, but maybe just not today. Because this is of such huge significance, please allow yourself further clarity of thought as the last thing you need is to regret your decision later.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Survivor Interview: Kel Humphries - Part 2

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 - 8, and recognises the grooming for what it was. He knew exactly what he was doing, her parents had no idea.
For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip: Losing Your Voice

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Losing your voice
As children being abused we couldn't speak, because our brain froze.
This is a trauma response, and just so you know: when your brain is flooded with cortizal there is no way you can speak, as this is a chemical reaction which cannot be controlled.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Gloria Masters interviewed by Shaun Attwood (Oct 2024)

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 00:00:00 +1300

Gloria returns to Shaun’s platform to discuss the impact of CSA on survivors in light of the current media storm around P Diddy. She shares her story and offers insight and ideas into how to combat this to protect our children. For more on her go to handingtheshameback.org and gloriamasters.com All links to her books can be found there in all versions as well as on amazon.
https://gloriamasters.com/shop/
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
https://gloriamasters.com/
#gloriamastersauthor
#letssavesomekids
#handsign4kids
#handingtheshameback

Survivor Interview: Kel Humphries - Part 1

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Kel Humphries
Survivor. Advocate. Speaker. Researcher.
She was abused by her Uncle between ages 7 -8, and now realises her parents were the ones being groomed. At age 12 her mother asked her directly if she had been abused, but she couldn't speak. For more on her reach out to her at kellyhumphries.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors: Negative Self Talk

Fri, 11 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Negative self talk
It is more common than not for your survivor to put themselves down and talk about themselves negatively. This is part of, or a consequence of the abuse suffered as children. Listen for ways to contradict their self talk. Sometimes simply challenging something can change it.
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids
Full clip here https://youtu.be/h4lhCTH22nM?si=Nl8g-FGovgqD7_Qs

Survivor Interview: Uipo Tagaloasa - Part 2

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Uipo Tagaloasa Part 2
Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend.
As he was working through his trauma, he considered shooting his abuser and then realised it would really only punish him and his family unnecessarily.
To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa. HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip: Needing Love

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Needing love
As children being abused we were looking for some love from those tasked with caring for us.
We were children, with needs not being met, and yet through the abuser manipulating us and providing comfort , we may have felt we were complicit somehow.
They were in charge, we weren't.
Love that little child inside.

https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1907499/episodesGo to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Interview: Uipo Tagaloasa - Part 1

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Uipo Tagaloasa
Was born and raised in Samoa without his father, who had passed away before he was born.
He has 11 siblings, and was raised by grandparents.
He was abused from the age of 9 by a really close family friend, who was helping his family out with things. He also played rugby with him. To contact him, please use the links below to his Break The Cycle from Past Trauma FB and Instagram pages. https://www.facebook.com/UipoTagaloasa?mibextid=ZbWKwL or on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/breakthecycle_from_past_trauma?igsh=MWl5cHNmc25rMm5oeA==
Or find him at Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Blog: Never Give Up

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Sometimes it can all feel a bit much when trying to work your way through the trauma the abuse created. Sometimes it feels easier to just give up working on this, and just pretend you are okay with how it is.
Please don't do that. Never give up, the rewards you receive are insurmountable.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Survivor Interview: Janet Jacobsen - Part 2

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Janet Jacobsen
Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
Janet's story continues.
You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip: You Do You

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Even though you may feel that you should take other's advice on what action you should take regarding the abuse you suffered: like (for example), forgive your abuser, or just move on with your life: The reality is you must do what resonates with you, in other words:
You do You.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Interview: Janet Jacobsen - Part 1

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Janet Jacobsen
Grandmother, wife, mother, football lover and survivor.
Janet was abused by a doctor while her father was dying. she also had a local shopkeeper do the same. Her call to action was on hearing of the death of the doctor. Don't miss this survivors incredible story of courage and overcoming.
You can reach out to her on Facebook as Janet Jacobsen and on Instagram as https://www.instagram.com/gdadnansjj/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors: Resolution Options

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Resolution Options
Because we are all different, so are our views on how to get resolution regarding our abuse.
For some of us it may be finding forgiveness, for others it may be confronting the abuser. Whatever you need to do to find peace is the key. Trust how you feel and go from there.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Featuring Gloria Masters

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Gloria talks about her life story.
What she experienced and what led her to do the work she does on Handing the Shame Back.HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivors

Survivor Tip: Never Give Up

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Never Give Up

Even tho it can feel tough at times, please keep going on your individual survivor path. That could be making sense of what happened to you, or convincing people how hard it is some days etc. You so deserve to get what you need: The simple message being, Never Give up.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#letssavesomekidss

#handingtheshameback

#handsign4kids

https://youtu.be/oCf-JGp1PTc?si=vPQN0i2coixtMgQu

Feature Interview: Abuse in care

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Three incredible survivors of Abuse in Care.
Malcolm Justice. Phill Ashworth and Neil Harding.
Their stories will move you.
For more on this please watch the entire video.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#letssavesomekids #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #believesurvivors

Puzzle Solved Blog

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Every wonder why you struggle with certain areas in your life?
This could be anything: Confidence, speaking up, relationships, even food.
I liken it to a puzzle with missing pieces, because underlying those struggles will be a connection between them and your childhood abuse.
Have a listen, you may just solve your own puzzle.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Heidi Olson Interview - Part 2

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Heidi Olson
Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast.
She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She looks at the link between early child abuse and the risky behaviour she engaged in as a young adult, when she felt broken, and in self destruct mode. You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #54: Purity

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Purity
If you are a survivor who emerged from a strict religious sect or background, you are not alone.
The conditioning around purity, virginity and innocence was intense. The message was clear, purity was everything, anything else was dirty, sinful and evil. As a survivor of abuse, please know your heart and soul was pure, has been pure and is still pure. You were innocent. The rest is just noise.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Heidi Olson Interview - Part 1

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Heidi Olson
Forensic nurse. Business owner. Coffee lover and outdoor enthusiast.
Heidi did not feel seen growing up.
She was first abused at 2 years of age, and experienced several instances over the years with different abusers. She believes this (in part), occurred because of the ongoing and unresolved intergenerational trauma her parents experienced.
You can reach out to Heidi at www.paradigmshifttc.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #47: Self-esteem

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Self Esteem
When you know your survivor is not feeling good through the way they are behaving or the words they are using, through not validating themselves or putting themselves down, please counteract this, as this gives them an opportunity to make the link between their behaviour and the childhood relationships they had, where they were not valued.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Allen Goodall Interview - Part 2

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Allen Goodall
He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.
He experienced sexual abuse beginning at age of 3. He eventually recognised that the fear of public speaking/panic attacks was linked to the abuse as in he was threatened to keep silent in many ways. He now speaks out!
You can reach out to Allen at allgoodie011@outlook.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #53: Connecting the dots

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Connecting the Dots
Making sense of behaviour we use as adults that we know doesn't serve us is hard, but there will be a connection to the past in there.
We can often unknowingly replicate our childhood conditioning.
The tip is look at the behaviour now that doesn't serve or work for you: Using a therapist, track it back to your childhood. I promise you there will be a connection.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Allen Goodall Interview - Part 1

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Allen Goodall
He is a Survivor, training to be a peer support worker and runs mens support groups.
He experienced sexual abuse from the age of 3 and was threatened about ever speaking out. He now does so fully and freely due to the want and desire to end the demons, and to give other men some hope.
You can reach out to Allen at allgoodie011@outlook.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Your Child Blog

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Your memories emerging when your child turn the same age you were when the abuse began is much more common than you may imagine.
It is also frightening.
Triggers are released and it can feel the nightmare is happening all over again.
This is even more so when your child is the same gender you are.
There is a way through this, have a listen to how it is possible.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Justine Dean Interview - Part 2

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
From the age of 3, Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and teenage years. Her mother seemed unable to support her through this. When Justine was 5 years old and being molested by her 12 year old male neighbour, her mother screamed at her; 'What did you do?' Don't miss this profound interview.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #52: What about me?

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

What about me?
If you are the child of a narcissistic parent, it would have been almost impossible to be given any space, comfort or protection. There was no room for you as this child.
You had to take on another role to have a connection with them.
Listen to the full clip to understand where to from here.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Justine Dean Interview - Part 1

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Justine Dean
Coach, Mentor, Confidante
Justine experienced many abusers throughout her childhood and adolesence.
You can reach out to Justine at Justinedean.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #46: Healthy Bonds

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Healthy Bonds
Your survivor having healthy and transparent relationships is of course, optimum.
When this is not so, you will see their behaviour change in order to be accepted. This is a form of toxic bonding: arising from the abuse, and their needs not being met as children.
(All you need to do is gently point it out, and let them know you have their back)

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

John Cardamone Interview - Part 2

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet John Cardamone
He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.
When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member.
When his son became that age, John became really anxious and concerned about his safety and eventually recognised he was being triggered by his own history of abuse.
You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/
https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/
https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #51: Triggered by children

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Triggered by children
This is very common for parents who are survivors.
When our children (of the same sex as us) turn the age we were when the abuse began, the amount of triggering this results in is almost indescribable. Memories start to flood in and become overwhelming. This is vindication and validation of what you went through.
Try to protect the part of you that has emerged with the recall.

Go to our website for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

John Cardamone Interview - Part 1

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet John Cardamone
He is a Survivor, Educator, and Speaker from Victoria in Melbourne.
When he was between 6-7 years old he was abused by a family member.
When he told his mother, she believed him instantly and from that point on, he was kept safe.
Looking back he sees, that his parents were groomed as well
You can reach John on: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/
https://www.instagram.com/john_cardamone/
https://www.facebook.com/john.cardamone
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Finding You blog

Fri, 28 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
The real you was unable to withstand the abuse, so the false self stepped up to help, and is what you used to to cope with the trauma.Through your recovery, you will find that one of the biggest challenges is in both finding and reclaiming you. Although it sounds really scary, once done the power behind it will embolden you.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Jeanie Dean Interview - Part 2

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Welcome to Part 2 of Jeanie Dean's interview.
She is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specialist interviewer and Trainer | Managing Director at Safeguarding Solutions Australia. The impact of her abuse began a healing journey leading into researching why sex offenders do what they do.This became her purpose in life. You can reach Jeanie on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #50: The Real Me

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

The real me
How we had to adapt to survive our child sexual abuse and who we became as a result is not necessarily who we 'really' are. Perhaps still lurking within is that 'false' self.
You may recognise that, in those situations that are especially challenging, where you default back to that small child and agree or give way. There is hope to change this.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Jeanie Dean Interview - Part 1

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

From Melbourne Australia, a warm welcome to Jeanie Dean, who is an Expert Witness | Safeguarding Safety Risk Expert | Trauma Informed Investigator and specialist interviewer and Trainer | Managing Director at Safeguarding Solutions Australia.
She grew up in a family of violence, and was sexually abused at the age of 15 by someone known to the family. What helped her recovery was: Time, Therapy - IFS, and learning how to protect her peace and Balance.
TimeYou can reach Jeanie on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanie-dean-90a46483/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #45: Encouragement

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Encouragement
Your survivor may feel weary and down at times about their history of child sexual abuse. Though expected and normal, they may need some encouragement at times. An effective way is to come up with 3 things that would help lift and shift their mood thereby giving them something else to focus on.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

Luke Wiersma Interview - Part 2

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Luke Wiersma
Meet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman as a teenager, and used drugs and alcohol as a way to cope. Eventually he got fed up with drinking and passing out everyday, so began using advocacy as a way to out of the vicious cycle.
You can contact Luke through email on wiersmaluke33@gmail.com.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #49: Self Advocacy

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Self Advocacy
Is one way of having your own back and looking after you
The three components to this are: to understand what your needs are, to know what might help to support to those needs. and lastly to be able to communicate those needs.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Luke Wiersma Interview - Part 1

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Luke Wiersma
Meet this brave Survivor who runs Leaderboard Meetings for Survivors of child sexual abuse. Luke was abused by an older woman when he was a teenager, he was manipulated and controlled and began using drugs as a way to cope. The abuse continued until he was 18 years of age, at which time she considered him to be too old.
You can contact Luke through email on wiersmaluke33@gmail.com.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

Using your voice blog

Thu, 30 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
As it wasn't safe to use your voice as a child, it can feel very important to you to use it today.
Honour that within you, there is a part of you that wants to, No, needs to be heard.
This will always be a subliminal desire whether you know it or not.
This is also a crucial and non negotiable part of the healing process.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids
#letssavesomekids

Brinn Langdale Interview - Part 2

Mon, 27 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Brinn Langdale continued...
Therapist. Speaker. Writer
Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, from 4 till age 15, Brinn was 18 before the truth finally came out. Her mother chose to support her brother over her, partly due to his heroin addiction. As a result, Brinn felt less supported.
You can reach Brinn through the wholistic approach to healing podcast. www.brinnlangdale.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #48: Leading a double life

Thu, 23 May 2024 16:00:00 +1200

Leading a double life
As children who were being abused, we still had to go to school, play sport and carry on as though everything was fine.
No one could know what was going on, so in essence we were leading a secret or double life.
As adults this can sometimes still be present, in us.
Please check in with yourself by responding to this question: Is who you are able to be authentic and genuine across all aspects of your life??

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Brinn Langdale Interview - Part 1

Mon, 20 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Brinn Langdale
Therapist. Speaker. Writer
Abused by her brother 2 and a half years older than her, she had thought they were best friends. The abuse began when she was 4 years old and continued till she was 15.
The disclosure at age 18, was to change her life and that of her whole family.
You can reach Brinn through the wholistic approach to healing podcast. www.brinnlangdale.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #44: Holding the space

Thu, 16 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Holding the Space
This is about you.
When supporting survivors we can end up depleted or overwhelmed or even fed up.
That's okay, and to be expected. Allow yourself to have some space for you, a bit of time away or some self care. EG, Playing footy, doing an art class. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you're feeling refreshed and repleted.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Neil Milton Interview - Part 2

Mon, 13 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Neil Milton - Part 2
GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project.
Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carried on from 10 to 13 years of age. He never felt he had a voice growing up, and eventually realised, later in life, that he always chose work which reflected 'looking to have his voice heard'. Don't miss this, very powerful Part 2 with Neil.
You can reach out to Neil on https://www.childsafe.org.au/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #47: I am enough

Thu, 09 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

I am enough
We struggle with this, because what was taken from us among other things was: pride, self-love and feelings of self worth. What arose instead was a feeling of deep lack, as in 'I am not enough'.
But please note: You were always enough, You always have been enough. You are still enough.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Neil Milton Interview - Part 1

Mon, 06 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Neil Milton - Part 1
GM of Child Safe Australia, and founder of the Table Talk Project.
Neil was abused by an older child at his school, which carried on from 10 to 13 years of age. When it first began, he told his mother what was happening, but because she responded with 'they were just experimenting', Neil felt he had no option but to accept it, and actually believed this is what friendship looked like.
You can reach out to Neil on https://www.childsafe.org.au/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Dilworth Exposé

Thu, 02 May 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Dilworth Exposé
Meet Neil harding who is leading the class action against Dilworth school for the deliberate and planned sexual abuse of boys in their care. Self described as father, grandfather, Dilworth survivor, Chiropractor, crusader for justice accountability and a safer world, finalist NZ Herald “Heroes for 2023”, Neil has been trying for 6 years to get justice.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

It's not your fault blog

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
If for any reason you carry guilt about what happened to you, you are not alone, we were all conditioned to feel this. Whichever way you were groomed into thinking it was your fault, was done with one goal in mind, to have you carry the responsibility so they didn't have to. Their intent was to make sure you held that load, and as a child you did!
It's time to let go now. Handing it back will free you.
It was never yours to carry.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsGo to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tess Gonzales Interview - Part 2

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Tess Gonzales - Part 2
Christian. Survivor. Advocate.
Tess suffered incest at the hands of her mother, who drugged her. She was eventually abused by her brother as well. Throughout her childhood, she felt unable to fit in. She was close to her grandmother, and found that volunteering at a local rest home was key in helping her to navigate her way through it all. You can find Tess: https://www.facebook.com/tessa.gonzales.7773?mibextid=ZbWKwL
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #46: Not fitting in

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

For survivors everywhere, we can sometimes we feel we don't fit in with others, in part because our experience was very different to theirs, and trying to explain it is challenging.
This was also true of us as children, and is to be expected. If you are struggling with this and it's feeling big, maybe consider that: 'In the not fitting in you are teaching people something.'

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tess Gonzales Interview - Part 1

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Tess Gonzales - Part 1
Christian. Survivor. Advocate.
Tess not only suffered prolonged Incest by mother but was drugged throughout as well. Her brother, 41/2 years older than her, was also abused by her mother. Unfortunately he then chose to sexually abuse Tess ensuring home was never a safe place for her. Watching this story will not leave you unmoved.
You can find Tess: https://www.facebook.com/tessa.gonzales.7773?mibextid=ZbWKwL
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #43: It's not their fault

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Its' not their fault
The survivor in your life, may still feel its their fault, that somehow they caused the abuse to occur.
Although to you , it may seem unusual they feel that, please understand: as children they were conditioned to believe they were wrong, and actually caused it.
They didn't have ability to understand they were being lied to and deceived.
Help them to see that!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Scott Beard Interview

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 17:00:00 +1200

Meet Scott Beard at NZ Police
He is a Detective Inspector with the New Zealand Police, leading several teams including: the child protection team, the child exploitation team, the child sex offender management team and the adult sexual assault team in Auckland city. His insights and knowledge help support survivors and children everywhere within NZ, so this feature interview is a must see!.
You can reach out to Detective Inspector Scott Beard at NZ Police by calling 09 302 6788.
Please note: We acknowledge the source of the image from Ricky Wilson at Stuff.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Mike Chapman Interview - Part 2

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Mike Chapman - Part 2
From the age of 3, he was abused by his father and then trafficked to others.
Through research and dedication Mike was able to find a 12 step group which he found helpful, as well as using the arts which access right brain neural pathways. Dealing with shame and guilt were some big challenges for him as is common in most survivors, but he was able to master those. For inspiration, watch his courageous story here.
You can reach Mike on: - https://www.facebook.com/PolarLifeConsulting, email - PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.com
Linktree - https://linktr.ee/polarlifeconsulting (all podcast/media appearances)
Website - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/ Podcast - Healing for Male Survivors - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/podcast (also on most platforms)
Santa Website - https://www.SantaMikeENC.com/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #45 - It's not your fault

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1300

It's not your fault!
For some survivors, they still carry a feeling that what happened to them was their fault.
No! It was never your fault.
The adult who abused you knew exactly how to groom you: threaten, bribe, manipulate and target. The fault 100% belongs to them.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Mike Chapman Interview - Part 1

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Mike Chapman - Part 1
From the age of 3, he was abused by his father who had other victims as well.
His mother had never wanted children, his father convinced her to, and up until Mike was 8 the abuse continued. Mike believes he was conceived for this father's purpose of abuse, until he aged out, at which point his father left the family.
You can reach Mike on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/PolarLifeConsulting email - PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.com Linktree - https://linktr.ee/polarlifeconsulting (all podcast/media appearances) Website - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/ Podcast - Healing for Male Survivors - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/podcast (also on most platforms) Santa Website - https://www.SantaMikeENC.com/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kidsMethodist minister groomed him and the memories he had repressed until 30 years of age emerged. He was beyond confused, questioned his sexuality among other things. You can reach Mike on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/PolarLifeConsulting email - PolarLifeConsulting@gmail.com Linktree - https://linktr.ee/polarlifeconsulting (all podcast/media appearances) Website - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/ Podcast - Healing for Male Survivors - https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/podcast (also on most platforms) Santa Website - https://www.SantaMikeENC.com/

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Taking Charge Blog

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors
Before any action is taken, lies the thought that precedes it.
Before any thought occurs, lies a feeling.
Doesn't it make sense then to maximise that and feel as good as you can?
Everything comes down to how you feel, and for survivors that can be a challenge in itself. How do you manage feeling good when you are feeling triggered??
How can you have your thoughts and feelings impact your actions so you are in alignment?
Have a listen here, I know this will give you pause.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cathy O’Brien Interview - Part 2

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cathy O'Brien - Part 2
Healed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control.
Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi generational incest based family. Both parents were sexually abused as children. As an adult recovering from this trauma, and at times being overwhelmed by the pervasiveness of child sex trafficking, Cathy found that releasing onto paper tapped into the logical part of the brain, as did finding a 'soulution' - watch here to discover how this works.You can reach Cathy at: www.trance-formation.com and www.trance.movie
https://tranceformationofamerica.locals.com/
@RealCathyOBrien on X, CloutHub, TruthSocial
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #44 - The 3 R's

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

The 3 R's
Regulate
Relate
Reason
If you are self regulated; calm and centred, you are then able to relate to a person or idea in a more measured way. If not, you wont! You will then be able to reason logically and clearly with others. Just know you have to have mastered that whole concept of regulation or self regulation and not be in a triggered or reactive state, in order to do so.
Makes sense!!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cathy O'Brien Interview - Part 1

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cathy O'Brien
Healed and vocal survivor of CIA MK Ultra mind control.
Cathy's story all began with being born into a multi generational incest based family. Both parents were sexually abused as children. From the age of six years old, Cathy was used on a white house pentagon level among influential, and self appointed leaders.
You can reach Cathy at: www.trance-formation.com and www.trance.movie
https://tranceformationofamerica.locals.com/
@RealCathyOBrien on X, CloutHub, TruthSocial
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #42: The Power to Heal

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

The Power to Heal
Its vital to remind the survivor in your life, that they have everything within them needed to heal from their trauma. Namely: their immunity, resilience and personal power.
This is especially true, when they are not coping or struggling with life.
Reminding them they are doing great, and that you can see it happening is important, equally doing it in a gentle and supportive way is healing.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Donald Cribbs Interview - Part 2

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 2
Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma.
By the time he was 6 years old his parents had divorced, and he started being abused by his mother's partner over a six month period. Two year s later court there was a court case, and he was made to face his abuser pre trial (wearing his prison orange jumpsuit) to see if he was lying and could cope. The failure of the 'justice' system was beyond tragic.
You can reach Don on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gdcribbs
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/gdcribbs
FB Author Page: https://www.facebook.com/gdonaldcribbsauthor
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #43 - Your Voice

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Your Voice
Lots of survivors have had their voice robbed many times over, maybe initially as a child, and then again as an adult, when sharing your story.
It may be that someone looks at you in a strange way or challenges you....
The tip is that your voice is very important, and here's some ways to hold onto it.
Responding with 'why would you ask me that?' can be a start, another is to not discuss your story unless you have someone with you who has your back.
A final tip would be using silence as a response, your detractors won't know how to cope with that. Sometimes silence can be the most powerful thing you can do!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Donald Cribbs Interview - Part 1

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Donald Cribbs - Part 1
Trauma survivor. Author. Licensed professional counsellor specialising in trauma.
By the time he was 6 years old his parents had divorced, and he started being abused by his mother's partner over a six month period. To deal with it, his mother sent him to live with his father’s parents out of state and 2 years later there was a court case.
You can reach Don on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gdcribbs
Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/gdcribbs
FB Author Page: https://www.facebook.com/gdonaldcribbsauthorInstagram:
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #41: Self Talk

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Self Talk
Mood changes are common for survivors to feel.
It's important to become aware that their mood hasn't suddenly changed out of nowhere; the self talk they are doing will be the reason. This will instantly impact the mood and needs attention.
The self talk they use can sometimes be quite devastating and unkind. Gently encourage them to notice it a little more and provide encouragement when they recognise the signs. They, and you, deserve to feel happy and at peace.
Have a listen as to how this particular tip may just help you as well.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cheryl Hunter Interview - Part 2

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 2
Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl shares her very powerful and public story and her linking of Wabi-Sabi (which encourages us to recognise the beauty in simplicity, authenticity and imperfection), to herself.
You can reach Cheryl on
Instagram: @HunterCheryl Facebook: @CherylHunter Twitter: @HunterCheryl
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #42 - Being Captive

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Being Captive
This term often takes people to visions of being trapped physically. Although this does happen, what is far more common and likely to happen is us doing this to ourselves!! By that I refer to being held captive by our minds and thoughts. We can break this cycle with some dedicated focus and practical tips to follow. This is a game changer!
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids takes people to visions of being trapped physically. Although this does happen, what is far more common and likely to happen is us doing this to ourelves!! By that I refer to being held captive by our minds and thoughts. We can break this cycle with some dedicated focus and practical tips to follow. This is a game changer!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cheryl Hunter Interview - Part 1

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cheryl Hunter - Part 1
Author and Media Expert who helps others share, Cheryl was raped as a teenager at 14, then kidnapped at 18 years of age and reveals, for the first time publicly, what happened when she was a small child of 6. She has a very powerful and real breakthrough, which has the potential to help survivors everywhere. Respect.
You can reach Cheryl on
Instagram: @HunterCheryl Facebook: @CherylHunter Twitter: @HunterCheryl
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Held Captive Blog

Fri, 16 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors,
We often consider that what keeps us imprisoned is not just what happened to us but how other people then treat us. What if I was to tell you that it is your own mind holding you captive, that the thoughts you have can keep you trapped and less than?
Have a good listen here, I think this blog will speak to you.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going. handingtheshameback.org/donate
ADDITIONAL RESOURCE
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Feature Interview - Paul Hutchinson: Part 2

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Paul Hutchinson
Executive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity.
Paul shares his personal experience of being involved in over 70 rescue missions across 15 countries of child sex trafficked children.
What he has seen and done, plus the powerful impact this movie has had across the world is incredible. You can find Paul on:
https://instagram.com/liberating.humanity?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==
https://www.facebook.com/liberating.humanity?mibextid=LQQJ4d
https://www.tiktok.com/@liberating.humanity?_t=8eI8HqtjuhO&_r=1
https://www.linkedin.com/company/childliberationfoundation/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #41 - Breaking the Chain

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Breaking the Chain
This is linked to Paul Hutchinson's interview held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.
Survivors, when you are feeling triggered, anxious, or unsafe, stop what you are doing and give it attention. Find a way to release it, so you don't stay trapped and stuck.
It may be as simple as texting a friend, or reaching out for a hug from your loved one.
Breaking the Chain means you won't stay trapped, and you can move on with your life!
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Feature Interview - Paul Hutchinson - Part 1

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Paul Hutchinson
Executive Producer of the Sound of Freedom movie and founder of Liberating Humanity.
Paul shares his personal experience of being involved in over 70 rescue missions across 15 countries of child sex trafficked children.
What he has seen and done, plus the powerful impact this movie has had across the world is incredible. You can find Paul on:
https://instagram.com/liberating.humanity?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==
https://www.facebook.com/liberating.humanity?mibextid=LQQJ4d
https://www.tiktok.com/@liberating.humanity?_t=8eI8HqtjuhO&_r=1
https://www.linkedin.com/company/childliberationfoundation/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kid

Coming up this week: 5-9 Feb

Sun, 04 Feb 2024 17:00:00 +1300

Welcome to this Weekly update:
On the show we have Paul Hutchinson Executive Producer of The Sound of Freedom movie. This focuses on the hideous crime of child sex trafficking. Not only did Paul help produce this movie, he was also personally involved in 70 rescue missions across 15 countries. What he has to share about this is mind blowing.
The associated survivor tip is on Breaking the Chain, which survivors will relate to.
All of this, and more can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Being Believed Blog

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Being Believed
Survivors,
One of the hallmarks of being a survivor can come with the experience of not being believed. This appears in many forms but usually begins with
Are you Sure?
He or She seemed so nice.
This leads to feelings of confusion, fear and sometimes anger.
All are valid. I wish survivors speaking out came with a clause that whoever they shared this with had to accept and believe unconditionally the truth they are hearing.
It is unfair, wrong and oh so typical of enablers and others, to have this attitude, but more importantly it is devastating to survivors.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going.

If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #40 - Being Believed

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Being Believed
This is linked to Donna's interview held this month and listed across social media platforms.
Being believed is really powerful for your survivor. It helps to give validation, builds more of a sense of who they are, alongside confidence.
Make sure you are proud and show tit through: a gift, or doing something special for them (use any of the 5 love languages to show your pride in them), and dedicate that to the survivor.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 29 Jan - 2 Feb

Sun, 28 Jan 2024 17:00:00 +1300

Welcome to this Weekly update:
On the show we have my blog on Being Believed, to my mind the most powerful experience a survivor can have, listen as to why this is the case.
We also have my tip for supporting survivors which is on Being Believed. This has A Huge Impact on Survivors.
All of this, and more can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #40: Legacy

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Your Legacy
This is linked to Kristi McVee's interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.
Survivors, you can end up working in environments doing the EXACT work you wish had been done when you were suffering through the worst of the abuse.
Legacy's can creep in unbidden: EG One survivor not being aware she had been abused, had spent her working life involved in the investigation of children suffering sexual abuse. In a nutshell her legacy found her: Sometimes our legacy will find us!!
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Kristi McVee Interview - Part 2

Wed, 24 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Part 2
Speaker. Author. Ex-child Abuse Detective and Specialist Child Interviewer
She was abused at 6, and told her grandma who immediately contacted her father.
He came and got her and she was never taken back.
Kristi believes that CSA is worse than murder as entire lives have been destroyed and the impact casts a shadow over the whole lifetime. Compare this with murder: once it is done, it is over and done with.
You can reach her through her website at www.cape-au.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Kristi McVee Interview - Part 1

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Kristi McVee
Speaker. Author. Ex-child abuse detective and specialist child interviewer
She was abused at 6, and told her grandma who immediately contacted her father.
He came and got her and she was safe from that point on.
She completely blocked her memories of this, and they only surfaced once she had left the police and her daughter turned 6.
You can reach her through her website at www.cape-au.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 22-26 Jan

Sun, 21 Jan 2024 17:00:00 +1300

Welcome to this Weekly update:
On the show we have Kristi McVee Speaker. Author. Ex-child abuse detective and specialist child interviewer
She was abused at 6, blocked it, told grandma who told dad. He instantly removed her from the abuser's environment. Her memories surfaced once she had left the police and her daughter turned. 6.
The associated survivor tip is on the Legacy we leave as survivors.
All of this, and more can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #39: Being Believed

Fri, 19 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Being Believed
This is linked to Donna Bulatowicz interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.
This is one of the most powerful, if not the most powerful experience a survivor can have. Being Believed helps to reduce the trauma because you feel vindicated and validated. It also helps decrease the shame, and encourages further disclosure, which leads to wanting to heal more fully and feel more confident about doing that.
We should all be believed, it is a basic human right.
Honour how you need to feel with this, and notice the impact should someone say they believe you!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Donna Bulatowicz Interview - Part 2

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Donna Bulatowicz - Part 2
Teacher. Writer. Survivor.
As a young girl, Donna was abused by another girl for several years, and then by a teacher when she was 9.
In this 2nd part, Donna shares what helped her recovery and healing: Physically moving away from the area, and becoming a teacher, using writing, were part of it.
She recognises that becoming the adult she most needed when she was a child, was a big healing factor for her. Her advice to survivors. Believe yourself
You can reach Donna through her facebook page:
https://m.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100000059229875
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Donna Bulatowicz Interview - Part 1

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Donna Bulatowicz - Part 1
Teacher. Writer. Survivor.
As a young girl, Donna was abused by another girl for several years, and then by a teacher when she was 9. This was to go on for 3 years. When she finally told her parents and school counsellor, she was Instantly believed. The police, however, did not believe her, the reason given: Because 'A Woman wouldn’t molest a child'!
You can reach Donna through her facebook page:
https://m.facebook.com/profile.php/?id=100000059229875HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 15-19 Jan

Sun, 14 Jan 2024 17:00:00 +1300

Welcome to this Weekly update:
On the show we have Donna Bulatowicz who is a teacher, writer and survivor.
She was abused by another child for several years, then again by a teacher for 3 years between the ages of 9 - 12. There are some shocking twists to this story.
The associated survivor tip is on Being Believed and the impact this had on her.
All of this, and more can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

New Year Update

Fri, 05 Jan 2024 12:00:00 +1300

Happy New Year Everyone
We haven't forgotten you!
We are having a well deserved break and preparing an amazing line up for you.
We will commence streaming on Monday 15th January.
Don't miss out!!

Love to all
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#survivors

Survivor Tip #38: Admitting Abuse

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Admitting Abuse
This is linked to Stuart Lord's interviews held earlier this week, and listed across social media platforms.
When an abuser admits what they did, the reaction you have may surprise you. Initially you just need to breathe, as you will be in shock: understandable, as you were conditioned to never speak of it.
Please allow yourself to feel what you need to: This could be anger, sadness, relief, among others. Honour how you need to feel and be gentle with yourself.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Stuart Lord Interview - Part 2

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Stuart Lord - Part 2
Survivor. Educator. Social Justice Advocate
Stuart is the founder of the boy scouts survivor group of America, and from the age of 11, was abused by his Scout Leader, among others. He believes that when His abuser admitted the abuse, he felt 100 pounds lighter. What helped his recovery was largely Self-Care and Self-Compassion, and that practising it daily brought huge rewards.
You can reach Stuart on https://www.drstuartlord.com
https://bsasurvivors.squarespace.com/config/ & https://www.stuartforbvsd.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Stuart Lord Interview - Part 1

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Stuart Lord - Part 1
Survivor. Educator. Social Justice Advocate
Stuart is the founder of the boy scouts survivor group of America, and from the age of 11, was abused by (among others) people within the boy scouts of America executive team. His main abuser eventually admitted the abuse, after decades, and what transpired next, is phenomenal. You can reach Stuart on https://www.drstuartlord.com
https://bsasurvivors.squarespace.com/config/ & https://www.stuartforbvsd.com
HELP
NZ
Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 18-22 Dec

Sun, 17 Dec 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel is Stuart Lord who is the founder of the boy scouts survivor group of America, and who was abused by (among others) people within the executive team. His main abuser eventually admitted the abuse, after decades, and what transpired next, is phenomenal.
The associated survivor tip is on how to deal with a predator who Admits Abuse, can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #37: Body Boundaries

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Body Boundaries
This is linked to Cathy Studer's interviews held earlier this week, and listed on the channel.
Because of the sexual abuse we endured, our boundaries were shattered, which can leave us with issues around this when people want to touch us.
Someone may want to give you a kiss or hug, and if you don't feel comfortable, its ok for you to step away, or say 'I'm not a hugger'. Equally, you may be a survivor who touches people whether they like it or not, and this needs to be addressed, as is likely to be a hangover from the past.
Just know that your body belongs to you, you decide who can touch it or not, and how.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cathy Studer Interview - Part 2

Wed, 13 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cathy Studer
Award winning author and CSA Prevention advocate.
Between the ages of 6 - 12 Cathy was abused by stepfather tricked her into believing her mum knew but didn't care. When she was 12, a note was found which changed everything. She was instantly believed by her mother and removed from the situation that night . She believes that gratitude and self compassion helped her enormously and that negative self talk is very significant for survivors to pay attention to.
You can find her books and reach Cathy at www.cathystuder.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Cathy Studer Interview - Part 1

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Cathy Studer
Award winning author and CSA Prevention advocate.
Between the ages of 6 - 12 Cathy was abused by stepfather who told her her mum knew, but did not want to discuss it with her. He also made her write what he was doing to her from the age of 10, and the abuse finally stopped once her mother found the notebook when she was 12.
You can find her books and reach Cathy at www.cathystuder.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 11-15 Dec

Sun, 10 Dec 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel is Cathy Studer, who from 6 - 12 was abused by stepfather who told her her mum knew -but didn't want to talk about it.
He also made her write what he was doing to her from the age of 10, and the abuse finally stopped once her mother found the notebook when she was 12.
The associated survivor tip is on body boundaries, and can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #36: - Validation

Fri, 08 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Validation
This is linked to Frank Rogers interviews held earlier this week, and listed on the channel.
We need validation because, as survivors, we have been shut down and disbelieved.
Validation helps honour who we are and supports our truth.
We can find this through movies, documentaries, listening to other survivors, and podcasts. Anything that supports you is considered to be validation.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Frank Rogers Interview - Part 2

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Frank Rogers
Survivor. Teacher. Author.
Frank experienced intergenerational abuse in several ways: he was sexually abused by his mother from infancy throughout his childhood and raped by his step grandfather twice. He was also abused by a priest at 7 years old, who wanted to play sex games.
He lost his sister to suicide because she couldn’t cope with her own abuse memories.
He has done lots of healing, and wants survivors to know that feelings and emotions are there for a reason: and to take the U turn to understand why the are there. Our linked Survivor tip #36 will be on validation, as he found validation really helped him through movies, podcasts, books, memoirs and hearing about others survivor stories.
You can reach out to him and find his books at: frogers@cst.edu
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Frank Rogers Interview - Part 1

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Frank Rogers
Survivor. Teacher. Author.
Frank experienced intergenerational abuse in several ways: he was sexually abused by his mother from infancy throughout his childhood and raped by his step grandfather twice. He was also abused by a priest qt 7 years old, who wanted to play sex games. He suppressed it all till his son was born, then just erupted when he saw his mother touching his son. You can reach out to him at: frogers@cst.edu
Author of:
Cradled in the arms of compassion
Practicing Compassion (Top 5 spirituality books 2016)
Compassion in Practice: The Way of Jesus
Finding God in the Graffiti: Empowering Teenagers through Stories
The God of Shattered Glass
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 4-8 Dec

Sun, 03 Dec 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel is the amazing Frank Rogers who was abused by mother from birth, abused by grandfather a few times throughout his childhood, and then asked to play sex games by a catholic priest at age 7.
The associated survivor tip is on validation and can be found on all our social media platforms @handingtheshameback as well as our website and social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Tips for Supporting Survivors #39

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Having Someone
If you're reading this - that someone is probably you.
Please know how important you actually are.
Let me explain: Because the abuse occurred in secrecy and silence and they were alone, this meant they were isolated and couldn't share, they were too scared.
Having you means they now can.
Be available so you can hear what is uppermost in their minds, and gently support them, being calm, accepting and gentle, feel less traumatising for them
.
For more tips and ideas, feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors
#handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

Having Someone

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors,
Having someone who stands by you and supports you is gold.
The feeling it evokes when that person has your back, is almost indescribable.
For some of us it happens easily, for others it can take us years to find that right person, because of the trust.
Trust is huge for us - trusting anyone will be an issue, breaking that silence is difficult, as it is so much more than just words; it breaks the cycle and awakens deeply buried fears.
Please just know that having someone means you are healing and on your way to more peace and love in your life, is powerful.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
Donate please, this helps us keep going.
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 27 Nov - 1 Dec

Sun, 26 Nov 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel is my blog on Having Someone.
This is so important for us as survivors - support, not being the least of it. We also have tips for supporting survivors for those who support survivors, Don't miss this!.
These can all be found on our website and all other social media platforms including YouTube, handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn.
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #35: Grooming

Fri, 24 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Grooming
As adult survivors, did you know we could still be carrying remnants of that into adult lives today? We were groomed through threats, bribery and treats, and could still be feeling responsible or guilty for what they did to us, today!
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

April Giauque Interview - Part 2

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet April Giauque
Ghostwriter. Author. Podcaster.
She was abused the summer she was 7 by a senior in high school. To deal with the trauma she worked at being pleasing, a perfectionist and quality performer in all things. Eventually she realised these became the poison she would swallow. She also learned that self forgiveness is not 'one and done.' Find her on: https://www.facebook.com/april.giauque
https://www.facebook.com/apriltribegiauqueauthor https://wwm/aprilgiauquew.instagram.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/april-tribe-giauque-msed-455578145/ https://twitter.com/TribeApril https://www.pinterest.com/apriltribegiauque/ www.apriltribegiauque.com https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIHWTfL9q2jawYGqN6W1yOg?view_as=subscriber
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

April Giauque Interview - Part 1

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet April Giauque
Ghostwriter. Author. Podcaster.
She was abused the summer she was 7 by a senior in high school. The manipulation and grooming was calculated and effective, he knew exactly who he was targeting. She feels her father, her writing and her light have really helped her to heal. You can find April on https://www.facebook.com/april.giauque https://www.facebook.com/apriltribegiauqueauthor https://wwm/aprilgiauquew.instagram.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/april-tribe-giauque-msed-455578145/ https://twitter.com/TribeApril https://www.pinterest.com/apriltribegiauque/ www.apriltribegiauque.com https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIHWTfL9q2jawYGqN6W1yOg?view_as=subscriber
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 20-26 Nov

Sun, 19 Nov 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel is survivor April Giauque.
She was abused one summer by a senior from high school. The manipulation and grooming was calculated and effective. He knew exactly who he was targeting..
Grooming is our survivor tip for the week and can be found on our website and all other social media platforms: handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #34 - Having Someone

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Having Someone
Is crucial for us as survivors.
What started our abuse was the secrecy, silence and shame. It was hidden as was our voice. Having someone, among other things helps us to vocalise and share our experiences in safe settings with support from people who love us. (Among other things)

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Angela Williams Interview - Part 2

Wed, 15 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Angela Williams - Part 2
Survivor. Advocate. Author.
00:52 Angela's Story continued
05.39 A Hot mess
11.49 No Adults helped her
20:52 Summary
She was abused by her stepfather from age 3 - 17, and at times tortured. Her mother did not help. She considers what helped her recovery and healing from this abuse, was her resilience, and that survivors unwittingly have so much of this. You can reach Angela on all social media platforms: @angelasvoice or her website angelasvoice.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Angela Williams Interview - Part 1

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Angela Williams - Part 1
Survivor. Advocate. Author.
01:05 Angela's Story
07.09 Child Humiliation
14.24 Snapped at 16
23:11 Summary
She was abused by her stepfather from age 3 - 17, and the physical, sexual and emotional abuse she experienced, makes it miraculous she survived. She considers what helped her recovery and healing from this abuse, was her resilience, the support of her husband, and her faith. Yu can reach Angela on all social media platforms: @angelasvoice or her website angelasvoice.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Coming up this week: 13-17 Nov

Sun, 12 Nov 2023 17:00:00 +1300

Weekly updates on the channel delivered fresh to your door.
This week on our YT Channel our survivor is Angela Williams
She was abused by her stepfather from age 3 - 17, how she survived and what she experienced was a nightmare beyond all proportions.
Eventually, Having someone helped her recover and heal.
That becomes our survivor tip for the week and can be found on our website and all other social media platforms: handingtheshameback.org and IG, FB, Twitter, TikTok and LinkedIn
#handingtheshameback
#handsign4kids
#believesurvivors

Survivor Tip #33 - Repressed Memories

Fri, 10 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Repressed memories
This is a very common for us as survivors.
It simply means the mind buried what happened, because the events were too traumatic for us to deal with at the time, in other words the mind was trying to protect us.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Gigi Kilroe Interview - Part 2

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Gigi Kilroe Part 2
Survivor. Advocate. Author and Speaker.
Quick recap: Gigi was abused by her half brother 13 years older than her from the age of 4, while her mother lay dying of cancer in the bedroom next door.
You wont want to miss her remarkable story.
You can reach out to Gigi on https://www.facebook.com/gigi.kilroe?mibextid=9R9pXO Her book is called From Within: My Path of Hope and Healing from Sexual Abuse https://a.co/d/j7BAoZY
https://instagram.com/gk797979?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ or Email: kilroegigi@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Gigi Kilroe Interview - Part 1

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Gigi Kilroe
Survivor. Advocate. Author and Speaker.
For ease of viewing go to:
01:22 Gigi's Story
07.11 The photo revealing all
14.34 Noticing children the age you were abused
Gigi was 4 years old when her half brother 13 years older began abusing her while her mother lay in the bedroom dying of cancer. You wont want to miss her remarkable story. You can reach out to Gigi on https://www.facebook.com/gigi.kilroe?mibextid=9R9pXO Her book is called
From Within: My Path of Hope and Healing from Sexual Abuse https://a.co/d/j7BAoZY
https://instagram.com/gk797979?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ or Email: kilroegigi@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

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Sun, 05 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +1300

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Survivor Interviews are published on the channel each week.
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Survivor Tip #32 - Self-Sabotage

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors and self sabotage
This shows itself in us refusing to ask for help, or not completing a deadline in time,
It may be that we start picking fights or continually setting goals that are too high.
Doing any of these are damaging and considered self sabotage, which is considered one of the hallmarks of child sexual abuse. For some tips have a listen, it may just surprise you.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Nathan Spiteri Interview - Part 2

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Nathan Spiteri - Part 2 of his story
00:00 Introduction & Recap
01:16 Impacts and navigating healing
23:22 Summary
Nathan is a Survivor. Advocate. Writer. Actor
He was targeted and groomed by a stranger at the local pools. He was raped from the age of 8 until he was 13 years old, and he ended up being a Stockholm relationship. He feels that what helped him was saying the words, it’s not my fault., and owning what hurt he had caused others through his subsequent behaviour and finding forgiveness. You can reach out to Nathan through his website https://www.nathanspiteri.com/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Nathan Spiteri Interview - Part 1

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

00:00 Introduction
00:55 Nathan's Story
25:35 Summary
Meet Nathan Spiteri - Part 1 of his story
Survivor. Advocate. Writer. Actor
Nathan was targeted and groomed by a stranger at the local pools. He was raped from the age of 8 until he was 13 years old, and felt he ended up being a Stockholm relationship. He has achieved much since then including writing a book and doing a TedTalk, all to help other survivors. You can reach out to Nathan through his website https://www.nathanspiteri.com/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Tips for Supporting Survivors #38

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Dysregulation
This is commonly described as someone who struggles with managing emotions, or controlling their impulsive behaviour. This is a common feature survivors have and sometimes they don't know they are doing it, or even how to manage it.
In those moments what you can do is provide a calm and nurturing environment till they can settle back into emotional regulation. For more tips and ideas, feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors
#handsign4kids

To learn more reach out to
https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

Silence

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors, Silence has been used against us in destructive and manipulative ways, mainly to keep us silent and therefore the secret, hidden and buried.
Did you know that silence is available to us to use as well?
We can use it in conversation with people who struggle to hear our stories, or who minimise them when they.
Instead of justifying ourselves, lets just use silence as our response..
It is powerful.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #31 - Family ties

Fri, 20 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors
Not having a relationship with family members is difficult enough without people judging us for it. In this clip I discuss ways to navigate this, as well as offering congratulations to you for having the courage to stand up for what you believe. By choosing to end those relationships, is exactly what you needed to do. How do I know this? Because you did it.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Marita Murphy Interview - Part 2

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Marita Murphy:
Victim. Survivor. Advocate.
This is part 2 of Marita's story.
She was initially sexually abused by a teenage boy & friend of the family, meant to care for her.
Her first night in that home, age 7 changed the trajectory of her whole life. She discusses the ongoing battle she has in trying to seek justice and be recompensed for what she suffered. She has support behind her, but faces obstacles with every avenue she turns down.
For more on her story and to understand what she is currently facing, you can reach out to Marita on murphymarita85@gmail.com and watch her documentary here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh1ODu2JdSA
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Marita Murphy Interview - Part 1

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Marita Murphy:
Victim. Survivor. Advocate.
This is part 1 of Marita's story.
She was initially sexually abused by a teenage boy & friend of the family, meant to care for her. Her first night in that home, age 7 changed the trajectory of her whole life.
What helped her through was being believed and returned to her mothers care, her love of horses and books. for more on her story and to understand what she is currently facing, you can reach out to Marita on murphymarita85@gmail.com and watch her documentary here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh1ODu2JdSA
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #30 - Not Giving up

Fri, 13 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Hey Survivors
This is linked to Lorward Choi's interview, now live on YouTube.
Not giving up on yourself, can be a real challenge. E.g., stopping the self care, the self love and can even include not having your own back. Here's one idea on how to combat this: You are here for a reason, you made it through for a reason, and even one thing you may say may help even one other person.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Lorward Choi Interview - Part 2

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Lorward Choi
Survivor. Optimist. Brother.
In this: Part 2 of his interview, Lorward discusses the challenges he faced, sometimes on a daily basis when it all felt really hard. How not giving up could happen in small ways as a survivor, and that even one small action, like making his bed, could be considered a win, especially on those difficult days. Just to recap on Part 1, in case you missed it: Lorward was groomed and abused in his first year at college by someone who was considered a friend. This person was three years older and over several years repeatedly manipulated, groomed and abused him. You can reach out to him on email at lorwardchoi@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Lorward Choi Interview - Part 1

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Lorward Choi
Brother. Optimist. Survivor.
He was groomed and abused in his first year at college by someone who was considered a friend. This person was three years older and over several years repeatedly manipulated, groomed and abused him. What helped Lorward through his healing was Journaling, Advocacy and Therapy. You can reach out to him on email at: lorwardchoi4@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #29 - Dysregulation

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors
This tip is linked to Juanita Phillips interview, which is now live on YouTube.
We need to understand dysregulation and how it affects us: It shows itself in our inability to control or regulate our emotional responses. For example: we may experience overly intense emotions, compulsive behaviour or may struggle with decision making or avoiding difficult emotions. The big one we struggle to manage our own behaviour at times. See which one is you, and listen to some tips on how to best manage this.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Juanita Phillips Interview - Part 2

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Juanita Phillips
Survivor. Advocate. Poet.
In this: Part 2 of her interview, Juanita discusses how Dysregulation affected her life as a survivor. She talks about how it showed up, and how she learned to manage it.
Just to recap on Part 1, in case you missed it: Junita survived abuse from 8 perpetrators starting from the age of 3. She tried to get justice by going to court, not once but twice. What helped her was the unconditional love she got from pets, and telling someone with the same sort of history helped. You can contact her on Email: juanitmil@aol.co.uk or Phone: +44 0779 4674953
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Juanita Phillips Interview - Part 1

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Juanita Phillips
Survivor. Advocate. Poet.
She survived abuse from 8 perpetrators starting from the age of 3. She tried to get justice by going to court, not once but twice. The first time in the late 90’s and then again in 2017. Juanita felt that not much has changed, within the justice system, it is still not a good experience. What helped her was the unconditional love she got from pets, and telling someone with the same sort of history helped. You can contact her on Email: juanitmil@aol.co.uk or Phone: +44 0779 4674953
A Healing Poem
There she is, our beautiful star, beaming light on me from ever so far.
Warming my body and soothing my mind.
How lucky am I, this peace here to find.
The green field; it beckons, the dog leads the way.
A robin is singing 🎶 let’s hear what the earth has to say 🎶.
My footsteps tread lightly, my soul here it’s free.
Then right here beside me, the mighty oak tree.
Calming my spirit and holding me tight.
Whispering to me “it’ll all be alright”.
The seasons are with us, with you and with me.
Just as the world’s turning, all’s as it should be.
By Juanita Phillips
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Justifying

Wed, 27 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1300

All too often as survivors we find ourselves justifying what happened, over explaining, compensating, rationalising and defending our position.
Stop doing that.
We don't owe anything to anyone, the abusers are the ones that should be doing this. Its important to realise our over explaining is just our wounded child needing validation, and we need to hold our heads up high and hold our power.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handsign4kids
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #28 - Get out of Your own Way

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Survivors:
Sometimes we have an intention or a wish to have certain things experienced.
We put it out there and hope it will happen. BUT: Then we get really busy, scrambling to MAKE it happen. STOP!! Get out of your own way.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #handsign4kids #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Phillippa Corney Interview: Trigger Warning

Fri, 22 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivor, advocate, Traditional Chinese Medicine Practitioner
'After decades, a NZ woman reveals her explosive escape from the SRA cult she was meant to lead'. This is Phillippa's story.
She was abused by her grandfather from when she was a baby and then subsequently over the years. He had trained her father to be a perpetrator as well, and her mother was complicit in the abuse, as was controlled by the cult her grandfather belonged to.
You can reach out to Phillippa at email: phillippa@clearqiacupuncture.com - (from October this will change to: phillippa@clearqiholistichealing.com)
www.clearqiacupuncture.com - (From October this will change to: www.clearqiholistichealing.com)HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback #handsign4kids

Survivor Tip #27 Seeing your Abuser

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
Seeing your Abuser
This provides insight into responses triggered by seeing your abuser unexpectedly. Your behaviour may surprise you, especially if they were not charged, or just got away with what they did. Please, if you don't know what to do: do nothing! That way you cant look back in time to come, and regret your actions.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Rehann Handford Interview

Fri, 15 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Rehann Handford,
Dad. Survivor. and Mens Mental Health Advocate.
He was sexually Abused between 7 and 12 years of age by a male family friend around 5 years older than he was. Unsurprisingly, this impacted Reehan's entire life.
He believes that it is ok to not be ok, and to allow yourself to work through that.
When he finally shared the truth of his abuse with someone, he walked out of that office feeling so light, he almost felt like a feather.
You can reach out to Rehann on email: essentialoilbro@gmail.com or IG @essential_oil_bro
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #37

Wed, 13 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.
Sometimes your survivor telling their story to people who struggle with cognitive dissonance, can be counterproductive, as they end up feeling not believed or that it is a personal slight on them. Please do remind them that people do the best they can with what they know, and that for some, child sexual abuse is too much to handle, so may be easier for your survivor to stop putting themselves through it by trying to share with those people!

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors
#handsign4kids

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Survivor Tip #26

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
We need to look for the positives in our lives. We sometimes default to existing in our trauma responses, and being careful, cautious and over anxious. Lets instead start to look for what is going right. The old saying what we give our attention to grows is true. Gratitude works.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Rachel Vaughan Interview

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Rachel Vaughan
Abused from when she was a toddler, what Rachel has been through is unimaginable. This brave survivor says that speaking out has helped her enormously, as has writing and having the support of her siblings. She is determined that this abuse will not ruin her life, and says speaking with other survivors, speaking publicly about her abuse, and therefore helping others to deal with their trauma - turning a negative into a positive has also been incredible. What also helped was presenting the evidence which proves the corruption preventing a proper investigation into her abusers/those who perpetrated even worse abuse on other children.
You can reach out to Rachel on:
YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@rachelvaughan5992
RUMBLE https://rumble.com/user/RachelVaughan
BITCHUTE https://www.bitchute.com/channel/z061vh12khwg/
Website: 6thscience.com and Webpage: https://elink.io/p/rachelvaughan-9b0a547
Telegram t.me/RachelVaughan
Rachel Vaughan Telegram chat t.me/SRAMKsurvivor
Please sign the petition to exhume the remains of the three Beaumont children from a sink hole at Rachel’s father Alan Maxwell McIntyre's former property at Stansbury on the Yorke Peninsula (South Australia) https://www.change.org/p/missing-beaumont-children-sapol-to-dig-the-sink-hole-at-mcintyre-road-stansbury

Survivor Tip #25 Cognitive Dissonance

Mon, 04 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
Cognitive Dissonance
Describes the mental discomfort people feel when their beliefs clash with reality. With CSA they want to believe that people are good and children are safe. When confronted with your story, it messes with their minds and leaves them conflicted. This translates to you not being validated the way you had hoped.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

John Callas Interview

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +1200

John Callas
Filmmaker. Survivor. Author
John's trauma began when he was 3 and his dad died. His sisters friend tried to rape him when he was 11, this deeply impacted his trust of women, and was solidified when his mum sent him to military school at 13. Once there, his headmaster took a liking to him and began grooming him, coming into his room at night. This was to continue until he was 15 years old. It was at that point he attempted suicide. John believes that 'You decide the thesis of your life, you can start by getting a blank piece of paper and writing your own script'.
You can get in touch with John through:
Web Site: https://johncallas.com/ Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Callas
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-callas-3648837/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/johnpcallas Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/john.callas.1
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnpcallas/Medium: https://medium.com/@johncallasIMDB: https://pro.imdb.com/name/nm0130327?ref_=hm_prof_photo GoodReads: ttps://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6197654.John_Callas
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDLu6O11LsBeGZHKHCcNUcw/featuredn
Books Amazon Central: https://www.amazon.com/~/e/B004U7GSZA

Survivor Tip #24

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
Trusting your instinct is something we constantly need to revisit.
It will be difficult, as we couldn't follow our instinct during the abuse, we were powerless children. Right there is the premise for not trusting ourselves as an adult!
Quick tip: Before you make a decision on anything important; check in with how you feel. If you feel anxious or concerned, that is your instinctual response saying: 'Don't do it'.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Emma Jane Taylor Interview

Fri, 25 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Emma Jane Taylor
Survivor.Campaigner/Founder Project 9010
90 being the percentage of abusers known to child, the other 10 being the percentage of strangers, therefore unknown to the child.
At age 9 years, Emma Jane was abused, and this was a one off occurrence. Two years later, her Dad left the family when she was 11. She was then groomed and abused by a family friend during her early teenage years. Her advice to survivors is simple: What makes you feel better is what you should do, it is a very bespoke journey. She also believes you should not run before you can walk. In other words take your time with your healing.
You can reach out to Emma-Jane onTwitter handle is @ejtayloruk www.emmajanetaylor.com
Official Merchandise (link https://www.notmyshame.global/)
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Power and Survivors

Wed, 23 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

For Survivors of sexual abuse: Feeling confident doesn't happen naturally, the fear and paralysis can be so strong, it can re-traumatise us if ignored. It is to be expected that we would struggle with people in positions of power and control and this is what underlies the abuse we suffered. Some things to try that may help:
Establish clear boundaries
Become more assertive
Build a support network
Practise self care
Use grounding techniques

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #23 Walking on Eggshells

Mon, 21 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors at times:
We feel blocked. There is a massive elephant in the room, because we know others don't want to know what happened to us, but we actually need them to, for our sake.
Quick tip, try messaging before meeting them, to check in the temperature on you being honest and real.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Greg Evans Interview

Fri, 18 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Greg Evans
Survivor.Survivor Advocate.Vlogger.
He survived Dilworth School, and the physical sexual and emotional abuse by teachers and older boys. He understandably had repressed these memories. He recommends to other survivors; Dont be afraid to open yourselves up to opportunities that may take away the pain. What helped him were finding creative outlets like, blogging and developing inner well being. You can reach out to Greg at https://www.facebook.com/dilworthsurvivors
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #36

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.
Did you know there are 4 main Love languages and they include: Kindness, Spending time with, Physical touch or Gifts.
Your survivor's love language may not be yours, as we are all different.
But....By understanding what theirs is, you can start to use that with them, then watch them blossom!!
Make sure to share yours as well, this will help your relationship like you wouldn't believe.
Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

Social Media Handles

https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack/

https://handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com/

https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloriamasters16handingtheshameback16nonprofit/

https://twitter.com/HandinShameBack

Survivor Tip #22

Mon, 14 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
Feeling Triggered is something we will experience throughout our lives.
This is especially hard in situations where we have to do an introduction to new people eg here is a couple things about me, so I've come up with a couple of things that may help navigate that.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Mekaela Nance Interview

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Mekaela Nance
Dog mum. Survivor. Musician

She is from North Carolina, and the youngest of 4 children, the only girl.
She was abused by her brother 5.5 years older than her. This began when she was 9 and even occurred with her other two brothers in the room. When she told her mother the response was: 'He wouldn’t do that to you'. Her message to survivors: Dont ever give up. You yourself and your future is worth every difficult conversation you will ever have.
You can email Mekaela on mekaelabn@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #21 Connection

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors
Its time to think about connection.
Connection with people that matter: friends and family who know what you went through but don't know what to do about it or they know something, just not the full story, so struggle to understand you and your behaviour at times.
The main point being, you must be protected, and resourced around them, it is not your job to try and make it easy or palatable for people to learn about your childhood abuse. Repeat that out loud.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Sam Troth walking NZ

Sun, 06 Aug 2023 19:00:00 +1200

Meet Sam Troth
Back again, this time walking the width of NZ to raise awareness for the male survivors of child sexual abuse.
He is passionate, dedicated and motivated.
Join me in supporting him!

John-Michael Lander Interview

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet John-Michael
Survivor.Athlete & Advocate
John survived years of sexual abuse and grooming both within and outside of the home. He was
Abused by those entrusted to get him to the Olympics, instead he became a trafficked teenager and was auctioned at silent bids.He states as a child: 'I cant tell you about the abuse, but if you ask me, I am free to tell you'. He also advises survivors that 'When you are lonely, and feel alone, just remember that is a moment in time, it will pass.' You can reach him on Email: johnmichael.lander@gmail.com An Athlete’s Silence Website: anathletessilence.com or Media Page: Media Page (anathletessilence.com) Instragram: johnmichaellander; https://www.instagram.com/johnmichaellander/?hl=en
Facebook: John-Michael Lander; https://www.facebook.com/lucas.lander.14
An Athlete’s Silence: https://www.facebook.com/johnmichaellander1214
YouTube: John-Michael Lander https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-oLvS3fcGg-VTffXP89q-Q TikTok: @lucas27land; Twitter: @jm27land Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnmichaellander-31131075/ Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=john-michael+lander The Self-Talk Institute, http://www.selftalkstore.com/ The Self-Talk Plus App, https://www.selftalkplus.com?utm_refer=Jmla The Army of Survivors: https://thearmyofsurvivors.org
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #20

Mon, 31 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors:
How and when should you tell your kids about your abuse?
First check in with yourself, is this your need to share, or is it going to be helpful for your children? Under 16's I don't advise telling them anything in detail, you need to be age/stage appropriate. When they are older you can talk more freely, but remember, to them: you are their beautiful mum or dad and this will impact them.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Lisa Cameron Interview

Fri, 28 Jul 2023 04:00:00 +1200

Meet Lisa Cameron
Mother. CSA Survivor. Warrior.
Lisa was abused for years, from the time she was 2 years of age, until she was around 23. The abuse was far reaching and yet somehow she made it through. She believes that validating your emotions is important, and that they need to be felt. She also feels that grounding techniques work, and are valid as well.
She can be reached on lisacameron829@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #19 - Lets Celebrate

Mon, 24 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors:
Let's Celebrate
How far you've come and what you've managed to achieve . Look at what you are now able to do in your life. We tend to beat ourselves up for not doing enough, or that we should do more. STOP, Take the win, believe you deserve to celebrate where you are at.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Lake Alice Panel Discussion [Severe Trigger Warning]

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

SEVERE TRIGGER WARNING.
Disturbing Content - Viewer Discretion Advised
Lake Alice Hospital, was a rural psychiatric facility in the South Island of NZ. Former patients suffered extreme abuse during the 1970s, including the use of electroconvulsive therapy and paraldehyde injections as punishment. With me are two survivors Malcolm Richards and Karilyn Wildbore. Their stories though harrowing are true and we at HTSB stand beside them, hoping you will too. The final panelist is Neil Harding who is an instrumental part in the class action against Dilworth, (a north island school where extreme abuse and suffering occurred) states ‘We stand on their shoulders.’
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Telling your children

Wed, 19 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Before you launch into telling your children about your abuse, some valuable questions to ask yourself first is why? Why now? Who will this benefit? How can you do this safely?
If the answers are more about you than them, you may not be ready to share this.
If, however, it is the right time: here’s some things to consider:
Before discussing this, make sure you have processed your own emotions and have a support system in place. It's important to be emotionally prepared to handle their reactions and provide the necessary support.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #18 - Survivor Guilt

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors:
It is time to realise that guilt about younger siblings being abused, has no place in our lives anymore.
If you had a younger brother or sister there is no way you could have protected them from the abuse. You, yourself were a child, and it was not possible for you to defend against what the adults had already chosen to do. You were a child they were in charge. They had all the power, you had none.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Chris Tuck Interview

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Chris Tuck
Activist. Survivor. Author.
Chris survived sexual abuse at the age of 9 and then again at 15. She also endured physical and emotional abuse while living in both her mother and fathers homes, where domestic violence was the norm. She believes that Survivors should honour themselves enough to take things at their own pace. Her website is: Charity website Http://www.survivorsofabuse.org.uk. Chris is also an author of two books: Through the Eyes of a Child https://amzn.eu/d/0D4YY9B and Breaking the Cycle™: C.L.E.A.N.E.R.™ Living Therapy Programme https://amzn.eu/d/7kXoWMV
If you would like to reach out to Chris go to Twitter @christuck_wwhf, and Linked In as Chris Tuck.
She also hosts a podcast on Youtube called BreakingTheCycleToStepForward.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/ we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #35

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.
This month is on intimacy and sexual relationships, and the challenges that can emerge.
Be real with the survivor about what your experience is, the gift of truth cannot be underestimated.
At the same time try to be open to hear what the challenges are for your amazing partner.

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

Social Media Handles

https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack/

https://handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com/

https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloriamasters16handingtheshameback16nonprofit/

https://twitter.com/HandinShameBack

Survivor Tip #17

Mon, 10 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Give ourselves permission to struggle at times with intimacy and intimate relationships. This is a topic not often discussed as once again shame can be a factor. Because of the sexual abuse we endured; we can often feel triggered, sometimes even anxious and unsure.
This is all perfectly normal. As soon as we can accept those feelings, and begin to work through them, they can feel less challenging. Have a listen here, and see if this speaks to you.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Kane Brisco Interview

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Kane Brisco.
Survivor. Dad. Husband. Farmer
Kane was abused between 8-9 years old by a teenager known to his Uncle.
He didn't tell anyone for years and wishes he had done so earlier. He believes if you can open the box you can start to heal, and the weight that is lifted is phenomenal.
You can reach out to Kane through farmfitnz@hotmail.com or follow him on IG or FB at https://www.instagram.com/farmfit_nz/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #16

Mon, 03 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Consider how we deal with Medical appointments specifically smear tests for women and prostate exam for men. Even going to the dentist can be challenging for us as survivors, at times.
These appointments, by their very nature, can trigger us, so we need to be aware of how we want them conducted, for example; whether we want every aspect discussed with us, or if we prefer just to have a generalised conversation.
There is no one size fits all, but we need to honour ourselves and how we would like this to be conducted.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Jodie Herlihy Interview

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Jodie Herlihy. Survivor.

Jodie survived 28 years of relentless targeted sexual abuse from her stepfather. Her son is the product and the most amazing gift, as a result of this horrendous, ongoing and targeted abuse. She feels that what helped her was forgiving herself, stopping judgement of herself and connecting with herself.
Her advice to survivors is to unapologetically Just Be You! You can reach her on TikTok tiktok.com/@jodieherlihy and on FB @Jodie Herlihy
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #15

Mon, 26 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Start using our Minds
It is the most powerful thing we have. There will never be a device or computer that can begin to measure up to what our minds can provide us.
Start to use it in a simple way: Test it out.
Simply visualise a butterfly appearing, then go about your day.
Dont be surprised if over the next few days, butterflies start appearing everywhere, you go.
Thats just one small example of how powerful your mind is
Do it, it works!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Shawn Wildermuth Interview

Fri, 23 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Shawn Wildermuth from Atlanta Georgia. Survivor. Author.Filmmaker.
He was abused at 6, then again at 13 by his older brother. He believes that if you can break that seal of silence, by talking about what happened, it will make a difference to your whole life. He also encourages survivors to trust their instinct.
He makes films that reflect his own experiences and tackle issues that need to be brought out of the shadows. His film “Don't Worry, I'm Fine” brings the brave stories of recovery to this film, including his own story. Most of his life he's been a teacher and author, and over the last eight years have transitioned to film. This is his second feature-length documentary, the first being Hello World Film: https://helloworldfilm.com. You can reach Shawn on
Twitter: https://twitter.com/shawnwildermuth
BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/wildermuth.com
Mastodon: https://fosstodon.org/@shawnwildermuth
The film: https://manenoughfilm.com
My film company: https://twainfilms.com
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors#ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Having your own back

Wed, 21 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Having your own back is sometimes hard for us as survivors.
It can be difficult if we have been used to not speaking up for ourselves, and when we are more comfortable to keep the peace, and people around us comfortable or happy.
Maybe its time for that to change, by gently understanding where it comes from....
Have a listen, it may just surprise you.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #14

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors we need to:
Start using the words: I AM
Anything added after those words can become your reality.
Without thinking we so often put ourselves down and its not true, or helping!
Lets change that up to I AM something, I AM powerful, I AM worthy.
Lets begin from the inside out. We so deserve this, and more.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #34

Wed, 14 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.
Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

Social Media Handles

https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack/

https://handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com/

https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloriamasters16handingtheshameback16nonprofit/

https://twitter.com/HandinShameBack

Survivor Tip #13

Mon, 12 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
REST
Sometimes we keep ourselves as busy as possible so we are distracted from the reality of our trauma and the impact the abuse had on us. This means we are not living in our minds and not dealing with the feelings emerging within us. That wont help us deal with it, but equally it means we are not resting, and we need to: We can do this by relaxing, eg reading a book. But, we also need to give the mind a rest as well and the best way to do that, hands down is meditation. Try it and see!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Kimi Parata Interview

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Kimi Parata
Survivor. Mother. Wahine Toa.
She was abused from the age of 5 by her neighbour, then her brother in law at age 10 and finally her uncle at age 14. She successfully prosecuted both her brother in law and uncle, and is fondly known as the Captain. What helped her through was being a mother and her faith. You can reach Kimi on https://www.facebook.com/kimigheeduzitcrip.parata and
tiktok.com/@teamgheeghee_captain
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #12

Mon, 05 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Stop Doing: Start Being
Being gets a bad wrap, its not understood, but, it's just as important as doing. All it means is being still, noticing what is around us and taking time out to embrace that. Using our breath
by taking time each day (even 10 minutes) to breathe really helps.
We need to Try this: Breathe in for 10 seconds, hold for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 8. Even this small action can help our central nervous system.
We do not always have to be doing: We can Start Being!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Phill Ashworth Interview

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Phil Ashworth only speaks the truth.
He was abused over a 4 year period, while at boarding school in Australia. The school in question; Knox Grammar School, was to be at the centre of the global paedophile ring investigation, which turned into the biggest royal commission enquiry Australia had ever seen. The scale of abuse at was to impact widely across over 41 schools globally, and impact hundreds of boys.
He believes that the paedophiles exist and are so powerful, because people refuse to believe they exist/existed.
You can reach Phill on FB @Phillip Ashworth

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #11

Mon, 29 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Have some Fun!
I know it sounds weird on a channel like this, but we need to lighten our load. We cant always be in the trauma and struggling.
We need to have balance in our lives and enjoy time that is just, well, for Fun!! Repeat after me: I'm going to have some Fun!!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Jeanette Archer Interview

Fri, 26 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

SEVERE Trigger Warning
Meet Jeanette: Survivor of Satanic Ritual abuse, Advocate and Campaigner.
She was raised in a family of satanists. Her family were deeply embedded in a satanic cult, which involved royalty. MK (mind control) was what controlled her existence until the age of 22. She now strongly Advocates for other survivors of SRA, helping them to break their silence. You can reach Jeanette on https://t.me/+U8ve4gDb7E00MTI0?fbclid=IwAR1wzIQYETyVNm5ZdvYCpGtQDp89wDLdeg3_dVB4FX3Kkh9SjVvfYeDHJjw
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Self-Sabotage

Wed, 24 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Self-Sabotage
Appears in our lives and is never welcome.
However we do have the power to rid ourselves of this, we just need to understand it first. It can only exist in a place where we are not valuing who we are, let alone giving ourselves what we need. If we can move to self care and start to gently love ourselves, we may be surprised at how we feel les inclined to sabotage our happiness.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #10

Mon, 22 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Understand that when we are meant to face into our trauma, we will know without any doubt whatsoever. It will appear, reappear and find you us matter how hard we try to ignore it. We don't need to panic, it is simply our minds letting us know we are ready to face into it.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Corey Boden Interview

Fri, 19 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Corey, Survivor, Father and Truth-teller.
Sadly, he lost both parents between the ages of 13 - 15, first, his mother to cancer, then his father a few years later. He was sexually abused between 13 to 16 years of age.
He believes that being a Dad was what really helped him and AA/NA. Being clean and sober gave him a way forward. You can reach out to Corey on:
FB, IG, TikTok His handle is https://www.facebook.com/Corey.Boden.1974
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #9

Mon, 15 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Understand that our potential may still be untapped as the voice in our heads negated who we were and the possibilities we had to shine.
What we have overcome, and been able to achieve already is impressive.
Take a bow.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Global Awareness Walk

Sun, 14 May 2023 08:00:00 +1200

Global Awareness Walk
This walk is on sat 17th June at 10am (your time) for people around the world, to raise awareness and show support for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse

To be part of this, simply do the following:
1. Wear our logo colours red, white, black (or a combo of them
2. Grab a friend, family or group, and:
3. Take a photo and add a caption showing where you are from eg; Alex from Wales walking for Handing the Shame Back
4. Tag us in - We provide the tag
5. Make a small donation $5,$10, whatever you like

Global Awareness Day

Fri, 12 May 2023 12:00:00 +1200

Global Awareness Day
We are launching our Global Awareness Day for Handing the Shame Back on Friday 16 June, which incorporates the following focus:
1. Raising Awareness for the up to 1in3 adult survivors of child sexual abuse
2. Logo - We are asking everyone on that day to swap their logo out with ours (see below) for that day
3. Sponsorship - Go to our website handingtheshameback.org and choose an amount to donate: $5, $10 or any amount you wish (th
4. Hand Signal for Under 16’s (This video will be released on the day) 5.30am NZT
Global Awareness Walk

Keep listening, more information will be released over the coming days

Liz Roberts Interview

Fri, 12 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Liz, a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse.
She believes that, in part, her parents created the environment where abuse was allowed to happen and continue. She was 8 - he was 16 and the abuse went on for months. Once she found her voice, she never stopped talking.
You can find Liz on: www.liz-roberts.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/Liz.RobertsMSc/https://www.instagram.com/liz.robertsmsc/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/liz-roberts-b3889121/

HELP

NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #33

Wed, 10 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

We are on all Social Media Platforms
Twitter
FB
LinkedIn
YouTube
InstaGram
TikTok

Survivor Tip #8

Mon, 08 May 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Understand that forgiving our abusers and/or their enablers is entirely our choice. We are not a better person if we do. We are not less if we don't.
Trusting our instincts is key, they have never let us down before.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Phil Goldstein Interview

Wed, 03 May 2023 07:00:00 +1200

Meet Phil Goldstein
Survivor of Sibling sexual Abuse, Poet and Dad of Fur Babies.
What helped him emerge through his abuse was Creative writing (poetry), Intensive psychotherapy (4+ years), including EMDR and support from partner/friends/some family. You can reach Phil IG: https://www.instagram.com/philagoldstein/
FB https://www.facebook.com/philgoldsteinpoet/ Twitter, https://twitter.com/philgoldstein
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #7

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 22:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Start to honour ourselves and our feelings by allowing whatever is emerging in us to come through us. This helps us to further our healing by allowing instead of blocking what is.
Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Katy Sudano Interview

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Katy Sudano, Survivor, Author and mother of 5.
She was abused by her stepfather for years, with her mothers knowledge. She wrote the book Truth gives strength to wings: Its all in the journal (available through the links below). She feels what helped her most was her husband’s strength and insight on how to lead, alongside working with a nonprofit called Voice Today, helping others through healing. plus her own RRT therapy.
You can reach Katy on IG: @katysudano ;Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/sudano.katy
Twitter: @katy_sudano
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Feeling Proud

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Feeling proud is not available to us as survivors, or is it?
We were conditioned to keep quiet and silent, and pride filled moments did not fit within that context. How could we have built feeling proud into our lives?
Have a listen to this, and see what leaps out at you. Its worth it. I promise!!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #6

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Build Self care: including resting, having breaks, eating properly. We also need to stop responding to everyone else's needs before our own. Self care sits beside Self Love, lets start honouring that.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Dragica llic Interview

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Poet. Sibling Sexual Abuse Survivor.
Dragica experienced Sibling sexual abuse for over 4 years by her older brother. She believes that
what would help other survivors is to tell someone who loves you.
She also found being in nature helped as well as learning new things. She felt the safest at school.
You can reach Dragica at dragica.ilic@zg.t-com.hr
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #5

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Start to understand which one of the trauma responses is our predominant one, and observe that. This will show itself in all our interpersonal relationships. Knowledge of this can help shift awareness and then mastery of it.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and also if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Craig Heiting Interview

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Meet Craig Heiting: Survivor, Husband and Entertainment industry executive
He was abused by an older neighbour between 8-14 years of age.
They were trusted friends of the family, he is inspiring and entirely authentic - a great voice for men.
He helps run an organisation called voices beyond assault.
Contact details are: www.voicesbeyondassault.org. IG menofvba and voicesbeyondassault. Email men@voicesbeyondassault.org. www.voicesbeyondassault.orgmenofvoicesbeyondassault.org
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #4

Mon, 10 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +1200

Survivors - We Need to:
Stop gaslighting ourselves through: Thinking its all in our heads: Not validating how we really feel; Putting others feelings ahead of our own and; thinking we don't deserve to be happy!

Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter.

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #32

Sun, 09 Apr 2023 09:00:00 +1200

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

We are on all Social Media Platforms
Twitter
FB
LinkedIn
YouTube
InstaGram
TikTok

Kerry-Anne Gibbins Interview

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 07:00:00 +1200

Meet the wonderful Kerry-Anne
Survivor, Singer, and advocate for Van Hippel-Lindau (VHL) sufferers.
When Kerry’s parents died, she went into foster care at age 4 and was to spend the next 11 or so years being abused by her stepbrothers and brother. She felt that singing, and handing it off to god helped her, and believes if you have faith in yourself that is a powerful way to help healing.
You can reach Kerry-Anne on:
https://linksharing.samsungcloud.com/80OcOTuMn2yq https://www.facebook.com/kerryanne.gibbins?mibextid=ZbWKwL
https://instagram.com/kaje19777?igshid=YmJhNjkzNzY=
https://www.facebook.com/kerryanne.gibbins?mibextid=ZbWKwL
tiktok.com/@kage4eva & https://instagram.com/kaje19777?igshid=ZDdkNTZiNTM=
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #3

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 15:00:00 +1200

Survivors we Need to:
Look after ourselves when days are tough
Do less not more
Surround ourselves with kindness
Acknowledge how amazing we are.

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter.

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #2

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 10:00:00 +1200

Survivors we need to:
Stand in the truth
Have own back.
Not waste time justifying ourselves to others.
We do not need to be DARVOed

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter.

https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Gratitude

Sun, 02 Apr 2023 19:00:00 +1200

Feeling grateful as survivors can sometimes be a challenge.
Isn't getting through the day enough?
What is there to be grateful for? Really?
Have a listen to this, and see what leaps out at you. Its worth it. I promise!!
Go to our website (see below) for more information on our foundation
If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, go to our website https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Keeper Catran-Whitney Interview

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Keeper, Survivor, Brother of survivors and Speaker.
He is a survivor of sexual abuse. He is also a brother to some of his siblings being sexually abused.
His purpose in speaking is to elevate the voice of brothers, so they can have a seat at the table upon realising their sisters have been sexually abused.
He believes that trauma self replicates in the form of PTSD and that the first step in moving through the knowledge you have been abused is the acceptance of it.
Follow Keeper on Social Media:
KeeperCatranWhitney.com
Keeper's Author Page on Facebook
Follow "Keeper" on Twitter
Keeper on YouTube
"This Is For The Brothers" Podcast on YouTube
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and those supporting them.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Panel Discussion - March 2023

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Ken Clearwater and Todd Portsmouth join me in discussing one of the cruellest responses directed at male survivors of child sexual abuse:
The one where they 'supposedly' go on to abuse children themselves.
This DOES NOT happen, in fact the numbers are so small, as to be indescribable.
The reality is these men have no desire to inflict the harm on others that was inflicted on them.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to check out some coaching options, check out our website.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Survivor Tip #1

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 15:00:00 +1300

Survivors we need to:
Encompass Self Love
Trust ourselves
Not compare our story to others Suffering

Go to our website (see below) for more information on resources available, and if you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter. https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #31

Sat, 18 Mar 2023 08:00:00 +1300

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

We are on all Social Media Platforms
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LinkedIn
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Jeremy Indika Interview

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 12:00:00 +1300

Meet Jeremy Indika who was abused between 8-10 years of age.
This person was a trusted work friend of his father.
He first disclosed at age 25. He says that every time he speaks out the fear, shame and guild dissolves
You can find Jeremy on his Website: https://jeremyindika.com
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeM5...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindika/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-in...
Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeremyindika
Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jeremyindika
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Nettie Long Interview

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Nettie Long
She was abused from age 3 - 7 years by an older female cousin, then again at 12 by an assistant pastor. She told her parents, and it was never talked about again. That was to have one of the biggest impacts on her young life. Watch here for her story. Her best advice is to 'Choose You' in those difficult challenges/choices life throws up.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Invisible

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Being Invisible as survivors is not an uncommon experience.
We learned to hide and keep our shame hidden. For healing and a way forward perhaps its time to address this and change the invisible to visible?
Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email gloria@handingtheshameback.org
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Unfiltered Stories interviews Gloria

Fri, 03 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +1300

This interview depicts my 16 years of horror at the hands of my father, and then his paedophile rings. I share this, so other survivors can feel seen, believed and less alone.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, view our foundation - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
For books go to - https://www.gloriamasters.com/#/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Nick Cotton Interview

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

This short interview discusses my abuse, and looks at the impact it had.
We talk through the Silent Endemic adult survivors of child sexual abuse experience.....let alone what children experiencing it now, go through.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, view foundation - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
For coaching from her email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tony Baker Interview

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Tony Baker
He is a Peer support worker for Male Support Services Waikato, he is also a father and a Survivor.
He was abused by a neighbour at 8 years of age, and shares the impact of that with us. He believes that sometimes peer support can get you a little further than counselling or actual partners can. He wants to give support to by stating that: You were not born to have this life, it was put on you, and therefore there is a way to manage it and emerge through. You can reach out to Tony through Male Support Services, Waikato on 07 858 4112 or 0800 677 289 , check out their website: waikatosurvivors.org.nz
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #30

Fri, 17 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Monthly Tips for those of you Supporting survivors.

Feel free to reach out for any resources including coaching and books, by going directly to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

#handingtheshameback
#survivors
#believesurvivors

We are on all Social Media Platforms
Twitter
FB
LinkedIn
YouTube
InstaGram
TikTok

Taylah Ma Interview

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Taylah Ma is the sister of a survivor,
Here is her story.
Although 13 years younger than her sister, Taylah observed the pain and trauma her sister suffered. She shares what the intergenerational trauma bond looks like, and the impacts it had in their lives. She also believes that to support another person in a healthy and meaningful way you need to support yourself as well. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. You can find Taylah on IG at taylah.ma_whatumanawa
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Disappointment

Fri, 10 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Having disappointment in our lives helps us. It makes us vulnerable and therefore anxious; we have to dig deep to overcome and master these feelings before we can move to accepting them, which is why it helps us. We learn to overcome and then master not just that situation, but eventually life.
Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email gloria@handingtheshameback.org
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Nancy Morris Interview

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Survivor Nancy Morris
She experienced Sibling Sexual Abuse from the age of 8 - 16 years, and generously shares her story. She believes that keeping the genie from going back into the bottle (as in even more silence existing around Sibling Sexual Abuse (SSA) is crucial. She also believes that its incredibly important for survivors to stay focused on their own lives, rather than worrying about others.
You can follow Nancy on: www.SiblingsToo.com for leaving anonymous stories and for Awareness Day updates and on FB https://www.facebook.com/SiblingsToo also https://twitter.com/siblingstoo
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #29

Thu, 02 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Supporters sometimes don't set limits or boundaries with Survivors, but although they are well meaning; the effect can have a negative impact on the relationship. Have a quick listen as to why this is essential for both parties. If you are interested in any coaching from gloria please email
contactus@handingtheshameback.org
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information on what the foundation provides - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Girls on Fire Interview

Mon, 30 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

This short interview discusses my abuse, and looks at the impact it had.
We lightly touch on conviction rates in south africa and NZ.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, view foundation - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
For coaching from her email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Penny Portsmouth Interview

Fri, 27 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Penny: Married to a Survivor called Todd

She shares what works for them in managing the impact child sexual abuse has in their lives. She suggests that communicating their way through it really works, and that to Listen is really the most powerful thing any Supporter can do. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. Penny's email is pennysampson33@gmail.com

HELP

NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334

USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse

UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse

AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER

To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-se... #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport

#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Welcome to 2023

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

This is a short introduction to the year and what is happening with Handing the Shame Back.
Including introducing Events:
1. Speaking events
2. Walk/Run for our charity in NZ
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Lee Underwood Interview

Fri, 20 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Welcome to our very first interview with a "Supporter" of a Survivor.
Lee is an ex wife of one, and shares the experiences of navigating the impact her husband being abused and not recognising he needed help, had. How it manifested in their marriage, alongside the feelings of being complicit in the silence. All will relate to this whether as a survivor or a partner, spouse, parent, sibling or friend of a survivor. Lee's email is leeunderwood1000@gmail.com
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Round the Bays 2023

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Handing The Shame Back is doing its first charity held event. For those not familiar Round the bays charity fun run or walk is held in NZ annually and is a great way to raise money for our foundation.
It is being held Sunday 5 March. I am doing this with the board members, other survivors and supporters. WHY are we doing this? the silence around child sexual abuse is deafening and this is one way we can bring attention to it! You can help support out Charity and givealittle through scanning the QR code shown on screen to donate via givealittle, or go to HTSB to join our team. The money will go towards merchandise, and refreshments after the run.
If you would like to join our team, and we would love to have you to, just scan the QR code on the screen or visit the Round the Bays registration page and search for the "Handing the Shame Back" team to join. All relevant information is on our website as well
If you decide to be part of HTSB team, please do share our givealitle page with your supporters/followers, THE more people we have join us, the more we can help.
We look forward to meeting you!!

Doubt

Mon, 16 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Doubt is hard for us as survivors and can show up unexpectedly at times.
There are many reasons why this is a core feature of our lives, not the least being we had to doubt our own instinct as the abuse continued. We knew it was wrong, but we couldn't tell anyone. No wonder we struggle with having our own backs at times.
Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #28

Sat, 14 Jan 2023 22:00:00 +1300

This is actually dedicated to the person supporting the survivor.
Please watch carefully and hopefully you will gain a few tips in there.
If you are interested in any coaching from gloria please email her at admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information on what the foundation provides - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Sarah Gallardo Interview

Fri, 13 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Sarah interviews me and we cover many topics:
One We discuss is the power of Truth, and how it will always stand the test of time.
We also look at the impact the false self had on my childhood, adolescence and then as an adult.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, view foundation - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
For coaching from her email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

REOSA Interview

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Libby and Kate are sisters who did a walk of awareness throughout NZ to share information about REOSA (Ripple effects of sexual abuse). What they found on the way, the lives they touched and the work they wish to continue is all revealed, so for all this and more: please watch this interview!
Reach out to REOSA on their website: https://www.reosa.co.nz/ and they are also active and able to be reached on IG and FB
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Grace

Mon, 09 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +1300

Grace:
Seen as limitless and in plentiful supply, it is also defined as the powerful, benevolent, unwavering energy of the universe that guides us towards the best version of ourselves.
Have a listen as to how this shows up in your life.
Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Merry Xmas Everyone

Fri, 23 Dec 2022 13:00:00 +1300

Xmas Panel Discussion

Wed, 21 Dec 2022 06:00:00 +1300

This Xmas panel discussion looks at ways we, as survivors get through this time of year.
We each have our own view on how it manifested and can manifest for us, and we each agree there is always hope.
To reach out to Todd 027 424 7691 and Ken 027 353 3854, and for Susan and I email us both at: contactus@handingtheshameback.org
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #27

Mon, 19 Dec 2022 20:00:00 +1300

Untapped potential in survivors is huge. We don't often talk about it, but we all feel it and sometimes What if questions can surface. How do you cope with this??
Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible.
If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information on what the foundation provides - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Self Love

Mon, 19 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

One of the things we struggle with as survivors is self love.
It is difficult for us to feel it, when so much of what we experienced made us hate ourselves.
Some of what is shared here, may just offer some hope and light at this time of year.
Go to handingtheshameback.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Soulutions Interview: The Roles we adopted to survive the abuse

Fri, 16 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Chantelle and I discuss the roles we needed to adopt as children experiencing sexual abuse.
We had to take on these roles to survive what we went through. As children, we were simply feeling different, isolated and essentially in survivor mode,.
A conversation worth listening to and watching.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, view foundation - https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
For coaching from her email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Sam Troth Interview

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Sam is a survivor, a father of 6 and is on a hikoi (walk of awareness) throughout NZ to spread awareness about male sexual abuse. What helped him to heal was taking action, doing something was better than nothing, and his wife, gently at first and then more insistently pointing out that he needed to sort out the unresolved trauma he was suffering from, and impacting the family with. Watch this man, listen to his story and seek help if you need it.
Reach out to Sam on theroadtohealingaotearoa on IG and FB
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/ #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #26

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 06:00:00 +1300

Supporting your survivor through validation is key. Not using words like, you are amazing is also vital when they are in a dysregulated or trauma state. Have a look as some of these tips may help guide you in supporting them in the best way possible.
If you are interested in any coaching from gloria email her at admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
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Staying Positive

Mon, 12 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Sometimes its hard for us to feel positive when all around us feels doom and gloom. Believe it or not, there are some ways to navigate this so you are still authentic but able to find something that makes you smile.
Go to htsbf.org for more information on our foundation and for ways to help.
If you are looking or coaching whether survivor or supporter, email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Mark Attwood Interview

Fri, 09 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Mark Attwood brings out the power of the big Angels supporting me. This was Quite an emotional and moving interview, one that surprised even me.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, email her at admin@gloriamasters.com, and to look at what our foundation has on offer - go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Nae Marsters Interview

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Nae is a woman who has turned her trauma into healing. she runs Whatumanuwa a company which provides Solace and Serenity workshops using mindfulness, earth healing, sound healing and cacao. She is a clinical nurse educator. She has turned I didn't matter into I matter. She also feels that Connection to papatūānuku and ranginui and Surrendering to something bigger than self has really helped her healing journey.
You can reach nae on: www.healingwithnae.co.nz or
nae.marsters_whatumanawa IG and FB
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you wish to get some coaching from Gloria, go to https://gloriamasters.com/coaching-services/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Surviving Christmas

Mon, 05 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +1300

This week my blog focus is on surviving the Xmas and holiday season. We can sometimes feel off balance as Survivors, but this specific time of year can be really triggering and difficult. This short clips gives you some ideas on what to do if things start to feel challenging. Take care of who you are at this time, and If you are interested in any coaching from me, please email admin@gloriamasters.com
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Interview with Isami Daehn

Wed, 30 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Activist, Survivor and Speaker Isami Daehn, she is a subject matter expert in anti human trafficking and child safety. Her mission is to be the voice for both the exploited and those abused in religious settings. She would also like to educate leadership on anti human trafficking and child safety globally. Isami was abused between the age of 9 and 14 by a piano teacher who was welcomed into her home. Her advice to survivors: Be patient with yourself.
You can follow Isami on:
Instagram @isami_daehn TikTok @isami_daehn and Facebook @isami_daehn
Website: www.isamidaehn.com
HELP
If you would like coaching from Gloria email admin@gloriamasters.Com
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Inner Critic

Mon, 28 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Ever really think about that voice inside your head, the one telling you what to do?
Berating you and usually making you feel less than?
Welcome to your inner critic! We all have one, and as survivors sometimes its just too much.
How can you turn that voice off? How can you create an inner champion instead? Have a listen and see if there are some things you can begin to do.
If you would like to have some coaching with Gloria, email admin@gloriamasters.com
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #24

Sat, 26 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Survivors and the Inner Critic
otherwise known as our inner voice, judge, parent etc.
This can be something we believe and follow without question. But what if I was to tell you, that its time to question and challenge to confront this, so that you can instead, be led by your Inner Champion?
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
If you are looking for some Coaching from Gloria, email admin@gloriamasters.com

Panel Discussion - Male Survivors Canterbury

Fri, 25 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

This panel discussion opens the door into the suffering and reality of Male Survivors in NZ and globally. Three brave men discuss their reality, the amazing work they are now doing to help other male survivors, and the impact this has on their lives. Dr Keli Palfy joins us from Canada to share her wisdom through her research on this very powerful topic.
HELP
If you would like to have some coaching with Gloria, reach out to GloriaMasters.com
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Interview with Paulie Stevens

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Meet Paulie Stevens, a survivor of abuse whose perpetrator got over 100 years in prison. The judge called him a prolific pedophile, and the worst he had ever seen.
What helped Paul in his recovery was his son, sport and the great outdoors.
Paul is the Author of You cant hurt me (2011) and Beyond the Hurt (2022)
Paul Steven's blog: https://zitebooks.com/
Paul Steven's 1st book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/You-Cant-Hurt-Paul-Stevens-ebook/dp/B096SJFMK5
Paul Stevens 2nd Book: Beyond The Hurt eBook : Stevens, Paul: Amazon.co.uk: Kindle Store
You can reach Paul on: Twitter is @YouCantHurtMeZB
HELP
If you would like coaching from Gloria reach out to GloriaMasters.Com
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

The Choice

Mon, 21 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

The Choices we make are available to us every day in many different ways, and we don't often consider the power they contain. Every choice we make creates an action. As survivors we didn't have a choice as to what happened to us - as adults we do. Sometimes we get used to feeling down, negative and victimised, and it can take courage to lift ourselves out of that.
In even one decision it is available and can give us hope in the darkest of times. Have a listen.
If you would like to have some coaching with Gloria, reach out to GloriaMasters.Com
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #19

Sun, 20 Nov 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Survivors needing inspiration? Look no further!
Live on the channel this week: I interview Paulie Stevens who wrote the book You Cant Hurt Me, He was abused by a pedophile who was sentenced to 200 years in prison. I also share the Male Survivors Panel Discussion including Dr Keli Palfy, and my blog on The Choice is released. For more information visit us at https://www.htsbf.org (A link to our website) : Handing the shame back
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Tips for Supporting Survivors #23

Fri, 18 Nov 2022 20:00:00 +1300

This week we focus on the holiday season.
This can be a really difficult and triggering time for survivors as that was when abuse could occur more frequently.
Sadness and loss may appear on their faces, and show in the demeanour. Just love them through it.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Panel Discussion - November 2022

Fri, 18 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +1300

This powerful discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people) is both enlightening and informative. We cover many areas: Child abuse stats, our court system, group therapy among other things. DO NOT MISS this discussion.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Recognize our Power Interview

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +1300

Kelly and I discuss impacts of child sexual abuse from childhood through to adulthood. We cover off my childhood and the ongoing impact childhood trauma has. A conversation worth listening to and watching.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Grief

Mon, 14 Nov 2022 06:00:00 +1300

Grief is usually associated with death, and therefore not often discussed in survivor communities, but what if I was to tell you that for all survivors, we go through the 7 stages of grief just like others who have experienced deep loss do? What we lost and the cost to us can have us reeling between denial to anger in a heartbeat. have a listen as this may offer some insights into how you have been feeling.
The 7 stages loosely defined are: Denial, Anger Bargaining, Depression, Upward Turn, Reconstruction and Acceptance.
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #18

Sun, 13 Nov 2022 17:00:00 +1300

On the channel this week: Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, a charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people. This discussion is both enlightening and informative. My blog on Grief, which all survivors experience, but seldom discuss. Finally: Kelly Wallace from the podcast: Recognise your power, interviews me.
For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Tips for Supporting Survivors #22

Fri, 11 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +1300

This week we focus on Grief. The 7 stages there are and where your survivor may be, and where they could move to. There is no right or wrong, it just is. The stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Upward turn, Reconstruction and Acceptance.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Aquarious Rising Interview

Fri, 11 Nov 2022 17:00:00 +1300

The theme for this month with Chantelle is Dissociation....We look at how it helped survivors of sexual abuse as children, but may not be quite so needed now. So how do we use it, lose it or recognise the impact it has?
For this and more, tune in!
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Interview with Jim Heaney

Wed, 09 Nov 2022 17:00:00 +1300

Jim Heaney lives in Chicago, Illinois and is a survivor of child sexual abuse. He is an advocate and author of 'A Book for Someone', just released recently on amazon. His abuser targeted him while he was doing a paper route at age 11. Jim got betrayed not by 1, but by 3 different people during this young episode of his life. Watch his story unfold and understand the power of his mind and attitude, that helped turn his life around.
You can find Jim and follow him on : www.divinechild.us
https://www.facebook.com/jim.heaney.79/https://www.instagram.com/jim.heaney.author.chicago/https://www.tiktok.com/@abookforsomeone?lang=en
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Broken Pieces

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +1300

Broken Pieces depicts what we as child sexual abuse survivors experience to a greater or lesser extent at random or frequent times, depending on what is occurring in our lives. We can feel broken for no apparent reason, but underneath, we know why. Our abuse, our trauma, the fabric of our being was destroyed and broken, and we can spend a lifetime trying to mend this and reapair the damage. The beauty of broken is in its possibility and this is what is shared here. We can do this, we already have, we just need to trust who we are - the answer lies within.
This blog offers some support and resource on managing those days when it feels too much.
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Beginnings

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +1300

Beginnings can be challenging for survivors of child sexual abuse. If we chose them, they are less problematic, if not: our PTSD or CPTSD kicks in big time. They can trigger us and have us feel overwhelmed and hypervigilant all at the same time.
This blog offers some ideas on navigating our way through Beginnings.
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #17

Sun, 06 Nov 2022 14:00:00 +1300

Updates on the channel this week: Panel Discussion with Louise Nicholas, Advocate, Libby and Kate from REOSA (ripple effects of sexual abuse), Alison Mau advocate/journalist and Jess Tyson (founder of BRAVE, charity promoting awareness and resource in our Rangatahi (young people) is both enlightening and informative. Blog on Broken Pieces and Interview with Jim Heaney a survivor from Chicago, Illinois.
For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Gareth Icke of Right Now Interview

Fri, 04 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Gareth Icke of Right Now (Ickonic) interviews me. We discuss my book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I have written to help support survivors.
We also look at parents responsibility and awareness in keeping their children face, and the challenges contained within. A short but punchy interview.

HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Tips for Supporting Survivors #21

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +1300

Tips for Supporting Survivors.

This week, I discuss the 3 key areas of Reactions to Sexual abuse: emotional, physical and psychological. I list a few in each category, but please know there are many more and as survivors we often feel we experience all of them.

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Interview with Andrew Pledger

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 07:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult survivor, and survivor of child sexual abuse. Andrew discloses for the first time publicly the sexual abuse he suffered, and looks at the link between being raised in a cult and dysfunctional family, to the sexual abuse he suffered.
He feels that what helped him in his recovery and healing from both the cult and CSA was; Validation, Self-compassion and Therapy.
Find him on - https://liinks.co/4ndrewpledger
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Upcoming Releases #16

Sun, 30 Oct 2022 17:00:00 +1300

Included in this weeks line up to the Channel: Welcome to Andrew Pledger, a Cult and survivor of child sexual abuse. My blog on Beginnings, and The interview Gareth Icke of Right now (Ickonic) which includes discussing parents responsibility and awareness in keeping their children face, and the challenges contained within. A short but punchy interview.
For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Shaun Attwood Panel Discussion

Sat, 29 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +1300

I put this panel together to highlight the severity of the statistics of child sexual abuse globally. On the panel are Maggie Oliver, from the UK, whistleblower. Anneke Lucas, fellow survivor and advocate from Belgium.
Have a look and see what 3 countries and 3 advocates are doing.
HELP
NZ

Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334

USA

RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse

NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse

AUSTRALIA

Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.

OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Tips for Supporting Survivors #20

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +1300

Tips for Supporting Survivors. We look at the damaged parts of ourselves, because they are a 'thing' and they do exist. As a result, it is hard for us to feel part of something and connected as easily as non survivors do.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Interview with Dallas Pickering

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +1300

Dallas Pickering is a survivor of over ten years of sexual abuse in state care. Although she disclosed to a social worker and signs of abuse and neglect were noticed, she was repeatedly returned to her foster home. Watch her very personal and humbling story, as she shares her childhood with us.
You can reach her at: dallaspickering36@gmail.com
OTHER
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Triggers

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Triggers are commonly experienced by us as survivors of child sexual abuse. They can seemingly come from nowhere, and usually depict a memory from childhood when the abuse was occurring. These can come in the form of one of the five senses and can transport us straight back to the experience itself.
This blog offers some support and resource on triggers.
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #15

Sun, 23 Oct 2022 17:00:00 +1300

On Handing the shame back this week:
Dallas Pickering shares what happened to her including being abused in state care. My blog on triggers, and a panel discussion including Maggie Oliver, Anneke Lucas and myself.
For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Interview with Sarah Gallardo

Fri, 21 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Sarah Gallardo, Author, Survivor and Director and Founder of Sarah Speaks up, A non profit promoting awareness of domestic violence. She shares her story with us and is both transparent and humbling. You can reach her at:
Sarahspeaksup@gmail.com or go to: sarahspeaksup.org
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Dani Henderson Interviews me

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist interviews me - about my second book Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors, which I have written to help support survivors.
We discuss Hypervigilance and its impact on adult survivors not just as children, but how it impacts us to this day.
We also look at ways supporters of survivors can receive help to support their loved one.

Tips for Supporting Survivors #19

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +1300

Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on doubt. Survivors may feel it is still is a part of who we are. Why? Because even tho we knew it was wrong, and felt it deeply, the child sexual abuse continued and our doubt was ignored. Result: We were made to feel bad and at fault.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Signs

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +1300

This blog offers some support and resource on searching and finding signs for when we need them the most.
For survivors of child sexual abuse, these times can be more frequent than we would like, and knowing some ways to find what we are seeking is helpful. Knowing there is something beyond what we can see and feel is powerful and reassuring.
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #14

Sat, 15 Oct 2022 16:00:00 +1300

On Handing the shame back this week:
Sarah Gallardo Survivor, shares her story, which is very inspirational and moving. My blog on signs, which can be uplifting - and finally Dani Henderson, spiritual therapist interviews me.
For more information visit us at https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
#handingtheshameback #survivors #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #ibelievesurvivors

Ripple out Effects of Child Sexual Abuse

Sat, 15 Oct 2022 13:00:00 +1300

Although childhood sexual abuse occurs in childhood, the impacts are far reaching and go deep into adulthood as well. Have a look at this clip on some of the ripple out effects of abuse on survivors. Things like shame, dissociation and feeling different, are just a few of what we experience and have to live with.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Interview with Matiu Taitoko

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 06:00:00 +1300

Matiu Taitoko is a survivor of years of sexual abuse. He is now a peer support worker helping other male survivors in Canterbury, (Male Survivors Canterbury Service). He loves hunting and fishing and believes survivors just need love, support and care.
A very humble man, his voice is well worth listening to.
Kia Ora Matiu

HELP
Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700
https://betterblokes.org.nz - Free peer support for male sexual abuse survivors
Male Survivors Aotearoa, across NZ https://malesurvivor.nz/ or Freephone: 0800 044 334
The Harbour Online support and information for people affected by sexual abuse.
Women’s Refuge 0800 733 843 (females only)
Victim Support 0800 842 846, text 4334
OTHER
Go to Handingtheshameback.org for uplifting blogs and information

Tips for Supporting Survivors #18

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 13:00:00 +1300

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Boundaries. Have a listen as what you hear will provide more context around why setting boundaries is such an issue for us. Reach out with any questions
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to https://www.handingtheshameback.org/

Manipulation

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +1300

Manipulation is something well known to us as survivors of child sexual abuse. It begins in silence and secrecy and unknowingly, and unwillingly we become party to the cover up. The manipulation has worked! We are rendered silent and unable to speak. Listen to how we can emerge from this with a little more insight so recovery and healing become a possibility.
With love and light fellow survivors.

Upcoming Releases #14

Sun, 09 Oct 2022 13:00:00 +1300

On Handing the shame back this week:
Matiu Taitoko Survivor, shares his story. While remaining humble, he is also inspirational. My blog on Manipulation, which as survivors we can most definitely relate to - and finally a 4 minute clip on the ripple out effects of Child Sexual Abuse (only some of them)....

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Sean Stone Interviews me

Sat, 08 Oct 2022 07:00:00 +1300

For the full interview go to BeeYou TV and sign into Sean Stone's channel

Sean Stone interviews me - and here is a snapshot of that.
We discuss forgiving your abuser, (or not) . Shame is mentioned, and being DARVOED (have a listen to find out what this means)
We also look at the silence around all child sexual abuse...

Interview with Jess Tyson

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 09:00:00 +1300

Meet Jess Tyson
Fellow Survivor, Founder and Director of Brave Charitable Trust. She was
Miss World NZ in 2018.
Journalist for current affairs Whakaata Māori.
She believes that survivors should be believed and that they are never alone!
Brave Instagram: @brave_nz
IG: @jessicatyson08
Brave Facebook page: BraveNZ or
https://m.facebook.com/BraveNZ/
FB public page: JessTyson8 or
www.facebook.com/JessTyson8
Brave website:
www.bravenz.com

Clarity

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 20:00:00 +1300

This blog offers some ideas on finding and keeping clarity in your life.
For survivors of child sexual abuse, it can often be missing in action. Due to the trauma we have suffered, it is nowhere to be seen. This blog offers some ideas on how to address this.
Clarity is available to us as survivors, we just need to believe it is possible and discover how.

Upcoming Releases #13

Sun, 02 Oct 2022 18:00:00 +1300

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube this week: My blog on Clarity and how it is sometimes lost to us as survivors. Don't miss the great interview with survivor Jess Tyson Miss World, NZ, and finally a short snippet of the interview with Sean Stone.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Tips for Supporting Survivors #17

Fri, 30 Sep 2022 16:00:00 +1300

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is again on Dissociation. Have a listen as what you hear will help you understand a little more, about the timing of your survivor sharing their story. It will help you understand your loved one, even more.
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback
For further information go to Handingtheshameback.org

How it all Began....

Fri, 30 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +1300

This details how Handing the Shame Back Began, with Founder Gloria Masters finding the path that led to the YouTube Channel and eventually the Foundation being established.
It all began with a comment, voices were heard, a book was written and finally ended with the Charity being created.
Have a look, it may just 'speak' to you.
ok. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Interview with Matt Ashton

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +1300

Matt is a Survivor of sexual abuse. He was a gang member until the age of 30. He has turned his life around to help other male survivors in NZ. He does Peer Support work for Male Survivors in Canterbury NZ. He believes that if survivors release their stories through talking to others, it is like 'gutting a fish' and clears it all out.
He is humble, generous and a survivor who will always stand by you.

Upcoming Releases #12

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on Toxic People, and why they are well known to survivors. Friday morning (NZt) release is on how Handingtheshameback came about, and a wonderful interview with survivor Matt Ashton. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Toxic People

Fri, 23 Sep 2022 13:00:00 +1200

This blog offers some support and resource on identifying the characteristics toxic people display
For survivors of child sexual abuse, these people are more common in our lives than for others. This blog offers some ideas on how to address the challenging issue of loving them even tho they are so toxic. This is a helpful reminder for those who have suffered, that toxic people are responsible for their own behaviour, not you.

Tips for Supporting Survivors #16

Fri, 23 Sep 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors. This week the focus is on Statistics. Have a listen as what you hear will help support your loved one, and even encourage a conversation around this. #childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport #survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Upcoming Releases #11

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 19:00:00 +1200

Coming up on Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: My blog on courage, and why finding it (for survivors) can be a challenge. The big news is on Thursday morning (NZ Time) you will be introduced to the fabulous board of Handingtheshameback.org

#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport

#survivors #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Courage

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 06:00:00 +1200

Courage is as unique to us as our thumbprints. Courage is also linked closely to vulnerability, particularly for survivors of child sexual abuse. Due to that, we were conditioned to silence, so to suddenly find our voices and speak out confidently - is unlikely. Have a listen, and see if this short look at Courage, speaks to you.

Tips for Supporting Survivors #15

Fri, 16 Sep 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors this week is on dissociation. This helped protect your survivor, but what if its not so helpful anymore? Have a listen to this short clip, and thank you for your support. For a look at our brand new foundation, Go to: Handingtheshameback.org
#childhoodsexualabuse #survivorofsexualabuse #survivorsupport
#survivor #ibelievesurvivors #handingtheshameback

Forgiveness

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 19:00:00 +1200

This blog offers some ideas to consider around forgiving others. One powerful thought behind forgiveness, is that the only person that can free us from this dilemma is ourselves!. Self love growing through forgiveness is also discussed, and finally, if we hold on to not forgiving (and justifiably so), who are we really hurting?

Panel Discussion

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Our panel discussion this month focuses on the dreadful numbers of young people who have taken their own lives, and the staggering statistics that exist around this. WE also look at ways we can help our male survivors to feel more supported to speak out. Contact Details
Todd's Details: mobile 0274247691 or email toddportsmouth@outlook.com
Ken's Details: mobile: 0273533854 or email kenclearwater2@gmail.com

Aquarious Rising Interviews me

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +1200

Chantelle and I discuss the topic of forgiving your abuser and how this huge decision is personal and unique to the survivor and therefore remain their choice. Always.

Upcoming Releases #10

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 18:00:00 +1200

On Handing the Shame Back YouTube Channel this week: A look at forgiveness, a very complex issue and one not to be hurried. A panel discussion on effective ways to support both male and female survivors and a Media spotlight interview with In5D Greg Prescott and Ali Janes. #csa #survivors #believed #thanku

Shame

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Shame is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse, I consider it to be the most significant symptom we carry.
Have a listen as to how you can begin to manage it in your life.

Stephan Neff Interviews me for the second time....

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 19:00:00 +1200

Stephan and I discuss topics ranging from the Keeping ourselves safe programme run by NZ Police to homeless people and why that might be.

Feeling Different

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Feeling different is well known to survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA)
What happened to us felt wrong, thereby ensuring we stood apart from others.
In that reality, how on earth could we feel normal, or the same as.
Have a listen, some of the blog has some sound reasoning behind it.
Love to all of you
Gloria

Tips for Supporting Survivors #14

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Sometimes as Survivors we 'apologise' too much.
Why do we do that?
Have a listen as to how you can support your loved survivor into changing this.
#csa #survivor

Interview with Jane Epstein

Sun, 28 Aug 2022 15:00:00 +1200

Welcome to Jane Epstein: She is a survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse, and shares some real insights with us about this. Did you know that over 40% of child sexual abuse is committed by juveniles?

Here are her details:
Website: www.complicatedcourage.com
TEDxTALK: "Giving Voice to Sibling Sexual Abuse."
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/jane_compli... FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/jane.opieeps... https://www.facebook.com/Complicatedc...
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jane-epst...
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/janepepstein
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAhr...
TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@jane_complica...

Tips for Supporting Survivors #13

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 21:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors is on forgiveness this week.
Is forgiveness something Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) survivors should do? Are we better people if we do forgive? Or worse if we dont?
#csa #survivors #standbeside #icu #urbelieved

Upcoming Releases #9

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 19:00:00 +1200

Updates On Handing the Shame Back Youtube channel this week: My Blog on Anxiety. A Survivor interview with Jane Epstein - one of the founders of 5Waves advocating for families impacted by Sibling Sexual Abuse and Stephan Neff interviews me. #csa #ssa #standbeside #icu #believed

Interview with Kim Spencer

Sat, 20 Aug 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Kim Spencer is a survivor of incest who experienced a tumultuous childhood. She has now found a way to turn what happened to her into helping others. She is now the founder of Crown Yourself and works with aspiring adults to support them in living their vision. She is a TedEx speaker and high performance coach.

Tips for supporting survivors #12

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 07:00:00 +1200

Did you know there are 8 types of boundaries, and that each one has its own specific characteristics? As Survivors we tend to find boundaries difficult, either we don't have them or we let them be crossed.
Have a listen as to how to protect yours.

Upcoming Releases 8

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 22:00:00 +1200

On YouTube Handing the Shame Back this week, we have my blog on Rejection, which survivors can relate to only all too well.
The Survivor interview is with Kimberley Spencer, and the Media Spotlight interview is with actor and director Sean Stone. #csa #survivors #standbeside #icu #believed #gratefultoall

Diane Forster Interviews Me

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 19:00:00 +1200

Diane and I discuss CSA and impacts globally.

Interview with Dr. Jackie Parsons

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 04:00:00 +1200

Meet Dr. Jackie Parsons.
She has a PHD in counselling, education and supervision. She is a passionate advocate for people. and talks about both: Anxiety in motion (keeping busy) & finding agency over self
Her website: www.drjparsons.com
Twitter: @drparsons

Upcoming Release On The Channel

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 08:00:00 +1200

This week on the YouTube Channel 'Handing the Shame Back':
Dr Jackie Parsons discusses anxiety in motion and what that is!
My Blog on Resilience is released, and Diane Forster interview me.
#csa #survivors #icu #standwith #believe #webelong2 #thanksall

Tips for Supporting Survivors #11

Sun, 07 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors #11. The focus is on sensory soothing, Listen to how we as child sexual abuse (CSA) survivors find many ways to self soothe. You may even recognise the survivor in your life! #csa #survivors #standbesideus #believeus #supportus #upto1in3 #thanku

Interview with Anneke Lucas

Sun, 07 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +1200

SEVERE trigger warning: Anneke Lucas - child trafficking survivor, from Belguim.
Her book called: Quest for Love - Memoir of a Child Sex Slave is also out now.
Amazing story, she has quite the story to tell, and is both humble and gracious.
Links to her site: https://annekelucas.com/
Links to her book: https://annekelucas.com/book
HELP
Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz.
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700
https://betterblokes.org.nz - Free peer support for male sexual abuse survivors
Male Survivors Aotearoa, across NZ https://malesurvivor.nz/ or Freephone: 0800 044 334
The Harbour Online support and information for people affected by sexual abuse.
Women’s Refuge 0800 733 843 (females only)
Victim Support 0800 842 846, text 4334
OTHER
Go to GloriaMasters.Com for uplifting blogs and information
To get some more resources from Gloria, go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/#/

Panel Discussion on CSA issues

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 18:00:00 +1200

Discussion on CSA landscape in NZ, what is happening and who is doing what.
Focus given to Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for CSA Survivors, released 15 August

Tips for Supporting Survivors #10

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors #9. Did you know there are 8 different types of triggers Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors experience? How can you help with us with those? Click on the video to find out more. #csa #survivors #icu #standbeside #urbelieved #grateful #supportthanku

Shaun Attwood Q&A

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Shaun Attwood QnA session on issues helpful to CSA Survivors.
We discuss how to respond to a child disclosing abuse among other things.

Anxiety

Sat, 30 Jul 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Anxiety is well known to us CSA Survivors.
It steals our piece of mind, and can have us unable to enjoy the moment.
Have a listen as to how you it may be affecting you, and how to recognise it.
Till next time
I see you
I stand beside you
And I believe you

Tips for Supporting Survivors #9

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 09:00:00 +1200

CSA Survivors experience invalidation a lot.
comments like:
You'll get over it
Everything happens for a reason
Why are you making a bit deal out of it, are all comments we hear, and more.
Have a watch to see how you can swap these out.

Upcoming Releases 7

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 07:00:00 +1200

On my YouTube Channel: Handing the Shame Back this week:

My blog on The Four F's (Fight, flight, freeze and fawn)

Survivor Interview with Dr. Kat Rosenblatt

Shaun Attwood interviews me. For More details: GloriaMasters.Com
#csa #survivors #iCu #standbeside #believeu #thanksall #angels

Interview with Dr. Kat Rosenblatt

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +1200

Dr Kat Rosenblatt is an: Author, Public Speaker International Survivor Leader of human trafficking and abuse
She has written several books, the first one called Stolen which is available on Amazon
You can find her on: www.ThereIsHopeForMe.org

Pre-Order Guide

Wed, 20 Jul 2022 15:00:00 +1200

Exciting news all - My book called
Flightpath to Healing - A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors
is available for pre-order from Monday 25 July at GloriaMasters.Com .
Published Monday 15 August

Tips for Supporting Survivors #8

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +1200

DARVO technique described. Useful for all Survivors to understand.
Deny
Attack
Reverse
Victim
Offender
Strategy is used against us constantly to derail and shut us down. Have a listen.

Upcoming Releases 6

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 17:00:00 +1200

On my YouTube channel this week:
My Blog on Power, the type we all have, that is not always used.
Dani Henderson - spiritual therapist from Costa Rica interviews me.
Survivor spotlight is on Anneke Lucas. Her new book is out!!
For full viewing, go to YouTube HandingtheshameBack
https://www.youtube.com/c/GloriaMastersHandingtheShameBack

Interview with Kalpa Gupta

Wed, 13 Jul 2022 10:00:00 +1200

Meet Kalpa Gupta
Survivor extraordinaire, she used to be a financial services director working with public traded companies, she is currently the CEO of Knekxt, which helps people form better relationships with themselves. She has confronted her abusers, and believes that forgiveness and service to others are fundamental in the healing journey.

Follow Kalpa (Kalpashree Gupta) on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kalpashreegupta/

Knekxt Group, LLC Website (coming soon): https://knekxt.com

Email: kgupta@knekxt.com

Additional Resources (Recommended books), please feel to include

The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World, By Desmond Tutu
The Drama of The Gifted Child (The Search for the True Self) , by Alice Miller

Tips for Supporting Survivors #7

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Updates This Week

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 10:00:00 +1200

On the show this week:
Blog on Kindness
Media Spotlight: Theresa Carpenter hosts Stories of Survivors, interviews me. We discuss why there is such low appetite for people to hear about this, on platforms like Linkedin.
Survivor interview: Kalpa Gupta

Rejection

Sat, 09 Jul 2022 09:00:00 +1200

Ever feel like you are being rejected?
Or that you are not included in situations you would like to be?
Have a listen and see how rejection features in your life, and see if you sometimes reject others - wether deliberately or not.
Go well
Gloria

Theresa Carpenter Interviews Me

Fri, 08 Jul 2022 14:00:00 +1200

Dani Henderson Interviews Me

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors #6

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 14:00:00 +1200

Madeleine Black Interviews Me: Highlights

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 13:00:00 +1200

Resilience

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Blog on Resilience
Resilience is something we all have to varying degrees.
Did you know you can build on it and grow it even further?
Have a listen to my blog and see if anything 'leaps out at you'
Till next time
With love
Gloria

Upcoming Release On The Channel

Sun, 03 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +1200

My blog on Dissociation
My interview with Male Survivors, discussing the court system and process for survivors
My interview with Neil Harding, leading the class action for dilworth ex pupils.
Madeleine Black, Courage cultivator on YouTube, interviews me.
This was quite a powerful interview.

Panel Discussion on CSA issues

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 18:00:00 +1200

Have a listen to this episode, we cover off how to first share your story with others, and focus deeply on the court process and what happens within that system.
We each have a story to share and some of what we experienced, may help inform you.
Thinking of you all, and remember: One size does not fit all!

Interview with Neil Harding

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Check out this survivor.
He is leading the class action against Dilworth college, the wealthiest private school in NZ. 157 survivors and counting.
He is dedicated, determined and a true warrior.
Have a listen..

Tips for supporting survivors #5

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +1200

Updates YouTube Channel: Handing the Shame Back

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +1200

My blog on Flashbacks
My interview with Kelly Wallace, discussing the court system and process for survivors
Madeleine Black, Courage cultivator on YouTube, interviews me.
This was quite a powerful interview.

Kindness

Fri, 24 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +1200

Some people use it often, some not at all.
Why would you not?
So powerful and so easy.
Have a listen as to how you can grow this in your own life.
Best wishes to all
Gloria

IN5D Interview me

Wed, 22 Jun 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Tips for Supporting Survivors #4

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +1200

Upcoming releases 2

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 10:00:00 +1200

On the show this week
My interview with Perry Power, live Wednesday 7pm NZ time
My blog on Endings (live on the channel now)
Enjoy everyone

Flashbacks

Sat, 18 Jun 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Flashbacks come out of nowhere, are frightening and feel out of our control.
In this blog I describe how to recognise them, and even better how to manage them. Happy listening team, hang in there.

Upcoming releases

Fri, 17 Jun 2022 07:00:00 +1200

On the show this week:
My interview with Rena Romano
My media spotlight with IN5D, Gregg Prescott and Ali Janes
My blog on Angels
Enjoy everyone

Interview with Kelly Wallace

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +1200

Meet Kelly Wallace: Advocate/survivor/speaker.
She was also speaker of the month with RAIN in the United States recently.. She is in the middle of writing her own is in the final stages of her memoir.
Kelly was always and instantly believed by mum.
You can find her on www. Kellywallace.org

Power

Sat, 11 Jun 2022 09:00:00 +1200

Power is interesting. It is powerful in that it shows itself in many different ways.
Interestingly power does not necessarily mean the loudest voice in the room, sometimes the most silent among us, have the most power.
Have a listen and see if this resonates with you.
Till next time

Tips for Supporting Survivors

Fri, 10 Jun 2022 14:00:00 +1200

Interview with Perry Power

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Meet Perry Power.
Survivor, Campaigner and Activist for intra familial abuse. Perry runs two charitable trust organisations. He is an actor, writer and coach.
Listen to his story and notice what he talks about when referring to owning our own stories.
perrypower.org

theandyproject.org.uk

werescuekids.org

instagram.com/iamperrypower

facebook.com/perry.w.power

Tips for Supporting Survivors #3

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 15:00:00 +1200

Interview with Male Survivors

Sun, 05 Jun 2022 16:00:00 +1200

Welcome to my interview with Ken Clearwater and Todd Portsmouth. We discuss ways we can help male survivors cope with the trauma and impact of child sexual abuse.
Issues discussed include:
What is stopping male survivors from speaking out
The complex issues male survivors face
What we can do to help support them
Have a listen, its powerful.

Endings

Fri, 03 Jun 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Endings can be hard, ending highlight who we really are.
How do we do 'endings' when we feel blindsided or lost?
Have a listen and see if there is anything that 'speaks' to you.
Till next time, fellow survivors

Trigger Warning: Interview with Mark Attwood

Fri, 03 Jun 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Trigger Warning:
Warrior, Poet and survivor.
Listen to Mark Attwoods view on all things child abuse.
https://tmas.tv/marksemaillist
https://theMarkAttwoodShow.com
https://www.youtube.com/c/GloriaMaste...
“How to Monetize What’s Already in Your Head, Create a New Income Stream and become Sovereign Quickly” (5 star ratings):
FREE WEBINAR: https://tmas.tv/tmashow
https://tmas.tv/maximisethelight
https://t.me/MarkAttwoodShow

Interview with Rena Romano

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Meet Rena Romano
Survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse for decades.
Author of His Puppet No More available on amazon
Guest on Oprah show 2009
Ted Talk Speaker in 2017
She offers much wisdom in this interview and says this about Shame and perpetrators: 'They committed the crime, stop doing the time'
Have a listen, incredible nuggets of wisdom.
Rena Romano surTHRIVER® and Chief Positivity Officer www.RenaRomano.com 813-614-3720

Tips for supporting survivors #2

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 09:00:00 +1200

Media Interview

Wed, 01 Jun 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Full interview with Alizeey Yeezy

Tips for supporting survivors #1

Tue, 31 May 2022 07:00:00 +1200

Alizeey Yeezy Interviews Me

Sat, 28 May 2022 11:00:00 +1200

The Four F's

Sat, 28 May 2022 09:00:00 +1200

Trauma Responses Revealed. Listen to how the Four F's have helped/continue to help you through trauma.
Universally known as Flight or Flight, did you know there are others?
I call them The Four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn.
They are what emerge in us and help our minds to protect us from threatening trauma, like what we experience as #csa survivors.
Love and light to all

Maria J McMahon Interviews Me

Fri, 27 May 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Maria J McMahon Interviews me.

Trigger Warning: Interview with Maria Socolof

Wed, 25 May 2022 19:00:00 +1200

Meet Maria Socolof: survivor of Sibling Sexual Abuse (SSA). Author and founder of Healing from Chronic Pain. See below for her details:
My website: www.healingfromchronicpain.com
My memoir: The Invisible Key: Unlocking the Mystery of My Chronic Pain: https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Key-...
Sibling Sexual Trauma (SST) / Sibling Sexual Abuse (SSA) website: Siblingsexualtrauma.com
SSA/SST Worldwide Awareness Voice Education and Support: 5WAVES.org
Jane Epstein's TEDx talk on SSA: Giving Voice to Sibling Sexual Abuse: https://youtu.be/0X5TvYrHxTA
siblingstoo.com
myofascialrelease.com

Trust

Sat, 21 May 2022 11:00:00 +1200

Sometimes letting go and Just Trusting can be a real challenge.
Trust is really challenging for us #csa survivors.
How do we trust when what has happened to us makes it almost impossible to feel safe in certain situations again?
Have a listen to this and go into the depth of what inner trust looks like.
It may surprise you!
Love to all

Severe Trigger Warning (TW) Interview with Mary Knight

Thu, 19 May 2022 13:00:00 +1200

Mary Knight is a survivor of maternal sexual abuse including other forms of familial human trafficking, including child pornography produced by her parents.
filmmaker, author, and public speaker. She was a clinical social worker for 23 years.
She has been a full-time writer and filmmaker since 2010.
You Can find her on:
http://www.MaryKnightProductions.com and maryknighthappy@yahoo.com

Ed Squire Interviews Me

Tue, 17 May 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Acceptance

Sun, 15 May 2022 12:00:00 +1200

It can be really challenging to accept the situation we find ourselves in.
None of it is easy, and for us #csa survivors, even more so.
However if we accept a specific situation as though we had chosen it, we may just find a way through more peacefully and with hope.
After all, how do you know you're where you should be?
Because you're there.
Love and light to all of you.
Till next time.

Nigel McFarland Interviews me

Mon, 09 May 2022 18:00:00 +1200

Stephan Neff Interviews me

Mon, 09 May 2022 18:00:00 +1200

Rena Romano Interviews me

Mon, 09 May 2022 18:00:00 +1200

Impact

Mon, 09 May 2022 17:00:00 +1200

Sometimes we have no idea of the impact we have on others, or even the impact they have on us. We do know the only thing we can control is how we behave towards others, and that can be challenging when we are struggling ourselves.
In this blog I offer some quick tips that may help stop behaviour we know we will regret later.
Have a listen, and see if any of it feels comfortable for you.
Till next time, look after yourselves
Gloria

Balance

Thu, 05 May 2022 08:00:00 +1200

Sometimes balance is hard to find when we are busy living our lives and coping with our trauma responses.
Have a listen to a few suggestions that may help to lift and shift the balance in the right direction.
With love and light
Gloria

Tara Reade interviews me

Mon, 02 May 2022 13:00:00 +1200

Shaun Attwood Interviews me

Mon, 02 May 2022 13:00:00 +1200

Mark Attwood interviews me

Mon, 02 May 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Dissociation

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 21:00:00 +1200

Ever wonder why you have spaced out and are not present in your body?
dissociation has a part to play.
For survivors of #csa it is a pretty common symptom, and sometimes we just wish it wouldn't happen.
In this blog I discuss ways you can help alleviate and mitigate against this.
Have a listen, and see if any of it speaks to you.
Till next time fellow travellers, look after yourselves.

Thoughts Matter

Sun, 24 Apr 2022 14:00:00 +1200

When I was young, the only thing I could control was my thoughts. The one thing that could not be destroyed by others was my mind. So, a small part of me ‘the survivor in me’ thought about what was beautiful to me. I began to notice the colour of the trees, or the light in the sky. I would focus on that and see the beauty in it. Over time, hope emerged and I began to feel a little more positive .
As #csa Survivors, the only thing we can control at times is our thoughts.
Have a listen to this blog and see if any of it resonates with you.
With love and light
Gloria

Interview with Madeleine Black

Fri, 22 Apr 2022 07:00:00 +1200

Author of Unbroken One woman journey to rebuild a life 2017
Podcast Channel called Unbroken Healing through storytelling nov 200
TedEx talks presented in June 2019, and March 2022
My interview with Madeleine is both heartbreaking and inspiring. She believes we are more than just the sum of what has happened to us, and that true forgiveness takes genuine effort. It is the ultimate act of courage.
https://madeleineblack.co.uk/
Watch my TEDx Glasgow talk called – “Unbroken – Speaking The Unspeakable”
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Spiritual Stuff

Fri, 15 Apr 2022 12:00:00 +1200

Do you ever feel judged because you don't have the same spiritual stuff as others? That they find you lacking in some way?
You are not alone.
Unfortunately some feel that unless you follow their 'religious doctrine' you are doomed.
This podcast is not meant to advise you of anything, rather it is one opinion on what spirituality really means.
This is intended to offer you a listening ear and belief that your choice is 100% fine.
Have a listen, and enjoy the week ahead.

EmpowerMe Update

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +1200

This is about EmpowerMe NZ and the support and resources they provide for #csa survivors in NZ and across the world. They are launching a brand new e-learning platform and its well worth checking them out.
You can find them on nzempowerme.com

HELP
Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, support@safetotalk.nz
Help Auckland 0800 623 1700
https://betterblokes.org.nz - Free peer support for male sexual abuse survivors
Male Survivors Aotearoa, across NZ https://malesurvivor.nz/ or Freephone: 0800 044 334
The Harbour Online support and information for people affected by sexual abuse.
Women’s Refuge 0800 733 843 (females only)
Victim Support 0800 842 846, text 4334
Go to GloriaMasters.Com for uplifting blogs and information

Coffee & Cocoa Interview me

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 14:00:00 +1200

In this session I am interviewed by Denise Mercer and her daughter Cocoa. They co founded @voicesofcoffeeandcocoa on Facebook Sept 2020 and then went on to establish TWCClubhouse.com in January2022.
They reside in Michigan and do an amazing job advocating and supporting individuals and families who have suffered from #csa.

Depression

Fri, 08 Apr 2022 09:00:00 +1200

Do you ever feel as tho depression has you in its grip?
That there's no help out there for someone like you? You are not alone.
Ever.
Up to 1 in 4 of us experience this, often on a regular basis.
This podcast is not meant to replace professional or medical help. This is intended to offer you a listening ear and assurance that this too will pass.
Have a listen, and enjoy the week ahead.

Boundaries

Fri, 01 Apr 2022 09:00:00 +1300

Ever wondered why you find yourself saying yes, when all you want is to say No?
That you put others first at a bigger cost to you than what you need?
This could be a boundary issue, and for CSA Survivors it is not uncommon. Have a listen to the blog and notice how some of it may just resonate with you.
If you are a CSA Survivor your boundaries were invaded, hence the struggle.
It is nothing to be ashamed of, I am just grateful you survived what you did and I also know your boundaries can be strengthened one brush stroke at a time...

Interview with Denise Mercer

Sun, 27 Mar 2022 12:00:00 +1300

Meet Denise Mercer, fellow CSA Survivor from Michigan.
She was subject to abuse from her neighbour for 3 years and then had to face the cold reality that her children had also been sexually abused. The courage and determination it took for her to face all of this and turn it into something that helps other CSA Survivors is astounding. You will appreciate every word she says.
Denise wrote a book called: My fathers table, available on Amazon (published 2013)
She founded @voicesofcoffeeandcocoa on Facebook Sept 2020 and then went on to establish TWCClubhouse.com in January2022

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Hypervigilance

Sat, 26 Mar 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Ever wondered why you constantly look around you and aware of who is present and where the exit is? You might be experiencing hypervigilance one of the hallmarks of CSA. In this blog I explain what it means, how it served us, and what we can now do about it.
Amazing to have survived what we did, this is a tiny peek into how we can begin to reclaim our lives without needing to be constantly hypervigilant
Check it out!

Interview with Laura Eustace

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 16:00:00 +1300

Laura Eustace is a CSA Survivor who spent years feeling anxious and depressed. When she finally uncovered the truth about her past, beginning at the age of 9, she began the long slow journey of recovery. Her message is strong and clear: Tell someone!

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Interview with Louise Nicholas

Mon, 14 Mar 2022 12:00:00 +1300

Meet Louise Nicholas, fellow CSA Survivor.
She was New Zealander of the year in 2007 due to her courage and determination in bringing her abusers to justice after 7 court proceedings spanning a 25 year period. She wrote a book about her life in 2014 called 'This is my story' and is an active advocate of survivors seeking justice through the NZ Court system. She is a power house, and her message is powerful.
'Believe in yourself, every survivor story is unique'
I am humbled to bring her story to you.

To read her book go to - https://www.amazon.com.au/Louise-Nicholas-Kitchin-Phil/dp/1775536297/ref=sr_1_1?crid=LDTNEAS73203&keywords=louise+nicholas&qid=1647407309&sprefix=louise+nicholas%2Caps%2C206&sr=8-1

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Angels

Sat, 12 Mar 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Ever wondered why in moments of despair an answer can be provided in the form of a person showing up or through a message or tx? Every considered why mini miracles can occur in the most unlikely of circumstances?
Is it possible an Angel was there?
In this blog I share with listeners how Angels may not just be mythical beings wearing big wings that we see depicted in Churches around the world. How actually they may even be here on earth.
For our CSA Survivors, wouldn't that be something?
You may even know one...
Have a listen, and know that you are loved by at least one of them...

Interview with Genisha Morton

Mon, 07 Mar 2022 18:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Genisha Morton, www.facebook.com/bleuolive, instagram: author_genisha_morton twitter: Mysteriousbluez.
Genisha Morton, a single mum who dares to dream big as she's often encouraged her sons to do. A woman of many talents such as singing, teaching, and of course writing just to name a few. Her passion is to be better than she was the day before, and to teach her sons that anything is possible. As she is learning to be the hero in her own story, she only hopes to spread the passion of being great to those who read her stories. "I AM QUALIFIED" is the theme and the message you will get any time you read one of her books! It is a privilege to have hosted her on the show. She wants to lead through sharing her story, and is keen to help others.

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Finding Hope

Sat, 05 Mar 2022 09:00:00 +1300

Ever feel like there is no hope out there and that no one gets you?
For most of us CSA Survivors that is true and more frequent than we would like
This blog offers reference to why we may struggle more than others with this.
I have found that often the answers don't lie with the voices outside of me or the constant chatter in my head, they are more likely to be found inside in the very depth of my being.
My soul if you like
That is where peace and wisdom lie.
This blog looks at how we can discover this for ourselves by going within and quietly meditating.
Steps are provided, and some useful ideas of how to start are discussed.
Love and light to all my fellow CSA survivors

Interview with Ed Squire

Sat, 26 Feb 2022 11:00:00 +1300

Welcome to Ed Squire, the founder of MeTooWhatNow a charity for male and female survivors of child sexual abuse. He does much work to support those who have suffered. He believes that trust first begins in trusting yourself, something child sexual abuse (CSA) survivors struggle with. He believes there needs to be more support and recognition for survivors out there globally.
He is genuine and real in his motivation to help where he can, and offers this to whoever approaches him.

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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TWC Clubhouse

Fri, 25 Feb 2022 08:00:00 +1300

Have a listen to TWC Clubhouse founder Denise Mercer who offers a range of facilitators who run groups on specific topics connected to csa. This is a safe and supportive environment for people to join, listen, and learn about ways to master specific areas such as;
Emotional intimacy
Chronic Pain
Reclaiming your true self
Go to TWC.com for further information

Interview with Ken Clearwater

Sun, 20 Feb 2022 12:00:00 +1300

Meet Ken Clearwater, a champion and activist for male survivors of child sexual abuse. He does much work behind the scenes supporting our brave men who have suffered so much. He wants to see conversations like ours, being normalised. He believes this will help promote more support across the world.
He is real and powerful in his commitment to help men and women in Aotearoa being supported and resourced to full recovery.

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Introduction to the Podcast Series

Mon, 07 Feb 2022 17:00:00 +1300

This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, I believe you and support you in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs.
Each week I will add another interview with a 'fellow survivor' to help support all of us in finding our way to truth and freedom, which only real truth can bring.
Once you click on the video you wish to watch, you will find all of the details of the guest under the video clip.
Reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show.
I also blog monthly on Gloriamasters.com with free uplifting content
I run a regular podcast on buzzsprout: Handing the Shame Back
Help
If you or anyone you know is triggered and struggling to deal with child sexual abuse, the following providers can offer support:
The Harbour (09) 377 9898 Online support and info
Male Survivors Aotearoa 0800 448 484
Safe to Talk 0800 044 334 or text 4334,
Victim Support 0800 842 846

Triggers

Sun, 30 Jan 2022 11:00:00 +1300

This blog was written to support Survivors in identifying and managing triggers. They appear in many shapes and sizes, but as survivors we recognise them, though never welcome - it's a useful reminder that they do validate what we experienced.

Interview with Anna McGreevy

Sat, 29 Jan 2022 15:00:00 +1300

This is Anna McGreevy, a genuine and strong survivor who has found the courage to speak up and share her story of survival with me.
She has suffered years of child sexual abuse starting when she was very small.
Her story is inspiring and she shares her thoughts and uplifting ideas with me. She has turned her life around, is successful in both her professional and private life, and doesn't hold back. We love Anna!!

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Interview with Susan Miller

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 18:00:00 +1300

Meet Susan Miller, a brave survivor of child sexual abuse from a very young age. Susan has reclaimed her life by devoting herself to helping others through her work and her personal journey. She firmly believes that feelings are strongly connected to memories.
Listen to her story and the incredible wisdom she shares.
She too is 'Handing the Shame Back'

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Interview with Tamara Waugh

Sat, 08 Jan 2022 17:00:00 +1300

Meet Tamara Waugh. A brave fellow survivor who is doing much to help people in NZ overcome and deal with the impact of child sexual abuse.
She is inspiring and motivation and Wow, does not sit still in her endeavours to help other survivors out there.
Enjoy with my compliments, as she too hands the shame back!

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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Interview with Todd Portsmouth

Wed, 05 Jan 2022 16:00:00 +1300

I am honoured to present this amazing interview by a brave man called Todd Portsmouth. Todd suffered years of childhood sexual abuse and has emerged ready and willing to share his story in the hope it helps other survivors out there. His story is complex, riveting and shows his huge heart and dedication in turning his experiences into something meaningful to support other survivors.

To apply to be a guest on the show go to: https://www.gloriamasters.com/contact.html#/
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