How Summer Secretly Wrecks Your ADHD Brain

School's out, routines are gone, and if your ADHD brain feels extra chaotic right now, you're not lazy — you're just missing the structure summer quietly stole from you. In this episode of the Sane Mom Summer series, Caitlin breaks down why ADHD symptoms intensify in summer and shares real, low-effort supports that actually help.

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Who Should Listen

• Moms with ADHD (diagnosed or self-suspected) who feel more scattered, emotional, or overstimulated once summer hits
• Parents managing shifting routines, camp schedules, and loosened structure
• Anyone in the Not Quite Grown Up "Sane Mom Summer" series looking for practical, non-glamorous coping tools
• Listeners who feel shame around not "enjoying summer enough"

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What You Get in This Episode

• A reframe for ADHD shame: scattered ≠ lazy — it means your brain needs different supports, not more willpower
• Why summer specifically wrecks ADHD coping mechanisms (hint: it's the missing structure, not you)
• The "acceptance before action" mindset, borrowed from an unexpected source (Amanda Knox)
• Five concrete, unglamorous tools: visible reminders, external structure, task-shrinking, action-before-motivation, and low-stakes systems (baskets, checklists, snack bins, alarms)
• Permission to stop chasing motivation and just start the smallest possible step

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Your Host

Caitlin Kindred is the host of Not Quite Grownup, a podcast for moms navigating the gap between who they're "supposed" to be and the messy, real version of adulthood. Diagnosed with ADHD at 38, she brings that lens to episodes like this one, talking openly about what actually helps rather than what's supposed to.

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Sources & Mentions

• Sane Mom Summer series: 
  • Episode 205 — Lowering the standard for summer
  • Episode 206 — Confidence
  • Episode 207 — Not letting the internet dictate your summer
  • Episode 208 (this one) — ADHD in summer mode

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What’s Next

Back-to-school without the mommy meltdown

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You started summer with one goal: keep life calmer, lighter, less chaotic. Then you scrolled for two minutes and suddenly your summer looks underwhelming compared to someone else's perfectly curated highlights. Your nervous system is dysregulated, your confidence is shaken, and you're convinced everyone else has figured something out that you missed. Let’s fix that.

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Summary

Your real life matters more than content, even when it doesn't photograph well. A meaningful summer doesn't require a curated feed. It requires protecting your attention and refusing to absorb other people's chaos as your own. This episode shows you how.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You feel tense, anxious, or "behind" after scrolling
• You're scrolling for relief when you're tired but ending up more fried
• Your feed makes you feel like you’re sucking at summer

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What You'll Get

• Why your brain reaches for social media when tired (and why it backfires)
• How algorithms actually work—dwell time is the algo-impact you didn't know about
• Clear signs your feed is dysregulating you
• 4 practical boundaries that fit real mom life (ex: “shower before screens”)
• A self-check question to stop spiraling and return to what's actually real

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Your Host

Caitlin is the host of Not Quite Grownup and a content marketer who knows her way around an algorithm. She's also the woman who will pry Threads from her cold, dead hands, so this isn't about quitting social media—it's about protecting your peace within it.

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You're allowed to quit the gym without explaining why.

You're allowed to say no without an explainer paragraph.

You're allowed to let someone else sit with their discomfort while you trust your decision.

This episode is about what real confidence looks like, and it doesn't require you to be loud, polished, or certain.

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You Need This Episode If:

• You find yourself overexplaining every decision you make
• You've been managing everyone else's feelings instead of trusting your own
• You’re looking for a way to build the kind of confidence that spills into other areas of your life

What You'll Get:

• A realistic definition of confidence that actually works for moms
• Why overexplaining kills your confidence (and how it opens the door for pushback)
• The gym cancellation story that changes everything about how you see boundaries
• Practical ways to build self-trust with small choices
• Why silence is one of your most powerful tools

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Your Host:

Caitlin is the host of Not Quite Grownup, a podcast for moms who are trying to keep it together with their watered-down iced coffee and realistic expectations. She's figuring this out in real time, right alongside you.

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Bottom Line:

Real confidence isn't about being loud or having it all figured out. It's about knowing what you want, trusting your decisions, and being willing to let things be a little awkward, one small choice at a time.

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Summer is supposed to be relaxing. Barefoot kids, popsicles, pool days, sleeping in. So why does it make you feel like you're barely holding it together?

The answer isn't that you're doing something wrong. Summer genuinely breaks moms—not because you're weak, but because the structure you've been relying on all year suddenly disappears and gets replaced with a thousand tiny decisions you have to make every single day.

This episode is about why that happens, what it actually costs you, and how to get through summer without completely losing your sh*t.

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You Need This Episode If...

• Summer has you making decisions from 6 AM to bedtime with no breaks
• You're feeling guilty for not making summer "special" enough
• You're exhausted by the constant "what should we do today?" questions
• You want practical ways to protect your sanity (not add more to your plate)

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What You'll Get

Why summer breaks moms:

• The decision fatigue that comes from losing routine
• How the pressure to make summer "magical" actually works against you
• What your nervous system actually needs during unstructured months

What "sane" actually looks like:

• Four realistic weekly goals
• Permission to lower the bar without guilt
• Real talk about what your kids actually remember

Practical ways to cope:

• How to pre-decide choices so you're not deciding the same thing every day
• Building tiny rituals that protect your peace
• Protecting your evenings (and why it matters)
• Setting boundaries around the pressure to perform in the summer

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former teacher, current mom, someone who is already losing her mind in June, and someone who’s learning that surviving summer break with your sanity intact is the real win this season.

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Summer doesn't need to be amazing. It needs to be survivable in a way that leaves you still liking yourself and your kids at the end of August.

Give yourself permission to lower the bar. It’s enough to just get through it.

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Sources & Mentions

Read the blog post →

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Next episode: Building real confidence, bathing suit season aside.

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Senior year of college. My best friend and roommate. An envelope of cash in the freezer, a lie about her father dying, expensive purses showing up, and then a "break-in" so terrifying that I got in a cop car and drove around looking for the alleged attacker.

Weeks later, I found out the truth from a newspaper headline. The entire thing was staged. No confession. No apology. From the newspaper. In front of other people.

This episode is about what forgiveness looks like when the person who hurt you won't own it, and you still have to figure out how to move forward without letting rage live in your body forever.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You're stuck waiting for an apology that's never coming
• You're exhausted by the anger but don't know how to put it down
• You keep rehearsing what you'd say if they ever acknowledged what they did
• You're worried about the next steps after forgiveness

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What You'll Get

The story: A friendship betrayal so bizarre it still stings, and the years of grief, rumination, and rage that followed

• What forgiveness isn't
• What forgiveness actually is
• What "forgive but don't forget" really means:
• How to know when you’ve reached a turning point

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former teacher, current mom, someone who lost her best friend and most of her social circle to a betrayal she found out about in a newspaper, and someone who learned the real meaning of forgiveness.

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Sources & Mentions

• Apology and Forgiveness in Reconciliation: How Words Can Mend | Beyond Intractability
• On Rupture and Repair: A Relational Approach | RIAP Psychological Services
• Apology and Restitution: The Psychophysiology of Forgiveness After Wrongdoing | PMC
• Forgiveness in Close Relationships | Very Well Mind
• Forgiveness and Reconciliation | Stanford Encyclopedia

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What’s Next

Planning my summer series! Starting after Memorial Day, episodes will release every other week so I can have a little summer and put some things together.

Have a topic you want me to cover? Send me a text using the link at the top of the show notes.

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Someone hurt you. You did the brave thing and called them out for it. And then they responded with denial, minimizing, blame-shifting, or the classic non-apology: "I'm sorry you're upset."

That moment can make you feel dismissed and a little unsteady—like you need to build a courtroom case just to prove your own experience.

This episode is about what to do when someone hurts you and refuses accountability. When repair isn't mutual. When they deny, deflect, or gaslight—and still expect access to you and your family.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You've named your hurt and been met with deflection ("That's not what I meant," "You're too sensitive," "Why are you still on about that?")
• You're stuck between wanting to repair the relationship and realizing they're not interested in owning their part
• You keep rehearsing the "perfect speech" in your head that will finally make them understand
• You need scripts for stepping away from arguments that go nowhere

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What You'll Get

• How to spot non-accountability patterns, like common deflection lines that invalidate your feelings
• Why you can't force accountability (and what to do instead) and scripts to stop the argument and step away
• Traps to avoid, like over-explaining and performative forgiveness
• Questions to ask yourself for using boundaries as risk management (How much access should they have to you? What do you need to stop expecting from this person?)
• Practical options for when you can't fully avoid that person

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former teacher, current mom, and someone who has learned (the hard way) that you cannot force another adult to become honest, curious, or fair on demand. This episode is about choosing your response when repair isn't mutual.

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Sources & Mentions

• Apology and Forgiveness in Reconciliation: How Words Can Mend | Beyond Intractability
• On Rupture and Repair: A Relational Approach | RIAP Psychological Services
• Apology and Restitution: The Psychophysiology of Forgiveness After Wrongdoing | PMC

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The most grown-up thing you can do when someone refuses accountability is to stop arguing, stop explaining your pain to someone committed to misunderstanding it, and decide on the kind of contact that protects your peace.

Next episode: Forgiveness—how to let go without pretending something didn't happen.

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"I'm sorry" means nothing if you keep doing the thing you’re “I’m sorry” for. If the same hurt keeps happening, those words become noise—and trust quietly erodes until there's not much left to repair.

This episode is about what to do when you're the one who crossed the line. What a real apology actually looks like, why so many of our go-to phrases miss the mark, and how to make repair believable through accountability and changed behavior—not just words.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You know you were wrong and you want to actually fix it, not just smooth it over
• Your apologies tend to include "but" or "I didn't mean it like that"—and you know that's a problem
• Someone in your life is still hurt after you apologized and you don't know what to do next
• You want to model real accountability for your kids

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What You'll Get

• A four-part framework for a real apology
• The most common fake-apology phrases and why they dodge ownership instead of creating it
• Why intent vs. impact matters, and why "I didn't mean to" doesn't close the loop
• How shame spiraling ("I'm the worst") quietly makes an apology about you instead of them
• Scripts for apologizing to a partner, co-parent, in-law, or your kids
• Why repair takes longer than an apology, and how to respect that timeline

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Your Host

Caitlin is a mom, podcast host, and the kind of person who gives you the real talk alongside the exact words you need. She covers the honest, complicated parts of family life—relationships, co-parenting, and doing better—with warmth, zero fluff, and practical tools you can actually use.

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Sources & Mentions

• The Four Parts of Accountability & How To Give A Genuine Apology | Leaving Evidence
• Repair After an Argument: A Step-by-Step Apology That Works | River North Counseling
• On Rupture and Repair: A Relational Approach | RIAP Psychological Services
• Apology and Restitution: The Psychophysiology of Forgiveness After Wrongdoing | PMC
• Family Conflict Is Normal; It’s the Repair That Matters | Greater Good Magazine
• Apology and Forgiveness in Reconciliation: How Words Can Mend | Beyond Intractability

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Accountability is a skill, not a personality trait. You can get better at it. This episode shows you how.

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Some relationships are worth fighting for. Some aren't ready to be repaired yet. And some people in your life will never give you the closure you deserve—and you need a plan for that too.

This episode is about what to do after someone wrongs you: how to name the harm clearly, how to decide whether repair is actually possible, and how to protect yourself when the other person won't meet you halfway.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You're stuck between swallowing your hurt and blowing up a relationship
• Someone in your life keeps minimizing what they did or calling you "too sensitive"
• You want to repair something but don't know how to start the conversation
• You're done chasing closure from someone who won't give it

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What You'll Get

• A simple framework for naming the hurt before trying to fix it
• Three questions that help you decide between repair, distance, or repair with firm boundaries
• Scripts for asking for acknowledgment without turning it into a debate
• What to do when they deny, minimize, or flip the blame
• Why forgiveness and repair are not the same thing—and how to choose peace without pretending nothing happened

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Your Host

Caitlin is a mom, podcast host, and the kind of person who will give you the exact words you need when you don't know what to say. She covers the real, complicated parts of family life—co-parenting, relationships, and protecting your peace—with warmth, zero fluff, and a lot of practical scripts.

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Sources & Mentions

• Handling Political Disagreements in the Family | Psychology Today
• How Politics Are Tearing Families Apart | Psychology Today
• On Rupture and Repair: A Relational Approach | RIAP Psychological Services
• Apology and Restitution: The Psychophysiology of Forgiveness After Wrongdoing | PMC

Other sources are listed in the blog post for this episode.

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Whether this relationship gets repaired or not, you deserve to stop carrying the weight of someone else's unwillingness to be accountable. This episode gives you a path forward either way.

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Political messiness at home hits different. This isn’t internet discourse—this is your dinner table, your co-parent, your in-laws… and your kids sitting right there.

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You Need This Episode If...

• Political conversations in your family escalate fast
• You and your co-parent don’t agree on what’s okay to say around the kids
• Your in-laws treat “just asking questions” like an Olympic sport
• You’re tired of your kids getting caught in grownup tension

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What You'll Get

• A simple way to think about politics at home (hint: it’s not just politics—it’s values)
• Scripts you can actually use when things start to spiral
• Clear “house rules” for political conversations that protect your kids
• What to do when someone ignores your boundary (because they will)

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Your Host

Hi, I’m your host, Caitlin, and I’m right there with you—figuring out how to hold boundaries at home without turning every disagreement into a full-blown situation. I love a good sentence frame, and yes… I had to rewrite this episode multiple times because it matters that much.

At the end of the day, this isn’t about winning political arguments. It’s about keeping your kids out of the emotional crossfire—and building a home that actually feels safe to live in.

Love you, mean it.

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Sources & Mentions

• How to Handle Political Differences with Your In-Laws | Brides of Long Island 
• List of Co-Parenting Boundaries | Co-Parenting Rules 
• How Do I Navigate Political Differences With My Parents With A Kid Involved? | Scary Mommy 
• 11 Strategies for Dealing with Parents with Different Political Views | Therapy with Julie 
• List Of Co-parenting Boundaries To Set For Your Children | amicable 
• Boundaries, respect keys to political discussions with family | UT Southwestern Medical Center 
• How parent-child political disagreements harm relationships and individual mental health | PsyPost 
• Setting Boundaries in a High-Conflict Co-Parenting Relationship | Our Family Wizard

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The news can make you feel like you're failing at everything all at once: citizenship, parenting, marriage, friendships, and your own mental health.

We're closing out the advocacy arc by getting brutally honest about bandwidth—because the "right" way to be informed and engaged is the one you can actually sustain without melting down in the carpool line.

This is a bridge episode: where we've been, what you've learned, and how to figure out what comes next.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You've been following the civic engagement series and need to process it all
• You're not sure which lane to focus on next (civic or personal)
• You feel maxed out and need permission to scale back
• You want to know what's coming next on the show
• You need help choosing ONE thing to keep doing consistently

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What You'll Get

A recap of what we've covered:

• Doomscrolling and nervous system overload
• Hyper-local civic engagement (school boards, library boards, mutual aid)
• Nonviolent communication for hard conversations
• Media literacy and digital citizenship for raising kids online

Self-diagnosis questions to figure out your next season:

• Are you feeling a civic pull (leadership, showing up locally) or a personal pull (partnership, co-parenting, mental load)?
• How much emotional capacity do you actually have?
• What can your kids handle right now?

What's coming next:

• Shifting focus to home, boundaries, and relationships
• Topics: co-parenting when politics don't match, protecting your mental load, setting boundaries with family, maintaining friendships across political divides

Your tiny homework: Pick ONE thing from this series to keep doing consistently

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and someone who just walked you through a graduate-level seminar on being a grown-up. Now it's time to figure out what happens next.

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You don't have to do all of it. You just have to do enough to feel like you're still you—and not someone else's activist project.

Next episode: Co-parenting and boundaries in this political space we're in. Should be a doozy.

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Caitlin is furiously planning the next series for the pod, so we revisit an oldie but goodie with these spring cleaning and organization hacks!

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We share 14 spring organizing tips that scratch the spring cleaning itch without spending a fortune on new storage bins. We also get nerdy about the upcoming total solar eclipse, debate hyperfixation snacks, and tell a cautionary story that starts with cleaning a bathroom vent and ends with a bruised knee.

• cleaning vs tidying vs organizing as separate tasks 
• pool noodles to keep boots upright 
• stickable hooks for tools and hiding cords 
• vinyl placemats as fridge shelf liners 
• shoe organizers used for mugs, supplies, and more 

Make good choices, Love you, mean it.
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Your hands are shaking. Your stomach drops. A parent-friend just told you that your child's kindergarten teacher is using a stern voice with your kid "all the time"—and it isn't getting better.

If you hate confrontation but also can't ignore that protective mama bear instinct, this episode is for you.

This week, I'm sharing my appearance on the Uncomfy podcast with host Julie Rose. We talk about what happened when I chose to advocate for my son anyway—and how that teacher meeting led to not one, but TWO ADHD diagnoses: his and mine.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You've ever had to confront a teacher (or need to and you're terrified)
• You suspect your child might be neurodivergent and don't know where to start
• You've wondered if YOU might have ADHD (especially as a woman)
• You need practical scripts for advocating without starting from accusation
• You're a mom trying to survive modern motherhood while carrying all the things

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What You'll Get

How to advocate for your child without making it worse:

• When to contact the teacher directly vs. when to loop in support staff
• The magic phrase: "Can you help me understand?" (turns confrontation into fact-finding)
• How to separate valid teacher frustration from a harmful pattern

The path to ADHD diagnosis:

• How classroom behavior can flag neurodivergence
• What the evaluation process actually looks like
• How advocating for my son led to my own adult ADHD diagnosis at 38

ADHD in women and moms:

• Internal hyperactivity, mind racing, time blindness
• Hobby hopping, hyperfixation, high achievement paired with silent struggle
• How the label gave me language and tools (not excuses)

Survival skills for modern motherhood:

• Setting boundaries around news consumption
• Scheduling joy like it matters
• A sensory reset you can try tonight if you're overstimulated

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Your Host

Caitlin Kindred (that's me!) is a former middle school teacher, current mom, host of "How to Be a Grownup," and someone who got her adult ADHD diagnosis at 38 after advocating for her kindergartener led to an evaluation that changed everything.

Julie Rose hosts the Uncomfy podcast, where hard conversations become useful ones.

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Fear hits differently when it involves your child. But sometimes advocacy—even when it's scary—leads to clarity, validation, and tools you didn't know you needed.

This conversation is about conflict resolution, neurodivergence, and the unexpected ways motherhood reshapes who we are.

Want more from Uncomfy? Find them at uncomfy.podcast on Instagram or email uncomfy@byu.edu.

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The internet is raising your kids right alongside you—through DMs, group chats, and comment threads. And that's important, because it's where both empathy and power get practiced every single day.

If media literacy asks, "Is this real or fake?", digital citizenship asks, "Who am I becoming online?"

This episode is about digital citizenship for real families: not vague "be nice online" advice, but concrete habits you can model, repeat, and actually use when group chats turn mean or your kid sees something sketchy.

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Digital citizenship doesn't mean never posting anything spicy again. It means asking yourself: is this helping build the kind of world I want to live in, or am I just adding to the noise?

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You Need This Episode If...

• Your kid has access to group chats, DMs, or social media
• You want practical scripts for when online spaces get toxic
• You need a family code of conduct that applies to adults, too (because modeling matters)
• You're not sure how to connect "digital citizenship" to real-world civic action
• You want to teach accountability and repair when kids mess up online

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What You'll Get

4-rule family code of conduct:

1. Pause before you post (especially when emotions spike)
2. Don't dehumanize people

(Get the other 2 in the episode!)

Weekly feed check-in – How to sit with your teen and unpack what the algorithm is showing them (and why)

Real scripts kids can use:

• When a group chat turns mean
• When they see sketchy content in DMs
• When they realize they joined in and need to repair
• The "blame the parent" exit strategy

Accountability – Why "it was a joke" doesn't cut it, and what to do instead

How to connect online energy to civic action

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former teacher, current mom, and someone actively opposed to becoming a troll in the comments section (and doesn't want her kids to be trolls either).

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Sources & Mentions

• How Media Literacy Supports Civic Engagement in a Digital Age | Media Education Lab (PDF; links media literacy to civic participation)
• Resource Library | Media Literacy Now (curated K–12 media literacy and digital citizenship resources)
• Enhancing Young People’s Media Literacy for Civic Engagement | YouthNetworks (how youth media literacy connects to civic skills and engagement)

Get the rest in the blog post!

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Next week: Catch Caitlin's appearance on the Uncomfy podcast, talking about her ADHD diagnosis.

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Democracy doesn't just live at the ballot box. It's in your kitchen, the car line, and the nightly debate over who picks the movie.

When you think of democracy, you probably think of voting booths or big speeches. But most of the skills kids need for a healthy democracy are actually practiced in those everyday moments—who gets the last chicken nugget, whose turn it is to pick the playlist, and how we handle disagreements about bedtime.

This episode is about turning ordinary parenting moments into practical civics lessons (and guess what—you’re already doing a lot of this already!).

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You Need This Episode If...

• You want to raise kids who can disagree without destroying each other
• You're not sure how to connect "family rules" to "civic responsibility"
• You need scripts for handling sibling arguments, unfair rule complaints, and lost votes
• You want practical tools (family votes, rotating roles, quick meetings) that don't require overhauling your entire parenting style
• You're tired of saying "no" and want a better way to handle spontaneous requests

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What You'll Get

The reframe – Democracy as sharing power, listening, negotiating, and revising rules together

Low-lift practices you can try this week:

• Family votes on low-stakes choices (with consolation prizes for losers)
• Rotating roles that reframe leadership as service (DJ of the day, snack captain, line leader)
• 10-minute family council meetings with simple rules that actually work

Sentence frames for real-time moments – What to say when stuck in traffic, when someone loses a vote, when a kid complains about an unfair rule

The connections – How to explicitly link house rules to laws, chores to shared responsibilities, and apologies to accountability

One weekly challenge – Pick one democratic practice to try and name the civic skill it builds

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former humanities teacher, current mom, and someone who wants you to know that ordinary parenting conflicts are civics lessons—they just look like arguments over who got the blue sippy cup instead of the red one.

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Sources & Mentions

• Find a complete list of sources in the blog post for this episode!
• Family Meetings: The Why and the How of Fun, Successful Family Meetings | Connected Families (includes a printable family meeting agenda)
• Democratic Parenting Style: What It Is and How to Practice It | PEP (Parent Encouragement Program)

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Next episode: Digital citizenship—taking everything we've learned and using it online.

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With all that’s going on in our world, you likely want to take action. But you can’t act wisely if you’re acting on bad information.

If you've ever seen a viral post that spiked your blood pressure and wondered, “Wait, is this even real?”—this episode is for you.

Caitlin and Ariella Monti (author, former journalist, and resident media studies expert) break down practical media literacy you can use between school drop-off and dinner. No theory. Just fast checks that keep you from getting played. Because outrage is easy. But truth is power.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You've shared something online and later realized it was fake
• You see family members spreading misinformation and don't know how to respond
• You want to teach your kids to think critically about what they see online
• You're tired of rage bait designed to make you angry
• You need a simple framework for fact-checking without losing your whole evening

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What You'll Get

The key question – "Do I have more feelings than facts about this?" (Use it every time you see something inflammatory)

Misinformation vs. disinformation – Why the difference matters and how to spot each

Common disinformation tactics:

• Recycled images with new captions
• Cropped photos to inflate crowd sizes
• AI-generated images (how to spot warped patterns, impossible hands, too-smooth faces)
• Staged or manipulated scenes

Fast verification workflow:

• Check for named sources
• Reverse image search
• Search "[event] + fact check" with recent dates
• Look for multiple angles/photos from the same event

Source evaluation – Which outlets to trust (AP, Reuters, NPR, BBC, government pages) and red flags to watch for

How to connect this to civic engagement – Writing better emails to reps with actual receipts

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Your Hosts

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and someone who regularly talks herself down from rage bait.

Ariella Monti is an author (Roots in Ink, Bound by Ink), a former journalist, holds a degree in media studies, and once almost retweeted an Onion article because she was too tired to recognize it was satire.

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Sources & Mentions

• Full list in the blog post for this episode!
• Media Literacy Art Education: Logos, Culture, Jamming, and Activism | JSTOR
• WHAT is Media Literacy and HOW Can Simple Shifts Center It? | PBS
• Teen Fact-Checking Network (TFCN), MediaWise | Poynter.org

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Ever wish you had the exact words when a family member crosses a line? When your kid brings you a scary headline? When your teenager parrots something from a sketchy source?

This episode gives you those words.

Caitlin’s breaking down nonviolent communication (NVC). This practical, four-part framework helps you hold boundaries, protect your values, and model respect during the hardest conversations at home, online, and in public.

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You Need This Episode If...

• You want to talk about politics with your kids without freaking them out
• A family member keeps saying "those people" and you don't know how to respond
• You tried gentle parenting and it felt fake
• You need scripts for de-escalating family arguments in front of your kids
• You want to teach your kids to disagree without dehumanizing people

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What You'll Get

The 4-part NVC framework – Observation, feeling, need, request (with real examples you can use today)

Word-for-word scripts for:

• The living room covered in toys (holding boundaries as a parent)
• When a relative says "those people" (responding without contempt)
• When your kid sees scary news (validating without dismissing)
• When your teen quotes a bad source (teaching media literacy)
• When you lose your temper (how to repair)

Graceful exits – How to leave conversations that cross your line

Simple experiments – One feeling word a day, one rewritten text, one boundary stated out loud

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and someone who has a quick temper and is more often in "oops, I said that" mode than proactive mode. She's here to show you how to do less damage when things heat up—and recover faster when they do.

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Sources & Mentions

• Introduction to Practicing Nonviolence with Children: A Resource for Families and Teachers (PDF) | The Peace Resource Center of San Diego
• The Heart of Parenting: Nonviolent Communication in Action (PDF) | Marion Badenoch Rose, Ph.D.
• The Center For Nonviolent Communication

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What’s Next

Ariella joins me to talk about Media Literacy and how not to get sucked in by your algo. Don’t miss it.

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Want to raise kids who stand up for what's right without tearing people down? Wondering what safe, nonviolent civic engagement actually looks like when you have kids in tow?

This episode is your roadmap.

We're talking about nonviolence as both a strategy AND a family value—from writing one-paragraph emails that move school boards to showing up at protests with clear exit plans.

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We Want to Hear From You

What topic would you like to see next? Caitlin's thinking about media literacy, but she wants your input. Use the "send me a text" link in the show notes to share your ideas.

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You need this episode if…

• You want to take action but worry about keeping your kids safe
• You're not sure what "nonviolent civic engagement" actually means in practice
• You need low-energy options that still count as real activism
• You want your kids to see you stand up for values without modeling aggression

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What You'll Get

• Nonviolence as a family value – How to turn abstract ideals into house rules your kids can practice daily
• From-the-couch activism – Low-spoons options (letters, calls, donations, petitions) that model civic engagement without leaving home
• Bring-your-kid options – Safe, family-friendly ways to attend school board meetings, library events, and mutual aid drives
• Safety planning for protests – What to know before you go, how to prepare kids, and when to leave
• One simple plan – Pick one couch action and one kid action for this month (that's it, that's the assignment)

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Your Host

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and someone who believes you don't have to raise tiny revolutionaries—you can raise humans who care loudly and safely, one email at a time.

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Sources & Mentions

• Introduction to Practicing Nonviolence with Children: A Resource for Families and Teachers (PDF) | The Peace Resource Center of San Diego
• A Parent’s Guide to School Board Advocacy | ACLU of Texas
• Understanding Public Education Advocacy: A Guide for Parents and Educators | Texas Public Education Defense Fund
• Find the rest in the blog post for this episode.

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Feel like you should be doing more but don't know where to start? Stuck between wanting to defend your values and needing to remember that tomorrow is library day?

Here's the truth: You don't have to save democracy by yourself between soccer practice and bedtime.

This episode is about hyperlocal action that actually fits your life. We're talking school boards, library boards, mutual aid—and how to show up with kids, snacks, and use exactly the amount of bandwidth you have this week.

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What topic would you like to see next? There's a "send me a text" link in the show notes, or DM us on Threads (@ckandgkpodcast).

These topics are unfortunately writing themselves right now, but we want to make sure we're covering what YOU actually need.

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You Need This Episode If:

• You feel guilty for not doing "enough" politically
• You want to take action but don't know where to start
• You're tired of viral outrage but still care deeply about your community
• You need permission to be a "one email this month" activist
• You want your kids to see values in action (without mom becoming a martyr)

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What You Get In This Episode

• The "Pick Your Lane" framework – Choose one local focus (schools, libraries, or mutual aid) for THIS season instead of trying to do everything
• Capacity-matched actions – Low, medium, and high spoons ideas for each lane so you can do what you can with what you have
• Copy-paste templates – Email and phone scripts that take 5 minutes max (no staring at blank screens)
• The "Show Up with Kids" guide – How to attend meetings with goldfish, headphones, and an exit strategy
• Permission – To be the mom who sends one email, shows up with crayons, and makes a real difference anyway

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Bios

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and the person who will absolutely sit by the exit at any public meeting.

She's here to remind you that small, consistent actions at the local level are valid and important—and that you're allowed to pick just one lane for this season of your life.

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Sources & Mentions

• A Parent’s Guide to School Board Advocacy | ACLU of Texas (roles, how boards work, tips for writing, calling, and speaking at meetings)
• Understanding Public Education Advocacy: A Guide for Parents and Educators | Texas Public Education Defense Fund (ways parents can engage: meetings, advocacy groups, contacting reps)
• Contact Your Representatives | Save Texas Schools (very simple “copy, edit, send” letter/email guidance; useful model for your templates)
• How to Effectively Contact Your Local School Board Representatives | community advice from a school board member (practical note that board members and superintendents do read emails)
• Advocacy in Action: A Guide to Establishing and Running a Special Education Parent Advisory Council | National SEPAC guide (broader parent‑advocacy strategies, outreach and meeting ideas)
• How to Help Your Community with Mutual Aid | P

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If you've ever found yourself reading about the collapse of democracy while your groceries melt in the car, this one's for you.

We're being told to "stay informed" and "be engaged"—and honestly, it feels irresponsible to be anything but. But we're also the default parent, the orthodontist appointment scheduler, and the person who remembers everyone's dietary restrictions at Thanksgiving.

Your nervous system was not designed for an endless breaking news ticker plus elementary school drop-off.

This episode is about building sustainable habits so you can care about the world without setting yourself on fire.

Listen now →

You Need This Episode If...

• You've scrolled the news instead of sleeping (again)
• You've snapped at your kids and realized you were really mad at something you saw online
• You feel guilty for NOT doomscrolling
• You're trying to figure out how to be a good citizen AND a functional human
• You need permission to take care of yourself without feeling like you're abandoning the fight

What You'll Get

• Micro-grounding tools that work in the pickup line, at red lights, or while hiding in your closet
• The "News Container" method – three practical boundaries (time, space, source) that let you stay informed without losing your mind
• Capacity-based activism – how to align your actions with your actual energy levels (not your guilt levels)
• Concrete micro self-care that fits into a real mom schedule—no vision boards or bubble baths required
• Permission to be human with limits in a world that pretends we have none

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current mom, and someone who once doomscrolled for 45 minutes in a Target parking lot and then forgot why she went to Target.

Ariella is a novelist, former journalist, mom, and the friend who will text you "no need to respond, just needed to tell someone I'm overwhelmed today."

Together, they're here to remind you that doing what you can, when you can, with what you have is not laziness—it's sustainable engagement.

Take One Action Today

Pick just one:

• Turn off one notification (start with news alerts)
• Choose one time of day for your news check-in
• Text one friend: "I'm trying to care about the world without wrecking myself. You in?"

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Sources & Mentions

• Media overload is hurting our mental health. Here are ways to cope. – American Psychological Association
• Doomscrolling Scale: its Association with Personality Traits and Psychological Distress – NIH (PMC)
• Doomsurfing and doomscrolling mediate psychological distress in COVID-19 lockdown – NIH (PMC)

[Full resource list available in blog post.]

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Your kid just asked, "What's a protest?"

When protests are all over the news and their social feeds, how do you explain what's happening without panic, preachiness, or paralysis? Today, we're breaking down exactly what to say to kids at different ages, with scripts you can steal and alternatives for when attending a march isn't right for your family.

Confidently answer your kids' questions about protests—listen for honest, age-appropriate scripts that explain what's happening without creating anxiety.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents fielding questions about protests from kids who see them on TV and social media, caregivers who need practical scripts that work for different ages, and anyone who wants to raise informed citizens.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Simple, values-based scripts for ages 4-8: what protests are, why they're allowed, and how to address safety concerns
• Scripts for tweens (9-12): adding nuance about rights, responsibilities, and how change happens beyond protesting
• Alternatives to attending marches: writing cards, calling representatives, making signs for windows
• How to talk with teens (13+) about evaluating protests: who's organizing, safety plans, and deciding together
• The three-point summary kids can remember about why people protest

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Bios

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current parent, and someone navigating these conversations alongside you. She's here to help you raise informed citizens who base opinions on good information and treat people with dignity—not political clones of yourself.

Coming next week: Resources and tips for self-care and boundaries for moms balancing caregiving, activism, and work while trying to stay normal through the chaos.

Important reminder: As parents, our job is to guide children to become informed citizens who treat people with dignity.

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Sources & Mentions

• This excellent list of resources from Boston University
• How to Be a Good Activist and a Good Mom | All In Together
• Politics of Parenthood | About - Vote Mama Foundation

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Parenting through family conflict feels like walking a tightrope. On one side sit your values and a strong urge to protect your child. On the other side lives your love for relatives who see the world differently. And all the while, your kid is watching—not for perfect talking points, but for how you handle the tension.

Today we're sharing what to say to kids before, during, and after disagreements with relatives—how to model respect, clear boundaries, and steady courage when the room gets loud—because tense moments around the table are powerful classrooms.

Build confidence for family gatherings where politics come up—hit subscribe and get scripts for what to say to your kids before, during, and after disagreements with relatives.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents navigating family gatherings where politics come up, anyone who needs scripts for managing disagreements in front of kids, and caregivers who want to model being brave and kind at the same time.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Scripts for before family gatherings: setting expectations, teaching values, and creating code words for when kids feel uncomfortable
• What to say in the moment when disagreements happen (and when relatives try to pull your kid in)
• How to debrief after arguments: validating feelings, normalizing disagreement, clarifying your stance
• What to do when you mess up: scripts for when you lose your temper, freeze, or are too harsh
• The meta-lesson: modeling reflection, apology, and trying again

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Bios

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher, current parent, and someone navigating these messy family dynamics alongside you. She's here to remind you that you can be imperfect while still showing up and being the best mom for your kids.

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Sources & Mentions

Organizations like All In Together and the Vote Mama Foundation offer tools for civic engagement while parenting, reminding us that advocacy and family life can coexist.

Important reminder: Your kid is watching how you act when things get tense way more than they're memorizing your talking points. You're not trying to raise a political clone—you're modeling values.

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Life hasn't stopped, even though it feels like the world is falling apart. You're still doing laundry, packing lunches, dealing with broken freezers. And your kids are picking up on your tension—the tone in your voice, the headlines they overhear, the things their friends are saying at school. You don't have all the answers, and that's okay. But staying silent isn't the answer either. Today we're breaking down how to talk to your kids about scary news—with scripts for every age, permission to mess up, and the reminder that you don't need perfect words. You just need to show up.

You don’t have to feel paralyzed about how to talk to your kids—hit subscribe and get age-appropriate scripts that help them feel safe, heard, and empowered to ask questions (even when you don't have all the answers).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents feeling overwhelmed by current events, anyone who doesn't know how to talk to their kids about scary news, and caregivers who want scripts that actually work without downloading trauma into their children's brains.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why talking with kids matters—even when you don't have all the answers
• Ground rules: honesty, boundaries, and emotional safety
• Scripts by age band (4-8, 9-12, 13+) for different scenarios: protests, scary headlines, "are we going to be okay?"
• A simple 3-step conversation framework you can remember and reuse: Ask what they know, name the feeling + basic facts, offer safety + one action
• What to do when conversations go wrong: oversharing, shutdowns, and the "I messed up" script

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Bios

Caitlin is a former middle school teacher. Jenny is a current middle school assistant principal. Both are current parents, and people navigating these scary times alongside you. They’re here to normalize feeling overwhelmed and offer practical scripts that work—because you don't need perfect words. You just need to show up.

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Sources & Mentions

• What to say to kids when the news is scary : Life Kit | NPR
• How to talk to kids about scary news | Parents | Nat Geo Kids
• A Parent’s Guide to Comforting Kids When News Is Frightening: Age-Appropriate Tips For Parents | Stanford Medicine Children’s Health Blog
• Great resource list: Helping Children Cope: Talking to Kids About Violence and Tragedy in the News | Minnesota Children's Museum

Remember: Kids benefit more from a slightly messy, honest conversation than from silence.

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The holidays are over. The decorations are packed away, the laundry pile is bigger than ever, and the calendar just got serious again. You're staring down that jarring shift from holiday magic to alarm clocks, packed lunches, and after-school meltdowns. The post-holiday blues are real—and they hit parents just as hard as kids. We're sharing practical strategies to ease back into routine without the whiplash, plus ways to keep a little magic alive in the everyday chaos of January.

We totally understand dreading the return to normal life—hit subscribe and learn how to beat post-holiday blues with routines that actually stick (and tiny sparks of joy that make January feel less like a comedown).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents feeling that post-holiday letdown, anyone struggling to get back into routine after winter break, and families who need practical tips for making the transition smoother without losing all the holiday joy, connection, and warmth.

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What You Get In This Episode

• The school supply reset: what to restock, check, and replace before chaos hits
• Why restraint collapse hits harder after breaks—and the decompression rule that actually works
• How to build anticipation in everyday life (hint: visible calendar + tiny "yeses")
• Quick, cheap ways to keep connection alive without adding to your to-do list
• Permission to feel the post-holiday letdown, too (even if you did all the work to create the magic)

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Bios

Caitlin and Jenny are moms and besties in Austin, Texas. Jenny is a middle school assistant principal and Caitlin is a former middle school teacher turned EdTech marketer. They understand the post-holiday transition from both the parent and educator perspectives—and they're here to help you survive it.

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Sources & Mentions

• Tips to Help Families Get Back Into the School Routine After Winter Break | Sallie B Howard School
• Printable scavenger hunts for errands: Grocery Store, Target, Costco (links on blog)
• Thanks to CK's friend Joey for the hilarious New Year's resolution!
• Special shoutout to Karen, CK's mother-in-law, for restoring her cherished baby blanket

Note: This is a re-aired episode that's incredibly timely every January. Whether you're heading back to school, work, or just regular life—these tips help ease the transition without losing all the holiday warmth.

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It's winter break and your kids are already saying "I'm bored" on day two. You're trying to get holiday stuff done relax, but also prevent them from bouncing off the walls for the next week and a half. How do you keep everyone entertained without becoming a full-time cruise director? We're sharing 32 indoor and outdoor activities organized by age group—from preschoolers to teenagers—so you can actually enjoy the break instead of just surviving it.

No need to scramble for winter break activities—hit subscribe and get 32 ideas for every age that'll keep your kids entertained (and give you some breathing room).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents facing a long winter break who need activities that don't require a Pinterest degree or going broke, and anyone who's already heard "I'm bored" more times than they can count. ****—

What You Get In This Episode

• Indoor + outdoor activities by age
• Community service ideas for teens that count toward college applications
• Permission to build in breaks for yourself (PBS is a great babysitter, we said it)
• Why you need novelty and a routine even during break (including TV time and screen time—we're not monsters)
• Plus! Holiday party games that work for the whole family: balloon cup battle, candy cane fishing, whipped cream challenges, and more!

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Bios

Caitlin and Jenny are two friends navigating the hilarious and sometimes chaotic world of parenthood—from figuring out what to do with kids over long breaks to actually enjoying family time instead of just surviving it.

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Sources & Mentions

• Family game videos mentioned in this episode (links on the blog)
• The Art of Noticing by Rob Walker

Note: This is a re-aired episode from Season 3 with timeless activity ideas. Whether it's winter break, spring break, or summer—these activities work year-round (but maybe rename those holiday games in June!).

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Raise your hand if you've ever looked at a holiday photo and thought, "What was I DOING with my hands?" Or noticed your arm looks twice its normal size pressed against your body? Or realized your front leg looks like a column instead of, you know, a leg? You deserve to look back at holiday photos and love what you see. We're breaking down three photographer-approved fixes that'll instantly make you look more confident and relaxed in every picture—no awkward posing required.

Stop dreading holiday photos and get in front of that camera, Mama. Hit subscribe and learn the simple hand, leg, and arm tricks that'll make you look (and feel) amazing in every picture this season.

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless photo advice that works for any occasion—holidays, weddings, family gatherings, or just when someone pulls out their phone and says "let me get a picture!"

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who hates how they look in photos because they don't know what to do with their body, and everyone who's ever said "I'm just not photogenic" (spoiler: you probably just need better posing habits).

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to avoid “slug fingers” and the S-curve secret
• Sitting and standing angles that slim what's closest to the camera
• The "teapot" and "raptor" poses that open your shoulders without looking staged
• Group photo tricks that solve "where do my arms go?" questions once and for all
• Bonus: Minute-to-win-it party games that require zero setup and maximum laughs

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Bios

Caitlin and Jenny are two friends navigating the hilarious and sometimes chaotic world of adulthood—from awkward family photos to holiday party planning. They're here to share relatable stories, practical advice, and a healthy dose of laughter along the way.

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Sources & Mentions

• I’m a Photographer and These Are the 3 Things You Should Avoid Doing in Photos | By Marissa Wu for PureWow

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Ever gotten a "dress casual" invite and thought "what does that even MEAN?" Or worse—shown up to a "festive" party in sequins only to realize everyone else interpreted it as ugly sweaters? Same. Holiday dress codes are confusing, ambiguous, and honestly? Half the time hosts don't even know what they're asking for. We're decoding every dress code from casual to white tie so you never have to panic-Google "what to wear" again.

Stop stressing about what to wear to holiday parties—hit subscribe and get the breakdown of every dress code plus scripts to ask hosts when you're confused (because "festive" means nothing).

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless advice about dress codes. Whether you're going to holiday parties, weddings, or any formal event, these guidelines still apply.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who's ever shown up overdressed, underdressed, or just plain confused about what "dressy casual" means, and hosts who want to stop torturing their guests with ambiguous dress codes.

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What You Get In This Episode

• What casual, dressy casual, business, cocktail, semi-formal, black tie optional, black tie, and white tie actually mean (with real examples), and how fabrics, straps, and structure change formality levels
• Quick rules for shoes, socks, and seasonal accessories that matter
• Why "festive" and "holiday" dress codes are traps—and what to do about them
• Simple scripts to ask the host about expectations without feeling awkward
• The party-hopping rule
• PLUS! Tips for hosts: how to write clear invitations with examples and tone-setting language

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including not showing up to parties in the wrong outfit. With Jenny, who loves sequins, understands formality levels, and won't judge you for asking "wait, what does tropical black tie mean?"

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Sources & Mentions

• Decoding Invitation Dress Codes | By Meg Hemphill for HuffPost Life
• Attire Guide: Dress Codes from Casual to White Tie Formal | Emily Post

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The holidays bring out the best in us—and sometimes the absolute worst on social media. Gift bragging, family drama aired publicly, political hot takes that start comment wars... we've all seen it (or been guilty of it). This week we're breaking down 8 types of posts to skip this season and why they matter more than you think. And for the record: "I'm just being honest" is not the same as being kind.

Don’t let social media drama ruin your holidays—hit subscribe and learn how to post with purpose, protect your peace, and keep your corner of the internet a little warmer this season.

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Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless advice about holiday social media etiquette. The 8 rules still apply, and honestly, we all need the reminder every year.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who's ever hovered over "post" wondering if they should, scrolled through their feed feeling worse instead of better, or knows someone** who needs a friendly reminder about what to share (and what to keep offline) during the holidays.

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What You Get In This Episode

• 8 clear categories of posts to avoid this holiday season (and the real-world ripple effects of each)
• Why gift bragging and public family feuds do more damage than you think
• How algorithms reward outrage—and why that matters for your mental health
• The invitation trap that leads to hurt feelings (and how to avoid it)
• Consent and privacy rules for kids' photos—what the law expects and practical alternatives
• Self-care practices that keep you calm online: stretch breaks, rituals, and joyful traditions

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including not letting social media turn the holidays into a dumpster fire. With Jenny, who brings thoughtful perspectives on protecting your peace while staying connected.

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Sources & Mentions

• 10 Things You Should Never Post on Social Media During the Holidays | Reader’s Digest
• Do's and Don'ts of Holiday Social Media Posting | Social Stamina
• 7 Things to Avoid Posting on Facebook during the Holidays That You Will Regret Later | AllWomensTalk
• 11 Photos You Should Never, Ever Post on Social Media | The Healthy

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Thanksgiving is full of stories we think we know—but how much is actually true? Was the first Thanksgiving really just Pilgrims and turkey? Why do we pardon turkeys? And why do plumbers dread Black Friday more than any other day of the year? We're trading myths for facts and turning Thanksgiving trivia into stories you'll actually want to share at the table this year.

Don’t repeat Thanksgiving myths—hit subscribe and get the real stories, wild facts, and table-ready trivia that'll make you the most interesting person at dinner.

Note: This is a re-aired episode packed with Thanksgiving trivia and practical tips that never get old. Perfect listening while you're prepping, cooking, or hiding from family in the kitchen.

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This episode is for anyone who loves a good origin story, wants conversation starters that aren't about politics, and needs something entertaining to listen to while prepping for the holiday chaos.

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What You Get In This Episode

• The real story of the 1621 feast (shocker: it wasn't what you learned in elementary school)
• Presidential turkey drama involving a raccoon, pardons, and political theater
• The woman behind making Thanksgiving official (and her other famous work)
• Mind-blowing modern stats: millions of turkeys, pies, and jaw-dropping calorie counts
• Why plumbers consider Black Friday their Super Bowl
• Kitchen wisdom that'll save your disposal and your sanity
• Plus more table-ready trivia that'll make you the most interesting person at dinner

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including becoming the trivia queen of Thanksgiving dinner. With Jenny, who brings curiosity, laughs, and a willingness to admit when she guesses wrong.

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Sources & Mentions

• 50 Thanksgiving Trivia Questions and Answers to Impress All of Your Dinner Guests
• Sarah Josepha Hale
• 67 Thanksgiving trivia questions and answers to share at dinner
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Holiday hosting shouldn't feel like a traffic jam in your kitchen with chaos everywhere and you questioning all your life choices. You want everyone to have fun, make memories, and stay out of your way while you get the meal on the table. We're sharing 7 low-prep, high-joy Thanksgiving activities that keep everyone engaged so you can actually enjoy the day instead of just surviving it.

Stop letting Thanksgiving chaos steal your joy—hit subscribe and get easy activities that create connection without adding to your hosting stress.

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless Thanksgiving hosting tips. These activities work whether you're hosting 5 people or 25, and none of them require Pinterest-level planning.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone hosting Thanksgiving who wants their guests entertained and connected (without needing a degree in event planning or losing their minds in the process).

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What You Get In This Episode

• Two gratitude activities that work for shy guests and chatty ones alike (one involves candy, one becomes a keepsake)
• Quick icebreakers that get teens, grandparents, and new partners laughing together in minutes
• A clever setup trick that keeps people bonding without awkward small talk pressure
• Movement ideas that give everyone fresh air and reset energy between courses
• The seating strategy that ditches the kids' table and actually works better
• A tradition you can start this year that becomes a living record of everyone who's shared your table
• Bonus hosting hacks: cozy extras and a quick fix for your garbage disposal that'll save your sanity

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of hosting—including Thanksgiving dinners that don't end in tears (yours or theirs). With Jenny, who brings real talk about keeping your sanity while creating memories.

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Sources & Mentions

• Check out the PureWow article on Thanksgiving activities by Emma Singer and Stephanie Sengwe
• Get the printable M&M Gratitude Game: Visit the blog post for this episode and click on the link to access the printables.
• Visit the blog post for more activities and the book that Jenny mentioned!

Donations

• Shatterproof
• First Nations Institute

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The holidays are nearly here, which means you're about to sit across from relatives with very different political views. Fun, right? Whether it's Uncle Bob bringing up the recent election or your cousin sharing hot takes nobody asked for, navigating political conversations at family gatherings is exhausting. We're sharing practical scripts, gentle redirects, and exit strategies that protect your peace without ruining dinner.

Stop dreading family gatherings because of politics—hit subscribe and get practical scripts and boundary-setting strategies that actually work (without causing drama).

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This episode is for anyone heading into the holidays with family members who have very different political views, and moms trying to keep the peace while protecting their mental health and teaching their kids healthy boundaries.

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to state boundaries before the gathering even starts
• The "tell me more" technique for finding empathy (even when it's hard)
• Scripts for asking permission to share your view without starting a fight
• How to reframe conversations toward shared goals instead of divisive politics
• Defusing tactics: humor, neutral topics, and graceful subject changes
• Planning exit strategies and partner rescue signals for when things get heated

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including surviving politically charged family gatherings without losing your mind. With Jenny, who brings real talk and solidarity to the chaos of modern motherhood.

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Sources & Mentions

• For links to resources mentioned in this episode, head to ckandgkpodcast.com/blog
  • An article for TIME by Angela Haupt
  • This Instagram post from Jackie Santillan @kindminds_smarthearts
• Find us on social media @CKandGKPodcast

Note: This is a re-aired episode from last year that's incredibly relevant for this holiday season. The strategies and scripts still work, and honestly, we all need the reminder.

Important reminder from this episode: Schedule your mammogram if you're due. Caitlin had a follow-up win and wants you to take care of yourself, too.

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Guess what? It’s tipping season once again. The holidays bring out this weird etiquette stress where you're supposed to know exactly who gets what—your mail carrier, hairstylist, dog walker, that random person who delivers your groceries. We're breaking down holiday tipping so you can show gratitude without the guilt or confusion (or going broke in the process).

Stop stressing about holiday tipping etiquette—hit subscribe and learn who to tip, how much to give, and budget-friendly ways to show appreciation without breaking the bank.

*Note: This is a re-aired episode from last year that's just as relevant for this holiday season. The etiquette and budget tips still apply!

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for regular people who don't have personal butlers or live-in elves, and anyone trying to navigate holiday gratitude without spiraling into financial panic or etiquette anxiety.

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to budget wisely for holiday tipping without feeling like Scrooge
• Smart strategies for showing appreciation when funds are tight (because we're all tight right now)
• Who actually expects a holiday tip (and who doesn't)
• How much to give different service providers—from mail carriers to hairstylists
• Master the art of holiday tipping and avoid the awkward "wait, should I have tipped them?" moments

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including the minefield of holiday tipping etiquette. She's here to make this less stressful and more manageable.

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Sources & Mentions

• The no-stress guide to holiday tipping | Fidelity
• Holiday Tipping 2023: Your Guide to Who, When, and, of Course, How Much | WSJ
• Everyone You Should Remember to Tip Over the Holidays (and How Much to Give) | Real Simple

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Ever wonder how those Spirit Halloween stores just... appear every September and vanish by November? How do they make money being open only 3 months a year? 

The origin story is wild: one guy in the 80s watched a line at a neighboring store, had an idea, and accidentally invented an entire business model. Today, we're breaking down how Spirit Halloween went from a women's clothing store experiment to a $2 billion pop-up empire—and what we can steal from their playbook.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who loves Halloween, a good business origin story, moms looking for inspiration to try something new, and anyone who's ever walked through Spirit Halloween with their kids, wondering, "How is this a thing?"

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What You Get In This Episode

• Spirit Halloween’s origin story and how they manage to make money when they’re only around for 3 months every year
• Why Millennials and Gen Z are driving Halloween's popularity (and passing it to our kids)
• How much of Big Candy’s revenue is attributable to Caitlin and Ariella

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—and occasionally tells you wild business stories that are equal parts entertaining and inspiring. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and author of Roots in Ink.

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Sources & Mentions

• Thank you to Daniel Murray, creator of The Marketing Millennials eNewsletter
• A National Retail Federation (NRF) survey
• @SpiritHalloween on Twitter/X

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It's October, and you're trying to find Halloween movies that won't bore you to tears or traumatize your kids. Every family has different thresholds for "too scary," and you're looking for that sweet spot between cozy and creepy. We've done the work for you—breaking down Halloween movies by age group, sharing our childhood scares (E.T.’s fingers, anyone?), and giving you permission to skip the ones that don't work for your family.

Stop scrolling through streaming services hoping to find age-appropriate Halloween content—hit subscribe and get our curated movie list organized by age, plus hot takes on classics you might have missed.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents trying to navigate Halloween movie season without causing nightmares, and anyone looking for nostalgic movie recommendations that hold up (or hilariously don't).

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why Common Sense Media ratings are guidelines, not rules—you know your kid best
• Safe, sweet picks for toddlers and littles (Curious George, Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown, Pooh's Heffalump)
• Late elementary and middle school classics (Labyrinth, Beetlejuice, Coraline, Corpse Bride)
• Actually scary picks for brave preteens (Monster House, The Witches, Goosebumps)
• Nostalgic Universal Monster Movies and 80s/90s cult favorites
• Must-watch classics for preteens and beyond (Ghostbusters, Hocus Pocus, The Addams Family)
• TV show recommendations (Super Monsters, Halloween Wars, Wednesday, Stranger Things)
• Bonus movies that aren't technically Halloween but belong on the list (Batman Returns, E.T., The Craft)
• How to build simple Halloween movie traditions without the pressure

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting and parenting—including finding Halloween movies that won't cause therapy bills. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and author of Roots in Ink, who brings her love of fantasy, creepy aesthetics, and The Crow to the conversation.

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Sources & Mentions

• 35+ Halloween movies for kids, by age | By Edward Shepard and Diva Anwari for Motherly
• Freeform's "31 Nights of Halloween" Schedule 2025
• Common Sense Media ratings referenced throughout
• The Threads fam for chiming in!

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A curated guide to ADHD creators who actually help, from parenting and relationships to practical home care

Social media is full of ADHD content, but which creators actually know what they're talking about? We're sharing the accounts that helped us get diagnosed, parent with more calm, and build systems that work when your energy is nonexistent. From compassionate home care to relationships and nutrition, these are the voices that actually move the needle.

Stop drowning in ADHD content overload—hit subscribe and get our curated list of creators, coaches, and experts who actually get it (plus how to use social media without the overwhelm).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone trying to find good ADHD resources on social media without getting sucked into algorithm hell, and parents looking for evidence-based support from people who actually understand neurodivergent brains.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why KC Davis is our ADHD North Star (hint: it’s b/c her shame-free approach to care tasks changes everything)
• How Catie Osborne makes ADHD 101 accessible—plus her relationship and NSFW content (earbuds recommended)
• Parenting support from Dr. Carrie Jackson that won't make you feel like you're failing
• Plus, 7 additional creators we follow for bite-sized ADHD support in our feeds

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and unstoppable force who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life—and writes neurodivergent characters that feel real.

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Sources & Mentions

• KC Davis / StruggleCare: https://www.strugglecare.com/
• Catie Osborne / Catieosaurus: https://catieosaurus.com/links
• Dr. Carrie Jackson: https://www.drcarriejackson.com/
• Rich and Rox / ADHD Love: https://linktr.ee/ADHD_Love
• Becca King / ADHD Nutritionist: https://www.adhdnutritionistllc.com/
• Instagram accounts mentioned: @nurtureADHD, @coachingwithBrooke, @myADHDcounselor, @sarakellyadhdcoach, @adhdweaselweekly

Use promo code CKANDGK for 20% off Roots In Ink at ariellamonti.com

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Your ADHD medication works perfectly one week, then feels like sugar pills the next. Before you blame your pharmacy or your brain, here's what's actually happening: your hormones are messing with your medication's "Wi-Fi signal." When estrogen drops—during your luteal phase, period, postpartum, or perimenopause—your meds can't connect the way they should. It's not you. It's chemistry.

Stop wondering why your ADHD meds feel inconsistent—hit subscribe and get cycle-aware medication strategies, tracking tips, and advocacy scripts that actually work.

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This episode is for women whose ADHD medication feels like it has multiple personalities, and anyone who's tired of their doctor dismissing hormonal patterns as "just PMS."

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What You Get In This Episode

• The Wi-Fi metaphor that explains why estrogen affects your stimulant medication response
• When your meds feel weakest: luteal phase, menstruation, postpartum, breastfeeding, and perimenopause
• Medication timing tweaks and dose adjustments that work with your cycle (with the right provider)
• How to track your symptoms, cycle, sleep, and stress—plus privacy considerations for period tracking apps
• Non-medication anchors: CBT, certified ADHD coaching, and support groups that get hormonal ADHD
• Building redundant systems and low-energy backups for potato brain days
• Self-advocacy scripts to use with providers (and when to find someone new)

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and unstoppable force who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life.

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Sources & Mentions

• Get the full list of sources here.

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You were fine until middle school, then everything fell apart. Your postpartum brain fog felt different than "new mom tired." Your 40s hit and suddenly you can't remember words mid-sentence. What if these aren't three separate problems? What if it's all your ADHD brain responding to major hormonal shifts—and nobody told you that was a thing?

Stop wondering why your ADHD feels different at different life stages—hit subscribe and learn how puberty, pregnancy, and menopause unmask or worsen symptoms (and what to do about it).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for women noticing their ADHD symptoms have changed dramatically during major life transitions, and moms watching their daughters suddenly struggle as hormones kick in during puberty.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why estrogen dips send ADHD symptoms through the roof (and why 94% of women say perimenopause is the worst for ADHD)
• How puberty unmasks ADHD in girls who were "fine" in elementary school
• The pregnancy hormone rollercoaster: superpowers vs. cotton ball brain, and why postpartum is more than just "new mom life"
• What perimenopause does to your ADHD brain—word-finding trouble, mental fatigue, and emotional overwhelm that feels life-altering
• Why your experience might look different from other women's (and why that's not a character flaw)

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and unstoppable force who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life.

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Sources & Mentions

Coming up next week: Medication adjustments, advocacy strategies, and how to work WITH your hormones instead of against them.

• CHADD, ADDitude mag, various research studies, and others. Get the full list in this blog post.

P.S. If you're loving this series, we'd be so grateful if you'd leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. We're sitting at 4.9 stars but need more reviews to help other women find us. Your words help us reach the moms who need this information most.

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Ever notice that your ADHD medication might as well be a Tic-Tac right before your period? Or that some weeks your brain feels sharp while others feel like you're thinking through fog? Here's the thing: it's not in your head. Your hormones are literally messing with your ADHD brain, and not enough people are talking about it.

Stop wondering why your ADHD feels like a moving target—hit subscribe to hear how your hormones affect your brain chemistry, symptoms, and medication effectiveness.

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This episode is for women with ADHD who've noticed their symptoms change throughout the month, moms of girls with ADHD, and anyone who's ever wondered why some weeks feel impossible while others feel manageable.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why estrogen is your brain's best friend and how it boosts the dopamine your ADHD brain needs
• The monthly ADHD rollercoaster: how weeks 1-2 vs weeks 3-4 of your cycle affect your symptoms differently
• Why your medication feels like it stops working during certain weeks (and why it's not your imagination)
• How masking strategies hide ADHD symptoms until hormonal transitions expose them
• Why major life transitions like puberty, pregnancy, and menopause can unmask or worsen ADHD symptoms

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and unstoppable force, who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life.

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Sources & Mentions

• Visit this episode’s blog post for links to sources used in this episode!
• Healthline
• CHADD
• ADDitude Mag
• Evernow
• Frontiers in Global Women’s Health

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"There's too much that will make you upset to not start taking action." - Caitlin

In the wake of recent tragedies at Annunciation Church and Catholic School in Minneapolis and Evergreen High School in Colorado, we're bringing back an episode that feels heartbreakingly relevant.

If you're feeling helpless and angry right now, you're not alone. But we know the women who listen to this show don't stay helpless for long. They’re women of action.

This episode, originally from April 2023, walks you through concrete steps you can take to advocate for safer schools and prevent future tragedies. We cover effective advocacy strategies, policy changes that work, and meaningful ways to support victims' families.

Let's turn that fury into action and honor these victims by fighting for the safer schools our children deserve.

The blog post for this episode is linked here.

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What You'll Learn:

• Practical steps to tackle school violence in your community
• Why mental health support in schools matters—and how to advocate for it
• How gun control policy changes impact community safety
• The power of local elections and why your vote matters for school safety
• Concrete ways to support victims and families affected by gun violence

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Why We're Qualified to Talk About This: We're passionate advocates for school safety with backgrounds in education and a deep understanding of the issues surrounding school violence. We believe parents deserve practical action steps to create safer environments for their children.

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Resources Mentioned:

• 5 Ways to Take Action After a School Shooting | Teen Vogue
• Sandy Hook Promise
• The Sandy Hook Promise Action Fund
• Everytown Support Fund
• Protect Our Schools
• Make Our Schools Safe
• March For Our Lives

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That sinking feeling when you realize you've been paying for three different—and overlapping—streaming services you don’t use? Or when you're staring at a pile of unopened bills wondering how adulting got so complicated? If you have ADHD, money management isn't just challenging—it's playing financial whack-a-mole with a brain that's working against you.

Stop letting your ADHD brain sabotage your financial goals—hit subscribe and learn money management strategies that actually work with your neurodivergent brain (no spreadsheet mastery required).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for women with ADHD who are tired of the shame spiral that comes with financial struggles, and anyone who's ever wondered why something as "simple" as paying bills on time feels nearly impossible with a neurodivergent brain.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why ADHD creates a perfect storm of money management challenges (executive dysfunction meets dopamine-seeking behavior)
• The real cost of the "ADHD tax"—late fees, forgotten subscriptions, and impulse purchases that add up
• Practical, brain-friendly systems like separate checking accounts and strategic auto-renewals
• How to reframe certain spending as necessary accommodations rather than failures
• Strategies for dealing with financial shame and building sustainable money habits that work with your ADHD, not against it

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com) is a novelist and unstoppable force who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life, including financial management.

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Sources & Mentions

• Managing Money and ADHD | CHADD
• Mastering Money Management with ADHD: Practical Tips for Adults | The Mini ADHD Coach
• What Is the ADHD Tax? | Verywell Mind

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Ever notice how traditional self-care advice makes you want to scream? Those peaceful meditation sessions and serene bubble baths that work for everyone else feel like torture for your constantly-moving ADHD brain. Turns out, our brains need something completely different—and we've got seven research-backed strategies that actually work.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone with ADHD who's tired of self-care advice that leaves them feeling worse instead of better. If you've ever tried to "just relax" and ended up more anxious, or attempted meditation only to feel like your brain was about to explode, this one's for you. We're talking real self-care for brains that don't sit still.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why traditional self-care fails ADHD brains – And why it's not your fault that meditation feels like punishment
• Seven science-backed strategies that actually work – From flexible routines to strategic movement and protein timing
• The sleep game-changer – Recent research on what really disrupts ADHD sleep (hint: it's not just screen time)
• "Unhinged" self-care hacks we actually use – Face masks to trick yourself into showering, adding completed tasks to your to-do list, and why Tetris after stress is scientifically legit
• How to eliminate "should" from your vocabulary – And why small moments of joy aren't luxuries, they're essential maintenance

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Bios

Caitlin is joined by special guest Ariella Monti, novelist and friend, filling in for Jenny. Together they're diving into self-care that actually makes sense for ADHD brains—no sitting still required. They're not wellness gurus or mental health professionals, just two women sharing what actually works when your brain runs on a different operating system.

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Sources & Mentions

• Get the links to all sources mentioned in this episode in this week’s blog post.
• Follow us on social media @ckandgkpodcast on all platforms
• Follow @ariella_monti on Instagram, Threads, and TikTok
• Get 20% off Ariella Monti's fantasy romance novel "Roots and Ink" with promo code CKANDGK at AriellaMonti.com

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You know that voice in your head that whispers "everyone else has it figured out" while you're standing in some big box store with your keys in one hand, searching for a shopping list you can't find, wondering how you ended up in the home dècor aisle when you came for toilet paper? We're talking about ADHD shame—where it comes from, why it sticks around, and how to finally tell that voice to shut up.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone with ADHD who's tired of feeling like a "failed adult," sick of apologizing for existing, or fed up with that internal critic that never seems to take a day off. If you've ever been called "too much," "not enough," or "lazy," we see you—and we're here to help you fight back.

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What You Get In This Episode

• The "shame smoothie" breakdown – How childhood experiences, societal myths, and internalized ableism blend into one toxic mess
• Where ADHD stigma really comes from – Why people still think it's "just a childhood disorder" or an excuse for bad behavior
• How shame shows up in your daily life – From procrastination cycles to over-apologizing to comparing yourself to neurotypical parents
• 7 practical strategies to fight shame – Including how to separate ADHD science from morality and why "shamelessness" might be your superpower
• Your ADHD strengths reminder – Because creativity, hyperfocus, and persistence are actual superpowers

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Bios

Caitlin is joined by special guest Ariella Monti, novelist and friend, filling in for Jenny. Together they're tackling the heavy stuff—ADHD shame and stigma—with the same humor and honesty you'd expect from your most understanding mom friends. They're not therapists, just two women sharing what they've learned through research, experience, and plenty of "oh crap, me too" moments.

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Sources

• All sources and more content in this episode’s blog post
• Get 20% off Ariella Monti's fantasy romance novel "Roots and Ink" with promo code CKANDGK at AriellaMonti.com
• ADDitude Mag
• Our ADHD Playlist on Spotify

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Ever found yourself holding a peanut butter spoon in your bathroom with absolutely no memory of why you’re there or what you’re doing? Welcome to parenting with ADHD, where working memory glitches meet kid interruptions, and somehow you're still expected to keep tiny humans alive and thriving. We're diving into the real challenges ADHD parents face and sharing the hacks that actually work.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for any parent with ADHD. If you've mastered the art of hyperfocusing on LEGO builds at 2 AM but can't remember to feed yourself lunch, this one's definitely for you.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Real solutions for "What was I doing?" moments – Body doubling tricks and task anchoring that actually work in real life
• Time management hacks for the time-blind – How to stop deep-cleaning the fridge when you should be leaving for school
• Overstimulation survival strategies – Creating tap-out systems and emergency sensory kits for when everything feels too much
• Scripts for emotional rollercoaster days – How to repair with your kids and name that guilt gremlin
• Your ADHD superpowers as a parent – Because hyperfocus ninja skills and empathy champions are real things

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Bios

Caitlin is joined by Ariella Monti, novelist and friend. Together they're navigating the beautiful chaos of parenting while managing their own ADHD brains. They're not therapists or mental health professionals – just two women sharing what they've learned through research, experience, and plenty of trial and error. Think of them as your slightly more caffeinated mom friends who've done the homework so you don't have to.

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Sources

• All sources and more content in this episode’s blog post
• Get 20% off Ariella Monti's fantasy romance novel "Roots and Ink" with promo code CKANDGK at AriellaMonti.com
• ADDitude Mag
• Dr. Steve Storage @drstevenstorage on Instagram

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Parenting a neurospicy kid is a special type of challenge. Former teacher Caitlin and ADHD mom Ariella share real strategies for the trenches (because ‘just listen OMG’ isn’t working).

BTW: Your kid isn’t giving you a hard time—they’re having a hard time. And you? You’re doing better than you think.

• This episode’s blog post (+ Sources & Mentions)
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• Our ADHD Playlist on Spotify

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Who Should Listen

• Parents who’ve googled “why does my ADHD kid argue about EVERYTHING?” at 2 AM
• Anyone who’s found a lost permission slip in the freezer
• Teachers who want to better support ADHD students (and their exhausted parents)

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The ‘47 Asks’ Challenge: Why your kid genuinely doesn’t hear you (and how to ditch the nagging).
2. Transition Meltdowns Decoded: The 3-phase science behind “GET IN THE CAR RIGHT NOW” fails.
3. The Love of Arguing: Why your child debates like a tiny lawyer (and how to redirect it).
4. The ‘Lost & Found’ Cycle: “Launch pads” and “drop zones” and visual checklists for forgetful kiddos.

Listen for the full list plus science-backed strategies to cope.

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Bios

• Caitlin (CK): Former teacher who’s witnessed and caused ADHD chaos.
• Ariella Monti: Author and ADHD mom who bribes with screen time (and refuses to fight about jackets).

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Sources & Mentions

Get the full list plus links in this episode’s blog post.

• ADDitude Mag
• Book: The Explosive Child by Ross Greene (collaborative problem-solving).
• Instagram creators: 
  • Dr. Steven Storage
  • NurtureADHD

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Ever stand in front of an open fridge for 3 minutes, then eat a fistful of shredded cheese like a goblin? Asking for a friend. This week, we’re serving up real ADHD nutrition hacks (no kale… unless that’s your thing).

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Who Should Listen

• ADHDers who’ve ever meal-planned on Sunday and eaten cereal for dinner by Tuesday.
• Parents of neurospicy kids who survive on the same 3 foods.
• Anyone who thinks “rotisserie chicken is a personality trait.”

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The Protein Paradox: Why you need ‘emotional support cheese’ (hint: dopamine boost).
2. Carbs Aren’t the Enemy: Pair them with protein to avoid hangry meltdowns (e.g., Goldfish + peanuts = survival snack).
3. Fridge Feng Shui: Hide veggies in the crisper? Bad. Put grapes and yogurt at eye level? Genius.
4. Sensory Hacks: Like how to make your “safe foods” work harder.
5. Rotisserie Chicken Worship: How one $8 bird can fuel 3 meals (salad, soup, general garnish).

Actionable Tips

• Grocery Shortcut: Buy pre-cut veggies/fruit (yes, it’s more expensive—but actually eating them is priceless).
• Grazing Menu: Keep “protein stations” (e.g., nuts, jerky) where you hyperfocus, like your desk or couch.
• Texture Fix: Hate mushy food? Try crunchy peanut butter on apple slices instead of sandwiches.

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Bios

• Caitlin (CK): Former teacher who knows exactly which kids are running on 3 Pop-Tarts and ADHDer-mom.
• Ariella Monti: Novelist who knows the power of cold pizza + a handful of almonds, and ADHD-mom to a neurospicy and food-particular child.

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Sources & Mentions

• The ADHD-Dopamine Link: Why You Crave Sugar and Carbs | ADDitude Mag
• 4 Ways ADHD May Affect Your Eating Habits—and How to Get Back on Track | SELF
• The ADHD Dietitian on Instagram
• Why Sugar is Kryptonite: ADHD Diet Truths | ADDitude Mag
• Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms | Cleveland Clinic
• Intuitive Eating: Benefits and Principles | Cleveland Clinic
• Comorbid health conditions in people with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorders: An umbrella review of systematic reviews and meta-analyses | ScienceDirect
• Book to consider: Finally Focused by Dr. James Greenblatt and Bill Gottlieb, CHC (ADHD nutrition deep dive).

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Ever hyperfocus through breakfast and lunch, then inhale an entire bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos at 3 PM? Same. ADHDers Caitlin and Ariella Monti break down why ADHD brains treat food like a dopamine slot machine—and how to stop the guilt spiral.

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who’ve eaten "just one more cookie" 7 times
• ADHDers whose fridges grow science experiments
• Anyone who’s cried after forgetting to take dinner out of the freezer

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What You Get In This Episode (aka “Why We’re Like This”)

1. The Dopamine Chase: 
   • Carb-heavy, crunchy, or Tajín-covered foods = quick brain rewards
   • "It’s not laziness—your brain is literally starving for stimulation"
2. Meal-Skipping → Hangry Meltdowns: 
   • Hyperfocus mutes hunger cues until you’re "crying over burnt toast" level
   • Pro tip: Set a "snack alarm" (even if you ignore it twice)
3. Executive Dysfunction Dinners: 
   • Rotisserie chicken = MVP when cooking feels like "advanced calculus"
   • "Salad kits > farmer’s market dreams. Fight me."
4. The Binge/Guilt Cycle: 
   • Impulsivity + emotional dysregulation = "I’ll just have one… oh no"
   • ADHDers are 4x more likely to develop eating disorders

WHEN TO GET HELP:

• If food feels out of control, seek: 
  • Registered dietitians (RDs) (not just "nutritionists")
  • Therapists specializing in ADHD + disordered eating

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Bios

• Caitlin (CK): Former teacher, current "red no. 5" apologist
• Ariella Monti: Author, ADHD advocate, and "frozen pizza is a food group" realist

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Sources & Mentions

• Ariella’s Snack Hack: "Keep a jar of mixed nuts on your desk to prevent hanger!"
• The ADHD-Dopamine Link: Why You Crave Sugar and Carbs | ADDitude Mag
• 4 Ways ADHD May Affect Your Eating Habits—and How to Get Back on Track | SELF
• The ADHD Dietitian on Instagram
• Why Sugar is Kryptonite: ADHD Diet Truths | ADDitude Mag
• Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms | Cleveland Clinic
• Intuitive Eating: Benefits and Principles | Cleveland Clinic
• Comorbid health conditions in people with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorders: An umbrella review of systematic reviews and meta-analyses | ScienceDirect

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Back-to-school season is nearly here, and former teachers Caitlin & Jenny are begging you: Don’t be the parent who shows up hoping for a conference at dismissal or CCs the principal ‘just to be safe.’ This CK & GK classic is a hilarious (but brutally honest) guide that reveals the unwritten rules of teacher etiquette—so you can avoid becoming a teachers’ lounge horror story.

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Who Should Listen

• Parents who’ve ever thought, “But my child would never…” (FYI: They would.)
• Anyone who’s ever panic-bought a spiral notebook instead of a composition notebook because “they’re the same thing” (FYI: No they aren’t.)
• Mama-Bears who need some guidelines for school communication (FYI: No more 9 PM emails!).

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What You Get In This Episode

1. Supply List Savvy: Why the right scissors matter more than you think (and how to recover if you messed up).
2. Birthday Treat Fails: The shocking reason your homemade cupcakes might come back home uneaten.
3. Homework Lies Exposed: How to spot your kid’s “I finished it at school!” fib (without playing detective).
4. Email Etiquette: When to schedule that angry message (hint: after wine o’clock = bad idea).
5. The Principal Rule: Why CC’ing the admin first is like tattling in grownup font.

Bonus! Actionaable Tips

• Birthday Hack: Email teachers a week early with: “We’d love to celebrate! What’s your policy?” (Template in our Instagram highlights!)
• Homework Trick: Make “Show me before screens” your mantra (even if it’s crumpled at the bottom of their backpack).
• Conference Prep: Always send 2-3 specific questions first (e.g., “How’s his focus during group work?”).

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Bios

• Caitlin (CK): Former teacher who definitely judged your pickup line conference attempts.
• Jenny (GK): Mom and assistant principal who forgives your supply list fails (but still side-eyes unscheduled cupcakes).

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Sources & Mentions

• Must-Read: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey (For “my child would never” recoverers).

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Ever stare at a blank page, willing your ADHD brain to just create already, only to end up deep-diving into crow memes instead? This episode’s for you. 

Caitlin and guest co-host Ariella Monti (author, fellow late-diagnosed ADHDer, and mom of an ADHD son) share hilarious, real-world strategies to unstick your creativity—without guilt-tripping yourself into oblivion.

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who’ve ever hyperfixated on literally anything instead of their passion project.
• ADHDers who thrive in chaos but crash when creativity feels like a chore.
• Anyone who needs permission to take a damn break without self-shaming.

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What You Get In This Episode

1. Workspace Hacks: Why a window + Bluetooth speaker might save your sanity (and how to ADHD-proof your creative zone).
2. The Art of Strategic Procrastination: Why “hammock time” is scientifically valid (and how to explain it to your judgy inner critic).
3. Flexible Structure FTW: Ariella’s “pottery journal” method for breaking big projects into dopamine-sized bites.
4. Body Doubling Magic: How to harness the power of creative peer pressure (even if your “office” is a Discord server).
5. Permission to Rest: Why creativity blocks aren’t failures—and how to work with your brain’s chaotic cycles.

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Bios

• Caitlin (CK): Unmedicated ADHD mom, former teacher, and professional overthinker who’s obsessed with yogurt pretzels.
• Ariella Monti: Author of Roots and Ink, pottery enthusiast, and queen of “flexible structure” (who also bribes you with 20% off her books using promo code CKANDGK).

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Sources & Mentions

• Creativity and ADHD: Don't Stifle Your Creative Mind | ADDitude Mag
• The Creativity of ADHD | Scientific American
• Side Effects of Medication: Will ADHD Meds Squelch My Creativity? | ADDitude Mag
• ADHD and creativity | Understood.org
• ADHD and Creativity: Unveiling the Hidden Superpowers of Neurodiversity | NeuroLaunch
• ADHD and Writing: Overcoming Challenges and Harnessing Creativity | NeuroLaunch

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Why do ADHD moms go from talking about birds to debating Chris Evans’ best role in 2.5 seconds? Surprise—it’s not distraction (okay, not just distraction)—it’s your creative superpower. Here’s how ADHD brains are wired for next-level creativity (and how to harness it).

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who’ve been called “too much” for seeing connections no one else does.
• ADHDers who hyperfocus on Pinterest projects at 2AM (then forget to eat).
• Anyone who needs science-backed proof their brain isn’t broken—it’s brilliant.

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The 3 ADHD Creativity Superpowers
   • Divergent thinking (how you leap from birds to Chris Evans in one convo).
   • MacGyver-mode: Using paperclips for everything but paperwork.
   • Inventing truly new solutions (not just recycling old ones).
2. Why Hyperfocus = Your Secret Weapon
   • How falling down hobby rabbit holes makes you weirdly skilled.
3. The Dark Side >> Next Episode!
   • Why chaos kills creativity (and how to build a “stimulation station”).
4. Pro Tip
   • Brain dump first to avoid abandoned crafts/half-written novels.

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Bios

Caitlin Kindred: ****ADHD mom who once turned a cereal box and a paperclip into a Wi-Fi extender (it worked for 5 seconds).

Ariella Monti: ****The friend who documents your chaos and says “that’s genius, actually.”

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Sources & Mentions

• Creativity and ADHD: Don't Stifle Your Creative Mind | ADDitude Mag
• The Creativity of ADHD | Scientific American
• Side Effects of Medication: Will ADHD Meds Squelch My Creativity? | ADDitude Mag
• ADHD and creativity | Understood.org
• ADHD and Creativity: Unveiling the Hidden Superpowers of Neurodiversity | NeuroLaunch
• ADHD and Writing: Overcoming Challenges and Harnessing Creativity | NeuroLaunch

Tag us with your best MacGyver mom hack! (We’re still using LEGOs as phone stands.)

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When ADHD emotions hit, ‘just breathe’ doesn’t cut it. Here’s neurologically-backed first aid for meltdowns—no toxic positivity, just tools that actually work when you’re spiraling.

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• Homework: Pick one tool from the episode to pair with your biggest trigger this week—then DM us your win (or fail!). As always, no judgment.

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who’ve cried in the pantry after snapping at their kid over a single sock.
• ADHDers told they’re “too sensitive” when their brain is literally in fight-or-flight.
• Anyone who needs strategies faster than their next emotional tailspin.

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The Ice Pack Hack: How cold water on your wrists can halt a meltdown mid-spiral.
2. “Name It to Tame It”: The 5-second game to ID emotions before they hijack you.
3. Angry Laundry Therapy: Why throwing sock balls resets your nervous system (science agrees).
4. Emotional Menus: Pre-planned coping strategies for predictable triggers (bonus: ours includes sour candy).
5. Sensory Shock Tactics: From sour candy to fidget toys—instant brain redirects.
6. Rage Journaling 101: How voice memos or rants prevent emotional bottling.
7. Self-Compassion ≠ Coddling: Why ADHD brains need this neurological first aid.

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Bios

Caitlin Kindred: ADHD mom, regular frustration-crier, and enthusiastic sock-ball thrower.

Ariella Monti: The friend who hands you ice packs and sour candy during meltdowns.

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Sources and Mentions

• 🧠 CHADD – ADHD emotional dysregulation research.
• 📚 ADDitude Mag – The holy grail of ADHD info.
• 🎧 How to ADHD (YouTube) – Visual explainers on emotional hijacking.
• 🔉 Loop Earplugs – Caitlin’s overstimulation lifesaver (not sponsored, just obsessed).
• 📖 Ariella’s Roots in Ink – Use code CKANDGK for 20% off at ariellamonti.com.

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Your ADHD brain isn’t ‘too sensitive’—it’s wired for emotional whiplash. Here’s why (and how to survive it)!

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who can’t hear one more noise without losing it.
• Women labeled “dramatic” for intense emotional reactions.
• Anyone whose RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) turns a thumbs-up reaction into “they hate me.”

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The science behind ADHD emotions: Why your brain’s amygdala and prefrontal cortex are frenemies.
2. Mom-specific triggers: Overstimulation meltdowns, invisible labor resentment, and the “what’s for dinner?” rage spiral.
3. Why RSD isn’t “just insecurity” (and how mom guilt amplifies it).
4. Hormones + ADHD: Why estrogen drops make Bluey a tearjerker.
5. Sneak peek: Tools to short-circuit meltdowns (coming in Part 2!), like why naming your ADHD brain helps—meet ‘Gladys the Chaos Goblin!’

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Bios

Caitlin Kindred: ADHD mom, former teacher, and recovering Lego-yeller. Still apologizes to her former students for her stapler-related outbursts.

Ariella Monti: Author, ADHD creative, and Roots in Ink novelist who battles RSD one thumbs-up emoji at a time.

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Sources & Mentions

• 🧠 CHADD – ADHD emotional dysregulation research.
• 📚 ADDitude Mag – The holy grail of ADHD info.
• 🎧 How to ADHD (YouTube) – Visual explainers on emotional hijacking.
• 🔉 Loop Earplugs – Caitlin’s overstimulation lifesaver (not sponsored, just obsessed).
• 📖 Ariella’s Roots in Ink – Use code CKANDGK for 20% off at ariellamonti.com.

P.S. Tag us with your most “ADHD emotional whiplash” moment—we’ve all yelled at a single LEGO on the floor.

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Jenny spent our entire girls’ trip stealing my travel hacks—from a $11 life-changing wrap to the ADHD-friendly ‘Caboodle’ that organizes my chaos. Here’s the full list of affordable, mom-tested essentials that made her say ‘I need that!’ (and the epic curb-fail that made vendors gasp).

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Who Should Listen

• Moms who overpack but still forget everything.
• ADHD travelers who need systems that actually work.
• Anyone who’s ever been jealous of a friend’s carry-on game.

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What You Get In This Episode

1. The $11 wrap that outshines cashmere (and the viral TikTok hack Jenny missed).
2. ADHD packing wins: Clear “Caboodle” organizers, AirTag luggage tracking, and the airplane seat-back pocket that’s chef’s kiss.
3. Jenny’s steal-worthy list (including the cuticle oil pen you’ll use daily).
4. The turtle incident: Caitlin’s slow-mo ice cream spill that became a core memory.
5. Pro tip: Why you should always pack blender sounds in your mental vacation kit.

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Bios

Caitlin Kindred: Chronic overpacker, BuzzFeed deal addict, and mom who once survived a 10-day trip with two carry-ons.

Jenny GK: The friend who borrows your lip balm but upgrades your life with $11 Amazon finds.

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Sources & Mentions

• Find items mentioned in this episode on our Favorite Finds page!

P.S. Tag us with your weirdest travel essential—we still swear by portable white noise machines.

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