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Pause for Reflection. Back in Feb 2026

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 11:00:00 +0800

After releasing an episode every second week since November 2021 - we’re taking a short break from How to Live.

Over the past few years, I’ve had the privilege of speaking with incredible guests, thinkers, founders, scientists, and leaders, all exploring the same question: how do we live a good life?

Now, it feels like the right moment to pause, reflect, and recharge, so we can come back in February with fresh stories and new insights for the next chapter.

While we take this short break, I wanted to leave you with one of the most relevant conversations from this year - an episode that resonated deeply with many listeners navigating uncertainty.

It’s about layoffs, and how to turn them into opportunities for clarity, renewal, and even growth.

So if you, or someone you know, is going through change or questioning what’s next, I hope this one brings some comfort and perspective.

Thank you for being part of this journey, for listening, sharing, and growing together.

Take care, and I’ll see you back here in February.

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#103 Building a business with heart with Nick Francis

Tue, 23 Sep 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Reinvention for 23-year-olds with nothing to lose is relatively easy. At 40, it's brave. Here's how to do it well.

At 23, Nick Francis left the BBC, drove a Mini to Mongolia, and stumbled into building a creative business now in 9 countries. Back then, it didn't feel brave. No mortgage. No kids. Nothing to lose.

As Nick says: "If you quit your job in your 40s, with kids and responsibilities - that's brave."

Here's what struck me: midlife reinvention isn't about starting over. It's about starting better.

In your 40s, you're not building from zero. You have:

Clarity about what you actually want (not what you think you should want)
Skills that compound in unexpected ways
Networks built on real relationships
Resilience from surviving previous challenges

The 23-year-old has energy. The 40-something has intention.

Nick's line stuck with me: "We often overvalue the risk of doing something different, and undervalue the risk of continuing to do what we've always done."

If you're questioning your next chapter, you're not having a crisis. You're seeing an opening - an opening to thoughtfully design your next chapter.

This conversation is special because Nick not only shares deep wisdom on reinvention - he also acquired my company last year.

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#102 Better gut better health with Jo Brownlow

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Eating healthy ✅ Working out ✅ Blood tests normal ✅

…but still not feeling good?

Low energy. Brain fog. Mood swings.

The missing piece might be your gut.

Gut isn't just about digestion. It's our "second brain." 95% of serotonin (our "happy" chemical) is made there.

Poor absorption can leave us tired, anxious, or unfocused - even with a perfect diet

In the latest How to Live episode, I sit down with Functional Medicine Coach Jo Brownlow. We unpack:

What gut health really means
How it affects focus, emotions, and energy
Simple steps busy people can take today

If you're doing "all the right things" but still feel off, this conversation could be your missing piece.

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#101 Bouncing back after layoff, with Sharad Lal

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Layoffs don’t just take our jobs. They can scramble our judgment. Here’s how to get both back.

An entrepreneur on my podcast told me this story:

“When I went bankrupt, I begged a friend, who had built a unicorn, for a meeting. He gave me 30 minutes. But the moment we sat down, I could tell he wanted to leave.

Six months later, after I’d worked on myself, I went back with clarity and energy. This time, he introduced me to people and offered support.

What I learned was simple: if you go to people with negative, desperate energy, you pull them down. But if you show up with direction and passion, they go out of their way to help.”

That’s the Busy Bee trap.

When layoffs hit, many of us cope by throwing ourselves into endless activity - networking calls, resume blasts, constant LinkedIn posts.

It feels like progress.
But it’s often just frantic energy that pushes people away.

Because action is not the same as movement.

Action is visible busyness. Running hard, but often in circles.
Movement starts inside. Small, invisible shifts - restoring our headspace, processing what happened, finding clarity.

That inner shift moves us forward far more than 100 frantic actions.
Because once our headspace shifts, our actions carry real power.

The real challenge during a layoff: managing our headspace while clarifying what we want.

When we do this systematically, we give ourselves the best chance to succeed.

We dive deeper into this in today's episode.

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#100 Five lessons from 100 episodes with Sharad Lal

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Episode 100: What started as a passion project has turned into a full career pivot!

Four years ago, I hit record on the first episode of my podcast.
I had no big plans. Just one question I couldn’t stop thinking about:
How do we live a good life?

So I started How to Live.
Shared what I’d learned.
Stayed curious.
Kept listening.

Then something magical happened.
I got a message from my old BCG boss, Dean Tong.
We hadn’t spoken in 15 years.

He’d stumbled upon the podcast. We met.
Talked about Stoicism, Buddhism, and Purpose.
Then he invited me to speak at UOB Bank, where he was the Chief HR Officer.

I was nervous. It was a corporate setting.
I had a meditation exercise planned. Would it land?

Dean said:
“Don’t worry. I’ll take the risk. Just do your best.”

That support changed everything.

The talk worked.
It led to more sessions. More companies.
And one day I realised - this wasn’t a side project anymore.
It was a new path.

Keynotes. Workshops. Leadership Programs.
Helping leaders reconnect with purpose, reach their next peak, and navigate uncertainty with resilience.

It felt meaningful.
And it could pay the bills.

So I took the leap.
Sold my digital agency. Went all in.

Today, I’ve led over 75 workshops across four continents with companies like Google, Unilever, HSBC, and Mastercard.
And I’ve seen how powerful ancient wisdom can be in modern leadership.

The podcast has grown beyond my wildest dreams too. Ranked in the top 3% globally and listened to in 150 countries.

The lesson?

When you do what you love with honesty and passion, it’s infectious.
People are watching. People are listening, even if they never like or comment.
(Dean didn’t either.)
But sometimes, just one of them can change the trajectory of your entire life.

🎧 In today’s milestone episode, I share the five biggest lessons from this incredible journey.

Here’s to the next 100.

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#099 Wisdom from the CEO Whisperer with Jerry Colonna

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0800

"How have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I don't want?"

Many of us find ourselves trapped in patterns we claim to hate - overworking while craving balance, tolerating bad bosses, accepting toxic work cultures.

This question cuts right to the heart of it. It's not about blame. It's about awareness. The word complicit cuts deeper than responsible, because it asks us to look inward, without self-attack.

This question comes from Jerry Colonna - former JP Morgan partner, co-founder of a top-tier VC firm with Fred Wilson, now known as the CEO Whisperer. He coaches Founders and CEOs at Etsy, SoundCloud, and Fortune 500 companies.

I've wanted this conversation for years, ever since hearing him on the Tim Ferriss podcast. When he agreed to come on How to Live, I honestly couldn’t believe it.

In our conversation, Jerry opens up about his journey from massive Wall Street success to a near-suicidal moment on a subway platform, and how radical self-inquiry saved his life.

We dive deep into self-growth, leadership, practical journaling techniques, managing the voices in your head, and why the most successful people often create their own suffering without realizing it.

If you're exploring the next frontier of growth, it might not be outside.

It might be within.

This conversation will help you start the work.

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#098 Designing life in your forties with Robin Speculand

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0800

"Chase passion, not pension" - but how do you actually figure out what you love?

Robin Speculand nailed this. At 34, he was making VP money at Citibank — but still didn't know what his "passion" was.

So he did something most of us never do: He stepped off the treadmill and took time to reflect.

On a beach, he asked himself:

What have I truly enjoyed?
What gave me energy?
What problems do I see that others miss?

That's when it clicked. Every company had a strategy. But 9 out of 10 failed at implementation. Nobody was solving this. It was a blue ocean.

His passion wasn't "helping people" or "being a founder." It was this specific, unsexy problem everyone ignored.

📌 If you're in your 40s and feeling stuck, maybe passion isn't something you find. Maybe it's something you recognize:

Step off the treadmill (take real reflection time)
Look at what energizes you (not what looks good on LinkedIn)
Spot the blue ocean problem only you can see

Your passion might not be trending. It might be the overlooked thing that quietly lights you up.

And that's exactly why it could change your life.

🎧 Full episode with Robin — How to Live, Episode 98

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#097 Redefining Masculinity with Andrew Reiner

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 04:00:00 +0800

𝐌𝐞𝐧 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦.

We're taught to "man up" and handle everything alone.

When we struggle, we don't reach out. When friends share problems, we jump straight to solutions.

We think asking for help is weakness. We think giving advice is helping.

But here's what we miss: We never build emotional safety nets.

Women often do this instinctively. They listen first. They create space. They support before they solve.

The result? Deeper friendships. Stronger teams. And, as research shows, better leadership outcomes.

The best male leaders I know have learned this. They know that sometimes, people don't need your solution. They just need to feel understood.

Men: Try this. Next time someone shares a challenge, don't jump to advice. Ask: "How did that feel?" or "Tell me more."

It's time to redefine masculinity.

🎙️ I explore this with Andrew Reiner in the latest How to Live episode. Andrew wrote the bestselling Better Boys, Better Men and writes on masculinity for The New York Times. We discuss male friendships, emotional support, and why redefining strength might unlock better leadership and deeper relationships.

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#096 Networking that actually feels good with Ryan Lim

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Be interested, not interesting.

𝐈𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐱𝐡𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠.

Most high performers approach networking like a performance.

Say something clever. Be impressive. Stand out.

But being interesting takes energy. It puts pressure on you.

And it often keeps things at the surface.

There's a better way: Be interested instead.

Ask thoughtful questions. Listen deeply.

Let others do what they love most - talk about themselves.

It's lighter. It's more human.

And it builds real trust. The kind that leads to long-term relationships, not short-term transactions.

🎙️ This shift from performing to connecting is exactly what Ryan Lim, and I dive into in the latest How to Live episode. Ryan's the bestselling author of The Business of Networking, No 1 on Strait Times, and he shares why introverts often make the best networkers, and why curiosity is your greatest tool.

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#095 How to move when you're stuck, a conversation with Sharad Lal

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Most people stay stuck because they’re waiting for clarity.
Big mistake.

When you’re 15–20 years into your career, the destination will never be what you imagined anyway.

What’s really keeping you stuck isn’t a lack of direction. It’s fear.
Fear disguised as “being strategic.”
Fear disguised as “waiting for the right moment.”
Fear disguised as “needing more information.”

But here’s the thing:
You don’t overcome fear by thinking your way through it.
You overcome it by moving through it.

The path doesn’t appear before you move.
It reveals itself because you moved.

Start small: One conversation. One experiment. One step forward.

Your next chapter is waiting on the other side of action, not analysis.

🎙️ In the latest How to Live podcast, I’m sharing part of my conversation with the amazing Michelle on her Upward Spiral podcast.

We talk about practical ways to find purpose, how to move when stuck, and why your 40s might be the best time to reinvent yourself.

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#094 Mindful Ambition with Bhavna Toor

Tue, 20 May 2025 04:00:00 +0800

You’re running faster.
You’re winning.
But are you running in the right direction?

The success script teaches us to outrun others.
Outrun, Outwit, Outlast.

But it rarely asks:
Is this the race you want to win?

Bhavna Toor followed that script.
She rose fast in New York finance.
But eventually, she realized she was running the wrong race - without ever choosing it.

Mindfulness helped her pause.
Reflect.
And choose her own path.

Mindfulness did not stall her ambition.
It pointed it in the right direction.

Today, her ambition burns stronger than ever.
Because it’s aligned. Conscious. Sustainable.

Mindful ambition isn’t about slowing down.
It’s about choosing your direction - with clarity.

If you’re questioning your own race, this conversation on How to Live might resonate.

Are you running your own race — or just running faster?

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#093 Muscle, Metabolism & Midlife Reset with Amanda Lim

Tue, 06 May 2025 05:00:00 +0800

Your annual health checkup is a good start. But it’s not enough.

You’re in your 40s. Your doctor says you're fine. Your weight looks fine.
But your energy is low. Your sleep is off. Something just feels… off.

Amanda Lim sees this every day.
She’s a Harvard-certified coach and co-founder of Singapore’s first Metabolic Clinic, advising companies like Google, PayPal, and Medtronic.

Her message?
You can look lean and healthy, and still be metabolically unwell.

In Singapore, many people look slim and fit, yet we’re facing a diabetes crisis.

Most annual checkups don’t catch it. They miss key signs like:

Skeletal muscle mass (SMI)
Visceral fat
Fasting insulin
VO₂ max

In this episode of How to Live, Amanda and I unpack the real health reset for your 40s — metabolism, muscle, and how to build strength from the inside out.

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#092 Let go to grow with Rob Bier

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Founders (and leaders) are addicted to solving problems. It’s their crack cocaine.
That’s what startup scaling coach Rob Bier, author of Smooth Scaling and coach to 40+ startups including six unicorns, told me.
And the more I thought about it, the more it made sense.
Fixing things feels good. It proves we’re still valuable. Still sharp. Still in control.

But the addiction comes at a cost.
It blocks us from building teams that solve problems without us.
And it traps us in an old identity—just when we’re ready to grow into something new.

We explore this and more in this episode of the podcast.

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#091 The art of career transitions with Shiv Choudhury

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Most career transitions are treated like cliff jumps.
You quit the job. Burn the bridges. Bet everything on your dream.

Shiv Choudhury chose a different path.

When he left BCG to build a billion-dollar business, he didn’t go all in.
First, he faked an app. It didn’t even work.
But it taught him one thing: customers wanted what he was offering.
That was enough to move to the next stage.

He calls it “pre-to-typing.”
👉 A way to de-risk big moves by testing the most important assumption before you quit your job or raise capital.

Shiv isn’t just theorizing.
He’s lived it — and thrived.

His career spans P&G, BCG, co-founding a fast-growing startup now valued in the hundreds of millions, and launching a successful private equity firm.
Every move was intentional.
Every leap was tested.

In this episode, he gives a masterclass in how to evolve your career — without blowing it up.

He shares:
✅ The “pre-to-type” method for de-risking ideas
✅ Why staying in your job can be the brave thing
✅ His framework for deciding when to prototype, scale, or kill
✅ How a childhood trauma still shapes his risk-taking
✅ Why humility — not hustle — has been his edge

If you’re in a transition — or quietly planning one — this episode is for you.

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#090 The success trap: when success holds you back with Sharad Lal

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Which of These 6 Success Traps Is Holding You Back?

After my article on The Success Trap in Esquire resonated with so many, I’ve gone deeper in my latest How to Live podcast.

Working with thousands of senior leaders at Google, Unilever, and HSBC, I’ve identified 6 fear-based identities that block evolution:

🧠 The Solver – Fixes everything, but fears being dispensable → micromanagement
🎯 The Perfectionist – Sets high standards, but fears not being good enough → delays
🔥 The Workhorse – Outworks everyone, but fears not belonging → burnout
😎 The Charmer – Inspires others, but fears rejection → avoids tough decisions
📋 The Taskmaster – Executes efficiently, but fears uncertainty → kills innovation
🌟 The Visionary – Sees the future, but fears irrelevance → never follows through

These identities aren’t weaknesses - they’re strengths turned rigid by fear.
🎙️ Episode 90 explores how to evolve beyond them, without losing what made you successful.

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#089 Beating Decision Fatigue with Dr. Shawn Watson

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 04:00:00 +0800

You Can Only Make So Many Good Decisions - Are You Using Them Right?

In 1987, we made 100s of decisions daily.
Today, we make 35,000.

Here's the problem: we can only make a finite number of quality decisions each day.

By evening, when we're making important business decisions during work calls or spending time with our children, we've already used up our good decisions quota.

The result? We default to the easiest and safest options - not the best ones.

No amount of coffee, Red Bull, or willpower can fix this. It's not mental exhaustion - it’s decision fatigue.

So how do we ensure our best decisions go to what truly matters?

In the latest episode of How to Live, we speak with Dr. Shawn Watson - a PhD neuroscientist and entrepreneur tackling this issue head-on. His company is one of Singapore’s top 20 hottest startups, and he’s been recognised as a top 10 healthcare professional under 40.

This is a hidden crisis stealing your success. Learn the science behind decision fatigue, how to manage it, and how to preserve your best decisions for what matters most.

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#088 Turning purpose into action with Uma Balasingam

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 04:00:00 +0800

When scaling a cause, should you pick passionate volunteers or capable ones?

Most instinctively say passion. But Uma Thana Balasingam’s journey scaling Lean In Singapore to 7,000+ members tells a different story.

Here’s the hard truth she discovered: Passionate people don’t always make great leaders. When she and her co-founder started delegating leadership roles to their most committed volunteers, they hit a wall. Leading a movement isn’t just about heart - it’s a skill. Managing complexity, making tough calls, and leading others require more than just good intentions.

The dilemma?

Capable people execute brilliantly but often vanish when things get tough.
Passionate people stay committed but can struggle with execution.

Early on, you don't have the luxury of choice - you work with whoever shows up.

But as you scale, the reality sets in:

Passion without execution creates chaos.
Execution without passion creates emptiness.

You need both.

In the latest How to Live podcast, Uma and I unpack this challenge. From founding Lean In Singapore to leadership roles at VTech, Dell, and IBM, to now building Elevate to champion women across Asia - she's lived this tension between passion and capability.

If you're wrestling with turning your purpose into impact, this conversation is for you.

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#087 Wisdom from the Maldives with Afeef Hussain

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 04:00:00 +0800

When resources are limited, how do you still access the best?

Afeef Hussain wanted his team - and his country Maldives - to learn from the world’s top minds. But bringing in world-class speakers and trainers isn’t cheap.

So instead of saying, "We can’t afford them," he asked, "How can we make it work?"

His solution? Leverage what he had.

He invited top experts - leaders like Stephen M.R. Covey and other global thought leaders - to experience the Maldives, offering them world-class hospitality at Lux Resorts. In return, they shared their knowledge, mentoring his team and raising the leadership standards of an entire nation.

Resourcefulness beats resources.

Today, the Maldives isn’t just a paradise for tourists - it’s known as a place where top talent comes to learn, grow, and further their careers.

We talked about this mindset - and much more - on the latest episode.

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#086 Forties Fitness Guide with Alex Mearns

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Forget six-packs - in your 40s, fitness is about feeling good, not looking good.

Let’s face it - most of us in our 40s aren’t hitting the gym for six-packs or beach bodies anymore. The idea of chasing aesthetics just doesn’t feel exciting or meaningful. But here’s the twist: strength training and fitness aren’t about looking good- they’re about feeling good.

When you feel strong and healthy, everything changes. You’re more productive at work, more present with your family, energised for your friends, and - most importantly - happier within yourself.

In the latest episode of How to Live, I speak with Alex Mearns, founder of Levitise, who works with C-suite leaders to transform their fitness and health holistically. His clients include leaders from BCG, UBS, Morgan Stanley, and Goldman Sachs.

We dive into:
✨ Why cholesterol isn’t the real health villain
✨ How to master the "upward spiral" approach to sustainable fitness
✨ Breakthrough strategies that actually work
✨ Designing a health plan that fits your busy life

This episode is a reminder that fitness isn’t about vanity - it’s the foundation for thriving in all areas of life.

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#085 Meaning & Success with Fabrice Desmarescaux

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 04:00:00 +0800

Feeling stuck? You might be looking in the wrong place.

When we hit a crossroads, our instinct is to look outward - more advice, more inspiration, more answers. But here's the plot twist: the most powerful guidance system isn't out there. It's your own story.

Our lives leave breadcrumbs - moments that light us up, decisions that felt right in our bones, and work that made time disappear. These aren't random. They're clues to what's next.

In the latest episode of How to Live, I sit down with Fabrice Desmarescaux, who walked away from his McKinsey partnership to pursue something that called him deeper. Through reflection and mindful exploration, he discovered that purpose isn't a destination - it's a trail of discoveries.

We dive into:

✨ How to read the breadcrumbs of your past to shape your future

✨ Why most big decisions are rarely permanent (and why that's liberating)

✨ The sweet spot between ambition and self-awareness that creates lasting fulfillment

The path forward isn't about perfect clarity - it's about curiosity and courage.

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#084 Life Lessons Deeper Dive 2024

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0800

4,000 weeks.

That’s all we get. The number of weeks most of us will live.
The average human life is "absurdly, insultingly brief."

As we step into 2025, this perspective—shared by Oliver Burkeman on the How to Live Podcast earlier this year—continues to resonate deeply. It’s a stark reminder to be intentional with the one resource we can never reclaim: time.

We’ve put together life lessons from extraordinary guests who appeared on the How to Live Podcast in the second half of 2024—thinkers who are reshaping how we live, work, and grow:

Oliver Burkeman reframes time management with startling clarity.
Aneace Haddad helps us navigate midlife transitions.
Joel Pearson unveils the science of intuition.
Sara Jane Ho elevates the art of human interaction.
Simon Bowen introduces the power of visual thinking.
Nir Eyal shares strategies for staying focused in a distracted world.
John Dykes inspires with his journey of personal reinvention.
Sha-En Yeo explores the science of happiness.
Christina Wallace invites us to embrace a portfolio life.
Matthew Dicks reveals the secrets of masterful storytelling.
Drew Tarvin demonstrates humor’s ability to transform.
Nick Jonsson offers a path to self-discovery and personal transformation.

This is more than a podcast—it’s a roadmap to living with intention, curiosity, and purpose.

As we close the chapter on 2024, I invite you to reflect on your own 4,000 weeks:
What will you do differently in the weeks ahead?

Don’t miss this powerful episode that brings all these lessons together in one place.

Here’s to a purposeful 2025. 🌟

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#083 Life Lessons 2024

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0800

“When I went bankrupt, I begged a friend who had built a unicorn for a 30-minute meeting. The moment we sat down, I could tell he didn’t want to be there.
Six months later, after working on myself, I went back with a clear vision and positive energy. This time, he introduced me to his network and offered his full support.
That experience taught me a powerful lesson: People are drawn to passion and purpose, not negativity."

This gem from Marc Nicholson, Founder of 1880, is just one of many transformative insights from our guests this year on the How to Live podcast.

As we wrap up 2024, we’ve pulled together a mixtape of wisdom from the first half of 2024 - a collection of the most thought-provoking, inspiring moments from the podcast.

Here’s a sneak peek of what’s inside:

Derek Sivers on questioning the status quo to create a life you love.
Marc Nicholson on purpose.
Dani on finding deeper meaning and spirituality in everyday life.
Esh on unlocking creativity and innovation.
Karen & Mette on mastering emotional intelligence to thrive in relationships and work.
Leanne & Arjun on entrepreneurial lessons learned the hard way.
Natalia on the power of healing and renewal.

If you’re reflecting on the past year or gearing up for 2025, this episode is your masterclass in growth, purpose, and transformation.

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#082 Rethinking Happy Hour with Nick Jonsson

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 04:00:00 +0800

What’s your relationship with alcohol?

This isn’t a preachy “quit drinking” episode but it’s about curiosity. Many of us enjoy a drink. It helps us connect, unwind, and feel at ease. But as we get older, we start noticing the side effects: restless sleep, sluggish mornings, or even feeling a bit off the next day.

It got me curious: What’s alcohol really doing to us? How can we enjoy the connection it fosters without the downsides?

In this episode of How to Live, I speak with Nick Jonsson, Co-Founder of EGN Network, bestselling author, and executive coach. A few years ago, Nick reached a breaking point with alcohol, turned his life around, and is now thriving personally and professionally.

We explore:

How alcohol affects your body, mind, and ability to handle tough situations.
The deeper issues drinking can mask.
Practical ways to drink less without losing the joy of social connection.

This isn’t about quitting. It’s about curiosity to rethink our habits and finding a balance that works for us.

Give it a listen, and let me know what you think!

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#081 Feel Stuck? Design your next stage with Sharad Lal

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0800

"I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing… because I don’t know what else to do."
Sound familiar?

Here’s the truth about being stuck: We wait for clarity before making a move. We want to see the whole path before we take the first step.

But what if we’ve got it backwards?

Think about it: Most people who’ve made significant moves in their lives didn’t start with perfect clarity. Many didn’t even end up where they thought they would.

Why? Because our greatest opportunities often lie in the “unknown unknowns”—that space we can’t see yet. The ideas and paths we don’t even know exist.

The key isn’t knowing where to go.
It’s knowing how to prepare for the move.

In today’s episode of How to Live, I break down:

How to get unstuck without waiting for perfect clarity
Why purpose becomes your greatest motivator
How to systematically design your next wave - and why it could be your biggest yet

Because here’s what I’ve learned: The path reveals itself in the preparation.

Feeling stuck? Your next wave is waiting.

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#080 Humour at work with Drew Tarvin

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Should we bring humour to work?

Can it help us connect and achieve more, or risk making us seem trivial?

Our guest today, Drew Tarvin, learned engineering in school and was hired for his technical skills. Yet, it was humour—not engineering—that became his edge in the workplace.

By using humour, he diffused tension, built strong relationships, influenced others, and accelerated his career. This led him to create Humor That Works, a company that has helped 10,000+ leaders in over 100 organisations—including IBM, GE, and the FBI—harness humour to lead effectively.

In this episode, Drew shares how humour can amplify leadership and why it’s more than just a tool for entertainment. As someone who typically discusses purpose and fulfilment, I found this conversation a powerful reminder that humour can add depth to even the most serious work.

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#079 Finding meaning in everyday stories with Matthew Dicks

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Searching for meaning in life and work? The secret isn’t in those rare, life-altering moments—it’s hidden in the small, everyday moments we often overlook.

The key? Storytelling.

Even if we don’t share them, simply turning our experiences into stories in our own minds can transform how we see ourselves and our lives. It’s how we grow, learn, and ultimately, find deeper purpose.

In today's podcast, I’m joined by master storyteller and five-time Moth GrandSLAM champion, Matthew Dicks. If you’re not familiar with The Moth, it’s New York City’s iconic storytelling platform, and Matthew has dominated it, winning 52 StorySLAMs.

Beyond that, Matthew co-founded Speak Up, a storytelling organisation that has helped thousands craft more compelling stories. His Homework for Life project is a powerful tool for anyone looking to enrich their daily life through storytelling, one small step at a time.

If you're looking for simple, practical ways to find more meaning and connection in your life, this episode is for you.

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#078 Crafting a Portfolio Life with Christina Wallace

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Ever felt like a jack of all trades, master of none? Think again! Welcome to the world of Portfolio Life!

Just like a financial portfolio, it’s about bringing together all your passions, talents, and needs—balancing them to create a fulfilling life on your own terms

It starts by understanding what truly matters to you: income, flexibility, creativity, intellectual stimulation, family responsibilities, and more. From there, you can design a life that accommodates all these dimensions. And just like rebalancing a portfolio, you can adjust with each new chapter of your life—minimising risks while maximising joy and fulfilment.

In the latest episode of the How to Live Podcast, I sit down with Christina Wallace—serial entrepreneur, New York Times bestselling author, and the creator of The Portfolio Life.

Christina has done it all: she’s worked with BCG, started multiple businesses, and found her sweet spot at the intersection of business, technology, and the arts. Today, she teaches at Harvard Business School, produces Broadway shows, writes bestselling books, raises two kids, and even sings in a choir!

If you want to learn how to create your own Portfolio Life—blending passions, multiple income streams, and a sense of purpose—this episode is a must-listen!

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3 Questions to ask yourself

When have you seen me happiest?
What do you come to me for?
Where do I stand our against my peers?

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#077 The anatomy of happiness with Sha-En Yeo

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Can we learn to be happy, or is it something we're born with?

Research, including Martin Seligman’s theory of Learned Optimism, reveals that happiness need not be a passing feeling—it can be a skill we develop. The science is clear: happiness can be learned.

One simple yet powerful tool is savouring. While happiness may seem fleeting, pausing to fully experience joyful moments can stretch them, turning brief emotions into lasting contentment. By practising this regularly, we can significantly boost our overall well-being.

In this episode, I dive into the science of happiness with Sha-En Yeo, a leading Happiness Scientist.

Sha-En holds a Master’s in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she studied under Dr. Martin Seligman and Prof. Angela Duckworth. Over 13 years, she has inspired more than 25,000 people across Asia-Pacific with her keynotes and transformative coaching. You may know her from 913FM, her bestselling books, or her two TED talks. Sha-En also serves as President of the Asia Professional Speakers Association.

Fittingly, her name means “gratitude” and “kindness”—values that guide her work in spreading happiness.

If you’re ready to bring more happiness into your life or want to understand it from a scientific lens, this episode is a must-listen.

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#076 Re-inventing: From broadcast to boardrooms with John Dykes

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 04:00:00 +0800

How do you reinvent yourself when you’ve already reached the top of one field?

It's a question many of us face as long careers, industry disruptions, or even boredom push us to rethink our path.

In the latest episode of the How to Live podcast, I sit down with the legendary sports broadcaster John Dykes, who shares his powerful and deeply personal story of stepping out of the broadcast spotlight and into corporate boardrooms.

For years, John was the trusted face of the Premier League, someone we all tuned in to see. But even before the broadcast industry in Southeast Asia faced disruption, John found himself questioning the purpose and relevance of what he was doing. After decades spent in Sports TV listening to the legends and unpicking their strategies, he began questioning his next move - convinced he wanted to inform, educate and entertain.

He spent two years exploring where he could still make an impact within the sports world—experiencing both triumphs and doubts. But a friend's remark changed everything: "John, you're more than just an entertaining dinner speech." Brutal, but it struck a chord.

Through various explorations, John realised his core skills—communication, crisis management, leadership lessons from the likes of Sir Alex Ferguson, David Beckham, and the Williams Sisters—were just as relevant in the corporate world. The stage may have shifted, but the principles remained the same.

With a natural gift for storytelling, John began helping corporate leaders, from investment bankers to senior executives, communicate powerfully, make strategic decisions, and even recruit with insights from football's greatest. Yet, it wasn’t all smooth sailing. He had to learn the ropes of commercialising his services, setting the right pricing, and designing programs from scratch.

What struck me most about John's journey wasn’t just his skillset—it was his mindset. Despite being at the peak of his career and a familiar face to millions, John approached this transition with humility, curiosity, and quiet determination. He was open to learning, adapting, and evolving.

Many of us are at a point where reinvention is necessary but scary. John’s story shows that reinvention is not only possible—it can be inspiring, even at the top of your game.

If you're looking to evolve and grow to the next stage of your career, this episode is for you.

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#075 Being indistractable with Nir Eyal

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0800

We start projects with excitement, but how often do we end up doom-scrolling when the going gets tough?

What really drives distraction? Is it flashy external stimuli or our internal discomfort?

Research shows it's primarily internal triggers. Even Plato and Aristotle grappled with this 2,500 years ago. While modern tech hasn't helped, it's not the root cause.

The key to beating distraction isn't just removing stimuli. It's about managing our discomfort to push through the boring parts and achieve our goals.

But how do we do that?

Tune into the 75th milestone episode of the How to Live Podcast for answers. I'm joined by the brilliant Nir Eyal, New York Times bestselling author of "Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life."

Nir isn't just an author - he's a behavioural design expert who's taught at Stanford, advised Fortune 500 companies, and invested in successful startups like Canva and Kahoot. His work has been featured in Harvard Business Review and The New York Times, making him a true authority on building focus in our distraction-filled world.

Nir's expertise in psychology, technology, and business, coupled with his infectious energy, makes this episode a must-listen for any leader aiming to boost their focus and productivity.

Ready to take control of your attention and elevate your performance?

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#074 Visualising million dollar ideas with Simon Bowen

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Imagine attending a keynote where the speaker walks up with an iPad and begins sketching live, transforming complex ideas about life and business into powerful visual concepts right before your eyes.

Meet Simon Bowen, the Visual Maestro of Business, who turns abstract thoughts into million-dollar realities.

Growing up in the rugged outback of Western Australia, Simon's world was defined by visuals. Maps scratched in the dirt for directions, diagrams sketched on paper before assembling electrical circuits – these experiences honed his ability to see the world in geometric patterns and dimensions.

Today, Simon stands as the world's leading authority on visual models that sell. As the founder of the Models Method, he has developed a groundbreaking approach that helps business owners create powerful, revenue-driving visual representations of their ideas.

His trademarked Genius Model has earned accolades from Fortune 500 companies, governments, and military organisations alike.

But Simon is more than just a visual thinker – he's a modern-day sage, bringing profound wisdom to life through his captivating models.

In our upcoming podcast, we'll dive deep into:

How visuals unlock our understanding of complex concepts
The art of crafting million-dollar visual models
The hidden depths of thinking that visual models can reveal

And here's the kicker: Simon will transform one of my current business ideas into a visual model – LIVE on the show!

Don't miss this opportunity to witness the intersection of art, business, and innovation. Simon Bowen's unique perspective promises to revolutionise how you think about and communicate your ideas.

Prepare to have your mind visually blown! 🎨💡🚀

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#073 Mind your manners with Sara Jane Ho

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Do you dismiss manners and etiquette as outdated, superficial skills?

Think again.

Beneath the surface of etiquette lies a powerful combination of emotional intelligence, psychology, coaching, and spirituality. These elements can:

Foster deeper connections with others
Build unshakeable confidence
Transform lives in profound ways

This eye-opening insight came from my conversation with Sara Jane Ho, the Emmy-nominated Netflix host, entrepreneur, and etiquette expert. You may know her from the hit show "Mind Your Manners," but Sara's impact goes far beyond television.

As a pioneer entrepreneur, Sara founded a high-end finishing school in China, earning recognition from Fast Company as one of the world's top 50 innovative companies. Her credentials are impressive:

MBA from Harvard Business School
Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree
BBC's Top 100 Women

Sara's journey is as fascinating as her achievements. She left a lucrative career in investment banking to pursue her passion for etiquette and personal transformation.

In our conversation, we delve into the true essence of etiquette, its role in building confidence and transforming lives, cultural nuances in manners, and Sara's experiences creating her Netflix show.

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#072 The new science of intuition with Joel Pearson

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Ever felt an instant connection on a first date, only to wonder later if it was real? Science says it might not be intuition at all—it's arousal misattribution.

Professor Joel Pearson experienced this firsthand during a rock climbing first date. Years later, his groundbreaking research revealed the truth: the exhilaration of climbing created a physiological high he mistook for romantic connection. This phenomenon explains why intuition often fails in emotionally charged situations, both personal and professional.

While intuition has been widely discussed from spiritual and coaching perspectives, scientific research was lacking—until now.

Enter Professor Joel Pearson, PhD in neuroscience and founder of the Future Minds Lab at the University of New South Wales. As the pioneer in the scientific study of intuition, his revolutionary SMILE Model (Self-awareness, Mastery, Impulse control, Low probability, and Environment) offers a framework for understanding when to trust our gut and when to think twice.

Fresh from the release of his book "The Intuition Toolkit" and appearances on global podcasts like the Rich Roll Podcast, Prof Pearson joins us to share his insights. We'll explore:

Intuition in the business context
Distinguishing between impulse and intuition
Why mastery in one field doesn't translate into intuition in another
Optimal learning strategies
Applying the SMILE Model in daily life

This podcast will equip you with scientifically proven research to effectively use intuition in your work and personal lives. Learn how top executives use scientifically-backed intuition to make million-dollar decisions in high-pressure situations.

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#071 New horizons in midlife with Aneace Haddad

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Ever blanked during a crucial presentation, your mind suddenly empty? The panic, the embarrassment, the self-doubt that follows... Sound familiar?

Welcome to midlife, where this happens more often. But here's the twist - it's not a downward spiral, it's an evolution.

Our brains start changing in our late 30s, with the prefrontal cortex slowing down. We can't process information as rapidly as before. Clinging to our younger cognitive patterns only makes us brittle, like someone stubbornly insisting they're right when everyone else sees otherwise.

But here's the silver lining: while we may not be as quick as we once were, we're developing new superpowers. The hemispheres of our brains are communicating more, enhancing our ability to connect dots and recognize patterns far better than in our 30s.

This can become our secret weapon as leaders in our 40s and 50s.

We delve into this and more with Aneace Haddad, a former tech CEO who pivoted to C-Suite Executive Coaching at 47. After selling his multinational tech company spread across 30 countries, Aneace reshaped his career and now guides executives through midlife leadership evolution. He's also a Senior Advisor to McKinsey and facilitator at Deloitte University.

A profound, insightful conversation that anyone in their late 30s, 40s, and 50s should hear. It's not just about adapting - it's about unleashing potential you never knew you had.

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#070 Joy of missing out with Oliver Burkeman

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Does efficiently clearing tasks bring you peace or just create more busyness? 🤔

We've all tried countless time management hacks to regain control of our schedules. But ironically, the more we optimise, the busier and more stressed we become.

The root issue isn't the technique - it's the concept of time management itself.

Why? Because the supply of potential tasks is infinite, while our time is painfully finite. There's simply no way to ever "get it all done."

This realisation is unexpectedly liberating. By accepting we can't do everything, the things we choose to prioritise become deeply meaningful - since we're consciously rejecting other options.

This radical perspective comes from Oliver Burkeman's groundbreaking book "Four Thousand Weeks" - hailed as "the most important book ever on time management" by Adam Grant, a "much-needed reality check" by Mark Manson, and a prompt to "rethink our worship of efficiency" by Daniel Pink.

A New York Times bestseller praised by the Wall Street Journal, The Guardian, The Atlantic, and more, the book is making waves. Oliver studied at Cambridge, was shortlisted for the Orwell Prize, and won the Foreign Press Association award.

In our compelling chat for the How to Live Podcast, the award-winning journalist challenges efficiency worship and positive thinking tropes. Instead, he offers logical, actionable insights into:

✨ Why time management fails us

✨ Embracing our finitude

✨ Finding true meaning amid rejection

✨ Patience, fun, and freedom

Don't miss this thought-provoking discussion that will reshape how you view your limited weeks on Earth.

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#069 Journey of a Millennial CEO with Karen Kim

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Imagine being 30, the youngest on your team, and stepping into the CEO role. How would that feel?
Karen Kim, the dynamic CEO of a self-funded disruptive tech startup with a footprint across ASEAN, knows this feeling well.
When Karen first took on this incredible responsibility, she experienced the same doubts many of us would: hyper-awareness of others' perceptions, self-doubt, fear of disappointment, and overthinking.
But soon, Karen shifted her focus from internal worries to the external challenges and opportunities in the business. By concentrating on the problems at hand, the self-critical voices began to quiet down.
Then, she harnessed her core skills to solve problems, motivate her team, and build systems, ultimately becoming the innovative leader she was destined to be.

In this episode, Karen shares her inspiring journey from Seoul to Hong Kong, learning English at 11, studying at the University of Cambridge, working with British Telecom and LinkedIn, and finally, becoming a Millennial CEO.

As Karen takes us on this journey, she openly shares her fears and drops deep wisdom that will be applicable to all of us.

Join us as we explore Karen Kim's remarkable story.

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#068 Connecting the dots to purpose with Marc Nicholson

Tue, 21 May 2024 04:00:00 +0800

“When I went bankrupt, I begged a friend who had built a unicorn for a meeting. He promised me 30 minutes. The minute we met, I could tell he didn’t want to be there.
Six months later, after processing all the difficult emotions and working on myself, I went back to him and said, 'Hey, this is what I want to do.' He responded by introducing me to people and offering support.
I learned a valuable lesson: If you go to people and whine about your problems with negative energy, you bring them down. But if you approach them with passion and excitement, they will go out of their way to help.”

This story shared by Marc Nicholson in the latest episode of the How to Live podcast hit home hard. Marc is the founder of 1880, a private club in Singapore that brings creatives and intellectuals together.

Originally from Montreal, Canada, Marc’s journey has seen him living in Haiti, being a child actor, volunteering in Indonesia, coaching the Cyprus National Squash Team, earning a Master's in Human Rights in The Hague, working at the Middle East Council of Churches, and obtaining an MBA from London Business School.

At the age of 47, the dots connected as he founded 1880, the first-of-its-kind premier social club in Singapore, which now also has locations in Hong Kong and Bali.

In our conversation we talk to Marc about his journey to find purpose, taming the voices in his head, failure, definition of success, curating charged conversations and a lot more.

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#067 Spirituality and success with Danielle Van de Velde

Tue, 07 May 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Is meditation tapping out from high achievement? Far from it.

Stress often drives high performers to explore meditation. After years of relying heavily on their intellect, they find themselves burnt out. Meditation does more than offer a break—it rebuilds and rejuvenates.

Regular practice not only improves sleep, gut health, and energy levels but also fosters the creation of new neural pathways in the brain—confirmed by fMRI studies. These changes enhance problem-solving abilities, conflict management, and deepen connections with personal purpose.

Far from being an exit from high achievement, meditation opens the door to new levels of performance.

In this episode, we dive into these topics with Danielle Van De Velde—a former finance industry leader turned meditation teacher, keynote speaker, and spiritual healer. Dani has influenced global leaders, authored an incredible book, and hosts 'The Modern Crone,' ranked #1 in Singapore’s spiritual category.

Our conversation will cover how spirituality can amplify your professional life—navigating the balance between striving and accepting, understanding your purpose, enhancing relationships, and the power of discipline and repetition.

Dani’s soothing voice and profound wisdom are truly enriching, making this an episode you won’t want to miss.

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#066 Carrying hidden trauma to work with Natalia Rachel

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 04:00:00 +0800

When you hear the word "trauma," do you think, "That's not me. I haven't experienced any major tragedies"?

However, trauma doesn't always stem from monumental events. Sometimes, it's the smaller, seemingly insignificant experiences that leave us with unresolved feelings, subtly shaping our behaviours in ways that may not serve us well.

Imagine a high-performance workplace bustling with diverse personalities. It's likely that many colleagues carry hidden traumas. Think about the potential impact on team dynamics and overall productivity.

We dive deep into this topic in our latest "How to Live" podcast episode featuring Natalia Rachels, a trauma-informed therapist and an award-winning Learning & Development Educator. Natalia is a renowned author, keynote speaker, and social entrepreneur, widely recognized for her efforts to weave trauma and relationship management into mainstream conversations. Honoured with the Women Icons Asia Award for her societal contributions, Natalia also writes for SheWorld and advises companies on nurturing healthier workplace cultures.

In today’s episode, we'll explore how trauma can surface in professional settings, discuss pathways to healing, and highlight the crucial roles of authenticity and belonging.

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#065 Corporate entrepreneurship with Arjun Purkayastha

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 04:00:00 +0800

"Don’t simplify. Delete"

As business leaders, when we're overwhelmed, our go-to questions often revolve around simplification—can we find a simpler way, eliminate steps, or use fewer resources? However, a more fundamental question to ask might be: Is this task necessary in the first place?

It's a common belief that entrepreneurs excel at solving problems, but the most successful ones are those who sidestep problems altogether. This is a significant lesson that we could adopt more widely in the corporate world.

In the latest episode of the How to Live Podcast, Arjun Purkayastha shares potent insights on integrating entrepreneurial thinking into the corporate sphere. As the Senior Vice President and Managing Director at Reckitt, and a dear friend, Arjun brings a wealth of experience from his tenure at leading MNCs like Procter & Gamble, across diverse regions including Singapore, South Korea, India, the UK, and China.

What truly distinguishes him in the corporate landscape is his entrepreneurial mindset—a skill I've had the privilege of observing firsthand. His approach has been continually refined through his engagements with startups, and today, he serves as a Board Director and Strategic Advisor to multiple acclaimed ventures, including the Bombay Shaving Company.

Arjun's notable achievements include winning 7 Cannes Lions, 6 Effies, and being recognized as one of the UK's top 50 customer experience professionals.

During our conversation, we explore bringing an entrepreneurial mindset to the workplace, discussing topics like the fine line between intelligence and arrogance, when to make quick decisions and when to wait, having a bullshit detector, and the fundamental qualities of courage and credibility, among other insights.

This episode is filled with wisdom and practical advice that will undoubtedly enhance your leadership skills.

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#064 How to live with Derek Sivers

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 04:00:00 +0800

"The rich can't buy it. The impatient can't rush it. The privileged can't inherit it. And nobody can steal it. You can only earn it through hard work. Mastery is the ultimate status.”

Take a moment to let this profound insight from Derek Sivers sink in.

In a world filled with easy, superficial pleasures, dedicating five hours a day to hone our skills seems unimportant. Yet, this commitment is not just fulfilling—it's a rare and strategic way to differentiate ourselves and achieve the highest status.

We delve into topics such as mastery, creativity, independence, and entrepreneurship with Derek in the latest episode of our podcast.

If you're not yet familiar with Derek Sivers, he's the mind behind CD Baby, once the globe's largest online distributor of independent music. His decision to sell the company and donate all the proceeds to charity—USD 22 million in 2008—captured hearts worldwide. A best-selling author and a speaker renowned for his TED Talks, Derek is a celebrated guest on leading podcasts, including the Tim Ferriss Show, Shane Parrish, and Mark Manson.

Don't miss this exceptional episode where Derek shares insights from his book 'How to Live,' a work he considers his finest achievement.

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#063 Winning through giving inspired by Adam Grant

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Have you ever felt that "Nice guys finish last"?

We've all rooted for the underdog. The hero who helps others but is always left behind. However in the end, against all odds, finishes on top.

This happens only in the movies right?

When we look around, especially in the competitive business world, the reality seems grim. We see good people who give without expecting, being overshadowed by those who master the art of taking credit.

I noticed this in my early career but with time a fascinating shift occurred - the power of reputation took control. People began to recognize who puts in the effort and who free rides. Givers start emerging on top.

This revelation was solidified when I read Adam Grant's "Give and Take," thanks to a recommendation from my speaking mentor Avi Liran. Adam’s research showed that takers may have short-term gains, but it's the givers who truly come out on top. There’s a caveat though.

In the latest episode of the How to Live Podcast, I build on Adam’s theory and introduce my thesis around meaningful and desperate giving, examine the dynamics of the asking-giving relationship, and yes reveal the caveat for thriving as a giver.

Discover why not all forms of giving are created equal, and how to ensure your generosity leads to success.

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#062 Authentic leadership without fluff with Mette Johansson

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Does putting family photos in a work presentation makes you an authentic leader?

Many of us grapple with understanding what authentic leadership truly means. It's a buzzword that's everywhere, often shrouded in fluff, causing us to tune out when we hear it.

That’s what we set out to do in our latest podcast episode with the insightful Mette Johansson. With over 15 years of experience in leadership roles across Asia and Europe, Mette is an awarded speaker, author, coach, and social entrepreneur. Her consultancy, MetaMind, is dedicated to cultivating authentic leaders, with clients including Pfizer, Citibank, and Airbnb. Her wisdom has featured from Harper Bazaar to Strait Times.

Join us as we debunk misconceptions, explore real-world scenarios, and analyse the leadership styles of visionaries like Elon Musk and Satya Nadella. And of course, we'll tackle intriguing questions like whether family photos belong in a work presentation.

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#061 How to optimise energy with Elika Tasker

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 04:00:00 +0800

What saps your energy the most? Is it your diet, lifestyle, bosses, or relationships? There's another significant factor that often flies under the radar: Purpose.

Lack of Purpose can be the ultimate energy drain. When our days are filled with uninspiring tasks and we feel like we're constantly swimming against the tide, our energy reserves are depleted the most.

Join us for an insightful discussion with Energy Optimisation Coach Elika Tasker. Elika, the founder of Health Concierge, empowers ambitious leaders to thrive personally and professionally through her holistic program.

Elika emphasises that discovering purpose isn't solely about western science focusing on the brain. By integrating eastern wisdom that tunes into our body's wisdom, we can uncover our purpose and harness our energy optimally.

Elika's journey has taken her around the globe, from the shamans in Central America to indigenous communities in Australia, New Zealand, and the profound realms of Ayurveda in India. With over 7 years of profound learning, Elika has merged ancient wisdom with cutting-edge science to support her clients' thriving journeys.

In this episode, we delve into the intricate world of energy—identifying leaks, resetting, and understanding the synergy between ancient traditions and modern science. We unravel the root causes of burnout and anxiety, culminating in a profound exploration of purpose—what it entails, how to discover it, and ultimately, how to thrive.

Dive into our latest episode for an enlightening discussion on reclaiming your energy and purpose!

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#060 Psychology of entrepreneurship with Leanne Robers

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Meet Leanne Robers, a trained psychotherapist who initially believed business and psychology were separate realms. As she scaled up her ventures, she maintained a clinical psychology practice to make ends meet. They were always separate till she Co-Founded She Loves Tech.

She Loves Tech is the world's largest startup accelerator, catering to women-led tech startups. Operating across 72 countries, they've kickstarted over 13,000 startups, raising a whopping $350 million in the process.

Leanne herself boasts accolades as an Obama leader, inclusion in the 40 under 40 list, and a recent Woman of the Year special award from Princess Charlene and Prince Albert II in Monaco.

Throughout her journey working with founders and business leaders, Leanne discovered a magical overlap between the worlds of business and psychology. This synergy led to the creation of courses and workshops tailored for entrepreneurs, emphasising the powerful role psychology plays in the business realm.

Today's discussion zooms in on that: leveraging psychology to elevate oneself as an entrepreneur and business leader. We're diving into topics like identity, limiting beliefs, imposter syndrome, and the entire spectrum of emotions—a holistic exploration of the entrepreneur's psyche.

Join us in exploring the transformative power of psychology in entrepreneurship and business.

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#059 Creativity at work with Eshan Ponnadurai

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 04:00:00 +0800

How can we be more creative at work?

Who better to talk about this than top ranked Chief Marketing Officer -Eshan Ponnadurai. Eshan is Vice President and Global Head of Marketing for Meta. He’s worked for the world’s top companies - Google, Uber, AirBnb, P&G and he’s worked across the world - from Australia to Asia to North America.

Forbes thinks he’s top notch. Ranking him World’s Top 50 CMO twice. Ad week likes him as well - they’ve ranked him among World’s Top 30 CMOs.

He’s worked on incredible award winning marketing campaigns including Google’s first ever brand campaign in India that went on to win 2 Cannes Lions.

Eshan, a cherished friend, graced our How to Live Podcast, sharing insights on workplace creativity, the power of visionary concepts, storytelling, stakeholder management, content consumption, and much more.

Join this episode for an inspiring dive into fostering workplace creativity and invaluable guidance on nurturing that spark within.

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#058 Purpose in everyday life

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 04:00:00 +0800

Amidst life's whirlwind, the pursuit of purpose might seem daunting. Yet, within our daily hustle, purpose hides in plain sight.

It's not intricate—it's the simplicity of solving a problem, connecting with friends, or lending a helping hand.

By becoming aware around these seemingly ordinary activities, we can infuse more purpose into our lives without an extensive overhaul.

Seeking a touch of fulfillment in 2024?

Join me in the latest short episode, where I delve into uncovering purpose in everyday life. Drawing from insights and stories shared by thousands, I'll guide you through this transformative journey.

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#057 Best bits of 2023

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 04:00:00 +0800

The final episode of 2023 where we reflect on the wisdom shared throughout the year. We're delving into a treasure trove of insights from remarkable guests, each offering a unique facet of the journey towards a fulfilling life.

🧘 Travis Elliot delves into the transformative teachings of yoga.

🏛️ William Irvine on stoicism

🎨 Beth Kempton invites us to discover the beauty within Wabi Sabi.

🕉️ Anand Mehrotra shares timeless Ancient Vedic wisdom.

🧠 Dr. Kristin Neff intertwines psychology and Buddhism for a balanced life.

🏅 Jim Lafferty imparts invaluable life lessons driven by sports.

💼 Dean Tong offers insights on finding purpose within the workplace.

🌱 Avivah Wittenberg Cox guides us through thriving in life's later stages.

👔 Brenda Bence charts a course towards becoming a CEO.

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Maggie Dent shares essential insights into raising resilient kids.

💡 Samuel Rhee sheds light on purposeful and meaningful investing.

Let's bid adieu to 2023 by revisiting these invaluable conversations and use them as an inspiration for 2024.

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#056 Emotions at work with Mollie Rogers Jean De Dieu

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 04:00:00 +0800

What role do emotions have at work? How can they help us grow and be more productive at work?

We discuss this and more with Mollie Rogers Jean De Dieu. Mollie is the General Manager of the French fashion house Longchamp, a TEDX speaker and an Author. She’s the founder of the non profit organisation called Emotional Inclusion, that’s leading the way for humanising work.

Over her two decade career in the fashion industry Mollie came across hundreds of stories of people navigating work while facing adversities at home. Facing the perfect storm and trying to numb emotions at work.

This made her realise the scale of the problem, and motivated her to become an advocate of emotional inclusion at work. With this motivation Mollie founded a non-profit, wrote a book that’s been published by Penguin Random House, started a podcast that’s ranked high globally and has become a thought leader for inclusion of emotions at work.

Mollie has been featured in Vogue, Grazia, Tatler among others. Her work on Emotional Inclusion has been endorsed by Harvard Professor Dr Amy Edmondson, a pioneer in the space of psychological safety.

In today's conversation, Mollie and I talk about being professional while being human, how to bring emotions in the workplace, power of emotions, spirituality and more.

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#055 Money, spirituality & purpose with Samuel Rhee

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +0800

How do we align to a deeper purpose? And how can we create wealth through stress-free investing?

That’s the focus of this podcast episode. We have with us Samuel Rhee, Co-Founder & Chairman of Endowus, Asia's largest independent digital wealth platform.

With an illustrious career spanning 30 years, including his tenure as the CEO of Morgan Stanley Investments Asia, Sam brings unparalleled expertise to the table. His mission? To revolutionise our approach to finance and investments.

Traditional finance often dances in complexity and obscured fees. Yet, Sam, as the visionary co-founder of Endowus, flips this narrative. His focus? Empowering everyone with financial literacy while ensuring transparency and client-centric service.

A luminary in the field, Sam's wisdom has graced esteemed platforms such as Forbes, Bloomberg, CNBC, and beyond.

In our chat, Sam and I deep dive into what is purpose, how he discovered his deeper purpose in the financial world, delayed gratification, the power of prayer, the psychology of investing, all explained in plain, practical language.

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#054 Self-compassion & growth with Dr. Kristin Neff

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 05:00:00 +0800

“I’m my own harshest critic”, many high achievers admit. Are they successful because of this or despite this? Research reveals a compelling answer.

While self-criticism can be a driving force, studies show that self-compassion is even more effective. It doesn't mean letting ourselves off the hook but offers clear, honest feedback with kindness. On the other hand, harsh self-judgement leads to shame and stress.

Kindness and clarity, as opposed to shame and stress, provide better motivation for growth and learning.

In our latest podcast, we dive deep into self-compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff, a pioneer in the field. Her groundbreaking work has defined self-compassion as a vital mental health tool and a catalyst for personal growth.

Dr. Neff's two-decade-old self-compassion scale has earned her worldwide recognition. She’s appeared in the world’s top podcasts and has been featured in prestigious publications like the New York times Forbes, the Atlantic Harvard business review.

In today's conversation, we'll unravel the essence of self-compassion—what sets it apart from self-pity and self-love, why it trumps self-esteem, and how it equips us to conquer comparisons and jealousy. We'll also delve into its transformative role in parenting and much more.

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#053 How to become a CEO with Brenda Bence

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +0800

How do we make it to CEO? And how do we succeed as a CEO?

That’s the focus of this podcast episode. We have with us Brenda Bence, a top ranked executive coach, member of the professional speaker hall of fame, and an award winning author.

With offices in the US and Asia, Brenda has coached 1000 senior leaders from 60 nationalities across 70 industries. She’s coached CEOs and board chairs of companies listed in NYSE, NASDAQ, LSE and the Honk Kong Stock Exchange.

Brenda has been consistently ranked a top 10 coach by various surveys, holds an MBA from Harvard Business School and has been featured in Fortune, NBC, Financial Times and more.

In our chat, Brenda and I are going to break down how you can make that big leap to CEO. We'll talk about when you should start getting ready, how to prepare, what CEOs really do, and how to not just survive but thrive as a CEO.

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#052 Brain Health with Santiago Brand

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 05:00:00 +0800

What exactly is brain health, and how can we shield our precious minds from harm? How can we supercharge our brains, enabling us to achieve extraordinary feats? These are the questions we will explore today.

To discuss this fascinating topic, we're joined by a true expert in the field, clinical and sports psychologist Santiago Brand. Hailing from Colombia, Santiago is the founder of MinLab Neuroscience Consulting in Singapore. With certifications in qEEG brain mapping, neurofeedback, and biofeedback, coupled with extensive experience as a therapist and Brainspotting instructor, he's a true authority when it comes to all things brain-related.

Santiago has shared his knowledge across borders, practicing not only in the United States but also in Singapore and lecturing in various institutes across Thailand, Korea, Dubai, China, and beyond. His expertise has earned him recognition on global platforms, including CNN, and he's even co-authored the widely acclaimed book "The Power of Brainspotting and International Anthology."

In this conversation, Santiago and I will explore the impact of stress on the body, how constant stress affects the brain, deciphering the brain's language, the incredible concept of neuroplasticity, achieving peak performance, and so much more.

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#051 Social entrepreneurship with Jaideep Bansal

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Imagine being offered a lucrative expat role with all the perks, but then feeling an irresistible pull towards a purpose-driven project. What would you do in that moment of choice?
Well, that's the very quandary our special guest, Jaideep Bansal, faced years ago during his tenure at Procter & Gamble. As you might have guessed, he chose the path less traveled, the one leading to social entrepreneurship.

Here's a quick snapshot of Jaideep's remarkable journey: He's an award-winning social entrepreneur, dedicated to bringing sustainable development to the remotest corners of India. As the co-founder and CEO of GHE Impact Ventures, he's brought solar energy and sustainable progress to half a million people across five remote regions in India.

Jaideep's efforts earned him the prestigious 2020 UN Climate Action Award. The impact of GHE has been spotlighted by the likes of National Geographic, BBC, and NDTV. His work has garnered recognition from organizations such as WTCC and the World Tourism Awards. Jaideep's leadership has even been acknowledged at Davos among the top influencers shaping a better world. He's also an Asia Foundation Fellow and has been honored as a Global Young Leader by the World Economic Forum.

I originally had this conversation with Jaideep as part of another podcast I co-host, the P&G Alumni podcast. His passion and unwavering commitment to his mission resonated so deeply with me that I almost felt like packing my bags and joining him in the mountains. While I haven't made that leap just yet, I did manage to secure permission from the folks at P&G to share this enlightening conversation right here on "How to Live."

In our discussion, Jaideep and I talk about how privilege can be used to create impact, how social entrepreneurship is not charity but a symbiotic relationship, and the profound change that access to basic necessities like electricity can bring to society. You can also expect heartwarming stories of joyous celebrations and even some hair-raising tales of encounters with bandits.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/051-social-entrepreneurship-with-jaideep-bansal

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#50 How to live a good life, special 50th episode

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 05:00:00 +0800

In this special 50th episode we dive deep into the very question that kick-started this podcast journey: How do we live? What's the key to leading a good meaningful life?

To tackle this age-old question, we've gathered insights from the various incredible guests who've appeared on our podcast. These include world renowned yoga and meditation expert Travis Eliot, the man who popularised Stoicism William Irvine, globally respected spiritual teacher Anand Mehrotra, CEOs James Lafferty and Rameez Ansar, CXOs Dean Tong, Abhinav Kumar and Susie Babani, acclaimed authors Toko-pa Turner, Simone Heng, Michaela Haas and Jem Fuller, creators Sarah Lal, Zach and Jerome, Sustainability leader Stephanie Dickson, TCK expert Nikki Muller, and comedian Papa CJ.

We look back at the answers to the question posed to them in the podcast - "At the end of your life, how would you know you’ve lived a good life?” It's a question that cuts through the noise and zeroes in on what truly matters.

So, join us as we listen to these remarkable individuals share their wisdom and experiences in their own authentic voices.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/050-how-to-live-a-good-life-special-50th-episode

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#049 Third Culture Kids with Nikki Muller

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Did you know that 220 million people live in a country different from their passport country? Many of us are raising Third Culture Kids – individuals who grow up in a unique way with both gifts and challenges.

Today, we delve deep into the fascinating world of Third Culture Kids, as I sit down with a true authority in the field, Nikki Muller. Nikki is not only an expert but also a Third Culture Kid herself, making her insights all the more valuable. Her work and personal experiences have shaped her into a vocal and inspiring voice for the TCK community, guiding others to navigate the complexities of their backgrounds.

Nikki's journey began at a young age when she became a star in the entertainment space. At just 15, she captured hearts as an MTV host and co-hosted Studio Disney. Her talents were recognized at the age of 20, receiving a nomination for the Best Entertainment Presenter at the prestigious Asian Television Awards. Her remarkable career includes working with industry legends like Director Kevin Bright on the hit series Friends, sharing the stage with the likes of Robert Downey Jr. and Samuel L. Jackson at various events, and even making appearances in HBO's Westworld.

But that's not all – Nikki's passion for theater led to her being nominated as Best Actress for Pangdemonium's compelling one-woman production, Girls and Boys. Beyond the glitz and glamour, Nikki has also contributed her talents to the United Nations, having worked at their headquarters in New York.

In today's conversation, Nikki and I delve into the intriguing world of Third Culture Kids, discussing identity, relationships, work, and the challenges of raising TCKs.

Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/049-third-culture-kids-with-nikki-muller

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#048 Ancient vedic wisdom with Anand Mehrotra

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Over 3500 years ago in Ancient India, the Vedas were created as guidelines on how to live a good meaningful life. These have been passed on orally over centuries and are probably even more useful today.

In today’s episode we look at how ancient Vedic wisdom can be applied in the modern world.

We have with us Anand Mehrotra - a renowned spiritual teacher, yogi, and entrepreneur, and one of the youngest spiritual masters in the world. Born and raised in Rishikesh, India, the birthplace of yoga, Anand's journey into the world of spirituality began at a very young age.

He founded the Sattva School of Yoga, developing a method that combines yoga, meditation, and wisdom teachings to help individuals unlock their full potential. His teachings emphasize the importance of balance, inner exploration, and self-realization.

Beyond his role as a spiritual teacher, Anand is also an avid philosopher and philanthropist. He is actively involved in charitable initiatives, focusing on education, healthcare, and sustainable community development in rural India.

His multiple books, videos, podcasts and content have impacted people all across the world with many visiting him in Rishikesh for various yoga and meditation programs.

He’s not your typical guru. He bridges the gap between ancient wisdom and contemporary living. And that’s the focus of our conversation today.

We talk about existential angst, knowledge vs ignorance, love vs fear, play vs battle, comparisons vs flow, result vs process, relationships and more.

Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/048-ancient-vedic-wisdom-with-anand-mehrotra

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#047 Nostalgia, discovering oneself

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Nostalgia is not just a sentimental journey; it's a powerful mental health tool that can help us find certainty and security in an ever-changing world.

Recently, I watched this movie "Air" - the story of how Nike created the Air Jordans. Not only did it have a captivating story, talented actors, and gripping drama, but what I loved most was that warm, fuzzy feeling of being transported back to the 1980s.

And you know what?

It was exactly what I needed on that tough day. It lifted my mood, filled me with joy, and warmed my heart. Needless to say, it helped me sleep well and wake up the next day feeling rejuvenated.

It got me wondering, is there something more to nostalgia than just that heartwarming feeling? So, I decided to dig deeper and research. And guess what I found out? Nostalgia is not just a sentimental journey; it's a powerful mental health tool that can help us find certainty and security in an ever-changing world.

But that's not all. I stumbled upon two other fascinating aspects of nostalgia that are often overlooked and rarely discussed - but are extremely helpful in life.

In today's episode, we're going to dive deep into the topic of nostalgia. We'll explore the research behind it, uncover what we can learn from it, and discover how we can grow through nostalgia. We'll also look at watchouts to ensure we use nostalgia in a healthy and balanced way.

Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/047-nostalgia-discovering-oneself

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#046 Life in four quarters with Avivah Wittenberg-Cox

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +0800

With advancements in healthcare, our lifespans are increasing to an additional 25 years. With this in mind, we must reshape our understanding of life, work, relationships, and how we choose to live.
To help us navigate, we are joined by the remarkable Avivah Wittenberg Cox - a respected entrepreneur and advisor to global CEOs and leaders in over 40 countries. Avivah challenges us to view life through the lens of four quarters. She suggests that the third quarter, spanning from 50 to 75 years old, holds 25 new years with countless possibilities—an opportunity for us to become how we’re meant to be.
Avivah's expertise extends across multiple domains. As a consultant, coach, writer, and speaker, she specializes in fostering generational and gender balance within the world's leading companies across various sectors. Avivah's passion is evident through her involvement as a board member of the UK National Innovation Centre of Aging and her role as an ambassador to the Stanford Center on Longevity.
She’s a regular contributor to Forbes and Harvard Business Review. She lectures at prestigious institutions such as INSEAD and HEC. Avivah has also taken the stage at renowned events, including TED, Economist conferences, and the Drucker Forum, captivating audiences with her fresh perspectives and innovative ideas.

Avivah's Midlife Rethink Program
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Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/046-life-in-four-quarters-with-Avivah-Wittenberg-Cox

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#045 Stoicism in everyday life with William Irvine

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Today, we have the immense pleasure of hosting a true luminary who has played a pivotal role in the revival of Stoicism over the past decade - William Irvine.

William is a world renowned philosopher, author, and professor who has been credited as a key figure in popularising Stoicism through his lectures, writing and interviews.

His groundbreaking book "A Guide to a Good Life: The ancient art of Stoic Joy" that was published in 2008 has been an instrumental introducing stoicism to countless readers. That’s how I got into Stoicism and I highly recommend the book.

William has authored an impressive nine other books, each offering profound insights into life and philosophy. He’s been featured in esteemed publications - the New York Times, Guardian, Huffington Post.

You may recognise William from some thought provoking conversations on top podcasts like the Tim Ferriss Show, Knowledge Project, and School of Greatness.

His wisdom can also be found in influential youtube channels - “School of Life”, “Academy of Ideas”, and “Pursuit of Wonder”.

In our conversation, we explore a wide range of topics, delving into emotions, relationships, expectation setting, resilience, desire, control, and happiness, among others.

Through his unique blend of academic rigour and practical wisdom, William offers a fresh perspective on how ancient philosophy can be applied to our lives today.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/045-stoicism-in-everyday-life-with-William-Irvine

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#044 Lets talk about death

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Today, we're going to dive into a topic that might make you consider leaving this podcast: death. But let me assure you, this is not going to be sad or morose. In fact, by the end of this episode, you might feel energised.

Like many, I used to think talking about death was taboo. I held superstitious beliefs, fearing discussing death would bring misfortune or harm to someone I love.

However, life confronted me with the deaths of people I loved, and during my healing process, I found myself compelled to explore the concept of death more deeply. As I delved into and studied death from different angles, I became fascinated by this topic.

While we humans don't have all the answers, we’ve gained substantial knowledge about death. My perception of death has changed from viewing it as a dark and terrifying place to considering the possibility of it being peaceful.

In today's episode, join me as I unravel the mysteries of death. We'll discuss near-death experiences and the insights they provide. We'll explore what scientists, psychologists, and philosophers have to say about death. And finally, we'll look at how to think about our own mortality.

Once again, I want to reassure you that this episode will be fascinating and uplifting. So, stick around and let’s explore this topic together.

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#043 Preventing burnout with Aparna Dubey

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Burnout has been top of mind lately. Searches for burnout are at an all time high. But what exactly is burnout beyond just a buzzword? How can we differentiate it from exhaustion or stress? And most importantly, how can we recognise the signs of burnout and effectively deal with it as well as prevented in the future? That's the focus of this episode.

We speak with Aparna Dubey as she describes how she figured out she was burning out, the research she did, how she managed it and built systems to prevent it in the future.

Aparna is a seasoned leader with the consumer goods industry with 18 years experience across the Asia-Pacific region. She's worked with top multinational, such as Procter and Gamble, and Kimberly-Clark. She's an MBA from the prestigious Indian Institute of Management Ahmedabad, often ranked number one in India.

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#042 Bouncing forward with Michaela Haas PhD

Tue, 23 May 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Have you ever wondered why some people emerge from adversity with a deeper sense of purpose and go on to achieve remarkable things?

Our focus for today's podcast is on this very topic, and we have the pleasure of speaking with Michaela Haas, PhD.

Michaela is an accomplished solutions reporter and author of multiple non-fiction books. Her work has been featured in renowned publications such as The New York Times, Huffington Post, and Al Jazeera, and she has received several notable awards for her contributions to journalism.

Her latest book, "Bouncing Forward," focuses on the science behind not only being resilient but also growing from adversity. Michaela has interviewed notable figures, including Maya Angelou, who have overcome challenging circumstances and emerged stronger.

Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/042-Bouncing-forward-with-Michaela-Haas-PhD

Michaela's Book
https://www.amazon.com/Bouncing-Forward-Transforming-Breaks-Breakthroughs/dp/150111512X

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#041 Jealousy

Tue, 09 May 2023 05:00:00 +0800

It's natural to compare ourselves to others, especially when we see our colleagues and friends sharing about their accomplishments, life milestones, and happiness in social media.

Even though its a natural emotion, jealousy feels yucky and can linger for a days, weeks and months. It can be destructive making us do unreasonable things, pushing us into aggression or depression.

However, by understanding it we can learn how to cope in healthy ways and with time understand what it’s telling us and grow through this.

In this episode, we explore the distinction between these two emotions and discuss strategies for managing them and transforming them into a positive perspective.

Episode Shownotes
https://howtolive.life/episode/041-jealousy

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Timestamps
00:00 - Intro
01:00 - Topic overview
01:42 - Main topic starts (difference between jealousy and envy)
02:04 - Focusing on envy
03:13 - Focusing on jealousy
03:35 - Feeling jealous vs feeling envious
05:14 - How should we deal with jealousy?
05:52 - Two schools of thoughts on managing jealousy
07:05 - Mindfulness
07:47 - Journaling
09:08 - Practicing gratitude
11:13 - Knowing the root cause which makes us feel threatened and jealous?
12:42 - What are we longing for?
14:00 - Sharing my own experience and story
16:08 - Action step we could do
16:38 - Outro

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#040 Raising resilient kids with Maggie Dent

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +0800

How do we build resilience in our kids? How do we support emotional development? How much should we push our kids?

We discuss this and more with Australia’s leading parenting expert Maggie Dent. Maggie has been working with children teenagers and families for 30 years. She’s authored 9 books on parenting, many of which became bestsellers. She hosts the award winning parenting podcast “Parental as Anything” on ABC. She’s a sought after speaker regularly featured in the news, magazines and parenting shows.

In our conversation Maggie and I dig into the biggest challenges facing parents today. We cover resilience, emotional development, toddlerhood, adolescence, role fathers can play, screen time, how much we should push our kids, and a lot more.

Maggie’s warm and approachable style makes this podcast enjoyable and informative.
Whether you are a new parent or have been raising children for years, today’s episode will be valuable to you.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/040-raising-resilient-kids-with-maggie-dent

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#039 Life principles from yoga with Travis Eliot

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 05:00:00 +0800

What life principles can we learn from the ancient art of yoga. That's the topic for this episode. Whether you're a seasoned yogi or new to the practice, this episode is packed with insights and inspiration on how to live a good life.

We have a conversation with world renowned yoga and meditation teacher, Travis Eliot. Travis, based in LA, works with the world’s top athletes, celebrities, and entertainers. He’s created best selling Yoga DVDs, written acclaimed books on yoga, and his chant album “the meaning of soul” debuted at #3 on the iTunes World music chart . He’s been featured in CNN, Huffington Post, Access Hollywood and more.
Travis is inspiring yogis all over the world with a community of 100,000 students across over 95 countries.

Travis is also an entrepreneur - his app Inner Dimension TV is used by folks all over the world. What I love about Travis is that he makes yoga accessible to busy folks - his programs are as short as 20 mins, his stories are relevant to the modern context and he shares insights that can be used in daily life

In our conversation Travis and I talk about

Finding Life Purpose
The power of storytelling and how it can enhance yoga or any experience
The ego and how should we deal with it
Success and how his view of success has changed with time
Fulfilling potential, managing stress and a lot more

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#038 Learning from Millennials and Gen Z with Vivek Iyyani

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Millennials and Gen Z often get a bad rap for being entitled and rude. But what can we learn from them? That’s the focus of this episode.

To talk through this, our guest today is Millennial specialist & Entrepreneur, Vivek Iyyani. Vivek is the founder of Millennial Minds, author of 3 books on millennials and a creator of highly engaging useful content.

Vivek works with a range of companies - Paypal, Julius Baer, Oracle helping folks across generations work more productively. He’s been featured in Channel News Asia, Straits Times, Money FM. His mission is to help leaders lead effectively across generations.

In our conversation we talk about

Traits unique to Millennials and Gen Z
Where do they come from
How do they play out at work
Ways in which different generations can be more productive at work
What the older generation can learn from the younger one and vice versa.

We also discuss ghosting, blue tick anxiety, quarter life crisis, reverse mentoring, failing forward, toxic badges of honour.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/038-learning-from-millennials-and-gen-z-with-vivek-iyyani

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#037 Finding purpose at work with Dean Tong

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Many of us spend Monday to Friday waiting for the weekend. We’ve normalised this way of living - 2 days of happiness. 5 days of drudgery. How can we reverse this and make work more meaningful? That’s the focus of this episode.

We have with us Banker, ex- BCG Partner. Dean Tong. Dean is the MD and Head of Group HR & Transformation at UOB Bank Singapore. Prior to this, he was Partner & MD at the Boston Consulting Group, where he spent over 20 years. Dean went to Wharton Business School for his MBA.

After acing his career in a sought after consulting firm, Dean did what many of us dream to do. He retired early - after only 22 years of work - when he was in his 40s. He decided to pursue other interests like a Phd, teach and live a holistic life.

However his plans got disrupted when a great opportunity came knocking with a company he admired and very knew. The CEO of UOB Bank had an exciting proposition for Dean. It was a very tough decision but Dean came out of retirement and took the job.

We talk to Dean about

About Early retirement
Coming out of retirement
Importance of Purpose
Finding Purpose
Having perspective.
Stoicism & Buddhism and using it at work

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https://howtolive.life/episode/037-finding-purpose-at-work-with-Dean-Tong

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#036 Wabi Sabi Japanese Wisdom with bestselling author Beth Kempton

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Wabi Sabi is a Japanese concept of beauty which emphasises simplicity, imperfection, impermanence. It’s become popular recently as a response to excess materialism in modern lives.

Beyond beauty, the wisdom from wabi sabi is a lens through which one can make all aspects of life meaningful.

Most Japanese instinctively know what Wabi Sabi is - but it’s difficult to put into words. That’s what we attempt to do in this episode with Japanoligst and bestselling author Beth Kempton.

Beth is globally recognised as an expert on Wabi Sabi. She’s written a book on it which has been a bestseller in the UK and US. Many japanese people believe she describes the concept better than many even the japanese themselves.

Her books have been translated in over 25 languages. She’s also written for and been featured in multiple magazines

The Time Magazine
British Vogue
Vanity Fair among others

Beth is an award winning entrepreneur as well - running 3 businesses that offer tools, resources and courses for living an inspired life. These have helped 100,000 people in over 100 countries across the globe.

In this episode we talk to Beth about

Wabi Sabi
How it can be used to design our life - right from what we wear to the spaces we live in, to our relationships.
We explore the concepts of beauty, impermanence, imperfection, and the japanese concept of kintsukuroi,
The difference between simplicity and minimalism.
Fearless writing.

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https://howtolive.life/episode/036-wabi-sabi-japanese-wisdom-with-bestselling-author-beth-kempton

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#035 Rekindling Romance

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 05:00:00 +0800

This Valentine’s day would you like a 15 mins summary on how to spark up your relationship by the best in the business? (It’s not me:) I’m just the messenger).

Julie & John Gottman, considered the best relationship therapists in the world, changed the game by bringing in data to track relationships. They studied thousands of couples over 40 years, coded hours and hours of interactions, and created data based principles on what makes a happy marriage.

Their latest book distils all their learnings into 7 prescriptions to rekindle a relationship. These are small things we can do everyday to deepen our bonds.

Here’s one.
You’re hanging with your partner in the living room. He’s on his kindle, you’re reading a magazine. Kids are asleep. It’s a lovely time in the day where you guys get to unwind. Your partner suddenly lights up - looks at you - and reads aloud this interesting quote you might like. You’re in the middle of your magazine article.
You think - why’s he bothering me? Why can’t he give me 10 mins of peace?
Do you

Turn towards his bid for connection - wow, what a great quote
Turn away - ignore
Turn against - don’t irritate me.

What you do is the single biggest predictor of happiness in a relationship.

Just this one change - turning towards bids for connection - can reverse the slide of a relationship. Married couples do this 86% of the time. Divorced couples did this 33% of the time.

It’s not big grand gestures but the small things we do everyday that determine how happy we will be in our relationship.

This episode provides a 15 mins summary on their latest book.

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#034 Life lessons from sports with James Michael Lafferty

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0800

What’s the difference between champions like Djokovic/Nadal/Federer and winners like Andy Roddick? What life lesson can we learn from this?

In a landmark study done in the late 1980s, Sports Illustrated identified the biggest factor that separates champions from winners as “the sense for the historic”.

No one can be at their best all the time. Nor is every match equally important. Some contests are more important than others - grand slams, superbowl finals, olympics.

Champions are the ones who turn up at their best in these “sense for the historic moments”. They don’t think they’ll try their best. They think this is it - I cannot fail. This may not happen again. I have to win. There is no Plan B.

In life - all of us have sense for the historic moments. The critical interview which gets us our dream job, the time when our child needs our support, the sales presentation that can step-change our business and so on.

By recognising these sense of the historic life moments and being perfect, nailing it, having no Plan B champions in life can distinguish themselves from winners.

James Michael Lafferty and I discuss this and other life lessons from sports in the latest episode.

James, currently CEO With Fine Hygiene Holdings in Dubai, has worked with world class companies - P&G, Coca Cola, BAT, across the globe - North Africa, Central and Eastern Europe, Western Europe and Asia.

He’s been awarded the CEO of the year award by Burj CEO and GCC awards. Forbes magazine has named James among the top 50 CEOs in the middle east.

Alongside his illustrious career, Jim has coached national level athletes in the United States, Nigeria and recently the Philippines Olympic Athletics Team for the 2016 and 2021 Olympic Games.

Jim’s always maintained a healthy lifestyle having run over 30 full marathons. In 2017, he became the Philippines national champion in Powerlifting.

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#033 Better diet better life with Riyana Rupani

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Did you know that a bad diet causes stress? Many of us think only externals cause stress - hectic work, relationship challenges, money. But diet, which is internal and something we have complete control over can cause physiological stress.

We feel it in the form of low energy, bad mood, anxiety, and other symptoms. No amount of meditation, exercising, or journaling can effectively tackle this physiological stress. Eating lifestyle causes this, and that's what needs to be fixed.

In this episode, we discuss holistic nutrition. We focus not so much on losing weight or looking good. Instead, we focus on ways to minimise stress, maximise energy, and show up at our best. Joining us is certified holistic nutritionist and entrepreneur, Riyana Rupani.

In our conversation, we talk about how diet affects physical and mental health, myths about food, the philosophy of healthy-ish eating, gut health, sugar spikes, sensitivities, and a lot more.

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#032 Forgiveness

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 05:00:00 +0800

Isn’t it a great way to start the year by Forgiving? Working through and letting go of that grudge we hold so tightly.

When we vow not to forgive - it usually does us more harm. The grudge sits inside us as stuck energy - resentment, anger, vengeance.

Forgiveness is not only relevant to big fall-outs where we stop talking to someone for years. It’s equally, if not more important, to small hurtful acts in close relationships. These are small so don’t get much attention. But with time, they add up, creating bitterness in the closest of relationships.

In today’s episode we explore forgiveness

Why is it difficult?
Myths related to forgiveness
And how can we forgive?

We share a practical tool that I’ve used for some micro-grudes. I found it refreshingly surprising how in just 30 minutes it shifted my anger to empathy and eventually acceptance. The tool - a simple two pager - is called Radical Forgiveness - a term coined by psychologist Colin Tippling. It works well with the smallest of grievances and big fall-outs.

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#031 Entrepreneurship: Taking the leap of faith with Rameez Ansar

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Thinking of entrepreneurship? How do you take that leap of faith?

If you manage to jump, how do you thrive as an entrepreneur?

We discuss this with Telco founder Rameez Ansar. Rameez is the Co-Founder of Circles.Life, one of the most successful companies in South East Asia and a leading one in the Telco space. Despite a stellar career with the Boston Consulting Group and Temasek, an MBA from Harvard Business School, Rameez took the leap of faith into entrepreneurship back in 2010 when there was limited start-up activity in Singapore.

After a few ups and downs, he Co-Founded Circles.Life in 2014 in an industry that was monopolised by the traditional giants. Today Cirlces.Life has grown to 16 countries with 800 people spread across Asia, Europe and the US. It’s routinely voted one of the best companies to work in. Investors in Circles include the most prestigious in the world - Sequoia Capital and Warburg Pincus. Recently there was also news of Peter Thiel’s investment vehicle being in discussion with them for a potential multi billion dollar listing.

In our conversation we talk about

The initial motivation to take the leap of faith
How does this differs from the enduring motivation to thrive
Role of risk and analysis
The inner voice - how to get it to work for you
Peer comparisons and other demons

And a lot more

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#030 Re-inventing yourself with Sarah Lal

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How should we re-invent ourselves?

This is more relevant than ever with so many of us are changing career tracks, starting businesses, and taking time-off.

We discuss this with business owner, CEO, and co-creator of this podcast Sarah Lal. She’s successfully reinvented herself many times in different roles, industries and countries.

From starting her first business in university to a corporate career in financial services, to artist, fintech leader, coach, & entrepreneur, Sarah's successfully transitioned between diverse roles. She’s served in four advisory board positions and received multiple professional accolades

She’s been listed among the top 30 female tech leaders in Singapore, top fintech influencers in Asia, and has been profiled in two books - stories of fintech entrepreneurs, and encyclopaedia of successful people in Singapore.

In our conversation we talk about

How to prepare for big transitions
Setting a vision for our future
Crafting our reinvention story

And a lot more

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#029 Our relationship with money

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +0800

What does money mean to you? Do you like spending it, saving it or not thinking about it?

We all come at money from different angles. Research shows that our relationship with money not only drives financial decisions but more importantly it drives life decisions

What career to pursue?
Where to live?
Who to marry?

In today’s episode we’ll help you explore your relationship with money

What shaped it?
What’s working favourably?
What’s limiting you?
And more

We will tap on wisdom from Financial psychologist Dr. Brad Klontz, bestselling author Morgan Housel, personal finance advisor Ramit Sethi and more.

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#028 Early retirement with Susie Babani

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Thinking of retiring early? How should you think about transitioning from a full on career to retirement? How can retirement life be both fun and stimulating?

In this episode we speak with successful C-suite executive Susie Babani. Susie describes herself as an adventurer at large. Eight years back, she was at the top of the corporate ladder global chief HR for ANZ bank reporting to the global CEO.

Looking after an organisation of over 50,000 people spread across the world, Susie's worked in the UK, Australia, China, Philippines, Canada, and the United States leading the HR function and being the COO of various businesses.

She has been a pioneer in a conservative industry - Banking. Back in 2015, she brought gender balance hiring, supported pride parades, and pushed the bank towards social media, herself becoming a LinkedIn power profile.

Susie then opted for early retirement. And for the past seven years she's been travelling the world and spending time with friends across the globe. She's been to over 125 countries at the time of recording with plans for many more in the future.

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#027 The path to belonging with acclaimed author Toko-pa Turner

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0800

“Most of us think of belonging as an external place, something outside of ourselves, that if we keep diligently searching, maybe one day we'll find. The reason why many of us don’t feel a sense of belonging in our lives, is because we have not inherited the skills for how to practice belonging.”

In this episode we speak with critically acclaimed award winning author Toko-pa Turner. Toko-pa’s book Belonging - Remembering Ourselves Home is a global bestseller and has been translated into 10 languages and counting.

In our conversation, we speak about

The skill of belonging
How the longing for belonging leads to false belonging
Reducing ourselves to fit in
The symbolic language of dreams
The creative process - originality vs perfection
Holding paradoxes

And a lot more.

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#026 Owning our shadow

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Do all of us have a dark side? How can we become aware of it? What power can it unleash?

We discuss the above questions through the concept of the Shadow in this episode. The word shadow was popularised by renowned psychologist Carl Yung. He believed where there is light, there must be a shadow. Where there is good, there must be evil.

We explore the Shadow through real life examples and practical action steps. We refer to the work done by Robert Bly, Jordan Peterson, Molly Tuby and Robert Louis Stevenson.

In this episode, we cover

What is the shadow?
How’s it formed?
How can we become aware of it?
How can we use the tremendous energy it contains?
How do we integrate the shadow with ourselves?

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#025 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with Jem Fuller

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How do we tackle imposter syndrome? What is it to be a man in today’s world?

We discuss all this and more with Jem Fuller. Jem is a TEDX speaker, published author, a communications expert, an executive coach, who coaches CEOs and business leaders and he also leads retreats around the world. Jem’s led a colourful life. From years of barefoot backpacking around the Indian subcontinent to senior leader in global companies - he’s done it all. He’s also worked as a reflexologist, Chinese masseuse, reiki practitioner, kindergarten teacher in Asia, a global tattooist, fire dancer, motorcycle, courier, actor, singer, songwriter, travel consultant prior to commencing his coaching practise, in senior corporate leadership.

In this episode, apart from impostor syndrome and being a man, Jem and I talk about

Limiting beliefs and how to change them
Mid life crisis and awakenings
Accessing our feminine and masculine energies
Difference between Acceptance and Approval

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#024 Turning passion into a career with Papa CJ

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How do we take our passion and convert it into a career?

We discuss this and more, with world-renowned stand-up comedian, executive coach and published author Papa CJ. Papa CJ has been awarded Asia and India’s best stand-up comedian. He’s performed in over 2000 shows across 25 countries from Broadway in New York to the Sydney Opera House. CJ is an MBA from the University of Oxford and as an executive coach has worked with over 50 companies across the globe. He writes for the Harvard Business Review and has been invited to speak at Harvard and other prestigious institutions.

In this episode Papa CJ and I talk about

Discovering one’s passion
Hard work needed to excel in one’s craft
Converting passion into a career
Ways to avoid the negativity of comparisons
Defining one’s personal brand

and a lot more

This episode will be relevant to many of us torn between a mainstream and an alternative career and for those looking to monetise their passions

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#023 Reducing Mental Chatter

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How can we reduce the negative chatter in our mind without mindfulness, meditation or other spiritual practices?
We all live busy lives with multiple activities. Adding another activity like meditation - even if it’s for removing stress - can end up adding more stress. So what simple tools can reduce chatter and seamlessly integrate into our life?
In today’s episode we meet Gita who’s struggling with constant mental chatter. Through her story we look at

A good framework to understand our thoughts
And 5 simple mental health tools to manage chatter.

These are simple tools that don’t involve meditation or mindfulness. Any of us can use these and find some peace in our lives.

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#022 Loneliness & Human Connection with Simone Heng

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0800

What are the early signs of loneliness? How do we work through loneliness? What does an authentic human connection look like? How do we move our relationship with parents/family from a place of compulsion to a place of love?

We discuss all this and more in our conversation with Simone Heng. Simone is a human connection expert. Her latest book Secret Pandemic: The search for connection in a lonely world is a bestseller in Singapore. It’s also #1 in Amazon US in the social science reference category. By combining science with personal stories and providing actionable tools Simone makes human connection very accessible in a lonely world. Her talks have inspired people in Facebook, Google, Lucas Films, Salesforce SAP and more. She’s spoken on big platforms - TED X, SXSW among others. Simone’s a former international broadcaster with Virgin Radio Dubai, HBO Asia, CNBC and more. She’s been featured in Forbes, Vogue, Elle, CNN. Born in Singapore, raised in Australia, lived in Switzerland and Dubai and now back in Singapore, Simone is a global citizen.

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#021 From bad to good health with Zach and Jeremy from the Fit Mess podcast

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How should we deal with addiction to junk food, cigarettes, alcohol and other bad habits that limit fitness? What role do emotions and vulnerability, especially for men, play in the path to good health?

We discuss this and a lot more with Zach Tucker and Jeremy Grater, founders and hosts of the podcast the Fit Mess, a leading fitness podcast in the US. Back in 2017, they launched the Fit Mess podcast for folks who are sick of their own shit and ready to make a change. Their goal is to help people take small steps every week towards a healthy, fulfilling life.

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#020 Consumerism: More Joy, Less Craving

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Many of us enjoy the good things in life - a cool car, the latest bag, or an exotic holiday but sometimes without realising the joy of consumerism gives way to stressful pursuit of more and more. We need to have the latest iphone before others or wear designer clothes to be seen. The more we have, the more unsatisfied we become, and the more we want. It becomes a vicious cycle.

Giving up materialism altogether - renunciation - isn’t appealing to many of us. So how do we enjoy the good things in life without getting consumed by them?

In this podcast we look at why pleasure from materialism turns into a state of constant dissatisfaction. We talk about this both from a spiritual and neuroscience lens. Then we outline approaches from both schools- spirituality and neuroscience- on how to find joy in material goods, without the vicious cycle of cravings.

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#019 My experience with anxiety, a conversation with Stephanie Dickson

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 05:00:00 +0800

This is the second part of our conversation with Stephanie Dickson. Steph opens up about her struggles with anxiety and darkness. For background, Steph is a high performing entrepreneur - a pioneer in the space of sustainability and climate change in Asia. She founded Green is the new Black, Asia’s first conscious festival and media platform. She’s a two times TED X speaker, a Prestige 40 under 40, and a Leader of Tomorrow by Tatler.

Having excelled at the highest levels, Steph has had her share of struggles with mental health. In today’s episode she talk openly about

The anxiety and darkness that periodically confront her
What’s it like?
How does she face up to it?
What worked for her.

Steph shares multiple practical tools and resources that all of us can use for our mental well being.

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#018 The power of regrets

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 04:00:00 +0800

The best time to start a business, mend a close relationship, apologise for bad behaviour, or forgive ourselves for an irreversible mistake may have been 20 years back. The second best time is now.
Regret is a complex emotion that combines anger, shame, self blame, helplessness, anxiety, remorse and many other negative feelings. Most of us hold regrets for years and decades. They weigh us down. But these can be valuable and helpful.
In today’s episode we will deep dive into this emotion. We will look at what regrets tell us about ourselves, how we can grow through them, and how they form a pathway towards fulfilment and purpose.

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#017 Intimate relationships, a conversation with Dr Oberdan Marianetti

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 03:00:00 +0800

How do we build a healthy relationship with our spouse/partner? What’s the balance between being dependent on our partner vs being fiercely independent, between thinking of our needs vs our partners? How do we have a regular joyful sex life?

We address the above questions and more in our conversation with Dr. Oberdan Marianetti. Dr Oberdan is a leading psychologist and clinical sexologist in Singapore. As a founder of multiple wellness initiatives, Dr Oberdan has served a clientele of individuals, couples and groups from over 50 countries. He’s a TED X speaker and an influential thought leader in the wellness space. Dr Oberdan is constantly innovating. In 2018 he launched OM-ICE, a process that combines psychology, breathwork, movement, and cold exposure in a retreat setting.

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#016 Don't quit your day job with Aliza Knox

Tue, 24 May 2022 05:00:00 +0800

A conversation with Aliza Knox, who built and led APAC business for 3 of the top tech firms - Google, Twitter and Cloudfare. In 2020 she was named the APAC IT woman of the year. Prior to tech, Aliza worked in Financial Services and Consulting. This included the Boston Consulting Group, Visa, and other notable companies. At BCG, Aliza became the first woman partner in APAC. She has been featured in Business Insider, Tech Crunch, Quartz and is a regular columnist for Forbes. Aliza now spends her time serving multiple boards and sharing her passion with the next generation of leaders

In our conversation we discussed her latest book - Don’t quit your day job. Of late it’s been fashionable to resign or start a business. But many of us will spend a large part of our working life in corporate jobs. Aliza and I talk about

How do we thrive at work while having fun
How do we shift our mindset to combine personal and professional goals
How do we build meaningful bonds at work for a fulfilling and complete life

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#015 Saying No

Tue, 10 May 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Many of us struggle with saying no. If we say yes we feel resentful, if we say no we feel guilty. Either way we lose.
In today's episode we look at why it's difficult to say no, the impact this has on our life and how we can create healthy boundaries.
Concepts discussed include complaint, avoidant and controller personality types; guilt and fear; the guilty conscience, boundaries, among others.

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#014 Sustainability and climate change with Stephanie Dickson

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0800

A conversation with Stephanie Dickson, entrepreneur and leading voice for sustainability on Asia. Steph is a two times TED X speaker, Prestige 40 under 40, Leader of tomorrow by Tatler. She founded Green is the new Black back in 2015, Asia's first conscious festival and media platform. CNBC describe her as the “sustainability entrepreneur helping Asian businesses combat climate change”
She also hosts a successful podcast . Steph is on a mission to make conscious living mainstream, accessible and sexy.

Steph and I spoke about the momentum behind climate change and sustainability and how there isn't a better time for us as individual to make a difference.

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#013 Simple ways for better sleep

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 05:00:00 +0800

We know that sleep is very important, but think huge changes are needed to enhance sleep. However, with a few small manageable changes, we can dramatically improve our sleep, without compromising on our lifestyle.
In today's episode we look at the basic science of sleep and outline 6 ways to get a better sleep. Through these we can identify the 2-3 tips that work best in our current context.
For the science of sleep, we've referred to the work done by Mathew Walker. We feel his book, podcasts, videos, TED Talk, and masterclass are the best resource to all things sleep related.

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#012 Shaping a global career with Abhinav Kumar

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0800

A conversation with Abhinav Kumar, CMO & CCO of Tata Consultancy Services, the 2nd biggest IT services brand globally overtaking IBM. Abhinav has been instrumental in growing the TCS brand to $16.8 Bn- having grown 8 times in the past decade.
Abhinav heads marketing for 45 countries across the globe with a gender balanced global team- comprising of folks from 40 nationalities
He’s been featured as a global influencer in multiple list including the prestigious Influence 100 list, the top 20 global communication leaders list
He’s been awarded the SABRE award in London for outstanding career achievement as a CMO. Abhinav holds executive responsibilities of relationship with several bodies including the European Union, National Governments, World Economic Forum. As a regular participant at the annual Davos Summit, Abhinav represents his company with top CEOs, academics and government officials. Based out of Brussels, Abhinav has worked in 6 countries, speaks in 2 European languages and is a regular speaker at universities, parliaments, and industry events worldwide.
Abhinav and I spoke about how he’s shaped his career, thriving at the world stage, the power of asking, of reputation, of relationships, influencing governments, balancing work with wellness and many other topics.

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#011 Knowing what we want

Tue, 15 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How do we know what we want in life? If we do know, how should we integrate this dream sensibly into our life?

In this episode we meet Nick and Ana - who think about their dreams with two opposing mindsets. Through their stories, we understand the challenges associated with discovering and aligning our aspirations.

We look at a 2 step framework to figure out our innermost dream and integrate it holistically with our life.

Concepts discussed include surface level goals, rat race, individualistic vs collective cultures, subconscious mind, me time, mindfulness, vision boards, powerful questions, values, holistic planning, personal board of directors, inner citadel, saboteur, positive affirmations, taking the first step.

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#010 Mindfulness 101 with Erin Lee

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 05:00:00 +0800

If you are new to mindfulness and not sure where to start or how to sustain a practice - this episode is for you. We look at how mindfulness works in everyday life, simple ways to get started, challenges one might face, early benefits we could see and also address the elephant in the room - does mindfulness suppress ambition?

We talk this and much more with Erin Lee, the founder of Mindful Moments, a Singapore based company that brings mindfulness to the world. She's a mindfulness coach and teacher who runs multiple programs across the globe. These include the Big Sit, Take a Pause, MBSR and more.

Erin holds a Master of Science degree in Mindfulness from the University of Aberdeen. She is a Certified Stress Management consultant. Prior to her current life, Erin worked in the corporate world for 10 years. She understands the modern day challenges we all face and delivers her knowledge within that context.

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#009 Embracing negative traits

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Are bad traits really bad? When we get told off for being pessimistic, shy, messy, bossy, or arrogant. Should we just get rid of these? In today's episode, we'll see how dismissing negative traits can restrict our growth. We will look at techniques to process the negative feelings towards these traits and then harness and reframe them to unlock hidden parts of ourselves and grow in dimensions we never imagined before.

Concepts discussed include visualisation, silver linings theory, reframing, no-go zones, and repression, stoicism.

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#008 Making friends in adulthood with Amanda Parker

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How do we make friends in adulthood - when we move cities or enter a new life stage (parenthood, empty nest etc) or feel stuck and need new energy and excitement?
How do these friends differ from childhood friends?

Amanda Parker, an entrepreneur and global citizen, and I discuss 6 useful techniques for making friends in adulthood in this episode.

Amanda, born in New York, has traveled to over 65 countries, and lived around the world in places including Paraguay, Berlin, Singapore, and now London. She's accomplished much in her career as the founder of the Courage Factory, as a coach, and through designing landmark programs for WWF, World Bank, UNICEF and the World Economic Forum.

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#007 Fighting well with our partner

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 05:00:00 +0800

Fighting is a natural part of being human. Fights between couples can be nasty, but often something positive emerges. How can we have a constructive fight with our partner? How can we get a good end outcome, without the nastiness? How can we understand and build a deeper bond with each other during fights?

In this podcast episode, written jointly by Sarah and Sharad Lal, we look at common fight patterns between couples, understand the reason for the animosity between two people who dearly care for each other, and look at ways to be able to have constructive fights and deepen our relationship.

Concepts discussed include attachment theory, emotion focussed therapy (EFT), love languages, active listening, and monthly meetings.

People discussed included John Bowlby, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Gary Chapman, and Tim Ferris.

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#006 Stoicism: How to live a good life

Tue, 04 Jan 2022 05:00:00 +0800

How can we control our minds, handle adversity, set goals, manage expectations, access logic, and protect ourselves by creating an inner citadel?
Stoicism, a philosophy that originated in ancient Rome, helps answer the above questions and many more. Stoicism consists of practical principles on how to live a good life. This episode provides a brief introduction of this philosophy.
Concepts discussed include control the controllables, serenity prayer, negative visualisation, voluntary discomfort, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), resilience, mental strength, inner citadel, expectation setting, catastrophizing, happiness.
People discussed include Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, Epictetus, Dr Aaron Beck.

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#005 Thriving in your career with Ruchira Chaudhary

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 03:00:00 +0800

Discussion on thriving in the future of work, the gig economy, why do top performers struggle in becoming great leaders, coaching as a life skill, listening vs giving advice, becoming self-aware, practical ways to build confidence, ways to network authentically, how to ask, uncommon leaders - Satya Nadella, Sheryl Sandberg

In conversation with Ruchira Chaudhary - Executive coach, adjunct faculty at several top tier business schools including Chicago Booth and London Business School; regular contributor to Harvard Business Review; acclaimed author who's recent book on Coaching is globally recognised with leaders like Sheryl Sandberg endorsing it and rating of 4.7/5 in amazon.

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#004 Managing Everyday Stress Part 2

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 03:00:00 +0800

Sid has been let down by a close friend. We lean on psychology to understand why this situation stresses him. Then see how a psychological tool helps him process this setback and deal with it using his intellect.

Concepts discussed include thought suppression, rumination, expressive writing, coherent self-narrative, and journaling.

Psychologists discussed include Dr. Timothy Wilson, Dr. Daniel Wegner, Jamie Pennebaker, Susan Nolen-Hoeksema.

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#003 Managing Everyday Stress Part 1

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 03:00:00 +0800

Disappointing situations are a common occurrence in life. If we are passed over for a promotion, have a heated argument with our spouse, feel let down by a friend, or face any negative event in this realm - it's common to exaggerate and dramatize the situation in our minds, making the issue exponentially worse.
This causes stress and anxiety. It affects our mental health. Why does this happen and how do we deal with this? That's the focus of this episode.

Concepts discussed include second arrow syndrome, mindfulness, mindfulness technique noting, Sufi poet Rumi, work-life, personal-life, stress, anxiety, mental health.

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#002 Achievement vs Fulfillment

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 17:00:00 +0800

Some of us spend years working towards success accomplishing extraordinary feats - but this does not bring us happiness. Why does this happen?
We look at the above via the lens of the achievement vs fulfillment mindsets.
The episode discusses these mindsets through the story of Maya, who despite achieving more than she ever imagined isn't fulfilled.

Concepts discussed include values, midlife crisis, rat race, goal setting, career planning, stage of life, conscious decision making, wheel of life.

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#001 Welcome to How to Live!

Mon, 01 Nov 2021 13:00:00 +0800

Intro Episode -
In this episode, host Sharad Lal describes what this podcast is about and to who this will be useful. He shares the inspiration that led to this podcast and provides a range of topics that will be discussed over the next few months.

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