We are angry only the Queer version was canceled and we miss the Ultimatum: Queer Love, so we had Kyle & Bridget stop by our studio for a chat. What has life been like post show and are they TV reality show psychics?? Because right after they said why they would NOT recommend anyone going on The Ultimatum the show announced cancellation. #uhaulers #Ultimatum #Queerlove #couplegals #WLW

Just in time for The Ultimatum: Queer Love Season 2 premiere, we sit down with the one and only YOLY from Season One—and trust us, she’s not holding back. From the emotional whirlwind of reality TV to what life has looked like after the cameras stopped rolling, this is the conversation fans have been waiting for. Whether you were Team Mal, Team Xander, or just Team Chaos… you’re going to want to hear Yoly’s side.

P.S. It’s worth relistening to our Xander interview in Season 1

In this episode, Heidi and Loydeen team up once more with Ann Russo, a psychotherapist and religious trauma expert, to tackle a Christianity quiz and see how their beliefs have shifted over the years. From strict church teachings to cosmic curiosity, they laugh, cringe, and even panic a little when Loydeen has an existential crisis mid-quiz—turns out, finding out there might be no hell can really mess with your head! If you’ve ever wondered how couples navigate the tricky world of faith (or just want to hear someone lose their mind over the possibility of no eternal damnation), this one’s for you. Tune in for a hilarious, thought-provoking conversation that explores the weird and wonderful world of spiritual growth.

This week on U-Haulers, we sit down with Anne Russo—licensed psychotherapist, founder of AMR Therapy, and an expert in religious trauma. Anne shares her wildly unique upbringing with a gay dad, his partner, and her mom in what would now be called a lavender marriage—while later pursuing a master’s in religious studies and studying alongside actual nuns. We dive deep into how queerness, spirituality, and purity culture collide, and what healing looks like when your body and identity were once framed as sinful. This episode is a balm for anyone unpacking sanctified shame.

Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of religious trauma, sexual shame, and the long-term effects of being raised in purity culture.

Heidi’s usually calm and collected—unless you bring up weaponized religion and judgment. Then it’s game over! So if you ever wanted to hear Heidi get angry…this is the episode to listen to.

In this raw and revealing episode, Heidi and Loydeen open up about the deep scars left behind by religious trauma—especially when it comes to sex, self-worth, and intimacy. From purity rings to fear-based teachings, they unpack how growing up in conservative faith communities shaped their earliest views of love and desire. Together, they discuss the long road to reclaiming their bodies, their queerness, and their freedom. Whether you’ve deconstructed your faith or are just beginning to question, this conversation is for anyone healing from being taught that sex before marriage is the biggest sin of all.

After the most AWKWARD conversation EVER, I finally saw my Ex and Heidi rejoins the conversation to talk about how it impacted us!

U-haulers dives deep into the messy, heartfelt, and often chaotic world of queer relationships. In this episode, Psychologist Carina DeWaard joins us to unpack the emotional rollercoaster of Loydeen revisiting her ex with Heidi’s blessing. Is closure really a thing, or are they opening Pandora’s box? We explore the risks, the psychology, and the U-Haul tendencies that make past breakups anything but simple.

Podcast Episode Synopsis: Breaking the Cycle: The One Tool That Changed Everything

In this quick episode, I explain what happened when I sat down with a psychologist who helped me uncover the hidden patterns that kept me attracting people with a fear of commitment. We dive deep into the psychology behind this cycle, why it happens, how it feeds on itself, and most importantly, the one powerful tool that finally broke the pattern for me.

Through this conversation, I share my own ‘aha’ moment and how shifting just one key mindset changed the way I approach relationships. Whether you’ve struggled with unavailable partners or want to create deeper, more secure connections, this episode will give you the insight and practical strategy to finally shift your dating dynamic.

Tune in for an eye-opening discussion that might just change the way you see love, commitment, and yourself…and I hope encourage you to try this one tool to see if it works for you!!

What I learned from a therapist!! And what my Ex said that blew me away! Loydeen learns about herself and what that led her to attract in her past (part 2 of 3)

Loydeen goes solo to share her processing after her talks with Heidi and her ex. (Part 1 of 3)

The second half of Heidi and Loydeen’s conversation about the options Heidi would like Loydeen to consider in helping her to feel chosen in the relationship, and Loydeen’s decision. 

Heidi joins in to give her side and explains what options she presented Loydeen with to move forward in their relationship in regards to the ex returning.

THE Ex, the one that got away, the one I thought I was going to marry comes back & Heidi & I have to have a serious talk about what this means for us. Part 2

When “THE EX”…the one that got away, the one you planned on marrying comes back…part 1 

#ex #theonethatgotaway #exgirlfriend #theex #lesbiancouple #uhaulers 

A new season! Loydeen and Heidi discuss the 2024 election results and their hopes/fears for the future. Is biting your tongue and swallowing the pain the only way to have peace?

 Loydeen and Heidi talk Taylor Swift concert, Gabby Windey, a drag queen that has topped the Christian Music charts and the Golden Bachelor... I mean, what's left to talk about, really? 

Who would be your trial marriage choice in The Ultimatum: Queer Love, what we love about the entire cast & why we think this show stood out from other reality TV shows (including other Queer ones.) #queerpodcast #queeryoutuber #ultimatum #netflix #uhaulers #xander #yoli #mal #mildred #aussie #lexi #rae #sam #tiff #aussieandsam

In one of her first podcasts, Xander SPILLS THE TEA from her home in Hawaii after The Ultimatum Queer Love Reunion. Don't. Miss. It. We got the dirt!!

#queerpodcast #Xander #queerlove #Ultimatum #reality tv #netflix #kineticcasting #uhaulers #queercouple #queerchannel

Who would have thought shopping for a wedding dress could be so dangerous!!

Join us for our special guest Rocky Roggio, the producer/director of "1946 The Movie"
We were so excited for this interview after learning about this ground breaking film. 

Rocky recounts the story of a young seminary student who challenged the translation of two Greek words into the word "Homosexual." Even though the translation committee actually responded and admitted that this was a mistake in their translation, by the time they fixed it,  the damage had already been done.

This film is in post-production and still needs money! Please support this amazing work here:
https://linktr.ee/1946themovie

Follow 1946 The Movie on social media:
@1946themovie 

Behind the scenes of Heidi's hot air balloon proposal.

After two years together, our differences are becoming extremely noticeable.  Oh, the fun when opposites attract! 

#lesbiancouple #lesbianpodcast

The missing details of our lockdown story and why we suddenly became the u-haulers!

Loydeen planned a surprise for Heidi but ended up shocking them both!

Take a trip down memory lane with us...

We can't make this sh*t up, but we found the light at the end of the tunnel ;)

 Now that you made it through Valentine's Day, here are some questions that will go much further than chocolate and gifts to strengthen your relationship....  Keep her your Valentine all year long... 

All the behind the scenes of the special night!! #engaged

 Listener requested topic and here it is!  Our search for a church and how we navigate that as an LGBTQ family. Also, Loydeen's ongoing pain and struggle over her heart wrenching decision to walk away from her former beloved church home.  

Have you ever thought someone you know that is gay should just "Pray the Gay Away" or been told that yourself?  Have you rejected or pushed away a loved one or had someone you loved deeply refuse to have a relationship with you because you are being your authentic, happy,  gay self? 
We discuss why we still think "coming out" is an important part of the journey for you & your loved ones (as long as it is safe to do so) & how we want to be a safe place you can turn to. 

Out of lockdown, back into lockdown. It's a lot for a brand new relationship...and for anyone. How we both survived and made huge career changes because of it!!

 Love Languages & how Compatibility changed EVERYTHING for us. Why do people not talk about the need for compatibility more???   P.S. We may or may not be eating dinner while we record this. #guilty

And....now Loydeen's coming out story. We wouldn't leave you hanging.

Loydeen's journey from innocent young Christian to a hot Carmen look-alike helping her realize she likes women!

What's a lesbian podcast without the details of a "coming out" story...

Heidi shares the moment she met her first girlfriend and the fall-out that came after.

  "One fun night" IN DETAIL...Heidi's BIG announcement, cock-blocking and RUNNING out of the room, oh my! 

 Intro: when we thought it was only going to be One. Fun. Night. Then... Lockdown #loveinquarantine